A few more years and I'm 30, I still have no clue what I'm doing haha, I just grasp at whatever opportunity comes by. No one really has their life planned, and even if they are, life doesn't always go according to plan either. I think life is just literally improvising with whatever you have and whatever comes your way. We're in this together!
If you don't have any learning difficulties like adhd, is on autism spectrum or has dyslexia that is untreated, get into in person college and join a group or class of interest and like minded people will gravitate to you. You are nice and a attractive person and you will be able to get that purpose you're seeking and your kind of friend group to hang out with. (Not that ppl with learning difficulties cant but sometimes is harder & can be a unpleasant experience) As someone who shared these feelings but has health problems stopping me, I learned that If you're physically healthy & have a supportive family that loves you, you have everything. Don't let your intrusive depressive thoughts win, Youre smart, Strong and unstoppable with those two things i mentioned earlier. Take care
You know the weird thing about no exact goal is that it can be viewed as a scary thing, but it also comes with a perk that you can choose what to do with your time. Do a bunch of random hobbies go on little “side quests” it’s a lot of experimenting, but it can be worth it. Took me a while to view it that way, but I hope it helps.
When I was 8 years old I was in a car crash with my family and my 2 sisters ended up dying. After that I couldn't comprehend living past their lives which was 16 and 18 so I know how you feel in that sense. People make plans for the future and life but nobody can ever predict everything that happens in between whether they be good or bad, that's what keeps me going and keeps me excited for what life has in stored.
@@ShiinaHiyori You only fear the unknown which is a normal feeling. Once you have more experiences, the fear goes away. At 17 I dropped out of high school. I was a broken man and couldn't talk with people. Then I changed my name, moved to another country, and started socializing again. Best thing I've ever did! It cured me. Now I fearlessly face life's difficulties with courage. I wish everyone to know that it's not all doom and gloom in life. It's not just that it gets better, but as you grow older you get tougher! I feared my first hospitality job but after two years I was doing 16 hour shifts! like a boss 😂 Now everything is easy.
@@ShiinaHiyori [i know, me again] bad people don't think about if they're bad, that's how you know you're not bad, because you have doubts. now you don't have to worry about that anymore.
This is what I did when I was 18. I uses to chat in Gaia on a PC. When I build enough trust, i would invited them to Webcam. Now a day you got way to make friends online throught streaming. It a head start to play video game on Vr you can find friends around you area. You can also make a discord and invite us, that way you can speak with a selected audience. Just a thought. Just a thought. I know it bring you stress. It's not your fault. Just breathe and let the storm pass. Thing will get better. But you need to try new activities, that bring you peace of mind and progress. ☸️🎶 🙏 ☯️ ☯️
I am in the same boat as you. I am 24 about to be 25 and I feel like my real life ended when I turned 18 and everything afterwards isnt real. I never imagined myself as an adult and I still dont feel like one now. I feel like this is something everyone feels after becoming an adult. We are entering an unfamiliar and lonlier world than what we were used to. Its just something we have to accept and move on from, but its hard to let go of what was.
just know your videos make people that feel the same feel better just to know that there are others who feel pain like this is so crucial to helping each other out in this struggle of this strenuous life.
To have a pre-planned purpose is to be trapped. To have no purpose means the freedom to have any purpose. We are each born with the ability to build our own purpose, and the freedom to explore and build it in any way we want. Being lost may also be a blessing, as it allows us to go on paths we may not have known of and gain life changing experiences. It's going to be scary to explore new things, but do not be afraid of failure and "lost time." You may not necessarily find what feels right immediately, but each bump always brings experience, and a reaffirmation of your courage for going through with it. Stay strong.
I once thought the same thing but it’s okay to not know what you’re doing, best to take life one step at a time in your own pace and figure it out with every step.
I was once in the same boat as Ito. When I was 17 and in high school, I had that feeling of "love" towards someone and pursued them. All to just find out that they knew from the beginning that I liked them, and they used me and played me to get stuff out of me. Trigger Warning: When I found out about her using me and ended the relationship, I attempted to take my own life. Ever since then till now, I'm 25, I still have a hard time trusting people and a hard time finding a purpose. I too just like you never thought I'd live past a certain age, for me it being 25. I too ask myself if I'll still be around and have thought about many MANY other things. I digress. I relate a lot Ito, and I really hope that you stay around and live to see the good that will come of it. I know you hate hearing it and reading it, but you really do have a lot of ahead of you. I still haven't found my purpose in life yet, but I try to stay optimistic and look at the good that has happened each day. If anyone is reading this, just know that there is always good things that come after the bad. Try to keep your chin up, and have a good day
Nobody can fully plan life. Everyone is drifting and trying to find purpose. My purpose simply became happiness, and I don't worry about any more ultimate questions. It's very natural to feel how you are now; you're in a very transitionary stage and, like myself, finding that your hobbies don't fit in with the stereotypical uni crowd. It's a very difficult problem, and one I had severe trouble solving at the time. The reason people give you the pleasant but unsatisfying platitudes is that there isn't a simple answer, and oftentimes complete luck and coincidence is how you meet your best friends/partners/etc So, in true annoying fashion, I'll give you another: don't give up, because one day you're going to look back and be so *incredibly* grateful that you didn't
"In life, what counts as a fatal wound? Getting decapitated. Yeah, obviously that’s one. Crushing someone’s heart. Again, obvious. Destroying someone’s brain. Naturally. Stopping their breathing. That’s another good method. But I’m not referring to such trivialities in saying “fatal wound” here. I mean an impact on your life so intense, so devastating, that you fall into a state where you’re human but inhuman, you’re a person but can’t live, you’re alive but are dead. It means getting sucked in whole and being ground to bits by a dilemma precisely because you’re endowed with reason. A fatal wound. In other words, failing. The key here is that even after failing, it goes on. The world is brutally tepid. It’s so kind that it’s cruel. It’s a devil’s paradise. To put it plainly, even when they make big mistakes, human beings don’t die. They can’t die, I should say. Right, you don’t die. You only suffer. You simply suffer in agony. And it goes on. Forever, endlessly. It just goes on, senselessly. Life isn’t a video game, not because there’s no reset button, but because there’s no Game Over. Though it’s been “over” for ages, tomorrow shows up anyway. Even when night falls, morning comes again. When winter ends, spring rolls in. How wonderful life is. It’s an absolute paradox─even though it’s a fatal wound, you can’t die. It’s like asking what a person sees when he looks backward while traveling faster than the speed of light. An unthinkable question. Even though your potential to be you has long since been cut off, it goes on. You start anew as often as you like. You reset your life again and again. But it’s like making one shoddy copy after another, and each time you start over, your “self” deteriorates a little. Eventually you get to thinking: Am I really me, or did I become something else long ago? Have I devolved? Just as a subjective point of view can’t ever become a third party, you can’t become your own spectator. And that’s what’s truly fatal. In other words, it’s all about spirit…"
I’m 31 and have no idea what I’m doing with my life either. I work a job I don’t care for and just spend my days enjoying what I enjoy. You don’t need to have a plan. You’re really young, just do whatever you enjoy. We’re all here to just live our life to the fullest. It’s okay to feel lost and not have all the answers. Don’t worry about others, everyone’s different. Some people know what they want early on and some people don’t figure it out until they’re 30-40-50 years old. You’re here still and you have all the time in the world to just do what you want and go at your own pace. Keep your head up.
It’s okay to not have an idea of anything. Or to be lost in the vast ocean of life. But everyone deserves happiness and joyful things. As Albert Camus once said “In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer”
Truth is life is mostly chance>plans. I've done everything by the book as far as school, and trying to get a stable career. Things happen but as for feeling lost, it can happen to anyone at any age. You're not alone in those feelings. It took me some time to understand that my only purpose in life is to be a decent person and everything either falls into place or doesn't. Wishing you all the best
everyone is lost many just pretend like they are not... especially if you don't have parents to get you into an industry... so what you do is you learn business or find a mentor I had to learn everything myself and went into business.
Please stay strong. Your such an inspiration to me and your amazing. Trust me your not being petty and your issues are so inspirational and your super motivational!!!
I understand, it's so hard to break out of a cycle when there's a constant force trending you down. You can resist, but not forever. Then you're right back where you started. Habits forgotten, negative mindsets returned, health gets neglected, and such. Do you just need to push longer? Will you eventually reach a new baseline? Maybe, I don't know.
I'm just going to put my heart into this comment, this is like a message to my past self, the message that i wished I could've received when i was in quarantine and as a person who didn't had a guide to guide me and someone who would understand me. I remember that i once thought that everyone have it "together" or something like that, but i realize that it's doesn't happen like that, and that everyone has their struggle. Is like the 83 problem that everyone has from the Buddha (but i think the number is less actually). I don't really know what i would've said to my past self, but i think in the end i would say great job for not doing anything dumb. I think that the first thingI I wanna say to you. I'm just going to be the normal self and which I wiuld degrade myself for the sake of other. I'm simp to the heart and I would die for you to not take any shit or anything like that, because doing those things for the sake of other is the worst thing you could ever do. I understand why you would have those thoughts of drinking alcohol, but please don't do those stuff please, I see it ruin too many people and I don't want you to go to that side of world, a world where you only see people living for those ugly things, I don't even need to mention drugs as well and nic as well. I pray that you never do those, because in the end their noting but things that will take away your true freedom. I find it respectable that you want to make friends and all that, but I wonder if you want to go shopping with friends because of wanting to shop or make bonds with other people. I found that to be the same as playing video games, because in the end that hanging out with people, I hope you would find thst group of friends to hangout the way you like to hangout. I hope that you find people that you will want to be with because you like them as part as your family. That you would consider them as family. I learned that having a purpose is really hard, but I also leanred to do what I like to do, I learned that that I like to learn "things" and that I would make decision because of that. Even if i know is it reckless, I would still make these decisions because the desire of my learning overweight the other options and which I would do it. Of course I wouldn't die because of it, because in the end I know that dying is just a short term of something, where as getting to see the next day is more beneficial for me because that mean I can learn something new the next day. I think it would suit you better to learn your desire because that will show you something thst you never realize something. As someone who is a higher grade then you, I would hate to see you die. If you die because you did something questionable, then I would be in rage... Well is because such a wonderful soul dying in front of me would make me in despair, finding someone like you is like finding diamond, and I would like to continue to see your journey and seeing you grow further then what I currently am right now. I hope you the best and even if you didn't find this, just being able to put my heart into this comment and feeling like I have sent this to myself is enough, I hope that the wind will guide you through this path.
I feel the same way you feel and I've been going through this all my life and I'm A LOT older than you...but the one thing that keeps me going is a project (my IP) I've been working on since 1999. That is the thing that keeps motivating me. My so-called best friend that I met in 1993 keeps ghosting me to the point where I cut off all ties with him. The other friends I met in elementary school and high school have all drifted apart. They started their own families, Now I have no friends either. I have no girlfriend, no kids. No one. So I know exactly how you feel. I truly do. The only thing I can say is find something that you're passionate about and put all of your focus and energy into that. It will keep your mind off of what's troubling you...for the most part. It's not easy but it's the only thing that helps.
nobody planned where their going hell, im 22 and still dont know what im going to do, im just going with the flow of life and letting it decide what im going to do, cant let yourself drown in sorrow and in bad thought like that, you gotta take them and throw them in the safe, lock it, and throw the key away and never think about them again. i know life can be hard but everyone has a purpose in life, you may not know your purpose and reason in life but im sure someone out there is glad that you exist, and this TH-cam channel is definitely a way that you may have saved someone and i promise that you can make it, i understand being alone and being lonely but you cant let that decide your future or your life its something so small in the grand scheme of life that its not enough of a reason to let yourself go, clubs and going out isnt something everyone has to enjoy, beside im sure that everyone who watches this channel and are subbed to it are your friends and we all love you very much and want you to not feel as sad. that goal you set with this channel is something that im sure you've already completed, we love you and god loves you i hope you read all the comments and see how much we care about you a good start could be just getting a social job that forces you to engage with people, starting with that could be a good way to start to break out of your cycle
I am here, talentless, don't have any goal or desire to live, but im still living, bcs all the respond i was made for anyone i met, plus i know things will be better,...... It's ok to feel empty, u would get better soon, don't be depress
Analysis paralysis. It's okay! Just do something, anything. Don't ponder things pointlessly. Youre young, so embrace it and branch out. If you stay comfortable in a bubble, you WILL suffocate in it eventually. Im a few years ahead of you and made the wrong choices, you must recognize your errors. You were meant to live past 17, dont be ridiculous :) Pain doesnt always equate to suffering, this is a matter of perspective. The most basic impetus of all life is to GROW.
