Stop Chasing LOVE & Do This Instead To Find Love! | Martha Higareda & Lewis Howes

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    Martha Higareda is a Mexican actress, producer and screenwriter.
    In this episode you will learn,
    How to attract a healthy partner. Stop chasing them and do this instead.
    How to identify your attachment style and why we’ve attracted toxic people in the past.
    How to heal your inner child wounds and the amazing benefits of talking about values and vision before you start dating
    How to set healthy relationship boundaries
    Why “love is not enough” in a healthy relationship
    What most people misunderstand about manifestation
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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +412

    www.netflix.com/title/81398899 - Watch Martha's new film Queens On The Run!

    • @marialara2648
      @marialara2648 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am watching it today

    • @deesmoon3845
      @deesmoon3845 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It’s on my Netflix watch list!

    • @imyourvenus5480
      @imyourvenus5480 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      What a Lucky Man, Lewis!!!!!!!!! She's Beautiful and Talented? What? You hit the Jackpot ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @Cravenn5
      @Cravenn5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Watching on Sunday relax time❤️

    • @dublingirl1691
      @dublingirl1691 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Just started watching it!! ☘️😁

  • @mkarasfilms
    @mkarasfilms 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +258

    "If you want to control somebody, get a dog." - She couldn't have said it best! I love her energy and wisdom!

    • @estherhirsch4460
      @estherhirsch4460 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Martha is so articulate and authentic. You've had the most amazing people on your program, but Martha is #1. Happy for both of you. Every person dating should hear Martha'swisdom.

  • @haifa7292
    @haifa7292 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

    Dear Universe, a relationship like this 💗 thank you 🙏🏼

  • @pinktink77vp
    @pinktink77vp 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I love this. I used to work with relationship coaches and I said it years ago, over a decade, that "you complete me," is SO Co-dependent it is NOT healthy. The healthy relationship is comprised of 2 independently complete people who love each other, get along, want to grow together, and CAN live without each other but don't WANT to. I love you guys. Thank you for spreading the healthy relationship message. We need more of this❣

  • @leahcarandang9592
    @leahcarandang9592 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    I wish for someone to look at me the way Lewis looks at Martha. This is so inspiring. 😊

    • @tanyaangel142
      @tanyaangel142 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes, truly amazing. And she deserves that look completely! ❤❤❤

  • @ashlynnleray5640
    @ashlynnleray5640 ปีที่แล้ว +456

    Mature love is deep, healthy, and intentional. You guys have done a fantastic job highlighting this fact. What a beautiful conversation!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Thank you!

    • @7775OMEGA
      @7775OMEGA 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Totaly agree, such a nice points of view. helping other to grow.

    • @catherinedao1592
      @catherinedao1592 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That is s greatest ideas of Healthy and Mature Love.
      You have to be happy yourself then you have happiness to give to someone you love. Someone comes to your life just makes you happier not take away your happiness. You have to feel freedom in love not prison.
      Wonderful couple. Congratulations guys

    • @mariaandres2422
      @mariaandres2422 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What a great conversation it makes me feel grownups.. I'm single and I'm not looking for love just waiting for the right time. God bless u both 😊

  • @mtaya97
    @mtaya97 ปีที่แล้ว +304

    “You’re not my whole world, but you are a big gigantic planet in my solar system.”
    “You don’t make me happy. You make me happier.”

    • @carloss2202
      @carloss2202 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lewis had to say exactly the same about she... but for a woman around 40 years old there is few chance to build a real family with sons only Cats and dogs

    • @teachyoureasy
      @teachyoureasy ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yessss those parts!!!!

  • @angelieavenie5741
    @angelieavenie5741 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    He asked her, "why do women go out with the troubled man...as opposed to the healthy man?" A, she replied,, "I think it has to do with your past, it has to do your inner child...it has to do with unresolved trauma.... You start lookinng at your past". That is so relatable for me. Just recently, I reflected on my past fails and relationships & I realized the problem....that I never learned early on in life how to maintain a relationship.

  • @Alexaofearth
    @Alexaofearth 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    I am Mexican and I love this woman! And I appreciate you two. Y’all make me believe in love again.

    • @JGallis
      @JGallis 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Love is always there, we just have to 🐝 mindful of who we choose to share it with.

  • @carlareginaga
    @carlareginaga ปีที่แล้ว +523

    Look at your face Lewis 😍 you are so much in love. We can see it and it’s beautiful 💖✨

    • @LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj
      @LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      She is Amazing woman ,has a beautiful aura

    • @ABC-here
      @ABC-here 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      They look so adorable together, were glowing and it looks just so perfect!

