I think its time for you to put TH-cam behind you Cassie, you've got a great new job, maybe go full time and explore a working life away from the computer/camera (Just a suggestion). I used to love watching you but your actions over your last few videos have really made me change my mind. I think you have A LOT of growing up to do. Take some time out, love yourself, work on your relationship with you and Dan and finally find your happiness, I don't think you'll find that here on TH-cam.
Cassie, I’ve been a long time sub. And I’m here to say this with ALL the peace & love in the world: it’s very obvious that being so outward-facing on the internet is out of your window of tolerance. I think you should take some time off the internet and find a good therapist. You are exiling your audience.
@coconut3076 Couldn’t agree more, well said. Cassie - you are your brand on TH-cam, which is beauty and lifestyle blogging. Your brand is shifting, by you creating content that your followers don’t come here for. We are looking for escapism, something fun or quirky, or some good old fashioned beauty reviews. This isn’t a channel for mental health. If you don’t provide what your followers want, you’re going to lose them. Either create a separate channel for that, or take a break, but what you’re doing isn’t working for anyone. This is also coming from a loyal, longtime fan, who had to stop watching for a while as your content was affecting me poorly. We all want the old Cassie back, or for you to leave TH-cam if it’s no longer for you.
Her channel doesn’t have to be about what you the viewer want. She’s the creator, it’s your right to not watch. I watch TH-camrs channels who have variety and real life. Expecting someone to always be quirky and uplifting for you is ridiculous. The way I view TH-cam is it’s not their job, they are not customer service and you are not the customer. It’s a friendship role of back and forth with videos and comments. She is a real person who has real emotions and it’s okay for her to take a second after all of the ridiculous content she has hammered out over the years of makeup makeup makeup reviews for you guys to give her a chance to be a person. It’s saddening how selfish the world is. 🥴
Being subbed to you for a VERY long time I’d say maybe its time to get off the internet in regards to your personal life. Keep uploading, of course. But sometimes stuff needs to be private. Mental and relationship health wise.
The whole thing with the job could’ve been kept private. We never would’ve known she had a job. She knew telling us she had a job that everyone would be asking questions about it. That’s what spun a lot of things into place. She could’ve kept it completely quiet but she knew she would get the attention. Just like this video. It’s for attention. She never once apologized for the way she acted on her live.
@@mimirooney5034 the love from Sunday or Monday I believe. She had just seemed a bit off and maybe snappy/frustrated, but everyone has those days. Live streaming like that is what people seem to be mentioning. They brought up Dans closet space and him wanting a few more shirts. She was talking about how there’s no room for more things right now. Understandable of course especially considering they had moved in together sooner than they had originally planned.
I started therapy at 28. I’m now 43 and still see a therapist. Do I think I need it at this point? No, but I do it for myself and my family so I don’t fall back into the pit I clawed out of. You need therapy, proper meds, and maybe even take a step back from your online presence. Building a sustainable life that makes you happy is the goal. I’m not saying it is easy but it is possible. Best of luck to you.
Yes! I'm an advocate that everyone should get therapy, even if they "feel fine" I'd love to normalise people just going to therapy as a monthly or yearly treat, get their heads straight, just a check up, just like you would for the doctor. (Obvs esp in places like america this is not a thing everyone could do or afford, but yeah, in a perfect world) But yeah, I hope she gets the help she needs, and I agree that she really needs to step away from youtube in a big way, or at the very least just turn off the comments, and just stick to make up or collectibles, putting your relationship on social media for people to watch in semi-real time? The trolls were bad before, but they've gotten *considerably* worse (i.e. weird instagram hate pages posting pics of dan's family and his ex etc. unhinged shit) so I think it's time for her to reel it in for a bit, she needs to focus on her job, let her relationship really grow and enjoy that time instead of spending it talking to a camera. Some things don't need to be broadcast to the world.
I mean this very very sincerely - do you remember that you say these things about yourself? You comment on your "double chin," you make comments about not being healthy & not wanting to actually live a long life, not caring if your cats live a long life, etc. I don't know where you're seeing these comments you claim are being said, I mainly see loyal subscribers complimenting you. Or people sharing makeup tips & new techniques because we are all learning. I think you're dealing with your really rude behavior in your last Live & you don't seem capable of just saying "hey guys, I came off really rude & I'm sorry about that. There's no reason for me to be like that." When we mess up, apologizing is ok & apologizing is right. One person asked about your weight in the Live, meant as a compliment because you do talk about your size. I'm not excusing commenting on someone's body, but that legit turned into a full blown great convo about bodies & such. Idk man. I think you need a YT break.
@@StephieGsrEvolution I agree. From the beginning of their dating she posted so much about both of them and got alot of criticism for it. I just don't understand the point of continuing to upload videos online if it's causing this much distress for her.
@@neeko4676 I don't think that's the issue. I just think those who want to provoke a 💩 show do it in the lives. She doesn't even share that much more than the average TH-camr that makes the same kinds of videos. She should carefully say what she means in a recorded video and stand by it. Needs to stop defending herself!
Have seen only about the way Dan is put in his place more or less in this relationship .. I think and people may agree.. YOU NEED TO GO TO COUNCLING TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.. AFTER NUMEROUS FAILED ONES YOU ARE GOIN TO SELF DESTRUCT THIS ONE! Dan does not have a secure spot in this relationship I feel.. O nly my opinion .. But I see it as many others do.. It not about your weight .. It really not
I think you are really comfortable with this narrative because it’s always been your story, but maybe it’s time to outgrow it. Especially now the world we live in provides so much more support for women of all looks on every platform , but there will always be critics. I’m thinking at this point you are afraid to let that story go and be truly confident and accept yourself. You can change your body, and your attitude, and your thoughts. You talk about your past and your body in such a way like it still owns you. Do the work. Get a therapist. Lost weight and be your best size. Count calories and eat good healthy meals, lift weights. You are an able body woman. You are not your best self right now. You say you don’t workout. That’s a basic for mental health. Trust me I’ve been multiple sizes had a child etc. I’ve healed my relationship with exercise and food and I have a physique I could’ve never imagined having it’s changed my skin and my hair but that wasn’t even why I started. I started because I was tired of selling myself short & expecting outside things to help me feel better and comfortable. You aren’t happy you aren’t comfortable. Showing pimples and saying you accept your body was maybe a step you needed to take but u can also move past that phase and the new stage can be making peace with yourself by caring for your body and mind in a way that’s not punishment and not for anyone but you and I would do it privately. Or you can do this for 10 more years
This has nothing to do with cass, sorry 😔. I would like to know how you started to be active and working out. I'm tiny and thin (naturally and luckily even after 4 children) I do however deal with panic disorder. I KNOW working out and getting some exercise will help me tremendously. I just don't know where to start, is it lame to start with a daily walk? I'm old and brittle 😂
@@Nanner823 hope you don’t mind me butting in here - but - if you haven’t already tried it, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) really helped me with anxiety issues. It’s hard going and you literally have to face your demons (in my case mild OCD) - but it works! 💜 to you!
@@belle_fast3551 also a daily walk is awesome for mental health for sure but if you don’t want to feel brittle I’d also think about some strength workouts even super light weights 💕💕 good luck
I think you exaggerate or take out of context the comments you receive. Public opinion is inevitable. I get that you want to share your life, but you should always expect positive and negative criticism. Depression is the worst, but you can’t use it a justification or excuse. Take a break, focus on yourself, focus on your relationship and maybe reconsider what you post.
Perhaps it is playful between you and Dan, but if the "teasing" is trying to motivate him to change or to make a point about something that bothers you, it is passive aggressive. I am sorry you're struggling, and I do hope you can see that not every comment from your viewer is mean. Some of us actually are trying to help you see a different perspective. I hope you can weigh that against what is really going on inside of you. That's how it goes in the real world with relationships- it's not trying to be negative, but instead, trying to spur each other on to being better. 🤷🏻♀️
You have to stop doing this after every poorly received video. It's not good for your mental health or your relationship with viewers. I absolutely have empathy as a person with many mental health struggles but you need to understand multiple things can be true at the same time. Many of the criticisms were valid and yeah some of them could have been worded better but the ones not focused on your weight (because no one really cares or is impacted by that but you) were genuine because what we saw was uncomfortable and alarming.
@@emacmillan92 Weird, it's almost like you missed the point. They're talking about how she has a pattern of doing something that upsets her audience, not apologizing, and instead blaming them. Low views? Blames us. Content not working? Blames us. Comments regarding passive aggressive remarks towards others that people find uncomfortable? Blames us. She even had a video where she said something so horrible while drunk, that her friend would never forgive her, and she still managed to find a way to blame others. I've been watching her for 10 years, and she has gotten so much worse, which is sad to see. Yet, she refuses to see a therapist. Instead of enabling this horrible behavior with all your replies under comments, you should want better for her, and suggest for her to see one, or get off YT if it's that damaging. I want to see her better herself, because I enjoyed her content a lot. Do you know how many people have clinical depression that take control of it, instead of blaming others and crying about it? Yeah. She needs to stop having such a victim complex. THAT is weirdo behavior. Realize this is a fully grown, able-bodied woman. You DON'T need to be protecting her from VALID criticism. Smh.
@@emacmillan92 Lol, you're calling anyone with any opinion opposite of yours "obsessed". Say that to the 2.4k people who disliked the video. Just say you want to spread toxic positivity, keep her stagnant, and go. Smh. She's a whole grown, able-bodied woman who refuses therapy. You don't need to be her guard dog.
@@cinnamorollbabiesxx I have a question and this is just a question. How is she blaming her audience in this particular situation. I see the passive aggressive behavior. She made the live, people didn’t like it, and now she is making this video hinting to that live and victimize herself with the only thing she has, which is her weight. But, I didn’t notice her blaming us for what she did. I agree with everything you said. And I agree with this community as a whole. I just didn’t see the blame in this particular video.
Cassie, I used to live in the public eye online 20 years ago. I had a huge social media following as a model and musician. It was complete shit for my mental health and that presence online is fleeting. Put your energy into your real life relationships and career. Once I went low visibility online my life improved exponentially!
Correct me if I’m wrong but in some of her dating get ready with me’s hasn’t she made the remark several times that she wants a “skinny” man? I swear she’s always said that that’s what she’s attracted to and she would not budge on it. That right there is contradicting to what she’s saying in this video.
I realised most of these comments slandering have the same few people who are probably jealous of her and critique her for some stuffs that are maybe valid
I say this respectfully as someone who has a mental illness (a few actually) but here’s the thing: you are the only person who can manage your mental health issues. You have to do the coping, do the healing, put in the work to get better, get meds, get into things that help your mental and emotional status. No therapist, doctor, or other person who can help you will do it FOR you. Only you can do that and it’s like managing any other chronic illness, you just learn to manage it in healthy ways. But with mental illness it takes work from within yourself.
Psychiatric medication is notoriously damaging to the brain and I do not believe anyone who says its helpful; every drug feels nice/better when you first take it. Everything else you said is good and on point though.
I am a long time subscriber and I am not sure if you release these types of videos a couple times a year because they get a lot of interaction (more money for you) or to try and make yourself the victim to your audience. Whatever the reason, I really think talking to a professional instead of venting to your subscribers would really benefit you. I have said it before in a similar video that this is the internet and no matter what you do someone will find fault with it. People are going to assume they know you because you put a lot of information about your life out there. They are going to jump to conclusions. They are going to say horrible things about you and your relationship. You cannot control it unless you heavily moderate or turn off your comments completely. The only thing in this world you can control is yourself and how you react to situations. This type of reaction is just feeding the trolls and will give them more ammunition to keep going. It is a vicious cycle that is continually repeating on your channel. You really need to do some soul searching and contemplate whether this is the right decision for your mental health to keep making videos for this channel. If you decide the pros outweigh the cons then I think you need to make some changes either in your content or the way your interact with your subscribers so you don't keep repeating this pattern. You are alienating people by complaining about the same things over and over again without doing anything to change it. What makes it even more frustrating as a viewer is that you have the means and access, unlike many people, yet you still don't seem to want to do anything to improve your situation like seeing a professional. I wish you nothing but the best and want to see you happy but don't think this channel is helping at all.
She continuously makes these videos and then swears up and down that she doesn’t need therapy at this point in her life. I don’t know how she can come to that conclusion. If it’s inaccessible to her, that’s a different story.
