Why China’s Three-Child Policy Won’t Impact "Leftover" Men and Women | Gen 跟 China
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- VICE World News’ latest series, ‘Gen 跟 China’, is an insider’s view of the country as it navigates a post-pandemic world. In this third episode, we discover what “leftover” millennials think of their single status and their place in society, as well as why the government has introduced a three-child policy.
The term 剩女 (shèngnǚ) has become pervasive in Chinese society over the past decade. It translates to “leftover women” and refers to unmarried females over the age of 27. These women usually live in the big cities, but there is also a subsection of males in the countryside who are also “leftover”. These are the extra men born during the country’s previous one-child policy. Can China’s single millennials catch a break from the government?
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Millenials: I'm barely making ends meet, my degree means nothing, and I can't afford a house even if I worked for 50 years, the food isn't safe, the air isn't safe, and I havent met anyone because I work 10 hours a day.
CPP and traditional.parent: y u no have 3 kids
It’s soo sad really.🤦🏾♂️
U stole my words. I feel exactly the same. I am 27 for the last 9 , I known only work. No girlfriends , no love , no sex. Just alone and a mule
They try to gaslight us like this doesn't have anything to do with the world they left us with.
😂😂😂
also the accessibility to p0rn0graphy, loss of intimacy from social media and procrastination due to online entertainment also contribute to this kind of problem. Getting laid is a task that can involve a lot of footwork for some people...why bother when you can m@sturb@te away your problems instead...you can forget them and go to work the next day.
Edit: Had to adjust the letters of some words because of some kind of filter. Censorship yay.
Let's be honest, marriage has lost it's appeal to most women globally. If you're able to support yourself, indulge your interest, and are indifferent about having children, what's the point of marriage? People like to say that unmarried women will die alone but statically, women tend to out live men anyway...dying alone is the reality that most women will face regardless so why bother?
Men dont want to get married either because of the way domestic abuse or divorce is treated by everyone. No one will believe a man assaulted by a woman(Johnny depp) or how women basically keep everything after a divorce
Wait til you hear how most men feel 😂
Marriage is a trap. It never benefits both sides if they're getting a divorce. Also taking care of family are darn expensive.
@10m30 damn you’re really into the whole marriage ceremony and contract… why can’t you just find a girl, have a family and spend your life together? Why the hell would you go through all that extra nonsense?
Unless you’re a girl.
@10m30 well it’s too bad you let society guilt you into such important matters… ppl should be able to do as they please not as society deems acceptable. Many modern ppl think it’s perfectly fine to meet a mate and have a family and live together without a religious, governmental or societal official validating it. But you should do as you want instead of trying to guilt other ppl, do you enjoy the society pressures of you where you live?
Asian parents:
*High school years
Parents: "NO DATING! FOCUS ON STUDYING! NO MALE FRIENDS"
* Graduating and going into college
Parents: "FOCUS ON STUDYING! NO DATING!"
*Graduating college and turned 21
Parents: "WHY YOU NOT MARRIED YET? I WANT GRANDKIDS. WHY YOU STILL SINGLE?! YOU WANT TO BE LEFTOVER WOMAN?!
..
Also African parents 🤦🏽♀️😑
SO. TRUE.
@@azureavocado5195 I don’t know what type of parents u had but it they told you to find a husband at 21 its their problem not an African problem in general
its the parents that make you stay single and not marry anymore asian parent are just too much Americans are so lucky they get to date young and find a man that is rich and yeah Americans say they always date and end up rich and arrange marriage makes you end up poor and not loved dating starts you to understand a relationship and how to become a mother asian parents should learn from American parents on how to raise their children
exactly!!
It's kind of ironic that people wanted males to continue their family name but due to their own selectivness they can no longer even continue their own bloodline let alone their family name......😂😂🤣🤣
A huge backlash tbh
It is....
They wanted boys to work the farms...
But when people are starving they marry and have children just not when they make it to a modern society... lol!!!
@@brianlong2334 You may not know this but in the south eastern asian locations having a boy is preferable because they pass on the family name also because after marrage they live with the parents rather than move into the inlaws there is also the fact about high doury in which may even be equal to 5-10 years of the girls parents salary thus in their view boys are profitable.
@@anandisrocking007 That's a factor yes but the majority of men are poor farmers, were as the majority of single woman are middle class or at the lest up living in the cities.
What does that tell you that poor people had boy's mainly why due to the type of work, yes it's not the only factor but it was the leading one out in the farms.
In every age group going up by 4 years there is about 30 to 40million men and 30 to 40milliom woman, in each group of 4 years there is 3 to 6million more boy's then woman depending on the group.
Edit: At about 50 year old men and woman are in almost equal numbers and at about 65+ woman out number men.
If you want them to have kids give them affordable housing..
and pensions, less competitive schooling, daycare, maternity assistance
@@sam-gp3ov right on track.
Or make it affordable
@N Ch I didn't say give housing... I said give affordable housing.. they could make it more affordable but the boomers don't want to let go of their golden goose..
free education too
So basically a girl child has been of no value until they need her womb or when a man needs them. And you blame them for not wanting to be married. Every human being is valuable , including WOMEN...China needs to start a campaign of treating women better.
They’ll call it propaganda
@@Evili555 They call it propaganda when women benefit from it
Every human being is not valuable. Its harsh but it's the truth. Are they not valuable because they don't want kids and don't want to be companion to anyone? Not necessarily but it certainly doesn't help.
Campaign of treating women better? This is the same country that puts minorities in concentration camps
Now you completed the narrative from the other side, well said👏
Leftover men: low education low income potential
Leftover women: highly educated high earners
Leftover men: cool dudes who just don't want to settle with an ugly feminist bitch
Leftover women: women with extremely high standards
Who is goin to attend to all the hard jobs like farming and infrastructure? Thoughtso. Men, we created this world, you act like we cannot do women's jobs. We can do women's jobs but women can't do our jobs, remember that. So don't hate on men for being men.
@@lovablevietboy Are you a farmer? Do you build infrastructure? If you don't, then I guess you're just as useless as you deem women to be. Also, women have always worked hard labor jobs. But they were abused, unpaid, and then written out of history. Stop creaming your pants over men being better than women when you contribute nothing.
@@lovablevietboyoh my just stfu🥴 men are not that superior
@@BalboaBagginslol, cool dudes 😅😅😅
It makes sense why women would prefer to be single or wait for a better option. If they take these leftover men from the rural areas they are expected to move to that rural area, take care of the men's parents, take care of the household, farm, and raise a child... women like her who bartends & produced music for a living will definitely not be happy with that kind of lifestyle.
Yes and who is going to take care of her parents..
@@iknowyouwanttofly This is why the one-child family failed them so bad. In their culture the women are married off and the men care for the parents. It would mean the couples who prefer girls would be at a disadvantage in rural areas. They'd marry their daughter off and have no one to care for them. One of the solutions would be to combine the families, but that would be a nightmare for the man who will need to provide not only for 2 sets of parents, but also to his own family.
This must be why most females are moving to the city or were born there. They can have their own careers with better pay than most of what they could've gotten in the rural areas (unless they start a TH-cam/Weibo channel like Li Ziqi).
They can provide for their parents themselves and/or have a higher chance of finding a man who can help provide for 2 sets of parents and children in the city...
Exactly what I was thinking. Who would marry these backwards loser guys? I'm a guy and even I can see why women would be avoiding these rural hicks like the plague. Chinese 'tradition' and 'culture' has done more to hinder Chinese development than almost anything else external, but I guess stupid is as stupid does and these guys clearly aren't good learners.
