Your Kids Are Exactly Who They Think They Are... Right.

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  • @ThomasSmith14562
    @ThomasSmith14562 หลายเดือนก่อน +1353

    I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using

  • @notbill08
    @notbill08 ปีที่แล้ว +1784

    When my daughter was three, she wanted to grow up to be a mermaid. We said Ok, but we did not have her legs surgically modified and keep her in fish tank. She's 33 now, married with kids and works in marketing. I think she's glad we kept her a human till she was old enough to make an informed mature decision.

    • @jacole1234
      @jacole1234 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      This cracked me up so hard! Perfect sarcastic comment. My 3 year old still wants to be a princess… I suppose both are as likely. Lol

    • @Bornchiller123
      @Bornchiller123 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      best comment on the topic I've read in a long time

    • @Hardcore_Remixer
      @Hardcore_Remixer ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I'm here waiting for the LGBTQIA+ to call you racist for being a realist.

    • @GallowayJesse
      @GallowayJesse ปีที่แล้ว +3

      "works in marketing"

    • @notbill08
      @notbill08 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@Hardcore_Remixer Add an "M" for Mermaid 🧜‍♀️

  • @DJTS1991
    @DJTS1991 ปีที่แล้ว +994

    When I was 8, I was diagnosed with Autism back in the 90s.
    While all the kids were playing sports at Recess and Lunch, I stayed in the library, reading novels, playing computer games or trading through comic books.
    This was perfectly normal behaviour, but because I wasn't doing what all the other were doing, I was branded as different and treated as if I was a problem.
    That was the identity that was given to me. I was apparently stupid, and lazy, and irresponsible, because that's how all people with Autism were supposedly. I was so confused.
    It wasn't until my early 20s when I realised I had no real idea about who I was - and partly with Peterson's help, transformed my life. I found jobs, completed two Degrees, bought a house and even got engaged last week (yay). And with some therapy, I realised my parents and teachers had really no honest to God idea about what they were doing. Any deviation from the norm, and they'd just start randomly throwing labels around. And like I said, this was the 90s.
    Life is seriously a mediation between your wants and the environment.
    And now I see countless friends and family members my age labelling themselves with virtually every acronym under the sun - ASD, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, OCD. It's trendy now, it's the new thing. We have a generation of Millennials, and some Gen Z, absolutely clueless about how to operate in wide society because they were never permitted to introspect in their youth. Parents wanted children smart enough to get by, but dumb enough to do what they said. That's not a child. That's a pet.

    • @ChaoticNeutralMatt
      @ChaoticNeutralMatt ปีที่แล้ว +28

      And it's how school has largely been set up as. It's tragic thinking back what I could have used growing up, but in some aspects that's likely the parent cycle. Passing on what you consider important to pass on within the limits of how you've grown at that point and how *you* were taught.

    • @truskakwa
      @truskakwa ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Dear stranger, many thanks for the comment here. Was looking for something like this. Congrats to you and your fiancee. My husband was almost diagnosed with autism, in the 90s, too. I was labelled problematic and too outspoken? Now our child gets very very excited over things, there are already people telling us we should monitor him for autism. I get that it is possible, but this comment gave me a lot of hope for my parenting. We don't have to perpetuate the mistakes.

    • @ResonantNewt
      @ResonantNewt ปีที่แล้ว

      Mental lazyness destroys lifes

    • @notus299
      @notus299 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      They say they have stuff like adhd even though they watch tiktok and watch short videos that cut their attention span. These stuff are 100% fixable they just want the lable consciously or unconsciously so they have an excuse to not fix it.
      My friend had insomnia(apparantly) and after me suggesting him to stop going on his phone 1 hour before bed. SO he went to listened and he said he hasn't gotten such a good sleep before. He thought he had insomnia and was diagnosed but after listening to 1 idea it's fixed.

    • @maryavanbeelen9276
      @maryavanbeelen9276 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank for your point of view

  • @rb7454
    @rb7454 ปีที่แล้ว +234

    As a woman who was deceived by the career mantra, I approve this message. Just gave birth last week at 41 years of age. The last thing I want to do is return to work. I want to stay at home and have more kids. Trying to see how to make that happen by cutting down expenses and encouraging my hubby to pursue his career goals . I’ve loved Peterson’s message for a long time but now it’s actually a necessary voice in my home.

    • @OdhinnAwake
      @OdhinnAwake ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Most women who go this route end up finding out they can no longer have children. You are in the very small happy minority.
      Were I in your shoes, I would be screaming from the rooftops to any woman who will listen how pathologically dangerous the current social model is for women, and how unbelievably lucky I was.

    • @eliwilliamson7849
      @eliwilliamson7849 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Congratulations! May you have the energy to keep up the kiddos.

    • @IrishEyes12
      @IrishEyes12 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Congradulations! I stay home with my kids, and its a hell of a sacrifice for our family, but my husband and I both value having a parent at home, so we make it work. I wish you and your family all the best.

    • @wanderinghome9979
      @wanderinghome9979 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So, so worth it. Blessings to you and yours.

    • @sleep3417
      @sleep3417 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Considering how much higher the risk of birth defects and serious disabilities is for giving birth at 40, compared to 20-30, that's pretty fucked up.

