Thank you Alex! Your advice about no contact worked with my ex! I did everything what you suggest...I stopped thinking about him, concentrate on my personal growth. As a result, he suddenly called , said he missed me so much but I changed my mind totally that I won't him back with me. I don't know how to express my gratitude!😄
Or if they feel like they aren't worthy of a great person like you you can't win it over no matter what. If their self love and confidence isn't high as yours and go through their own struggles,, they have to work on that, you can't fix them no matter what or understanding you are.
I found this video really helpful. I'm like Jessica losing hope but I'm going to do what Alex said and have a better life for me and my kids 😁 thanks Alex xx
My baby daddy says he won’t be in a relationship with me yet he sleeps over a few times a week and comes to me whenever he needs someone to be there for him. He knows I love him and that’s probably why he does it. I want a family for my children but that doesn’t seem to be a priority to him. I keep having hope because he’s around and I think if I can show him how much I care he will want to be with me but that doesn’t work. I have forgiven so much but never seems anything is good enough and I can’t figure out why
I have completely gone silent on him- zero calls, zero texts.... but we work together so unfortunately I can’t completely disappear as much as I would like to. We broke up and 2 weeks later he was dating someone else. We never had a big fight or big blow up and when we did break up, I never chased him. My problem is, not knowing if I am doing the right thing at work when i do interact with him. I don’t go out of my way to look for him, but when he does initiate communication or interaction, I’ve always been very nice, polite and never show him how upset I am. I just don’t know if by me doing that, gives him the impression I never really cared and instead, reassures him of his decision to be with the new girl.
I'm on the same position, but I think it's better your way. If my ex tries to talk to me, I end up crying and walking away!!! I can't help it!!! It driving crazy. I'm trying to transfer I can't stand this situation anymore.
mzaragoza014 I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I honestly just try to get into a specific energy when I’m around him. I tell myself “I got this. I’m okay. I’m strong” and I even sometimes snap my fingers- as crazzzzzyyyyy as that sounds. It helps me get out of that negative energy and what I have found, is that instead of his energy affecting me, my energy is felt by him. I get the power back. It’s a matter of energy- literally- what you put out into the situation is what you will get back. If you start crying and thinking “I hate this situation”, guess what? The situation will continue to stay the same so you can keep hating it because it’s what you keep calling into your space. Snap your little fingers away. Talk positively to yourself. You define the situation, the situation does NOT define you, darling. Chin up.
Thank you . I'll start doing that from now on . Sometimes it's harder though.... he is dating a coworker too. She is 14 years older then him and it's even getting a divorce because of him. To make it even worst he was my fiance 🤣. I guess life is funny that way.... . Thank you for your reply, I'll do that from now on, I hate feeling weak around him.
mzaragoza014 dont communicate with him, give him space, but ALWAYS remain nice, polite and FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT!!!!! Be as happy as you can be around him.... he went with someone completely opposite to you. That says a lot. Give him that space he is requiring, but also so he can see you’re still your great self and he didn’t break you. Again, fake it till you make it. My SO divorced someone 17 yrs his senior and he flat out says that marriage was the worst mistake of his life because the age difference became very apparent very early on but he never wanted to see the signs. Let your man see them. Feel them. And miss you all at the same time.
My ex sometimes calls me and says he misses me but he doesn't want to comeback . He cheated on me after 4 years relationship and he's on a relationship now with that girl.
My ex just left me. I was very needy and she is pushing me away and saying definitely no chance of getting back. I'm hurting and can't discipline myself with no contact. She is happy to see me or talk to me but as long as I don't try get back with her.
They do that to check on you and if you are doing bad your ex confirm she made right decisions if you do well your ex will regret to see you thrive!!!💯👌🏻
After a month of no contact. I went to my ex’s to pick up some things. He told me he really missed me, hugged and kissed me. I told him to reach out anytime he wants to talk and that I care about him. And I left…. Sooooo confused? He dumped me. Does he want me back?
Have u considered that one of the partners may be on the narcissist spectrum, and u they want to keep their exes as a friends for control? Btw it’s not a power game, a healthy relationship is balanced give and take. If it’s a power struggle for control, it’s not the right relationship for u and not true love. Someone can only love u as much as they love themselves and vice versa.
My ex still chatting with me but he doesn't want to come back he still calling me my love but he cannot say the words I love you. He cheated on me but he never admit his mistakes
Mine doing the same thing still trying to chat with me saying he wants to talk can we please chat he saying. Every time I make a new Facebook account he keeps adding. I don't know how he noticed my new accounts that fast. If I feel let him back in my life I'm afraid he'll hurt me again he blocked me while I was dating him he broke my trust I'm too scared to add him back too scared to talk to him I heal from being hurt by his actions but I never forgot what he did to me 💔
He says he doesn't want to lose me, or see another man love me but he doesn't want to be in A relationship with me bc he is confused and going through personal things, I seen that he made a dating profile looking for a relationship and we haven't even been going through this trouble not even 2 months and we have been together 10 years. He says he wants to be with me and can't see himself settling with anyone and that he knows he is messing up the best thing yet he is still out there talking to other ppl while wanting to still see me and my son that he raised since 6 months, I feel like I'm holding on to a hope for him to change his mind and I'm scared to completely leave and he'll forget me and meet someone else and I hate the thought that I was so easily replaceable and like our beautiful years together were so Easy for him to forget and start a whole new relationship. He just says the word confused all the time. And I find myself trying to change his mind or trying to show him my worth and It just makes me feel incredibly dumb afterwards 😞how did he just change his mind overnight
Ooo I had the same... he really likes me he said. We should remain friends, then he said we should have been friends from the beginning instead of lovers... yeah right but he was chasing me to start with... I cutted all contact, telling him a friendship is not an option for me. Bye bye... it has been a week now... curious of what will happen... I am moving on and fucussing on my own. I have amazing time now and healing, miss him less and less every day 🥰
I healed as well he hasn't though. I don't think cuz he keeps messaging me saying hi can we please chat he keeps sending me friend request on Facebook and I don't trust adding him back cuz he hurt me in the past he blocked me while he was in a relationship with me and I'm scared he'll do it again I'm scared he's going to hurt me again all over again. Can't trust him yet my trust is broken still from his actions he did to me my trust hasn't healed
Nice advice. But we also be honest about why we want our ex back and be honest with our true feelings instead of just keeping him around. Otherwise, we would be like them and try to keep them while we might not see a future with them as well.