@@sirfer6969 tbh its not just for financial reasons, but let me be cleared that rn both men and women in china will likely not marry someone that is poor. However, men would likely (especially from the rural areas), be more abusive and sextually biased. Simply because their environment isn't as educated as in the city. For example, they might think it is natural for the wife and her family to not only provide for his family, but also do all the housework, obey his and his family's will, have babies the time he wants with his last names, and do most of the parent's work. And really.... have a chance to hate your daughter from being born. Why would any educated women (or anyone) accept that deal if they can simply live better and have more choices on their own.
NO, it doesn't, you're just buying into the same bullshit feminist propaganda that makes you corporate slaves all over again.
You trade working for a family for being a corporate slave, only to be a government aid leech with student debt and useless degrees talking about being happy as career bartender? Fuck having a family, cause that's oUtDatEd.
backwards ass world, biggest mistake in any society was giving women rights lmao, enjoy the decline china 🤣🤣
If you're not ready to have kids, don't have kids. That's best for everyone
It's not. Having our not having kids is purely based on culture. It's not this magical test you can get at the drug store.
@@aoikemono6414 I’m a bit confused with what you mean could you explain?
@@aoikemono6414 What
@@aoikemono6414literally based on millions of years of evolution that pre dates reptilian brain functions and instincts.
Its the ability to provide thats a system of economics, ina society that determines how best to raise a child and what it costs
Considering how much child trafficking and child abuse in the U.S. is overlooked because the parents are the ones doing it, a lot of people shouldn't have kids.
my mom was a 剩女 until she got married in her late 30s and had me. her life worsened after her marriage. she worked a good government job in china before, but now she’s toiling herself everyday at her job in America earning less than the minimum wage with a dead beat husband who hasn’t worked for more than a year. her life had a tremendous negative effect on my mental and physical health. i wish she had stayed single.
are you talking bad of your father?. why does he have to have any responsibility in this?, both of them have a bad job is not like 1 of them have all the responsibilities here.
Why don't you both return to china though, in that case?
@@andreagoh2732 it’s not that easy lmao. China has really made it difficult for people to move back :/
@@andreagoh2732 If they can't afford living in America, then they definitely won't be able to afford moving to China. It isn't as easy as taking a backpack and hopping on board a flight to Shanghai. Job competition is going to be far worse, and likely if the mother was working a government job before, any connections she may have had will no longer support her. The OP will likely have issues finding a job themselves, even if they're fluent in multiple dialects and standard mandarin, because they have no industry connections to pull on for support. Living in the cities is bad enough when it comes to cost and social support, but rural communities are difficult to penetrate because the customs are wildly different.
Trying to start with nothing in China is pretty much playing Russian Roulette with only one chamber empty.
@@user-ik8wd9vm7r exactly, both of them have responsibilities. he has done nothing for my mother except making her carry the weight of our family. it honestly hurts to refer to him as “my father” because he has brought me to my breaking point so many times.
I really feel for women here. I know I'd hate being called a "leftover woman", nevermind being pressured into marrying a man from rural China who wants to move back there, risk potential poverty as there are fewer jobs, and then have to birth and then raise this man's kids and look after his aging parents-all while being far away from the place where my friends and family live. It's a bad deal; no wonder women aren't taking it.
Also, the lady was very, very cool. Good for her! I love her lipstick.
This. Of course it’s shitty that there’s a gender imbalance and an entire generation of men can’t get married or have a family like they want…but the answer to this is not to shame women for refusing to marry those men either. Chinese women are more independent and educated than they’ve ever been so it’s understandable that many of them don’t want to give that up by marrying a man who would expect them to leave everything and everyone they know and love behind to be forced into an outdated stifling role they clearly have little interest in.
@@Sajirah It's like asking a woman who has been born and raised in NYC and who loves her life there to move to rural Alaska to marry a man there who "deserves" a wife-nevermind that even in Western countries there will be men and women who go unmarried simply because no-one wants to marry them, never mind gender selective abortions. Shaming these women is a tactic that'll never work.
I know I'd personally never buy into it, particularly with the way this man was talking about women. Not an attitude conducive to respect, let alone marriage.
yes she is a typical chinese woman. they are all very cool and wear black.
At the end of the day one side has to give in or DIE ALONE, lol
If ya'll actually pay attention, it was meant for the rural men to learn to live in the city, not the other way around. Of course any of it is a fat chance anyways.
are the married women still expecting to work outside the home, while caring for their 3 children, while being a maid, while taking care of aging parents? 😬
it shouldn't be as men shouldn't be expected to be the breadwinner when things go wrong neither. This is what's happening in this workaholic world
we still haven’t fully balanced child care and adult care responsibilities among men and women. even when spouses try to share responsibilities, inequality means that mom’s picking up more than her share. Women, for a very long time, have been doing more than their share of caregiving. And now, during the pandemic, the amount of caregiving has just gone up enormously.
Just like in USA
@@5pctLowBattery lying to yourself man marry s the woman buys the house
@@ashleymukarali4852 a house, even if one spouse pays for it in full, does not equate 18 years of child rearing
The irony of the Chinese birthrate problems is that it’s is 100% self inflicted
@@joshbhoy Not really a misunderstanding.
Implement cruel one child policy - Take the consequences of said policy. That is 100% self infliction.
@Mike Hunt There are just things that are just too unfamiliar to predict. Birthrates and arbitrary implementation of policies will do much more harm than good
Yes just like when Mao was like hey kill all the birds cuz they eat the seads-> no bird to eat the insects and then they were the problem the chines gov should be re built from the ground cuz its a disfunctionin empire, there isnt one china (dont critisez my english i cant even write in my native :D )
@@awesomesaucehak Isn't the same thing happening in the West? the number of marriages are steadily declining along with the number of divorces. 80% of women only consider the top 20% of men desirable. Its becoming a cultural thing spurred on with the rise of social media. women are attracted to hypergamy, the guy in the video was right. Woemn won't marry a guy with the same pay or less.
@@roosevelttheodore1799 The west has it fixed simply with immigration. The same can't be said about China. It is an extremely difficult nation to move to and get accustomed to, which isn't helped by how hard Chinese is. This is one area where America has an upper hand in.
I'm really vibing with this woman. She recognizes instinctively that she is a complete and interesting individual on her own. She doesn't want to be the ketchup on the hamburger of someone else's life.
She IS the hamburger.
@@MartianInDisguise Randy, I AM THE BURGER
@@arne8158 Who is Randy?
She's awesome 👌🏾
As long as she is being about the demographic collapse of China I do t really care how she justifies it.
The sole fact that they are defined as "leftovers" by their government and fellow countrymen also invokes other people to not marry them. By adding that idiotic labeling factor, the government is telling it's people that these "leftovers" are less desirable and that if you marry them, you're basically settling for someone lesser than those who are below the "leftover" age.
That young man said he considered leftover women to be arrogant. So he doesn't want one.
Yup, a woman can still have children well into her 30s to tell your people that 27 is too low, is so counterproductive
@@daffodilunderhill7066 Then he shouldn’t be complaining
@@mikuforlife1929 He not complaining. Also those educated women should bot blame men...
@cherrypie6784 why is he so focused on the women he doesnt want? Theres many uneducated women. He should pick one of them and stop complaining.