@@pjarae it’s getting so exhausting, and in a way, I feel it’s being dangerous to her audience who could be triggered by this content. We aren’t therapists, why are we being given 20 minute videos about this, where she doesn’t have to really edit much, and certainly not buy anything to review, and simultaneously…she’s being paid for it because it’s monetised? It’s just insulting at this point. If she wants to put videos like this up, demonetise them. It would be different f maybe she wanted to talk about some issues while purchasing, or PR, a new collection, as an example. But this on its own, is false representation of her brand and what she gained her followers from in the first place. Essentially - we are being used.
@@CC_Babblecockyou're not being used dickweed. This is her channel n she has creative freedom to put out wtv she likes n u cn just stop watching. Who gives a shit
You all realize that these types of videos are made for the purpose of views and clicks, which = money in her pocket, right? These videos pop up every few months and have been for years! The click bait titles and poor me saga for nearly a decade has made Cassie $. She’s been around YT long enough to know which videos generate more $ and is why she makes them over and over and over again. She’s not dumb y’all!
Cassie, you are self-sabotaging. First, you need to admit to yourself you live a very unhealthy life. Stop being the perpetual victim, it only does you harm. You need to mature and treat your partner (that you spent YEARS hoping to find) better, as an equal. The solutions to the problems you create yourself are easy and simple. Like Kim would say "Get off your ass and work", girl.
I haven’t seen much hate about your weight . It’s mostly about how you are condescending towards Dan . Everyone has different perceptions that’s human nature but being on social media you need a tough skin .
Yup. I think she's projecting her insecurities. The complaints she's referring to were mainly about how they eat so much junk, but that's not fat-shaming. If so, then why wouldn't she say they're fat-shaming Dan too? As a longtime viewer, I think the way she words things (titling videos "I am disposable garbage", telling Dan "Im sorry I'm too fat and treat you badly" instead of having a real conversation, saying people want her to be a size 2 or 8) is lowkey manipulative and rubs me the wrong way...
I never comment but wow this heated me more than it should’ve lol Anybody would be depressed if they had been doing what you have been doing every single day for the past 10 years, and never making any little change whatsoever. Being content with doing the same outdated content every week, not leaving the house, making excuses for everything, and eating junk is not an end goal I’m all for loving yourself but you also have to treat yourself with love and that includes trying to better yourself From what I’ve seen in the comments there are maybe 1% criticizing your weight and 99% commenting on who you are on the inside, actually. And most likely your outside appearance is a reflection of how you are inside from whatever “snipets of life” you’ve shared with us in the last 10 years. Anytime you do those woo is me videos it’s always people’s fault yet you are always the common denominator (eg losing all your friends). I know we don’t know you irl and you “choose what you want us to see”, but what we see is already very telling tbh, can’t even imagine if that is the filtered version Also please stop with the working out 2-3 hours and starving yourself to be a size 8, it is scientifically not a thing 😭
You are a cruel person I hope you never actually experience clinical depression. Also, how hypocritical is it to make such a vile comment after everything she said in this video because you’re obviously an ugly person on the inside and you’re unhappy so maybe you have some things to work on
Hw is it scientifically nt a thing lol. There's ppl who work out hours on end and more than what Cassie used to work out ie personal trainers. I also realised this comment is eerily similar to another account's comments. I'm a fan of Cassie and do admit that if whining n nt doing anything be it trying to incorporate healthy meals or exercising as simple as walking nt hardcore HIIT cn come off a bit annoying.
Viewer/"outsider" perspective here. No more live chats, more focus on planned/edited videos and your other job. Nobody can fully prevent nasty comments, but we can control how we react. Lives open the door for nasty comments, and they also open the door for knee-jerk retorts. Edited videos dont give quite as much ammo to hecklers, and also allow you to control your response to them and not say/do anything out of anger for all to see.
Of course this video was coming. Always does after she goes wild on another video. This is a pattern. Acts passive aggressive on 1 video and immediately comes out with a “woe is me” video. Girl….get some professional help. Go back to therapy.
Cassie, your appearance being such a central part of your identity - have you figured out why you gained weight? Was it related with the break up that you cried over on a video here or something else that happened around that time? Most often people put weight on as a means of having protection from the world. But u seem to have relaxed since Dan came along ur not as strained and u don’t mind showing ur apartment revealing stuff….what do u think will happen if you lost the weight (u spend so much time and energy over)?
I feel like this may be, in part, surrounding the interaction you and your partner had on your last live stream. Everyone deserves respect and dignity, Cassey…online and in person. Personally, I wouldn’t be able to handle the scrutiny that accompanies a public presence and I wish you (and Dan) the ability to healthfully cope with the unfortunately inevitable consequences of presenting yourselves in such a forward facing manner.
I've been a long time subscriber and I wish nothing but the best for you but I think everyone is concerned because we only know what you choose to show us from your life and what you do choose to show doesn't look healthy. Your last vlog included a grocery haul that was 99% processed food. It looks like you lead a mostly sedentary life which isn't good. The pile of clothes in your background is horrible for your mental health also. If your space isn't clean then you feel like your life is disorganized. If there's no space for the clothes at least fold them. Try more natural foods instead of so much processed stuff. A 30 minute walk a day is just fine. No one is expecting you to be a size zero or a body builder but just want you to make a few healthy changes that could make a big difference not just physically but mentally. I've been a size 16 since I was 18 and now fluctuate between an 18/20 so I know how you feel. My health has suffered from being the same way and now I'm trying my best now to do better. There are some comments of hate but most sound like they're genuinely concerned for you. I hope you understand this is coming from a place of love and understanding ❤
Exactly! I was one of the people leaving a comment about food in the vlog. Im not a hater, I wish Cassie all the best. A long time viewer. I really love this channel cause Cassie is so real. I guess I left that comment because I focus on eating healthier myself. Its just a projection of what I focus on right now. And its pointless to ask people to stop leaving negative comments. It will never happen. When you post personal stuff the comments will get to you cause they’re about your life. Im sorry I said there was too much processed food, I never ment to hurt you. We all love you Cassie, get better soon 🥰🥰🥰
I don't know. I came back to this video and I have no place to comment on this since I've never experienced clinical depression but Cassie.......If you're depressed, what are you doing to help make yourself better? I'm assuming it takes work whether it's time with a therapist, medication and/or lifestyle changes. I think the thing is...people don't want to hear the same sob stories over and over. We want to hear what it is that you're doing to help lessen or make your depression better. Please. You've got lots of people behind you, rooting for you. You may read a majority of comments and feel they're uncalled for or mean. I see them as terms of motivation for yourself, especially because you have the means! Scroll down to the plethora of comments you're receiving and notice which ones have the most likes......there is a theme here and maybe you should try to listen to them.
This is her platform, and if she has clinical depression, imagine how tired she is feeling the same way over and over again if you don’t wanna watch it, don’t watch it but people can’t keep their opinions to themselves. It doesn’t cost anything she’s not forcing anyone to watch her videos and she doesn’t know anyone explanation of whether she takes medication goes to therapy meditates she just speaking her mind I think people need to understand that.
@@ajabraham130 but I do want to watch her. I hate that "don't like it, don't watch" come back. I like Cassie and her channel. It's obvious she's struggling and most people are trying to help. My comment is exactly what I would say to one of my friends if they were struggling. Yeesh.
@@ajabraham130 She's already complained about her dying channel, and your response is to have people "not watch"? Imagine if only the 800 people who liked the video stayed, while the over 2.4k who disliked, left. Her channel would be nonexistent. Toxic positivity IS REAL in these comments. Smh.
@@monicamonica9462 Precisely.. this. She can justify it all she wants but it isn't cool or funny or light-hearted. She's fooling herself into believing so.
I've been a susbcriber for years now, and I usually leave encouraging words in these types of videos in your channel. But that in reality does not help you. Instead, I'm going to recommend something that will actually help you: please, see a therapist. We your audience can listen to you but some have bad intentions and some just can't really understand what you're going thru. On the other hand, some of us want to see you happy and some others can relate to how you feel. In any case, that may help a little, but just temporarily. The issues you have with the perception of yourself can only get solved with professional help, not just venting to some strangers... we ALL need therapy, and you're no exception. Please consider it, I have many friends that have gotten therapy and their life has improved a lot. I say this with good intentions, and please, don't share more than you need about your private life, wether on videos or on lives. People will always comment and many will come from ignorance. So please, be careful with what you share if that's gonna make you feel sad in the end.
Cassie, as a more mature woman who has had body image issues my whole life and also struggles with depression I can relate. What helped me is to walk outside every day or find a good indoor walking spot, eat deliberately (in other words try to plan your food/meals with the occasional splurge), and see a therapist. These are such small things! If you can develop these habits and realize that they are lifelong and not a phase then I believe you would become more emotionally stable and the best you possible.
Yes! So simple, yet so effective. I have anxiety and chronic pain. I started with light gardening and ended up adding forest hiking to my hobbies list. If you do it gradually, you can work your up to more and it doesn't have to be heavy duty. Exercise does wonders for health, mood and pain control. I wish I figured that out sooner.
Maybe you wouldn’t be so depressed if you would lose weight eat better even exercise it’s good for depression. I’ve lost 105 lbs over 3 years you could lose weight if you wanted to but it’s work and I’m not sure you want to apply yourself. Sounds to me like your a book of excuses your depressed your different you can’t lose weight. Time to grow up and hold yourself accountable.
@@plaster.art.ho3 I realize that I suffer as well I’ve had 3 suicide attempts she is a book of excuses. Try helping yourself I’ll bet even a doctor will tell her lose weight and exercise do something you can’t just sit around and complain there are many parts to getting better she just isn’t ambitious enough.
@@moominmay Lol, she revealed her true colors is all. Most don't show their real selves on camera until they get comfortable with their audience...and she got waaay too comfortable with a sea of strangers. I feel really bad for Dan. It may not be right away and I'm not wishing the worst on her, but I can guarantee you this relationship won't last, at least not happily, despite what she's trying to portray in her thumbnails and what she says about her relationship. Most people who aren't rabid fans can see all of this.
I'm sorry to comment again but I've just re-watched. Cassie you're throwing a major pity party for yourself and can confidentially say, no one is joining you. Stop making excuses and actually make some changes. Your weight is insignificant as hardly anyone comments about your appearance, it's just you scraping the barrel for things that make you a victim. If your weight does bother you, do something about it? I feel all you do is complain. Cut out the laziness and do something! We only have one life, work on yourself until you're happy. Also, I feel the conversation you had with Dan after your live was incredibly fake, "I'm sorry that I'm fat and that I treat you horribly" - Cassie what is that? That isn't an apology or a path to asking Dan how he feels, you knew he would disagree because he loves you so that automatically made you feel better without having to change or apologise, its quite toxic. I'm really sorry if that's harsh but if you're putting yourself out there, you've got to be prepared to take the criticism that comes back at you.
There is so very much I like about you Cassie and as a fellow sufferer of depression, I empathise. But can’t you see that there is a pattern here, you acted really badly in that live video (and I get that you were sad/angry/frustrated), but every time you misstep, as sure as the sun rises, a few days later you produce a lying on the bed, self pitying video and while you endlessly bemoan your lot - which is your right - you never apologise for your actions/words and you never take accountability! You literally asked people to mind their words and to be kind - please a little self reflection and realisation! I don’t know how often you need to hear it - it never seems to sink in - but you are a beautiful, articulate and creative woman, why don’t you ever hear those comments? I rarely see people being mean to you for the sake of it, I often see genuine concern/advice, often in response to self deprecating comments you’ve made. I’ve seen people offer solicited suggestions on content they’d like to see, you make excuses as to why you can’t/won’t and don’t want to do that content. Again that’s your right and your choice - but you can’t keep doing these negative videos that make those who genuinely care about you, feel bad. Life is hard for all of us, regardless of how we look, our career path and life opportunities. You have a new job, a TH-cam channel that maintains, if not increases it’s viewership and a good man in your life. Try to be happy Cass and I say that with 💜
@@AmberC17 TBF - I don’t think there was anything too bad between them on the live, outside of normal couple bantering with each other. The video is still up on the live section.
People are kind to those who are kind. Depression is horrible. Unfortunately, people treating others badly is horrible as well… regardless of any illness. Hopefully you apologized to the viewer you told to stfu. And most of us aren’t anonymous. Our full names are above our comment.
Did I see it wrong? Because what I saw and heard was Cassie dicussing how she'd been harassed by someone and then someone completely shitting on her valid feelings regarding that matter by saying "you're not even that famous".. I'd fully tell someone to do one that thought it was acceptable to mock me when I'm discussing a pretty traumatic and potentially dangerous situation. Is that not what happened? Please correct me if I'm wrong.
