I've been surrounded by toxic, negative and self entitled people my entire life. They go out of their way and take every opportunity to belittle, pick on and humiliate me. It has completely destroyed my self-esteem and self confidence to the point where I have completely shut down and isolated myself from everything and everyone. About a month ago, I became very angry and determined not to take it anymore. I am doing things that I never would have done before because the fear in me was so great that I just assumed I was too stupid and pathetic to do anything for myself. To my surprise I have discovered that I definitely CAN do all the things I should have been doing all along. My confidence has increased immensely and I realized that I'm not as incompetent as I was led to believe. I have eliminated the people who took years and years to keep me down. I have a long way to go but I feel better and better with each passing day and my solution was not alcohol or drugs to do it. I just got angry and fed up. Now I'm on a personal mission to better myself and my life.
Exactly I did tried that and it did work for me.Earlier i just used to process what i was feeling or what I wanted to do in mind only but it didn’t really work for me then I started talking as if i am advising someone and my mind remember what I talked loud with myself much longer then just thinking about it.
I compliment myself I respect myself I valued myself But other people think I don't valuing myself , other people did not believe that I am happy alone without bitterness
Great list. I have another one: showing little or no compassion at all for yourself and your mistakes. It's funny how some of us can be very compassionate for others but not for ourselves. This happens a lot because sometimes we have the wrong idea that your are weak for showing compassion for you but you are a good person for showing compassion for others and you can live years thinking that's anything wrong with your behavior. This is one of the reasons why I kind of hit bottom with depression in the last years but now I'm feeling better and progressing to improve my mental health
@@geniusblessed115 you can still be well groomed with old clothes. Shave, comb your hair, iron your clothes, clean your shoes, keep your teeth clean. You got this! god bless!
Confidence is amazing once you get it, you just don't care what anyone thinks, it starts with a positive mindset, don't let negative thoughts bother you, or control you in that moment, say goodbye to it & continue what you're doing.
Having listening to this.. I've been necglecting myself for prioritizing others. Now my mind and eyes are open. Thank you so much I listen to this over and over. You improve my life.
I'm glad that you discovered the truth about yourself and that you're just as important as anyone else. I'm going through this right now, some family members and coworkers. The nicer I am, the worse it gets.
I always say sorry without realising when I bump into someone and keep obsessing over minor flaws and hold the guilt for a long time and keep having negative thoughts all over my mind. From today on I'm going to try my best to avoid doing these things thank U for this video
I 100% agree about the fact that comparing yourself to others is normal and yes, a lot of people, almost everyone (I feel) does it. But I believe that no matter what, we should NEVER give up or lose hope. I used to think that life was so easy for those who are dating or happily married while some of us are struggling with love or along with the following that’s mentioned, that life was so easy for those people, but then someone told me that’s not true at all and said, “You never know what could be going on in those people’s lives behind their smiles.” And I’ve been many times they just don’t want to disclose or share it with anyone.
Self consciousness is much more important than self confidence, because confidence can be completely misplaced while consciousness aims to seek out reality.
All of these are true and easy to say. What matters is when you are the prisoner of your own mind, and can't fight any more, because it doesn't seem worth it!
It's been HARDER on me cuz my absent dad wasn't in my life when I was coming up and now, I have to trust God and the Holy Spirit to help me pull myself up by my own boot scraps.
I can relate to the toxic relationships part. I was surrounded by people who made feel less of myself when I was in college and this actually affect my self-esteem... I'm trying hard to get back to my real self but trust me it hasn't been easy.
Ouch, number 7! I have a bad habit of not trusting my own judgment so I let others make my decisions. And yes it is eroding my self-esteem and I'm trying to own my decisions.
Not all of us have had the privilege of having those around us give positive feedback to thrive when it comes to the confidence. I can tell you one hundred percent that I can depend on no one around me to compliment me ever so any confidence is squeezed out of what I see in myself and that doesn't go very far. In order to surround yourself by more positive people you have to go out and socialize and in order to go out and socialize you've got to feel a little bit okay about yourself to get up and do something with yourself and get out of the house. That's a whole nother problem in itself. Way too easy to get stuck in this roller coaster of thinking and much harder to pull yourself out of it because at the end of the day it doesn't matter how you got that way you have to fix it all by yourself. And all I can say is I'm working on it.
In the video mentioning about, leaving your decisions to others. I always believe that the decision which my elders take for me was good, until I fell down by those decisions in my life, I didn't consider my own thoughts. The point is now I trying listening to my inner self , talking with my inner self what I want not what others impose on me. Believe me I feel confident, positive and more relax. Just start today and you will isolate for few months but believe me you will enjoy after listening to your inner self and priority.
It's like I'm caught up most of these habits..i can't thank you enough for this video. I'm paving my way back to being confident once again..i know it won't be an overnight thing but I'm willing to be patient with myself
Hi everyone. I have just watched the video and I have to say I agree with all the tips, except the number one: "take care of your appearance". There are more important things to change, for example: your own thoughts, emotions and intentions you have with other people. Appearance doesn't agree with me. Don´t judge a book by its cover. There are some people who are very good outside but inside are very bad. The actions speak louder than words, but also speak louder than the appearance. My congratulations on your you tube channel. My regards from Colombia
Well done you!!! You should be proud of yourself for taking back control. I too, have done the same thing and whilst being respectful, I will not hesitate to call anyone out on the spot if they have crossed the line. In front of other people if need be. Don’t let ANYONE cross your boundaries, ever.
