BRAINY DOSE Since it takes way too much time having to deal with an asshole. Just look them in the eye. Smile, and as they are speaking. Respond with a punch to their throat as hard as you can. Since they are talking they will not be thinking about defending themselves. Then just walk away. There is NO excuse for being rude.
I think that people that are constantly rude are just so unhappy with their life so they have to make other people miserable. Somehow this makes them feel better about themselves. I really do feel sorry for those people. They will never be happy.
Well, there is actually no reason to feel sorry for t h e m if you have suffered through their behaviour, especially when you notice that they like to put others (that includes you, too) down. The ultimately best was to deal with them is to not to deal with them, and - if this is not possible - don't be drawn into a quarrel. Be present, alert and withdraw yourself from them. If you want to react ja saying something, stay cool , clear and respond in a matter-of-fact way. Don't allow anyone to treat you disrespectfully.
Some people who repeatedly exhibit rudeness are probably disagreeable in nature and may also possess deep rooted insecurities that haven’t or may never be overcome. Do not allow their issue to become your issue, I’ve sometimes fallen into the trap of clashing with disrespectful people and it can result in you being seen as the enemy. Also, I believe it’s better to limit or completely avoid communication with incorrigibly rude people, but if you’re stuck working with such people, I’d keep it strictly professional.
I had a group of close friends who just completely turned on me and started acting really rude and harsh and I honestly don’t know what to do.Im really going through a lot because of this and it’s messing with me a lot.
@@DragNdoom Stay strong brother ! The fact that they are attackin you is showing their weakness and that they are somewhat jealous of you ,poor people always gotta say something bad about rich people right? ;) its their pain talkin ...and a lot of people create their own hell and guess what?!! they deserve it ! Most people are educated about what is right and wrong and besides that they can def feel it so most actions are intentional .. so bad intentions on their side = bad karma on their side!! I had a group of friends that took me for granted until I stopped taking their shit and then they started being somewhat violent ,guess what ?! KARMA GOT THEM! no way is hell on EARTH justified! people create it and think they are gonna live somewhere else : )) ...maybe being lonely crates space for something even better ;) TRUST !
The older I get the more of rude people I encounter. In fact rude people now a days take it up a notch I know only TOO WELL! Sometimes it comes out TOTALLY UGLY! You know what I prefer to walk away, I don't care why someone is acting ugly I just want to get away from them! Grew up with too much abuse so as a grown woman I simply will not tolerate that type of behavior.
As a retired college educator, I learned to do this-in bits and pieces-over my 30 years of teaching; however, I wish I had this video way earlier in my career, dealing with students and co-workers. Thank you!🙋🏼♀️
For those that work directly with people, know who you're dealing with. Rude people are usually lazy, ignorant, and manipulative, so stay logical, calm and collective toward their inconsolable emotional tantrums. Most of the time they aren't looking for a solution you can fix and they know that, so just keep it short, sweet, and feed them little to no emotion energy. You can't fix someone that doesn't want fixing, and you're not getting paid to be someone's emotional punching bag, so get in & get out as soon as possible. Good luck fellow humans
I take three approaches: 1. Be nice. A lot of people that are rude to me have underlying issues that I’m unaware of. So, I keep that in mind 2. Let them be right. Usually, that’s what they want anyway 3. Ignore them and walk away. Sometimes, it’s not worth letting rude people disrupt my peace, especially if I did nothing to them.
When dealing with rude people I never take anything personally that they say. I am not responsible for their actions. Once they see that they don't get to me they usually back off. It wasn't always that easy. Now dealing with rude people is like a piece of cake.
Ralph harrison Why do you think they act like this? Bad parenting? Difficult controlling emotions? Yeah it hard for me not to fight back. But I do it in kindness not rudeness. We’re living in dark time I tell you. So much is happening right now.
For example, I deal with people that resort to racist,derogatory names thrown at me. I am of Asian descent, but don't approach me like I'm fresh off the boat treating me like I have no clue you were just incredibly rude,calling me Chink! THATS crossing the line. I pretty much lose my shit once THAT has been said to me.
@@miknmas1301 oh its okay i wish u all of the best for ur life i think the dogs that bark do not bite stay calm and ignore them cause if u do so they will just stop it and will be frustated by themselves u cant be harm by those people . ☺🙂🙂
I pray you never have to deal with children and youth. They will make you miserable if they ever take one of your kids. I didn't care what anyone else thought of me or how I did things. It's not their business just like what other people do isn't mine. They fabricate lies... It's horrible. I wish it on no one
@@annebonnyssister the problem is I did not abuse my child. Hence why I said he was taken because of lies. My younger son has nonverbal autism and is just very loud and screams alot, sometimes "quiet mouth" works, sometimes he's too hyper. It's mostly happy squeals. What really pissed me off is them going to my older son's school and trying to pry him and ask if I ever hit either of them. His answer was no and it was the truth. Why?! Because I have sense.. why would I hit either child knowing one day they would outgrow me as they both have at 15& 13. Do I want to be hit back, ever? No. So I didn't do it to them.
@saganist I read something on line the year before they took my now 13 yr. Old son and it started out with a question.. what is the biggest problem about having autism? Other people... I read it and said exactly!!! Further reading discussed what to do if your autistic child keeps getting out of bed after his bed time. Without acknowledging him, take his hand, take him back to bed and at most say goodnight. Repeat if necessary (unless he's obviously sick) Wish I could find it. Was one of the best articles I read and being I have adult ADHD badly, that means a lot.
I have had to deal rude treatment towards me most of my life due to being disadvantaged by my disability. It hasn't left me bitter because I fortunately been able to rise above it. But it does take perseverance with self-growth to overcome the negative impact.
I deal with rude people all the time. I walk away when I they start acting like their problems and feelings are important and I'm not entitled to have my own.
then it gonna be a circle. and the keep getting rude. i know it give people headache. try to be just a little nice. and go off if you cant handle it for sure. 😀😃😆
@@traciwhite9959 I am usually silent - outside of a swift kick to the groin of the rude person that is...I like to consider it a balanced combination of silent resilience and direct action.
Deprivation of social skills from fear of toxic people has been a part of my life as a child. Books became my friends. I'm sure this conveys into adulthood and I found public school to be full of toxic people. I have a better than average education and the love of truth but am still blindsided by gaslighters.
Rude ppl are a pain. I say avoid them and if they try to talk to you, pretend you're on the phone or say, can't talk now, not my cup of tea, I'm late for something, tell someone else or I'm not interested and walk off. Don't give them a chance to speak again but above all, really try to avoid them
I deleted my social media because I was done with the negative opinions of others on certain topics and having a need to debate with them. I feel alot better that I did.
This is so happening to me. HAHAHAHA. I usually stay calm and don't react (no matter how furious I am). I let them release it all but they aren't getting anything from me... hahaha. My principle is- how they behave show who they are and how I'd react and give in to what they want reflects my characteristic and personality. :)
When I had to deal with a rude person who was my superior and in the situation where they were always wanting to change procedures away from the documented one I’d say, “Please email me or write down the changes that you want so I don’t forget them.” and then appear as if I needed THEIR HELP to do what they wanted. My reasoning, knowing that IF I get called on, by them or someone else when something goes wrong I could say... I was following your instructions as per your note. On many occasions, I didn’t do the above, and the superior would conveniently forget that they verbally changed procedures. The trouble with this is that when my superior got in trouble for something they wanted me to do differently by their boss they’d resent me.....but.....once it happened a few times the BOSS took notice of the poor decisions my superior was making and then got talked to to modify their behaviour or was required to go through them to change procedures.
