Told my ex husband that I was moving to Mexico so he can stop paying me alimony. I told him I need to serve it so he can go live and be happy. He gave me a handful of excuses why I can’t move to Mexico, yet not one of them about us. But I know he still loves me, his actions show it.
I can't thank you guys enough! I have implemented the Love Advice strategies and they are working as described for me. This video speaks to me. At his point my ex is now reaching out to me. Just like coach Adrian said, she is now indirectly putting me on a pedestal by telling me how unhappy she is and has expressed regret over the breakup and admits that the breakup was a bad idea. After she reestablished contact, she invited me to have dinner with her and asked if we could spend the day together. According to this video, it seems like she is exhibiting many signs of not being over me. Yay for me!
We texted back and for for a while but it went nowhere. Then Aug. 17th I got one call and Aug. 21st she called three times. She took about three weeks after i went into a non wavering No Contact.
My advice to you would be to take things slowly. Don't rush into trying to confirm your relationship. Just take things as they are, and not get your hopes up. Otherwise you risk pushing them away again. I'm speaking from experience! Good luck brother :D
And yess, i have listened your advices and now i am talking with my ex because he contacted me, i lett him now to be the one that message me first, he said me why he was silent with me, he had financiar problems and still have, but he say how much he want to see me when he will can, he want us to have a serious talk, he say me all the things that he want us to do together when we will meet. I am still working on myself and i take it slowly, step by step. I dont have words to thank to all the team for all is doing for us, the ones who stay at home and need help. Thank you soo much for all
I did this 2 weeks ago. I reconnected with my ex. He is still the same in all areas of his life. I just don't want this anymore with him. I am working on my self & working thru the process with my ex. I am fighting the good fight!! Thank you again for an amazing video with an awesome message!! Keep up the fantastic work!!
Dear Coaches, the guy being overwhelmed by work responsibilities and the need to own up to himself is spot on. I totally respect guys like that, and in my case I walked away as I felt we both needed space. I have contacted him a few times with radio silence in between, and I do see a potential to get back, but as you coaches said it's important to work on myself and be happy on my own. So when he does reach out next time I will give out positive vibes. Thanks again for this video and many others, they are helpful signposts on my journey to self-love and empowerment! :)
After a year of separation. Me and my wife have barely spoken. We have a daughter and communicate through brief and concise text messages. I received divorce papers this past weekend. She did tell me they were coming. She has also commented about my personal transformation and how i seem better. But the one brief time we spoke about even spending a few min together to discuss the relationship. She was quick to say we are better off divorced. Encouraged me to see other people. And ended with “you never know what the future will bring”
My ex messages me everyday all day, he’ll message me as soon as he wakes. He tells me what he’s up to at night and where/what he’s having for dinner and says he’s not sleeping with anymore. He’s so confusing
According to this video my ex is nowhere near over me. This was my second time in no contact and he reached out to me (I caved and responded) I think him living without me and me not reaching out at all anymore is showing yes I’d rather have you in my life but I don’t need you. And even though I did break no contact, slowly but surely it is working and he’s slowly coming back. He told me he’s been watching my social media too. We were together almost 2 years. So guys listen to these coaches they know what they’re talking about. And coaches I just want to thankyou for all your help I feel like you all are my friends you’re helping me get the love of my life back and he’s seeing me in a different light so Thankyou all so much ❤️
I like this video a lot it explains how an ex feels about you and what they are going thru or feeling at the moment . I Like how both coaches Adrian and Steven explain that younger men do end a relationship or pull away because of financial reasons or things that are going on in their personal lives it makes perfect sense, if you give them space and focus on you the times does pass and your ex will reach out again. I guess its when the timing its right everything will fall into place :) Nice work coaches
They see that I'm changing and getting some things done that we talked about. He wanted me to focus on me more and he sees that. I just got my own place. Kids are grown now. And I plan to keep on doing ME.
I reached out to my ex a 2 weeks ago after not seeing him in 5 weeks and responding briefly to only 2 messages from him. The correspondence I initiated seemed positive. I told him about a little video I created and posted on fb and he responded with "That's very good". I said thank you and that I valued his opinion. That was the extent of it. Now what?
its also good to know that the fact that they arent over you does not means that he or she still love you or would like to come back. So dont get your hopes up
I am actually encouraging my ex to move on because he caused a lot of trouble for me, but he still making trouble for me and using others to spy on me. I don't know what to do.
I really appreciate your channel. It has helped me to understand some of what I am going through with my ex husband. I divorced him after 17 years and he continued to call me I guess because of our children. The problem is that he always talk about our love life and I keep thinking that he wants to reconcile. I made the mistakes of have sex with him, and then I get angry at him afterward because I feel used. This has gone on 1 year and i told him either we get back together or leave me alone. I told him to call the children directly because I can't be friends with him. I told him to stop giving me hope and hurting me all over again. I really hate him now.
I do agree, he struggled a lot about his money, about his time for himself, about his time to rest and go university cause no one would care. I also sadly became needy and i felt i knew i was the one who get kicked off and he also admited it saying "love you are right also i lost something in that process" so he told me he liked me but... exactly what you said he wasn't in love with me but he still cared until the breakup. SOOOO you are so right, but at the moment i struggle with the usual things that makes me unsure so, when i will manage them, i will be able to talk with him again, as long as i'm struggling with feelings and thoughts, i can't really contact him even if i know i will be hype. I think i'm doing something wrong in this process because he unblocked me but he didn't talk to me.