    • @malawigoldelephantmarsh6578
      @malawigoldelephantmarsh6578 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Exactly what I felt! I realized when I was smiling ear to ear. I love that for them. 💗

    • @dusicaisalov5186
      @dusicaisalov5186 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      We want part two of this episode:)

    • @hiroko_tarot
      @hiroko_tarot 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      i like the monent u two say i love u to each other...😂🎉❤ makes me cry.

  • @lopezmartosl
    @lopezmartosl ปีที่แล้ว +328

    I loved the way he introduced her and the way he stared at her 😊❤

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @alejasalido303
      @alejasalido303 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love that!!!

    • @liza.1888
      @liza.1888 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      As if he was looking into her beautiful soul 🥰😊

    • @scolonia
      @scolonia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I searching the same to me.

  • @DeniseShannon-sl6tc
    @DeniseShannon-sl6tc 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    Thank you, Martha and Lewis, for sharing of yourselves so vulnerably, authentically and
    honestly. Please, please, please continue your conversation with Part 2. The example of your conversation: you "see" and "hear" one another. Beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you! The world needs to see what a healthy relationship between two responsible adults looks like and is possible for each one of us when we CHOOSE to work on healing ourselves, first.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Appreciate you and your support. 🧡

    • @happilydivorced3235
      @happilydivorced3235 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Nothing is as beautiful as a healed couple.💚💚💚

  • @blissfulbaboon
    @blissfulbaboon 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    I'm so glad Martha emphasized how important healing your inner child is.
    May you both have a long and meaningful experience together😊

  • @Elizakmx
    @Elizakmx ปีที่แล้ว +269

    1.Rejection
    2. Abandonment
    3. Humiliation
    4. Treason - Betrayal
    5. Shame
    Inner child wounds.

    • @speakintothemicb
      @speakintothemicb 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      Crazy when you deal with all 5 from childhood but are required to work through it alone as an adult.

    • @PatriciaTrueTh
      @PatriciaTrueTh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@speakintothemicbthat is so true, I have always try to do the oposit in regard to hide who really am, I don't want suppleness to lie to me, therefore i son lie to them, i want to know the goals, the values, and with all that I'm struggling with the rejection i suffered as child

    • @MariaStFleur
      @MariaStFleur 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      How to heal? Can I have her therapists information?

    • @shoirayusupova2198
      @shoirayusupova2198 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      She said that her therapist is Nilda. Could be Nilda Chiaraviglio.

    • @lb1798
      @lb1798 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      4:00 The concept of YOU COMPLETE ME IS WRONG‼️‼️❗️‼️
      5:40😆🤣😂🤣

  • @aleidagonzalez9558
    @aleidagonzalez9558 ปีที่แล้ว +181

    "When you're trying to change someone else, it says: YOU DON'T LOVE THEM DEEPLY"... I got the chills.

    • @theresacameron107
      @theresacameron107 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Why I am sending this podcast to many women I know! I’m all about not trying to fix or change others.

    • @aleidagonzalez9558
      @aleidagonzalez9558 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@theresacameron107 Well, you may be trying to change the women you know? Nah, maybe it's just me projecting... it's a great podcast, share it to everybody.

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SO true :)

    • @2009baglady
      @2009baglady 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m shooook!

    • @ivannagutierrez1009
      @ivannagutierrez1009 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Naahh mija la persona juzga no accepts y Esta solo usando su ego y el ego no ama es el opuesto Al amor 😅😅

  • @anamadrigal1111
    @anamadrigal1111 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +136

    Que alegría años de seguir a Lewis y saber que comparte una historia de amor con Martha Higareda VIVA MÉXICO !

    • @yarahingutierrez6006
      @yarahingutierrez6006 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ❤❤ viva México 🇲🇽

    • @anasifitthesmarteatingcoac1441
      @anasifitthesmarteatingcoac1441 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Omg I didn't knew you guys were together! Totally awesome!

    • @lillyrocks82
      @lillyrocks82 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Porqué dicen "Viva México" por cosa que no. Pues si no se trata de la nacionalidad ,sino de lo persona, algo independiente, de dónde se sea. Él está enamorado de ella, como ser humano, no por una nacionalidad.
      El nacionalismo de algunos es irritante en un país donde mucho más de la mitad de la población vive en pobreza, el narco está a todo lo que da, gobiernos de gente ignorante, egoístas, corruptisimos, pero algunos viven en la burbuja de "no pasa nada"
      Mientras eso no cambia el "viva México" sale sobrando y es hasta ridículo.
      Y no es contra de Martha, porque ella sí es una buena persona, pero da pena cómo tienen a México la gente que ha gobernado y gobiernan (todos los partidos la misma mentalidad de robarnos,tener mucho poder y empobrecer a la población).
      Así que un "viva México" sale sobrando.
      Yo diría "empobrecido y corruptisimo México, no lo merecemos!!"

