Yup, i have many, many mother's like this. One mother used her son as her husband after the guy died. they mom & son were beyond close but she tore him apart, was super nasty to me, hated his friends and learned everything about his women then turned all of it against them no matter how mice the women were. she was jealous! jealous! jealous!
This is exactly what happened with me, my soon to be ex husband and his mom. A yr and a half into our marriage my ex started discarding me, he would leave our home by starting a fight, blame me for the fight. Block me on his phone and ghost me for days or even weeks at a time. He has addiction issues and I knew he was using hardcore drugs and alcohol. I later found out he was also cheating on me. I tried to text his mother what was going on and she always would end up talking to him without answering me. He told her I was crazy and then he would message me and tell me that his mom wanted me to know she didn’t want to hear about our ‘marital problems’. I was scared for him and our marriage. I was trying to get help from his family, he’s an only child. The last time I took him back was June 2021, we went to his moms house to pick up his stuff and she told him “Get that woman out of my house!” I’ve never cheated on him or lied to him or done anything to deserve how they both treated me. It was crazy and yes he always sided with her except for that particular time. I’m happy to be getting out of this toxic situation. Thank you for addressing this issue. ❤
My exes mom was also a pathological liar and very covert… she was a ‘ martyr’ in her church and yet lied and stole with the sweetest facade. She really did him wrong as a child and he is very damaged. Also undermined me and triangulated while sappy sweet and appearing maternal. He used to tell me that he was working on not lying but look at how his mother was… What a mess.
I discovered that my guy and his mother had this issue. She sees him as a suragate husband, even though her husband is around. I don't feel good when around her. She tries to be friendly, but i know it's fake.
Girl, are you still with him? If you allow me to ask you some questions, did you talk about it with your guy or does he know how you feel when you're around her and neglect it? Pay attention. He came from a very toxic mother and it tends to end not very well. Save yourself. God bless you 💕
exactly the same with covert narcissistic women and their mothers. I had 2 experiences, same setup. Very critical mother but act as a saint. And very controlling. I told both of them to send their mothers to hell or at least say NO, but it was impossible. They are slaves of them and I've noticed it's generational sequence. I felt huge pity for those narc girls. Slaves for life, likely. 2yo slaves, emotionally.
Oh my gosh!! Do you know me?!! This totally explains my ex. He is a narcissist that also has extreme alcoholism. I think he was struggling with alcohol for many many years, but of course he hid it. He was always a narcissist but the alcohol makes it worse. He has no emotional connection at all with his mother. They lived in the same house of course growing up, be she was never present in his life. I think he was lonely as a child and has made up an alter arrogant ego that he cant part with. He would tell her all these dramatic lies, about what he owned, his job position, his 401K savings.... complete lies. She would verbally express praise, but never showed up for him in childhood or adulthood. He took his anger out on me, verbally and physically. He says he is the best looking man, all women want him, he is the most athletic, he is the best in bed, etc etc etc. we have 3 kids. He is jealous of our kids. He is not there for them at all, emotionally, physically, or financially. When/if he talks to them its stories that he makes up bragging about himself. He is pathetic.
yup know one like this too! awful relationship between mother and son. @ her own birthday party she ripped him apart over and over and over at her own birthday party! so awful!!
my brother inlaw HATESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS !! his mother he turned all of his venom on me and convinced my own sister to leave me. I was the interloper in their marriage. He asked me negotiate a DIVORCE BETWEEN HIM AND MY SISTER! HE NEVER TOLD HER HOW UNHAPPY HE WAS IN THEMARRIAGE. HE TOLD ME ONE DAY THAT HE HATED MY SISTER AND HE WANTED A DIVORCE. HIS MOTHER SAID "NO DIVORCE". SO MY B-IN-LAW CAME TO ME! TO ALLOW HIM TO DIVORCE MY SISTER/ HIS WIFE! WHEN I FINALLY TOLD MY SISTER WHAT WAS HAPPENING HE TURNED IT ALL AROUND TO TELL MY SISTER "IWAS COMING ON TO HIM!" WHAT?????????????????????? THEN HE MADE HER CHOOSE BETWEEN HIM OR ME! I LOST !
My MIL tells me "just take it in stride".....done with her and her "golden son". She can have him back after I stamp the "manufacterer's defect" stamp on his shaved head.
I have her book and it is excellent! Thank you for this topic as it applies to me right now exactly as you described! Been with him for 24 years, married 22 and last year things exploded with his narc family and narc mother after they started making lewd comments to my children and my husband would not deal with it and I stood up to them all and he threw me under the bus and I became their scapegoat. I was very naive and never realized the hidden aspects of this as you explained so well. It has been very very difficult the past few months. I just read Ken Adams' book "When He's Married to Mom" and everything about him that I've been in a fog about for over 20 years now makes sense and it is disturbing as well as enlightening. Trying to figure out where to go from here. Daughter is 18 and son is almost 14. I do not want to be with him anymore. He has betrayed me over and over and this latest betrayal with his mom was the final straw.
Is it that difficult to say men can have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome also? Us men who have been brought up by Narcissistic Mom's are more likely suffering CPTSD and Emotional Incest. Without escaping this Toxic Family System most men are doomed to appear as Narcissistic.
This explains exactly what i was in for 12 years
He has to choose his mother! Yes, it is inevitable.
Yup, i have many, many mother's like this. One mother used her son as her husband after the guy died. they mom & son were beyond close but she tore him apart, was super nasty to me, hated his friends and learned everything about his women then turned all of it against them no matter how mice the women were. she was jealous! jealous! jealous!
Spot on insights and truths like this always leave me feeling like the content creators must have studied my family.
