Not too many people understand how exhausting “masking” can be. Sometimes it takes me days to recover. How sweet of you to push your limits to help her. Well done.
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
For real. I have ADHD and sometimes it’s so draining that I have nothing left to do things I actually want to do or have actual conversations with my family
Thank you Mack for helping this lady with her house. You did a tremendous job and she did too. I hope that she will heal completely and quickly from her injuries. Also, her dog is beyond adorable!
Ok, long comment but I wanna share it: My mum and I currently live together because I'm severely disabled and she's just left her partner of 12 years. She's been cackling about me watching cleaning videos because I have such poor executive function that I don't eat if no one tells me to, much less do the dishes. (She on the other hand has ADHD and does everything, so much, all the time. It's great.) We went up to her ex's house yesterday to start packing up her stuff so a moving company can come get it. Once there, we found that he (the partner) had taken ALL OF HER THINGS and put them in the garage. In no particular order. In a jumble that pretty much resembled a hoarder pile. She looked at it and said "I can't do this," and I said, "YES WE CAN. I have watched enough MMC to tell you, we absolutely can. We have lots of time. We're going to the shops, we're getting snacks and bags and boxes, and we'll do one thing at a time." And then I applied every single piece of advice I've picked up from this channel, and we fucking did it. It took us a solid 5 hours, but her things are organised and packed. I can't move a muscle today, but it was so worth it. And we couldn't have done it without you putting this content out on the internet. So, thank you. You make a difference, all over the world. (And when I started this video just now she shouted, "Is that The Cleaning Man?". I've pavloved her to your voice.)
Your comment made me cry :’) You’re a great daughter, and I’m glad you and your mom have each other. My daughter is one and I’m 25 weeks pregnant, but I got a new apartment and my stuff has been in storage and in an RV and in my car and my brother’s house and it’s overwhelming. The divorce is hard, but I’m happy I’m doing it. While my girl doesn’t know and can’t help, I’m still happy and hopeful I can give her a clean safe good home
Thank you so much for helping this woman. She's JUST like me. I have all those same disorders, except I also have m.s. I, too, inherited my mothers house exactly the same way. I lived with it for 2 years until my sister in laws saw me personally decline in health and begged me to tell them what was going on. I finally told them, and they all 3 took off work for 4 days to make the place immaculate. It was life changing and life-saving. You're a true hero.
There are often people around who are happy to help if they know you need it. What I want to know though is how come it was your sister in laws and not your brothers?
@@juliebrooke6099 In many cases, women stay at home while men go to work, or work part-time jobs while their husbands work full-time. Thus, they have more time to help ❤
That and for some autistic folks, the dog senses this and treats us accordingly. I take care of two myself, when it's time, they come my way to visit. I do best in my own home with my stuff. It's not so bad now that I have a modernish laptop with WiFi, but still, better here at home where the dog can relax around me. One is a little miniature Australian Shepard that I've known since he was a pup and we just glommed onto each other early on, so whenever I'm at their house, he seeks me out, always. The other is a black Lab and she adores me and checks in on me periodically (both do) and I love it.
I’m 22 years old, I started a really good career around 20 and have my own apartment. My apartment is literally now a cluster of stuff everywhere. Every month or so I put one of your videos on my phone and push myself to face my anxiety and clean my whole apartment and gut it until it looks brand new. Definitely looking into therapy because my father and grandfather were massive hoarders. My father had a whole house hoarded with car parts and several cars on the lawn on top of his current one. So I’m just thankful for your channel because I’m working on this now while my mind is still changeable. Apartment has been disinfected with bleach and spotless today thankfully, I use your methods. :)
I cleaned my basement this summer after neglecting it for years. I threw out 61 boxes, and emptied 5 plastic tubs, not to mention massive amounts of garbage bags. It's actually halfway livable in there now.
If there's anyone out there wanting to start helping folk like this, I'm a Doctor of Physical Therapy in Southeast Minnesota and I have someone in desperate need of organization help who is wheelchair bound and blind and gave me permission to reach out. I've been a member here for several months and love this community, and it breaks my heart to see how desperate the circumstances are for my patient who cannot find her belongings. The place isn't even that bad, it's more that there's no designated place for each item and it leads to her being unable to find things because she's blind. I'm hoping that if anyone can help her with the initial clean and organization, I can follow up with my coworkers to make sure things stay that way.
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
I wish I could but I'm from Michigan 😢. See if she qualifies for a home health aide and they can help with some of that if they are willing. If anyone in SW Michigan wants help in a similar situation let me know ❤️.
Midwest Magic Man, two things: - Your videos on stuff like this strike a personal chord with me since I once helped a dear friend clean up the hoard from the house he inherited from his mother. - As bleak as the subject matter is, the gag of your name changing with every video along with the various bits you throw in add MUCH needed levity to an otherwise bleak and morose topic. Keep on the good fight, brother!
On a completely different note- hearing you speak about your autism is REALLY causing some puzzle pieces to fall into place with my own experiences. Thank you for being so open! 💙
I have a plaque that says Dogs Welcome Humans Tolerated. People think it's funny, but for me, it's true! I'm so happy you were able to help her, Mack😊😊
I, too, am crafty (and “booky”). After retiring from teaching middle school Art and Reading, I foolishly brought home loads of art supplies, books, lesson plans [why, god, why?] and furniture, etc, I had bought for my classroom. I am 71 and not as physically capable of doing as much as before. I also had frequent panic attacks when I looked at how big a mess my environment was becoming. This video helped me get rid of so many “someone could use this for…” things that nobody really wanted. Listening to your narration (and the owner in the background) helped me get moving and S L O W L Y make progress! Thank you.
I have ADHD. I never heard the micro/macro description until this video. You put into words something I’ve experienced my whole life but didn’t know how to explain. I’m not sure if I want to rejoice or cry, but thank you!
Yes! I'm not officially diagnosed but I believe I have autism and ADHD, both mild. This micro thing is me. I'm not saying I stress about it exactly but that's definitely how I work. 😊
I’m an ADHD-C momma. I noticed this in my daughter. I’d say clean your room & she’d hyperfocus on one tiny thing instead of working on the obvious big stuff! Nothing is more annoying than someone you love who is Just.Like.Yourself lol
You know, it's absolutely FINE for you to be who you really are. It helps to explain to people ahead of time so you can manage their expectations, but I'm so glad you've taken the time to learn who you are and how to cope so that you can function at your best. And to be able to bless others even in your own storm is an incredible gift. Don't ever try to minimize that!!!
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
Mack, in addition to all of your other talents, you are an incredibly gifted communicator. My 3 children have ADHD and panic attacks. One daughter was recently diagnosed (at 31) with autism. Your thoughtful explanations have helped me understand why they had such a hard time organizing or cleaning - and your description of your feelings and actions at the end of the video are EXACTLY how my daughter acts when experiencing overwhelm and panic. I regret not knowing the signs when they were younger, but I am grateful that awareness is being raised on these disorders. This knowledge explains why my ex-husband had such a difficult time coping with life no matter what therapies were used. Not once did anyone suspect that he was autistic, had PTSD or ADHD because he had a genius IQ. It breaks my heart that he has suffered for 76 years. Thank you so much and God bless you!
