7 Basic Etiquette Rules Most of Us Keep Breaking
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- Do you have good manners? They are as diverse as the people who show them. There are numerous etiquette rules, and many are only applicable in certain countries. Thus, Eskimo people rub noses when they greet each other, the Japanese always take their shoes off before entering a house, and Thai citizens will never show their shoe soles - it’s considered inappropriate.
Nevertheless, there are some etiquette rules that should be followed no matter which nationality you are or where you live. For example, you shouldn't bring your pets (mostly dogs) with you everywhere you go. Other people won't enjoy your big clumsy dog. A small barking dog won't make them happy either. The same goes for when you're invited to a house party. Always ask if you can take your dog with you. Unfortunately, some of these important rules are frequently disregarded nowadays, so if you wanna learn more about them, watch the video!
TIMESTAMPS:
Carrying bags 1:05
Showing respect at the gym 2:22
Behaving in public places 3:42
Dealing with invitations 5:09
Table manners 6:28
Dressing up for an occasion 7:50
Being a people person 8:59
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SUMMARY:
- Don't place your bag on the table or the floor next to you in a restaurant. Either hang it on your chair or a hook. You can sometimes find the latter on the side of or directly underneath the table.
- If you're late to a group exercise class, don't barge your way through everyone toward your favorite spot. It's your fault that you’re late, so just take whatever space is available, and don't block the equipment.
- After you’ve finished with weight machines, reset them to the minimum weight. This way, the next person who uses them won't injure themselves if they start doing exercises without looking.
- There are 3 types of people in this world: those who arrive early, those who arrive on time, and those who arrive late. If you aren't the first type, you'll inevitably have to pass in front of people at the theatre, at the movies, in a concert hall, or in any other place that is equipped with seats. The only right way to do it is by facing the other people and not turning your back toward them.
- If an invitation says “Regrets only,” you should only respond if you’re sure that you will NOT attend. Otherwise, the host will count on you being there.
- “RSVP” (“respondez s'il vous plait,” which is French for “please respond”) means that you must write or call the host to confirm your presence at their event. You should do this within the requested period of time.
- If you aren't sure which fork you should use for each dish, start with the one farthest from your plate. Then work your way toward your plate.
- If you're in a small group of up to 4 people in a restaurant, wait until everyone has been served before you start to eat. If it's a business or formal meal, you can begin when the host asks you to do so.
- Casual Attire - This can be anything from a T-shirt and jeans to a pair of shorts and a blouse. It's a good idea to find out if you're going to be inside or outside. You can also ask others what they’re going to wear.
- In most companies, Casual Friday means that you can swap your pants or skirt for a pair of jeans and leave your tie at home.
- Business Casual - Being neat is the answer here. Ditch clothing that is too tight or oversized. Just be stylish!
- Formal Business - This is perfect for professionals who want to always look dashing and are aiming to climb the career ladder. A suit and dark dress shoes for men, and pumps, a skirt, and a blazer for women.
- When standing in line at a coffee shop, don't talk on the phone. Especially when the barista has already started asking you questions. It's impolite to make everyone wait and listen to your conversation.
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Hey guys! What bad manners annoy you the most in public places?
SPITTING!!!!!
Hey BRIGHT SIDE....you my IDOL!!! Wish my postings are as refined as yours!😍😍😍
BRIGHT SIDE when people sneeze towards you or cough and don’t cover there mouth!
Kissing in public.💏
BRIGHT SIDE Bir.
If you are with someone in a restaurant, talk to that person. Don't play games on the phone or text someone who is not there. Also, if you are getting on an elevator, wait until the people getting off actually get off so they don't have to push past you to exit. And when you go through a doorway, actually go through it. Don't stop in the doorway to speak to someone or to look around to determine which direction to go.
This is why I go alone,
People should not send siblings to other kids birthday parties when only one was invited. Especially if it's an all girl party and they send the brother also.
Yes! I had certain family that would bring all 4 of their children + 4 or 5 of their kids friends. I never had enough to go around and they would always cause trouble and be left at the party for me to bring home! Infuriating!
😂
A handbag left dangling from the back of your chair is easily stolen....
Not if you go to "proper" restaurants
When your in a public place, Walmart, grocery store, pharmacy, etc.., don't block the whole isle with friends/family you see in the store and talk on and on while blocking the isle way.
Exactly---step to the side!
Yes its a VERY big problem these days. Im glad you notated it!
Or if it’s a narrow isle don’t take your cart and stop with it so no one can go around you. Just leave the thing at the end of the isle!! Or walk at a good pace
Exactly ratchet to the core!
Yes!!! I've noticed some egotistical people who seem to do this as if it were on purpose..? (I always wonder if in their minds, they're trying to make everyone feel involved or something for gathering in a walkway or something to stand and chat--like my boss with a guest or customer or someone who will stand in the middle of my line as a cashier and doesn't automatically move out of the way of someone else that's "just trying to check out" and make their purchase!)
The Golden Rule = Treat others the way you want to be treated.
That's fine,, except that many these days..DON'T CARE about how others treat them...they (the ones being ignored OR whatever) sadly think that bad manners ARE the norm...so it's a vicious circle.
That is fine but it doesn't apply to etiquette.
Whenever going to someone's dwelling..I always bring 'something' , flowers, wine, dessert, etc. Thank you..xo
My biggest “Pet Peeve” when it comes to inviting people to parties (Dinner or otherwise) is when someone you’ve invited brings along other people, who you don’t even know, without asking if it’s alright to bring these people to the event. 😡
When my Ex and I were still married, and he owned his Hotel Furniture Liqudating business, we’d have a Company/Family Christmas Party, (usually, at least 50 people) every year, out at our home. It never failed, the wife of one of my Ex’s Employees would always bring someone to these parties that neither my Ex, nor I knew, without calling to ask if it was alright, before she just showed up, with them! How rude! 😡. I kept asking her to call if she wanted to bring a stranger, into my home. After the second time, of her still not calling, I simply stopped inviting her and her husband, to these parties. 😔
Agree with you, but at this point I would be happy just to receive an answer to an invitation. I don't get it; growing up, I remember my parents throwing parties and cookouts all the time and as a child, going to birthday parties. I used to throw a party every year for my child's birthday and I couldn't get hardly anyone to respond. Sometimes people would show up, sometimes not. After a few times of seeing my daughter heartbroken, I gave up. I've tried to throw dinner parties and some people would show up without rsvping, half the time I couldn't get them to respond at all, people would say yes then not show, etc. I gave up.
