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The ups and downs of travelling as a disabled parent // Malaysia Vlog 2023 Episode 1
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I do not see you as disabled. Don’t say that. You’re a smart, well organised, protective, professional, loving, cheery woman like everyone else
@@rockydavis94 All of those things are not contradictory with disabled. It's not a dirty word and being disabled is not necessarily a bad thing!
@@rockydavis94 She has an entire playlist about disability. You should check them out.
This video in particular might be a good one for you to watch.
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@@rockydavis94 your comment is an excellent way to highlight one of the main points of the channel. She IS all those wonderful things, AND she is disabled. I know you meant well, Society has put such a stigma on disability and Jessica does such a good job of breaking down those barriers. Welcome to the community, I hope you stay, Jess's content never fails to bring a smile to my face and I know we could all use a little more of that.
@@jennifers5560 well she does not look or sound disabled to me at all
I genuinely love and appreciate the care you put into Rupert’s privacy. It’s quite refreshing to see in this world of family focused youtubers and kids growing up with millions of people knowing who they are.
Yes! But also, I want to see his adorable little face! 🤣
As a lesbian let me just say that you guys have helped normalize seeing a happy healthy lesbian couple for me to the point that when you mentioned how your marriage wasn’t legal there it was genuinely confusing to me, I thought “what? why? oh right.”
I just got back from a trip from hell, because the people I went with thought my disabilities were "too much". My wheelchair was broken by the airline, the hotel didn't give us the accessible room that we booked, and on top of that I've now lost friends because I had an autistic meltdown at the end of the trip, and they didn't like how that presented. Traveling can be so hard when you're disabled! This was a lovely vlog, and a good reminder that not every trip will be like this one.
Edit: thank you all so much! I was really not expecting any replies, let alone this many, and you all have made me feel considerably less crazy and more human.
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Sorry to hear you have had such a terrible time. Hope the next few days are much calmer and peaceful for you.
I'm so sorry, I hope you are able to rest now and I also hope your friends will come back to their senses once they have had a chance to rest, too. Also, one meltdown at the end of that trip sounds like you're an absolute hero, I definitely would have had many starting very soon into that...
Sorry to hear that happened to you, sometimes you prepare for every little thing on a trip and it doesn’t go according to plan. Sending you light and hope for safe travels next time ❤
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Just an idea! Save all the clips of Rupert running through the frame and make a video for just you two/the family. It would be so adorable to have & watch him grow.
I'd also LOVE to see that when Rupert is older and if he consents to it being posted.
Haha this is a wonderful idea!
I kind of just want to see a drawn-in Rupert stick puppet that can be slapped over video to cover him when he runs through letting you keep the take and us enjoy the cuteness without actually showing his face… but then I suppose you’d still have to decide where to draw the line for what antics/audio you share so it’s probably just easier to cut…
I'm a Malaysian lesbian who's been following you for awhile (I actually found your channel from your Malaysia vlogs in 2018)! Didn't know you were in the country or I would have offered to recommend foods/places to visit. I hope you enjoy your time here!
Thank you for watching! P.S - Food recommendations welcome for all our future trips to Malaysia ❤
same here as well!
🌻For anyone interested in childcare:🌻
Actually the bit about Rupert beeing happy to explore as long as you stay in his field of vision (but not necessarily get involved) is very normal and healthy! Children of his age have two main 'systems' in their minds if you will. One is for exploring the world around them, while the other is for making sure they're safe (Meaning: their parent is near + all their needs are met + parent soothes them if they get upset). The need for safety and connection will always trump the exploration system, meaning if they are feeling unsafe they will stop playing and exploring and instead start looking for their parent/crying to make sure that they are still safe. Play can only really be picked up again when safety is re-established.
