Ty but today he said it will be a very very long time before he will start a relationship with me? Am worried. Is this the norm?? Iv told him that I can't see him tomorrow. Not to play games. Am just fed up. For 6 months we been very very close friends.
What if your married and you've been married for 17 years and your husband's playstation 5 seems to be more important to him then me and our kids together? I have spoiled my husband from day one and I still do I pray for him everyday I've never done anything but give him respect but he doesn't give me respect I just keep it to myself for the kid's when he wants to talk I always listen but if I ever want to talk he doesn't want to
@@Pinkcandy777 start seeing other people if he's giving you the run around...believe me time is precious and you need to stop wasting yours. Up to you. What he said means.... he just wants to be friends with benefits so don't give him your body anymore. Sorry if that sounds blunt. I just don't want to see you wasting anymore time on him. You should try going no contact....its not what Stephan reccomends though.....but i'm single coz....i'm evil i guess. 😈
Thank you!! What happened to two people wanting to build and work together to have a solid foundation. Who needs to play games?? It's not for me..I want honesty and a genuine love and respect with to people who are consistent and we both honor God 1st
It is not about playing games. When you want to learn how to make something work out or some new skill, you need to learn some basics and then practice. Let's say you want to learn driving. If you want to succeed, you learn how your car functions and the traffic rules and then practice.
You speak truth. So tired of this game. Why people can’t be genuine. More peaceful when you alone and don’t have to try to please anyone. I don’t think God created relationships to be this hard.
I started dating a seeing a guy last year. He said that he didn't want anything serious. We're still together. We are making plans to move in together... It turns out, he grew fond of me. All I can tell you is I just acted upon my knowledge and he came to a realization that he loved everything about me. ...my transparency, my honesty, my accountability, my cooking, my attractiveness... that is not all about appearance. I have alopecia. I showed him and he said... oh, they got all kind of treatment for that, you'll be okay. He lifts me up. I never bullied him into being my man. I'm not trying to own him, nor do I need proof of ownership. He needed what I needed. ...someone who let me be me without judgement, but encouragement.
@@ABRASILERA17 I haven't moved in with him, yet. We are both taking our time. Communication is our key... in which we do daily. And, if he breaks my heart, I am going to do what the Great Poetess Maya Angelou said. I'm going to have the courage to love again. Because I am not your bitter weed "period."
@@user-mb9jx5tx9y No, because I was in transition and wasn't seeing anyone. I was fine with a friend as long as boundaries weren't crossed. And, what I mean about transition... I was shifting to balance myself...
I was getting to know a man for 3 months. In those 3 months some big horrible fights, triggers activated, accusations made, silent treatment and other people. I skiddadle out of there quickly. I dated a friend and that made all the difference. I know my friend, he's emotionally stable, can't be rattled, lets me have my space, let's me have my emotions without making me feel small, doean't give silent treatment, always checks on me, makes me feel safe and heard and protected even though I'm the soldier. He's just so calm and collected and smart. I enjoy my time with him. He tells me how he feels and communicates well. He lets me be mySelf. I am blessed.
@@aena5995 some man has just done the same thing to me, I’m going on four years of periodic contact, people you’ve contacted over 60 days tend to stay on your mind as it’s the fact that it’s become a habit…
Step one : stop caring about if he misses you Step two : be gone Step three: wait He will come around when you pull away and remain UNBOTHERED You’re welcome 😉
He is absolutely correct when he said being mysterious can backfire. It happened to me. Months after a break up I got a friend request and a direct message from my ex asking me how I was doing. Now before this night he had me blocked. I “thought” he was sincerely reaching out and wanted to be back in my life. Nope. We had a great conversation, but He just wanted to know what I was up to. And I’m sure he went through my whole FB page. After that convo he never reached out again and like a week later I realized he unfriended me snd put a block back on me. I believe he just wanted to be nosey. I was devastated. 9 months of healing was ruined and my heart broken all over again. He was not a good person. I thank God we never worked out.
lol always ask these ninjas why they're reaching back out. They might lie, but then they might tell the truth. Also, keep in mind that 99% of the time it will never work out with a former flame, so it's a waste of time. I know that even when a guy hasn't done me wrong but I know it won't work, I'll just block and go ghost for my own protection as that helps me heal.
Nine months was not ruined Queen. 9 months is nine months. That’s an achievement. Also, you learned a lesson. So look at it positively. A minor ser back after a few months is just that a minor setback. The work was already done. It’s not going to take another 9 to get over it. We are human, we feel and we move on and you’ve proven to yourself that you know how to do that. That’s all that matters
Same thing happened to me. We met when I was about 25 and I'm 67. It's been almost a year and I'm still hurting. He called to see how I was, because I had a death in my family. He had blocked me to. I hope things are better with you.
The main problem is Social Conditioning ..Ultra Programming of the masses and its a ratio of .01% to Thousands, Millions of Both Men & Women who are programmed & will not do the work that it takes to become Healthy for each other. The Balance is simply not there. The result? Is a broken Hella alot of people who unless they do the shadow work...Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally, & Financially .. is broken up I'm frustrated as well, but I have seen My personal relationship grow in leaps & bounds & have learned to be more humble & not Combative ...learned to go Deep within and He has noticed it and has done Quite a bit of work Himself. I can look to the future with better quality than before. Much love ❤️💯
Yes ma'am....you said that absolutely correct. When you keep pouring into someone who won't pour into you, it's time to change up the situation and let God work it out or let go.
I’ve finally found a partner that doesn’t play games. We were open and honest from the beginning about our feelings for one another. Game playing and manipulation WILL eventually backfire
I agree with you @jessm8696. We have so much in common, we've only had 2 mild disputes. But we work through them and get on with enjoying each other's company and conversations.
I was married to a wonderful man for 52years. We shared in life,we had 2 children, and a reasonable lifestyle. He died in Sept. 2022 after 14years of illness that devoured his dreams.I cared for him at home until his dying breath. I have finally emerged from the fog and have found a strong connected relationship, with a man who has a chemistry with me, who I have known and worked with for over 50years. He was a coworker of my husband. He lost his wife 11 years ago, and we both lost a child along the way. So here we are, in what. I believe is a gift from God, that is enabling us to find one another in the loss. I adore him and he seems to feel the same. What chance is there we can put this together.
this was a callous response. When a spouse is sick for a very long time like 14yrs. The caregiving spouse has enough time to grieve the marriage because now she’s taking care of a man/husband like he’s a child so no please do not come at this lady like that. She lost her husband long before he died and grieved him longer. Stop it… She didn’t replace him. He died and she’s still alive and someone else found her desirable. Good for her!
Being a southern lady, I was taught NOT to chase after a man. Men like the challenge of chasing the woman, it's biological. In my experience whenever I called or text a guy I was interested in, the guy would say he's in the middle of something and can't talk. Now, I feel stupid, desperate and needy for contacting him. Calling a man puts the man on the defensive side. I'd rather let the man call me first. If a relationship starts, then I will contact him through calls and texts but if he's ' too busy' to talk when I call several times, that means to me the guy isn't interested and I'm done contacting him.