Good for you. That is the way it should work.
Thank you so much for your comment on bringing your dog. I could never understand why people must bring their dogs to fine dining restaurants. They are meant for people not dogs...
But usually, a dog is less disruptive than a child.
@@QueenTeriquable 😂bruhh
When a person open a door for you, please respond "thank you".
Sherria B- I *never* do a kind thing expecting gratitude.
But if you are going to extend yourself unbidden, then also please don’t do it as a lame way of hitting on someone or deliberately creating a passive-aggressive scenario. I have seen men use holding doors as a way to harass far younger women. Unnecessary. I’ve also heard people say things like “You’re welcome, b*tch” after holding a door and not getting that “thank you” - that is NOT kindness, that’s ego, maybe even a psychiatric issue. If one finds themselves doing such things, please stop being “nice” and worry about yourself.
@@xxmightyonexx true
I say thank you quietly because of some mental things. Then I feel like I should say it louder, but don’t say it again incase they heard.. cause it would sound awkward.
A simple "please & thank you" goes a long way.
Smile it will make someone's day.
Genuine commplements & kindness.
I find it rude when someone watches a show on their phone in public without using a pair of headphones or earbuds 🙄
I can't even stand typing sounds in public. I have told people before to lower their volume or silence their phone when playing games. I'm sorry, you do not have to hear Candy Crush to play it.
There is not good reason to be watching their phone in a public place where others are socializing.
This is really distracting and annoying.
I even wonder what's going on in these people,s mind!😧
I see this in restaurants now when people bring an iPad so their kids can watch TV while at dinner! 😡
Just taking other people into consideration is the best rule of thumb. Always works for me!
Best advise....unfortunately this is not in fashion in Australia....
When driving, and somebody allows you to get in front of them, thank them with the wave sign!!!
I do the wave sometimes but it's actually what you're supposed to do.
Thank for reminding people not to talk or use their phone at the movie theater! It seems the people in my town need a huge lesson in etiquette!
In addition to not talking/texting, people should not look at their phones once the movie has begun. Otherwise, it is very distracting to see someone's phone screen light up when trying to watch the movie. It doesn't matter if it's only for a few seconds either when a handful of people do that during a movie.
Even though we are in the 21 St century, it's nice to give yo your seat to a disable, elderly or pregnant woman in public places no matter how tired a person may be. I'm an elderly person with health issues, but it aggravates me to no end when I see young and even any age men sitting down looking or pretending to be asleep and not give up their seats. Most of the time, I had to get up and give up my seat. They look at me as though it was my duty and not theirs. By the way, I'm a woman.
Once when I gave up my seat for someone a young man raced in and sat down. I quickly told him I had stood up so the intended person could sit down, NOT him. Unbelievable! I'm also a woman.
How do you know that they're pretending to be asleep?
@@julieerin115 because when their eyelids are having a hard time staying closed, they tremble. I worked with hundreds of kids and have 4 of my own, when they are supposed to be sleeping and cant, that's what happens
My mom is 90. If I go into a doctor's office and there isn't an available seat I say, "The rule is that the youngest legs stand." Normally someone will get up for her.
I sometimes pretend I don't notice. When nobody else stands up I will offer my seat. My knee joints don't work properly so I can't stand long. You can't see it. If there is no place and I stand up for someone I usually just go sit on the ground.
You forgot to mention that the guest(s) of honor should be writing thank you notes if he, she or they receive any gifts such as bridal and wedding showers and most especially if you receive any gift in the mail.
Peggy Terry a “thank you” text does not count!!
@@ingenious5480 I totally agree. "Writing" a thank you is on paper and sent through the post office.
Peggy Terry that’s the only way in my book!!
Clean up after your dog & dont leave their poop on the grass for someone to step in
I can’t be more agree with you.
I don’t have pet because I don’t want to clean after them.
I had a neighbor who did this constantly. I politely asked them numerous times to clean up after their dog so my young children didn't have to worry about poop when they were playing. They did not so it. After awhile I found out where they lived, put their dog's poop in a bag and then poured it out on their lawn. She saw me and asked what I was doing. I told her, her dog forgot that at my house and I knew she'd want it back; she never walked her dog by my house again.
If you're walking in front of someone and they walk faster than you do, either speed it up or let them pass you.
Give up a bus seat to an elderly person or pregnant woman if there is no seat available. This if you are able-bodied and younger.
Being pregnant is not the same as being disable.
@@luvblueybingoheeler3150 Obviously, but you can still give a pregnant woman a seat just because it's polite and considered generous behaviour.
@@luvblueybingoheeler3150 Who said a pregnant woman is disabled?
Late in pregnancy can be uncomfortable for your back, feet, etc. It's just a nice thing to do when you see a heavily pregnant woman.
Carrying your lady’s bag for a while if she needs you to, is NOT weird.
Everyone knows you are doing it for her, even if she is not right next to you.
Why would you not help her if she needs it? For example, when she goes to a public toilet?
If people judge me for that, they are the weird ones for me.
Zachary Hamilton you're are so nice
Agreed. The first one about the bags irritated me.
Carrying/holdings a ladies bag for her shouldn’t be seen as weird or un-masculine. If anything it shows manners and that the guys ego isn’t frail.
I agree
Exactly
Zachary Hamilton so true. It’s not weird at all.
Good manners is so simple - be considerate and it will be automatic...
People talking loudly on the phone. No one wants to know your business and will NOT think you are cool or hip.
