China Pushes For More Babies, But Why Aren't Young Chinese Having Children? | CNA Correspondent
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- Over the last four decades, China’s population boom has powered the country into the world’s manufacturing powerhouse. But for the first time since the great famine of 1959, its population is set to reverse its course. And the Chinese Communist Party is racing against time, to undo the effects of the one-child policy, or risk its 1.4 billion people getting old before they get rich. This week on CNA Correspondent, we explore what makes it difficult for young Chinese to fall in love and have babies.
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When you spend your entire childhood trying to get the best grades or get beaten up, then to work 12 hours a day 6 days a week getting paid barely enough to afford housing. Alot of people would probably choose to spend whatever free time they have left to themselves. Or not have any time to build a relationship at all.
Exactly. They wanna use the time to unwind, worry about themselves, have fun. Not to mention they might take what they dealt with and realize that putting their kid through that is not what they want. That and you gotta factor in the high expectations in the dating market.
Relationship, maybe. Child, hell no! No one wants one’s child to go through everything one has suffered.
@@ross1273 yep, they think its because its because of the price, but its not, we dont want our child go through everything we has suffered
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I don't think it is just China. From observing videos of young adults in a variety of countries I see a trend of not wanting to bring children into a world with a future that seems more and more uncertain, and I certainly cannot blame them.
It's a known trend. As society or country become more industrialized the more they don't want to have kids or at least have them much later and it's too late.
Yep. The problem is people cannot afford children.
Not just uncertain, but so expensive. People can barely pay for themselves even living with a partner and splitting costs.
Yes I agree
It’s mostly because I can’t even afford to live on my own with the high cost of living, so getting married and having kids is just not possible for me.
Its so amazing that we finally get to see the effect of the previous generation's parenting and political policies.
They ruined everything and now act all surprised about it
Eventually what's going to happen is the state assigning man and woman pairings, then force them to "Mate" under supervision, then force them to produce children until the female's body fails.
@@1mol831 this is usually the end game but they will get randoms off the street first and kidnap them
@@mandolen3317 How? The one child policy was implemented before China experienced the economic miracle. The government wanted to reduce and end poverty while gradually introducing prosperity. It is called a rock and a hard place. I think they did the right thing.
@@yaggaman1914 Not really. Korean women from DPRK are despearte to escape fat kim regime and China new prosperity is too tempting. Even Russians , laos, filipinos are increasingly found in China major cities. What the government might do is relax marriages of women born abroad.
It’s not about falling in love. It’s an economic decision.
I fully agree with this.
Over half of the money I make after taxes from a full-time job would get eaten up by the average rent for a one-bedroom apartment in my area.
It’s quite impossible for me to afford being able to fall in love and have a family…
@@The4Tifier try van life. It rocks.
@@segurosincero4057 Van life is fine when you're single or even a couple. Now imagine van life with children. Not so much.
@@KabobHope This is true. Van life is challenging enough for adults.
@@KabobHope Yes. But also, it's not really fine. Most people very understandably do not want to live in a van. I know you're not the one who made the suggestion I'm just saying I hate it when that's someone's response to a person saying they can't afford normal basic living. Imagine if someone told our parents or grandpatents to just live out of a vehicle.
5:05 "I feel sad...She (mom) doesn't care what kind of person I am, whether I am a good person, what I like and what my dream is. The most important thing for her is to have a son who earns a lot of money so he can marry a wife." Mom feels greatly humiliated compared to other people, because son has no wife or kids. Such superficial pride in materialism.
If you want to find wives for your sons, then look into the graves where all the unborn daughters were slaughtered, buried and forgotten. How many babies did these people have before they got a son? These unmarried men should ask their parents how many older sisters did he lost before they had him.
There's a lot of men from China, India and Korea on dating apps. I feel a reluctance to date them because your countries killed girls, why should I solve your problem.
God bless you my man
Yep. That migrant worker said that the parents “didn’t care much about them” at one time, but now she has two boys and the parents are back in their lives.😒 Bet I can guess why. Look at the grandma, carrying that boy around like he’s her favorite toy…
This is why the women can now demand a flat as a minimum requirement for marriage, because there are not enough women to go around.
Same thing with India, incredibly sad 😔
I do not have children. I struggled financially as a child and I do not think it is fair to do that to another innocent person. The world feels out of control and unsafe, so that is a sentiment that many people I know share. #Childfree
I understand
People do not understand that. It drives me mad when losers like black American men curse women who do not want to get married, saying they will die alone. Not everybody has been fortunate enough to have a background conducive to marriage and babies. I am glad I am not the only one feeling the way you have stated so thank you.
Same here
I agree 100%. I also grew up in a financially unstable home. The world is in a state of chaos and everything is getting more expensive. I don't think it's wise to have children in this environment.