“people are kind to those who are kind” if only the world worked that way. lol. you ever work retail? or with people in general? or put yourself online? people are kind to whoever they are kind to, or they’re not kind at all. sad truth
@@roxyleighsmith6601The viewer actually said “Do you really think anyone wants to stalk you?” I took that as a new viewer legitimately questioning if she really thinks someone is stalking her. Which I was wondering as well.
All your comments are negative Nancy sh*t. No compassion or consideration from you at all. She is a real human being who is clearly struggling and you always choose to kick her when she's down. Does that make you feel good about yourself? Up
cassie, ive been watching you for about 10 years now. respectfully, i think your skin is way too thin for someone who has been on YT for so long, and it's clear that those around you need to handle you with white gloves. i also think you have a way of spiraling bc of valid criticism, and perpetuate a victim mentality. this is the internet - people are mean, you can't change it. find a way to adapt, or stop making content... it's giving amberlynn reid.
maybe content creation just isn't for you if you take it so personally. it's say overdue to find a full time job, cassie. why continue to do something you obviously don't enjoy? for the money?
@coolcatt it's definitely for the money. I've been watching her for over 6 years and I've noticed that the passion/drive that she once had for this channel is long gone. Her videos are so low effort, but still get enough views to keep the cash coming in/keep her from needing a "real" job which is why I think she keeps uploading videos.
The CDC does recommend 150 minutes of physical activity a week. People were so quick to take the advice from the CDC about covid but disregard ones about physical activity, basically just picking and choosing which rules they want to follow. There are clearly benefits of moving your body which could help
Casey, please, as a person with depression myself, I suggest you to quit social media as a job. I think you could be so much happier having a more private life, sharing your moments only with close people that loves you, not exposing yourself to a bunch of anonymous strangers that don’t know you at all. Please, think about it. I send you a big hug to comfort you in this difficult moment.
I think it's because she pushes all of her real life friends away, she relies so heavily on the praises of online strangers that can't see who she really is. She's one of those toxic people that thinks she's always the victim even though she's the common denominator to all of her friendship & relationship fall outs. I don't see Dan dealing with this long-term and I wouldn't blame him honestly.
i know you think you don't need a therapist but it seems like it would be much more helpful to talk about these things with a professional instead of putting it on the internet
I think we should appreciate how real and raw she is with all of us. She doesn’t live a fabricated life and it is so refreshing. Go watch keeping up with the Kardashians or something.
@@peterdick9384 I actually think her being “real and raw” is what’s causing a lot of these problems. She needs to have more boundaries with her audience and, like I said, discuss these things with a therapist instead.
@@katies570 what exactly is she over sharing though? Yeah her body image and self esteem obviously is a personal problem, but what therapist can convince her to accept herself? I agree more with the fact that she should start working on her insecurities such as working out and changing the way she eats but at the same time if she’s not going to then we’re all just gonna have to accept her and her rants and watch the content that is actually of interest such as the weekly wears, but if you read the discussions under majority of her videos it is definitely a negative place from telling her she applied something wrong, she should’ve done this should’ve done that, poor Dan, she needs help, I’ve been watching your channel for blah blah blah just a bunch of people who also have terrible self esteem and then take it out on someone that is publicly showing their vulnerability. She needs a better fandom.
I feel sorry for you that u are going through depression. But let’s be real…u put yourself out there on utube. I think u need to just go off utube and live your life with Dan. There will always be someone who will comment in the wrong way. You’re not going to stop them. Constructive criticism.
Why don’t you take accountability for your actions? It’s not all about your weight or looks. People are pointing out you’re overweight because that’s reality. If you don’t like being told overweight that’s fair but you also can’t deny reality. Your actions are treating your subscribers poorly, not willing to compromise with Dan about the closet space (no one is making that situation up bc he complained about the lack thereof) - if you don’t like then talk to him about not mentioning conflict on lives. That’s between you and him. It has nothing to do with society treating women who look a certain way. You’re not a victim who experiences harm at the whim of society. Grow up and take accountability for yourself instead of blaming everything and everyone else.
You need to grow up and not make comments about other peoples appearances because it doesn’t matter why does she need you to point out if she’s skinny or heavy it’s stupid that you take the time out of your day to do so
Commenting on someones weight is never okay, it doesn't matter. I've only ever seen her be snarky to people who are incredibly rude to her which she has every right to clapback. And you cannot possibly know how her and dans relationship is in real like from a video, they have said they tease each other and its not an issue for them so maybe people should mind their business or leave if they dont like it. Be for real with yourself and admit you only watch to hate on cassie
@@emacmillan92 Except the majority of the comments under this video are people giving her some genuine feedback and advice, but you're still complaining about that. Smh. There was nothing wrong with this comment. The toxic positivity with you people is insane. Cassie ISN'T a victim. She's an able-bodied, fully grown ADULT WOMAN who refuses to go to therapy. All her friends leaving her isn't a coincidence - she IS the common denominator. She needs to learn to apologize, and move on. Therapy, not toxic and fake positivity.
@@emacmillan92 if someone is 600lbs it’s not ok for viewers to tell them they’re in danger? If someone is 60lbs as an adult ifs not ok for viewers to tell them they’re starving to death? Pointing out a lack of health isn’t policed by the world weight police, get a grip. Dan is the one in the last live who complained about a lack of closet space. He kept repeating it. No one knows their relationship but everyone who watched the live knows that he said he doesn’t have enough close space. That’s a fact. And if she wanted him to move in and he’s paying rent then he deserves enough space. If people can’t handle that then they can go back to nursery school because they’re babies who don’t want to take responsibility for things.
@@bladegirlx no. its not. cause their health isn't any of your business, and its doesn't help and can actually make things worse. but either way thats not the situation here, YOU get a grip. And as for her and dan talking about closet space, it wasn't even that deep People like you just wanna find something to nit pick at to put someone down to feel better about yourself or something idk. Maybe its you you has to take responsibility and figure out why you just wanna be negative to people online to make yourself feel better. And if you don't like cassie then dont watch.
Cassie you’ve been on TH-cam for years. You don’t have a way to avoid negative comments? It’s the internet and it’s never going away. You need a routine to avoid this. Many creators block out key words. You should know that if you make a video rescuing 200 cats someone is going to say something negative. And mostly negative comments have nothing to do with you. You should know how to do this by now to protect your mental health. You taking everything personally is a you problem and can’t change other people. You come on here and talk about this often and you need to fix this issue.
Not to beat a dead horse but you intentionally PUT yourself, your life, your image and your issues on social media for all to see. Other than your own self degradation, if you werent on the internet, would there really be that many people criticizing you? You're certainly not out of the range of what an average body looks like in the US. If you're struggling with acceptong yourself, if you constantly feel a need to defend yourself, your choices, your looks, etc..and it's bringing you down..maybe make the decision that you might need to not put yourself on the internet until you're a bit stronger and more resolute. The internet will always be a platform for some people to make themselves feel better by putting others down. You're never going to change that. You're working a regular job now. If you make videos they should make you happy regardless of what others comment. If that's not happening..why make the videos and invite more support for your own pervasive thoughts of inadequacy? I wouldn't enjoy reading what every anonymous internet user thinks of me or my life...ergo I wouldn't put it on display. Just a few thoughts.
This is why I unsubbed. This channel used to be fun. Cassie used to be relatable. Now it’s poor choices and crying over the consequences. It’s ignoring the advice and concern and expecting us to care when you don’t do shit to better yourself.
You were disrespectful to those who took the time to watch you / chat with you / send superchats your way by suggesting anyone of them may want to stalk you! Most dont. Yes u will always have that one but dan didnt say much of anything & shut him up for mentioning square footage. That whole scene was crazy. & you disrespected him by saying you'll just tell him to leave if you dont want him there anymore. It shouldnt be that easy to displace someone especially after they leave the home they had to be with you. You get pissed off if someone mentions its not sanitary for cats to be on the counter. Of course its not. But we are the crazy ones. If u didnt see them up there & while in a hurry u quickly prepare a meal & didnt sanitize bc you didnt know they jumped up there again.. whos not to say theres no fecal bacteria on their feet from their litter? If u dont care its one thing but u insult those who mention it & u wanna say mind your business. You put your life on display for everyone & make your money that way. What if no one wanted to watch you ever again? You'd have to go out there & hustle right? You should be more appreciative & more respectful.
I’ve seen a lot of cats jump on counters. Some owners don’t like it and they train them not to do it. And others don’t. I’ve never had a cat. But, I have had a dog. It’s the same thing with letting them sleep on your bed. My dog does not sleep on my bed. He rolls around in his own poop, lol. But, he does get to lay down on the sofa. I just make sure his blanket is there. But, other people will let their dogs climb everywhere. So, it depends on the person. And I really don’t think this is the dealbreaker in deciding someone’s character. Her chronic depression that she never seems to get help for, her passive aggressive behavior, her victim mentality (I get it you’re not socially beautiful), and her using her audience as therapists (though I will admit whenever she makes a video like this, the comments are so insightful). That’’s the issue. The rest of the stuff like the cats on the counter is just nitpicking and she should ignore it. Stop addressing it. You don’t own your audience an explanation or even an apology for how you raise your cats. And the people who demand that should be ignored.
@@moominmay I agree. She does ignore her comments. I’m not sure if this community is becoming toxic, though. Sure, there are nitpicking comments or just downright negative ones. One time, there was comments about her boobs. And if I recall correctly, she made a whole video defending herself and her boobs, lol. Why? It’s so stupid. Or another time during her dating series, she had another one of these types of videos after going on a few dates with someone. And she was really sad, disappointed, and even crying that it didn’t work out. I don’t think she said that she loved the guy. But, commenters were like, “You’re acting like you’re totally in love. Stop being psycho and needy.” Again, stupid. Completely stupid. She was just upset that it didn’t work out. I don’t recall her saying that she was in love with him or that she saw herself spending her whole life with him. She did say something along the lines of, “I thought this was one gonna work.” But, that far from saying,””I know we are gonna get married and have kids.” That’s how the comments were. they were berating for reacting the way she did after a few dates with a guy. However. I don’t see the toxicity in this community. Even in that video where she was “totally in love” with some dude, people were supportive. And I often see more positive comments than negative. A lot of them are insightful and respectful. Regardless of all that, she ignores these comments. And that’s what matters. If you’re going to make a para-social relationship with your subscribers, at the very least ‘heart’ what they said. You don’t have to have a conversation with each and every person. But, acknowledge them.
Cassie, love, I think you need a big break from TH-cam. For your own mental health, I think it's time, it seems like it's causing you more pain than anything. Couple months, maybe? Financially I think you're in a place with the new job you could do that? Or maybe just consider turning off the comments for the foreseeable. As far as depression goes, I don't think it ever truly leaves, it just kind of lurks, we have moments of remission but ultimately there's always a chance it comes back with a vengeance. Have you considered maybe getting your meds checked/adjusted if you can go on a higher dose of antidepressant? Be well Cassie!
Cassie, we love you for who you are. Please do not change for anyone but yourself. Be true to yourself. Listen to those who lift you up and truly care about you,. You are attractive. Those who try to bring you down are actually jealous so of you. Turn any negative into a positive. Prayers, blessings and love to you and Dan, Debbie
I think by now you should be able to deal with negative comments. That's life in general too just ignore it. I'm sure if we all were online we would get negative comments too. I enjoy your vlogs. Maybe you can turn comments off on those videos. Perhaps do take a break from livestreams as well. You actually seemed more comfortable with yourself recently. By the way you can loose weight and not starve yourself. I was almost 170lbs 5ft2 and I used a weight loss calculator free online and I did exercise mostly walking and lost 70lbs in about a year and a half. Its about being healthy. As far as how you treat your pets people do seem go be over critical. Again try to ignore it. Everyone I watch that had videos with their partners and pets also even children get mean comments or putting their 2 cents in. Its part of putting yourself out there online.
Hi! Im 5"2 and am overweight as well. 160 pounds... Hw many times n hw often did u exercise to lose the pounds? What about diet and stuff? I admit I've been eating more meals n snacking on unhealthy food and hence why I've gained 22 pounds in just 4 short mths haha. This was a helpful comment for Cassie too!
@@plaster.art.ho3 I started out walking about 20 minutes to 30 minutes maybe 4 to 5 days a week. I did a lot of low impact workout videos on TH-cam about 3 times a week. The videos weren’t too long. I have some dumbbells and lifted weights a couple of times a week. As for food I just made sure to eat within he calorie range that I got from the weight loss calculator I did cut down a lot on junk food. If I did get something like say crackers cookies chips things like that I would make snack packs and divide them up into portions. I hope that helps.
