Prolly won’t be here in May, But Happy Birthday Brother!! Mines July 1st. Ex I ain’t talked too in 3 years called tonight. Talked for hours. Went normal, with the slight hint of “ Why are you texting/calling me”
I've whatched all your videos ...your the only person that's got me through my break up...I whatched them over and over with your kind direct words...thank u for your wisdom..God bless u
His last text he shared an album of us… I answered him, “I got the album, thank you for sharing it. Great moments for sure!” and he just answered with a smile emoji… I’m not sure if it was genuine or just a try to boost his ego.
I apologize I am so sorry but I cannot help but to look at your face and the way you were trying not to laugh as you were saying all this it is funny but you're very right on LOL I love it
Yooooooo, this works so well. After me putting her in nc for her bad behavior and playing games...its been about 6+ months.... She had her bday 2 days ago....i didn't acknowledge or respond at all....about 15 mins ago she did a big double text getting mad and just showing her hand....nah im not playing this game... either you come correct don't disrespect me when you talk to me.. or i disappear completely from your life.
@AJtheDestroyer no, she did some breadcrumbs in the first 2 mths of the breakup. So I gave her a chance to come right. The hardest part. We both work together on child welfare stuff... so I have to communicate with her... just on cases/work... so from a work view. She tries to reach out now alot more. I never. I have my field ops do the contact for me and they just cc me. But last Fri was the first she legit reached out on my person cell super late a night....anyone knows when an ex does this late on a Friday night with 2 block messages within a span of 10 minutes... you know its a test and she's starting to unravel.... gotta stay the course and let her put in the work. I don't need to ignore her. But I'll politely address her with a boundary and logic.
It's just like reading my current situation with my ex. She would disrespect me and act cold and distant then pull away, and when her birthday came a week later she got mad that I didn't text her or said happy birthday, needless to say it ended a week later. After a month she started breadcrumbing me with tiktok videos, and calling me "accidentally", then when she realized I'm over it, she would start asking me random questions, like if she was a bad person, or she was pretty, or trying to get me jealous
Hi Coach Blac this afternoon it will be 19 days of No Contact. I know it was my fault for the breakup. I learned a lesson from my mistake. I pray in the next relationship I will be better. 😭
Didn’t hear from her until day four started off nice and ended with her accusing me of cheating and telling me I already found somebody else. I was trying to keep it short she just kept sending more messages kept saying she was going to bed kept sending more messages and then she got extremely angry.
@@himanshikanwar9562 it does. Usually after 45-60 days of no contact the ex reaches out. If ur unsure ...just pay for a coaching session with Lucia I've had a few with her. She really tells u how to have the upper hand
@@crystalclimenhage7159 he has reached out. But nothing substantial. No sorry, nothing. Even though the break up ended on bad terms. He texted me "hi" to which I haven't replied anything. It's been a week since then, just waiting for some meaningful text from him. If he doesn't text then I'm letting him go completely. I don't want someone with such low interest in me.
I just sent a very simple message to my ex saying I didn't want to be friends with her and she just called me stupid and an idiot and blocked me right after... yeah she's crazy and I don't care anymore I'm tired of the games from her and I know that after a few days, she will text me again apologizing for this..
I broke up with him, but he sent me his test scores today like I asked to see them lol. He just said, wanted to share. I said congrats! Then he left the convo.
I disagree with text 2. U should not indulge in breadcrumbs. If u say u don’t want to be friends but ur willing to see them to talk then they already know ur not doing as well as they think and they will probably not give u a date. So NO. Do not engage.
My ex just texted me after 3 months, with that her dog died. Such a sweet and gentle dog, i cared a lot for him too. It is hard, i want to give her all the support yet not to much. Any tips?
Still be nice. Apply common sense to strategy. SHE reached out to YOU where she could've reached out to anyone else. LET HER MENTION A RELATIONSHIP if she's interested.
Just got the first 3 in one text. It’s been almost a year and she is still is with the guy she started dating 4 weeks after the break up. Still love her so I’m not sure how to respond. She breadcrumbs me every couple of months.
My ex just sent me a message with an unknown number as am not reading all of her messages, I thought it's was someone I don't know 😂😂😂 she's trying to make me feel jealous she actually sent me a screenshot of the conversation with an other dute I read it but I didn't respond and all of her voice note I didn't listen them. What should I do at this point coz i know she's trying to get my attention and make me react. Somebody help me?
I was the one who broke up with him, because i felt like i am an option. He reached out after a month of us no contact. he sent txt and i ignored, he sent music video after that, and i still ignored.