I wanna give you a hug :( I’m 13 and I relate to this. I’m sorry you have to go through this :(( I don’t want to be an adult. I don’t want responsibilities. This is relatable
it's been literally three weeks and I have already started failing my Spanish, and pre calculus classes. I literally talk to zero people only sometimes family for literally years and the road looks like a good place to sleep sometimes. Oh and I'm gonna be turning seventeen soon so there's probably a lot of people who aren't all put together out there. Don't feel bad if you feel like your not as good as others, or feel like your not as good as others appear to be. Cause most of the time those who look like they have everything going all good are the ones with it the worst. It's okay to not feel good and its okay to feel like your stuck and need some help, or don't know what you need.
I've always felt the same about the quiet, the calm..being alone..but im never lonely.. 99% of the time.. i thought i'd die before i was 30, i didnt, and feel so much more together since.. life is what we make it, be as much YOU as possible.. happiness follows
It's very interesting when you get to a certain point in life when you were certain you would be dead at that point. you realize you're just going to stick through it now because you've made it this far, I've had suicidal ideation since I was 4 and did not realistically expect to make it past 28 without killing myself (I did attempt twice, I'd say thrice but that most recent mental destabilization was more a meditation on death with a mug of tea on the train tracks and that was four years ago). it's very odd to be alive still but I doubt I'm going to existentially exit anytime soon. here's hoping you find that reason to be, I've found that simply being, just taking in the boundless existence of every moment has enshrined that ideal to continue on even in the face of that adversity.
Maybe I understand a little, when I turned 17 I felt completely lost, everything started to go wrong, I never had any skills that I could say were good nor any perspective for the future, there was nothing I wanted to achieve, I became a hikikomori for more than 3 years, self-sabotaging myself every time I tried to get out of it, finding myself more and more in an emotional abyss with no will to live while my depression slowly corroded me, now at almost 22 years old I am managing to fix myself little by little, moving forward trying not to make the same mistakes I made in the past, and hoping that tomorrow will be a better day. Good night.
I definitely understand you. I'm younger, but i already can't stop thinking about my future. I'm scared i won't get money or that i wouldn't get to a good university or that I'll fail all my studies. On top of that, i only have big wishes and not any plans or goals for my future. And i also think i don't have a purpose in life. I hate myself, and i can't stop thinking about how ugly and weird i am. I'm also lonely. And no one thinks like i do. I'm just so fucking weird. Will anyone even love me? No one probably will...
You described exactly how I feel, I really don't have any friends and I'm waiting until I'm 18 to make online ones if I decide as my parents don't allow me to which is fair. Despite us having a one year age gap with you being older we seem quite similar, I honestly think this might be a generational problem, perhaps caused by covid. As it appears more and more people are like this, very lonely, no plan and the feeling that they have no future. I hope it all gets better, for both of us so that way we can live happy and free lives
Whenever I was young I just couldn't imagine life after turning 18. I was kinda expecting it to end or rather.. magically enter adult life like I've seen it around. 18 comes and.. it's just another day. Not well thought out and rushed decisions turned out to be not the best and ever since, I'm basically just winging it. Also.. I can relate 100% to what you are feeling, thinking and experiencing - I have and still am going through the same. You are not alone 🫂
I think these are (sadly) common experiences of people with profound depression. I never expected to survive college, and I've spent the years since trying to figure out a life I never planned for. It hasn't been easy, but I've reach a point where I'm glad I'm alive and proud of myself for surviving. When I was in it (and I was for years and years), I never thought I'd know anything but that crushing depression. Depression makes it feel like you've never been warm, that you've never had a good day in your life. But I have found some warmth and I have had good days in recent years. That wound you talked about scarred over. That is not to say that wound never existed. The scar of it still throbs and itches. Sometimes it even bleeds. I do worry that one day the wound will reopen. But right now things are okay. I am warm. One thing that helped me, as someone who was similarly terrified of finding a purpose and "doing" something important enough - it is simply enough just to be. I used to live so much in this scary, blurry future that I ended up losing the present. Going out into nature, shutting my mind away from everything but what I was immediately experiencing with my five senses and feeling the full weight of every clumsy beautiful little life around me really helped me gain another appreciation for being. It's a skill and takes time to learn, and it certainly isn't a cure-all (no such thing exists for depression), but it personally helped me gain perspective. Once I cut through all that fog and pain and fell face first on the other side, I found that it really is amazing to get to experience life. I can lay in the warm sun and have my cat beside me and listen to the crowds and watch a lizard puff out its dewlap and feel it all. And while those moments are fleeting and I still have times I feel cold and alone at times and still feel anxiety of all that I have to "do", there exists an unshakeable sense of how amazing it is that I can bear witness to all the beauty around me. Depression hurts, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone and I am not saying this to romanticize it in anyway, but I believe that surviving it gave me an appreciation for existing that not many people possess. Anyway, I hope 10 years from now, you will be able to revisit this video with the same wistful nostalgia I feel listening to you speak. Keep doing your best, many people are rooting for you.
Ito don't lose your hope I am also not have a any plan just like you But I don't mind just enjoy your life Ito don't need to worried about future plan Stay happy & take care yourself Ito
Hey, I’ve been watching your channel for a few months. I can relate to what you’re saying. I am in a similar situation, I thought I’d kick the bucket at 16 but I’m still around. My parents convinced me to go to college instead of throwing my life away. I’m 17 now (turning 18 pretty soon). I grew up wanting to work at NASA, but I lost that passion in my teenage years; and I live without a real sense of purpose. I lost almost all my friends from high school, and I have no friends I could talk to now in person without traveling almost half a day. I feel mentally caught between being an adult and being a teenager; I always get treated as an adult because of how I look and because I go to college, but I still feel like I’m 17. I have not made any friends because everyone is so mean at my university; and it's especially hard to deal with because it's my first year here. I don’t get why some people don’t understand how hard it is to actually socialize when it feels like everyone around you hates you or doesn’t want you around. I tend to feel empty time to time as well, it feels like I always have to keep pushing something just for pushing to become harder and harder as time goes on, and overall I just feel lost. I worry I am stuck in a cycle and always looping between hope and despair. The only thing that brings me comfort is the small moments here and there, the ones that make you smile due to the simplicity of it. I have dreamt about the end of life, and I always think no matter what happens in this life, it will always end on a sunset on a beach if I reach the end naturally. I don’t know if you’ll be around to read this, but I hope it provides you a little bit of comfort. And your videos have been a source of comfort for me since I feel I could relate to you. Thank you for uploading :) I hope you feel better.
i had similar feelings when i was in elementary/middle school that i wouldnt make it past high school. When i was in college i thought that i won't end my life, so i should avoid any behavior that may make my life harder. I didnt really have friends in high school, i had one friend in college, but we dont talk anymore. In college, i didnt go to any parties or any non-mandatory social gatherings. I dont regret any of it now that im older. When i was 25, i went across the world for a couple months, and partied and went to clubs, etc. in a country that i dont even speak the language of. You said you feel like you're missing out, but even if you do literally nothing fun in college like i did, you're not missing out on anything. You can always do crazy and fun things later in life. I only have 1 friend that I talk to occasionally on discord (a friend of the friend i had in college). If i'm really lonely, I also can talk to my parents, and we have pets. Being alone and being lonely aren't the same. You don't really need friends to feel less lonely. When you graduate, I think you would benefit from finding a job that helps others and is somewhat customer facing. Hair stylists can talk to customers all day. I recently went to a dentist appointment, and the hygienist was talking with me about my brothers baby, my trip across the world, my job, local job opportunities, etc. even though we only talk twice a year, and i think she also sees some of my family members... but the point is that you can find a job that can fulfill your socialization needs and make you feel less lonely and more happy. It's hard to find friends. It's hard to maintain friendships over a long period of time. One friend you had might move across the country, and then you are kinda screwed. I think its better to have multiple ways to socialize.
thanks for sharing your deepest thought with us and hope that you will feel better to keep up with your journey to open the a new chapter of your life. Wish you the best !
I'm glad this popped up on my feed. My hope is that your current family/living situation allows you the freedom/opportunity to take things slow. There's no rush, Ito! There are people older than you, some far older, that still aren't quite sure about things. Please keep giving it your best, but I really hope that you're allowed the time to continue soul-searching. Wishing you the best~! 0w0
Hope you feel happier soon. I'm 41 and don't look back at being young with any fondness at all. I was super depressed. I just threw my life into work as a bit of a distraction and somehow it turned out pretty well as a distraction and then lead to a sense of accomplishment. Now having a child, life is great. I suppose it can take a while before life gets ok and you find where you fit in the world. Make sure you get enough sleep too- if you are having trouble see a doctor. Even now, if I don't get enough sleep I start to feel depression again and really for no reason.
I totally get how you’re feeling... I also struggle with thinking I wouldn’t have made it this far and sometimes feel really lost. I know things can feel really heavy and confusing sometimes, but you're not alone in this. It’s okay to feel lost. Sometimes life doesn’t come with a clear map, and that’s alright. Finding little moments of joy and connecting with others can make a big difference. Keep taking it one day at a time and remember that brighter days are ahead. Sending you lots of positive vibes and support.
Just a reminder, life is like a roller coaster there will be ups and there will be downs. Just like you I am 17. I have an idea about my goals but no plan. Like you said I am living life “naively”, and I get you. Why do others expect us not to be naive when we don’t have a plan? How do we control this plan? Am I limited by what I am capable of? Is this what’s preventing me from creating a plan? It sucks. You seem uncertain and anxious but at the same time you are strong. Your goals are there, and they have been with you. Goals don’t have to be something big! They can come in all shapes and sizes, in the end we are all striving for something. The effort is there. You are never truly going backwards. I like to ponder what would happen if I never put in the effort where would I have been? Or if my effort caused me more pain, I like to think it matters not the lost but what you do after it. I feel that you are aware of these. I suggest don’t let the fear of the unknown future or the known past control your current actions. All you have is the present.
When I was 13yo I had no idea what to do and I thought I would be dead by the time I was 16yo. Now I'm 32yo and I still don't know what to do, but it hurts less because I got stronger... So what I trying to say is, things aren't going to get better, but it becomes easier to deal with.
This video is scarily accurate for me. I'm 16 now and I feel exactly the same. I have no single idea what to do with my life, I don't see any future for myself. It's like every year everything seems more and more desperate, whatever I do I will probably regret because nothing of what I want to do seems realistic for me. I can't really perceiove what I am now because I'm really far from anything I've ever wanted to be. My whole life, since I was around idk 3 I was such an extravert. I loved being around people and couldn't bring myself to play alone. But I also was always an outcast, and whatever I do I never get to actually become a part of the group, even if at first people find me outgoing and pretty and I feel like I'm one of them, when everyone start to grow closer with each other, I always, inevitably become an outcast, even though literally nothing changed. I tried so many times with different groups, and now it's obvious that something is definetely wrong with me. It really hurts to see how everyone I see have a lot of friends, spend time with them and do all that friendly stuff while for me it literally sounds unrealistic. Both cruel, dumb, ugly, boring, shy, annoying and weird people all have friends, and I'm happy for them, but I just can't understand why I don't then! It really makes me so unreasonably insecure, like I'm for some reason worse than everyone else. It's really hard to build my future like that.
relate so much to this. After 17, everything just feels like a bonus stage, but I guess we just keep going until we get something we love in this life.