They don't necessarily need you to help them explore, but they do need to know that you will be there for them if something happens. ♥️
Children whose need for security and connection are constantly dismissed/only irregularly fulfilled will have difficulty both in exploring their surroundings properly (because their security system won't shut off and let the exploration system work properly) as well as in managing their emotions (because children learn to handle their emotions by being soothed and cared for by their parent.). They might become really clingy, upset and hard to calm down OR outwardly calm but really anxious on the inside. In cases of trauma children might also react in very "chaotic" and unusual ways.
That being said I'm happy to see that Rupert trusts you guys so much and that he feels safe to explore the world.♥️🧡😊
(The source btw: My university lectures on childcare and development😅🤗)
This was such an interesting read, thank you so much for sharing! I love knowing what goes on in little minds.
@@ayellowpapercrown6750 You are very welcome!😊 I always feel like i get wayyy to excited to share this kind of stuff so I'm glad that apparently people actually read my comments😅🤗🧡
@@derepischekeks1475 I love it when people get excited about their field and share their passion with the rest of the world!! Never fails to put a smile on my face!
I love how respectful you are over Rupert’s privacy and not showing his face until he is old enough to explicitly consent to it
Rupert looks like a professor on holiday 😂 I love it.
Professors need holidays too!
Lmao, I love the 'no durians' sign in a rental car. I totally get it, but it's really funny.
Disabled or not, imagine if every child had parents as lovely as Jessica & Claudia, what a wonderful world of humans we would have. ❤
Just came back from Malaysia myself! Loved it but it broke my heart how inaccessible a lot of places were. My 102 year old grandma had to be carried up two flights of stairs bc the restaurant decided to remove their wheel chair lift
"air con" Rupert is so adorable. A beautiful family in a beautiful place
This was a lovely video ♡
(Edit 13:34 the poster in the lift says please don't eat this poster. It had me laughing so hard)
I wonder if it was low FODMAP....
My son was allergic to cow and soy milk. He took boxes of rice milk to school. They didn’t have as many options when he was little. He’s over 25 now!
It seems like you are having a lovely time! It's so nice that Rupert finally got to meet his Malaysian relatives and it's great that Claud's dad will be joining you there as well. Soak up your time well!
you guys might want to edit the beginning where you can see Rupert’s in the bottom corner.
Very enjoyable video. Love that you two make everything a positive. When most parents would be short with their child, here you are saying: “he’s a delight and he’s got a lot of personality.” You are such fantastic parents. 👩👩👦
Fyi we can see Rupert’s face pretty clearly for a few frames at the beginning when you guys are getting in the elevator! Just thought I’d point it out asap because I know you two care about privacy. Let me know if I should delete this comment.
I noticed too! He's so cute, he looks exactly like Claudia 💕
I noticed this, too! Commenting to boost your comment up to the top in case they want to blur his face!
Also bumping this!
I noticed too and was confuse, bacause it's not usual.
It's a split second but yes
We do get a little peep of Ru's face at the very beginning (time stamp 0:19) if you want to take down and reupload for privacy's sake :)
As someone who lives in the U.S. in the desert, I agree 100% with Rupert and the constant desire for "air-con" 😂 You have such a beautiful family! ❤️
Oh golly, the "he's got a lot of personality 😬😁😬😁" hit me right in my mom soul.
Rupert is sooooo adorable. I live in Houston, Texas, USA which is a subtropical climate, so I share his love for Aircon, lol! Happy early Birthday! Much love to you all.
0:19 Rupert’s Face is visible 19 seconds into the video, want to make you aware of it since you do not want to show his face
I miss Malaysia. I also haven't been in almost five years. I want the food. I also love the idea of getting away to a sunny place in the worst of the winter.
12:47 that’s a sign of good secure attachment 🎉🎉
I hope you all had (are having? Didn’t know if “we are back” referred to back in Malaysia or back to England) a magical time. And happy early birthday, Jessica! 🎂
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Thank you so much for sharing part of your vacation to Malaysia with us! It looks so beautiful there! Also, it’s so fun hearing what Rupert is doing currently! 😊
Yay sanitarium oat milk! I'm really surprised (from watching the last Malaysia trip) just how many common NZ products are available in Malaysia.
