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- Do you suspect someone may secretly dislike you? It's hard to tell when they are hating you in secret because they may try their best to act like they don't hate you. When pure instincts fail us, it’s time we use our knowledge in Psychology and examine the universal language that is - body language. To help you answer that question, we've made this video to discuss the signs someone may secretly dislike you!
8 Signs You're Secretly Disliked By Others: • 8 Signs You're Secretl...
#psychology #friendship #relationships
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Drew Baillie
Animator: Evelvaii
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
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Here's the full video! We had to reupload to include the rest of the points. The previous video was cut off and didn't have the full information. Comment below and share your experience if you ever sense someone dislike you and why do you think so? Friendly reminder, it's ok to be disliked by others. Everyone have different perspective on who they like as friends. It's ok not to be liked by everyone but most importantly surrounded yourself with people who like you :)
I don't really dislike anyone. I might dislike acts carried against me or against others I care about.
1:47 in my country crossing legs is seen as a very respectful thing, I don’t know why it wouldn’t be..
I don't care if someone dislikes me I'm not gonna stick around and wait for them I'll find better
Friends
@@PlagueDoctorCosplayerIt more a sign of being closed to talks/ideas like crossing your arms on your front. When someone does both it s usually that they are not opened to discussion, for whatever reason.
In my country it was more women crossing legs because of tight skirts. Guys often don t do that, I suppose because it s not the most comfy for them ^^’ (I m a woman and I do both 😅)
Who is this new persons voice?????????? Why did you change your voice over actress????
It hurts worse when your not a social person and can read them personally
Next they call you an introvert.
When theyll specifically go where they know youre at that they dont normally go to while tellin people they love you. Only wanting to make you not be around anyone at said place who they know......
HEY GOOD EVENING MY FRIEND, I HAVE TO SAY THAT YOUR SO RIGHT, I CAN TELL, TO FEEL IT, SLEEP WELL MY FRIEND TEE 💯🙏💙
Yes….
Hi
sometimes, we pay more attention to those who dislikes us, rather than someone truly likes and loves us. :(
It's true. It's important to focus on those who genuinely care for us and appreciate their presence in our lives.
If someone dislikes you, don't let them know it all immediately. Just by time start avoiding them and surround yourself with people who loves you - you're amazing and you need be in a place where your worth is appreciated. Be strong ❤
@@Scorpio_25 Well there are still good people in this world. If that's the case for you it's better to be alone. But get a puppy if you want. Dogs are damn loyal and trust me, he/she will be your best friend.
@@justephemeral unfortunately I study at university and the thing like social interaction is very important
I have no idea why some people don't like me and they treat me like I'm some piece of shit
@@Scorpio_25 I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure that they're not worth your time buddy. You keep focusing on your growth and it's totally fine if you have one loyal good friend. You know, we all prefer a dollar than 10 pennies :))
Yes true, I had to do this with my sister sadly. 😔
everyone that i know act like most of this to me even my family and in online group are..
Timestapms:
1:00 #1 make you wonder
1:23 #2 Non verbal language
2:05 #3 act differently
2:55 #4 back handed compliments
3:25 #5 self absorbed conversations
4:00 #6 social exclusion
4:28 #7 missed call left or read
thank you ❤️
If I notice that a person dislikes me, I just do what I can to avoid them myself as much as possible. I wont even bother talking to them as to why they dislike me. Waste of time.
As soon as I notice that a person dislikes me. I walk away. Plain and simple.
I do feel sorry for those who did that unintentionally.
It’s harder to walk away from close friends of decades.
I choose quality friendships over quantity. I keep my circle small. Everyone you meet isn’t a friend. Facts
Best comment of all🎉
Most of 'em are acquaintances, not 'friends'
Absolutely, quality over quantity any day. It's about surrounding yourself with genuine connections. How do you prioritize your friendships?
I'd like to point out that I'm autistic and I fidget, cross my legs and arms, and don't make eye contact a lot. These are very good points, but in neurodivergent people things can be a little different, especially if we don't operate on these same social cues
Thank you! Can agree on this one
I have adhd but also do this. Main difference is I can't sit still and I have very scattered thoughts that don't line up.
I have GAD and social anxiety and I also do these things
Thank you for sharing that insight. Neurodiversity adds unique perspectives to social interactions. How do you navigate and communicate your needs in social situations to ensure understanding?