It’s been 2 years and a couple days ago I seen her on tinder, I knew she had previously been in a new relationship. The day I seen her on tinder she added and texted my snap that night. And she just said “I’m sorry, I was a bitch” blah blah, than I said it’s okay blah blah and her last message was “I didn’t treat u the way a bf should’ve been and I’m very sorry and hope the best for you” I just said thank u and I hope the same”. Does this sound like a rekindle or a genuine apology or just teasing me?
Pretty good advice. My ex is younger and i've been around the block. it works like a charm specially when you know you did everything right but maybe they just go comfortable and the excitement is gone. yea those types of women... can you really go 100MPH 100% of the time. unrealistic. Then again, she is younger. they learn...umm some learn. lol
What about , her pet died and she just wanna let me know ? I reply polite thanks and my condolences. She wrote than again , she wanted to tell me cause he loved me .
Just got one today.. after 2 months. Just telling me I had to change my address…. Not sure how I feel. This is a rough week for both of us though. We have to go to court because of her ex baby daddy. Who tried to kill us. So I’m all sorts of emotional lol. But waited a few hrs and responded. “The addresses should have been changed months ago. Sorry.” Left it at that. Idk if it was the right thing to say. Part of me doesn’t care. But a part of me does because I’m now on TH-cam lol. To be honest I feel like it’s over and I just hate the feeling of all these old emotions. How the fucj do they ninja the mind like that
I did no contact and got the 4th text after almost 4 weeks with the “are you ready to be friends yet”, said it was his fault, and even said “I miss you”. He asked if I was going to be out dancing and came to the venue, came over to talk to me and danced a little with me, but then danced with 4 women very close to me so I could see. He Texted me again 3 days later and chatted for awhile. Now no contact again for over a week. He’s a fearful avoidant so do I reach out casually or go into no contact again?
I received text 2, he told me he's dating n living w someone n wanted to be friends. I didn't fall for that but didn't say yes or no to that. Just went into NC it's going into 2 and 1/2 months. When does the fear of losing me start or he's too occupied
@@Niwweleg the thing is I don't know if another opportunity would come up. We don't have same circle of friends and he's best at Ghosting to never be seen again.
Bro my ex texted me I just wanted to say sorry just within 20 days of no contact and I have not replied to her past msgs maintaining complete no contact as they were vague like can we talk and i asked about what? And she said nothing now I am not sure whether I must respond her sorry
My ex reached out after 2 months, she had originally blocked me everywhere. First she texted on whatsapp, I didn't reply immediately, after an hour she deleted the text. Then around 6 hours later she unblocked me on Fb and messaged me: 'I hope your are well xx just a friendly thing nowt more'. I didn't reply immediately either, I reciprocated her message, saying I hope she is well too. To which she just sent a thumbs up. I didn't reply to that, and I never will. Don't know if I did something wrong here.
Update: she just reached out again to say: I am actually not ok but glad u r I didn't respond immediately, and she deleted the text message after an hour. What should I do now?
She messaged again, she wants to be friends, and I messaged exactly what the coach said. The morning after she sent me 4 angry messages calling me an a-hole for not wanting to be friends with her.
My ex-girlfriend texted me after 4 1/2 months of no contact, just to disrespect me by telling me bad words and how she was a good person towards me. Which is a lie, she cheated...
I can't seem to catch the lives I really need help me and my ex are in couples counseling she says the only reason why she broke up with me is because so my texting to my younger daughter's mother you sound like we were having sexual relations put this on everything that I can in my heart I haven't and I didn't yes I flirted to keep the peace because of how the person is in order to see my kid down to where he would try to hug me and do extra in front of my ex and I would try to keep these boundaries at the same time please both parties so I could see my kid but now we're not together because of it she's with another guy which mind you she keeps saying that's not her boyfriend and telling me she needs time but she wants to keep going to counseling
My relationship pf 14 years just ended. She ended it and i am already ready to move and do no contact, but every 1-3 days she texts me all the time. She always initiates it. I always keep it short. But then after 3-4 days she texts me again for trivial things.
Mines said she was sorry soon as I left from seeing her trying to get back with her a she had her head down a said no 7hours later she texts me saying “sorry .”
He txt me last night asking for sex toys etc thst he left behind ha...he was drunk ...we only broke up four days ago but we ended very badly where i stormed out n called him names for dumping me over something stupid.. should i answer him?
@@Aqu4nime not young yes but so much emotional she is and also serious about her career so much.. Gemeni sign is always very difficult to handle it haha
Just got one this morning. Literally narcissistic af. She even said happy birthday in advance and it's March... My birthday is in MAY!
