My son is getting married after 2months, I have planned to sent them to the place he works straight after their honeymoon. But family members say that what others will think? But i bother a least of it. Their happiness is what counts. My son is living alone and if DIL goes there, I will be the happiest
Lifetime bas family log ka dusra kuchi nahi hai agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi hum soche isse bura soch toh kuch bhi nahi pehle tha bas yahi reh gaya khudki duniyadari dekho khudki lifestyle behaviour dekho waise bhi bhagawan sabko checkup kar rahe hai jab societal ki baat aate hai tab bahut jyada involved karke apne family ki khusi khatam karke no no our family is best in society it's a one human life race ek baar bhagwan ke instructions pe tumhara Zinda khatam toh phir kabhi bhi kuch incident ho sakta hai phir RIP
Very good concept. My mother in law followed it n stays near by. And it worked very well. In our ten years of marriage we still stay seperate. Do get-together for special days festivals. And i must tell you my bond with my mother in law is like a bestie. We gossip together , shop together and we live as a team😍 . I am proud of my mother in law that she took this decision ♥️
You are lucky.... It's not the case usually They want to live together as a joint family and then nobody understands what a dil feels not even her own family Sad truth
I used to think this that a husband and wife should get time to have fun, enjoy life and get setteled with each other after marriage. But in joint family system they are burdened with household responsibilities soon after marriage takes place. Which doesnt let them have time, space and a healthy mental state to bond.
Really good advice and it's not just north Indians, it's the same with south Indians as well. It doesn't matter how well educated a mother-in- law is , when it comes to her sons, she becomes extra possessive and daughters-in-law bear the grunt. Your insights are very good and I guess the modern society is now waking up to it. Love the way you explain things.
Acha hai uncle 😃👏👏👏 I am raising a 7yr old son presently and in this era of modern age parenting your ideology doesn't surprises me at all because being a victim of marital kalesh 8yrs back I can relate to ur every word.. V need to understand ds even our own children r not our property, they are 'individuals' first and v should not consider them as money back scheme 8yrs bk vlogging wasn't dt much popular otherwise v cud hv saved our golden 1yr of marriage by watching and showing such videos to elders in the family I randomly found ur channel n now a fan!!!
Even if mother in law stays away. They interfere in their sons marriage everyday via WhatsApp. These days sons are mummy’s boys. They tell every thing to their mother on phone every day…ultimately ruin their marriage
Totally agree. My husband still hanging from the umblical cord till she died 2 yrs ago.Myself a victim of MIL brain washing for 28 yrs. She did unrepairable damage and ruined my marriage. I hold my husband responsible for it.
After a long time i found some one like u who really understands . Thanku for this video. My mother in law and father in law both r very judgemental though they pretend in front of everyone and their sun too that they r very cooperative. Living with them is a big difficulty in my life. My freedom in house in very limited. And my disrespect for them has increased to such an extent that i talk very less to them. My husband is also not understanding in this aspect and he believes her parents are best and i m the one with all the faults. I hope not only wives but the husbands and in laws see this video , so that they understand a wife’s perspective and needs.
I am 47 and married for 16 years. I have become fan of yours. This is absolute fact which I learnt through my life and come to the same conclusion which you are sharing. 🙏
My mother in laws behavior has changed drastically since I moved in my own house. Now she is a completely different person. So loving and caring. I wish she were like this in the initial days of my marriage. I have suffered so much. But der aye durust aye. Now we all are happy.
Practical! I am married since 17yrs and working woman. I have gone through lot of physical, mental, financial torture and few years back moved out. Though bitter experiences left emotional wounds. But while watching this video I was laughing and now it feels funny.
you are absolutely right , such things should be published in news papers & other ladies magazines also , so that mass awareness will come & it will improve sas , bahu & social situations .ghar ghar ki kahani honi band ho jayegi . thank you .
I been through this, and it almost resulted in ending marriage. But now that I and my husband live in separate house things between both of us is getting better day by day.
I absolutely agree with you. The initial one year phase is very crucial in making or breaking of a marriage. But unfortunately, it's difficult to make people realize that. Specifically when they are your own. Aap ye suggestion dene jaoge to khud bure ban jaoge.
Thank you so much for the positive practical tips, Sir. This is a very sensitive complicated topic immensely filled with many emotions. It's very hard to manage things. But you have tried sharing the best possible practical solutions. I hope and pray that every family lives together in peace, love, and joy!