I honestly don’t care if someone likes me or not, but I struggle reading the room. If someone dislikes me and I can’t tell, I’ll still go on and on. It becomes awkward for those around me and someone usually has to tell me. But if they don’t like me, it’s not my problem 🤷🏻♀️ people have called me cold hearted for cutting people left and right, but why put energy with people who won’t do the same back?
I try not ro make enemies. With that vehng said, the older I get, more I could care less if people don't like me. I'm sorry, but I will NOT change, just so that certain people will like me.
As far as I'm concerned, I am much better off, without them
It’s not uncommon for me to come across individuals who displayed politeness, but there’s this feeling that their friendliness was more of a facade than an authentic interest. It just seems they’re following social norms than they truly want to connect with me.
Mostly do that
Yeah if you have to question if someone likes you or not odds are they don’t.
I don't care anymore if someone dislike me and wants to stay away from me. In the end, it's his or her decision. There were a time I used to care but that time has gone to hell.
It’s so frightening specially when you’ve been not social for like years and you start a work with people
Me
As an HSP I pick up these signs pretty easily and it makes me mad when these individuals lie straight in my face.
Modern people are twisted. I'd like to live with a native tribe somewhere.
I am also an HSP. I get you. You’re not alone
Hsp?
@@brennathecatlover4360highly sensitive person, i believe
@@jonasshiujunhimgsps6078thx lol
Wait till you realize this isn’t a modern trait.
Timestamps
1). Make you wonder 0:54
2). Non-verbal language 1:24
3). Act differently 2:04
4). Back-handed compliments 2:53
5). Self-absorbed conversations 3:26
6). Social exclusion 3:59
7). Missed calls or left on read 4:27
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. I love hearing your voice Drew Baillie. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
People can like you and still try to avoid you. And to complicate things even more, people can also like you and hate you at the same time...
And that is why I succumb into self isolation, it is quite lonely but I don't trust people anymore... I always get left behind or forgotten.
It was when my high school friend circle came and picked up my friend across the street for a social outing and never invited me (who was interacting daily with them at school) that I realized they didn't consider me a friend and that one moment has stuck with me most of all my memories of school.
And why I've never tried to interact with any of them since graduating.
I finished high school over 13 years ago and I don't interact with anyone from there anymore save for 4 close acquaintances. Sad to say, the school environment is mostly a toxic and treacherous one.
@@SoldierOfFate yep. That's the nature of those relationships and anyone that sees this and misses those days, try not to. People change and move on and there's no shame in it.
Good riddance! Now you can find better friends. ❤
"make you wonder" spot on ..... Notice that and disappear without a further notice.
I try to be the best person I can be and I try to be the kindest person I know how to be but I also have boundaries and I don’t want to let my kindness get misconstrued for weakness. Not everyone is going to gel. Not all personalities will get along. If people like me, then that’s great, and there are lots that do, if you don’t like me, (there are also lots that don’t) cest la vie 💁🏼♂️ it really doesn’t make any difference in my life. The ones who matter don’t mind, the ones who mind, don’t matter!
yeah i think I'm having a falling out with my friend group and it sucks. The people who I hung out with for years who know my hobbies and interests are the same as theirs not inviting me to things when I said I want to do stuff with them and they do stuff anyways without me. I don't even know why, but i've been delegated to "spectator" for things these days and it freakin sucks. I just want to confront the issue and if its clear i can't make amends meet i might as well leave then.
Don't focus too much if someone dislikes you or try to make them like you. As long as you like yourself, it's enough.
Social exclusion was very relatable for me, it happened to me. But I don't think acting differently with someone generally means they dislike you. Because, as a semi-introvert, I talk very little with those I don't know. However, no, I don't dislike them; I just don't know much about them.
I struggle a lot especially when my friendships end…but i truly think that I’ve only weeded people not meant for me out of my life…im confident in my past decisions even more after watching this video. Thank you
Thanks for sharing! I'm glad you found the video empowering. Reflecting on past decisions can be a valuable part of personal growth. What lessons have you gained from those experiences?
The funny thing is my body language is just closed off as a coping mechanism to my social anxiety. it may not be you, it might just be the crowded room or the other people I don’t like in the room 😂
I think these are probably all good points. I just can't get past the fact that these could all be examples of something else. Like someone with social anxiety/neurodivergency or even major depression may exhibit a lot of these behaviors. I'm definitely stand offish and it's hard for me to open up to people and make connections. But that also doesn't mean I dont want to. I can understand a bit more now why it has always seemed like people think that I dont like them 😅 I'm really just out here struggling to connect with people.