I can’t imagine having good mental health if I put my life out there for people to comment on and critique, never mind having to edit my life and scrutinize my looks and choices.
Cassie I hope this comment reaches you and sits with you with the intention of constructive advice rather negative criticism. As you stated in the video, words have weight and meaning. When you mentioned in one of your live streams about Fig and you’d rather have him fat and happy, that was an alarming comment to your subscribers. And in the comments of that live, so many of your subscribers provided advice on how to help maintain your cats weight and supportive messages. But instead of focusing on that, in your following stream you were snippy at your subscribers saying how we took it as “morbid” and “cryptic” and turned your words into something else. I feel as though sometimes you’re overshadowed with protecting yourself and what you believe is to be right at that moment… and in return you hurt your subscribers who try to support you. It’s hard to accept criticism, even the ones approached nicely. But I hope you take the time to recognize some of the destructive behaviors you have that other people have noticed/mentioned and work on healthier alternatives. You shouldn’t focus more on the negative comments rather than the ones who support and love you on every single video. I know it can be easier said then done, but your words have meaning too so alway consider your approach and tone when talking to your audience.
You must be stupid to take everything she says seriously, you’re not her mother, she doesnt need to listen to your or anyone, you’re getting her content for free, bully pretending to give “constructive criticism”
Why not just ignore and not even look at the comments? You don’t engage with them anyways so it seems like a net loss to even look. I hope you feel better soon ❤
Millennials all think they're experiencing depression anytime they're not deliriously happy. Buck up! You're so in your emotions. Just get on with life and stop obsessing over yourself.
Being overweight is not just about reduced physical attractiveness. It also shows that in character, you lack discipline. Losing weight would be good for you in many regards; not only because you would look thinner but because you would have to gain the self discipline required to do so. If you focus on the word ‘discipline’ you can improve just about any area of your life. Your health, body, housekeeping, career, or whatever area needs improvement. Apply discipline.
Nobody has any business commenting on weight, health, or diet at all unless Cassie brings it up. I wish people would just use common courtesy. This channel is not about weight loss and she didn’t ask for opinions on it. She did go live and act poorly though. Many of the comments were valid. If a large group of people has the same opinion, then there’s clearly a reason for it. You can’t act that way and expect only positive feedback.
I didn't even realize how trapped inside my own head I was until I saw a psychologist (I have ocd) I can relate to rude comments or just plain criticism getting under your skin and making you feeling vulnerable. It makes you feel like you're doing something wrong when you are actually living a normal life and the rest of us aren't any different or any "better" either. Have you taken a look at plus sized fashion youtubers? Many of them are inspirational not just fashion but looking at your body in a different angle. Also Dan seems like the type of a person who can handle himself and speak up if he was bothered by something. Have a good day Cassie
I think live videos is where most of the issues are created for you. Maybe stick to planned vids that way you have time to reflect on comments in your own time if you choose too answer them at all :-)
OK Cass. I've been following you since the start (had a different TH-cam name). I can relate to what you are saying, but there is something you can do to get out of this. Take some time off TH-cam and start walking. Like daily, for at least 20 minutes. Slowly build it up to an hour. If there's a place with hiking trails, DO THAT! It will do wonders for your emotional and physical health, and you will lose weight over time. I've been overweight off and on my entire adult life. Exercise is the only change that actually took the weight off and kept it off. I eat a healthy meal once a day plus 2 desserts. If I stop walking, hiking and gardening, the weight creeps back on. But that's an easy fix. It's hard because I also have chronic pain, but it does wonders for anxiety and overall mood.
I meant to add, see your doctor. You may need medication and you definitely could use counselling. I'm older than you and have been through this. This helps, especially if you have a depression or an anxiety disorder.
It’s only until you get older and wiser from experience that you will realize you have wasted so much precious time possible happiness ruminating about your body … any aspect of it. Even if a person is “gorgeous” their body is eventually going to turn to ashes one day …. So imagine if at the end of your life you will see how much time you wasted on caring what others think of you, doubting yourself, explaining yourself, and for what? For who? Followers? Comments from strangers? Don’t give these people any energy…they don’t deserve that power. I have experienced everything you are discussing for over 25 years depression Body Dysmorphia and guess what I have lost so much time caring…it’s just not worth it. You should never compromise your own self worth even though the depression will convince you otherwise….depression lies to the one who has it …it convinces them they are worthless hopeless weak beyond love and help and even convinces some that life isn’t worth living. ….it’s a disease that lies and cheats and preys upon your vulnerabilities….depression is not a flaw it is an illness that no one has been able to map out medically like other illnesses but that doesn’t mean it’s any less of an illness. Please try to reframe your thinking when negative comments come your way…giving 2 💩💩s about what some stranger thinks isnt worth triggering your mind or precious time. I know you will get over this hump. And you do too. Rest enjoy the cats and animals of this world and the ones you love.
Yeah something about as women when our hormones start changing in our 40s it gets easier to not care so much about what others think. I wish she could own what she says and stop being on the defensive. But I think she's far from that, so I just hope she at least stops doing the Livestreams.
Honestly I understand how you feel, but with age you really stop caring about what people think of you or what you do and how you live your life. Remember you don’t owe anything to anyone and they don’t owe you. So who really cares. ( except our loved ones) I’m 49 and have been overweight ALL of my life until i got gastric bypass and even then I’m not skinny. It’s liberating when you finally understand that people’s opinions don’t matter. You will get through this 💕💕💕💕💕
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through and how you’re feeling. Hope you feel better soon. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself ❤ we love you and we support you.
I sleep a lot when I'm feeling depressed, I have to remind myself that it is exhausting, no wonder we are so tired! Thank you for talking about it! You are not alone. Depression sucks!I hear you, someday a shower is all you can achieve. I've seen you happy and sad, so hang in there, this too shall pass.
Thank you for sharing. I showered today as well after not being able to do it for the last few days. Some will never understand true depression and all it takes from you. Just keep doing you and taking care of your health. ❤
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear about Galliano Cassie. 😢 I loved him from afar and I know exactly how it feels to lose a pet. I had a particularly strong bond with my last name cat. I adopted him from my vets office when he was 4. ALL INDOOR CATS WILL BE OVERWEIGHT, no matter what! He was and so is my current girl. And she has a huge fenced in yard to roam around in, so she gets a lot of exercise. I have falcoln bells on her so she can chase the birds but not catch them. Anyway, The loss of my male cat was horrific. I cried so much I burst a blood vessel in my eye. I had to see a psychologist. And you know what he told me? Get a KITTEN. Like 3 to 6 months old. He said I would be too busy laughing to be sad. And man, he was right! I did wait 5 months and she was a rescue, but wow, I had never had a KITTEN before. The cat before my male was a blind 18 year old, lol. As for the people criticizing your cat mothering skills. Everyone has an opinion about everything, which is fine! But if you stick to beauty videos and not talk about your personal life too much, that won't be an issue. I give my cat 2 cat treats a week, she's on diet food, exercises like a KITTEN still yet is still overweight. I even walk her on a harness.
Ok first thing I think there might be some bipolar disorder in there as a person who struggles with depression and bipolar disorder and to add the overthinking issues to it I fight with this every single day honestly tho it’s not because of the subscribers it’s not because of Dan fact one comment will take up space in a mind like mine as if 100 people have said it and you will have blowup days it sucks and yes professional help is always the best option but not always the most obtainable fact is your thoughts are definitely something you have placed in your head I’d honestly say don’t post a video about it seek family and friends but not publicly to the ones that are triggering you to go to a manic state
Feel better. You have a lot of followers (probably like 99% of them) who fully support you and are not the least bit concerned about what size clothes you wear. I think you look great and really enjoy your content. I could say a lot of cliche things right now, but I won't. Just know that you are loved by many people here on YT and in real life. Sending love and hugs your way.
I'm sorry you are feeling like this rn. I totally get it. I've been super down lately too. Sending you hugs and we all can get through this 🩷🌻 you are appreciated. Know that. Some people are just so mean.
Cassie, do you honestly think that those commenting negatively on your channel are supermodels themselves? Yeah, no. The issue is if you make your life public, you open yourself up to criticism. Thats just how it is. I can never be on TH-cam but I do enjoy your channel and respect your views and your life. Some people just can't be mature and they just have to be Karens about everything.
You can’t help getting depression anymore then you could help needing glasses. You need to touch base with your doctor, review whether meds are something that help, seek out therapy, etc. I agree with others, just don’t look at the comments, or even disable them all together. Your viewers aren’t just the ones who criticize, I’ve enjoyed your videos for about 8 years. I think yours is one of the few channels I still watch is because you’re a real human.
You’re not alone . I’m going through it too . Could you be feeling overwhelmed because you’re working outside of TH-cam after so many years ? Give yourself some grace ❤ like you say , it’ll be ok .
There are people that go around an leave comments just to upset. Many aren't sincere. It's a way for them to have fun. Please don't let things you've done with a good heart and just out of a innocent personality style make you question the great gal and sweet hearted person you are because unknown people pointed things out. Hang in there. Healing and uplifting prayers for you. ❤
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Where are these weight comments happening?? I almost never see weight comments. Most criticism i see is about personality things or shade choices.
So many of the comments on this video are about saying she should lose weight…
Social media is not a good place for depression. It’s not worth it. I could never put my private life out there.
I think its time for you to put TH-cam behind you Cassie, you've got a great new job, maybe go full time and explore a working life away from the computer/camera (Just a suggestion).
I used to love watching you but your actions over your last few videos have really made me change my mind. I think you have A LOT of growing up to do.
Take some time out, love yourself, work on your relationship with you and Dan and finally find your happiness, I don't think you'll find that here on TH-cam.
@R completely agree, Cassie also if you're reading this - no hate at all toward you, most of us here just want you to be happy ❤️
LISTEN TO THESE COMMENTS GIRL
Cassie, I’ve been a long time sub. And I’m here to say this with ALL the peace & love in the world: it’s very obvious that being so outward-facing on the internet is out of your window of tolerance. I think you should take some time off the internet and find a good therapist. You are exiling your audience.
@coconut3076 Couldn’t agree more, well said. Cassie - you are your brand on TH-cam, which is beauty and lifestyle blogging. Your brand is shifting, by you creating content that your followers don’t come here for. We are looking for escapism, something fun or quirky, or some good old fashioned beauty reviews. This isn’t a channel for mental health. If you don’t provide what your followers want, you’re going to lose them. Either create a separate channel for that, or take a break, but what you’re doing isn’t working for anyone. This is also coming from a loyal, longtime fan, who had to stop watching for a while as your content was affecting me poorly. We all want the old Cassie back, or for you to leave TH-cam if it’s no longer for you.
wow ! Just reading that comment is sadder
Her channel doesn’t have to be about what you the viewer want. She’s the creator, it’s your right to not watch. I watch TH-camrs channels who have variety and real life. Expecting someone to always be quirky and uplifting for you is ridiculous. The way I view TH-cam is it’s not their job, they are not customer service and you are not the customer. It’s a friendship role of back and forth with videos and comments. She is a real person who has real emotions and it’s okay for her to take a second after all of the ridiculous content she has hammered out over the years of makeup makeup makeup reviews for you guys to give her a chance to be a person. It’s saddening how selfish the world is. 🥴
@@CC_Babblecockwrt wat u and op said, it's her gdm channel n she can post wtv she wants 😊
@@camelotfeeney903she's nt a fucking clown n the door is right on ahead, God forbid she has mh issues n struggle lmaaooo listen tu ureself 😭
Being subbed to you for a VERY long time I’d say maybe its time to get off the internet in regards to your personal life. Keep uploading, of course. But sometimes stuff needs to be private. Mental and relationship health wise.
The whole thing with the job could’ve been kept private. We never would’ve known she had a job. She knew telling us she had a job that everyone would be asking questions about it. That’s what spun a lot of things into place. She could’ve kept it completely quiet but she knew she would get the attention. Just like this video. It’s for attention. She never once apologized for the way she acted on her live.
How did she act on the live??
@@mimirooney5034 the love from Sunday or Monday I believe. She had just seemed a bit off and maybe snappy/frustrated, but everyone has those days. Live streaming like that is what people seem to be mentioning. They brought up Dans closet space and him wanting a few more shirts. She was talking about how there’s no room for more things right now. Understandable of course especially considering they had moved in together sooner than they had originally planned.