  • @telatomodosh7410
    @telatomodosh7410 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Recently, I've noticed that a lot of my peers on social media have been accusing Peterson of being a horrible person. As someone who has watched and been tremendously helped by Peterson's lectures in the past 3-4 years, there's no way I'm ever going to believe that. I am grateful with my life, and I hope to live one that is sufficient of the mercy that has been given to me.

    • @horacio373
      @horacio373 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Good for you, take a step forward and ask them directly what exactly makes them believe he's not a good and honest person, I garantee 99% of them wont be able to articulate a solid argument, its just nonsense

    • @idonthaveaname42
      @idonthaveaname42 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yea i don't get it. i love him

    • @sarahmurphy-nf4yl
      @sarahmurphy-nf4yl ปีที่แล้ว

      Peterson is BRILLIANT 👏 👌

    • @Svensk7119
      @Svensk7119 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@idonthaveaname42Grammar note: "yea" is pronounced "yay". It is the opposite of "nay". I think you mean, "yeah".

    • @Svensk7119
      @Svensk7119 ปีที่แล้ว

      I wish people would give him his title. Dr. Peterson.

  • @nailsdeb
    @nailsdeb ปีที่แล้ว +92

    One thing I have learned about adults in the care of children, they need us more than I ever realized. Not to be overbearing or indoctrinating. Just to love, mentor, guide and support. A sharing of wisdom, more important than I previously thought.

  • @SardonyxOrange
    @SardonyxOrange ปีที่แล้ว +295

    As a fellow kid, I am incredibly grateful for my parents. They have taught me many things I cherish and look up to. :]

    • @raymondk.hessle607
      @raymondk.hessle607 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I had to build my whole persona from scratch cuz of lack of role modles in my parents. Highly disfunctional, both. I try to find the positive side in that, i guess i have a strong base now

    • @Kowalski7791
      @Kowalski7791 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yep, you can't beat looking at the clouds, the sky, the sun, moon, stars, I cherish them all too

    • @someyoungguyjohnson7239
      @someyoungguyjohnson7239 ปีที่แล้ว

      Are your parents conservatives?

    • @SardonyxOrange
      @SardonyxOrange ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@someyoungguyjohnson7239 are you serious? Are you saying parents who are democrats aren’t good parents?

    • @SardonyxOrange
      @SardonyxOrange ปีที่แล้ว

      @@someyoungguyjohnson7239 that was unnecessarily rude of me, I’m sorry. Yes they are but that doesn’t matter to me.

  • @zanedzikonski4234
    @zanedzikonski4234 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    Jordon is a breath of fresh air for living in this world that I no longer understand

    • @mrautismo420
      @mrautismo420 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You know he says things not to "reveal the truth" but to drive his own agenda.

    • @theredknight9314
      @theredknight9314 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@mrautismo420be quite your troll.

    • @mrautismo420
      @mrautismo420 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@theredknight9314 go ahead and keep on taking notes while ur daddy talks

    • @DJToneRI
      @DJToneRI ปีที่แล้ว +2

      JOR-DON

    • @wallihaley5194
      @wallihaley5194 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@mrautismo420 , what do suppose his agenda? Because I think he has great clarity of thought.

  • @tren380
    @tren380 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    My wife, 44, has been in a professional career since college. Successful career, makes 6 figures, three kids in their teens. The last few years she has been asking me more and more “can I quit my job I don’t want to do this anymore”.
    I’m of course like of course you can, we need to make adjustments to life style and that’s ok I’m all for your happiness and I am happy to keep working and make money for us to live and you can stay home and change to a new life style.
    It’s just been interesting to watch her view point change from the 90s you must have a competitive job as a woman and now she is realizing it’s not important.

    • @acacia_w
      @acacia_w ปีที่แล้ว +5

      She'll possibly experience perimenopause on top of everything else soon and that can be a real danger zone for women. It can be extremely difficult to keep things together when going through a huge hormonal shift. Hopefully that won't happen but it can.

    • @TheTrooper424
      @TheTrooper424 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      She wants to quit her job after missing all of your kid’s childhood? Little late to be a housewife now!

    • @Leo-mr1qz
      @Leo-mr1qz ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@acacia_w She went through 3 child births, missed her children's most vulnerable years of life, and perimenapause is what is causing her to want to quit her job? If that doesn't scream NARCISSIST I truly don't know what does. 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @Leo-mr1qz
      @Leo-mr1qz ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@acacia_w Or we can call a space a spade and not waste our empathy on someone who chooses money over her on offspring. If she needed to live a luxurious lifestyle, she should've married a more capable man.

    • @arminarlert2525
      @arminarlert2525 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      You guys are being so insensitive to his wife. It was driven into women's heads that they are just as capable of doing jobs like men. She probably wanted to find a purpose for herself in her job and when she had kids, she probably did everything she could for her kids and having a job most likely helped. When she wanted to quit her job, it was completely acceptable and he did the right thing and let her stay home. I believe women have the choice to choose if they want to work or not, and should be able to change it if they feel like it's the best for them. I think it should apply to men as well if their wife is happy with it.

  • @Zaccyonline
    @Zaccyonline ปีที่แล้ว +80

    The MySpace “about me” section was my generation’s first introduction to identity, it was difficult for me to fill in and to this day I cringe at the thought of putting labels on myself. Today kids wear their “about me” section on their sleeves; as their pronouns, ever changing - experimenting - and revising based on the reaction of their target audience. But they’ll come to the conclusion later: how others perceive you is your true identity …not what you declare yourself to be.

