Are kids doing too many after-school activities? | On The Red Dot | My Parent, My Classmate Part 3/4
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- Co-curricular activities, tuition and other extra classes await the kids after school. Is it all too much for the little ones and their parents?
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The miniseries "My Parent, My Classmate" sees 4 parents venturing back into primary school to reconnect with their kids and discover what school is like in this fast-paced world. Can they survive sitting for tests and making new friends once again?
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Kanisha looks physically, emotionally and mentally tired. The burn out is real. Hope her mom learns to empathise with her daughter better. Her mom claims it helps with her time management, but I fail to see how Kanisha is managing her own time when all her schedule is decided by her teachers, her mom and her extra-classes/tuition. If she manages her time on her own, she would probably not have all these extra classes/tuition.
Deb I agree. My eldest brother and his daughter are top students. They did not have any tuition and had lots of outside curricular activities. What makes them so special is that they know their own needs and how to solve the problem of bad grades. So they plan accordingly without parents intervention and eventually they develop time management skills. Meanwhile, I am the opposite. I am the only daughter and my parents plan my schedule for me. So I relied so much on them in terms of time management that I actually did badly for a levels when they stopped hand holding. I still struggle with time management till today.
Deb she is my Friday tuition friend and I saw this video and realised she was there
she looks more matured than her mother lol wtf
True .
@@dustinjeevan1825 true
Sad that Kenesha has become so stressed it feels that she's lost the love of learning. Maybe there has to be a better balance of studies and free time, because ultimately this isnt sustainable
I think Kenisha has to voice out her opinion as well as talking to teachers to reduce what they can so that Kenisha can have some free time like she mentions she miss hanging out & talking to her friends.
She is a good speaker but on the back of her mind,she feel afraid to express her concern because i guess her friends/teachers has more expectation from her.
But yes i do agree with you that Kenisha has to balances her time & to her mother,please reduce her religious classes & tuition to at least 1 tuition & 1 religious.Kenisha already had 1 CCA which require her to stay back twice a week.
Education is very important but it is also important to know your child limits.
I was in Kenisha's school last year and used to observe her many duties she had to carry out but she chose to be a prefect and she chose to help out in other activities.Hence I think that if she is actually exhausted she can actually not volunteer for activities.The teachers at Qifa and i believe most schools are reasonable and empathise with students too
The main issue is having too much tuition on top of long classes. My parents used to spend so much money on tuition without asking if they were effective or not. The truth is I always didn’t have the time to finish the hw and I ended up using the time for consultation to do the hw my tutor gave me. At the end of the day I didn’t learn much.A lot of parents just leave the responsibilities to the tutor yet they overlooked the importance of communicating the school work with their children. I like how rosli went through the test with his daughter at night and he gave her feedbacks on her presentation. Constant monitoring your children’s work is very important. Kids have short attention span
and parents need to use the least time consuming and boring teaching method to teach. Kids are not stupid, they are just very bored and easily distracted.
Tinc same. I feel tuition in primary school is useless unless ur child rlly loves learning with a passion, like alot or is gifted and generally smarter. I ahd tuition in primary school and it was useless, it even had the opposite effect because i was so stressed out and there was just too much work. In secondary school however, after you mature and grow a little, or at least for me, tuition was very useful for me, and that+ my own hard work improved my pure chem frm F9 to A2 within 3 months
@@idontbelonganywhere1136 agreed with your point.
I somehow find the malay family very vibrant,in term that her father listen to her daughter thoughts,how he let her daughter finish her sentences,meanwhile i feel that Kenisha mother should put a little more effort in talking with Kenisha.
As for Shri,they are happy family but something is lacking.
For May & her son,it definitely a little akward knowing both share the same trait.I think her son is shy that his mom is his classmate.
Overall,i think Adriana is the only one that seem to get along & didn't care that her father is her classmate.I also like how Roslee does talk to her like a friend & then talk to her as a father at home.