It's in this moment my perspective changed♥️🙏🏽. All my life I've been in the traps of these habits 😔. Emotionally it took its toll. However the change is evident now😊. One day at a time we get stronger. I'm blessed I got to watch This ♥️🙏🏽
Mirror work is definitely a help tool. Don’t talk bad about yourself even as a joke. & live by the quote “ stand for something or fall for everything.”
I love obsessing over any flaw, and it makes me exited not sad. Like I get sad about it when I analyze what happened but then I become exited and uplifted once I try and figure out a way I will approach that situation the next time.
I know what you’re saying, but in the end it does more harm than good. It’s a rumination cycle. It’s a way to cope with the negative feelings associated with the situation instead of properly dealing with them. And thinking about negative things like that objectively lowers your vibration and puts you in a worse head space. The “feeling good” part is an illusion.
@@nickp3949 it’s a basic form of mediation and self improvement…, it’s also not toxic as you say as you also seek out subconsciously similar situations to prove to yourself you’ve improved improving your self worth. Internal emotional pain is a sign your changing mentally avoiding pain is avoiding growth🤷♂️ 1 minute of bad vibes for a lifetime of never making that mistake idk about you but I’ll take that trade any day of the week.
Good video. I used to suffer from most of these behaviors. You can change. Don't let anyone tell you any different. My wake up call was a gorgeous female friend who threatened to "punch me in the throat" if I said "sorry" one more time. Lol. Having a high value friend like that was a masterclass in how to be more confident. I highly recommend it.
@ s75 - Do NOT know your gender, but am THRILLED to see you improve your own outlook like that. As a male, I NEVER made female friends, so with the kinds of work I did, I was never around females, and it affected the way I live. Sounds like having a female friend really helped you. God Bless.
@ "PK" - Meiner freund ( and NO laughing at my German !) , I ALWAYS believed that fully half of my problems with the opposite sex could have been addressed better if I had been able to cultivate some female friends. The problem seems to be all that is written about the dreaded "friendzone" (?) , which is to be avoided at all costs. If a guy cannot even manage to navigate THAT, then he will be in for a long and difficult climb. Danke sehr !
Never say your sorry unless you have personally wronged somebody. Especially too a woman. They see it as weakness. Heck I try to avoid saying sorry to my guy friends. There’s way that you can say sorry without actually saying those words. Examples like “I was really busy and got sidetracked with my schedule. It must have slipped my mind. I’ll do my best to not let it happen again” is perfect.
we must not try to be like someone else. everyone is unique and have their own special gifts and talents. know your worth. dont let anyone determine your values. dont be around negative people cos that wont help you but break.your self confidence. always remember that people must love and respect you for you are .you dont have to change for anybody if you must do it for yourself. you. are made in the image of God God bless all you beautiful and courageous people .❤
I can relate to the point of being so polite and always saying "I'm sorry", Don't be so polite, okay you should be polite but don't overdo it, Too much of a good thing is a bad thing
Food For Thought: Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, you boost your self-confidence. A change in bad habits leads to a change in life.
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Thanks a lot. I am surprised id to find out that I once had almost all of these habits. But the last one I recently got rid of is a toxic relationship.
I admire some people who are stand on the stage and sing a song or give us a speech, they face an crowded student but they never scared or trembling, maybe they have though bunch of experience about facing people , so they rapidly gain confidence from these experience , as the result , being confidence is not the one day you that can learn though it, you should keep practising on everyday .
I come from a smaller town , and out of a lot of folks there I would admit there was something special about me that they didn’t have . I realize how they tore me down family and friends because they saw something that I just didn’t and now I realize them tearing me down was out of jealousy. Some ppl are affected by it some or not , unfortunately I was AFFECTED big time ! Like Ppl see me and wouldn’t believe how low I feel about myself but I do. Sadly to say they won , there goal was to destroy what they seen in front of them and they won for now atleast .
Those are ppl who can nvr be friends they likeli act like angels at first n get to know you once they find your abilities talents slowly jealousy builds in them as they only are poseurs actors but no Talent ,lets say you can play guitar or good at IT ,etc but they realize they are shortfall n you can earn more than them, yeah ,likely I got it to from a workplace colleague that seems to ask me about music til showed him my guitar skills ,Im senior support in a school for IT 10 over yrs ,til he came I duno what happen,let my guard down ,you can't tell ppl 90% of the time all about you ,even if you friendly as secretly they could be jealous , so hope they get Karma my friend , I take a break from work in a month or 2 ,I shall re-hunt work , stay strong & vigilant too
The best way to deal with negative, jealous people is to avoid them. If you meet them in street, give a big smile and rush on by. Surround yourself with sincere, loyal friends. You should be flattered that the others are jealous! Hooray! You are better than them.💚💙💜🙏🙏🙏
Hi there Brainy Dose I think self assurance and self confidence are the best buds and one cannot exist without the other in my blessed opinion - spotlight syndrome is a thing I see a lot of women and men suffer from lately and I blame this rise of this affliction on Instagram - the more selfies someone takes the more they start to loath how they really look without the filters and whatnot ! Liking loving and accepting oneself flaws and all is so important for ones happiness as well as ones confidence - I do none of these aforementioned things you speak of and my self assurance/confidence is through the roof and it always has been because I fully love like and accept all of myself inside and out - I can only be the me I’m supposed to be and for this I shall make no apology because I can’t be anyone else you see ! Thank you BD for this enlightening video - it was quite informative and helpful Ttfn;D
My low self-esteem and " comparing to others " habits are killing me. I can't even think who I really wanna be or what I'm dreaming of to become. I don't know why but I feel like I'm alone in situations where I have to go forward and show what I'm good at. The stage fright and social anxiety never been better. Everyone is judging me.. I really need a hug.
