I believe the main topic of this video is to think before one speaks, which looking down these comments some will need to re-watch the video to fully absorb the material given.
@@ajg9937 Majority of the statement(s) in the video deal more with emotional intelligence then systematic intelligence. People who pose a high level of emotional intelligence will display a lot of these traits. One doesn't have to agree with the video, however, it was the user to choose to click the video knowing a general sense of what the information given, and when one has to resort to name calling, or demeaning language it's apparent that they lack the self confidence to reassess their own faults as a person and refuse to reflect on their own actions. For me truly intelligent people are not afraid to learn, even if it means putting their pride on the line.
No disrespect, but maybe people are trying to give helpful advice that might be offensive to some people. Would it be better if the person just coldly states the facts? A little empathy might actually be nice.
@@rickandrygel913 No disrespect but you know exactly what they meant. There's a big difference between saying "no disrespect but..." and then giving helpful advice that might not be what they want to hear and saying "no disrespect but...." and then making some completely disrespectful douchebaggy comment.
One of my best friends is the most intelligent person that I know and she literally says all of these things. When these phrases are not put into any context, they seem naive, but they can actually hold a lot of meaning when used in certain ways. Intelligent people don't belittle others for using certain phrases
Verina Musherure, There you go....exactly! Mostly for work and professional reasons to not use these phrases, not socializing with your family & friends, my opinion. 🙂💕🙏
Although it's always good practice to consider one's words, it's beyond ridiculous to verbally walk on eggshells in *every* situation. As for professional situations, certainly avoid cliches, own your mistakes, and act with integrity. I really don't see how being so microscopically aware of certain phrases will help, unless you have the sort of position where that matters, perhaps an extremely complex or competitive area? But that may be a naive viewpoint if that's your world. It just seems extreme.
I think when people use that phrase, they are confessing that they have the inclination to withhold complete transparency but will be brave with what they are saying and give full disclosure.
@@treavam5653 I might suggest that their discomfort may derive from a concern of hurting another's feelings. All too often people hide their true feelings via flattery and other deception to avoid hurting other people's feelings. As a rule, I have worked hard to find ways to be tactfully honest. That said, I can't fully agree with your point. But I can see where you're coming from! 🙂
@@ld9044 In my opinion, most people CAN handle total honesty if it's done tactfully. But of course ones who can't handle it regardless are not impossible to find.
I agree. Unfortunately people misinterpret this as weakness. Which is not true, I believe that if people learn to listen instead of being vocal and loud all the time...they will learn more from others. Also they may appear smarter.
Precisely. I've learned the hard way and have gone back to old boarding school response. We should agree to not agree. Naturally this doesn't always work.😇 i prefer to walk away as prefer not to offend. With all due respect ...😄 yet another way out from boarding school...which makes me vintage.
I get that but sometimes people can forget that your intelligent I often have to remind people I'm not an idiot it's frustrating and some people think I'm stupid because of the way I look and when I say something that they aren't expecting they say oh I didn't know you were that smart and I'm just like 🤦♂️
Context. Sometimes it is perfectly appropriate to say, " You know, I'm a pretty intelligent guy, but even I can't figure out what that idiot was trying to accomplish!"
Apples/oranges. There are certain things one should never/always do but it is still true that you should not refer to a person in a one-dimensional manner using absolutes, two different ideas/concepts.
I disagree about "no problem." It does not imply anything. It simply says what it says. And I'm certainly not going to be dishonest and say "it was my pleasure." When in fact it was really just no problem.
In Hawaii, a common phrase is "Not a Problem". It's used by natives with a sincere smile when doing a small favor and getting thanks for it. It's considered a courtesy.:)
I say no problem instead of you're welcome... Because I guess I was raised to see asking for help as an imposition and I want to reassure people that it isn't an imposition for me. You are welcome has always seemed more confrontational to me in terms of the attitude of the speaker. It feels like "yeah, you better be thankful," or "I am closing this conversation or request," rather than, "you are welcome to ask for help from me."
If there are children being treated unfairly, especially if other children involved are being shown favoritism, then, we should totally point out what isn't fair! Geez, us not saying lot of these statements are more about maturity & wisdom, rather than intelligence. There are s a difference!
@@BWater-yq3jx I agree & disagree with you on that one. If I feel I'm being treated unfairly, I will just leave if we can't come to a place where I'm not feeling that way. But, if the one treating me unfairly asked me why I was leaving, I would be honest and say it's because I'm not sticking around, only to be treated unfairly. Now, I wouldn't say I'm the most intelligent person in a room full of people. But, I am probably smarter than most of them. That's easy to say, I know, but the truth is the truth. I don't see how answering and saying I won't stick around to be treated unfairly makes me unintelligent. Now, if I stomp my foot, while whining, "That's not fair!" Then yeah, that's probably not an intelligent response. But, it certainly isn't an indication of the person being dumb! Immature maybe, but not dumb!
Be genuine, be respectful, be kind. And then you won't be so paranoid and take it the wrong way that was not intended. None of us is perfect. Its not a competition. Don't get personal. Be encouraging and optimistic. Consider these things, and what you say, will have context and momentum, and won't be taken the wrong way. Then your attitude will choose better words.
Being genuine isn't necessarily kindness, nor is it necessarily bad either. People today don't know how to effectively communicate with the people around them cause of all the isolation from reality with texts, voicemail etc. Much easier to avoid, delete, and or to be rude cause we aren't directly connected in face to face conversations as often as we used to be years ago.
I've always been a natural feel sort of guy. In that I never studied at school, but got above average marks, because I see patterns at a subconscious level. So memorising 15 things not to do is not going to work for me. Knowing what TO DO, instead of what NOT TO DO, is more how the brain/mind works. What NOT TO DO, is actually the GOAL of TO DO... when you get into the mind imaging of goals. You CANNOT imagine a NOT. You can only Imagine a DO. So in light of that all being in the way. Taken under advisement. To know an attitude and way of thinking, which does not require me to learn a list of do's, is to much easier. As it is the theme, the spirit, the intention. And in such, is a bit more consideration. But hey we are all at different stages. Memorising a list and quoting from it is being in a place out of your depth when it comes out like a parrot. Heck saying I love you to your spouse out of habit, is something to avoid, and make fresh and fully intentional. For life is not a shallow bunch of stuff, its much deeper. But then again, the research also says, intelligent people only have a few good close friends. They are not so shallow as to desire to mingle in small talk. So while there are many Do Not's processing them in a manner that works for you is probably something that takes a lot longer than you realise. Ever read a self help book and tried to put it into practice? After failing at that for a while, you start to realise there are many levels and facets of knowledge. And knowing about something and putting it into practice effortlessly, takes training and rehearsal. It is nothing to do with the knowledge of it as written down in the book. But everything to do with baking a cake via instructions of step by step for each practical instant. So attitude, gets the mind into gear, along with other goal aspects, to achieve with a deeper feel for things. For the mind when used correctly will have the goals working for you, instead of against you. And then it will do much live, that you never would consider if you needed to know everything first.
Ray okeedoki you seem like a great person. I really loved everything you mentioned. My sister sent me this, and she’s the most intelligent person I know. So out of trust and curiosity I opened it. She was always watching what I said growing up, so I trust her. I’ve noticed when I’ve watched something that said not to do it, I find myself doing and in my head thinking “wtf I wouldn’t normally do that” and so I feared that would happen with this. But eh most of the stuff they mentioned I don’t say.. the no problem and good luck one are what it suggest I work on. But who gets to say if you’re a problem for me or not, right ... haha. Anywho. Loved your response! Have a well deserved day! Haha
Don't say "Intelligent People Never Say These 16 Phrases" because that way you are implying that if a person happens to say these every day phrases occasionally, they are automatically unintelligent which is the same as saying you are stupid and that might not be the case and can be very upsetting and offend others! Think about words you can use instead, like for example "highly intelligent people subsidize these 16 phrases with other phrases using their wide knowledge of the vocabulary to avoid misrepresentation and accidental offenses towards people who out of their inner hate, look for petty from everyone to make themselves feel better and will look for offense in everything, even if there are no objective grounds to get offended by what the other people say/said." See... polite and honest!
