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Sir aur un parents ko kya bologe, jo bdi bhu se toh sb karate h, ek din late nhi hona kitchen Mein nd all, ye lunch nhi bnaegi toh kheer tut jaega, inspite of being educated, Saas bimari se nhi uth rae, agli bcha bhi dekhe ghar bhi, pti family business seriously krta h....... Aur fir chota beta, jo already jail vel sb dikha chuka maa Baap ko, love marriage kre zabardasti vo bhi Baap k paiso se, uski biwi toh jaegi job pe... Ab Saas ki bimari bhi thek ho gyi eska bcha palne k liye, ab kitchen Mein Bhi kaam krti h....
सबसे ज़्यादा ज़हरीली शादी होती है जब आप ख़ुद के zodiac से दूसरे या आठवें zodiac से शादी करते हो(if you are leo then getting married to Virgo or pieces)। घना ज़हर फैलता है।ख़ुद के zodiac या सातवें zodiac से शादी में chemistry बेस्ट है।
@@sreevidyapillai8023 Most overt abuse cases are by men. Most covert abuse cases are by women. But there are exceptions on both sides. While most abusers are men, women abusers are slowly on the rise because of generations of repressed anger towards men.
Just like divorces are normalised these, in future living separate or living without marriage will be normalised.. as percentage of singles n happy persons is increasing...
5 Reasons! 5) Infidelity - Extra Marital affair of some other partner. 4) Saas Bahu Ke Issues- Both are not happy with each other. 3) Failure of a man to adjust to a wife which has got a mind of her own. 2) Normalization of Divorce. The girl after divorce is more desirable for marriage than a man. 1) Money Issues! - There are insecurities, fear in a women. 50% marriages are breaking due to money. Have the courage to talk about money issues even before marriage.
first issue should be infidelity, because I have seen this so much where i live and this happens in perfectly healthy marriage with kids. Like my father did this because he is an asshole
As a matrimonial lawyer i can cinfirm that each and every word of this video is true and currently playing in the society. Apart from that penetration of western culture is also a major reason.
@sowjanyap5827 Nobody has to TELL Me. Visit Chennai, Bangalore, Coimbatore and see for yourself how and where most of the parents are living. They seem to be better off than being with their children
It's not called controlling. It's her telling her daughter that she doesn't have to put up with abuse by her in-laws. It's the ego of man and his family that they are "ladke wale"
@@NikhilDixitMusic nope. I am absolutely right. In a patriarchal society, where most power lies with men, it's natural for women to resort to other ways to assert their own dominance. Human beings have a tendency to take others for granted. If a wife is good, she is being taken granted by her in-laws. If the in-laws are good, then the daughter in law takes them for granted. The same goes for husband and wife. Women were abused a lot in their in-laws families. The parents of girls back then just asked them to put up with abuse. Now they don't. It's pretty simple.
Main main reasons for Kaleshhh turning to divorce!! 1 differences in Kitchen Rules and regulations 2. mothers wives insecurities MIL controlling son 3. Tana marna 4. Wives not understanding or taking responsibilities 5. No passion between couple 6. Money issues 7-- main reason not using brains / intellect to find and implement solution emotions ke chakkar main
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Sir ...The most main Reason of divorce now days is Financial issues or low earning of Husband and Dominating nature of Husband or wife and also Long term relationship is a reason, Infedility, Sexual Unsatisfaction, Lack of Children etc.
My marriage is dead no chance of improvement now..... Still carrying the burden from 20 years...😢 Divorcing.... Is not a solution for me....it will worsen my life
Genuine advice, even if you're someone who's liberal and don't care 100 men, maybe more went through her before, never marry/date someone who wasn't 2-3 years off from her last relation. Unless you think you can deal with with baggage from her past relation and ruin your mental health trying to fix her.
Wo actual % se batate hai ye apka prospective se nhi bata sakte jo maximum divorce reason wo handle karte hai yaa dekhte hai use bata rahe….go nd check google maximum marriage falling dur to son family interference nt daughter
Money can be a reason for divorces, but now that many women are financially independent they fulfill their materialistic desires by themselves and also contribute to household expenses. The problem that I am seeing among my female peers is that we are physically, mentally and emotionally drained out by trying to balance between career, motherhood and household chores. We are expected to excel everywhere with no appreciation or empathy by our partners or any other family members.
Im happy that people r taking divorce instead of rotting in name of sanskars. Infedility n creepiness is something that cant b tolerated. N infedility has always been high. N yes girl emotions n needs n respect r totally ignored. Insecure men cant stand strong women.
@@sanskritiverma8010ine. Quote a monthly budget that you might seek in your man. That information is valuable and helpful. Isn't it? Do u intend to be a housewife and depend fully on the man. In that case will u take over full household chores like olden days?
I think if there is great rapport between husband and wife, there is love and respect between them, then no saas, no money matters. Understanding, love and respect is a must between partners. And this comes with open communication. Lack of communication related to expectations, real life goals, mutual emotional and physical needs leads to all problems. No female would want to ruin her relation because of saas or money and no male would like to divorce his partner for petty matters. It is the problem between the partners which gets reflected in other areas and leads to complications.