Practical 👍 my inlaws tortured me a lot in past 2 years now finally we are separated and living happy life but still I think that I was never want him to separate from his family but my in-laws were very horrible their thinking was18 century
Such a true and helpful video 🙏🏻 Thank you. Agar In-laws understanding ho, aur bachcha hone ke baad help aur strong support system ho, toh aadhhi problem solve ho jaati hai.
You have become our daily dose of life mantra, and it feels like you have read our minds. You are doing a brilliant job , keep it up! All the issues are real, and your solutions, funny entertaining but genuine.❤❤
I have observed all those moments when you said 'this happens especially in North India.' All those happen here in South India too. I could give you a guarantee. Maybe it is a South Asian thing (may happen in Pakistan, Bangladesh & S Lanka)
U r an open minded person wish every girl be blessed to have in - laws like u 🙏 peoples mentality must change with changing India. I m really blessed to hv loving n caring father in law 😊
wow I m amazed you think this way ...we stayed together with inlaws 8 yrs but moved out in same city due to lots of conflicts...1st year staying separate is superb idea .as couple gets freedom to enjoy their way and have good memories
All your ideas and tips are very true as per changing times. Very very practical Our society has changed and we have to change to keep our children life’s happy
Very good idea sir..well explained sir..reality of our society...I'm facing this in joint family..but I will try this on my son when he will be married..but now he is 6yrs old only 😀 👍
Absolutely practical advise given 👌👌Today's young generation is much smarter and they don't get involved in melodramatic situations as we would've been.
I agree with your thoughts. It's very practical. Nowadays, boys are not groomed properly by his parents. They are not educating their son to be a responsible husband. Boys mother is ready to show her feelings of ' Kyoki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi'. Reason being she makes her son as Mummas boy. She is not aware about the toxic environment, that she is spreading in her house. It is completely a fault of boys mother.
Finally got some body who belongs to in laws age and has brains. Definitely sharing all ur vedios to them to mitigate ghar ka kalesh. Plz make a vedio on karva chauth ka tanta 🙏. Badly needed.
Another master video. It spoke my mind. Plz plz make a video on when one person is sick with fever or minor ailment. Viral usually takes 4 to 7 days. But parents and relatives instead of supporting take and give back so much of tension to the care taker and the sick person that one thinks that I am not supposed to be sick or hide it.
Very nice sir.. agree with you 100%. My younger brother is getting married in few months and i am telling same thing to my mother and brother.. but whenever I say these things they say I am trying to ruin their house.. I am judging someone who is even not part of the family.
Nice. Well explained. I want to say that -- things will be better if you treat your daughter in law as your son in law. Do not compare with your own daughter.
Yes...this was told to my father we will separate them...but never happened....seriously I am pleading other viewers to pls listen 1yr is most important...coz it didn't happened n ruined our marriage relationship...bcoz of that we have fights on pity issues
Hi Amit sir, Please make one on karva chauth. My mother-in-law forced me to do karvachauth amd then ahoi while in my last phase of pregnancy and caused loss of amniotic fluid and now i have to work twice hard to recover my pregnancy from these nirjala vrat festivals. My father's side don't follow karwa chauth etc. My in-laws are over superstitious about these things.
Nice. Sir the newly married couple should be made to rent a house and stay away after the marriage. They should also be told to return when they want. Because in that one year if the girl gets pregnant, she may require help and so both may decide to come back to the husband's house or else they may go to the girl's house or her mother may come to help them.
Practical, yet beats stand up comedy 🤣🤣🤣
Practical
Good
Mujhe accha laga 👌👌
Very practical. 👌
😀
My son is getting married after 2months, I have planned to sent them to the place he works straight after their honeymoon. But family members say that what others will think? But i bother a least of it. Their happiness is what counts. My son is living alone and if DIL goes there, I will be the happiest
Lifetime bas family log ka dusra kuchi nahi hai agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi hum soche isse bura soch toh kuch bhi nahi pehle tha bas yahi reh gaya khudki duniyadari dekho khudki lifestyle behaviour dekho waise bhi bhagawan sabko checkup kar rahe hai jab societal ki baat aate hai tab bahut jyada involved karke apne family ki khusi khatam karke no no our family is best in society it's a one human life race ek baar bhagwan ke instructions pe tumhara Zinda khatam toh phir kabhi bhi kuch incident ho sakta hai phir RIP
👌🙏
Very good concept. My mother in law followed it n stays near by. And it worked very well. In our ten years of marriage we still stay seperate. Do get-together for special days festivals. And i must tell you my bond with my mother in law is like a bestie. We gossip together , shop together and we live as a team😍 . I am proud of my mother in law that she took this decision ♥️
Very lucky you are
U r truly blessed
You are lucky....