Look imma be honest with you nobody know what the fuck we’re doing life happens there is no plan to stick to because everything can go wrong along the way I myself am about to be 30 and have made attempts on my life and have been in the exact same boat you’re rocking in and the best I can tell you is not to give up just yet, you’ve made it this far might as well see how it ends, life happens day by day and life will continue on after us, enjoy yourself it’s an experience a terrifying one but an experience nonetheless, there is something you like and or are good at, you might not find it now but you will, we all eventually do, now keep the stress to a minimum and figure it out, you got this ✌️
It is not easy to find out what are we supposed to do in life, I have yet to find my place in the world as well. We hear you and appreciate your efforts at communicating how you feel, you are not alone in this. I hope you feel better tomorrow!
i can relate and to be brutally honest i dont have any advice really. i didnt see life past the age of 16 and now im 24 and life just keeps on going. and if there is one thing i have learned is that no one actually has it together, just some people are better at hiding it then others. dont really know why yt is recommending me your videos but here we are. I genuinely hope with everything i can that you can find your reason to get up in the morning.
this is very relateable and I'm glad you spoke about this. I didn't plan on offing myself but time kept going even when I didn't want to and never planned anything about the future so I just do what I have to doeven though I don't have any ideas about the future nor can I envision myself being something or to someone. I'm just doing this because I don't have a choice but to go on and not be a burden to my parents or the society. Loneliness is eating me up and its hard to look forward to the next day. I just have to do it because it is what it is
Not going to lie, we're in the wrong timeline for socializing, because a tonne of people are terminally online (like not just us, literally everyone) You THINK people have the time of their life socializing, but I almost guarentee you that most of them just go straight back on their phones when they're alone. Do you have a gaming PC? if so how about hosting a game party! I imagine it would give a bunch of people the opportunity that want to get to know you the chance to socialise with you! There's a bunch of party themed games like Jackbox Party Pack, Party Animals etc I know it isn't the type of socialising you probably want or are expecting, but that's one of the most prevalent forms of socialising nowadays.
I'm not sure how my algorithm helped this find its way to my feed, but I felt the same way you did at your age and still do at 30 oftentimes. Don't give up hope and don't let yourself lose. At 30 I've done permanent damage to my body in my early 20's from depression and self-neglect, I've only come to regret it since it just makes it harder and justifies the dark feelings more. You are right that you're still young, and there's so much uncertainty in the world it's hard to find direction or not to feel lost and alone, but that also means there's more time for something to happen or to meet someone and make close friends. Sometimes it takes longer for people like us. We're just commenters on TH-cam, but you're not alone with your struggle. I'm 30 and just now making decisions society told me I should have made at 18, but there was no support network or guidance for me at the time. It's not too late, it won't be too late and if you need time to find a purpose in life, don't be afraid to give yourself that time. You're worth it, and even though all of us are just strangers in a TH-cam comment section, we believe you're worth it, too.
I know how it feels, damn I recognize that expression, I was just like you at your age, I thought I wasn't gonna live past the 30 I hadn't anyone who to talk with, and just used to live without thinking, kinda depressed, now I'm 23 and I'm not like that anymore, I had to think about what I wanted to do all by myself, and now I'm not that depressed, listen... when you try to REACH goals that you think are gonna be good or even just you like for you, you overpass that shit, think about a goal to achieve, and little by little you're gonna be a warrior, and try to be more positive good luck friend😉👍
I'm almost 30 and I still got no clue what I'm doing, and am no different than I was at 20 besides like. Learning lessons. Being a better person in certain situations. It doesn't really feel real. But I feel deeply that everyone around me feels the same way, even the ones I'm jealous of who seem like they got all the confidence and planning in the world. I see them stumble and I'm like 'Ah. You are human, like me.' We're stressed so much to know what we're doing and I truly don't think any of us do. Some of us have plans, that's all. Most of us don't.
People say its ok to not have a purpose in life but my opinion is you gotta find what u wana do in life,have a purpose , cus without having a purpose, we feel like we are just randomly existing and not having a sense of fulfillment, the void its always there. No ones gonna give you purpose, nobody is given purpose by others ,everyone finds it themselves, this is just a passing feeling, i believe everyone has gone through that, time will heal, give it time. Also iam Christian and the reason y i emphasize saying it is cus, people who do not believe in God always feels empty without company around them. Find God, the light and you will find what you seek. Its all upto you.
You have succeeded in making people feel understood. The 70K subscribers you have... most of us understand your feelings because we have felt them too. You're 17!!! You have no idea how lucky you are! I think a lot of people here would like to go back in time and change their lives. Luckily you have the opportunity to do anything with your future life. And yes adult life will suck and, no, life will not get easier for most people.. we just have to learn how to navigate it. Having loving people around you.. friends family coworkers will make it a lot more tolerable. Also, the thing about depression and trauma is if you make it through it you come out stronger and it becomes just a very distant memory. This has been my experience, at least.
I long felt the same way since middle or high school, and continue to feel like I'm running on overtime. I can't really give much advice but to just to take each day. We're at the end game, main quest completed. We now spend the time completing side quests and mini games. Try something different or new. We cannot control anything. As the other comments have suggested, apply somewhere and surround yourself with distractions or other people. Time will fly and you'll hopefully experience something to grab you in, make you feel ignited again.
I'm almost 30 an used to feel exactly the same for most of my 18-20s. And I'm incredibly happy right now. Life and our thoughts about it change a lot with time. Give life a chance to show up itself to you Ito, it's worth it.
Whenever I become lost in thought, I still wonder what the hell I'm even doing still, the never ending cycle I put myself in thinking I'll surly reach a turning point in my life - yet its been stagnant, pretty much a neet life outside of working day to day, with most of my social interactions now limited to friends made through discord communities that I'm unlikely to meet in irl parts of it is because of responsibilities out of obligations, others due to insecurities and anxiety when left on my own to deal with; I certainly feel like a shell of what I am, I don't want to be this current sense of self, but it's all that there is - not some personality disorder, or even an alter ego I wish could live out my life for me in the end it was always about our own growth, defining our self worth, and finding the little things that provide our happiness for seeking out a purpose in life
You’re definitely not alone in this feeling. I’ve always been really afraid of growing up, stuck in a more immature mindset whilst everyone around me is excited to be an adult. I’m just not ready but the clock won’t stop for anyone. “Living really hurts” feels so true. I’m sorry you’ve been feeling this way. But even if it doesn’t seem like there’s a reason to be, it’s doesn’t mean that sadness doesn’t matter. And it’s not “cringy” or dramatic to voice it. I feel that way a lot too, haha. “:) Even if the original intent of this channel wasn’t to help people, I certainly think that’s what’s doing. It’s providing a place for people to feel less alone and be able to vent. So thank you, let’s all dress up and have a virtual tea party :)
It's ok to not have a plan. Life feels very fast sometimes, but when it actually comes to different things, there's always time to deal with every challenge one at a time. Sometimes we think about our entire future as a one big thing that we need to have planned, but that's not the only way. You can try taking singular steps. And before you know it you'll make hundreds of them. It's alright to be afraid, everyone is afraid, some people are more often than others, but that's also alright. I can't tell you what to do, because I don't know you well enough, but I'm rooting for you, and I believe in you. I also want to say that your videos are ones of my favourite on this platform, it's nice to listen to you. Take care, you seem like a gentle soul. Don't loose this quality. Edit: I don't know how old are you, but when I was 19 I felt extremely lonely as well, on top of other issues regarding my physical health, to the point of wanting to end it all. It felt really dark, but I hoped for better future, and it did eventually came, so I believe in everyone going through tough times, that they can do it as well, until they reach a point in their life when they are feeling better.
I had a plan, to escape my family, when I was 15-16 or so. It fell apart basically the minute my freshman year of college ended. I even ruined my own business pitch because I didn't realize I hadn't finished my pitch deck like I thought, and saved the notes to the wrong place. I put it together because I realized that that friends I had weren't as close as I thought, and that I'd be lost if I didn't go looking otherwise. Plans are good, but there's no such thing as a purpose, and even plans fail anyway. Just do whatever feels good, try your best to avoid harming people when you don't have to, admit fault when you're wrong and grow, and be as earnest and kind as you can, when you can. According to however you define all that. You'll make connections with people as you do those things most likely. Idk if that helps at all, but here's hoping from someone 26 and looking back sib.
this is something to which, at least in a small part, many people can relate and understand. Don't forget that none of us know what we're doing, but everything works out somehow, because the world is gigantic and full of different roadpaths. There is always a path for everyone to follow, wether we know it or not (and I don't mean it as a 'fate' or 'religious' sense, but as a logical sense by purely seeing how big the world is).
I relate to this a lot, a few years ago I had a near death experience and since that day my life has just been getting worse, I honestly think I wasn't supposed to have survived that, but I did. I try telling myself that I should make the best out of my life cause I only have this one, but life is hard, sometimes if almost feels like I'm being punished for surviving. Playing a game I like or eating something I like helps getting through the day/week, but it's hard filling that 'hole'. You're very sweet and easy to like (at least that's how I feel watching your videos) so I don't think you're the problem, it's most likely just life being tough. So like you said in one of your videos let's just do our best, to try and make the next day better. I'm sorry I don't have any good advice to give, but I really hope you can have better days coming up and find a way to just feel better in general about your life. ❤
Its okay, none of us know what we are doing. You only get one life, just do what you enjoy. Dont worry what other are doing or how they seem. Even adults dont know what they are doing.
I hope you feel better tomorrow Ito. This resonated with me a lot and I cried while watching it. It feels really bad to want to be a part of the experiences I see other people having but knowing I wouldn't belong or fit in with them. While I know they mean well, it is really invalidating when people just tell you to try to put yourself out there or talk to people more. It just makes it feel like they don't understand how difficult or complicated the problem is, which makes it feel even more isolating to be honest. While I truly don't know where to go from here or if it will ever stop being so hard to live, I try to remember that I can't predict the future very well. Who knows what could change or get better. Truthfully it doesn't make it much better, but I try to remember that when I start losing hope for unknowns in the future. I wish you well and hope the future surprises you with something worth living for Ito ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ
I really empathize with you but whenever i try to help people i end up making it worse. I don't know what I can do but I really wish there was something we could say to make you feel better but I can't think of it. there are 71 thousand people who are willing to support you. when people say "it will get better" its so hard to take them seriously because no matter how many times you're told that it never gets better but just because life sucks doesn't mean it isn't worth living. I hate my future, myself, who i've become, my addictions and a lot of stuff but at least i can find momentary happiness with menial tasks. Maybe you'll become a famous youtuber in the future. I'm not planning on living past 18 but I think things are getting better, and I know taking advice from someone younger than you can be iffy but I'm really just trying to help.
1:52 i feel that way too ito, feeling lost makes you kinda hopeless, a year ago i was at hight school, i had the constant thought that i should just "be not alive" by the end of 2023, but i'm still here somehow it's weird, but i guess we deserve to live even though there's those harsh moments in life, i would love to have a real reason, like a purpose, but i don't know if that's really needed... just like, stay alive take care ito
You don't necessarily need to have a "purpose in life". just find your own fulfilment. things you enjoy and makes you happy. Study a language, travel to places you always wanted to see.. if you can't because of money or whatever, set a goal to reach that. earning money.. i mean your yt seem to pop off pretty well recently.. it can be whatever you wanna do. For me personaly i realized traveling changed me alot.. all the people i met in different countries.. they put me on new tracks i have never expected and made me chase new goals. Just go step by step with little things you like.. it will lead through your own path sooner or later. and im sure you will gather many friends too.