This is good advice for people who often speak and listen in very public positions, although, we should all be open to discussion on a variety of topics in a variety of platforms, meaning: The phrases mentioned in the video have been around for so long that we ought to understand the depth of intention they are used with when spoken in a casual context, especially if we are in casual conversation with close friends or family. . .We should have enough empathetic understanding not to allow phrases like those to awkwardly affect, us when spoken, especially if what's said is true. If a person is talking to a narcissist, most of the terms mentioned in this video would be true if it pertained to someone's narcissistic behavior. I'm just saying... This video is more like a lesson in public speaking than an intelligent reminder. . . So serious. What an upright world it would be if we let phrases like that distract our minds from being aware of the truth at hand... Ooops... Did I say that? Yes, yes I did.
🙄... 🤔... 😑... 😏 Fortunately, it takes everything to make a world ... Unfortunately, you have to deal with ... Because of this, some people are more capable than others in different fields and to live together, we have to deal with despite our differences and different ... It's a question of balance ... As individuals or collectively, quite simply ... All is relative !
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I had 4 brain operations due to genetic gene's, over a period of 15 years. The first in 2001 half of my hair was shaved of to open my scalp to remove the tumour, the second 2002 the back of my left ear that leave me partial deaf the 3 rd in 2011 on my frontal right lobe eye what started with losing my eye sight the last in 2015 in my right frontal lobe.. which created a personality change which canot accept nor can my family. Which i am losing my eye sight I think the last one was the most difficult one due to my age and it created a personality change which is difficult to accept by myself and family and I am scared for people that I did not know before the operation. I have no words to explain my condition, I cry every day and is tired and sleep most of the time. I am unbalanced and dizzy if I stand to long I cannot even go shopping. I went through a divorce and into a relationship which made every thing worse as I did not understand why are everybody treating me like a baby. It felt that all know something but dont want me to know. I believed I was crazy but my family resued me. Well I believe I am able to cure with professional help / sponsorship or even if reseach is done on me to better technology. I want to be better a person with wealth and health and happiness and success and love than before. I am under 24/7 care but believe I am able to heal 100% with God on my side and professional help. I constantly change living arrangements within the family as they do not know how to handle my moods and cannot live by myself . I have emotional issues as I cry a lot and my family want me save and happy. I have short term and long term memory loss and it seem that no one understand me and I have no reason to live anymore. I was once admitted to Akeso Clinic and one in Randvaal area but I turned out worse and know i am with family in Heidelberg always family with me 24/7 as I get lost and all funny things happen to me. So I am never alone..... I were everywhere with the family Durban Cape town but had no professional help just loving family protecting and caring for me for the past 4 years. The Brackenhurst clinic referred me to Alberton North physo who wanted me go go to Sterkfontein hospital but my family said noooo Once a month the family comes together and dress me up and make me beautifull for photos but that makes me even more emotional. They love me soo much and also want to see me as I use to be and I know I am breaking theirs hearts as they see me deteriorating . Please see attached documentation and advise accordingly. Your help will be much appreciated. I am positive that this will be sponsored as I want to heal but the financial is limited from our side . I also believe that a book can be written as this is generic from our past 3 generations as some of my nieces and cousins sit with the same issues but not diagnosed or as severe as mine This would also make a great testamonial or a motivational speech. . But I do not no where to begin and need professional assistance. As I know I won't ever be able to work due to this condition i have. I have both short and long term memory loss. I mix my words and numbers and are a threat to myself at home when left alone as i forget to put off the stove and to close the bath tap and forget who is who i drink the wrong tablets etc. I need my family or fiance to give it to me on regular basis I think it could be the beginning of altzheimer or something that is similar.. I do not want to be a burden to my family and want to know if there ever be a possibility that I can live a normal life again . I come out of a loving family with Christian upbrings and they support me 100% If not can you direct me in the right direction please. I am sooo scared and cannot go on this way of living I beg you out of my deepest heart to help to be a normal happy person again. I know I look normal but the problem is inside my confusing head and I cannot think as I used to think and do not remember what and when I do what and forget what I wanted to say someting. The knowledge I havr cannot be tsken away from me but My brain have difficulty to accept new information... Nedbank authorised me to apply for a disability grant at Sassa Jimmy Abbotte referred me to Nasa Smartmind in Heidelberg who is doing case studies on me currrently.. as I have breakdowns and loose count of 4 or 5 days at a time.. I know i am high maintenance but do not want to be a burden or a laughing joke to anybody. God is good..... All the time.... I cannot go on living this confusing,depressed, joint stiffness,scary,trustless, helpless, suspicious, emotional, anxious, panicfull, frustrating, irrational, dizzy, impatient, way. [02/28, 10:48] ICAS also referred me to Sanca in Heidelberg who said they will refer me to someone else. I am still waiting for their call... [02/28, 10:55] Vic: Icas reference me to Sanca in Heidelberg again 27/02/2018 and their response was the same as the last time. They cannot help me as my case is to complicated with my brain tumour and injury and with my long term memory and short term memory loss. But they gave me 2 numbers for dr in Vereeniging and in Alberton which my fiancee must phone for help. He did phone but one is over seas and the other one works on a cash basis which I cannot afford. Currently I am on prolax and epynoutin from the gov hospital in Heidelberg, Gauteng. I buy solal amino acid naturally high now, I used hpt5 before And i also drink IPS energy tablets. Please help me with correct health supplements to become a normal me again. .. I have recurring genetic multipule meningioma tumours and malamoma skin cancer inherent from 3 generations passed accordingly dr Snyckers,dr zorio and dr Torres-Holmes from Milpark. And they also said my brain do not produce serotonin any more. My name is AV TROLLIP and my date of birth is 18/06/1968. I live in South Africa. I got your info from the Internet I am busy writing my story for 3 years now... The dr said I must write everything down, and I am 50 years old now and I think I am getting better as I am starting to accept my personality changes and God knows what He has planned for me... I meditate every night and listen to sounds to rewire my subconscious mind....i believe I am in a awakening stage but still very confused .. I know get my meds from Heidelberg gov hospital . The dr psychic at Heidelberg referred me to the Psychiatrist in Ratanda dr Thoka who want to atmit me to Tara in Sandton but must first have a panel interview with various drs at Sandton and a discussion with my family..... I also try to live in the moment every day....i am a new me and want to grow further please help me as i need help to improve faster in my subconscious mind I am starting to accept the other me and must adjust to it. I want to grow further and improve my condition and knowledge of the consious and sub co nsious mind. My mental disorder can also be caused by my previous narcissistic marriages or child hood beliefs. I believe reseach could be done on my brain Altough I have both short and long term memory loss and know I won't ever be able to work in the open or public market as I am scared for people which I don't know or any other person from my previous life. I believe God is working within me giving me wisdom to heal ..
They may not but there are people who evaluated important people to share what they have in common and what may be helping them in their success and then share that information to make money out of it and that in itself is very smart
I consider myself fairly intelligent; however, I have used these phases many times in my vocabulary. I will think before I say any of them again. Interesting channel, I subbed.
well?, by the time you reason through all the possible out comes of using these words and phrases at a perticullar time you might see a need to use it, the person interacted with will eventually devolve into skeletal remains right before your eyes, Well? you too. 30 years and then left as skeletal remains in Macy's Mall
No, don’t think of this videos message during social interactions. That’ll hinder your thoughts. This video is not absolute. In fact, the message in this is corrupted by a simple black and white view in an everlasting world of grey area.
moon glow, These phrases are mostly for your work place..professional space, not conversations with friends or family, because most don't care what their phrasis sound like to their close friends or family. That's how it is..lolol! 🙂💕
Never once in life have I felt that someone saying “no problem” meant that I was making a problem for them. This video should be titled “ways to avoid problems that don’t exist”.
And I always think, "Why are they bringing up the possibility fo problems?" It seems especially bad policy for employees of a retail business to say "...no problem..." to customers, and if I was a manager or owner of such a business, I'd make it against policy. "..glad to help you." seems much nicer.