How will that rapport begin? It'll start when both do things which others appreciate, it should start small and investment increases later on. But patience is important for that
@@skalrask8097if there are children in first marriage, then they have to stay in touch . If there are no children and still staying in touch , that’s cheating
Namaste sir.. aapki govt services ki barikyan batane wali video se I got stuck to your channel as everything you said was deeply true and can be fully appreciated by someone who is already in it. Since then, all day long, I have been watching your videos only. In case of marital series, I have two questions to ask sir: First, Should one be marrying someone within profession or outside? Own profession (PSBank) looks toxic and ham khud hi bahar nikalne ke raste khoj rahe (but can't say about future) but then dusre profession ka vyakti problems samajh nahi paega. But then thode time bad to job leave hi karni h 😬 so is it better to choose someone jiske sath thinking zada match kare goals and cheezo ko lekar. Sath me dono kuch kar sake but then ye sare thoughts khyali pulao to nahi?! Second: Isn't a delayed marriage in today's complex world better than divorces? My mother pesters for marriage but somewhere understands that you cannot study or do things with that vigour or focus after marriage. Priorities have to be changed and it is a big task. Shadi se pahle jo kar liya kar liya. And that will become your base. Looks anyway doesn't matter beyond a point and life has to be spent with a man and not a boy. Delayed marriage me atleast both persons are more matured and a better version of themselves. Before marrying, they are better able to gauge and discuss the real things that can matter. It may be less of teenage love and excitement etc but atleast more understanding, more practical and less eronneous. Bachhe 4 5 sal bad paida ho gae to zada issue nai h, atleast they will have better traits and better atmosphere to live in. Itna antar ho jaega ki friends ke bacche 7 sal ke hain and hamare 2 sal ke. Looking forward to your perspective on these issues 🙏🙏
Sir, after every video of yours, my respect for you increases. Seriously, every word you say is so true. 💯 money is the biggest problem for a failed marriage. DP
A Big DP, DP, DP, DP, DP, 🙏🙏🙏-----only thing in this video that if Possible you could have elaborated that in the 5th reason, when you said that when there is an extra marital affair the marriage is already dead means it has gone through certain stages n then extramarital affairs starts. But I feel it's not always the case---sometimes it starts very early in marriage n sometimes after having kids, so I would be very pleased if you could explain the last point in detail in some other video during similar discussion . I wanted to hear more. N in between this video I laughter my heart out during some comment like maa ko rent me bagal vali flat me rakh kar seva ho jati . 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💜💜
Sir , plz make more videos on all aspects of ground realities .You dont know but you are changing the old mindsets . New generation needs such precious advises for a better life .
Very perfect analysis... Guruji, one out of the box suggesation with regards to Indian marriage system.... In india parents invite relatives and others for their sons and daughters marraige.... This is flawed system and set wrong narrative right from the start till the end... Iske karan iski kimat sabko chukani padti hai, visheshkar husband wife ko.... So going forward, man who is not a boy anymore and woman who is not a girl anymore should jointly take control of their lives and furthermore send marriage invitation to whosoever they want to including their respective parents and relatives... Parents should not be sending marriage invitation of their kids to relatives and friends anymore.... This single thing can change whole game altogether.... No more farmaeshi programs from either side leading to conflicts and ultimate collapse.
Sango ji,,,One of the Major reasons for breakdown of marriage is if ONE PARTNER takes a unilateral decision to not have children.... without the consent of the other partner.
I think ,if both the spouse have mutual respect and 'friendship' b/w them, they can sail through money and family issues ( been there and survived them together)
Thank you Sir for wonderful video. I would like to tell you about one more reason about Divorce, " Husband doesn't want to be emotionally invested for his wife. Doesn't see problems happening with in-laws with Girls perspective. "
Oh pls, extramarital affair is definitely NOT only 5% of marriages. It's way more than that. At least above 50% from what I have observed. Most of them don't know (as you know someone is a cheater only when he/ she gets caught). And the rest know about their spouse's affair, but are not bold enough to end the marriage because of kids or other reasons.
DP Apart from money there are. two more prime factors for div. One is sex /physical incompatibility nd second is certain facts are supress from either sides at the time of marriage.
I like your thought process very much and appreciate also I want to add sonething on *parents of the boy should be looked after by the daughter in law*. Here we forget that the parents of the girl are also living alone 100% if they have only one/many daughter/s. At that time nobody cares or thinks of them. I always think that borh set of parents should live some what at a distance from the first day of marriage. Let the couple adjust themselves. If they ask for advice then only both inlaws sets should give advice and not interfere in any other case. The parents of a boy should be ready now to live away from their son like the daughter's parents. So that many issues would not even arise. (4rh reason according to you). If you want your son / daughter's happiness don't meddle into their affairs at all. Also there are some other things which I have followed but can't say here because of lack of space.
@sangolifesutras sir, many times it is also male egos and chauvinism. An acquaintance was once going through a divorce when well-wishers suggested the same thing… to have parents live in a separate house nearby. The man’s response was: If I give in to this “demand” now, there will be more demands from his wife that he will need to give into in the future. He does not want to compromise in that way, so he wants to get divorced.
Same case meri marriage mein b tha when i got married i was having my own strong opinion for everything and my hubby wants to control me that was a reason of so many disputes
@@manikyum his mother she interfered alot between us n finance problem he was at a good position job but his family was poor so all his salary went for them n we were left with nothing in hand also I was a non working women then so the problems aggravated
@@shikha4466 Deep inside you wanted to stay or leave? Couldn't you two have sat and figured something out? Like waiting for sometime till situation improves.
Another reason is rise in psychological and mental health issues among youth. A large number of young population today is suffering this and sometimes they hide it at the time of marriage amounting to fraud.
Thank you for such informative videos.Youth need it alot.I believe k divorce is lia hojatay ha k log rishta kartay wakth bht jhoot boltay ha fake promises krtay ha apni realities samnay nai anay dete just is lia k kaise b beta ya bete ki shadi hojai k bad me nimat lay ge so phir bad me mamlat kharab hojatay ha nimatne k bajai
What is wrong in divorce? If marriage doesnt work out, divorce and move on...better than dying slowly in a toxic relationship! Wish there was a way to "divorce" toxic parents and siblings too!