I am not at all shocked that Rupert is independent and stubborn. He's just like his mommas 😍🤣
Rupert knows what’s good in life - air con! 😅
Rupert walking and talking already is blowing my mind!
I love your old Malaysia vlogs so I'm so excited for these! :)
Loved this whole vlog. Rupert is growing so fast! ❤
So happy to see you guys are having a wonderful time in Malaysia. 💜 I remember watching the videos from the last trip as they came out. So fun!
Rupert is so big now it’s incredible!
I’m glad you two and Rupert are having a wonderful time! ❤I enjoyed the video and Happy Birthday to Jessica! 😊
Found your channel through Montessori content.. And I already adore you both! My wife and I love traveling, and I have fallen in love with your videos! 🧡🧡🧡 So glad to have found your content 😉
Beautiful!!! Malaysia looks like an amazing and wonderful place 🥹☺️😊
I dove through the first set of travel vlogs and loved this one - excited to see the rest!
What a pleasure to watch! and to see you flourish as a young family! However then I remember how the both of you talked about needing recovery and see how you made this video BBC broadcast ready with all bells and whistles ... That makes me wonder when and how do you recover?
Goodness your family makes me smile. And your baby’s voice is so darn cute ❤
Enjoyed watching this video. Had me with “He’s a delight”. Lovely way to say, please let me rest❤
Happy early birthday Jessica!!! I always love your videos, and this was no exception. :D
How beautiful! Thank you for sharing a bit of your trip with us.
Sounds like you had a nice holiday!
I loved Rupert's little straw vacation hat. Seems like my kind of person, loving the air conditioning.
You two have the vacation glow!! ❤ Little Rupert hat is adorable!!!
Great description: “vacation glow”!
you two are great parents ♥️ I'm sure Rupert will grow to be a balanced and wonderful human being 🥰
Happy birthday Jessica! Loved your Malaysia series last time & this one's looking just as beautiful, but with extra Rupert comedy
Love your Malaysia content! I've been many times and it really is a wonderful holiday destination
So fresh, so nice to see you guys looking so summery!!
Its so adorable to see rupert and jessica in chairs.. It must be so nice for a child to have their adult on the same level, so often at that age kids want to be picked up all the time to be at eye level, and its so nice when adults get down to their level, so its a convenient happy benefit I think ☺️
Im currently trying to pick up the courage to take a wheel chair assisted flight to see my nephew for the first time, its so great to see you do it, to give me courage and imagine it all being ok, after several good and several bad assisted experiences Im a bit nervous 💖
Will you do some more malaysia fashion shoots like last time? Good buys and also what outfits are your favourite 5 years later? ☺️🙏
Ru running. Awwww. It reminds me so much of my niece when she was a toddler. She was a runner 😖 and I had a cheap backpack whose water bottle holder never held the water bottles. So I accidentally bought a $160 AUD ($90 US) backpack and it was a game changer! Well worth the money because I could confidently (or, you know, as confidently as humanly possible when you have ick knees and ankles) chase after her without jettisoning water bottles every which way.
why haven’t i found your channel earlier? this is the second video i’m watching and i love you 3 already! 🤍
Very nice video. Malaysia looks wonderful!
Was thinking of if I could ever travel again, thank you for showing it may be possible in the future. 🤞
Loved watching your experience ☺️
Looks so beautiful! And the music is so nice! 😍
Thank you for sharing your adventures!!!
I love Rupert being excited for the aircon. That’s me when it gets over 90°F (32.222°C) & it gets over 110°F (43.333°C) quite often between July & September where I live.
Same, but anything over 75°F/24°C for me. I can handle a few hours of hotter as long as I have plenty of water, but too long in the heat and my migraine throws a tantrum. AC is fantastic.