Glad the algorithm recommended this. Thanks for being so honest and speaking on the spot, it comes across as very authentic. I will go back to watch all your stuff before leaving a more in-depth comment. For now, Ill leave the most generic, yet true piece of wisdom that kept me going through the rough shit in life; it gets better. I promise. Keep on fighting. I believe in you.
I almost died when I was 15 everything after then has felt like I’m just wandering around I have no idea what I’m doing I can’t imagine can’t believe that can’t see myself being a 40 year old person
Hey, I’m 17 and I get it. I've been pretty much a shut-in for the last 2 years and now that I'm turning 18 in a month, it doesn't feel real, like it was never meant to happen. It's kinda like I’m watching life go by from behind a window, but somehow I’m not really part of it. I see everyone else moving forward, doing things that I can’t seem to do, and it feels like I've been left behind almost, it's lonely. I'm lost and the more time passes, the more lost I feel, like the future is something I can’t even imagine anymore. It’s like standing on the edge of something unknown, and instead of excitement or hope, all I feel is this overwhelming sense of not belonging, of not knowing what’s supposed to come next. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you’re not alone in feeling like this. I'm pretty much in the same boat, and it's nice to know that I'm not going through this alone. Thank you for sharing this, Your words helped more than you might think. I hope we both find the light at the end of the tunnel. Take care of yourself.
It's okay not to know. It's okay to be lost and confused. Your feelings are valid and heard. Many others can relate to your feelings and want to hear everything you have to say. All your concerns, doubts, hopes and dreams, always know: you can start over every morning. Keep trying.
Relatable. Everyone's doing something but I'm so lost. I feel so powerless to do anything about it that I just don't do anything which traps me in my thoughts. If anything this is just like a character building arc. Courage and bravery is not built in so it's ok to be scared. Our hope is our greatest weapon. Just imagine one day it just goes right for us. Thinking about that gives me joy and some power to keep going.
Hey Ito, I’m writing this as I’m watching and I wanted to say you’re not alone. Well… Not exactly I have a bit of a hard time watching your videos because of how hard it is for me to face these thoughts that I myself have, like you said. It’s hard to be alone I know tons of people feel the same way, like I do, like you apparently do, like some of my friends apparently do as well. But even then, it feels like no one can find a way to properly ‘fix’ each other, not themselves. And doing stuff feel- Hard honestly, I’ll talk about my own experience but. I didn’t want to live past my 17th birthday even though now i’m nearly at my 19th, all because I knew that I had to start doing things for my family and for my ‘future’ but… I just don’t see the use, I don’t feel the need to stay and I don’t feel welcome anywhere except when I adapt myself to others, to satisfy them. Even amongst people that are depressed I feel like I’m somehow out of touch with them… Living feels wrong, it’s tiring, and it hurts over time. On top of that I feel so… Lagged behind, I haven’t been to school ever since I was 7, yet people expect me to enter uni and catch up to everyone. I can’t make money for my family currently, I can’t work, I can’t even write by hand correctly. I feel like a weight and I hate myself to some degree for it, although I try not to think about it. I’m still here mainly because of my parents… After that I personally think I’ll just try to find a way to go to sleep and not wake up I genuinely hope that no one else reading this comment feels this way, I wish the best to all of you fellow dreamers, and good luck to whatever you’re aiming to accomplish, whether it be getting out of bed every day or becoming the president of a country. Good luck
It's okay to not know what you're doing, you don't always need a concrete plan in life. Sometimes things just happen, whether good or bad, but you should always try your best to look forward anyway. You're not alone in this world, I know how you feel when you say you've missed out, but it's never going to be too late to try and make up for lost time. You're not the problem and don't ever put yourself beneath others like that, Your head won't let you make the things your heart wants to come true and it'll never be as easy people say it will be, but please try to not let it consume you. You can beat this feeling of emptiness. I sent something on your priv awhile back, I really hope that my hand reaches you if you ever bother with it because it hurts hearing the pain in your voice. Idk if my words will ever be enough, but I really do hope more than anything happiness comes your way and that you can look towards a brighter tomorrow during this rough period.
I can say that I've felt similarly. I remember when I was growing up, I saw others always taking opportunities and planning ahead, however when it came to my future, I could never really even see a year ahead. Even now, everyone I knew is married or has been in some form of relationship or moving forward with their life in some way, but I still don't know what I'm even doing now considering I've only had a couple of jobs and moved around a ton with my mom and dad.. also, I don't mean to sound like a downer, but people will try to tell you that things will get better, that they always do, but I don't know.. the only thing I really know is to take the moments you can get and hold onto them. Also, no matter your age, emotions are emotions and they are definitely valid no matter where you are in life. I wish I could help in any way, I mean it may be weird, but I can offer to play games sometime or just talk if you want, as long as you are doing okay. Anyways, I hope you can find purpose as anyone else =^-^=
‘’And one day we will die And our ashes will fly from the aeroplane over the sea But for now we are young Let us lay in the sun And count every beautiful thing we can see’’
I turn 18 next month and life is really about to hit me like a truck, all while I’m struggling, pretty similarly to you actually. I was always given all the things I needed as a kid so the desires or motivation for anything was never built within me growing up so yea, life feels pretty bland and unfulfilling. I’m getting ready to apply for colleges and I don’t even know what to do with myself or where to go, for the lack or motivation, inspiration, purpose, or just the “want” for anything. Honestly, I’ve just been sitting back for the ride of life because I literally don’t know what to do even though I also so desperately want success in life like my peers. I don’t even have my drivers license yet and all the kids around me have jobs and everything else too, even their own cars. Everything just feels out of control and I feel so very left behind, even though I try. But watching your videos reminds me to have hope even though things feel like there’s no end to the unfortunate events of life, and I haven’t even been here that long or lived life yet so I can’t even imagine what’s still ahead of me. But you know what, even though I have no direction, I know I have to keep drifting and eventually I’ll land upon something, right? I like to think I understand kind of where you’re coming from, through things I haven’t mentioned, but let’s keep pushing despite moving totally in the dark with no map🙂
You got it. Just keep checking things out and eventually you will see where you need to go. The comedian Doug Stanhope had this bit about being young. I thought it was pretty good, maybe you can find it. But his main point was that you can do anything at your age. As long as you don't get pregnant or addicted to drugs, your worst case is maybe repeating a year of school. In 10 or 20 years that won't matter a single bit. Youth is for exploring and learning. You have time and opportunities to go in any direction. It's perfectly fine to take your time figuring things out. I'm sure you will do just fine 😊
i feel so misplaced… i feel like i shouldn’t be here right now… i don’t do anything with my life… i feel like i just exist… existing just to exist is a fate worst than death and here it is as my fate… why even am i, i…? sigh… i just don’t know anymore…
Hey Ito, you should just start going to the gym every day, it would give you some kind of purpose in life and increase your dopamine and serotonine and making you less depressed. You could even make some friend while at the gym.
going through something very similar... i have no idea what im doing ! its really really scary. when i see other people who are my age and they have graduated college etc it makes me feel super insecure and inadequate like i feel so worthless. also when i was in my teens i genuinely thought i wasnt going to make it to adulthood... and here i am.. just existing. also if i had the chance to have a tea party with you i totally would. you seem very kind and you deserve only the best. i hope tomorrow is a better day for you
I'm 26 and I'm on the same boat and I can relate. There are many people who care for you and will be there for you. I'm only one of them. Sad part is that we're from different parts of the world far away from you to be your irl friend, like I'm not even allowed to be on TH-cam based on my location and I'm using a VPN to access it. And you may not even see this comment because of your overwhelming amount of audience. I also hate crowds but want to be surrounded by people at the same time but then again I don't have enough energy for it. I'm also lost and I dunno why I'm here and what I'm supposed to do with existence. Sometimes I'm too sad to be able to think. It's nice to have someone to relate to but I also don't want you to keep suffering like this. I hope you can find cute irl girlies you can hang out with. I know our happiness shouldn't rely on other people but this void of agony in our chest is too overbearing for us to think like a wise old man. I truly wish the best for you. Sorry I can't do anything, listening is all I could do...
I didn't expect to survive my childhood. I'm suprised I did. It took me 6 months after moving out and finally escaping the conditions of my youth, to even realize I was alive, and not in danger of death. Plans? Didn't have em. Backup? Na-da. Each moment was its own fight, so I kept fighting. To hell with the future, right? We'll see it when it decides to show face. I'm lucky, because I have a couple personal projects worth living for. That's why I'm still kicking it, anyway. It's not so bad, after all. I'll be honest, you'll be fine, if you just choose to see it through. Blessings come in the winds, so let them blow for a while more.
oh and, you're doing just fine, my friend. I know it sucks. it sucks for me too, still. maybe you don't need me to tell you things can change. I believe they will.
You should figure out what you like to do! You like plushies! Design and make plushies and you know how to make a website! Design, make and sell plushies! You can make a club and business out of that!
Yo! I think we’re around the same age, I’m 19 years old and I just wanted to say that you’re not alone in feeling this way. I think in general from the people I’ve talked to in my life around my age, whether they be friends or strangers, are going through the same self-doubt and fears you have. I think at our age, we’re not really supposed to know what we really want to do yet. At this point in our lives, especially in such turbulent times, we are going to be lost and confused. We all cope with this differently, and it’s ok to feel a bit broken sometimes. What’s important is that you don’t lose that attitude you have about hoping the next day will be a good day. That hope and resilience will carry you far in life and help you to find new opportunities to take you toward the path towards happiness. Collectively, our strongest trait is to not give up. Some days will be really hard, I’ve been there, it’s really tough, but you can’t ever stop moving forward, for our own sake and for those who love us. Please, take care, and I hope that tomorrow for you is a good day. : D
It's okay not to have a plan.
i’ve been riding the waves and they’ve gone nowhere… sigh… i just don’t know anymore…
This a rock solid truth
@@fallenangelcrimson where do you want them to take you?
@@Art.Therapy93
maybe an waterfall…
@fallenangelcrimson why?
A few more years and I'm 30, I still have no clue what I'm doing haha, I just grasp at whatever opportunity comes by. No one really has their life planned, and even if they are, life doesn't always go according to plan either.
I think life is just literally improvising with whatever you have and whatever comes your way. We're in this together!
I'm about turning 20 yo next year 😭 I'm so scared of adulthood life bro
@@ShiinaHiyori It'll be ok in the long run. You got this!
Nobody has friends these days. Everyone is lonely. Happy to see you again.
If you don't have any learning difficulties like adhd, is on autism spectrum or has dyslexia that is untreated, get into in person college and join a group or class of interest and like minded people will gravitate to you. You are nice and a attractive person and you will be able to get that purpose you're seeking and your kind of friend group to hang out with. (Not that ppl with learning difficulties cant but sometimes is harder & can be a unpleasant experience)
As someone who shared these feelings but has health problems stopping me, I learned that If you're physically healthy & have a supportive family that loves you, you have everything. Don't let your intrusive depressive thoughts win, Youre smart, Strong and unstoppable with those two things i mentioned earlier.
Take care
You know the weird thing about no exact goal is that it can be viewed as a scary thing, but it also comes with a perk that you can choose what to do with your time. Do a bunch of random hobbies go on little “side quests” it’s a lot of experimenting, but it can be worth it. Took me a while to view it that way, but I hope it helps.
When I was 8 years old I was in a car crash with my family and my 2 sisters ended up dying. After that I couldn't comprehend living past their lives which was 16 and 18 so I know how you feel in that sense. People make plans for the future and life but nobody can ever predict everything that happens in between whether they be good or bad, that's what keeps me going and keeps me excited for what life has in stored.