    • @zacksharpe
      @zacksharpe ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what if youre a conservative in a family of liberals

    • @RictaScale.Official
      @RictaScale.Official ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I know exactly what you are referring to - putting into words (boxes) to summarise your entire being with a few labels.

    • @proudatheist2042
      @proudatheist2042 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Sometimes what others perceive you (or others) as is totally wrong. People can be absolutely deluded or successful in some ways but delusional in others.

    • @viperstriker4728
      @viperstriker4728 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@proudatheist2042 But what's the chance that everyone is totally wrong about you? Of course majority doesn't decide truth, but if a lot of people think a thing, it's worth looking into it, especially since it will be a lot more objective then self reflection.

    • @Mlai00
      @Mlai00 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@proudatheist2042 Don't you see it that doesn't matter in the real world what you think of yourself as? Unless you're a monk living in the mountains, how others perceive you is what matters.

  • @paintedlady4589
    @paintedlady4589 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    I was very unhappy for many years when I held down jobs outside the home. My husband made pretty good money but I felt like I had to bring in money too. When I finally had had enough of jackass employers and quit... what a relief. Come to find out my husband liked me being at home and feeling better. I like having a nice home and gardening and doing all the woman things. I do not like dealing with the crap out there today.

    • @truthismycause2800
      @truthismycause2800 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're just weak and pampered, I guess.

    • @andrewfreiji4647
      @andrewfreiji4647 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      There is nothing more unappealing and unromantic to me as a man than to interact with women like as if they are men. Which is how the media especially in modern movies tries to push. Because as a man I see you as the creator and mother of my children or future children, and I want to take care of you. Just my thoughts

    • @gazthejaz8910
      @gazthejaz8910 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@andrewfreiji4647 How is a working women like a man? Like seriously, there’s no gender when it comes to working. Gender is fluid There’s no such attributes

    • @MusiicRoolz
      @MusiicRoolz ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​​@@andrewfreiji4647 to be fair though that's just you in your specific bubble of reality/how you grew up. I think we need to allow for both the mother-woman image and individual-woman image (more selfish and goal driven let's say, regardless of jobs). the mother image completely makes sense and it is very biologically programmed for a lot of us - but there should still be a choice. and it doesn't mean motherhood has to be your entire life for the rest of eternity.
      some women live in that reality where they want to be taken care of and it works for them. some women want a team partnership, an equal (not saying both the man and woman do the exact same thing, though they could). some women may want to be the breadwinner, but that means they take on all the responsibility (some women these days try to adopt this role but don't actually fully accept the traditionally man's role because it's hard)

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm glad for you that you have a solid marriage. That your husband backs you and is happier w/ being at home, content as a housewife. Societal pressure is strong these days. It's great you both settled in to what works better for the both of you.

  • @jensmarkvardsen1192
    @jensmarkvardsen1192 ปีที่แล้ว +127

    Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I am still amased at how good it is to see you up and fighting again. I wish you the best

  • @yizzirman
    @yizzirman ปีที่แล้ว +485

    Imagine spending decades becoming a genius in several fields, just to have to argue with someone about gender

    • @yizzirman
      @yizzirman ปีที่แล้ว +33

      @Annoying Commentator I wasn't necessarily talking about several scientific fields. I just generally mean that he's HIGHLY educated in several avenues of life that are more than practical with the subject matter that he covers. He doesn't need to be a master in them though. I still agree with you though.

    • @bpots717
      @bpots717 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👏👏

    • @thelittlemoonling
      @thelittlemoonling ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Seriously!!!

    • @tommroy
      @tommroy ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hes no genius...i think he spent time in academia just to hear himself talk...

    • @nicolegerard2907
      @nicolegerard2907 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He is simply a man who rambles that occasionally has a good thought and communicates it in an eloquent way. If you really listen sometimes his thoughts go off the rails to different topic. By his claim all trans kids are badly behaved. 🤨 Yeah... Nope. Someone can sound smart but the ideas are not all there sometimes.

  • @_tndn
    @_tndn ปีที่แล้ว +47

    JP is a father to us all. God bless him

  • @Viper3220
    @Viper3220 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    Out of the thousands of JP videos I've seen, this one is top ten. Wow.
    You precisely crystallized ideas I've had bouncing around in my head for years. I had put the connections together, but I was still knee-deep in refining it enough to explain them.

    • @ForGlory
      @ForGlory ปีที่แล้ว

      Good!
      Now go purge 1) modern love, 2) queerdom and 3) queer marriage!
      Remember: ONCE YOU GET THIS MUCH PROOF AND INCENTIVE, YOU ARE MORALLY BOUND TO TAKE ACTION AGAINST EVIL!
      Alright, don't let us down!

    • @matthewcurry3565
      @matthewcurry3565 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You can know it all, and not change a thing. You could even make it worse.
      -jesus

    • @PecTheSpec
      @PecTheSpec ปีที่แล้ว

      Mental power ❤

    • @raymondk.hessle607
      @raymondk.hessle607 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thats exactly what i love about his guy. His takes include pices i thought before but could not connect in a propper way. Then this guy comes along and slashes throug the loose ends of the thoughts i managed to barely grasp my mind around in some bright moment and knits something from it

    • @lukeshioshio
      @lukeshioshio ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@ForGlory Jordan Peterson is pro gay marriage. I think you're in the wrong place.

