I've recently finished my career, retirement is an odd word. I can tell you that 40+ years after I finished my degree, I could never have predicted where the path would take me. In hindsight I can tell you that this zig zag career path took me exactly where I needed to be to find my passion. Good luck on your journey, don't forget to explore the forks in the road.
This plus you never know if actually working on your degree will make you happy for the next 40+ years. You might like it but after a few years you might not enjoy it anymore or the pressure will become too much to deal with and you might find a new passion. There is nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't limit yourself to what you can do
This is probably one of the best comments I've read online. So inspiring, and calming too. I read so many stories about finding / chasing your dreams, knowing your calling, but then embracing the twists and turns it's something else, and so important. Thank you so much!
Dear Ruby and all other viewers this may concern: NEVER ever let anyone tell you that you shouldn't live with your parents, that you're too attached to your parents or that you should be embarrassed living with your parents. I lost my parents super early and now, at an age where I could be a parent to most of you myself, I'd give an arm and a leg to have my parents back. A good relationship with your parents is special, unique and unlike anything you'll ever have in your life. Cherish it, embrace it, be proud of if and protect it at all cost. And NEVER apologize for it!
I spent my late teens, all of my twenties and early thirties studying medicine, specialties and subspectialites, and at the end of it all when I finally got all the degrees, I had an existential crisis, and am now “finding myself” among other things. Congratulations to you on finishing your degree and best of luck!
I’m currently a second year med student and the possibilities of future paths are overwhelming me ,sometimes I wish I could live long enough to try them all but that’s technically impossible
I find it strange that people have to explain why they want to stay living with their parents. there is absoulutly nothing wrong with that, it is actually wonderful, and you and your parents are lucky to have each other. I wish you all the best xx
Exactly! And good for anyone who has that option - but also, all the love and luck to those who don't and need something lined up ASAP to keep up with rent.
In my country to be with your parents till 30 years old or even more is very normal! People work and study but still live with their parents and that's totally fine! I hope this stigma will disappear soon, there's nothing wrong in living with your parents as an adult 😊 I wish you the best in your new journey Ruby, you are such an inspiration to me! I also took a gap year and it really feels so good
Ruby, I'm so glad you happily addressed the stigma against staying at home to figure things out properly and not being 100% certain about an occupation and lifestyle. It brings me so much comfort to know that others are like this, and I've always believed this sort of thing is so much better than quickly making an ill-informed, life changing decision due to pressure than taking a bit of time to discern what's truly right for you. (I'm studying liberal arts with an emphasis on Humanities in university, and am in the same boat, though I know I want to do something within that field, whether it be a local museum curator to some sort of official community service position.) Can't wait to see all of your upcoming content, and I'll always be supporting you over here in the US! 😄
Why not just take a job right after and try it and if you don't like it then leave the job? Idk but in my country you can leave a job without even giving a reason with the leave time being usually 1month (so if you inform your boss for one more month you may be legally obliged to work that job if your boss wants you there until he can find someone instead of you) and then you can just try another job
I’m crying so much watching this. I finished my degree for English literature and creative writing yesterday and I was so happy- I felt I could accomplish anything, whereas today I feel sad. I feel sad/ relieved for my mental health because for years it’s been under pressure by the system. It’s been under pressure because of the deadlines and expectations. I’m finally free but yet I don’t know what to do with my life. I don’t know where to go next and that’s beautiful but yet so scary ♥️
I have studied in engineering (computer, electrical and software), then I tried actuarial science. Then I dropped out of university, and took a 2 year off to ponder about what I truly wanted to do with my life. I went back to university at 28 years old to complete a nursing bachelor degree, and I'm now studying to earn a phd nursing degree, 10 years later. Life is wonderful, no matter the journey :)
this give me faith. I never managed to finish Uni since it wasn't easy as someone with ADHD. I've been working ever since and I feel like such a failure. Hoping to find a uni path that's better suited for my brain than the one I was at.
@@romycullen17 As someone diagnosed with ADHD as a child and diagnosed again last year, at 26, I thought I could also share my journey. It was difficult for me to complete university degree and it took me four years instead of standard three and two changes of majors (switched from Italian to Russian and Polish and ended up earning BA degree in just Polish Philology). After that, I have switched majors and universities almost every year, I have spent some time pursuing degree in Social Work, Education, Gerontagogy, Polish again, Veterinary Nurse and Management. And since ADHD usually comes with other mental health problems I could not focus on both school and work. I was very anxious to attend in class lectures, because I did not want to meet other people, so I was missing all of the classes, while thinking that I was a failure. Last week I have started online MSc. in Marketing, while teaching languages online as my main source of income. Studying online and choosing the time when I want to study, while limiting myself to finish maximum of three 20-minute lessons per day was great option for me, since I have a short attention span and I am focused in many different topics, In addition to pursuing degree in Marketing, I also attend classes on Cybersecurity, Online Teaching, Graphic Design and Programming, which can be all used while working on my Marketing projects. You are not alone and I wish you could find study path that suits you the best :)
I'm hoping for more reading, book, historical, lifestyle and cottagecore content since those are all topics that Ruby can so beautifully detail and cover. Congrats on completing your dissertation and best wishes for a very bright future dear Ruby!
I love living with my parents too! I get along with my mom so well, we are very close and my dad is chronologically ill, in hospice, so I want to spend as much time with him as possible. People definable judge but I fail to see the problem. Good job on doing what works for you!
Congratulations, Ruby!! I’m now in a master’s program majoring literature in English, and just started outlining my MA thesis📚📚📚 You’ve been one of the pillars to sustain my love of learning even in this turbulent covid situation. Wishing you have an exquisite year to broaden your world! Huge love from Japan 🍵💗
Finding your academic journey and study discipline so inspiring Ruby. Halfway through a PhD in psychology myself, after one BA, two Master's degrees and four children... I've a daughter your age now. 'The days are long but the years are are short,' what can I say.
Took me 7 years to do something with my degree. I just worked easy jobs because I thought it was easy, but the monotony was killing me slowly. Now I’m in the career I’ve always wanted and life has never been easier. Ignore the pressure and you’ll be grand!!
I'm currently doing a third degree. I'll finish next year, less than a month before turning 25. No clue what I want to do in life, other than buying a house with my mom. Screw conventions! Enjoy your gap year, Ruby! 😊
Hey if you don't mind me asking, can you tell me what degrees you studied and the one you're currently studying? That's so cool, so many degrees. Are they related? What was your motivation behind having three
@@charmainephasoana6850 Yeah, sure! I did a BA in Applied Linguistics, a MA in Translation and now I'm doing a BA in Graphic Design ;) While doing my BA I already knew that I didn't love the course, but I stuck it out bc I felt like I'd gotten too far in to change courses. Then did the MA bc we were told our BA alone would get us nowhere (lol), and finally decided to do graphic design bc I knew I'd resent any of the jobs I could get with a linguistics degree. Now I'm doing what I absolutely love! Only took me five years to figure out 🤣 I briefly considered my current course fresh out of high school but stuck with my original plan bc I wasn't ready to step out of my comfort zone at 18. Now I am, slowly but surely ;)
Girl I adore you. You inspire me so much. I am 27 from Spain. Listening to you gives me hope, motivation, relaxes me Please keep doing what you do and what you love. Cannot wait for what's in store for you and I absolutely believe taking a year off is what's best for you! You need it. Find yourself :) I'd love to meet you one day! So so much love x
Congratulations, Ruby!! I've graduated almost 12 years ago. On my graduation ceremony, me and my best friend cried so much because it was such a relief to have accomplished that after putting so much work and effort on it. I know this feeling. It is weird but at the same time it's so good! I'm wishing you the best of luck on your career path! Cheers from Brazil ☺️
it makes me so much happy to see you accomplish your degree.... I'm a senior and in high school and after discovering your channel, i feel so excited to start my university next year 💜✨🌟 discovering your channel was one of the best things that happened to me especially in quarantine ☺️
I so appreciate your talk on us students not having to have it all figured out yet right away! I took a step away from school to focus on my mental health this summer and at the time it was like the scariest thing in the world because I felt the pressure to succeed and to graduate on time. But in the end, everyone who truly loves me like my family and my real friends supported my decision to get better and my need to focus on my mental health. I will be going back this Fall because my college has been really accomodating so I'm blessed in that way! You are giving me so much motivation to do well in school. I was failing an advanced course and now fingers crossed I'm hoping to finish the course with an A-! Thank you Ruby for always encouraging us! Much love from America! 🇺🇸❤
I finished my master's last November but I never felt the closure you feel. I was so hard on myself and on the idea of what's next?. Now I got selected for a PhD in a different country than I am now and I feel I finally deserve a break before starting the research! Thank you so much Ruby for motivating me for years❤️💕
Why I was crying while watching that video? 😭🥺It reminds me to so many videos, like: live study with me’s, vlogs, bookshelf tours, Victorian videos and so much more… Thank you so much Ruby for all the last years and you are my role model and inspiration for me 🥺💖
You're not alone in having felt odd after submitting your dissertation. I remember when I submitted my PhD dissertation. After the viva, revisions, etc., I submitted it one night and just like that, 12.5 years of university study was all over. It was such an odd feeling. I stared at the cat and looked a bit lost for awhile.