Good advice but adulthood life is so scary bro. I'm really scared I'll become a really bad person someday
@@ShiinaHiyori You only fear the unknown which is a normal feeling. Once you have more experiences, the fear goes away. At 17 I dropped out of high school. I was a broken man and couldn't talk with people. Then I changed my name, moved to another country, and started socializing again. Best thing I've ever did! It cured me. Now I fearlessly face life's difficulties with courage.
I wish everyone to know that it's not all doom and gloom in life. It's not just that it gets better, but as you grow older you get tougher! I feared my first hospitality job but after two years I was doing 16 hour shifts! like a boss 😂
Now everything is easy.
@@tomaccino That sounds wonderful, I don't really know if I can make it happen
@@ShiinaHiyori [i know, me again] bad people don't think about if they're bad, that's how you know you're not bad, because you have doubts. now you don't have to worry about that anymore.
This is what I did when I was 18.
I uses to chat in Gaia on a PC. When I build enough trust, i would invited them to Webcam.
Now a day you got way to make friends online throught streaming. It a head start to play video game on Vr you can find friends around you area.
You can also make a discord and invite us, that way you can speak with a selected audience.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
I know it bring you stress.
It's not your fault.
Just breathe and let the storm pass.
Thing will get better.
But you need to try new activities, that bring you peace of mind and progress.
☸️🎶 🙏 ☯️ ☯️
I am in the same boat as you. I am 24 about to be 25 and I feel like my real life ended when I turned 18 and everything afterwards isnt real. I never imagined myself as an adult and I still dont feel like one now.
I feel like this is something everyone feels after becoming an adult. We are entering an unfamiliar and lonlier world than what we were used to. Its just something we have to accept and move on from, but its hard to let go of what was.
just know your videos make people that feel the same feel better just to know that there are others who feel pain like this is so crucial to helping each other out in this struggle of this strenuous life.
Don't feel too bad. I'm 34 years old and I have no idea what I'm doing with my life either.
make kids buy house pay mortgage
@@xenophoscion499 “buy house” lol, lmao even
I'm the same age and feel the same way too
To have a pre-planned purpose is to be trapped. To have no purpose means the freedom to have any purpose. We are each born with the ability to build our own purpose, and the freedom to explore and build it in any way we want. Being lost may also be a blessing, as it allows us to go on paths we may not have known of and gain life changing experiences. It's going to be scary to explore new things, but do not be afraid of failure and "lost time." You may not necessarily find what feels right immediately, but each bump always brings experience, and a reaffirmation of your courage for going through with it. Stay strong.
SAME ITO, SAME! I think we all feel this way sometimes. God bless you
I once thought the same thing but it’s okay to not know what you’re doing, best to take life one step at a time in your own pace and figure it out with every step.
I was once in the same boat as Ito. When I was 17 and in high school, I had that feeling of "love" towards someone and pursued them. All to just find out that they knew from the beginning that I liked them, and they used me and played me to get stuff out of me. Trigger Warning: When I found out about her using me and ended the relationship, I attempted to take my own life. Ever since then till now, I'm 25, I still have a hard time trusting people and a hard time finding a purpose. I too just like you never thought I'd live past a certain age, for me it being 25. I too ask myself if I'll still be around and have thought about many MANY other things. I digress. I relate a lot Ito, and I really hope that you stay around and live to see the good that will come of it. I know you hate hearing it and reading it, but you really do have a lot of ahead of you. I still haven't found my purpose in life yet, but I try to stay optimistic and look at the good that has happened each day. If anyone is reading this, just know that there is always good things that come after the bad. Try to keep your chin up, and have a good day
Nobody can fully plan life. Everyone is drifting and trying to find purpose. My purpose simply became happiness, and I don't worry about any more ultimate questions.
It's very natural to feel how you are now; you're in a very transitionary stage and, like myself, finding that your hobbies don't fit in with the stereotypical uni crowd. It's a very difficult problem, and one I had severe trouble solving at the time.
The reason people give you the pleasant but unsatisfying platitudes is that there isn't a simple answer, and oftentimes complete luck and coincidence is how you meet your best friends/partners/etc
So, in true annoying fashion, I'll give you another: don't give up, because one day you're going to look back and be so *incredibly* grateful that you didn't
I'm 40 and feel like it's not my world anymore, I feel you
Bro I'm 19 and I feel exactly the same like you
Stay alive please. I feel this way everyday, people love you.
"In life, what counts as a fatal wound?
Getting decapitated.
Yeah, obviously that’s one.
Crushing someone’s heart.
Again, obvious.
Destroying someone’s brain.
Naturally.
Stopping their breathing.
That’s another good method.
But I’m not referring to such trivialities in saying “fatal wound” here.
I mean an impact on your life so intense, so devastating, that you fall into a
state where you’re human but inhuman, you’re a person but can’t live, you’re
alive but are dead. It means getting sucked in whole and being ground to bits by
a dilemma precisely because you’re endowed with reason.
A fatal wound.
In other words, failing.
The key here is that even after failing, it goes on.
The world is brutally tepid.
It’s so kind that it’s cruel. It’s a devil’s paradise.
To put it plainly, even when they make big mistakes, human beings don’t die.
They can’t die, I should say.
Right, you don’t die.
You only suffer.
You simply suffer in agony.
And it goes on. Forever, endlessly.
It just goes on, senselessly.
Life isn’t a video game, not because there’s no reset button, but because
there’s no Game Over. Though it’s been “over” for ages, tomorrow shows up
anyway. Even when night falls, morning comes again. When winter ends, spring
rolls in. How wonderful life is.
It’s an absolute paradox─even though it’s a fatal wound, you can’t die. It’s like
asking what a person sees when he looks backward while traveling faster than
the speed of light. An unthinkable question.
Even though your potential to be you has long since been cut off, it goes on.
You start anew as often as you like. You reset your life again and again.
But it’s like making one shoddy copy after another, and each time you start
over, your “self” deteriorates a little.
Eventually you get to thinking:
Am I really me, or
did I become
something else
long ago?
Have I devolved?
Just as a subjective point of view can’t ever become a third party, you can’t
become your own spectator.
And that’s what’s truly fatal.
In other words, it’s all about spirit…"
Why don't you keep it simple? Keep it simple, "you can’t
become your own spectator"-nd-dot.
I’m 31 and have no idea what I’m doing with my life either. I work a job I don’t care for and just spend my days enjoying what I enjoy. You don’t need to have a plan. You’re really young, just do whatever you enjoy. We’re all here to just live our life to the fullest. It’s okay to feel lost and not have all the answers. Don’t worry about others, everyone’s different. Some people know what they want early on and some people don’t figure it out until they’re 30-40-50 years old.
You’re here still and you have all the time in the world to just do what you want and go at your own pace. Keep your head up.
It’s okay to not have an idea of anything. Or to be lost in the vast ocean of life. But everyone deserves happiness and joyful things. As Albert Camus once said “In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer”
Everyone deserves authentic happiness and freedom. It really depends on how you go at it
Feeling lost is an experience that everyone will go through in their life
Truth is life is mostly chance>plans. I've done everything by the book as far as school, and trying to get a stable career. Things happen but as for feeling lost, it can happen to anyone at any age. You're not alone in those feelings. It took me some time to understand that my only purpose in life is to be a decent person and everything either falls into place or doesn't. Wishing you all the best
everyone is lost many just pretend like they are not... especially if you don't have parents to get you into an industry...
so what you do is you learn business or find a mentor
I had to learn everything myself and went into business.
Please stay strong. Your such an inspiration to me and your amazing. Trust me your not being petty and your issues are so inspirational and your super motivational!!!
I understand, it's so hard to break out of a cycle when there's a constant force trending you down. You can resist, but not forever. Then you're right back where you started. Habits forgotten, negative mindsets returned, health gets neglected, and such. Do you just need to push longer? Will you eventually reach a new baseline? Maybe, I don't know.
I'm just going to put my heart into this comment, this is like a message to my past self, the message that i wished I could've received when i was in quarantine and as a person who didn't had a guide to guide me and someone who would understand me.
I remember that i once thought that everyone have it "together" or something like that, but i realize that it's doesn't happen like that, and that everyone has their struggle. Is like the 83 problem that everyone has from the Buddha (but i think the number is less actually). I don't really know what i would've said to my past self, but i think in the end i would say great job for not doing anything dumb. I think that the first thingI I wanna say to you. I'm just going to be the normal self and which I wiuld degrade myself for the sake of other.
I'm simp to the heart and I would die for you to not take any shit or anything like that, because doing those things for the sake of other is the worst thing you could ever do. I understand why you would have those thoughts of drinking alcohol, but please don't do those stuff please, I see it ruin too many people and I don't want you to go to that side of world, a world where you only see people living for those ugly things, I don't even need to mention drugs as well and nic as well. I pray that you never do those, because in the end their noting but things that will take away your true freedom.
I find it respectable that you want to make friends and all that, but I wonder if you want to go shopping with friends because of wanting to shop or make bonds with other people. I found that to be the same as playing video games, because in the end that hanging out with people, I hope you would find thst group of friends to hangout the way you like to hangout. I hope that you find people that you will want to be with because you like them as part as your family. That you would consider them as family.
I learned that having a purpose is really hard, but I also leanred to do what I like to do, I learned that that I like to learn "things" and that I would make decision because of that. Even if i know is it reckless, I would still make these decisions because the desire of my learning overweight the other options and which I would do it. Of course I wouldn't die because of it, because in the end I know that dying is just a short term of something, where as getting to see the next day is more beneficial for me because that mean I can learn something new the next day.
I think it would suit you better to learn your desire because that will show you something thst you never realize something.
As someone who is a higher grade then you, I would hate to see you die. If you die because you did something questionable, then I would be in rage... Well is because such a wonderful soul dying in front of me would make me in despair, finding someone like you is like finding diamond, and I would like to continue to see your journey and seeing you grow further then what I currently am right now.
I hope you the best and even if you didn't find this, just being able to put my heart into this comment and feeling like I have sent this to myself is enough, I hope that the wind will guide you through this path.
I feel the same way you feel and I've been going through this all my life and I'm A LOT older than you...but the one thing that keeps me going is a project (my IP) I've been working on since 1999.
That is the thing that keeps motivating me.
My so-called best friend that I met in 1993 keeps ghosting me to the point where I cut off all ties with him. The other friends I met in elementary school and high school have all drifted apart. They started their own families, Now I have no friends either. I have no girlfriend, no kids. No one. So I know exactly how you feel. I truly do.
The only thing I can say is find something that you're passionate about and put all of your focus and energy into that. It will keep your mind off of what's troubling you...for the most part. It's not easy but it's the only thing that helps.
nobody planned where their going hell, im 22 and still dont know what im going to do, im just going with the flow of life and letting it decide what im going to do, cant let yourself drown in sorrow and in bad thought like that, you gotta take them and throw them in the safe, lock it, and throw the key away and never think about them again. i know life can be hard but everyone has a purpose in life, you may not know your purpose and reason in life but im sure someone out there is glad that you exist, and this TH-cam channel is definitely a way that you may have saved someone and i promise that you can make it, i understand being alone and being lonely but you cant let that decide your future or your life its something so small in the grand scheme of life that its not enough of a reason to let yourself go, clubs and going out isnt something everyone has to enjoy, beside im sure that everyone who watches this channel and are subbed to it are your friends and we all love you very much and want you to not feel as sad. that goal you set with this channel is something that im sure you've already completed, we love you and god loves you i hope you read all the comments and see how much we care about you
a good start could be just getting a social job that forces you to engage with people, starting with that could be a good way to start to break out of your cycle
I am here, talentless, don't have any goal or desire to live, but im still living, bcs all the respond i was made for anyone i met, plus i know things will be better,...... It's ok to feel empty, u would get better soon, don't be depress
Analysis paralysis. It's okay! Just do something, anything. Don't ponder things pointlessly. Youre young, so embrace it and branch out. If you stay comfortable in a bubble, you WILL suffocate in it eventually. Im a few years ahead of you and made the wrong choices, you must recognize your errors. You were meant to live past 17, dont be ridiculous :) Pain doesnt always equate to suffering, this is a matter of perspective. The most basic impetus of all life is to GROW.