@@manikyum what do u mean keep divorcing?? its not a hobby. Read my comment properly, if marriage turns toxic then only divorce. Marriage doesnt mean u r trapped for life in some prison.
Advice to all men out there by being a High Value Man. 1. Maintain healthy and fit body ( Give shape if possible) 2. Get richer day by day 3. Get educated 4. Be chivalrous
Women will become insecure if her men have all these qualities. please write some lines for insecure women as well, how she should believe her husband is on a business trip only if he visits Thailand or Colombia 😂
Are you okay if your wife does the same with you? Hide things which she likes to do but you particularly dislike her doing so? Think and answer this question for yourself.
Sir kuch saas aisi bhi hoti hai jo pass Wale Ghar nahi agar saat samundar paar bhi baithae bahu ke ghar main zehar gholti rehti hain... Itni dangerous hoti hai saas ..
Sir, thanks for amazing content. You said money is top reason for divorce. Sir i have a doubt regarding marriage. What I have understood that marriage is based on money and physical relationship. In my view both money and human body are extremely transitory especially in age when diabetes and heart attacks are occuring in 30s and 40s. So how can marriage based on transitory elements can last for one lifetime in current era. Kindly enlighten.
Rightly said about first reason . Mother in law takes it for granted that if her husbad does she will live with her son . But when the daughter in law's father dies then her mother cannot live with the daughter . Why such discrimination ? And i have seen the brothers of the husband accusing the mother of such daughter in law as to why is the mother living in the house . In fact when their iwn mother went to stay with them they themselves could not adjust even for a year .
Money is an important issue in marriage but not always, for example, we are financially quite well off but my MIL still wanted us to live with her forever...coz she was afraid of losing control over her son. Its about control of power...i feel saas bahu or joint family is the biggest reason for divorce.
@@abhishekverma4561 pehle aur bhi bohut galat cheezen hoti thi... Jaise sati, ya female infanticide etc iska matlab ye nhn ke aage bhi hoti rahe. Ye tumhara bohut weak argument hai... People need to change with time and accept equality. Agar joint family se itna pyar hai toh tum jaake apni biwi ki maaike me kyon nhn rehte?
@@RR-kl5ht Aapne mera point galat way me liya... mera matlab ye hai ki hum pehle se hi mindset bana chuke hai ki joint families me problem hongi... samay ke saath badlna chahiye ye bhi jaroori hai... log apni zindagi me kam se kam log chahte... akele rehna pasand kar rahe hai .. isme in-laws ke yaha rehne ka point hi nahi hai...
@@abhishekverma4561 toh tumhari point kya thi? Joint family ka matlab aur kya hota hai? Chacha chachi mama mami ke saath rehna? Saara desh jaanta hai relatives ke saath rehne se kitne issues hote hai. . Isme mindset ki kya baate hai.. It's a fact. Similarly in-laws ke saath rehne se bhi maximum problems hote hai... Aur ye cheez sirf ladki se kyon expect ki jaato hai? Ladke bacche hai kya... Woh bhi ladki ki family me reh sakte hai na?
@@RR-kl5ht sati, female infanticide ka joint family se kya relation hai?? Stay on cource and don't get deviated from the topic. Joint family is good. Only issue comes when wife is controlling. She won't be able to adjust
Strong independent Feminazis are going to get really pissed off by this. But I 100% agree with sir. Absolutely true. I am also a man with less income and I have decided that I will never marry till I get rich enough. If that's not going to happen I will die single. DP
Mat karo bhai aur mera ghar bhara hua h examples se women earning more then men.....with sustainable marriage.....aur jitne marriages kharab h mere khandan mei woh sab non working women h victim of domestic violence during pregnancy n stuff. Mat kar achha hi h marriage market se kachra khud hi saaf hojayega toh achha ladka dhoondhna easy hogi
@@ankitamishra0405 Toh mujhe kya bta rahi ho behen. Jisse shadi karna hai karo. Waise mujhe lgta nhi ki tumhe shaadi karne ke liye kachre ke alawa kuch milega.😂🤡 I wish you good luck and happy kachra life. Khush raho apne kam income wale gareeb pati ke saath. 😂
Jab tak hum marriage ko saat janm ka rishta mante rahenge yehi hoga. Divorce law ko easy banay jay. Bharat me 90 percent bimariyan ka karan loveless marriage ko kheench a hai.Husband aur wife andar hi andar suffocate hote hain lekin parampara ke naam par isko dhoye ja rahe hain.
@@varunmittal3617 hamse lakh Guna behtar hai. Hum kyon sabhi bimarriyon me top par hai. Statistics dekh len. Chahe diabetes ho ya cancer etc. Hamara to culture bahut achha hai na. Vishwa guru hai hum. Aur hamare log kyon vahan bhagte hain acchi naukri aur research ke liye. Main ye nahi kah Raha hun ki divorce accha hai lekin Mera ye kahna hai ki loveless marriage jo samaj ko dikhane ke liye kheenchte hai vo bahut badi frustration aur bimarriyon ka karan hai. Videsh me sab kuch accha nahi hai lekin vo hamse relationship ship ko lekar jyada honest hain. By the way porn dekhne me india world ke chauthe number par aata hai. Ye hamare sexual frustration ko darshata hai. Bhartiya sanskriti ka sayyam aur videshi sanskriti ki imandari dono jaroori hai. Is par koi baat nahi karna chahta nahi to charitraheen ka label lag jayega lekin chupke chupke sab chalta hai hamare samaj me.