It's interesting...what you guys are actually talking about her at 2 mins in is projection! I recommend everyone to read into projection, particularly in romantic relationships. It's exactly as these guys said: it's easier to focus in on the relationship rather than hold themselves accountable for their own unhappiness! Thanks both x
Hi Adrian and Steven, thank you so much for another video! My ex is not exhibiting any signs other than unblocking me on Facebook. I’m 3 1/2 weeks in to no contact and Samira suggested three months no contact but with my situation I think truly that that is too much time. I think another few weeks or month would be good because I am really working hard on myself. Volunteering at the animal shelter, joined a gym, making more dedicated effort’s with my kids homework and time with them. This relationship has helped me learn that I am codependent and I’m striving for being happy on my own. A few months ago my ex said the more time we spend apart the more we go on without each other. This keeps resonating in my head. Plus, he was seen kissing a woman of few weeks ago and this woman has interfered when we were together. He told me he doesn’t want to be her friend anymore because he doesn’t respect her as a mother and he doesn’t have patience for people like that. But I found incoming and outgoing phone calls on his phone a couple months ago to and from her. He denied it. And this is the woman that he was kissing. So I honestly don’t know if they’re just spending time together as flirty friends or if they are romantically linked. The timing of my letter is stressing me out. Can you please help? Thank you so very much! Nicole
Nicole... Coach Samira is right in this case. I encourage you to call your ex boyfriend's bluff and put this "more time we spend apart the more we go on without each other" business to the test - Coach Steven
Thank you for the video. I'm struggling with my most recent breakup. My ex came in strong, heavily pursuing me. Everything was great. Then he lost his job and turned into someone else. He got distant, talked little, and then boom broke up with me via msg. I tried to do everything to be supportive but he didn't want that. Now he's on social media making emotional posts ranging from anger at me to sadness. Smh this video gives insight.
Hey chacha3488, thank you for watching. This behavior from your ex is expected. When men don't have their ducks in a row professionally and financially, they feel off-center and take it out on everyone else and the world. The person to feel it the most is usually the wife or the girlfriend, unfortunately. It's not you, nor him. This is just how guys are. I've been there myself with my own wife. - Coach Adrian
Hello! Thank you for all the amazing videos you guys have put together. I am dealing with a different situation though. I broke things off with him, because he all of a sudden told me, that he is not ready for a relationship, his focus is somewhere else, etc etc etc. So I was wondering if you could make a video on this? I would greatly appreciate this!! Thank you!
I blame myself for my part in my marriage failing. But she did not communicate with me how she was feeling. She has been gone since January 14th but walked out on the 11th of January. I have tried many times to work on it
How would you even know if they're just being friendly from if they still have feelings for you? She's only asked if i was going on dates once. Usually we'll share links about different things and then it will go into no contact
Hi coach Adrien and Coach Steven, I have just started watching your videos and I am in a unique situation. My ex broke up with me 5 months ago now and initially I did not implement any of these practices and instead tried for 3 weeks to get back with her. I went silent for a couple weeks after then tried to reach out again and she blocked me on social media. A month after I tried one more time to reach out and at this point I completely pushed her away. I then decided it was over and I would no longer try to reach out. About 4 weeks ago I realized she unblocked me on Instagram (Later she tells me she doesnt know how it happened) and I thought that was odd because it has been 2 months since the last time I tried to reach out and her friend had told me she would never speak to me again. I waited a couple of days then I sent her a couple of messages and a few days later she actually responded. We spoke about everything in terms of how she felt at the end and during the times I was trying to reach out. I did apologize to her during our conversation thru text and she said she had forgiving me. Ever since we spoke I cannot get her out of my head and really want to get her back. Last week I asked her if she would give me another opportunity and she blew up on me saying I still didn't get it and said she would block me, I apologized and told her goodbye. Later that day she sent me a message saying she felt bad about abruptly blocking me and wanted to explain why she reacted that way and at the end of the message said she would trust me not to respond, so I didn't even though I wanted to. A few days later it was my birthday and she actually reached out to wish me Happy Birthday and we exchanged a few messages back and forth. I also told her that i had a response for her message from the previous day and asked her if she would be willing to read it she agreed and i sent it to her. She responded and told me to stop "apologizing, it happens, I'm just glad you understand a little of why I'm hesitant with anything you say". I just told her OK and I said I fully understand your reservations and hesitations, when you feel comfortable enough I would like to meet up with you. She did not respond and i didn't expect one, but now I am planning on going radio silent for about three weeks and see if I even want to reach out again. I can't really gauge her, but I do feel like maybe there is a possibility of reconnecting.
Hey Gerald, thank you for sharing your story. Your situation is actually pretty par for the course and is easily surmountable if you muster up the discipline :) - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
I started dating a girl that I’ve known since middle school 4 months ago and we’ve always been attracted to each other but never dated till now. For the last 15 years she’s worked in 9 different countries and is finally back in the States in LA. I live in Washington, DC but flew out to see her 2-3 times a month and everything was incredible! Deepest connection I’ve ever had and she said the same thing over and over again. We’d spend 3-4 hours when we weren’t together on the phone, text non-stop throughout the day how much we loved each other and we’re soulmates. I played college and professional Lacrosse and was injured badly about 12 years ago. I was put on painkillers excessively by a scumbag doctor and became addicted. It’s been a battle but for the last several years I’ve been sober for long periods of time with the occasional relapse. I don’t drink or party anymore and haven’t for 3 years. She stopped drinking and partying about a year ago. About a week and a half ago so flew out to see her and the first day was perfect like always but the second day she found a receipt in my wallet from a pharmacy when I reinjured my back 4 months ago right before we started taking and got together. This past Christmas her ex-boyfriend a guy we grew up with was found dead of a heroin overdose which I ended up having to tell her. Needless to say she was devastated which I was completely ok with and understanding. Since then she started researching addiction online and asking me all these questions about drugs I’ve done or tried etc. I never told her about being addicted to painkillers before because honestly it’s embarrassing and shameful even though I’m not doing them now and never did with her. She ended up throwing me out of her apartment when she found the receipt so I stayed in a hotel till I flew home. She broke up with me and said that she couldn’t trust me even though I told her everything after she found out. I love this girl to death and truly believe we have a connection and bond that is rare. What should I do about getting her back and rebuilding trust? I honestly can say I didn’t tell her because It’s the hardest thing for me to talk about with anyone and I can’t believe I’m putting it on here. I would do anything to get her back and rebuild trust. The lying was not out of malice I just wasn’t ready to talk about it yet with her and definitely wasn’t ready after her ex died. Any opinions or comments you can give is greatly appreciated!!