I wanna give you a hug :( I’m 13 and I relate to this. I’m sorry you have to go through this :(( I don’t want to be an adult. I don’t want responsibilities. This is relatable
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@@shiro-chan1856brah they're 13, they can be on here 💀
@@shiro-chan1856 what 😭
@@shiro-chan1856 yt is 13+ wdym-
@@shiro-chan1856 what r u on 😭
embrace sadness, there's beauty in it and you'll learn to appreciate yourself ❤
stop romanticizing depression
@@xenophoscion499 not what I meant at all, they're both interconnected
it's been literally three weeks and I have already started failing my Spanish, and pre calculus classes. I literally talk to zero people only sometimes family for literally years and the road looks like a good place to sleep sometimes. Oh and I'm gonna be turning seventeen soon so there's probably a lot of people who aren't all put together out there. Don't feel bad if you feel like your not as good as others, or feel like your not as good as others appear to be. Cause most of the time those who look like they have everything going all good are the ones with it the worst. It's okay to not feel good and its okay to feel like your stuck and need some help, or don't know what you need.
I've always felt the same about the quiet, the calm..being alone..but im never lonely.. 99% of the time.. i thought i'd die before i was 30, i didnt, and feel so much more together since.. life is what we make it, be as much YOU as possible.. happiness follows
why all of that is so real... i hope you will be okay ito, i really want to have that fancy tea party with you
It's very interesting when you get to a certain point in life when you were certain you would be dead at that point. you realize you're just going to stick through it now because you've made it this far, I've had suicidal ideation since I was 4 and did not realistically expect to make it past 28 without killing myself (I did attempt twice, I'd say thrice but that most recent mental destabilization was more a meditation on death with a mug of tea on the train tracks and that was four years ago). it's very odd to be alive still but I doubt I'm going to existentially exit anytime soon. here's hoping you find that reason to be, I've found that simply being, just taking in the boundless existence of every moment has enshrined that ideal to continue on even in the face of that adversity.
Maybe I understand a little, when I turned 17 I felt completely lost, everything started to go wrong, I never had any skills that I could say were good nor any perspective for the future, there was nothing I wanted to achieve, I became a hikikomori for more than 3 years, self-sabotaging myself every time I tried to get out of it, finding myself more and more in an emotional abyss with no will to live while my depression slowly corroded me, now at almost 22 years old I am managing to fix myself little by little, moving forward trying not to make the same mistakes I made in the past, and hoping that tomorrow will be a better day. Good night.
I definitely understand you. I'm younger, but i already can't stop thinking about my future. I'm scared i won't get money or that i wouldn't get to a good university or that I'll fail all my studies. On top of that, i only have big wishes and not any plans or goals for my future.
And i also think i don't have a purpose in life. I hate myself, and i can't stop thinking about how ugly and weird i am. I'm also lonely. And no one thinks like i do. I'm just so fucking weird. Will anyone even love me? No one probably will...
You described exactly how I feel, I really don't have any friends and I'm waiting until I'm 18 to make online ones if I decide as my parents don't allow me to which is fair. Despite us having a one year age gap with you being older we seem quite similar, I honestly think this might be a generational problem, perhaps caused by covid. As it appears more and more people are like this, very lonely, no plan and the feeling that they have no future. I hope it all gets better, for both of us so that way we can live happy and free lives
Whenever I was young I just couldn't imagine life after turning 18. I was kinda expecting it to end or rather.. magically enter adult life like I've seen it around. 18 comes and.. it's just another day. Not well thought out and rushed decisions turned out to be not the best and ever since, I'm basically just winging it. Also.. I can relate 100% to what you are feeling, thinking and experiencing - I have and still am going through the same. You are not alone 🫂
I think these are (sadly) common experiences of people with profound depression. I never expected to survive college, and I've spent the years since trying to figure out a life I never planned for. It hasn't been easy, but I've reach a point where I'm glad I'm alive and proud of myself for surviving. When I was in it (and I was for years and years), I never thought I'd know anything but that crushing depression. Depression makes it feel like you've never been warm, that you've never had a good day in your life. But I have found some warmth and I have had good days in recent years. That wound you talked about scarred over. That is not to say that wound never existed. The scar of it still throbs and itches. Sometimes it even bleeds. I do worry that one day the wound will reopen. But right now things are okay. I am warm.
One thing that helped me, as someone who was similarly terrified of finding a purpose and "doing" something important enough - it is simply enough just to be. I used to live so much in this scary, blurry future that I ended up losing the present. Going out into nature, shutting my mind away from everything but what I was immediately experiencing with my five senses and feeling the full weight of every clumsy beautiful little life around me really helped me gain another appreciation for being. It's a skill and takes time to learn, and it certainly isn't a cure-all (no such thing exists for depression), but it personally helped me gain perspective. Once I cut through all that fog and pain and fell face first on the other side, I found that it really is amazing to get to experience life. I can lay in the warm sun and have my cat beside me and listen to the crowds and watch a lizard puff out its dewlap and feel it all. And while those moments are fleeting and I still have times I feel cold and alone at times and still feel anxiety of all that I have to "do", there exists an unshakeable sense of how amazing it is that I can bear witness to all the beauty around me. Depression hurts, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone and I am not saying this to romanticize it in anyway, but I believe that surviving it gave me an appreciation for existing that not many people possess. Anyway, I hope 10 years from now, you will be able to revisit this video with the same wistful nostalgia I feel listening to you speak. Keep doing your best, many people are rooting for you.
Ito don't lose your hope
I am also not have a any plan just like you
But I don't mind just enjoy your life Ito don't need to worried about future plan
Stay happy & take care yourself Ito
I feel the same way at fifty. Just drifting. I think people of all age gaps can relate to this feeling.
Hey, I’ve been watching your channel for a few months. I can relate to what you’re saying.
I am in a similar situation, I thought I’d kick the bucket at 16 but I’m still around. My parents convinced me to go to college instead of throwing my life away. I’m 17 now (turning 18 pretty soon). I grew up wanting to work at NASA, but I lost that passion in my teenage years; and I live without a real sense of purpose. I lost almost all my friends from high school, and I have no friends I could talk to now in person without traveling almost half a day. I feel mentally caught between being an adult and being a teenager; I always get treated as an adult because of how I look and because I go to college, but I still feel like I’m 17. I have not made any friends because everyone is so mean at my university; and it's especially hard to deal with because it's my first year here.
I don’t get why some people don’t understand how hard it is to actually socialize when it feels like everyone around you hates you or doesn’t want you around. I tend to feel empty time to time as well, it feels like I always have to keep pushing something just for pushing to become harder and harder as time goes on, and overall I just feel lost. I worry I am stuck in a cycle and always looping between hope and despair.
The only thing that brings me comfort is the small moments here and there, the ones that make you smile due to the simplicity of it. I have dreamt about the end of life, and I always think no matter what happens in this life, it will always end on a sunset on a beach if I reach the end naturally.
I don’t know if you’ll be around to read this, but I hope it provides you a little bit of comfort. And your videos have been a source of comfort for me since I feel I could relate to you.
Thank you for uploading :)
I hope you feel better.
i had similar feelings when i was in elementary/middle school that i wouldnt make it past high school.
When i was in college i thought that i won't end my life, so i should avoid any behavior that may make my life harder.
I didnt really have friends in high school, i had one friend in college, but we dont talk anymore.
In college, i didnt go to any parties or any non-mandatory social gatherings.
I dont regret any of it now that im older.
When i was 25, i went across the world for a couple months, and partied and went to clubs, etc. in a country that i dont even speak the language of. You said you feel like you're missing out, but even if you do literally nothing fun in college like i did, you're not missing out on anything. You can always do crazy and fun things later in life.
I only have 1 friend that I talk to occasionally on discord (a friend of the friend i had in college). If i'm really lonely, I also can talk to my parents, and we have pets.
Being alone and being lonely aren't the same. You don't really need friends to feel less lonely.
When you graduate, I think you would benefit from finding a job that helps others and is somewhat customer facing. Hair stylists can talk to customers all day. I recently went to a dentist appointment, and the hygienist was talking with me about my brothers baby, my trip across the world, my job, local job opportunities, etc. even though we only talk twice a year, and i think she also sees some of my family members... but the point is that you can find a job that can fulfill your socialization needs and make you feel less lonely and more happy.
It's hard to find friends. It's hard to maintain friendships over a long period of time. One friend you had might move across the country, and then you are kinda screwed. I think its better to have multiple ways to socialize.
thanks for sharing your deepest thought with us and hope that you will feel better to keep up with your journey to open the a new chapter of your life. Wish you the best !
Walking helps a lot. Unless you have a condition that restricts you from walking, walk.
I'm glad this popped up on my feed. My hope is that your current family/living situation allows you the freedom/opportunity to take things slow. There's no rush, Ito! There are people older than you, some far older, that still aren't quite sure about things. Please keep giving it your best, but I really hope that you're allowed the time to continue soul-searching. Wishing you the best~!
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Hope you feel happier soon. I'm 41 and don't look back at being young with any fondness at all. I was super depressed. I just threw my life into work as a bit of a distraction and somehow it turned out pretty well as a distraction and then lead to a sense of accomplishment. Now having a child, life is great. I suppose it can take a while before life gets ok and you find where you fit in the world. Make sure you get enough sleep too- if you are having trouble see a doctor. Even now, if I don't get enough sleep I start to feel depression again and really for no reason.
I totally get how you’re feeling... I also struggle with thinking I wouldn’t have made it this far and sometimes feel really lost. I know things can feel really heavy and confusing sometimes, but you're not alone in this. It’s okay to feel lost. Sometimes life doesn’t come with a clear map, and that’s alright. Finding little moments of joy and connecting with others can make a big difference. Keep taking it one day at a time and remember that brighter days are ahead. Sending you lots of positive vibes and support.
Just a reminder, life is like a roller coaster there will be ups and there will be downs.
Just like you I am 17.
I have an idea about my goals but no plan. Like you said I am living life “naively”, and I get you. Why do others expect us not to be naive when we don’t have a plan? How do we control this plan? Am I limited by what I am capable of? Is this what’s preventing me from creating a plan? It sucks.
You seem uncertain and anxious but at the same time you are strong.
Your goals are there, and they have been with you. Goals don’t have to be something big! They can come in all shapes and sizes, in the end we are all striving for something.
The effort is there. You are never truly going backwards.
I like to ponder what would happen if I never put in the effort where would I have been? Or if my effort caused me more pain, I like to think it matters not the lost but what you do after it.
I feel that you are aware of these. I suggest don’t let the fear of the unknown future or the known past control your current actions. All you have is the present.
When I was 13yo I had no idea what to do and I thought I would be dead by the time I was 16yo. Now I'm 32yo and I still don't know what to do, but it hurts less because I got stronger... So what I trying to say is, things aren't going to get better, but it becomes easier to deal with.
