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Jo kuch aap leh rahe h ye maine apne pati ko shuruaat me hi bata diya tha to jo parivar pura mil k meri saas ko pratadit kr raha tha wo meri saas k sath mil k mete khilaf ek ho gaya.....dhritrashtra aaj bhi maje le raha h ladwa k sabko
बिल्कुल सच कहा आपने असली विलेन ससुर है कितना बढ़िया अनालिसिस है आपका और कितना सटीक तरीके से समझा रहे हो आपकी उम्र के लोग अंकल जी गीता और रामायण की बातें करके खुद को बहुत ज्ञानी समझने लगते हैं आपकी उम्र में आपको इतनी अच्छी समझ असली कर्मयोग यही है जौ आप समझा रहे हो
Marriage and parenthood are overrated in India. I am single and childfree for life.😇 Ratan Tata, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Jayalalithaa, Lata Mangeshkar, Mayawati, Mamta Banerjee, Ekta Kapoor etc are single and childfree and some of the most successful people in India.
Maja aya. Ap ekdum sach bol rahe ho. Ek eonshabd sach hai. Sare fasad ki jad admi hai aur dosh aurat ko diya jata hai. Apke is video ne dill jeet liya sangwan ji. Jiyo mere sher
U r the saviour of all bahus of north India..nobody has ever brought this important topic that affects so many families…so relaxed to hear someone who understands problems of all ladies.. MAG
My Fil died, still we live separately. We have provided everything for mil comfort. Once because of joint family we were facing divorce situation now after separation of 12 years from parent in laws our marriage has turned into a very romantic one. I simply don't remember when was the last time we fought.
Guruji Pranam, I am unmarried 32 years old man. I spent 3 years of my life fixing my parent's marriage problem. I was TRYING to learn simplest skills in that time so I can join the workforce again. And I achieved nothing but depression for myself. This video is so true and relatable that I watch it over and over again. I learned this through a very bitter experience and I hope people find this video before they make mistake like I did.
100% true and relatable video.what a rational and progressive thoughts... excellent analysis, maja aa gaya. I'm from an 80's generation, almost married for 14 years. Highly educated but controlled by villains. Always submissive, obedient, cultured ... But now I feel like to rebe wasted all my life's golden years listening to them as if I don't have my liking, now I want to focus on myself and my hobbies a little bit. So that after 10 more years I won't be regretting it any more. I don't want to become a villain in my bahu's life. Thanks for sharing it n showing the mirror to society 🙏
Villans not just immediate family, relative near distant...especially if you are single senior citizen every one wants to control you,relatives,neighbours,retire ke baad collegues bhi...god knows who not.
I got tortured so much by my in-laws and always thinking on this point and many years before already decided to keep my beta bohu to leave separately once he got married.Thank you so much for bringing the true story of Indian families 🙏
@@shasankv85 my father in law was super arrogant, narssissistic and would bring the house down with shouting and yelling if something went against him....... He wouldnt take a glass of water by himself..... Someone should always be ready to serve him.
100% sahi . Most of the times I feel getting married is the worst thing I did with my life. Kam Wali baii ban gyi bs. Sab ki sewa krna hi zindagi hai bs apni to koi life nhi. Sare farz hmare hai.fir bhi khush nhi hote.
Kamati bhi nahi hogi. Phir bhi job pe husbands ko appreciation, break time, appreciation aur bonus aur society mein respect milti hain. @@hhshs3466. What does a wife get? Does one ever realise why women are so distant from household chores and proudly say they are busy in office work? Because they never get appreciation and applause. When a husband gets a promotion, everyone applauds him for hard work, what about the women who ensured the good health of the man, took all mental pressure within herself and kept him majorly from ghar kalesh. And now women are blamed for why we are so aloof from household work.
In laws just crush your personality. So do whatever is required but at your own pace and your convenience. Listening to them will make the matters worse. If they don't like then they are free to do it on their own. They never will be happy whatever you do for everyone so royally ignore them.
Accidentally found your channel, best thing I came across on TH-cam till date! I have been binge watching all your old videos and sharing them with family. I strongly feel all of your content is spot-on, need of the hour for most Indians. Thanks for making much needed content 🙏
Mai soch hi rhi thi ki kaise is video ko share kru.. jigar chahiye😅😅.. but last line helped.. dekho kaisi batein faila rha …😅😅 you are AMAZING…..!!!! Soo practical…
Superb video. Masterpiece in itself. I am a psychologist and i agree to all of your points. I appreciate your courage of speaking the truth. Your channel is a clear mirror of north indian upper middle class society. Seriously new generation needs to change and come out of this as much change couldn't be expected from elder generation.
Thank you..Sir you are 100percent correct... majority of Sasurs are Dhritarashtra and make us look like vamps..I already knew this but today your words proved it .Hats off
Sir....pehli baar koi itni samajhdari ki baate karta nazar aa raha h....m so glad.... someone is taking this up...and someday definitely the society will also change....❤️❤️❤️❤️
Salute to you sir, aap ne Indian family ki asli gadbad pakad li hai. Financial independence and distribution of duties is a must for families. Show off in the wedding expenses is also ruining the financial condition of the families, which could be saved and spent in the couple's stability.
Very rational and progressive outlook towards saas bahu issue and love the clear straight forward attitude of yours !! Absolutely agree to every word !!