I started therapy at 28. I’m now 43 and still see a therapist. Do I think I need it at this point? No, but I do it for myself and my family so I don’t fall back into the pit I clawed out of. You need therapy, proper meds, and maybe even take a step back from your online presence. Building a sustainable life that makes you happy is the goal. I’m not saying it is easy but it is possible. Best of luck to you.
Yes! I'm an advocate that everyone should get therapy, even if they "feel fine" I'd love to normalise people just going to therapy as a monthly or yearly treat, get their heads straight, just a check up, just like you would for the doctor. (Obvs esp in places like america this is not a thing everyone could do or afford, but yeah, in a perfect world)
But yeah, I hope she gets the help she needs, and I agree that she really needs to step away from youtube in a big way, or at the very least just turn off the comments, and just stick to make up or collectibles, putting your relationship on social media for people to watch in semi-real time? The trolls were bad before, but they've gotten *considerably* worse (i.e. weird instagram hate pages posting pics of dan's family and his ex etc. unhinged shit) so I think it's time for her to reel it in for a bit, she needs to focus on her job, let her relationship really grow and enjoy that time instead of spending it talking to a camera. Some things don't need to be broadcast to the world.
Everyone wants to be attractive it’s human nature. You keep saying you don’t care but you very much do! It’s okay to care.
I mean this very very sincerely - do you remember that you say these things about yourself? You comment on your "double chin," you make comments about not being healthy & not wanting to actually live a long life, not caring if your cats live a long life, etc.
I don't know where you're seeing these comments you claim are being said, I mainly see loyal subscribers complimenting you. Or people sharing makeup tips & new techniques because we are all learning.
I think you're dealing with your really rude behavior in your last Live & you don't seem capable of just saying "hey guys, I came off really rude & I'm sorry about that. There's no reason for me to be like that." When we mess up, apologizing is ok & apologizing is right.
One person asked about your weight in the Live, meant as a compliment because you do talk about your size. I'm not excusing commenting on someone's body, but that legit turned into a full blown great convo about bodies & such.
Idk man. I think you need a YT break.
Which live?? Is it the most recent one in Live list?
Yep, you're right. I think Cassie needs to hone in on some emotional intelligence skills, honestly.
@itsmecandicemarie You just summed it all up perfectly.
Wash, rinse, repeat unfortunately.
What benefit are you getting out of putting your entire life out there? Maybe it's time to just take a step back and take a break.
Or maybe just stop doing Lives! That seems to be the biggest issue.
I won't even watch them anymore.
@@StephieGsrEvolution I agree. From the beginning of their dating she posted so much about both of them and got alot of criticism for it. I just don't understand the point of continuing to upload videos online if it's causing this much distress for her.
@@neeko4676 I don't think that's the issue. I just think those who want to provoke a 💩 show do it in the lives.
She doesn't even share that much more than the average TH-camr that makes the same kinds of videos. She should carefully say what she means in a recorded video and stand by it. Needs to stop defending herself!
She makes money putting out videos.
I unsub'd a month or so ago, just thought I'd check in to see if anything had changed.
It hasn't.
Same
Same and it's sad to see.
Same here! Still emotionally totally immature playing the victime
Have seen only about the way Dan is put in his place more or less in this relationship ..
I think and people may agree..
YOU NEED TO GO TO COUNCLING TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP..
AFTER NUMEROUS FAILED ONES YOU ARE GOIN TO SELF DESTRUCT THIS ONE!
Dan does not have a secure spot in this relationship I feel..
O nly my opinion ..
But I see it as many others do..
It not about your weight ..
It really not
I think you are really comfortable with this narrative because it’s always been your story, but maybe it’s time to outgrow it. Especially now the world we live in provides so much more support for women of all looks on every platform , but there will always be critics. I’m thinking at this point you are afraid to let that story go and be truly confident and accept yourself. You can change your body, and your attitude, and your thoughts.
You talk about your past and your body in such a way like it still owns you. Do the work. Get a therapist. Lost weight and be your best size. Count calories and eat good healthy meals, lift weights. You are an able body woman. You are not your best self right now. You say you don’t workout. That’s a basic for mental health. Trust me I’ve been multiple sizes had a child etc. I’ve healed my relationship with exercise and food and I have a physique I could’ve never imagined having it’s changed my skin and my hair but that wasn’t even why I started. I started because I was tired of selling myself short & expecting outside things to help me feel better and comfortable. You aren’t happy you aren’t comfortable. Showing pimples and saying you accept your body was maybe a step you needed to take but u can also move past that phase and the new stage can be making peace with yourself by caring for your body and mind in a way that’s not punishment and not for anyone but you and I would do it privately. Or you can do this for 10 more years
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This has nothing to do with cass, sorry 😔. I would like to know how you started to be active and working out. I'm tiny and thin (naturally and luckily even after 4 children) I do however deal with panic disorder. I KNOW working out and getting some exercise will help me tremendously. I just don't know where to start, is it lame to start with a daily walk? I'm old and brittle 😂
@@Nanner823 hope you don’t mind me butting in here - but - if you haven’t already tried it, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) really helped me with anxiety issues. It’s hard going and you literally have to face your demons (in my case mild OCD) - but it works! 💜 to you!
Buck up, buttercup! Only YOU can change how you see yourself. Don’t use others opinions as a crutch. It really is a choice.
@@belle_fast3551 also a daily walk is awesome for mental health for sure but if you don’t want to feel brittle I’d also think about some strength workouts even super light weights 💕💕 good luck
Came back to rewatch, and you COMPLETELY do reference things from the livestream. Why lie???
I think you exaggerate or take out of context the comments you receive. Public opinion is inevitable. I get that you want to share your life, but you should always expect positive and negative criticism. Depression is the worst, but you can’t use it a justification or excuse. Take a break, focus on yourself, focus on your relationship and maybe reconsider what you post.
Perhaps it is playful between you and Dan, but if the "teasing" is trying to motivate him to change or to make a point about something that bothers you, it is passive aggressive. I am sorry you're struggling, and I do hope you can see that not every comment from your viewer is mean. Some of us actually are trying to help you see a different perspective. I hope you can weigh that against what is really going on inside of you. That's how it goes in the real world with relationships- it's not trying to be negative, but instead, trying to spur each other on to being better. 🤷🏻♀️
You have to stop doing this after every poorly received video. It's not good for your mental health or your relationship with viewers. I absolutely have empathy as a person with many mental health struggles but you need to understand multiple things can be true at the same time. Many of the criticisms were valid and yeah some of them could have been worded better but the ones not focused on your weight (because no one really cares or is impacted by that but you) were genuine because what we saw was uncomfortable and alarming.
Im ootl, cn someone tell me what happened??
Are you realizing this is a pattern for you? I hope you can grow
Weird its almost like thats how clinical depression works. 🙄
@@emacmillan92 Weird, it's almost like you missed the point. They're talking about how she has a pattern of doing something that upsets her audience, not apologizing, and instead blaming them. Low views? Blames us. Content not working? Blames us. Comments regarding passive aggressive remarks towards others that people find uncomfortable? Blames us. She even had a video where she said something so horrible while drunk, that her friend would never forgive her, and she still managed to find a way to blame others. I've been watching her for 10 years, and she has gotten so much worse, which is sad to see. Yet, she refuses to see a therapist. Instead of enabling this horrible behavior with all your replies under comments, you should want better for her, and suggest for her to see one, or get off YT if it's that damaging. I want to see her better herself, because I enjoyed her content a lot. Do you know how many people have clinical depression that take control of it, instead of blaming others and crying about it? Yeah. She needs to stop having such a victim complex. THAT is weirdo behavior. Realize this is a fully grown, able-bodied woman. You DON'T need to be protecting her from VALID criticism. Smh.
@@cinnamorollbabiesxx you're obsessed 💀
@@emacmillan92 Lol, you're calling anyone with any opinion opposite of yours "obsessed". Say that to the 2.4k people who disliked the video. Just say you want to spread toxic positivity, keep her stagnant, and go. Smh. She's a whole grown, able-bodied woman who refuses therapy. You don't need to be her guard dog.
@@cinnamorollbabiesxx I have a question and this is just a question. How is she blaming her audience in this particular situation. I see the passive aggressive behavior. She made the live, people didn’t like it, and now she is making this video hinting to that live and victimize herself with the only thing she has, which is her weight. But, I didn’t notice her blaming us for what she did.
I agree with everything you said. And I agree with this community as a whole. I just didn’t see the blame in this particular video.
Cassie, I used to live in the public eye online 20 years ago. I had a huge social media following as a model and musician. It was complete shit for my mental health and that presence online is fleeting. Put your energy into your real life relationships and career. Once I went low visibility online my life improved exponentially!
Correct me if I’m wrong but in some of her dating get ready with me’s hasn’t she made the remark several times that she wants a “skinny” man? I swear she’s always said that that’s what she’s attracted to and she would not budge on it. That right there is contradicting to what she’s saying in this video.
So true!
Indeed you are correct.
I realised most of these comments slandering have the same few people who are probably jealous of her and critique her for some stuffs that are maybe valid
I say this respectfully as someone who has a mental illness (a few actually) but here’s the thing: you are the only person who can manage your mental health issues. You have to do the coping, do the healing, put in the work to get better, get meds, get into things that help your mental and emotional status. No therapist, doctor, or other person who can help you will do it FOR you. Only you can do that and it’s like managing any other chronic illness, you just learn to manage it in healthy ways. But with mental illness it takes work from within yourself.
Psychiatric medication is notoriously damaging to the brain and I do not believe anyone who says its helpful; every drug feels nice/better when you first take it.
Everything else you said is good and on point though.
I don’t believe she was on here asking for advice. I believe she was on here just asking people to be nice.
I am a long time subscriber and I am not sure if you release these types of videos a couple times a year because they get a lot of interaction (more money for you) or to try and make yourself the victim to your audience. Whatever the reason, I really think talking to a professional instead of venting to your subscribers would really benefit you. I have said it before in a similar video that this is the internet and no matter what you do someone will find fault with it. People are going to assume they know you because you put a lot of information about your life out there. They are going to jump to conclusions. They are going to say horrible things about you and your relationship. You cannot control it unless you heavily moderate or turn off your comments completely. The only thing in this world you can control is yourself and how you react to situations. This type of reaction is just feeding the trolls and will give them more ammunition to keep going. It is a vicious cycle that is continually repeating on your channel. You really need to do some soul searching and contemplate whether this is the right decision for your mental health to keep making videos for this channel. If you decide the pros outweigh the cons then I think you need to make some changes either in your content or the way your interact with your subscribers so you don't keep repeating this pattern. You are alienating people by complaining about the same things over and over again without doing anything to change it. What makes it even more frustrating as a viewer is that you have the means and access, unlike many people, yet you still don't seem to want to do anything to improve your situation like seeing a professional. I wish you nothing but the best and want to see you happy but don't think this channel is helping at all.
She continuously makes these videos and then swears up and down that she doesn’t need therapy at this point in her life. I don’t know how she can come to that conclusion. If it’s inaccessible to her, that’s a different story.
@@pjarae it’s getting so exhausting, and in a way, I feel it’s being dangerous to her audience who could be triggered by this content. We aren’t therapists, why are we being given 20 minute videos about this, where she doesn’t have to really edit much, and certainly not buy anything to review, and simultaneously…she’s being paid for it because it’s monetised? It’s just insulting at this point. If she wants to put videos like this up, demonetise them. It would be different f maybe she wanted to talk about some issues while purchasing, or PR, a new collection, as an example. But this on its own, is false representation of her brand and what she gained her followers from in the first place. Essentially - we are being used.
@@pjaraeomg i thought she has been in therapy fr a long time. Why wudnt she wna get help. It's nt smtg to be ashamed of of smh
@@CC_Babblecockyou're not being used dickweed. This is her channel n she has creative freedom to put out wtv she likes n u cn just stop watching. Who gives a shit
You all realize that these types of videos are made for the purpose of views and clicks, which = money in her pocket, right? These videos pop up every few months and have been for years! The click bait titles and poor me saga for nearly a decade has made Cassie $. She’s been around YT long enough to know which videos generate more $ and is why she makes them over and over and over again. She’s not dumb y’all!
That's so true
Shutup Amy! Have you ever had depression? It's a serious medical issue.
Totally disagree. I've been watching her since she was in school and that is not why she does them. I think it's a form of self therapy.
What kind of parent allows their 13 year old to exercise 2-3 hours a day? 🧐
Therapy girl I promise it will change your life if you find a good therapist and it’s a lot easier these days to find a good one!