Prolly won’t be here in May, But Happy Birthday Brother!! Mines July 1st. Ex I ain’t talked too in 3 years called tonight. Talked for hours. Went normal, with the slight hint of “ Why are you texting/calling me”
@@MikeDT94-_- thanks bro!
@@ProsperbutThrive Yes Sir. Idk what day in may, But if you comment, I’ll be back, most definitely
@@MikeDT94-_-happy birthday
@@Tallen4Racc 🥹😩 Thanks brother!!! Come threw some changes in 3 months. 😁 good ones
I've whatched all your videos ...your the only person that's got me through my break up...I whatched them over and over with your kind direct words...thank u for your wisdom..God bless u
His last text he shared an album of us… I answered him, “I got the album, thank you for sharing it. Great moments for sure!” and he just answered with a smile emoji… I’m not sure if it was genuine or just a try to boost his ego.
She said: Are you gonna give up on me just like that🤷😅
“I mean…you did”
Underrated video, helped me a lot. It’s a shame that the person you put first in the world could be so troubling.
Never heard content like urs. You are the best ever. You are Gold ♥️
I apologize I am so sorry but I cannot help but to look at your face and the way you were trying not to laugh as you were saying all this it is funny but you're very right on LOL I love it
Yooooooo, this works so well. After me putting her in nc for her bad behavior and playing games...its been about 6+ months.... She had her bday 2 days ago....i didn't acknowledge or respond at all....about 15 mins ago she did a big double text getting mad and just showing her hand....nah im not playing this game... either you come correct don't disrespect me when you talk to me.. or i disappear completely from your life.
Was that the first time she said anything to you directly in 6 months?
@AJtheDestroyer no, she did some breadcrumbs in the first 2 mths of the breakup. So I gave her a chance to come right. The hardest part. We both work together on child welfare stuff... so I have to communicate with her... just on cases/work... so from a work view. She tries to reach out now alot more. I never. I have my field ops do the contact for me and they just cc me. But last Fri was the first she legit reached out on my person cell super late a night....anyone knows when an ex does this late on a Friday night with 2 block messages within a span of 10 minutes... you know its a test and she's starting to unravel.... gotta stay the course and let her put in the work. I don't need to ignore her. But I'll politely address her with a boundary and logic.
@@ECBSB2013 i figured. There’s always breadcrumbs from those who actually come back
It's just like reading my current situation with my ex. She would disrespect me and act cold and distant then pull away, and when her birthday came a week later she got mad that I didn't text her or said happy birthday, needless to say it ended a week later. After a month she started breadcrumbing me with tiktok videos, and calling me "accidentally", then when she realized I'm over it, she would start asking me random questions, like if she was a bad person, or she was pretty, or trying to get me jealous
Man this video was more than helpful to me in fact it's wonderful 😊
You are the best, but please ditch the music. Thanks.
i like the music
Hi Coach Blac this afternoon it will be 19 days of No Contact. I know it was my fault for the breakup. I learned a lesson from my mistake. I pray in the next relationship I will be better. 😭
Didn’t hear from her until day four started off nice and ended with her accusing me of cheating and telling me I already found somebody else. I was trying to keep it short she just kept sending more messages kept saying she was going to bed kept sending more messages and then she got extremely angry.
Im goin through it! Very good info thanks man.... i went to book a 1on1 with you, but its not accepting my ebt
How about ignoring them until they say something significant?
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Yes lucia says this. Very good advice to go by. They need to know there are consequences to letting you go
@@crystalclimenhage7159 yeah, I have been following her advice lately. Hope it works.
@@himanshikanwar9562 it does. Usually after 45-60 days of no contact the ex reaches out. If ur unsure ...just pay for a coaching session with Lucia I've had a few with her. She really tells u how to have the upper hand
@@crystalclimenhage7159 he has reached out. But nothing substantial. No sorry, nothing. Even though the break up ended on bad terms. He texted me "hi" to which I haven't replied anything. It's been a week since then, just waiting for some meaningful text from him. If he doesn't text then I'm letting him go completely. I don't want someone with such low interest in me.
I just sent a very simple message to my ex saying I didn't want to be friends with her and she just called me stupid and an idiot and blocked me right after... yeah she's crazy and I don't care anymore I'm tired of the games from her and I know that after a few days, she will text me again apologizing for this..
I broke up with him, but he sent me his test scores today like I asked to see them lol. He just said, wanted to share. I said congrats! Then he left the convo.
I disagree with text 2. U should not indulge in breadcrumbs. If u say u don’t want to be friends but ur willing to see them to talk then they already know ur not doing as well as they think and they will probably not give u a date. So NO. Do not engage.