I have been with my husband for a little over 8 years. We have Hitchhiked across the country together. I stayed with him even though I knew he had no home of his own except for an overhead camper in a friend's yard and no job. That didn't matter to me I Loved him for him. Over the eight plus years it has been off and on again seeing no one else he just needed and wanted space when he would get mad at me for one reason or, another. This last time he now has been gone for 4 weeks and finally reached out to me in the last two days but, still saying there isn't a "we" anymore and he wants a Divorce but, can't financially afford to pay the costs for one. If he really didn't want to be with me wouldn't he stop communicating altogether and do you think I can still Save Our Marriage
Im doing a no contact and then suddenly he contact me, but he just ask me how iam doing,, it confuse me and didn't know what he want from me, when I ask,,, he said 'he just trying to be nice and be friend with me" :) thanks now I don't know how to move on.. I can't be friend with someone I still in love.
Block him on everything and don’t look at his social media and move on. He’s just not the right person for you and will dump you again if you get back together.
I always think I make progress but it’s so up and down my ex I’m so confused , I’m trying to get better in myself and I made some progress but I have to relax I want her so much that’s problem
I just broke up with my ex. It wasn't a bad breakup. We just kind of grew out of each others. She started studying in another city and I was focusing on my job a lot. So we didn't see each others a whole before she went and study. I told her if she wants to break up we will talk about it in person when we meet at the end of the this month. But she decided to write it instead. Which is the most cowardly thing she has ever done to me. I just lost all respect for her. My guess is that her new friends have been a bad influence on her. Because the decision to break up kind of came out of nowhere from her side. She tells me that she still loves me and that she still wants to be my friend like before. But she isn't even writing anything to keep this "friendship" going. I feel like I'm the one starting our conversations and she isn't. I'm going to meet her this week, like a month after the break up. I'm honestly not sure what to say and what to do. I'm just going to give her stuff back to her. After that I guess im moving on. Edit. The meeting went better than I expected. She still says she wants to be friends. But I kind of doubt that. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted of me.
after 2 1/2 months my ex reach out to me just to tell he will work abroad and thats it. but after a sort of conversation he said he love me but not the same as before, and he doesnt want to get back together, i think he fall in love with someone new
It’s been over a year. I’m planning on reaching out possibly next month. He hasn’t reached out within that time, but I know when he’s hurt he throws himself into work and tries to avoid thinking about the painful thing. It was long distance and was going into the military after graduation college so there was a lot of uncertainty around what would happen to us and that’s why he ended it. I’d like to have him in my life, but I’m also afraid it might be very painful if I reach out. I believe he still has feelings for me, but wants to avoid feeling them because he feels he can’t do much about the situation. Should I just go ahead and send the accountability letter? Or should I wait for him to make the first move
Just like my bf we dont have closure but because i found out his cheating im pulling away with silence , he already tired keep calling me , we sometimes talk normslly and he said he will set time for us to meet and talk out things , and im doing myself to be busy at work , fitness now ive been healed into desperation of him and i decided to just move on , i told him that i cant go bk anymore as far as im concern i dont wish things keep repeating again .. and now he stop calling , messeging and im ok for it ..this the time im learning to focus on myself , my career and to do discover more things i want to enjoy more
Hi am frm India... I have been in relationship with my ex for 2years.. We broke up because of my mistake which is frm 8 months I stopped giving him attention and show proper love and give him time he was totally fed up and left. Now am begging him to come back and am totally changed.. He is talking to me as a nice friend but doesn't want me to come back... Please suggest me what do I need to do I'll forget the help u did for forever... Thank you.
My ex gf and I dated about 30 years ago. We had a highly sexualize relationship. When we weren't having sex we were not getting along. After years of doing the on and off we had a daughter. My ex has been remarried, divorced, in a number of relationships and now remarried. We make contact with each other concering our daughter etc. At times when I think she is single, she will ask me if I want to sleep at her house, as i live quite a ways away, I always decline. Over the past months she gets friendly, then either drifts away to come back or gets angry and then doesn't talk. Rigjht now, she wants to be friends. I said something I shouldn't have as what she is asking, to be friends, just doesn't seem like there is not a catch. She blew up and now has gone silent. So any help?
Hie Alex my ex is taking to me but he doesn't talk about love he just ask things like hw are you, and I told him to stop talking to me if he doesn't want me so i that I can forget him but he still calls and text wat should i do coz i still loves him a lot
Hello choach,My ex of 3 am half cheated and left me dated that person and now he is saying they broke up and he wants me back. I thinks he only wants me as rebound or for power. Please help me with this actions .what does it mean
My ex and I were together six years. We broke up five months ago. I’ve improved my appearance and tried to take interest in things that he likes. However, he maintains that there’s a possibility for us in the future but he still wants to date and see what else is out there for him. I met a great guy a couple weeks ago that I’m seeing but I’m not yet ready to move on from him because he’s a great guy and my kids are attached to him too.
Hey Crystal Clear, just because you're not ready to move on doesn't mean you can't continue to "entertain" yourself with the platonic, gentlemanly company of other men. The WORST thing you can is wait around and keep yourself open as an option for your ex-boyfriend. He won't value you if you do so - Adrian
You guys know what you talking about. And unfortunately I don’t have the money to buy a coach session. It is a really hard time for almost 1.5 years and the last 5 or 6 months some times i wish that god take my soul. She is so hard mens and is in charge I really don’t know what to do.
Coach Alex. My ex husband says he doesn’t love me the way he used to. He also said he doesn’t want to get back with me then realize he wants to see someone else again. I am going to quit my teaching job in Trinidad and relocate to Canada. There are teaching jobs there. I initiated talks about if he could go anywhere in the world and start over where would he like to go, and he, on his own, said Canada. He doesn’t know of my actions to go to Canada. Now, here is my question: should I tell him that I have hired an Immigration Agency to gain citizenship and jobs in Canada now or should I wait until I get the job and begin selling my furniture? I had written a book and dedicated it to him, he was moved but still would not say that he wants us back together. I know he’s biding time with the hope to meet someone else. What do i do: do I include him in the immigration process now or should I wait until I leave Trinidad for Canada to tell him? Now or later? We were married for 16 years, I know him since 1999. We grew up together. We have no kids though, what do I do?
Celena I know it's tough but you need to focus on your inner being. Don't ever chase someone who has lost feelings for you. Just let it go and feel the pain. No contact might make him miss you but don't dwell on him anymore. . I'm saying by experience. Hope it helps
Alex Varghese Thanks Alex for commenting. I feel so alone and so betrayed. I’m going to move to Canada. I’ve made up my mind. I can’t bear to live in Trinidad anymore and watch him give to someone new the things he never gave to me. I know it’s going to be tough. Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it.