@@salaar75 bilkul. Bhartiya sanskriti ka niyam samyam jaroori hai tanavvbhare vivah ko sirf samaj ke liye banaye rakhna Kahan Tak uchit hai. Ye bahut badi bimari aur urja ko kheechne vala karan hai jiski taraf sochna hoga. Sirf Bhartiya sanskriti ke naam par samajik vishayon par naye tarike se na soche ye theek nahi. Sanatan dharm beshak sabse uttam hai lekin sanskriti badalti rahati hai hamne sanskriti ko hi dharm liya hai.
It is said that money cannot buy happiness, I say money buys you (almost) everything and solves 99% of issues. Request 🙏🏻 to all women please don't give up careers and jobs and dreams and money.
A man without options is slaves of his circumstances.a women can leave u at any moment of ur life .if you think thumari wife achi hai , just wait for some hard day .they will leave like super jet .😂
ab tumhari family ki ladkiya aise hai to hum kya kare humari to wife acchi hi hai 0 se shuru kia tha unke sath aaj 8 saal ho gaye happy relationship hai 2 son bhi hain rista na chalne mein dono ki galti hoti hai sirf 1 ki nhi
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Sir aur un parents ko kya bologe, jo bdi bhu se toh sb karate h, ek din late nhi hona kitchen Mein nd all, ye lunch nhi bnaegi toh kheer tut jaega, inspite of being educated, Saas bimari se nhi uth rae, agli bcha bhi dekhe ghar bhi, pti family business seriously krta h....... Aur fir chota beta, jo already jail vel sb dikha chuka maa Baap ko, love marriage kre zabardasti vo bhi Baap k paiso se, uski biwi toh jaegi job pe... Ab Saas ki bimari bhi thek ho gyi eska bcha palne k liye, ab kitchen Mein Bhi kaam krti h....
Meri to acchi income bhi hai, ek hi sahar me rehte hue maa papa se alag bhi rehna pada. For bhi divorce hua.
@@biks.1 bura hua bro..
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सबसे ज़्यादा ज़हरीली शादी होती है जब आप ख़ुद के zodiac से दूसरे या आठवें zodiac से शादी करते हो(if you are leo then getting married to Virgo or pieces)। घना ज़हर फैलता है।ख़ुद के zodiac या सातवें zodiac से शादी में chemistry बेस्ट है।
Money solves 99.9 percent problems 😅
Shut up
1 second m video khtm kr dia 😂
Well said
@@modellocomotiveworks2215
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Correct
Sirji, you have left out a very very important reason. *Abuse*
Abuse of all kinds - emotional, mental, sexual, physical, financial
Correct... it arises wen man feels he cant control the woman
@@sreevidyapillai8023 Most overt abuse cases are by men. Most covert abuse cases are by women.
But there are exceptions on both sides.
While most abusers are men, women abusers are slowly on the rise because of generations of repressed anger towards men.
वॉयलेंस मैटर नहीं करता इनको according
@@IamSoangelic Sango Sirji hasn't said so anywhere. It maybe just that he has left out mental health issues....
I think most abuse happened in lower middle class and wife dependent on husband so divorce not happen s most of the time
Marriage is a holy concept so divorce is not right . So think 100 times before marrying as a man . Rather stay single and enjoy life .
Just like divorces are normalised these, in future living separate or living without marriage will be normalised.. as percentage of singles n happy persons is increasing...
He blindly advocates marriage system without considering the fact that marriage is a personal choice & does not guarantee happiness
Yes👍🏽
That will be Great Time in Future
unless we take women's rights away
True 💯💯 being unmarried is normal nowadays but society and people should understand this
5 Reasons!
5) Infidelity - Extra Marital affair of some other partner.
4) Saas Bahu Ke Issues- Both are not happy with each other.
3) Failure of a man to adjust to a wife which has got a mind of her own.
2) Normalization of Divorce. The girl after divorce is more desirable for marriage than a man.
1) Money Issues! - There are insecurities, fear in a women. 50% marriages are breaking due to money. Have the courage to talk about money issues even before marriage.
thank you for summary
#5 is becoming common these days due to Western culture 😢
@@kavitathakur2223 it's opposite, wives are not spending. They want their husband to spend all.
You saved my time
first issue should be infidelity, because I have seen this so much where i live and this happens in perfectly healthy marriage with kids. Like my father did this because he is an asshole
As a matrimonial lawyer i can cinfirm that each and every word of this video is true and currently playing in the society. Apart from that penetration of western culture is also a major reason.
Sir kya aap mujhe guide kar sakte hai
@@officialsmitsharma regarding?
@@advocatesharma5670 फैमिली इश्यू
In South most of the inlaws live in senior citizen's home. Only some live with their children.
@sowjanyap5827 Nobody has to TELL Me. Visit Chennai, Bangalore, Coimbatore and see for yourself how and where most of the parents are living. They seem to be better off than being with their children
You missed - wife's mother interfering and teaching wife control tactics. Most lawyers know.
Exactly. One of the major reasons.
This is very real
It's not called controlling. It's her telling her daughter that she doesn't have to put up with abuse by her in-laws. It's the ego of man and his family that they are "ladke wale"
@@archiem654 you’re absolutely wrong pal.
@@NikhilDixitMusic nope. I am absolutely right. In a patriarchal society, where most power lies with men, it's natural for women to resort to other ways to assert their own dominance. Human beings have a tendency to take others for granted. If a wife is good, she is being taken granted by her in-laws. If the in-laws are good, then the daughter in law takes them for granted. The same goes for husband and wife. Women were abused a lot in their in-laws families. The parents of girls back then just asked them to put up with abuse. Now they don't. It's pretty simple.
Main main reasons for Kaleshhh turning to divorce!!