    • @claudelatorre6818
      @claudelatorre6818 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Que chingon!!!

    • @claudelatorre6818
      @claudelatorre6818 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Que chingon!!!

  • @PameHdz13
    @PameHdz13 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    I’d love a part 2!! Martha is soooo wise and I don’t think we in Mexico acknowledge it enough 🥹

  • @pattynguyen7167
    @pattynguyen7167 ปีที่แล้ว +331

    Would definitely love a Part 2. I didn’t think I’d enjoy this as much being that I’m single and assumed it was content made for couples. But I took away SO much valuable information and insight. The world desperately needs to see/hear more stories of truly healthy and authentic relationships.

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes! part 2 please ❤

    • @karlamerriam
      @karlamerriam ปีที่แล้ว

      I echo this response to the T.
      Thank you!!!

    • @genna2586
      @genna2586 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Totally agree with a part 2! Very inspiring and heartfelt messages that really resonate. Please do a second part to include your 3:04 thoughts on how your journey is going.

    • @gabrielacastro6727
      @gabrielacastro6727 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Exactly!!! Really worth content ❤

    • @stephtoledo2327
      @stephtoledo2327 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Part 2 pls ❤

  • @amyg-money1892
    @amyg-money1892 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    Lewis & Martha, my biggest take away from this Interview is the Values & how we love ourselves first and also that without that Growth, maturity, experiences and alignment, it's almost impossible to have a Loving Balanced relationship. I related to the both of you SO much and I am grateful for you both!!! I am proud of you both! ❤️💜

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! So glad you enjoyed it🧡

  • @user-ze6mf8ni8s
    @user-ze6mf8ni8s 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I am Mexican married to an American woman. Same like you, but the opposite. The biggest challenge we have had has been the cultural differences. I was raised and educated in Mexico City and she in the USA. I would love for you guys to do a show about cultural differences and how to deal with them. How have you done so that your cultural differences do not affect your relationship?

    • @KarlaGarcia-rs3oi
      @KarlaGarcia-rs3oi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I totally agree

    • @Majesty12-12
      @Majesty12-12 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Cultural differences will be just that always different, unchanging. You just adapt to that and go with the flow of things. People always identify with their cultures and upbringing, its not something that changes overtime. This is why its important to first evaluate if cultures differ if that's something your willing to be accepting of in the other person. Tradition and culture always shows in people. It's best to refrain from getting involved with someone that you can't accept their culture because there's always disagreements that will happen and you can't change someone else for yourself to be pleased.

    • @aplik881
      @aplik881 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi friend, it is not something easy to anticipate contrarily to what the other answer said. We learn on the go, feel stressed, misunderstood or whatever by thw other person reaction, and it takes time to figurw out that these oppositions are in dact different perspectives. However this is cultural and this is as well individual, becaise ain't each if us building our own culture in a way, even inside one or several culture. So it get ti the same point, see the other person take away as alternatives in this world and not fundamentally something against our views or personal. How you guys have been doing with tjese differences? One love. We are on one Planet you know,we can work it out

  • @sarinagold1869
    @sarinagold1869 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Her voice is so sweet! Love the healthiness of this relationship

  • @4evercath
    @4evercath ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Please invite Martha to your show more! She's so wise, eloquent and on the point! I learn so much from her, maybe even more than from some of the other guests. :) It is also very sweet to see how a successful relationship/marriage actually looks like through both of you when there's such a marriage avoidance culture among men in the US with the 50% divorce rate like a horror fable story. I love her metaphor of having your own universe and the love partner is just one of the bright star in it, at the same time, we need to accept to just be a bright star of our partner's universe as well, not the sun, or the whole world to our men/women, so very different from the dragon slaying stories/movies where men have to risk their life to save us.

  • @dimcg7445
    @dimcg7445 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I met this two at the Dr Joe Dispenza's retreat. I get the chance to hug them. Both of them are humble. Martha is super sweet! I manifested Lewis to see at the retreat and it happened with the plus. So grateful to see them! 🙌❤️🙌

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      🧡

    • @ceciaosorio2331
      @ceciaosorio2331 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would love to go to those retreats!

    • @dimcg7445
      @dimcg7445 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ceciaosorio2331 You won't regret it! Best happened to me!

    • @1216miriam
      @1216miriam 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Do you recommend the retreat?

    • @dimcg7445
      @dimcg7445 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@1216miriam i would! It help a lot of making the right decision. When you're there, you will be sorrounded with so much energy and love. You will heal that way coz everybody is in the same page!