I am so socially awkward! I have done a bunch of the stuff on this list to people I like. No wonder people think I’m stuck up.😅 Thanx
I just want to say that number 2 can also be wrong because I do all of these out of anxiety or comfort etc. so it‘s not always disinterest or dislike
For my friend its not that I don't like him, its when he gets sappy I don't know how to respond or understand how or why he sensitive about a topic
I have the opposite about being too insensitive about topics so working with sensitivity is challenging 😅
Like he cried over the Columbia space incident one day and I didn't know how to console him properly, because it seemed so insignificant, but I care about him and so I sucked conveying it to him with a consoling pat
0:55 1.Make you wonder
1:24 2.Non-verbal language
2:05 3.Act differently
2:54 4.back-handed compliments
3:26 5. Self-absorbed conversations
3:58 6. social exclusion
4:28 7.missed calls or left on read
needed this last year
Very interesting, yet useful information!
the social exclusion hits hard for me because one of my friend groups would plan hangouts without me and they would only include me in plans if i reach out to them 😒 they would make excuses saying that they only met up because they all happened to be free at that very moment… but this was an ongoing thing :/
I'm not a likeable person even though I'm polite & respectful with everyone & never start trouble. I could never figure out why but now I couldn't care less.
This video explains, why no one wanted anything to do with me during school.
Thank you for sharing
Every time I have a crush, I get really shy, which is normal right? Well, when I get nervous around my crush I try to counteract it by acting nonchalant around them. I think this has lead to me actively ignoring them and being unfriendly to them. I’ve only realized this recently. And as soon as I did, my crush started ignoring me in the same kind of way. Now, I’m trying to recover. I didn’t think of it, but we were kind of friends but I was just shying and pushing away from it, I was just scared.
Please learn from this, if you’re shy around your crush, just be their friend. It’s ok to be nonchalant with them, but remember to be their friend. That’s what relationships are built on; how well you get along and like each other. So if you like them, show it, but don’t be too obvious, like just be chill. If they act friendly back, great. They might like you back or at least want to be your friend.
Thank you for the suggestion. I used to ignore my crush just so he wouldn't know that I like him. So whatever you said does make sense.
Excellent!
Humans are complicated like that, I'm all about not bothering people but if I lean too much into that there's gonna be a point when I just lose that person because I stopped speaking to them, it takes strength but sometimes you've got to say something even if it's uncomfortable, for me even vaguely suggesting that I'm not happy is scary enough but I can't just sit with it.
This applies to other emotions too but you need to find it in you to let it out somehow, bottling it just causes isolation and anguish.
If you get to know each other well enough muster up some courage to share these feelings, sure if you get rejected it'll hurt but it's better to experience that pain and know you tried then to never try and wonder endlessly about what would have happened if you did.
@@OneBoredCatbug This is very good advice. These are the words of a mature adult ... that much is clear.
🦉👍
Thanks for the tips.
I guess that's the sign they dislike me, no wonder why.
Great Video!
How did this video go for you? :)
Ty for such wonderful videos!!!
Thanks so much for being here! Hope this video helps you!
@@Psych2go it actually does! Your videos always manage to calm me down! Thank you!
dawg i needed this thank you
Any time! :) did any of these signs resonate with you?
Shared ❤
Strong message
I have a feeling my crush just dislikes me for no reason
We used to be very good friends some time ago but... she just randomly shifted personalities again, she ignores me most of the time, no eye contact, and she's very quiet and calm for the extroverted type of person she is.
And i dont want to make anything big out of it but... it honestly hurts a lot...
I actually act different around every person I know, even if I know them💀
Now, we are talking.
How funny,i have this Problem right now( I was ignored and scared away .Thank u.
i've learned to assume people don't like me until they prove otherwise.
Finally, a psych2go video i can somewhat relate to
It hurts to realize
I guess my coworkers like me, they sometimes give me food and hand-me-down clothes. One time, one of them bought me a new pair of shoes because I happened to mention it was getting to be about time to get new shoes. It doesn't hurt as bad that other people might not like me, but then I'm not the most social guy around and don't really want to be around people when off work.
I saw this notification rigth after I finished talking with my crush for a while. It felt horrible to see this after talking to her...