Instead of comparing yourself to others and feeling bad for it, my take here is to positively focus on build yourself, not trying to be better than others but being a better version of yourself
Absolutely! I couldn't agree more with your perspective. Building self-confidence is about self-improvement and personal growth, not competition with others. Embracing our uniqueness and striving to be the best version of ourselves is the key to true confidence. 😊👍
When I was a teenager, I seemed to lack lots of confidence because I was always afraid of what other people thought about me and I didn't have a perfect appearance so I was self-pity. Currently, I'm an adult, I realised that others just care about how you can express your abilities and your achievements.
Thank you.. I didn't know these habits actually affects my low self-confidence.. no wonder I avoid eye contact always.. sad life of 30s but I don't stop trying..
I always been a very shy person and my communication is not so good my family and people at work and don’t know are very critical on me and that’s why I have to be myself at all times! 🙏🏾
Surprisingly, I possess all the tait and habits that you have mentioned in the video. I was looking for this perfectly relevant video on confidence building. Thank u for making me know my weaknesses.😊
Yeah, thanks for this video, Am a victim of just saying sorry to people whether it's my fault or theirs..... I won't do such anymore.... This video is made for only me.....🔥🔥👍
"We feel good about our bad habits immediately, but very bad about them in the long run." "We feel bad about our good habits immediately, but very good about them in the long run."
An Admiral was adressed graduates at The University of Texas a few years ago. He was a special forces graduate. He is a believer of making his bed every morning. He spoke about the training and how difficult both mentally and physically. For 6 weeks he and his unit went through hell. Remember that bed thing. After being beaten down verbally and insanely physically pushed passed his limits. When was ready for bed, he saw his made bed his day was a great day. Matthew McConaughey adressed The University of Texas graduates. Paraphrased he said don't try to find yourself. Instead eliminate things you aren't
Last week I read a quote that relates to your final sentence "Truth, like gold is to be obtained not by it's growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold" - Leo Tolstoy.
its actually quite strange how humans tend to change their perception of things based on how they feel about them like if i see an apple in front of me well i do be seeing an apple regardless of whether i like it or not or how confident i feel its just an apple
I'm 30 years old now, but I've struggled with self-confidence since I was 15 years old. I'm just now beginning to realize how strong I am, and that I can overcome my low self-esteem. I went to school with so many mean girls, (and boys)... and I was always bullied and tormented. Throughout my life it was a traumatic experience, therefore it affected my abilities to socialize and feel good about myself. I'm doing better now, however I still have my days. Anxiety comes and goes, we're only human. I put my best foot forward to try to become the best version of myself. Anxiety has affected my work life as well as my personal life. Every day I am working on bettering myself and paying close attention to my surroundings and consistently being self-aware. My ultimate goal is to break free of all of the negativity and pessimistic people. With enough faith and love, I know I can break free, and so can you. 🥲❤
I disagree on point "Overcomplimenting others". Only unhealthy people who lack selfconfidence are afraid of that, Even my life experience shows it VERY clearly. Strong healthy people who appreciate themselves have seen me as an important person and weak people with lack of selfconfidence have projected their selfesteem on me and other people.
All Yu know they attention. Seekers but I'n their hearts are not sincere ,their a Devil behind Angels or wolf in sheep's clothing beware Like how I shared my experience above
No. It says 'overcomplimenting'. Complimenting is okay and healthy but overcomplimenting is not, its actually coming from a low self worth and unhealead trauma
@@diasroshi4097 if it' s a language thing, ok. I am not a native english speaking. But I still insist that this is not right-my experience. If one starts to follow such advices, it gets unnatural. I have seen people who are afraid of overcomplimenting - and you can feel is because of their weak selfesteem and fear not to seem good enough to themselves. 🤗 But have never seen such person overcomplimenting. And the person complimenting me most was the strongest personality I know. The problem with such advices is that people who read them too much, stop to be natural and spontaneous and get untrue and manipulative. And it shows more than they can imagine. 🤗So it is better to be natural than a miserable silly manipulator pretending to look strong. How silly such people look... One has to be ZERO intuition and senses not to feel lack of selfconfidence and insecurity behind it.
Agree. People love to receive compliments especially if you are being sincere. Means you are both interested in them and builds their self esteem. Just make sure you are being sincere.
I think the most notorious self-destroying habit is comparing some to others. This comes from the family itself in which the youngest siblings are compared to the eldest. Remarks like " Your brother is such a great athlete; why are you not like him?, or "Look how such a good student your sister is; you should be like her" as well as "Your brother is so smart that he could be the next Einstein; if you just were like him; I would be very proud of you", are set in our minds from an early age. Some parents don't encourage their kids' natural talents, but try to impose skills that every society demands. In order to make the difference we should lift children's natural abilities, for they can work them out. Life and the world itself are constantly changing, so is the Intelligence concept. Read Howard Gardner and his 7 intelligence types.