  • @noemibereczki-toth3560
    @noemibereczki-toth3560 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    OMG, I love this! ❤️
    I loved especially what you said about your priorities, Lewis! I just wrote a priority list for myself 2 days ago and the first two were the same, in the exact same order, for the same reasons.
    I've been with my husband for 16 years and we have 4 kids together, but what I realised early on in my life is that you are your first responsibility. Just what Martha said, you cannot take care of others unless you take care of yourself first.
    But I kind of forgot about it for a while and it took its toll on me.
    I had to actually grow into that mindset and heal a lot of my trauma (there's still a lot to heal, though...) not just to understand all of this but to have a deep knowing about the truth of it.
    Really, you've been talking about all my realisations and my journey in healing throughout the whole conversation!
    This was soooo inspiring and empowering! Thank you so much to both of you for being so authentic! You are role models!❤🙏

  • @karissajones2294
    @karissajones2294 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    I’m only 23 minutes in, but I’m so happy for both of you to find this type of love, connection and maturity. The fact that you’ve both worked on yourselves as individuals is evident. ❤

    • @Jay-ef2ii
      @Jay-ef2ii ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @karissa Jones: Are you crazy?! I was into the first 5 minutes and I got the full picture of this messed up relationship. That woman will only drain him mentally and heart-wise. It's not about them but it's about her only. I believe that both parties have been married before, but it's a bad move. It's best if this host ends up with someone Young. Some one unmolested! California has so many women to date especially young ladies and he ends up with this old foggie. Really?! This is a joke! It's bad comedy. April 23, 2023. USA.

    • @DeniseShannon-sl6tc
      @DeniseShannon-sl6tc 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @jay-
      It's obvious, Martha's vulnerability intimidates your insecurities about who you are. Stay exactly who you are. What we don't change, WE CHOOSE. You will attract exactly who you are, which is the OPPOSITE of who Lewis and Martha are: a manipulating, controlling, dominating, insecure adult, reacting as a traumatized child in an adult body. I wish you the happy, fulfilling life of your dreams you so deserve!

    • @lb1798
      @lb1798 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are they married?

  • @michellethechallenger747
    @michellethechallenger747 ปีที่แล้ว +325

    Love this conversation!! As a Mexican I admired Martha a lot as an actress, however as a person a lot more 😘 Amazing couple 👏🏻❤️

  • @lilmermaid2930
    @lilmermaid2930 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Everything she said resonates deep within my soul!! Values are so so important!! I always try to change the person thinking I’m helping them! I want to love someone unconditionally and for who they are! I am manifesting someone who loves me for me! 💙🌌💫

  • @dharaneemartinez4796
    @dharaneemartinez4796 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I was so happy to see that you’d be interviewing one of our great Mexican actors and ecstatic when I learned of your relationship 🎉 I rarely post comments, clearly I had to make an exception. The love is off the charts! 💕 Thank you for this and all of your interviews 😊

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @elisaramosrodriguez3212
    @elisaramosrodriguez3212 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    He seguido a Lewis ya por varios años y me encanta su programa y sabía que tenia una relación con una Latina ❤ pero jamás creí que fuera con Martha Higareda 🥰♥️ Felicidades a los 2. Que orgullo que una Latina sea pareja de este hombre increíblemente talentoso que nos trae siempre información invaluable al alcance de todos. Martha cuídalo!!!! Ya me siento súper orgullosa de ti ♥️🥰

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Appreciate you and your support🧡

    • @jacquelinereyes5109
      @jacquelinereyes5109 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      On the contrary he got way lucky with Martha. Either way, I wish them the best of love. It is cute to see Martha with a man that enjoys learning to be a better person, and that too has his own podcast. Please treat Martha right. I want to see her live the happily ever after!

    • @NathanlovesAna
      @NathanlovesAna ปีที่แล้ว

      Muy bien dicho Elisa! Pienso lo mismo ❤

    • @aracelihernandez5221
      @aracelihernandez5221 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😱😱😱No sabía esto que dices,neta, qué fregón esto ,Miles de bendiciones para ellos .Me tiene con boca abierta la Martha ,muy bien ella ,él ,súper genial ,ya lo veía antes ,ahora lo veré más a este hombre divino .

    • @patriciareddy
      @patriciareddy ปีที่แล้ว +11

      No se dice Martha cuídalo, sino "Lewis cuida a Martha", más bien debe ser mutuo.

  • @tnns4l287
    @tnns4l287 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    I did not have any idea how much this episode would help me as I navigate my own life... please part 2. Martha is amazing with her words

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you!

    • @antoniavasile63
      @antoniavasile63 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yess I clicked on the video out of curiously and ended up going back several times, taking notes and realizing my wounds and those of my loved ones 😮❤

  • @tavarez415
    @tavarez415 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Martha is so open talking about herself and her family members. ❤

  • @LL-fc5fo
    @LL-fc5fo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Hour 1:20:32 WOW maturity is clear. No need to fight for being a priority. Your cup is full and is willing to give naturally. ❤❤❤ best convo guys! Thank you!
    Martha explaining the protection and safety is so true! I am in charge of my safety no one else!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for watching!