Your life lessons are so deeply connected to our lives of 80 born women. We face this truth in our household. You have correctly pointed the main villian 👌👌 Your videos help us to think about from different perspective
Accidentally found your video.. ur views and opinions are very close to middle class family and parivar and I love to watch ur videos... Before I watched motivational things or listened to music while doing my work .. but now whenever I watch tv either working on the computer or phone i start watching ur videos.. which very much admires me personally ..thank u sir.. and yes maza aa gaya... Keep motivating us with all ur experience and observations... Thank u so much...😊
Awesome . Itni sahi baatein aap bata rahein hain, mere to aasoon hi nikal aaye.itni achhi tarah expalin kiya hai aapne. Mein 1980s ki model hu ,na idhar ki na udhar ki. Aajkal k baccho k liye aap ekdum sahi advice de rahein hain . Ladka ladki dono k maa baap sirf bachcho ko supresss karte hain. Mein 47 yrs ki hu aur kehna chahti hu aapne kya sahi vidoes banaye hain. Asli culprit Sasur. Eye opener hai yeh baat !! Yeh b khoob kaha ki aapas mein old husband wife lad pade agar ghar p beta bahu na ho. Kya hi baat kahi aapne . ❤
I totally agree with you. The moment you said, jis ghar mai women dukhi hai, woh ghar kabhi sukhi, happy nahi ho sakta. This was my thought which came on in this video. Must appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for your videos.
Very true, sasur ji is mostly culprit .....woh piche hote hai and saas ko aage karate hai ..... vahi hote hai kaan bharane wale saas ke ... yeh maine bahot baar (99%) times dekha hai .... its very hurtful and helpless situation for bahu........ comment..from jalandhar punjab
Sir you are brilliant and brave ... Exposing the truth fearlessly ... Please continue ... The truth you speak is so much more helpful than fake religious and spiritual gurus who don't really help in anything ... This is the real deal ... A real social revolution ... May our unhappy society change soon
Sooo right.. 😀😀😂😂👌👌 I can see and feel the toxicity in my family between my parents.. They are narcissistic 😞 my father kind of controls everything..I'm divorced, my in-laws were like u said exactly.. Great content ..maja aa gaya😊❤
Uncle thanks a lot you are creating videos which is very valuable for generation like us from 20 -40 age gap . Keep it up uncle lots of love and blessings to you.❤❤❤
Great analysis. I had regret before of seperating myself from my family due to all the problems you mentioned .No more after your video.My parents demands my contribution even after they earn handsome govt pension and I do help them whatever possible from my side even after leaving seperately .But they want me only and not my wife or my son in their house .
In our family my father is a retied pension holder of state govt service in group c position when he joined in service. He has been retired in the position of group b service. Now his pension amount was 30000 . From 30000 pension loan was deducted every month 8000 . Net pension was 22000 . My salary was 23000 per month. Our whole family expenses was incured by both of us. I will spend around 15000 and my father expenditure was 10000 . In family sometimes we are also fight but we will solve the issue with in 48 hours. In financial decisions all family members involved is most important.
@@sunilnayakblogs6277my father get 22000 in pension and my bro have monthly income approx 4 to 5 lakhs but he never give single penny to my mother n father and when come to home eat sleep n go to his home his wife don't allow him to give 1 rs to old parents but bro himself is disgusting I wish God will see everything may karma hits them back
North east me konsa part?? What about Nagaland? Because I though they are modern because they were not corrupted by typical Indian societal thought process.. That's what i think please let me know ke waha kya hora he.. Mujhe jyada idea nahi he waha ka
Sir ji... Every word you spoke is true to the core. I've seen this playout in real life with my brother. And yes I admit my father was at fault. Please continue your work. Finally someone explaining the things that our parents should have done.
At the moment my husband needs to see this eye opener. Who tries to be a good boy in his 70s. Now I'll have fun sharing this with him . Thank you ji. Perfect content. 😄 😀 😊
No one can explain my family situation better than this video! I knew this, came to know this last year(2021) itself and took the instant step of buying a new flat for my family... Just 2 minutes away from my parents' home. Now I hope things get sorted out smoothly! Age-31
Great Mr rohit. Here in my case, I had to move out and I m villain now for everyone. But I'm at peace now. Yes still my other half takes counseling session 4 times from his family. 👋 but I'm rock solid in my decision of not being the part of kaleshi family n living with them .
I first time came across some person talking so boldly on these topics. I found your video just today i wish i had listened to this 10 years back and i would be so happy if my father and father in law thought like you.
Oh my god…I died laughing when you said “humara parivaar to bohat sexy “😂😂😂 this is such a funny video. I agree with the analysis done here…can correlate it to both , my parents as well as my in laws side. Women of their generations have been suppressed so much that they feel it’s normal after being submissive all their lives and carry on the behaviour with their daughter in laws. No girl tolerates this in today’s times. And the mothers get bitter because they don’t get their ‘revenge’ so to speak..Hats off to you Sirji ! Aap mahan hain😂
Sir you are a gem of a person who is highlighting these issues which nobody talks about . I hope if people could just become mature and not take their wife for granted.
My sister suffered from the same problem. Her father in law was the villain. She suffered from mental trauma after her marriage because of his rude behavior and taunts.
Thank you sir for showing us the right path Your thoughts are really really practical You are far sighted Thanks for your contribution to our generation
Sir, I am a woman who is a researcher. In last one year, I have cried a lot because of my career and mental health getting affected. Honestly, I don't see my in laws as villains but unfortunately the systems they blindly believe in. If I live like them, I have to be dead inside. After a lot of thought, I had proposed my husband that if he wants me to stay near him happily, we must develop alternative arrangements for their parents and my parents too. But, he is afraid that his parents would be hurt. But, I am very firm with sticking with my idea. In my bad financial times, except for formal asking ....no one including my husband helped me out. So, I have to think for myself even if I earn the label of a bad Bahu. I watched your videos and was honestly but happily surprised how your prescribed thoughts and solutions are atleast 90% matching with me. Also, I have tried practicing 'no' politely. Still, as a woman many compromises await. Agar wo kuch useful compromises hotey phir bhi sochti but most of them are power control to satisfy insecurities of the society and regressive family systems.
