Ship Life: Dating
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 พ.ย. 2017
- When working onboard a cruise ship, you will most likely get very close to many people. However, when it comes to relationships, there are completely different challenges than on land.
Crew members may date other crew members, but fraternizing with passengers is prohibited. If your significant other or family are onboard your ship, as long as you get special permission from the higher-ups, you may be allowed to go into their passenger cabins, or even bring them into crew areas. Just make sure you know your allowances before doing something that could get you fired.
Somehow I watched this entire video....even though I dont work on a cruise ship.
tominator3 me too lol
My goal is to work on a cruise ship
me too
Ugh I am 16 min into this video and I have zero intention of working on a ship😂
“If you think dating is hard on land... Good luck!” 😅
My boyfriend and I are engaged before he went to work on a cruise ship with the goal of earning money for our wedding... We were together for 6years. 6 long years...but just 4months on board, he simply broke up with me through chat saying he doesnt know himself anymore and that he banged a coworker. This is probably the most painful year of my life. All my efforts of supporting him emotionally and financially were forgotten in an instant. Now I conclude, ship life is cruel. Even married men and women do casual sex on board with coworkers. I had so much faith on our love. But shiplife won. The pain is just too much. 😢 I am literally in tears while writing this comment. Its been a month since he broke up with me like I was nothing to him. It hurts so fucking bad. 😔😢
Gene Kersee Soldevilla I cannot imagine the slightest of what you are feeling. I wish you the best in life, people like you deserve infinite happiness. Stay strong!
oh girl, I feel you. I am sorry for you. I can imagine how hard it must be. But I wish you all the luck, all the love and happiness to pursuit a new love and to move on with your life. I have someone for 8 years now and I’m going to work on a cruise ship in three months and I am aware ship’s life is tough and unpredictable but regardless what I do or what I feel I intend to come back on land and proceed with my life and my babe because the support I’m receiving is huge and I will not disappoint or abandon my babe like this because I know how painful is gonna be... you will be fine. It hurts like hell but you will get over it. God bless you and help you on it. Focus on yourself!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love the same is happening to me.
My gf is getting involved with someone on the ship just 1 week after the contract and she is changed.
1 week ago she was loving missing me ecc
Now that she is on the ship she changed her mind
Brother you say exacly what it is.
I brought my gf to italy after my 1 contract with carnival cause that was not an healty life and environment.
Spent thousand and thousand for this relatioship and now that she just started her contract i noticed that something is happening cause i clearly know how it works in there and i told her to refuse fuckers on board to protect our story but ive been accused of insicurity and jealousy
Few days ago she was missing me saying come here to work and now magically she say 'you don't own me '
I was really fighting for this relationship to take care of my gf,but as i knew before even telling her to don't fall in traps onboard,she just trow our story away for somebody that just met her trying to get some sex in the dirty cabins of that ship.
I knew all this would happen and your words confirm all i always tought and told to everybody.
Thank u brother
I feel so miserable even until now 😢 its like I was just a piece of garbage to him. We had so many plans for our future 😢 I am a filipina, I may not be as pretty as anybody else but I respect my body so well that I need not to have my nose done just to be beautiful.. my fiance slept with a Thai waitres, single mom, with a fake nose and is outrageously aggresive (would go to his cabin uninvited, drunk just to flirt and convince him to have sex). He himself told me about how completely opposite she was from me and how dirty the woman was and that he will never sleep with her.. but he failed. He slept with her. He gave himself up to her. They even dated 😢 One day I woke up and I received a chat from him saying he’s done with me and that they are together already.. with photos of them eating and sleeping together 😔😢
Yes, I admit. I wasnt a perfect fiance to him. We sometimes fight over the phone because I was also in the adjustment stage of the LDR thing. Both of us.. but I guess sleeping with other girl just to hurt me back isnt right 😔 its just not so right. We were so inlove.. but shiplife and sex won 😢
wow man, you are so detailed that at the end of your video am just like, "thanks. no further questions"
Amazing vid! A lot of thanks for keeping everything straight forward. Was just looking at ship work/jobs and a video started playing and the realism kept me watching!