I think that a parents should be.i think the malay family should be an example that we can't stress our kids.Interact with them in a nice tone.Correct them & advise them if needed.There is no need for a cane.
Meagan Ashlyn I have tuition for every single subject during primary school it did help but not that much maybe that’s what parents fail to see when we just keep quiet . As Long u know how to manage ur self and do the stuff by ur self it would be generally fine
@@moonylanatm_ the issue is she already being pressured.those non academic is not needed unless she wanted to learn piano.
Just look at her.she don't seem to enjoy her piano classes.
So the mother should have cut down those non academic class.Just look at how her teachers even selected her for those school side projects.
The child is already being burden at school,the mother shouldn't force her child.
You don't necessarily have to send the child for tuition.Understand what her needs now.
Yes we can push our child but not too hard.How does she want her child to tell her 'my school is already tiring' but her mother keep on forcing 'i enrolled you into tuition'.
Again,they don't have any free time except sunday.
Kanisha’s mother seems overly enthusiastic about all the commitments her daughter has. Sure, these may teach Kanisha leadership skills, time management, and it’s clear that she speaks and presents herself well. But is she happy? I remember in primary and secondary school, those in the prefectorial board were known to be more “servants” than “leaders” because the teachers just dumped all sorts of work onto the prefects. We can see this happening with the teachers getting Kanisha and the other girl to plan assembly (prev episode). Since when were students tasked to plan school programmes??
We only get to experience our childhood years once. I hope her mother can really hear her daughter’s cries for help, and let her have more of a happy childhood spent with her friends and family.
Wise words
@@vim6459 same here same here
I was in the prefectural board once in 4th grade (like seriously last year) and I HATED it. People would always have expectations from which I could not cope up with. Sure I was academically good and a good person but it did not allow me to express me, the funny and extroverted person I am. It is just so unfair that us bright children need to do all these boring assemblies and speeches when in reality we just want to be a student and do what we love after school. This is the pressure which is killing the inner child in you even when you are still a child!
My fav duo is Roslee and his daughter. The dad really makes an effort to immerse himself in this. Shree is really negative. "The kids are taking it too seriously" - They are kids, kids get excited, kids have emotions.
Plus did you notice how seriously she was taking it and freaking out while they were building? Kinda hypocritical huh?
100% agree, cool father and the coolest daughter by farr
caring about an activity and stressing yourself to tears are two different things. It's not that they take things too seriously, she's more worried about how kids are able to manage their emotions, which is actually really important. it's the kids that can't see the forest for the trees that eventually struggle. the fact that she was freaking out while their were building is not hypocritical because even if she does care she recognizes that even if she isn't the best it's not the end of the world. If anything she's just sensitive to their emotions, not "being negative"
@@pieinside2345 I agree. Think she was quite taken aback when one of the girls cried. I was surprised too.
@@pieinside2345 Ditto! Exactly
When Kanisha said she hates tution, I felt that
same but i hate the homework they give more
I used to have tuition, but tgen the teachers (yes multiple) biased girls and just gave me a hard time. I stopped all tuition except 2 (chinese essay and piano) in primary 5 and my grades improved a lot...??? Time and study mamagement as well as personal study pattern (i learn faster reading) and less stress do help
When i was Keisha's age i was just like her, tuition, club activities and classes, by the time i came home it would be 11pm. When i reached high school it was the same, so when i finished school and went to college i had so much free time that i didn't know what to do with and it felt so unnatural and it always felt like i had to do something.
I guess theres pros and cons
@@notpeach17 ya for sure, my grades were pretty decent but i definitely wish i spent more time exploring myself
Stop saying it builds character. It will just make your child hate you even if they understand why you do it. I felt the exact same way as a child towards my parents who keeps justifying that it's good for me or they do they do it for me or whatever excuses they're using to justify it. Even though I've just graduated from uni, I have always understood my parent's viewpoint/intentions, but that hasn't changed the way it made me feel about them.