Do what makes you happy. I think you'd be surprised at the number of people who live ' at home ' with their parents and enjoy doing so. Excited for your future plans. Thanks for all the effort you put into making your videos so interresting and so attractive. xx
Actually getting emotional, after all these years watching you Ruby, you are so inspiring, and it must me even more emotional for you, knowing that you've closed your first academic chapter
Congrats Ruby! It has been so lovely to follow your academic career, all the way since GCSEs! Now as you finish your degree I am also finishing mine! While we had very different paths (I did mathematics) being able to watch your videos and have this community has been so lovely and I am forever grateful. I cannot wait to see what you do in this chapter of your life while I also try and figure out what I want to do : )
Congratulations ruby,I’ve seen you doing your GCSES and Alevels and all through uni and im so proud of everything you’ve achieved!Wishing you so much luck with your future!!My GCSEs Start next week and you’ve honestly given me so much motivation and help 💌💌💌
I’m in a similar boat to you. I’m on my last draft of my dissertation and then I’ll be finished so next week hopefully! Although I’m also turning 40 next week eeek.
I finished my degree in 2018, and have a job I love and always dreamed of as a result, really hope you enjoy your gap year, and have lots of adventures, I am also going to be joining you and learning to drive this year, and I am 47! Can’t wait to hear how you get on x
dont feel bad for a second about staying with your parents. im 22, moved out about 6 months ago and its so hard because i can only afford to live in sharehouses and having anxiety makes that sooo difficult. it just feels bad : ( i would literally give anything to have parents i want to live with, and get along with- not to mention in a house in the country side.
So happy for you, Ruby! As someone with a PhD in the life sciences, I will affirm that is isn’t silly or cliche at all to want to spend time exploring my other parts of yourself outside academia. In the future, you will be very happy you took this path :))
Congratulations, Ruby!! Taking a gap year between your undergrad degree and your Master's is a wise decision; I did the same, and that year gave me time to work in the world, pay off my undergrad student loans, and really look into graduate programs. I ended up returning to work as a bookseller again -- which was my first job while still in high school. My former manager from the mall bookstores I worked at through my last year of high school and my first three years of undergrad had taken a new job at the bookstore in the Harcourt Brace publishing company in downtown San Diego, and when I dropped in to visit him, he offered me a job, and I happily took it. (I had tried two jobs after graduating, and neither one worked out.) Working in a publishing company was so fun, even if we were the street-level bookshop at the base of the Harcourt Brace's building. Sometimes the children's book editors came in to show us some of the original artwork for the picture books -- soooooo beautiful!! And we had several important personages and authors do book signings in our store, including journalist John Chancellor and author Alice Walker (whom I met just before the pandemic at my undergrad university's Writer's Symposium by the Sea.) SIDE NOTE: If you want to watch some **amazing** author interviews on the art of writing, check out the Writer's Symposium by the Sea's webpage at the University of California San Diego's media site: ucsd.tv/writers -- the interviewer is my former creative writing professor and later office mate when I returned to my undergrad univ as an adjunct instructor. Interviewees include Ray Bradbury, poets Billy Collins, Nikki Giovanni, and Robert Pinsky, authors Amy Tan, Joyce Carol Oates, George Plimpton, Joseph Wambaugh, journalists Dick Enberg and Bill Moyers, social justice pioneers such as Dr. Cornel West and others, plus Christian writers Anne Lamott (her book Bird by Bird is one of the best books on writing EVER -- and her dry wit makes it a highly enjoyable as well as a highly informative and practical read), Philip Yancey, Eugene Peterson, Donald Miller, and the late and much-missed Rachel Held Evans. This is such a treasure-trove of wisdom and practicalities regarding the art of writing -- I highly recommend it to all of my writing friends. Plus, I have attended about a quarter of the sessions over the years. Anyway, that "gap year" spent working and also resting from academic pursuits really refreshed me and enabled me to enter my graduate program in English Lit with a refreshed mind and enthusiasm for my studies. I worked as a research assistant to the department chair, Dr. Elizabeth Walsh (Harvard Ph.D.), and in addition to paying for a third of my tuition, Dr. Walsh included me as a co-author of the book I had helped her to research!! I focused on filling my undergrad gaps, so my main focus was medieval literature (Dr. Walsh's area), plus seminars on Milton, Collette, Irish Literature, and many more intriguing seminars. When I finished my Master's, I returned to working at the bookstore for a bit, taught German at my grad school, and then started at my undergrad university as an adjunct. Taking that gap year was extremely important, and I am so glad I took it. I even made a short trip to the UK (three weeks) during that gap year and visited the homes of so many of the literary heroes. My hope is to visit Concord in the next couple of years and soak in the Transcendentalist vibes of Emerson, Thoreau, Hawthorne, Melville, and the Alcotts, especially the latter. ;) I am so glad that we will be able to accompany you on your gap year adventures!! Thank you for your generosity of spirit in inviting all of us thousands into your home and your work. It's truly an oasis of tranquility in my life!! Now, off to go respond to poems written by my online poetry workshop classes @BraveWriter!! :D Wishing you a restful yet productive summer, Susanne :D
Wishing everyone all the best in life!!!! We never actually realise how much pressure we're under as teenagers and young adults until after its all suddenly lifted. Just remember, its our life and we are the ones in charge despite what may happen to us
Aw yay, definitely come visit us in New England! There are some fascinating historic homes here in Connecticut and also in Massachusetts, where most of the authors you listed were from.
Hey Ruby, I am watching your channel since summer of 2017, I vividly remember you going to college in 2018, at that time I was in 8th grade now you have completed your degree and I'm in 12th It's so great to see you grow in this channel I have watched almost all of your videos and loved them. Stay happy and lots of love💕💕
It's so crazy, I watched you for almost the whole time you are on TH-cam. I'm only a year older, so I always enjoyed watching your path, watching you grow up kind of. You became such a wonderful woman and a big inspiration for many people ❤
Ruby never ever stops making TH-cam videos. Your videos motivate me to be more productive and generally be more kind , gentle and hardworking. It gives me the energy to continue my day even if I don't find the will to live and everything seems like a waste or an endless loop of darkness but still your videos gave me motivation and your warm personality lights up my day. I mean if you want a break please be free to have it . If you are reading this comment please don't feel pressurized or stressed . It's just people with such warm personalities like you are very rare and i would hate to see you go . Sorry for being selfish and i love how I started appreciating nature .
Ruby you are so inspiring and smart, and then you say something so vulnerable and remind us that you are only human (very rare in the internet) thank you 😭💞
Your videos are always so calming and make me feel comforted and happy. I wish you the best of luck with your future! You deserve nothing but the best!
Just to put it out there - not everyone is in the same boat. A lot of finishing students need to have a job lined up because they don't have the option of their family supporting them straight out of university. It's great that you do have that, but a lot of people will take whatever jobs they can get using their degree (or not) to pay rent, and it's hard, but it's okay to pick up what you can to keep yourself going! It can give you time to look around for a job you're looking for more long term, and the experience is a great application point!
congratulations!! i also study English literature and I'll finish my degree when I'm 25 years old and that's making me anxious all my friends finished their studying journey around 21 years old So I'm trying so hard not to compare myself with others💔
Hey! I definitely felt similar. I handed in my English lit dissertation 2 weeks ago and I’m 24 now 😅 it definitely felt at first like I was behind all of my old school friends, but I’m trying to remind myself that there isn’t a correct time schedule to complete things in life. Good luck with your degree!