I'm 57 and in customer service, rude people are a fact of life. Killing them with kindness is my best tactic. I treat all my customers the way I would hope anyone would treat my grandparents or great grandparents, with respect, kindness and dignity. My customer service is kin to that you'd experience at Chic-fil-A. If you like their customer service, you'll like mine. It's rather unexpected these days.
If it's your friend who is rude to you, don't be afraid to cut them off of your life. After all you matter, it's your peace of mind that matter, your joy and your life. Do not let them ruin you. That's a realization, we don't need someone who's rude and toxic.
Do not take it personally . it is their flaws, their issues,their insecurities. Become your own boss save money for a low cost start up. Find your passion and follow it. Meet people with similar interests . Be your own best advocate and friend. That we can control others we can not. There is especially these days a trend of being rude and hateful and unaccountable. I hope that trend ends soon til then a lot of me time may be needed. All the best to you .
Guys, please understand that most people are literally kids inside. Most ppl grow outside but remain little inside, meaning that most people are never taught how to handle their emotions properly. Dealing with our emotions is the hardest task one can accomplish, it's called self mastery. Please do not hate anyone. Look at them with compassion and know that they act like that coz they don't know any better. Emotionally mature people are peaceful and calm because they've already reached a higher level of understanding. Be compassionate, help them if you can and always treat them with respect. All of us are growing and learning. All of us make mistakes when we don't know better and these experiences are perfect opportunities for us to mature.
I love this program ... more enjoyable WITHOUT annoying commercial ads popping in from time to time . My best solution is cut away from such people ,especially from those who are controlling types .
smiling and staying silent, refusing to engage, and walking away. Easiest methods for dealing with rudeness. In the professional world is a different matter; smiling and offering a compliment usually throws rude people off, paraphrasing/summarizing their issue/complaint/question interrupts their train of thought, and of course keeping that low tone and speaking softly... forces them to shut up so they can hear you. Also, asking them to repeat themselves several times, (while smiling) forces them to hear how rude they're really being.
I worked as a switchboard operator & receptionist for several different companies & was trained how to defuse an irritated customer both on the phone and in person. If it were not for that training manual, I'd have been lost. In fact, when I covered at the welfare office in a different office over the lunch break, one District Supervisor who ate his lunch in, finally came round to congratulate me on being the best he'd ever overheard! Since that time I've learned something else from the Bible, which is even better when you can apply it, "The beginning of contentions is as one letting out waters; so before the quarrel bursts forth, take your leave." (Proverbs 17:14) Thank you for posting this. Too bad those watching it, judging from their comments, who are folks who don't need it.
Twice in the past week alone, I've either been rudely treated, or had to stand up for myself, and then had an uninvolved third party choose to intervene by attacking ME. They don't step in to help, but only to pile criticism on the person who's already under attack. Sometimes they're demonstrably in the wrong, or not helping with their actions (even though they say they are), or too far away to do anything, but they make a point of shouting at you for everyone to hear, or even hanging around after saying they're leaving, just to yell at you more.
Is there someone else who is being submissive as a first reaction and finds it hard to switch to being assertive? And later on having resentful feelings and lots of thoughts on how I should've handle the situation? Most of the times I have a pretty good answer later on, but it's passive aggressive which I don't really aspire to become (more than I already am..). I don't know how to switch in those moments, from very easy going to being assertive. I feel scared that they might say or even do something that might hurt me physically or emotionally if I stand up for myself even in a reasonable manner.
I'm the same way. My default is passive and/or ignore ( or react badly if rudeness is consistent and from someone I know well). I so want to learn to react well!
I feel you! I did that too.. Only knowing the right answer in hindsite..afterwards. Frustrating, isnt it? But really its their frustration. We have to set better boundaries for rude people and learn to be strategic, like playing chess haha.. Dont take it personal is the first step. Rude people only want attention for themselves: Hurt people hurt people. Dont intenalize it.
I love your answers and because I am same with you exactly. I am submissive when I faced vert angry workmates with viloent behaviours. Now I practise assertive skills.
This informative presentation is Significantly Important, particularly in learning Personal Empowerment, opposed to permitting ourselves to become Victimized. Such a POWERFUL Tool for Children to learn in response to being Bullied, as well! Thanks Brainy Dose!🙏🏼
I deal with this "problem" every day.I have two people in my family that are not only rude but extremely toxic.As for the rude part,I don't think that smiling and kindness helps a lot,esp if the person is self-centered and boisterous about themselves,like in my case.I usually just ignore,or when I have to comment I just say Nah,you're not that funny/smart/powerful,etc. Or when they want to insult me Nah,I'm not feeling it,better try again.As for the other toxic person that's a story on its own,but basically ignore and focus on being productive and being busy 'cause once your busy you ain't got time to listen to them,nor do they have time to insult you. Walking out of the apartment to take a break also helps as I've heard.The thing is rude and toxic people want attention.Once you remove/take it away from them,they chicken out and subdue.
I agree. Most consistently rude people I’ve encountered eventually revealed unhappiness in their lives. Not accepting the behavior (quietly) and being open to move past that and continue to communicate in a more civilized manner, has worked for some. There are others, however, I’ve had to just walk away from while saying a little prayer for us both.
Sometimes it's worth asking someone who snaps at you rudely to repeat what they just said. Often this makes them realise what they said or the way they said it was indeed rude and they won't repeat it the same way.
I don't respond to rude people because it's like giving your power away. They want me to react, I refuse to give them that satisfaction. As I mature and get older, I realize that it's not worth the effort to tell them anything. Instead I let God and Karma do the work while I move on with my life.
My mother-in-law is sometimes rude to me and she has been since my husband and I were engaged. I should've notice the red flags years ago before I got married.
Once you have had to deal with a certain person's rudeness, you can avoid contact with that person like never going into the restaurant they own and do business with them.
this was really good. thanks. i tend to be a reactive person. one day i was rude to someone on the telephone - no excuse, but i was frustrated and acted like an a-hole. she simply said, "i don't deserve that." i knew instantly that she was right; she didn't. i called her to apologize - she was gracious. she told me that rarely does anyone call back to apologize. it taught me a lot. i still put my big foot in my mouth sometimes; also take things personally that others say that feel hurtful. i find that the best response in both types of situations is to not speak when i am upset. go home, take a think, before using mouth or keyboard.
I'm not sure about seeing their POV. But I know I made a mistake yesterday (work-related); and their reactions caused them to disrespect and bully me. Confronting them about it is kinda troublesome, especially if they think you are just a nuisance and talkshitting behind your back all the time.
So there’s this store near our house that the seller always rude at me. I don’t know if she also like that with the other costumers because I haven’t seen her interact with others LMAO. But yeah, I was so pissed off because she’s rude. Like hey, you should be thankful I buy your stuff 🤣🤣
Last week I saw someone who was using foul language and threatening a friend of mine who runs a small tea shop. I kept my cool and asked my friend what was wrong. He told me that this guy was just using abusive language coz he was drunk and didn't pay for the things he bought previously too. I spoke to the drunk fella and asked him to stop using abusive language and come back when he's sober so he started using abusive language with me too so I taught him a good lesson about inertia, pressure and gravity. It hit him like a stone to his head😉
Yeah, dealing with rude people is virtually unavoidable! I've got a long way to go, before I can work the tips in this list effectively! Great video! Peace out everyone!⭐💜🌍
I just remind some people on Facebook Yeah sure you can say anything you damn well choose but you also don't know who the hell on Facebook is secretly a serial killer and that you should really think long and hard about whether or not your so called freedom of speech is really worth possibly being buried under six feet worth of dirt before you say whatever things you think that you want to say.