Yes so true i couldn't be so cruel to bring someone to this weird mix.... Child free 💙
When China was poor, parents needed kids to help with the farm or the store. Now that China is no longer poor, people want to enjoy life. Kids are expensive and take time of what precious little time and money the working class has left outside of work.
People don't realize a lot of kids in China stay at school in the dorms and study from morning until literal night from Monday till Saturday, then they get 1 day at home. Their schools are more on rote repetition-based learning and about getting the highest grades instead of focusing on learning. Then after that you're supposed to go to university to slave away again for a degree, then after their degree they find that they struggle to find jobs and if they get them it's barely enough to make ends meet while being told 996 (9am-9pm, 6 days a week) is the ideal standard of life. Not only did the housing developers and banks screw them over (I hope you saw what happened with the scandals lately; I'm referring to those), then their government fucks them over on so many things while stomping on their voices. Slaving away from childhood in the schools to avoid being beaten up, to barely making it in the workforce, to those who throw in the towel, would you blame them?
996 as an objective standard is disgusting. You are literally no different from a slave with that sort of mentality (especially if you are not actually pursuing something that you are passionate about). China Chinese are oppressed, but a lot of them are not stupid. Those who are not brainwashed run to other countries, and CCP China is panicking because people literally can't afford children either financially or mentally, and people are LEAVING. With the advent of the internet and opening of borders, they can censor whatever they want, but it is inevitable this would happen.
EDIT: University in China is cheaper.
Unfortunately only the rich and extremely high skilled worker can leave… Everyone wants their child to earn lots but the country need tons of low level workers. All this while businesses kept paying dirt to said workers.
The majority of universities in China are very cheap. Not like the ones in the UK or USA.
Speaking like a true ignoramus. You have no idea about China's education system do you? Rote learning was never a thing, it was something created by American to explain why Asians get better grades
I'm Chinese and you talk like a fool
There are very few students in boarding schools.
China has school districts. During compulsory education, you will be assigned to a nearby school and you can walk to and from school.
You should have children because you want but not because someone else wants to or by society!
Even if you want doesn't mean you can if you don't have the means to provide with the increasing financial pressure
@@irone7050 I want to live like a billionaire but my wants aren't feasible. A baby is a second mortgage in many countries (and China is no exception), 20 years ago it was still possible to raise a child in semi poverty, nowadays it's impossible.
And the reason u want is that u wan to give love to another. Not just to tick off your to do list or societal pressure
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media keeps preaching about it, government, businessmen and those in power because they worry about their bottom line and having to think of a solution. if billionaires needs 1000 workers to run a factory at poor pay and inhumane shift, they should make their own babies since they can. we really should focus on our own lives and happiness and not what media and so called "greater" good for a sacrifice that's too unfair for us.
When you have parents pushing you to marry for all the wrong reasons, it can't end well.
It is true. My parents sleep emotionally blackmailing me too to ger marred but here's the kicker the more they ask me to ilthe more I hate the idea.
@@kanikagaral7637 stay strong king.
Thankfully, my mom has always discouraged me from having children. She never wanted children, she was pressured into it by people around her.
She says when she saw me have a hard time at school when I was 10, I asked her if I could be un-birthed. She wished she had never succumbed to that pressure.
I have witnessed my mom's life through financial instability, through motherhood, through being yelled at but having to keep her head down for her children. I will never repeat that for her peace of mind.
I am sorry that you suffered and I hope you are okay now. So that not to regret later, please think what is your desire irrespective of your mother's feelings. Maybe you would feel happy having children. Sending hugs 🤗
@@teodoramb7503 That person gave a thoughtful response. They seem sure of what they want and why. You don't need to tell them they might regret it and children might make them happy. You're not talking to an idiot.
Do it for you, not for your mom.
@@teodoramb7503 thankyou for giving an unselfish advise....true that person might regret later for not having a child....
Sounds like your mom is doing to you what people around her did to her. Ultimately, it is your choice to have children or not. Your mom's trauma doesn't need to be your burden but I don't know you or your mom so, all the best
I am glad this guy has decided to do his own thing and not follow the demands of society or his culture, he is definitely thinking about his happiness and mental health first.
A person lives only once. Live how you want to, have a kid or don't.. Remember you're not obliged to societal constraints because it's not their lifestyle you're forced to live but your own.
Chinese parenting: Don’t care if your child is happy or not, whether he is a good person with value or not, the only important thing is to earn more money and start a family, don’t care if the couples like each other or not lmao
So true. They just wan their son to bring in a daughter in law to do all the chores and serve them then make some grandsons so they can boast about how happy and successful their family is to their frens and relatives.
@@l_ifeefi_l1998 to be fair though, Chinese parents will help look after your grandchildren so you save loads of money on hiring babysitters. Plus they also cook you food all the time if you live nearby or visit.