Cassie, you are self-sabotaging. First, you need to admit to yourself you live a very unhealthy life. Stop being the perpetual victim, it only does you harm. You need to mature and treat your partner (that you spent YEARS hoping to find) better, as an equal. The solutions to the problems you create yourself are easy and simple. Like Kim would say "Get off your ass and work", girl.
Kim hasn't really worked a day in her life though. 🤣😂🤣😂
I wish I could just make videos, post them and not interact with anyone and still get paid.
Then do it
@@emseasims I’d interact so it wouldn’t be the same.
I haven’t seen much hate about your weight . It’s mostly about how you are condescending towards Dan . Everyone has different perceptions that’s human nature but being on social media you need a tough skin .
Yup. I think she's projecting her insecurities. The complaints she's referring to were mainly about how they eat so much junk, but that's not fat-shaming. If so, then why wouldn't she say they're fat-shaming Dan too? As a longtime viewer, I think the way she words things (titling videos "I am disposable garbage", telling Dan "Im sorry I'm too fat and treat you badly" instead of having a real conversation, saying people want her to be a size 2 or 8) is lowkey manipulative and rubs me the wrong way...
@@cinnamorollbabiesxx agreed! Passive aggressive nonsense.
I never comment but wow this heated me more than it should’ve lol
Anybody would be depressed if they had been doing what you have been doing every single day for the past 10 years, and never making any little change whatsoever. Being content with doing the same outdated content every week, not leaving the house, making excuses for everything, and eating junk is not an end goal
I’m all for loving yourself but you also have to treat yourself with love and that includes trying to better yourself
From what I’ve seen in the comments there are maybe 1% criticizing your weight and 99% commenting on who you are on the inside, actually. And most likely your outside appearance is a reflection of how you are inside from whatever “snipets of life” you’ve shared with us in the last 10 years. Anytime you do those woo is me videos it’s always people’s fault yet you are always the common denominator (eg losing all your friends).
I know we don’t know you irl and you “choose what you want us to see”, but what we see is already very telling tbh, can’t even imagine if that is the filtered version
Also please stop with the working out 2-3 hours and starving yourself to be a size 8, it is scientifically not a thing 😭
You are a cruel person I hope you never actually experience clinical depression. Also, how hypocritical is it to make such a vile comment after everything she said in this video because you’re obviously an ugly person on the inside and you’re unhappy so maybe you have some things to work on
Hw is it scientifically nt a thing lol. There's ppl who work out hours on end and more than what Cassie used to work out ie personal trainers. I also realised this comment is eerily similar to another account's comments. I'm a fan of Cassie and do admit that if whining n nt doing anything be it trying to incorporate healthy meals or exercising as simple as walking nt hardcore HIIT cn come off a bit annoying.
Viewer/"outsider" perspective here. No more live chats, more focus on planned/edited videos and your other job.
Nobody can fully prevent nasty comments, but we can control how we react. Lives open the door for nasty comments, and they also open the door for knee-jerk retorts.
Edited videos dont give quite as much ammo to hecklers, and also allow you to control your response to them and not say/do anything out of anger for all to see.
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I doubt she'll take this advice, but it's the best here and what I've been thinking for a couple years now.
Of course this video was coming. Always does after she goes wild on another video. This is a pattern. Acts passive aggressive on 1 video and immediately comes out with a “woe is me” video. Girl….get some professional help. Go back to therapy.
Yesss this! And I have never ever seen anyone straight up call her fat .
No need to be a b*tch about it
Adapt or perish, now as ever, is nature's inexorable imperative.
H. G. Wells
Cassie, your appearance being such a central part of your identity - have you figured out why you gained weight? Was it related with the break up that you cried over on a video here or something else that happened around that time? Most often people put weight on as a means of having protection from the world. But u seem to have relaxed since Dan came along ur not as strained and u don’t mind showing ur apartment revealing stuff….what do u think will happen if you lost the weight (u spend so much time and energy over)?
I feel like this may be, in part, surrounding the interaction you and your partner had on your last live stream. Everyone deserves respect and dignity, Cassey…online and in person. Personally, I wouldn’t be able to handle the scrutiny that accompanies a public presence and I wish you (and Dan) the ability to healthfully cope with the unfortunately inevitable consequences of presenting yourselves in such a forward facing manner.
What happened?
The live is still there. She didn't delete it, it's just in the "live" section and not the main vid section
@@katanabluebird Oh, thank you for the correction. I’ll edit my comment.
I've been a long time subscriber and I wish nothing but the best for you but I think everyone is concerned because we only know what you choose to show us from your life and what you do choose to show doesn't look healthy. Your last vlog included a grocery haul that was 99% processed food. It looks like you lead a mostly sedentary life which isn't good. The pile of clothes in your background is horrible for your mental health also. If your space isn't clean then you feel like your life is disorganized. If there's no space for the clothes at least fold them. Try more natural foods instead of so much processed stuff. A 30 minute walk a day is just fine. No one is expecting you to be a size zero or a body builder but just want you to make a few healthy changes that could make a big difference not just physically but mentally. I've been a size 16 since I was 18 and now fluctuate between an 18/20 so I know how you feel. My health has suffered from being the same way and now I'm trying my best now to do better. There are some comments of hate but most sound like they're genuinely concerned for you. I hope you understand this is coming from a place of love and understanding ❤
I agree! Well said.
Great comment, 100% agree!
Exactly! I was one of the people leaving a comment about food in the vlog. Im not a hater, I wish Cassie all the best. A long time viewer. I really love this channel cause Cassie is so real. I guess I left that comment because I focus on eating healthier myself. Its just a projection of what I focus on right now. And its pointless to ask people to stop leaving negative comments. It will never happen. When you post personal stuff the comments will get to you cause they’re about your life. Im sorry I said there was too much processed food, I never ment to hurt you. We all love you Cassie, get better soon 🥰🥰🥰
I don't know. I came back to this video and I have no place to comment on this since I've never experienced clinical depression but Cassie.......If you're depressed, what are you doing to help make yourself better? I'm assuming it takes work whether it's time with a therapist, medication and/or lifestyle changes. I think the thing is...people don't want to hear the same sob stories over and over.
We want to hear what it is that you're doing to help lessen or make your depression better. Please. You've got lots of people behind you, rooting for you.
You may read a majority of comments and feel they're uncalled for or mean. I see them as terms of motivation for yourself, especially because you have the means!
Scroll down to the plethora of comments you're receiving and notice which ones have the most likes......there is a theme here and maybe you should try to listen to them.
This is her platform, and if she has clinical depression, imagine how tired she is feeling the same way over and over again if you don’t wanna watch it, don’t watch it but people can’t keep their opinions to themselves. It doesn’t cost anything she’s not forcing anyone to watch her videos and she doesn’t know anyone explanation of whether she takes medication goes to therapy meditates she just speaking her mind I think people need to understand that.
@@ajabraham130 but I do want to watch her. I hate that "don't like it, don't watch" come back. I like Cassie and her channel. It's obvious she's struggling and most people are trying to help.
My comment is exactly what I would say to one of my friends if they were struggling.
Yeesh.
@@ajabraham130 She's already complained about her dying channel, and your response is to have people "not watch"? Imagine if only the 800 people who liked the video stayed, while the over 2.4k who disliked, left. Her channel would be nonexistent. Toxic positivity IS REAL in these comments. Smh.
I dont know how you’re preaching to treat others nicely when you don’t even treat your subscribers nicely
@@monicamonica9462 Precisely.. this. She can justify it all she wants but it isn't cool or funny or light-hearted. She's fooling herself into believing so.
Her audience insults and lecture her about everything she does, they are bullies
I've been a susbcriber for years now, and I usually leave encouraging words in these types of videos in your channel. But that in reality does not help you. Instead, I'm going to recommend something that will actually help you: please, see a therapist. We your audience can listen to you but some have bad intentions and some just can't really understand what you're going thru. On the other hand, some of us want to see you happy and some others can relate to how you feel. In any case, that may help a little, but just temporarily. The issues you have with the perception of yourself can only get solved with professional help, not just venting to some strangers... we ALL need therapy, and you're no exception. Please consider it, I have many friends that have gotten therapy and their life has improved a lot. I say this with good intentions, and please, don't share more than you need about your private life, wether on videos or on lives. People will always comment and many will come from ignorance. So please, be careful with what you share if that's gonna make you feel sad in the end.
Cassie, as a more mature woman who has had body image issues my whole life and also struggles with depression I can relate. What helped me is to walk outside every day or find a good indoor walking spot, eat deliberately (in other words try to plan your food/meals with the occasional splurge), and see a therapist. These are such small things! If you can develop these habits and realize that they are lifelong and not a phase then I believe you would become more emotionally stable and the best you possible.
I agree! I'm sure lots of people would watch if she filmed her journey. I would.
Yes! So simple, yet so effective. I have anxiety and chronic pain. I started with light gardening and ended up adding forest hiking to my hobbies list. If you do it gradually, you can work your up to more and it doesn't have to be heavy duty. Exercise does wonders for health, mood and pain control. I wish I figured that out sooner.
Maybe you wouldn’t be so depressed if you would lose weight eat better even exercise it’s good for depression. I’ve lost 105 lbs over 3 years you could lose weight if you wanted to but it’s work and I’m not sure you want to apply yourself. Sounds to me like your a book of excuses your depressed your different you can’t lose weight. Time to grow up and hold yourself accountable.
Giving unsolicited diet/weightloss advice is weirdo behavior
@@emacmillan92 so isn’t critiquing someone whom is trying to stop her childish ignorant behavior. She is her OWN worst enemy and she is lazy to boot!
It's nt easy being depressed. Like it's nt just water that rolls off a duck's back.
@@plaster.art.ho3 I realize that I suffer as well I’ve had 3 suicide attempts she is a book of excuses. Try helping yourself I’ll bet even a doctor will tell her lose weight and exercise do something you can’t just sit around and complain there are many parts to getting better she just isn’t ambitious enough.
I think we all forget that this woman is 35 years old… this is just pathetic at this point.
@@kristin4963 I’ve was a fan when she was still living in Boston and she was around 25 then.
Exactly !! 35 and still a 15 year old mentality . Pathetic yes
@@moominmay Lol, she revealed her true colors is all. Most don't show their real selves on camera until they get comfortable with their audience...and she got waaay too comfortable with a sea of strangers. I feel really bad for Dan. It may not be right away and I'm not wishing the worst on her, but I can guarantee you this relationship won't last, at least not happily, despite what she's trying to portray in her thumbnails and what she says about her relationship. Most people who aren't rabid fans can see all of this.
@@KristenB2263All you women what happened to supporting other women. You all sound pathetic.
@@DragonsOfSnowjokes on u lmao, they're celebrating 1 yr onwards. The parent comment and the ones beneath it reek of jealousy.
I'm sorry to comment again but I've just re-watched.
Cassie you're throwing a major pity party for yourself and can confidentially say, no one is joining you.
Stop making excuses and actually make some changes. Your weight is insignificant as hardly anyone comments about your appearance, it's just you scraping the barrel for things that make you a victim.
If your weight does bother you, do something about it? I feel all you do is complain.
Cut out the laziness and do something! We only have one life, work on yourself until you're happy.
Also, I feel the conversation you had with Dan after your live was incredibly fake, "I'm sorry that I'm fat and that I treat you horribly" - Cassie what is that? That isn't an apology or a path to asking Dan how he feels, you knew he would disagree because he loves you so that automatically made you feel better without having to change or apologise, its quite toxic.
I'm really sorry if that's harsh but if you're putting yourself out there, you've got to be prepared to take the criticism that comes back at you.
If your in a dark place then stay off the internet and take care of yourself
There is so very much I like about you Cassie and as a fellow sufferer of depression, I empathise. But can’t you see that there is a pattern here, you acted really badly in that live video (and I get that you were sad/angry/frustrated), but every time you misstep, as sure as the sun rises, a few days later you produce a lying on the bed, self pitying video and while you endlessly bemoan your lot - which is your right - you never apologise for your actions/words and you never take accountability!
You literally asked people to mind their words and to be kind - please a little self reflection and realisation!
I don’t know how often you need to hear it - it never seems to sink in - but you are a beautiful, articulate and creative woman, why don’t you ever hear those comments? I rarely see people being mean to you for the sake of it, I often see genuine concern/advice, often in response to self deprecating comments you’ve made. I’ve seen people offer solicited suggestions on content they’d like to see, you make excuses as to why you can’t/won’t and don’t want to do that content. Again that’s your right and your choice - but you can’t keep doing these negative videos that make those who genuinely care about you, feel bad.