That’s usually our corgi too. She’s shedding her undercoat, so even though I brush her every other day, she’s still floofing everywhere, so I have to keep sweeping up, and she keeps walking through the piles. I can’t vacuum or confine her to a room or put her out and close the dog door because she’s a rescue and was abandoned and starved in a cave and raised without human contact. The vacuum terrifies her, being closed in a room stresses her out so she begins her crazy crate spin, even though she’s not in a crate. And being outside makes her feel cut off and also scares her. So she just floofs her way through her pile of floof, and I just keep sweeping up after her.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for talking openly about being autistic while at the same time showing that one can still function in society and have a job. Traits such as becoming non-verbal, having "weird" or rigid habits, getting panic attacks, closing off to people when overwhelmed.
Congratulations on pushing yourself to help this lady in your condition. We'll understand if you disappear for a week after this clean. Can't wait for part two. Take care.
I'm from Missouri. I survived a near fatal mauling in which my left foot was completely dismembered and my right foot survived but severely nerve damaged. I nearly bled out and had many bodily wounds. I was 54. I'm now 63. It happened 11/16/2015 in Independence Missouri. It was a 110 pound Bulldog my now ex had rehomed. It took me a couple of years to get where I could walk without a cane. I appreciate your compassion for this woman. I had to take care of my then 95 year old parents with sundowners. I know the mental and physical agony. But I hope she will use fortitude to not live in fear.
This type of cleaning is life altering. Part of the reason I could never hire a cleaner is because I know that they would throw things away I wanted kept and put things in the wrong spot. Many cleaners would not put in the additional hours of time and effort that you did to make sure a dysregulated mind felt comfortable and secure in their new home. This type of cleaning is life altering. You really did something amazing for her.
I'm not sure who I'm happier for, you for pushing thru, the homeowner for participating or the dog who can't get enough of you! Those spin kicks must have melted the puppy heart. 😂 Awesome job on this one!
This was so heartwarming. It was so great to see you able to help this woman after all she's been through. And I hope you recover too Mack as I know this took a lot out of you.
I inherited my mom’s hoard in 2020. I went through everything myself….Organized into junk, donate, then sell categories. Kept a few special things. Took a couple weeks working 16 hour days getting through it all. Very tough situation to be in, especially alone. I always promise my daughter I won’t leave her in that situation. You do amazing work!
I am going through my mothers 4500 sq ft house now. Having to lay your hand to every item and making a decision about the the item is tiring mentally and physically. I am some what resentful about the situation I am in. When my grandmother died 50 years ago my mother complained about the amount of “ stuff” that was in her very large house. My mother had 3 brothers, their wives and me to help clear out the house which did not have close to the amount of stuff this house does. It is the height of unkindness to do this to your children.
@@Dit1160 I’m sorry you’re going through that. I couldn’t imagine such a huge house and knowing every part of that home is packed. It certainly makes the grieving process hard. I understand feeling the resentment. I was only 25 at the time, but the chest pains I had were terrible from the stress. Try to be easy on yourself, but I know that’s so hard especially when it has to get done. Hoping for the best for you and peace when all this is over.
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
6:43 Working out the micro vs. macro is definitely a tough thing to do when executive functioning is compromised from things like autism, ADHD, central nervous sensitization, trauma, and stress. It’s really incredible just how many innocuous daily tasks are reliant on executive functioning.
You created a whole new mindset in me. I no longer think of cleaning as cleaning. I think of it as making things “pretty”. I love getting up to a clean kitchen to start my day. I tackle small jobs at a time. Eventually it’s just maintenance. I love it. THANK YOU ❤❤❤
Honest to god, watching you clean houses is like watching a superhero at work :) I’ve struggled with clutter all my life as an neurodivergent person, and there are just so many ways cleaning can be taxing. Like, dishes being a struggle I can completely relate to - I’m grateful to say I don’t have that fear of dishwashers, but if I touch a slightly greasy part of a dish (or worst of all, a soggy clump of food), it’s all over. You truly amaze and inspire me, and your kindness and generosity are just incredible
I’ve been watching your videos for a few months now but I just wanted to extend my thanks to you and Jason for wearing belts to prevent your butt crack from showing. If only more men were this considerate
Wow, it's extraordinary how much you got done, revealing a pretty home and creating order and hopefully comfort. I hope the driving and being away from home for so many days hasn't kicked up longlasting burnout or back pain. Hats off to both of you! And best wishes to the homeowner for her recovery.
Thank you for stepping up to help this lady when no one else did. God love her, sounds like she's going through a really tough time. Both my mother and grandmother were hoarders and after they passed, it was overwhelming to go through everything and I wasn't mauled by 3 dogs on top of it! I can't imagine. My heart goes out to her. You and your moose are awesome. And remember no matter how much he begs, don't let the moose drive you back home.
It was great to see her participating in the process! You’re an angel and she’s amazing. Wishing you a healthy back, and wishing her a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
I have autism myself and hearing you explain the part about stressing to drive in a city, not sleeping on the first night and the whole masking and social battery draining makes me feel so seen!! You are an inspiration that despite all of that you still went over there to help that Lady ❤ I hope you get some time to recover from the entire trip. I love your videos and your personality. Love from The Netherlands ❤
This lady and yourself are absolute legends. True bravery, as you know, is not being without fear, but being terrified and still doing what you need to do anyway. I hope she makes a full recovery and is compensated appropriately for her work related injuries. Her home looks so much better and she has the security of knowing all her belongings are safely sorted and stored.
This poor girl. I could hardly look at this, without seizing up..am hoping she finds comfort in what you have provided her...I understand physically unable...and there is nothing like that kind of depression...please, give her all of our best, we all feel for her.
God bless you for this unselfish act of kindness. Watching this video warmed my heart. Hopefully we’re all encouraged to go do something nice for someone.
When my mother passed, I had absolutely no clue how bad her hoarding had become. So many recycled newspapers, donated and trashed clothing, and just absolutely weird kitchen gadgets for a person that no longer cooked. In a week I cleared two dumpsters of trash. Cleanings like this are not only sanity saving, but life saving. Thank you for powering through and helping everyone you do! 💜
Mack you are a true blessing. To go help someone knowing you are going to put yourself through your own struggles with discomfort, panic, anxiety, and etc, shows how you’re serving God.
my heart goes out to her. i was mauled by a dog when i was ten years old and the recovery for that (just in terms of time) was months long before i could walk or sit or even lay in a position that wasn't my stomach. i'm glad she has some mobility already and hope she can make a fuller recovery as time goes on. the work the two of you did here is impressive for only five days!
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
All the disorders involved definitely made things harder, but kudos to Mack and the homeowner for working together, and getting things cleaned up before the house became an unlivable health hazard.
Woo hoo! Thank you for inspiring me! I have a 6 foot x 2 1/2 foot table that has sat covered in stuff after a surprise house improvement project. Every time I approached to clean it, I felt instant discouragement. This morning, I decided to clean just a 1 foot by 1 foot section. That got me encouraged. So, I kept going. 1/2 an hour to 2 hours later, the table is clean!!! Now, I can start using it.
It's a great way to reframe the situation from having to part with something (not having that thing anymore) to making a decision of what one wants more!