Powerful advice in this: empathize, take their perspective, find common ground. You’ll remove the opposition. And learn it’s not about you. (They’re not just rude to you, but possibly to everyone.) Another good one: Tell them they’re right.... to cut the conversation short.
Thanks for these helpful tips. These same tips can be applied when driving, I should say especially when driving to avoid a deadly road rage incident so long as I maintain an attitude of courtesy and safety.
This girl in my class tried doing realism in pixel art without ever trying realism, so I pointed out a few things that she can work on since that's what she always wants anyways. Ashe replied "I didn't ask for your opinion anyways." That got me pretty mad because she does this stuff to my art all the time, so I just told her "Dang, didn't need to be rude but okay." So far she has not responded.
If you ask a person, if you done something to them they will use it against you. They will hold it over your head as the next time they claim you've done something wrong to them
It depends on the situation.if it's about family members you are straight honest in response without hiding your words and of course without being afraid of what may happen!!truth is the best tool to finish the unconscious rudeness among family!!
100% absolute true!that's exactly how I dealt with a person in authority! thank God didn't take it personally coz understood he has been the master at indimitating others, thus just told him you are entitled to your own opinion but I remain with my dignity thus a respectable Christian!
Once I had a client in my chair as a hairstylist and initially our conversation was good, how you doing today and such. He prior to the sit down started to talk to me about how to fix my finances. I'm responding and at the same time putting his cape on while quickly asking what he wants cuz I can tell he's ready to talk, but as we continue he's going preacher mode on the finance thing like he's saving the damned. I'm telling him unsuccessfully that I am actually really good with my finances and rebuilt my credit from when I thought credit cards were candy and messed it up and now I was paying my mom's bills and giving too much to my friends who were struggling. Bam bam bam with every response he's questioning my character and I just remembered what my dad told me about communication where the sweetest sound to anyone is the sound of their own name and their own voice so I just deflected his questions for me with questions about his life relevant to his target and just let him talk it down. At the end of it (which took way too long in the chair ) he paid and then stood in the lobby just trying to chit chat, joke, and finish unloading the wild story that apparently made him so moody. I won't share it because it's not my story but trust me, it justifies his distrust for female strangers... it involved embezzlement
I’ve dealt with it all my life! I would either cry, smile and be polite or get reactive. I had a situation with one lady who worked at a convenience store. She yelled at me just for looking at magazines and I smiled at her while saying goodbye. I killed her with kindness. I’ve done worse in other situations
I ve met too many rude people in my life and too many violent I am tired to be calm and understanding even if I am always calm and reasonable their bad attitude will not change,they must be reported cured or that they go to jail for a while so they will realize what can happen to them if they keep on,I cannot always get rid of them and i cannot always be the only one to bear,thanks for ur great videos always, but I think rude violent people deserve a legal punishment or they wont stop harming others.
I've done this too and it works but when at a job dealing with a senselessly rude power tripper that is a whole different issue. 😱I usually smile but I imagine it is fake smirk that can be seen as an angry impatient smile which does not always work as some other person commenting said truthfully. I need to figure out how to deal with the demon powertripping witches out there any suggestions ?
Good advice generally and out of work. However, the problem comes when dealing with a rude valued customer of the firm who complains to the superior- boss. It’s difficult to make everyone happy while getting run over. Especially when your the one with limited resources.
Point number 13 has been very useful in my case.. don't try to force a change. Rude people rarely change,infact trying to change them makes them even more rude. They themselves are not aware that they are rude.
Hi, i know this comment is from a long time ago. Wondering how do you cope with those people? I am working in a retail outlet, encountering some rude and mean people some of the time. And it gets into my feelings every time.
Yikes !I remember those days rough days at the office day in and day out ugggh! Don't miss it one bit.😱 wish you the best. If you have spare change become an entrepreneur work for yourself at home you look young start now and be your own boss you will love it.😍all the best.
@@h.3531 Don't take it personally . Especially these days rudeness is a cringeworthy trend of a bunch of miserable mindless empty people. We get some but thankfully most of my customers are pretty awesome people.literally very rarely encounter rude people perhaps it is because I am not on the register and dealing with sales floor putting out new clothes and all so don't have to really deal with it and our regular customers are the very best. Actually the customers are not a problem it is usually the breathe and you may be fired atmosphere which is also negative and toxic that I have encountered. I say entrepreneurial opportunities are worth looking into and of course don't quit your day job until you have more than replaced your total income as in how much will you need a month to pay rent at a decent place to live,put food on your table consistently, treat yourself every now and then,unexpected situations such as medical issues or car issues ,health insurance that is reasonable and does not cost too much in premium or out of pocket expenses are low so on and whatever else. Also another reason to keep going at the day job even after you get that monthly income you would live wonderfully on,is the confidence you will have that no matter what you are not stuck which that mindset is a better place to be when you realize you don't rely on the day job so your attitude then will make you enjoy and smile knowing the ball is in your court always. Find your passion and pursue it. There are many low cost start ups . Look up and research a few see what you think you will enjoy. Don't worry if you are not interested let them know . Remember its free to learn more and you are under no obligation. Or maybe a hobby you love can be cash in your pocket? But usually being an entrepreneur with your own business is always gratifying as long as you love what you do and are passionate about it. That is what will give you replacement income plus more and also if you stick to it possibly even financial freedom. Be your own boss 😊you will love it.
geewaygen, thats why I'm always very kind and patient to people working in a call centre. Just to give them some courage and space to stay well and have a better work day. You people are often used, get big mouths and earn very little for thankless tasks. I know..
Im dealing with a stressful episode with my living situation due to construction on my house while quarentining Im staying with my mom, weve been butting heads a lot and boy does she get rude, but Ive learned that A. I can always walk away B. to take time to speak dont just rush the conversation C. Dont elevate your voice D. Validate their truths E. Dont take their rudeness personally F. Dont play the victim G. Acknowledge that you have power over the situation H. Making an assertive and calm point comes across better then yelling or sounding condescending
Great vid and it came at the right time. Also enjoyed reading the comments section. I encountered a rude /nasty person at the airport. It’s easy to say ignore her but she verbally attacked me and called me name when she was at fault. I saw her fighting with tsa then she came over to me and spitting out her venom. So unpleasant. Nobody needs this. She looks unstable and seems to be on medication but it still affect other around her.
Chisom Ololo what was there to do exactly ?She’s like a mad dog, do you want to go to her level? She was very antagonistic, her voice and how she carried herself. There were many people around and nobody said anything. She was cutting the line and had the audacity to screamed at me to move over. When I said excuse me, she said she couldn’t understand me because of me English. Anyways, she’s miserable and needs help
i was riding my bike on a sidewalk designed for both pedestrians and "walkers" and this elderly lady yelled at me " this is not a biking lane" and then yelled "lady" at me as I rode past her. Elderly people do not give a fuck and I low key respect that. I ignored her completely though because she caught me off guard and I couldn't think of any response lol
I was a medical officer in the Navy and now head of the medical department in a civilian company. In that time, I started working out, learned martial arts and, obviously, how to use various weapons. That, being a high ranking member of a large corporation, having three degrees, including one terminal degree, and multiple tattoos, here is how I deal with rude people: I stare at them and never break eye contact. They stop talking and slink away like jello. I never lose my temper and with only one or two exceptions, had to fight. Mostly, I just fight in the ring. Works each time without fail.