It's not the case usually
They want to live together as a joint family and then nobody understands what a dil feels not even her own family
Sad truth
Lucky u
We need more people like you in our society.... well Done uncle..
I used to think this that a husband and wife should get time to have fun, enjoy life and get setteled with each other after marriage. But in joint family system they are burdened with household responsibilities soon after marriage takes place. Which doesnt let them have time, space and a healthy mental state to bond.
Esa jina haram karte h nanad saas sasur k shadi kar k pachhtawa hota h😭
@@lillykumari8828 😀😂 dil se nikala hua lagta hai 👍
haha - I remember getting a call at sharp 6am from MIL, even after staying in the same house to wake me up.
@@lillykumari8828 😔
@@decodingmyroot i can feel your pain
Really good advice and it's not just north Indians, it's the same with south Indians as well. It doesn't matter how well educated a mother-in- law is , when it comes to her sons, she becomes extra possessive and daughters-in-law bear the grunt. Your insights are very good and I guess the modern society is now waking up to it. Love the way you explain things.
Acha hai uncle 😃👏👏👏
I am raising a 7yr old son presently and in this era of modern age parenting your ideology doesn't surprises me at all because being a victim of marital kalesh 8yrs back I can relate to ur every word.. V need to understand ds even our own children r not our property, they are 'individuals' first and v should not consider them as money back scheme
8yrs bk vlogging wasn't dt much popular otherwise v cud hv saved our golden 1yr of marriage by watching and showing such videos to elders in the family
I randomly found ur channel n now a fan!!!
a person in mid 30s calling him a uncle is just hilarious. He is not even 50 😂
Age ?@@harshbrar1
Even if mother in law stays away. They interfere in their sons marriage everyday via WhatsApp. These days sons are mummy’s boys. They tell every thing to their mother on phone every day…ultimately ruin their marriage
Sabhi ese hi hai
Totally agree. My husband still hanging from the umblical cord till she died 2 yrs ago.Myself a victim of MIL brain washing for 28 yrs. She did unrepairable damage and ruined my marriage. I hold my husband responsible for it.
Wife or wife ki maa Kam nhi hoti
Correct
True. Meri life bhi kharab kar chuki hai. Aur jiske liye maine sab choda usko mujhse koi matlab nahi hai
After a long time i found some one like u who really understands . Thanku for this video. My mother in law and father in law both r very judgemental though they pretend in front of everyone and their sun too that they r very cooperative. Living with them is a big difficulty in my life. My freedom in house in very limited. And my disrespect for them has increased to such an extent that i talk very less to them. My husband is also not understanding in this aspect and he believes her parents are best and i m the one with all the faults. I hope not only wives but the husbands and in laws see this video , so that they understand a wife’s perspective and needs.
I am 47 and married for 16 years. I have become fan of yours. This is absolute fact which I learnt through my life and come to the same conclusion which you are sharing. 🙏
What you learnt pls share
My mother in laws behavior has changed drastically since I moved in my own house. Now she is a completely different person. So loving and caring. I wish she were like this in the initial days of my marriage. I have suffered so much. But der aye durust aye. Now we all are happy.
U never know...wat she is planning..be careful🤪..at d end she is MIL
Humare pata nhi kab ayenge yese din
@@arpanmadrecha3013 all the best..stay happy..tc
@@SHIVANEEZWORLDHan ab aap yhi sikhana inko..bahut sari ladkiyan b sikhati hain apni friends ko aap k jaise 😂😂 par ladke nhi
Absolutely true. We were made to live with jeth jethani. I was working and she wasn't. Bas shuru ho gaya comparison, taunt, expectation 🙄🙄
I can literally cry...bcz My marriage affacted a lot bcz of these reasons...but I didn't give up... I owe you Sir
Mine too dear,
Practical! I am married since 17yrs and working woman. I have gone through lot of physical, mental, financial torture and few years back moved out. Though bitter experiences left emotional wounds. But while watching this video I was laughing and now it feels funny.
Sir, ekdum sahi kaha....2 mahine me hi divorce pe baat aa chuki hai... husband mumma's boy hai puri uski sunta hai...khud ko extra ordinary samjte hai
Mind blown 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Literal truth bombs 💣 Our parents did the same and we are all living in harmony!
you are absolutely right , such things should be published in news papers & other ladies magazines also , so that mass awareness will come & it will improve sas , bahu & social situations .ghar ghar ki kahani honi band ho jayegi .
thank you .
We need more people like you sir,Thank you so much!😇
We need more people like you in our society sir... Very true!