because you take it out on the ones you feel closest to.. my fiance is 25 coming up and im 27 just turned, but you know when you just get that feeling hes not over you, like hes trying to move on too quick and change his body
omg!!!! that is my ex! He is so unhappy with his life, he lost his job, he lost income... just everything did not work out in his life. So he put me in the pedestal to break up with me. I am feeling so sad, disappointed, and also feel hopeless. I guess I have to focus on my own life, there is nothing else I can do. he has to work on himself...
I know that my ex loves me , and he is not over me but we have been through many things and i dont know maybe it has been too much. He has an 8 year old son. I want to spent the rest of my life with him and he does too, we stopped talking for 8 months and recently I saw him, we went to grab a coffee and talk, he told me has a girlfriend but she has a lot of problems with her exhusband because they have two kids, and its a long distance relationship, he told me its not working for him anymore and he is ending the relationship because he wants to be with me but the mother of my ex is thrilled with her and their kids get a long its just he is not happy and for respect he told me he cannot end it right away. H e asked me to wait and have patience but he is coming back for me. The first week of january they´ve planned a family trip with her sons and his son, but after they come back he told me he is panning to end the relationship. He told me he is going to look for me , text me or call me when the time is right but for now and family issues he cannot end things with her. I dont want to get my hopes too high again but what do you think i should do.... should i trust him and wait the time he told me ? I love him with all my heart and I understand he is with somebody else but i cannot stop my life for something it might never happen ..... i hope he comes back.
I believe my ex left because she was not happy with her life/ current situation... I was told It had nothing to do with me and I treated her great! It's frustrating but I cannot hold her back from doing her soul searching. There is a over 10 year age Gap, so I get it. My maturity has helped in my understanding and recovery
So in my case what you said about men blaming their unhappiness in their personal life on their SO was the case with my ex gf. She graduated from uni with a b.s. in public health 2 years ago and hasnt had a job in her career and at her current job they treat her poorly according to her. She used to cry to me how unhappy she was with everything in her life and i would try to make her feel better to no avail. On new years she told me she was unhappy with us and was trying to get out since i was away at school which was 2 years out of our over 4 year relationship. I graduated about a year ago and will be going back to school for ab applied degree this fall. Her primary reasons for feeling unsatisfied were she never moved out, she doesnt have a job in her field and she started to gain weight apparently. Ive never felt unsatisfied with my career but i feel sometimes she was blaming her unsatisifaction on life on me. But its cool cuz im growing and always have been and have never been unsatisfied with my career path
My ex and I had a conversation on June 8, which just happens to be the date that we became a couple last year. She reached out to me on that day. Since then, we have sporadically talked, but her schedule just got super busy. I asked her for us to meet up and talk about our new activities 2 weeks ago but got no response. I'm not sweating it because I just got super busy myself with classes, work and such. I'm keeping the faith alive and also I'm talking to new girls in my classes so that's a plus :)
Geez, I guess my ex hates me then. She broke things off for what even she admits was no real reason, she was in a weird headspace. However, all she does now is hide and be silent and sulk. We were so in tune only a month or so ago, then radio silence. I hate this, I wish we could just talk , but I’m in NC, and I’m not going to give that up just for a disappointing letdown if I break it.
My girl has had A LOT going on in her life(trying to manage 2 jobs as a single divorced mother of a young boy, who's father is slowly fading from his fatherly duties and not helping her as much anymore, trying to get her living situation in order and get her own place rather than staying with a friend and having her father having just had serious heart surgery and having to help him), she told me she feels we are going too fast for what she has going on in her life and she needs to get everything in order before letting me into her life and taking things slow with me when that time happens(hopefully it does) And she said she needs time right now by herself for awhile to take care of these things.. She's also the type that closes out the world when stressed out and depressed, she hardly speaks anymore because of her life around her spinning out of control..... I don't know what to do but i can't stop caring and trying to reach out to her....
Hi Joshuah! If she has so much going on then it's best to give her the space she needs now in order for her to figure things out. Let her have her time to realize she misses you. You have to go into no contact and respect what she asks for - then she will come to you. Coach Samira www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
my ex contacting me... wanting to hold my hand, asking to hang out, asking to let's do something... that is the furthest thing from reality. Try dead silence, that's what I'm getting. If your ex is holding your hand, asking to hang out, I doubt you'd be watching this video. This feels like an example of a video being made simply to make a video, to fill the air space. Anybody can see that if an ex is blowing up your phone or begging you for sex, that they might be interested in you. Gimme a break.
