"Be kind, for everyone you meet has scars from battles that they have fought, is in training for battles they will fight and don't know about yet, and do not need you to tell them that those battles aren't valid." 🥺❤Thanks for bringing this concept to light in the most heart touching & educational manner as always. Respect & Love from Sri Lanka 🫡❤
That happened to me 2 years ago. I want to approach those people and talk about it. The ghosters are a hopeless case. The others are dismissive or hardly available. But I think I can. Though I'm stuck on if I should. Mainly for their sakes, and mental health. I used to love these people very deeply.
You’ve definitely done your research, Kristen. I’m so sorry to hear of the loss you shared with everyone at this talk. You’re not the only one who’s been attacked in such a manner. You’ve grown, and I hope you’ve had an opportunity to heal as well. ❤
Beautiful. I’m trying to help my son thru trauma, he has an appt for therapy but at least I can try to be the best listener and mom I can be because he talks to me.
My Friend have suffered from a SA trauma and I don't know how to help him feel better and come back to life. be a happy person again. it has been one month. and he is still feeling same and tell me he can not forget it, it is still like it was yesterday, I am on long distance and can not visit him because of Visa problem and idk how I can help him forget it. I hope this helps me to treat his trauma, and bring joy and happiness back in his life. I wish all of you quick recovery.
But what if I have inadvertantly triggered another person's trauma response? I didn't know. I wasn't even unkind. I simply didn't know that an ordinary activity could hurt him. He didn't tell me. What can I do now?
It's been a year now. So I feel like maybe a little bit of humor might be called for here. Although while i feel very bad for him. I lost my dad when I was 7. I've gotten so sick of the apologies. SO what I like to do is after the person tells you they're sorry, you LOOK THEM IN THE EYE and very dryly ask, "why did you kill him???" Lmao it makes me laugh every time. Sometimes the person who I said it to will laugh along with me and sometimes they stand there awkwardly. But you know what this is my trauma and I'm going to enjoy it the way I want to lol ❤ every single person I have recommended to try this has absolutely loved it. I have been doing this for nearly 2 decades.
In the name of Jesus, I pray to never have to repeat the traumatic experiences I have endured. People don't care about your traumas. Don't listen when you tell them about it. Just leave you to deal with it as they keep on overlooking it or fail to acknowledge it's effect on you..😡😡😡😡
So what in the world was she doing/saying to those children for that church to build a case against her for a year?? It must have been something because they don't even treat pedophilic priests like that
I kindly want to respond with not allowing someones truth be theres, not being believed. This is the very essences of what she was sharing is important and why possibly friends and others in this world will struggle on their own. I let a church know one of their pastors was being inappropriate and he got me fired and they finally caught him a year later, and then fired. No apology nothing. I had been there 8 years and this young pastor had just joined the staff and I had stellar reviews. I was not believed so I kept my mouth shut after I brought light as to be able no be treated any worse than I had by this mans lies to those I had worked with almost a decade. A man believed over a woman. However, I rarely share this but please note this is why people suffer and do not usually get help from trauma because of this reaction. Just food for thought. To be honest I may of agreed with your response 20 years ago. Maybe think about what this person is actually saying, would you have received this message or heard it differently if she did not shared this story, her story. This is all said in kindness and food for thought as to help those who have experienced trauma that may cross your path.
There was a vendetta created against her for sure. I also was constantly blamed for things in my toxic work environment. I quit my almost 10 yr job because of it.
"If trauma is part of human experience,we've got to make healing part of it as well" - Kristen Donelly.
That phrase is just....wow.
"Be kind, for everyone you meet has scars from battles that they have fought, is in training for battles they will fight and don't know about yet, and do not need you to tell them that those battles aren't valid." 🥺❤Thanks for bringing this concept to light in the most heart touching & educational manner as always. Respect & Love from Sri Lanka 🫡❤
I am proud to say that I did the Arabic translation. Hope the Arab world enjoys it.