  • @soulprintslifecoaching
    @soulprintslifecoaching ปีที่แล้ว +55

    I don't understand how this doesn't have a million likes and views yet. Thank you for putting this out there. It has helped me tremendously!! Definitely want to see a part 2.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You're welcome,thank you for watching🧡

  • @lotusdedart
    @lotusdedart ปีที่แล้ว +159

    I loved seeing her love for you Lewis, everyone deserves love, but you especially Lewis. You've given so much to people and are always growing into an even more amazing person. Thanks for the interview Lewis ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

    • @win05
      @win05 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes I do. This is very informative and both of you are open and honest 😊

  • @user-gt3oc1sr5b
    @user-gt3oc1sr5b 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I actually applied her advice to the friendships that I have often found challenging to carry on.

    • @Theconsciouslife888
      @Theconsciouslife888 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What did you do,I am facing same ?

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      👍

  • @barbaraeulayne
    @barbaraeulayne หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I would love a part too! I turned 70 last July and ended a marriage of 33 years. This information is so valuable as I would like to one more time be in a loving relationship. You guys are awesome! Thank you for sharing this valuable information!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @anchaleeintac.2195
    @anchaleeintac.2195 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    MY take aways: 1. Put yourself first (specially your health), 2. When you don’t feel secure in your relationship, you begging trying to control the other person, and that may come from not feeling good enough yourself, if they betray you, they weren’t the person for you, 3. Everything is information, is not personal.

  • @johnlombardo7816
    @johnlombardo7816 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Yes!! Not only do we need a part 2.. this needs to be a regular segment please !! So amazing! You guys are a wonderful representation of the meaning of love. ..matter of fact ... .please get you Two and jay and radhi together for a monthly episode please ❤❤❤

  • @JenniferLett2011
    @JenniferLett2011 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Bawling my eyes out at how open and loving this was. So helpful and absolutely life-changing for me to see two independent people love each other so openly and in such a dynamic way. Really inspiring conversation with two humans who have learned to love themselves, help others, and align with their person. So cool.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you so much for your kind words 🧡

  • @cos1beauty83
    @cos1beauty83 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I wish I would’ve listened to this before getting married and having kids.. now I have no clue how to leave 💔😭

    • @emilyreitnauer8658
      @emilyreitnauer8658 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm in the same boat. Have to trust the universe's timing.

  • @cynthiatat
    @cynthiatat ปีที่แล้ว +36

    YES - I love Martha's insights. Please bring her in for a regular segment 😊

  • @kellytaylarkarim1608
    @kellytaylarkarim1608 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Loved this talk! Martha is a freaking boss standing in her personal power in a way that awes me!!! Yesss please to parts 2,3,4,5!!!

    • @marthahigareda8
      @marthahigareda8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you Kelly!

    • @claudiafegari5116
      @claudiafegari5116 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I second that, Kelly!!! :)
      I would like to add the end brought tears to my eyes, when they expressed their gratitude, sharing what they have learned from each other so far... :)

  • @user-kp2nw8jd2r
    @user-kp2nw8jd2r 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wow! I’m Mexican-American.
    I was fallowing Martha Higadera and Lewis independently way before they were together. Seeing them together is very joyful.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you! Your support means a lot🧡

  • @jenn2025
    @jenn2025 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Yessss please!!! best interview on Love and Relationship ever listened. There's such a higher sense of self in both of you that makes it enriching and so potent. We want more #2 for sure. Thanks Lewis Howes grateful for you

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching. 🧡

  • @aysandunga_3762
    @aysandunga_3762 ปีที่แล้ว +118

    Vine aquí a decirte que este es el amor que todas merecemos y me da mucho gusto que lo estés viviendo!!!

    • @plentyoflife
      @plentyoflife ปีที่แล้ว +7

      el amor, las finanzas, las casas, autos, ciudades, sociedades, TODO SE CONSTRUYE, nada se merece

    • @gra_mandalasmandaleandoando
      @gra_mandalasmandaleandoando 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Todo lo que podemos ver dentro de nuestra realidad es porque es posible, y ellos vienen a mostrarnos que es posible para el que lo ve ❤

    • @ivyfariassantos
      @ivyfariassantos 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sí! Todas nosotras merecemos ese tipo de amor. Eres para nosotras tambien. Universo, mostre para nosotras.

    • @mar_dma
      @mar_dma 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@plentyoflifetienes que saber y sentir que lo mereces antes de construir, si no se derrumba.