I was in a relationship with for 5 years. I broke up with him 9 months ago to learn to be alone/autonomous/healthy. I haven't dated and tried reconciling after 6 months of separation - the past 3 months have been a wave of mixed messages from him (e.g. wanting to try again, then not wanting to and only friends, then not wanting to be friends, to time and space, to wanting to be friendly and in contact). He said he sees that I've changed, am attractive and shining - and that it's inspired him to now grow himself. But he wants to do it for him, not us. I respect this. I have rebuilt my life and he sees my growth - he wants to stay in contact on the phone but not dating. It seems friendly. No flirting. Where do I go from here? How do I rebuild without pursuing him? As of now, all he knows it that I want him in my life but I don't want to be in a relationship because I'm learning how to be emotionally resilient. I was very emotionally dependent on him and scared of that happening again.
I’ve been going through no contact ..My ex reaching out to me ..I’ve been not at all responding to her calls and texts ,One day she texted me that -She got hurt by my unanswered calls and texts..She says that the decision which she took to get seperated is good on our relationship and she doesn’t want to come back to me but approaching me ??This is haunting me daily😢Does she never come back,Did I made anything wrong without answering her call and text 😣..?
Hii coach My ex blocked me from everywhere.but not on WhatsApp. But when ever I need him. He will be there for me.. If there is really need.. But he doesn't talk to me.. Last 1 month.., what do i do please tell.. I really miss him
Thank you coach Alex for all your advice. What happen my boyfriend has a woman on the side. But don’t have the face to tell the truth. I just love him so much. What can i do?
Alex, my ex still talks to me and I feel she wants to come back but as you stated I don’t want her to be in control which I understand your point. What if she seems to be flirting more with others in front of me? These others I’m speaking of are somewhat mutual friends of ours. Is what she’s doing to see how I would react? I’m sure she wouldn’t seriously do anything but how should I react? I don’t want her to feel like that I don’t care or that it didn’t bother me. Please advise...
can you give a clearer clarification in words on what to do if like you said, your ex just wants control. Like how/what to change, create tempo, create balance of power. By no contact? Or like how what to do to reverse to reattach. I’ve been needing this, thanks
Hi Alex.. really enjoyed listening to you.. thanks for the advice.. A little bit of update from my side.. my Ex n I met in Highschool n broke up after 5 yrs of a wonderful intimate relationship.. I then cut off any contact with Him. So I married another and moved on.. Last year, my Dear Husband passed away.. I was devastated and just drifted into loneliness.. Then, my Ex, who never married.. got my number from a friend.. We chatted on WhatsApp, We met for the first time after 40 long years.. and now We remain just good Friends . At this point, being in my early 60s.. I realized that I am falling in love again.. and I can't stop thinking about Him.. He has mentioned that he's given up on relationships as he had bad experiences.. Alex, I do hope I could rekindle our love and open a new page in our lives.. What should I do?.. Best Regards.. from Malaysia.. Pat.. 🤗🌹
I left my boyfriend a three and a half years on March 18th 2020 I left for a stupid reason because I wanted to get married and he didn't we had a wonderful relationship there was no screaming no yelling no fighting we always sat down talked communicated and compromised on everything and now I want him back and he says that we can be friends we still talk we still have each other pictures in our phones and on our walls in our rooms and he still texts me good morning baby I love you goodnight baby I love you we hang out once in awhile and I asked him if he would consider dating me again and he said not right now but he does not hate me and he said to my face I love you
What if my ex started talking again but then momentum stopped and went back into no contact? Should I continue no contact again? Part of me thinks he does miss me but I don't really like being kept on the side. The other part of me thinks that maybe when we started communicating again, my responses were too short and he thought I wasn't interested
Did he reach out later?? Because I’m in exactly the same problem rn. I feel like he lost interest when we talked for a few weeks after a no contact and then stopped responding.
Hi Alex, my ex has contacted me after I’ve still been heartbroken. We talk to each other as on text and she wants to be friends with benefits with me. What do I do?
Thanks for the video.. My french ex dumped me, he ask me to not blocking him, to still keep n touch.. But i did no contact for 2 weeks... After 2 week i reach out but still so early to reach out, my heart still hoping... So i called him and ask him if we can still hold the relationship.. But he said no its impossible specially we live in different country... So i do go back to no contact again.. After 3 weeks he reach out to me..we talks now like a friends..... I can control now my emotions..... I will updates about my relationship to him.. . Thanks a lot
My ex still talks to me but doesn't seem interested in making a convo. She will message me good morning and goodnight and sometimes debts voicenotes telling me how her day is but then other times she'll not speak for hours. I'm so confused
How can i be happy when my ex have our son now in his life, he does not want me to get in touch with my son , actually I don't know what he wants from me , he broke up with me and he is now dating another lady ,i have no problem about that but it seem he has problem with me please what should I do , should i be happy when it to hard for me to see my son or should I beg him please help me
My wife is 20 years told me she loves me but is no longer in love with me and that she has found someone from her past that she wants to try a relationship with
My ex of two years just left after we moved from Florida to Nevada a year ago. We've had many ups and downs. He's more of an introvert and I am an extrovert. Will going out and doing more things, having fun and becoming more dependent intimidate him or push him away further?
Jesus.. i just looked at the comments. So many of us are in such similar situations. My ex is moving out this weekend. I am ready to stop all contact. Can't be the one who had been trying for 4 months (3.5 relationship). I am ready to focus on myself. You cannot pull someone into loving you, don't ever let them make you their safe haven second option. We're all worth more than that. I keep asking myself - why would I want to be with someone who isnt equally invested? I cant. I would not want to stay with me if she would keep acting distant for a day longer. Also try to perceive them as a stranger because thats what they are. Their character, nature, feelings, posture, words - all changed. Is it the same person you are convincing yourself you love so much or a memory of good old times?
I really love her almost 3 years of relationship she is ready to be best friends after the breakup so what should I do , I want her back so by staying her friend would it help me in future to come back with her ?? please reply me I m really in need of your answer sir
HI kwabena frimpong, yes, but keep it short and polite. Give her the impression that you're too busy and that you have other affairs to take care of :) - Adrian
Being needy to a girl, is the same as fat girl who keep messaging you. It turn them off. You better off avoid texting her and others. While you worry about what shes up to tonight, she probably kissing some other guy after a movie date. Focus on yourself. Try no contact with her (including seeing her ig stories or snapchat or like her photos) for 2 months and see what is her respond
Hi Coach, me and my gf broke up a week ago and she wants to chill we me as friends. She said "we can't go back together because if we do we need to be very serious and probably get married but we can't go there anymore. So as friends ok?" and I said yes at the time. I want to get back with her but it doesn't seem like she's on the same page. Would it be a mistake if I meet her this week and I am afraid I will be friend-zoned and emotion support until she find another boyfriend which I cannot accept this. Please advise!