1 differences in Kitchen Rules and regulations
2. mothers wives insecurities MIL controlling son
3. Tana marna
4. Wives not understanding or taking responsibilities
5. No passion between couple
6. Money issues
7-- main reason not using brains / intellect to find and implement solution emotions ke chakkar main
Sirji gaanv mein jakar dekhiye wahan divorce rate jayada h wo panchayat se kar lete hn to count ni hota
Sachmei?
DP... Very practical and eye opening videos..We get a closer view of what all is, happening in society through your videos...Atleast you're talking about such taboo topics as well..That too free..lot of appreciation for that👏👏👏. Thanks a lot Sir👍
Sir ...The most main Reason of divorce now days is Financial issues or low earning of Husband and Dominating nature of Husband or wife and also Long term relationship is a reason, Infedility, Sexual Unsatisfaction, Lack of Children etc.
My marriage is dead no chance of improvement now.....
Still carrying the burden from 20 years...😢 Divorcing.... Is not a solution for me....it will worsen my life
DP....we handle family court matters. Your practical discussions on intricate issues are very informative and inspiring too. Regards. 😊
DP
@@Parth_k92 @sangolifesutras DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP
You are absolutely right sir...money problem is the main problem behind disputes in marriages ❤❤❤
Very insightful video sir these issues are prevailing in every family today
What about gf_bf system.. Multiple partner before marriage
shaadi hi nhi krte log agar multiple partners hote h past mai
Genuine advice, even if you're someone who's liberal and don't care 100 men, maybe more went through her before, never marry/date someone who wasn't 2-3 years off from her last relation. Unless you think you can deal with with baggage from her past relation and ruin your mental health trying to fix her.
characterless ladki/ladko se shaadi hi nhi karni chahiye,
Sir I totally agree with all the reasons you have mentioned here.Please bring the DP video.🙏
Interference of girl's parents on daily basis is a majorvreason which you have missed.
Correct in parallel universe.
what about interference of boys parents on hourly basis??
Wo actual % se batate hai ye apka prospective se nhi bata sakte jo maximum divorce reason wo handle karte hai yaa dekhte hai use bata rahe….go nd check google maximum marriage falling dur to son family interference nt daughter
@@swethamr87boys parents live with the couple so they have the right to speak on a regular basis.
Absolutely right.. But ldke k parents ko bbi involve nhi hona chahiye unki married life me😊
Money can be a reason for divorces, but now that many women are financially independent they fulfill their materialistic desires by themselves and also contribute to household expenses. The problem that I am seeing among my female peers is that we are physically, mentally and emotionally drained out by trying to balance between career, motherhood and household chores.
We are expected to excel everywhere with no appreciation or empathy by our partners or any other family members.
Ditto
@pooja absolutely right. He hasn't even addressed that issue.
Yes
If wife has someone (bf) in her heart and couldn't get away from it after marriage then who is right in this situation...
Im happy that people r taking divorce instead of rotting in name of sanskars. Infedility n creepiness is something that cant b tolerated. N infedility has always been high. N yes girl emotions n needs n respect r totally ignored. Insecure men cant stand strong women.
99% divorce ka kaaran insecurities hai
💰 money bohut important ha ladies ka liya
@@sanskritiverma8010 toh kamao bsdk
@@sanskritiverma8010hermit like u, what a reply 😂😂
@@sanskritiverma8010ine. Quote a monthly budget that you might seek in your man. That information is valuable and helpful. Isn't it?
Do u intend to be a housewife and depend fully on the man. In that case will u take over full household chores like olden days?
@@sanskritiverma8010 Exactly 😂
Kaam waali Bai chahiye hoti hai inko😂
DP.. a very much needed video from you sir plz make a video on this topic. 🙏🏻
Happily married for 4 years , and taking notes Sir. Thank you for your insights Sir🙏🙏
No need to mention here..
Kahi nazar na lag jaaye😮
The way you have change the word from control to adjust 😂 says everything
I think if there is great rapport between husband and wife, there is love and respect between them, then no saas, no money matters. Understanding, love and respect is a must between partners. And this comes with open communication. Lack of communication related to expectations, real life goals, mutual emotional and physical needs leads to all problems. No female would want to ruin her relation because of saas or money and no male would like to divorce his partner for petty matters. It is the problem between the partners which gets reflected in other areas and leads to complications.
Aapne ekdum sahi bola Charuji.
Dp
Yes love and respect is a must
Love & respect must dp
How will that rapport begin? It'll start when both do things which others appreciate, it should start small and investment increases later on.
But patience is important for that
Real truth is that more more expectations in our life which is directly connected with money, is the main reason of divorce.
Sir, you are very very very very Knowledgeable and Grounded person... I salute you..
Sir please make a video about people who are constantly keeping in touch with their ex even after marriage.
Good question!!
haha,,, good one 😄
Yes much needed video I have seen such cases
@@skalrask8097if there are children in first marriage, then they have to stay in touch . If there are no children and still staying in touch , that’s cheating
Namaste sir.. aapki govt services ki barikyan batane wali video se I got stuck to your channel as everything you said was deeply true and can be fully appreciated by someone who is already in it. Since then, all day long, I have been watching your videos only.
In case of marital series, I have two questions to ask sir:
First, Should one be marrying someone within profession or outside? Own profession (PSBank) looks toxic and ham khud hi bahar nikalne ke raste khoj rahe (but can't say about future) but then dusre profession ka vyakti problems samajh nahi paega. But then thode time bad to job leave hi karni h 😬 so is it better to choose someone jiske sath thinking zada match kare goals and cheezo ko lekar. Sath me dono kuch kar sake but then ye sare thoughts khyali pulao to nahi?!