  • @KelleyKat
    @KelleyKat ปีที่แล้ว +33

    The point that Dr. Peterson makes about poverty keeping people from having a broader perspective is profound. I've witnessed an effect of it: visiting Mexico years ago, I was dismayed by the litter - plastic bags were drifting everywhere. My own home state of WA had for years the slogan "Keep Washington Green" and it was rare to see roadside litter. But that was then and this is now: as more people, whether they are migrants or not, fall into despair, the litter level has also increased. It's probably a barometer of not just disregard, but desperation.

    • @MusiicRoolz
      @MusiicRoolz ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Well, yeah. it's a different world - different priorities. they don't have the liberty of sitting around on social media banging on about greenpeace

    • @wealthyblackman2655
      @wealthyblackman2655 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Obviously you have never had to face accountability through the courts!
      Most litter is cleaned up by detainees that face accountability for minor crimes.

  • @CidPsy
    @CidPsy ปีที่แล้ว +31

    If I took seriously all the whimsical considerations my daughter could be, she wouldn't be standing with us today.
    From one moment to the next she is:
    A cat
    A dog
    A cow
    A bird
    A BOY
    A pirate
    A nurse
    A doctor
    Hell... It's like she's ROLEPLAYING, which is INTEGRAL TO HER DEVELOPMENT as a human being, taking all these roles gives her context and she willingly puts herself in the shoes of the animals and those who work, I feel that's a good way to built empathy and appreciation for life.
    I seriously don't understand why some parents take the words of their children so literally. Our jobs is to teach them lots of stuff, and one of those teachings is loving themselves and the body they came into this world.

  • @valclub479
    @valclub479 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I'm a substitute teacher. I see a lot. I dearly appreciate children at all ages. What I see is a need for importance or difference for their autonomy and significance. Weekly, with older children in general, they want to pull me in to respond to their Identify specifications. Today, a young man said, "Hey ,I'm gay."
    I said , "ok, good for you." Then trying to gaslight me, he says, "Don't you want to know my other pronouns?"
    I said, "No, just your name because I won't be talking about you, so what name do you prefer?"
    He said, "Oh, you don't care about my pronouns? I'm putting you on Twitter.
    I said, sounds like you are very important. He said , "I am...over 1,000 followers.
    Good for you.
    I said , "You are who you think you are. Why should I care? Are you more upset about that I don't care and I believe you can live the life you want and Identify the way you want and that's good for you, but I don't have to care either way how you live your life? Isn't that what you want? Why should I care? So what name would you like me to use?
    Kinda sad

  • @noah1502
    @noah1502 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    "all social relations are negotiations about identity" "identity is not subjective" i agree wholeheartedly.

  • @ellymae5313
    @ellymae5313 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Im not a mom yet but I am a housewife, and although I hated my office job, I also hated being at home. And then my husband atarted his own business and started taking me to work with him, and I loved it! And I realized that working in the office and staying home (as i had experienced those things) was the same - being alone all day in a poorly lit space, doing tasks that don't mean a lot, loosing your mind. Going to work with my husband has helped us get closer because we see each other working and help each other accomplish things, and we're together and he expresses his appreciation that I'm there. I still do house stuff and that's fine, but im so glad I get to look forward to being with him and being helpful to him on days when we work together. It gives me a lot of purpose and joy to be outside, working with my hands, being next to him, and knowing that he appreciates what i do. And i can appreciate him more, having awareness of his workload that I previously didn't have.

  • @xbookx
    @xbookx ปีที่แล้ว +45

    These are my notes for the children identity part. Hope it helps.
    Much of what we do to children is confuse them in relation to identity.
    If identity is about temporary feeling, when meaning are not precise, subjectively define, it's equivalent to misbehaving 2 years old.
    All social relations are negotiation of identity.
    A 2 year old do not have the maturity to orient themselves, they are impulsive, and unable to engage in social play.
    A social relationship is an invitation to play, if it's a tyranical approach, then it's antisocial and doesn't lead to development of social skills.
    Children can engage in pretend play(role playing), to play, to experiment a chosen identity over a span of time with playmates. A game is played with assigned rules that is negotiated.

  • @JCOwens-zq6fd
    @JCOwens-zq6fd ปีที่แล้ว +68

    There has to be a balance found between feeling/emotion & thinking/logic. Both are necessary just like both the fathers & the mothers influence is needed to properly raise a child.

    • @Veopm
      @Veopm ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Sure, but the thing is people are saying don't think with your emotions. Emotions are not there to think. Sure, go ahead, have fun with them, feel; but don't use them as a rational argument, that makes zero sense. And in regards that need to be addressed with rationality use logic, in regards that need to strive for empathy use emotions, just don't mix them up

    • @baddog6003
      @baddog6003 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Veopm Well put.

    • @bruce7548
      @bruce7548 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It is not possible for humans to cease from having emotion, but intelligence can fade from both an individual life and from the life of a culture. There is not a left/right complementarity between emotions and reason but a lower / higher complementarity. Biologically the lower is more essential (respiration, digestion, reproduction) but the higher element is what makes us recognizably human. Without it we are indistinguishable from minerals.

    • @YaBoiNicho
      @YaBoiNicho ปีที่แล้ว

      Emotion and logic both needed. Favoring one to detriment of the other is not effective nor healthy.