Imagine a farmer trying to sell rotten produce and then blaming people for having "standards that are too high" when he can't sell anything
Right on
Imagine hating a farmer so much cuz all u watch is CEO love dramas
People are full of shit lol. We just can't get along for some stupid reason
Rotten produce=abusive men
Imagine being a rotten produce yourself expecting to find a fresh prince kiwi that would settle for you. You'd end up like the women on this video.
I like what she said at the end, we need time to figure out who we are and what we need. That is why lot of young couples end up divorcing.
He's almost 30 if she doesn't know who she is then she's better off leaving people alone
@@imshaunnurse 30 isn't old though? So many people figure out their passions in their thirties and pursue new endeavours. Not our place to judge
@@imshaunnurse she's saying the couples who married at 21 are divorcing because at that time you have no idea who you are did you watch the video.
@@imshaunnurse 30 isn’t that old lmaooooo
What would happen if there was only one male grizzly bear and 7.8 billion female polar bears. What if you parachute drop the bear into the North Pole.
With the way the world is today. The idea of putting more finacial strain on yourselves just to keep the family name alive, seems illogical.
I'm not even Chinese, but the amount of shit I get from my community about my husband and I "shacking up" with no desire for children 🙄 sorry, but we've just entered our 30s and we are just now being able to put aside extra cash for emergencies. The elders in my community even went as far as giving us their blessings to have kids and waving the bride fee that they expected from him, and since then we've never heard the end of it..."You have blessings to have kids, why haven't you already had at least one? He doesn't have to pay for you, so why are you two so concerned about money? If you moved back in with your parents then you'd have a free babysitter and save on money? We know that you're not having kids because you're obviously just a modern woman, but come back home and be traditional, things will be fine and you can easily have 3 or more kids before it'd start getting difficult for you guys" 😑
@@hambone4984 Copped the same from my mother and sisters. "You're 36, you should have had at least one wife and a kid by now".. "Yeah, you're right. I AM 36. Which means I can decide for myself if I want to copy your examples. Or just do my own damn thing"
@sneksnekitsasnek The island of English Convicts...
My son is 40, and he and most of his friends have partners but are not married and do not intend to ever have children. This is becoming pretty common in many places in the States and it seems like a good idea to me. If you don't want kids, that is a highly personal choice and nobody elses business. It's so hard to make enough money to have a house and savings, and having kids with no savings is asking for disaster.
Allow the species to die out seems more illogical?
I like Nico. She's outspoken, values herself over this degrading label, and is aware of the misogynistic "convention" that has been practiced in China for a long time.
She's completely deluded and suffers from Disney Princes Syndrome. No sane man would date her.
Misogynist?then still women get more degree than men come on.
@@cherrypie6784 Because girls learn much harder than men. Men can get everything from parents, but don't dare to think about that if you are a daughter who has brother in a rich family in China. You don't know how parents treat son better than daughter in their whole life. Why are there so many more men than women here?! Face it
So based on what I gathered here, it seems like the old school people are just going to have to suck it up. Millennials, and probably gen z, will be getting married and having kids later in life. Maybe some won't be getting married or have kids at all. Society can pressure and insult the millennials all they want. It won't matter because the change has been happening. The guy said he prefers rural women because they know the struggle. The lady said she would never marry a rural guy because he'll look down on her lifestyle. Change isn't easy or fun but this is reality.
I think, having kids are privelege nowadays, no matter where you are in the world. Inflation are crazy, but the wage rarely ever increase. In my country, average middle class house is $50K, but minimum wage is barely $300 a month, my senior with a diploma (she decided to postpone her study due to mental health) get BELOW that. ive been telling her its illegal, and she is being used. But its so hard to get a job she just put up 9AM to 6PM everyday, for six days a week, for below minimum wage.
My dad works for the government, in fairly high position. And his monthly wage is $1500, while my mom, works for the government too, albeit with lower end, got around $750 a month.
Our house is $50K. Arent that just insane??? After they retired, we can barely make end meets.
Those from first world country, you better off invest in developing country real estate, and have family in developing countries. At least while you work middle income job, your family lived middle upper class life style.
This sounds like something from the middle ages. Marriage just to get married or to gain a better social status. And the guy saying women that arent married by 24 are really picky or arrogant lmao. Such a narrow world view kinda sad
i think its just a lack of gender perspectives. men think women have rich suitors fawning over them at all times but the reality is always the same: successful men are just as picky as pretty, young women
It’s sad. Society should be more supportive of single people, and realise that marriage doesn’t mean happiness
You’re gay tho
Or he has a point that women are too arrogant and want a guy only he's a doctor
@@ninjablack4347 it’s not arrogant it’s smart. No one wants to struggle or end up in poverty.
Seems like a conflict between traditional gender role expectations and modern life. If you're an educated woman with a career and a good standard of living, then the traditional housewife role may feel like a pretty big step down. Who would sacrifice a life they enjoy to be a glorified maid.
Edit; I'm not saying being a housewife/husband is not a valuable job. I'm talking about the cultural expectation that all household tasks are solely the responsibility of the woman, even if she also works full time, which is treating her like a maid.
If not the rural men can learn to be househusbands, but that can only be possible if these chinese men are less chauvinistic, and the women respect their husbands for choosing to take care of the home.
@@Melcor2304 You know, it's mostly women who judge other women for being unmarried, or for fashion sense, or for whatever.
In China you can’t live off a single income anymore, so both parents need to work the 996 job, not a lot of time to meet, date, marry and have a kid anymore
@@ricardasrusilas924 that’s why they need to learn to respect the concept of househusbands, otherwise they’re pretty much perpetuating gender stereotypes, of men being more successful than women, and that women should be a trophy wife to these successful men, which will just setback gender equality.
@@Melcor2304 If the woman is the one working then sure. But it's not like both can't be working. And it's not like they can't share chores either.
Thank you for saying "leftover men and women" cuz the truth is that there are 20 million more men than women and yet women are the ones being stigmatized. Stigmatized for being independent, for being over 27, for they way they look- and honestly its disgusting. So thank you for the inclusive title.
They aren't independent. Thats a lie. And if they are, at what cost? Is it worth it on a grand scale? I'd argue no.
@@RextheRebel independent as in they moves to the cities to WORK have CAREERS not babies!!! So yeah, i said what i said. And if youre looking to point a finger i suggest you start with the asian govts for putting in a 1 child per home policy, making parents commit mass amts of abortions because they wanted a son to carry on their family "legacy". ThAts why theres 20 million more men than women. And its only AFTER the census that they realized the impact. Female infanticide=blind eye, man cant find wife=govt problem/poilcy reform.
@@draghag Did you just call abortion infanticide??
@@imnotusingmyrealname4566 do you not know what infanticide is?
@@draghag Killing of the newborn, meaning AFTER birth.
Age for men to be declared "leftover": Mid thirties
Age for women to be declared "leftover": Mid twenties
"Reason" (according to a MAN) why men become leftover: They're working hard and accomplishing things
"Reason" (according to a MAN) why women become leftover: Their standards are too high
If men are working so hard and accomplishing so many things, how come they still can't meet women's "high standards"? 🙄
They are not good looking enough. Duh. Why would you even ask this question moron?
Why would wealthy hardworking men would want highly educated left over old women when they can just go for young girls, bruh
Because there's more men than women. So the women can afford to be more picky because they can assume there's a better option out there and don't want to settle since traditional marriage is kind of a shitty deal for a women.
@@byakuyatogami2905 traditional marriage is a shitty deal for women? who benefits from divorce?
@@byakuyatogami2905 shitty deal for women..... 🤔
Given that women are not required to enter the military and go to war.