Second: Isn't a delayed marriage in today's complex world better than divorces? My mother pesters for marriage but somewhere understands that you cannot study or do things with that vigour or focus after marriage. Priorities have to be changed and it is a big task. Shadi se pahle jo kar liya kar liya. And that will become your base. Looks anyway doesn't matter beyond a point and life has to be spent with a man and not a boy. Delayed marriage me atleast both persons are more matured and a better version of themselves. Before marrying, they are better able to gauge and discuss the real things that can matter. It may be less of teenage love and excitement etc but atleast more understanding, more practical and less eronneous. Bachhe 4 5 sal bad paida ho gae to zada issue nai h, atleast they will have better traits and better atmosphere to live in. Itna antar ho jaega ki friends ke bacche 7 sal ke hain and hamare 2 sal ke.
Looking forward to your perspective on these issues 🙏🙏
Understand the opportunity cost. You will conclude everything for you.
Thank u so much....
It's very helpful
Best information Sir
What an analysis
गाँव मे एक बड़ा कारण शराब भी है.. आधे से ज्यादा घर बरबाद है.. जहाँ आदमी शराब पी कर अपनी wife ko abuse krta h
Sir, after every video of yours, my respect for you increases. Seriously, every word you say is so true. 💯 money is the biggest problem for a failed marriage. DP
A Big DP, DP, DP, DP, DP, 🙏🙏🙏-----only thing in this video that if Possible you could have elaborated that in the 5th reason, when you said that when there is an extra marital affair the marriage is already dead means it has gone through certain stages n then extramarital affairs starts. But I feel it's not always the case---sometimes it starts very early in marriage n sometimes after having kids, so I would be very pleased if you could explain the last point in detail in some other video during similar discussion . I wanted to hear more. N in between this video I laughter my heart out during some comment like maa ko rent me bagal vali flat me rakh kar seva ho jati . 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💜💜
Sir , plz make more videos on all aspects of ground realities .You dont know but you are changing the old mindsets . New generation needs such precious advises for a better life .
DP
Amazing as usual
Thanks a lot
Dhamaakedaar mazza Aa Gayaaaaa Guru Ji! 🔥🔥🔥👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 please make a video on giving top 5 solutions as well 💯
@@Lavanyachawla55 Yes, it’s a per month subscription plan!
Very well said!!!👏👏👏
Very perfect analysis... Guruji, one out of the box suggesation with regards to Indian marriage system.... In india parents invite relatives and others for their sons and daughters marraige.... This is flawed system and set wrong narrative right from the start till the end... Iske karan iski kimat sabko chukani padti hai, visheshkar husband wife ko.... So going forward, man who is not a boy anymore and woman who is not a girl anymore should jointly take control of their lives and furthermore send marriage invitation to whosoever they want to including their respective parents and relatives... Parents should not be sending marriage invitation of their kids to relatives and friends anymore.... This single thing can change whole game altogether.... No more farmaeshi programs from either side leading to conflicts and ultimate collapse.
Sango ji,,,One of the Major reasons for breakdown of marriage is if ONE PARTNER takes a unilateral decision to not have children.... without the consent of the other partner.
I think ,if both the spouse have mutual respect and 'friendship' b/w them, they can sail through money and family issues ( been there and survived them together)
well said
DP, thankyou for the valuable info
Thank you Sir for wonderful video. I would like to tell you about one more reason about Divorce, " Husband doesn't want to be emotionally invested for his wife. Doesn't see problems happening with in-laws with Girls perspective. "
I agree with your 1st point. I saw one of my relative getting divorced because he cannot afford to stay separate
I have seen enough videos of yours to know that the content you will give will be A1
I love your video.. All the 5 points are applicable on my marriage
Thank you so much Sir 🙏😊
Financial issues top reasons for divorce
Hari Bol
You spoke very nicely
Everything you said is true.
Hari Bol
Hare Krishna
DP. Very valid points Guruji!
Sir please make a video about possibility of divorces among love and arrange marriages.
Oh pls, extramarital affair is definitely NOT only 5% of marriages. It's way more than that. At least above 50% from what I have observed. Most of them don't know (as you know someone is a cheater only when he/ she gets caught). And the rest know about their spouse's affair, but are not bold enough to end the marriage because of kids or other reasons.
Above 35 years most of the d females don't have much sexual drive. Hence men may be the reason
Wife doesn't work so can't separate
@@Dee14444yes that's y wife ko sehna padta kutte husband ko
@@sonalverma9490your father is also kutta ?? That means
@@vikasdubey1960yes u r right
Extra marital affair comes when any or more than 4 causes have already exist in a marriage
I decided not to get married in this birth and live with the wisdom of God 🙏
I am happy with whatever I have as a single person
Its not for the faint hearted
Accurate information 😊
Perfect analysis
DP Apart from money there are. two more prime factors for div. One is sex /physical incompatibility nd second is certain facts are supress from either sides at the time of marriage.
Exactly ur 2nd point is so true. People hiding things before marriage
Sexual compatibility is not enough. If a men believes in having multiple partners, because hecwants more and more then he will cheat.
👍👍
Physical incompatability is the 1st reason other reasons can make way due to this reason being affected
Not convinced
U mean sexual compatibility right?
Very important but not not first one
not at all, I and my partner are both asexual yet in a happy marriage from 10+ years
Then everyone should have divorced in elder age
Definitely need Divorce Proof video as well sir, please! DP
U r so true guruji.
So sweet 😂Sangwanji and so true at 11:37
I like your thought process very much and appreciate also I want to add sonething on
*parents of the boy should be looked after by the daughter in law*.