My ex broke things off very suddenly, I had no idea it was coming. She gave me a few excuses but none of them made much sense to me. I'm good friends with her Dad, he told me she said she just wasn't "feeling it anymore." It's been a month now and she's in a rebound relationship. He's seen us leave our college campus together (she asked me out to lunch) and he recently tried to follow me on social media, which seems really weird. Me and my ex have both said that we miss the other and she talks to me after class a few times a week. During these talks she always brings up a past memory and has told me she hasn't been able to sleep the past few weeks. She even came over to my house the other day and we smoked weed with some mutual friends. Things seem to be going well so far!
hey corbyn, things seem to be going very well indeed! Clearly your ex still has feelings for you. You just can't jump the gun and rush into getting back together. Let this "rebound" fall to the wayside, don't consider him a threat in the way he considers you one, and let him build you up as the "forbidden fruit" he doesn't want your ex to take a bite out of. Right now your ex can't have you because she's in a rebound relationship, and it's making you look more enticing to her - Coach Adrian www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/#adrian
Question?!!! I was born in Eastern Europe and lived in USA for quite a while. My ex liked my picture on facebook at 3 am in the morning. I asked my gfs what they thought of that. My American girlfriends say he is a douche and looking for a booty call. But my European gfs were super excited because to them it means he was drunk and thinking of me! Who is right? My decision has been made as he remains my ex, but could you shed some light on this issue? As I am dating I am so confused with rules from both sides of Atlantic ocean 🤗🤗🤗 I thought men are just men, it does not matter what side of world they are from! Gracias! Cao!
What about if they still have us “in a relationship” on Facebook? She seems inactive but allows her roommate and friends to tag her in photos. No evidence of another man or dating etc We’ve been in NC for 6 months after she told me she needed space until she’s ready to talk, broken up for 10 months. Any input? I’d appreciate it
Wish I had a big brother like you guys it super hurts that me and my ex broke and its was like a both side brake up and it's been a month or so and we text from time to time and she told me she needs to get her self together and if I'm free in the future that will give it a second chance I get crazy because I start to think of alot of nagative things like if she with another man etc man I wish time can fly fast to show her I can be a different person and u can make her feel like before I love her we had 6years together and was going to get married next September but now it's a mystery if it's going to happen
My ex is loud and proud around me trying to let me know she's happy without me by talking to other dudes at the gym lol while I'm ignoring her cause I deserve better, she has been gravitating towards me little by little and I'm not trying to get her back.
Let's say your ex is too stubborn to reach out again? Let's say, In my situation, you have her new number and she has not blocked you on WhatsApp. Her, "last seen" is set to, "Contacts Only". Out of your 3, WhatsApp numbers, she has one still in her contact list, then deletes that... (5 months later) Now, It's now 6 months later since the breakup, (& since deleting the last number) she now shows signs of looking at your WhatsApp profile, and (What looks as if she's deleted all numbers) Suddenly blocks your number again? What's going on? - This after Being Blocked before by her before.
What if he’s denying his feeling because he doesn’t want to get hurt again? My ex has been hot and cold for 4 months now and today was the day I blocked him off EVERYTHING apart from his number. He has reached out to me before but the cycle just keeps repeating. Before, My no contact has lasted only 2 weeks and at lease one of us has reached out. How to I get a man who had trouble in showing his feelings anyway when we were together to open up and tell me how he really feels? Our 3 year relationship can’t have just vanished from his heart after 5 months. Please help! X
How about when I saw Love of my life in the street after many years and when I went to greet him he was angry bitter and resentful still and turned away from me and walked away. He ended up marrying someone else.Does this anger represent he is still in love With me and regrets his decision?
Hi coaches! Thank you for everything. What should I do if he congrats me for my birthday? He broke up with me a month ago kinda and he havent contact me since then and me either
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How about when ur ex started stalking you on facebook but he's not actually sending message to you? Can that be consider as "he's still inlove with me?"
Ex and I been in an on and off communication since our breakup last 2 months (she broke it off). Had slept together once a week ago BUT had an instinct she had slept/been intimate with a new interesting “friend” who she knew a few months before our breakup. She had been saying she’s missing me if I didn’t reply to her texts, and mentioned she hasn’t really moved on tho it doesn’t look like it. All these mixed signals are driving me insane. Now I’m considering no contact as it’s supposed to be easier (she will be going offshore for two weeks) and my biggest concern would be her reaching out to me during those days and would go mad lonely if I didn’t respond to her and would seek companionship from the other person instead and eventually forget about me. I’m scared I’ll be just an emotional dumping ground for her (worse, regarded as just friend) when the other person is not keeping her company. But at the same time, afraid she’d grown complacent of me if I respond to her. I’ve been progressing well with my physical development - getting better in shape - and that was the reason for our hookup but i can tell she couldn’t kiss me the same anymore. Like I said, these mixed signals are killing me. To contact or no contact?
My ex of about two weeks and this paints a picture of what happened perfectly. He said he had a lot going on and was having issues balancing everything. He said he still wanted me in his life and that there was no other girl as well as he still had feelings for me. We dated for about 5 months. A week after the breakup he texted me later in the night to wish me a Happy Easter. Then a few days later a Happy Birthday and then proceeded to make small talk for a few days. I mirrored his texts and kept it light. Do you think as you said in the video there is a chance? Should I wait for him or give him a little space and then give him a call to meet up and grab a drink?