    • @minionlover6727
      @minionlover6727 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@YaBoiNicho Anime profile picture detected, opinion rejected.

  • @machielvanderschoot5180
    @machielvanderschoot5180 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Changing your identity based on your current feelings, is called "a personality disorder"

    • @sugahbabydoll1
      @sugahbabydoll1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But that sounds like today kids 10 yrs old, I think I'm gay so therefore I am and that is called, "Coming out." I feel like in today's modern society there is a silent war, one where groups of ppl who have strong opinions about the way of life they want to subscribe to are viciously passive aggressive about selling their narrative. Aka social media, targeting young influential minds, & advertising to young adults. It's sickening.

  • @truskakwa
    @truskakwa ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I am gonna implement your wisdom into raising my son and since we are now expecting another one, I hope we can help our kids navigate through the BS.

  • @terma117
    @terma117 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    This man is a blessing on the world

  • @Huckleberry04
    @Huckleberry04 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This all has me so down. People are in such a chaotic state they cant even make a decision so they call it fluidity as if that is a good thing. My heart aches for everything.

  • @OccamsRazor393
    @OccamsRazor393 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Exactly. How do they know how they feel when the initial premise is they are confused by what they feel.

  • @anecologistspeaks6422
    @anecologistspeaks6422 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Oh! Thank you so much. I just found you. This was so spot on. Thank you - just what I needed to hear. We’re doing it, collectively, communally. Let’s keep on with the mission. We know what it is.

  • @donnafoster5215
    @donnafoster5215 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Dr. Peterson’s answer makes sense.

  • @Davidjune1970
    @Davidjune1970 ปีที่แล้ว +664

    Woman are unhappy because they are working now like men. They are also dying younger now because of the stress of work.

    • @viperstriker4728
      @viperstriker4728 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      That's probably a fair assumption, but do you happen to have any sources on that? Or a full explanation of why you think that? (first hand experience or just looking at trends?)

    • @Davidjune1970
      @Davidjune1970 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      @@viperstriker4728 news articles in the 90’s and early 00’s were noticing the gap between men and women lifespans were decreasing. More women were dying of heart disease and they were wondering if it was work related as more women were working. There were other articles noting that women were experiencing health issues due to changes in their social roles … ie working in the office. That was back when the internet was dial up though and you wouldn’t find them online because people thought the internet was useless back then.
      Gabor Mate has a talk on the role stress plays in disease which is on this platform. And we all know work is a big role in stress. As is money which is also related to work.

    • @viperstriker4728
      @viperstriker4728 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@Davidjune1970 Thanks of the info.

    • @chrismelcaroful
      @chrismelcaroful ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It just seems so true, I would like to see a study on it.

    • @shhh3185
      @shhh3185 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      Women work because we have to. The world isn’t set up to support women, motherhood or indeed life.

  • @natalia1045
    @natalia1045 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am SAHM now with our third and I am so happy. I don’t want to get back to work and I am so thankful for my husband that he provides so I can be at home with my children. It’s so precious to me ❤

  • @ivyb4351
    @ivyb4351 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The first fifteen years of a child's life is the most important, you can't get those years back. if you want any chance of your child or children being a productive citizen you have to put the time in. if you know your child is in school for hours a day you need to know the curriculum that is being taught. What ideologies are being put in their mind? wherever they go you need to know what they are learning and who they are learning it from.

  • @mdarrenu
    @mdarrenu ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Its the job of adults to offer roles to children - its called role models - whether as parents, teachers or random adults who interact - people will try different roles and eventually take one with minor modifications based on their uniqueness - but it still fits a role - positive to society - or unfortunately negative to society. Your new role as an adult can offer a new model for other newer children.

  • @wineberry6
    @wineberry6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Knowledge applied for the wellbeing of people is so rare these days

  • @jennymcgowin9140
    @jennymcgowin9140 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Wow! Excellent commentary! Everyone should listen to this! Thank you Dr Peterson for always giving us the facts and wonderful analysis of these important topics.

  • @sophielovespb
    @sophielovespb ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Don't apologize, Jordan! Thank you for speaking up! ❤️

  • @williamzhao661
    @williamzhao661 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Grateful we get to hear out your wisdom in trying times. You offer us much inspiration !

  • @KEW-pd1jn
    @KEW-pd1jn ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is why Sunday School is beneficial! As a child, I believed that I couldn’t stand going. yet, as an adult now. I know I could be struggling with this difficult life far worse, and have less understanding about what to expect and how to handle the unknown factors in this world.

  • @shawnastarr3605
    @shawnastarr3605 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thanks for all you do Jordan, I love that your wife is there with you. I learn so much listening to you. I’m praying for a better world and that things will change for the better and that it happens sooner than later our planet is so messed up it makes me so sad.

  • @rong1924
    @rong1924 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I can’t think of many things more destructive to kids than confusing them over the most fundamental distinction among people; boy/girl, man/woman, mommy/daddy.

  • @abulahab6528
    @abulahab6528 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    At the school where I teach, kids arrive and register their presence on the “Zones of Regulation” poster, which includes magnets marked Bored, Silly, Angry, etc.
    Kids are to identify their feelings and have others accommodate them.
    They’re not taught to identify their emotions AND THEN HOW TO WORK THROUGH THEM within the social contract; they’re only taught to identify their FEELINGS at the moment.
    As a new teacher to the school, but a veteran of 35 years, I am nauseated.