Here we forget that the parents of the girl are also living alone 100% if they have only one/many daughter/s. At that time nobody cares or thinks of them. I always think that borh set of parents should live some what at a distance from the first day of marriage. Let the couple adjust themselves. If they ask for advice then only both inlaws sets should give advice and not interfere in any other case. The parents of a boy should be ready now to live away from their son like the daughter's parents. So that many issues would not even arise. (4rh reason according to you). If you want your son / daughter's happiness don't meddle into their affairs at all. Also there are some other things which I have followed but can't say here because of lack of space.
तू अपने घर मे ही रह आपने बाप के पास। तुझ जैसी की जरुरत किसी को नही है।
@sangolifesutras sir, many times it is also male egos and chauvinism. An acquaintance was once going through a divorce when well-wishers suggested the same thing… to have parents live in a separate house nearby. The man’s response was: If I give in to this “demand” now, there will be more demands from his wife that he will need to give into in the future. He does not want to compromise in that way, so he wants to get divorced.
Money issues sir you are definitely right, only from the perspective of either side, w or H.
Same case meri marriage mein b tha when i got married i was having my own strong opinion for everything and my hubby wants to control me that was a reason of so many disputes
DP... I am also a divorcee and a 30 year old woman all the reasons you have said are 💯 true i have personally faced all this 😢
What was the main reason for your divorce
@@manikyum his mother she interfered alot between us n finance problem he was at a good position job but his family was poor so all his salary went for them n we were left with nothing in hand also I was a non working women then so the problems aggravated
@@shikha4466 Was it your decision to leave or his?
@@manikyum it was his decision first then I also agreed for divorce
@@shikha4466 Deep inside you wanted to stay or leave? Couldn't you two have sat and figured something out? Like waiting for sometime till situation improves.
Sir, after every video of yours, my respect for you increases. Seriously, every word you say is so true. 😘🤘👍👍
Please start attaching the playlist link in the description.
In villages most people hav extramarital affairs but not taking divorce.
Cities and small towns too!! 👍👍
@@skalrask8097 Exactly! Quality people r less n economic class doesn't matter .
even in villages there are affairs?
Which state villages
@@chaimaxx1642 Ur village n ur grandfather village
Another reason is rise in psychological and mental health issues among youth. A large number of young population today is suffering this and sometimes they hide it at the time of marriage amounting to fraud.
Thank you for such informative videos.Youth need it alot.I believe k divorce is lia hojatay ha k log rishta kartay wakth bht jhoot boltay ha fake promises krtay ha apni realities samnay nai anay dete just is lia k kaise b beta ya bete ki shadi hojai k bad me nimat lay ge so phir bad me mamlat kharab hojatay ha nimatne k bajai
Very nice information👌 👌👏👏
Truth.....money plays an important role in everybody's life!!
What is wrong in divorce? If marriage doesnt work out, divorce and move on...better than dying slowly in a toxic relationship! Wish there was a way to "divorce" toxic parents and siblings too!
If you want keep divorcing then why are you even marrying
@@manikyum what do u mean keep divorcing?? its not a hobby. Read my comment properly, if marriage turns toxic then only divorce. Marriage doesnt mean u r trapped for life in some prison.
just excellent
I think you are right in all points.
Advice to all men out there by being a High Value Man.
1. Maintain healthy and fit body ( Give shape if possible)
2. Get richer day by day
3. Get educated
4. Be chivalrous
Women will become insecure if her men have all these qualities. please write some lines for insecure women as well, how she should believe her husband is on a business trip only if he visits Thailand or Colombia 😂
Then die one day...?
This type of person can not possible handle family relation.
New topic, Should we disclose everything with wife? Ex. Once in a while social drinking, especially when we know that it will create big issue...
First study what kind of control freak and blackmail tactics ur wife uses love her spend on her but never open ur heart secrets 😊😊
Are you okay if your wife does the same with you? Hide things which she likes to do but you particularly dislike her doing so? Think and answer this question for yourself.
DP.... Your videos help to solve many problems of life
Someone came up with acurate 🎉well done 👏
Sir kuch saas aisi bhi hoti hai jo pass Wale Ghar nahi agar saat samundar paar bhi baithae bahu ke ghar main zehar gholti rehti hain... Itni dangerous hoti hai saas ..
Sir, thanks for amazing content. You said money is top reason for divorce. Sir i have a doubt regarding marriage. What I have understood that marriage is based on money and physical relationship. In my view both money and human body are extremely transitory especially in age when diabetes and heart attacks are occuring in 30s and 40s. So how can marriage based on transitory elements can last for one lifetime in current era. Kindly enlighten.
Nice question
DP Amazing eye opening videos Sir
Rightly said about first reason . Mother in law takes it for granted that if her husbad does she will live with her son . But when the daughter in law's father dies then her mother cannot live with the daughter . Why such discrimination ? And i have seen the brothers of the husband accusing the mother of such daughter in law as to why is the mother living in the house . In fact when their iwn mother went to stay with them they themselves could not adjust even for a year .
Money is an important issue in marriage but not always, for example, we are financially quite well off but my MIL still wanted us to live with her forever...coz she was afraid of losing control over her son. Its about control of power...i feel saas bahu or joint family is the biggest reason for divorce.
pehle bhi to log joint families me nibha rahe the...to ab achanak se kya change ho gaya....
@@abhishekverma4561 pehle aur bhi bohut galat cheezen hoti thi... Jaise sati, ya female infanticide etc iska matlab ye nhn ke aage bhi hoti rahe. Ye tumhara bohut weak argument hai... People need to change with time and accept equality. Agar joint family se itna pyar hai toh tum jaake apni biwi ki maaike me kyon nhn rehte?
@@RR-kl5ht Aapne mera point galat way me liya...
mera matlab ye hai ki hum pehle se hi mindset bana chuke hai ki joint families me problem hongi...
samay ke saath badlna chahiye ye bhi jaroori hai...
log apni zindagi me kam se kam log chahte...
akele rehna pasand kar rahe hai ..
isme in-laws ke yaha rehne ka point hi nahi hai...