Life is hard for all of us, regardless of how we look, our career path and life opportunities. You have a new job, a TH-cam channel that maintains, if not increases it’s viewership and a good man in your life. Try to be happy Cass and I say that with 💜
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What happened with dan on the live?
@@AmberC17 TBF - I don’t think there was anything too bad between them on the live, outside of normal couple bantering with each other. The video is still up on the live section.
The toxic positivity i-
People are kind to those who are kind. Depression is horrible. Unfortunately, people treating others badly is horrible as well… regardless of any illness. Hopefully you apologized to the viewer you told to stfu. And most of us aren’t anonymous. Our full names are above our comment.
Boooooo
Did I see it wrong? Because what I saw and heard was Cassie dicussing how she'd been harassed by someone and then someone completely shitting on her valid feelings regarding that matter by saying "you're not even that famous".. I'd fully tell someone to do one that thought it was acceptable to mock me when I'm discussing a pretty traumatic and potentially dangerous situation.
Is that not what happened? Please correct me if I'm wrong.
“people are kind to those who are kind” if only the world worked that way. lol. you ever work retail? or with people in general? or put yourself online? people are kind to whoever they are kind to, or they’re not kind at all. sad truth
@@roxyleighsmith6601The viewer actually said “Do you really think anyone wants to stalk you?” I took that as a new viewer legitimately questioning if she really thinks someone is stalking her. Which I was wondering as well.
All your comments are negative Nancy sh*t. No compassion or consideration from you at all. She is a real human being who is clearly struggling and you always choose to kick her when she's down. Does that make you feel good about yourself? Up
cassie, ive been watching you for about 10 years now. respectfully, i think your skin is way too thin for someone who has been on YT for so long, and it's clear that those around you need to handle you with white gloves. i also think you have a way of spiraling bc of valid criticism, and perpetuate a victim mentality. this is the internet - people are mean, you can't change it. find a way to adapt, or stop making content... it's giving amberlynn reid.
She should start muckbangs again. Seemed her happiest eating on camera. She loves the food, not the makeup
maybe content creation just isn't for you if you take it so personally. it's say overdue to find a full time job, cassie. why continue to do something you obviously don't enjoy? for the money?
@coolcatt it's definitely for the money. I've been watching her for over 6 years and I've noticed that the passion/drive that she once had for this channel is long gone. Her videos are so low effort, but still get enough views to keep the cash coming in/keep her from needing a "real" job which is why I think she keeps uploading videos.
@@emmy0804 You really think you know everything huh? Good grief....
Big 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Yep! Here we go again 🙄🙄🙄
The CDC does recommend 150 minutes of physical activity a week. People were so quick to take the advice from the CDC about covid but disregard ones about physical activity, basically just picking and choosing which rules they want to follow. There are clearly benefits of moving your body which could help
Bored w this already 😮
Whenever you get critical comments you do this, whine whine whine. Grow up. Your the one broadcasting your private life pretty much to the world.
Casey, please, as a person with depression myself, I suggest you to quit social media as a job. I think you could be so much happier having a more private life, sharing your moments only with close people that loves you, not exposing yourself to a bunch of anonymous strangers that don’t know you at all. Please, think about it. I send you a big hug to comfort you in this difficult moment.
I think it's because she pushes all of her real life friends away, she relies so heavily on the praises of online strangers that can't see who she really is. She's one of those toxic people that thinks she's always the victim even though she's the common denominator to all of her friendship & relationship fall outs. I don't see Dan dealing with this long-term and I wouldn't blame him honestly.
@@DragonsOfSnowsays the jealous hater. Jokes on u cz they just hit their 1-yr anniversary
i know you think you don't need a therapist but it seems like it would be much more helpful to talk about these things with a professional instead of putting it on the internet
Exactly
wait what - she doesn’t go to therapy??? 0_o
I think we should appreciate how real and raw she is with all of us. She doesn’t live a fabricated life and it is so refreshing. Go watch keeping up with the Kardashians or something.
@@peterdick9384 I actually think her being “real and raw” is what’s causing a lot of these problems. She needs to have more boundaries with her audience and, like I said, discuss these things with a therapist instead.
@@katies570 what exactly is she over sharing though? Yeah her body image and self esteem obviously is a personal problem, but what therapist can convince her to accept herself? I agree more with the fact that she should start working on her insecurities such as working out and changing the way she eats but at the same time if she’s not going to then we’re all just gonna have to accept her and her rants and watch the content that is actually of interest such as the weekly wears, but if you read the discussions under majority of her videos it is definitely a negative place from telling her she applied something wrong, she should’ve done this should’ve done that, poor Dan, she needs help, I’ve been watching your channel for blah blah blah just a bunch of people who also have terrible self esteem and then take it out on someone that is publicly showing their vulnerability. She needs a better fandom.
I now see why I unsubscribed years ago. Bue
The hell is wrong with you?? Why’d you even watch the video if you unsubscribed years ago??
Yep, she didn’t evolve a bit
Same old and boyfriend doesn't help
I think you need a long soc media break
I mean it in the best way I think you will feel better
I feel sorry for you that u are going through depression. But let’s be real…u put yourself out there on utube. I think u need to just go off utube and live your life with Dan. There will always be someone who will comment in the wrong way. You’re not going to stop them. Constructive criticism.
Why don’t you take accountability for your actions? It’s not all about your weight or looks. People are pointing out you’re overweight because that’s reality. If you don’t like being told overweight that’s fair but you also can’t deny reality. Your actions are treating your subscribers poorly, not willing to compromise with Dan about the closet space (no one is making that situation up bc he complained about the lack thereof) - if you don’t like then talk to him about not mentioning conflict on lives. That’s between you and him. It has nothing to do with society treating women who look a certain way. You’re not a victim who experiences harm at the whim of society. Grow up and take accountability for yourself instead of blaming everything and everyone else.
You need to grow up and not make comments about other peoples appearances because it doesn’t matter why does she need you to point out if she’s skinny or heavy it’s stupid that you take the time out of your day to do so
Commenting on someones weight is never okay, it doesn't matter. I've only ever seen her be snarky to people who are incredibly rude to her which she has every right to clapback. And you cannot possibly know how her and dans relationship is in real like from a video, they have said they tease each other and its not an issue for them so maybe people should mind their business or leave if they dont like it. Be for real with yourself and admit you only watch to hate on cassie
@@emacmillan92 Except the majority of the comments under this video are people giving her some genuine feedback and advice, but you're still complaining about that. Smh. There was nothing wrong with this comment. The toxic positivity with you people is insane. Cassie ISN'T a victim. She's an able-bodied, fully grown ADULT WOMAN who refuses to go to therapy. All her friends leaving her isn't a coincidence - she IS the common denominator. She needs to learn to apologize, and move on. Therapy, not toxic and fake positivity.
@@emacmillan92 if someone is 600lbs it’s not ok for viewers to tell them they’re in danger? If someone is 60lbs as an adult ifs not ok for viewers to tell them they’re starving to death? Pointing out a lack of health isn’t policed by the world weight police, get a grip. Dan is the one in the last live who complained about a lack of closet space. He kept repeating it. No one knows their relationship but everyone who watched the live knows that he said he doesn’t have enough close space. That’s a fact. And if she wanted him to move in and he’s paying rent then he deserves enough space. If people can’t handle that then they can go back to nursery school because they’re babies who don’t want to take responsibility for things.
@@bladegirlx no. its not. cause their health isn't any of your business, and its doesn't help and can actually make things worse. but either way thats not the situation here, YOU get a grip. And as for her and dan talking about closet space, it wasn't even that deep People like you just wanna find something to nit pick at to put someone down to feel better about yourself or something idk. Maybe its you you has to take responsibility and figure out why you just wanna be negative to people online to make yourself feel better. And if you don't like cassie then dont watch.
Well then don’t post your personal business if you feel like this after 🤷🏼♀️ common sense.
How about you grow up and not bully people?
Cassie you’ve been on TH-cam for years. You don’t have a way to avoid negative comments? It’s the internet and it’s never going away. You need a routine to avoid this. Many creators block out key words. You should know that if you make a video rescuing 200 cats someone is going to say something negative. And mostly negative comments have nothing to do with you. You should know how to do this by now to protect your mental health. You taking everything personally is a you problem and can’t change other people. You come on here and talk about this often and you need to fix this issue.
Not to beat a dead horse but you intentionally PUT yourself, your life, your image and your issues on social media for all to see. Other than your own self degradation, if you werent on the internet, would there really be that many people criticizing you? You're certainly not out of the range of what an average body looks like in the US. If you're struggling with acceptong yourself, if you constantly feel a need to defend yourself, your choices, your looks, etc..and it's bringing you down..maybe make the decision that you might need to not put yourself on the internet until you're a bit stronger and more resolute. The internet will always be a platform for some people to make themselves feel better by putting others down. You're never going to change that. You're working a regular job now. If you make videos they should make you happy regardless of what others comment. If that's not happening..why make the videos and invite more support for your own pervasive thoughts of inadequacy? I wouldn't enjoy reading what every anonymous internet user thinks of me or my life...ergo I wouldn't put it on display. Just a few thoughts.
Ok Cass, boyfriend problems? Job? Your apartment? What is it?
This is why I unsubbed. This channel used to be fun. Cassie used to be relatable. Now it’s poor choices and crying over the consequences. It’s ignoring the advice and concern and expecting us to care when you don’t do shit to better yourself.
You were disrespectful to those who took the time to watch you / chat with you / send superchats your way by suggesting anyone of them may want to stalk you! Most dont. Yes u will always have that one but dan didnt say much of anything & shut him up for mentioning square footage. That whole scene was crazy. & you disrespected him by saying you'll just tell him to leave if you dont want him there anymore. It shouldnt be that easy to displace someone especially after they leave the home they had to be with you. You get pissed off if someone mentions its not sanitary for cats to be on the counter. Of course its not. But we are the crazy ones. If u didnt see them up there & while in a hurry u quickly prepare a meal & didnt sanitize bc you didnt know they jumped up there again.. whos not to say theres no fecal bacteria on their feet from their litter? If u dont care its one thing but u insult those who mention it & u wanna say mind your business. You put your life on display for everyone & make your money that way. What if no one wanted to watch you ever again? You'd have to go out there & hustle right? You should be more appreciative & more respectful.
Being hung up about a cat jumping on the counter is weird behavior
I’ve seen a lot of cats jump on counters. Some owners don’t like it and they train them not to do it. And others don’t.
I’ve never had a cat. But, I have had a dog. It’s the same thing with letting them sleep on your bed. My dog does not sleep on my bed. He rolls around in his own poop, lol. But, he does get to lay down on the sofa. I just make sure his blanket is there. But, other people will let their dogs climb everywhere.
So, it depends on the person. And I really don’t think this is the dealbreaker in deciding someone’s character.
Her chronic depression that she never seems to get help for, her passive aggressive behavior, her victim mentality (I get it you’re not socially beautiful), and her using her audience as therapists (though I will admit whenever she makes a video like this, the comments are so insightful). That’’s the issue.
The rest of the stuff like the cats on the counter is just nitpicking and she should ignore it. Stop addressing it. You don’t own your audience an explanation or even an apology for how you raise your cats. And the people who demand that should be ignored.
@@moominmay I agree. She does ignore her comments. I’m not sure if this community is becoming toxic, though. Sure, there are nitpicking comments or just downright negative ones. One time, there was comments about her boobs. And if I recall correctly, she made a whole video defending herself and her boobs, lol. Why? It’s so stupid. Or another time during her dating series, she had another one of these types of videos after going on a few dates with someone. And she was really sad, disappointed, and even crying that it didn’t work out. I don’t think she said that she loved the guy. But, commenters were like, “You’re acting like you’re totally in love. Stop being psycho and needy.” Again, stupid. Completely stupid. She was just upset that it didn’t work out. I don’t recall her saying that she was in love with him or that she saw herself spending her whole life with him. She did say something along the lines of, “I thought this was one gonna work.” But, that far from saying,””I know we are gonna get married and have kids.” That’s how the comments were. they were berating for reacting the way she did after a few dates with a guy.
However. I don’t see the toxicity in this community. Even in that video where she was “totally in love” with some dude, people were supportive. And I often see more positive comments than negative. A lot of them are insightful and respectful.
Regardless of all that, she ignores these comments. And that’s what matters. If you’re going to make a para-social relationship with your subscribers, at the very least ‘heart’ what they said. You don’t have to have a conversation with each and every person. But, acknowledge them.
Oh dear you need a life, stop watching if she bothers you so much?