@@bobo4691 Everyone over-thinks and overly-analyzes everything, I can't believe how complicated people make everything these days. In the past, they claimed that technology gadgets would make life easier, but now people are still overly upset over mere words.
I've been having a problem with speaking to other people because I don't know what are the appropriate words to say. This video is so helpful, thank you very much!
I’d say that I agree with most of this. The exceptions being: “No problem”. I’ve always received this as a positive statement equal to “you’re welcome” and would hope that others are able to say and hear it in the same positive way. “This will only take a minute.” If the other person really expects you to have it done in 60 seconds or less after hearing you say that, I’d say you’ve done yourself a favor by discovering that they are either being deliberately difficult or that they have social limitations that you will need to work around.
Is it Ghintis Ritotis, something that name.. i don't remember but I have a disorder that when I lie I could feel the person's stress and when I get stress I get migraines.. it's all because of myself why I couldn't lie, which is nice. Plus when someone's getting bored I'm worrying that they will leave playing with me so instead I try so hard to entertain them with my word ask them questions so they don't fall their emotion down. Im a introvert but I love people talking to me
Na Na na, its "I can't kill my annoying neighbour TODAY, I'll do it tomorrow because its Sunday and I know he likes to lay in so he won't see me over him with a knife at his throat when I'm about to do it."lol
I have said “no problem” before . Great video ! It taught me to be more intuitive to other people’s input instead of my own . Intelligent people are not so self absorbed .
Honestly this video is perfection. Individuals who cannot connect with these point may not be managers or leaders of people. If you have to lead people often, you will understand how annoying these phrases are! Great work.
I believe there are some situations that requires " I can't " and " I wont". I was once one of those people who used to say those phrases as "recommended" in the video, ( a decade ago before I came upon this video today ) somehow it ended up me being the doormat or "yes" woman. Positivity is one thing, setting boundaries is another. I feel these kinda advice, take what applies in our daily lives and do what works. Otherwise we end up doing other people's work and not making it work for us. Just my two cents thoughts based on my own personal unpleasant experience.
nkeiru26 A elderly Navy Veteran told a active duty Navy young guy. After he made that comment to him when he offer a courtesy to him. The elderly gentleman told the younger guy twice. That he did not feel it was a problem. He told the lad. Just say you are welcome. The elder gentleman stated he never understood when people say No problem. If it is No problem why state No problem.
There are times when the person we are talking to is hardcoded with how to react. Unless I say things like, "As I already told you many times... As I said before... OR even You always keep doing this" They are trained to blame us and escape. And they don't care about words like accountability.. In such cases, i do purposefully use these phrases, to get results, even though I refrain from using them otherwise
#7 This will only take a minute -this is a figure of speech its not to be taken literally. #8 Good luck - is a very common 'goodbye' greeting or sincere wish for someone to have a good day. Assuming anything else from it is overthinking it.
I used to work as a passenger screener at the airport. Before doing a pat-down, we were required (by lawyers... so we were told) to go through a spiel, with observable hand motions, describing the procedure. Many frequent travelers would cut us off with "I know the drill," but we still had to say it all. (The "this will only take a minute" part of the video reminded me of this scenario.) I would preface my delivery with, "I am required to go through this spiel, but I can do it all in one breath." This always seemed to amuse the passenger, rather than irritate them, as they watched carefully to see if I took another breath while performing at auctioneer speed. We were required to take performance tests yearly, and these tests would make many screeners nervous. Instead of wishing a co-worker "Good luck" before they tested, I would say "Go show them how it's done!" This was an awesome video. I liked it just so I can refer back to it easily.
Thats because in busyness u need to be more formal u cant use informal language or swear in front of customers too much although this seems to be changing when I did work ex years ago we told no swearing or informal words in front of customers
"No problem" may be a cultural thing. In some languages when you say "thank you" the other person says something that directly translates to "it was nothing or no problem. In some languages there is no word for "you're welcome".
Thank you so much for this video. I recognized a lot of ppl in it, including myself. You've encouraged positive change in me and these points will also give me more patience with others. Thanks again!
Growing up I was taught not to say "shut up" because it's rude, "I can't" because u can, and "I don't know" when it came down to why I took a certain action. I see them all fitting in this video.
Wrong.. as you see I'm smart, but any smart person could say the words they could.. some others say "I don't mind it at all" or "Good luck then", anyone could be intelligent with any words.. you're making yourself believe a lie fellow, the video who made this is not a god of all the time
#10. Tell me I look good for my age please? I'm 60 and people clock me for late 20's. Thank you Jane Fonda and The 20 Minute Workout back in the day! I still workout every, single, day!
I'm sorry, I see myself intelligent but as I said "Anyone can be intelligent by any year, by any day or month.. any smart people could say what they want, and what's comfortable for them to say, the only thing that matters is that they don't swear they're nice.. ofc they're called smart they know the right things to do"
This has nothing to do with intelligents. It has to do with empathy. MANY people out there are highly intelligent but can not behave right in social situations. It seems like the person who made this video doesn't actually know what he is talking about.
Niva Raven thank you! 🙌 I'm intelligent yet socially awkward. So I've had to memorize phrases like these and learn when it's appropriate to say them. This video only confused me further lol.
only people that are socially aware of things know these phrases and when is it right to say them. NOT all intelligent people know these.. oh and by the way, this video just offended me
Fault indicates anger. It's only someone's fault because someone is angry. One uses blame to make someone else feel bad. Look at the actual intention behind that remark. I cured that by just agreeing with whatever I was being blamed for. "You broke the copy machine", me .."yr right and I'd do it again in a heartbeat" or whatever. The other person's intention is recognized and nullified. I didnt break the copier but I'm not going to get into an argument about it with that person. Dont refuse the blame, accept it with a smile, agree and move on. You'll be amazed at how much easier yr life becomes.
Great video of being aware and to think before speaking. I might add to that list the phrase, “To be honest (with you)...” I would wonder if that person lies frequently and it takes a big effort to try telling the truth.
Marty Mar I actually like this phrase because it’s a fact. For instance, people complain about the real estate prices or situation in our area. Well “it is what it is.” The market is what it is. I don’t make it, I just interpret it. Same with other situations. It is what it is just means to accept the facts and move on.
Sometimes people moan about shit beyond anybody's control. What they really want is vindication, somebody to help them to wallow in self pity and assume their victim role but if you're not an enabler, don't have patience for that shit but don't want to be rude by saying nothing then "It is what it is" Just means that you need to learn to accept what is, in order to move forward.
A dad of an ex gave me a piece of advice I thought and still think it was minimally worth hearing, understanding and repeating. He asked me "are you looking for reasons to be offended or are you looking for reasons for your love? Everytime you look for a reason to be offended in any longterm relationship will always give you something you could get offended over. Quit looking for reasons to be offended, look for reasons to love the other person and look for way to express and/ or show them acts of love." The "quit looking for reasons to be offended because they are always there and they will always be found and they will leave you angry and possibly it could come between the 2 of us in the relationship and cause the ultimate demise. The way I viewed arguing pettiness and even appreciation changed literally overnight after hearing these things.
Always &never used to perturb me to the point of arguments. But I got it under control,thankfully. Cool video as I stay away from social media. Well done
And I always inwardly laugh when someone says, "I could care less." , because that implies that they might actually care a great deal, while I realize that they usually mean the opposite.
Thank you for these lessons. I can watch and listen to the video all day but my time is very limited. However the few minutes I had this morning I enjoyed the lessons. Now I believe that I can speak proper grammar furthermore with confidence. Kind regards.
some of these make sense and some shouldn't be on this list like "no problem." its not a bad phrase, it implies that it was no problem and I was glad to help. if you miss interpret it you still have some growing to do. love your video editing.
“I enjoy being stupid ,I enjoy saying stupid things” honestly I can’t help it ,,,,I actually did well at school A grades ,high ones ,but I just can’t help it people think I am stupid but it’s funny,I was the class clown but I made people laugh and tbh I still do ,being stupid makes me laugh
I was the same way in school many years ago . However ," I'm a little more mindful of others and try to convey that in my choice of words ! Doesn't always turn out that way though .