Hi Mack! My name is madi, I have autism and adhd, I really struggle with cleaning but oddly enough I have a hyper interest in cleaning I go through phases of cleaning heavily to struggling to clean. Your videos help me and teach me so much and also teach me how to be compassionate with myself. Keep up the great work ❤
Hi fellow neurodivergent! Here another woman with Autism and ADD. I just wanted to say hi ☺And by the way I love the headscarf on your profile pic. Have a nice day 🙂
I loved it when the dog came to help. I tell people one of the best commands to teach your dog is “don’t help”. I use it a lot with my dog. But it really made me smile each time Ginger came over to check on you. ❤❤❤
I hope this lady is able to be happy about the transformation b/c it's a beautiful home and she deserves to be happy like everyone does. Such a pleasure to see that she was so helpful. My best friend of over 40 yrs has a hoarding problem and I hope she is able to do this one day.
I do not know how you can make that many great decisions on how to clean and organize someone else’s extremely complex collections. You are such a blessing to so many people! God bless you with strength and stamina. ❤
You did a great job Mr Moosehead! I got attacked by my 2 big dogs back in Oct 2022, they got in a fight and like a dummy I tried to break it up! Had to have reconstructive surgery on my left hand,wrist and arm, they almost ripped it off! Still have PTSD from THAT! You are such a a sweetheart for helping this lady! GOD will surely bless you! 🥰🥰🥰
Because of your comprehensive understanding of Neuro divergence, I don’t think anyone else could have helped this woman get the home in order. Anyone else ploughing through this maze may have triggered too much anxiety for her. I’m so glad the universe brought the two of you together. She really needed your help.❤❤❤
💡THANK YOU for talking about masking! My spouse asked me the other day: your face look so angry, what have I done wrong? My answer: "Nothing. This is my face while I'm not masking." And since my autistic burnout I turn non-verbal 🤐when I'm too stressed, just like you Mack. Because of experiencing things like that, for me it's crystal clear that Autism / ADD has everything to do with neurological stuff. My brain just can't get the words out anymore. Other functions faded away too during burnout. While in the outside world Autism and AD(H)D sometimes is still being seen as a behavioural problem that "has to be corrected" (but luckily the amount of knowledge grows), for me Autism is definitely a physical issue: it's the wiring in the bodypart that's called 'brain' 🧠 that's messed up and disfunctional in specific circumstances.
You’re such a good person Jeremy. I’m in the same place as this gal in many ways except I’m disabled. I try to clean and get 5 minutes done, 10 if I’m lucky. I cried all the way through this. Her dog looked so sweet. It reminded me of my dog Autumn. She was my support dog. She recently passed away after providing me with 16 years in unconditional love and companionship.💕🦋Keep making great changes in people’s lives! It all matters.
I'm sorry for the loss of your support dog. Whenever one of mine passes, I tell myself that they knew that soon another animal will need a loving home and they are making room. And sure enough, another one needs me. I have cats, but the principle is the same. My new cat is a memorial to my old one.
1. This is so cool of you. Thank you for doing this for her 2. Thanks for talking about your neurodivergencies and how they affected you. As a person who is neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, anxiety) and being an educator about neurodivergencies, you talking about them normalizes them, and makes other people more free to talk about it. It also allows neurotypicals to understand what it's like to have a particular difference. 3. I don't know if this will help you but sometimes it does help me, I have a small like couch throw blanket I keep in the bed with me (I have it actually tucked under my pillows so I don't have to interact with it). I take that blanket and my pillow when I have to go sleep somewhere strange. It doesn't make it seamless, but it makes it so much easier. For some reason the familiar smell reaches past the anxiety and seems to settle things down a bit. 4. Great video, friend. It's really kind of instructional without being bossy instructional. It tells about how you do it, and other people can swipe your ideas and use them for themselves, but you're not saying this is the way you should do it!
Super appreciate how candid you are about your feelings and how your autism affects you. It's nice to see dudes do that. It's refreshing to see someone with such clarity towards their own and other's mental health. Also a huge fan of how you started stacking other hats on top of your head as you were cleaning around 27:23, made me chuckle!
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
Great team work! She couldn't possibly have achieved this without your help. I hope she fully recovers from being mauled, an horrific experience for her on top of all her other problems. If anyone deserves to get that gold plaque, you do.
Fantastic video! Best wishes to the home owner in her very long recovery from such a horrible event. The clean-up/sort-out was great for both of you! The dog stole the show this week. The Moose are drama divas so take no notice. Thank you 😊
I thought I saw a forlorn moose wandering around with an Illinois license plate... this explains a lot. This was great - thank you for doing what you do.
I have two foster sisters; one is retired AF who is very tidy, while the younger sister fits the hoarder profile, doesn’t clean and uses oxygen and a walker. After the holidays I’ll point my AF sister to your channel which will help her understand her sister’s challenges…she gets frustrated and exasperated. Your descriptions and explanations are incredibly eye-opening and might help facilitate some kind of progress but at the very least, grant patience. I love how you snuggle the dog. Mask around people. I certainly understand that (I call it turtling). My dad was a cop and boy do have his expressions (tough when you’re a girl 😂); if I wasn’t smiling people always thought I was mad. It’s good to be retired so I can decide when, if and how long I will go anywhere. Thank you for sharing and educating us!!!
I hope this lady knows how strong she really is. To have gone through everything she has and be willing to first ask you for help and then sit and help you sort through items is incredible. I hope there is someone in her area she can lean on.
I Am A 42-year-old female from Washington DC I also suffer from a physical disability which requires me to use a wheelchair and I also suffer from mental illness I try to keep my apartment as clean as possible but it does get very difficult sometimes watching your videos and listeing to your funny introductions and moose jokes help me out a lot and provide me with the motivation to clean there are many cleaning videos that I like but yours by far is the best❤
Mack, you are more than a warrior! Noble. You are noble. And so funny. I love the dog. She is gently supervising, as is her own noble nature. What a satisfying video. Waited all week for this. Rest, take care of yourself, and we will all be anticipating the next video. ❤
Hi Mack. I'm proud of you for making the trip. I have gone thru anxiety and panic attacks. I feel your terror. Glad you pushed through it. Great job as always. Rest up. Take care of yourself. Xoxo
Your narrative always teaches me something new. The macro versus micro focus is just such an example. It made me realize why I often get so fatigued doing detailed cleaning. Thank you!
The point you made about a brain that sees things in macro vs micro was really helpful to me and how I see the various brains I interact with. Thank you. ❤️
I had not even noticed the glass cabinet full of gorgeous items until near the end of the video. The ways you help people and are so respectful of them and their needs, while taking care of your own, is so refreshing. I wish more people were kind and respectful in their approaches. I think back to those "clean your house" shows from the early 2000s, and I shudder remembering just how forceful the people were with the homeowners - to the point of requiring yard sales and taking someone's most beloved item and threatening to put it in the dumpster if they didn't get rid of a certain amount of things at said yard sale. It was all about what looked good for television rather than helping the person where they were at and in a way that wouldn't go against their own ideas and values. You, Barbie, Aurikatarina, and all the others on TH-cam who go into people's houses to help them are so much more inspiring, not just in the work you do, but in the way you do it. You help in real ways, and think of the people you help every step of the process. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for what you do! Your videos really speak to me. I moved into my mother’s home as her caregiver a few years back. She is a hoarder! I could never understand why I was so stressed out and exhausted all of the time, until I saw your videos. Now I feel renewed and ready to tackle the mess, a little at a time. She is not ready to let go of her stuff. Thank you again! You have made such a difference in my life!