This video and the comments responded under it are very helpful for dealing a toxic person. This includes every thing we wanted to practice to protect ourselves from them. Thank you so much to everyone who have given valuable suggestions for this .👍🌷
Your videos are really interesting and informative. I appreciate this channel. This list is perfect and I will definitely be helped on both sides when I am receiving rudeness or if I am feeding into rudeness or even perhaps I am the one giving the negative attitude or rude behavior. One quick observation is that I noticed in most of the situations brown and black people seemed to be the bad actors. On the other hand I see as well that as years progress this issue seemed to be more balanced. Again, love your channel and personally I continue to learn and develop in so many ways that will be of help as I interact with others. Keep making these videos.
Another unpleasant experience yesterday at a Starbucks. I'll put it on top of my very tall stack of bad people experiences I've had all my life, especially counter workers like cashiers, coffee shop workers, restaurant workers, and bus drivers not to mention family of origin members also and even past friends. Why me? I'm a nice, friendly person but I been walked all over all my life and I'm now 64 years old. This makes me so unhappy and adds to my chronic depression.
Mostly these rude people have faced many harshness and difficulties in their life which made them rude and emotionless. I really don't want to deal with them because they're broken inside.
I'm 46.this helped me loads.I get so "hurt" I get angry...I've saved this.I will go back 2 it many times.I just don't want to get angry,then cry because I feel so let down by my so called friends.I have no friends now.I try my hardest to be a great friend,but I've realised now.they are the wrong friends.It's not me.They want me to be as low as they are.GOODBYE MY DRUGGY (so called)MATES.
I have alot of rude family members and co workers ? What they don't understand is it takes years off your life? I think you should separate your self from them.no one needs that in there life? This is bad to say but its the truth. People will be glad when they die.so you dont have to go through that?
Same. Some people in my family are toxic, they aren’t happy with their outcomes (actually have never attempted to change their situations) and are very bitter about it so they endeavour to make anyone else they can unhappy so THEY feel better. Once I figured that out I stopped dealing with them or attempting to placate their situation. You don’t need to let the ‘we are family’ guilt to run & ruin your life.
It's not easy to be calm. Especially when we have our own problem. U just cover must of the problem. Thanks for sharing. Hopefully we can continue to work together.
it takes maturity to deal with rude people. and often they can be angry for legitimate reasons. working in customer service as long as I have my best go to is explaining what I can do for them and what I cant. its as simple as that.
I am security guard who work at 499 main street south Canadian tire Standing 7 straight hours. Doing my job, managers “mike” talk really rude way in front of all worker and customers, even some customers feel bad and came to me. When i want to clear things out with very polite manner, his exact words was “ i can talk to you the way i want because i hire you” He told me like i am a slave for him. I am agoraphobia person and it hurt me inside its hard for me to go out from home to work 😢 i got panic attack there and i was crying i still picked myself up and finished my shift. But it was hard day
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How do you deal with rude people?
Smile, kill them with kindness and walk away
I leave the conversation...letting them win..but I know I can be rude too.bt that's a waste of tym..
BRAINY DOSE Since it takes way too much time having to deal with an asshole. Just look them in the eye. Smile, and as they are speaking. Respond with a punch to their throat as hard as you can. Since they are talking they will not be thinking about defending themselves. Then just walk away. There is NO excuse for being rude.
Kill 'em with Kindness 🕊️
Robert Takes way too much energy. Just kill them, if your lucky. They have not reproduced, and the global gene pool will have been raised. Cheers
I think that people that are constantly rude are just so unhappy with their life so they have to make other people miserable. Somehow this makes them feel better about themselves. I really do feel sorry for those people. They will never be happy.
That's true, Robin. I find such behavior utmost pathetic.
Well, there is actually no reason to feel sorry for t h e m if you have suffered through their behaviour, especially when you notice that they like to put others (that includes you, too) down. The ultimately best was to deal with them is to not to deal with them, and - if this is not possible - don't be drawn into a quarrel. Be present, alert and withdraw yourself from them. If you want to react ja saying something, stay cool , clear and respond in a matter-of-fact way. Don't allow anyone to treat you disrespectfully.
Some people who repeatedly exhibit rudeness are probably disagreeable in nature and may also possess deep rooted insecurities that haven’t or may never be overcome.
Do not allow their issue to become your issue, I’ve sometimes fallen into the trap of clashing with disrespectful people and it can result in you being seen as the enemy.
Also, I believe it’s better to limit or completely avoid communication with incorrigibly rude people, but if you’re stuck working with such people, I’d keep it strictly professional.
I don't feel the least bit sorry for them..right is right and wrong is certainly wrong! @Robin Manzanares
I don't you are responsible for your own actions, if you are rude to people you deserve what you get in return, never feel sorry for the bully.
Keep calm. Gently talk to them. Never let rude people ruin your life, your day, as well as your peace and joy
Ignoring rude people is most enjoyable.my mother said it makes them feel like 2 cents..lol @Country Woman
I had a group of close friends who just completely turned on me and started acting really rude and harsh and I honestly don’t know what to do.Im really going through a lot because of this and it’s messing with me a lot.
I'm gonna break bone their not their soul
@@DragNdoom Stay strong brother ! The fact that they are attackin you is showing their weakness and that they are somewhat jealous of you ,poor people always gotta say something bad about rich people right? ;) its their pain talkin ...and a lot of people create their own hell and guess what?!! they deserve it ! Most people are educated about what is right and wrong and besides that they can def feel it so most actions are intentional .. so bad intentions on their side = bad karma on their side!! I had a group of friends that took me for granted until I stopped taking their shit and then they started being somewhat violent ,guess what ?! KARMA GOT THEM! no way is hell on EARTH justified! people create it and think they are gonna live somewhere else : )) ...maybe being lonely crates space for something even better ;) TRUST !
Can’t they ruin my day in the morning and then they keep talking things that make me annoyed
Rude people are mostly very sad and hate their self, being rude make them feel better.
That's me..
Yelp. They know what buttons to push.
Vapreon The animator then stop being rude
Marry Giles I tell them to F themselves
Well I hate myself but I've never think of being rude to others
the truth is: you have to stand up for your self. Reasonably and Intelligently
That's the truth
Yes , there comes a time when stand up strong and also to avoid any traps people can set against you . Rude people can get sneaky .
I agree .
Sometimes some people need to get smacked upside the head. It’s for their own benefit to not act like idiots down the line.
This is so true
I always understand that rude people are going through some things that have nothing to do with me so I don't take it personally😘😘😘
Tammy Werner thanks!!
Tammy Werner eXACTLY
Tammy Werner
True.
Yeah , but they must know what they are doing too , f it is rude or not
Tf
The best way to deal with rude people is to avoid them completely.
I agree. I know I'll say something I won't be able to take back
That’s not possible if you live in a large city.
How?
@@DialloMoore503 ask how instead.
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I unfortunately have a bad habit of taking rudeness personally and have reacted poorly. Thx for sharing your tips!!
Gregory P Kampwirth same
Me too. Learning every day.
me 3..
Me too. In future I hope that I will remember that misery loves company and losing my cool reduces me to their level.