Could you do a video about girlfriends being in love with there ex still my story is that after being with my girlfriend for 5 months we broke up and she told me she still had feelings for him once he said he didn’t want her back 2 weeks later she contacted me saying she wanted me back after no contact I’ve spoke to her and she said she was confused and needed closure but now she knows she really loves me and I’m the one she wants I’m confused how’s she could say she loved me greatly the whole relationship but I find it hard to believe please help was I the back up plan cause she got rejected
You’re backup plan my friend.. and when situation will change she will leave you again. Don’t trust and don’t go for it again no matter how hard it is. I have stucked in this game from past 10 years. I beg you don’t give her a chance. You’ll be stuck. Just accept she’s gone.
Hi Alex..... The father of my child is angry with me. It's being a year now during no contact he wants me to phone her......., last time i did phone her, he was so surprised.... Then after he ask me to give him money........ So Alex what does that mean
My ldr ex still talk but I implemented radio silence so I'm not reaching out first.I'm currently going through a health problem and I don't know if it's coincidence but this started a day or two after he broke up with me.So I'm healing from this breakup and at the same time from this health issue.he's currently busy pursuing his studies in another continent and sends a how are message. At the beginning of the breakup I didn't have any form of negativity towards him.I still don't want..it's not a good way to heal.but I feel he's only checking up on me when it's convenient for him.so I'm starting to be angry at him.I really don't want to harbor any negative emotion towards him even if he hurt me.the last call we had he was starting to be like his usual sweet self..calling me by our petname and making plans for the future and yet never asked me if I want to get back with him.the freak...I didn't know he's capable of playing this mind games.I'm just focusing on getting my health back and healing all aspects of myself.I'm praying hard everyday for strength.
Hello Alex,, thanks so much you have really changed my life.... but I have one problem my Ex is complaining that have changed and that he will not calling me what should I do
Hello coach, We have been in a relationship for 8 years for past 3 years we were in a long distance relation he cheated me by sextexting once but i forgived him because he appologized after 1 and half moth he tell me he doesnt want relation he can not keep me happy and he is looking for a simple girl as in i am not compatible for him. I really loved him an i tried my best to get him but he doesnt want. But he still text me and cares for me he also video calls me if i am okay, so then does he want me back and how to get him back.. because its difficult to move on with another guy. Its been 1 month since we have broken up . I feel he still loves me not sure??
My exhusband is in.aviation alex,I used to ve flying hostess too,later he after 10years of marriage dumb me for younger hostess american passpoort,and it was his demand that I stay home and resigned I did . And after I grow my kids I was codependent he didnt like effording me,and when I demand my respect I got divorce. And now he says he dnt want me,my question here is how can I turn the tables as my age limit dnt give me much chances to go back to flying anynore,and my husband is saudi and im pskisani,in here due to nationalization I won't ever have any chance to earn better than him.he travel the world hotels and works in.aviation as supervisor for cabin.. But wth me he hated me told me I wasnt sucessfull and left me to marry. Some other person hes cheating me with. I hve two little kids and im so upset I feel helpless dnt knw wat to do years I was waiting things things will change vut I discover he was just using me to raise kids and later would divorce me onces they are big.. It was our love marriage,after 6 years of reltiondhip hard work he got married to me hes saudi male,his child hood dream was to marry a foreigner. May be.. Earlier he had loans cpuldnt effort american arab but now his salary allow him so he discarded me to relive his dream hving american arab wife who is,earning and has money.. Im broke all I had saving I spended sharing wth him.didnt even suported me well.. My point here is wat should I do.. Im really heart pain and burn .. The jobs that im.getting is v less,and hes having girls with better salary nationality perks and life why would he wana return to me ...he fought me over money was sting years.. Abd now im discarded as I was nothing ... He was narcissist move out and keep coming back but built barrier saying soon he will. Divorce me .. Please help me alex...I dnt lnow what to do.. Im in this 10thisyears.. And he didnt keep nonof his promises I wanted to take divorce frm him but instead he turned the tables and gona soon proced divorce he moved out already but hover to meet kids and never talk about going back and always ask what kids life plan if I ask for divorce paper... Finalising. Help plz
My wife told that she have another one but when I do my investigation I found none she had what can I do she have left me last 4 months ,she told me that she will give forgiveness but she will never returned to me what can I do? Arleady blocked me everywhere
Finally letting go after 3 months, didn't do no contact but she kept reaching out hospital appointments, help in the house, meals etc. Just found out she's slept with 1 person and found a person who she has the best connection with after spending 2 days together she told me over text she's meeting him in my old house at the weekend 😂 even after getting me to do stuff for her Just let go guys focus on yourself
My ex came back after 5 month...he msged me and said i love u but i am keeping myself away from u because I cannot keep u happy.....i am so much confused.what he is trying to do
My wife told me to find onather one and she blocked and unblocked for 3 months but the last check she had unblocked I don't know if she has blocked me again what can I do
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Bad times don't last forever, always remember that. Do the things that makes you happy. Enjoy your life! Smile and stay happy😃
i love this words. thanks for writing it. i needed this.
Honestly break ups are the craziest, most trajic, but growing experience of my life
For sureeeee
Scary too 😁🥺😁
Putting all the focus on bettering myself. Beautiful Advice.
Thank you Alex! Your advice about no contact worked with my ex!
I did everything what you suggest...I stopped thinking about him, concentrate on my personal growth. As a result, he suddenly called , said he missed me so much but I changed my mind totally that I won't him back with me.
I don't know how to express my gratitude!😄
Are y’all still dating
Great advice, Alex! I like how you break down almost any situation like this to the importance of investing in ourselves and not the other person!
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Coach Adrian
LDR need patience, and keep trust each other,
And take care your relationship. I hope some day i have LDR.
Or if they feel like they aren't worthy of a great person like you you can't win it over no matter what. If their self love and confidence isn't high as yours and go through their own struggles,, they have to work on that, you can't fix them no matter what or understanding you are.
I found this video really helpful. I'm like Jessica losing hope but I'm going to do what Alex said and have a better life for me and my kids 😁 thanks Alex xx
My baby daddy says he won’t be in a relationship with me yet he sleeps over a few times a week and comes to me whenever he needs someone to be there for him. He knows I love him and that’s probably why he does it. I want a family for my children but that doesn’t seem to be a priority to him. I keep having hope because he’s around and I think if I can show him how much I care he will want to be with me but that doesn’t work. I have forgiven so much but never seems anything is good enough and I can’t figure out why
My ex doesnt want to lose walking my dog. Crazy but true.
I have completely gone silent on him- zero calls, zero texts.... but we work together so unfortunately I can’t completely disappear as much as I would like to. We broke up and 2 weeks later he was dating someone else. We never had a big fight or big blow up and when we did break up, I never chased him. My problem is, not knowing if I am doing the right thing at work when i do interact with him. I don’t go out of my way to look for him, but when he does initiate communication or interaction, I’ve always been very nice, polite and never show him how upset I am. I just don’t know if by me doing that, gives him the impression I never really cared and instead, reassures him of his decision to be with the new girl.
