Painful truths!!! Respect is key. Boundaries. If you can avoid dependency, too much interaction.... Keep respectable distance!! Don't be too focused on inheritance.. It can be bait. Be happy on your own first.. So that marriage is a crowning to your happiness. Avoid entanglements and triangulation.
Not really, from what he talks he bases his words and lectures from a worldly perspective not from a religious perspective. As a Muslim am obliged to follow the quran not opinions of men
I left my marriage a month ago because of my ex mother in law. No boundaries, she digs into me so much, sends a million messages to me that make no sense...and of family secrets heh!!!!! Dark daaarrkkk stuff that makes you cringe. I left cz he never once protected me. He stood by quietly cz she finances him. Anyway, I'm at peace
Surprisingly enough most daughters - in - law like it when the husband mistreats his mother and even join her husband in mistreating her mother-in-law.
He must be firm. Because mothers can also overstep boundaries. Also you should separate yourself completely the new wine from the old wine. Genesis 2:24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Mwiks, beautiful dress you're wearing. 👌 I like how you say "okay" lol, it sounds cute. 🤗 Ladies, for as long as you're not married to the guy, stop exchanging contact details with their parents. Stop being forward! We really have to know our place as girlfriends and daughters in law once we do get to that stage. Today Benjamin, you didn't speak like a psychologist, but you spoke like a parent who cares about his kids. Highly appreciated 🥂 Beautiful teachings as always
He used to lie fearlessly to his mother, lying about things which didn't need to be lied on. He used to Criticize her. Inwardly i knew this guy will be doing the same on me. Ladies please Runnnnnnnn!! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
Hey hey. I did what Benjamin talks of advising your man when his having difficulties with his mother. They are closer since but Yoh past 6years I have been receiving it bad from my man, what his mother did to him his doing it to me... so unfair.
Sorry to say but that's a kid. They are exes they belong to the past, the ship sailed to the high seas and having those photos it's a reminder of the dry port .
its so true about voicing your opinions as a daughter in law. But what else can you do when the whole family sits and wait for you to act, sometimes you would observe that everything is as at stand still until you do something. Especially at functions you are suppose to please every member including extended onces
Yeeeeey💃💃we have planted atree we are of age we have dated and we are now married....we are now been coached on how to deal with in laws....Now heading to how to handle separation.....Benja hapo ndio nakungoja kwa HAMU!
Men,from the word go,plan where to settle your family,hata Kama it's the same neighborhood, probably buy your own piece of land however small,you are creating a territory for your family which even in death,no one will encroach,but Kama Ni ancestral land and goats are let into your kitchen garden intentionally,your hus will calmly tell you nifanye Nini Sasa and they are my people, and the next time you will be packing your bags ju ya kukasirika!
Very technical here my dear. How would you feel if your own son loves his wife more than you.....you gave birth to him......men wako kwa shida. They have to balance coz if they lean on one side, the other collapses. But I pray to God to enable me be close to my son now. In future when he marries, I should accept and know that he now has a family.
It's a lie my brother loved his wife so so much and mistreated my mum , he died with his hatred towards his mother I wonder if he still hate her in spiritual world.
Marriage needs you to be street smart..tough love and respectful distance... understand that she knows your hubby in ways only she can but work on your own routine...
Mwikali isn’t ready to meet real men because she plays too hard to get. I tried finding a way to meet her but she never responded to my IG DMs. So when she ends up with poor choices, she can’t blame anyone but herself.
If u really want her u will make sure u get to Her. Men who give uo easily arent worth it. Be persistent!! If the door is locked take it down or climb through a window. Determination is attractive.
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Painful truths!!! Respect is key. Boundaries. If you can avoid dependency, too much interaction.... Keep respectable distance!! Don't be too focused on inheritance.. It can be bait. Be happy on your own first.. So that marriage is a crowning to your happiness. Avoid entanglements and triangulation.
@@victorchege2506 usitusumbue mimi na Mburu na izo coded message..life is already difficult......out here....ama iyo ni mburoti maguta maguta??????
