It's nice that you were able to explore your feelings without worrying about whether what you were feeling was ok, that is the way it should be. It's not ideal that an 11 year old can easily find pornography online, but it doesn't seem like that's going to change any time soon. This is a great video, I think the advice was really great! I'm a lesbian, and I got my first proper crush at 11, so I can definitely agree that that's the age where it all starts happening. You two seem really nice, and I'm sure this video has helped some people who are still questioning.
@@miahcampa823 baby steps? come out with people you absolutely trust and will never tell anybody else, probably a counselor just to be completely sure. once your more comfortable you could start with friends, and then it's family since family might be tough depending on individual situations. but only when your ready tbh.
Rainbowzie Take your time, no need to figure it all out at once. Confusion can be part of the process for everyone, as we all experience insecurities. Trust yourself and try to stay grounded with people you know have your back.
Rainbowzie, I know how you feel, I felt that way once. Just take your time, you don't have to decide your sexuality immediately. Just let it grow, and enjoy the ride. Trust how you feel, and don't let anyone else influence you. If you need any help or advice, we have your back.
Fear is normal when going through this kind of thing, it is not an easy thing to think about (Especially because a lot of society believes it is wrong) Just know; The people that really care, will still care no matter what, and honestly if they don't like it, Fuck em!
Nicely done, and good to see you back! I’m glad that in general the world is a more accepting place than it was when I was growing up, and that someone who is still trying to figure out their sexuality can have access to information like the things you said in this video. If I could have heard any of these things when I was a teenager, it would’ve made a world of difference.
Hey guys! You two are adorable & it's so cool to see videos like this for young people who are confused. Nice job! You guys are people I love hanging out with. Peace boys!
Thanks for the video. Just wanted to share my story real quick. I identify as 0 on the Kinsley scale/ heterosexual. I started to question my sexuality because a gay guy was trying to convince me that I was in the closet or in denial. Little did I know, he was trying to get into my pants. But at the time I dismissed it and asked to be escorted back to the party. Didn't feel comfortable. My main focus at first was that I liked everything that a stereotypical gay person likes. Interior design, romance novels, chick flix, all the "girly" things. But I was secure in my sexuality and didn't think about it and enjoyed it. And the other thing is that I could always tell if a guy was good looking, handsome, all the other words. I just didn't like using the word sexy, hot or attractive because it gives inclination that I was attracted to that person. Which now I know it's not true since we are able to appreciate another person's looks without being attracted to that person. Esthetically attractive vs sexually attracted. But it kept getting worse, eventually I tried looking at gay porn and it didn't do anything for me, it didn't get me excited or anything. Then I tried masturbating to it, most of the time I would just go flaccid. There were a few times that I forced myself to climax to gay porn because that told me for sure that I was at least bisexual. But it just didn't feel right to me, it was unwanted, displeasure le and only did it for testing. I stopped. It was mentally so unhealthy. Later I went to professionals and told me that I had severe OCD. And what I did to myself was brought from physical stimulation. I can physically stimulate myself to a shampoo bottle and I can get off. I also learned about groinal response. Which is something I was feeling a lot and was confused about. After seeing those professionals and taking medication, I felt back to normal and the made subjective sense to me. The reason I'm back is because my OCD tendencies came back and felt like I was forcing myself to requestion everything that I did and what has happened. Just so scared if I was in denial. But still, everything feels the same, and I just don't relate to all of the coming out stories. I don't enjoy thinking about men romantically or sexually despite how good looking he may be. What really tickles my pickle is thinking and being with women. Just wanted to bring this here in case there are folks like me out there. Again, thank you for this video.
this was beyond gorgeous! and yes, i agree absolutely. sexuality is so much more than a "term" (even though i love my terms enormously). and its fluid. and its extremely important to fucking tell this. especially to young kids. i kind of raise a little girl. she is just a few years old and starts asking about the whole "prince and princess-thing". and ive told her that in a few years she can be whatever she wanna be and love who ever her heart tells her to love. and you know what...she immediately understood. now she even vetos if someone tells her about men marry women. she is like "but you dont forget, girls can marry girls too. and princesses can marry princesses." and i admire her for being such an intelligent little girl. what i wanna say...it is so important to never let young people down. they need to know that they are great, no matter who they love, just because they are able to love.