I'm on the same position, but I think it's better your way. If my ex tries to talk to me, I end up crying and walking away!!! I can't help it!!! It driving crazy. I'm trying to transfer I can't stand this situation anymore.
mzaragoza014 I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I honestly just try to get into a specific energy when I’m around him. I tell myself “I got this. I’m okay. I’m strong” and I even sometimes snap my fingers- as crazzzzzyyyyy as that sounds. It helps me get out of that negative energy and what I have found, is that instead of his energy affecting me, my energy is felt by him. I get the power back. It’s a matter of energy- literally- what you put out into the situation is what you will get back. If you start crying and thinking “I hate this situation”, guess what? The situation will continue to stay the same so you can keep hating it because it’s what you keep calling into your space.
Snap your little fingers away. Talk positively to yourself. You define the situation, the situation does NOT define you, darling. Chin up.
Thank you . I'll start doing that from now on . Sometimes it's harder though.... he is dating a coworker too. She is 14 years older then him and it's even getting a divorce because of him. To make it even worst he was my fiance 🤣. I guess life is funny that way.... . Thank you for your reply, I'll do that from now on, I hate feeling weak around him.
mzaragoza014 dont communicate with him, give him space, but ALWAYS remain nice, polite and FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT!!!!! Be as happy as you can be around him.... he went with someone completely opposite to you. That says a lot. Give him that space he is requiring, but also so he can see you’re still your great self and he didn’t break you. Again, fake it till you make it. My SO divorced someone 17 yrs his senior and he flat out says that marriage was the worst mistake of his life because the age difference became very apparent very early on but he never wanted to see the signs. Let your man see them. Feel them. And miss you all at the same time.
@@monicat.2342 thank you
U're so experience in this issue this man uses your happiness to make him happy to love the person he love
My ex sometimes calls me and says he misses me but he doesn't want to comeback . He cheated on me after 4 years relationship and he's on a relationship now with that girl.
She told me she still loves me but she doesn’t wanna come back together
He chased me but not doing anything. He wants to talk with me that's it.
My ex just left me. I was very needy and she is pushing me away and saying definitely no chance of getting back. I'm hurting and can't discipline myself with no contact. She is happy to see me or talk to me but as long as I don't try get back with her.
They do that to check on you and if you are doing bad your ex confirm she made right decisions if you do well your ex will regret to see you thrive!!!💯👌🏻
I love your accent.
After a month of no contact. I went to my ex’s to pick up some things. He told me he really missed me, hugged and kissed me. I told him to reach out anytime he wants to talk and that I care about him. And I left…. Sooooo confused? He dumped me. Does he want me back?
Have u considered that one of the partners may be on the narcissist spectrum, and u they want to keep their exes as a friends for control? Btw it’s not a power game, a healthy relationship is balanced give and take. If it’s a power struggle for control, it’s not the right relationship for u and not true love. Someone can only love u as much as they love themselves and vice versa.
My ex still chatting with me but he doesn't want to come back he still calling me my love but he cannot say the words I love you. He cheated on me but he never admit his mistakes
Mine doing the same thing still trying to chat with me saying he wants to talk can we please chat he saying. Every time I make a new Facebook account he keeps adding. I don't know how he noticed my new accounts that fast. If I feel let him back in my life I'm afraid he'll hurt me again he blocked me while I was dating him he broke my trust I'm too scared to add him back too scared to talk to him I heal from being hurt by his actions but I never forgot what he did to me 💔
Everytime I see messages from my ex gives me me bad memories
My trust was broken so many times it come to the point where I can't trust anyone anymore I only trust me and my family
He says he doesn't want to lose me, or see another man love me but he doesn't want to be in A relationship with me bc he is confused and going through personal things, I seen that he made a dating profile looking for a relationship and we haven't even been going through this trouble not even 2 months and we have been together 10 years. He says he wants to be with me and can't see himself settling with anyone and that he knows he is messing up the best thing yet he is still out there talking to other ppl while wanting to still see me and my son that he raised since 6 months, I feel like I'm holding on to a hope for him to change his mind and I'm scared to completely leave and he'll forget me and meet someone else and I hate the thought that I was so easily replaceable and like our beautiful years together were so Easy for him to forget and start a whole new relationship. He just says the word confused all the time. And I find myself trying to change his mind or trying to show him my worth and It just makes me feel incredibly dumb afterwards 😞how did he just change his mind overnight
Ooo I had the same... he really likes me he said. We should remain friends, then he said we should have been friends from the beginning instead of lovers... yeah right but he was chasing me to start with...
I cutted all contact, telling him a friendship is not an option for me.
Bye bye... it has been a week now... curious of what will happen... I am moving on and fucussing on my own.
I have amazing time now and healing, miss him less and less every day 🥰
What happened next? Any update?
I healed as well he hasn't though. I don't think cuz he keeps messaging me saying hi can we please chat he keeps sending me friend request on Facebook and I don't trust adding him back cuz he hurt me in the past he blocked me while he was in a relationship with me and I'm scared he'll do it again I'm scared he's going to hurt me again all over again. Can't trust him yet my trust is broken still from his actions he did to me my trust hasn't healed
Nice advice. But we also be honest about why we want our ex back and be honest with our true feelings instead of just keeping him around. Otherwise, we would be like them and try to keep them while we might not see a future with them as well.
Hi m ex divorced me but he still around we were together for 21 years but I don't understand what is going on.
I have been with my husband for a little over 8 years. We have Hitchhiked across the country together. I stayed with him even though I knew he had no home of his own except for an overhead camper in a friend's yard and no job. That didn't matter to me I Loved him for him. Over the eight plus years it has been off and on again seeing no one else he just needed and wanted space when he would get mad at me for one reason or, another. This last time he now has been gone for 4 weeks and finally reached out to me in the last two days but, still saying there isn't a "we" anymore and he wants a Divorce but, can't financially afford to pay the costs for one. If he really didn't want to be with me wouldn't he stop communicating altogether and do you think I can still Save Our Marriage
Im doing a no contact and then suddenly he contact me, but he just ask me how iam doing,, it confuse me and didn't know what he want from me, when I ask,,, he said 'he just trying to be nice and be friend with me" :) thanks now I don't know how to move on.. I can't be friend with someone I still in love.
Block him on everything and don’t look at his social media and move on. He’s just not the right person for you and will dump you again if you get back together.
I always think I make progress but it’s so up and down my ex I’m so confused , I’m trying to get better in myself and I made some progress but I have to relax I want her so much that’s problem
It’s okay man remember getting her back is a marathon not a sprint! Plus if she’s initiating contact that’s a great sign
Following you from Kenya he's talking but the spark is not the same
It's almost months we are going through problems in our relationship and my gf is not ready to come back again.