Absolutely. It is so annoying how awful it is to listen to people droning on about completely irrelevant nonsense just so they can look they’re either important or have a life outside of their commute. I had to sit next to a woman on the train from London and she talked all the way to my stop over an hour later. I just phoned my daughter to say I was on the train and said goodbye. I then tried to read but couldn’t because of her yapping!
lol! Reminds of a time when a friend and I hopped on a crowded bus. We not only had to stand the entire way, but we had to listen to a guy glued to his phone. "I'M HEADING TO...etc.," he would shout so that everybody on the bus could know about his business. We we're relived when we got off that horrible ride.
Huge pet peeve! Behaviors of the obnoxious...
@@amayastrata4629
My English mum had a very nice phrase that comes to mind for this situation. Get her attention, and say, in a low-volume voice yourself, "Please lower your voice." It is polite, but firm. Sitting there stewing doesn't help you relax, and when no-one speaks up to her, it teaches the blowhard that her rudeness will be tolerated.
I was shopping a couple of days this woman’s phone rings so loud I turned around to her say at the top her of lungs, “ Josephine so how are you honey?”” Josiphine sorry to say who’s on speakerphone was not having good day. I then walked closer to her offered poor Josiphine my condolences.
If you are a clerk waiting on a customer-don’t carry on a conversation with you co worker!! It’s called customer service for a reason!!
Diane Thompson e
Also don't expect me to start a conversation with you if you are serving me 😳 I am happy to be polite but I don't need your life story...!
Also, if you're giving a person change for a purchase, etc. be sure to give them the BILLS FIRST, and coins, if any, on top of the bills. It drives me crazy when a distracted or disinterested checker or clerk drops the change in my hand, and places bills on top of the coins. Your coins won't fly away in the wind. But your bills will. To prevent that, get your bills first, and coins second. Ask the clerk.
Omgness, now this is rude. Seriously I don’t want to hear about what happened last night at Billy’s party, esp since you are rudely speaking over me to someone else is also working. Engage the customer, if anyone. 😒
@@Woeschhuesli
You're mean.
Applying any kind of makeup at the dinner table and brushing your hair while other are eating.
Drives me nuts when someone who is incessantly texting has not turned off their phone keyboard sound.
People being on their phone during dinner or social event. If it's a relative calling send a quick text telling them that you're with somebody and that you will call them after. When I'm at meal with somebody and they are constantly on freaking social media it makes me feel unimportant.
It doesn't make me feel unimportant. It makes me very annoyed that they have no respect for the person in front of them. I've actually picked up my own phone and sent them a text asking if we can have a real conversation. I dont maintain "friendships" like that. Life is too short.
Brenna Rush way more polite: turn your telephone OFF. Your uncle can call you some other time..
There are times when a relative is ill, terminally or not, and you need to be reached. Just excuse yourself and leave the table if/when the call comes. Also, keep the phone beside you on vibrate instead of on the table.
@@bsteven885 so agree with you
I have a rule at my table: No electronics!!! ONLY exceptions: if on "baby watch", expecting a very important call (then leave the table for your conversation), things of this nature...
Another rule that you didn’t mention is at the table eat with your mouth closed...
I think that's a given. Who doesn't know this?
Also a pet hate is finger licking...
I cannot stand when someone smacks while eating!
Lisa Lane Too many, unfortunately
With minimal chewing noise. Thank you. 😂
Another thing that aggravates me is when people cough and sneeze in public places without covering their mouths or put something to cover their sneeze. Gross!!!!
And don't use your hand! Use your inner elbow.
In Malaysia, or Singapore, u can't head a shout "Haa-Chuu!"
They swallow-back their sneezes😮😣😕.
@@ofwwadwad541 Um, gross. If I'm remembering correctly, also not good for you.
I have a suggestion for escalator manners/etiquette. Some ppl go from up to down, and then just get off the escalator and stop there wondering where and which direction to go. They don't realize people from behind them are also coming down and now their path is blocked. This can be dangerous.
Also stand to one side of the escalator. In the UK and Japan you stand on the right hand side. In Australia (or at least in NSW) stand on the left.
They do it right in some places like D.C. If you stand still to go on an escalator, always stand to the right. This allows those who want to walk while on it can safely pass on the left. If you stand on the left, you'll be knocked down, so people don't do it. Genius. I wish they did this everywhere.
*You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching, love like you'll never be hurt, sing like there's nobody listening, and live like it's heaven on earth.*
Bad habits that bother me: 1 chomping and snacking your food when eating. The sound is so discusting it makes me loose my appetite. 2 when people bring their unruly children with or without notice. It runs the whole gathering to me. 3 when people put their feet on your coffee table. People walk through a lot of dirty, grimy and germ filled floors, I certainly dont want that transferred to my coffee table. Also I eat from that table. Big huge annoyance to me. 4 when people dig in their ear and touch things or want to help you cook without washing their hands. Ewe ewe ewe!!!
agree. my coffee table happens to be an antique steamer trunk, brought from germany by my great-great grandfather. it's a bit dented, and the finish has vanished from the wooden parts. my adult daughters put their feet on it, wearing their shoes ! i have not wanted to offend them by seeming fussy. they probably just see it a an old piece of junk. but, to me, it's a priceless heirloom. thinking of moving it to one of the bedrooms, and buying a sturdy coffee table. maybe i'm too polite.
fix yr communication skills
First of all why do they make it with their shoes on in your house ? I don't care if I seem rude or whatever, my house my rules! Everyone takes their shoes off at the door!
@@rosiestewart870 too polite? I think they could easily walk on you back and forth!
If that piece of furniture is dearly to you I don't see anything wrong in letting them know, of course in a nice way.
Besides that why in your house you allow people with outside shoes on ? That's a big No No for me.
@@rosiestewart870 forget about offending them. They are your kids. They should respect YOU. Tell them, "Get your feet OFF that!" You don't need to reason with them or justify why you want them to. Just do it. If they respected your things, they would treat them better. Good luck!!
What annoys me the most is crying, screaming kids. Whatever the circumstances [unless it is at their doctors], if your child[ren] are acting out they should be removed. Otherwise they are disrupting everyone else at that location.
For God's sake, I hope you will one day understand that some people have to take their kids with them when going somewhere and that lots of people have children with special needs. The parent cannot always control the situation. If it is a public establishment, deal with the kids. They have every right to be there as you do unless a sign is posted stating otherwise.