For me, the first two points contradict. People can not neglect their appearance and at the same time, neglect their minor flaws ??? Neglecting/Ignoring your minor flaws also means ignoring yourself. Also, if you can neglect your appearance, then you are more capable to neglect your minor flaws. I believe Confidence does not only depend on you alone. It depends both on yourself and the kind of society or community in which you belong. Therefore, your confidence can not be built by you alone. It requires contributions from others for in order for it to be impactful. And also, you can not be confident in all aspects in life
Years ago, I was listening to an arch-heretic "faith" preacher who condemned what I call "downing yourself." His spiritual aspect of that teaching was way off, but the psychological value was true. It bothers me when people say things like, "I'm so stupid", and it hinders their growth. I've sarcastically said to myself when I did something stupid, "THAT was brilliant", which doesn't detract from my personhood. People can admit to a failing without destroying themselves.
You gain more confidence never act until you make it, only with facing/aknowledge accepting and working on your insecurities. Face your fears, does daily something you doesn't like. Get in touch with the real you, sens it insetad of think it. Because senses/intuïtion is the holy grail and major back up when thoughts(are creations read projections like i'm not enough etc) can't see the solution etc
From what I see of the last couple generations is no shortage of narcissistic, self love despite how screwed up. In fact, seems the more fucked they look and behave, the more proud for being absolutely in love with themselves for no reason.
I am 17 years old girl and i have so manyyy messed up things in my mind; so many insecurities about my body. Always took peoples comments seriously and then cry in a corner 😶
I think it is very important to know, there are more kinds of confidence. And basicly one just including your self, and the second including others. Someone who alone climp cliffs e.g.. has a very good confidence in himself in that situation, but might in social skills be completly disabled to involve himself. So much confidence when it comes to himself, no confidence around others. To put it in other words: It is possible to have confidence in yourself, and have NO confidence in others. And when you have seen anough a**hole behaviour from others, you loose confidence in others, and might in social "things" seem strange/weird/lacking confidence because you just dont believe in THEM. So- it is possible to have selfconfidence in YOURSELF and at the same time have NO faith/believe in OTHERS.
@Chief Wildhorse Be happy for the wonderful person you truly are..You come from a great lineage. Accept who you are with pride, with confidence, with gratitude. You are blessed! Tell yourself this each day.💚💙💜🙏🙏🙏
I've been surrounded by toxic, negative and self entitled people my entire life. They go out of their way and take every opportunity to belittle, pick on and humiliate me. It has completely destroyed my self-esteem and self confidence to the point where I have completely shut down and isolated myself from everything and everyone. About a month ago, I became very angry and determined not to take it anymore. I am doing things that I never would have done before because the fear in me was so great that I just assumed I was too stupid and pathetic to do anything for myself. To my surprise I have discovered that I definitely CAN do all the things I should have been doing all along. My confidence has increased immensely and I realized that I'm not as incompetent as I was led to believe. I have eliminated the people who took years and years to keep me down. I have a long way to go but I feel better and better with each passing day and my solution was not alcohol or drugs to do it. I just got angry and fed up. Now I'm on a personal mission to better myself and my life.
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@@DeadPool-ot1dc Thanks. Have a blessed day!
Thank you 💋
it takes courage🙏 you seem to have lots!!!💚🍀💚🌻💚💚🌈🌈💛💛🌷🌷🌹🌹
try to live alone but never stay in toxic relationship with anyone it will destroy your self worth
Positive mindset. Your mind believes the information you feed it. Always talk to yourself as you do your best friend.
Exactly I did tried that and it did work for me.Earlier i just used to process what i was feeling or what I wanted to do in mind only but it didn’t really work for me then I started talking as if i am advising someone and my mind remember what I talked loud with myself much longer then just thinking about it.
We all should, but for me it's easier said than done...but so true. Thank you ✌
Right 👌
@@boxerbhai0073 👍
True 👍
I compliment myself
I respect myself
I valued myself
But other people think I don't valuing myself , other people did not believe that I am happy alone without bitterness
Great list. I have another one: showing little or no compassion at all for yourself and your mistakes. It's funny how some of us can be very compassionate for others but not for ourselves. This happens a lot because sometimes we have the wrong idea that your are weak for showing compassion for you but you are a good person for showing compassion for others and you can live years thinking that's anything wrong with your behavior. This is one of the reasons why I kind of hit bottom with depression in the last years but now I'm feeling better and progressing to improve my mental health
I think 'Neglecting ur aperance' is most important point here in respect to self confidence
Perfect Salman, what if you're broke though
I don’t completely agree with this one
@@geniusblessed115 you can still be well groomed with old clothes. Shave, comb your hair, iron your clothes, clean your shoes, keep your teeth clean. You got this! god bless!
@@zapotec818 ikr
How is it even possible to neglect your appearance?
This entire speech is all about being you but always open to self improvement.
Confidence is amazing once you get it, you just don't care what anyone thinks, it starts with a positive mindset, don't let negative thoughts bother you, or control you in that moment, say goodbye to it & continue what you're doing.
idk about that, im rediculously underconfident due to being abused as a child and i also dont care what anyone thinks
How please
Having listening to this.. I've been necglecting myself for prioritizing others. Now my mind and eyes are open. Thank you so much I listen to this over and over. You improve my life.