Transparency is genuine authenticity in connection. Keeping yourself at arms length is equally counter productive as Chasing, smothering and overextending. Men like to feel wanted from their partner too, it’s a two way street. Confident secure Mutual reciprocity is healthy and stable.
@tiger Interesting point. You are right. I’m very interested in a guy but he is very busy and I do know this cause we have done projects together, he does not chase me however I he does sent me a text last time I did not show up to a project and when I returned the week after to work, we saw each other and the sparks ignited. His personality is different than the players, he gives me my space and I get the feeling that he does not want to come off as “too pushy”. I did asked point blank “Am I being too pushy? It’s ok if you tell me no feelings hurt I’ll just back off” His reply: “No not at all please don’t do that, I want you” So i’m at peace but I don’t think he has ever have anyone like me. I’m a sweet and feisty latina he is white and quiet we are very opposite yet we share the same work ethics and we are able to separate our romantic connection from work. I see him a potential however I still do go out on dates once in a while.
@@tigerpause2470 hmm. i don't know, @tigerpause24 it all depends, and this is a woman saying this, with brothers oldest? middle age 40s, fifties. baby brother late 20s. so i know from what they say, what i have learned. it all depends..." adios. great video.
I don't leave, pull away, or give up just to see if they miss me, or to play games, or test them... I float away when Im tired of the inconsistencies, the words not matching actions and repeated disappointments of not keeping their word. When I pull away... I already look at you differently and don't trust you much based on what you've shown me over a couple months, or weeks. I leave when they set the tone for it and I realize im just a placholder... nothing of real value to maintain.
People say this is alot of work but this is really how dating goes and how it has been. Now that we’re becoming consciously aware of it, us as women can use this to our advantage and be in our feminine energy. Feminine energy really allows you to find out if the man you’re dealing with really wants you or not. By not being the typical emotional woman who chases and tries to pursue the man all the time, just do nothing and see what happens. It’s less stressful and keeps you on the pedestal!
do nothing? you mean don't do anything other than being yourself? lol bcz it would take work for me to do "nothing" also this era of "dating" is work - too much strategy, and not enough Living Authentically and that's def not all on women - this Society is structured to make everything a commodity- and sadly that now includes "love", and companionship smh
When a man is not there for you and you wait around, hoping to get what you need from your man, that is on you. Been married for 10 +years and now that I’m finally understanding what I need from a relationship I rather be alone than be married anymore. Asking for what you need and not getting it, gets really old. Women can ask and wait but won’t wait forever. It is not useful to say you will leave if you don’t get what you need from your partner. It creates insecurities and it only makes things worse. From experience, I tell you, if you are not getting your needs met after asking for it, don’t threaten to leave, just be done and make sure it is done. And hope you can have an amicable relationship if there are children involved. Sending peace and positive energy to all
Yeah, I'm not a backward kind of lady, because when you connect with a person spirit you will work or not because it's either a good one are a evil one, you will know...#js
The beauty of dating mature, healed, emotionally available people is that it's EASY. When I date men like that, I don't have all of these anxieties and they'll address things on my mind or heart without me saying it. And these men (when marriage minded) do not waste your time if they don't see it with you. There's nothing more refreshing that dating an intentional man!
Absolutely!!!! Men want peace. Positivity. Support & honor him. I learned this many moons ago. My poor dad went through this. My mother was negative, disrespected and humiliated my dad. Watch what you say(how u say it). Be patient Be understanding And DAMN it....let him be the man!!!!
No disrespect but not all men want peace or positivity! A lot of men like saving hoses! 🦸♂️ They love to wear the cap to feel needed! Men now a days want to feel needed not appreciated! 🤷🏾♀️😉
I experienced this is my home . My mom was a tornado when it came to my dad. I never heard her tell him. She Missed himnor she Loved him . She never Thanked him or anything. It was ALWAYS Negative. You hit the Nail on the Head!!!
My husband of 34 yrs. Was one of a kind. No games, lies, or deception. We met and two yrs later married. He passed away 16 yrs. ago. Today men are just different. I'm sure women are too.
"Rather than making him wonder about you, show him who you are and then see if he likes it or if he doesn't" SO incredibly helpful! No more games! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Yes I dated a man 3 times. Then I got into my feelings 6 wks ago texted him stupid stuff. He pulled away saying its not 100%. Everyone told me go no contact. I didn't listen. Over the past 6 wks I'd text him here and there. About NCAA basketball, just a selfie, wishing him a good day or weekend, pic of me on a girl's night out.. Today I sent another nature photography pic I took this morning wished him a good week ahead as it's Sunday. Well he called me within 10 minutes and we chatted for 30 minutes. Not sure if I'm his pal or he's still interested, but I was def happily surprised by his call. And after I texted him just that and told him it was good to hear his voice. So who knows 6 wks of gentle prodding may pay off. Be yourself. Go no contact if you never want to see him again lol.
As I get older, I feel well rounded enough to be without a man. I feel like, if he's coming back, he will come back. If he doesn't come back, that's okay too. From my experience, I realized that missing someone is a feeling of not knowing if they'll come back.
C’mon with it Stephan! I felt that in my spirit when you said you want to be in a relationship that gives you peace so that even when you’re with your “boys” you’re like “I can’t wait to see my girl”! I pray to be that kind of woman as I am truly enjoying the peace I have in my life now and would love to be able to share that with an awesome brotha! Also, “we miss what we value”. Whew - A whole word right there! Great content as always! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I did an overseas relationship and we loved each other but our distance created so much tension and challenges that we didn't have long periods of peace. When we saw each other, it was a whole different energy and vibe. I truly believe we would have had a solid relationship if he really understood me and I fully understood him. Not meeting aspects of each others needs was frustrating. Now he has blocked me from everywhere so there is no way I will be drawn to contact him. God give me strength and peace as I don't think he cares that it's over😪
I don’t date multiple men at once because I don’t get an honest assessment of how I feel about him IF there’s always a distraction/option. However, I don’t call much. I enjoy being pursued and I am responsive, and will text/call to say Im Thinking About You. Ive tried playing some of the “ bad advice”… its too childish/immature. Great video. Thank you 😊
I needed to hear the last one. He knows I love him so much that “i would not walk away.” Even though I don’t want to walk away, I need to because his actions has an effect on me. You really don’t know what you have until you lose it.