Kenesha has more activities in a week than me in 5 years
Bruh “she has to learn to manage”
I’m sorry but that’s not doing any help let her enjoy her childhood years wth..
First reply!!!
And does she really have to 'learn to mangage' at this age? I don't see why these kids are drowned in work at that age it seems so harmful
but her childhood years are suppose to be studying so next time she can get a good job thats what my mum and dad tells me
@@polargroup_babyzitong yeah but kids are kids, they are meant to live as kids play and enjoy not all the time work, in the future they’re most likely not gonna have friends or they’re just gonna be workaholics and that’s really bad for your mental health, and who knows maybe their relationships and kids too
@@thelivingkazoo5331 but thats literally how my friends and I are all living now and oir parents says that if we study hard we can get a good job next time and why would they most likely not have friends when everyone is going through the same thing?
honestly, willis needs to understand that although he wants to have fun with his friends and play bball, he should also spend much more time with his mother.
10:29 “Today’s generation, they don’t accept failure”
True.
Tru dat
Ultimately the students take tasks very seriously because of their parents and their need for recognition. And here are the parents complaining
holy cow, Adrianna's teacher teaches almost everything.
@SHAO CHENG NG are u ok? do u need medicine?
@SHAO CHENG NG wut
SHAO CHENG NG Lmao what?
Why do most of the singaporean parents think think like Kenesha’s mother tho. like i am fine as singaporean parents are most likely very kiasu but what is the point. being proud when you child score the highest while your child might be facing some metal issues. i have been in kenesha’s place before as my parents are also like that they made me have tuition classes in kindergarden which is crazy.
do a secondary school edition and let my mum do it :D she literally never understands how much stress I have in sch
yasssssssss
Especially the toxic environment
MY GOODNESS. I only remembered playing and enjoying my Primary school, and just 3 hours of studying for PSLE prep :O such a vast contrast
@Brianna Ong 27
Finland only has 3 or 4 hours of school and no homework but they are at the top of the education system because they let children be children. And some of the higher grade kids only get 10 min homework and still are able to speak many languages and are just as smart as someone who does more.
@@vim6459 I wish i had that school time...I'm a boarding school student...so homework is kinda alot
@@aisyfaqihah6389 Welp... Nothing we can do about it, unfortunately. Good luck and I hope we can get through this :3
so good
Mr. Roslee, you are a very good and loving father. Thank you caring so much and for building the future!
Adriana, please take care for him, always! Not everybody has a father who loves so much.
All I can say is. Parents are competitive and drop all the "when I was young" crap on kids.
The mom talking about time management skills for the P5 girl seriously lacks empathy, and really personifies the "kiasu" parent. I noticed in many of the clips, she started talking about a 'bad' aspect (e.g it does take a lot of her time), and always followed with her positive spin on things ("but it builds character"). I wonder if she realised that she just took out the joy of learning for the girl.
She's lucky the girl didn't seem like the rebellious type, but still...
I feel so sorry for the girl.
Is it just me or i felt that Roslee(the malay family) truly understand what their child schedules is.
He even said,students had test in between,too much homework plus tuition.
But looking at Adriana,it seem as she look happier,despite only having Saturday as her rest day as compared to Kenisha,who had a lot of stress from teachers & her mother.
Kenisha's mother really needs to listen to her daughter and stop all the extra activities. Her daughter does not have the energy nor capacity of an adult. 'Don't wait until its too late', when her daughter goes crazy and rebels.
Ikr like rock climbing??? And plus if she’s good at some subjects already she should at least drop some tuition classes
I think Roslee is an amazing father he understands his daughter and thinks she has to many activities and i think carol should try to understand her daughter more and know that she has wayyy to many activities and it can build up stress and anxiety
“She learn to manage”
Me: she learn to manage to hate you
What he said about the classrooms being airconditioned 'like my office' really hit me- as a teacher, this is my 'office' and I think it's disgusting that in Singapore (let alone in Australia where I work) classrooms are not airconditioned- in the subtropics it is horrible, must be much worse there. We say 'teachers working conditions are students learning conditions' and it's so true beyond my own headache I can't imagine how much the 30 students I have crammed into a 40C, no airflow (fans are pathetic) classroom are learning when I'm trying to teach them maths last period watching the sweat drip literally drip down their faces.