I completely agree! Screaming children are not necessary, as in the parents should tell them to be quiet, unless it's at a doctor's office and they're sick like you said. Also children running amok is also not on, it never happened in the "old days" (I'm not that old, I just remember my childhood and how well we were expected to behave compared to today's kids). My parents would simply take us home if we misbehaved. More it seems it's everyone else's problem to listen to your crotch goblins screaming because they got told no for some reason!
@@LisaLane711 the OP was clearly not referring to special needs kids, so don't try pulling that card! Special needs kids are an exception not the rule, yet these days screaming kids running amok send to be the rule. If you can't control your kids, don't take them out, or take them home when they start to play up. The rest of us don't want to have to put up with your misbehaving kids! If it takes a village to raise a child, then the whole village should be able to discipline that child, but oh no, that's not allowed these days, but the village has to still put up with the child's poor behaviour! When I was a kid, anyone could tell you off, now days it seems kids are too precious to be told off by the people there pissing off!
@@wormwoodbush3537 Here's the thing. People cannot always tell the difference between a neurotypical kid and a non-typical kid. My son has autism, but you can't tell by looking at him, so, yes, I'm "playing that card" because I have been there - being judged by people who have absolutely no idea what's going on, what I'm going through, what my child is going through, or what I have already tried to remedy the situation. My child could have a complete meltdown over loud music or a crowded restaurant, but not always. If it happened, it happened, but the judgmental stares and comments still came. All I could say is "he's autistic," but I should not have to go around explaining that to total strangers just to make them understand. People shouldn't just jump to conclusions and think that the kid is just a brat or spoiled. You don't know if the child is special needs or not. Some parents do not have the resources needed to find respite care. Even so, services for us were just once a week. So, stop thinking you know what kids are brats and which ones are special needs because you really have no way of knowing. Be compassionate and try to put yourself in the parent's shoes. Maybe something really is going on with the family or the child. It's not your place to judge. If you're going in public, deal tf with it.
@@LisaLane711 I agree totally with you , Only one thing I have an issue with is not making kids sit down at a restaurant , I have two children and 4 grandchildren and a few are special needs , dose not make it ok for them to be going up to peoples tables while they're trying to eat out,, but other then that I agree .. children special needs or not are part of life and have a right to be here ,, we all were kids at one point anyone who would say what was posted her has no love for their selves if they dont like the sound of kids especially if a child is crying that is natural ,, deal with it and that all there is to it
I love pets but I disliked when people come to
My home with their animas not asking it’s rude and pushing friendship
Picking your nose and then touching stuff, and people who wear backpacks in crowded places.
Yo Hyzo They can't just abandon their backpack somewhere...
bill I g you can carry it in fro t of you.
Yes and people blowing their noses sneezing not washing their hands !
Absolutely. I also a young male do this when I approached him at an OPSM store. Could not wait to not touch anything and leave.
Agreed Please and Thank You never go out of style.
you are so wrong about purses/bags! the way you say to do it is the perfect way to get it stolen! the best way to do it is to put your bag on the inside part of the seat next to you away from the crowd or on the floor away from the crowd or between your legs. this way you don't have it swiped by someone who casually walks close to your booth or table and then out the door with your stuff when you're not looking (and this goes for "nice" restaurants as well as lower scale/casual places).
I place mine on my lap if it's a small bag or else between my legs as well. I only place it on the seat when I'm at an actually booth, and is underneath a coat.
I had a purse stolen once--admitedly due to my own forgetfulness/carelessness. But, ever since then, I refuse to carry one. I use a belt pouch. Anything that doesn't fit in there I don't need that badly, and it stays home. And since it's attached around my waist, it foils purse-snatchers.
If I want to really travel light; I forego the pouch, and travel guy-style--anything that doesn't fit in my jeans pockets stays home.
Never leave your purse on the floor! Is not classy , it looks tacky and this way your purse become just a bucket collection of nasty bacteria and viruses picked up from floor to floor, I've seen women leaving their purses on bathroom floors... really? That's nasty! Who does that?
On one hand, putting your purse on the floor is not good because it is so dirty. For goodness sake, never transfer it from the floor to the tabletop. However, in the world we live in, it's a better idea to put your purse in a place where it is least likely to be swiped. I prefer to put it in a chair next to me or at my side in a booth, but I will put it on the floor if I have to. Hanging it on the back of the chair isn't safe anymore. I only do that if I also have a coat to hang over it that will conceal it.
I rarely carry a purse; I'm a pockets and small pouches person. So ladies, unless you have paid for your purse to occupy an entire seat in a public place, please remove your bag from the chair. And please don't get an attitude about it either
I would like to add to the list.
1.) At the grocery store, be mindful of which lane you use and make sure it’s not an express lane, if you have significantly more items than allowable for the express lane.
If you’re just a few items over, fine, not a big deal, but if you have a full cart, you have no business in an express lane.
That “20 items or less”, exists for a reason, so people who are only buying two or three things don’t have to wait 10 minutes behind someone with $300 in groceries.
Cashiers typically are not allowed to refuse to check customers out, even if they are are egregiously breaking that rule, and it’s rude to the cashier, who is in a bad position, because their checkout area is not designed to accommodate so much stuff, and makes more work for them.
Not to mention it’s rude to customers who have to wait forever behind you, when their objective is to check out the few things they have and get out quickly.
At any checkout, especially self checkout, do not use your cellphone.
It slows you down, and holds up the line.
At any checkout, have your coupons already sorted out and in your hand ready to go.
Do not wait until you are in line, to do this, holding everyone up.
When you are done checking out, have received your receipt, and gotten all your bags, GET OUT OF THE WAY IMMEDIATELY.
Do not take your sweet time closing up your wallet, putting it back in your purse, grabbing your keys out of your purse, snapping it up, making sure everything is in order, and telling your child to sit down in the cart, before moving out of the line.
You can do that after you get out of everybody else’s way.
2.) At a gas station, if you’ve already pumped your gas, move your car to a parking to space.