Exactly, Chinese culture hasn't move forward or elvole to adopt for the modern life style.
@@drewh3224 Which country are you from??
@@drewh3224 Unfortunately, this culture is prevalent in Chinese diaspora and even throughout Asia, hardly limited to Mainland China
Life is too hard to bring children into it.
It’s help if the chinese government stop passing laws and regulations counter to what people need and want. I’m glad I no longer live in China because everybody have been bamboozled to live life for the sake of someone else, and many can’t handle the reality that life can be more than what they have always known. I hope more Chinese people in China would be like those men and women featured here.
Confirm you have lousy character that forget the person that dig the well. If China have not slowly open up, do u think u can be here? LKY said China will be a great nation in less that 50 year. I trust his vision.
I notice that too. it's always about the greater good. but actually for the good of minority at a sacrifice that's not worth it at the end because nothing of value will be with you and your loved ones after the sacrifices for this subjective greater good.
@@Maya-sv1pz Ccp's mentality is always 'greater good for the state', it ignores the individual's needs and wants. When they ask 'why no children being made', they dont seem to realise its because the average mainlander is expected to serve the state and not disappoint their parents. How the hell do you have a family, much less fall in love when such a thing is expected?
Happy for you, enjoy your life and may you be blessed
Why should they? To benefit a society that doesn't reward them with anything but promises of 'one day you'll be rewarded'? Which applies to everyone in the world!
I came to the US from China when I was 20 alone. Spent years years to get a degree while having a part time job and then get a good job. Tried to fit in here. No time to date anyone in my 20s. Now I am an independent single 34 female and it’s so hard for me to settle for less putting more things on my shoulders.
Absolute legend. Not many people have the courage or even think about leaving their country alone and start a new life there. Have a great day!
There are homeless people, try to talk o them.
Yikes, its other women who took advantage of men who ruined the simple life for simple ladies. Amber Heard being the spitting image of that. Now men like me are cautious of what the opposite sex might do to us. Oh well.
@@phoenixrising4995 Nah you're a loser incel. Women don't even care about you in the first place lol
Radical idea: focus on your own well-being. Stop living your life to impress or satisfy the demands of other people. I promise, you will find joy.
Marriage is no guarantee of happiness. People should do whatever makes them happy rather than sacrificing their happiness to their parents, companies, government and society. I feel terribly sorry for the woman who has to worry about her two sons now and in the future. This, to me, is not living; I would rather be dead than be in her unfortunate situation. I feel the couples who adopt pets are the wisest and mentally healthiest, and they seem genuinely joyful with their decision not to want children. They will likely live a better life than the depressed and anxious woman with three sons (including her husband).
Which country are you from??
Family is great source of happiness, as you have companions of all ages to fulfil your life and share your success and support you in failures. It works for most of the world.
Considering 50% of marriage in China ended up in divorce and some even said once they have a child, they already fulfilled their obligation to carry on the family name.
Yes, lots of marriage is not of love, but pressures from families, relatives and more.
l agree:marriage is an option,not a goal or a prize; but the issue is:what would happen if every Chinese adult chose pets instead of children?I wonder ...and yes,the mother's husband is a childish moron
@@keerthisureshseelam not really a source of happiness if the said family can't afford to eat three healthy meals a day or send all the offspring to school without each parent working two jobs.
If I was living under such a strict dictatorship I wouldn’t want to have kids either.
And if people are unhappy, sex is not really the resulting activity.
When your every move is watched and monitored, it’s very hard to relax. Plus everyone is too fussy these days.
When the economy is bad people don't have the luxury of marriage for love (that is if they aren't already in love) and usually have to decide their and their possible childrens future based on how much they can afford. This younger generation grew up with impossible expectations placed on them. Anyone who is forced their whole childhood to be perfect will ultimately seek freedom once they're adults over what they were forced to be and do since it wasn't pleasant. I say good on them for standing up for themselves and their freedom. China really dug their own hole by forcing their people to do their whims for so long.
It's a good thing to be single and childless. Life is so stressful nowadays. Why bring children into this world when they will probably suffer more than us?
I tell people "I spend 7 hours a day 5 days a week raising other people's children for so little that I'm still qualifying for food stamps. what makes you think I want to come home and take care of children when I can't even afford most of my needs"
Let's be real , raising children is a huge undertaking , no wonder nobody wants to do it
I'm not Chinese, I live in the UK. I've never wanted children. I'm not against marriage but it isn't anything I pursued. I don't regret it either. I'd rather just be happy myself. Not making a fuss or problem for others and be free to make my own choices.
Well done
It's supply and demand, if the government demands that people have children then it should supply them with a house and income.
No government seems to get that.
And even then, some probably wouldn’t want to do it. Once they achieve a comfortable standard of living, why screw that up by having a baby?