I been through this, and it almost resulted in ending marriage. But now that I and my husband live in separate house things between both of us is getting better day by day.
Same here
Our Bollywood and television shows notion 'lado maaro Gaali do par saath raho' doesn't fit in real life that we need to understand
I absolutely agree with you. The initial one year phase is very crucial in making or breaking of a marriage. But unfortunately, it's difficult to make people realize that. Specifically when they are your own. Aap ye suggestion dene jaoge to khud bure ban jaoge.
Thank you so much for the positive practical tips, Sir. This is a very sensitive complicated topic immensely filled with many emotions.
It's very hard to manage things.
But you have tried sharing the best possible practical solutions.
I hope and pray that every family lives together in peace, love, and joy!
Actually it's very true .... We have clashes due to joint living with in-laws
Practical 👍 my inlaws tortured me a lot in past 2 years now finally we are separated and living happy life but still I think that I was never want him to separate from his family but my in-laws were very horrible their thinking was18 century
My mother in law and sister in law has ruined our happy life
Such a true and helpful video 🙏🏻
Thank you.
Agar In-laws understanding ho, aur bachcha hone ke baad help aur strong support system ho, toh aadhhi problem solve ho jaati hai.
*"Very realistic, practically, thoughtful, knowledgeable & Life-toughts preechings Sir jee"*
Practical
You have become our daily dose of life mantra, and it feels like you have read our minds. You are doing a brilliant job , keep it up! All the issues are real, and your solutions, funny entertaining but genuine.❤❤
Sir ..... awesome practical words..... thank you for the clarity !!
I have observed all those moments when you said 'this happens especially in North India.' All those happen here in South India too. I could give you a guarantee. Maybe it is a South Asian thing (may happen in Pakistan, Bangladesh & S Lanka)
What a video sir amazing, we need more people like you in our society,
You are Doing great job sir keep up... 👍🏻
Thank you for this beautiful advice.
Awesome!! Seems very logical . . . And actually works. . . Ur delivery is awesome too !! U rock uncleji
Actually ... You said all bitter truth of our society in a very sweet way... Need such change in our society...
Thanks a lot Sir... 🙏🙏🌹
U r an open minded person wish every girl be blessed to have in - laws like u 🙏 peoples mentality must change with changing India. I m really blessed to hv loving n caring father in law 😊
Never seen anybody so practical ....applaudable!!
Very true. Many thanks for your guidance.
Practical suggestions....keep sharing uncle...we don't usually get to see such perspective in general
I can relate to it to the core specially "ek baar woh khud leke jayegi na apka beteko toh wapas kabhi nehi ayegi" so.so true
Aur aap ko bhi aane nhi degi!
Aur beta jaaye hi na toh
You are very interesting, entertaining and practical. Your examples are real life. I can actually picture the scene.
Yes, must give them time to understand and adjust with each other, their work pressures, etc. 👏
wow I m amazed you think this way ...we stayed together with inlaws 8 yrs but moved out in same city due to lots of conflicts...1st year staying separate is superb idea .as couple gets freedom to enjoy their way and have good memories
All these things needs to be addressed. Thank you sir 🙏🏻
True story. I have gone through same thing. Kash aap ka ye video mai shadi se pehle dekh leta. I really admire your experience and understanding sir.
Yes I absolutely agree with you. Practically society should change but difficult 😃😃😃but seeing your vdos some change will b there 👍👍👍
👍🏻💯💯absolutely perfect .really true
What you're doing is Great just keep these types of series going on.. It will help alot of people
Sir hatts off simply....you are from Haryana and this much open minded approach...you changed my perception of people from Haryana 🙌
All your ideas and tips are very true as per changing times.
Very very practical
Our society has changed and we have to change to keep our children life’s happy
Master of Clarity!!
Amit Sir U r amazing . Just wish You Tube videos would have started some 15 years back❤
Very good idea sir..well explained sir..reality of our society...I'm facing this in joint family..but I will try this on my son when he will be married..but now he is 6yrs old only 😀 👍
Bahut Badiya sir.
Worth listening and implementing too
U r giving really practical solutions. I wish people could really understand and implement this one
This video packs a lot of punch. If only Indian parents could learn to let go
Well spoken. North Indian families are suffering due to marriage related dilemmas.
Very practical. Thank you sir
Apne meri soch ko shabdon ka roop diya ..... shukriya.....
Nicely said.. I couldn’t agree with you more. Thank you for making such nice videos. Your advice can save many families. 🙏
Absolutely practical advise given 👌👌Today's young generation is much smarter and they don't get involved in melodramatic situations as we would've been.
Nailed it ...thet won't ever bother..