You make me want some coffee... I don’t even drink coffee
also, I watched this whole video.. I don’t even work at a cruise or ever plan to but I found it soooooo interesting lol
Me too hahaha
I worked on board italian cruise ships from 2014 to 2017 and found your videos by chance... now they're making me kinda nostalgic. I love your content and love the way you speak :)
relation ships
Relationboats.
This was very eye-opening on this subject and I thought you explained it VERY well. Thank you.
Yes that's true. I meet my husband on my first contract,We've stayed together 5 years on the ship ,and now we have 21 years together. My room mate that time a chinese girl ,start dating the dinning room manager,and now they are still together after 22 years ,with a kid together.
You have to think that the cruise lines are deathly afriad of a guest accusing a crew member of rape, no matter what the circumstances.
Wise advice
I was employed 2 years on transoceanic cargo ships
Your "dating affair" will be known and broadcasted from ship's end to end within days
And some are reminded about "marriage" when he or she returns to port!
Dating 101
Dating on a cruise ship ,visiting beautiful locations together , partying all the time doesn’t transfer well to land, staring at each other across the kitchen table as the rain splatters against the window on a Tuesday morning after getting up for work.
I worked on cruise ships for 3 contracts. Everything you say in this video is completely true! It's so hard to explain all this to people on land. They can't understand that you're in a relationship, even though you're on a ship for just a couple of weeks... The way you perceive time on board is just so completely different.
I've never been on a cruise ship but I might be on one hopefully soon to work as a musician. Your videos are very informative. Thanks.
I agree 100% with you Sean. Privacy is a huge deal on board.
Just wonderful, I have been researching "working on carnival cruise ships" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Jiyrianna Peyadelyn Plan - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my friend got amazing results with it.
I just discovered your channel and inmmediately suscribed. The way you express yourself and make those sentences is awesome. Greetings from Mexico :)
Very insightful, thanks for posting this because I was curious. I just became a subscriber and I’m looking forward to seeing your videos.
I did a few years on ships. Your stories are spot on.
i really enjoy watching your video, thank you for sharing your experience
great video man, thank you.
Great insight mate and a great video. Of course you're a videographer! I've worked on ships on and off for five years and my biggest issue is how rife infidelity is on ships. You touched on it briefly but what is hardest for me is trust. I dated a girl for two months and then she dropped me for her 'boyfriend' who I knew nothing about. Turns out, the boyfriend also had a wife and two kids at home and she was his side hustle which she was perfectly fine to be.
I'm going to a job fair, info presentation next week for Norwegian. Been watching some of these vids, reading etc. Love your style. Some good info that I wouldn't have thought about. Kudos!
Kiefer Thomas I just signed up for one of their job fairs as well, good luck mate!
@@singularity1676 Right on! You too buddy.
Thanks for the story about cruise ship relationships 💙🤍💜
Great video! You speak very well.
Very true, a good reflection on the realities.
Thank you so much for the information. I will start my first contract next month btw.
Renata Aritonang That’s awesome! Keep me posted on your adventures!
I'm going to a music school in August and cruise ships are a good job opportunity in the future. :)
you get it ?
You are a great storyteller. You could narrate a TV reality show about people working on a cruise ship.
Sounds like dating in a dorm but worse lol
Rena Farlow exactly
I love your videos!
So crazy to hear! Starting my first contract soon so good to know
Epic Coconut I hope you have a great contract! What position? Let me know how it is when you get there :)
I'm actually a beauty therapist, so my position would be at the spa! I'm in London now for some training which I'm super nervous and excited for! I'll definitely will let you know how it is. Thanks for getting back to me :D really cool x
Epic Coconut I am so wishing to get a guest service Job on board.
Sean Price Made it on to Royal Caribbean Voyager of the Seas
Epic Coconut how have you adjusted?
In the Navy, you have all of that plus all the fraternization rules about dating people of different ranks.
Awesome information and funny at the same time.
Dating on the cruise ship is easyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. Why? Because most of the women are single, and if they are attached, they are thousands of miles away and have no idea what is going on. The ship is got say 1200 crew. About 400 will be women but, 70 % of the crew is Asian and tend to stick by themselves. So the ratio is 60/40 even 50/50. The women are gorgeous. I have met so many nice women on the ship as friends even. It doesn't mean you are having sex with them, its just nice to socialize with them.