Thank you so much for your service. I am so glad this will have reach beyond my language limitations. - Dr. Kristen
Good. Information about encouraging traumatized friends the RIGHT way needs to be spread as far as possible
Jesus christ thank you so much for putting all I've been trying to say for so many years in a good light... Thank you thank you thank you
I found that the regusal of some people around to not recognize my trauma's caused a whole new trauma.
That happened to me 2 years ago. I want to approach those people and talk about it. The ghosters are a hopeless case. The others are dismissive or hardly available. But I think I can. Though I'm stuck on if I should. Mainly for their sakes, and mental health. I used to love these people very deeply.
You’ve definitely done your research, Kristen. I’m so sorry to hear of the loss you shared with everyone at this talk. You’re not the only one who’s been attacked in such a manner. You’ve grown, and I hope you’ve had an opportunity to heal as well. ❤
Beautiful. I’m trying to help my son thru trauma, he has an appt for therapy but at least I can try to be the best listener and mom I can be because he talks to me.
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God bless you
@@ksnmmmm11 he’s doing much better now.
This is so powerful and means so much to me. Thank you, Dr. Donnelly, for the work you do.
Thank you so much, Jacqueline! - Dr Kristen
Great insight and approach to help us be more empathetic to others ❤ thank you!
My Friend have suffered from a SA trauma and I don't know how to help him feel better and come back to life. be a happy person again. it has been one month. and he is still feeling same and tell me he can not forget it, it is still like it was yesterday, I am on long distance and can not visit him because of Visa problem and idk how I can help him forget it. I hope this helps me to treat his trauma, and bring joy and happiness back in his life. I wish all of you quick recovery.
Try to get him to go into EMDR therapy? Or some other trauma therapy if available. But only if he wants to.
Honestly when someone gets closer to me my family keeps telling them lies about my life and everything about me 👇👍 thanks family!!!
This speech is really impressive.
Thank you so much! - Dr Kristen
Thank you..
But what if I have inadvertantly triggered another person's trauma response? I didn't know. I wasn't even unkind. I simply didn't know that an ordinary activity could hurt him. He didn't tell me. What can I do now?
My bff had lost his dad recently 😢
I'm speechless and paralyzed
It's been a year now. So I feel like maybe a little bit of humor might be called for here. Although while i feel very bad for him. I lost my dad when I was 7. I've gotten so sick of the apologies. SO what I like to do is after the person tells you they're sorry, you LOOK THEM IN THE EYE and very dryly ask, "why did you kill him???" Lmao it makes me laugh every time. Sometimes the person who I said it to will laugh along with me and sometimes they stand there awkwardly. But you know what this is my trauma and I'm going to enjoy it the way I want to lol ❤ every single person I have recommended to try this has absolutely loved it. I have been doing this for nearly 2 decades.
In the name of Jesus, I pray to never have to repeat the traumatic experiences I have endured. People don't care about your traumas. Don't listen when you tell them about it. Just leave you to deal with it as they keep on overlooking it or fail to acknowledge it's effect on you..😡😡😡😡
Amazing talk! I will make it work on an instagram graphic Kristen!
So what in the world was she doing/saying to those children for that church to build a case against her for a year?? It must have been something because they don't even treat pedophilic priests like that
I kindly want to respond with not allowing someones truth be theres, not being believed. This is the very essences of what she was sharing is important and why possibly friends and others in this world will struggle on their own. I let a church know one of their pastors was being inappropriate and he got me fired and they finally caught him a year later, and then fired. No apology nothing. I had been there 8 years and this young pastor had just joined the staff and I had stellar reviews. I was not believed so I kept my mouth shut after I brought light as to be able no be treated any worse than I had by this mans lies to those I had worked with almost a decade. A man believed over a woman. However, I rarely share this but please note this is why people suffer and do not usually get help from trauma because of this reaction. Just food for thought. To be honest I may of agreed with your response 20 years ago. Maybe think about what this person is actually saying, would you have received this message or heard it differently if she did not shared this story, her story. This is all said in kindness and food for thought as to help those who have experienced trauma that may cross your path.
There was a vendetta created against her for sure. I also was constantly blamed for things in my toxic work environment. I quit my almost 10 yr job because of it.