Meeee tooooo! Boundaries help.
The older I get the more of rude people I encounter. In fact rude people now a days take it up a notch I know only TOO WELL! Sometimes it comes out TOTALLY UGLY! You know what I prefer to walk away, I don't care why someone is acting ugly I just want to get away from them! Grew up with too much abuse so as a grown woman I simply will not tolerate that type of behavior.
As a retired college educator, I learned to do this-in bits and pieces-over my 30 years of teaching; however, I wish I had this video way earlier in my career, dealing with students and co-workers. Thank you!🙋🏼♀️
Some people pretend a lot like they are nice but they have the ugliest, most evil minds.
Gosh that is true they are are miserable and attempting to make others miserable
For those that work directly with people, know who you're dealing with. Rude people are usually lazy, ignorant, and manipulative, so stay logical, calm and collective toward their inconsolable emotional tantrums. Most of the time they aren't looking for a solution you can fix and they know that, so just keep it short, sweet, and feed them little to no emotion energy. You can't fix someone that doesn't want fixing, and you're not getting paid to be someone's emotional punching bag, so get in & get out as soon as possible. Good luck fellow humans
I take three approaches:
1. Be nice. A lot of people that are rude to me have underlying issues that I’m unaware of. So, I keep that in mind
2. Let them be right. Usually, that’s what they want anyway
3. Ignore them and walk away. Sometimes, it’s not worth letting rude people disrupt my peace, especially if I did nothing to them.
When dealing with rude people I never take anything personally that they say. I am not responsible for their actions. Once they see that they don't get to me they usually back off. It wasn't always that easy. Now dealing with rude people is like a piece of cake.
I wish I could react that same way.
Ralph harrison Why do you think they act like this? Bad parenting? Difficult controlling emotions? Yeah it hard for me not to fight back. But I do it in kindness not rudeness. We’re living in dark time I tell you. So much is happening right now.
Good on ya ! I will put them in there place but I do like I am speaking to a child.
Dealing with rude people isn't a big problem for me, but it's when they cross the line that I find it hard to restrain my actions.
Eddie Brock samee😂
Same-Especially when it comes to vulnerable ppl being hurt or my Momma!
SO TRUE!!
For example, I deal with people that resort to racist,derogatory names thrown at me. I am of Asian descent, but don't approach me like I'm fresh off the boat treating me like I have no clue you were just incredibly rude,calling me Chink! THATS crossing the line. I pretty much lose my shit once THAT has been said to me.
@@miknmas1301 oh its okay i wish u all of the best for ur life i think the dogs that bark do not bite stay calm and ignore them cause if u do so they will just stop it and will be frustated by themselves u cant be harm by those people . ☺🙂🙂
Eye contact, yes, absolutely! Amazing how quick rude people back off when you don't look away :)
Between males it means you are self assertive and you are ready for the next step which is to kick their ass.
You said well. Bravo!!
It don't want to deal with rude people anymore. I wanna live a happy live with out people judging or accusing me ever second of the day.
I pray you never have to deal with children and youth. They will make you miserable if they ever take one of your kids. I didn't care what anyone else thought of me or how I did things. It's not their business just like what other people do isn't mine. They fabricate lies... It's horrible. I wish it on no one
@@lauramalizia9636 Child ab"use" is EVERYBODY'S business. And you do not "own" "your" kids. Children are not property.Guess what your "problem" is,,,
@@annebonnyssister the problem is I did not abuse my child. Hence why I said he was taken because of lies. My younger son has nonverbal autism and is just very loud and screams alot, sometimes "quiet mouth" works, sometimes he's too hyper. It's mostly happy squeals. What really pissed me off is them going to my older son's school and trying to pry him and ask if I ever hit either of them. His answer was no and it was the truth. Why?! Because I have sense.. why would I hit either child knowing one day they would outgrow me as they both have at 15& 13. Do I want to be hit back, ever? No. So I didn't do it to them.
@saganist I read something on line the year before they took my now 13 yr. Old son and it started out with a question.. what is the biggest problem about having autism? Other people... I read it and said exactly!!! Further reading discussed what to do if your autistic child keeps getting out of bed after his bed time. Without acknowledging him, take his hand, take him back to bed and at most say goodnight. Repeat if necessary (unless he's obviously sick) Wish I could find it. Was one of the best articles I read and being I have adult ADHD badly, that means a lot.
Every action scrutinized,haven't you heard of autonomy ✝️
I have had to deal rude treatment towards me most of my life due to being disadvantaged by my disability.
It hasn't left me bitter because I fortunately been able to rise above it.
But it does take perseverance with self-growth to overcome the negative impact.
I deal with rude people all the time. I walk away when I they start acting like their problems and feelings are important and I'm not entitled to have my own.
Sometimes you have to be rude with rude people, to stand for yourself in a position.
True
Not you don't. You can be honest and calm w/o stooping to their level.
oh give me a break, if a person is rude I am not interested in there feelings and points of view. Some people are just rude arrogant pricks.
Exactly!
They are rude who cares about there feelings . They should not hurt the feelings of others.
then it gonna be a circle. and the keep getting rude. i know it give people headache. try to be just a little nice. and go off if you cant handle it for sure. 😀😃😆
I keep repeating to myself, where God I
Am. Silence works as well.
@@traciwhite9959 I am usually silent - outside of a swift kick to the groin of the rude person that is...I like to consider it a balanced combination of silent resilience and direct action.
Deprivation of social skills from fear of toxic people has been a part of my life as a child. Books became my friends. I'm sure this conveys into adulthood and I found public school to be full of toxic people. I have a better than average education and the love of truth but am still blindsided by gaslighters.
Rude ppl are a pain. I say avoid them and if they try to talk to you, pretend you're on the phone or say, can't talk now, not my cup of tea, I'm late for something, tell someone else or I'm not interested and walk off. Don't give them a chance to speak again but above all, really try to avoid them
That's what I'm talking about! All of the advice sounds good but it can take a toll on you!
I deleted my social media because I was done with the negative opinions of others on certain topics and having a need to debate with them. I feel alot better that I did.
I love applicable videos like this. Handling rudeness is a social skill which is learned over time. Thank you very much for it's content.
This is so happening to me. HAHAHAHA. I usually stay calm and don't react (no matter how furious I am). I let them release it all but they aren't getting anything from me... hahaha. My principle is- how they behave show who they are and how I'd react and give in to what they want reflects my characteristic and personality. :)
When I had to deal with a rude person who was my superior and in the situation where they were always wanting to change procedures away from the documented one I’d say, “Please email me or write down the changes that you want so I don’t forget them.” and then appear as if I needed THEIR HELP to do what they wanted. My reasoning, knowing that IF I get called on, by them or someone else when something goes wrong I could say... I was following your instructions as per your note.
On many occasions, I didn’t do the above, and the superior would conveniently forget that they verbally changed procedures.
The trouble with this is that when my superior got in trouble for something they wanted me to do differently by their boss they’d resent me.....but.....once it happened a few times the BOSS took notice of the poor decisions my superior was making and then got talked to to modify their behaviour or was required to go through them to change procedures.
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Bravo to you! Not just me then! I could work with you no problem! 😁
There's no reasoning with a rude person.
trueeee
It would be like taking to a wall lol
Ok but there is
Just leave them in their own ignorance. It hurts.
@@gibson3483 Ok..how?
Walking away is the best option!