I really enjoy the honesty’
Hi Sean I know a guy who left his wife and 5 kids at home to go work on a cruise ship and he never came back ... well to them anyway ... He met a Jamaican girl on the ship and married her had 2 kids with her and went Jamaica to live ... That was 15 yrs ago
I don't doubt it at all.
His home life probably sucked. The cruise ship gig was his way of escape.
You answered my hypothetical question in the description damn you
Interesting talks! I have been contemplating working in a cruiseship and I've passed the Fleet interview and tomorrow is my Principal's interview. So I'll see if cruiseship is for me..... I've been working land based in Middle east and it was great. So I don't know what I will expect in Cruiseship
Miss Angela how did it go? Did you decide?
About privacy: I took a cruise that had a stop in Mare, New Caledonia. About the only thing to do in Mare is go to Yejele Beach (which is beautiful BTW). So while I was there--along with most of the other passengers from the ship--I saw that one of the entertainment staff (a man) was there with a woman who worked in one of the shops. ALL DAY passengers were coming up to them to say hello and chat for a few minutes. I felt so badly for them. I'm sure they just wanted to enjoy the beach together, but passengers would not leave them alone.
Such a pity really as there ashore time is especially limited. I have never worked on a cruise ship and I know crew are not garanteed ashore time at the ports they choose.
Thanks for Ur video! I feel U big time (i got 7 contracts on ships).
These videos are soo goood Man.
Do you see what he means?
You know what I mean?
Dude. Do you have social media? You have a great voice to tell stories.
Love this
hey thanks for the videos! so i want to work on a cruise ship as an activities host, but i’m 18 so i have some time to gain experience. what kind of experience do you recommend i try to get? i know it’s not your exact position, but you were in entertainment. thank you !!
Anna Lohr hey. I think you should look into workin at summer camps. I worked At summer camps every summer during college. It gives you experience with activities and with kids. And a good second choice could be working on ships ad youth staff. If it’s hard to find an activities job. And then once you have ship experience you can move into activities staff.
Why is Seth Green doing a video on cruise ship dating?
Ha ha! He does resemble Seth Green!
Try mark Pellegrino. Lucifer in supernatural
So good lol
I thought about working on a cruise ship until I saw an undercover documentary about how these ships with flags of convenience (eg:Malta) can end up paying you LESS THAN minimum wage and get away with it. Sounds like it really isn't worth all the hard work and long hours if the pay is so bad.
There's alot of places that have a fast forward button .... It's a bit like dog years ! Saying goodbye must really suck
How to apply the cruise ship for job?
I’ve just finished my first contract and I’ve got the exactly the same thoughts!
Sounds like a big challenge and sounds a little bit sad for couples who are going to start working in this business. Good video by the way
Have you ever had a roommate you didn't get along with?
Brianne Braud fortunately no. But I knew people who did. It can be rough. If it gets bad enough you go to your management and tell them you have to move. And it will take some time, but they can get you into a new room with a new roommate
My wifes Aunt does arts and crafts and her and her husband have been doing it for a few years now. They really enjoy the Ship life. Being they are well into retirement age, her job is more of a perk than an actual job. Her contract is pretty custom made and considered a specialty job. Much like booking a band or something.
Its a specific cruise liner and probably arranged through a friend. I worked in a hotel and to me working a cruise line would be pretty much like working at a hotel. A high end hotel no doubt, but yeah. Lots of college age kids for sure work those jobs. I started as a dish washer at a hotel and worked my way into a maintenance person after going into a bus person job, then moving into a Top tier bus person job, then because I got to know the staff and during the winter slower months was offered a maintenance position when it became available. I knew hotel work pretty much from all aspects by the time I got out of the business of working at hotels. Dating was difficult in a hotel environment too. Most were college age kids, working their way through, then leaving. I met my wife while working the Hotel.
U know what I mean??
That's true man! I worked several years aboard cruise ships and every time I had a relationship, it followed the same pattern. Besides, the competition to get a girl onboard is brutal! The good thing about this competition, for me, was that I developed great skills to pick up girls at home. :)
I'm going to work on a cruise too. And the thing I'm most afraid is this brutal competition people keep talking about, coz there's always more men :/. I mean I really suck at finding dates on land I feel like I'm gonna have a nodate contract.