What's funny is I checked myself because at one point this wasn't common sense for me. I received all this bad advice and grew out of using it. Show up as who you are, and the right person will match. Never stop becoming the woman you want to be
I’ve been married for over three decades and I can’t even imagine dating again. 😯 This should be taught in schools. Thank you for your insightful channel. 👍
I need the summary person. I've clicked on these type vids for so long now, that's the majority of my feeds. Subd to some & ended up looking like the president of their fan clubs for some others 🙈🤦🏻♀️. Ugh, what to do w/ my life. I feel like I wasted time yet I just want time to move on. I dont wanna think about sh. But I also gotta think about filing paper work, funds, & think about him every time I look at my poor kid now. Dear gah, y the hell did I have a kid w/ a maniac again. If it was supposed to be lessons learned, idk what the hell im supposed to learn. Other than bitterness. And prob when I'm older, I'll be way more calm. So much much much more over everything & everyone. Idk wth it's called but I saw something about how pretty much ppl r addicted to misery. I guess in that case, I've made quite the impression on lots of folks too. pshhh. Bc wtf do I look like, get yours too then
@@rakisuccess0813 5 Stages Of Grief Denial :No This Is Not Happen Anger: I Was In For A Long Time Bargaining: Okay Maybe We Could Make This Work Depression: This One Was Longer Them All The Others Acceptance: Meditation,Exercise,Surrounding Myself With Great People, Knowing My Worth. Being A Peace. It Taken Me 4Years To Get Here. 🙏
He’s missing you but still sleeping with someone else. Relationships are too hard to decipher. If you give attention they will pull away and feel as though you’re wrapped around their finger. Once you stop giving attention here they come chasing after you. I’ll stay single.
If you are talking about cheating, one of these things are happening: the intimacy, connection, and communication are not there at the same time or probably one of them. You have to look at the mirror, then look at your partner so you'll know which one is not right
In agreement with u 100%. U drove it straight 2 the point. Great job🎉. I only wanted friendship. I can pull away, but I love or shall I say, I care for him. I can walk away and don't look back!!! He's an MD. I FEEL HE HAS WOMEN WRAPPED AROUND HIS FINGERS. I use 2 love him in my own way. I have no desire to be sexual with him. I just want him as a friend only!
You are telling the truth! I just love your videos so much because it cuts through all the bs and speaks facts! We should not get into the game playing to “get” anyone to do anything… my philosophy is, if a man is really into me, he will put the effort in and vice versa! We don’t have to try to force our hand to get anyone to do what we want. It should be natural and just flow.
If it doesn’t feel right and doesn’t give you peace, it’s time to let go. Make room for who is aligned with your values and goals. Applies for both men and women. ❤
I learned to: .. be without a man a long time ago ..not be valued by one ..not be missed by one ..not be wanted by one ..not be cared for by one ..not understood by one ..be ignored ..be used What I haven't learned: Everything that is the exact opposite of ⬆️ and I still learning not to let it not bother me. But also learned to never bother with "making" them miss me
Life is hard enough but we, as women, need to follow our gut feelings ..... Listen not to his words but his actions .... I'm 60 & I believe I have found my true Love .... Time will only tell .... Thank you Stephen!!!
I completely agree with your points of view! I’ve watched people play games with others emotions and I never agreed with it. You should be able to be your true self and get the desired results.
I appreciate this. Basically giving us permission to BE OURSELVES. No games. At the end of the day, we all want someone who likes us and doesn’t mind whatever it is that makes us unique. Thank you very much.
Thank you, Stephan for taking the time to share your perspective. After listening to this video, I felt encouraged to make the call and let my man know how I felt. You were right! I felt better instantly having addressed my feelings and we made plans to hang out the next day. Setting clear expectations and showing a person how you feel makes all of the difference. Thank you!
All this is true. I am just being myself in the relationship I am now in. I am naturally loving, easy-going, and communicative. I am open and share a lot of myself to the person I am in love with. The wrong man will feel suffocated. The right man will seek you out and enjoy your attention... and give it back to you. If you click, you click. There isn't any effort, it isn't hard, it will feel natural when you're both simply enjoying each other. No drama. No issues. No control or manipulation and especially no games. Sounds simple but coming from a woman who has a LOT of relationship trauma (abuse, covert narcissist ex(PLEASE study the signs, it could save you from a destroyed life), PTSD, etc.) it is NOT easy to simply relax and trust a good man... but a GOOD relationship can be healing. Let it be.
That was so amazing to hear you say, to the effect, “I want to come home to my girl. I want to be with her.” Gives me hope that there are men of integrity out there that treat women with respect and WANT to be with us! Praying I find that man one day. And thank you for bringing the analogy of putting into our effort into relationship with God, like we should also put that effort into our relationships with others (at least that’s how I saw that)! So important! ❤
This man is a genius he’s speaking from his heart and also from truth , it’s all simple being truthful and honest is the highest way to live in any relationship .
This is so beautiful. This guy I met told me right away he feels stability and settledness in me and that I'm refreshingly "high moral"...😇🕊 I'm like, yep that's because of my relationship with Jesus and Holy Spirit in me.
Agree with you, Stephan. I would say BE YOURSELF! It's the only person you can be. If that doesn’t work for him, move on. You want a man that is 💯 about you and no games on either side...no one has time 4 that. There are men that genuinely miss you and you him. He calls randomly to tell you that and that his shirt smells like you and he ❤it...trust me ladies, just create peace for yourself, joy, ❤ and allow your man to join you in that space...once he's worthy.
If I miss him, I say so. I learned the way he kept saying I love you, but it was hard to say so quickly I felt it and he didn't rush me. That taught me a lot. I say how I feel when I feel it.
I’m proud to say I’ve never purposely done any of the bad advice at my young age of 21. Even with all the horrible things that I’ve been put through I’m still very self aware and understand right from wrong.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback. You will find this video about the bad dating advice keeping women single interesting. Check it out here 👉 th-cam.com/video/WbqdCugIsQ8/w-d-xo.html
Agree totally. I teach these points to my daughters all the time. I also try to teach them the signs of non interested men and how to move on in a positive way…sooner than later.
I found that in the “me” time, I needed to learn why my body and mind seemed to be protective. I was on autopilot reacting to everything. Learning how to be calm within myself takes effort and outside support, so I can be a safe place for him. Inner work, healthy body and soul✨
@@MochaRose990 same♥️ stillness, taking care of my body, meditations that have to do with feeling beautiful with him (visualizations of a peaceful relationship), and embodiment breathing practices. Getting down in my body and feeling safe there. Emdr as well “I am safe.” Education is helping as well; learning what feels good to him and what doesn’t, and showing up in my relationship for the betterment of the relationship versus forcing the relationship to fit my own needs . 💕 Talk is Not Enough is good, Dare to be Great? Brene Brown, Mina irfan on TH-cam. Juicy stuff💕 I also am sure to go to recovery meetings and share my experiences of growth and anything else I need to share to be held and seen as a woman. Things are shifting and I’m so so grateful. All the best babe!!
I just wanted to take the time to thank you for answering your calling .Your coaching style has had a great impact on me and has truly been an eye opener… Keep it up 🥰
It's so damn difficult to adore a man that isn't showing effort. You have to walk away. And not with the hope he will change. Walk away to open yourself up for a man who UNDENIABLY WANTS YOU ✨️
Understanding each other’s love language is so very important, really taking the time to read your partner and use the information to enhance your relationship 😊
@@MeetStephanSpeaks we should all embrace this, because even when we figure out our partners dominant love language the other 4 are still in play and we are all evolving so always pay attention.