    • @shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405
      @shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My god. Please refuse to do this in your class. ❤️

    • @srodriguez721
      @srodriguez721 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      And we wonder where the entitlement and selfishness comes from.

    • @abulahab6528
      @abulahab6528 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405 Oh I do publicly mock it! The freshly-graduated from liberal universities also all have the alphabet people rainbow flag In Their Classrooms with the phrase “LGBTQ Are Welcome Here”.
      That too I openly deride, and I have not heard a peep about it from them. But these young teachers have obviously nudged their grade 4 &5 students to confront me & ask if alphabet people are therefore N O T welcome in my class.
      It IS a war.

    • @thanoscube8573
      @thanoscube8573 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They had this in my special Ed class, it hurts a lot bud I know.

  • @katiekrieger4749
    @katiekrieger4749 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so grateful for Dr. Peterson. He is a huge part of the reason why I'm remotely sane in this society.

  • @talongreenlee7704
    @talongreenlee7704 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love these kinds of videos with Jordan Peterson. The host asked one question at the beginning and just sat back and listened for the rest of the video. Very refreshing change from the constant bickering I see in most political videos on TH-cam.

  • @hanswoast7
    @hanswoast7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Identity has many component, some are objective, some are interpersonal, some are subjective, others are probably missing - since I am not an psychologist.
    - "I am a doctor" (objective)
    - "I get a long well with others" (interpersonal)
    - "I am someone who loves to eat raw butter" (subjective)
    These components typically are directly or indirectly influence by personality, genetics, skills, profession, social context, etc. Over some of these we have arbitrary control (subjective), but most of them are how we conduct ourselves / are seen by other / or what role we play. So most of these components of identity are not just purely subjective, but emerge from the relations to others.
    Ideally your self assigned identities are the same as what others would ascribe to you and also what objectively fits. But if any of these 3 (or more?) identities deviate from the others, there is some form of a crisis.

    • @TallisKeeton
      @TallisKeeton ปีที่แล้ว +1

      theres no such thing as "raw" butter - for butter to exist at all it has to be "raw" there is no "not raw" butter :)

    • @tennicksalvarez9079
      @tennicksalvarez9079 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TallisKeeton is gee raw butter then?

    • @TallisKeeton
      @TallisKeeton ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tennicksalvarez9079 ah yes, I forgot about that one :)

  • @dauntlessminds
    @dauntlessminds ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really appreciate Jordan's perspective as someone who's lived longer and researched and studied on these matters at the crossroads of psychology, sociology, philosophy, religion and politics. And of course his courage to say, no, this is delusional and here's why.

  • @Svensk7119
    @Svensk7119 ปีที่แล้ว

    I did not realize mine own identity until my twenties. I realized that, "I am I. I am not just my father's son, but he is also my father." I am not just an adjunct to this or that person, they also have a responsibility of relationship to me. That made me realize that I was not an expendable buffer, useful only for dying at the right moment to save someone in the family that was actually valuable. I, too, was (and am) valuable!
    Some people won't understand, but for me, this was discovering fire!!!

  • @Lebensfreude
    @Lebensfreude ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It is always a pleasure to listen to Dr. Peterson!

  • @MartyMcDonnald
    @MartyMcDonnald ปีที่แล้ว +16

    He had great rants before.
    But this one was a masterpiece!

  • @Project_Hangover
    @Project_Hangover ปีที่แล้ว +7

    A lot of this honestly feels like basic common sense. And I do still feel like most people still think with common sense similarly, in their own unique ways. But it is truly without a doubt that social media amplifies the voices of those that are tainted with these new 'ideas', if you can call them that. Point is, it feels a little sad as well about hearing simple virtues being heard again and most people, again, don't remember being taught as a child. If those child's were blessed enough for a basic decent education

  • @Degenevesting
    @Degenevesting ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I remember when I was about 7, and Revenge of the Sith had just come out. My best mate and I would spend entire weekends having massive Star Wars battles where I would be Obi Wan and he was Anakin, culminating the giant, backyard forest based imaginary war by a day long stick based lightsaber duel between us, with lemonade breaks throughout.
    God I miss being a kid.
    Imagine how shit it must be nowadays.

  • @Jukilady
    @Jukilady ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love this man. He’s everything a man should be

  • @lauradsouza1345
    @lauradsouza1345 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm sick of this touchy feely garbage.
    God bless Dr Peterson, and your lovely wife 🙏

  • @MrsGladysz
    @MrsGladysz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am so thankful for these videos of Dr. Jordan Peterson . I live in the middle of Appalachia and don't have easy access to live events. Keep up the good work! Thank you for ALL you do.

  • @yanisbourgeois9028
    @yanisbourgeois9028 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Dr Peterson's digressions are one of the reasons I like him so much

  • @titussamuel2440
    @titussamuel2440 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Over spoilt kids become anti social, some parents are extra indulgent because they do not love enough, they can't love because they have a big limitation not because they won't. Caring for such kids could profit from agency support. A right self image at an early image is what expresses itself through adolscence and youth.

  • @diannewood2039
    @diannewood2039 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can barely hear this. I don't know why this happens on TH-cam. I can hear fine on Rumble. Too bad. I'd like to hear Jordan Peterson.