I compared myself to my classmates too when I dropped out and we all are very happy in life now. I started my own business and love what I do. So it really is subjective! Find what success and happiness means to you and no one else and go for it. 🎉❤
I STARTED my degree at 25 and am know 26 and really struggling, because I feel so old compared to the other students and I'm really scared I won't find a job afterwards.
@@ohguckeinwal6764 There a lot older people that go to uni and I find it so cool that they just want to genuinely learn, I don't think you're too old to be fair and I think its cool you're pursuing your studies!!
Congratulations! So happy for your dissertation! I wish you the best for the future. Thank you so much for talking about the struggles people of our age can come across: others expectations, moving out, not knowing exactly what to do in our future... Your words were so heartwarming Furthermore, I'm from Italy and I wish you'll have a good time here with your family this summer
Same, I finished my bachelors by submitting my final paper online with little fanfare 😂 but I still remember the moment afterwards that I walked out of the library into the sun 🖤
Wishing you much luck going forward and thank you for bringing us all on your academic journey! Remember, life is everflowing and changing, and find what you enjoy working at, even if that changes over time. Congratulations Ruby!
Awww! Congratulations Ruby!!! There may be different periods of your life where you won't know what you are doing. It can last for years. And THAT is okay. When people have just graduated, I will ask them what they are doing next. Selfishly, it is partly to live vicariously through them and partly it's to see if what they are pursuing is something I might me interested in. It's never meant to put pressure on them. So keep that in mind when people ask.
Congrats on finishing your degree. And have fun in Italy this summer. I've been living in Rome for a year for work and it's a wonderful country. The people are so warm and welcoming and the food is delicious :)
Don’t forget: you EARNED this financial freedom! All those hours spent planning videos, fixing lighting, finding angles, and editing editing editing… You earned this audience and created this community and we are grateful for it! 🥰
I normally don't comment on your videos, but all these years I've seen you do your GCSEs, A levels and going through uni and I'm really happy for how far you've come!:)
it would be great if you made a video about growing up/adulting! there are so many expectations around it and as someone who’s turning 20 this year, i’m really anxious about how uncertain the future is and not having some kind of manual on how to do adulting stuff 😭😭😭
Hi Ruby! I, too, took a year off after graduation to hone my writing skills. I celebrate six years of that leap of faith on Monday, 16th May. I can tell you from experience that taking a year off to work on myself and my writing skills was the best decision I have ever taken. Things didn't unfold as I had planned but something even better happened instead. Now I finally have the courage to write my mystery novels and share it with the world. I send you my best wishes for your year of discovery!
Congratulations on finishing your degree! Re: the growing up thing. Exactly - it's absolutely not as scary as you might think when you're young. When you're a kid it might seem like grown ups always know what to do and always have the answers, and it can be hard to imagine yourself ever being like that. But that's the thing - no one is! Everyone is figuring things out as they go and just doing the best they can, and that's all you need to do. And a lot of the time, things that seem like a huge deal really aren't as important or as scary as you think.
Good on you Ruby for not travelling after finishing uni! Even when you are travelling, you're travelling locally. We love sustainability. So proud of you! x
gap year sounds like a brilliant idea! it helps so much to step back and get some perspective for going into the next venture. and ALSO yes!! i haven't been a uni student for a long while but i find so much satisfaction in my various fields of self-study :)
I finished my degree in applied psychology and wanted to have a ‘gap’ year in where I wanted to take time to rest, and set systems and goals. Now that I am feeling good again and loving life, I got a degree in NLP, am a volunteer as a coach with children, studying bachelor psychology (to do a masters after) and doing things I actually LOVE.
Congrats Ruby! You are truly glowing and I have watched your videos for years and you have grown so much confidence. You are radiating light and joy and I am here for it. I am writing my bachelors thesis/dissertation right now and going to hand it in on June 13th. I cannot wait for this to be done, I really picked the wrong topic but oh well. One last month of stress and hopefully, I am going to have my architecture diploma in my hands very soon.
Ruby, you're such an inspiration to me! You just do your own thing even if it is unconventional. I'm 25 now and I really feel your words on living at home/with your parents. When I was 18 I really felt the pressure to move out. During my first year at uni I felt very home sick and went home every weekend. Even though I got used to living alone by now and moved even further away, I still love to go home and spend time with my parents:)
Found it so amazing to hear about how happy you are and also how mindful. I’m graduating high school and have felt so much pressure in trying to find a college to go to. So I’ve decided to take at least a semester off just to really see my options and decide on what is best for me. I also just want to do something different for a little while before I go straight i to studying again. Hearing you talk about taking a year off and wanting to figure things out just made me feel so much more peaceful and comfortable with the decision I’m making. Thank you for all your work and for inspiring so many people, including me❤️
All of my congratulations Ruby. I’ve been watching your videos since highschool and I’m now in uni. So excited for all the great things you will experience now and in the future!
As a fellow 22 year-old who is currently on a gap year, I think your plans sound great! 22 is probably my favourite age so far (aside from when I was a little kid). I'm travelling a lot and in the process am learning so much about myself and what I want in life outside of academia / a career. Only now I've started to realise how important a work life balance is for me. Uni was such a big part of my life and I didn't prioritise a social life or my million hobbies. I've now realised how much value they add to my life and how happy they make me. I love my subject, but I need the other things as well to feel happy and fulfilled. I'd actually love to take a second gap year before going back to uni to get my master's because right now I'm not in the position to do my best and give it my all. Unfortunately my parents are not on board with this plan, so I'll have to figure something out in the next few weeks.
I’m 29 and have only just gotten in the right “path”. Last week I was hired for a job in the field I’ve always wanted to work in. I’m finally getting close to my dream job which I could never say before. Moving abroad to New Zealand for a year is what helped me make this decision coz it forced me to leave a job I hated and when I came home to a pandemic with no job I thought it was the perfect time to go back to college and start fresh! Best of luck on your gap year and your travels. It’ll be such an amazing experience! Also can’t wait to read your book whenever it comes out😆
I could never imagine living with my mum again. I envy you. Ever since I left at 18 I am a city girl with my own routines. Going back home for long period of time dresses me out and there re no opportunities to grow. It's such a tiny place. It's a shame because it's where I was brought up but I have such a negative connotation towards it :/
Congratulation of finishing your degree!!! I found your channel just in the end of 2021, but I have binge watched so many of your videos, because your journey is so empressive, and so amazing to watch! I just started my own journey last summer to take an education. I really didn't want to take an education, because I didn't believe that I was smart or good enough, to pursue my biggest dreams in life; but I must say that your content has been a good way to motivate me, and inspired me to just keep on going, and of course the motivation to get closer to my dream at the end :-) Love your videos!
I've been watching since you were in high school. I am so happy for you!! Congratulations on the beautiful life you've built. I can't wait to see where this gap year and beyond takes you!
I am so glad you now have some well deserved down time. Spending downtime wisely can be much harder than a lot of people believe. As an idler and flâneur of some renown, my down time is the only thing in my life that I schedule. Eleven years ago, I had a massive head injury, it took a few years to recover from. It was my neurologist that suggested I go on line and look at ways to plan my life. The first two I watched were you and Jordan Peterson. He told me how to live a planned, directed life and you lived the planned and directed life. So, from the time you were around fifteen or sixteen I've dipped in and out of your life, with the books you've read, letters you've written etc. and it has always calmed my mind. Obviously, I had to keep it a secret from friends, I didn't want to be thought of as some sort of Humbert Humbert stalker. So, a big thank you for getting me through my trauma. You keep journals, so here is a little payback. When in Italy, I expect you will go to Venice. At the top of San Marco is Caffé Florian, it's expensive, but have a lunch there, it is the most exquisite café and has been since 1720. On the opposite side of the square is a shop the sign says 'Record' which is notebooks and journals. They sell 'Legitoria Koine' leather and fabric bound journals, and the paper is divine. A 17 X 24 cm, 270 leaf journal lasts me about a year and my handwriting is large and written with a medium Mont Blanc nib. They cost about €30. They also sell dip pen supplies. If you really like the journals then travel to Montepulciano, about an hour from Florence, where they have their own shop, and visit Gabriella, if she still works there, and watch some of the construction of the journals. Thanks for changing the way I, attempt, to plan my life better, but at sixty-two, I doubt the change will be great or necessary. I worked in the police for many years and schools since and so many people have such negativity about the youth of today, yet the majority that I met are pleasant and industrious, like yourself. Lisa Duncan-Purcell's wise words below are much more succinct than mine, but well worth adhering to. Congratulations if anyone makes it this far. Find your passion, never stop travelling, and speaking to strangers.