Women are not required to the 3d(dangerous, difficult, dirty) jobs that keep civilization running.
In some cultures, the man needs to pay daori to the girl's parents.
Social security programs are always geared towards women and children.
Grandma's generally have huge influence within asian families.
There's so much to Life than just getting married and having kids.💯
Government doesn't look at it like that!!! This isn't philosophical argument it's plain economics and demographics.
Life exists to propogate life. That's it.
@@mo.ka.9661 : Then go propagate some life you incel loser. You can't even live up to your own philosophy.
@@HettesKvek LOL, incels can't propagate some life, this seems like a raging attack on incels. But I get it, using incel as an insult is definitely gonna solve the incel problem.
I mean yeah but still it is our natural instincts to procreate
This should be titled we interview the coolest woman in China
yes, she actually gives a logical reason as to why she is single. Not about money or status but that she needed to know herself first and find a compatible man for her. Unfotunately, she is very much a picture of a modern liberal woman in a very conservative country which is why finding a compatible man for her will make it hard. If she goes to the west, he'll probably find a man with similar life outlook as her in a matter of a few months...
You have a low standard for what you consider cool
@m you're being very uncool dude.
@@markmaurer6370 indeed
@m That's not very cash money of you incel
I am just gonna say this to all the women out who don't want marrige and children now or ever. You are not abnormal!
It is perfectly alright not to want that. It is your choice.
@Triple H Yet, maybe
It's also perfectly alright for MEN to not get married and not get kids.
They know they, you aren't no gatekeeper lmao
@@BalboaBaggins But that's not what men want lol.
Why would any woman in a patriarchal society, want to give up her dreams of an education, career, and freedom, to have babies while taking care of in laws? If it is her choice, then ok. But, there is little support, and she will work day and night, with her happiness never being a priority
Depends if you want to wake up at 40 baron like a desert and with no family to share your life with or not......
@@michaelconroy9975 Only men are unhappy at 40 with nothing. Women can easily find men to have sex with if lonely at any age.
Yeah plus the man in the video said family is the priority and that it DOESN'T MATTER if the man makes money or not XD. Yeah that's very tempting to give up my dreams, education and career to move to rural areas to have babies and take care of in laws, not being able to see my family and having a broke husband on top of it!
Mostly because while she seems to be doing OK now, the chances of her getting married are approaching zero, and as she gets older and wants to retire, she won't be able to. Chinese social programs are basically nonexistent, and she had better hope she never gets an expensive disease too, because she won't have a husband or kids to help pay her medical bills (which are eyewatering in China, btw. People complain about expensive US hospitals, but they are models of charity and fair access compared to Chinese ones). Unfortunately, she will very likely die miserable and alone. Welcome to China
@@michaelconroy9975 If you are a woman who is educated and having a good job, will you married a rural man and do all the hard work like working in the farm, yet also have to take care of his aging parents as well as doing all the cooking, washing and cleaning the house. Also will have to take care of children. It will be work, work, and work everyday. Everyday the same routine, getting up early and work in the farm, then, cooking, washing, looking after all other people except yourself and nobody put any priority on you except to treat you like a maid. There will be no respite. No joy, no happiness. Women should not settle for less.
I think the independent bar woman speaking in English would be fun to hang out with. So carefree and upfront
Thanks!
I agree. Both are very open and honest and well aware of the situation and not blaming anyone. Very mature
@@robertmoray988 i think she wouldn't like a man that already disrespects the women of her 2nd language.
@@robertmoray988 Sounds like you’ve turned down by 95% of North American women 😅
@@robertmoray988 I don't think I could fit more buzzwords for morality points in a sentence if I tried.
Nothing but support for people who are happiest single. Really sad for people that would like to have a long term relationship but struggle to do so for whatever reason :(.
Relationship ≠ marriage. Why do people think that just cause they get married they automatically get a loving relationship? Worst reason to be married: “so that we’ll love each other more”
That’s me , I am too broke to be in relationship .
Sussy imposter
It’s very interesting that this phenomenon is playing out in Korea and Japan as well - it’s not just China. Even the US has a lot of male “incels” and happily single women. Women are fed up with misogyny and are just opting out, and happier for it. For all the fuss made about brides and weddings, it seems like the people who want marriage and need relationships more are actually…men!
What a load of rubbish. It's because of women's insane highly standards. They even admit it in the video.
@@BalboaBaggins found the incel
Wait till the REAL sex dolls hit shelves. Men are pretty basic. Women act like they're sophisticated but they're just self absorbed and shallow. Which is why dudes always prefer to hang out with the "boys"..
Women in democratic countries are all lovely-dovey in their teens to 20s then wanna know where this is going in their mid 20s, make a couple kids then act like they don't have vaginas anymore, get mad when they get cheated on, turn lesbo in their 30s, give their life to Jesus in their 40s and by the time they're grandparents will swear they were immaculately concepted.
Either way the loser is humanity since no growth of population has taken place.
Such a feminist idiotic response. Ultimately it’s because average and below average women think they’re entitled to above average men. When you’re 20 & 30 it seems okay. Then you turn 40 and realize attention has drastically been cut down then at 50 you’re getting 1/100th the attention you once had. Then 60 comes and you’re lucky to get attention. Then reality hits that you will likely die alone as you beared no children and aren’t deemed attractive. Men in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s can still spread their seed.
Ah yes, because our sole purpose in life is to get married and have children. I wish more people realised that this is a term invented by men to shame women into marrying and giving birth to their children so that THEY don't feel 'unaccomplished'. Love the lady's mentality.
It’s people like you who are most miserable in the end. Let’s see that attitude when you’re old and lonely and have nothing to show in your hands for solely chasing your selfish desires.
It kinda is in an evolutionary sense
@@MA-zo3cm People who live life on their terms are never miserable. People replying to TH-cam comments telling them they are wrong though..Why do you even feel the need? Live your life ticking your boxes so you won't be lonely and muserable when you're old. 'We' won't :)
There's no guarantee of living a long life or even a healthy one. It's important to do what makes you happy and gives you purpose, because if you push it off too long you may never get to experience it.
@@MA-zo3cm your comment tells all about the level of miserable you are for to feel so affected by her comment you seriously posted that.🤣
5:38
If a man in his 30s still not married he might have work to accomplish but if a women doesn't get married by 24 she has high standards and is arrogant .... I mean wth ???
⌛ By 24 is super early but women in their thirties are losing their fertility. So that's where this is coming from.
@@ccaa7674 you are pretty fertile until 35, just diet and pollution in China won’t help the fertile rate
It's coming from a rural man so think from his point of view. What he meant was if a woman is at a marriageable age and choose to not married then they'll be seen as too demanding for ignoring those who wants to be with her and expecting something more. That's was his point. People in rural areas don't always get married out of love or status, it's more like a robotic routine where they need to procreate to maintain the legacy/generation.
The point he is trying to make is that if a man is not married by 30 its because he never got a chance with a woman and so will have to work harder for a higher income to attract a woman, but if a woman is still single by 24 its most definitely by choice as she most likely rejected all the men that approached her cos they were not good enough, a woman is single by choice whereas a man is single by force, women have way more options for dating as men are willing to compromise and accept a woman who is not perfect, whereas a woman is shallow as f*ck and only cares about good looking men and money even if the women herself is not good looking , they all think they deserve a high quality man even if they are not high quality women, for a woman to get a boyfriend its as easy as shooting dead fish in a barrel with unlimited ammo but for a man its like going through hell unless he is good looking , as all women value most is looks. you could try it yourself, put a fat woman on tinder and you would get thousands of matches and put a fat man on there and you will get nothing , just shows how easy it is for women.