Well said sista!🤗
Team Benjamin 👏👌he spits wisdom
Okitegeeraaa, he's really da best
I agree with you 💯
Benjamin you are on point the only thing you owe in laws is respect , nothing else!!!!!!
I miss joyce but mwikali came in like a hurricane their is no vacuum😍😍
She has been a breath of fresh air.....big up gal😍😍
This guy has a great wisdom in him and he is really sharing it. U are very much appreciated Benjamin Zulu.
"First and second year be a keen observer" Benjamin , lm taking notes ✍✍
"Don't mistake appearances for realities "🤗
Learning for future reference ☺️
Dear God let me not only Marrry a good man,but also into a goo family for my children's sake and peace
You attract who you are, birds of the same feathers will always flock together
Amen
Amen. May God grant you the desires of your heart.
I love your prayer.
Zulu says ”Relationships Are Voluntary Things!!” If it doesn’t serve you....no Respect, no Warmth EXIT
👏👏👏
Benjamin Zulu is really loaded with Wisdom!!!
Fully loaded
lndeed 🙌🙌
Not really, from what he talks he bases his words and lectures from a worldly perspective not from a religious perspective. As a Muslim am obliged to follow the quran not opinions of men
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 then just leave, you don't have to follow his opinions
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 if you are obliged to follow the Quran then what are you doing here?
"Do not mistake appearances for reality "
Sure thing some people are good looking but have a rotting mind or heart in themselves
All the episodes of Benjamin Zulu talks about the reality,he's a super mentor😍
The wisdom Benjamin oozes weee
Greetings Mwikali and Benjamin. You guys are on another level. Benjamin , l have really learnt alot from you. Your blessed. Winnie from Ugandan.
Self reliance is the way to go,well said Benjamin,🤩🤩🤩
Thanks for your endless advice
Well said if aman doesn't listen/respect his mother .
That's a hurricane in waiting
Mwikali looking good ♨️
I left my marriage a month ago because of my ex mother in law. No boundaries, she digs into me so much, sends a million messages to me that make no sense...and of family secrets heh!!!!! Dark daaarrkkk stuff that makes you cringe. I left cz he never once protected me. He stood by quietly cz she finances him. Anyway, I'm at peace
More peace gal
No worries we are just temporary on this planet don't waste your time with negative people
So sorry.
Well done,be happy
i love this show
Mwikali I love you for bringing in this gentleman he speaks the truth.
Oh
Benjamin has said it all.. 👌
Is always about the mother-in-law. We never talk about the father-in-laws. They're super chilled.
Benjamin I love these advice... You just the best ... Thank you
More wisdom Zulu, learning for future reference
Such a powerful session🎉🎉
I just Love today's show, Great wisdom and very calm atmosphere!
Saa hii Zulu is nice asubui machos
Surprisingly enough most daughters - in - law like it when the husband mistreats his mother and even join her husband in mistreating her mother-in-law.
I thank God for Benjamin his so wise....yaani he gives tips for life....💯🔥
Learning thanks Benjamin and Mwikali😊
Loving the show...
Wowwww those were good lessons ahki🥂🥂🥂🥂
Full of wisdom. Thanks for sharing. Respect is a virtue
He must be firm. Because mothers can also overstep boundaries. Also you should separate yourself completely the new wine from the old wine. Genesis 2:24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
The way My elder siz (Mwikali)is listening to our brother ,You will need to take note
Thanks for your great wisdom sir🙏👂🤝
This man is filled with wisdom.😊
Thank so much for knowledge Ben can you teach man to take care of their woman please please there are boys only on this world
Sooo true, how can one mistreat their own mum and claim to love their wife? It doesn't seem logical at all..
God bless you real good, this means so much to me.🙏🏻
"You both are looking very smart in ur dressing as always"
Mwiks, beautiful dress you're wearing. 👌
I like how you say "okay" lol, it sounds cute. 🤗
Ladies, for as long as you're not married to the guy, stop exchanging contact details with their parents.
Stop being forward!
We really have to know our place as girlfriends and daughters in law once we do get to that stage.