I'm turning 23 this month and I'm about to finish my first year of uni which means I'm beyond a couple years compared to my peers (because of family issues) and it often throws me off balance. I feel like I'm growing up too fast but have nothing to back up my age, as in no academic achievements or significant contributions in general to myself or anybody else. I'm ALWAYS being asked what I plan to do in the future, like constantly, and that just increases the burden I've already put on myself. That's why I've come to dread the question "What now?" "What next?". The way you face life and take one step at a time and don't rush for others but live at your own pace somehow brings me some peace of mind and makes me feel a little less useless and less of a burden to myself. Your videos and your genuinity restore in me the will to accomplish my goals without worrying about the expectations the people around me have for me. After all, I'm the one most affected by my choices and if I'm going to need more time than others to reach my goals then so be it. I will start setting my own pace and stop letting others hold me back or rush me forward. So thank you for being so genuine, calming, comforting, and truly wonderful. By the way, I'm from Italy so if you decide to come here I hope you have a wonderful experience.
I'm just a tad younger than you, and also feel this is a sort of "old age" haha, not because it is, but it just sounds like it is in comparison to childhood! I need to leave with my parents due to the pandemic, but also can't drive yet just because of scheduling! I really feel a kindred spirit to you and it honestly does make me feel better to hear your thoughts too, as I'm in a somewhat similar place to you, and love your view on success. Thank you so much!
Your videos are always calm and gives me chills while watch them. It's so much Pleasent to see you finish your degree, and I am waiting for that day to arrive! 🇮🇳🇮🇳
This moment is a crossroads in life, for you and your peers. It has been the same for countless others and will be for yet more in future. There are some that would have you make a concrete decision, whilst others would say go with the flow, and others still would say do something entirely different. Ultimately, there is no right or wrong in any of those options - you must choose and try what you wish; if something feels right, go with it and run with it. If it doesn't, that's how you find out who and what you are, over all your life. Good luck and congratulations for making it through the degree, in any case!
Ruby!! We are both the same age, and I remember watching your study videos in high school and knowing that we would both go on to do great things. I studied at UCLA, and graduated early. I studied sociology and labor studies. And now, we are in the same boat! I still don’t know what I want to do. I’m currently working at a nonprofit, but I know that I won’t stay there for much longer. I’m interested in entertainment, acting, writing, and advocacy. So I have a long road ahead of me lol. But don’t worry about having things figured out. I don’t think anyone really does. Congratulations on graduation, and I can’t wait to see what we both do!
Glad society has arrived at a point where our generation doesn't have to follow just one career path. If we're privileged enough we're able to try different things, studies, jobs and figure it out and find ourselves on the way. Personally I still struggle with what hobby I should go after and make a (first) career, because I love doing such different things. But I'm going to start walking one path this year in uni and am glad I can always stop on that walk and reflect on if this is what I want to do. Starting and trying out things is everything so as long as I'm moving forward I think it'll be alright. And to anyone reading this: You got this, there is still time to try out things and learn something new. ❤
Hey Ruby! I've been watching your videos for four years now, and it's really great to see how much you've grown as a person. I am just done with my A-levels (my last exam was four days ago), and I am also planning to do a gap year next (and I will also focus on writing, as I too desire to become an author). You're a really inspirational person, and watching you on your journey, doing many of the things that I want to do in my future, has really helped me. I wish you all the best, love from Germany.
Congratulations! I'm finishing up my degree in environmental science in August & honestly, I'm in the middle of the final dissertation madness right now. I haven't had the space or time to really reflect on what's next. I'm sure the time will come when I can really slow down and reflect. Seeing your process during this transition has been so helpful. Best of luck with everything
Congratulations Ruby!! Wishing you the best of luck! Following your educational and life experiences has been an incredible opportunity and I’m so grateful for you! I hope you have a wonderful, relaxing gap year and enjoy writing! And have a wonderful time on your trips to Italy and visiting your favorite author’s homes; they all sound very exciting! Congrats again! ☺️🎉
I'm actually so happy for you that you're staying with your parents💜 You have a lovelyyyy house and lovely parents why should u leave them anyway?😊 So happy that you're gonna stay😍😍
I love living with my parents and let's face it, USA is probably the only country people find it strange to live with their parents after high school, that's just sad. Where I'm from is normal to live with your parents way after college, it's nothing looked on or weird. Enjoy and be happy, that's what matters.
Hii!! I recently posted a cute real time study with me video! I also have other aesthetic school related vlogs! Maybe you will like it? I’m very excited to know your opinion ☺️ let me know what you think! Have a great day🌷
I have watched you for years, and absoloutley love your videos, your message of doing what works for you is something i really resonate with. I think its wonderful that you are spreading it! Congratulations with finishihng university, i hope you have the best year off!x
Hi Ruby, I have finished my degree over a week ago.. and I am still in the denial process.. I just can't realise and a part of me doesn't want to realise, that it's all over.. and coming to an end. And how unplanned, unsheltered and unpredictable the next stage and years of our lives will be.. as no one prepares us for it! I guess I just need some time, to just be in it, focusing on the present, revisiting these places that I won't have access to anymore.. and slowly, it'll be okay. It will be fine, as I do have the skills to go into the real world.. I have unconsciously been preparing for this moment at each stage of leaving school.. just need to Have Faith in Myself .. and keep being Proactive, Optimistic and calm! 16:26 sun 15/05
Many congratulations Ruby! Because of you.. We learnt a lot! Because of you... We changed a lot! U have already made a lot of difference to innumerable lives! Wish you an even better, brighter future ahead!
congratulations Ruby! Hearing someone as passionate as you is SO refreshing in a world of gossip. Never change, youve motivated me so much to spend my energy and time on productive things
It’s so cool to see that your degree is finally over after all these years of watching your videos! Congratulations and good luck in life. I just finished my first year of college and I feel like my life is starting in a way. Kind of strange to feel this at the end of my first year and not the beginning but haha it’s whatever. I like to hear that you’ll be spending your gap year writing and honing skills! I’m gonna try to spend the summer honing skills as well as a music major by playing and writing music as much as I can. Thank you for your videos as always and congratulations again!
Congratulations on your degree. I've just stumbled upon this video. I don't know much about you but I've subscribed to your channel because I think your videos might help me improve my English (especially Uni related vocabularies)
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I've recently finished my career, retirement is an odd word. I can tell you that 40+ years after I finished my degree, I could never have predicted where the path would take me. In hindsight I can tell you that this zig zag career path took me exactly where I needed to be to find my passion. Good luck on your journey, don't forget to explore the forks in the road.
This is a lovely sentiment😊 I like the allegorical exploring the forks in the road
This plus you never know if actually working on your degree will make you happy for the next 40+ years. You might like it but after a few years you might not enjoy it anymore or the pressure will become too much to deal with and you might find a new passion. There is nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't limit yourself to what you can do
Thank you for writing this, I've been working for 7+ years and sometimes I feel so lost, I'm constantly reinventing myself.
This is probably one of the best comments I've read online. So inspiring, and calming too. I read so many stories about finding / chasing your dreams, knowing your calling, but then embracing the twists and turns it's something else, and so important. Thank you so much!
Beautifully said.
Dear Ruby and all other viewers this may concern:
NEVER ever let anyone tell you that you shouldn't live with your parents, that you're too attached to your parents or that you should be embarrassed living with your parents.
I lost my parents super early and now, at an age where I could be a parent to most of you myself, I'd give an arm and a leg to have my parents back. A good relationship with your parents is special, unique and unlike anything you'll ever have in your life.
Cherish it, embrace it, be proud of if and protect it at all cost. And NEVER apologize for it!
I spent my late teens, all of my twenties and early thirties studying medicine, specialties and subspectialites, and at the end of it all when I finally got all the degrees, I had an existential crisis, and am now “finding myself” among other things. Congratulations to you on finishing your degree and best of luck!
wow this is gonna be me (:
a good portion of your life gone for it
im 20 studying medicine and this is driving me insane 😭
I believe you will find whatever you need! Wishing you all the strength and love 🤍
I’m currently a second year med student and the possibilities of future paths are overwhelming me ,sometimes I wish I could live long enough to try them all but that’s technically impossible
I find it strange that people have to explain why they want to stay living with their parents. there is absoulutly nothing wrong with that, it is actually wonderful, and you and your parents are lucky to have each other. I wish you all the best xx
Exactly! And good for anyone who has that option - but also, all the love and luck to those who don't and need something lined up ASAP to keep up with rent.