I feel like I should’ve known looking back, like I was such a stereotypical gay kid, I played with dolls, and had female friends. One indicator that I can think of, is that I always had to convince myself I was into a girl that I knew was pretty. Thanks for making fun videos guys!
Thanks for vlogging this it is hard to ignore the feelings that are truly in your heart and soul . In the long run it can save yourself a lot of heart ship by listen to those inner thoughts
I like the way you make the video entertaining while at the same time helping others to understand that what they are going through is normal by telling your own life stories. Great Job!
This helped me a lot actually. A lot of it was Patrick saying that there was love with his first girlfriend. I'm almost 16, and I'm currently dating a girl. It's been 7 months now, and I really like her, and dare I say love her... i'm having trouble differentiating whether that's friendship love or romantic love. The farthest we've gone is making out, and I can tell she wants to go further but a part of me doesn't really find the thought of sex with her appealing... great, I'm spewing my problems on the internet now. Lovely.
Hi! How are you doing? I am 50 years old and just discovered earlier this year that I am lesbian! I was freaked out at first when I noticed attraction to women and I felt nervous when I spoke to them. I was also flirting with women and didn't know I was doing it. I have been talking to a therapist who has helped me realize I am okay exactly as I am. I am hoping to find someone to date soon!
I’m female to male transgender and I think that I might be gay but I’m so confused that I just want to cry and scream.🥺😭❤️ I’m scared and I feel like I can’t accept myself because something in my head is holding me back. I feel almost ashamed for possibly being gay. I feel like there is something wrong with me like why don’t I really like any girls? I’m just scared to dive into it deeper because I know that once I come out it’s going to change everything and I mean I’m still in the process of figuring everything out. I don’t know if I’m bisexual or gay and it’s stressing me out, I just want to know.😭😭
Dude I get it, it's suuuuuupper complicated. I thought I was done with this type of video years ago, but here I am! I feel the same way, whatever it is, I just want to KNOW! I'm so tired of this. You're comment was posted a year ago, so I hope you're doing better, if not? I'm sorry. Just know We're all in this together! Hope you're doing well ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
In kindergarten there were 5 of girls in my class that had a crush on me they thought they thought they could get a kiss by sitting close to me and caress touching my shoulders arms and hands but did not understand why they were doing it never told me but kept on doing it like a message .
Is it okay if i started questioning my sexuality only at 16? I mean, i heard a lot of stories about people starting noticing they are different at the age of 11-13. And i don't actually remember questioning it earlier than 16 y.o. Is it okay?
I’ve been confused recently. And I never thought about this until last month. I know I’m no doubt attracted to women, but I’ve been having questioning feelings. Like I’m 80 percent attracted to women, but still have little nudge or itch to wonder about other stuff.
You’re just amazing ok?? But listen I really think that my sexuality is not the most interesting about me and to me it’s not really matter, and im pretty sure you agree with me
When I was about 8-10 I fully made out with one of my female friends. Around 12 I realized I’m gay and I think back to that moment a lot. I was so into kissing her, how did I not know I’m gay!?
Thank you so much for this video! I myself have had crushes on boys, but once they said they wanted to date me, I felt that friends would be better. I don't know if it's because I'm scared of having a relationship (I've never had one) or because I could be gay. I feel more comfortable around girls, but I blame it because I am a girl? I don't know, this is very confusing. When my mom brought it up, I was very fast saying that me wearing a rainbowshirt doesn't automatically mean I'm gay, but the past weeks I've been thinking about it daily and it drives me nuts. This video was so sweet and comforting; It feels like I'm less lonely in this circle of thoughts
Listen to what's comming out of me? Psshhh, I want to have something comming inside me. Which that part of me is at constant war with the religious side of me. And I hate myself cause of it. I hate every breath I breathe and this war inside me is tearing me up.