Same here sister. With 1 year of marriage gave inlaws grankid at risk of corporate job. Finally got maternity leave but they are bent on making me their housewife with earning, while keeping their clueless boy as useless to demand bedtea for himself while i am cater to the child as well. SIL wants to demean my choice in corporate attire of smart casuals by forcing chunni, ghoonghat and chamcham suits with village jewelry, Speaking derogatorily of my attempt upskill and switch jobs. They try to keep me bound to their house, don't allow me to mingle in the neighborhood, forbid me from buying my things from shop, insert inane 'traditions', even try to stop my mother's house visits.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 Sorry Divya, I am in a better position. From beginning of my marriage, I had decided not to do anything to impress but at times do all these rituals or cultural practices out of my love. But, I can definitely understand your situation. Main na isliye apne bure financial time main jab mujhe kisine help nahi kiya tab khud hi apne savings se apne college fees etc bhara. I was planning a kid but unless certain things are solved...I am not going to bring in a kid until I am emotionally and physically ready.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 It was and is tough but I do not ask permission for staying with my father. But my fil tries to indirectly pressurize me by asking when I can stay with them. I don't mind staying with them. But my food and cultural habits are different. When they force upon their food habits on me, I get uncomfortable as it is a shocker for me at a humanitarian level. I am a good cook but my mil insists to learn cooking from her so that I cook them. On phone, she criticises my choice of recipe that I cook and instructs me what my husband should eat. I am educated regarding health and infact good at making balanced diets. Since I do not criticize her or anyone's food habits , it is difficult for me to constantly face so much discussions regarding food. My mil says o you cooked only one sabzi....my Babu can't eat with one sabzi. On the other hand my husband is extremely fond of what I make.
Sir..you are the only counseller who are telling the truth...but not fake ideals...the ideals and traditions are making the women's life as hell...already in 42 years of age and as a working women in good position, I have already spoiled my health...but now I am feeling bad because I had not fought with them..and I lost my good years of life...now I am strict ,mainly my husband is not happy with me....now also he just wants to be servant to his mother....
I completely agree with your every sentence. I used to say same things to my husband whatever you've said. My mother in law became a source for my father in law. She did every thing wrong with me but with the consent of my father in law.
Yes it's an issue with the head of the family and I figured out years back ...now when I see your videos I feel so happy to see those thoughts going public through you
Sahi hai Sir, meri maa to gujar bhi gai abhi bhi mere baap ka wohi chal raha hai, pahle maa ko bharkaya ab bb ko bharkate hai... satya wachan hai apke, salute
😁😁 Sir, ur delivery and performance is excellent, content gets delivered. I had to pause the video and laugh occasionally. The topic is very relevant. Thanks
If there is a good chemistry between father n son, if they are worldly-wise then they can play a positive n constructive role in balancing the inter- personal - relationships living under the same roof. For this they will need a check upon them which is a herculian task for them because they never like to curtail their freedom . l really appreciate your sharp n strong sense of observations, Sir.
Baap aur bete mein achchi chemistry hi hoti hai, tabhi beta na maa ki taklif ko samajhta hai aur na hi biwi ki. Phir wo sasur ban kar apni patni se apni bahu ka bura haal karwata hai. Maine aise bahut se ghar dekhe hai. Bahut hi selfish males, jinhe har rishte se sirf apne liye sukh chahiye. At any cost.
Greetings sir ji.. After listening your videos I must say you have observed, studied, analyzed everything in so details.. I must say you must be a great daddy for your children and definitely creating awareness and spreading knowledge in the society which is beneficial for us.. Keep going..
Please share your own family's details. How are they behaving and how is your advice having results in your in family. Hope you will have courage to do so.
Love your life lessons..I happened to watch one episode..and I was hooked to your channel...watched all your episodes..almost.. Itne sateek..progressive vichaar..much needed for the society..Bahut achha kaam Kar Rahe ho aap..kitna khul ke bolte ho..wahwahwah..:):) Have forwarded to many in my circle.. !! Thanks for coming up with such unique stuff.. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
When you revealed that sasurji is the villain, it was truly like a murder mystery where the person who seemed to be the most distant from the crime came out to be the criminal. Jurm aise Karo ki koi shak na kar paye
Mujhe to shuru me hi samajh aa gya tha ki meri zindgi to narak banne hi wali hai kyunki sasur ji is sitting at home simply doing nothing but noting down his bahu's each and every little and big mistakes and provoking his wife and daughter and then later at night when me and husband go to sleep. Then SIL before going to sleep goes to her parents room and they start gossiping about their Bahu, in this way they were all filled with toxicity and whenever they got a chance they make Bahu villain in front of their son. This is all because of insecurity of losing their son that if the Bahu becomes successful in creating a strong bond with the son then ladka to hath se gayo, ban jayega "Joru ka Ghulam". Achha Sone pe suhaga aur lijiye ki even after destroying their own son's and bahu's emotional and sexual life they ask very shamefully that "is there any good news?" "are you expecting?" SHARM bhi ni aati aisa puchhte huye. Jab pati patni ke beech me man-mutaav create kar liya to bachcha kya rape karwa ke paida karwaoge. Shadi se pehle mujhe bataya gya tha ki Sasur buisness karte hain to mujhe laga tha apni shop me baithte honge kya pata tha ghar me baithenge to us ghar kabhi shadi na karti kyunki aise sasur zindgi ko aur narak se bhi upar level ka narak bana dete hain. Socha tha Saas ke sath Ghar pe maa beti ki tarah enjoy karungi milkar sab kiya karenge unse sab seekh lungi fir unhe nahi karne dungi. Lekin shadi ke baad ka pehla saal bhi sukh se jeene nahi Mila do baar to gande gande suicidal thoughts aaye dusri baar to kadam uthane bhi chali thi lekin pati aur sasural aur mayeke walo ki zindgi tabah ho jayegi mere aisa karne se to khud ko rok liya. Lekin ab sochti hu mai kyun apni zindgi kurbaan karu unlogo ki wajah se jinhe ghanta faraq ni padta mere hone na hone se ye to mere Marne ke baad dusri le aayenge mere baare me samaaj ko kahenge ye mentally disturbed thi to aisa kadam utha liya.