The problem is that air conditioners are expensive and some schools have way too many classes and classrooms to afford that much. Luckily from me, I had air conditioning in some of my classrooms and the heat wasn’t a big issue as there was constant wind blowing through my classrooms.
1:04
GOSH I FEEL YOU PAIN 😫 tuition sucks the teachers in tuition take the actual piss 😬🤧
it only gets worst in secondary school. More subjects, more drama and definitely more STRESS
Imagine When they go to secondary n jc
They will die😂 But they might learn to cope but most will breakdown and cry just like how my classmates did for O lvl last year
IKR primary school so relaxing don’t need study also got As & Bs,it’s only bad if your parents are like that and give you too much tuition & extra activities
13:35 Wow I feel glad to have air conditioned classrooms now
13:35
Back in Primary 6, when we had UPSR (or PSLE for the Singaporeans) all I had was an hour extra lesson for one subject after school (like Monday we have English, Wednesday we have Maths, Thursday we had science etc), mandatory for pri 6 students from the school so parents would not have to give tuition and stress us out plus we could have like one on one with teachers on certain questions during that time. I only had Malay tuition on Sunday cause I was weaker in it. Ultimately we all got good grades cause we had lesser stress. I felt like it was a pretty good system because unlike regular classrooms, there were multiple teachers supervising our home works and help us out immediately and we didn't have much homework at home and spent it on projects or our own self-studying
Yes, exactly...same!!
we also have and thats called remedial so on tuesday i have MT and Science ,
on Thursday i have English
but before covid worsen i have (CCA training on Mon ) Thursday i have religous class , Friday i Have Silat class , But on mon also i got Maths tution , on Wed i got Science tution , Saturday my piano practice and study , Sunday i have to Studddy...which is this year bcs im a p6 student...but actually it worked bcs i passed psle and get NA . of course its quite tiring but next year i will be sec 1 and i know that i will have more tution classes bcs secondary will be quite challenging but all of this classes is more than 1h. but do also wish that im you bcs you have lesser classes
Advice to pupils in primary school: Yes, it's busy and stressful in primary school and you don't have that much me time. Fortunately, once you're in secondary school it will be a little better and you can actually find your passion. Thus, don't give up primary school kids!
When your father help your presentation.
You go like.
Sheet this is hard
The thing is though, I do better than all of my classmates due to the fact that I have some time after tuition and all to accumulate my thoughts and what I have learnt.I feel bad for Kanisha as she has lots of tuition and after school activities.Losing the will to learn will just destroy her grades.Giving her sufficient time to rest is the best choice as of right now.
Kiasu Singaporean mum. You will regret if anything happened to your daughter.
That Willis will grow up to regret every single word he said to hurt his mother.
the "dont accept failure" part is so true
These kids really are very impressive students, but it is so much pressure on them.
However, I teach in America and many kids at my school are here from 8am to 5:30 pm every single day because their parents work and so the kids stay late.
as a college student, I used to have a study schedule like this when I was a kid, and watching this makes me wonder where that all energy go?????
Lucky actually got no hw:( ltr sec schl near impossible
The maths teacher gives so many hw :(
Secondary school is easy if you join bpghs
its not impossible like im from nygh and i have 5 days of cca but smh i dont have much hw which is why im here lmao
I always have math homework :(
Man, the children's struggles are so relatable. Who else?
Tbh I felt like after my parents cancelled my tuition I learn better?
11:23 the handwriting of that kid is soooo beautiful
My handwriting is like a monster😂
Mine as well
"We have three homework tasks, oh my god!"
Me: Suffering five graded IBMYP tasks in different subjects featuring Criterias, A, B and C for all.
no D?