Love from South Africa! Happy #Pride month to all the LGBT+ people's out there and our ally's #loveislove let's show the world that we are who we are and that there's nothing wrong with that! ❤💛💚💙💜
omg sister i was doing gay things before i realized too and i also thought that i was going to marry a woman but i ended up becoming bisexual for a while but after "dating" one of my friends for like a day or two i settled on just liking boys. now im 14 and going to high school and proudly gay :D
Hello Patrick how are you and your friend doing today my name is Albert Dodson writing you about how to come out to my friends and family please help me
I remember when I was like 6-7 or something, my brother was talking to my dad about same-gender marriage, and I was like "Yeah, I think I would rather marry a man." Lollllllllll and now im questioning my sexuality
I knew I was gay when I was 13. Especially when I realized I was dreaming and looking at the other boys. Not to mention I hated playing football, basketball, etc. With the other boys in the neighborhood. Yet loved swimming, wrestling, and playing ummmm let's just say playing doctor with the boys, but was grossed out playing it with the girls.
I came out as gay at 12 and know I'm 14 turning 15 and still gay
I'm 15 and out and proud
I do not think one can just switch sexual preference. There are, however, bisexual people that are attracted to both sexes.
yea, yea that happens
everything about this comment is problematic.
Good for you f the haters
Wow the hole spectrum thing makes me think not to feel so hard on myself trying to find where I fit
It's nice that you were able to explore your feelings without worrying about whether what you were feeling was ok, that is the way it should be. It's not ideal that an 11 year old can easily find pornography online, but it doesn't seem like that's going to change any time soon.
This is a great video, I think the advice was really great! I'm a lesbian, and I got my first proper crush at 11, so I can definitely agree that that's the age where it all starts happening. You two seem really nice, and I'm sure this video has helped some people who are still questioning.
I'm too weak to come out.I just seem straight to everyone 😂
LJ ! Same
It’s scary for me IDK why
Just be you bro
If I came out I would be disowned because i’m the only homosexual in my family 🙃
@@miahcampa823 baby steps? come out with people you absolutely trust and will never tell anybody else, probably a counselor just to be completely sure. once your more comfortable you could start with friends, and then it's family since family might be tough depending on individual situations. but only when your ready tbh.
I'm crying rn 😭😭 and I feel all the confusion, fear and I'm so unsure about everything
Rainbowzie it's ok, we all love and support you. We have ALL felt that way.
Rainbowzie Take your time, no need to figure it all out at once. Confusion can be part of the process for everyone, as we all experience insecurities. Trust yourself and try to stay grounded with people you know have your back.
Rainbowzie, I know how you feel, I felt that way once. Just take your time, you don't have to decide your sexuality immediately. Just let it grow, and enjoy the ride. Trust how you feel, and don't let anyone else influence you. If you need any help or advice, we have your back.
Fear is normal when going through this kind of thing, it is not an easy thing to think about (Especially because a lot of society believes it is wrong) Just know; The people that really care, will still care no matter what, and honestly if they don't like it, Fuck em!
Good luck.Hope you are ok.😙
Nicely done, and good to see you back! I’m glad that in general the world is a more accepting place than it was when I was growing up, and that someone who is still trying to figure out their sexuality can have access to information like the things you said in this video. If I could have heard any of these things when I was a teenager, it would’ve made a world of difference.
I’m gay but I’m still trying to figure things out
Hey guys! You two are adorable & it's so cool to see videos like this for young people who are confused. Nice job! You guys are people I love hanging out with. Peace boys!
PLEASE upload more often, I just love you guys so much😍❤️
HOW DO I KNWO
"Why are you gay?"
"Who says im gay?"
"No ur gay"
Bro same I have those voices in my head
So glad you guys are back!!! You are so fun and informative!! PS-Still awaiting your response to my email. I value your opinion highly.
Ohh! A new video, I've been missing you guys :D
"I'm Austin and I'm Patrick and today we're going to talk about GAY THINGS!! Isn't every video on this channel a discussion on gay things?! lmao
All these vids are the same tho seriously can only talk about your sexuality so much before it becomes repetitive.
Austin looks like a good vampire in Twilight.
Would that make him, Austin Cullin?