I'm glad that you discovered the truth about yourself and that you're just as important as anyone else. I'm going through this right now, some family members and coworkers. The nicer I am, the worse it gets.
I always say sorry without realising when I bump into someone and keep obsessing over minor flaws and hold the guilt for a long time and keep having negative thoughts all over my mind. From today on I'm going to try my best to avoid doing these things thank U for this video
I 100% agree about the fact that comparing yourself to others is normal and yes, a lot of people, almost everyone (I feel) does it. But I believe that no matter what, we should NEVER give up or lose hope. I used to think that life was so easy for those who are dating or happily married while some of us are struggling with love or along with the following that’s mentioned, that life was so easy for those people, but then someone told me that’s not true at all and said, “You never know what could be going on in those people’s lives behind their smiles.” And I’ve been many times they just don’t want to disclose or share it with anyone.
Self consciousness is much more important than self confidence, because confidence can be completely misplaced while consciousness aims to seek out reality.
All of these are true and easy to say. What matters is when you are the prisoner of your own mind, and can't fight any more, because it doesn't seem worth it!
It's been HARDER on me cuz my absent dad wasn't in my life when I was coming up and now, I have to trust God and the Holy Spirit to help me pull myself up by my own boot scraps.
I can relate to the toxic relationships part. I was surrounded by people who made feel less of myself when I was in college and this actually affect my self-esteem... I'm trying hard to get back to my real self but trust me it hasn't been easy.
Stop.. You will NEVER find your old real self again - it belongs to the past. You have to develop a new real self. ;)
Like the drops of a flowing stream, we are never in the same place again.
Ouch, number 7! I have a bad habit of not trusting my own judgment so I let others make my decisions. And yes it is eroding my self-esteem and I'm trying to own my decisions.
Not all of us have had the privilege of having those around us give positive feedback to thrive when it comes to the confidence. I can tell you one hundred percent that I can depend on no one around me to compliment me ever so any confidence is squeezed out of what I see in myself and that doesn't go very far. In order to surround yourself by more positive people you have to go out and socialize and in order to go out and socialize you've got to feel a little bit okay about yourself to get up and do something with yourself and get out of the house. That's a whole nother problem in itself. Way too easy to get stuck in this roller coaster of thinking and much harder to pull yourself out of it because at the end of the day it doesn't matter how you got that way you have to fix it all by yourself. And all I can say is I'm working on it.
No toxic relationship is worth it.
It's evil
In the video mentioning about, leaving your decisions to others.
I always believe that the decision which my elders take for me was good, until I fell down by those decisions in my life, I didn't consider my own thoughts. The point is now I trying listening to my inner self , talking with my inner self what I want not what others impose on me. Believe me I feel confident, positive and more relax. Just start today and you will isolate for few months but believe me you will enjoy after listening to your inner self and priority.
It's like I'm caught up most of these habits..i can't thank you enough for this video. I'm paving my way back to being confident once again..i know it won't be an overnight thing but I'm willing to be patient with myself
That’s the mindset
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Hi everyone. I have just watched the video and I have to say I agree with all the tips, except the number one: "take care of your appearance". There are more important things to change, for example: your own thoughts, emotions and intentions you have with other people.
Appearance doesn't agree with me. Don´t judge a book by its cover. There are some people who are very good outside but inside are very bad. The actions speak louder than words, but also speak louder than the appearance.
My congratulations on your you tube channel.
My regards from Colombia
Well done you!!! You should be proud of yourself for taking back control. I too, have done the same thing and whilst being respectful, I will not hesitate to call anyone out on the spot if they have crossed the line. In front of other people if need be. Don’t let ANYONE cross your boundaries, ever.
I really need to work on this, even if it’s at the expense of feeling awkward.
It's in this moment my perspective changed♥️🙏🏽. All my life I've been in the traps of these habits 😔. Emotionally it took its toll. However the change is evident now😊. One day at a time we get stronger. I'm blessed I got to watch This ♥️🙏🏽
Thanks for sharing!!
God bless you because i always cry in my room because i don't have self confidence 😭😭😭,am going to follow these steps.
Confidence play such an important role in your life.if your are confidence you can achieve all your dream
Feeling defeated is often a temporary condition , giving up is what makes it permanent.
Mirror work is definitely a help tool. Don’t talk bad about yourself even as a joke. & live by the quote “ stand for something or fall for everything.”
I love obsessing over any flaw, and it makes me exited not sad. Like I get sad about it when I analyze what happened but then I become exited and uplifted once I try and figure out a way I will approach that situation the next time.
I know what you’re saying, but in the end it does more harm than good. It’s a rumination cycle. It’s a way to cope with the negative feelings associated with the situation instead of properly dealing with them. And thinking about negative things like that objectively lowers your vibration and puts you in a worse head space. The “feeling good” part is an illusion.
@@nickp3949 it’s a basic form of mediation and self improvement…, it’s also not toxic as you say as you also seek out subconsciously similar situations to prove to yourself you’ve improved improving your self worth. Internal emotional pain is a sign your changing mentally avoiding pain is avoiding growth🤷♂️ 1 minute of bad vibes for a lifetime of never making that mistake idk about you but I’ll take that trade any day of the week.