@@amandeepkoursaini9832 ek ek baat sahi likhi hai. ahiri teen line bhi. sab aankho ke saamne dekha hai. asha ahi aur mazboot, dheeth, less emotional, aur bahadur ho gai hogi. be blessed ever,
Appreciate your wisdom Sir 👍🙏👌quite true & factual analysis of our typical Indian society & family set up….. these videos so should essentially make people rethink on their lives around their families & make changes accordingly for a better understanding of a Happy life .. Thanks for sharing 😊
Hello Sir I will take this video as answer for my request which I sent in other video where I asked 'ghar ki boss tho biwi hai' 'biwi tho home minister hai' 'patni se darte hai' so on blah blah blah is all not at all true in our society. So thank you for your deep research and narrative on this topic and trying to improve country's happiness index. You truly care about people's mental peace and happiness. 🙂
Kasam se, i hate these type of jokes, whenever i see my mother and aunts laughing at these whatsapp jokes i feel like banging my head against the wall as the case is opposite in real life! Matlab marzi husband ki chalti hai, wife ko har cheez pooch kar karna padta hai apne pati parmeshwar se, bina permission ke kuch nahi kar sakti uske baad jab aise jokes bante hain na man karta hai ek thappad lagau sabko, sabse zyada gussa tab aati hai jab aurtein bhi hasti hain aise jokes par, unko agar bolo bhi ki yeh illogical hai toh khud offensd ho jaayegi aur hume sensitive samjhengi ki hum koi joke nahi le sakte
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Jo kuch aap leh rahe h ye maine apne pati ko shuruaat me hi bata diya tha to jo parivar pura mil k meri saas ko pratadit kr raha tha wo meri saas k sath mil k mete khilaf ek ho gaya.....dhritrashtra aaj bhi maje le raha h ladwa k sabko
बिल्कुल सच कहा आपने असली विलेन ससुर है कितना बढ़िया अनालिसिस है आपका और कितना सटीक तरीके से समझा रहे हो आपकी उम्र के लोग अंकल जी गीता और रामायण की बातें करके खुद को बहुत ज्ञानी समझने लगते हैं आपकी उम्र में आपको इतनी अच्छी समझ असली कर्मयोग यही है जौ आप समझा रहे हो
I have never heard anyone speaking so boldly and fearlessly about the dark truths of the Indian middle class family
Hats off to you,Sir
Marriage and parenthood are overrated in India.
I am single and childfree for life.😇
Ratan Tata, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Jayalalithaa, Lata Mangeshkar, Mayawati, Mamta Banerjee, Ekta Kapoor etc are single and childfree and some of the most successful people in India.
I agree I am his big admirer
@@anewlife5846 नरेंद्र मोदी ऑल्सो
@@sachintyagi4386 He is married to Jashoda but he just doesn't co-habitate with her.
Yhi mard prr bante h bhag jati h😂😂😂
Maja aya. Ap ekdum sach bol rahe ho. Ek eonshabd sach hai. Sare fasad ki jad admi hai aur dosh aurat ko diya jata hai. Apke is video ne dill jeet liya sangwan ji. Jiyo mere sher
Guruji, aap aur aise gyan jagaye aur hamare Bharthiye parivaaro ke jeevan me clarity laaye🙏🙌
U r the saviour of all bahus of north India..nobody has ever brought this important topic that affects so many families…so relaxed to hear someone who understands problems of all ladies.. MAG
My Fil died, still we live separately. We have provided everything for mil comfort. Once because of joint family we were facing divorce situation now after separation of 12 years from parent in laws our marriage has turned into a very romantic one. I simply don't remember when was the last time we fought.
❤❤❤ god bless you! I hope to recover just like you
Mere pati ke to dur baithe hi maa baap behan dil dimag me baithe rahte hain 🙄
He is such a blessing to our society! God bless you sir !
Par kitne log is video ko dekhenge???? problem ye hai
Big salute sir for talking so boldly on these topics in our country spclly 'north India ka haal'..
Accidentally found uncle..he speaks truth .. people from all generation should listen from him
Guruji Pranam, I am unmarried 32 years old man. I spent 3 years of my life fixing my parent's marriage problem. I was TRYING to learn simplest skills in that time so I can join the workforce again. And I achieved nothing but depression for myself.
This video is so true and relatable that I watch it over and over again. I learned this through a very bitter experience and I hope people find this video before they make mistake like I did.
You are absolutely right, and don't be in any guilt now that you have done any wrong, in that consciousness you have done what you must have done...
100% true and relatable video.what a rational and progressive thoughts... excellent analysis, maja aa gaya. I'm from an 80's generation, almost married for 14 years. Highly educated but controlled by villains. Always submissive, obedient, cultured ... But now I feel like to rebe wasted all my life's golden years listening to them as if I don't have my liking, now I want to focus on myself and my hobbies a little bit. So that after 10 more years I won't be regretting it any more. I don't want to become a villain in my bahu's life. Thanks for sharing it n showing the mirror to society 🙏
Kya bat ha!! Josh aa gayo..viedos dekh kar,
More power to u ❤
Villans not just immediate family, relative near distant...especially if you are single senior citizen every one wants to control you,relatives,neighbours,retire ke baad collegues bhi...god knows who not.
Same with me
Same feeling with me. Always don't become a naukrani in front of the villians
100% nahi, 200% nahi, 1000% true , true. Aapke video sunker bohot se log offend honge but aapki baatein seriously family problems ka solution hai. 👏👏👏👏👏
I got tortured so much by my in-laws and always thinking on this point and many years before already decided to keep my beta bohu to leave separately once he got married.Thank you so much for bringing the true story of Indian families 🙏
Good thoughts
Awesome Ma'am. Proud of your thinking. 👏👏👏😇👍
Truth is always bitter, you are 100% true. 95% fathers are real culprit.
