Three years i have punished myself. What I have learnt from all this is that I MATTER. Im grateful for my faith and the help in therapy. This to will pass as long as i have faith. Thank you for this 💕
Three years for me & it still feels like carrying a heavy burden on my shoulders every day. . I've only just come across your channel & I'm looking forward to learning how to get out of this heartbreaking situation which makes me feel I'm only half alive. The words spoken by my formerly kind & caring son, who I always believed had my back, reverberate through me every day. I just wish I knew how to stop those thoughts & try to live a fulfilling life again. I think I may have CPTSD as the feelings are the same as when this happened & severely limit my ability to function.
Dear @versewriter8123: Thank you for writing and sharing here. I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you are getting the support you need at this time. There is no reason you need to do this alone. Being estranged is traumatic and it takes time to process grief. Having someone in your corner would help you to get back to living. Please do your best to make the step in finding help. Let me know how you are doing.
My daughter at the time was 36.She was my best friend and my grandson was my world.I didn't like the way her boyfriend was treating my grandson. So she took herself away from me and my 11yr old grandson. I lost myself with grief. I was inconsolable. No phychotriest or therapy was helping. I started having hallucinations and my vomiting. Losing weight. This went on for 5yrs. I lost all family and friends. I was in and out the hospital. At 17my grandson came to see me.Today our bond is as close as ever.My daughter. is with a different person.All my family loves my daughter. But this year I had to let go.Things went to far.She is happy to get rid of me.I tried everything to bring us back.Nothing worked. I had to do the work myself. I'm going to be 65 and I can't go through retirement crying over her.For me I had to remove her from my soul.So now I can say.Im recovering. I cried to many tears.I now have PTSD.But I'm feeling peace and some happiness in my soul. The Lord helped me through. It took 6.5 yrs .To finally understand the she changed.too.And I'm going to be ok.😊❤❤❤
It’s been 16 months for me and also my only daughter and I miss my granddaughter terribly and never met my 15 month old grandson. She never even bothered to call me when she gave birth to him. I found out through my brother. She went out one day and changed her phone including her number and now all I can do is send her snail mail. Couldn’t even tell you if she reads it. But as of Easter, I went back to church and I absolutely love this church, and I have just decided to ask God to take my anxiety and pain away and allow me to move forward from this. It has helped a lot. We deserve joy in our lives. I’m not going to allow anyone to take that away from me. I wish you the best❤
@@jenradtekwow what did you do wrong? You must feel so guilty. I hope your kids are doing well . Just deal with it and move on. Many people should never have kids.
What do you do when your parent refuses to acknowledge they did anything wrong to you as a child, then cuts contact calling the child toxic and too much? The adult child needs to have answers are they entitled to those answers? Shouldn’t the parent want to help the adult child feel whole? Have the answers and closure they need? What happens when the parent dies without answering the child’s questions? How do we move on?
I have kept my mouth shut for years so I could visit my granddaughter until my last visit a few months ago. She had no food to eat and told me everything is rotten in the refrigerator. My adult daughter is a hoarder of stuff and old rotten food. I even found a large dead rodent in a bag. I had to tell my daughter FOOD IS A PRIORITY! She stated I crossed her boundaries and ever sense have not been allowed to see my granddaughter whom I love and would die for. She said she will never forget me and told me she loves me. How do you get over this? Was it me who should have just stayed quiet. I think so. My daughter says that I judge her and she will not be in my life anymore and has also stopped all communication between my granddaughter and I. I cannot write a letter to her,send a Birthday or Christmas card. She has dismissed me completely out of their lives.
Walk away. You do realize that you raised her. If your daughter has problems .. …. You created them. Walk away and mind your own business. None of it matters anyway. Life is fleeting
just saw this but you are allowing your granddaughter living in an environment where her nutritional needs are being neglected; you need to call child care services; a dead rat in a bag and she is still in that house??? HELL TO THE NO...please help your granddaughter.
My 3 adult children have not talked to me in 10 months .I've not seen my 2 grandchildren it's Been so hard .I messed it up with their mother cheated on her hurt her it was over long ago but I still was wrong in wat I did and that's all my family see .it's been a challenge to stay alive now I've reached out message calls letters but to no use .it's like life means nothing anymore because I miss them so much .
Thank you for sharing. I’m curious, do you think parents benefit from continuing to pursue and be vulnerable to continued rejection? Do you believe parents would benefit from making a life for themselves when their kids discard them repeatedly?
Three years i have punished myself. What I have learnt from all this is that I MATTER. Im grateful for my faith and the help in therapy. This to will pass as long as i have faith. Thank you for this 💕
You're so welcome, thank you for sharing.
Three years for me & it still feels like carrying a heavy burden on my shoulders every day. . I've only just come across your channel & I'm looking forward to learning how to get out of this heartbreaking situation which makes me feel I'm only half alive. The words spoken by my formerly kind & caring son, who I always believed had my back, reverberate through me every day. I just wish I knew how to stop those thoughts & try to live a fulfilling life again. I think I may have CPTSD as the feelings are the same as when this happened & severely limit my ability to function.