I'm 57 and in customer service, rude people are a fact of life. Killing them with kindness is my best tactic. I treat all my customers the way I would hope anyone would treat my grandparents or great grandparents, with respect, kindness and dignity. My customer service is kin to that you'd experience at Chic-fil-A. If you like their customer service, you'll like mine. It's rather unexpected these days.
Hi, rude people are intimidated by solid confident people cuz happy people don’t tolerate bullying, period! Ty, Bob,
If it's your friend who is rude to you, don't be afraid to cut them off of your life. After all you matter, it's your peace of mind that matter, your joy and your life. Do not let them ruin you. That's a realization, we don't need someone who's rude and toxic.
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Don’t give rude people the upper hand 🤚
This is such a beneficial video! Thank you Brainy Dose!!!
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Thank you.
I have too many rude people in my life.
Do not take it personally . it is their flaws, their issues,their insecurities. Become your own boss save money for a low cost start up. Find your passion and follow it. Meet people with similar interests . Be your own best advocate and friend. That we can control others we can not. There is especially these days a trend of being rude and hateful and unaccountable. I hope that trend ends soon til then a lot of me time may be needed. All the best to you .
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Guys, please understand that most people are literally kids inside. Most ppl grow outside but remain little inside, meaning that most people are never taught how to handle their emotions properly. Dealing with our emotions is the hardest task one can accomplish, it's called self mastery. Please do not hate anyone. Look at them with compassion and know that they act like that coz they don't know any better. Emotionally mature people are peaceful and calm because they've already reached a higher level of understanding. Be compassionate, help them if you can and always treat them with respect. All of us are growing and learning. All of us make mistakes when we don't know better and these experiences are perfect opportunities for us to mature.
I was in a really bad mood because I've been sick since the first week of October . Your video cheered me up and put a smile on me face .Thanks
I love this program ... more enjoyable WITHOUT annoying commercial ads popping in from time to time .
My best solution is cut away from such people ,especially from those who are controlling types .
smiling and staying silent, refusing to engage, and walking away. Easiest methods for dealing with rudeness. In the professional world is a different matter; smiling and offering a compliment usually throws rude people off, paraphrasing/summarizing their issue/complaint/question interrupts their train of thought, and of course keeping that low tone and speaking softly... forces them to shut up so they can hear you. Also, asking them to repeat themselves several times, (while smiling) forces them to hear how rude they're really being.
I worked as a switchboard operator & receptionist for several different companies & was trained how to defuse an irritated customer both on the phone and in person. If it were not for that training manual, I'd have been lost. In fact, when I covered at the welfare office in a different office over the lunch break, one District Supervisor who ate his lunch in, finally came round to congratulate me on being the best he'd ever overheard! Since that time I've learned something else from the Bible, which is even better when you can apply it, "The beginning of contentions is as one letting out waters; so before the quarrel bursts forth, take your leave." (Proverbs 17:14)
Thank you for posting this. Too bad those watching it, judging from their comments, who are folks who don't need it.
Twice in the past week alone, I've either been rudely treated, or had to stand up for myself, and then had an uninvolved third party choose to intervene by attacking ME. They don't step in to help, but only to pile criticism on the person who's already under attack. Sometimes they're demonstrably in the wrong, or not helping with their actions (even though they say they are), or too far away to do anything, but they make a point of shouting at you for everyone to hear, or even hanging around after saying they're leaving, just to yell at you more.
Nick Hentschel god bless you
Its bc their ego is way too big!
Is there someone else who is being submissive as a first reaction and finds it hard to switch to being assertive? And later on having resentful feelings and lots of thoughts on how I should've handle the situation?
Most of the times I have a pretty good answer later on, but it's passive aggressive which I don't really aspire to become (more than I already am..).
I don't know how to switch in those moments, from very easy going to being assertive. I feel scared that they might say or even do something that might hurt me physically or emotionally if I stand up for myself even in a reasonable manner.
I understand, it's ashamed that people can't just be nice individuals and not be rude or a bully. Anyway have a good day
Ignore them. They hate that.
I'm the same way. My default is passive and/or ignore ( or react badly if rudeness is consistent and from someone I know well). I so want to learn to react well!
I feel you! I did that too.. Only knowing the right answer in hindsite..afterwards. Frustrating, isnt it? But really its their frustration. We have to set better boundaries for rude people and learn to be strategic, like playing chess haha.. Dont take it personal is the first step. Rude people only want attention for themselves: Hurt people hurt people. Dont intenalize it.
I love your answers and because I am same with you exactly. I am submissive when I faced vert angry workmates with viloent behaviours. Now I practise assertive skills.
This informative presentation is Significantly Important, particularly in learning Personal Empowerment, opposed to permitting ourselves to become Victimized. Such a POWERFUL Tool for Children to learn in response to being Bullied, as well! Thanks Brainy Dose!🙏🏼
I deal with this "problem" every day.I have two people in my family that are not only rude but extremely toxic.As for the rude part,I don't think that smiling and kindness helps a lot,esp if the person is self-centered and boisterous about themselves,like in my case.I usually just ignore,or when I have to comment I just say Nah,you're not that funny/smart/powerful,etc. Or when they want to insult me Nah,I'm not feeling it,better try again.As for the other toxic person that's a story on its own,but basically ignore and focus on being productive and being busy 'cause once your busy you ain't got time to listen to them,nor do they have time to insult you. Walking out of the apartment to take a break also helps as I've heard.The thing is rude and toxic people want attention.Once you remove/take it away from them,they chicken out and subdue.
Excellent !!!! Helpful guide to better communication, and expression of strong feelings like anger and upset.Thank you. Best video of the day for me.
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I agree. Most consistently rude people I’ve encountered eventually revealed unhappiness in their lives. Not accepting the behavior (quietly) and being open to move past that and continue to communicate in a more civilized manner, has worked for some. There are others, however, I’ve had to just walk away from while saying a little prayer for us both.
Sometimes it's worth asking someone who snaps at you rudely to repeat what they just said. Often this makes them realise what they said or the way they said it was indeed rude and they won't repeat it the same way.
I don't respond to rude people because it's like giving your power away. They want me to react, I refuse to give them that satisfaction. As I mature and get older, I realize that it's not worth the effort to tell them anything. Instead I let God and Karma do the work while I move on with my life.
My mother-in-law is sometimes rude to me and she has been since my husband and I were engaged. I should've notice the red flags years ago before I got married.
I hope things get better for you.
DIVORCE.. both of them. If he doesn't help you with her, they can live together....
Has your husband spoken to her about that? Your feelings matter too.
@@Ed-iz4wm good one!
What do you bring to the table,could be deal breaker💊
Imagine if some rude people watch this and know our plans to avoid them
Lol so true😂😂😂😂always possible . and now masks for pandemic covers nose and mouth forget smirking
Lol😅🤣
If possible avoid them,they make you angry,realize they are bad seeds and your soul is the garden.
Good one I agree wholeheartedly @William Orr
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Once you have had to deal with a certain person's rudeness, you can avoid contact with that person like never going into the restaurant they own and do business with them.
People are getting rude to others ,more and more. It wasn't this way 50 years ago..