Smaller population could make the citizens happier because of the reduced life competition and it's also good for climate change
Sorry you are wrong and very wrong. Now is not decreasing population problem but Now is too many old people and too few young people so the world is going to fail very soon.
China has 1.35Billion, China's infrastructure has been created to handle it, they should not go below 1.1Billion.
@@limlisa Glad to hear that because billions of people means more energy, food, water and other resources are required, which will make climate change worse
Will not have strong economic function
@@wendyshoowaiching4161 Singapore, GCC and Scandinavian countries are good economically
I always thought the one child policy was stupid because of their driven need to keep the family line and mostly the wanted to keep the males and how they adopted out females who did they think their boys would marry and have children with? Many girls left the country in the adoption so how the regime thought this would work?🤷🏻♀️
They were trying to drastically reduce their population growth and it worked and now the downstream effects of that success are becoming clear. The population growth of any group is directly dependent on the number of living females of fertile age. Reduce the number of females and you reduce the size of the population. Farmers have known about this forever. If you're looking at population dynamics (and this is from a purely biological perspective), then the number of males in most mammalian species is only relevant in terms of the amount of resources that those males consume.
@@erinmorash9334 funny you say that I am a farmer and many years ago though by them wanting to keep all males and seem to adopt out the females to other countries mostly who did they think their males would breed with in the future and here we are in the future and as you said the male population is way over the female population. My girlfriend and her hubby adopted a baby girl back 19 years ago from there so I was learning about it from her and there were no males just girls up for adoption when she was waiting. The girl she adopted is absolutely gorgeous inside and out and sadly doesn’t know her exact birthday as she was dumped at an orphanage so they picked a near enough day to how old she looked.
@@sotired7453 well the males will breed with males lol men can have babies
@@kingblade1090 that’s right I forgot in this new world they believe this so my guess is this is the last generation 😂
The part thats missing here, is that there are very few men that earn the kind of money she's looking for. And at 37, the men who earn that kind of money are looking for someone 10-15 yrs younger than her.
She is called the left over woman in China. If she can get married most likely becomes a step mom.
She's needs to lower her standards. Men who earn what she's looking for can marry someone younger who is more likely to birth them children. It's just the reality of the situation.
Edit: To clarify, she needs to lower her standards if she wants to find someone, but this doesn't mean having no standards, e.g., maybe someone less wealthy but has decent traits in other areas. It's far better for an educated woman wealthy to be single than for an uneducated, impoverished man who may pressure them to be the caretaker for their parents.
@@Umeshukitsune or she can stick to her standards. if she doesn't find someone, she'll be happily single than be with a poor guy
@@Umeshukitsune No Woman has _ever_ come out ahead by lowering her standards for men.🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
@bird To clarify I mean lower her standards but not having no standards, e.g., maybe he's not as wealthy but still has a stable job and is kind.
I am in no way supportive of the "bare branches." They deserve the outcome they're getting for killing their girls. It makes me furious they kidnap and violate girls from my country and the government won't let them return home without giving up their children who are Chinese nationals.
The video didn't talk about the demographics of China either. There are more men than women which naturally lead to more options for women which lead to greater expectations. The minimum expectation is house but China practice very chaotically regulated private housing market and now China has crisis in that sector which lead to many people not getting a house after paying for it.
That because girl babies were aborted or put up for adoption to westerners. China put a stop to adoption
Have children for the GDP. Be wise, don't be folish.children are expensive, invest in yourself not put your hope in another human. Life is hard
I've been seeing lots of video talking about this topic to the point I wish people will stop talking about it simply bcs the decision came from reasons. We all knew the reasons. If you want people to change, you have to change the environment first, and that's what should be fixed first.
It's difficult in any East Asian societies. It's the same in Chinese populations in Indonesia, Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, as well as Taiwan, S.Korea and Japan. So... It will be an uphill battle for China. It's an uphill battle for any Confucius societies.
don't put blame on Confucius.
what's difficult? children born in these countries dont have the burden of being single pressured by multiple generations to do well in school, earn good money, and have a son by the age of 30. they do, but this is usually spread among other siblings.
@@fool1124 I'm from S. Korea and it is quite true
@Smith Jerry read thoroughly. I said Chinese population in Indonesia,...
@@violetbluegreen9307 you learn Confucius in S korean?
Iris Chen wants
1. A guy's salary higher than her
2. Got to have a house and a car in Shanghai.
3. The guy's height has to be 5 feet 9 inches(1.75 meters) and above or she will pass.
4. The guy has to be compassionate and emotional stable.
5. The guy's face has to be above average.
4. At least more compassionate and emotionally stable than her.
And the guy who got all that are the one who will want a women that is:
1. Young & Beautiful (20-25)
2. Feminine & Submissive
All so that they have legacies. Successful man have no need to have a successful women as a wife.
None of it is her. She is delusional. Why she thinks the top 1% man would want her is mind boggling
Lol 37 already still want so much?