  • @RictaScale.Official
    @RictaScale.Official ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This man's brain is pretty bloody brilliant.

  • @lisamcfall5599
    @lisamcfall5599 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg! We did EXACTLY this with our first son 28 years ago! Steps and all! Lol IT WORKED! We have 8 kiddos and he’s the only one that needed to “frow a fit” on the steps until he was ready to join the family again! Jordan Peterson was speaking to us even before we knew he existed! 🙌

  • @geridannels1701
    @geridannels1701 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    God bless you and your family Jordan!

  • @jonnaborosky8836
    @jonnaborosky8836 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Dr. Peterson for being willing to explain the truth to people. Your role is so valuable to the human race! Thank you for sharing, sir.

  • @Yhorm
    @Yhorm ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Until philosophers are kings, and kings philosophers, mankind will be doomed to repeat the same mistakes

  • @Nate-vi6pm
    @Nate-vi6pm ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He says in irony as husband to a wife “what I feel goes, woman… see how that goes” exactly. Why are we letting children dictate who they are? Parents give their child identity and forms them. Parents are responsible for their vulnerable children’s identity, values, teaching, training moral compass… children are not mature enough to know anything about much and they cannot consent to adult decisions like medical procedures and complex relationships with adults. This entire thing of erasing children and women and having no boundaries is sick and based on specific interests like money and fetishes.

  • @angels-lift1902
    @angels-lift1902 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for the inspiration Dr. Peterson 😊

  • @kingdicehoi4lubu746
    @kingdicehoi4lubu746 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As a bi man I hate that they took LGB which was for rights of people and ADULTS AND TEENS who were able to make the sexual decision to be free to do so and changed it into this horrific monster of what it was

  • @antoniorossi1441
    @antoniorossi1441 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Grazie Dottor Jordan. Un'analisi limpida precisa e ricca di suggerimenti molto importanti!

  • @abgnbd3294
    @abgnbd3294 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    so good and so needed.

  • @hams_ollo
    @hams_ollo ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Interesting too that eliminating poverty will provide better opportunities for parents to bond with and teach their children instead of relying on a public education system to raise the children according to the wins of what a Given government deems right in their given moment of “feelings”

  • @jln60835
    @jln60835 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your service, Dr Peterson!

  • @Outis634
    @Outis634 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Banger! Keep 'em coming!

  • @nailsdeb
    @nailsdeb ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I would NEVER tell a child “how you feel is a fact” There is no bigger responsibility than mentoring and guiding children regardless of your privilege.

  • @raumograeywolf5477
    @raumograeywolf5477 ปีที่แล้ว

    I always do enjoy when the good doctor gets into lecturing on what the data is, what the research has found

  • @Jfreek5050
    @Jfreek5050 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Imagine making drugs to castrate sex offenders and losing your moral compass so hard you pull a 180 and start using it on children to fulfill their whims.

  • @sherylpalmer6092
    @sherylpalmer6092 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Jordan!! I would love to be in hia audience.

  • @mariagarced1013
    @mariagarced1013 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pescador de Hombres, I so wanted to hear you today! Gracias!!!! Today is "Emancipation Day", and there is no school for some here in Puerto Rico. As I have mentioned before, I was a teacher. My child is considered to be of special education. I love him so much. I often feel sad though, as if I were forced to live in the Matrix. I can see teachers, people-both men and women- happily eating filet mignon, and making deals, with Agents. My boy will be a great man one day. The best gift I can give him, is to STAY AWAKE. Society, seems to be in trouble, but it always is. It's different now, but it's still trouble. The real problem, in my opinion, of course, is the NARCISSISM of teachers and school administrators. It's ALL ABOUT social media. I am, DISGUSTED, BECAUSE I am awake. Thank you so much. I feel like Ariel, shaking her head to Sebastian..."If we could get that Witch...to give you back your voice...you can go home, with all the normal fish... and just be...and just be..."

  • @samcjsattt
    @samcjsattt ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “What identity would you want to experiment with, with me for the next span of time? “ I’m pretty sure that’s what kids are saying these day when asking other kid to play.

  • @mariahmunnis6315
    @mariahmunnis6315 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is one of the best videos from Jordan Peterson. So enlightening in so many ways.
    Im saving to re-play.

  • @YSapphireGroup
    @YSapphireGroup ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Jordan = a gift to humankind. Period We love him

  • @skydyverjym
    @skydyverjym ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The ancient Greek philosopher Plato wrote in his famous work "The Republic" that the best ruler or civil servant is one who does not seek power or office, but is forced to serve by the citizens because of their exceptional qualities and virtues. In his vision of an ideal society, Plato believed that the leaders should be chosen based on their wisdom, courage, and integrity, rather than their wealth, status, or ambition. He called such individuals "philosopher-kings" and argued that only they can ensure justice and stability in the state.

    • @skydyverjym
      @skydyverjym ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We need to force J Peterson to be world supreme chancellor prime president minister dictator all knowing saviour of the human species

  • @genetabate45
    @genetabate45 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I Admire this man! He is amazing. The world needs what he has to say.

  • @margueriteoosthuizen6006
    @margueriteoosthuizen6006 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My 2 year old's standard answer to any "how are you" "who are you" or "what are you" question is "I'm a daddy dinosaur" 😂
    Mom: "are you OK sweetie?"
    Kid: "I'm OK. I'm a daddy dinosaur."