Yeah my boyfriend and I are both struggling with this one. It’s to the point I’m about to break up with him. His love language is words of affirmation and I try my best to give him that. Mine is quality time but I find myself asking for quality time a lot and I’m tired of it
I thank God for my man. We have an understanding of each other. He misses me & I miss him also. That's the way we planned it & we become closer each time we see each other. We respect, appreciate, get along & love each other. 💯
Man, I love this guy. Where have you been??? You are so far, the best love/relationship coach I've ever listened to. You are real, you keep it real. ❤ Thank you for your work! Good bless you.
Ladies we are meeting men that give us this beautiful feeling and then years down the line you find out he is a NARC ….. we have been tricked in to marriage and then when we get out of it how do you trust you aren’t being fooled again 💔
I love the quote… it is beautiful❤️💯 I love that you don’t sugarcoat anything 👍🏼💯 “Relationship games” is a waste of time & people always end up getting hurt.
Hi Stephan, I agree wholeheartedly. I love being transparent... not good at playing games! Either he likes you being your authentic self or he doesn't. Thanks always for your transparency. 🙏🏽🖐️
Stephan Speaks, you have done it again. Discussing the unhealthy advice is excellent and then giving the positive ways to create the missing feeling is perfect! I enjoyed this video ❤️Thank you!
I’ve been listening and trying to apply a lot of his suggestions. Honestly I’m over the mind games, foolish games, and the pride/egos. really I’ve accepted that being single is my happy place.
I love this video. I've watched so many dating videos and yes while they seem good I'm glad how you named them and explained why they aren't always good to follow.
"Whenever I miss you I'll look at my heart cuz that's the only place I can find you" Bruh you and these amazing quotes are beyond great! If you're channel was all quotes it would be just as successful as this one!!
The "NO DATE PEOPLE ON THE SAME CIRCLE" should be a rule. I learn early in life that even if you go out with someone inside your circle of aquintences; the drama starts right there.
Thanks for providing healthy tips on this subject. I agree that it’s not about playing games, but about the matter of matching each other’s energy. If you’re good to me, I’ll be good to you. However, if you show me who you truly are, then I will respectfully walk away ✌️✌️!
Yessssss, such a great video and the "cat and mouse" game is just exhausting and rarely brings in a true and healthy and connected partnership. ❤ Being authentic is the best plan.
He told me two weeks ago that he’s sorry that it took him soo long for him to realise. He came to me told me it took him so long I felt in my heart he was genuine. he told me he missed me he misses everything about me I asked what do you miss about me? I miss you as a person and the feeling he said I have a word but all I can say it’s you. I acknowledged it and said thanks for being honest ❤ he even asked me if I had seen anyone as he said you’re an attractive and lovely person. I told him thanks it’s nice to be missed. He didn’t know how I feel I did say I miss him to. we have a lot of things to sort out if Gods will allows us to get back then I will
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Ty but today he said it will be a very very long time before he will start a relationship with me?
Am worried. Is this the norm??
Iv told him that I can't see him tomorrow. Not to play games. Am just fed up. For 6 months we been very very close friends.
What if your married and you've been married for 17 years and your husband's playstation 5 seems to be more important to him then me and our kids together? I have spoiled my husband from day one and I still do I pray for him everyday I've never done anything but give him respect but he doesn't give me respect I just keep it to myself for the kid's when he wants to talk I always listen but if I ever want to talk he doesn't want to
@@Pinkcandy777 start seeing other people if he's giving you the run around...believe me time is precious and you need to stop wasting yours. Up to you. What he said means.... he just wants to be friends with benefits so don't give him your body anymore. Sorry if that sounds blunt. I just don't want to see you wasting anymore time on him. You should try going no contact....its not what Stephan reccomends though.....but i'm single coz....i'm evil i guess. 😈
@@Pinkcandy777 is
I am so tired of trying to be a strategic in a relationship. I want us to both be strong, direct and open hearted.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Thank you!! What happened to two people wanting to build and work together to have a solid foundation. Who needs to play games?? It's not for me..I want honesty and a genuine love and respect with to people who are consistent and we both honor God 1st
Thats a fact! Unfortunatelly todays world teaches us to be manipulative and play games. I prefer to be honest and streight , faithful ,loyal.
@@tabithapatton1063 ♡!Yes
If I have to strategize to be a friend or have a relationship with you .. I DON’T WANT IT!
"We don't need mystery when we are trying to build something, we need transparency." 👏👏👏
Exactly.
That part 🎯
There lies the problem. You’re trying to build and he’s not.
@caut176 most are boys and look for challenge and mystery 😅 men look for long term connection. haven't found such a guy
I hate mysterious men. just as toxic as mysterious women!
Dating has became insane! I would rather just be alone then have to worry about playing games anymore. I want peace over confusion.
It is not about playing games. When you want to learn how to make something work out or some new skill, you need to learn some basics and then practice. Let's say you want to learn driving. If you want to succeed, you learn how your car functions and the traffic rules and then practice.
@@Ирина-к3т1ш, it’s not hard to practice when two are doing it together, it’s not worth it when only one is doing the work…
Amen
Don't blame the player, blame the game 👀
You speak truth. So tired of this game. Why people can’t be genuine. More peaceful when you alone and don’t have to try to please anyone. I don’t think God created relationships to be this hard.
I started dating a seeing a guy last year. He said that he didn't want anything serious. We're still together. We are making plans to move in together... It turns out, he grew fond of me. All I can tell you is I just acted upon my knowledge and he came to a realization that he loved everything about me. ...my transparency, my honesty, my accountability, my cooking, my attractiveness... that is not all about appearance. I have alopecia. I showed him and he said... oh, they got all kind of treatment for that, you'll be okay. He lifts me up. I never bullied him into being my man. I'm not trying to own him, nor do I need proof of ownership. He needed what I needed. ...someone who let me be me without judgement, but encouragement.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Did you not want anything serious either ?
Good luck he's gonna break your heart
@@ABRASILERA17 I haven't moved in with him, yet. We are both taking our time. Communication is our key... in which we do daily. And, if he breaks my heart, I am going to do what the Great Poetess Maya Angelou said. I'm going to have the courage to love again. Because I am not your bitter weed "period."
@@user-mb9jx5tx9y No, because I was in transition and wasn't seeing anyone. I was fine with a friend as long as boundaries weren't crossed. And, what I mean about transition... I was shifting to balance myself...
I was getting to know a man for 3 months. In those 3 months some big horrible fights, triggers activated, accusations made, silent treatment and other people. I skiddadle out of there quickly. I dated a friend and that made all the difference. I know my friend, he's emotionally stable, can't be rattled, lets me have my space, let's me have my emotions without making me feel small, doean't give silent treatment, always checks on me, makes me feel safe and heard and protected even though I'm the soldier. He's just so calm and collected and smart. I enjoy my time with him. He tells me how he feels and communicates well. He lets me be mySelf. I am blessed.
Great for you I'm glad 💯💯💯💯 for you
Good choice
Ladies,If you have to play games for him to committee....he's not the person you need to begin with.A real man will give you peace.
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Exactly.
Yes!