She better believe in reincarnation, because shes not gonna find that what she wants in this life.
@@TemplarLove Maybe her list is much longer when she was younger. Now, the remaining 5 is her bottomline.
It’s not easy to raise a child especially in China nowadays
the economy works by having the young working to support the old, but 1 child policy made it so that there's no young to generate the economy to support the age care
The one child policy has virtually eliminated brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews. A bit hard to get your head around as a westerner. The cost of living crisis is worldwide at the moment and the cost of housing is out of control. One question I wonder about, in China, because of the one child policy, is there a disparity in the male/female ratios for that age group. A lack of suitably aged partners must add to the difficulties.
You're darn right there's a disparity between the genders in China. The parents generally see males as valued much more highly than females. A male carries on the family name and is also much more likely to get a higher paying job. So if you're only having one kid most Chinamen prefer a male.
Of course there's a disparity. Women are immensely valuable yet are not valued. A lot of female babies just went "missing". Guess what happened to them. Now there's a lack of women and they're drowning in the filth they created.
Yes there is. They were aborting firls babies, adopting them out ti westerners then the boys had no females to pick from so they went ot the Phillipines and Maylasia. From what I see those marriages don't end well. Cultural differences. China put a stop to adoption from westerners.
@@dsmith9709 What are the cultural differences that make these marriages so difficult?
@自由之声 We still love our families. We just need our private life.
i use to live in BJ and worked in the teaching circuit and lawd......their schedule from the time of children to adulthood is STRENUOUS to say the least.
a number of them just move out of routine and don't really navigate in a way for themselves, but rather what's best for the collective (which isn't necessarily bad, but knowing when to switch that off is important).
the environment doesn't and hasn't cultivated that desire to have families.
As a younger asian man my parents continuously try to force me to get married and have children but I refuse to. I have been very firm that I will never, ever have children & I would get a vasectomy before I have children. Children take away your freedom, cost money & just not something I was ever interested in.
are you an only child and how old are you
Yoooooooo our government studied at big university but can’t understand why young couples nowadays don’t have children or just 1??? Reasons are, cost of living, working hours, bills & bills. These are two main reason. If government can’t figure out the reason, then why are they still playing government 😂😂
They won't admit their own fault.
That 37 yo woman is delusional lmfao
Those demands are ridiculous good luck finding a sane man with all that attributes agreeing to marry her
its getting ridiculous everywhere rise of living and we are too crowed. there is no need to have children when you can't even afford to take care yourself..
lovely comment section, ive really enjoyed reading. brings a lot of perspective to the way this world works in other people's visions
"He should earn more than me, own apartment and car, be good looking and tall ....". Unbelievable that Miss. Iris is still single!!
The responsibility of having a family is demanding. Most of us will accept and see it as a way of life. Those who don't have their choices.
I guess it reflects the success of the education policy. The more educated a population the lower the birth rate
When people become more wealthy and educated, more people would rather spend more resources and money to achieve personal needs, pressure to raise kids is BURDENS, no happiness
Add the problem with tofu dreg buildings and buildings not being finished and a lot of people not finding jobs, and banks not letting people withdraw their money. Also, why would a woman want to get married if there is a lack of gender equality that will make her life harder if she marries.
HAVING KIDS IS DIFFICULT AND PEOPLE IN THE UNITED STATES AREN'T MAKING ENOUGH MONEY TO AFFORD THEM.....SOOO YEAH I'M 31 AND IM OPTING OUT, WHILE I OPTED OUT AT LIKE 12 YEARS OLD...I REALLY NEVER WANTED ANY
Humanity still fails to see why this is happening.. how pathetically disappointing.
Would you want children if you live in an authoritarian state with no freedom ?
Standard of living increases which means you can have more nice things for yourself a nation of only children aren't going to want to share that because sharing isn't part of their make up
xiaoyan has to change her outlook in life. the sons don't have to get married you know. she should be satisfied as long as they are independent and happy.
All over the world people are having this problem excellent for the most countries in Africa & India.
I am shocked to hear that woman saying 70% of her income go to the children education !
Not surprising. The Chinese traditionally placed alot of emphasis on their kids' education.
@@chenghonggoh4746 it's not even traditions now. Without education you have 0,0% to find a decent job with adequate income. That's like an only chance for poor family to rise, bc of this everyone is doing heavily investments in education, 'all-in gamble'
My colleague is using 170% of her income for it, crazy competition here.
If I were her, I would move back to my hometown JUST for the free education! Worth it!
@@Cassie03 lmao, free education for cleaning toilets 👏 you don't understand how system works
*Your kids should be geniuses to not clean toilets, or you should be rich enough to buy them a citizenship.