So glad you went to her and helped her. And I love that the doggo loved you. Showed you the belly and everything. He has no thumbs,otherwise he would have helped her purge these things. ❤
❤ Great work Mack!! The fact that you went out of your way and your comfort zone to help her out is very touching!! I saw you during the live and you were working your butt off!
I have the same issue with dishwashers! (Diagnosed autistic.) But to me hand washing does a double positive thing - it gets the cups clean, but it also reminds me of happy memories with my grandmomma :3 We used to do the dishes together when i was visiting her. Rural houses in her town are pretty much like cottages. I don’t know of any neighbours even that would have dish washing machines.
Just want to say I love your content. Thank you for the videos. You keep me motivated to keep keeping on with it. I'm working on a two story home, 2 car garage, a good sized garden shed, and a huge steel building, along with the 1/2 acre property it's all on. It's my parents' home. My dad passed away last year, and mom will soon be 82 and has dementia. It's just so much stuff, so all over the place and unorganized! It really can give me the worst anxiety, and feel overwhelming.There's quite a bit of hoarding as well. It's a delicate process to get it done without upsetting my Mom or my siblings (that would like to keep some things from mom n dad eventually). Watching has helped me to accomplish cleaning, organizing and decluttering on a huge scale, so I am ever so grateful to you and for you. Your awareness of different disorders and how they can effect people has also helped me to go about it differently so as not to cause more problems for my family or myself during the process.There are still mountains to move through, but I've gone from having panic attacks and feeling it's insurmountable, to just taking it one thing at a time, and one section at a time, and the slower baby steps are paying off. Whether it's one box a day, an 8 hour day in one space, or just finally being able to get the actual garbage and packaging thrown away,... it's all moving forward, and after 6 months, the progress is really starting to show. I simply cannot thank you enough. Also, you're an angel for stepping in to help her with this situation. You've done a fantastic job.I'm sure she feels that way as well. 💖☺️👍🙏
I left an abusive relationship some 25 years ago and haven't thought about specific details of that event in ages. But your description of the sink water smell brought it all back. I had taken my son and left with the bare minimum while my ex was later evicted from the residence. The landlord was gracious enough to let me back to claim any belongings I wanted. The house was a a filthy disaster, which I could look past. But the ex had left a full sink of dishes in dishwater. The smell was intense, enough to make me want to vomit and the landlord run from the room. I wanted to walk away but I also have the type of neurodivergence that said something I want is in that water and unless I pull the plug, I won't find it, and I will obsess over it. (Probably a metaphor for the end of the relationship there). One of my grandmother's good china pieces was at the bottom of the sink, covered in slime, but at least not broken. Thank you for your explanation of micro and macro. ( 5:50 - I'm micro and would have wanted to find the recycle bin for the paper towel insert. I get you don't have time to do that here so it's no shade.) I started a new job a few months ago with a manager who is so big picture to my tiny details that for the first two weeks we couldn't have a conversation that even made sense. She finally just yelled over the phone "Stop overthinking." To which I yelled back "Start looking at the details." (We have a pretty good albeit unusual relationship.) We both stopped, took a breath and realized we needed to meet somewhere in the middle. It's been a slog but we've both come to appreciate the other's way of looking at the work.
Subjecting yourself to anxiety/panic triggers to alleviate someone else’s anxiety/panic is moose-sized heroism.
So glad you helped her. Hard when you don't have any help. Thanks for being there for her.😊❤
Fully agree! I kept thinking to myself while watching this "what a legend!"
We shall call him ----- MOOSE MAN!!!!!!!😂 🫎⚡️
I agree. I've thought about that several times.
Absolutely. 💯
Not too many people understand how exhausting “masking” can be. Sometimes it takes me days to recover. How sweet of you to push your limits to help her. Well done.
For real! Masking is hard.
I definally agree😊❤
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
For real. I have ADHD and sometimes it’s so draining that I have nothing left to do things I actually want to do or have actual conversations with my family
Amen!
I love how the dog comes to check on you like (s)he was letting you know it was ok. Dog kisses heal so much.
The dog looks healthy and well cared for, sometimes in those hoarding situations pets really suffer.
He is truly one of God earth angels and is so understanding, I'm glad you got the help you needed enjoy
Thank you Mack for helping this lady with her house. You did a tremendous job and she did too. I hope that she will heal completely and quickly from her injuries. Also, her dog is beyond adorable!
Unless you have anxiety about being mauled by dogs. I don't get it. I hope she heals fully from it, though
Like my cats, the supervisor.
Ok, long comment but I wanna share it:
My mum and I currently live together because I'm severely disabled and she's just left her partner of 12 years. She's been cackling about me watching cleaning videos because I have such poor executive function that I don't eat if no one tells me to, much less do the dishes. (She on the other hand has ADHD and does everything, so much, all the time. It's great.)
We went up to her ex's house yesterday to start packing up her stuff so a moving company can come get it. Once there, we found that he (the partner) had taken ALL OF HER THINGS and put them in the garage. In no particular order. In a jumble that pretty much resembled a hoarder pile. She looked at it and said "I can't do this," and I said, "YES WE CAN. I have watched enough MMC to tell you, we absolutely can. We have lots of time. We're going to the shops, we're getting snacks and bags and boxes, and we'll do one thing at a time."
And then I applied every single piece of advice I've picked up from this channel, and we fucking did it. It took us a solid 5 hours, but her things are organised and packed. I can't move a muscle today, but it was so worth it. And we couldn't have done it without you putting this content out on the internet. So, thank you. You make a difference, all over the world.
(And when I started this video just now she shouted, "Is that The Cleaning Man?". I've pavloved her to your voice.)
I am just so proud of you both!
I'm so happy for the two of you!!! Way to go!!!!
Your comment made me cry :’) You’re a great daughter, and I’m glad you and your mom have each other. My daughter is one and I’m 25 weeks pregnant, but I got a new apartment and my stuff has been in storage and in an RV and in my car and my brother’s house and it’s overwhelming. The divorce is hard, but I’m happy I’m doing it. While my girl doesn’t know and can’t help, I’m still happy and hopeful I can give her a clean safe good home
@@aberrantartist2982 aww thank you! I’m non-binary though, but I’m also v proud of us 🥰
May God bless you, you sound like a great mom! Divorce is hard, make time for you too😊@@aberrantartist2982
"Please don't set me free in Kentucky, I'm an Illinois moose" Lol why is that so damn funny??? Hahahaha
😂 please tell me why. If you find out 😂😂😂😂
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Depends on where in Illinois ... is Moose rural or a big city moose? 😂
ps I moved to New England 19 years ago and still haven't seen a moose 😭😭😭
His little voice saying "shut up moose." He cracks me up. Sooo funny!
Thank you so much for helping this woman. She's JUST like me. I have all those same disorders, except I also have m.s.