How a man can understand problems of both generations!
Superb
Hats off Sir
Aapne to aankhe khol di
Bilkul sahi bataya aapne👍
You are 100℅ correct. Not only in North India, same situation in South also. But this father in laws are so arrogant that they don't have any regret.
100% true
Correct, fathers and father-in-laws are super worst beings.
@@shasankv85 my father in law was super arrogant, narssissistic and would bring the house down with shouting and yelling if something went against him.......
He wouldnt take a glass of water by himself..... Someone should always be ready to serve him.
South situations are more bad I feel
Bilkul shi
Sooo practical sir. Excellent and amazing speech. Maja aa gaya
I m from 80s and I thought I was the only one who could see this and was saying this. Thanks for raising this on social platform.
मैं तो पहले ही बहुत अच्छी तरह से समझाचुकी हूं आज शादी को 25 साल हो गए हैं और अच्छे से समझ गई हूंअपने घर के विलेन को
Aap bohot intelligent and progressive hai , absolutely right sir, problem ye hai aajkal ke pati bhi sasur ko copy karte hai.
Say no to sasur say no to pathi stay single👍
Sir, you are excellent
Absolutely right sir.
Kal ka Pati aaj ka sasoor Hai
Aur aaj ka Pati Kal ka Sasoor Hai.
Indian *Dale Carnegie*
100% sahi . Most of the times I feel getting married is the worst thing I did with my life. Kam Wali baii ban gyi bs. Sab ki sewa krna hi zindagi hai bs apni to koi life nhi. Sare farz hmare hai.fir bhi khush nhi hote.
Kamati Kitna ho
Kamati bhi nahi hogi. Phir bhi job pe husbands ko appreciation, break time, appreciation aur bonus aur society mein respect milti hain. @@hhshs3466. What does a wife get? Does one ever realise why women are so distant from household chores and proudly say they are busy in office work? Because they never get appreciation and applause. When a husband gets a promotion, everyone applauds him for hard work, what about the women who ensured the good health of the man, took all mental pressure within herself and kept him majorly from ghar kalesh. And now women are blamed for why we are so aloof from household work.
Sabko khus karhi nahi sakte to khud ko khus rakho dusre jalke mar jana he
In laws just crush your personality. So do whatever is required but at your own pace and your convenience. Listening to them will make the matters worse. If they don't like then they are free to do it on their own. They never will be happy whatever you do for everyone so royally ignore them.
@@hhshs3466 tumko nai milne kamane wali😂
Accidentally found your channel, best thing I came across on TH-cam till date! I have been binge watching all your old videos and sharing them with family. I strongly feel all of your content is spot-on, need of the hour for most Indians. Thanks for making much needed content 🙏
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@@SangoLifeSutras very 👌best !
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Maz
Very nice video
Very true sir. Reality hai society ki aur hamare culture ki.
Mai soch hi rhi thi ki kaise is video ko share kru.. jigar chahiye😅😅.. but last line helped.. dekho kaisi batein faila rha …😅😅 you are AMAZING…..!!!!
Soo practical…
Ha ha ha ha even I felt the same, but shared the link in family whatsapp groups 🤣🤣
💯
Maj....Maha maj sir 🙂
😂😂😂
Mag
Superb video. Masterpiece in itself. I am a psychologist and i agree to all of your points. I appreciate your courage of speaking the truth. Your channel is a clear mirror of north indian upper middle class society. Seriously new generation needs to change and come out of this as much change couldn't be expected from elder generation.
Thank you..Sir you are 100percent correct... majority of Sasurs are Dhritarashtra and make us look like vamps..I already knew this but today your words proved it .Hats off
धृतराष्ट्र 😂
Bahut badiya बिलकुल सही बात कही है अपने
Sir....pehli baar koi itni samajhdari ki baate karta nazar aa raha h....m so glad.... someone is taking this up...and someday definitely the society will also change....❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sir , kindly don't delete this video.
It's a reality of our society.
This ws beyond 'mjaa aa gya'...excellently said n amazingly revealed the bitter truth of middle class Indian families
बिल्कुल सही बात कही है sir आप ने 😂😂
असली विलेन तो ससुर ही होते घर में क्लेश के जिम्मेदार।
I agree..
No chemistry between adults.
Whether parents or in laws.
yup thats the flaw / no bonding
that's one of the flaws of arrange marriage betaji aur aisa low trust societies mein aksar aisa hota hai
Salute to you sir, aap ne Indian family ki asli gadbad pakad li hai. Financial independence and distribution of duties is a must for families. Show off in the wedding expenses is also ruining the financial condition of the families, which could be saved and spent in the couple's stability.
Can't imagine ki koi mentally itna healthy h vo b is age me vrna is age group walo ko to bete bahu ka rona rote hi dekha h.Hats off to u sir .
I am 23 ,un married, finding these videos very useful and getting mentelly prepared
Nice better to be single than facing such people saans sasoor 😂
I am engaged and I am scared of getting married bow
Then think before you are going to be married
You are absolutely right sir 💯
Very rational and progressive outlook towards saas bahu issue and love the clear straight forward attitude of yours !! Absolutely agree to every word !!
Your life lessons are so deeply connected to our lives of 80 born women. We face this truth in our household. You have correctly pointed the main villian 👌👌
Your videos help us to think about from different perspective
80 born folks are doing well. Those born around 2000 or so are always ready to 🔪 🗡 over pretty much anything. And most of them are dumb.
