8 Things You Need To Know Before Dating A Girl Who’s Been Through Emotional Abuse

A girl who has been through emotional abuse is someone who is strong just for giving love another chance.
Even if you might think that emotional abuse doesn’t have the same consequences as physical abuse, you would be greatly mistaken.
Physical abuse leaves wounds visible to the eye and even when you try to hide them, people still know that they are there; right under that high collar of your shirt or there under your make-up.
However, when we talk about emotional abuse, people tend to forget that it’s there. When you smile at them, they think you’re all right.
Emotional abuse is a silent killer when someone you trust and love so dearly uses emotions as their weapon of choice to control you.
You can’t love her and just forget about her past, because it haunts her day in and day out.
1. She’s extremely fragile and vulnerable
It won’t take you long to find out just how vulnerable and fragile she actually is.
You will see it in the way her eyes start to tear up at the sight of something even remotely sad.
You will watch her flinch at a simple sentence where you raise your voice. She will retreat into herself whenever you get mad.
2. She will always blame herself
Going through an emotionally abusive relationship means that you are convinced that everything is your fault.
The abuser makes his victim believe that he can never do anything wrong, but that the victim is always the one to blame.
She will apologize for things that aren’t even her fault. You will see the way she will panic when you’re mad and she won’t hesitate to say she’s sorry.
3. She will try to handle things on her own
When you are dating a girl who’s been through emotional abuse, you have to know that she will try to handle things on her own.
She will push you away when you try to help her because she’ll think that she has to do it all by herself.
4. She will do too much
You will know she does too much when she puts more into the relationship than you do.
She will organize all your dates and you will never come home without a cooked meal ready for you.
5. She doesn’t know how to ask for the things she wants
Instead of telling you about the things that she wants or needs from the relationship, she will just stay silent.
Even when you ask her, her reply will be: “I don’t know, whatever you think is best.”
Expressing her desires will be extremely hard for her because her abuser taught her that she always has to please her partner.
6. She will always be on edge
Whenever her abuser wanted to control her, he would neglect her or threaten to leave. Now, whenever you’re mad at her, she thinks you want to leave.
Abandonment issues are a common thing abuse victims face and you can’t take advantage of that.
If you think that the silent treatment or walking away from her when she’s the most vulnerable is the best idea, then you are an abuser yourself.
7. You will have to remind her that she’s enough
Even if she doesn’t say it out loud, know that you will have to make sure she knows she’s enough.
You need to reassure her that you love her, you need her, and you will be there for her.
8. She’s the strongest woman you will ever meet
You will never meet a stronger woman than one who has gone through emotional abuse and still gave love a second chance.
She has gone through so many things that you aren’t even able to see because she doesn’t talk about them.
There are things that she will never be able to tell you.
Give her the world and she will do the same for you.
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1:06 She’s extremely fragile and vulnerable
1:43 She will always blame herself
2:16 She will try to handle things on her own
2:45 She will do too much
3:22 She doesn’t know how to ask for the things she wants
3:53 She will always be on edge
4:21 You will have to remind her that she’s enough
4:45 She’s the strongest woman you will ever meet