In my country to be with your parents till 30 years old or even more is very normal! People work and study but still live with their parents and that's totally fine! I hope this stigma will disappear soon, there's nothing wrong in living with your parents as an adult 😊
I wish you the best in your new journey Ruby, you are such an inspiration to me! I also took a gap year and it really feels so good
Hii
Oh thank you, I also want to live with my parents since I have a good relationship to them. I think that is what it comes down to
Not for some parent
Ruby, I'm so glad you happily addressed the stigma against staying at home to figure things out properly and not being 100% certain about an occupation and lifestyle. It brings me so much comfort to know that others are like this, and I've always believed this sort of thing is so much better than quickly making an ill-informed, life changing decision due to pressure than taking a bit of time to discern what's truly right for you. (I'm studying liberal arts with an emphasis on Humanities in university, and am in the same boat, though I know I want to do something within that field, whether it be a local museum curator to some sort of official community service position.) Can't wait to see all of your upcoming content, and I'll always be supporting you over here in the US! 😄
But not everyone has that choice 😞
Why not just take a job right after and try it and if you don't like it then leave the job? Idk but in my country you can leave a job without even giving a reason with the leave time being usually 1month (so if you inform your boss for one more month you may be legally obliged to work that job if your boss wants you there until he can find someone instead of you) and then you can just try another job
I would have stayed at home if I lived in a mansion in the idyllic British countryside like Ruby.
any stigma is far outweighed by the privilege tho
@@sdaisy3253 What?
I’m crying so much watching this. I finished my degree for English literature and creative writing yesterday and I was so happy- I felt I could accomplish anything, whereas today I feel sad. I feel sad/ relieved for my mental health because for years it’s been under pressure by the system. It’s been under pressure because of the deadlines and expectations. I’m finally free but yet I don’t know what to do with my life. I don’t know where to go next and that’s beautiful but yet so scary ♥️
I have studied in engineering (computer, electrical and software), then I tried actuarial science. Then I dropped out of university, and took a 2 year off to ponder about what I truly wanted to do with my life. I went back to university at 28 years old to complete a nursing bachelor degree, and I'm now studying to earn a phd nursing degree, 10 years later. Life is wonderful, no matter the journey :)
im 26 and going to go for nursing. :)
@@Shinobi926 awesome! I wish you the best :)
this give me faith. I never managed to finish Uni since it wasn't easy as someone with ADHD. I've been working ever since and I feel like such a failure. Hoping to find a uni path that's better suited for my brain than the one I was at.
@@romycullen17 You definitely will. I'm still deciding at 26 and its tough when our mental health is on a all time low. All the best for us :)
@@romycullen17 As someone diagnosed with ADHD as a child and diagnosed again last year, at 26, I thought I could also share my journey. It was difficult for me to complete university degree and it took me four years instead of standard three and two changes of majors (switched from Italian to Russian and Polish and ended up earning BA degree in just Polish Philology). After that, I have switched majors and universities almost every year, I have spent some time pursuing degree in Social Work, Education, Gerontagogy, Polish again, Veterinary Nurse and Management. And since ADHD usually comes with other mental health problems I could not focus on both school and work. I was very anxious to attend in class lectures, because I did not want to meet other people, so I was missing all of the classes, while thinking that I was a failure. Last week I have started online MSc. in Marketing, while teaching languages online as my main source of income.
Studying online and choosing the time when I want to study, while limiting myself to finish maximum of three 20-minute lessons per day was great option for me, since I have a short attention span and I am focused in many different topics, In addition to pursuing degree in Marketing, I also attend classes on Cybersecurity, Online Teaching, Graphic Design and Programming, which can be all used while working on my Marketing projects.
You are not alone and I wish you could find study path that suits you the best :)
I'm hoping for more reading, book, historical, lifestyle and cottagecore content since those are all topics that Ruby can so beautifully detail and cover. Congrats on completing your dissertation and best wishes for a very bright future dear Ruby!
I love living with my parents too! I get along with my mom so well, we are very close and my dad is chronologically ill, in hospice, so I want to spend as much time with him as possible. People definable judge but I fail to see the problem. Good job on doing what works for you!
Many congratulations on your degree, Ruby, I wish you the utmost of success for your future! 😍🔮🎓
Congratulations, Ruby!! I’m now in a master’s program majoring literature in English, and just started outlining my MA thesis📚📚📚
You’ve been one of the pillars to sustain my love of learning even in this turbulent covid situation.
Wishing you have an exquisite year to broaden your world!
Huge love from Japan 🍵💗
Good luck with your Masters!
@@amymccall2000 Thank you! 🥰🥰
Finding your academic journey and study discipline so inspiring Ruby. Halfway through a PhD in psychology myself, after one BA, two Master's degrees and four children... I've a daughter your age now. 'The days are long but the years are are short,' what can I say.
Took me 7 years to do something with my degree. I just worked easy jobs because I thought it was easy, but the monotony was killing me slowly. Now I’m in the career I’ve always wanted and life has never been easier. Ignore the pressure and you’ll be grand!!
I really wish you all the happiness cause because of you I get a lot of happiness in my life
Thank you so much ruby for everything!
I'm currently doing a third degree. I'll finish next year, less than a month before turning 25. No clue what I want to do in life, other than buying a house with my mom. Screw conventions! Enjoy your gap year, Ruby! 😊
I’m thinking of going back to college! But so happy for you!
Hey if you don't mind me asking, can you tell me what degrees you studied and the one you're currently studying?
That's so cool, so many degrees. Are they related? What was your motivation behind having three
@@charmainephasoana6850 Yeah, sure! I did a BA in Applied Linguistics, a MA in Translation and now I'm doing a BA in Graphic Design ;) While doing my BA I already knew that I didn't love the course, but I stuck it out bc I felt like I'd gotten too far in to change courses. Then did the MA bc we were told our BA alone would get us nowhere (lol), and finally decided to do graphic design bc I knew I'd resent any of the jobs I could get with a linguistics degree. Now I'm doing what I absolutely love! Only took me five years to figure out 🤣 I briefly considered my current course fresh out of high school but stuck with my original plan bc I wasn't ready to step out of my comfort zone at 18. Now I am, slowly but surely ;)
@@theyshareguyliner that's so cool. All the best with your future endeavors. Hope you're happy wherever you bloom 🤗
@@charmainephasoana6850 Thank you!! Wishing you all the best too ☺️
Girl I adore you. You inspire me so much. I am 27 from Spain. Listening to you gives me hope, motivation, relaxes me
Please keep doing what you do and what you love. Cannot wait for what's in store for you and I absolutely believe taking a year off is what's best for you! You need it. Find yourself :)
I'd love to meet you one day! So so much love x
Congratulations, Ruby!! I've graduated almost 12 years ago. On my graduation ceremony, me and my best friend cried so much because it was such a relief to have accomplished that after putting so much work and effort on it. I know this feeling. It is weird but at the same time it's so good!
I'm wishing you the best of luck on your career path!
Cheers from Brazil ☺️
it makes me so much happy to see you accomplish your degree.... I'm a senior and in high school and after discovering your channel, i feel so excited to start my university next year 💜✨🌟
discovering your channel was one of the best things that happened to me especially in quarantine ☺️
I so appreciate your talk on us students not having to have it all figured out yet right away! I took a step away from school to focus on my mental health this summer and at the time it was like the scariest thing in the world because I felt the pressure to succeed and to graduate on time. But in the end, everyone who truly loves me like my family and my real friends supported my decision to get better and my need to focus on my mental health. I will be going back this Fall because my college has been really accomodating so I'm blessed in that way! You are giving me so much motivation to do well in school. I was failing an advanced course and now fingers crossed I'm hoping to finish the course with an A-! Thank you Ruby for always encouraging us! Much love from America! 🇺🇸❤
I finished my master's last November but I never felt the closure you feel. I was so hard on myself and on the idea of what's next?. Now I got selected for a PhD in a different country than I am now and I feel I finally deserve a break before starting the research!