This is exactly what happened with me, my soon to be ex husband and his mom. A yr and a half into our marriage my ex started discarding me, he would leave our home by starting a fight, blame me for the fight. Block me on his phone and ghost me for days or even weeks at a time. He has addiction issues and I knew he was using hardcore drugs and alcohol. I later found out he was also cheating on me. I tried to text his mother what was going on and she always would end up talking to him without answering me. He told her I was crazy and then he would message me and tell me that his mom wanted me to know she didn’t want to hear about our ‘marital problems’. I was scared for him and our marriage. I was trying to get help from his family, he’s an only child. The last time I took him back was June 2021, we went to his moms house to pick up his stuff and she told him “Get that woman out of my house!” I’ve never cheated on him or lied to him or done anything to deserve how they both treated me. It was crazy and yes he always sided with her except for that particular time. I’m happy to be getting out of this toxic situation. Thank you for addressing this issue. ❤
A thousand times yes.
I can relate to the spouse smearing his wife and kids to the dirtbag mother! Its all just gross. Abandon all hope.
My exes mom was also a pathological liar and very covert… she was a ‘ martyr’ in her church and yet lied and stole with the sweetest facade.
She really did him wrong as a child and he is very damaged. Also undermined me and triangulated while sappy sweet and appearing maternal.
He used to tell me that he was working on not lying but look at how his mother was…
What a mess.
Going through the same with husband and MIL!
@@anewchapter1336same story here
I discovered that my guy and his mother had this issue. She sees him as a suragate husband, even though her husband is around. I don't feel good when around her. She tries to be friendly, but i know it's fake.
Girl, are you still with him?
If you allow me to ask you some questions, did you talk about it with your guy or does he know how you feel when you're around her and neglect it?
Pay attention.
He came from a very toxic mother and it tends to end not very well.
Save yourself.
God bless you 💕
Exactly my experience with my ex’s mom
But my husband expresses rage with me! I don’t understand. His mother is absolutely a narcissist. He complains all the time and yells at me.
exactly the same with covert narcissistic women and their mothers. I had 2 experiences, same setup. Very critical mother but act as a saint. And very controlling. I told both of them to send their mothers to hell or at least say NO, but it was impossible. They are slaves of them and I've noticed it's generational sequence. I felt huge pity for those narc girls. Slaves for life, likely. 2yo slaves, emotionally.
Oh my gosh!! Do you know me?!! This totally explains my ex. He is a narcissist that also has extreme alcoholism. I think he was struggling with alcohol for many many years, but of course he hid it. He was always a narcissist but the alcohol makes it worse. He has no emotional connection at all with his mother. They lived in the same house of course growing up, be she was never present in his life. I think he was lonely as a child and has made up an alter arrogant ego that he cant part with. He would tell her all these dramatic lies, about what he owned, his job position, his 401K savings.... complete lies. She would verbally express praise, but never showed up for him in childhood or adulthood. He took his anger out on me, verbally and physically. He says he is the best looking man, all women want him, he is the most athletic, he is the best in bed, etc etc etc. we have 3 kids. He is jealous of our kids. He is not there for them at all, emotionally, physically, or financially. When/if he talks to them its stories that he makes up bragging about himself. He is pathetic.
yup know one like this too! awful relationship between mother and son. @ her own birthday party she ripped him apart over and over and over at her own birthday party! so awful!!
Spot on, sister!!🎯🎯🎯
my brother inlaw HATESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS !! his mother he turned all of his venom on me and convinced my own sister to leave me. I was the interloper in their marriage. He asked me negotiate a DIVORCE BETWEEN HIM AND MY SISTER! HE NEVER TOLD HER HOW UNHAPPY HE WAS IN THEMARRIAGE. HE TOLD ME ONE DAY THAT HE HATED MY SISTER AND HE WANTED A DIVORCE. HIS MOTHER SAID "NO DIVORCE". SO MY B-IN-LAW CAME TO ME! TO ALLOW HIM TO DIVORCE MY SISTER/ HIS WIFE! WHEN I FINALLY TOLD MY SISTER WHAT WAS HAPPENING HE TURNED IT ALL AROUND TO TELL MY SISTER "IWAS COMING ON TO HIM!" WHAT?????????????????????? THEN HE MADE HER CHOOSE BETWEEN HIM OR ME! I LOST !
X narcs mom would always tell me, this too shall pass, yes a scripture from the Bible, total fake Christianity, she never acknowledged the abuse.
My MIL tells me "just take it in stride".....done with her and her "golden son". She can have him back after I stamp the "manufacterer's defect" stamp on his shaved head.
They love to play christian 🤮I’m out!!
@@anewchapter1336yes girl!! She can have him back!!! 😘
I have her book and it is excellent! Thank you for this topic as it applies to me right now exactly as you described! Been with him for 24 years, married 22 and last year things exploded with his narc family and narc mother after they started making lewd comments to my children and my husband would not deal with it and I stood up to them all and he threw me under the bus and I became their scapegoat. I was very naive and never realized the hidden aspects of this as you explained so well. It has been very very difficult the past few months. I just read Ken Adams' book "When He's Married to Mom" and everything about him that I've been in a fog about for over 20 years now makes sense and it is disturbing as well as enlightening. Trying to figure out where to go from here. Daughter is 18 and son is almost 14. I do not want to be with him anymore. He has betrayed me over and over and this latest betrayal with his mom was the final straw.
Is it that difficult to say men can have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome also? Us men who have been brought up by Narcissistic Mom's are more likely suffering CPTSD and Emotional Incest. Without escaping this Toxic Family System most men are doomed to appear as Narcissistic.
Interesting points
Did emotional incest became sexual incest?????
a golden child (narcissist) has misogynist,