Do not block the pump with your empty car for 20 minutes while you go inside and shop, so no one else can use it.
If it’s going to be a quick in and out to pay and leave, fine.
But if you’re going to be in there awhile, move your car, so someone else can use the pump.
Love your grocery store comments. I just posted a list of rules for grocery shopping if you care to take a look. It's been my pet peeve forever!
Never look a person up n down when approaching them. So very rude
Thank you 📝
People that talk on their cells while being waited on is a pet peeve of mine. Also customer service people that treat their personal business on their personal cell phones like it's more important than the long line of customers waiting for service.
Children-should either know and exhibit manners and decorum or be left home. I had children and we had practice at home on minding manners in a restaurant, grocery, and other public events. I have taken as many as nine children to the grocery store with no problems and comments on how well behaved they were. I am appalled at how people allow their children to run amok and how often they are brought to adult functions to do so. Especially annoying are children turned loose at a function when the invite states "no children".
The host should have told them ferm " no kids, please leave"!
There are nannies for these situations
I had my kids with me shopping one day when they were being unruly. I calmly told them to stop, to plant both feet flat on the floor and put both hands on the cart, with their mouths closed, and listen. After a few seconds, I asked "Did you hear that?" They didn't hear anything, so I said "Exactly. And thats why we can leave right now and I'll never take you shopping again unless you can behave respectfully." I guess I was fortunate, because it worked.
The most effective form of birth control is other people's children.
Nella B many people disregard the “no children, please”, because they think that their children are “different” from “other” children and are welcome anywhere they go......
brilliant reply , wholeheartedly agree
I know a few table manners
1 don't put your elbows on the table
2 before you leave say "may I be exused"
And 3 don't burp loudly
Nice! Funny and true!
People in the elevator have "right of way." Be considerate and let them out!
I always told my kids to step away from the elevator door when it opens, in order to allow people to get out. Also, to never let a door close in someone elses face, after they go through, they need to glance over their shoulder and hold the door open if needed.
the lift
This rule works well for bus and train riders too -- let people LEAVE first before coming in.
Always hold the door: women and elder have priority, holdin for men is not weird either. And always check if someone is coming behind while going through so it won't shut in their face.
and always thank the person holding a door for you. Nothing more annoying than people acting like you aren't even there when you get the door for them.
Arik Trejos I hold the door for men. They love it.
Women dont have priority for me. I acually prefer holding the door for other men. Saying women have priority is juat sexist.
@@InsaneI So how would you call your preferring to hold the doors for men?? Wouldn't that be your priority then??
It's just old school manners and I love it. I was raised that way. Always be polite, say yes/no ma'am and yes/no sir. Please, Thank you, your welcome. Open the door or hold the door for someone. Always have respect for your elders, (they probably know a lot more than you do and gone down that "road" you're "plowing ". ask for a story or 2 . May change your whole situation, or direction). But the thing that bugs me the most and some have touched on it is young "people" that when you open the door or hold it, walk on thru like their royalty and that's your job. Proper etiquette is when someone builds back the door, you say "thank you" and grasp the handle so their not left holding it. It was a kind gesture and should be paid in kind.
Etiquette is so important to all.
ETIQUETTE IS RESPECT TO OTHERS AND A SIGN OF GOOD EDUCATION.
If somebody holds a door open for you to either enter or exit, say thank you! You are not the Queen of England and even she would show proper etiquette I'm sure by thinking whoever held the door open for her.
If you chew gum, keep it silent and invisible.
Usually , I'm a people person ,but what happens nowadays ,in the bus station and on the bus is outrageous !1/ smoking near little children ;2/ hopping on the bus before the elderly;/not having the slightest intention to offer their seats to the elderly / too busy on their phones /
Not once , women offered a seat to my 87 years old mom , while young men ...you know the rest of it
Its just as bad as going to the library and sitting next to someone who REEKS of smoke using the computer.
Don't smoke near anyone. All of us have a respiratory system.
Bus seats can be given up if you can. I remain seated. I am still healing from non-visible injuries and look much younger than my 50yrs. I can sit. The men got up for your mother stop whining. Men get up for women.
Mj
M Dillon sit elsewhere then..he didnt smoke in front of u did he?
Beatrice Peter shhh beatrice,i always give up my seat to those who need it although 9/10 times,no one bothers to even say tq.young man btw
Going to someone’s house and putting your feet, usually with shoes, on their coffee table. Snuggling up with your feet on their sofa ( I guess I should feel flattered you are so comfortable!). Going off to look into rooms or asking for a house tour, when no one offered you one. Not using coasters, especially when they are right in front of you. Not dry cleaning clothing you just borrowed when returning them...
ALL RUDE...SORRY not SORRY! It’s all ungracious and assumed behavior!
YES!!
shoppers who start conversing with clerks they know while there is a whole line waiting behind them; by the same token shoppers who block aisles when they meet others they know and decide to have a get together at the store, and others are trying to get to past.
Regarding conversations with clerks, as long as their hands are moving as they DO their job, it's ok with me. Multi-tasking is allowed in my book.
Leave your kids home if they are not included in the invitation. Please teach your child manners.
Not everybody in the 'village' cares to listen to your kids. 😀
perhaps you should hope that your never get "old" in the event your run into someone that has the same view: "Not everybody in the village cares to listen to... (an older person)"
MEANING: a village is most healthy when we can ALL have good manners (including patience) for all members at varying ages and stages. btw it is called ageism
When it comes to young children, if you cannot find a babysitter, you NEED to contact the host, or simply do not attend.
Just because you have children, it doesn't mean you should take them with you everywhere you go. There is a time and a place for everything, and some events are not suitable for children as a matter of safety. Don't belligerently force your children into situations that may not be suitable for their safety or wellbeing. It's called being an entitled parent.
As far as pets or elders go, it can be equally disturbing depending on the level of care involved, and it's a shame that our society functions this way, but these events do occur and each invited guest needs to be mindful of the overall experience for everyone. If you want to be selfish about it, go ahead... but you will find that invitations tend to pass you by.