This video is scarily accurate for me. I'm 16 now and I feel exactly the same. I have no single idea what to do with my life, I don't see any future for myself. It's like every year everything seems more and more desperate, whatever I do I will probably regret because nothing of what I want to do seems realistic for me. I can't really perceiove what I am now because I'm really far from anything I've ever wanted to be. My whole life, since I was around idk 3 I was such an extravert. I loved being around people and couldn't bring myself to play alone. But I also was always an outcast, and whatever I do I never get to actually become a part of the group, even if at first people find me outgoing and pretty and I feel like I'm one of them, when everyone start to grow closer with each other, I always, inevitably become an outcast, even though literally nothing changed. I tried so many times with different groups, and now it's obvious that something is definetely wrong with me. It really hurts to see how everyone I see have a lot of friends, spend time with them and do all that friendly stuff while for me it literally sounds unrealistic. Both cruel, dumb, ugly, boring, shy, annoying and weird people all have friends, and I'm happy for them, but I just can't understand why I don't then! It really makes me so unreasonably insecure, like I'm for some reason worse than everyone else. It's really hard to build my future like that.
relate so much to this. After 17, everything just feels like a bonus stage, but I guess we just keep going until we get something we love in this life.
Look imma be honest with you nobody know what the fuck we’re doing life happens there is no plan to stick to because everything can go wrong along the way I myself am about to be 30 and have made attempts on my life and have been in the exact same boat you’re rocking in and the best I can tell you is not to give up just yet, you’ve made it this far might as well see how it ends, life happens day by day and life will continue on after us, enjoy yourself it’s an experience a terrifying one but an experience nonetheless, there is something you like and or are good at, you might not find it now but you will, we all eventually do, now keep the stress to a minimum and figure it out, you got this ✌️
I really do wish you a happy tomorrow. And your not the only one who feels like this.
It is not easy to find out what are we supposed to do in life, I have yet to find my place in the world as well. We hear you and appreciate your efforts at communicating how you feel, you are not alone in this.
I hope you feel better tomorrow!
i can relate and to be brutally honest i dont have any advice really. i didnt see life past the age of 16 and now im 24 and life just keeps on going. and if there is one thing i have learned is that no one actually has it together, just some people are better at hiding it then others. dont really know why yt is recommending me your videos but here we are. I genuinely hope with everything i can that you can find your reason to get up in the morning.
it's good to share feelings. You're cool, you can achieve all the things you want !!✨
this is very relateable and I'm glad you spoke about this. I didn't plan on offing myself but time kept going even when I didn't want to and never planned anything about the future so I just do what I have to doeven though I don't have any ideas about the future nor can I envision myself being something or to someone. I'm just doing this because I don't have a choice but to go on and not be a burden to my parents or the society. Loneliness is eating me up and its hard to look forward to the next day. I just have to do it because it is what it is
Not going to lie, we're in the wrong timeline for socializing, because a tonne of people are terminally online (like not just us, literally everyone)
You THINK people have the time of their life socializing, but I almost guarentee you that most of them just go straight back on their phones when they're alone.
Do you have a gaming PC? if so how about hosting a game party! I imagine it would give a bunch of people the opportunity that want to get to know you the chance to socialise with you!
There's a bunch of party themed games like Jackbox Party Pack, Party Animals etc
I know it isn't the type of socialising you probably want or are expecting, but that's one of the most prevalent forms of socialising nowadays.
I'm not sure how my algorithm helped this find its way to my feed, but I felt the same way you did at your age and still do at 30 oftentimes. Don't give up hope and don't let yourself lose. At 30 I've done permanent damage to my body in my early 20's from depression and self-neglect, I've only come to regret it since it just makes it harder and justifies the dark feelings more. You are right that you're still young, and there's so much uncertainty in the world it's hard to find direction or not to feel lost and alone, but that also means there's more time for something to happen or to meet someone and make close friends. Sometimes it takes longer for people like us. We're just commenters on TH-cam, but you're not alone with your struggle. I'm 30 and just now making decisions society told me I should have made at 18, but there was no support network or guidance for me at the time. It's not too late, it won't be too late and if you need time to find a purpose in life, don't be afraid to give yourself that time. You're worth it, and even though all of us are just strangers in a TH-cam comment section, we believe you're worth it, too.
I'm about turning 20 next year 😢 I'm so scared of adulthood life bro
I know how it feels, damn I recognize that expression, I was just like you at your age, I thought I wasn't gonna live past the 30 I hadn't anyone who to talk with, and just used to live without thinking, kinda depressed, now I'm 23 and I'm not like that anymore, I had to think about what I wanted to do all by myself, and now I'm not that depressed, listen... when you try to REACH goals that you think are gonna be good or even just you like for you, you overpass that shit, think about a goal to achieve, and little by little you're gonna be a warrior, and try to be more positive good luck friend😉👍
I'm almost 30 and I still got no clue what I'm doing, and am no different than I was at 20 besides like. Learning lessons. Being a better person in certain situations. It doesn't really feel real. But I feel deeply that everyone around me feels the same way, even the ones I'm jealous of who seem like they got all the confidence and planning in the world. I see them stumble and I'm like 'Ah. You are human, like me.'
We're stressed so much to know what we're doing and I truly don't think any of us do. Some of us have plans, that's all. Most of us don't.
I'm about turning 20 yo next year 😭 I'm so scared of adulthood life bro
@@ShiinaHiyori Doing your best is all you can do. The odds are really stacked against us, but all we can do is try and try to beat them.
i've always felt this way, i tend to distract those thoughts with my gardening and c++ coding, and walks around the blocks
People say its ok to not have a purpose in life but my opinion is you gotta find what u wana do in life,have a purpose , cus without having a purpose, we feel like we are just randomly existing and not having a sense of fulfillment, the void its always there. No ones gonna give you purpose, nobody is given purpose by others ,everyone finds it themselves, this is just a passing feeling, i believe everyone has gone through that, time will heal, give it time.
Also iam Christian and the reason y i emphasize saying it is cus, people who do not believe in God always feels empty without company around them. Find God, the light and you will find what you seek. Its all upto you.
You have succeeded in making people feel understood. The 70K subscribers you have... most of us understand your feelings because we have felt them too. You're 17!!! You have no idea how lucky you are! I think a lot of people here would like to go back in time and change their lives. Luckily you have the opportunity to do anything with your future life. And yes adult life will suck and, no, life will not get easier for most people.. we just have to learn how to navigate it. Having loving people around you.. friends family coworkers will make it a lot more tolerable. Also, the thing about depression and trauma is if you make it through it you come out stronger and it becomes just a very distant memory. This has been my experience, at least.
I long felt the same way since middle or high school, and continue to feel like I'm running on overtime. I can't really give much advice but to just to take each day.
We're at the end game, main quest completed. We now spend the time completing side quests and mini games. Try something different or new. We cannot control anything.
As the other comments have suggested, apply somewhere and surround yourself with distractions or other people. Time will fly and you'll hopefully experience something to grab you in, make you feel ignited again.
I'm almost 30 an used to feel exactly the same for most of my 18-20s. And I'm incredibly happy right now. Life and our thoughts about it change a lot with time. Give life a chance to show up itself to you Ito, it's worth it.
it's like doing a jigsaw puzzle without the picture on the box
Whenever I become lost in thought, I still wonder what the hell I'm even doing still, the never ending cycle I put myself in thinking I'll surly reach a turning point in my life - yet its been stagnant, pretty much a neet life outside of working day to day, with most of my social interactions now limited to friends made through discord communities that I'm unlikely to meet in irl
parts of it is because of responsibilities out of obligations, others due to insecurities and anxiety when left on my own to deal with; I certainly feel like a shell of what I am, I don't want to be this current sense of self, but it's all that there is - not some personality disorder, or even an alter ego I wish could live out my life for me
in the end it was always about our own growth, defining our self worth, and finding the little things that provide our happiness for seeking out a purpose in life
You’re definitely not alone in this feeling. I’ve always been really afraid of growing up, stuck in a more immature mindset whilst everyone around me is excited to be an adult. I’m just not ready but the clock won’t stop for anyone. “Living really hurts” feels so true.
I’m sorry you’ve been feeling this way. But even if it doesn’t seem like there’s a reason to be, it’s doesn’t mean that sadness doesn’t matter. And it’s not “cringy” or dramatic to voice it. I feel that way a lot too, haha. “:)
Even if the original intent of this channel wasn’t to help people, I certainly think that’s what’s doing. It’s providing a place for people to feel less alone and be able to vent.
So thank you, let’s all dress up and have a virtual tea party :)
suffering is better than nothing because nothing is foreign & the unknown is more terrifying than life.
It's ok to not have a plan. Life feels very fast sometimes, but when it actually comes to different things, there's always time to deal with every challenge one at a time. Sometimes we think about our entire future as a one big thing that we need to have planned, but that's not the only way. You can try taking singular steps. And before you know it you'll make hundreds of them. It's alright to be afraid, everyone is afraid, some people are more often than others, but that's also alright. I can't tell you what to do, because I don't know you well enough, but I'm rooting for you, and I believe in you. I also want to say that your videos are ones of my favourite on this platform, it's nice to listen to you. Take care, you seem like a gentle soul. Don't loose this quality.
Edit: I don't know how old are you, but when I was 19 I felt extremely lonely as well, on top of other issues regarding my physical health, to the point of wanting to end it all. It felt really dark, but I hoped for better future, and it did eventually came, so I believe in everyone going through tough times, that they can do it as well, until they reach a point in their life when they are feeling better.
I had a plan, to escape my family, when I was 15-16 or so. It fell apart basically the minute my freshman year of college ended. I even ruined my own business pitch because I didn't realize I hadn't finished my pitch deck like I thought, and saved the notes to the wrong place. I put it together because I realized that that friends I had weren't as close as I thought, and that I'd be lost if I didn't go looking otherwise.
Plans are good, but there's no such thing as a purpose, and even plans fail anyway. Just do whatever feels good, try your best to avoid harming people when you don't have to, admit fault when you're wrong and grow, and be as earnest and kind as you can, when you can. According to however you define all that. You'll make connections with people as you do those things most likely. Idk if that helps at all, but here's hoping from someone 26 and looking back sib.
this is something to which, at least in a small part, many people can relate and understand. Don't forget that none of us know what we're doing, but everything works out somehow, because the world is gigantic and full of different roadpaths.
There is always a path for everyone to follow, wether we know it or not (and I don't mean it as a 'fate' or 'religious' sense, but as a logical sense by purely seeing how big the world is).
You aren't alone. You aren't the only one that feels like this. I hope you can feel less lost sometime.
I relate to this a lot, a few years ago I had a near death experience and since that day my life has just been getting worse, I honestly think I wasn't supposed to have survived that, but I did. I try telling myself that I should make the best out of my life cause I only have this one, but life is hard, sometimes if almost feels like I'm being punished for surviving.
Playing a game I like or eating something I like helps getting through the day/week, but it's hard filling that 'hole'.
You're very sweet and easy to like (at least that's how I feel watching your videos) so I don't think you're the problem, it's most likely just life being tough. So like you said in one of your videos let's just do our best, to try and make the next day better.
I'm sorry I don't have any good advice to give, but I really hope you can have better days coming up and find a way to just feel better in general about your life. ❤
Its okay, none of us know what we are doing. You only get one life, just do what you enjoy. Dont worry what other are doing or how they seem. Even adults dont know what they are doing.
I hope you feel better tomorrow Ito. This resonated with me a lot and I cried while watching it. It feels really bad to want to be a part of the experiences I see other people having but knowing I wouldn't belong or fit in with them. While I know they mean well, it is really invalidating when people just tell you to try to put yourself out there or talk to people more. It just makes it feel like they don't understand how difficult or complicated the problem is, which makes it feel even more isolating to be honest. While I truly don't know where to go from here or if it will ever stop being so hard to live, I try to remember that I can't predict the future very well. Who knows what could change or get better. Truthfully it doesn't make it much better, but I try to remember that when I start losing hope for unknowns in the future. I wish you well and hope the future surprises you with something worth living for Ito ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ
I really empathize with you but whenever i try to help people i end up making it worse. I don't know what I can do but I really wish there was something we could say to make you feel better but I can't think of it. there are 71 thousand people who are willing to support you. when people say "it will get better" its so hard to take them seriously because no matter how many times you're told that it never gets better but just because life sucks doesn't mean it isn't worth living. I hate my future, myself, who i've become, my addictions and a lot of stuff but at least i can find momentary happiness with menial tasks. Maybe you'll become a famous youtuber in the future. I'm not planning on living past 18 but I think things are getting better, and I know taking advice from someone younger than you can be iffy but I'm really just trying to help.