Thank you so much Ruby for motivating me for years❤️💕
Why I was crying while watching that video? 😭🥺It reminds me to so many videos, like: live study with me’s, vlogs, bookshelf tours, Victorian videos and so much more…
Thank you so much Ruby for all the last years and you are my role model and inspiration for me 🥺💖
You're not alone in having felt odd after submitting your dissertation. I remember when I submitted my PhD dissertation. After the viva, revisions, etc., I submitted it one night and just like that, 12.5 years of university study was all over. It was such an odd feeling. I stared at the cat and looked a bit lost for awhile.
Do what makes you happy. I think you'd be surprised at the number of people who live ' at home ' with their parents and enjoy doing so. Excited for your future plans. Thanks for all the effort you put into making your videos so interresting and so attractive. xx
Actually getting emotional, after all these years watching you Ruby, you are so inspiring, and it must me even more emotional for you, knowing that you've closed your first academic chapter
Congrats Ruby! It has been so lovely to follow your academic career, all the way since GCSEs! Now as you finish your degree I am also finishing mine! While we had very different paths (I did mathematics) being able to watch your videos and have this community has been so lovely and I am forever grateful. I cannot wait to see what you do in this chapter of your life while I also try and figure out what I want to do : )
Congratulations ruby,I’ve seen you doing your GCSES and Alevels and all through uni and im so proud of everything you’ve achieved!Wishing you so much luck with your future!!My GCSEs Start next week and you’ve honestly given me so much motivation and help 💌💌💌
You can see her happiness through her smile throughout the whole video. Congratulations, Ruby!!
I’m in a similar boat to you. I’m on my last draft of my dissertation and then I’ll be finished so next week hopefully! Although I’m also turning 40 next week eeek.
I finished my degree in 2018, and have a job I love and always dreamed of as a result, really hope you enjoy your gap year, and have lots of adventures, I am also going to be joining you and learning to drive this year, and I am 47! Can’t wait to hear how you get on x
dont feel bad for a second about staying with your parents. im 22, moved out about 6 months ago and its so hard because i can only afford to live in sharehouses and having anxiety makes that sooo difficult. it just feels bad : (
i would literally give anything to have parents i want to live with, and get along with- not to mention in a house in the country side.
So happy for you, Ruby! As someone with a PhD in the life sciences, I will affirm that is isn’t silly or cliche at all to want to spend time exploring my other parts of yourself outside academia. In the future, you will be very happy you took this path :))
Congratulations, Ruby!! Taking a gap year between your undergrad degree and your Master's is a wise decision; I did the same, and that year gave me time to work in the world, pay off my undergrad student loans, and really look into graduate programs. I ended up returning to work as a bookseller again -- which was my first job while still in high school. My former manager from the mall bookstores I worked at through my last year of high school and my first three years of undergrad had taken a new job at the bookstore in the Harcourt Brace publishing company in downtown San Diego, and when I dropped in to visit him, he offered me a job, and I happily took it. (I had tried two jobs after graduating, and neither one worked out.) Working in a publishing company was so fun, even if we were the street-level bookshop at the base of the Harcourt Brace's building. Sometimes the children's book editors came in to show us some of the original artwork for the picture books -- soooooo beautiful!! And we had several important personages and authors do book signings in our store, including journalist John Chancellor and author Alice Walker (whom I met just before the pandemic at my undergrad university's Writer's Symposium by the Sea.)
SIDE NOTE: If you want to watch some **amazing** author interviews on the art of writing, check out the Writer's Symposium by the Sea's webpage at the University of California San Diego's media site: ucsd.tv/writers -- the interviewer is my former creative writing professor and later office mate when I returned to my undergrad univ as an adjunct instructor. Interviewees include Ray Bradbury, poets Billy Collins, Nikki Giovanni, and Robert Pinsky, authors Amy Tan, Joyce Carol Oates, George Plimpton, Joseph Wambaugh, journalists Dick Enberg and Bill Moyers, social justice pioneers such as Dr. Cornel West and others, plus Christian writers Anne Lamott (her book Bird by Bird is one of the best books on writing EVER -- and her dry wit makes it a highly enjoyable as well as a highly informative and practical read), Philip Yancey, Eugene Peterson, Donald Miller, and the late and much-missed Rachel Held Evans. This is such a treasure-trove of wisdom and practicalities regarding the art of writing -- I highly recommend it to all of my writing friends. Plus, I have attended about a quarter of the sessions over the years.
Anyway, that "gap year" spent working and also resting from academic pursuits really refreshed me and enabled me to enter my graduate program in English Lit with a refreshed mind and enthusiasm for my studies. I worked as a research assistant to the department chair, Dr. Elizabeth Walsh (Harvard Ph.D.), and in addition to paying for a third of my tuition, Dr. Walsh included me as a co-author of the book I had helped her to research!! I focused on filling my undergrad gaps, so my main focus was medieval literature (Dr. Walsh's area), plus seminars on Milton, Collette, Irish Literature, and many more intriguing seminars. When I finished my Master's, I returned to working at the bookstore for a bit, taught German at my grad school, and then started at my undergrad university as an adjunct. Taking that gap year was extremely important, and I am so glad I took it. I even made a short trip to the UK (three weeks) during that gap year and visited the homes of so many of the literary heroes. My hope is to visit Concord in the next couple of years and soak in the Transcendentalist vibes of Emerson, Thoreau, Hawthorne, Melville, and the Alcotts, especially the latter. ;)
I am so glad that we will be able to accompany you on your gap year adventures!! Thank you for your generosity of spirit in inviting all of us thousands into your home and your work. It's truly an oasis of tranquility in my life!! Now, off to go respond to poems written by my online poetry workshop classes @BraveWriter!! :D
Wishing you a restful yet productive summer,
Susanne :D
Wishing everyone all the best in life!!!! We never actually realise how much pressure we're under as teenagers and young adults until after its all suddenly lifted. Just remember, its our life and we are the ones in charge despite what may happen to us
Aw yay, definitely come visit us in New England! There are some fascinating historic homes here in Connecticut and also in Massachusetts, where most of the authors you listed were from.
Hey Ruby,
I am watching your channel since summer of 2017, I vividly remember you going to college in 2018, at that time I was in 8th grade now you have completed your degree and I'm in 12th It's so great to see you grow in this channel I have watched almost all of your videos and loved them. Stay happy and lots of love💕💕
Me too except I was in 7th grade, love you so much ruby ❤️❤️
It's so crazy, I watched you for almost the whole time you are on TH-cam. I'm only a year older, so I always enjoyed watching your path, watching you grow up kind of. You became such a wonderful woman and a big inspiration for many people ❤
The switching of location really mirrors the idea of this video, moving on and uncertainty of the joinery ahead of us
Ruby never ever stops making TH-cam videos. Your videos motivate me to be more productive and generally be more kind , gentle and hardworking. It gives me the energy to continue my day even if I don't find the will to live and everything seems like a waste or an endless loop of darkness but still your videos gave me motivation and your warm personality lights up my day. I mean if you want a break please be free to have it . If you are reading this comment please don't feel pressurized or stressed . It's just people with such warm personalities like you are very rare and i would hate to see you go . Sorry for being selfish and i love how I started appreciating nature .
Ruby you are so inspiring and smart, and then you say something so vulnerable and remind us that you are only human (very rare in the internet) thank you 😭💞
You've come so far, you strived, you did it! Good luck on the journey ahead of you!
Your videos are always so calming and make me feel comforted and happy. I wish you the best of luck with your future! You deserve nothing but the best!
Just to put it out there - not everyone is in the same boat. A lot of finishing students need to have a job lined up because they don't have the option of their family supporting them straight out of university. It's great that you do have that, but a lot of people will take whatever jobs they can get using their degree (or not) to pay rent, and it's hard, but it's okay to pick up what you can to keep yourself going! It can give you time to look around for a job you're looking for more long term, and the experience is a great application point!
So strange to think that I started watching your videos before you went to university and now I’m going to university. Super happy for you ❤️
congratulations!! i also study English literature and I'll finish my degree when I'm 25 years old and that's making me anxious all my friends finished their studying journey around 21 years old
So I'm trying so hard not to compare myself with others💔
Hang in there, it's your life and you should go at your pace even if you can't help comparing, I do it too😅
Hey! I definitely felt similar. I handed in my English lit dissertation 2 weeks ago and I’m 24 now 😅 it definitely felt at first like I was behind all of my old school friends, but I’m trying to remind myself that there isn’t a correct time schedule to complete things in life. Good luck with your degree!