This is exactly why women don't want to marry rural men lol
Women shouldn’t feel like they have to give up their dreams and ambitions.you only get the one life.
Agreed, you should live your life the way you wanted but remember everything has consequence so we have to bear it as well.
Yes, but there is a price to be paid. Some will strive for those dreams, and when most of them inevitably fail... it'll be too late. They'll be too old and undesirable. They'll regret being picky.
@@bannedmann4469 I would say it's okay to fail, I mean you'll at least learn something from it. It's also okay if it's too late and to be undesirable. What's not okay is when it has already became too late and you're still being picky like you were in your early 20's. Those are the reasons why the older women remain single tbh because I think even they can get suited with much older men.
YUVAN consequence wtf!? Like what enjoying life hahaha
@@josueperez4333 If you're enjoying life then don't complain, simple. All I see is older women who prioritize others things in life comes back complaining men are not at her level. Take that shet elsewhere.
respect for her to stand up for what she believes in and she is so well articulated
Women staying single and independent :--- omg yasss girl go girl, she rocks the world , strong woman , i love her Men staying single and independent and MGTOW:----- TRIGGERED FEMINIST, DEHUMANIZING WOMEN , MISOGYNY , INCEL , YOU NEED WOMAN FOR SUPPORT
@Robinson Papo get called as incel when I said some disadvantages of being a man
@@walterwhite2763 go to therapy
@@tomomo285 wahman spotted
@@tomomo285 don't be so harsh on him. He's poor lonely guy whose been rejected a lot of times.
Expected to be married by 27 in today’s day is kinda wild most women I know are still starting their careers or trying to get a higher degree. And the last thing most of them want at that point is children since they’re still establishing their lives
What's wrong with not having kids and not getting married
The system is build on growth everywhere,if everybody does that,everything will collapse
Questions like this show our western world was never adequately taught about civics, economics, evolutionary history, and responsibilities as a citizen.
@@hutton40599 Then build robots
It is called sterile behavior.
Cheap labor my man, someone is going to have to take care of the old too.
That’s 35 Million missing *women*. Baby girls dead in the womb, at birth, or in childhood due to neglect or negligence because they weren’t male.
Even if people today aren’t jumping to have extra kids and there are still older singles, 3 child policy will at least ease the outside pressure to only have male babies. Hopefully there won’t be millions of missing women in the future because of it.
Who do you think carries the babies, thus who is ultimately responsible 🤔
Much of the time the women are either pressured or physically forced to abort by police. The men in power have caused more abortions than individual women ever could.
@@testing-je7yz you obviously have no clue what you’re talking about. Policemen take women from their homes and sterilize them with babies in the womb. Male leaders create the laws. Fathers beat their wives for giving them daughters. Men aren’t fishing their newborn daughter out of the buckets they’re being drowned in, they’re out being disappointed in their wives for daring to have a girl.
Oh, and men provide the ejaculate that creates girls. There wouldn’t be a single pregnancy if not for *men*.
But I wasn’t blaming half the world, only the people in power. Sounds like you’re a man if you’re happy to blame the victim in a situation *everyone* suffers from.
@@shockcat5988 and they'll rise up from the dead and say "Mother...Father...what have i done to not deserve your love unlike my brother?..." That'd be some good sh*t right there.
@@shockcat5988 I could swear there’s been a movie like that. Maybe not zombies but like a poltergeist
I’ll rather be single forever than allow the government to force me to marry- even though he might be the sweetest person I’ll normally marry, just the fact that my marriage happens under pressure just alr turns me tf off. If these people treat girls like they’re leftovers, who would want to marry them? They’re gonna find someone that cherishes them and not make them feel like that
Funny if you think you'd have a choice if men decided to _force_ you to marry someone, your only option would be to opt out of _life_ have fun with that.
No one is forcing you, no one is forcing anyone. These women want to get married but cannot find a guy up to their ridiculous standards.
Which woman said she wanted to marry in this video? Its men who have ridiculous standards and make marriage difficult for women
Why aren’t millennials getting married?
Millennials- “IM FIGHTING FOR MY F$@CKING LIFE”
Yep pretty much 👍
She’s a cool cat, and refreshingly honest and direct. Do a documentary on her.
Right? I wish they mentioned what band/bands she plays with, so we can hear some of her music!
@@johannatavius2405 thats absolutely wrong,she is from shanghai the city with the biggest influence of foreign countries,of course there are more individual type people like her 2. The ccp absolutely doesnt care about her opionion,in china you can state your opinion in a certain frame,and she did not exceed by any means
I second this
She's very self aware ❣️ It's so refreshing 👌
@@johannatavius2405 naaah,thats totally diffierent were fully are they exceeded that frame by alot,its totally different story
maybe it's the men that are unwanted not the women
also kids are expensive/effort
Not really
Because in Asia men are sick of being told that being with a female or married
You have to earn $$$ and have a car + house. Ofc noone will want to get married to a female now days because everything is just about money
It's kind off unfair to modern men that they have to do everything to please a woman that can't even cook for them when they come home.
Look at Japanese men today, they are all slowly marring robots :D
@@minhnguyen-rp2es Why feminist asking for equal rights? But at the end of the day, they will expect men to support all their need and of course for the child's support as well. While, men need to compete with other women to get a job. Well, that's is a modern perspective of gender equal rights.
Yeah if it's dudes who are lonely and women who aren't interested, it seems like it's the men who are leftovers. The women are just....single by choice?
@@shukriramlee incel?
@@starburst2448 Reality of life.
The problem is obvious on how the guy speaks about woman being picky and how having a family is priority and the woman is like im independant and i want to choose a partner wisely.
They said that because they arent the one who will have to follow their husband to states away, and take care of his parents while missing your own parents back home, and have kids to satisfy the husband and their family, and give up your job eventhough you excel and enjoying it, and stay at home 24/7 rotting away.
Marriage is always been a scam for women. Especially among strict traditional asians!
in my country, cases where the wives beg their husbands to see their own parents states away during festival month is so common. They see their in law parents more than their actual parents.
Sort employment out for women. It is so hard for women to apply for jobs when during interviews, they are asked 'are you going to be married within the next 5 years?'
Companies avoid hiring women who might have children in the near future so women are scared to get married, their whole employment and financial independence is on the line.
'her family asked for a high bride price, that's why we had to break up'
me : ..... wut ?
@Fck Utube Even people in cities do this. Some cities have actual recently passed legislation to put a cap on bride prices because it is getting insane. Supply and demand, way more men than women, way more men that want to get married than women who do, drives the price up.
Too much pressure on men
It still happening here. My cousin paid almost 1m in bride price. He does get to use it as family asset however
A Chinese friend also told me that in some cities in-laws are quietly expected to buy a house/apartment for the bride (and groom) if they want any chance of their son being accepted in marriage.
Most asian still do this. Many asian parent don't like poor son in law even with good characteristic. Well its understandable. In capitalism world, money is number 1 and you cannot eat good characteristic.
i live in china. i know lots of men and women that just prefer to be single. a big problem is the in-laws. i don't have this problem but women typically move i with the husband and his family and they all live together. its usually with more rural families but its not uncommon in the cities. the grandparents live with you and take care of your kids so both parents can go to work. this leads to strained marriages because these old people always interfere in everything. my in laws dont do that and in the past when they did i let them know to knock that shit off. we respect each others space now because they didnt even realize what they were doing. most people just deal with it and not stand up to the older folks. why would a woman who busts her ass through school live in a social prison like that if she could easily just get her own place and not deal with that shit?