**If your son graduated in the rural 'hometown' he has no future. 0 chances for citizenship, and without citizenship he is a labour worker for 2$ per hour. That's why everyone is willing to pay
Having children is so overrated, i am glad i don't have any and i can spend my money all for myself. It feels good to have a lot of money for myself and to be able to buy whatever i want whenever i want with no shortage. I always hated the idea of taking care of kids and their school and using energy to take care of them and teach them things, taking care of myself alone is easy and a lot of fun. Glad my gf is not spoilt so i won't have to give her any of my money
What is even this comment 😂
@@maribelg648 this make sense, most people like you have weird instinct that raising children bring happiness
1.4 billions people. the next generation really need to work hard to support that many people.
The chick wants a supermodel, I want a super model. looks like we both ain't getting one
🤣 I'm single too and definitely not supermodel "quality" lol
1:41 the lady is saying that he needs to have good moral values, not look good! Please can we have someone better in Chinese to perform the translation??
Why have kids in an expensive and overpopulated world? No kids for me, ever!!!
the older generations need to understand that the times are different. i refuse to have a kid just because of filial piety/it's what society expects of women. do i want to be a mom? no. the future is bleak, why would i want to being a child into this world? the world can do with some lower population numbers and societies should start thinking about how to deal with that.
It doesn't matter what culture you're from. If you're on a date and the guy is playing on his mobile phone, he's not interested. That type of rudeness is bone deep and why would you want a man like that anyway? 33 years old is not old for dating/marriage/babies. What these idiot men don't realise is that they will find themselves pushed out of the dating market by waiting for God knows who and they deserve to be alone if that's the case. These girls need to just cultivate a happy life for themselves with friends, hobbies, work, travel, etc. There are plenty of men in other countries who would love a lovely, smart, educated Chinese girl as their partners. The world is bigger than just China.
If the population doesn’t increase, a country won’t have poor, precarious workers that will fall head over heels to accept poor wages. And these countries won’t have a large enough population to consume their increase in production.
Yeah, that's not it.
It's domestic spending which is a large part of GDP (China is smaller than most industrialized countries).
Also, it's the tax base. Governments will have to shrink and you lose economies of scale on investments ie infrastructure.
Countries could easily fall into stagflation. Wages going up because not enough workers and growth will fall because less people are spending.
Unfortunately, that's not how it works. If workers demand higher wages, companies can always move to a cheaper country for production i.e SEA countries like Thailand, Vietnam which significantly reduces the cost of hiring their own citizens. There won't even be production to fit the decreasing population.
@@playmakersmusic Idiot. Not exporting. Who the f works in hotels, restaurants, accountants and every other function in your country?
How the hell do you export the cook in a restaurant?
@@playmakersmusic So China is doomed then? A recession might trigger the end of the CCP. If people have no jobs and hungry. They will revolt.
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That's the thing...
Not enough poor people to work for cheap -> wages rise -> industries move out -> economy slows down even more
In this evil country heaving babies is irresponsible.
I mean if they want babies why don't they make them themselves? Jeez these old people want young gens to make kids but pour their toxicity on them
This isn't a problem with China, its a problem with all the Asian countries.
As Chinese Canadian, I can speak to two main reasons for this:
1. Raising a child is too expensive. Due to the size of the Asian country and high average population, the competition interms of school is exponentially harder than it is here in the west. Like literally I went to a top 30 university in the world. And I tried the grade 12 exam, and I would say I could barely get 600 point. You need over 650 to get to a top school in China. This means parent would need to not only invest way more money on tutor lessons, but also gave up valuable work time to bring their kids to these lessons. On top of that even if a Child graduates from a top university in China, the competition in the job market is just as intense.
2. Traditional ideology around marriage. I am not sure if this only occurs in other Asian countries, but I can speak for China. In China female who gave birth must stay in the bed for 30 days to recover from childbirth. It is believed that if they do any intense exercise it would severely harm the body, that is why a baby nanni is usually hired dirty the first 30 days when the child is born, in families that are better off, the nanni is hired for 60-90 days. This is so engraved in Chinese society that if a husband makes the wife do any work, like literally any work, the wife will consider that you don't care about her body, the wife will literally divorce the husband if she feels like she was not well taken care of during the 30 days. Its all over the news in China, where the wife feels like she wasn't taken care of during the first 30 days of child birth, and she ran back to her own parents house and divorced the husband ASAP. These ideologies paired with the fact that most Chinese companies does not allow for maternity of paternity leave, usually means that the wife must quit her job in order to have kids.
It seems as if family and cultural tradition and the corporate/government culture are at tremendous odds. The lack of time off after child birth is an tremendous example. If you know that this is the tradition, how can you not provide 30 days off for your female employees?
@@lisak1895 Well said!