I compared myself to my classmates too when I dropped out and we all are very happy in life now. I started my own business and love what I do. So it really is subjective! Find what success and happiness means to you and no one else and go for it. 🎉❤
I STARTED my degree at 25 and am know 26 and really struggling, because I feel so old compared to the other students and I'm really scared I won't find a job afterwards.
@@ohguckeinwal6764 There a lot older people that go to uni and I find it so cool that they just want to genuinely learn, I don't think you're too old to be fair and I think its cool you're pursuing your studies!!
Congratulations! So happy for your dissertation! I wish you the best for the future.
Thank you so much for talking about the struggles people of our age can come across: others expectations, moving out, not knowing exactly what to do in our future... Your words were so heartwarming
Furthermore, I'm from Italy and I wish you'll have a good time here with your family this summer
Same, I finished my bachelors by submitting my final paper online with little fanfare 😂 but I still remember the moment afterwards that I walked out of the library into the sun 🖤
Wishing you much luck going forward and thank you for bringing us all on your academic journey! Remember, life is everflowing and changing, and find what you enjoy working at, even if that changes over time. Congratulations Ruby!
Awww! Congratulations Ruby!!! There may be different periods of your life where you won't know what you are doing. It can last for years. And THAT is okay.
When people have just graduated, I will ask them what they are doing next. Selfishly, it is partly to live vicariously through them and partly it's to see if what they are pursuing is something I might me interested in. It's never meant to put pressure on them. So keep that in mind when people ask.
Congrats on finishing your degree. And have fun in Italy this summer. I've been living in Rome for a year for work and it's a wonderful country. The people are so warm and welcoming and the food is delicious :)
Don’t forget: you EARNED this financial freedom! All those hours spent planning videos, fixing lighting, finding angles, and editing editing editing… You earned this audience and created this community and we are grateful for it! 🥰
I normally don't comment on your videos, but all these years I've seen you do your GCSEs, A levels and going through uni and I'm really happy for how far you've come!:)
Finishing my degree in three days, so this is so wonderful to watch :)
it would be great if you made a video about growing up/adulting! there are so many expectations around it and as someone who’s turning 20 this year, i’m really anxious about how uncertain the future is and not having some kind of manual on how to do adulting stuff 😭😭😭
You have no idea how proud I would be when there is a book sitting on my bookshelf and the author of the book would be "RUBY"!!!
I’ve been watching your videos for years, and I just wanted To really thank you for motivating me to study, read and be productive!
Thank you Ruby!
Congrats Ruby!!
Hi Ruby!
I, too, took a year off after graduation to hone my writing skills. I celebrate six years of that leap of faith on Monday, 16th May.
I can tell you from experience that taking a year off to work on myself and my writing skills was the best decision I have ever taken. Things didn't unfold as I had planned but something even better happened instead. Now I finally have the courage to write my mystery novels and share it with the world.
I send you my best wishes for your year of discovery!
Hey Ruby! Congratulations 🎉 It feels like yesterday when I first started watching your Hermione and study with me videos. Wow..time flies
Congratulations on finishing your degree! Re: the growing up thing. Exactly - it's absolutely not as scary as you might think when you're young. When you're a kid it might seem like grown ups always know what to do and always have the answers, and it can be hard to imagine yourself ever being like that. But that's the thing - no one is! Everyone is figuring things out as they go and just doing the best they can, and that's all you need to do. And a lot of the time, things that seem like a huge deal really aren't as important or as scary as you think.
Good on you Ruby for not travelling after finishing uni! Even when you are travelling, you're travelling locally. We love sustainability. So proud of you! x
gap year sounds like a brilliant idea! it helps so much to step back and get some perspective for going into the next venture. and ALSO yes!! i haven't been a uni student for a long while but i find so much satisfaction in my various fields of self-study :)
I finished my degree in applied psychology and wanted to have a ‘gap’ year in where I wanted to take time to rest, and set systems and goals. Now that I am feeling good again and loving life, I got a degree in NLP, am a volunteer as a coach with children, studying bachelor psychology (to do a masters after) and doing things I actually LOVE.
Congrats Ruby! You are truly glowing and I have watched your videos for years and you have grown so much confidence. You are radiating light and joy and I am here for it.
I am writing my bachelors thesis/dissertation right now and going to hand it in on June 13th. I cannot wait for this to be done, I really picked the wrong topic but oh well. One last month of stress and hopefully, I am going to have my architecture diploma in my hands very soon.
Ruby, you're such an inspiration to me! You just do your own thing even if it is unconventional. I'm 25 now and I really feel your words on living at home/with your parents. When I was 18 I really felt the pressure to move out. During my first year at uni I felt very home sick and went home every weekend. Even though I got used to living alone by now and moved even further away, I still love to go home and spend time with my parents:)
Congratulations Ruby! Much love from PH 🍀🍀🍀
Found it so amazing to hear about how happy you are and also how mindful. I’m graduating high school and have felt so much pressure in trying to find a college to go to. So I’ve decided to take at least a semester off just to really see my options and decide on what is best for me. I also just want to do something different for a little while before I go straight i to studying again. Hearing you talk about taking a year off and wanting to figure things out just made me feel so much more peaceful and comfortable with the decision I’m making. Thank you for all your work and for inspiring so many people, including me❤️
Congratulations Ruby! I bet that's a huge relief. Moving from university into the real working world was such a big jump for me
All of my congratulations Ruby. I’ve been watching your videos since highschool and I’m now in uni. So excited for all the great things you will experience now and in the future!
I could listen to you speak for hours you're very intelligent and well spoken. You could be a public speaker as well as an author.
As a fellow 22 year-old who is currently on a gap year, I think your plans sound great! 22 is probably my favourite age so far (aside from when I was a little kid). I'm travelling a lot and in the process am learning so much about myself and what I want in life outside of academia / a career. Only now I've started to realise how important a work life balance is for me. Uni was such a big part of my life and I didn't prioritise a social life or my million hobbies. I've now realised how much value they add to my life and how happy they make me. I love my subject, but I need the other things as well to feel happy and fulfilled.
I'd actually love to take a second gap year before going back to uni to get my master's because right now I'm not in the position to do my best and give it my all. Unfortunately my parents are not on board with this plan, so I'll have to figure something out in the next few weeks.
When I finished my degree, I went to work and started a terrific career. I couldn't wait to jump in. I loved it. Good luck whatever you decide. ❤️😀
What career did you do :)
I’m 29 and have only just gotten in the right “path”. Last week I was hired for a job in the field I’ve always wanted to work in. I’m finally getting close to my dream job which I could never say before. Moving abroad to New Zealand for a year is what helped me make this decision coz it forced me to leave a job I hated and when I came home to a pandemic with no job I thought it was the perfect time to go back to college and start fresh! Best of luck on your gap year and your travels. It’ll be such an amazing experience! Also can’t wait to read your book whenever it comes out😆
I could never imagine living with my mum again. I envy you. Ever since I left at 18 I am a city girl with my own routines. Going back home for long period of time dresses me out and there re no opportunities to grow. It's such a tiny place. It's a shame because it's where I was brought up but I have such a negative connotation towards it :/
Congratulation of finishing your degree!!! I found your channel just in the end of 2021, but I have binge watched so many of your videos, because your journey is so empressive, and so amazing to watch! I just started my own journey last summer to take an education. I really didn't want to take an education, because I didn't believe that I was smart or good enough, to pursue my biggest dreams in life; but I must say that your content has been a good way to motivate me, and inspired me to just keep on going, and of course the motivation to get closer to my dream at the end :-) Love your videos!
💐Congratulations, Ruby! You’ve worked so hard and you’ve also been so brave (changing your subject). I’m so happy for you!
Congratulations Ruby, I am so happy that you’re done with Univ! I have to say, don’t get bogged down with new choices, just run your own way.
I've been watching since you were in high school. I am so happy for you!! Congratulations on the beautiful life you've built. I can't wait to see where this gap year and beyond takes you!
I am so glad you now have some well deserved down time. Spending downtime wisely can be much harder than a lot of people believe. As an idler and flâneur of some renown, my down time is the only thing in my life that I schedule.