I understand that in-laws can be a pain in the ass, and most of the time are the cause of divorce. However, it is all about reciprocity. Meaning, when she/he will be in those old people’s shoes, and they will need someone to help take care of them. This way of living has been the norm for thousands of years.
@@MaSa-bp5qe sure but there needs to be balance. when you're parents you need to be running the show, you cant have yeye and nainai undermining your authority with your kids and trying to micro manage your relationship. i told my in laws to stay out of it. my wife wasn't willing to do it so i had to be the bad guy. they eventually toned it down.
@@MaSa-bp5qe just because it's been there for thounds of years doesn't mean we should keep it
@@tryomama Tell that to the old Chinese people who have no one to take care of them.
@@MaSa-bp5qe Don't you have government support and nursing homes? I would never want my kids to take care of me in old age. It would be embarrassing. Much rather hire someone and pay them good.
“Shaming the younger population”... well done we’re back to square one, it seems we did not learn our lesson, the first, second and now third time. Wow.
The higher educated a demographic becomes the less effective shame is as a tool.
shame is good, it promotes standards.
China is not the only country having this problem. There seems to be a correlation between modernized countries with economic growth and declining birth rates. As people try to keep up with modern living lifestyles, the idea or focus of starting a family and child rearing starts to lose its appeal or would seem to be inconvenient.
@@Danny-jl2sd true, that may be a reasonable excuse to have but I noticed majority of those in middle class wealth have that thinking. You would expect those in impoverished conditions would make less kids but it’s not the case. Africa’s birth rates are steadily increasing. Also, families with low income living in the US are having higher birth rates.
it's really not though. the other first world countries where women are free are experiencing low birth rates, it's a downward trend of social decay for _every_ country that does so.
Liberalism
Why is anyone not married over 27 a "leftover"? 28-29 are still young. I think it's still acceptable to not be married by 30's.. I'd rather wait for the right person I genuinely really like than to force something for fear of being alone.
Because no man wants a woman that old. Too much baggage plus half her eggs gone by 30. Yuck.
gibememoni I mean you’re not very wrong, can you be more normal with saying this and not be an @sshole though?
Yeah
@Personal Jesus for people that first met when they were 19 20 sure
@@gibememoni I'm so sorry for all of you people from underdeveloped countries!
You will never experience genuine love or find a woman who really has some feelings for you, if all you want from a relationship is getting marry till 27/28.
Those women are basically forced by society to get married as soon as possible, what's the point of spending the rest of your life with someone who see you just like a settlement....
Marriage is kinda like going into the military it not made for everyone. It take a lot of work and dedication. Love alone will never help marriage. When you see most marriages that last for 20+ years it not cause of love it cause of hard work from both parties. Don’t treat marriage like getting a pare of shoes we’re you done with it once you don’t like them.
They have match-makers in Japan and people who get married via them have much lower divorce rates. Marriage is a business agreement to produce children. Romantic love is perhaps one of the worst reasons to get married.
@@makokx7063 Maybe not romantic love, but enduring, persistent love is crucial to a happy marriage.
@@TESkyrimizer yep, I feel like many people mistake lust with love.
@@TESkyrimizer yup love has two main qualities. The romantic side and the enduring side.
military is a much better deal. I can leave after my contract ends and not have to go to court
China is vastly overpopulated.. slowing down the population growth naturally isn’t such a bad idea. Ppl have the right to their bodies.
This is what the one child policy tried to do it failed, china and India historically have always had more population than the rest of the world, but just like in Japan and South Korea as economic conditions improve the birthrate naturally starts falling there is no need to control it
You do not understand the repercussions of having a very large elderly population and very low young population. If you don not see why that can be catastrophic, I do not know what to tell you.
@Sm77 But muh FrEeDoM?
The real problem is that the issue is going to be under population if the trend continues. China has the worst birth pyramid in the world.
It IS a bad idea, new generations will have the pressure of supporting enormous quantities of elderly people while they can't even take care of themselves.
Why is this an issue? We are running out of resources globally. Having less children should be a good thing. We can afford to slow down for a couple of decades if you ask me
It is only an issue in some countries where poor people breed like rabbits when they can't even feed themselves. Australia brings in educated immigrates on skilled migrant visas to fill the huge empty country. It will be a huge problem for China as they will no longer have young people if this continues and soon their whole economy will collapse with no one but old people left.
Its because company's and corporations are over harvesting resources, that they become a significant amount over time. Like an article that I read saying that in 2025, 43 countries will not have access to fresh water because of the climate change which means high consumption rates. Droughts being caused in many countries which means a finite amount of resources because of over harvesting and that is just one example of the many things over harvested in the world.
please research about china's possible demographic collapse
Yes I agree, now go over to the Middle East and Africa and convince them to have less children because they are the ones with the highest birthrates in the world.
East Asia has the LOWEST birthrates in the world meanwhile.
China's economy is dependent on cheap labor. Less people being born means less people to work. The economy will slow down.
She’s cool as hell
There is nothing wrong with being single
if you aren't patriotic
It's a problem in China because their economy is based on cheap labor.
I like the woman interviewed here. More power to her. She’s not left over she is an empowered woman for the 21st century. Go girl.
She's a liberal and too masculine, of course you like her, you were probably raised single parent home
This girl knows what she's saying and she's so beautiful, she really shouldn't settle for any lame guy. I myself only got married after 30 and it's working out great, marriage takes work and maturity.
What math is this? How can there be leftover women when there are almost 35 million more men? The men need to step up their game so that they may be chosen 🤣
Female hypergamy, what do you expect?
They not ready for this conversation sis 🐸☕
@@BlueMagic334 THISSS 😆😆
@@baronzemo457 how is it sexist. The facts the og comment are true, if there's anyone in need of being called leftover, then those are men.
Right. Men are just mad that women can take care of themselves and choose to be happy. Women tend to pursue self improvement far more than men do. Then men complain that women don't want them because they never had to compete for a woman's attention. They used to have arranged marriages and their parents took care of everything, then their wife took care of the kids, house and parents. They don't even know what to do, and blame women.
Don't feel pressured to do something especially marriage! Coin tosses should be done with a light heart.
I love how the government has a definition for "leftover women"
And there is one for leftover men, isnt that funny too?
Its not that "straight single women are too picky" but rather women are now having standards.
Falling birthrates aren't a bad thing. This world is already so overpopulated. Also instead of shaming the women for being too picky, the government should be telling the men to improve themselves in order to attract wives.
and instead of creating coronavirus and put the man as heirous more that an woman maybe china should get stand up and do the good thing
Birthrates/population is kind of like running downhill, if you slow down you fall down the hill and break every bone in your body. People get older and stop working, stop contributing to society, to produce enough for everyone, the more non-workers you have the more workers you need. If the aging population continues to grow (people living much, much longer) and the number of young workers keeps decreasing then a society won't have what it needs to keep going.
How exactly are the men supposed to do that? They now have to compete with women for jobs and education. It's hard to compete when you double the number of applicants without increasing the number of spots.
Ain't quite that simple. Women are increasingly the preferred applicants for many non trade jobs because they'll willfully work for less and the bottom line is all that matters in corporate America. Plus, diversity sells good to the customer and public. So unless men want to start working even harder than they do for even less, it's going to be a problem. As far as I'm concerned, we're headed for a race to the bottom. Not everyone can be a lawyer, doctor or CEO nor should they be. Hypergamy is also increasingly a thing amongst women now that they are taking on the role that men once did. I suppose we're at a crossroads. Men could also act as a stay at home spouse if there are plans of children but much the same, more women don't want children. So I can understand why some younger men in particular are feeling the pinch. I'm lucky enough to have a rare niche job that makes roughly 60 an hour but it's sad what I see around me.