@@lisak1895 The disconnect is identical in the US. American politicians praise 'supporting families' to get votes, but the US has literally no guaranteed parental leave, no mandated vacation leave, and no federally subsidized daycare. American mothers go back to work days or a few weeks after giving birth, unless they work for particularly generous companies.
as a Chinese i found myself as an invasive breed race on earth, sometimes i feel bad for other people race that origin in their own country, that we had took their job...
it hurt a lot for our generation, when parents keep forced the value of traditional stupid beliefs of "if don't married , you carrying bad habit of immature about sex topic, and alone with depression "
the thing is, even after married also do suffering the same sh*t (depression because of financial and divorce)
Nonsense beliefs
You are so funny, you are not "Chinese" when you live in other countries, especially you are shame of being you. you took other people's job? you mean washing dishes? LOL.
@@lokok7643 Chinese is Chinese... is a race.... even born in other country is also called Chinese, you can't change race 🤷♀️ common sense because your physical body is Chinese descendants is in your DNA blood.
you only can identity your born in USA (American Chinese) or from Indonesia (Indonesian Chinese)...
All Chinese are origin from China but not all born in China, now that's the difference.
Example;
all Poodle dog origin country from Germany, only breed out through out the earth.
We Chinese are super huge population of race on earth you can Google the results of Chinese race population (we are like cockroach can be seen anywhere on earth)
@@lokok7643 yah.... we took other countries job.... even people that born in native land don't had chance to get job. (feel bad for the local people)
invasive species animal do that too
they are not origin in that country
but breed on the alien land
good food good environment, who doesn't keep breeding like a cockroach ?
ends up the origin of the native species because extinction or having competition to mutant new genetic.
@@Eleora1997Msia There are 200 countries in the world, how about them living in other countries, do you call their name?
The real Chinese have been living very well in CHINA with enough food and never have been invading other countries and there is no refugee from China to everywhere, on the contrary, Chinese agricultural technology helped Africa, South Asia, and South America to grow more food on their land, and got awards from the United Nations.
Chinese American or Chinese Indonesian like you is a very little proportion of the population in local, read some books. Shame on you to hate your mother got you there. Your father must be sad about you.
Western nations are also suffering this: Kids go to school for longer. A house in the 1960s was 4x the annual wages of the average worker, today a house is 17x the annual wages of the average worker (China is worse, 30x?!). Daycare is hard to find. A family doctor is hard to find. Society has been engineered to crash the population. In the 1960s the world thought it would eat itself out of resources. Policies in every society were created to crush population growth. Today we know we are not going to eat ourselves into mass starvation, but it is too late to change policies that have been putting the screws to reproduction for 50 years.
I’m married, but child free by choice (don’t like kids). Even if I wanted kids, I wouldn’t have them as cancer runs through my family’s genes. All 4 of my grandparents had some sort of cancer and my mum has a terminal illness at a young age.
My husband’s parents wants us to have kids, but why would we bring more cancer into the family genes?
I am a local Shanghainese. I love this documentary because it is just telling the truth. That is what China really looks like. No exaggeration and no bullshitting. Knowing how difficult to live a life in China, I have no choice but to migrate to Australia. Thanks for such a fantastic job you have done.
In Australia you will also not find a wife. Feminism is worldwide disease.
You can't blame the parent for wanting their kid to have everything. That is the traditional value and most don't want to die alone anyways.
Marriage is only for rich people
Kids are for only happy and healthy ones
Struggle, depression for others
A good night sleep with a happy dream is for the lucky😒😒🙄🙄
I dunno fam, my family was resonably poor back in the day, but my childhood was great.
Playing soccer on a dirt field with your friends has its own charm.
Comfort is nice, but there is more to life than comfort.
Iris was not being realistic
This is so interesting. We have our tang ping - it's vanlifing, it's off grid living, it's digital nomads.
If you live in China, there are way more reasons to remain single than have a child.
How can people be both desperate AND picky? Its funny that dating is the same no matter the location.
She's picky, not desperate. Otherwise she would have settled already.
Yes, join the club. I like children and work with them but to be a parent? Hell no. My wife and me are very happy and do not want to be being a child to suffer in this shitty world. Too many failed parents and kids in jail.
Same like going around getting a pet but don't want responible for it.
@@tankman20064 but pet is easier. And not so expensive. Hell I can't even take care of a pet. A plant is too much work
What sorry civilizations. Staying single shows great strength and logic, and deserves great respect.
Totally agree with couples who chose animals over kids. Also much better option for our overpopulated world.
The best way to encourage people to start families is to make it possible for them to live on a single income. If you can't do that, you need to provide services to the parents so they can both work while also having kids. You also need to have a standard of no more than a 10 hour workday, because people can't work 12 hours a day and then go home and take care of their children. Also, a lot of people in the U.S. at least get married so they can afford a house together, so the standard of a guy having to buy a house BEFORE getting married is absolutely a big part of the problem.