Amen a real man will provide peace
Whew chile this is the one for me...yes indeed 🥰
I don't want a man to want me unless it's his own will . He will come when his ready and if he doesn't then we are not meant to be .
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SO AGREE!!!
I feel the same way l Don't beg for love lois h.
Period
Amen and amen!!
When he said "Men miss what they Value" Definitely hit my spirit! 👊🏾
Ah ? Sometimes they even know who is a woman of value so...
...Yep
But do he value himself is the question
Some pretend and when they tend to beg you to come back is not an assurance they truly love you.
So why do you have all the answers but no woman
Walking away can be so painful but it’s essential, we can’t be distracted from the purpose God has called us to in this life !!! ❤
I agree
THIS !! Is the answer ❤
Amen ❤️🙏💨🌊🕊️🔥
Beautiful story thanks for sharing. Be blessed
AMEN
“He who finds a wife, finds a good thing” I’m not going to chase no man.
Never chase
@@zaragray6199I hate that he's always on my mind idky we barely even talk neither do I find him that attractive anymore wth is happening 😭😭😭
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@@aena5995 some man has just done the same thing to me, I’m going on four years of periodic contact, people you’ve contacted over 60 days tend to stay on your mind as it’s the fact that it’s become a habit…
Facts bc I don’t even run when I’m late, I don’t have time. Single life is peaceful
Step one : stop caring about if he misses you
Step two : be gone
Step three: wait
He will come around when you pull away and remain UNBOTHERED
You’re welcome 😉
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Yep! 😂😂😂
Be Gone... I actually love that so much!
#1. Be Gone
Also stay gone lol 🤣
I don’t want to make anyone do anything. They should do it all on their own
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PeriodT
Right! Totally agree with that one.
You want me to miss you, I know you’ve been trying and that’s why you’re here
Love this point!
"Whenever I miss you , I look @ my heart because it's the only place I can find you "! Awww that's deep! Very sweet !!
He is absolutely correct when he said being mysterious can backfire. It happened to me. Months after a break up I got a friend request and a direct message from my ex asking me how I was doing. Now before this night he had me blocked. I “thought” he was sincerely reaching out and wanted to be back in my life. Nope. We had a great conversation, but He just wanted to know what I was up to. And I’m sure he went through my whole FB page. After that convo he never reached out again and like a week later I realized he unfriended me snd put a block back on me. I believe he just wanted to be nosey. I was devastated. 9 months of healing was ruined and my heart broken all over again. He was not a good person. I thank God we never worked out.
lol always ask these ninjas why they're reaching back out. They might lie, but then they might tell the truth. Also, keep in mind that 99% of the time it will never work out with a former flame, so it's a waste of time. I know that even when a guy hasn't done me wrong but I know it won't work, I'll just block and go ghost for my own protection as that helps me heal.
...Yes, he was being nosey, don't answer him anymore. Good luck!
Nine months was not ruined Queen. 9 months is nine months. That’s an achievement. Also, you learned a lesson. So look at it positively. A minor ser back after a few months is just that a minor setback. The work was already done. It’s not going to take another 9 to get over it. We are human, we feel and we move on and you’ve proven to yourself that you know how to do that. That’s all that matters
You created too much mystery
Same thing happened to me. We met when I was about 25 and I'm 67. It's been almost a year and I'm still hurting. He called to see how I was, because I had a death in my family. He had blocked me to. I hope things are better with you.
My conclusion : be yourself, hopefully, eventually you will find someone that matches your energy and take it from there ☺️
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Amen well said if this person doesn’t value you none of this matters we need to stop settling and pour into someone who is pouring into us
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Absolutely
Amen !
The main problem is Social Conditioning ..Ultra Programming of the masses and its a ratio of .01% to Thousands, Millions of Both Men & Women who are programmed & will not do the work that it takes to become Healthy for each other. The Balance is simply not there. The result? Is a broken Hella alot of people who unless they do the shadow work...Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally, & Financially .. is broken up
I'm frustrated as well, but I have seen My personal relationship grow in leaps & bounds & have learned to be more humble & not Combative ...learned to go Deep within and He has noticed it and has done Quite a bit of work Himself.
I can look to the future with better quality than before.
Much love ❤️💯
Yes ma'am....you said that absolutely correct. When you keep pouring into someone who won't pour into you, it's time to change up the situation and let God work it out or let go.
If u love someone ur better off being honest. Enjoy him but don't chase. Give him the choice and respond appropriately
I’ve finally found a partner that doesn’t play games. We were open and honest from the beginning about our feelings for one another. Game playing and manipulation WILL eventually backfire
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I agree with you @jessm8696. We have so much in common, we've only had 2 mild disputes. But we work through them and get on with enjoying each other's company and conversations.
Absolutely, what goes around comes around KARMA ❤
I was married to a wonderful man for 52years. We shared in life,we had 2 children, and a reasonable lifestyle. He died in Sept. 2022 after 14years of illness that devoured his dreams.I cared for him at home until his dying breath. I have finally emerged from the fog and have found a strong connected relationship, with a man who has a chemistry with me, who I have known and worked with for over 50years. He was a coworker of my husband. He lost his wife 11 years ago, and we both lost a child along the way. So here we are, in what. I believe is a gift from God, that is enabling us to find one another in the loss. I adore him and he seems to feel the same. What chance is there we can put this together.
That's a beautiful story. Are you two still together?
So you found very quickly replacement ... wonderful life...
I wish you both the best. May you find comfort in each others presence. Sending light and peace your way. 😊
this was a callous response. When a spouse is sick for a very long time like 14yrs. The caregiving spouse has enough time to grieve the marriage because now she’s taking care of a man/husband like he’s a child so no please do not come at this lady like that. She lost her husband long before he died and grieved him longer. Stop it… She didn’t replace him. He died and she’s still alive and someone else found her desirable. Good for her!
Thank you for posting this ❤ It's giving me hope, and a believe in the goodness of life. Much love to you : )
I WONT chase a man. Happy to initiate happy to chat, flirt. I will NOT chase
Me too! I’m very open, but after having a nice conversation and interaction, he decides to go silent for many days, I won’t reach out to him.
Being a southern lady, I was taught NOT to chase after a man. Men like the challenge of chasing the woman, it's biological. In my experience whenever I called or text a guy I was interested in, the guy would say he's in the middle of something and can't talk. Now, I feel stupid, desperate and needy for contacting him. Calling a man puts the man on the defensive side. I'd rather let the man call me first. If a relationship starts, then I will contact him through calls and texts but if he's ' too busy' to talk when I call several times, that means to me the guy isn't interested and I'm done contacting him.
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Transparency is genuine authenticity in connection. Keeping yourself at arms length is equally counter productive as Chasing, smothering and overextending. Men like to feel wanted from their partner too, it’s a two way street. Confident secure Mutual reciprocity is healthy and stable.
Without the proper bait this chasing will not happen.You were taught wrong .Players are the biggest chasers.Duh!!!!