Just be realistic. Plus, if you're that put out by the idea of not being able to bring your child, your pet, or your elders with you, then maybe you need to step back and reconsider why you know such people that exclude your loved ones in the first place.
well-behaved kids in public places are delightful. but, screamers, in a restaurant, making conversation impossible for everyone nearby ? some parents seem to be so used to hearing their child's constant screaming, that they can't see how annoying it is for other people. please, get a sitter, or eat at home, until your little screamer is a bit older.
Oh boy is this a good one! Why cant parents understand that we DON'T love THEIR kids! We all love 'children' in general,(don't we?) but why should we have a meal interrupted by a screaming child (I don't include babies who are too young to have learnt manners!!) who has not been told to be QUIET in public places!! Just beggars belief that parents think we all want to listen to their noisy shouting toddlers¬!¬
Amen. I'm a mother and 100 percent agree. I resented it when my daughter was young and I paid a babysitter to go out just to have to deal with screaming kids.
Cover your mouth when you cough, specially inside the airplane/confined spaces.
Don't block super Market halls with your cart!
Aisles not halls
Always Park grocery cart in center isle of merchandise-not close next to you when you are picking up an item-your cart BLOCKS area next to you- difficult for other shoppers
Worst when people pull up next to someone they know and talk.
Elevator etiquette! When calling for an elevator and the door's open, allow the people inside to exit prior to your storming into the elevator.
It really disgusts and irks me when someone blows their nose at the table during a meal! Excuse yourself and go to the restroom instead
Imagine that they leave their hefty nasal/ sinus discharge in that napkin ,on top of their dirty plates or next to them and the restaurant staff need to touch it when they clean the table! That's so disgusting disgusting and disrespectful on so many levels!
Lot of spicy food makes your nose run. How are you ever going to get through it if you keep having to excuse yourself.
@@xxmightyonexx politely dabbing your nose during or after a spicy meal and keeping it neatly concealed in hand, lap or purse is different than blowing your nose and then throwing said napkin on table..... ewe
@@xxmightyonexx --don't do it. It's disgusting and rude.
That‘s normal in Germany
it is considerate to call your host if you're going to be 10 or more minutes late to an invited public occasion. ie dinner, bachelor/bachelorette party, surprise party ect...
People have forgotten pease, thank you & excuse me these days.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves.
Actually, most Asians (Chinese, Malays etc.) don't wear their shoes into their house.
I think it is inconsiderate for people to walk in a row or stroll in a narrow passageway and block the entire passageway for others.
Live alittle YES!!
I totally agree. Shoes track in all the dirt, germs and yucky Karma that is all outside. If you want some reinforcement, go outside, sit and watch people walk by. Just watch what habits they have and where they step. Animal yuk. Spit. Bad food. On and on. I have clean floors, and I have children and grandchildren who,are little, and deserve a clean place to play.
I have a rule in my house....shoes off at thr door. And i cring ( secretly) when people come over and know this rule and continue to walk on my carpet or floor with shoes on. And track in little or big chunks of dirt. And i dont know how to say it nice abt taking shoes off. Because i have said it nicely to a man (a friend) and he doesnt care he does it anyway. So i try not to have him over. Or i just stand at the door but they cone in anyway. And its women too. Ill say it to little kids and they take them off. I have that rule because...think abt what is on the bottom of people's shoes ? After walking on the street to in a hospital. Its gross.
If it's a true support animal, they have to be with their human 24/7/365.
Take your hat/cap off when eating at the dining table or when you get indoors.
People who board the half empty subway train and then stop the moment they enter the train car, blocking everyone else from entering
People on the phone in front of me in the queue in a cafe! Or those who have loud conversations on their phones in public or on public transport 😡🤬
True!they dont get enough attention from their family or even at home...public suffers
@Bethany Brown Yea! It's usually a guy who thinks you are lonely for a conversation with him. SMH!
I do not drive but travel regularly to meetings by bus or train. I am 66 and mobility impaired I am often amazed by how disrespectfully mothers and fathers allow their children to behave. They no longer stand to allow me to sit or hold a door, they run around shouting loudly of playing games on their phones. Often the parents are ignoring their children and listening via their own technology.
Don't think leaving your napkin on a seat, where other people have been sitting before you is hygienic. I would not do it.
Kitti McDonald then take it with you.....
Yet that is what we are supposed to do if we leave the table and plan to come back. That is nasty.
I highly agree! It can be left on the back of the chair, but recommend a simple fold left on the table.
@@kimthejunglist a fold left of the plate means you are finished with the meal.
Mikyda3 :: By “left on the table” I meant remaining on the table.
That's disgusting I'll never put my purse on the public floor
Yes. Me too
I never place my purse on the floor either gross! then in some places if you hang on back of chair someone could take it.i would just place my purse on the booth next to me or lap.
Letting your small child crawl or sit on the floor out in public is so gross!
You are attending the wrong places obviously
I've adjusted my purse strap to sit coffee from my shoulder to my hip. Coincidentally, that happens to be just short enough that if I hook the strap over one of my knees, it's just long enough for the bag to sit in between my feet/ankles without touching the floor. Also makes it so you never forget your purse when you leave. XD
If someone sends you an email, READ THE WHOLE EMAIL.
People that talk on their phones in public places in normal voices and everyone can hear their conversation. Very annoying and rude.
Not Flushing the toilet!!!!!!!!!
I would break the handbag etiquette. I would prefer to keep my bag on a chair beside me rather than dangle it on the chair or table. Too many thieves around. My manners will also go out of the window if I catch a thief red-handed! 🙂
SAME
Same here not about to give a thief a chance to put their hand into my bag.
Helen Choudhury putting bag near to your feet already a polite manner otherwise you violates security protocols
Putting your bag on the floor is bad luck and dirty , I also put it next to me
Floors are disgusting! I refuse to place mine on the floor. I am like you and won't hang it either. Too risky! So it sits in the chair next to me or even on the table. I don't carry a large bag if i even carry one. Plus it is likely to have my sidearm on it if im not wearing it. That HAS to be kept secure at all times!
In your etiquette rules, you said to put ones napkin on your chair if you have to leave the table. I don’t think it’s very sanitary when you have to come back and put that napkin up to your mouth!