Bob Bob: Studies have proven that people who joke and laugh more than usual are significantly more intelligent than those who don't. One study I've read showed more brain matter in that compartment than in the average brain. So, keep it up! You'd definitely be someone I'd like to have at a party. 🙃
@@flowerpower4944 Well, with that said, I probably wouldn't want him at my party. But, I'd definitely have him over for a couple bouts in the boxing ring with my son. 😖😬
I absolutely agree with this video, as I have been learning these very things. And I have to say that my life has become less tense & stress learning how to better communicate. Thank you for the video.🙂
If I know that they're aware of it, I don't mention it. If they seem to be clueless, I'll say something like "Remember when we talked about..." But this is purely for their benefit, to complete the learning experience! 😉 Because I care. 😄
good list :) Thank you. I want to practice better listening skills. I'm working on that, now. I've had brain surgery recently that has interfered with that skill a bit, and I've noticed more of a need to pause before speaking in order to process things more efficiently, so I think a focus there will also give me that extra bit of time to consider what I want to express before I do so. The two are both important, and also seem to go hand-in-hand. Thanks for the advice. much appreciated. I really enjoy your site. It's always interesting and fun! :)
@@rubyxcube3 My freshman teacher always told us this quote when we complained about homework...So now you know and should pass it on to your children so they can use it for your grand children...
I learned in the 90’s corporate America that’s it’s bad form to say ‘no problem’ when assisting a client or customer or co worker. As saying ‘No problem’ indicates there is a ‘problem’ so we regraded from saying it. I see eliminating this language is very important in business relationships.
Having never worked in corporate America, just being a normal American citizen, I never had any idea that anyone would think this, and I always would say this online. We're an entirely different group of people on MMORPGs, as this was never a problem with a single person online, but people IRL are clearly weird people.
👋 👌 Good I understand that many times I made mistakes but I trying to make it fair to say. Thanks for sharing your video about my mistakes which I made always.
There is another one that wasn't mentioned, "to be honest". Whenever I hear that, I cringe. So, now the person saying that is honest. Was he/she lying before?
Or the person is usually diplomatic and discreet..... and now they're going to be quite forthright. Anyway that's what I mean when I say "to be honest,.." Because I AM honest, but sometimes.....you have to be blunt.
To be honest, if I use it, it's because I am about to insist on something that the one with whom I'm speaking is not discussing truthfully. Thus tells them not that I was being dishonest previously, but that they have yet to acknowledge what I insist on looking at with veracity.
These are pretty good. I did have a boss one time who asked me to do something, and I answered him, "I'll do my best!" His reply, "I didn't ask you to do your best, I asked you to do it." He was a hard boss to like.
@@olgak.1139 Hey, I was a Latin nerd too... for 1.5 years... over 30 years ago... let me guess: something writing something hand something spoken something volition or action or something... Feel free to translate.
A phrase that I have used for years when needing to resolve an issue is "I certainly hope you can help me." This phrase nearly always dissolves possible resistance. It has worked in nearly every situation. Some examples: Returning product, calling a government agency, calling the internet provider and a credit card company. I figure I can always get tough later, if necessary. Never have really had to. Yes, listening is much harder than speaking. And, maybe I need to rethink my overuse of "No problem."
@@Bombastic_side_eye6 yea....but i rly do!! Oh,so duz Trump. 4 months away & ppl are STILL talking shit abt him & mocking him.Its out of fear & feelings of inferiority.
It's not my fault? I can't? What? Sometimes you LITERALLY have situations out of your control... this video is the equivalent of some actually saying " I told you so". The only major phrase that can be very detrimental.
Agree 💯 percent. That is exactly the problem. No one thinks anymore before engaging in conversation. I always ask myself first, how would I feel if this/ that or the other thing were said to me? Although I agree that people are much more sensitive these days which makes it even more important to be aware of whom you’re talking to and how . 🌹
Great video... I would like to have a common phrase that I cannot stand addressed... "TO BE HONEST" Why do so many people feel that they need to preface their answer to another's question with, "Honestly," or, "To be honest"??? Are they subconsciously saying, "Normally, I'd answer with a lie, but with you..."
In My Honest Opinion (IMHO), we were taught that way by our parents/teachers/Internet :=p. Seriously, we all copied each other, and we were all taught that way here in the USA.
I’m so glad I discovered this channel! I’ve learned and gleaned so many new things! Yes, people who aren’t intelligent post the dumb comments lol. But your channel enlightened me with the “NP” because I texted this to my bf being ignorant of this! Thanks again ! 👍🌈👍
Like judge Judy says, we have two ears, and one mouth for a reason. We are supposed to listen, twice as much as we speak! Like her, or hate her, this statement is spot on!
I feel like *how* you say something is as important..some of the most negative things said on here, will get a different reaction when using the right tone..if it's brought up with a genuine well being for the other person, it speaks volumes..your attitude is *EVERYTHING* =)
#3 - I never write letters in Norwegian and I always sleep with my eyes either closed or open. Lol # 4 - Me: turning dial on safe (entering combination) then opening safe. Friend: Why do you do it that way? Me: it’s the way I’ve always done it - Right 36 Left 28 Right 36 open safe lol I’m not lazy or archaic, I’m a traditionalist lol #7 - Friend: How long will it take the second hand on your watch to go all the way around one time? Me: It will only take a minute Lol
All who can read possess intelligence. Choose your words carefully, with as much mindfulness as you can muster, and your intelligence is guaranteed to reach its full potential. The word is mindfulness. It is what gifted people practice.
I believe the main topic of this video is to think before one speaks, which looking down these comments some will need to re-watch the video to fully absorb the material given.
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Sonny No not really, most people are just annoyed at how dumb the title is when the video is somewhat about intelligence, irony?
@@ajg9937 Majority of the statement(s) in the video deal more with emotional intelligence then systematic intelligence. People who pose a high level of emotional intelligence will display a lot of these traits. One doesn't have to agree with the video, however, it was the user to choose to click the video knowing a general sense of what the information given, and when one has to resort to name calling, or demeaning language it's apparent that they lack the self confidence to reassess their own faults as a person and refuse to reflect on their own actions. For me truly intelligent people are not afraid to learn, even if it means putting their pride on the line.
Sonny well SAID!!!
The main topic of this video seems to be consider carefully before speaking.
Introvert me taking notes for the virtual conversations in my head
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This needs to be highlighted
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I truly hate when ppl say " No disrespect"....then disrespect that person !! It's really stupid !!
Dashia James yes thats stupid to say. Don't like that either
I agree. It's like saying that you're unrepentant about planning to make a statement you already deem unmeritorious.
No disrespect, but maybe people are trying to give helpful advice that might be offensive to some people. Would it be better if the person just coldly states the facts? A little empathy might actually be nice.
@@rickandrygel913 No disrespect but you know exactly what they meant. There's a big difference between saying "no disrespect but..." and then giving helpful advice that might not be what they want to hear and saying "no disrespect but...." and then making some completely disrespectful douchebaggy comment.
@@American-Plague no disrespect, but you be no doctor.
Saying “no” or “I won’t” as directly and politely as the situation warrants is an essential tool.
One of my best friends is the most intelligent person that I know and she literally says all of these things. When these phrases are not put into any context, they seem naive, but they can actually hold a lot of meaning when used in certain ways. Intelligent people don't belittle others for using certain phrases
Well said ! Lol......
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There you go....exactly! Mostly for work and professional reasons to not use these phrases, not socializing with your family & friends, my opinion. 🙂💕🙏
Although it's always good practice to consider one's words, it's beyond ridiculous to verbally walk on eggshells in *every* situation.
As for professional situations, certainly avoid cliches, own your mistakes, and act with integrity.
I really don't see how being so microscopically aware of certain phrases will help, unless you have the sort of position where that matters, perhaps an extremely complex or competitive area?
But that may be a naive viewpoint if that's your world. It just seems extreme.
so good!
I hate it when people say “to be honest” you should be Honest All the time.
I think when people use that phrase, they are confessing that they have the inclination to withhold complete transparency but will be brave with what they are saying and give full disclosure.