Eleven years ago, I had a massive head injury, it took a few years to recover from. It was my neurologist that suggested I go on line and look at ways to plan my life. The first two I watched were you and Jordan Peterson. He told me how to live a planned, directed life and you lived the planned and directed life. So, from the time you were around fifteen or sixteen I've dipped in and out of your life, with the books you've read, letters you've written etc. and it has always calmed my mind. Obviously, I had to keep it a secret from friends, I didn't want to be thought of as some sort of Humbert Humbert stalker. So, a big thank you for getting me through my trauma. You keep journals, so here is a little payback.
When in Italy, I expect you will go to Venice. At the top of San Marco is Caffé Florian, it's expensive, but have a lunch there, it is the most exquisite café and has been since 1720. On the opposite side of the square is a shop the sign says 'Record' which is notebooks and journals. They sell 'Legitoria Koine' leather and fabric bound journals, and the paper is divine. A 17 X 24 cm, 270 leaf journal lasts me about a year and my handwriting is large and written with a medium Mont Blanc nib. They cost about €30. They also sell dip pen supplies. If you really like the journals then travel to Montepulciano, about an hour from Florence, where they have their own shop, and visit Gabriella, if she still works there, and watch some of the construction of the journals. Thanks for changing the way I, attempt, to plan my life better, but at sixty-two, I doubt the change will be great or necessary. I worked in the police for many years and schools since and so many people have such negativity about the youth of today, yet the majority that I met are pleasant and industrious, like yourself. Lisa Duncan-Purcell's wise words below are much more succinct than mine, but well worth adhering to. Congratulations if anyone makes it this far. Find your passion, never stop travelling, and speaking to strangers.
I hope this can be pinned and that she sees it. This is wonderful. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm turning 23 this month and I'm about to finish my first year of uni which means I'm beyond a couple years compared to my peers (because of family issues) and it often throws me off balance. I feel like I'm growing up too fast but have nothing to back up my age, as in no academic achievements or significant contributions in general to myself or anybody else. I'm ALWAYS being asked what I plan to do in the future, like constantly, and that just increases the burden I've already put on myself. That's why I've come to dread the question "What now?" "What next?". The way you face life and take one step at a time and don't rush for others but live at your own pace somehow brings me some peace of mind and makes me feel a little less useless and less of a burden to myself. Your videos and your genuinity restore in me the will to accomplish my goals without worrying about the expectations the people around me have for me. After all, I'm the one most affected by my choices and if I'm going to need more time than others to reach my goals then so be it. I will start setting my own pace and stop letting others hold me back or rush me forward. So thank you for being so genuine, calming, comforting, and truly wonderful. By the way, I'm from Italy so if you decide to come here I hope you have a wonderful experience.
I'm just a tad younger than you, and also feel this is a sort of "old age" haha, not because it is, but it just sounds like it is in comparison to childhood! I need to leave with my parents due to the pandemic, but also can't drive yet just because of scheduling! I really feel a kindred spirit to you and it honestly does make me feel better to hear your thoughts too, as I'm in a somewhat similar place to you, and love your view on success. Thank you so much!
Your videos are always calm and gives me chills while watch them. It's so much Pleasent to see you finish your degree, and I am waiting for that day to arrive! 🇮🇳🇮🇳
This moment is a crossroads in life, for you and your peers. It has been the same for countless others and will be for yet more in future.
There are some that would have you make a concrete decision, whilst others would say go with the flow, and others still would say do something entirely different. Ultimately, there is no right or wrong in any of those options - you must choose and try what you wish; if something feels right, go with it and run with it. If it doesn't, that's how you find out who and what you are, over all your life. Good luck and congratulations for making it through the degree, in any case!
Ruby!! We are both the same age, and I remember watching your study videos in high school and knowing that we would both go on to do great things. I studied at UCLA, and graduated early. I studied sociology and labor studies. And now, we are in the same boat! I still don’t know what I want to do. I’m currently working at a nonprofit, but I know that I won’t stay there for much longer. I’m interested in entertainment, acting, writing, and advocacy. So I have a long road ahead of me lol. But don’t worry about having things figured out. I don’t think anyone really does. Congratulations on graduation, and I can’t wait to see what we both do!
Glad society has arrived at a point where our generation doesn't have to follow just one career path. If we're privileged enough we're able to try different things, studies, jobs and figure it out and find ourselves on the way.
Personally I still struggle with what hobby I should go after and make a (first) career, because I love doing such different things. But I'm going to start walking one path this year in uni and am glad I can always stop on that walk and reflect on if this is what I want to do. Starting and trying out things is everything so as long as I'm moving forward I think it'll be alright.
And to anyone reading this: You got this, there is still time to try out things and learn something new. ❤
Hey Ruby! I've been watching your videos for four years now, and it's really great to see how much you've grown as a person. I am just done with my A-levels (my last exam was four days ago), and I am also planning to do a gap year next (and I will also focus on writing, as I too desire to become an author). You're a really inspirational person, and watching you on your journey, doing many of the things that I want to do in my future, has really helped me. I wish you all the best, love from Germany.
You should come to New England in the fall! It's gorgeous here all the time, but the foliage makes the old houses look even better
oh my goodness, congratulations Ruby!! ooooh, this is such a milestone!!! also happy early birthday from another May baby!!
Congratulations! I'm finishing up my degree in environmental science in August & honestly, I'm in the middle of the final dissertation madness right now. I haven't had the space or time to really reflect on what's next. I'm sure the time will come when I can really slow down and reflect. Seeing your process during this transition has been so helpful. Best of luck with everything
Oh wow! I watch you since before your degree. I'm feeling old (and very proud)! Love you, Ruby. You're a light in this dark world.
Congratulations Ruby!! Wishing you the best of luck! Following your educational and life experiences has been an incredible opportunity and I’m so grateful for you! I hope you have a wonderful, relaxing gap year and enjoy writing! And have a wonderful time on your trips to Italy and visiting your favorite author’s homes; they all sound very exciting! Congrats again! ☺️🎉
I'm actually so happy for you that you're staying with your parents💜 You have a lovelyyyy house and lovely parents why should u leave them anyway?😊 So happy that you're gonna stay😍😍
I love living with my parents and let's face it, USA is probably the only country people find it strange to live with their parents after high school, that's just sad. Where I'm from is normal to live with your parents way after college, it's nothing looked on or weird. Enjoy and be happy, that's what matters.
Hii!! I recently posted a cute real time study with me video! I also have other aesthetic school related vlogs! Maybe you will like it? I’m very excited to know your opinion ☺️ let me know what you think! Have a great day🌷
I have watched you for years, and absoloutley love your videos, your message of doing what works for you is something i really resonate with. I think its wonderful that you are spreading it! Congratulations with finishihng university, i hope you have the best year off!x
Congratulations Ruby, you've come so far! I wish you the best of luck on everything! So proud of you girl!!
Hi Ruby, I have finished my degree over a week ago.. and I am still in the denial process.. I just can't realise and a part of me doesn't want to realise, that it's all over.. and coming to an end. And how unplanned, unsheltered and unpredictable the next stage and years of our lives will be.. as no one prepares us for it! I guess I just need some time, to just be in it, focusing on the present, revisiting these places that I won't have access to anymore.. and slowly, it'll be okay. It will be fine, as I do have the skills to go into the real world.. I have unconsciously been preparing for this moment at each stage of leaving school.. just need to Have Faith in Myself .. and keep being Proactive, Optimistic and calm! 16:26 sun 15/05
Many congratulations Ruby!
Because of you.. We learnt a lot!
Because of you... We changed a lot!
U have already made a lot of difference to innumerable lives!
Wish you an even better, brighter future ahead!
congratulations Ruby! Hearing someone as passionate as you is SO refreshing in a world of gossip. Never change, youve motivated me so much to spend my energy and time on productive things
It’s so cool to see that your degree is finally over after all these years of watching your videos! Congratulations and good luck in life. I just finished my first year of college and I feel like my life is starting in a way. Kind of strange to feel this at the end of my first year and not the beginning but haha it’s whatever. I like to hear that you’ll be spending your gap year writing and honing skills! I’m gonna try to spend the summer honing skills as well as a music major by playing and writing music as much as I can. Thank you for your videos as always and congratulations again!
Congratulations on your degree. I've just stumbled upon this video. I don't know much about you but I've subscribed to your channel because I think your videos might help me improve my English (especially Uni related vocabularies)