I freaking need this
You don't have to tell me, they all dislike me
I feel that..
I found that I was the one who dislikes them all, without knowing 😂
Nah they hate me bro😂😅
Yeah its better just admit ppl hate your guts.
I'm a male, and I do act more polite around women, especially at work. I do the same thing with male who act polite and friendly, but it doesn't mean I dislike them.
I enjoy my time the most with someone who I can just talk with without having to fear of being misunderstood. Just casually throwing insults at each other and laughing about it.
This hurts 😭😭😭😭
Thanks Psyc2go
According to this, nobody I meet likes me. Sounds about right. 🤷🏼♀️
For everyone here taking this personally, that is a sign that something needs to be worked on within one’s self.
It's me. 😅 I always try push the person I don't like away from me.
Amanda's voice!!!
Im sooo so glad these are unfamiliar signs...
When we face something harder than before you lose your mind so you tell people who love to leave you even in your heart don't want. Then they leave, you back them to come back, you apologize but never return. Leave massage on read , reply but avoid the replying of apologies, don't call back.
I, honestly, had to use subtitles to understand the audio.
Currently i am in this situation.
Very hurtful !
How can i get out from this toxic situation ? Blocking ? Stay away ? But we are colleagues !
Whatever harsh thing that i did will make me the bad guy.
(long comment/rant warning!!)
i have to confess, i act like this (or at least similar) to an online friend of mine. i... don't exactly enjoy chatting with them, and one of the main factors of this is because my friend likes to spam me. a lot. everytime I didn't answer by 3 seconds, they would immediately start spamming me. it annoys me so damn much, i began acting more distant, and lately even more cold to them. i guess it kinda worked since they've been spamming me a lot less lately...? but they still do, and everytime they spam me, i ask them to stop and even clearly state my dislike towards it, yet... they seem like they're ignoring my discomfort. i don't understand if THEY don't understand, or just refuses to stop for some reason. that's why i've been trying to act as distant and cold as possible (i've never been this bad of a friend and honestly i feel a bit guilty), so they'll back off and _finally_ come to their senses that i don't like them. it may be harsh to hear, but i honestly think it's a waste of time for the both of us to engage with eachother if one is disinterested, and the other has a terrible friend. i have no idea why until now they still decided to chat me... even if i've made my dislike pretty clear. i don't know if they are that dense, or.... they still somehow want to be friends with me. i'm honestly so confused
Now I'm even more paranoid about it. I start to suspect those signs in core members of my social groups. Also, I don't have enough energy to socialize, so I tend to be passive in convos, and it's hard for me to think of responses, and I appear leaving people on read. F me, right?
Yeah my friend would give advice whrn he felt like it, but then ghost me when with his girl, or even by himself
Pretty sure I’m going through something like this at the moment
It was eating at me I’ll admit but now that I’ve sat on it longer. It’s their loss
Not even upset anymore I just wonder why others haven’t noticed
Social Exclusion really hit hard...
I have this person, left me on read, cant maintain eye contact or even acknowledge my presence and make me wonder, do they dislike me, chances are yes
I have bpd and it upsets me when someone doesn’t like me because I just be minding my own business.
useful!
Im a VERY socially aware person, i notice right away if someone doesnt like me. i also can notice when a person dont like someone else. it feels like a curse and a blessing because i can get my shit away as soon as possible, and also wondering what did i do :(
Thanks
I love your original narrator voice Amanda. Where is she?😢
She's here! :) We have a small voice over team giving others a chance to shine too!
I usually do these to show someone I’m uncomfortable around them, or does not like what they do. Cause Y’know..feels rude to say it to their face, especially if you know they’re the type to start crying, telling everyone you hate them, play 100% victim, it’s- really annoying. For example, if someone continuously sneaks up to me, drags me around, does a lot of physical touch, or make themselves seem superior compared to me, I may throw in one or two signs to tell them to stop. Usually, I’m more silent around them, with a more “shy” personality(replying to questions/statements with a few words, trying to leave their side whenever I have the chance, etc.) I know most people watching this wants to know if someone dislikes them, and may hate people who show these signs, but uh, just sayin.
Finally, a video for me
I hope this video helps you!