@tiger Interesting point. You are right. I’m very interested in a guy but he is very busy and I do know this cause we have done projects together, he does not chase me however I he does sent me a text last time I did not show up to a project and when I returned the week after to work, we saw each other and the sparks ignited. His personality is different than the players, he gives me my space and I get the feeling that he does not want to come off as “too pushy”. I did asked point blank “Am I being too pushy? It’s ok if you tell me no feelings hurt I’ll just back off” His reply: “No not at all please don’t do that, I want you” So i’m at peace but I don’t think he has ever have anyone like me. I’m a sweet and feisty latina he is white and quiet we are very opposite yet we share the same work ethics and we are able to separate our romantic connection from work. I see him a potential however I still do go out on dates once in a while.
@@tigerpause2470 hmm. i don't know, @tigerpause24 it all depends, and this is a woman saying this, with brothers oldest? middle age 40s, fifties. baby brother late 20s. so i know from what they say, what i have learned. it all depends..." adios. great video.
I don't leave, pull away, or give up just to see if they miss me, or to play games, or test them...
I float away when Im tired of the inconsistencies, the words not matching actions and repeated disappointments of not keeping their word.
When I pull away... I already look at you differently and don't trust you much based on what you've shown me over a couple months, or weeks.
I leave when they set the tone for it and I realize im just a placholder... nothing of real value to maintain.
I totally innerstand what your saying!!!❤
People say this is alot of work but this is really how dating goes and how it has been. Now that we’re becoming consciously aware of it, us as women can use this to our advantage and be in our feminine energy. Feminine energy really allows you to find out if the man you’re dealing with really wants you or not. By not being the typical emotional woman who chases and tries to pursue the man all the time, just do nothing and see what happens. It’s less stressful and keeps you on the pedestal!
Period
Exactly amen on that
Amen!
do nothing?
you mean don't do anything other than being yourself? lol
bcz it would take work for me to do "nothing"
also this era of "dating" is work - too much strategy, and not enough Living Authentically
and that's def not all on women - this Society is structured to make everything a commodity- and sadly that now includes "love", and companionship smh
When a man is not there for you and you wait around, hoping to get what you need from your man, that is on you. Been married for 10 +years and now that I’m finally understanding what I need from a relationship I rather be alone than be married anymore. Asking for what you need and not getting it, gets really old. Women can ask and wait but won’t wait forever. It is not useful to say you will leave if you don’t get what you need from your partner. It creates insecurities and it only makes things worse. From experience, I tell you, if you are not getting your needs met after asking for it, don’t threaten to leave, just be done and make sure it is done. And hope you can have an amicable relationship if there are children involved. Sending peace and positive energy to all
Yeah, I'm not a backward kind of lady, because when you connect with a person spirit you will work or not because it's either a good one are a evil one, you will know...#js
Great advice
The beauty of dating mature, healed, emotionally available people is that it's EASY. When I date men like that, I don't have all of these anxieties and they'll address things on my mind or heart without me saying it. And these men (when marriage minded) do not waste your time if they don't see it with you. There's nothing more refreshing that dating an intentional man!
Too many people playing games and hurting people that actually care about them
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best
Ouch...that part 😢playing games... giving me G.I. Joe & Barbie doll vibes. Immaturity reigns Supreme & does everybody a diss-service. .
Very sad!
Absolutely!!!! Men want peace. Positivity. Support & honor him.
I learned this many moons ago. My poor dad went through this.
My mother was negative, disrespected and humiliated my dad.
Watch what you say(how u say it).
Be patient
Be understanding
And DAMN it....let him be the man!!!!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
No disrespect but not all men want peace or positivity! A lot of men like saving hoses! 🦸♂️ They love to wear the cap to feel needed! Men now a days want to feel needed not appreciated! 🤷🏾♀️😉
I experienced this is my home . My mom was a tornado when it came to my dad. I never heard her tell him. She Missed himnor she Loved him . She never Thanked him or anything. It was ALWAYS Negative.
You hit the Nail on the Head!!!
...Some men dont want to be the man these days. Alot of weak & insecure men around!
They don't want peace, mine start fights all the time
I don't want him missing me. He had his chance. It is over.
Why are you watching this video lol
@@seaturtle5719 these video appears on my page that why I watch it.
Facts 😂
My husband of 34 yrs. Was one of a kind. No games, lies, or deception. We met and two yrs later married. He passed away 16 yrs. ago. Today men are just different. I'm sure women are too.
My mum always told me, "Start as you mean to finish"
ALWAYS be yourself, act in confidence and be clear in your communication❤
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
*Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction* 🥰
"Rather than making him wonder about you, show him who you are and then see if he likes it or if he doesn't"
SO incredibly helpful! No more games! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Yes I dated a man 3 times. Then I got into my feelings 6 wks ago texted him stupid stuff. He pulled away saying its not 100%. Everyone told me go no contact. I didn't listen. Over the past 6 wks I'd text him here and there. About NCAA basketball, just a selfie, wishing him a good day or weekend, pic of me on a girl's night out..
Today I sent another nature photography pic I took this morning wished him a good week ahead as it's Sunday. Well he called me within 10 minutes and we chatted for 30 minutes. Not sure if I'm his pal or he's still interested, but I was def happily surprised by his call. And after I texted him just that and told him it was good to hear his voice.
So who knows 6 wks of gentle prodding may pay off. Be yourself. Go no contact if you never want to see him again lol.
Personal I wouldn't want to be with someone I have to make miss me, it has to be mutual for me period.
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I feel the same way
As I get older, I feel well rounded enough to be without a man. I feel like, if he's coming back, he will come back. If he doesn't come back, that's okay too. From my experience, I realized that missing someone is a feeling of not knowing if they'll come back.
Thank you for this
So do you keep taking them back ? For it be the same cycle
C’mon with it Stephan! I felt that in my spirit when you said you want to be in a relationship that gives you peace so that even when you’re with your “boys” you’re like “I can’t wait to see my girl”! I pray to be that kind of woman as I am truly enjoying the peace I have in my life now and would love to be able to share that with an awesome brotha! Also, “we miss what we value”. Whew - A whole word right there! Great content as always! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
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I did an overseas relationship and we loved each other but our distance created so much tension and challenges that we didn't have long periods of peace. When we saw each other, it was a whole different energy and vibe. I truly believe we would have had a solid relationship if he really understood me and I fully understood him. Not meeting aspects of each others needs was frustrating. Now he has blocked me from everywhere so there is no way I will be drawn to contact him. God give me strength and peace as I don't think he cares that it's over😪
111. U HAVE. THAT. RIGHT
I don’t date multiple men at once because I don’t get an honest assessment of how I feel about him IF there’s always a distraction/option.
However, I don’t call much. I enjoy being pursued and I am responsive, and will text/call to say Im Thinking About You.
Ive tried playing some of the “ bad advice”… its too childish/immature.
Great video. Thank you 😊
I needed to hear the last one. He knows I love him so much that “i would not walk away.” Even though I don’t want to walk away, I need to because his actions has an effect on me. You really don’t know what you have until you lose it.
Girl get out of my life. Literally everything you said is how Im feeling and what Im going through.
@@ebony0507 just gotta keep the mindset of whats mine will be for me💯
@@kemwithane you are so right were you married to your man?