Huh whats that? Whats IBMYP?
@@samuelgl Nah fam no D.
SAME!!!!! We have hw for all subjects
End game is how much money you make. Not your bulkshit acronym and marks (grades).
I feel tired watching this
Oh man! Why do primary kids NEED tuition, they can just self study their regular class, do homework and play, just play. For me, this seems so exaggerated and tiring. Of course kids needs extra activities but not EVERY SINGLE DAY and especially not of they're not at all enjoying it and feels pressurized.
I hope after all parents watching this knows that our primary school now is not the same as theirs. Usual i will be told school life in singapore is easy is play and play and play in school. I hope parents finally see that is not all about playing and is not that easy too, compare to their past primary school experiences
I can relate to Kenisha... Being a prefect is no funny business, a lot of stuff goes on, especially if you are in charge of leading the prefectorial board, planning the board meetings and things like that, it's a good experience but it takes determination.
i had school from 7 oclock and end at 3. but during sometime i end school til 4= 9 hours . but fortunately i have online class now , i started class at 8 and end 11.30 (include 1 hour break). and im still grade 4 that time.
Without Tuition my son had a school day that was often longer than the work day of an adult (primary school). We had to send him Chinese tuition in the end, because the Chinese language teacher kind of presumed that everybody has Tuition. Maths I did with him in P5 and P6. With the other subjects he coped acceptable well, but together with the homework it was often a gruelling, long day. I felt more than once sad for him. When I brought it up to the teacher her answer was like: Everybody can do this in 2 hours or less. It was not true, I certainly did ask around.
That has to stop ... urgently! No more tuition! Homework limit 30 minutes per subject, maximum 3 subjects at the same time.
Kenisha really is perfect tho she have confidence and she's productive
wow, at malaysia right theres no such thing like this...
their science experiment caried out wrongly
I was required to stay in school 12 hours a day, 5 days a week, with 4 hours of sleep a day in Primary 5. These parents do not care about our well-being.
F
School seemed to more fun these days... but still prefer the old school teaching...
Kenisha's mom is placing so much stress on her, despite saying thats she wants her to be relaxed... I feel like Shri and Roslee are the only ones understanding their children. I feel it too because I am my class representative ( I go to school in the US ) and they just dump a lot of things on us and there's lots of pressure.
Listen to your children, their thoughts, emotions, likes n dislikes.
I SAW MY TEACHER IN THE QIFA INTERVIEW OH MAH GAWD
Btw she is my form teacher last year when i was P6.
Lovely Neko Mrs Thoo? she was my form teacher last year too
She is my form teacher now
Yesh she is Mrs Thoo =)
I am in secondary school now :P
@louis Pretty good =)
10:26 *we do, it’s just other people’s expectations for us*
13:35 petition to install air-con in all classroom.
Han in my school there is alredy air-con all classroom
@@zammzac9344 what school? atas sia
Han i do not wanna leak my school
@@zammzac9344 I call bs
7hr of class 2 hour of CCa and 2.5 of tuition and 8 subjects of homework
That girl is going to be a handful as a late teenager... lmao
9:15 is too late for an 11 year old to finish an activity. She should be oing to sleep by 10 pm in the weekend and relax, it's the only two days of rest she has. She is so smart, and I personally don't think she needs this many activities.
These kids have experiments and extracurricular. I just had to sit in class and listen to the teacher all day 😢
But those tution schedules after class and on holidays are scary, the parents should cut them some slack.
I don’t do anything after school , I go and draw on my iPad or something or play and make stuff for my dolls
me too even though I am same age as them
"The SYF that is planned to play out on March or April 2020."
Me:
C o r o n a h
The word "syf" in my language is colloquial word for mess, so this sentence gets new meaning to me. 😆
holy macaroni cheese, this taught me my parents are amazing-
The piano is the sane as mine!
EVERY SINGLE SUBJECT I DO I HAVE HOMEWORK .