Same 80sborn
Accidentally found your video.. ur views and opinions are very close to middle class family and parivar and I love to watch ur videos... Before I watched motivational things or listened to music while doing my work .. but now whenever I watch tv either working on the computer or phone i start watching ur videos.. which very much admires me personally ..thank u sir.. and yes maza aa gaya... Keep motivating us with all ur experience and observations... Thank u so much...😊
Yes you are 💯✅ right ,nobody ever thought in this line ,you are really great,please keep it up ,do make such videos .Thanx 🙏🙏🙏❤️
असली ज्ञान है आपका भाई साहब
Aap jaisa aadmi iss dharti par dusra nhi hai sangwan ji 🙏🙏🙏🙏😘
Very progressive thought process! Happy and grateful that someone articulate like you is speaking about these issues. No one talks about it!
Awesome . Itni sahi baatein aap bata rahein hain, mere to aasoon hi nikal aaye.itni achhi tarah expalin kiya hai aapne. Mein 1980s ki model hu ,na idhar ki na udhar ki. Aajkal k baccho k liye aap ekdum sahi advice de rahein hain . Ladka ladki dono k maa baap sirf bachcho ko supresss karte hain. Mein 47 yrs ki hu aur kehna chahti hu aapne kya sahi vidoes banaye hain. Asli culprit Sasur. Eye opener hai yeh baat !! Yeh b khoob kaha ki aapas mein old husband wife lad pade agar ghar p beta bahu na ho. Kya hi baat kahi aapne . ❤
I totally agree with you. The moment you said, jis ghar mai women dukhi hai, woh ghar kabhi sukhi, happy nahi ho sakta. This was my thought which came on in this video. Must appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for your videos.
Very true, sasur ji is mostly culprit .....woh piche hote hai and saas ko aage karate hai ..... vahi hote hai kaan bharane wale saas ke ... yeh maine bahot baar (99%) times dekha hai .... its very hurtful and helpless situation for bahu........ comment..from jalandhar punjab
I figured it out early and living on rent due to his tactics 😎😎😎.
First time seeing some person who have so clarity in life 😊bahut badiya video
Aapke jaise logon ki sach mai behad zaroorat hai samaj mai great sir
Sir you are brilliant and brave ... Exposing the truth fearlessly ... Please continue ... The truth you speak is so much more helpful than fake religious and spiritual gurus who don't really help in anything ... This is the real deal ... A real social revolution ... May our unhappy society change soon
Very very true. The head of the family is utterly lazy, irresponsible but wants all the power.
👏👌👍
True
Sooo right.. 😀😀😂😂👌👌 I can see and feel the toxicity in my family between my parents.. They are narcissistic 😞 my father kind of controls everything..I'm divorced, my in-laws were like u said exactly.. Great content ..maja aa gaya😊❤
Uncle ji aapane To Mere Dil Ki baten Bata Di bahut bahut dhanyvad aap log hi Hain Jo Bahu Ka Dukh samajh sakte hain
Uncle thanks a lot you are creating videos which is very valuable for generation like us from 20 -40 age gap . Keep it up uncle lots of love and blessings to you.❤❤❤
Great analysis. I had regret before of seperating myself from my family due to all the problems you mentioned .No more after your video.My parents demands my contribution even after they earn handsome govt pension and I do help them whatever possible from my side even after leaving seperately .But they want me only and not my wife or my son in their
house .
In our family my father is a retied pension holder of state govt service in group c position when he joined in service. He has been retired in the position of group b service. Now his pension amount was 30000 . From 30000 pension loan was deducted every month 8000 . Net pension was 22000 . My salary was 23000 per month. Our whole family expenses was incured by both of us. I will spend around 15000 and my father expenditure was 10000 . In family sometimes we are also fight but we will solve the issue with in 48 hours. In financial decisions all family members involved is most important.
@@sunilnayakblogs6277my father get 22000 in pension and my bro have monthly income approx 4 to 5 lakhs but he never give single penny to my mother n father and when come to home eat sleep n go to his home his wife don't allow him to give 1 rs to old parents but bro himself is disgusting I wish God will see everything may karma hits them back
Jinka sasur nahi hain, unka kaun hoga but nevertheless, what you mentioned is 100 % accurate even in northeast India.
North east me konsa part?? What about Nagaland? Because I though they are modern because they were not corrupted by typical Indian societal thought process.. That's what i think please let me know ke waha kya hora he.. Mujhe jyada idea nahi he waha ka
Bht bht zyada mst❤ ek ek line me dum h...or kisi kisi story me sasur khulke bta deta h ki mai hun khalnayak
Sir ji... Every word you spoke is true to the core. I've seen this playout in real life with my brother. And yes I admit my father was at fault. Please continue your work. Finally someone explaining the things that our parents should have done.
At the moment my husband needs to see this eye opener. Who tries to be a good boy in his 70s. Now I'll have fun sharing this with him . Thank you ji. Perfect content. 😄 😀 😊
Perfect points said today. This must be shared to all in India.
Very brilliant video..we want more n more people like u....
excellent analysis sir. A happy wife rarely makes a bitter mother in law!
No one can explain my family situation better than this video!
I knew this, came to know this last year(2021) itself and took the instant step of buying a new flat for my family...
Just 2 minutes away from my parents' home.
Now I hope things get sorted out smoothly!
Age-31
They will be smooth
@@SangoLifeSutras make a video on orphan child how to grow in life 😒 and save yourself from Bloodlust People 🐍
Congratulations
Great Mr rohit. Here in my case, I had to move out and I m villain now for everyone. But I'm at peace now. Yes still my other half takes counseling session 4 times from his family. 👋 but I'm rock solid in my decision of not being the part of kaleshi family n living with them .
@@minidubey7445 congratulations!
Aap kitney clear ho life ko lekar but sir situation aisi ho jaati hai ki sab samay par thal diya jaata hai😌😌
I first time came across some person talking so boldly on these topics. I found your video just today i wish i had listened to this 10 years back and i would be so happy if my father and father in law thought like you.