When it comes to crew dating, what are most companies policies on an Officer or Supervisor dating crew? Is it permitted so long as they are not in your department or directly under your supervision? Or are Officers forbidden from fraternizing with crew? Would suck if your an officer rank and only choice is other officers.
ThGreatFandango good question. I never really heard any rules about it. For me it seemed anyone could date anyone. But the direct supervisor thing sounds right. If I had to guess I would say that’s the big rule. Can’t date your direct subordinance
Every word is true.
it is not true about privace or can you hide dating of course you can if you want and know how to do, i was 2 yrs in relation but who cares about us we were not share that around
how do they know you bring a pax to a party? is it written on their face?
you know what I mean....?
that was a good Video
Hey , was amazing video ,so i would like to get a position to work on board and i had my certificates STCW95 already if there is someone gives information how to get opportunity to have a contract with some company .
Thanks
Otmane Boukha you jus have to start applying. To all the companies. Go to the companies websites and see if you apply directly there. Or find the agencies in your country that work to play crew members. Good luck!
Just seeing this-never worked for a cruise line although am an avid cruiser. This looks sooo much like military in terms of being stationed at a isolated location with limited amount of people. High divorce rates-as once they leave these areas and are back into mainstream with a smorgasbord of people-they leave those relations they developed in those isolated areas.
Time on a cruise ship drags like nothing else. Each day feels like a week.
How long is contracts for?!?! I'm fascinated by this
My wife and I are entertainers, what do you think about that? What advise do you have ?
Jose Angel Gonzalez That’s a very ambiguous question. Do you have any specific questions?
i didn’t skip not one second
This never happens to me. Maybe for the better.
I think that the best thing is to be single on a cruiseship. imaging being in a relationship with someone off the ship and not being able to see them for 6 months? oh hell no!
Just Captain and directors can flirt with gests
That's good news for me
One thing I thought of regards meeting co workers, what happens to the men who work mechanically, engine room, fitters and plumbers, which is an area where you rarely find any women at all.
How do people get caught? I mean, is there someone constantly lookint at cameras looking for the crew going in the guests' rooms?
Luciano Classical Guitar yes. There is a department called Surveillance and it’s their job to monitor all the cameras. They work sort of in tandem with security
That's crazy!
I have another question, my buddy is working as a musician on a cruise ship right now and met a cute girl. He's docking on a port for 2 days or something, and the girl wants to get a room for them at night IN the city. Is this still illegal? Or once they are not on the ship these rules don't apply?
Luciano Classical Guitar tell him not to tell anyone and he should be fine. It is still against the rules. But in that situation he is much less likely to be caught.
0:49
Have crew members been with guests?
Yes
Do they get fired?
*YES!*
If it's in the contract why are people making these decisions 😂
hi good day... im from philippines... my wife is first time to cruise ship... is that possible she with the boy cabin? or same gender? how can i know that? thank you sir
Ralph Hernandez she will always live with people her same gender
28:32 if you think dating is hard on land.......good luck. epic lol
It's really none of a company's business who you date.
Yeah but no company wants to hear afterwards that customers wont come back because they got banged in an elevator
@@davgg9621 They might come back for some sloppy seconds.
Technical you could easily date your roommate without letting anybody know.
Texaco Montana
I was dating a colombian girl after 6 months onboard she went completely crazy , lots of anxiety n suddenly drinking everyday my suggestion would be really never get into a serious relationship
...No...just never with a Colombian girl...they are fickle....and can't make up their minds....
He went to shit
Heee goottt fired 😂😂😂
The way u speak, superrbb😍
What if I dont want to date anyone? I am anxious but excited about this as well. No privacy is pretty bad though, .. at least was it worth it for the money? Thanks
I think it was worth the money, yes. It was worth it for 3 contracts for me.
@@CoffeeWithSean What are you doing now for a living ?
Bob Shaw I live in North Carolina and I work for Spectrum Reach in digital advertising
@@CoffeeWithSean Thanks for your reply . Small world I'm a Spectrum customer .
Bob Shaw haha that’s awesome. Well if you ever watch on the Spectrum TV app, those commercials come through me and my team
what about carnival cruise
haritha t honestly, they’re all going to be About the same
How is dating for gay employees on cruise ships? Are they treated differently? Are co-workers homophobic on other employees?. I know there are lot of gay employees working on the ships. I also know there are a-lot of employees that are from not so gay friendly countries.