Yeah. Back in Primary school, I wasn't the creme de la creme student so I had some afterschool classes. Back then school went out at about 1:30PM. I had after school classes from 2PM to about 4PM. I got home to about 4:30PM. That's without any CCAs. I had friends who had CCAs back then and they look like zombies after awhile.
13:35 yes omg
Wait what. She has dance three times a week. I thought she only had hip hop on Saturday or Friday and CCA dance on Tuesday
Can i just say that it is so sad and unfair. I am P5 this year i was supposed to go to China, beijing, but the virus......and the teachers said that we would never get to go to our Cultural emmersion trip.I missed my P5 camp too and the NE show. l am so sad P5 was supposed to be the best year ever but it sucks.
This is actually good , so parents can stop thinking their kids get bad grades because they are lazy at school. No! Its because you wont let kids do their thing!
My English teacher is in there! The director for the QNN
Come secondary school lol 😂 math is more harder 🤢
e math is easy, a math is the fundamental to JC H2 math
"more harder" bruh
I'm just surprised that they even have the money to pay for all these tuition fees
I ran away from cca to go watch cartoons at home :)
I didn't dare to do it as my mum will turn into a monster, back in pimary 4 if I'm not mistaken, the teacher cancelled the CCA on that day and when I returned home, my mom yelled and asked me why I didn't go for my CCA, before I can explain, she nagged non stop at me and when I explained clearly to her, then she understands and apologized to me.
Omg she does so many tuitions and a lot of them are physical exercises, she should be able to choose only one of them
Also, Adriana maybe would do better in school if she had less tuitions
OMGGG THE ROSLEE GUY LEAVES AT MY OLD HOUSE HHAHAHA HI NEIGHBOUR IM AUTISTIC
Why parents cannot put their foot in their kids shoes to see what school life is now in the 21st-century
One sentence: Dont waste your time in Primary School, once you go to secondary, friendship in Primary school, may not be true anymore...
luckily ma parent not pushing into study i'm grateful for that
I wish Carol would let Kenisha at least drop rock-climbing so that she has more of her day free.
I felt the mum needs the tuition much more than Kenisha.
i really couldn’t tell adrina is malay lol
I want this school
20:09 technically, their practise are useless due to pandemic 🤭
Oh i didn't k ow this year entire syf festival cancelled. they practise for 1 to 1.5 years beforehand. All meaningless competitiveness, really.
When everything is still not enough for Kenisha, they slam a CNA show feature on her.
I have a 3yo now. I am already having a headache watching this series.
Your kid will grow up to hate you - just like how I hate my parents. Thanks for bringing them here to suffer.
@@SmoothCode the heck you are talking about?
It is telling when Kenisha is reluctant to cut her CCAs but wants to reduce her tuition. It is torturous to have to go through so many academic classes, days, weeks, months and years on end. Painful and ironic to see how mom will not have it any other way DESPITE saying academics dont guarantee a good career. It is like the mom is trying to compensate for her own anxieties and fears through the child.
Agreed.She enjoy her CCA because to her it make her relax meanwhile tuition is stressful.
The dance teacher was my teacher last time.
10:14 I seriously face palmed when the girl cried over a science experiment. I wonder how she would react her exam or test results were not up to expectations
Kanisha's mother is a bit crazy
why
And I’m just thinking about...
NO, NOT RIVER FLOWS IN... who?
Wait... Singapore (?) Malay homework (?) Glad to hear that🤤🖤
6:25 It says Temasek Primary, but shows Qifa Primary
I'm on the complete other end of the spectrum
I don't do any extra curricular activities. Apart from trying to learn new things on my own. I'm interested in studying maths and physics further so I'm attempting to read more. I also want to improve my Japanese and learn French from scratch.
I see 雪平老师
Can anyone tell me the name of the song at 22:23 . Thanks!
Yiruma- river flows in you
They should do a secondary version of this
I’m watching this at 17:07 :oo
Looking kanisha os like looking in yhe mirror