Today Benjamin, you didn't speak like a psychologist, but you spoke like a parent who cares about his kids.
Highly appreciated 🥂
Beautiful teachings as always
Nice 👢on Mwiks. I have always loved ankle boots.
He used to lie fearlessly to his mother, lying about things which didn't need to be lied on. He used to Criticize her. Inwardly i knew this guy will be doing the same on me. Ladies please Runnnnnnnn!! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
Wisdom, Benjamin Zulu!
Hey hey. I did what Benjamin talks of advising your man when his having difficulties with his mother. They are closer since but Yoh past 6years I have been receiving it bad from my man, what his mother did to him his doing it to me... so unfair.
I the issue of money was played to me and my husband.
This is a great wisdom
Benjamin, next time talk about these husbands who still keep contacts with exes and backups of intimate photos
Sorry to say but that's a kid. They are exes they belong to the past, the ship sailed to the high seas and having those photos it's a reminder of the dry port .
He talked about it with B.mswafari on citizen.
They never moved on. They are to blame for the break up
Sweet.and right advice
My great great grandma valued distance 😂😂😂😂...Finally I have something to say
Much love ❤️ ❤️
Wisdoms 👌
Taking notes
"..do not mistake appearance for reality.." 😭😭Machozi tu.
"..be firm with your boundaries without being combative.." wueeeh!
Calibrate your mind to thinking!! This is a word 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
its so true about voicing your opinions as a daughter in law. But what else can you do when the whole family sits and wait for you to act, sometimes you would observe that everything is as at stand still until you do something. Especially at functions you are suppose to please every member including extended onces
This one I got tired.. Decided to be me.They can frawn all they want 😂😂
@@florawuoketch7618 😂😂😂😂
Yeeeeey💃💃we have planted atree we are of age we have dated and we are now married....we are now been coached on how to deal with in laws....Now heading to how to handle separation.....Benja hapo ndio nakungoja kwa HAMU!
🧟♀️🧟♀️🧟♀️🧟♀️
Men,from the word go,plan where to settle your family,hata Kama it's the same neighborhood, probably buy your own piece of land however small,you are creating a territory for your family which even in death,no one will encroach,but Kama Ni ancestral land and goats are let into your kitchen garden intentionally,your hus will calmly tell you nifanye Nini Sasa and they are my people, and the next time you will be packing your bags ju ya kukasirika!
Very true. Distance brings about respect.
Kesho I'm baptising myself in reality
Some love their mom than partner
Very technical here my dear. How would you feel if your own son loves his wife more than you.....you gave birth to him......men wako kwa shida. They have to balance coz if they lean on one side, the other collapses. But I pray to God to enable me be close to my son now. In future when he marries, I should accept and know that he now has a family.
My husband doesn't talk soo much .i decided to defend my self they fear me most .niliwafukuza kwangu i know they hate me i dont care.
Unless the in laws are a nuisance try to create harmony. Imagine you being disallowed to visit your brother's house.
How is Zulu the youngest and wisest guest on the show.
Does Benjamin come to the show every Wednesday and if so.... What time?
@switchtvkenya
It's a lie my brother loved his wife so so much and mistreated my mum , he died with his hatred towards his mother I wonder if he still hate her in spiritual world.
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Ashasema 100%
Marriage needs you to be street smart..tough love and respectful distance... understand that she knows your hubby in ways only she can but work on your own routine...
Sanie Tippers come
Mask zulu and mwiks😷😷
Mwikali isn’t ready to meet real men because she plays too hard to get. I tried finding a way to meet her but she never responded to my IG DMs. So when she ends up with poor choices, she can’t blame anyone but herself.
She is a public figure. I genuinely believe that it's just hard for her to get back to all of her DMs.
@@kavuumakau8802 Weak excuse!!!
@onyonyo with your last statement, are you in love?
@@nanaama9137 In Lust for the Brisket & Loins 😀
If u really want her u will make sure u get to
Her. Men who give uo easily arent worth it. Be persistent!! If the door is locked take it down or climb through a window. Determination is attractive.
Huyu mzee uongea sana 🚮🚮
Taking notes