I’m a left over gay lol and people think I’m too picky , truth is I don’t need or want a relationship nor kids , I just don’t feel it .
That's why most gay men are so happy. No wife, no kids.
If that picture is you, then it's all in your head.
@@skrrskrr99
Identity crisis and other issues least to say, even in more pro society.
Gay people are always single
Can you be gay and have kids????
In China:
Government bullies for not getting married early.
In India we have neighbourhood aunties to do the same😂
😂😂👍
😂😂😂我们都成为人口大国的原因之一
I would rather desi aunties over arab aunties. Hindu and Sikh are least conventional than Muslim.
having children for the sake of having children, don't often make the best parents.
There’s more to life than having children. It’s basically servitude.
Trying to stay alive is servitude.
@Shinshocks only of u have the time to actually form bonds otherwise u are just an anoying wallet
@Shinshocks bonds with families are not as tight as one would hope.
But real living is basically servitude
Sounds like a typical feminist robot talking point, yeah you're right, you're probably better served serving your corporate overlords as another number than raising children in a family that gives a shit about you.
Please don't reproduce heart 🥰
Chinese society are waking up to just how overly controlling their state is.
every state is controlling
@@babygirl-nl4im Eh, no it's not. There are nations where individual freedoms are protected through a constitution and via an independent judiciary. Something China does not have.
China doesn't even have freedom of the press - a basic liberty in most free countries.
The sad fact you think every state is controlling proves you know no different and probably live in a controlling state so you haven't experienced true freedom. I'm sorry to hear that.
@@LeMerch control will be everywhere, but the scale is different
@@g.narayanareddy1630 Well said!
@@LeMerch there is no ‘true’ freedom under capitalism lol
The government didn't rlly think this through. Like don't they know how fricking expensive it is to raise a child? Education, cost of living, lack of/expensive housing in the cities etc....and for some people they are struggling to support themselves let alone another human being !!!
They are out of touch to all hell. Just think about the fricking three child policy. Auh our young people are having 0 children, I wonder why? Is it because they can't afford it? Is it because they don't have the time to raise children? Or is it because they have no hope for the future and so don't want children to complicate things?
Nah, must be the 1 child policy cap.
Those economists inconveniently left out the sexual marketplace for reproduction in their calculations when making that one child policy, those dumbasses.
They were right about men being more useful, but wrong about the numbers of reproduction and 'liberating' women.
It's like getting married and having kids is a choice or something
this title is idiotic. like asking why policies on children don't impact childless ppl
True
I mean not really
left over men should marry loft over woman"
MY MIND IS BLOWN
🤣
You’d think they would have some sort of dating app like tinder for this.
@@rosyx7148 also its 90% men of the apps...
@Marilyn Monroe why? the definition of beeing a leftover is someone who want's to get married and can't find his or her significant other
@Marilyn Monroe but not in the case of china
I think I once saw a producer (?) famous in China was once forced into tears on live television to *apologize* for having three children above paying for fines too. And once this policy is announced, he made a post that says "Already did it 💪" that level of sass is what I aspire to be. The gov shamed him and stepped on him for having three children once and now they're begging others to have three.
I hope ccp can just drop down and die.
Hello gorgeous how are you doing ☺️
So Chinese are afraid that India is going to take number one position in population that's why that 3 child policy but Chinese people don't want more kids as it's difficult due to intense competition in work and several other issues.
Lol
funny that , a long time ago china gorvement forced women abortion and now they want 3 child policy😂
@Raven Smith they want to compete against every nation mate. Not just US and EU.
Its because they'll have one guy trying to pay welfare for 4 retirees unless the woman works as well and cant help raise kids. This is an economic problem of demographic proportions.
This is why china wants war with India. Left over cannon fodders !
"The law, in all its fairness, forbids the poor and rich alike from sleeping under bridges."
27 is "leftover" then how they call me as 37 single women, ancient??
I googled it and they refer to such as (roughly translate) the "Aged Leftover", the "Too-Far-Leftover", the "Dying-for-Mingle", the "Saint", the "Alpha Female", "Leftover Lord"....yeah, weird.
I call you smart. Marriage is a trap.
@@gl15col true dat
@@gl15col my sister says that all the time. 😅
@@gl15col kinda yeah lol
Nico's a Rockstar in my eyes! ❤ I also married at 20. Divorced a few years later. I'm 57 now and Nico is 100% right. At a young age, early 20s, one hardly knows oneself. It's not the right time. Sometimes, it may NEVER be a right time or person to marry and that's PERFECTLY OKAY 👌☺😊. Marriage, kids, homeownership etc is Not ok for everyone. That too, is OK 👌👍🙂
Hello gorgeous how are you doing ☺️🌹
its not about 'knowing yourself' or what other bullshit quotes women like to spout, it's about having children with the best health in the best health, and raising your legacy.
@@DTreatz shut up because it is not bull shut hence why so many are divorced when they get married to young. Women can have healthy children in their late 20s early 30s. The bullshyt is you a “man” telling women that giving birth at 21 when our bodies aren’t fully developed as yet is okay, that’s the bullshyt.
You're broken
When signing a job contract in China, there are conditions specific for women : you cannot get married and you cannot get pregnant while working for the company.
So basically as a woman, you lose your job once you get married/pregnant… and are forced to be a housewife who’s taking care of the kids and in-laws.
Hello gorgeous how are you doing ☺️🌹
As a Chinese,I can confirm they can represent most of the single men and women.
too
How can a chinese use western app like youtube? Are you one of those little pinkies?!
Wtf is wrong with you people. If you're American, do I fcking blame you're government exploited other countries? No you shallow minded fcks. An no I'm not Chinese
@Vaibhav 1 shame on you for being rude and ignorant
@@cexcaffeineaddict I think you miss the point
I'm 31 yo (male) and didn't even have a serious relationship. I'm not just leftover, but pretty much food waste.
I disagree
@TH-cam Netizen Russia\Kazakstan.
That's true
don’t say things like that! even if you don’t find someone, relationships and romance isn’t everything lol
You're in your early thirties, that's far from old. Anyways it's much favourable to being stuck with someone you don't look.
She's such an eccentric character, would love to see her more
It's almost as if allowing, nay, ENABLING and ENCOURAGING parents to abort, abandon or kill their daughters so they can have a SON with the one child policy was destined to backfire! But who could have forseen that upsetting the general fifty-fifty ratio could be a disaster, or continually ignoring the issue of poverty?
i know of a woman, she moved to the US and she still has that mindset of 'leftover' woman, she was married around 27 to a guy 18 years older than her. now she's on the brink of a separation.
Hahahahaha 😂😂
She’s not being killed is she? 😂✌️
@@Macheako ?? nothing of that sort. just separating. its a messy break because this woman thinks divorce is a dirty thing.
Karma of those dead babies is showing it's head now. They're trying to guilt these women who are lucky to be here for population increase. Nope time of waiting on a men is over. # Jiayou
@Ermartin2011 Exactly what I thought
Liberals don't care about dead babies.