so i dated this girl for 8-9 months and it was a great several months. it ended badly because of it getting rocky from mistakes i made. from lying about texting from my other ex to fix our problem, from saying fuck you to her several times even though she started that trend with me before, and just problems that just arise. We broke up on the 12th of March and we tried reaching out to each other and try to work it out with one another. But we tried several times and it couldn't work. Even though we were gonna go on a break and try being friends, it didn't turn out that way. We just always acted like a couple still. Getting lunch for one another, calling each other "babe" and/or "hun", kissing, holding hands, and sex. What makes it weird is that she was the one that initiated it. I didn't. I could have been mature and said we can't but I missed her affection too much at that time. It just kept falling apart many times until we called it officially quits. Because she tried to say i was not doing enough for her and saying that i used to make her feel loved and now she doesn't feel good. Despite all the stuff i have been doing to change for her and do what i can for her even when we are on this break. It also just felt like torture because she wasn't really mine but we just kept acting like it. It was aching my heart bad. But then when we blocked each other for a day, i went to go check on her social media and saw she put herself as single and thats when i blew up. I harassed her nonstop and said horrible mean things to her. I insulted her, disrespected her, took the things she trusted me with and flipped it back at her, attacked her personal stuff and vulnerabilities, disrespected her family too, and just took out all of my anger at her. even took the things ive done for her and twisted it to make it seem like she didn't give a shit. because i really did a whole lot more for her than she has for me. and have done all that i can for her while we were on break. but it just didn't seem enough for her. she was going to make charges for my harassment but she isn't going to. went into a forced no contact mode where i am not allowed to speak to her. two to three days went by and she showed up at my work out of nowhere to talk. so clocked off for lunch and talked. tried apologizing very calmly and maturely but she didn't seem to take it and said my eyes were dilated. Which is weird but oh well. She said she didn't ever want to be with me ever again. I wished her all the happiness and good luck. She slapped me across the ear and said she needed to do that to move on. i said ok and left. told my mother what happened and she believes she will still come back because she knows what my ex is feeling since she is woman too and all. And says she still loves me and said that is a sign. I try to have faith but have doubts. Trying to accept that maybe she won't come back and i should let her go. I am working on myself by going to the gym more which is gaining confidence in my body, spending time with friends and family and talking to new people, and doing stuff that i like to do before i got with her. It's just that i do miss her. but i also have thoughts of giving up on her entirely and saying lets just go our separate ways. perhaps because this is still fresh and i am expecting things to happen soon. idk. all i know is, that this situation sucks and i really hope for this pain in my heart to go away. I just don't know what to think here. i watch your videos and they are therapeutic. The one that gave me was the one titled "will i ever hear from my ex again?" and it was giving me hope that hey maybe i still have a chance. but after everything i have been through. i just don't know. i just need your advice and thoughts on my situation here, please and thank you for taking the time to read this. hope you can get back to me soon.
Seems like I can’t find the video for my exact situation. I hope you guys can help me out! My ex and I have been broken up for a month and we were together for a year. The relationship was amazing. We were best friends and never fought. However, we talked about our future one day and he said he can’t see himself with me. ( I think he was scared because he hasn’t been employed for a while) and I pushed him, so he broke it off. But we still liked each other and we both cried. After a month of no contact I reached out and asked how he has been and if he wants to get some coffee soon. He said he needs to think about it. What can I do in my situation for him to see me? And eventually be together again?
Okay so what if he’s completely ignoring you and won’t even make eye contact with you but his new girlfriend is constantly trying to reach out through his social media?
Hi, guys. Great video. I just read a blog of coach Adrian about an not wanting to get back together. Is it fully true if she says she doesn't want us to be a couple anymore (just friends)? Because of some behavior she was having that caused me a very bad reaction and I broke up with her and soon I regret but she was very upset. After 45 days of no contact, she called me being drunk after I didn't wish a happy birthday to her (july 27). During this past weekend, I paid her a visit to her hometown (long-distance relationship). The flowers "worked" but she is still upset and doesn't want our relationship cause there are drama and complications she doesn't want. She is the happiest, she said. Should I continue as friend as you suggested on your blog? Thanks a lot for all the help and for your videos. Cheers
Hey Coaches! Your videos are a huge help on a daily basis! I would like to have a question. My ex of 1,5years had reached out to me after 4months of NC, and we kept contact through texting for 5weeks, but all of a sudden he had ghosted me for no reason at all. I pulled back to NC, it’s the 2nd week. He is showing unfamiliar behaviour on social media postig partying pictures, which he never did before. I can’t find a reason for his deeds, however I stick to NC. Am I doing the right thing?
Mimosa coyotte I really hope that they have reached out by NOW but if he’s blocked you then it’s more immature but he may not realise that. But mmmaaybe if it gets to three months then reach out yourself any way you can even if you write a letter
Hey I hope you all can give a response to this, the problem I was having is that my girlfriend went off to college and I'm still here at home before my girlfriend went off to college she broke up with me saying she no longer have feelings for me she still said that I was considered one of her closest friends and that she enjoyed every second we had together. she said she still wants to be friends and talk and maybe we can hang out one day it's been an entire month I have not text her and she is not text me... I'm sure she's busy but still it hurts tremendously...
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. Since then he stalks my Instagram story almost every single day, several times a day. Although he deleted me from all social media (my story is public, my account is not private). He told my best friend that he still misses me when he was drunk, several times as well. On all parties he went to with mutual friends he got upset on some point and distanced himself from the party and looked sad. As my friends described, he was really feeling down not having me around anymore. It was really a small argument that ended everything. He was not able to handle criticism or anything similar. He even got panic attacks out of nowhere, didn't open up to me about his problems. Not even his closest friends or family new he had/has mental issues. I do not blame him for that at all, but that was also a big factor for our breakup. Our last argument that ended everything, he even showed me a list with bad things I said to him in our arguments during our 2 year relationship. I don't fell that this is normal. He blamed me for all his mistakes as well. He could not forgive me for the tiniest things that went wrong. My question is: Does he still love me and is he still interested in me? I am so confused by all of these mixed signals and I am getting crazy almost. PLEASE answer my comment, I would be so happy about help. I can not afford a one on one coaching session. I am a college student.
Jennifer.02 yes he’s still on you. same happened with me with this girl, it was more an awkwardness/discomfort that ended me and her. 4 months later there is this fake account that watches me on social media, i’m almost sure it’s her, 4 months later .
Great video. Thank you. I saw that you guys made a video on what to do if your ex deletes your guys photos off Instagram. I was wondering if you should delete the photos first before he does? Why should or shouldn’t you?