@@treavam5653 I might suggest that their discomfort may derive from a concern of hurting another's feelings. All too often people hide their true feelings via flattery and other deception to avoid hurting other people's feelings. As a rule, I have worked hard to find ways to be tactfully honest. That said, I can't fully agree with your point. But I can see where you're coming from! 🙂
I agree, however most people cannot handle honesty.
@@ld9044 In my opinion, most people CAN handle total honesty if it's done tactfully. But of course ones who can't handle it regardless are not impossible to find.
I must say, I think being able to listen more than you speak is possibly the most powerful way to avoid saying statements that will be misinterpreted
That's why you have 2 ears and one mouth
Well are we speaking in real life or online. Because words can be taken out of context online.
I agree. Unfortunately people misinterpret this as weakness. Which is not true, I believe that if people learn to listen instead of being vocal and loud all the time...they will learn more from others. Also they may appear smarter.
Precisely. I've learned the hard way and have gone back to old boarding school response. We should agree to not agree. Naturally this doesn't always work.😇 i prefer to walk away as prefer not to offend. With all due respect ...😄 yet another way out from boarding school...which makes me vintage.
Happy Facts Lifestyle - Practical Inspiration only if you’re listening to intelligent people otherwise you’re wasting your fucking time
Another I avoid saying is "I promise". If I say I'll do it, I'll do it.
My yes means yes and my no means no.
Very simple.
Exactly. Kinda like when Joe Biden says some crazy thing followed by "I'm not making this up."
@@janetwhite7786 then most times he quite literally is making it up
Great list. I would add that intelligent people never tell you that they are intelligent or smart They don’t have to say it.
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I get that but sometimes people can forget that your intelligent I often have to remind people I'm not an idiot it's frustrating and some people think I'm stupid because of the way I look and when I say something that they aren't expecting they say oh I didn't know you were that smart and I'm just like 🤦♂️
Context. Sometimes it is perfectly appropriate to say, " You know, I'm a pretty intelligent guy, but even I can't figure out what that idiot was trying to accomplish!"
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nice one pitbull gaming also really true
Title of video is intelligent people NEVER say these16 phrases.
#3 - Don’t use never/always lol
They did that on purpose, intelligent people would know that
Ok
Yeah this is bullshit
Apples/oranges. There are certain things one should never/always do but it is still true that you should not refer to a person in a one-dimensional manner using absolutes, two different ideas/concepts.
The irony
Haha, this is why the Bible says be "slow to speak and quick to listen" James 1:19
G.od is made up crap.
Amen Skate.
Cut to the chase , James is A DOUBLE EDGED S-WORD
@@alanastone5241 sorry.
@@alanastone5241 You are just ignorant of who and what He is and does!
Intelligent people don't rely on youtube videos to tell them what is and is not intelligent.
Bravo!
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Exactly....!!
I disagree. I believe intelligent people would watch a video like this because there's alway room for improvement!
@@automatic12ga4 good one i agree. intelligent people still search for more improvments for them...
I disagree about "no problem." It does not imply anything. It simply says what it says. And I'm certainly not going to be dishonest and say "it was my pleasure." When in fact it was really just no problem.
I agree with you. Greetings from Brazil.
Exactly it’s the same as saying you’re welcome. This video is BS
saying “it’s no problem” devalues ur efforts
I agree
I take "no problem" as a big insult. It's right up there with "uhuh" instead of " you're welcome".
In Hawaii, a common phrase is "Not a Problem". It's used by natives with a sincere smile when doing a small favor and getting thanks for it. It's considered a courtesy.:)
In a lot of places it's just common language. No big deal, no problem, no sweat, don't worry about it.
Same here in Australia. It's extremely common to say "no problem". And I can assure you that no one takes offence or even thinks twice about it
In much of the latino community, they say, "de nada" meaning "it's nothing". It's the equivalent of you're welcome.
I say no problem instead of you're welcome... Because I guess I was raised to see asking for help as an imposition and I want to reassure people that it isn't an imposition for me. You are welcome has always seemed more confrontational to me in terms of the attitude of the speaker. It feels like "yeah, you better be thankful," or "I am closing this conversation or request," rather than, "you are welcome to ask for help from me."
@Jo Jatoe lighten up!:)
"whatever you want" shows great respect and flexibilty. It is good to say.
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All can be so simple
*I never say "It's not fair" because every time I ever have someone has replied with "Life's not fair"* 😡
I hate that! Crazy response to me! Thanks dude! Next!
Why say "It's not fair" when 'This sucks!" is so much more powerful! 😁
(and I'm only half joking...)
If there are children being treated unfairly, especially if other children involved are being shown favoritism, then, we should totally point out what isn't fair! Geez, us not saying lot of these statements are more about maturity & wisdom, rather than intelligence. There are s a difference!
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Different if you're using this phrase to defend someone else, rather than whining about your own situation.
@@BWater-yq3jx I agree & disagree with you on that one. If I feel I'm being treated unfairly, I will just leave if we can't come to a place where I'm not feeling that way. But, if the one treating me unfairly asked me why I was leaving, I would be honest and say it's because I'm not sticking around, only to be treated unfairly. Now, I wouldn't say I'm the most intelligent person in a room full of people. But, I am probably smarter than most of them. That's easy to say, I know, but the truth is the truth. I don't see how answering and saying I won't stick around to be treated unfairly makes me unintelligent.
Now, if I stomp my foot, while whining, "That's not fair!" Then yeah, that's probably not an intelligent response. But, it certainly isn't an indication of the person being dumb! Immature maybe, but not dumb!
Be genuine, be respectful, be kind. And then you won't be so paranoid and take it the wrong way that was not intended. None of us is perfect. Its not a competition. Don't get personal. Be encouraging and optimistic. Consider these things, and what you say, will have context and momentum, and won't be taken the wrong way. Then your attitude will choose better words.
absolutely 💞
I like your comment 😀
Being genuine isn't necessarily kindness, nor is it necessarily bad either. People today don't know how to effectively communicate with the people around them cause of all the isolation from reality with texts, voicemail etc. Much easier to avoid, delete, and or to be rude cause we aren't directly connected in face to face conversations as often as we used to be years ago.
I've always been a natural feel sort of guy. In that I never studied at school, but got above average marks, because I see patterns at a subconscious level. So memorising 15 things not to do is not going to work for me. Knowing what TO DO, instead of what NOT TO DO, is more how the brain/mind works. What NOT TO DO, is actually the GOAL of TO DO... when you get into the mind imaging of goals. You CANNOT imagine a NOT. You can only Imagine a DO.
So in light of that all being in the way. Taken under advisement. To know an attitude and way of thinking, which does not require me to learn a list of do's, is to much easier. As it is the theme, the spirit, the intention. And in such, is a bit more consideration. But hey we are all at different stages. Memorising a list and quoting from it is being in a place out of your depth when it comes out like a parrot. Heck saying I love you to your spouse out of habit, is something to avoid, and make fresh and fully intentional. For life is not a shallow bunch of stuff, its much deeper. But then again, the research also says, intelligent people only have a few good close friends. They are not so shallow as to desire to mingle in small talk.
So while there are many Do Not's processing them in a manner that works for you is probably something that takes a lot longer than you realise. Ever read a self help book and tried to put it into practice? After failing at that for a while, you start to realise there are many levels and facets of knowledge. And knowing about something and putting it into practice effortlessly, takes training and rehearsal. It is nothing to do with the knowledge of it as written down in the book. But everything to do with baking a cake via instructions of step by step for each practical instant. So attitude, gets the mind into gear, along with other goal aspects, to achieve with a deeper feel for things. For the mind when used correctly will have the goals working for you, instead of against you. And then it will do much live, that you never would consider if you needed to know everything first.
Ray okeedoki you seem like a great person. I really loved everything you mentioned. My sister sent me this, and she’s the most intelligent person I know. So out of trust and curiosity I opened it. She was always watching what I said growing up, so I trust her. I’ve noticed when I’ve watched something that said not to do it, I find myself doing and in my head thinking “wtf I wouldn’t normally do that” and so I feared that would happen with this. But eh most of the stuff they mentioned I don’t say.. the no problem and good luck one are what it suggest I work on. But who gets to say if you’re a problem for me or not, right ... haha. Anywho. Loved your response! Have a well deserved day! Haha
Don't say "Intelligent People Never Say These 16 Phrases" because that way you are implying that if a person happens to say these every day phrases occasionally, they are automatically unintelligent which is the same as saying you are stupid and that might not be the case and can be very upsetting and offend others!