Good video. I used to suffer from most of these behaviors. You can change. Don't let anyone tell you any different.
My wake up call was a gorgeous female friend who threatened to "punch me in the throat" if I said "sorry" one more time.
Lol.
Having a high value friend like that was a masterclass in how to be more confident. I highly recommend it.
@ s75 - Do NOT know your gender, but am THRILLED to see you improve your own outlook like that. As a male, I NEVER made female friends, so with the kinds of work I did, I was never around females, and it affected the way I live.
Sounds like having a female friend really helped you. God Bless.
They say it's caused by emotional trauma suffered in the past(idk who "they"are but it makes sense)
Im Glad she learned ya!😊🖐️🗽
@@enniswhalen2428 Woman friends are the best ...
@ "PK" - Meiner freund ( and NO laughing at my German !) , I ALWAYS believed that fully half of my problems with the opposite sex could have been addressed better if I had been able to cultivate some female friends.
The problem seems to be all that is written about the dreaded "friendzone" (?) , which is to be avoided at all costs. If a guy cannot even manage to navigate THAT, then he will be in for a long and difficult
climb. Danke sehr !
Never say your sorry unless you have personally wronged somebody. Especially too a woman. They see it as weakness. Heck I try to avoid saying sorry to my guy friends. There’s way that you can say sorry without actually saying those words. Examples like “I was really busy and got sidetracked with my schedule. It must have slipped my mind. I’ll do my best to not let it happen again” is perfect.
Yeah, being angry and fed up for my situation to learning self confidence, that's the key!
we must not try to be like someone else. everyone is unique and have their own special gifts and talents. know your worth. dont let anyone determine your values. dont be around negative people cos that wont help you but break.your self confidence. always remember that people must love and respect you for you are .you dont have to change for anybody if you must do it for yourself. you. are made in the image of God
God bless all you beautiful and courageous people .❤
I can relate to the point of being so polite and always saying "I'm sorry", Don't be so polite, okay you should be polite but don't overdo it, Too much of a good thing is a bad thing
Food For Thought: Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, you boost your self-confidence. A change in bad habits leads to a change in life.
And a change in thinking maybe?
@Jimmy Halperin Definitely thinking! Thoughts and beliefs lead to patterns and behaviors.
The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence......✨✨✨
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That's very nice
@@jessecolter9085 Thanks
Insecurity and bad self image destroys your life!!
Hello there how are you doing today ✅
This is the truth. I hope people everywhere see this
Easier said than applied.
True
I'm so we'll aware of my insecurities and bad self image.. I know how to stop it but I just don't know how to do it😭😭
Thanks a lot. I am surprised id to find out that I once had almost all of these habits. But the last one I recently got rid of is a toxic relationship.
Be GRATEFUL of What you have in Life.....
We Should Practice GRATITUDE ...
I admire some people who are stand on the stage and sing a song or give us a speech, they face an crowded student but they never scared or trembling, maybe they have though bunch of experience about facing people , so they rapidly gain confidence from these experience , as the result , being confidence is not the one day you that can learn though it, you should keep practising on everyday .
I come from a smaller town , and out of a lot of folks there I would admit there was something special about me that they didn’t have . I realize how they tore me down family and friends because they saw something that I just didn’t and now I realize them tearing me down was out of jealousy. Some ppl are affected by it some or not , unfortunately I was AFFECTED big time ! Like Ppl see me and wouldn’t believe how low I feel about myself but I do. Sadly to say they won , there goal was to destroy what they seen in front of them and they won for now atleast .
Those are ppl who can nvr be friends they likeli act like angels at first n get to know you once they find your abilities talents slowly jealousy builds in them as they only are poseurs actors but no Talent ,lets say you can play guitar or good at IT ,etc but they realize they are shortfall n you can earn more than them, yeah ,likely I got it to from a workplace colleague that seems to ask me about music til showed him my guitar skills ,Im senior support in a school for IT 10 over yrs ,til he came I duno what happen,let my guard down ,you can't tell ppl 90% of the time all about you ,even if you friendly as secretly they could be jealous , so hope they get Karma my friend , I take a break from work in a month or 2 ,I shall re-hunt work , stay strong & vigilant too
The best way to deal with negative, jealous people is to avoid them. If you meet them in street, give a big smile and rush on by. Surround yourself with sincere, loyal friends. You should be flattered that the others are jealous! Hooray! You are better than them.💚💙💜🙏🙏🙏
The same applies to me
All of these advises have hit my confidence right in the center. Thanks for upload.
Hi there Brainy Dose
I think self assurance and self confidence are the best buds and one cannot exist without the other in my blessed opinion - spotlight syndrome is a thing I see a lot of women and men suffer from lately and I blame this rise of this affliction on Instagram - the more selfies someone takes the more they start to loath how they really look without the filters and whatnot ! Liking loving and accepting oneself flaws and all is so important for ones happiness as well as ones confidence - I do none of these aforementioned things you speak of and my self assurance/confidence is through the roof and it always has been because I fully love like and accept all of myself inside and out - I can only be the me I’m supposed to be and for this I shall make no apology because I can’t be anyone else you see !
Thank you BD for this enlightening video - it was quite informative and helpful
Ttfn;D
Yep, I need to work on a couple of these. Thanks!