But again we parents still have to bear the grunt anyway.
This is inevitable atleast 1 more generation.
बहुत ही अच्छी vdo बनायी, Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Exactly….many of things i hv myself faced.Happy to share this
Superb video, Sir. Sutras for peace, good cheer and affection in life.
Very true
You are 💯 percent right sir.
Exactly, you blowed out my thoughts.
Very practical ... awesome video
Great idea!
U r amazing..i love the topic, very new concept and really good advice. And i love the way u speak, so entertaining u r.
Great advise. I happy to follow a right person.
You are absolutely right Sir 👍
Great suggestion👌👌
I agree with your thoughts. It's very practical. Nowadays, boys are not groomed properly by his parents. They are not educating their son to be a responsible husband. Boys mother is ready to show her feelings of ' Kyoki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi'. Reason being she makes her son as Mummas boy. She is not aware about the toxic environment, that she is spreading in her house.
It is completely a fault of boys mother.
Awesome. So practical.
100 % correct advice. Thanks Sir for all the wisdom.
Finally got some body who belongs to in laws age and has brains. Definitely sharing all ur vedios to them to mitigate ghar ka kalesh. Plz make a vedio on karva chauth ka tanta 🙏. Badly needed.
The way u explained everything is the best 🤣🤣🤣🤣 can't stop laughing 😂😂😂😂😂
Sir, aap bahot experienced, practical and broad minded ho. Zyadatar log aisa kabhi nahi sochenge.
Highly appreciate you sir for the greatest advice. Practical and effective.
Sir you are very very practical and excellent. Bitter but truth is always sour 🙏🙏🙏
Right advice
Good advice
My son is 7 years old
I'll definitely follow this advice 😂😂😂
Another master video. It spoke my mind.
Plz plz make a video on when one person is sick with fever or minor ailment. Viral usually takes 4 to 7 days. But parents and relatives instead of supporting take and give back so much of tension to the care taker and the sick person that one thinks that I am not supposed to be sick or hide it.
Sir, u r just superb. U give very simple n impactful solution on every subject.
Very nice sir.. agree with you 100%. My younger brother is getting married in few months and i am telling same thing to my mother and brother.. but whenever I say these things they say I am trying to ruin their house.. I am judging someone who is even not part of the family.
Mind blowing... Enjoyed too much
Amazing life lesson sir🙏
Quite useful and most needed for today's time. Thank you for the efforts.
Nice. Well explained.
I want to say that -- things will be better if you treat your daughter in law as your son in law.
Do not compare with your own daughter.
To the point and very practical . Plot nahi hai 😂 epic
Very true ...Such a very imp.Life-sutra's sir...Aapka Tarika samjhaane ka ekdum theek h.....
Dum hai sir aapki baatoo mee..... Thanku so much.... Me bhi issi situation se deal kar raha huuu
Sara base hila diya .. best dialog
Yes...this was told to my father we will separate them...but never happened....seriously I am pleading other viewers to pls listen 1yr is most important...coz it didn't happened n ruined our marriage relationship...bcoz of that we have fights on pity issues
Very true
Agar husband ke sath alag bhi hote hai ek saal phir bhi issue hote hai
Ladai hoti hai
Husband's In laws are just excuse
In my situation also marriage is ruined forever . Please ek ghar chod Kar reh lo par alag reh lo please .
I will try your advice Sir. Thank you
Your video is very good. All points covered are very practical 👌
Hi Amit sir, Please make one on karva chauth. My mother-in-law forced me to do karvachauth amd then ahoi while in my last phase of pregnancy and caused loss of amniotic fluid and now i have to work twice hard to recover my pregnancy from these nirjala vrat festivals. My father's side don't follow karwa chauth etc. My in-laws are over superstitious about these things.
We don't have fasts for pregnant women, even Karva chauth is not done during pregnancy. All families follow these rituals in their own way.
Practically speaking this is the best advice for both sides. Newlywed’s need their time to soak up new responsibilities
Excellent advice! Love your explanation with humour. My thoughts are ditto like urs.
I'm not married, still young but I'm so scared of getting married now.
bhai mereko toh aise dhak dhak ho re la hai ki shaadi karni chahiye ya nahi
Nice. Sir the newly married couple should be made to rent a house and stay away after the marriage. They should also be told to return when they want. Because in that one year if the girl gets pregnant, she may require help and so both may decide to come back to the husband's house or else they may go to the girl's house or her mother may come to help them.
Thanks friends for liking my thinking.
Very true, very practical, I just hope everyone understands this.
Superb, nice video 👍perfectly said