Think about words you can use instead, like for example "highly intelligent people subsidize these 16 phrases with other phrases using their wide knowledge of the vocabulary to avoid misrepresentation and accidental offenses towards people who out of their inner hate, look for petty from everyone to make themselves feel better and will look for offense in everything, even if there are no objective grounds to get offended by what the other people say/said."
See... polite and honest!
With all due respect ... was a phrase I was taught by my parents ... I'm not offended by that?????
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Laima Lisovska ha! That’s the best and longest title to a video I’ve ever seen!
With all due respect fucking snowflake
well said Laima
This is good advice for people who often speak and listen in very public positions, although, we should all be open to discussion on a variety of topics in a variety of platforms, meaning: The phrases mentioned in the video have been around for so long that we ought to understand the depth of intention they are used with when spoken in a casual context, especially if we are in casual conversation with close friends or family. . .We should have enough empathetic understanding not to allow phrases like those to awkwardly affect, us when spoken, especially if what's said is true.
If a person is talking to a narcissist, most of the terms mentioned in this video would be true if it pertained to someone's narcissistic behavior.
I'm just saying...
This video is more like a lesson in public speaking than an intelligent reminder. . . So serious.
What an upright world it would be if we let phrases like that distract our minds from being aware of the truth at hand... Ooops... Did I say that?
Yes, yes I did.
I'm afraid that you mixed intelligence with a level of social training of an individual.
that is what a stupid person would say
there's a thing called Social Intelligence
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Fortunately, it takes everything to make a world ... Unfortunately, you have to deal with ... Because of this, some people are more capable than others in different fields and to live together, we have to deal with despite our differences and different ... It's a question of balance ... As individuals or collectively, quite simply ... All is relative !
Yes, intelligence doesn't exactly fit here.
and wisdom, or just basic decency.
"Intelligent People NEVER Say These 16 Phrases" - #3: "You always/You NEVER" /
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The knowledge I havr cannot be tsken away from me but My brain have difficulty to accept new information...
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God is good..... All the time....
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Hahaha, exactly. They are busted:)
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They forgot my favorite phase " To be honest with you"...simply suggest that the person your talking to is not always telling the truth.
Cant stand that phrase. I dont use it at alllllll.
apparently...intelligent people don't make videos about what intelligent people say...hmm...
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I think this is true
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Yeah... this guy is not getting to the point with his incredibly long intro. I'm sure he has nothing of value to add.
They may not but there are people who evaluated important people to share what they have in common and what may be helping them in their success and then share that information to make money out of it and that in itself is very smart
exactly
I consider myself fairly intelligent; however, I have used these phases many times in my vocabulary. I will think before I say any of them again. Interesting channel, I subbed.
well?, by the time you reason through all the possible out comes of using these words and phrases at a perticullar time you might see a need to use it, the person interacted with will eventually devolve into skeletal remains right before your eyes, Well? you too. 30 years and then left as skeletal remains in Macy's Mall
No, don’t think of this videos message during social interactions. That’ll hinder your thoughts. This video is not absolute. In fact, the message in this is corrupted by a simple black and white view in an everlasting world of grey area.
moon glow,
These phrases are mostly for your work place..professional space, not conversations with friends or family, because most don't care what their phrasis sound like to their close friends or family. That's how it is..lolol! 🙂💕
Never once in life have I felt that someone saying “no problem” meant that I was making a problem for them. This video should be titled “ways to avoid problems that don’t exist”.
And I always think, "Why are they bringing up the possibility fo problems?" It seems especially bad policy for employees of a retail business to say "...no problem..." to customers, and if I was a manager or owner of such a business, I'd make it against policy. "..glad to help you." seems much nicer.
@@bobo4691 Everyone over-thinks and overly-analyzes everything, I can't believe how complicated people make everything these days.
In the past, they claimed that technology gadgets would make life easier, but now people are still overly upset over mere words.
OTR Adventures zThis person is going generational. You are not in that generation that take offense, to the term. NO PROBLEM!
I've been having a problem with speaking to other people because I don't know what are the appropriate words to say. This video is so helpful, thank you very much!
The most unpopular person in the room is quite often the one that simply speaks the truth.
yes! a lot of people dont like strong people.
This video seems more about talking to ignorant people who are easily offended not necessarily about intelligent people
Yeah , you re right . Now i feel very hard to open my mouth .
Yes . It's great to be aware about these possibilities.
I’d say that I agree with most of this.
The exceptions being:
“No problem”. I’ve always received this as a positive statement equal to “you’re welcome” and would hope that others are able to say and hear it in the same positive way.
“This will only take a minute.” If the other person really expects you to have it done in 60 seconds or less after hearing you say that, I’d say you’ve done yourself a favor by discovering that they are either being deliberately difficult or that they have social limitations that you will need to work around.
Is it Ghintis Ritotis, something that name.. i don't remember but I have a disorder that when I lie I could feel the person's stress and when I get stress I get migraines.. it's all because of myself why I couldn't lie, which is nice. Plus when someone's getting bored I'm worrying that they will leave playing with me so instead I try so hard to entertain them with my word ask them questions so they don't fall their emotion down. Im a introvert but I love people talking to me
#15 Instead of "I can't" kill my annoying neighbor, be positive and intelligent by saying you can.
Na Na na, its "I can't kill my annoying neighbour TODAY, I'll do it tomorrow because its Sunday and I know he likes to lay in so he won't see me over him with a knife at his throat when I'm about to do it."lol
sTOP & WONder HAHA NO PROBLEM, I CANT. LMAO
That's intelligent.
I never say I told you so. I just sit there with a smug face 😏
lee boss ooooo. Smug faaaace. Niiiiiice!!
Gonna practice smug face in mirror!!
Same
Video: "No one always or never does anything."
Me: *rechecks title of video*
... Okay, then.
Yes the title is ironic indeed lol
Lol😂😂😂😂
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It's a pet peeve. And a lot of these channels do this. smh..
lol good one bro
Not the case. The video title describes an abstraction, the #3 tip regards why an intelligent person does not generalize about an individual.
I have said “no problem” before . Great video ! It taught me to be more intuitive to other people’s input instead of my own . Intelligent people are not so self absorbed .
Honestly this video is perfection. Individuals who cannot connect with these point may not be managers or leaders of people. If you have to lead people often, you will understand how annoying these phrases are! Great work.
I believe there are some situations that requires " I can't " and " I wont". I was once one of those people who used to say those phrases as "recommended" in the video, ( a decade ago before I came upon this video today ) somehow it ended up me being the doormat or "yes" woman. Positivity is one thing, setting boundaries is another. I feel these kinda advice, take what applies in our daily lives and do what works. Otherwise we end up doing other people's work and not making it work for us. Just my two cents thoughts based on my own personal unpleasant experience.
I never use "I can't." I told my students, "you CAN do anything you want. You are either unwillingly or unable but you CAN do anything you want."
But the phrase “I can’t” and the phrase “I am unable to” are exactly equivalent in most situations.....
The “no problem” explanation was far fetched, no problem means no problem- period
I feel the same.
I agree. in Spanish you say "it was nothing." lol
It's in the attitude too. Some ppl just say it from the heart and you gotta love that. They reassure u you were no burden.
nkeiru26 A elderly Navy Veteran told a active duty Navy young guy. After he made that comment to him when he offer a courtesy to him. The elderly gentleman told the younger guy twice. That he did not feel it was a problem. He told the lad. Just say you are welcome. The elder gentleman stated he never understood when people say No problem. If it is No problem why state No problem.
'Happy to help' is better ❤
Saying no problem sounds like the service could have been more of a trade
"Talk intelligent". Hmmm?... Speaking of intelligence, I'm really happy that happened. Reminds me to not gain all of my knowledge from my phone lol.