Also side note she literally got a side hustle job
Cassie, love, I think you need a big break from TH-cam. For your own mental health, I think it's time, it seems like it's causing you more pain than anything. Couple months, maybe? Financially I think you're in a place with the new job you could do that? Or maybe just consider turning off the comments for the foreseeable.
As far as depression goes, I don't think it ever truly leaves, it just kind of lurks, we have moments of remission but ultimately there's always a chance it comes back with a vengeance. Have you considered maybe getting your meds checked/adjusted if you can go on a higher dose of antidepressant? Be well Cassie!
Cassie, we love you for who you are. Please do not change for anyone but yourself. Be true to yourself. Listen to those who lift you up and truly care about you,. You are attractive. Those who try to bring you down are actually jealous so of you. Turn any negative into a positive. Prayers, blessings and love to you and Dan, Debbie
boo 🍅🍅
I think by now you should be able to deal with negative comments. That's life in general too just ignore it. I'm sure if we all were online we would get negative comments too. I enjoy your vlogs. Maybe you can turn comments off on those videos. Perhaps do take a break from livestreams as well. You actually seemed more comfortable with yourself recently. By the way you can loose weight and not starve yourself. I was almost 170lbs 5ft2 and I used a weight loss calculator free online and I did exercise mostly walking and lost 70lbs in about a year and a half. Its about being healthy. As far as how you treat your pets people do seem go be over critical. Again try to ignore it. Everyone I watch that had videos with their partners and pets also even children get mean comments or putting their 2 cents in. Its part of putting yourself out there online.
Hi! Im 5"2 and am overweight as well. 160 pounds... Hw many times n hw often did u exercise to lose the pounds? What about diet and stuff? I admit I've been eating more meals n snacking on unhealthy food and hence why I've gained 22 pounds in just 4 short mths haha. This was a helpful comment for Cassie too!
@@plaster.art.ho3 I started out walking about 20 minutes to 30 minutes maybe 4 to 5 days a week. I did a lot of low impact workout videos on TH-cam about 3 times a week. The videos weren’t too long. I have some dumbbells and lifted weights a couple of times a week. As for food I just made sure to eat within he calorie range that I got from the weight loss calculator I did cut down a lot on junk food. If I did get something like say crackers cookies chips things like that I would make snack packs and divide them up into portions. I hope that helps.
I can’t imagine having good mental health if I put my life out there for people to comment on and critique, never mind having to edit my life and scrutinize my looks and choices.
Cassie I hope this comment reaches you and sits with you with the intention of constructive advice rather negative criticism. As you stated in the video, words have weight and meaning. When you mentioned in one of your live streams about Fig and you’d rather have him fat and happy, that was an alarming comment to your subscribers. And in the comments of that live, so many of your subscribers provided advice on how to help maintain your cats weight and supportive messages. But instead of focusing on that, in your following stream you were snippy at your subscribers saying how we took it as “morbid” and “cryptic” and turned your words into something else. I feel as though sometimes you’re overshadowed with protecting yourself and what you believe is to be right at that moment… and in return you hurt your subscribers who try to support you. It’s hard to accept criticism, even the ones approached nicely. But I hope you take the time to recognize some of the destructive behaviors you have that other people have noticed/mentioned and work on healthier alternatives. You shouldn’t focus more on the negative comments rather than the ones who support and love you on every single video. I know it can be easier said then done, but your words have meaning too so alway consider your approach and tone when talking to your audience.
You must be stupid to take everything she says seriously, you’re not her mother, she doesnt need to listen to your or anyone, you’re getting her content for free, bully pretending to give “constructive criticism”
Why not just ignore and not even look at the comments? You don’t engage with them anyways so it seems like a net loss to even look. I hope you feel better soon ❤
Millennials all think they're experiencing depression anytime they're not deliriously happy. Buck up! You're so in your emotions. Just get on with life and stop obsessing over yourself.
I guess that means the relationship is out of lonely and you feel sad in your own relationship and you feel single. Wowie
Why are you here.
@@meganwalsh7135 🤣
@@meganwalsh7135 because people like this enjoy trying to upset others. Unfortunately there's too many of them.
Being overweight is not just about reduced physical attractiveness. It also shows that in character, you lack discipline.
Losing weight would be good for you in many regards; not only because you would look thinner but because you would have to gain the self discipline required to do so. If you focus on the word ‘discipline’ you can improve just about any area of your life. Your health, body, housekeeping, career, or whatever area needs improvement. Apply discipline.
Found the boomer
Nobody has any business commenting on weight, health, or diet at all unless Cassie brings it up. I wish people would just use common courtesy. This channel is not about weight loss and she didn’t ask for opinions on it.
She did go live and act poorly though. Many of the comments were valid. If a large group of people has the same opinion, then there’s clearly a reason for it. You can’t act that way and expect only positive feedback.
I didn't even realize how trapped inside my own head I was until I saw a psychologist (I have ocd) I can relate to rude comments or just plain criticism getting under your skin and making you feeling vulnerable. It makes
you feel like you're doing something wrong when you are actually living a normal life and the rest of us aren't any different or any "better" either.
Have you taken a look at plus sized
fashion youtubers? Many of them are inspirational not just fashion but looking at your body in a different angle.
Also Dan seems like the type of a person who can handle himself and speak up if he was bothered by something.
Have a good day Cassie
I think live videos is where most of the issues are created for you. Maybe stick to planned vids that way you have time to reflect on comments in your own time if you choose too answer them at all :-)
OK Cass. I've been following you since the start (had a different TH-cam name). I can relate to what you are saying, but there is something you can do to get out of this.
Take some time off TH-cam and start walking. Like daily, for at least 20 minutes. Slowly build it up to an hour. If there's a place with hiking trails, DO THAT! It will do wonders for your emotional and physical health, and you will lose weight over time.
I've been overweight off and on my entire adult life. Exercise is the only change that actually took the weight off and kept it off. I eat a healthy meal once a day plus 2 desserts. If I stop walking, hiking and gardening, the weight creeps back on. But that's an easy fix. It's hard because I also have chronic pain, but it does wonders for anxiety and overall mood.
I meant to add, see your doctor. You may need medication and you definitely could use counselling. I'm older than you and have been through this. This helps, especially if you have a depression or an anxiety disorder.
The life long gift of depression is so much fun. Ur not alone 💜💜💜
This!
It’s only until you get older and wiser from experience that you will realize you have wasted so much precious time possible happiness ruminating about your body … any aspect of it. Even if a person is “gorgeous” their body is eventually going to turn to ashes one day …. So imagine if at the end of your life you will see how much time you wasted on caring what others think of you, doubting yourself, explaining yourself, and for what? For who? Followers? Comments from strangers? Don’t give these people any energy…they don’t deserve that power. I have experienced everything you are discussing for over 25 years depression Body Dysmorphia and guess what I have lost so much time caring…it’s just not worth it. You should never compromise your own self worth even though the depression will convince you otherwise….depression lies to the one who has it …it convinces them they are worthless hopeless weak beyond love and help and even convinces some that life isn’t worth living. ….it’s a disease that lies and cheats and preys upon your vulnerabilities….depression is not a flaw it is an illness that no one has been able to map out medically like other illnesses but that doesn’t mean it’s any less of an illness. Please try to reframe your thinking when negative comments come your way…giving 2 💩💩s about what some stranger thinks isnt worth triggering your mind or precious time. I know you will get over this hump. And you do too. Rest enjoy the cats and animals of this world and the ones you love.
Yeah something about as women when our hormones start changing in our 40s it gets easier to not care so much about what others think. I wish she could own what she says and stop being on the defensive. But I think she's far from that, so I just hope she at least stops doing the Livestreams.
Honestly I understand how you feel, but with age you really stop caring about what people think of you or what you do and how you live your life. Remember you don’t owe anything to anyone and they don’t owe you. So who really cares. ( except our loved ones) I’m 49 and have been overweight ALL of my life until i got gastric bypass and even then I’m not skinny. It’s liberating when you finally understand that people’s opinions don’t matter. You will get through this 💕💕💕💕💕
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through and how you’re feeling. Hope you feel better soon. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself ❤ we love you and we support you.
I sleep a lot when I'm feeling depressed, I have to remind myself that it is exhausting, no wonder we are so tired! Thank you for talking about it! You are not alone. Depression sucks!I hear you, someday a shower is all you can achieve. I've seen you happy and sad, so hang in there, this too shall pass.
Thank you for sharing. I showered today as well after not being able to do it for the last few days. Some will never understand true depression and all it takes from you. Just keep doing you and taking care of your health. ❤
Go to the gym
Eat to live not live to eat !! Simple
So quit doing Vlogs!!! Why bother with it! Why put yourself through it! Just stop
Its called the almighty dollar. Its why she allows comments. The interaction means money 🤷🏼♀️
@@shelleyjack1579 bingo!
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear about Galliano Cassie. 😢 I loved him from afar and I know exactly how it feels to lose a pet. I had a particularly strong bond with my last name cat. I adopted him from my vets office when he was 4. ALL INDOOR CATS WILL BE OVERWEIGHT, no matter what! He was and so is my current girl. And she has a huge fenced in yard to roam around in, so she gets a lot of exercise. I have falcoln bells on her so she can chase the birds but not catch them.
Anyway, The loss of my male cat was horrific. I cried so much I burst a blood vessel in my eye. I had to see a psychologist. And you know what he told me? Get a KITTEN. Like 3 to 6 months old. He said I would be too busy laughing to be sad. And man, he was right! I did wait 5 months and she was a rescue, but wow, I had never had a KITTEN before. The cat before my male was a blind 18 year old, lol.
As for the people criticizing your cat mothering skills. Everyone has an opinion about everything, which is fine! But if you stick to beauty videos and not talk about your personal life too much, that won't be an issue. I give my cat 2 cat treats a week, she's on diet food, exercises like a KITTEN still yet is still overweight. I even walk her on a harness.
Thank you for being vulnerable with us Cassie 😢 I'm so sorry you have to deal with hatefulness
Ok first thing I think there might be some bipolar disorder in there as a person who struggles with depression and bipolar disorder and to add the overthinking issues to it I fight with this every single day honestly tho it’s not because of the subscribers it’s not because of Dan fact one comment will take up space in a mind like mine as if 100 people have said it and you will have blowup days it sucks and yes professional help is always the best option but not always the most obtainable fact is your thoughts are definitely something you have placed in your head I’d honestly say don’t post a video about it seek family and friends but not publicly to the ones that are triggering you to go to a manic state
Shower every day. Don’t be smelly.
Judi, your ass need to shower!!! You have obviously never had depression!
Remember not matter what is going on - it is temporary. That has gotten me through the worst of times. I hope you feel better.
I told myself this every single day while I was in foster care…got me thru, too
That's exactly what helps me the most too, I tell myself this is what I feel CURRENTLY and soon I won't be thinking about it anymore
This is so simple, but it really is what has helped me the most in difficult times.
Feel better. You have a lot of followers (probably like 99% of them) who fully support you and are not the least bit concerned about what size clothes you wear. I think you look great and really enjoy your content. I could say a lot of cliche things right now, but I won't. Just know that you are loved by many people here on YT and in real life. Sending love and hugs your way.
I'm sorry you are feeling like this rn. I totally get it. I've been super down lately too. Sending you hugs and we all can get through this
🩷🌻 you are appreciated. Know that. Some people are just so mean.
I use to talk like this whenever I was on my period.
Cassie, do you honestly think that those commenting negatively on your channel are supermodels themselves? Yeah, no. The issue is if you make your life public, you open yourself up to criticism. Thats just how it is. I can never be on TH-cam but I do enjoy your channel and respect your views and your life. Some people just can't be mature and they just have to be Karens about everything.
You can’t help getting depression anymore then you could help needing glasses. You need to touch base with your doctor, review whether meds are something that help, seek out therapy, etc.
I agree with others, just don’t look at the comments, or even disable them all together. Your viewers aren’t just the ones who criticize, I’ve enjoyed your videos for about 8 years.
I think yours is one of the few channels I still watch is because you’re a real human.
You’re not alone . I’m going through it too . Could you be feeling overwhelmed because you’re working outside of TH-cam after so many years ? Give yourself some grace ❤ like you say , it’ll be ok .
There are people that go around an leave comments just to upset. Many aren't sincere. It's a way for them to have fun. Please don't let things you've done with a good heart and just out of a innocent personality style make you question the great gal and sweet hearted person you are because unknown people pointed things out.
Hang in there. Healing and uplifting prayers for you. ❤