You mean you agree? Lol
I was thinking the same thing,I agree
I am on the I miss you texts from her and you're no contact has worked wonders.... For me and I have needed your guidance
How long did the no contact take till that moment?
Mr. Black what about the one that says we are a family, I will always love and be there for you, I will continue to pray for you ? Tell me
What if they just straight up call you instead and talk to you as if nothing has really changed?
😂 she messaged me she been thinking bout me all week…. Left it on seen for a 3 weeks, and replied “Who?” 😂
Thank you!!
My ex just texted me after 3 months, with that her dog died. Such a sweet and gentle dog, i cared a lot for him too. It is hard, i want to give her all the support yet not to much. Any tips?
Still be nice. Apply common sense to strategy. SHE reached out to YOU where she could've reached out to anyone else. LET HER MENTION A RELATIONSHIP if she's interested.
Be as compassionate as you would any aquaintence who sent you the same text. 🙌
Just got the first 3 in one text. It’s been almost a year and she is still is with the guy she started dating 4 weeks after the break up. Still love her so I’m not sure how to respond. She breadcrumbs me every couple of months.
I've seen every step of these with the same person or others.
Haven't answered calls now the infamous text hope your OK yeah right!!
My ex is in the relief stage but still wants to talk , she breadcrumbing and I’m just being short and straightforward
My ex went straight to the fourth text. Wish I had saw this video before I responded.
Its been 4 and half weeks zero attempt to text or call. Hurts deeply. I am keeping no contact but am feeling very sad and lonely
Be strong work on yourselves and maybe work on relationships in the past maybe with friends you lost touch with.
My ex just sent me a message with an unknown number as am not reading all of her messages, I thought it's was someone I don't know 😂😂😂 she's trying to make me feel jealous she actually sent me a screenshot of the conversation with an other dute I read it but I didn't respond and all of her voice note I didn't listen them. What should I do at this point coz i know she's trying to get my attention and make me react. Somebody help me?
He reached out on day 38 of no contract to wish me a. "Happy Birthday." I waited about for about 3 hours. to say, "Thank you."
I was the one who broke up with him, because i felt like i am an option. He reached out after a month of us no contact. he sent txt and i ignored, he sent music video after that, and i still ignored.
I don’t know what the point of that is, you were the one who broke up with him and you’re ignoring him? He’s gonna be gone for good.
What if she randomly called after 3 years? Is it really random? Does she really care? Is she tryna see what I’ve done
I messed up got one like the third text and caved in 🤦🏾♂️
It’s been 2 years and a couple days ago I seen her on tinder, I knew she had previously been in a new relationship. The day I seen her on tinder she added and texted my snap that night. And she just said “I’m sorry, I was a bitch” blah blah, than I said it’s okay blah blah and her last message was “I didn’t treat u the way a bf should’ve been and I’m very sorry and hope the best for you” I just said thank u and I hope the same”. Does this sound like a rekindle or a genuine apology or just teasing me?
After almost a week he text just checking on you I love you and miss you I didn’t jump right back in texting him what should I do ?
What if you get all 4 text messages within a few days
He said “ can I see you “
I said …… f no in my head… but didn’t reply. They never change
god damn i fucked up no contact from the beginning too late now… lost my self respect now she’s sure in her decision
HA HA mine just text me during this video I was watching saying sorry that was for my daughter. 😂😂😂
this is really good but can no contact last as long as 6 months ?
from what i understand things decline after 6 months a lot
Pretty good advice. My ex is younger and i've been around the block. it works like a charm specially when you know you did everything right but maybe they just go comfortable and the excitement is gone. yea those types of women... can you really go 100MPH 100% of the time. unrealistic. Then again, she is younger. they learn...umm some learn. lol
Hi how are you 😂 he just say that I answer am fine thx and ho back to no contact no importance why shall I do in this case I steak to no contact ???!
What about , her pet died and she just wanna let me know ? I reply polite thanks and my condolences. She wrote than again , she wanted to tell me cause he loved me .
Very helpful no. Contact is helpful
It's been less than a week sooo I'm prepared for them hehe
Just got one today.. after 2 months. Just telling me I had to change my address…. Not sure how I feel. This is a rough week for both of us though. We have to go to court because of her ex baby daddy. Who tried to kill us. So I’m all sorts of emotional lol. But waited a few hrs and responded. “The addresses should have been changed months ago. Sorry.” Left it at that. Idk if it was the right thing to say. Part of me doesn’t care. But a part of me does because I’m now on TH-cam lol. To be honest I feel like it’s over and I just hate the feeling of all these old emotions. How the fucj do they ninja the mind like that
Same here
@@itskidflash.1938 sorry you are going through through it
I did no contact and got the 4th text after almost 4 weeks with the “are you ready to be friends yet”, said it was his fault, and even said “I miss you”. He asked if I was going to be out dancing and came to the venue, came over to talk to me and danced a little with me, but then danced with 4 women very close to me so I could see. He Texted me again 3 days later and chatted for awhile. Now no contact again for over a week. He’s a fearful avoidant so do I reach out casually or go into no contact again?