Work on a Disney cruise ship. Disney is big on hiring gays.
How I can apply job
Maybe not homophobic but surely doesn't wanna sit through his roomate buddy getting busted out bareback in the same cabin I'm sure..lol
I work for cruise ships for long time and it is not allowed any type of discrimination regarding religion, traditions, nationality or sexual choices.
Hi sir pls help me to work in cruiship as a massage therapist,I am working as a massage therapist over 5yrs alread,pls any one can help me
maria Juliane the spa company on my ships was Steiner. You can contact the. And find a position onboard a ship.
I just got offered a job to work on a cruise ship as steward im really trying to consider all of my options im 27 i really want to use the rest of my 20's wisley but find it important to save up money at the same time :? Its in hawaii and not international so u can technically get off the boat and you feet are touching the earth so maybe that could help with this specific dating topic
As someone who did the Hawaii ship thing, it's an amazing experience and you should definitely DO IT if you get the chance. You get off pretty easy as far as work and time off in port as compared to lots of other ships/runs. When it comes to dating, you might have an advantage if you end up dating someone who is also American working on that ship (I assume POA) you will both be returning to that ship for all your contracts and so you won't be separated for long periods of time depending on how your contracts fall. That said, I met my husband on ships (HAL) and we quit when we got engaged because we know how things are out there and wanted our relationship to work out in the long term. lol.
i n my boyfriend want to try for photography in cruise.. is it safe for our relationship? he loves me extremely just i thought of going he too wants to n is trying hard..
Neha Singh if you go together you’ll be fine. I’m sure you would be fine apart. However, I personally would never separate with my girlfriend and one of go to ships and the other stay home. It’s too hard for me
@@CoffeeWithSean exactly... N my boyfriend is a concept artist in animation industry, he came up from different city after 1 yr for me as it was difficult for us.. he decides to quit his job n will go with me.. just to b with me n support my dream.. we want to be financially strong too.. in India salary is low .. but we both have no degree n knowledge in photography but want to get in by doin any intern n seek knowledge Abt it, can we get in same ship same room?😅😫
Hey Sean you had Africans on board? I'm from Kenya n really interested in cruiseships
Yep. People from all over the world, definitely including Africa. Nearly 70 nationalities. Maybe more. Go for it! Let me know how it goes
Is a private room available?
Bro, I've seen many crew sleeping with guest which didnt get fired...mostly from photo department...cant believe you've never seen that 😂
Are you able to get a job on a cruise ship if you have visible tattoos?
Papaya Papatya yes. But depending on the job and depending on where exactly that tattoo is. If it’s on your face. No. But I have one on my forearm and I was just fine. The Crew who worked in the Spa were not allowed to have visible tattoos. What job were You thinking?
what about a barber interested in working in a barbershop with a straight razor tattoo on his hand? ha great videos by the way, very informative
Bryce Wootton You would have to ask for special permission by the spa company. Unfortunately; the spa companies aren’t looking for cool hip stylists and fun interesting employees. They are looking to fill a mold so that guest service is the number one priority, not their employees.
What about deck officers are they strict on the tattoos that they have/ where they have tattoos?
Your there for one reason only...Job first!!! This should not be permitted. Your personal life is on hold... It's a job and you just happened to be living there with room and board. Thank you
working on a cruise is not much different working on a traveling carnival, were like a small city and gossip is even worst than a soap opera
Do all officers onboard have their own room deck and engine?
Connor Harvey everyone with Officer status gets their own cabin
max power, hilarious
@@johnfitton2399 yes they get their own cruise itself
i must have dating 20 or more passenger the 12 y i was a sea
What Cruise Line does he work with??
Jasper Ross! I worked for Norwegian Cruise Line.
I love NCL. I just got off the Dawn Yesterday. lol
CrAzYnAdEz The Dawn was my second ship I worked on haha
Honestly ship is for earning and saving money not for pleasure and FUCK around specially you in a relationship.. loyalty and respect ✊
dating is a headache these days
@1:28 Moral of the story, if you do it do it smart.
@3:08 At least they should be smart about it.
Red Phoenix many cruises, many flings. As a passenger. Don’t be stupid, be VERY discreet. Very discreet. Sneaky, actually. None got fired, no one knew. Fun, really fun. I still have very fond memories.