Actually, since most of us don't live in Scotland, that rule is long established as proper etiquette.
Also, there is an amazing thing about napkins... they have two sides!
@@Akula114 so right .difference between MC Donald napkin and restaurant is .....
MC Donald is bleached
Restaurant is starched ......youngsters don't know BCS never starch bedding even in hotels ......starch is natural stain preventer, stffener as well HARD ANTISEPTIC ..... And yes it is proper etiquette . I wish they teach it in schools in England as they do in Europe.
Proper European etiquette says to NEVER place the napkin on the seat. Always place it next to the plate.
TIMESTAMPS:
Carrying bags 1:05
Showing respect at the gym 2:22
Behaving in public places 3:42
Dealing with invitations 5:09
Table manners 6:28
Dressing up for an occasion 7:50
Being a people person 8:59
People person...my Dad's boss needs to be HONESTLY like that...genuine! LOl!
I will not hang my bag on the chair for someone to steal, or sit it on the filthy floor. And a man should be comfortable enough in himself to hold a bag for his Woman. It's called curtousy and manners. Any man that won't, it not worth your time! And I don't even carry a bag usually. It's just the idea some men are too insecure to hold one
Pet peeve- I sit on an aisle seat on a plane and get socked by huge backpacks when other passengers are boarding after me.. I board early as I have a mobility issue, but I am very petite and slim so I am not taking up any aisle space. It gets painful!
In the UK eating only with a fork is a NO-NO, either knife and fork for most meals or spoon and fork for pasta unless for the country of origin eg chopsticks- Chinese... Found this out the hard way
In our crowded, hectic world it's best to make an effort to NOT be in the way. When shopping with a cart, pull your cart to one side and stand in front or behind it if selecting or taking items from a shelf. Please don't park your cart in the middle of the aisle and stand next to it, blocking the aisle. If you happen to unwittingly do so and you see someone coming up the aisle toward you, please don't wait for them to arrive and have to wait for you, or (the worst ever!) have to ASK to get by then have to wait until it's convenient for you to move.
Allowing room for others also applies to driving. Most parking lot driveways have enough room to allow one line of cars to enter, one line to exit turning left and one line to exit turning right. Please don't sit between the two exit lanes forcing others to wait for you, especially if you are waiting to turn left -Pick a lane!
On a related note, making a right turn(?) pull all the way to the right! Unless there are bicyclists present, please make right turns from the parking lane. Do not straddle the farthest right and right lane forcing others to wait for the right before they can make a right turn and don't slow traffic in the right driving lane just because you're turning around a corner or into a driveway.
Leaving a grocery cart out in the middle of the parking lot rather than returning it to its proper place.
Or worse, leaving trolleys alongside or in the disabled car park near to the entrance. It blocks the disabled person from exiting their car.
You do realize that there are elderly and disabled people, not to mention mom's with babies in car seats, that rely on the carts to get them into the store and back to their cars right? Besides, many places don't have outside cart returns and most employ people specifically for gathering carts, cleaning them and returning them. They would be out of work.
people talking or texting on a group or date at the table during a meal...
Babys or small children who are crying or yelling and playing around at restaurants, coffee shops ect .
Some of these things mentioned are common sense. Others are just your opinion. I'm grateful my husband will carry my purse when I need him to.
Not covering your mouth during a yawn, that has truly gone by the waste-side
the phrase is 'gone by the way side'
anubischick thank you
Ooh and when people yawn with a sound, in public
People have forgotten to cover their mouth while coughing and sneezing too
DL Pryor... I'm just lulling off to sleep when I read your winge....OMG! I thought...gone by the Waste Side??? Is it Me that's been using it wrongly?? 😁😁😁😁😁. Lol but tell me.please that it was a typo.... Lol 😂😀😀😀
Using table utensils properly e.g. holding a knife and fork is very important.
What if you have a disabled hand or only one hand? Do you still find not using them properly disrespectful or unbearable?
What kind of man won't carry a woman's bag?
What kind of man would refuse helping a friend?
All my 4 ex-boyfriends carried my bags at their own will. My husband also carries my bag under circumstances. I saw my brother and father didn’t do this to their women. I could certainly feel that men who carries their women’s bags are awesome. They don’t care about self-image but care more to the women they love even to the littlest things.
I disagree with that "rule". My husband carries my purse when I need him too. Sometimes while we're out I just need to be able to use my hands.
That’s why you have 4 ex boyfriends. They are all feminine
When it's not requested.
@@leighpeel9563 Just because a man carries their woman's bag/purse, it does not mean that they are feminine. It tells me that they care enough about her to do small gestures like that because they love her. Same with holding the door for her, pulling out her chair, helping her into her coat, etc. Things that used to be considered par for the course when people still used manners on a regular basis.
Dangling handbags get damaged. Waiters and people pass by. It takes space. One a chair or floor or table nobody struggles to get by. That rule came from a time when a womans handbag only carried lipstick, a tussue and a bit if money.
Alida Boettcher I’d rather have the strap damaged than have it set on a filthy floor...yes, I’ve seen purses on a bathroom floor. I’d hang it around my neck before I’d set it on any floor.
A handbag can be looped over a knee and stay tucked under the table.
That's bull, my husband will hold my bag if I need my hands or need to use the restroom. He is showing love, respect and kindness for me by doing so. And yes it proper for a husband to do that for his wife
How cute. Do you hold his bags as well. Ha ha ha.
i'm appalled by how many people are on their phones in public places. you hear someone talking loudly, everywhere you go. there are even those who unload their groceries and pay for them, all while chatting with someone else. the very most disgusting i have heard, was in a public restroom. i was forced to listen while a girl engaged in a fight with her boyfriend, while actually using the toilet ! how repulsive !
my pet peeve is people having screaming matches on their cell phone in a public store, especially a grocery store, pharmacy, etc. I have heard people yelling and cursing from several aisles away, like they are putting on a play...line up some chairs...
I just flush my toilet over and over and over again. And I go to the stall next to them and do it. 😂
who just turns up to someone else's party with a dog? that's the 2nd video I've seen implying that people do this. where did the notion that this behaviour could be acceptable originate?