There are times when the person we are talking to is hardcoded with how to react.
Unless I say things like,
"As I already told you many times... As I said before... OR even You always keep doing this"
They are trained to blame us and escape. And they don't care about words like accountability..
In such cases, i do purposefully use these phrases, to get results, even though I refrain from using them otherwise
#7 This will only take a minute -this is a figure of speech its not to be taken literally.
#8 Good luck - is a very common 'goodbye' greeting or sincere wish for someone to have a good day. Assuming anything else from it is overthinking it.
Years back, was told, "Trying is Lying." I find that's correct 9 times in 10.
I used to work as a passenger screener at the airport. Before doing a pat-down, we were required (by lawyers... so we were told) to go through a spiel, with observable hand motions, describing the procedure. Many frequent travelers would cut us off with "I know the drill," but we still had to say it all. (The "this will only take a minute" part of the video reminded me of this scenario.) I would preface my delivery with, "I am required to go through this spiel, but I can do it all in one breath." This always seemed to amuse the passenger, rather than irritate them, as they watched carefully to see if I took another breath while performing at auctioneer speed.
We were required to take performance tests yearly, and these tests would make many screeners nervous. Instead of wishing a co-worker "Good luck" before they tested, I would say "Go show them how it's done!"
This was an awesome video. I liked it just so I can refer back to it easily.
Thats because in busyness u need to be more formal u cant use informal language or swear in front of customers too much although this seems to be changing when I did work ex years ago we told no swearing or informal words in front of customers
"No problem" may be a cultural thing. In some languages when you say "thank you" the other person says something that directly translates to "it was nothing or no problem. In some languages there is no word for "you're welcome".
Mike1998..that's interesting. I just realized when you say "it was nothing", you are making less of whatever it is you did. I wasnt nothing to them.
Thank you so much for this video. I recognized a lot of ppl in it, including myself. You've encouraged positive change in me and these points will also give me more patience with others. Thanks again!
Growing up I was taught not to say "shut up" because it's rude, "I can't" because u can, and "I don't know" when it came down to why I took a certain action. I see them all fitting in this video.
It looks like every phrase in English has to offend someone somehow!
Fatima Al-Amri totally agree! I guess there should be a topic on : Curse words !!
Is go fuck yourself ok?
Remember, sticks and stones.
3:57 - of course intelligent people never say "no problem". Instead, they say "no worries"
Wrong.. as you see I'm smart, but any smart person could say the words they could.. some others say
"I don't mind it at all" or "Good luck then", anyone could be intelligent with any words.. you're making yourself believe a lie fellow, the video who made this is not a god of all the time
@@ZoroMossRoronoa I almost forgot I wrote this comment
Excellent. I offer you a quote of my own origin: "Words are the symbols of concepts and concepts the basis of mind."
#10.
Tell me I look good for my age please? I'm 60 and people clock me for late 20's. Thank you Jane Fonda and The 20 Minute Workout back in the day! I still workout every, single, day!
Number One thing truly intelligent people
NEVER say:
“ Yeah, I learned that on BRAINY DOSE”
I failed
Best comment on the page! LOL!
The “Always” and “Never” one I TOTALLY agree with. That legitimately “always” bothered me.
I'm sorry, I see myself intelligent but as I said
"Anyone can be intelligent by any year, by any day or month.. any smart people could say what they want, and what's comfortable for them to say, the only thing that matters is that they don't swear they're nice.. ofc they're called smart they know the right things to do"
This has nothing to do with intelligents.
It has to do with empathy.
MANY people out there are highly intelligent but can not behave right in social situations.
It seems like the person who made this video doesn't actually know what he is talking about.
Niva Raven thank you! 🙌 I'm intelligent yet socially awkward. So I've had to memorize phrases like these and learn when it's appropriate to say them. This video only confused me further lol.
Emotional intelligence
Yes we are all capable off learning.
Its building a positive social environment.
When your engaged with people socially or face ir helps.👌
only people that are socially aware of things know these phrases and when is it right to say
them. NOT all intelligent people know these.. oh and by the way, this video just offended me
Niva Raven good humor
I'm not sure I wanna be an intelligent person. I would never have guessed that the phrase "no problem" is a sign that you're low browed.
Same. I always say no problem instead of your welcome.
Fault indicates anger. It's only someone's fault because someone is angry. One uses blame to make someone else feel bad. Look at the actual intention behind that remark. I cured that by just agreeing with whatever I was being blamed for. "You broke the copy machine", me .."yr right and I'd do it again in a heartbeat" or whatever. The other person's intention is recognized and nullified. I didnt break the copier but I'm not going to get into an argument about it with that person. Dont refuse the blame, accept it with a smile, agree and move on. You'll be amazed at how much easier yr life becomes.
instead of it's not fair, say "wtf?"
instead of i told you so, say "there you go."
+Phunkee 909: Or instead of saying "I told you so", say "How stupid do YOU feel right now?"
😂 I can't 😂
Great video of being aware and to think before speaking.
I might add to that list the phrase, “To be honest (with you)...” I would wonder if that person lies frequently and it takes a big effort to try telling the truth.
Haha right
“It is what it is” annoys me and sounds like a weak excuse.
Marty Mar I actually like this phrase because it’s a fact. For instance, people complain about the real estate prices or situation in our area. Well “it is what it is.” The market is what it is. I don’t make it, I just interpret it. Same with other situations. It is what it is just means to accept the facts and move on.
I dont like this phrase b cuz my old roommate said it all the time. LAZY
When someone says “It is what it is” what they are really saying is “I like to talk, but I have nothing to say”
@@johnnykage3903 better yet, say nothing.
Sometimes people moan about shit beyond anybody's control.
What they really want is vindication, somebody to help them to wallow in self pity and assume their victim role but if you're not an enabler, don't have patience for that shit but don't want to be rude by saying nothing then
"It is what it is"
Just means that you need to learn to accept what is, in order to move forward.
I agree with this list....thank you so much!
A dad of an ex gave me a piece of advice I thought and still think it was minimally worth hearing, understanding and repeating. He asked me "are you looking for reasons to be offended or are you looking for reasons for your love? Everytime you look for a reason to be offended in any longterm relationship will always give you something you could get offended over. Quit looking for reasons to be offended, look for reasons to love the other person and look for way to express and/ or show them acts of love."
The "quit looking for reasons to be offended because they are always there and they will always be found and they will leave you angry and possibly it could come between the 2 of us in the relationship and cause the ultimate demise. The way I viewed arguing pettiness and even appreciation changed literally overnight after hearing these things.
Always &never used to perturb me to the point of arguments. But I got it under control,thankfully. Cool video as I stay away from social media. Well done
Funny to hear narrator say “talk intelligent” when it is correct to say “talk intelligently”
And I always inwardly laugh when someone says, "I could care less." , because that implies that they might actually care a great deal, while I realize that they usually mean the opposite.
Its not nice to corect someones grammeer or spelling;: ok dumy?
Speak intelligently actually
Thank you for these lessons. I can watch and listen to the video all day but my time is very limited. However the few minutes I had this morning I enjoyed the lessons. Now I believe that I can speak proper grammar furthermore with confidence. Kind regards.
Magnificent... it goes to show a positive person speak positive words...
some of these make sense and some shouldn't be on this list like "no problem." its not a bad phrase, it implies that it was no problem and I was glad to help. if you miss interpret it you still have some growing to do. love your video editing.
It is not my fault if I'm being blamed for something I had no part of.
“I enjoy being stupid ,I enjoy saying stupid things” honestly I can’t help it ,,,,I actually did well at school A grades ,high ones ,but I just can’t help it people think I am stupid but it’s funny,I was the class clown but I made people laugh and tbh I still do ,being stupid makes me laugh
I was the same way in school many years ago . However ," I'm a little more mindful of others and try to convey that in my choice of words ! Doesn't always turn out that way though .