    • @quantumtheo
      @quantumtheo ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Welp, you better get your kid a dino-plasty STAT! :P kidding kidding, that's adorable :)

  • @baron_of_dirt
    @baron_of_dirt ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just imagine Jordan’s kids playing and saying “Your terms are acceptable to me.”

  • @amykrueger3396
    @amykrueger3396 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    JP you are the best! ❤🙏🤗

  • @MB-gi8iq
    @MB-gi8iq ปีที่แล้ว

    YOU are so much more than a feeling...

  • @jesseblackwell5733
    @jesseblackwell5733 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My late father told me before he died " we were put here as an experiment to see how long it would take for us to destroy ourselves"

    • @darkalley8595
      @darkalley8595 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No. The meaning of life is your relationship with Truth (Jesus) because Truth defines reality. Don't live and die as child of illusions and lies. Repent.

    • @darkalley8595
      @darkalley8595 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jesus loves you. Repent.

    • @jesseblackwell5733
      @jesseblackwell5733 ปีที่แล้ว

      Religion brianwashed you, there is no god in the sky watching you ready to punish you when you dont do as god pleases thats a story made up by those who want you to be controlled with fear, and saying jesus is truth would be saying christianity is the only religion, and look how many people in history have been slaughtered for not subscribing to your idea of god and jesus....
      Religios belief is like a penis, its fine to have one , its ok to be proud of it, but dont go getting it out in public and waving it in peoples faces

    • @darkalley8595
      @darkalley8595 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jesseblackwell5733 I literally met God. The lies of the world brainwashed you.

    • @timmorakinyo9529
      @timmorakinyo9529 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@darkalley8595 we are all part of the Higher Truth so is Jesus, but we have to be like Christ ( love,compassion nonprejudice) to express the Higher Truth within us .

  • @CurtHowland
    @CurtHowland ปีที่แล้ว +13

    "Do more with less" Imagine the entire buildings and electric generation plants, megawatts of electricity, tons of copper, glass, steel, banks of supercomputers, and hundreds if not thousands of people that were required 50 years ago to do what your cell phone does.

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 ปีที่แล้ว

      Growing up, i used to think that we would have cell phone that smaller than the palm, battery last for weeks, or holographic display. But we getting more and more camera lenses, bigger sensor and a bigger screen to satisfy average consumer's needs of entertainment.

  • @galaxxy09
    @galaxxy09 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Where do I watch the full video of this?

  • @aidanfegan6605
    @aidanfegan6605 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Loving this recent JBP content

  • @kellywoodwardcore5360
    @kellywoodwardcore5360 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pay attention to how people talk too. People say “I feel like they should have reduced the cost so more people could enjoy the film” Instead of “I think “ it runs off too. Noticed myself starting to say it and started to pay attention- so many people talk this way especially young teens

  • @mariaaiello8184
    @mariaaiello8184 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you DOCTOR Peterson for being a light in the darkness! God’s blessings you, your lovely wife and family!🙏✝️🙏✝️❤️

  • @ItsWhatever736
    @ItsWhatever736 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There's a kid I know that felt like he is in the wrong body since he was a kid. His parents challenged it since then to make sure he isn't confused. 10 years later he's still feeling the same, even though he has therapy and talks every other week for years now. This is how children should be treated. With care. Love them and make sure they aren't making radical choices.

  • @j6302
    @j6302 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Investing in education has proven itself to pay off time and again, yet we keep divesting and making it more and more difficult to afford. It’s incredibly detrimental and counterintuitive.

  • @Cinderella227
    @Cinderella227 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Jordan ✝️❤️

  • @Millieped
    @Millieped ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you God for giving us Jordan Peterson, he is one of the smartest and factual people I've seen andbleanrt from.

  • @r.walker7986
    @r.walker7986 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There is a difference between a rise in behavioral disorders and the diagnosis of behavioral disorders, back in the day people were just "quiet" "quirky" "different" etc. Mental healthcare was not normalized...

  • @LisahTali
    @LisahTali ปีที่แล้ว

    Key word here is think, the process of thought is not accurate to any degree. Its important to determine the difference between thinking and feeling. And the different levels of feeling. The English language is not the best descriptor of these internal processes. We often muddle thinking and feeling, but first is feeling, then comes thought as a descriptor of feeling. Dysphoria comes from a feeling of discomfort within one's skin, which requires an embracing of oneself and their being in its expressions physically and mentally.
    To rely on others for your sense of identity is also a huge fault, when we think we are what we're told we are, we feel that our own sense of being is invalid, and we must push it away. There's a middle ground, i think this idea could be more fleshed out in its nuances.

  • @emilybitzel7242
    @emilybitzel7242 ปีที่แล้ว

    💔 God please grant us the courage to heal.

  • @mattasticmattattack8546
    @mattasticmattattack8546 ปีที่แล้ว

    No disrespect Dr. , But Good for you,👍 Mrs. Peterson is what every normal guy wants , you are the man! 👍

  • @ulitka_t
    @ulitka_t 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for telling all this thoughts aloud.

  • @vickimann3262
    @vickimann3262 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Children and adults need an anchor, stability and security and love. If life is precarious and unstable functioning normally is an incredible challenge.. obviously. Less people have faith, there is less church community or community spirit.

  • @lanerussell7958
    @lanerussell7958 ปีที่แล้ว

    7:22 to skip the advert