I, too, inherited my mothers house exactly the same way. I lived with it for 2 years until my sister in laws saw me personally decline in health and begged me to tell them what was going on. I finally told them, and they all 3 took off work for 4 days to make the place immaculate. It was life changing and life-saving.
You're a true hero.
How good of them to jump in. Sometimes you do have a support system you didn't even know you had! That's a great story.
There are often people around who are happy to help if they know you need it. What I want to know though is how come it was your sister in laws and not your brothers?
@@juliebrooke6099 In many cases, women stay at home while men go to work, or work part-time jobs while their husbands work full-time. Thus, they have more time to help ❤
I am so glad you told them! What wonderful sisters in law you have!
I think the doggo was grateful you were there. ☺️
She was happy someone wanted to finally help her mommy ❤
That and for some autistic folks, the dog senses this and treats us accordingly. I take care of two myself, when it's time, they come my way to visit. I do best in my own home with my stuff. It's not so bad now that I have a modernish laptop with WiFi, but still, better here at home where the dog can relax around me.
One is a little miniature Australian Shepard that I've known since he was a pup and we just glommed onto each other early on, so whenever I'm at their house, he seeks me out, always. The other is a black Lab and she adores me and checks in on me periodically (both do) and I love it.
@@johnhpalmer6098 That's lovely, what would we be without our animals.😊❤
I’m 22 years old, I started a really good career around 20 and have my own apartment. My apartment is literally now a cluster of stuff everywhere. Every month or so I put one of your videos on my phone and push myself to face my anxiety and clean my whole apartment and gut it until it looks brand new. Definitely looking into therapy because my father and grandfather were massive hoarders. My father had a whole house hoarded with car parts and several cars on the lawn on top of his current one. So I’m just thankful for your channel because I’m working on this now while my mind is still changeable. Apartment has been disinfected with bleach and spotless today thankfully, I use your methods. :)
I am just so proud of you!
Proud of you❤️.
Great job! You can beat the family trait. I’m proud you’re taking steps towards your own path so it does not look like your dad’s and grandpas!
On Thursday morning I put out 11 bags of garbage mostly from my kitchen
Way to go! Congratulations! You are doing great ❣
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Congratulations ❤
I cleaned my basement this summer after neglecting it for years. I threw out 61 boxes, and emptied 5 plastic tubs, not to mention massive amounts of garbage bags. It's actually halfway livable in there now.
God bless you! ❤
If there's anyone out there wanting to start helping folk like this, I'm a Doctor of Physical Therapy in Southeast Minnesota and I have someone in desperate need of organization help who is wheelchair bound and blind and gave me permission to reach out. I've been a member here for several months and love this community, and it breaks my heart to see how desperate the circumstances are for my patient who cannot find her belongings. The place isn't even that bad, it's more that there's no designated place for each item and it leads to her being unable to find things because she's blind. I'm hoping that if anyone can help her with the initial clean and organization, I can follow up with my coworkers to make sure things stay that way.
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
I wish I could but I'm from Michigan 😢. See if she qualifies for a home health aide and they can help with some of that if they are willing. If anyone in SW Michigan wants help in a similar situation let me know ❤️.
Midwest Magic Man, two things:
- Your videos on stuff like this strike a personal chord with me since I once helped a dear friend clean up the hoard from the house he inherited from his mother.
- As bleak as the subject matter is, the gag of your name changing with every video along with the various bits you throw in add MUCH needed levity to an otherwise bleak and morose topic.
Keep on the good fight, brother!
@@tehandroidmaster he always makes me laugh!
I am here for (1) name change (2) "Something Johnny" as he is called in Random City (3) spin kicks (4) moose (5) flexing, and that's just the start :D
On a completely different note- hearing you speak about your autism is REALLY causing some puzzle pieces to fall into place with my own experiences. Thank you for being so open! 💙
I love how that sweet dog loves you! I relate more to animals and the fact that you are loved by that sweet dog speaks volumes 😊
I have a plaque that says Dogs Welcome Humans Tolerated. People think it's funny, but for me, it's true!
I'm so happy you were able to help her, Mack😊😊
@MinnieEvans-m6r I love this! The fact that he is loved by a sweet dog makes me smile 😃
@@MinnieEvans-m6r😂 I have that on a couch pillow!
Same here. I make friends with the dog whenever I visit somebody.
I can relate. I have always heard that dogs are a good judge of character, so I have always trusted my doggos. 😊
I, too, am crafty (and “booky”). After retiring from teaching middle school Art and Reading, I foolishly brought home loads of art supplies, books, lesson plans [why, god, why?] and furniture, etc, I had bought for my classroom.
I am 71 and not as physically capable of doing as much as before. I also had frequent panic attacks when I looked at how big a mess my environment was becoming.
This video helped me get rid of so many “someone could use this for…” things that nobody really wanted.
Listening to your narration (and the owner in the background) helped me get moving and S L O W L Y make progress!
Thank you.
I have ADHD. I never heard the micro/macro description until this video. You put into words something I’ve experienced my whole life but didn’t know how to explain. I’m not sure if I want to rejoice or cry, but thank you!
ME TOO!!!!
Makes TOTAL sense!!!
Thank you so much❤❤❤❤❤
You said it for me. I was trying to think of how to say it.
Me too! Thanks so much for that knowledge. ❤️
Yes! I'm not officially diagnosed but I believe I have autism and ADHD, both mild. This micro thing is me. I'm not saying I stress about it exactly but that's definitely how I work. 😊
I’m an ADHD-C momma. I noticed this in my daughter. I’d say clean your room & she’d hyperfocus on one tiny thing instead of working on the obvious big stuff! Nothing is more annoying than someone you love who is Just.Like.Yourself lol
You know, it's absolutely FINE for you to be who you really are. It helps to explain to people ahead of time so you can manage their expectations, but I'm so glad you've taken the time to learn who you are and how to cope so that you can function at your best. And to be able to bless others even in your own storm is an incredible gift. Don't ever try to minimize that!!!
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
The dog seems really happy to be able to walk under the table again. Amazing before & after.
So much room for tail-wagging now!😊
Mack, in addition to all of your other talents, you are an incredibly gifted communicator. My 3 children have ADHD and panic attacks. One daughter was recently diagnosed (at 31) with autism. Your thoughtful explanations have helped me understand why they had such a hard time organizing or cleaning - and your description of your feelings and actions at the end of the video are EXACTLY how my daughter acts when experiencing overwhelm and panic. I regret not knowing the signs when they were younger, but I am grateful that awareness is being raised on these disorders. This knowledge explains why my ex-husband had such a difficult time coping with life no matter what therapies were used. Not once did anyone suspect that he was autistic, had PTSD or ADHD because he had a genius IQ. It breaks my heart that he has suffered for 76 years. Thank you so much and God bless you!
The dog was like here lemme help u by standing directly on top of that pile of dirt ur sweeping 😅
She's very good at that ❤
I think she was trying to eat it. XD There was probably some pet food bits in there.