Pls Help Me😥
On that time I have hope but now I don't have any hope.... just blocked again and again
I just broke up with my ex.
It wasn't a bad breakup. We just kind of grew out of each others.
She started studying in another city and I was focusing on my job a lot. So we didn't see each others a whole before she went and study.
I told her if she wants to break up we will talk about it in person when we meet at the end of the this month.
But she decided to write it instead.
Which is the most cowardly thing she has ever done to me. I just lost all respect for her.
My guess is that her new friends have been a bad influence on her. Because the decision to break up kind of came out of nowhere from her side.
She tells me that she still loves me and that she still wants to be my friend like before.
But she isn't even writing anything to keep this "friendship" going.
I feel like I'm the one starting our conversations and she isn't.
I'm going to meet her this week, like a month after the break up.
I'm honestly not sure what to say and what to do.
I'm just going to give her stuff back to her. After that I guess im moving on.
Edit.
The meeting went better than I expected.
She still says she wants to be friends.
But I kind of doubt that.
I feel like a huge weight has been lifted of me.
How did it turn out for y’all?
No contact will change the dynamic of friendship
Sir ....My ex still talk to me as a friend....But why he doesn't come back i don't know...But I need him as my lover...What to do?
Hi I am Irma from Florida,love this message it's just what I am going through
You have hit the nail on the head. Stop being co-defendant. Reinvent yourself. Step your game up!
Great channel!!!
Hi, I would like to book a private coaching session can you send me the link?
Bro you are awesome perfect motivation right on point
Thank you for your kind words, Isidro.
Coach Alex
he talks to me on a friendly level only and despite him initiating the last 2 times we've contacted he still acts distant.
Hello Alex thanks for the advice
Love you mentor wish to see more of your videos in the near future,lovelots Jed from hongkong
after 2 1/2 months my ex reach out to me just to tell he will work abroad and thats it. but after a sort of conversation he said he love me but not the same as before, and he doesnt want to get back together, i think he fall in love with someone new
It’s been over a year. I’m planning on reaching out possibly next month. He hasn’t reached out within that time, but I know when he’s hurt he throws himself into work and tries to avoid thinking about the painful thing. It was long distance and was going into the military after graduation college so there was a lot of uncertainty around what would happen to us and that’s why he ended it. I’d like to have him in my life, but I’m also afraid it might be very painful if I reach out. I believe he still has feelings for me, but wants to avoid feeling them because he feels he can’t do much about the situation. Should I just go ahead and send the accountability letter? Or should I wait for him to make the first move
He’s banging someone else, he’s a guy, testosterone and biology
Don't give them the privilege of getting the best of both Worlds.
Make it clear: 100% in or 100% out.
Awesome stuff .....Waleed from South Africa
Heather from Connecticut
At the same time. He put my thing's at her place but he doesn't want to see me
Hello Coach Alex!! 😍😍😍
Just like my bf we dont have closure but because i found out his cheating im pulling away with silence , he already tired keep calling me , we sometimes talk normslly and he said he will set time for us to meet and talk out things , and im doing myself to be busy at work , fitness now ive been healed into desperation of him and i decided to just move on , i told him that i cant go bk anymore as far as im concern i dont wish things keep repeating again .. and now he stop calling , messeging and im ok for it ..this the time im learning to focus on myself , my career and to do discover more things i want to enjoy more
Is coach Alex single????
Hi am frm India... I have been in relationship with my ex for 2years.. We broke up because of my mistake which is frm 8 months I stopped giving him attention and show proper love and give him time he was totally fed up and left. Now am begging him to come back and am totally changed.. He is talking to me as a nice friend but doesn't want me to come back... Please suggest me what do I need to do
I'll forget the help u did for forever...
Thank you.
My ex gf and I dated about 30 years ago. We had a highly sexualize relationship. When we weren't having sex we were not getting along. After years of doing the on and off we had a daughter.
My ex has been remarried, divorced, in a number of relationships and now remarried. We make contact with each other concering our daughter etc. At times when I think she is single, she will ask me if I want to sleep at her house, as i live quite a ways away, I always decline. Over the past months she gets friendly, then either drifts away to come back or gets angry and then doesn't talk. Rigjht now, she wants to be friends. I said something I shouldn't have as what she is asking, to be friends, just doesn't seem like there is not a catch. She blew up and now has gone silent. So any help?
Hie Alex my ex is taking to me but he doesn't talk about love he just ask things like hw are you, and I told him to stop talking to me if he doesn't want me so i that I can forget him but he still calls and text wat should i do coz i still loves him a lot
Same situation here, but don't know what can I do.
hi sir I'm Linda from Hong Kong, hope you can help me,
Thank you for reaching out, Sheikh. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you.
Coach Alex
Hello choach,My ex of 3 am half cheated and left me dated that person and now he is saying they broke up and he wants me back. I thinks he only wants me as rebound or for power. Please help me with this actions .what does it mean
My ex and I were together six years. We broke up five months ago. I’ve improved my appearance and tried to take interest in things that he likes. However, he maintains that there’s a possibility for us in the future but he still wants to date and see what else is out there for him. I met a great guy a couple weeks ago that I’m seeing but I’m not yet ready to move on from him because he’s a great guy and my kids are attached to him too.
Hey Crystal Clear, just because you're not ready to move on doesn't mean you can't continue to "entertain" yourself with the platonic, gentlemanly company of other men. The WORST thing you can is wait around and keep yourself open as an option for your ex-boyfriend. He won't value you if you do so - Adrian
Love Advice TV Thanks
You guys know what you talking about. And unfortunately I don’t have the money to buy a coach session. It is a really hard time for almost 1.5 years and the last 5 or 6 months some times i wish that god take my soul. She is so hard mens and is in charge I really don’t know what to do.
Coach Alex. My ex husband says he doesn’t love me the way he used to. He also said he doesn’t want to get back with me then realize he wants to see someone else again. I am going to quit my teaching job in Trinidad and relocate to Canada. There are teaching jobs there. I initiated talks about if he could go anywhere in the world and start over where would he like to go, and he, on his own, said Canada. He doesn’t know of my actions to go to Canada.
Now, here is my question: should I tell him that I have hired an Immigration Agency to gain citizenship and jobs in Canada now or should I wait until I get the job and begin selling my furniture? I had written a book and dedicated it to him, he was moved but still would not say that he wants us back together. I know he’s biding time with the hope to meet someone else. What do i do: do I include him in the immigration process now or should I wait until I leave Trinidad for Canada to tell him? Now or later? We were married for 16 years, I know him since 1999. We grew up together. We have no kids though, what do I do?