1:52 i feel that way too ito, feeling lost makes you kinda hopeless, a year ago i was at hight school, i had the constant thought that i should just "be not alive" by the end of 2023, but i'm still here somehow
it's weird, but i guess we deserve to live even though there's those harsh moments in life, i would love to have a real reason, like a purpose, but i don't know if that's really needed... just like, stay alive
take care ito
You don't necessarily need to have a "purpose in life". just find your own fulfilment. things you enjoy and makes you happy. Study a language, travel to places you always wanted to see.. if you can't because of money or whatever, set a goal to reach that. earning money.. i mean your yt seem to pop off pretty well recently.. it can be whatever you wanna do.
For me personaly i realized traveling changed me alot.. all the people i met in different countries.. they put me on new tracks i have never expected and made me chase new goals.
Just go step by step with little things you like.. it will lead through your own path sooner or later. and im sure you will gather many friends too.
Glad the algorithm recommended this. Thanks for being so honest and speaking on the spot, it comes across as very authentic. I will go back to watch all your stuff before leaving a more in-depth comment.
For now, Ill leave the most generic, yet true piece of wisdom that kept me going through the rough shit in life; it gets better. I promise.
Keep on fighting. I believe in you.
I almost died when I was 15 everything after then has felt like I’m just wandering around I have no idea what I’m doing I can’t imagine can’t believe that can’t see myself being a 40 year old person
But I am very happy to be here so happy to be here
About turning 20 yo next year. Adulthood life is so scary bro
@@ShiinaHiyori we know
Hey, I’m 17 and I get it.
I've been pretty much a shut-in for the last 2 years and now that I'm turning 18 in a month, it doesn't feel real, like it was never meant to happen. It's kinda like I’m watching life go by from behind a window, but somehow I’m not really part of it. I see everyone else moving forward, doing things that I can’t seem to do, and it feels like I've been left behind almost, it's lonely. I'm lost and the more time passes, the more lost I feel, like the future is something I can’t even imagine anymore. It’s like standing on the edge of something unknown, and instead of excitement or hope, all I feel is this overwhelming sense of not belonging, of not knowing what’s supposed to come next.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you’re not alone in feeling like this. I'm pretty much in the same boat, and it's nice to know that I'm not going through this alone. Thank you for sharing this, Your words helped more than you might think. I hope we both find the light at the end of the tunnel.
Take care of yourself.
It's okay not to know. It's okay to be lost and confused. Your feelings are valid and heard. Many others can relate to your feelings and want to hear everything you have to say. All your concerns, doubts, hopes and dreams, always know: you can start over every morning. Keep trying.
Keep you spirits high girl..its not the end of your days are over...✊✊✊✊
Relatable. Everyone's doing something but I'm so lost. I feel so powerless to do anything about it that I just don't do anything which traps me in my thoughts. If anything this is just like a character building arc. Courage and bravery is not built in so it's ok to be scared.
Our hope is our greatest weapon. Just imagine one day it just goes right for us. Thinking about that gives me joy and some power to keep going.
Hey Ito, I’m writing this as I’m watching and I wanted to say you’re not alone. Well… Not exactly I have a bit of a hard time watching your videos because of how hard it is for me to face these thoughts that I myself have, like you said. It’s hard to be alone I know tons of people feel the same way, like I do, like you apparently do, like some of my friends apparently do as well. But even then, it feels like no one can find a way to properly ‘fix’ each other, not themselves. And doing stuff feel-
Hard honestly, I’ll talk about my own experience but. I didn’t want to live past my 17th birthday even though now i’m nearly at my 19th, all because I knew that I had to start doing things for my family and for my ‘future’ but…
I just don’t see the use, I don’t feel the need to stay and I don’t feel welcome anywhere except when I adapt myself to others, to satisfy them. Even amongst people that are depressed I feel like I’m somehow out of touch with them… Living feels wrong, it’s tiring, and it hurts over time.
On top of that I feel so… Lagged behind, I haven’t been to school ever since I was 7, yet people expect me to enter uni and catch up to everyone. I can’t make money for my family currently, I can’t work, I can’t even write by hand correctly. I feel like a weight and I hate myself to some degree for it, although I try not to think about it.
I’m still here mainly because of my parents… After that I personally think I’ll just try to find a way to go to sleep and not wake up
I genuinely hope that no one else reading this comment feels this way, I wish the best to all of you fellow dreamers, and good luck to whatever you’re aiming to accomplish, whether it be getting out of bed every day
or becoming the president of a country. Good luck
Literally same. I wish I had friends so bad.
Sorry for randomly asking but are there any games you play?
@@FireyPhoenix1314 yeah online or singeplayer?
It's okay to not know what you're doing, you don't always need a concrete plan in life. Sometimes things just happen, whether good or bad, but you should always try your best to look forward anyway. You're not alone in this world, I know how you feel when you say you've missed out, but it's never going to be too late to try and make up for lost time. You're not the problem and don't ever put yourself beneath others like that, Your head won't let you make the things your heart wants to come true and it'll never be as easy people say it will be, but please try to not let it consume you. You can beat this feeling of emptiness. I sent something on your priv awhile back, I really hope that my hand reaches you if you ever bother with it because it hurts hearing the pain in your voice. Idk if my words will ever be enough, but I really do hope more than anything happiness comes your way and that you can look towards a brighter tomorrow during this rough period.
I can say that I've felt similarly. I remember when I was growing up, I saw others always taking opportunities and planning ahead, however when it came to my future, I could never really even see a year ahead. Even now, everyone I knew is married or has been in some form of relationship or moving forward with their life in some way, but I still don't know what I'm even doing now considering I've only had a couple of jobs and moved around a ton with my mom and dad.. also, I don't mean to sound like a downer, but people will try to tell you that things will get better, that they always do, but I don't know.. the only thing I really know is to take the moments you can get and hold onto them.
Also, no matter your age, emotions are emotions and they are definitely valid no matter where you are in life. I wish I could help in any way, I mean it may be weird, but I can offer to play games sometime or just talk if you want, as long as you are doing okay.
Anyways, I hope you can find purpose as anyone else =^-^=
‘’And one day we will die
And our ashes will fly from the aeroplane over the sea
But for now we are young
Let us lay in the sun
And count every beautiful thing we can see’’
We all love neutral milk hotel
I turn 18 next month and life is really about to hit me like a truck, all while I’m struggling, pretty similarly to you actually. I was always given all the things I needed as a kid so the desires or motivation for anything was never built within me growing up so yea, life feels pretty bland and unfulfilling. I’m getting ready to apply for colleges and I don’t even know what to do with myself or where to go, for the lack or motivation, inspiration, purpose, or just the “want” for anything. Honestly, I’ve just been sitting back for the ride of life because I literally don’t know what to do even though I also so desperately want success in life like my peers. I don’t even have my drivers license yet and all the kids around me have jobs and everything else too, even their own cars. Everything just feels out of control and I feel so very left behind, even though I try. But watching your videos reminds me to have hope even though things feel like there’s no end to the unfortunate events of life, and I haven’t even been here that long or lived life yet so I can’t even imagine what’s still ahead of me. But you know what, even though I have no direction, I know I have to keep drifting and eventually I’ll land upon something, right? I like to think I understand kind of where you’re coming from, through things I haven’t mentioned, but let’s keep pushing despite moving totally in the dark with no map🙂
You got it. Just keep checking things out and eventually you will see where you need to go.
The comedian Doug Stanhope had this bit about being young. I thought it was pretty good, maybe you can find it.
But his main point was that you can do anything at your age. As long as you don't get pregnant or addicted to drugs, your worst case is maybe repeating a year of school. In 10 or 20 years that won't matter a single bit.
Youth is for exploring and learning. You have time and opportunities to go in any direction. It's perfectly fine to take your time figuring things out.
I'm sure you will do just fine 😊
i get this fr. i still have my learners license at 18 and all peers can drive ik how it feels
@@goblinology thanks a lot, that really adds some needed encouraging perspective😊🩷
@@Joyfully-spring77 Anytime 😊
i feel so misplaced…
i feel like i shouldn’t be here right now…
i don’t do anything with my life…
i feel like i just exist…
existing just to exist is a fate worst than death and here it is as my fate…
why even am i, i…? sigh… i just don’t know anymore…
@@fallenangelcrimson Are you okay?
Hey Ito, you should just start going to the gym every day, it would give you some kind of purpose in life and increase your dopamine and serotonine and making you less depressed. You could even make some friend while at the gym.
going through something very similar... i have no idea what im doing ! its really really scary. when i see other people who are my age and they have graduated college etc it makes me feel super insecure and inadequate like i feel so worthless. also when i was in my teens i genuinely thought i wasnt going to make it to adulthood... and here i am.. just existing. also if i had the chance to have a tea party with you i totally would. you seem very kind and you deserve only the best.
i hope tomorrow is a better day for you
I'm 26 and I'm on the same boat and I can relate. There are many people who care for you and will be there for you. I'm only one of them. Sad part is that we're from different parts of the world far away from you to be your irl friend, like I'm not even allowed to be on TH-cam based on my location and I'm using a VPN to access it. And you may not even see this comment because of your overwhelming amount of audience. I also hate crowds but want to be surrounded by people at the same time but then again I don't have enough energy for it. I'm also lost and I dunno why I'm here and what I'm supposed to do with existence. Sometimes I'm too sad to be able to think. It's nice to have someone to relate to but I also don't want you to keep suffering like this. I hope you can find cute irl girlies you can hang out with. I know our happiness shouldn't rely on other people but this void of agony in our chest is too overbearing for us to think like a wise old man. I truly wish the best for you. Sorry I can't do anything, listening is all I could do...
I didn't expect to survive my childhood. I'm suprised I did. It took me 6 months after moving out and finally escaping the conditions of my youth, to even realize I was alive, and not in danger of death. Plans? Didn't have em. Backup? Na-da. Each moment was its own fight, so I kept fighting. To hell with the future, right? We'll see it when it decides to show face.
I'm lucky, because I have a couple personal projects worth living for. That's why I'm still kicking it, anyway. It's not so bad, after all.
I'll be honest, you'll be fine, if you just choose to see it through. Blessings come in the winds, so let them blow for a while more.
oh and, you're doing just fine, my friend. I know it sucks. it sucks for me too, still. maybe you don't need me to tell you things can change. I believe they will.
Start a club! You can choose to be alone or choose to be around others!
You should figure out what you like to do! You like plushies! Design and make plushies and you know how to make a website! Design, make and sell plushies! You can make a club and business out of that!
You could use TH-cam to promote your business!
At least you can talk about these things that bother you! Some people cannot even talk about their feelings!
Yo! I think we’re around the same age, I’m 19 years old and I just wanted to say that you’re not alone in feeling this way. I think in general from the people I’ve talked to in my life around my age, whether they be friends or strangers, are going through the same self-doubt and fears you have. I think at our age, we’re not really supposed to know what we really want to do yet. At this point in our lives, especially in such turbulent times, we are going to be lost and confused. We all cope with this differently, and it’s ok to feel a bit broken sometimes. What’s important is that you don’t lose that attitude you have about hoping the next day will be a good day. That hope and resilience will carry you far in life and help you to find new opportunities to take you toward the path towards happiness. Collectively, our strongest trait is to not give up. Some days will be really hard, I’ve been there, it’s really tough, but you can’t ever stop moving forward, for our own sake and for those who love us. Please, take care, and I hope that tomorrow for you is a good day. : D