Oh my god…I died laughing when you said “humara parivaar to bohat sexy “😂😂😂 this is such a funny video. I agree with the analysis done here…can correlate it to both , my parents as well as my in laws side. Women of their generations have been suppressed so much that they feel it’s normal after being submissive all their lives and carry on the behaviour with their daughter in laws. No girl tolerates this in today’s times. And the mothers get bitter because they don’t get their ‘revenge’ so to speak..Hats off to you Sirji ! Aap mahan hain😂
Sir you are a gem of a person who is highlighting these issues which nobody talks about . I hope if people could just become mature and not take their wife for granted.
Sir u are very intectual and blessed with an extraordinary brain.god bless u
Superb Sir. Hatts off for bringing truth in society. Mazaa aa gaya sir. ❤
My sister suffered from the same problem. Her father in law was the villain. She suffered from mental trauma after her marriage because of his rude behavior and taunts.
Guru Ji 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Marital and family issues pe toh aap ki real estate de bhi jyada masteri hai Sir 👏👏👌👌
Thank you sir for showing us the right path
Your thoughts are really really practical
You are far sighted
Thanks for your contribution to our generation
Bhutttt bdia
Aise hi mind opening videos chahiyen
Mann to krta h apne saas sasur k kamre m ja k ye video chla du
Sir, I am a woman who is a researcher. In last one year, I have cried a lot because of my career and mental health getting affected. Honestly, I don't see my in laws as villains but unfortunately the systems they blindly believe in. If I live like them, I have to be dead inside. After a lot of thought, I had proposed my husband that if he wants me to stay near him happily, we must develop alternative arrangements for their parents and my parents too. But, he is afraid that his parents would be hurt. But, I am very firm with sticking with my idea. In my bad financial times, except for formal asking ....no one including my husband helped me out. So, I have to think for myself even if I earn the label of a bad Bahu. I watched your videos and was honestly but happily surprised how your prescribed thoughts and solutions are atleast 90% matching with me.
Also, I have tried practicing 'no' politely. Still, as a woman many compromises await. Agar wo kuch useful compromises hotey phir bhi sochti but most of them are power control to satisfy insecurities of the society and regressive family systems.
Don't want to prove yourself each and every one
Same here sister. With 1 year of marriage gave inlaws grankid at risk of corporate job. Finally got maternity leave but they are bent on making me their housewife with earning, while keeping their clueless boy as useless to demand bedtea for himself while i am cater to the child as well. SIL wants to demean my choice in corporate attire of smart casuals by forcing chunni, ghoonghat and chamcham suits with village jewelry, Speaking derogatorily of my attempt upskill and switch jobs. They try to keep me bound to their house, don't allow me to mingle in the neighborhood, forbid me from buying my things from shop, insert inane 'traditions', even try to stop my mother's house visits.
@@freedom4813 I earn and I have my dreams of becoming a professor.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 Sorry Divya, I am in a better position. From beginning of my marriage, I had decided not to do anything to impress but at times do all these rituals or cultural practices out of my love. But, I can definitely understand your situation. Main na isliye apne bure financial time main jab mujhe kisine help nahi kiya tab khud hi apne savings se apne college fees etc bhara. I was planning a kid but unless certain things are solved...I am not going to bring in a kid until I am emotionally and physically ready.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 It was and is tough but I do not ask permission for staying with my father. But my fil tries to indirectly pressurize me by asking when I can stay with them. I don't mind staying with them. But my food and cultural habits are different. When they force upon their food habits on me, I get uncomfortable as it is a shocker for me at a humanitarian level. I am a good cook but my mil insists to learn cooking from her so that I cook them. On phone, she criticises my choice of recipe that I cook and instructs me what my husband should eat. I am educated regarding health and infact good at making balanced diets. Since I do not criticize her or anyone's food habits , it is difficult for me to constantly face so much discussions regarding food. My mil says o you cooked only one sabzi....my Babu can't eat with one sabzi. On the other hand my husband is extremely fond of what I make.
Very deep and honest thoughts presented fantastically.
Uncle ji U r so accurate in life mantra..I’m becoming ur fan🙏🏼
Uncle mat bolo. He is quite young
Sir
You are so correct.
Thank you for bringing it out 🙏
Sir..you are the only counseller who are telling the truth...but not fake ideals...the ideals and traditions are making the women's life as hell...already in 42 years of age and as a working women in good position, I have already spoiled my health...but now I am feeling bad because I had not fought with them..and I lost my good years of life...now I am strict ,mainly my husband is not happy with me....now also he just wants to be servant to his mother....
Omg ...pura social knowledge hai aapko ...so funny 🤣...btw 90's bahu ka pranam aapko
Hy
I completely agree with your every sentence. I used to say same things to my husband whatever you've said. My mother in law became a source for my father in law. She did every thing wrong with me but with the consent of my father in law.
सही कहा आप ने असली विलन ससुर ही हैं मेरे साथ भी यही हुआ है
Maja aa gya, Bhaijee.
Fully agreed.
Yes it's an issue with the head of the family and I figured out years back ...now when I see your videos I feel so happy to see those thoughts going public through you
Very true Sir, Indian Economy is affecting because of these domestic issues.
Sahi hai Sir, meri maa to gujar bhi gai abhi bhi mere baap ka wohi chal raha hai, pahle maa ko bharkaya ab bb ko bharkate hai... satya wachan hai apke, salute
😁😁 Sir, ur delivery and performance is excellent, content gets delivered. I had to pause the video and laugh occasionally. The topic is very relevant. Thanks
There are many people with same views but not coming out because of many reasons. Thanks and kudos for doing charchas on all practical family probs.
If there is a good chemistry between father n son, if they are worldly-wise then they can play a positive n constructive role in balancing the inter- personal - relationships living under the same roof. For this they will need a check upon them which is a herculian task for them because they never like to curtail their freedom .
l really appreciate your sharp n strong sense of observations, Sir.