@@ebony0507 no ma’am, not married. Just waiting for the right person to come along
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This is why I stay single. I have joy, peace, don’t have to deal with crazy games. 😂
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@@143neishia15 njn
Yes, I don’t understand why people are afraid to be single
What's funny is I checked myself because at one point this wasn't common sense for me. I received all this bad advice and grew out of using it. Show up as who you are, and the right person will match. Never stop becoming the woman you want to be
I’ve been married for over three decades and I can’t even imagine dating again. 😯 This should be taught in schools. Thank you for your insightful channel. 👍
My pleasure ❤️
Dating is a nightmare be glad you are lol
I need the summary person. I've clicked on these type vids for so long now, that's the majority of my feeds. Subd to some & ended up looking like the president of their fan clubs for some others 🙈🤦🏻♀️. Ugh, what to do w/ my life. I feel like I wasted time yet I just want time to move on. I dont wanna think about sh. But I also gotta think about filing paper work, funds, & think about him every time I look at my poor kid now. Dear gah, y the hell did I have a kid w/ a maniac again. If it was supposed to be lessons learned, idk what the hell im supposed to learn. Other than bitterness. And prob when I'm older, I'll be way more calm. So much much much more over everything & everyone. Idk wth it's called but I saw something about how pretty much ppl r addicted to misery. I guess in that case, I've made quite the impression on lots of folks too. pshhh. Bc wtf do I look like, get yours too then
chief girfrind dated 40 year abcerßy nor maried too her ywat
Healthy Boundaries are very important. Nobody has times for the games.
You're absolutely right!
I Accepted He Was The Wrong Man For Me, So I Let Him Go. 🙏
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Sweetheart, how do you do this? Can you share any great tips
@@rakisuccess0813 5 Stages Of Grief
Denial :No This Is Not Happen
Anger: I Was In For A Long Time
Bargaining: Okay Maybe We Could Make This Work
Depression: This One Was Longer Them All The Others
Acceptance: Meditation,Exercise,Surrounding Myself With Great People, Knowing My Worth. Being A Peace.
It Taken Me 4Years To Get Here.
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This is what I just did too!!!😔😦
I agree. Be yourself. He should actually like the real you.
He’s missing you but still sleeping with someone else. Relationships are too hard to decipher. If you give attention they will pull away and feel as though you’re wrapped around their finger. Once you stop giving attention here they come chasing after you.
I’ll stay single.
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
I totally agree
Agree
If you are talking about cheating, one of these things are happening: the intimacy, connection, and communication are not there at the same time or probably one of them. You have to look at the mirror, then look at your partner so you'll know which one is not right
In agreement with u 100%. U drove it straight 2 the point. Great job🎉. I only wanted friendship. I can pull away, but I love or shall I say, I care for him. I can walk away and don't look back!!! He's an MD. I FEEL HE HAS WOMEN WRAPPED AROUND HIS FINGERS. I use 2 love him in my own way. I have no desire to be sexual with him. I just want him as a friend only!
Great advice. I take full accountability for unknowingly pushing him away in our relationship. Lesson learned.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
And now we have Stephen here debunking all the 90% youtube relationship gurus advices out there 😁. You are a breath of fresh air
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
You are telling the truth! I just love your videos so much because it cuts through all the bs and speaks facts! We should not get into the game playing to “get” anyone to do anything… my philosophy is, if a man is really into me, he will put the effort in and vice versa! We don’t have to try to force our hand to get anyone to do what we want. It should be natural and just flow.
Exactly!
Amen
EXACTLY! Sis Always coming with the facts
You're absolutely right!
Amen sister 🙏❤
If it doesn’t feel right and doesn’t give you peace, it’s time to let go. Make room for who is aligned with your values and goals. Applies for both men and women. ❤
If a man truly wants you to be in his life. You don't have to try hard periodt.
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I learned to:
.. be without a man a long time ago
..not be valued by one
..not be missed by one
..not be wanted by one
..not be cared for by one
..not understood by one
..be ignored
..be used
What I haven't learned:
Everything that is the exact opposite of ⬆️ and I still learning not to let it not bother me. But also learned to never bother with "making" them miss me
Huh?
@@someoneyoudontknow7705😂
Me too. But I was also taught that those are the things to look for in a man not a fool
Life is hard enough but we, as women, need to follow our gut feelings ..... Listen not to his words but his actions .... I'm 60 & I believe I have found my true Love .... Time will only tell .... Thank you Stephen!!!
I'm 57 I just please want someone xxx
our guts never lie
I completely agree with your points of view! I’ve watched people play games with others emotions and I never agreed with it. You should be able to be your true self and get the desired results.
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I appreciate this. Basically giving us permission to BE OURSELVES. No games. At the end of the day, we all want someone who likes us and doesn’t mind whatever it is that makes us unique. Thank you very much.
Thank you, Stephan for taking the time to share your perspective. After listening to this video, I felt encouraged to make the call and let my man know how I felt. You were right! I felt better instantly having addressed my feelings and we made plans to hang out the next day. Setting clear expectations and showing a person how you feel makes all of the difference. Thank you!
My pleasure ❤️
I just told a man no to him asking me for $1500. Guess he won’t be missing me .
Well technically you didn't lose anything. You actually save $1,500.00
Just out of curiosity did he say it was for trucking school, cause a guy just asked me for 1,500 as well(to which the answer was of course no)
@@kinkatwist6721Nope . He said it was an emergency. Then said it’s for his mom.
A guy asked me for £500 I said no because he said he just wanted to have fun while he was away in another country
All this is true. I am just being myself in the relationship I am now in. I am naturally loving, easy-going, and communicative. I am open and share a lot of myself to the person I am in love with. The wrong man will feel suffocated. The right man will seek you out and enjoy your attention... and give it back to you. If you click, you click. There isn't any effort, it isn't hard, it will feel natural when you're both simply enjoying each other. No drama. No issues. No control or manipulation and especially no games. Sounds simple but coming from a woman who has a LOT of relationship trauma (abuse, covert narcissist ex(PLEASE study the signs, it could save you from a destroyed life), PTSD, etc.) it is NOT easy to simply relax and trust a good man... but a GOOD relationship can be healing. Let it be.
So happy for you ❤
I really love this for you ❤
That was so amazing to hear you say, to the effect, “I want to come home to my girl. I want to be with her.” Gives me hope that there are men of integrity out there that treat women with respect and WANT to be with us! Praying I find that man one day. And thank you for bringing the analogy of putting into our effort into relationship with God, like we should also put that effort into our relationships with others (at least that’s how I saw that)! So important! ❤
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Your girl is gonna be one lucky woman
This man is a genius he’s speaking from his heart and also from truth , it’s all simple being truthful and honest is the highest way to live in any relationship .
This is correct advice for real quality women to attract a real genuine quality men.
💯 Yes!
It’s really all about mutual understanding , willingness to forgive each other , and good communication.