    • @dididodi652
      @dididodi652 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Espérate que huela el primer pedo asqueroso que se tiren y veremos si aún siguen así.. Ellis están con la enfermedad del amor. No ves defectos . No ves más allá del futuro.. no ves cosas que te molestan del otro y el otro no lo he en ti.. aún ella tiene progesterona y están en la etapa de procreación... Espera pase eso y muy muy pocos se quedan juntos.

  • @zealiabella8553
    @zealiabella8553 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    It was just so inspiring to see the two of you reaping the fruits of your individual inner healings. You both have modelled what a healthy relationship looks like. Two people building each other up and celebrating your own uniqueness. I would love to see another video of you both sharing your experiences and wisdoms. All the best to you both.💜

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Appreciate you and your support🧡

  • @anar.1048
    @anar.1048 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Yes! I'm literally in tears...this is so deep. I would love to hear more conversations between the two of you. It's very open and inspiring to witness a conversation between two people who love themselves and each other.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks for being here!

    • @salluridelgado1675
      @salluridelgado1675 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hola cuando vienen a guatemala

    • @lilianakum
      @lilianakum 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@lewishowes we need more guys like you, please share your knowledge, wisdom, maturity and love, with your singles friends, and then send the list to us the single girls... So happy for you both🎉🎉🎉🎉❤

  • @rainbowtouch797
    @rainbowtouch797 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I want to have relationship like Lewis has with Martha.
    Thank you for being constant role model and sharing timeless truth

  • @virginiaherrera9321
    @virginiaherrera9321 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    You guys give me hope and faith that real love does exist. Please do this more!

  • @dianabrenes777
    @dianabrenes777 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Martha!!! You go Girl!!! You are my definition of an "EVOLVED WOMAN"
    THANKS FOR BEING YOU ❤!!!!

  • @Sliickriick
    @Sliickriick 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    When she said that a man doesn’t feel like he’s enough even though he gives the girl everything. I definitely felt that. My ex would told me I wasn’t enough plenty of times. Until now I had it ingrained in my brain that I’ll never be enough for someone. Jaa now I know that it’s not me it was her. Gracias

  • @jayelle1102
    @jayelle1102 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For anyone wondering… the 5 wounds she is talking about is from a book : Heal your wounds and find your true self by Lise Bourbeau. In french: Les 5 blessures qui empêchent d’être soi-même.

  • @denismulatiah
    @denismulatiah 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    We've been waiting for part 2 for 6 months now. When is it coming up? This is such a healthy conversation👌... I've replayed it more than 6 times and it always brings a fresh perspective every time. Part 2 pleaaase!

  • @estelagarcia2338
    @estelagarcia2338 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Ojalá traduzcan al español ésta entrevista porque ella tiene muchos fans en México. Por favor 🙏❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +22

      We try to translate and add videos frequently so please keep checking back here: th-cam.com/channels/FCK798jsVokM5oRvBi9asA.html

    • @hugoed6239
      @hugoed6239 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Aprende inglés!

    • @jerrynette24
      @jerrynette24 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Hola Estela, puedes activar el closed caption (CC) en el video, y luego configurarlo para que se auto traduzca al español (auto-translate), casi todo lo que dicen lo capta y te lo traduce en automático y así puedes tenerlo subititulado :)

    • @Sandyfan1000
      @Sandyfan1000 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Existe el perfil de Louis Howes en Español y allí está ya la entrevista.

    • @angievera2985
      @angievera2985 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jerrynette24 th-cam.com/video/bhcIm9yM31k/w-d-xo.html

  • @maribelmarini2819
    @maribelmarini2819 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    1:37:13 I’m 55 years old, married and with 2 children and I never realized how important was to work in knowing myself before get to know a partner. The key work in the art of happiness and in the successful life is working in our inner child wounds and be clear who you are before to choose anyone to share the life with you. This was kind of masterclass for teenagers to adults to thinking seriously how to build healthy relationship . Felicitaciones a los 2 por su excelente ejemplo!!!!

  • @SoNiiCkx
    @SoNiiCkx ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Bring on Part 2!! Wow what an amazing conversation. Made me realize so much and reflect on all the entire conversation!!

  • @user-wh8jj5xl5d
    @user-wh8jj5xl5d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes! Please give us a part 2! Loved it!

  • @LoveeeeelyM
    @LoveeeeelyM ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Absolutely we need a part 2 pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
    I loved this episode! Sent it to a bunch of people and took notes. Thank you so much for this incredible gem 💎♥️🫶🏻

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.