@@abhishekverma4561 toh tumhari point kya thi? Joint family ka matlab aur kya hota hai? Chacha chachi mama mami ke saath rehna? Saara desh jaanta hai relatives ke saath rehne se kitne issues hote hai. . Isme mindset ki kya baate hai.. It's a fact. Similarly in-laws ke saath rehne se bhi maximum problems hote hai... Aur ye cheez sirf ladki se kyon expect ki jaato hai? Ladke bacche hai kya... Woh bhi ladki ki family me reh sakte hai na?
@@RR-kl5ht sati, female infanticide ka joint family se kya relation hai?? Stay on cource and don't get deviated from the topic. Joint family is good. Only issue comes when wife is controlling. She won't be able to adjust
D.P
Salute to you, about tell the truth about divorce in marriage.
Thanks you
Excellent.
Strong independent Feminazis are going to get really pissed off by this. But I 100% agree with sir. Absolutely true. I am also a man with less income and I have decided that I will never marry till I get rich enough. If that's not going to happen I will die single. DP
why do u have a problem with strong independent women that u call them feminazis?? do u want women to be weak and dependent??
Mat karo bhai aur mera ghar bhara hua h examples se women earning more then men.....with sustainable marriage.....aur jitne marriages kharab h mere khandan mei woh sab non working women h victim of domestic violence during pregnancy n stuff.
Mat kar achha hi h marriage market se kachra khud hi saaf hojayega toh achha ladka dhoondhna easy hogi
@@ankitamishra0405 Toh mujhe kya bta rahi ho behen. Jisse shadi karna hai karo. Waise mujhe lgta nhi ki tumhe shaadi karne ke liye kachre ke alawa kuch milega.😂🤡 I wish you good luck and happy kachra life. Khush raho apne kam income wale gareeb pati ke saath. 😂
Sir meri married life bhi dead hai meri beti mujhe hi blame karti hai plz is topic par video banaye
Well said 🙌
Yes...that's it..dil jitliya apke top reason ne...lots of respect sir..
Kitne log dekh rahe hai ye vedio mere tarah jinki shadi nahi hui ...
Jab tak hum marriage ko saat janm ka rishta mante rahenge yehi hoga. Divorce law ko easy banay jay. Bharat me 90 percent bimariyan ka karan loveless marriage ko kheench a hai.Husband aur wife andar hi andar suffocate hote hain lekin parampara ke naam par isko dhoye ja rahe hain.
Correct
@sanjaykumar-sx8v0 Ye toh west mein toh hai hi na...waha pe bhi toh loneliness kaafi hai na?
bhai jha divorce easy hai vha ki halat dekhto lo before suggestion
@@varunmittal3617 hamse lakh Guna behtar hai. Hum kyon sabhi bimarriyon me top par hai. Statistics dekh len. Chahe diabetes ho ya cancer etc. Hamara to culture bahut achha hai na. Vishwa guru hai hum. Aur hamare log kyon vahan bhagte hain acchi naukri aur research ke liye. Main ye nahi kah Raha hun ki divorce accha hai lekin Mera ye kahna hai ki loveless marriage jo samaj ko dikhane ke liye kheenchte hai vo bahut badi frustration aur bimarriyon ka karan hai. Videsh me sab kuch accha nahi hai lekin vo hamse relationship ship ko lekar jyada honest hain. By the way porn dekhne me india world ke chauthe number par aata hai. Ye hamare sexual frustration ko darshata hai. Bhartiya sanskriti ka sayyam aur videshi sanskriti ki imandari dono jaroori hai. Is par koi baat nahi karna chahta nahi to charitraheen ka label lag jayega lekin chupke chupke sab chalta hai hamare samaj me.
@@salaar75 bilkul. Bhartiya sanskriti ka niyam samyam jaroori hai tanavvbhare vivah ko sirf samaj ke liye banaye rakhna Kahan Tak uchit hai. Ye bahut badi bimari aur urja ko kheechne vala karan hai jiski taraf sochna hoga. Sirf Bhartiya sanskriti ke naam par samajik vishayon par naye tarike se na soche ye theek nahi. Sanatan dharm beshak sabse uttam hai lekin sanskriti badalti rahati hai hamne sanskriti ko hi dharm liya hai.
Absolutely right sir🤗
“DP” please make a video your suggestion will be highly appreciated sir .. u r marvellous ..🥂🥂🌟🌟
Tujh se na ho paayi 😂😂😂😂😂😂 how much i enjoy this dialogue from sir that इ have begun saying it to myself when feeling down😂😂😂😂😂😂
DP, kitne to the point batate ho aap sir , hats off
Very good talk
It is said that money cannot buy happiness, I say money buys you (almost) everything and solves 99% of issues. Request 🙏🏻 to all women please don't give up careers and jobs and dreams and money.
A man without options is slaves of his circumstances.a women can leave u at any moment of ur life .if you think thumari wife achi hai , just wait for some hard day .they will leave like super jet .😂
ab tumhari family ki ladkiya aise hai to hum kya kare humari to wife acchi hi hai 0 se shuru kia tha unke sath aaj 8 saal ho gaye happy relationship hai 2 son bhi hain rista na chalne mein dono ki galti hoti hai sirf 1 ki nhi
@@lalitsharma8166Abe Bhai bakchodian band kar. Woh general nature of females ki baat karra hai
@@lalitsharma8166haha 🤣🤣 your inscurity is more louder than ur words 😅
@@codingwalebhaiya9879 sab nhi bhagti bhai or ye hi sach hai ya meri kismat bakiyo se jyada acchi hai