Coaches, So I had an argument with my boyfriend on Saturday because he got mad when I asked him what club he was going to be at with his friends. He got angry and accused me of not trusting him. Told me why I just couldn’t accept that he was going out without giving me many details. He was enraged and told me we are not working out and he was not happy. It’s now Tuesday and I haven’t heard from him. How long is the silent treatment supposed to last for on his part? Is this normal?
Hi coaches. Been awol from the channel for a while. Talked to my ex about 2 weeks ago and things seemed hopeful but then she told me to move on and she’s talking to someone then became super rude and bitter and petty. Then 2 days ago she texted me about one of my tweets, with a picture of it saying “???” “Subtweeting me.” I didn’t reply but my tweet was not bad at all or rude. It mentioned about rude people. I remember one of the coaches saying that an ex acting mean or emotionally is a sign that they still have feelings which is a good thing even if they aren’t acting good back to us. If she was really moved on and didn’t care she wouldn’t care enough to fight or go out of her way to text me right?? I haven’t watched this video yet but thanks for the help! I don’t want to keep holding onto hope but figure if she comes back I’ll deal with it then now as I held onto hope for a while. Any help would be great 👍
Coaches, I did NC permanently, but He is reaching out not to express wanting to get back, but asking for help coz he needed help financially. How on earth is that? he did broken up with me and left. But i moved on.
What if an ex asked me to get coffee or hang out sometime.. but never followed up on that offer. Im doing the radio silence/ no contact, but he can reach me. I just don't reach out. Im focusing myself to regain some self confidence and personal growth. Its gonna be about 2months since the break up. Last time we saw each other was with some common friends, i noticed that he keeps looking at me (staring) when im not looking then he looks away. He's reasons to leave was he fallen out of love (he thinks) i was just tired already did everything to change my looks and persona and finally we mutual decided to break up. I love him, im just slowly trying to unlove him.. (the differences between 'forgot to love vs trying to unlearn to love someone). In our relationship, we seldom fought, our dynamics was equal.. he was my best friend, but i cant ask him to stay if he doesn't love me. I'm just confused if why he's actions aren't the same way as a person who lost interest.
Yes ex was the one who reached out and we reconnected. He lives in another state so I understand the distance was an issue. He came to New York for a visit which is time we spent together. Now he is back in Florida and calls are now and then. He will takes my calls but concern is someone he was with who followed him to Florida when they had their thing which is now over but she won't let go so we can mend our relatiobship.
Hello to you thanks for allowing me to share my story I was married in 2018 and now we are divorced in on September of 2019 it's not what I wanted we have had communication but now he said he's wanting to stay away from me because of something I commented we have not spoken for 13 days what do you think my chances are of getting together again?
Love the video I'm at the point of the breakup where she feels we need time apart but I cant help to feel that I may lose her for good even though this is a rebound relationship it's been almost 4 months I guess now I can perform the no contact but my kids are still involved so it will still be hard what is your best suggestion for me
My ex hit me up and thinks I’m sad cuz she unblocked me on social media and saw some tweets. But I’m actually happy, should I respond to her.. I hurt her and miss her but I’m actually doing better now with no contact for almost a month
Hey guys, I’ve been broken up with my ex for four months and it’s seemed to go back and forth floor that time. I’ve never really given no contact a fair chance however we will go a couple weeks without communication then she will calls, saying she was thinking about me, ask how I’m doing then when I engage she seems to pull away, say she doesn’t want to talk and at times just block me. This has happened like 4 times. The last in which, when I didn’t answer, she called my work to see if I was working because she was needed help with something something. This was two weeks ago, when I called her back a couple days later she said she was feeling sad and asked if id come over for dinner in which I ended up staying the night. Now, she’s gone cold, saying she reaches out when she missed me but isn’t in love but that she feels there is something still there. I’m so confused by all the hot and cold and just don’t know what to do or understand why this is happening.
Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago and it wasn’t mutual but we didn’t end on bad terms. Yes I made the mistake of chasing and eventually after a couple days of that decided to go no contact. 3 days into no contact she had called me just to check up and literally had a 2 minute conversation. Ever since then I haven’t heard from but she has blocked my number (yes I caved and tried to call) We had a happy relationship but she said she didn’t want to have to deal with a relationship with all the things going on in her life. Why would she block my number if I was in no contact and I haven’t reached out to her? And she started to delete all of our memories together on social medias. She seems happy so I’m not chasing her, but I would take her back if she reconsiders. My question is why would she take the time to block my number if I was not annoying her or chasing her.
Maybe she blocked your number because she is seeing someone, has a new boyfriend and doesen't want to be disturbed when she is with him. She's trying to move on and forget about you even that you don't chase him anymore. Her new boyfriend may found out she was still talking to you and as a result she blocked you.
My ex was liking my pictures and messaging me. But as soon I started ignoring him he became distant and upset. He unliked all my pictures, is it because he’s mad that I’m not following what he wants, & focused more on myself and not waiting around for him.. He won’t make up his mind & still stalks my social media. Is what I’m doing right? That I won’t let him get his way and now he’s mad.
Idk maybe he is over me we was 2 years together he jumped to conclusions n messed up n left me he did a rebound blocked me on fb after I did a new look I haven't check no more because it was hurtful checking he didn't block me on whatsapp but did block me on Instagram but I haven't reached out in 8 months so I think he is over me because he hasn't reached out n he unblocked me on Snapchat but I'm unfriended Idk what to think the only thing I know I'm STRONGER than before I'm starting a new job thank God before my 8 months strong no contact I reached him 3 times he never replied so I never bothered him again n won't bother him if he wants to know of me left him reach out.
What if weeks after a break up my ex signed a lease in a different state?(she works remotely). Been in no contact for a month and she moves in 3 weeks.