Celena I know it's tough but you need to focus on your inner being. Don't ever chase someone who has lost feelings for you. Just let it go and feel the pain. No contact might make him miss you but don't dwell on him anymore. . I'm saying by experience. Hope it helps
Alex Varghese Thanks Alex for commenting. I feel so alone and so betrayed. I’m going to move to Canada. I’ve made up my mind. I can’t bear to live in Trinidad anymore and watch him give to someone new the things he never gave to me. I know it’s going to be tough. Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it.
I was in a relationship with for 5 years. I broke up with him 9 months ago to learn to be alone/autonomous/healthy. I haven't dated and tried reconciling after 6 months of separation - the past 3 months have been a wave of mixed messages from him (e.g. wanting to try again, then not wanting to and only friends, then not wanting to be friends, to time and space, to wanting to be friendly and in contact). He said he sees that I've changed, am attractive and shining - and that it's inspired him to now grow himself. But he wants to do it for him, not us. I respect this. I have rebuilt my life and he sees my growth - he wants to stay in contact on the phone but not dating. It seems friendly. No flirting. Where do I go from here? How do I rebuild without pursuing him? As of now, all he knows it that I want him in my life but I don't want to be in a relationship because I'm learning how to be emotionally resilient. I was very emotionally dependent on him and scared of that happening again.
AAJ any update on this?
Leave him alone you broke up with him. If you truly loved him you would have never left him.
I’ve been going through no contact ..My ex reaching out to me ..I’ve been not at all responding to her calls and texts ,One day she texted me that -She got hurt by my unanswered calls and texts..She says that the decision which she took to get seperated is good on our relationship and she doesn’t want to come back to me but approaching me ??This is haunting me daily😢Does she never come back,Did I made anything wrong without answering her call and text 😣..?
Hii coach
My ex blocked me from everywhere.but not on WhatsApp. But when ever I need him. He will be there for me.. If there is really need.. But he doesn't talk to me.. Last 1 month.., what do i do please tell.. I really miss him
Same
Thank you coach Alex for all your advice. What happen my boyfriend has a woman on the side. But don’t have the face to tell the truth. I just love him so much. What can i do?
Alex, my ex still talks to me and I feel she wants to come back but as you stated I don’t want her to be in control which I understand your point. What if she seems to be flirting more with others in front of me? These others I’m speaking of are somewhat mutual friends of ours. Is what she’s doing to see how I would react? I’m sure she wouldn’t seriously do anything but how should I react? I don’t want her to feel like that I don’t care or that it didn’t bother me. Please advise...
can you give a clearer clarification in words on what to do if like you said, your ex just wants control. Like how/what to change, create tempo, create balance of power. By no contact? Or like how what to do to reverse to reattach. I’ve been needing this, thanks
Tell clear your wants and what you're goin'tolerate if she behave like that. Casually. Not violently nor bitter.
Hi Alex.. really enjoyed listening to you.. thanks for the advice..
A little bit of update from my side.. my Ex n I met in Highschool n broke up after 5 yrs of a wonderful intimate relationship.. I then cut off any contact with Him.
So I married another and moved on.. Last year, my Dear Husband passed away.. I was devastated and just drifted into loneliness.. Then, my Ex, who never married.. got my number from a friend.. We chatted on WhatsApp, We met for the first time after 40 long years.. and now We remain just good Friends . At this point, being in my early 60s.. I realized that I am falling in love again.. and I can't stop thinking about Him..
He has mentioned that he's given up on relationships as he had bad experiences..
Alex, I do hope I could rekindle our love and open a new page in our lives.. What should I do?..
Best Regards.. from Malaysia..
Pat.. 🤗🌹
My ex divorced me we have a child and she contacts me daily some good messages some saying it was my fault .. which way do I go for happiness? Thanks
I left my boyfriend a three and a half years on March 18th 2020 I left for a stupid reason because I wanted to get married and he didn't we had a wonderful relationship there was no screaming no yelling no fighting we always sat down talked communicated and compromised on everything and now I want him back and he says that we can be friends we still talk we still have each other pictures in our phones and on our walls in our rooms and he still texts me good morning baby I love you goodnight baby I love you we hang out once in awhile and I asked him if he would consider dating me again and he said not right now but he does not hate me and he said to my face I love you
Update?
What happened did you go back out with him?
Am from uganda following you
Thanks for the support!
It a good game plan for myself
What if the reason of the break up is something as serious as ur different culture and faiths ???? What do u do?
What if my ex started talking again but then momentum stopped and went back into no contact? Should I continue no contact again? Part of me thinks he does miss me but I don't really like being kept on the side. The other part of me thinks that maybe when we started communicating again, my responses were too short and he thought I wasn't interested
Did he reach out later??
Because I’m in exactly the same problem rn. I feel like he lost interest when we talked for a few weeks after a no contact and then stopped responding.
Hi Alex, my ex has contacted me after I’ve still been heartbroken. We talk to each other as on text and she wants to be friends with benefits with me. What do I do?
Thanks for the video..
My french ex dumped me, he ask me to not blocking him, to still keep n touch..
But i did no contact for 2 weeks...
After 2 week i reach out but still so early to reach out, my heart still hoping...
So i called him and ask him if we can still hold the relationship..
But he said no its impossible specially we live in different country...
So i do go back to no contact again.. After 3 weeks he reach out to me..we talks now like a friends.....
I can control now my emotions.....
I will updates about my relationship to him.. .
Thanks a lot
My ex still talks to me but doesn't seem interested in making a convo. She will message me good morning and goodnight and sometimes debts voicenotes telling me how her day is but then other times she'll not speak for hours. I'm so confused
How can i be happy when my ex have our son now in his life, he does not want me to get in touch with my son , actually I don't know what he wants from me , he broke up with me and he is now dating another lady ,i have no problem about that but it seem he has problem with me please what should I do , should i be happy when it to hard for me to see my son or should I beg him please help me
Hi Alex my ex is not talking to me no contact. But he kept my thing's at her place,, what does that mean Alex.
My wife is 20 years told me she loves me but is no longer in love with me and that she has found someone from her past that she wants to try a relationship with
He wants me to text and call him but he doesnt want to have me as a girlfriend anymore. he wants me to be a friend forever. what should i do?
My ex of two years just left after we moved from Florida to Nevada a year ago. We've had many ups and downs. He's more of an introvert and I am an extrovert. Will going out and doing more things, having fun and becoming more dependent intimidate him or push him away further?