The way you communicate your concepts and ideas in a clear yet nuanced way is nothing short of amazing 👏🏻
This is so beautiful. This guy I met told me right away he feels stability and settledness in me and that I'm refreshingly "high moral"...😇🕊 I'm like, yep that's because of my relationship with Jesus and Holy Spirit in me.
I missed him . I told him . He did the same. Real men communicate.
You so would think.😢
Agree with you, Stephan. I would say BE YOURSELF! It's the only person you can be. If that doesn’t work for him, move on. You want a man that is 💯 about you and no games on either side...no one has time 4 that.
There are men that genuinely miss you and you him. He calls randomly to tell you that and that his shirt smells like you and he ❤it...trust me ladies, just create peace for yourself, joy, ❤ and allow your man to join you in that space...once he's worthy.
If I miss him, I say so. I learned the way he kept saying I love you, but it was hard to say so quickly
I felt it and he didn't rush me. That taught me a lot. I say how I feel when I feel it.
I’m proud to say I’ve never purposely done any of the bad advice at my young age of 21. Even with all the horrible things that I’ve been put through I’m still very self aware and understand right from wrong.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback. You will find this video about the bad dating advice keeping women single interesting. Check it out here 👉 th-cam.com/video/WbqdCugIsQ8/w-d-xo.html
Agree totally. I teach these points to my daughters all the time. I also try to teach them the signs of non interested men and how to move on in a positive way…sooner than later.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
On the number two at the healthiest way to get him to miss you, you’re not wrong. thank you for the refresher, I am doing the right thing.
I found that in the “me” time, I needed to learn why my body and mind seemed to be protective. I was on autopilot reacting to everything. Learning how to be calm within myself takes effort and outside support, so I can be a safe place for him. Inner work, healthy body and soul✨
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I’m learning more about somatic experience and meditation. What’s worked for you?
@@MochaRose990 same♥️ stillness, taking care of my body, meditations that have to do with feeling beautiful with him (visualizations of a peaceful relationship), and embodiment breathing practices. Getting down in my body and feeling safe there. Emdr as well “I am safe.” Education is helping as well; learning what feels good to him and what doesn’t, and showing up in my relationship for the betterment of the relationship versus forcing the relationship to fit my own needs . 💕 Talk is Not Enough is good, Dare to be Great? Brene Brown, Mina irfan on TH-cam. Juicy stuff💕
I also am sure to go to recovery meetings and share my experiences of growth and anything else I need to share to be held and seen as a woman. Things are shifting and I’m so so grateful. All the best babe!!
I just wanted to take the time to thank you for answering your calling .Your coaching style has had a great impact on me and has truly been an eye opener… Keep it up 🥰
I’m new here and i just say these videos definitively helping me not just with relationships but loving myself more !!!
I really love the comments about keeping him and making him happy!I do things I do already,self-love🙌❤️🌹
It's so damn difficult to adore a man that isn't showing effort. You have to walk away. And not with the hope he will change. Walk away to open yourself up for a man who UNDENIABLY WANTS YOU ✨️
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Understanding each other’s love language is so very important, really taking the time to read your partner and use the information to enhance your relationship 😊
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks we should all embrace this, because even when we figure out our partners dominant love language the other 4 are still in play and we are all evolving so always pay attention.
Yeah my boyfriend and I are both struggling with this one. It’s to the point I’m about to break up with him. His love language is words of affirmation and I try my best to give him that. Mine is quality time but I find myself asking for quality time a lot and I’m tired of it
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Thank you so much for validating those of us who have to fend off our friends advice to date multiple people. It's not for everyone!
You're absolutely right!
Authenticity is the best way to go
I love that quote. It is beautiful and romantic. ❤
I thank God for my man. We have an understanding of each other. He misses me & I miss him also. That's the way we planned it & we become closer each time we see each other. We respect, appreciate, get along & love each other. 💯
Yes never being afraid to walk away really brings perspective n the relationship
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Man, I love this guy. Where have you been??? You are so far, the best love/relationship coach I've ever listened to. You are real, you keep it real. ❤ Thank you for your work! Good bless you.
Ladies we are meeting men that give us this beautiful feeling and then years down the line you find out he is a NARC ….. we have been tricked in to marriage and then when we get out of it how do you trust you aren’t being fooled again 💔
Thanks!
My pleasure ❤️
I love the quote… it is beautiful❤️💯
I love that you don’t sugarcoat anything 👍🏼💯
“Relationship games” is a waste of time & people always end up getting hurt.
Hi Stephan, I agree wholeheartedly. I love being transparent... not good at playing games! Either he likes you being your authentic self or he doesn't. Thanks always for your transparency. 🙏🏽🖐️
Stephan Speaks, you have done it again. Discussing the unhealthy advice is excellent and then giving the positive ways to create the missing feeling is perfect! I enjoyed this video ❤️Thank you!
Thank you! It's just mentally exhausting!
Glad I could help 🙏
Wow! This is the first time that I listen to someone saying what is real about a healthy relationship 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I’ve been listening and trying to apply a lot of his suggestions. Honestly I’m over the mind games, foolish games, and the pride/egos. really I’ve accepted that being single is my happy place.
AMEN!!! He is right on target. At the age of 65 years, and a widow, I can attest to the accuracy of his advice.
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I love this video. I've watched so many dating videos and yes while they seem good I'm glad how you named them and explained why they aren't always good to follow.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
"Whenever I miss you I'll look at my heart cuz that's the only place I can find you"
Bruh you and these amazing quotes are beyond great!
If you're channel was all quotes it would be just as successful as this one!!
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The "NO DATE PEOPLE ON THE SAME CIRCLE" should be a rule. I learn early in life that even if you go out with someone inside your circle of aquintences; the drama starts right there.
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I dated my ex outside my circle and still the drama never ended.
@@beegee5305 😂😂😂 we can't escape the drama 😭😭😭
Thank you for talking about what may possibly may not be healthy. A lot of the things we as women are told not to do makes me feel inauthentic.
Yes I agree on dating and leave whats not serving you behind . You are spot on !
Thanks for providing healthy tips on this subject. I agree that it’s not about playing games, but about the matter of matching each other’s energy. If you’re good to me, I’ll be good to you. However, if you show me who you truly are, then I will respectfully walk away ✌️✌️!
Exactly
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I don’t mind saying yes often, providing it is something doable, feasible and something we both agree on. Stephan, you rock! 💯
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Yessssss, such a great video and the "cat and mouse" game is just exhausting and rarely brings in a true and healthy and connected partnership. ❤ Being authentic is the best plan.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace being authentic. Thank you for your feedback 🙏
He told me two weeks ago that he’s sorry that it took him soo long for him to realise. He came to me told me it took him so long I felt in my heart he was genuine.
he told me he missed me he misses everything about me I asked what do you miss about me? I miss you as a person and the feeling he said I have a word but all I can say it’s you.
I acknowledged it and said thanks for being honest ❤ he even asked me if I had seen anyone as he said you’re an attractive and lovely person.
I told him thanks it’s nice to be missed.
He didn’t know how I feel I did say I miss him to.
we have a lot of things to sort out if Gods will allows us to get back then I will