    • @PatriciaTrueTh
      @PatriciaTrueTh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      We will love the second part, certainly is plenty of wisdom, and for that i want to thank you for helping this human to be a better person. ❤

  • @consummatel
    @consummatel ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Yes part 2 please! What a beautiful example of two humans loving each other deeply and supporting each and choosing each other to adventure in life together! I was emotional at the end when they spoke in gratitude of each others love ❤ what a beautiful example to follow in my own relationship❤

  • @kimberlyrowell6812
    @kimberlyrowell6812 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    YES YES YES.
    The content was exceptionally relevant, helpful and authentic!
    Your on screen chemistry together is infectious!
    More please!

  • @morticia2904
    @morticia2904 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is what a healthy, healed, emotionally mature relationship looks like thank you.

  • @aungar2403
    @aungar2403 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You both hit the jackpot!

  • @jessicahe7535
    @jessicahe7535 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Encore please! Part 2, 3, 4, 5, and so on!! We need more conversations of knowledge and wisdom with Lewis and Martha! Thank you for sharing your healthy love relationship

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @Von_RX
    @Von_RX 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We need a part 2 with Martha! Excellent conversion - very impactful.

  • @drchen6424
    @drchen6424 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    She is one of the most insightful relationship experts I’ve ever seen you interview. And she wasn’t even introduced as a relationship expert! Thank you for sharing her greatness with your audience. I feel that could have been somewhat scary and intimidating for you too. It took real cajones to expose to the world what a smart and wise woman she is.

  • @angiecarrillo793
    @angiecarrillo793 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Me encanta la química que hay entre ustedes, definitivamente este es el amor que toda mujer debe tener, me encanta como se miran y como se admiran. Que Dios los bendiga 🙏 y que llegue a mi un amor así de bonito como el de ustedes ❤.

  • @nicoleharper9239
    @nicoleharper9239 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This conversation is incredible and just what I needed to hear!! Part 2 100% yes!

  • @glovazquez5865
    @glovazquez5865 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Martha is an old soul that has awakened

  • @egydiasaputri
    @egydiasaputri 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    YES PLEASE!! I'm waiting for the part 2!! I love the energy from both of you, thank you for this wonderful episode 💗

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @Vi_Vi_1
    @Vi_Vi_1 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    These types of things are so important to me because they help me have hope that these good relationships can exist. After a lifetime of abuse and trauma, I'm really working on healing and reframing things, and stuff like this is such a gift on my journey, so thank you

    • @barbaraclayton6053
      @barbaraclayton6053 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow this is awesome VV! It takes a hell of a lot of courage to face your shadow-self and heal the wounds that keep you and happy. I have done much can't sing in group therapy for myself and now I love myself unconditionally more everyday and I am so very deeply grateful that I had the courage to do it. !
      Because it is worth it to be able to see the world in a whole different perspective 💕🦄💕

    • @Vi_Vi_1
      @Vi_Vi_1 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@barbaraclayton6053 Thank you Barbara! May we both continue on this path and create wonderful lives!

    • @boygates6511
      @boygates6511 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sending good healing vibes!! ❤

  • @anaisaerksen
    @anaisaerksen ปีที่แล้ว +12

    What a great conversation, thanks for sharing!
    I'm 38 and just got out of the most unhealthy/toxic relationship I've ever been in and find myself in so much of what you're saying.
    This gives me hope.
    You seem to be a wonderful couple. All the best to you!
    Would love to hear more.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @minervadejesus3993
    @minervadejesus3993 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Definitely part 2. Totally loved this!

  • @14tintsstudio
    @14tintsstudio 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes!! Looking forward to part 2.Thank you for this amazing episode Lewis and Martha! So much to think about! Would love to hear more.

  • @PennyNelson
    @PennyNelson ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Thank you both. What an extraordinary conversation! We should be taught this in school. ❤ So many people are children of dysfunctional relationships. How far we have to go.

    • @ainatler
      @ainatler ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agree! We need this type of education in the classrooms.

    • @yvettesantillanes
      @yvettesantillanes ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same thing I said! This would be great in school.

  • @angelikajessa3213
    @angelikajessa3213 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The way Lewis look at Martha ❤️❤️

  • @secamosca
    @secamosca 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes!! More please part two

  • @christinebrisley007
    @christinebrisley007 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes to part 2. Found this video really insightful. Thank you both ✌️❤️✨️

  • @fatboyannie
    @fatboyannie ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Yes for part 2
    I see why Lewis loves Martha. I like her within 20 mins. Look at Martha’s eyes when she talks, she is completely open and truthful!
    I didn’t want to change my ex, I try to accept him. But how can you accept someone when he doesn’t know who he is, and cannot be open about it. I said I need to leave so he doesn’t need to change to tell his truth. Some people are not ready to get to know themselves.
    Omg she said it feels like family, he said which part of the family, I thought …the abandonment or the way she doesn’t explain anything part of my mother was my ex husband lol.

    • @eugenegauggel1000
      @eugenegauggel1000 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So true. some people can't be helped either.