I received text 2, he told me he's dating n living w someone n wanted to be friends. I didn't fall for that but didn't say yes or no to that. Just went into NC it's going into 2 and 1/2 months. When does the fear of losing me start or he's too occupied
no contact doesn't mean "don't talk with them at all costs". just wait until another opportunity to say something
@@Niwweleg the thing is I don't know if another opportunity would come up. We don't have same circle of friends and he's best at Ghosting to never be seen again.
@@pam69 you only have to hope and wait. be strong!
Bro my ex texted me I just wanted to say sorry just within 20 days of no contact and I have not replied to her past msgs maintaining complete no contact as they were vague like can we talk and i asked about what? And she said nothing now I am not sure whether I must respond her sorry
Pray to God about it after cleansing yourself from your sins. Your heart will receive an answer.
My ex reached out after 2 months, she had originally blocked me everywhere. First she texted on whatsapp, I didn't reply immediately, after an hour she deleted the text. Then around 6 hours later she unblocked me on Fb and messaged me: 'I hope your are well xx just a friendly thing nowt more'. I didn't reply immediately either, I reciprocated her message, saying I hope she is well too. To which she just sent a thumbs up. I didn't reply to that, and I never will. Don't know if I did something wrong here.
Update: she just reached out again to say: I am actually not ok but glad u r
I didn't respond immediately, and she deleted the text message after an hour. What should I do now?
She messaged again, she wants to be friends, and I messaged exactly what the coach said. The morning after she sent me 4 angry messages calling me an a-hole for not wanting to be friends with her.
But shouldn’t you block there numbers and delete them on socials after the breakup tho
My ex-girlfriend texted me after 4 1/2 months of no contact, just to disrespect me by telling me bad words and how she was a good person towards me. Which is a lie, she cheated...
😂
Respect ...
I've just had the dreaded text after months of no contact. Wants to call me as needs advice on something !!
What if they skip to the "i f**** miss you part"?
I can't seem to catch the lives I really need help me and my ex are in couples counseling she says the only reason why she broke up with me is because so my texting to my younger daughter's mother you sound like we were having sexual relations put this on everything that I can in my heart I haven't and I didn't yes I flirted to keep the peace because of how the person is in order to see my kid down to where he would try to hug me and do extra in front of my ex and I would try to keep these boundaries at the same time please both parties so I could see my kid but now we're not together because of it she's with another guy which mind you she keeps saying that's not her boyfriend and telling me she needs time but she wants to keep going to counseling
Love the videos but I can't concentrate through the music.
My relationship pf 14 years just ended. She ended it and i am already ready to move and do no contact, but every 1-3 days she texts me all the time. She always initiates it. I always keep it short. But then after 3-4 days she texts me again for trivial things.
What about when they text you out of the blue saying that there is no hard feelings and they are happy to see you're enjoying life...
Mines said she was sorry soon as I left from seeing her trying to get back with her a she had her head down a said no 7hours later she texts me saying “sorry .”
What if they text asking me to call them?
She didn’t text me bck until week 4
Mine texted me "happy 4th hope your doing well" what do i say 😭
Dayam I was the x doing all those things 🤦🏼♂️
no message of him since the breakup (six months ago), no contact since almost 6 months :D
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Music's too loud.
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He txt me last night asking for sex toys etc thst he left behind ha...he was drunk ...we only broke up four days ago but we ended very badly where i stormed out n called him names for dumping me over something stupid.. should i answer him?
They dont send anything
How long has it been?
mine did today after 2.5 month.. been together for 5 years
He dumped me - but then he set boundaries too as he was seeing someone !
How can I make you happy '!?
What's your address? - to send me my things back😅
My ex send me a msg after one wel that (Hello u there it’s urgent) I responded after one days and I was block once again…what should I do now.
its straight up tactics to see if you care lol, and they are butthurt, stay the course, they will come back for sure lol, they are probably young
@@Aqu4nime not young yes but so much emotional she is and also serious about her career so much.. Gemeni sign is always very difficult to handle it haha
Yes ! Omg !
Thank you !