This is so true. This was very uplifting. Thank you for sharing ❤
I am really really greatful for showing positive and quick response.It's blessings for having the company of such result driven people.
My low self-esteem and " comparing to others " habits are killing me. I can't even think who I really wanna be or what I'm dreaming of to become. I don't know why but I feel like I'm alone in situations where I have to go forward and show what I'm good at. The stage fright and social anxiety never been better. Everyone is judging me.. I really need a hug.
I'm going through the same thing bro
@@Warrior24444 You need a hug too?
@@chrissytiya3025 🫂
Instead of comparing yourself to others and feeling bad for it, my take here is to positively focus on build yourself, not trying to be better than others but being a better version of yourself
Absolutely! I couldn't agree more with your perspective. Building self-confidence is about self-improvement and personal growth, not competition with others. Embracing our uniqueness and striving to be the best version of ourselves is the key to true confidence. 😊👍
I agree on stop over apologizing
When I was a teenager, I seemed to lack lots of confidence because I was always afraid of what other people thought about me and I didn't have a perfect appearance so I was self-pity. Currently, I'm an adult, I realised that others just care about how you can express your abilities and your achievements.
Thank you.. I didn't know these habits actually affects my low self-confidence.. no wonder I avoid eye contact always.. sad life of 30s but I don't stop trying..
Immagine finding yourself with all these habbits😌😔😌😔 to be sorted one by one💪💪💪
Thanks for this video, now that I have watched it I will make sure to start following this ways and always have a positive mindset.
I always been a very shy person and my communication is not so good my family and people at work and don’t know are very critical on me and that’s why I have to be myself at all times! 🙏🏾
Confidence is the key to success
Not true. Consciousness, discipline and great communication skills are the key to success.
Surprisingly, I possess all the tait and habits that you have mentioned in the video. I was looking for this perfectly relevant video on confidence building. Thank u for making me know my weaknesses.😊
Yeah, thanks for this video,
Am a victim of just saying sorry to people whether it's my fault or theirs.....
I won't do such anymore....
This video is made for only me.....🔥🔥👍
Same
Wow this is exactly what I need right now..thxs
Exactly my thoughts 😂
"We feel good about our bad habits immediately, but very bad about them in the long run."
"We feel bad about our good habits immediately, but very good about them in the long run."
YES!
Damn.. That's like some of the truest words I have ever seen written down.
Great video 🥰 thanks for all parties who worked for giving us this powerful video 💪❤️
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An Admiral was adressed graduates at The University of Texas a few years ago. He was a special forces graduate. He is a believer of making his bed every morning. He spoke about the training and how difficult both mentally and physically. For 6 weeks he and his unit went through hell. Remember that bed thing. After being beaten down verbally and insanely physically pushed passed his limits. When was ready for bed, he saw his made bed his day was a great day.
Matthew McConaughey adressed The University of Texas graduates. Paraphrased he said don't try to find yourself. Instead eliminate things you aren't
Last week I read a quote that relates to your final sentence "Truth, like gold is to be obtained not by it's growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold" - Leo Tolstoy.
Such videos are so affirming and help for self-development. Thanks for this
Thanks for sharing these as they make me recognize my reason of low confidence
Being in modelling industry working on 1. It's amazing when self takes center stage
Letting go of toxic relationships; everyone is unique in her own quality
Absolutely correct, some people don’t know what they need too
@@madisonlio1532 knew what I wanted;
Right time and right place;
Matters more than money
@@lotaayson9645 do you have other social media portals so we talk privately, i want to know you better. Do you live in the states?
These are real about life, our appearance is key and comparing your self to others , being yourself pays coz each of us is unique in a way.
Life becomes perfect when we get rid of our fears and insecurity, where are you from and how old are you princess?
its actually quite strange how humans tend to change their perception of things based on how they feel about them like if i see an apple in front of me well i do be seeing an apple regardless of whether i like it or not or how confident i feel its just an apple
Thank you. This video is really helpful!
I'm 30 years old now, but I've struggled with self-confidence since I was 15 years old. I'm just now beginning to realize how strong I am, and that I can overcome my low self-esteem. I went to school with so many mean girls, (and boys)... and I was always bullied and tormented. Throughout my life it was a traumatic experience, therefore it affected my abilities to socialize and feel good about myself. I'm doing better now, however I still have my days. Anxiety comes and goes, we're only human. I put my best foot forward to try to become the best version of myself. Anxiety has affected my work life as well as my personal life. Every day I am working on bettering myself and paying close attention to my surroundings and consistently being self-aware. My ultimate goal is to break free of all of the negativity and pessimistic people. With enough faith and love, I know I can break free, and so can you.
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I disagree on point "Overcomplimenting others". Only unhealthy people who lack selfconfidence are afraid of that, Even my life experience shows it VERY clearly. Strong healthy people who appreciate themselves have seen me as an important person and weak people with lack of selfconfidence have projected their selfesteem on me and other people.
Agreed 100% , compliment others they notice it and love it and look at you different .