That’s usually our corgi too. She’s shedding her undercoat, so even though I brush her every other day, she’s still floofing everywhere, so I have to keep sweeping up, and she keeps walking through the piles. I can’t vacuum or confine her to a room or put her out and close the dog door because she’s a rescue and was abandoned and starved in a cave and raised without human contact. The vacuum terrifies her, being closed in a room stresses her out so she begins her crazy crate spin, even though she’s not in a crate. And being outside makes her feel cut off and also scares her. So she just floofs her way through her pile of floof, and I just keep sweeping up after her.
The cute doggo was the star in this lol😅❤
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for talking openly about being autistic while at the same time showing that one can still function in society and have a job. Traits such as becoming non-verbal, having "weird" or rigid habits, getting panic attacks, closing off to people when overwhelmed.
Congratulations on pushing yourself to help this lady in your condition. We'll understand if you disappear for a week after this clean. Can't wait for part two. Take care.
I'm from Missouri. I survived a near fatal mauling in which my left foot was completely dismembered and my right foot survived but severely nerve damaged. I nearly bled out and had many bodily wounds. I was 54. I'm now 63. It happened 11/16/2015 in Independence Missouri. It was a 110 pound Bulldog my now ex had rehomed. It took me a couple of years to get where I could walk without a cane. I appreciate your compassion for this woman. I had to take care of my then 95 year old parents with sundowners. I know the mental and physical agony. But I hope she will use fortitude to not live in fear.
The security wolves took the moose to a Kentucky karaoke bar. They won a prize for singing George Michael’s Freedom.
This is the most adorable comment ever, it brought me so much bubbly joy and I don't even know why. 😊
Thanks so much for this update, I was worried about him. I'm so glad things turned out well for him. 😊
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My house wolves LOVE karaoke! (Huskies)
It's the season for them to start belting out Last Christmas (or the Spanish version with acoustic guitar accompaniment).
Your compassion for people with mental health struggles is why I subscribed to you. And the moose.
This type of cleaning is life altering. Part of the reason I could never hire a cleaner is because I know that they would throw things away I wanted kept and put things in the wrong spot. Many cleaners would not put in the additional hours of time and effort that you did to make sure a dysregulated mind felt comfortable and secure in their new home. This type of cleaning is life altering. You really did something amazing for her.
clicked for the clean up, stayed for the reveal, subscribed for the commentary
The hardest thing is knowing where to start. It's great to see someone that really understands the situation
With a situation like this, absolutely anywhere. The worst thing you can do is not start at all.
That dog was so beautiful and sweet and such a good helper❤
I'm not sure who I'm happier for, you for pushing thru, the homeowner for participating or the dog who can't get enough of you! Those spin kicks must have melted the puppy heart. 😂 Awesome job on this one!
This was so heartwarming. It was so great to see you able to help this woman after all she's been through. And I hope you recover too Mack as I know this took a lot out of you.
Why do I always feel bad for the Moose tho 😂 😂
It’s the voice 😩 I always feel bad for the moose too lol
He’s outside in an unfamiliar state. 😩🫎
I love that flower rug, it’s gorgeous
MOOSE APPRECIATION SOCIETY MEMBERS UNITE!
I have learned more about compassion from you than just about anywhere else.
I inherited my mom’s hoard in 2020. I went through everything myself….Organized into junk, donate, then sell categories. Kept a few special things. Took a couple weeks working 16 hour days getting through it all. Very tough situation to be in, especially alone. I always promise my daughter I won’t leave her in that situation. You do amazing work!
I am going through my mothers 4500 sq ft house now. Having to lay your hand to every item and making a decision about the the item is tiring mentally and physically. I am some what resentful about the situation I am in. When my grandmother died 50 years ago my mother complained about the amount of “ stuff” that was in her very large house. My mother had 3 brothers, their wives and me to help clear out the house which did not have close to the amount of stuff this house does. It is the height of unkindness to do this to your children.
@@Dit1160 I’m sorry you’re going through that. I couldn’t imagine such a huge house and knowing every part of that home is packed. It certainly makes the grieving process hard. I understand feeling the resentment. I was only 25 at the time, but the chest pains I had were terrible from the stress. Try to be easy on yourself, but I know that’s so hard especially when it has to get done. Hoping for the best for you and peace when all this is over.
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Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
Your understanding of your own mental health and your client's mental health is impressive! Thank you for sharing what you do.
I see the dog was very good and helpful ❤
She's a good helper ❤
6:43 Working out the micro vs. macro is definitely a tough thing to do when executive functioning is compromised from things like autism, ADHD, central nervous sensitization, trauma, and stress. It’s really incredible just how many innocuous daily tasks are reliant on executive functioning.
You created a whole new mindset in me. I no longer think of cleaning as cleaning. I think of it as making things “pretty”. I love getting up to a clean kitchen to start my day. I tackle small jobs at a time. Eventually it’s just maintenance. I love it. THANK YOU ❤❤❤
Yes! He has done that for me too 😊
Honest to god, watching you clean houses is like watching a superhero at work :) I’ve struggled with clutter all my life as an neurodivergent person, and there are just so many ways cleaning can be taxing. Like, dishes being a struggle I can completely relate to - I’m grateful to say I don’t have that fear of dishwashers, but if I touch a slightly greasy part of a dish (or worst of all, a soggy clump of food), it’s all over. You truly amaze and inspire me, and your kindness and generosity are just incredible
I’ve been watching your videos for a few months now but I just wanted to extend my thanks to you and Jason for wearing belts to prevent your butt crack from showing. If only more men were this considerate
Word!
😂 My ex husband was the butt crack king. Hence one of just many reasons he's an ex.
Say no to crack! LOL!
I'm also autistic and for me, I find washing dishes by hand is soothing.
It is soothing for me also, and I am not autistic.
Wow, it's extraordinary how much you got done, revealing a pretty home and creating order and hopefully comfort. I hope the driving and being away from home for so many days hasn't kicked up longlasting burnout or back pain. Hats off to both of you! And best wishes to the homeowner for her recovery.
Beautifully said ❤
Thank you for stepping up to help this lady when no one else did. God love her, sounds like she's going through a really tough time. Both my mother and grandmother were hoarders and after they passed, it was overwhelming to go through everything and I wasn't mauled by 3 dogs on top of it! I can't imagine. My heart goes out to her. You and your moose are awesome. And remember no matter how much he begs, don't let the moose drive you back home.
It was great to see her participating in the process! You’re an angel and she’s amazing. Wishing you a healthy back, and wishing her a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
Thank you so much, Lucie! ❤️❤️🫎
How wonderful that Ginger was helping boost morale with love and kisses!
Thank you so much for helping this poor woman who has gone through so much. The dog is thanking you for being there.
Awesome job, nice dog! Happy you back home now. Appreciate you sharing.
I have autism myself and hearing you explain the part about stressing to drive in a city, not sleeping on the first night and the whole masking and social battery draining makes me feel so seen!! You are an inspiration that despite all of that you still went over there to help that Lady ❤ I hope you get some time to recover from the entire trip. I love your videos and your personality. Love from The Netherlands ❤
This lady and yourself are absolute legends. True bravery, as you know, is not being without fear, but being terrified and still doing what you need to do anyway. I hope she makes a full recovery and is compensated appropriately for her work related injuries. Her home looks so much better and she has the security of knowing all her belongings are safely sorted and stored.