Debbie H you’ve clearly never seen heard about how people of color and other minorities were treated and talked to then💀
clearly you never heard of rome
😒LIFE FOR "PEOPLE OF COLOR" HAS "NEVER" BEEN LIKE "LEAVE IT TO BEAVER"!!
no it wasn't there was 2000 times more rude
That structure kept them productive and out of trouble. Now without it they are violent, lawless and keeping our correctional facilities jam packed.
this was really good. thanks. i tend to be a reactive person. one day i was rude to someone on the telephone - no excuse, but i was frustrated and acted like an a-hole. she simply said, "i don't deserve that." i knew instantly that she was right; she didn't. i called her to apologize - she was gracious. she told me that rarely does anyone call back to apologize. it taught me a lot. i still put my big foot in my mouth sometimes; also take things personally that others say that feel hurtful. i find that the best response in both types of situations is to not speak when i am upset. go home, take a think, before using mouth or keyboard.
I just pretend they’re not there so they argue with themselves 🤷🏾♀️
Simple. You ignore them or throw a Sarcastic comment back at them. That shuts them right up. 😂
@Ron Si nope just ignore I stopped wasting time
YES, YOU ARE RIGHT!!!
Sometimes just a sarcastic look and laughing eye contacts is enough, they will shut right up.
Number 3: Smiling at them. I imagen this will cause them to become more aggressive.
Don't be to sure about that,fool💲
@@Jackgritty28 :)
I have a great habit of direct eye contact.
Is any habit good👁️
I'm not sure about seeing their POV. But I know I made a mistake yesterday (work-related); and their reactions caused them to disrespect and bully me. Confronting them about it is kinda troublesome, especially if they think you are just a nuisance and talkshitting behind your back all the time.
"You're right!" - that s gold!! Got the perfect person for that 1. He's "never wrong" anyways! 😂
Ignore them, it pisses them off even more. 👍😁
So there’s this store near our house that the seller always rude at me. I don’t know if she also like that with the other costumers because I haven’t seen her interact with others LMAO. But yeah, I was so pissed off because she’s rude. Like hey, you should be thankful I buy your stuff 🤣🤣
Last week I saw someone who was using foul language and threatening a friend of mine who runs a small tea shop.
I kept my cool and asked my friend what was wrong. He told me that this guy was just using abusive language coz he was drunk and didn't pay for the things he bought previously too.
I spoke to the drunk fella and asked him to stop using abusive language and come back when he's sober so he started using abusive language with me too so I taught him a good lesson about inertia, pressure and gravity.
It hit him like a stone to his head😉
Yeah, dealing with rude people is virtually unavoidable! I've got a long way to go, before I can work the tips in this list effectively! Great video! Peace out everyone!⭐💜🌍
I just remind some people on Facebook Yeah sure you can say anything you damn well choose but you also don't know who the hell on Facebook is secretly a serial killer and that you should really think long and hard about whether or not your so called freedom of speech is really worth possibly being buried under six feet worth of dirt before you say whatever things you think that you want to say.
Powerful advice in this: empathize, take their perspective, find common ground. You’ll remove the opposition. And learn it’s not about you. (They’re not just rude to you, but possibly to everyone.)
Another good one: Tell them they’re right.... to cut the conversation short.
I address the problem relatively quickly and directly, I don't want to think they can treat me poorly.
Disrespect makes the victim seek revenge💲
Thanks for these helpful tips. These same tips can be applied when driving, I should say especially when driving to avoid a deadly road rage incident so long as I maintain an attitude of courtesy and safety.
I was labeled wrongly many a times...i never backfired them...truth will reveal itself 🙏
Madhra AL yes! I feel ya! Dealt with that way too many times in my job!
This really has helped me a lot! Thank you so much - absolutely excellent advice.. ⭐️🏆⭐️
I really love ths channel..its really educative.. thnks alot,keep it up
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This Tips are great.I like the respond instead of reacting.Also Be witty and use Humor....
This girl in my class tried doing realism in pixel art without ever trying realism, so I pointed out a few things that she can work on since that's what she always wants anyways. Ashe replied "I didn't ask for your opinion anyways." That got me pretty mad because she does this stuff to my art all the time, so I just told her "Dang, didn't need to be rude but okay." So far she has not responded.
If you ask a person, if you done something to them they will use it against you. They will hold it over your head as the next time they claim you've done something wrong to them
Rude people always take their bad attitude and temper out on people that do not deserve it
It depends on the situation.if it's about family members you are straight honest in response without hiding your words and of course without being afraid of what may happen!!truth is the best tool to finish the unconscious rudeness among family!!
100% absolute true!that's exactly how I dealt with a person in authority! thank God didn't take it personally coz understood he has been the master at indimitating others, thus just told him you are entitled to your own opinion but I remain with my dignity thus a respectable Christian!
Once I had a client in my chair as a hairstylist and initially our conversation was good, how you doing today and such. He prior to the sit down started to talk to me about how to fix my finances. I'm responding and at the same time putting his cape on while quickly asking what he wants cuz I can tell he's ready to talk, but as we continue he's going preacher mode on the finance thing like he's saving the damned. I'm telling him unsuccessfully that I am actually really good with my finances and rebuilt my credit from when I thought credit cards were candy and messed it up and now I was paying my mom's bills and giving too much to my friends who were struggling. Bam bam bam with every response he's questioning my character and I just remembered what my dad told me about communication where the sweetest sound to anyone is the sound of their own name and their own voice so I just deflected his questions for me with questions about his life relevant to his target and just let him talk it down. At the end of it (which took way too long in the chair ) he paid and then stood in the lobby just trying to chit chat, joke, and finish unloading the wild story that apparently made him so moody. I won't share it because it's not my story but trust me, it justifies his distrust for female strangers... it involved embezzlement
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I’ve dealt with it all my life! I would either cry, smile and be polite or get reactive. I had a situation with one lady who worked at a convenience store. She yelled at me just for looking at magazines and I smiled at her while saying goodbye. I killed her with kindness. I’ve done worse in other situations
I ve met too many rude people in my life and too many violent I am tired to be calm and understanding even if I am always calm and reasonable their bad attitude will not change,they must be reported cured or that they go to jail for a while so they will realize what can happen to them if they keep on,I cannot always get rid of them and i cannot always be the only one to bear,thanks for ur great videos always, but I think rude violent people deserve a legal punishment or they wont stop harming others.
Just give it back to them.
Having all of that rudeness inside of them "is" their penalty! If I can say something that might help them I will. Mostly I stay away from them.
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I start laughing at them and watch the reaction.
See to me, that is rude.
I've done this too and it works but when at a job dealing with a senselessly rude power tripper that is a whole different issue. 😱I usually smile but I imagine it is fake smirk that can be seen as an angry impatient smile which does not always work as some other person commenting said truthfully. I need to figure out how to deal with the demon powertripping witches out there any suggestions ?
Good advice generally and out of work. However, the problem comes when dealing with a rude valued customer of the firm who complains to the superior- boss. It’s difficult to make everyone happy while getting run over. Especially when your the one with limited resources.
Yeah I dealt with customers before I'm only 17 years old but I worked in a grocery store before so I can understand.
Point number 13 has been very useful in my case.. don't try to force a change. Rude people rarely change,infact trying to change them makes them even more rude. They themselves are not aware that they are rude.
Everyday I encounter a lot of rude people because I work in a call center.
Hi, i know this comment is from a long time ago. Wondering how do you cope with those people? I am working in a retail outlet, encountering some rude and mean people some of the time. And it gets into my feelings every time.
Yikes !I remember those days rough days at the office day in and day out ugggh! Don't miss it one bit.😱 wish you the best. If you have spare change become an entrepreneur work for yourself at home you look young start now and be your own boss you will love it.😍all the best.