@@HettesKvek if you meant China as "liberals" then oh boi. You will be very disappointed
@@HettesKvek they never did lmao
Im so glad that even though I live in an Asian country, we follow the Western ideology that we have a choice in whether we procreate or not. Although there is still discrimination amongst older generation,
Those are some really early cutoffs, damn. I think the early 30's is when people really actually start blooming into themselves, discarding the insecurities of their 20's and embracing who they are and who they will be for the rest of their lives. To say that someone older than 30 is considered unmarriageable, that's crazy. I wouldn't consider marriage as an option before my late 20's at all, it's so risky to marry early.
Females are, because your biological reality doesn't match your idealism. Just because we stopped dying at 30s/40s doesn't mean we get to put off having children and raising family for this nonsense of 'finding me', that's just a bullshit excuse for partying and bulshitting away youth and fertility for women.
Women are to picky,? Men are just upset we do not want to buy a whole pig for a little sausage. Especially when we are abused in all forms. The good men do not need to put up with an abusive wife either. Parents play a huge roll in marrages and I believe they shouldn't tell us how or whom to love. Its so sad.
Well put
Right. The parents are behind the times seeing as they part of the match making process. Their sons are ageing bachelors from poor rural areas, no young successful woman would ever find that appealing.
Wow.. who hurt you bro? 😆
they are not left over men because they are abusive ,these rural men are less attractive in the eyes of womens because they are poor , and most of them are farmers it is not a fancy job which makes them less desirable
@arshaqmuddassir kk I never said they were. Your status in life has nothing to do with wether you're abusive or not. Did you even get the the part where I stated the The Good Men should not put up with abusive wives and I never mentioned status of class. Where you live has nothing to do with being abusive. How you are rasied, what you see with in your home growing up set the foundation of childs belief system and how they veiw the world. In most cases we become the world around us until we make the choice with in ourselves to break the cycle. Parents expectations are to high and they force their veiws onto their children. We are not meant to live the lives our parents wish they had growing up. We are meant to find our happiness on our own personal paths. We can walk down the same paths as our parents did but our strides are different and our footprint do not match. I love my parents but there is no way I would live a life they wanted for me it wouldn't bring me joy or peace. I would be miserable. I personally want a rural man or woman to spend my life with, a little piece of land, some crops, live stock and a little home to call our own. Beauty fades the body ages and gives out on us but our souls shine never does. Our souls are our true beauty factor in my eyes.
Idk why above 27 is called leftover. Alot of women who are expats specially Europeans, get married and have children in their late 30s. Believe it or not, a woman can still have a child in their early 40s and the child will have no dfects. So What's with the pressure to marry before 27? This is so impractical and unrealistic considering a person finishes his/her bachelor's degree around 22 and will have to start as an entry level employee while having to spend those small salary for rent, food, transportation and utility bills. By the time someone reaches 27, if he/she has lived an independent life who has to pay for everything, you barely saved enough money nor own a house. And you want them to get married before 27?!?!?? Is education and raising children that cheap?
Different cultures.
@@IronHide3910 you didn't answer the question is see 😒
Most of it is to do with bonding issues, wo^man who are in late 20s would experience multiple sex partners which eventually lead to negative experiences. These type of woman lose the ability to have healthy and stable relationship. Most men do not want to deal with this. Wo^man are ruled by their emotions, especially in romantic sense. They become broken record, unable to play the sound of healthy relationship. They adopt feminism etc which leads them to be lonely cat woman or one night stand queen, who hates all men. Hence, a woman should invest in her youth to find healthy long lasting relationships instead of eventually becoming broke. There are only 3 things a woman need, youth, modesty and someone what attractive. For a man it's different, he needs more than that, that takes a lot of work. So why after all that would a he want a broken relationship? Wo^men need to be raised correctly and given healthy advice about life. Their beauty fades quickly and life becomes harder, so secure early.
Why would any man want a woman that old and used up?
@@testing-je7yz the only thing i learn from your long theory of woman, is that you probably won't get laid in the next 20 year
Once again their government is shooting themselves in the foot again🤦🏻♀️. Do they really believe stigmatizing leftover men and women would pressure them into getting married?? All they’re succeeding in doing is to isolate them even further and make it even harder for them to attract a potential partner, or turn them completely off to idea of ever getting married.
Exactly 😊
I honestly love how this lady speaks, she gets her point across so efficiently and directly and it's honestly really impressive to me, let alone being a female bartender
Must be nerve racking living there. The government is mutch to concerned with the citizens sex life.
Same as the United states. Especially Republicans.
@@casualsuede don’t compare the United States government to the Chinese government
@@summeretry251 What? I need u to rephrase that question. Or add context.
You can't even have abortions in some states
Well seeing as it's in the best interest of society (which is composed of EVERYONE) for people to reproduce, it obviously makes sense wtf.
The girl from the video, GIRL, YOU DO YOU!!! I love her confidence and the fact that she just doesn't care. So, what do you call someone over 30? The crumbs underneath the plate?! haha, okay, glad I am not from there.
Amen ! We need to support singles too! Marriage isn’t the end up be all.
I'm 30 years old. Also Chinese but I live In NZ. Luckily I'm not living in china because here where I live people are chilled as fuck here and don't care about marriage. It's my body and it's my life. I live my own life and fuck what others thinks. I have plans to just have one kid before I turn 40 and that's all I'm having.
@Ciel Phantomhive my stepmom had her last child at 42 with easy. people are different.
@Ciel Phantomhive it's almost like people WANT to see you grow up to become bitter and lonely 🙄 no thanks!! Life has so many more beautiful moments outside of marriage and giving birth
@@adaezez8378
Well not everyone is ur stepmom LMAO.
Will I win the lottery cuz my uncle won on his first try?
The guy at the beginning talking about the dowry broke my heart omg… He seems like such a sweetheart too 😩
That lady has a point if you force people to marry young when they/if they dont have a clear idea of themselves they will divorce and even delay getting married again. I get that they want to help rural men with social "modernizing " skills but who knows of they would be open minded to a wife who more independent and may not want a kid right away or expect her husband to also help her with house work and child care equally
No one is forcing anything, their daughters are lonely and sad.
I have the same thought as Nico Tang. Every word that she said is true but most Chinese parents doesn't think that way.
Let people be single.
@sneksnekitsasnek ok
Who looks after you when you're 70?
@@TheMagicJIZZ another 70 something year old? They might have worse health than me and I would have to look after them haha. Kids? You can be single and have kids.
I'm not single. But you don't have to worry about those who choose to be single.
@@buzzingnoise yeah... retirement doesn't work that way
What's gonna happen is you'll be taxed for not having kids as you'll contribute to the society collapse
Japan Literally has abandoned old people on the street
@@buzzingnoise So you're going to punish your kids by giving them a bad situation to be raised in?
Don't have kids to begin with if you're just going to be selfish.
I choose to live being single for 25 years now and I'm happy with my life bec it's so free and no burden.
I'm a guy by the way.
Very good journalism. Keep up the good work
"If you felt obligated in something you dont want to do, you wont be happy".
~Montgomery 67
Does freedom really exist though?
We do things because we have to. Not everyone has the grace to have everything they dream about. Or every condition met. It's about sacrifices or compromise.
There's a price to pay regardless of whether you want perfection or are to settle.
@@jhde9067 The freedom to do absolutely anything you want? no.
no such freedom exists, everything is a trade off.
Here's my advice to the lady. YOURE DOING GREAT SWEETY!
At 12:08 he didn’t say, “Or she’s pretty arrogant,” he said, “There’s situations like this.”
This was very interesting......especially hearing it from the young Chinese themselves.....not just from officials, or sociologist types.