Thanks for the video. Just wanted to share my story real quick. I identify as 0 on the Kinsley scale/ heterosexual. I started to question my sexuality because a gay guy was trying to convince me that I was in the closet or in denial. Little did I know, he was trying to get into my pants. But at the time I dismissed it and asked to be escorted back to the party. Didn't feel comfortable.
My main focus at first was that I liked everything that a stereotypical gay person likes. Interior design, romance novels, chick flix, all the "girly" things. But I was secure in my sexuality and didn't think about it and enjoyed it. And the other thing is that I could always tell if a guy was good looking, handsome, all the other words. I just didn't like using the word sexy, hot or attractive because it gives inclination that I was attracted to that person. Which now I know it's not true since we are able to appreciate another person's looks without being attracted to that person. Esthetically attractive vs sexually attracted.
But it kept getting worse, eventually I tried looking at gay porn and it didn't do anything for me, it didn't get me excited or anything. Then I tried masturbating to it, most of the time I would just go flaccid. There were a few times that I forced myself to climax to gay porn because that told me for sure that I was at least bisexual. But it just didn't feel right to me, it was unwanted, displeasure le and only did it for testing. I stopped. It was mentally so unhealthy.
Later I went to professionals and told me that I had severe OCD. And what I did to myself was brought from physical stimulation. I can physically stimulate myself to a shampoo bottle and I can get off. I also learned about groinal response. Which is something I was feeling a lot and was confused about. After seeing those professionals and taking medication, I felt back to normal and the made subjective sense to me.
The reason I'm back is because my OCD tendencies came back and felt like I was forcing myself to requestion everything that I did and what has happened. Just so scared if I was in denial. But still, everything feels the same, and I just don't relate to all of the coming out stories. I don't enjoy thinking about men romantically or sexually despite how good looking he may be. What really tickles my pickle is thinking and being with women.
Just wanted to bring this here in case there are folks like me out there. Again, thank you for this video.
this was beyond gorgeous! and yes, i agree absolutely. sexuality is so much more than a "term" (even though i love my terms enormously). and its fluid. and its extremely important to fucking tell this. especially to young kids. i kind of raise a little girl. she is just a few years old and starts asking about the whole "prince and princess-thing". and ive told her that in a few years she can be whatever she wanna be and love who ever her heart tells her to love. and you know what...she immediately understood. now she even vetos if someone tells her about men marry women. she is like "but you dont forget, girls can marry girls too. and princesses can marry princesses." and i admire her for being such an intelligent little girl. what i wanna say...it is so important to never let young people down. they need to know that they are great, no matter who they love, just because they are able to love.
I wish there was some help likes this during my coming out in the late 80s early 90s. You´re doing a great job guys
I feel like I should’ve known looking back, like I was such a stereotypical gay kid, I played with dolls, and had female friends. One indicator that I can think of, is that I always had to convince myself I was into a girl that I knew was pretty. Thanks for making fun videos guys!
React to Laganga Estranja's audition for season 15 of So You Think You Can Dance! You won't be disappointed!!!
YAY, you are back. IVE MISSED YOU!!!!
Thanks for vlogging this it is hard to ignore the feelings that are truly in your heart and soul . In the long run it can save yourself a lot of heart ship by listen to those inner thoughts
I hope you enjoyed your TH-cam vacation...now get back to filming. Nice job on this one BTW.
I like the way you make the video entertaining while at the same time helping others to understand that what they are going through is normal by telling your own life stories. Great Job!
This videos is actually very helpful, thank u so much I know for sure im straight
@@nottnilton it was hocd
@@nottnilton I don’t like these gay I get I’ll and just don’t like looking at there movements just no not good
@@Chris.300 ive never been turned on by a man yet still get scared im gay
Is it just me or does Austin look like a werewolf with those green eyes and Patric looks like a mermaid with that wave of hair
Ahhh I missed you both so much!! I love you💜
I love you guys so much❤ #Notificationsquad
This helped me a lot actually. A lot of it was Patrick saying that there was love with his first girlfriend. I'm almost 16, and I'm currently dating a girl. It's been 7 months now, and I really like her, and dare I say love her... i'm having trouble differentiating whether that's friendship love or romantic love. The farthest we've gone is making out, and I can tell she wants to go further but a part of me doesn't really find the thought of sex with her appealing... great, I'm spewing my problems on the internet now. Lovely.