🎼You have a friend in me 🎶 The Dog is so happy you are there. Thank you for helping this warrior woman. May she heal up swiftly. God Bless.
This poor girl. I could hardly look at this, without seizing up..am hoping she finds comfort in what you have provided her...I understand physically unable...and there is nothing like that kind of depression...please, give her all of our best, we all feel for her.
God bless you for this unselfish act of kindness. Watching this video warmed my heart. Hopefully we’re all encouraged to go do something nice for someone.
Awww. Her dog is the sweetest, too. 😻
I have to say, her house is gorgeous and I like the style. Thank you for going out of your way to help her and her doggo 👏
When my mother passed, I had absolutely no clue how bad her hoarding had become. So many recycled newspapers, donated and trashed clothing, and just absolutely weird kitchen gadgets for a person that no longer cooked. In a week I cleared two dumpsters of trash. Cleanings like this are not only sanity saving, but life saving. Thank you for powering through and helping everyone you do! 💜
Mack you are a true blessing. To go help someone knowing you are going to put yourself through your own struggles with discomfort, panic, anxiety, and etc, shows how you’re serving God.
"...so I put on my cape..." I love it.
the dog, coming over to cuddle you on the last day, was endearing af. Its thankful and grateful for all the space you created
my heart goes out to her. i was mauled by a dog when i was ten years old and the recovery for that (just in terms of time) was months long before i could walk or sit or even lay in a position that wasn't my stomach. i'm glad she has some mobility already and hope she can make a fuller recovery as time goes on. the work the two of you did here is impressive for only five days!
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
All the disorders involved definitely made things harder, but kudos to Mack and the homeowner for working together, and getting things cleaned up before the house became an unlivable health hazard.
You sir are amazing. Not only do you help others that need you….you put your own discomforts to the side to do it. A true gentleman….
Woo hoo! Thank you for inspiring me! I have a 6 foot x 2 1/2 foot table that has sat covered in stuff after a surprise house improvement project.
Every time I approached to clean it, I felt instant discouragement. This morning, I decided to clean just a 1 foot by 1 foot section. That got me encouraged. So, I kept going. 1/2 an hour to 2 hours later, the table is clean!!! Now, I can start using it.
Great job!
You explain things so so well. I love your question "what do you value more?"
It's a great way to reframe the situation from having to part with something (not having that thing anymore) to making a decision of what one wants more!
I’m so thankful that you were able to help this lady.❤
*Your patience and dedication in cleaning are admirable. You didn’t just clean the house; you eased her anxiety too.* 💯💯💯❤❤❤
Hi Mack! My name is madi, I have autism and adhd, I really struggle with cleaning but oddly enough I have a hyper interest in cleaning I go through phases of cleaning heavily to struggling to clean. Your videos help me and teach me so much and also teach me how to be compassionate with myself. Keep up the great work ❤
Hi fellow neurodivergent! Here another woman with Autism and ADD. I just wanted to say hi ☺And by the way I love the headscarf on your profile pic. Have a nice day 🙂
Exhibiting Mole Like Behavior. Priceless!
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I loved it when the dog came to help. I tell people one of the best commands to teach your dog is “don’t help”. I use it a lot with my dog. But it really made me smile each time Ginger came over to check on you. ❤❤❤
She can't hear, so she does what she wants.
I hope this lady is able to be happy about the transformation b/c it's a beautiful home and she deserves to be happy like everyone does. Such a pleasure to see that she was so helpful. My best friend of over 40 yrs has a hoarding problem and I hope she is able to do this one day.
I do not know how you can make that many great decisions on how to clean and organize someone else’s extremely complex collections. You are such a blessing to so many people! God bless you with strength and stamina. ❤
You did a great job Mr Moosehead! I got attacked by my 2 big dogs back in Oct 2022, they got in a fight and like a dummy I tried to break it up! Had to have reconstructive surgery on my left hand,wrist and arm, they almost ripped it off! Still have PTSD from THAT! You are such a a sweetheart for helping this lady! GOD will surely bless you! 🥰🥰🥰
Because of your comprehensive understanding of Neuro divergence, I don’t think anyone else could have helped this woman get the home in order. Anyone else ploughing through this maze may have triggered too much anxiety for her. I’m so glad the universe brought the two of you together. She really needed your help.❤❤❤
That's what I always say when entrusted with a secret and asked, "It's not my story to tell."
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Eta: I bet you kick ass at tetris
💡THANK YOU for talking about masking! My spouse asked me the other day: your face look so angry, what have I done wrong? My answer: "Nothing. This is my face while I'm not masking."
And since my autistic burnout I turn non-verbal 🤐when I'm too stressed, just like you Mack.
Because of experiencing things like that, for me it's crystal clear that Autism / ADD has everything to do with neurological stuff. My brain just can't get the words out anymore. Other functions faded away too during burnout.
While in the outside world Autism and AD(H)D sometimes is still being seen as a behavioural problem that "has to be corrected" (but luckily the amount of knowledge grows), for me Autism is definitely a physical issue: it's the wiring in the bodypart that's called 'brain' 🧠 that's messed up and disfunctional in specific circumstances.
You’re such a good person Jeremy. I’m in the same place as this gal in many ways except I’m disabled. I try to clean and get 5 minutes done, 10 if I’m lucky. I cried all the way through this. Her dog looked so sweet. It reminded me of my dog Autumn. She was my support dog. She recently passed away after providing me with 16 years in unconditional love and companionship.💕🦋Keep making great changes in people’s lives! It all matters.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢❤
Really sad about your sweet dog. Hugs ♥️
I'm sorry for the loss of your support dog. Whenever one of mine passes, I tell myself that they knew that soon another animal will need a loving home and they are making room. And sure enough, another one needs me. I have cats, but the principle is the same. My new cat is a memorial to my old one.
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Who’s Jeremy??
1. This is so cool of you. Thank you for doing this for her
2. Thanks for talking about your neurodivergencies and how they affected you. As a person who is neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, anxiety) and being an educator about neurodivergencies, you talking about them normalizes them, and makes other people more free to talk about it. It also allows neurotypicals to understand what it's like to have a particular difference.
3. I don't know if this will help you but sometimes it does help me, I have a small like couch throw blanket I keep in the bed with me (I have it actually tucked under my pillows so I don't have to interact with it). I take that blanket and my pillow when I have to go sleep somewhere strange. It doesn't make it seamless, but it makes it so much easier. For some reason the familiar smell reaches past the anxiety and seems to settle things down a bit.
4. Great video, friend. It's really kind of instructional without being bossy instructional. It tells about how you do it, and other people can swipe your ideas and use them for themselves, but you're not saying this is the way you should do it!
Super appreciate how candid you are about your feelings and how your autism affects you. It's nice to see dudes do that. It's refreshing to see someone with such clarity towards their own and other's mental health. Also a huge fan of how you started stacking other hats on top of your head as you were cleaning around 27:23, made me chuckle!
Jesus is coming. On April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. Four hours later? On April 10, in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.
What a massive heart you have. And what better person to receive it - she definitely needed a helping hand but most of all a bit of good in her life.
Great team work! She couldn't possibly have achieved this without your help. I hope she fully recovers from being mauled, an horrific experience for her on top of all her other problems.