I think this was an interesting video but I have some salt to add to it. Like one commenter said, ppl can like you and not want to be around you. Just bc they like you generally doesn't mean that certain aspects, habits, or topics that person brings up can give the impression of dislike because they don't like those things. And unfortunately sometimes it's a matter of the person not picking up that every time that happens it turns us off or that, bc the thing is not itself bad, we avoid the person via messages or in-person bc we don't want to hurt their feelings since it is an "us" thing.
In my school, I've been in this one for a year. I'm a extrovert n I do get attention easily. So there's this girl, she acts like she likes me but I feel like she's jealous of me n hates me inside. Like the thing is her best friends also talk to me alot n I can feel her giving me a jealous look.
Honestly i m slowly turning into one of them.I m just drained all the time these days.
Well I cross my legs and arms all the time so guess I am spooking everyone away 😆 And I am not going to stop crossing my legs and arms since in my case it serves as a self soothing mechanism in or out of social situations. I would take the advice from this video with a grain of salt and say that you should look for multiple subtle signs not only one or three and after a long period of time not just first meeting.
The people I call friends REALLY don't like me.
But I just want them to laugh. How can I approach them?
With dpd and cptsd its no wonder iv experienced a fair amount of these, thing is theres not many people left and i dont especially like a number of them.
Im just terrible st texting and social cues. I like them.
Good video! Although.. it probably would have been more accurate to title it: SIGNS someone doesn't like you. Not REASONS someone dislikes you. One states its a possibility based on behavior of OTHERS, while the latter states its YOUR behaviors causing it.
Avoiding any meaningful conversation with you and changing the subject to more superficial things.
Not engaging and acting aloof when you try to talk about yourself or things that matter to you.
Noticing that common friends are suddenly starting to keep a distance from you after having talked to this person.
Any behaviour that can be attributed to plausible deniability like unnecessary vagueness.
When a person talks almost exclusively about themselves this is a red flag for narcissism. Best stay clear of such people.
Tbh I never know even with signs of someone likes me or if they show those signs. I live and grown up in CA and a lot of people don’t have real openess of emotion or how they feel unless they r close to someone, so honestly I’m not sure if my friends or coworkers like m it’s tough to understand other people let alone myself 😐
i thought my friends didnt like me so thats why i watched this vid , but good news they like me cause , 1 they always invite me to go with them even tho i say no cause i cant go
2 they never leave me on read even tho i sometimes leave them on read
3 they always look for me when i dont go to school even tho i sometimes ignore them
(im a bad friend)
Thanks for the advice, now I just need to know how to cut them from my life because they trap you in
It's important to prioritize your well-being. Have you considered having an open conversation with them about your boundaries and feelings?
The body language cues may be misleading with neurodiverse individuals. "Looking over your shoulder," "avoiding eye contact," "facing away from you when talking to you," and "lack of physical contact" can all come from someone who likes you but has autism.
Yeah, as someone who has autism I do like all those things. Also (idk if this is an autism or anxiety thing bc I have both) I need to know the time like all the time, if I dont know it roughly then it makes me uncomfortable so I have a watch and I check it all. The. Time. Just because I want to know the time, not because I’m not enjoying myself or want to be somewhere else.
Met this woman at community collage. Now i struggle with social stuff. And i havent had friends in 4+ years or so. I see that shes very kind and nerdy like me. So i mustered up all the courage i could and popped the question of "your cool and i would like to hang out more!" She said yes! And i gave her my contact info and we split ways. 6 days as past and havent hears shit from her. It was to good to be True. I look like a fucking fool now.
This sounds traumatic to me, In 1st year college I used to socialize to my classmates for Barkada until I found that they avoiding me even I speak clearly they just ignored me like a ghost. The worst part is the transfer student has gained MORE barkadas and then my classmates are enjoying it, I try to control myself and forget them😢
That social exclusion I'm glad that never happens, my friends whenever I can't come they would want to be like swat team ziptiding down a helicopter towards my place 💀
I have a friend who’s like this but only around me AND our other friends, what does that mean?
What about if you've picked up on these things that are going on in your friendship, but you also know that this person would rather ignore the dislikes for you rather than be without you in the person's life?
People hate me cause I’m being too real & genuine while they’re being fake, they said 1 but did 2 most of the time, I don’t give af anymore if they hate my guts or whatever the more I grown up. Just Be Yourself, you don’t have to be friends & try to fit in with everyone
I'm the one that dislikes someone lol, though I still respect them and wish them the best.
Friends may make you you happy but true friends make you happier.