    • @HeartFireSessions
      @HeartFireSessions ปีที่แล้ว

      Sometimes accepting people as they are means seeing that that’s where they are at, and then changing the configuration of the relationship so that it is also right for you.
      Like, “ok, this is the way you are. I’m not ok with someone like that being my intimate partner, so we should just be friends.”

    • @fatboyannie
      @fatboyannie ปีที่แล้ว

      @@HeartFireSessions very true. It took me a while to figure that out, then more time to walk away. If one is not on a mindful journey, it is not easy to realize what’s going on and not react to it.

  • @bff4877
    @bff4877 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I thought Lewis will propose in the end of the interview 😍 you are both fortunate to be with each other ♥️❤️

  • @angelaartspractice3710
    @angelaartspractice3710 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved this! Martha is wonderful 💕🙏🏻✨I feel inspired by her gentle nature x would love to hear more from you both 👏🏼

  • @zainabrose96
    @zainabrose96 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love your episodes! Always something new to learn!

  • @angelinaheine9753
    @angelinaheine9753 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Martha is just mesmerizing❤

  • @deannehorner-godlove8982
    @deannehorner-godlove8982 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I’ve followed you for several years. This is one of my favorites!! Thank you for sharing this much needed conversation! You two are simply delightful!!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @priscillaplatania
    @priscillaplatania 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yea a part 2 is needed! You guys are SO inspiring and beautiful

  • @lemondedansmavalise22
    @lemondedansmavalise22 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes!!! "Don't die with your music in yourself." I cried at that one ❤

  • @alexvaloficial
    @alexvaloficial ปีที่แล้ว +32

    ¡Ustedes son una inspiración de verdad! Qué relación tan bonita y sana. Me encantan los podcasts de ambos. ¡Qué viva el amor! ❤

  • @adrianaaagaardsommer3466
    @adrianaaagaardsommer3466 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Martha for president!❤
    I’ve learned more about the way I react in relationships from this conversation than I have during the last twenty years and I have worked hard on myself. This conversation explained so much for me. Thank you love birds ❤

  • @erikasilva9416
    @erikasilva9416 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this gem! The video I didn’t know I needed in my life. Can’t wait to see part 2!!! Pleaseee!!! 🫶🏽

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @irmamakrevski5652
    @irmamakrevski5652 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    6:00
    38:00 he is yelling, not yelling at me
    43:00
    59:55 choosing everyday other person
    1:21:00 happier vs happy

  • @Cassandra777
    @Cassandra777 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    🥰 Beautiful couple ❤

  • @v9b23j
    @v9b23j ปีที่แล้ว +12

    What a beautiful and mature conversation. Lewis and Martha, you embody the conscious couple.

  • @eugenierunner7988
    @eugenierunner7988 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You are both unique! You can feel the kindness and the warmth in Martha! Two beautiful souls who finally meet! Yes, to a part 2, please, cz I learned so much in this so needed, (especially in today’s world), deep, conversation! All the best in your endeavours and thank you!❤😊

  • @MamaLlama007
    @MamaLlama007 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, Part 2 & 3! This information should be taught in our teens & revisited yearly as we grow & change, to include 5 Inner Child Wounds we need address.

  • @talhyoblitas1602
    @talhyoblitas1602 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You guys are great together!!.....this episode is fantastic 👏🏼, so many of us thinking about finding our other half 😢 when in real life first we have to find ourselves ❤

  • @jef9688
    @jef9688 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What a privilege to listen to you two talk about your very thoughtful relationship.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much! 🧡

  • @drfannyyacamanDentalSolutions
    @drfannyyacamanDentalSolutions 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    OMG!!!! I LOVED THIS INTERVIEW!!! Amazing tips for everyone to know! Martha and I think similarly and of course YOU NEED TO MAKE PART 2 of this Interview! I learn so much thank you! You both are the best together! ❤

  • @bryancorrea303
    @bryancorrea303 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes I would really appreciated it. I look forward to part two. Thank you so much for all the insight and amazing information about relationships and love. Thank you so much once again two you both.

  • @Starofdaseea
    @Starofdaseea ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Martha is such a sweet heart, you can tell she’s done a whole lot of inner work& other things to grow as a person. I love her heart based words!

  • @TanTanMoreira_
    @TanTanMoreira_ ปีที่แล้ว +12

    ❤ OMG! I am in love for this woman! She’s gorgeous and so smart! What a couple! You both are an explosion of beauty and intelligence! I can’t stop watching this! Great content also! I can’t express how happy I am for watching your stories and experiences! Simply amazing!! ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for being here!

  • @darkkemy
    @darkkemy ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes please to part 2. Thank you both for taking the time to share so much valuable information around forming and building healthy relationships

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for being here!