Hi! How are you doing? I am 50 years old and just discovered earlier this year that I am lesbian! I was freaked out at first when I noticed attraction to women and I felt nervous when I spoke to them. I was also flirting with women and didn't know I was doing it. I have been talking to a therapist who has helped me realize I am okay exactly as I am. I am hoping to find someone to date soon!
As a questioning/straight/bi guy around 7:50 it dawned on me these guys may be a couple haha, great video ❤
Hey Guys.. Great message!!
Very helpful..
Thank You 🙏
im NEVER coming out im a but suprised my best friend dosnt know i have a bf
I'm chromecasting this and Austin's eyes are so cute on a big screen tv
I was about to comment that, Their eyes are so vibrant!
you have helped me so much gaining my confidence
I’m female to male transgender and I think that I might be gay but I’m so confused that I just want to cry and scream.🥺😭❤️ I’m scared and I feel like I can’t accept myself because something in my head is holding me back. I feel almost ashamed for possibly being gay. I feel like there is something wrong with me like why don’t I really like any girls? I’m just scared to dive into it deeper because I know that once I come out it’s going to change everything and I mean I’m still in the process of figuring everything out. I don’t know if I’m bisexual or gay and it’s stressing me out, I just want to know.😭😭
It's simple you either get horny for girls or guys or both, and why make it more confusing. Plus do you think you'll look more hot as girl or guy?
Dude I get it, it's suuuuuupper complicated. I thought I was done with this type of video years ago, but here I am! I feel the same way, whatever it is, I just want to KNOW! I'm so tired of this.
You're comment was posted a year ago, so I hope you're doing better, if not? I'm sorry. Just know We're all in this together!
Hope you're doing well ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Yay! Finally a new vid!
Thank you thank you!
This really helps!
Also it would be cool to see you guys do a drag queen makeup challenge :-)
This was such a beautiful video thank you both 💖😊
In kindergarten there were 5 of girls in my class that had a crush on me they thought they thought they could get a kiss by sitting close to me and caress touching my shoulders arms and hands but did not understand why they were doing it never told me but kept on doing it like a message .
I always enjoy your videos so much.
Missed you guys soooooo much.. muah muah muuuuaaaahh
Is it okay if i started questioning my sexuality only at 16? I mean, i heard a lot of stories about people starting noticing they are different at the age of 11-13. And i don't actually remember questioning it earlier than 16 y.o. Is it okay?
Finally yall are back
I had the experience with my friends the asking the question if I was gay because I was acting like it and doing .
There is an hilarious african tv show called "why are you gay". That show is so funny.
I’ve been confused recently. And I never thought about this until last month. I know I’m no doubt attracted to women, but I’ve been having questioning feelings. Like I’m 80 percent attracted to women, but still have little nudge or itch to wonder about other stuff.
I missed you guys! 😍
Loved the video guys missed you both I'm glad your back 😊wish I could go to pride they should put a pride round my town an people would know
This is a amazing video ya Go Pride Month
You’re just amazing ok?? But listen I really think that my sexuality is not the most interesting about me and to me it’s not really matter, and im pretty sure you agree with me
Joyce A-deg-bo-ye-ga meeting middle school I had a friend who was a homosexual lesbian .
Thanks! I really wasn't sure if I was or not, but this video helped me out a lot. #comingout
Sweetie unless you were raised by Helen Keller they already knew you were gay.
😄🥰
When I was about 8-10 I fully made out with one of my female friends. Around 12 I realized I’m gay and I think back to that moment a lot. I was so into kissing her, how did I not know I’m gay!?
We DO ALL have experiences with other boys when we're young. And other girls. Patrick is right...we do what feels good
This really helped
love you guys so much
Joyce A-deg-bo-ye-ga has not been in a gay lesbian relationship for a long time but flirt with woman .
I’m a lesbian...not sure why I’m here. I just love hearing stories about self-discovery 😂
Y'all should react to your background work in the thundermens
Even to my 16 year old gay self this is incredibly helpful!!!