Baap aur bete mein achchi chemistry hi hoti hai, tabhi beta na maa ki taklif ko samajhta hai aur na hi biwi ki. Phir wo sasur ban kar apni patni se apni bahu ka bura haal karwata hai. Maine aise bahut se ghar dekhe hai. Bahut hi selfish males, jinhe har rishte se sirf apne liye sukh chahiye. At any cost.
Mere apni father se banti hai
But koi thought share karo jo unko pin point karta hai wo sunte nahi
@@nidhiduggal5414 aap zyada -ve soch rahe hain
Baat karna zaroori hai, samjhna zaroori hai, pehle se -ve nahi sochna chaiye.
Excellent Video, आपने बिल्कुल सही कहा ,
Greetings sir ji.. After listening your videos I must say you have observed, studied, analyzed everything in so details.. I must say you must be a great daddy for your children and definitely creating awareness and spreading knowledge in the society which is beneficial for us.. Keep going..
Please share your own family's details. How are they behaving and how is your advice having results in your in family. Hope you will have courage to do so.
Love your life lessons..I happened to watch one episode..and I was hooked to your channel...watched all your episodes..almost..
Itne sateek..progressive vichaar..much needed for the society..Bahut achha kaam Kar Rahe ho aap..kitna khul ke bolte ho..wahwahwah..:):) Have forwarded to many in my circle.. !! Thanks for coming up with such unique stuff.. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
Thanks
MAJ
I just want to forward this to my sasuraal group offend ho jayenge bas 😅
MAJ
Bhout Badhiya this is reallty of life
You are a genius sir. Every single word is right
Solid explanation....koi nhi sochta sasur bhi culprit ho skta hai....
When you revealed that sasurji is the villain, it was truly like a murder mystery where the person who seemed to be the most distant from the crime came out to be the criminal. Jurm aise Karo ki koi shak na kar paye
Mujhe to shuru me hi samajh aa gya tha ki meri zindgi to narak banne hi wali hai kyunki sasur ji is sitting at home simply doing nothing but noting down his bahu's each and every little and big mistakes and provoking his wife and daughter and then later at night when me and husband go to sleep. Then SIL
before going to sleep goes to her parents room and they start gossiping about their Bahu, in this way they were all filled with toxicity and whenever they got a chance they make Bahu villain in front of their son. This is all because of insecurity of losing their son that if the Bahu becomes successful in creating a strong bond with the son then ladka to hath se gayo, ban jayega "Joru ka Ghulam". Achha Sone pe suhaga aur lijiye ki even after destroying their own son's and bahu's emotional and sexual life they ask very shamefully that "is there any good news?" "are you expecting?" SHARM bhi ni aati aisa puchhte huye. Jab pati patni ke beech me man-mutaav create kar liya to bachcha kya rape karwa ke paida karwaoge. Shadi se pehle mujhe bataya gya tha ki Sasur buisness karte hain to mujhe laga tha apni shop me baithte honge kya pata tha ghar me baithenge to us ghar kabhi shadi na karti kyunki aise sasur zindgi ko aur narak se bhi upar level ka narak bana dete hain. Socha tha Saas ke sath Ghar pe maa beti ki tarah enjoy karungi milkar sab kiya karenge unse sab seekh lungi fir unhe nahi karne dungi. Lekin shadi ke baad ka pehla saal bhi sukh se jeene nahi Mila do baar to gande gande suicidal thoughts aaye dusri baar to kadam uthane bhi chali thi lekin pati aur sasural aur mayeke walo ki zindgi tabah ho jayegi mere aisa karne se to khud ko rok liya. Lekin ab sochti hu mai kyun apni zindgi kurbaan karu unlogo ki wajah se jinhe ghanta faraq ni padta mere hone na hone se ye to mere Marne ke baad dusri le aayenge mere baare me samaaj ko kahenge ye mentally disturbed thi to aisa kadam utha liya.
Maaf karna kuch zyada hi lamba ho gya
@@amandeepkoursaini9832jyada ki baat nahi hai didi chlo kum se kum apne apna gussa to pura niqala
God bless u sister.
@@amandeepkoursaini9832 ek ek baat sahi likhi hai. ahiri teen line bhi. sab aankho ke saamne dekha hai. asha ahi aur mazboot, dheeth, less emotional, aur bahadur ho gai hogi. be blessed ever,
Amazing... Even if I am not married I have seen this all happening in front of my own eyes in others families
Appreciate your wisdom Sir 👍🙏👌quite true & factual analysis of our typical Indian society & family set up….. these videos so should essentially make people rethink on their lives around their families & make changes accordingly for a better understanding of a Happy life ..
Thanks for sharing 😊
100% True Sir.. Need such open discussion in society
are sir ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ maza hi aagya.... sabko aapke jesa banado taki society bhi aapke jesi ho jaaye
Hello Sir I will take this video as answer for my request which I sent in other video where I asked 'ghar ki boss tho biwi hai' 'biwi tho home minister hai' 'patni se darte hai' so on blah blah blah is all not at all true in our society. So thank you for your deep research and narrative on this topic and trying to improve country's happiness index. You truly care about people's mental peace and happiness. 🙂
Kasam se, i hate these type of jokes, whenever i see my mother and aunts laughing at these whatsapp jokes i feel like banging my head against the wall as the case is opposite in real life! Matlab marzi husband ki chalti hai, wife ko har cheez pooch kar karna padta hai apne pati parmeshwar se, bina permission ke kuch nahi kar sakti uske baad jab aise jokes bante hain na man karta hai ek thappad lagau sabko, sabse zyada gussa tab aati hai jab aurtein bhi hasti hain aise jokes par, unko agar bolo bhi ki yeh illogical hai toh khud offensd ho jaayegi aur hume sensitive samjhengi ki hum koi joke nahi le sakte
Sir such mein aap ekdum Sahi bol rahe hai. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