I’m an introvert, he doesn’t want to think of you out dancing and bar hopping, he wants you at home with him
Jesus.. i just looked at the comments. So many of us are in such similar situations. My ex is moving out this weekend. I am ready to stop all contact. Can't be the one who had been trying for 4 months (3.5 relationship). I am ready to focus on myself. You cannot pull someone into loving you, don't ever let them make you their safe haven second option. We're all worth more than that. I keep asking myself - why would I want to be with someone who isnt equally invested? I cant. I would not want to stay with me if she would keep acting distant for a day longer. Also try to perceive them as a stranger because thats what they are. Their character, nature, feelings, posture, words - all changed. Is it the same person you are convincing yourself you love so much or a memory of good old times?
I really love her almost 3 years of relationship she is ready to be best friends after the breakup so what should I do , I want her back so by staying her friend would it help me in future to come back with her ?? please reply me I m really in need of your answer sir
My Ex started calling me three days after no contact what should i do. Should i start talking to her
HI kwabena frimpong, yes, but keep it short and polite. Give her the impression that you're too busy and that you have other affairs to take care of :) - Adrian
Never ever go back to an ex, they will never value you, period
I was too needy and me ex ignores me now , What should i do , and i also think she dating someone new, Help me brothers
Being needy to a girl, is the same as fat girl who keep messaging you. It turn them off.
You better off avoid texting her and others. While you worry about what shes up to tonight, she probably kissing some other guy after a movie date. Focus on yourself. Try no contact with her (including seeing her ig stories or snapchat or like her photos) for 2 months and see what is her respond
What if it’s because of long distance? Can that be another reason or should I loose hope!
Hi Coach, me and my gf broke up a week ago and she wants to chill we me as friends. She said "we can't go back together because if we do we need to be very serious and probably get married but we can't go there anymore. So as friends ok?" and I said yes at the time.
I want to get back with her but it doesn't seem like she's on the same page. Would it be a mistake if I meet her this week and I am afraid I will be friend-zoned and emotion support until she find another boyfriend which I cannot accept this.
Please advise!
Hey sir ,she talks more to her friend and made him her best friend and she also call him and text me ,and even meet him , what should I do
Could you do a video about girlfriends being in love with there ex still my story is that after being with my girlfriend for 5 months we broke up and she told me she still had feelings for him once he said he didn’t want her back 2 weeks later she contacted me saying she wanted me back after no contact I’ve spoke to her and she said she was confused and needed closure but now she knows she really loves me and I’m the one she wants I’m confused how’s she could say she loved me greatly the whole relationship but I find it hard to believe please help was I the back up plan cause she got rejected
You’re backup plan my friend.. and when situation will change she will leave you again. Don’t trust and don’t go for it again no matter how hard it is. I have stucked in this game from past 10 years. I beg you don’t give her a chance. You’ll be stuck. Just accept she’s gone.
Hi Coaches, can you make a video on fostering trust with an ex?
Hi Breanna Oliveros, have you looked through our video library to see if already have one? :) - Adrian
Hi Alex..... The father of my child is angry with me. It's being a year now during no contact he wants me to phone her......., last time i did phone her, he was so surprised.... Then after he ask me to give him money........ So Alex what does that mean
I wish I saw this one month ago
My ldr ex still talk but I implemented radio silence so I'm not reaching out first.I'm currently going through a health problem and I don't know if it's coincidence but this started a day or two after he broke up with me.So I'm healing from this breakup and at the same time from this health issue.he's currently busy pursuing his studies in another continent and sends a how are message. At the beginning of the breakup I didn't have any form of negativity towards him.I still don't want..it's not a good way to heal.but I feel he's only checking up on me when it's convenient for him.so I'm starting to be angry at him.I really don't want to harbor any negative emotion towards him even if he hurt me.the last call we had he was starting to be like his usual sweet self..calling me by our petname and making plans for the future and yet never asked me if I want to get back with him.the freak...I didn't know he's capable of playing this mind games.I'm just focusing on getting my health back and healing all aspects of myself.I'm praying hard everyday for strength.
Hello Alex,, thanks so much you have really changed my life.... but I have one problem my Ex is complaining that have changed and that he will not calling me what should I do
Hello coach, We have been in a relationship for 8 years for past 3 years we were in a long distance relation he cheated me by sextexting once but i forgived him because he appologized after 1 and half moth he tell me he doesnt want relation he can not keep me happy and he is looking for a simple girl as in i am not compatible for him. I really loved him an i tried my best to get him but he doesnt want. But he still text me and cares for me he also video calls me if i am okay, so then does he want me back and how to get him back.. because its difficult to move on with another guy. Its been 1 month since we have broken up . I feel he still loves me not sure??
My exhusband is in.aviation alex,I used to ve flying hostess too,later he after 10years of marriage dumb me for younger hostess american passpoort,and it was his demand that I stay home and resigned I did .
And after I grow my kids I was codependent he didnt like effording me,and when I demand my respect I got divorce.
And now he says he dnt want me,my question here is how can I turn the tables as my age limit dnt give me much chances to go back to flying anynore,and my husband is saudi and im pskisani,in here due to nationalization I won't ever have any chance to earn better than him.he travel the world hotels and works in.aviation as supervisor for cabin..
But wth me he hated me told me I wasnt sucessfull and left me to marry. Some other person hes cheating me with.
I hve two little kids and im so upset I feel helpless dnt knw wat to do years I was waiting things things will change vut I discover he was just using me to raise kids and later would divorce me onces they are big..
It was our love marriage,after 6 years of reltiondhip hard work he got married to me hes saudi male,his child hood dream was to marry a foreigner.
May be..
Earlier he had loans cpuldnt effort american arab but now his salary allow him so he discarded me to relive his dream hving american arab wife who is,earning and has money..
Im broke all I had saving I spended sharing wth him.didnt even suported me well..
My point here is wat should I do..
Im really heart pain and burn ..
The jobs that im.getting is v less,and hes having girls with better salary nationality perks and life why would he wana return to me ...he fought me over money was sting years..
Abd now im discarded as I was nothing ...
He was narcissist move out and keep coming back but built barrier saying soon he will. Divorce me ..
Please help me alex...I dnt lnow what to do..
Im in this 10thisyears..
And he didnt keep nonof his promises I wanted to take divorce frm him but instead he turned the tables and gona soon proced divorce he moved out already but hover to meet kids and never talk about going back and always ask what kids life plan if I ask for divorce paper...
Finalising.
Help plz
My wife told that she have another one but when I do my investigation I found none she had what can I do she have left me last 4 months ,she told me that she will give forgiveness but she will never returned to me what can I do? Arleady blocked me everywhere
Finally letting go after 3 months, didn't do no contact but she kept reaching out hospital appointments, help in the house, meals etc. Just found out she's slept with 1 person and found a person who she has the best connection with after spending 2 days together she told me over text she's meeting him in my old house at the weekend 😂 even after getting me to do stuff for her
Just let go guys focus on yourself
Thank you
You're welcome!
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