Having kids is unrealistic expensive and frustrating an exhausting. No one in any country wants to slave at a job work hours to survive and barely make enough to afford rent THEN come home to also be exhausted and broke
Honestly middle income trap just because of aging population is not applicable in today's economic structures. Automation replacing human.
Are you kidding me?! They think they are too few?? 🤣🤣🤣
Why would you want to bring a child into this really messed up world..
All to satisfy a misplaced unhealthy ego that end up hurting people lives;leaving them clueless and hopeless about the true meaning of life!China isn’t a place to raise children.I learned it the hard way!I feel bad for my colleagues and friends because of how they always look stressed and for some angry!That s not life!And I support the young people who want to take control of their lives instead of perpetuating the same narrative!
i dont want to bring a kid into this world.
People like Iris Chen in the beginning are part of the problem. People who don’t have the same or greater qualities as the partner they want and are even bordering on middle age will never find love.
It's heartwarming to hear such good news about China.
It is pretty typical for birth rate to slow as standard of living increases. In a poorer country, it doesn’t take much more of the family resources to have another child…mostly another space for a bed and another meal serving per child. - plus the kids sadly often contribute to the family income or labor early. But when every child involves expensive pre-school/day care costs, ballet and piano lessons, a college fund, braces, their own room, vacations, etc. as with a first world lifestyle….the economic pressures favor fewer kids.
The same problem is happening in the West. People cannot afford to have families. It is difficult just to pay rent or mortgage and basic bills. Children are very expensive and time consuming. People cannot support multiple children.
While the link between work culture, real estate, marriage, and childbearing in China might be more deeply intertwined than in Western nations, the core issues aren't that different. For younger folks under 40, there is no incentive to work towards traditional milestones like marriage, home-ownership, and kids. It's outdated, and the systems that have sprung up around work culture (long hours for money that can't buy homes) and dating (apps or social media creating unrealistic expectations and a skewed sexual market) have made it more difficult.
This is pretty common in countries where harsh worklife and harsh school life is present as they consume most of tour life
Everywhere I have been, people only want to have 2 kids. Cost of life is high.
even better would be to deconstruct the social norms of placing worth on people owning their own home and their income. that's outdated in the modern world, women work and are independent and don't need a man to look after them or bankroll their lifestyle. with two incomes it becomes more likely you can afford to buy a home together. expecting single people to have their own home in a place where the cost of buying is astronomically high is just shooting yourself in the foot. it seems the government is trying some other solutions but the people themselves need to be the change they want to see and let go of things that are holding them back in their search for love and connection.
it backfire to them, the outcome of their one child policy decades ago
Very interesting documentary.
This breaks my heart💔. Yes, marriage is hard at times. Yes, being a parent is hard at times. But my family - even through the hard times - has been the greatest joy in my life. I am a grandparent now - loving my 5 angels. I am hoping something changes for these wonderful, talented Chinese young people. Career goals never hug you at night & say, “I love you.”💕
I love my dog - a buff colored Pekingese named Sushi.🐶 Sorry, but a dog doesn’t take the place of a child in any way close. If China doesn’t start changing some things, the whole country will collapse in one generation. Please Chinese leaders. Help promote families so they can heave children & not suffer so much.
yes, kids bring joy. I used to say i love my kids too much to have them.
Career goals do keep you fed and sheltered - which is important in a world with no social security net, rampant in inequality* and no welfare.
I don't blame them. After working long hours, studying all my childhood, and being expected to care for parents - I'd nope out as well.
My expensive blankets hug me and keep me warm and I sleep very well with my peace of mind.
Honestly it's not that everyone suddenly doesn't want to have kids, it's just become extremely difficult. Raising kids has never been easy obviously but now people can barely keep themselves afloat with the living expenses.
I cherish my family and wanted to have kids but not sure if that would be possible.
ive been single my entire life and i have no children. i love it lol. i love my freedom and friends. being paired up is overrated but im unusual i guess
Woman: my man needs to be ivy league educated, 6 figure earner, Korean oppa with a mansion.
Also Woman: why am I still single? Dating is so hard.
Like bruh lower those expectations a bit; all the rich tycoon sons are engaged to other rich families.
Was that was she was expecting? I think wanting an educated man with good looks nice salary and a house is the norm. But asking for very rich, extraordinary looks is a bit much though. Cause clearly she is no divine beauty and though educated...doesn't seem to be a Stanford student. As for the house...hope she is also rich cause then the man with the house will also want a rich wife. Her age is a big problem since she is 37 years old and her child bearing years are already waning. Rich men have no problem supporting children's finances...as such they will def prefer younger women.
Bruh, parents just out there with cv's of their children(s) attributes!
if MMO economies are anything to go by, a shrinking population is almost never good for the economy. people stop selling stuff and money velocity is extremely slow
you can't keep growing the population forever though, there's a finite bottleneck of resources