If anyone deserves to get that gold plaque, you do.
Fantastic video! Best wishes to the home owner in her very long recovery from such a horrible event. The clean-up/sort-out was great for both of you! The dog stole the show this week. The Moose are drama divas so take no notice. Thank you 😊
I thought I saw a forlorn moose wandering around with an Illinois license plate... this explains a lot. This was great - thank you for doing what you do.
I have two foster sisters; one is retired AF who is very tidy, while the younger sister fits the hoarder profile, doesn’t clean and uses oxygen and a walker. After the holidays I’ll point my AF sister to your channel which will help her understand her sister’s challenges…she gets frustrated and exasperated. Your descriptions and explanations are incredibly eye-opening and might help facilitate some kind of progress but at the very least, grant patience. I love how you snuggle the dog.
Mask around people. I certainly understand that (I call it turtling). My dad was a cop and boy do have his expressions (tough when you’re a girl 😂); if I wasn’t smiling people always thought I was mad. It’s good to be retired so I can decide when, if and how long I will go anywhere. Thank you for sharing and educating us!!!
You are so kindhearted and I for one are thankful for your moose.
What a great act of kindness. You did a great job in such a short time, too. ❤ must have made her world a whole lot calmer.
I'm so sorry too hear about all the hard struggles the homeowner are dealing with.
Great video ❤
Big hugs from Denmark.
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That Polar Puppy is so precious 💕💕💕💕
I hope this lady knows how strong she really is. To have gone through everything she has and be willing to first ask you for help and then sit and help you sort through items is incredible. I hope there is someone in her area she can lean on.
I Am A 42-year-old female from Washington DC I also suffer from a physical disability which requires me to use a wheelchair and I also suffer from mental illness I try to keep my apartment as clean as possible but it does get very difficult sometimes watching your videos and listeing to your funny introductions and moose jokes help me out a lot and provide me with the motivation to clean there are many cleaning videos that I like but yours by far is the best❤
Mack, you are more than a warrior! Noble. You are noble. And so funny. I love the dog. She is gently supervising, as is her own noble nature. What a satisfying video. Waited all week for this. Rest, take care of yourself, and we will all be anticipating the next video. ❤
Mack your an amazing person for helping this lady out she truly needed it God bless you
Hi Mack. I'm proud of you for making the trip. I have gone thru anxiety and panic attacks. I feel your terror. Glad you pushed through it. Great job as always. Rest up. Take care of yourself. Xoxo
Your narrative always teaches me something new. The macro versus micro focus is just such an example. It made me realize why I often get so fatigued doing detailed cleaning. Thank you!
The point you made about a brain that sees things in macro vs micro was really helpful to me and how I see the various brains I interact with. Thank you. ❤️
I had not even noticed the glass cabinet full of gorgeous items until near the end of the video. The ways you help people and are so respectful of them and their needs, while taking care of your own, is so refreshing. I wish more people were kind and respectful in their approaches. I think back to those "clean your house" shows from the early 2000s, and I shudder remembering just how forceful the people were with the homeowners - to the point of requiring yard sales and taking someone's most beloved item and threatening to put it in the dumpster if they didn't get rid of a certain amount of things at said yard sale. It was all about what looked good for television rather than helping the person where they were at and in a way that wouldn't go against their own ideas and values. You, Barbie, Aurikatarina, and all the others on TH-cam who go into people's houses to help them are so much more inspiring, not just in the work you do, but in the way you do it. You help in real ways, and think of the people you help every step of the process. ❤❤❤❤
What a cute doggie and he/she seemed to really like you. Thank you for sharing and for helping people.
Thank you so much for what you do! Your videos really speak to me. I moved into my mother’s home as her caregiver a few years back. She is a hoarder! I could never understand why I was so stressed out and exhausted all of the time, until I saw your videos. Now I feel renewed and ready to tackle the mess, a little at a time. She is not ready to let go of her stuff. Thank you again! You have made such a difference in my life!
So glad you went to her and helped her. And I love that the doggo loved you. Showed you the belly and everything. He has no thumbs,otherwise he would have helped her purge these things. ❤
what a lovely dog, he must be such a comfort
❤ Great work Mack!! The fact that you went out of your way and your comfort zone to help her out is very touching!! I saw you during the live and you were working your butt off!
I have the same issue with dishwashers! (Diagnosed autistic.)
But to me hand washing does a double positive thing - it gets the cups clean, but it also reminds me of happy memories with my grandmomma :3
We used to do the dishes together when i was visiting her. Rural houses in her town are pretty much like cottages. I don’t know of any neighbours even that would have dish washing machines.
Just want to say I love your content. Thank you for the videos. You keep me motivated to keep keeping on with it. I'm working on a two story home, 2 car garage, a good sized garden shed, and a huge steel building, along with the 1/2 acre property it's all on. It's my parents' home. My dad passed away last year, and mom will soon be 82 and has dementia. It's just so much stuff, so all over the place and unorganized! It really can give me the worst anxiety, and feel overwhelming.There's quite a bit of hoarding as well. It's a delicate process to get it done without upsetting my Mom or my siblings (that would like to keep some things from mom n dad eventually). Watching has helped me to accomplish cleaning, organizing and decluttering on a huge scale, so I am ever so grateful to you and for you. Your awareness of different disorders and how they can effect people has also helped me to go about it differently so as not to cause more problems for my family or myself during the process.There are still mountains to move through, but I've gone from having panic attacks and feeling it's insurmountable, to just taking it one thing at a time, and one section at a time, and the slower baby steps are paying off. Whether it's one box a day, an 8 hour day in one space, or just finally being able to get the actual garbage and packaging thrown away,... it's all moving forward, and after 6 months, the progress is really starting to show. I simply cannot thank you enough.
Also, you're an angel for stepping in to help her with this situation. You've done a fantastic job.I'm sure she feels that way as well. 💖☺️👍🙏
I left an abusive relationship some 25 years ago and haven't thought about specific details of that event in ages. But your description of the sink water smell brought it all back. I had taken my son and left with the bare minimum while my ex was later evicted from the residence. The landlord was gracious enough to let me back to claim any belongings I wanted. The house was a a filthy disaster, which I could look past. But the ex had left a full sink of dishes in dishwater. The smell was intense, enough to make me want to vomit and the landlord run from the room.
I wanted to walk away but I also have the type of neurodivergence that said something I want is in that water and unless I pull the plug, I won't find it, and I will obsess over it. (Probably a metaphor for the end of the relationship there). One of my grandmother's good china pieces was at the bottom of the sink, covered in slime, but at least not broken.
Thank you for your explanation of micro and macro. ( 5:50 - I'm micro and would have wanted to find the recycle bin for the paper towel insert. I get you don't have time to do that here so it's no shade.) I started a new job a few months ago with a manager who is so big picture to my tiny details that for the first two weeks we couldn't have a conversation that even made sense. She finally just yelled over the phone "Stop overthinking." To which I yelled back "Start looking at the details." (We have a pretty good albeit unusual relationship.) We both stopped, took a breath and realized we needed to meet somewhere in the middle. It's been a slog but we've both come to appreciate the other's way of looking at the work.