@@h.3531 Don't take it personally . Especially these days rudeness is a cringeworthy trend of a bunch of miserable mindless empty people. We get some but thankfully most of my customers are pretty awesome people.literally very rarely encounter rude people perhaps it is because I am not on the register and dealing with sales floor putting out new clothes and all so don't have to really deal with it and our regular customers are the very best. Actually the customers are not a problem it is usually the breathe and you may be fired atmosphere which is also negative and toxic that I have encountered. I say entrepreneurial opportunities are worth looking into and of course don't quit your day job until you have more than replaced your total income as in how much will you need a month to pay rent at a decent place to live,put food on your table consistently, treat yourself every now and then,unexpected situations such as medical issues or car issues ,health insurance that is reasonable and does not cost too much in premium or out of pocket expenses are low so on and whatever else. Also another reason to keep going at the day job even after you get that monthly income you would live wonderfully on,is the confidence you will have that no matter what you are not stuck which that mindset is a better place to be when you realize you don't rely on the day job so your attitude then will make you enjoy and smile knowing the ball is in your court always. Find your passion and pursue it. There are many low cost start ups . Look up and research a few see what you think you will enjoy. Don't worry if you are not interested let them know . Remember its free to learn more and you are under no obligation. Or maybe a hobby you love can be cash in your pocket? But usually being an entrepreneur with your own business is always gratifying as long as you love what you do and are passionate about it. That is what will give you replacement income plus more and also if you stick to it possibly even financial freedom. Be your own boss 😊you will love it.
geewaygen, thats why I'm always very kind and patient to people working in a call centre. Just to give them some courage and space to stay well and have a better work day. You people are often used, get big mouths and earn very little for thankless tasks. I know..
Im dealing with a stressful episode with my living situation due to construction on my house while quarentining Im staying with my mom, weve been butting heads a lot and boy does she get rude, but Ive learned that A. I can always walk away B. to take time to speak dont just rush the conversation C. Dont elevate your voice D. Validate their truths E. Dont take their rudeness personally F. Dont play the victim G. Acknowledge that you have power over the situation H. Making an assertive and calm point comes across better then yelling or sounding condescending
well so do you, and you're also very sweet, thank you : )
Great vid and it came at the right time. Also enjoyed reading the comments section. I encountered a rude /nasty person at the airport. It’s easy to say ignore her but she verbally attacked me and called me name when she was at fault. I saw her fighting with tsa then she came over to me and spitting out her venom. So unpleasant. Nobody needs this. She looks unstable and seems to be on medication but it still affect other around her.
Well, what did you do to make her stop?
Chisom Ololo what was there to do exactly ?She’s like a mad dog, do you want to go to her level? She was very antagonistic, her voice and how she carried herself. There were many people around and nobody said anything. She was cutting the line and had the audacity to screamed at me to move over. When I said excuse me, she said she couldn’t understand me because of me English. Anyways, she’s miserable and needs help
@@finelife6019 And how did it go?
Chisom Ololo just had to deal with rude people. It sucks. I was unhappy for the whole week
i was riding my bike on a sidewalk designed for both pedestrians and "walkers" and this elderly lady yelled at me " this is not a biking lane" and then yelled "lady" at me as I rode past her. Elderly people do not give a fuck and I low key respect that. I ignored her completely though because she caught me off guard and I couldn't think of any response lol
I like fighting with rude people
That is what they diserve
Rearrange their face.
That is my Job too
Hayam Fakhry
There ain't nothin like a good beat down to help people improve they manners!
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Hayam Fakhry get an brick or an big rock and throw it at them
Tell them to shove it
I was a medical officer in the Navy and now head of the medical department in a civilian company. In that time, I started working out, learned martial arts and, obviously, how to use various weapons. That, being a high ranking member of a large corporation, having three degrees, including one terminal degree, and multiple tattoos, here is how I deal with rude people: I stare at them and never break eye contact. They stop talking and slink away like jello. I never lose my temper and with only one or two exceptions, had to fight. Mostly, I just fight in the ring. Works each time without fail.
Smiling at someone who is being "rude" to you, can escalate the situation. Try smiling when your wife is yelling at you. Tell me how it goes.
Coslough Hussein lol
Good one :))))))
These are excellent tips 👌🏽⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Thank You so much🙏🏼🥰💞🌹
Just smile , say that they are right, and say thank you ... and stand your man and walk away .
This video and the comments responded under it are very helpful for dealing a toxic person. This includes every thing we wanted to practice to protect ourselves from them. Thank you so much to everyone who have given valuable suggestions for this .👍🌷
Your videos are really interesting and informative. I appreciate this channel.
This list is perfect and I will definitely be helped on both sides when I am receiving rudeness or if I am feeding into rudeness or even perhaps I am the one giving the negative attitude or rude behavior.
One quick observation is that I noticed in most of the situations brown and black people seemed to be the bad actors. On the other hand I see as well that as years progress this issue seemed to be more balanced.
Again, love your channel and personally I continue to learn and develop in so many ways that will be of help as I interact with others.
Keep making these videos.
Another unpleasant experience yesterday at a Starbucks. I'll put it on top of my very tall stack of bad people experiences I've had all my life, especially counter workers like cashiers, coffee shop workers, restaurant workers, and bus drivers not to mention family of origin members also and even past friends. Why me? I'm a nice, friendly person but I been walked all over all my life and I'm now 64 years old. This makes me so unhappy and adds to my chronic depression.
Mostly these rude people have faced many harshness and difficulties in their life which made them rude and emotionless.
I really don't want to deal with them because they're broken inside.
Exactly. Hurt people, hurt people!
I'm 46.this helped me loads.I get so "hurt" I get angry...I've saved this.I will go back 2 it many times.I just don't want to get angry,then cry because I feel so let down by my so called friends.I have no friends now.I try my hardest to be a great friend,but I've realised now.they are the wrong friends.It's not me.They want me to be as low as they are.GOODBYE MY DRUGGY (so called)MATES.
I have alot of rude family members and co workers ? What they don't understand is it takes years off your life? I think you should separate your self from them.no one needs that in there life? This is bad to say but its the truth. People will be glad when they die.so you dont have to go through that?
You can't tell people how to think or feel. And being kind don't always work.
Same. Some people in my family are toxic, they aren’t happy with their outcomes (actually have never attempted to change their situations) and are very bitter about it so they endeavour to make anyone else they can unhappy so THEY feel better.
Once I figured that out I stopped dealing with them or attempting to placate their situation.
You don’t need to let the ‘we are family’ guilt to run & ruin your life.
Mio Giardino. Exactly! Love this! 😁
Michelle Grooms Agreed. 😩
you might want to take a look in the mirror if it seems like everyone around is rude....hmmmmmm
It's not easy to be calm. Especially when we have our own problem. U just cover must of the problem. Thanks for sharing. Hopefully we can continue to work together.
it takes maturity to deal with rude people. and often they can be angry for legitimate reasons. working in customer service as long as I have my best go to is explaining what I can do for them and what I cant. its as simple as that.
I am security guard who work at 499 main street south Canadian tire Standing 7 straight hours. Doing my job, managers “mike” talk really rude way in front of all worker and customers, even some customers feel bad and came to me.
When i want to clear things out with very polite manner, his exact words was “ i can talk to you the way i want because i hire you”
He told me like i am a slave for him.
I am agoraphobia person and it hurt me inside its hard for me to go out from home to work 😢 i got panic attack there and i was crying i still picked myself up and finished my shift. But it was hard day