What does it mean if your ex has a boyfriend but still doing all these signs ? Are they just in a relationship as a “bandaid effect” so they don’t have to face the pain of a breakup ?
what if he exaggerates with how in love he is with new girlfriend? and from private profile he turned it public so as me to see it? it's not his style to do so.
hello, My girlfriend broke up with me, last month 1 because we had an argument she graded me and so this made me violent that I fought her the first time because degrading me every time and then we solved and both agreed to change but she repeated that degrading thing and I also fought hard the second time and we solved where I included my family members and I promised never fight her, at that time I shifted for an interview to another location because we used to live together and we had just finished our studies 1 month later after I shifted she came to my place I had already applied job for her and she passed the interview but she didn't want to stay with because after I shifted due to job interview she joined online dating, so that day she came at my place I discovered that, and asked why politely and that's when she told me that she had never forgiven me after 2nd fight and she broke up with me and proposed to be friends. I begged her and after 1 week she started dating, but it didn't work well for her so I have been friend zone for 1 month I call her like 5 times a day and we talk and she also calls like twice a day I apply here for jobs, she also gives money to save for her in a different I opened for but, we are friends and am stacked what to do she says she does want to date again because she hates sex, and she does want me as lover, and to be with me because I broke her virginity, am extremely good for her and I have anger than that she says she loves me as friend , what should i do, in other words she says am extremely good and at the same I have anger issues. we are friends and we talk every day it has been 1 month what should I do to gain her love
Told my ex husband that I was moving to Mexico so he can stop paying me alimony. I told him I need to serve it so he can go live and be happy. He gave me a handful of excuses why I can’t move to Mexico, yet not one of them about us. But I know he still loves me, his actions show it.
I can't thank you guys enough! I have implemented the Love Advice strategies and they are working as described for me. This video speaks to me. At his point my ex is now reaching out to me. Just like coach Adrian said, she is now indirectly putting me on a pedestal by telling me how unhappy she is and has expressed regret over the breakup and admits that the breakup was a bad idea. After she reestablished contact, she invited me to have dinner with her and asked if we could spend the day together. According to this video, it seems like she is exhibiting many signs of not being over me. Yay for me!
Awwwww absolutely. But don't sell yourself for short! I'm happy for you ❤
How long did it take for them to contact you?
We texted back and for for a while but it went nowhere. Then Aug. 17th I got one call and Aug. 21st she called three times. She took about three weeks after i went into a non wavering No Contact.
My advice to you would be to take things slowly. Don't rush into trying to confirm your relationship. Just take things as they are, and not get your hopes up. Otherwise you risk pushing them away again.
I'm speaking from experience! Good luck brother :D
Awesome stuff
And yess, i have listened your advices and now i am talking with my ex because he contacted me, i lett him now to be the one that message me first, he said me why he was silent with me, he had financiar problems and still have, but he say how much he want to see me when he will can, he want us to have a serious talk, he say me all the things that he want us to do together when we will meet. I am still working on myself and i take it slowly, step by step. I dont have words to thank to all the team for all is doing for us, the ones who stay at home and need help. Thank you soo much for all
I did this 2 weeks ago. I reconnected with my ex. He is still the same in all areas of his life. I just don't want this anymore with him. I am working on my self & working thru the process with my ex. I am fighting the good fight!! Thank you again for an amazing video with an awesome message!! Keep up the fantastic work!!
Dear Coaches, the guy being overwhelmed by work responsibilities and the need to own up to himself is spot on. I totally respect guys like that, and in my case I walked away as I felt we both needed space. I have contacted him a few times with radio silence in between, and I do see a potential to get back, but as you coaches said it's important to work on myself and be happy on my own. So when he does reach out next time I will give out positive vibes. Thanks again for this video and many others, they are helpful signposts on my journey to self-love and empowerment! :)
After a year of separation. Me and my wife have barely spoken. We have a daughter and communicate through brief and concise text messages. I received divorce papers this past weekend. She did tell me they were coming. She has also commented about my personal transformation and how i seem better. But the one brief time we spoke about even spending a few min together to discuss the relationship. She was quick to say we are better off divorced. Encouraged me to see other people. And ended with “you never know what the future will bring”
"How is it going brother???"
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My ex messages me everyday all day, he’ll message me as soon as he wakes. He tells me what he’s up to at night and where/what he’s having for dinner and says he’s not sleeping with anymore. He’s so confusing
What happened now?
According to this video my ex is nowhere near over me. This was my second time in no contact and he reached out to me (I caved and responded) I think him living without me and me not reaching out at all anymore is showing yes I’d rather have you in my life but I don’t need you. And even though I did break no contact, slowly but surely it is working and he’s slowly coming back. He told me he’s been watching my social media too. We were together almost 2 years. So guys listen to these coaches they know what they’re talking about. And coaches I just want to thankyou for all your help I feel like you all are my friends you’re helping me get the love of my life back and he’s seeing me in a different light so Thankyou all so much ❤️
How long was your no contact? I was with my ex for 2yrs plus and trying :( help
Are you back together?
radio silence were u able to get your ex back?
The direct in directive has been done on me .....several times. I realize I had a life before him. And will continue to work on myself. Good video.
I like this video a lot it explains how an ex feels about you and what they are going thru or feeling at the moment . I Like how both coaches Adrian and Steven explain that younger men do end a relationship or pull away because of financial reasons or things that are going on in their personal lives it makes perfect sense, if you give them space and focus on you the times does pass and your ex will reach out again. I guess its when the timing its right everything will fall into place :) Nice work coaches
They see that I'm changing and getting some things done that we talked about. He wanted me to focus on me more and he sees that. I just got my own place. Kids are grown now. And I plan to keep on doing ME.