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Dear @versewriter8123: Thank you for writing and sharing here. I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you are getting the support you need at this time. There is no reason you need to do this alone. Being estranged is traumatic and it takes time to process grief. Having someone in your corner would help you to get back to living. Please do your best to make the step in finding help. Let me know how you are doing.
My daughter at the time was 36.She was my best friend and my grandson was my world.I didn't like the way her boyfriend was treating my grandson. So she took herself away from me and my 11yr old grandson. I lost myself with grief. I was inconsolable. No phychotriest or therapy was helping. I started having hallucinations and my vomiting. Losing weight. This went on for 5yrs. I lost all family and friends. I was in and out the hospital. At 17my grandson came to see me.Today our bond is as close as ever.My daughter. is with a different person.All my family loves my daughter. But this year I had to let go.Things went to far.She is happy to get rid of me.I tried everything to bring us back.Nothing worked. I had to do the work myself. I'm going to be 65 and I can't go through retirement crying over her.For me I had to remove her from my soul.So now I can say.Im recovering. I cried to many tears.I now have PTSD.But I'm feeling peace and some happiness in my soul. The Lord helped me through. It took 6.5 yrs .To finally understand the she changed.too.And I'm going to be ok.😊❤❤❤
It’s been over a year.. and I’m hurting terribly. He’s my only son.
God bless you 🙏 My only Son too.
It’s been 16 months for me and also my only daughter and I miss my granddaughter terribly and never met my 15 month old grandson. She never even bothered to call me when she gave birth to him. I found out through my brother. She went out one day and changed her phone including her number and now all I can do is send her snail mail. Couldn’t even tell you if she reads it. But as of Easter, I went back to church and I absolutely love this church, and I have just decided to ask God to take my anxiety and pain away and allow me to move forward from this. It has helped a lot. We deserve joy in our lives. I’m not going to allow anyone to take that away from me. I wish you the best❤
Get a personality outside of your son and take accountability for what you've refused to see, then.
@@jenradtekwow what did you do wrong? You must feel so guilty. I hope your kids are doing well . Just deal with it and move on. Many people should never have kids.
Can you please expound on how wishing good thoughts for your adult children is Self Compassion?
I don’t think I will ever be done grieving the loss of my child but I can say I am living with it stronger and healthier
Thank you for writing and sharing that you are stronger!!
Why aren't there Support Groups out there specifically for parents of estranged adult children? It's maddening?!
There are support groups! If you google, you'll find quite a few.
What do you do when your parent refuses to acknowledge they did anything wrong to you as a child, then cuts contact calling the child toxic and too much? The adult child needs to have answers are they entitled to those answers? Shouldn’t the parent want to help the adult child feel whole? Have the answers and closure they need? What happens when the parent dies without answering the child’s questions? How do we move on?
❤ 🤗 thank you so much Marie. Still doing well with minor bumps along the path - but I’m still on it. It’s possible and you showed me how. ❤😊
Wonderful!
Thank you Marie ❤
You are so welcome @NancyDriscoll
I have kept my mouth shut for years so I could visit my granddaughter until my last visit a few months ago.
She had no food to eat and told me everything is rotten in the refrigerator.
My adult daughter is a hoarder of stuff and old rotten food. I even found a large dead rodent in a bag.
I had to tell my daughter FOOD IS A PRIORITY!
She stated I crossed her boundaries and ever sense have not been allowed to see my granddaughter whom I love and would die for.
She said she will never forget me and told me she loves me.
How do you get over this?
Was it me who should have just stayed quiet.
I think so. My daughter says that I judge her and she will not be in my life anymore and has also stopped all communication between my granddaughter and I. I cannot write a letter to her,send a Birthday or Christmas card.
She has dismissed me completely out of their lives.
Please advocate for your granddaughters wellbeing even if you must call CPS.
Walk away. You do realize that you raised her. If your daughter has problems .. …. You created them.
Walk away and mind your own business. None of it matters anyway. Life is fleeting
just saw this but you are allowing your granddaughter living in an environment where her nutritional needs are being neglected; you need to call child care services; a dead rat in a bag and she is still in that house??? HELL TO THE NO...please help your granddaughter.
My 3 adult children have not talked to me in 10 months .I've not seen my 2 grandchildren it's Been so hard .I messed it up with their mother cheated on her hurt her it was over long ago but I still was wrong in wat I did and that's all my family see .it's been a challenge to stay alive now I've reached out message calls letters but to no use .it's like life means nothing anymore because I miss them so much .
I want to write an amends letter to my daughter but I’m not sure how to start.
Hi Kelly, how long have you been estranged?
@@youtubemariemorinestrangement since April 2024.
Hi kelly, check colemans book. In a few weeks my videos on the topic will be ready. I'm also writi g a guide that will be ready soon.
As an estranged daughter (and a parent myself), never give up fighting for your relationship. This video is WRONG!
Thank you for sharing.
I’m curious, do you think parents benefit from continuing to pursue and be vulnerable to continued rejection? Do you believe parents would benefit from making a life for themselves when their kids discard them repeatedly?
Maybe take a look at how you’ve treated your child(ren)
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@ what a godless world we live in… so sad. Thanks for sharing!!!