It's rainy and cloudy and bleh here. All the sun and food in this is a fun serotonin boost for sure. (Also I'm 99% sure the mall you showed is the one my friend who lives there used to work in ages ago!
You have such a great channel and a beautiful family! Would love to know more about traveling in a country where you’re not legally married. My home country have quite bad lgbtq laws and now that me and my wife are married, I’m a bit stressed to travel there.
Seems like you guys are having a great trip, hope the rest of it is enjoyable as well
This was such a charming video! The bit with the gecko reminded me of a picture book I had when I was little. It's called Hush, written by Minfong Ho. Highly recommend!
When Jessica said "a neighborhood gecko," my brain initially interpreted it as "they behead a gecko" and I was like "WHAT? oh."
My in-laws are in Malaysia now, and I'm feeling major jealousy watching this video haha Enjoy!
Would really love to see yous spend a weekend in the "Lesbian Village" of Hebden Bridge, Yorkshire. Would be interesting to compare holidays in a place where homosexuality is taboo, like Malaysia, reasonably tolerated like your trips to the Lake District, and wholly embraced like Hebden Bridge 🤔
Glad Rupert enjoyed his first trip to Malaysia ☺️
I hope you keep the parts of Rupert that you’ve had to cut out! I think all of you would appreciate when he’s bigger!
Happy birthday Jessica!
Nice vlog, just wish it was more about what the title promises.
Have fun in Malaysia and happy almost birthday!
Jessica and Claudia you might want to re upload this as we we can see Rupert’s at 0:19 ❤❤
The "no durians in this car" sticker really makes it.
I'm allergic to oat milk, which is sad because it's one of the most used diary substitutes for coffee and gravies. The one vegan cafe in my city doesn't carry soy products so I have the opposite experience.
aaaa so excited to watch need captions though
I wanna go to Malaysia!! It is impossible but judging by this it's a wonderful place
Happy early birthday!
Also oat milk is easy to make if you have access to a blender and a sieve, so there may be some occasions where it's more practical to make it rather than buy. (But it did look like a nice accidental adventure anyways)
For children, it needs to be added with calcium, so you need to buy it from a store.
Rupert is so big and talkative!
11:35 I feel you on that one little guy!
Welcome to Malaysia!!
Enjoy ur holidays!
Rupert speaking is adorableeee aaaaaaaa
Part of my family is also Chinese/Malaysian too. Several people live in KL.
Happy birthday for the 25th!!!
The white dress at the very start ❤❤❤
Late Happy Birthday Jessica!
Omg you were here?!!! Hope you enjoyed your stay in Malaysia despite the hot weather 🤣
We have geckos in Australia. So adorable!
I have almost the same hat as Rupert!
Happy birthday!
I just got back from Malaysia!
How fun!😍😍😍
baby voice is adorable
I agree with Rupert… air con is the best!!!!
Rupert knows best!
How professional the intro is
It's my birthday on the same day! Happy birthday in advance! This video makes me miss summer so much. I'm already ready for Spring. Malaysia looks so pretty, too. And Rupert is getting lots of hair! He grows so quickly.
Omg he is so big!
wow welcome to Malaysia my country
When I hear that soy milk is causing the opposite problem of cow milk, my mind instantly wonders if the two mixed together might neutralise each other and work just fine :D
Tbf when I went to Canada I definitely went SQUIRREL!! I'm from SEA so we just exchange our excitement for not commonly seen animals!
Wow you're back in Malaysia!!🇲🇾 Welcome to Malaysia! Happy Chinese New Year to your family❤️ Langkawi is so beautiful😍 Me as a Malaysian myself, only been there once. Your accommodation is also beautiful! It's a traditional Malay house style. I have to put it on my list when i go there👍🏼 Hope you guys have a wonderful day!
I don't know if it's clear enough to bother anyone but you get a shot of Rupert's reflection at 7:07 and another child's background face around 7:20.
Yay for the first new malaysia vlog 🙌 i hope you don't get another brian 😂