I think I like homosexual relationship more than bisexuality.
I'm new to the channel, but I love your reactions to BTS stuff. Please do more like "Blood Sweat & Tears".
Very well done guys!!!!
"hes a dirty boy" same here lol
i love being gay.
My family doesn't say I can and plus my mother comes from a religion background .
Joyce A-deg-bo-ye-ga lives in Lowell, Massachusetts black Nigeria community .
I love you both so much 😍♥️
Many straight boys played with Barbies too
Yaa i know
Rich Genther I don't know of any, if they were straight they wouldn't b playing with dolls !!!
I was the only boy I know playing with Barbies and I’m the only one that turned out gay. I’m sure there are exceptions but it’s a good general rule.
Barbie was hotness to me when I was young. I played with her. Then again, there are girls that play with Hotwheels and are straight also.
I did i think im straight and id take there clothes off lol
Thank you so much for this video! I myself have had crushes on boys, but once they said they wanted to date me, I felt that friends would be better. I don't know if it's because I'm scared of having a relationship (I've never had one) or because I could be gay. I feel more comfortable around girls, but I blame it because I am a girl? I don't know, this is very confusing. When my mom brought it up, I was very fast saying that me wearing a rainbowshirt doesn't automatically mean I'm gay, but the past weeks I've been thinking about it daily and it drives me nuts. This video was so sweet and comforting; It feels like I'm less lonely in this circle of thoughts
OMG I really wanna watch this but the audio is out of sink to the video for me ;-; my ocd is going crazy!
Listen to what's comming out of me? Psshhh, I want to have something comming inside me. Which that part of me is at constant war with the religious side of me. And I hate myself cause of it. I hate every breath I breathe and this war inside me is tearing me up.
Love from South Africa! Happy #Pride month to all the LGBT+ people's out there and our ally's #loveislove let's show the world that we are who we are and that there's nothing wrong with that! ❤💛💚💙💜
ArcticGlitterWulf And more love from South Africa 🇿🇦
OM NOT GAY
yes u r sammy
just accept urself for who u r
thanks
For me I'm in school and I'm gay but I have to pretend that I'm not gay around the boys in my class but I friends with another guy who acts gay
2:23 Its crazy cause thats the same thing that happened to me lol
You guys are so knowledgeable😊😊😊.
i love you guys
I am 16 and I think I am definitely gay because I really like guys
Where did you go?
YAYY I missed you guyss
omg sister i was doing gay things before i realized too and i also thought that i was going to marry a woman but i ended up becoming bisexual for a while but after "dating" one of my friends for like a day or two i settled on just liking boys. now im 14 and going to high school and proudly gay :D
ok wait like me and austin must be spiritually intertwined because we have had like the same experience sorry just had to add that comment
i am having trouble dating a boy cause i'm a boy but i'm not sure if that other boy likes me i need help
Thanks to u I’m gay and dating thank you so much!
I DON'T KNOW! HEEEEEELP 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Why y’all not post a lot no more :c
Edit: welp a minute in I found out :/ gg
Hello Patrick how are you and your friend doing today my name is Albert Dodson writing you about how to come out to my friends and family please help me
I WANT MORE VIDEOS! I'm sorry. That came across a bit loud. It's just been a while.
Joyce lives in Lowell, Massachusetts black community.
More BTS pls 🙏💓🙏🙏🙏
1 blood sweat and tears
2 spring day
3 another k pop group like a girl group blackpink
Do you miss me, Austin & Patrick? Brian of Detroit, MI
You guys should be stand up comics
well, idk what my sexuality is but im pretty positive im gay and i hope so cause i have a bf .oh yah and have not came out yet
i need help
I remember when I was like 6-7 or something, my brother was talking to my dad about same-gender marriage, and I was like "Yeah, I think I would rather marry a man." Lollllllllll and now im questioning my sexuality
He was already there since 6
I knew I was gay when I was 13. Especially when I realized I was dreaming and looking at the other boys. Not to mention I hated playing football, basketball, etc. With the other boys in the neighborhood. Yet loved swimming, wrestling, and playing ummmm let's just say playing doctor with the boys, but was grossed out playing it with the girls.