Katherine Green agreed, the only time I would allow a dog is if it was their service dog, I’m blind so I would like to have permission to bring my service dog. That’s the keyword ask permission even if you do have a service dog. It’s just out of common courtesy, if they turn you down and you need that dog then don’t go to the party. Just say that you had an emergency or something of that sort. It’s really rude to bring pets without permission even if it is a service dog.
As a professional business owner, this was very helpful for both myself and my customers! I’ll share this video on my next email newsletter! Thanks! - Fantastique Rae
If you feel the need to burp when you're sitting at the dinner table or the restaurant table it's polite to cover your mouth with your napkin and then excuse yourself afterwards simply belching out loud is extremely rude and gross
Except for some other countries. It is actually good to belch at the end of the meal to show the host that you enjoyed it. My best advice is to read up on proper customs and etiquette before traveling to a foreign country.
@@LisaLane711 I have family from Germany, and my dad's Oma was not offended by belching at the table
Better than covering, learn to burp with your mouth CLOSED. Unless you have some major physical dysfunction like extreme acid reflux this isn't that difficult.
Deborah Hunter What? It will come out the other end, which is worse! At the table..... IMO 😏
@@MariaLopez-hc2nm burps aren't dispersed that way.
A burp is caused by excess air in the stomach
Flatulence is caused by gastointestinal issues.
I struggle a lot in the movie theater. People behave like animals. Commenting the movie, reacting loudly, always talking... I don't get it.
Carry your bags in your left hand so your right hand is free to draw your weapon.
Shawn Sears
Yeah, because I would do that more often that shaking hands with random people.
@Hannah My thoughts exactly!
Shawn Sears 😂
I was thinking the same! 😀
DA women often carry their gun in their handbag.
If you don't fly often, please don't choose the "speedy" security line, especially with kids! That line is for those of us who have it down to a mindless routine and need to get things done in our lounge before our flight. We don't want to stand behind your family while they dig inside their (too big) carry-on luggage for liquid items they forgot to remove, change in their pockets they didn't know was there, or -
depending on the country - struggle with laceup shoes. It's just like driving: stay in the SLOW LANE!
Hello I wish more people would listen to this an use them
People whispering back and forth at the table is rude also I think.
Leave the shopping trolley in the trolley bay and not all.over the parking area. And stow away the small baskets in the stores after billing where it belongs instead of expecting the clerk to clear it or wait for people to trip over it!
Please use your headphones if u want to listen to your fav music in public!
It’s also bad manners when you flirt in front of your partner with someone. Or worse still, remark on their shapely bum or other attributes. It’s just rude and thoughtless and very upsetting.
That partner is shopping for their next. Ditch them.
absolutely, my ex-husband did this all the time when we were out together. it is so demeaning, humiliating and selfish.
also bad manners for a man to flirt with a woman he has never met, when she has made it clear that she's not interested.
Agree with all of these, and have have one more. Don't stare. My husband knows my thoughts on the matter: A quick appreciative look is fine, ogling is not. He wants to ogle, that's what I'm for. I get it, sometimes looking is unavoidable, especially if they are flaunting it (which I take issue with in and of itself). Sometimes I'm the one others are staring at. I'm 5'6" and a D-DD, it can't be helped. But don't stare. And frankly, it's amazing how little my hubby does look. Seems giving them a bit of permission and trust encourages their eyes to stay put. Funny how that works... XD
This one time I was at the gym and walking towards to last available smith machine, then this guy started power walking towards it and took over me and I got nervous so just let him have it... he was then doing CrossFit and was using about 4 machines all at once with different pieces of clothing on each machine to claim he was using it. How rude hey! 🙈😅
Oh, God! 😆 Did you tell him anything?
Shoulda told dat mane off. -.-
That is SO RUDE. I remember going to the gym once and someone left all of the heaviest weights on the leg press machine so I couldn't remove them to use it myself 😩😔 so embarrassing and frustrating..
What about those body builders who scream when they lift? Aaaahhh!
Lol !
Uhm no. I would tell a worker about that. Leaving clothes on all the machinery and hogging them. No
When ppl in my house leave unidentifiable hairs on the soap
:P
Now THAT is grosse! @@julieerin115
buy liquid soap
In my travels around different parts of the country, I have encountered several cashiers in stores who come across very mechanically. They don't exude any warmth/friendliness or extend a polite greeting, such as "hello", "good morning," etc. to acknowledge my presence. I might as well be dealing with a robot or self checkout. I certainly don't want a two-hour conversation, but a brief pleasantry would be nice. Also, often times I don't even hear a "thank you" for having patronized the store. Managers, you may want to do a refresher course with some of your employees on customer-service skills.
I am just amazed at how many people just lack basic manners, such as saying "please," "thank you" and "excuse me."
That Amazing Voice Makes The video More AWSOME!! LOVE YOU MAN
Thank you, Mahathir! 🌻
@@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL Thank You been watching since this channel started
Yes, I too 💜 the voice of the guy in the video
Totally
People in their phones during lunch movies and public places
In addition to number 1: Don't bring your kids with you. The exact same rules that apply to dogs, apply to kids... and no one wants to listen to your screaming child.
AussieEevee
Exactly, but some people don’t have anyone to leave their kids with.
So we either don’t invite those poor parents or deal with their screaming child.
AussieEevee human kids get a pass . pets are not a need . we all were kids once
That's funny because I think kids are the perfect excuse to avoid invites to events you don't want to go to. 😂
Daniellerella and perfect excuse to leave early ..
Or.... Teach your kids to behave! I know it's a wild idea these days
PARKING LOTS: While driving around looking for a parking space, if there is even ONE CAR behind you, PLEASE DO NOT STOP to WAIT for a person to PULL OUT if they're not in even in their vehicle yet. Most times, you'll be blocking others behind you. The courteous thing to do, is to go by the same rules as the "Musical Chairs" game. KEEP MOVING until you find an OPEN SPACE. This keeps traffic in parking lots moving, and keeps you from annoying your fellow drivers.