You're immature
Bob Bob: Studies have proven that people who joke and laugh more than usual are significantly more intelligent than those who don't. One study I've read showed more brain matter in that compartment than in the average brain. So, keep it up! You'd definitely be someone I'd like to have at a party. 🙃
@@estherc.536 Bob bob is a narc
@@flowerpower4944 Well, with that said, I probably wouldn't want him at my party. But, I'd definitely have him over for a couple bouts in the boxing ring with my son. 😖😬
Be quick to think and slow to act.
I absolutely agree with this video, as I have been learning these very things. And I have to say that my life has become less tense & stress learning how to better communicate. Thank you for the video.🙂
Intelligent people never get clickbated
Not "never." I clicked on this video.
My eyes were so blurry when I read this I thought it said "dick bated" 😅
What’s getting clickbated
Whose the woman in the thumbnail pic?
@@jonathanmustic4272 Me too?
I know it's juvenile to say 'I told you so' but omg,does it ever feel good to say it. lol
@@SPUGGY-t1x 😂🤗🤔😄
If I know that they're aware of it, I don't mention it. If they seem to be clueless, I'll say something like "Remember when we talked about..."
But this is purely for their benefit, to complete the learning experience! 😉
Because I care. 😄
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Congratulations on reaching over 100,000 subscribers! Great video , be mindful of what you say to others.
Thank you
8 april 2019 Keith Stevenson very very good and wise. a second listen would be useful.
Oct 2020
I'm guilty of using a few of these phrases, however I am making progress at being a better communicator and making better word choices.
This video is very helpful to understand on how to communicate with people using emotional intelligence. 👌👌👌
good list :) Thank you. I want to practice better listening skills. I'm working on that, now. I've had brain surgery recently that has interfered with that skill a bit, and I've noticed more of a need to pause before speaking in order to process things more efficiently, so I think a focus there will also give me that extra bit of time to consider what I want to express before I do so. The two are both important, and also seem to go hand-in-hand. Thanks for the advice. much appreciated. I really enjoy your site. It's always interesting and fun! :)
Instead of "talk intelligent", try "speak intelligently".
Lol it’s ironic that your giving grammar advice to this “very intelligent “ person 🤔
@@kenp1013 how you know that he is intelligent???
It's not fair because fair only comes around once a year and that the STATE or COUNTY FAIR !!!
Vumeo Power gosh I wish I knew that one when my kids were children!
@@rubyxcube3
My freshman teacher always told us this quote when we complained about homework...So now you know and should pass it on to your children so they can use it for your grand children...
Silly Willy or silly goose ?
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I learned in the 90’s corporate America that’s it’s bad form to say ‘no problem’ when assisting a client or customer or co worker. As saying ‘No problem’ indicates there is a ‘problem’ so we regraded from saying it. I see eliminating this language is very important in business relationships.
Having never worked in corporate America, just being a normal American citizen, I never had any idea that anyone would think this, and I always would say this online.
We're an entirely different group of people on MMORPGs, as this was never a problem with a single person online, but people IRL are clearly weird people.
👋 👌 Good I understand that many times I made mistakes but I trying to make it fair to say.
Thanks for sharing your video about my mistakes which I made always.
There is another one that wasn't mentioned, "to be honest". Whenever I hear that, I cringe. So, now the person saying that is honest. Was he/she lying before?
senseofstile lol guilty as charged
senseofstile Ahh come on... it’s an emphatic phrase.
Or the person is usually diplomatic and discreet..... and now they're going to be quite forthright. Anyway that's what I mean when I say "to be honest,.." Because I AM honest, but sometimes.....you have to be blunt.
Just thought about that.
To be honest, if I use it, it's because I am about to insist on something that the one with whom I'm speaking is not discussing truthfully. Thus tells them not that I was being dishonest previously, but that they have yet to acknowledge what I insist on looking at with veracity.
These are pretty good. I did have a boss one time who asked me to do something, and I answered him, "I'll do my best!" His reply, "I didn't ask you to do your best, I asked you to do it." He was a hard boss to like.
"Okay but I'll do it to the best of my ability"
" Do,or do not.There is no try." Yoda
I have that on a mug or a magnet or a greeting card. I always say it in Yoda-voice.
@@natashamudford4011 : I might do the same,just to remind me because "scripta manent,verba volent"!!
@@olgak.1139
Hey, I was a Latin nerd too... for 1.5 years... over 30 years ago... let me guess: something writing something hand something spoken something volition or action or something...
Feel free to translate.
@@natashamudford4011 In free translation means writing is permanent, saying is flying away. You can google the whole latin phrase!
@@olgak.1139
Sounds like legalese to me. Specifically contract law.
A phrase that I have used for years when needing to resolve an issue is "I certainly hope you can help me." This phrase nearly always dissolves possible resistance. It has worked in nearly every situation. Some examples: Returning product, calling a government agency, calling the internet provider and a credit card company. I figure I can always get tough later, if necessary. Never have really had to. Yes, listening is much harder than speaking. And, maybe I need to rethink my overuse of "No problem."
"I'm like a really smart person" "I have the best words" "I have great and unmatched wisdom"
Yes, you do, Mr. President 😂
@@Bombastic_side_eye6 yea....but i rly do!!
Oh,so duz Trump.
4 months away & ppl are STILL talking shit abt him & mocking him.Its out of fear & feelings of inferiority.
"No, I don't take responsibility..."
@@Michaelkaydee Nailed It!!!
It's not my fault? I can't? What? Sometimes you LITERALLY have situations out of your control... this video is the equivalent of some actually saying " I told you so". The only major phrase that can be very detrimental.
Agree 💯 percent. That is exactly the problem. No one thinks anymore before engaging in conversation. I always ask myself first, how would I feel if this/ that or the other thing were said to me? Although I agree that people are much more sensitive these days which makes it even more important to be aware of whom you’re talking to and how . 🌹
I love how on the “it’s not my fault” part there was a picture of a couple that got pregnant 😂😂😂😂
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Hahaha
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Bwwaaahhahahaha
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Some of these hold true.. however some are extremely close minded with an expectation of a singular viewpoint.
Well that rules out 90% of the people the other 10% are mute.
I love this video! It, along with Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves' "Emotional Intelligence 2.0" have been a God send to me! Thank you!😀
Wooooh..thank You for sharing..I found my many mistakes 🙌😻👏👏👏
Great video...
I would like to have a common phrase that I cannot stand addressed...
"TO BE HONEST"
Why do so many people feel that they need to preface their answer to another's question with, "Honestly," or, "To be honest"???
Are they subconsciously saying, "Normally, I'd answer with a lie, but with you..."
In My Honest Opinion (IMHO), we were taught that way by our parents/teachers/Internet :=p.
Seriously, we all copied each other, and we were all taught that way here in the USA.
I’m so glad I discovered this channel! I’ve learned and gleaned so many new things! Yes, people who aren’t intelligent post the dumb comments lol. But your channel enlightened me with the “NP” because I texted this to my bf being ignorant of this! Thanks again !
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Like judge Judy says, we have two ears, and one mouth for a reason. We are supposed to listen, twice as much as we speak! Like her, or hate her, this statement is spot on!
Simple and helpful. Thank you!
17: "I'll keep the baby and raise it by myself."
I feel like *how* you say something is as important..some of the most negative things said on here, will get a different reaction when using the right tone..if it's brought up with a genuine well being for the other person, it speaks volumes..your attitude is *EVERYTHING* =)
I don't think anyone should get offended by any of these, but tone is everything...
#3 - I never write letters in Norwegian and I always sleep with my eyes either closed or open. Lol
# 4 - Me: turning dial on safe (entering combination) then opening safe.
Friend: Why do you do it that way?
Me: it’s the way I’ve always done it -
Right 36 Left 28 Right 36 open safe lol
I’m not lazy or archaic, I’m a traditionalist lol
#7 - Friend: How long will it take the second hand on your watch to go all the way around one time?
Me: It will only take a minute
Lol
All who can read possess intelligence.
Choose your words carefully, with as much mindfulness as you can muster, and your intelligence is guaranteed to reach its full potential. The word is mindfulness. It is what gifted people practice.
amazing video!
I came here to know more about my intelligent friend coz I don't understand her.
Reading to learn of her behavior proves you're obviously on the path of intelligence yourself! Good looking out for your friendship:)