All Yu know they attention. Seekers but I'n their hearts are not sincere ,their a Devil behind Angels or wolf in sheep's clothing beware
Like how I shared my experience above
No. It says 'overcomplimenting'. Complimenting is okay and healthy but overcomplimenting is not, its actually coming from a low self worth and unhealead trauma
@@diasroshi4097 if it' s a language thing, ok. I am not a native english speaking. But I still insist that this is not right-my experience. If one starts to follow such advices, it gets unnatural. I have seen people who are afraid of overcomplimenting - and you can feel is because of their weak selfesteem and fear not to seem good enough to themselves. 🤗 But have never seen such person overcomplimenting. And the person complimenting me most was the strongest personality I know.
The problem with such advices is that people who read them too much, stop to be natural and spontaneous and get untrue and manipulative. And it shows more than they can imagine. 🤗So it is better to be natural than a miserable silly manipulator pretending to look strong. How silly such people look... One has to be ZERO intuition and senses not to feel lack of selfconfidence and insecurity behind it.
Agree. People love to receive compliments especially if you are being sincere. Means you are both interested in them and builds their self esteem. Just make sure you are being sincere.
I think the most notorious self-destroying habit is comparing some to others. This comes from the family itself in which the youngest siblings are compared to the eldest. Remarks like " Your brother is such a great athlete; why are you not like him?, or "Look how such a good student your sister is; you should be like her" as well as "Your brother is so smart that he could be the next Einstein; if you just were like him; I would be very proud of you", are set in our minds from an early age. Some parents don't encourage their kids' natural talents, but try to impose skills that every society demands. In order to make the difference we should lift children's natural abilities, for they can work them out. Life and the world itself are constantly changing, so is the Intelligence concept. Read Howard Gardner and his 7 intelligence types.
For me, the first two points contradict.
People can not neglect their appearance and at the same time, neglect their minor flaws ???
Neglecting/Ignoring your minor flaws also means ignoring yourself.
Also, if you can neglect your appearance, then you are more capable to neglect your minor flaws.
I believe Confidence does not only depend on you alone.
It depends both on yourself and the kind of society or community in which you belong.
Therefore, your confidence can not be built by you alone.
It requires contributions from others for in order for it to be impactful.
And also, you can not be confident in all aspects in life
Indeed sometimes one needs to be genuine to oneself and understand that u so expensive regardless who u are❤
here's the formula I used in this long and successful life - Concentration leads to consistency which results in confidence.
Can you further explain this for me please?
GREAT VIDEO!!! ❤️ X 10.
Thanks for the informations. My next 30 days are going to be better. I will prepare myself mentally, physically and emotionally
I really enjoyed this video. Thanks
It really helped me a lot,one more thing is that when we put everyone in front of us
this has been awesome
Confidence and arrogance isn't synonymous .. but a lot of people can't seem to tell the difference..
Eye opener great video 💯
Years ago, I was listening to an arch-heretic "faith" preacher who condemned what I call "downing yourself." His spiritual aspect of that teaching was way off, but the psychological value was true. It bothers me when people say things like, "I'm so stupid", and it hinders their growth. I've sarcastically said to myself when I did something stupid, "THAT was brilliant", which doesn't detract from my personhood. People can admit to a failing without destroying themselves.
You gain more confidence never act until you make it, only with facing/aknowledge accepting and working on your insecurities. Face your fears, does daily something you doesn't like. Get in touch with the real you, sens it insetad of think it. Because senses/intuïtion is the holy grail and major back up when thoughts(are creations read projections like i'm not enough etc) can't see the solution etc
the video was really perfect and useful that most of people do not pay attention to these things. thanks so much that prepared the amazing content
Thanks for encouraging me
Very informative. This will be helpful in many areas.
Thanks for the courage
7. Letting others make decisions for you.
BS for sure, who does that. Xoxo 😘
@@geniusblessed115 All the watchers of this video - sit and let the storyteller decide for them how to be confident.
From what I see of the last couple generations is no shortage of narcissistic, self love despite how screwed up. In fact, seems the more fucked they look and behave, the more proud for being absolutely in love with themselves for no reason.
Thanks for the video, very helpful. Be happy!
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When everything on the list applies to you.
Good looks do matter if someone envies you keep your head high you're above them anyway
I am 17 years old girl and i have so manyyy messed up things in my mind; so many insecurities about my body. Always took peoples comments seriously and then cry in a corner 😶
I think it is very important to know, there are more kinds of confidence.
And basicly one just including your self, and the second including others.
Someone who alone climp cliffs e.g.. has a very good confidence in himself in that situation, but might in social skills be completly disabled to involve himself. So much confidence when it comes to himself, no confidence around others.
To put it in other words: It is possible to have confidence in yourself, and have NO confidence in others. And when you have seen anough a**hole behaviour from others, you loose confidence in others, and might in social "things" seem strange/weird/lacking confidence because you just dont believe in THEM.
So- it is possible to have selfconfidence in YOURSELF and at the same time have NO faith/believe in OTHERS.
Agreed 100 percent
You hit the nail on the head. Thank you for your response. :)
@@deah5264 Happy you got the meaning.
Great point!
@Chief Wildhorse Be happy for the wonderful person you truly are..You come from a great lineage. Accept who you are with pride, with confidence, with gratitude. You are blessed! Tell yourself this each day.💚💙💜🙏🙏🙏
Excellent video
Thank you 🤓🙏
Actually all these ten habits are found in me but am blessed now
Exactly,,what I want right here.... thank you so much...take love❤️❤️
Hi
Thank you so much for the video ,I didn't evn knw I do these things
Thnkyou❤it hlps😊 keep going
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