I reached out to my ex a 2 weeks ago after not seeing him in 5 weeks and responding briefly to only 2 messages from him. The correspondence I initiated seemed positive. I told him about a little video I created and posted on fb and he responded with "That's very good". I said thank you and that I valued his opinion. That was the extent of it. Now what?
its also good to know that the fact that they arent over you does not means that he or she still love you or would like to come back. So dont get your hopes up
I am actually encouraging my ex to move on because he caused a lot of trouble for me, but he still making trouble for me and using others to spy on me.
I don't know what to do.
I really appreciate your channel. It has helped me to understand some of what I am going through with my ex husband. I divorced him after 17 years and he continued to call me I guess because of our children. The problem is that he always talk about our love life and I keep thinking that he wants to reconcile. I made the mistakes of have sex with him, and then I get angry at him afterward because I feel used. This has gone on 1 year and i told him either we get back together or leave me alone. I told him to call the children directly because I can't be friends with him. I told him to stop giving me hope and hurting me all over again. I really hate him now.
I do agree, he struggled a lot about his money, about his time for himself, about his time to rest and go university cause no one would care. I also sadly became needy and i felt i knew i was the one who get kicked off and he also admited it saying "love you are right also i lost something in that process" so he told me he liked me but... exactly what you said he wasn't in love with me but he still cared until the breakup. SOOOO you are so right, but at the moment i struggle with the usual things that makes me unsure so, when i will manage them, i will be able to talk with him again, as long as i'm struggling with feelings and thoughts, i can't really contact him even if i know i will be hype. I think i'm doing something wrong in this process because he unblocked me but he didn't talk to me.
It's interesting...what you guys are actually talking about her at 2 mins in is projection! I recommend everyone to read into projection, particularly in romantic relationships. It's exactly as these guys said: it's easier to focus in on the relationship rather than hold themselves accountable for their own unhappiness! Thanks both x
Does it mean if your wife of 20 years who separated from you 2 years ago hasnt divorced you yet isint over you ?
Hi Adrian and Steven, thank you so much for another video! My ex is not exhibiting any signs other than unblocking me on Facebook. I’m 3 1/2 weeks in to no contact and Samira suggested three months no contact but with my situation I think truly that that is too much time. I think another few weeks or month would be good because I am really working hard on myself. Volunteering at the animal shelter, joined a gym, making more dedicated effort’s with my kids homework and time with them. This relationship has helped me learn that I am codependent and I’m striving for being happy on my own. A few months ago my ex said the more time we spend apart the more we go on without each other. This keeps resonating in my head. Plus, he was seen kissing a woman of few weeks ago and this woman has interfered when we were together. He told me he doesn’t want to be her friend anymore because he doesn’t respect her as a mother and he doesn’t have patience for people like that. But I found incoming and outgoing phone calls on his phone a couple months ago to and from her. He denied it. And this is the woman that he was kissing. So I honestly don’t know if they’re just spending time together as flirty friends or if they are romantically linked. The timing of my letter is stressing me out. Can you please help? Thank you so very much! Nicole
Nicole... Coach Samira is right in this case. I encourage you to call your ex boyfriend's bluff and put this "more time we spend apart the more we go on without each other" business to the test - Coach Steven
How do you get a ex fiance back who has clearly moved on even though you have done something to lose them
Thank you for the video. I'm struggling with my most recent breakup. My ex came in strong, heavily pursuing me. Everything was great. Then he lost his job and turned into someone else. He got distant, talked little, and then boom broke up with me via msg. I tried to do everything to be supportive but he didn't want that. Now he's on social media making emotional posts ranging from anger at me to sadness. Smh this video gives insight.
Hey chacha3488, thank you for watching. This behavior from your ex is expected. When men don't have their ducks in a row professionally and financially, they feel off-center and take it out on everyone else and the world. The person to feel it the most is usually the wife or the girlfriend, unfortunately. It's not you, nor him. This is just how guys are. I've been there myself with my own wife. - Coach Adrian
Love Advice really work it! Thank you coach adrian, coach Steven !
What if you and your ex have a child together?
My ex is over me, she has a new boyfriend! Good for her, now she’s his problem...
Hello! Thank you for all the amazing videos you guys have put together. I am dealing with a different situation though. I broke things off with him, because he all of a sudden told me, that he is not ready for a relationship, his focus is somewhere else, etc etc etc. So I was wondering if you could make a video on this? I would greatly appreciate this!! Thank you!
I blame myself for my part in my marriage failing. But she did not communicate with me how she was feeling. She has been gone since January 14th but walked out on the 11th of January. I have tried many times to work on it
How would you even know if they're just being friendly from if they still have feelings for you? She's only asked if i was going on dates once. Usually we'll share links about different things and then it will go into no contact
But I block him all over my Social media how should I I know ?
Nick Susu same here..!
If he really wants to make an effort to talk to you he can msg a close friend of your to pass the msg... I would say?
You don't have a phone number?
Hi coach Adrien and Coach Steven, I have just started watching your videos and I am in a unique situation. My ex broke up with me 5 months ago now and initially I did not implement any of these practices and instead tried for 3 weeks to get back with her. I went silent for a couple weeks after then tried to reach out again and she blocked me on social media. A month after I tried one more time to reach out and at this point I completely pushed her away. I then decided it was over and I would no longer try to reach out. About 4 weeks ago I realized she unblocked me on Instagram (Later she tells me she doesnt know how it happened) and I thought that was odd because it has been 2 months since the last time I tried to reach out and her friend had told me she would never speak to me again. I waited a couple of days then I sent her a couple of messages and a few days later she actually responded. We spoke about everything in terms of how she felt at the end and during the times I was trying to reach out. I did apologize to her during our conversation thru text and she said she had forgiving me. Ever since we spoke I cannot get her out of my head and really want to get her back. Last week I asked her if she would give me another opportunity and she blew up on me saying I still didn't get it and said she would block me, I apologized and told her goodbye. Later that day she sent me a message saying she felt bad about abruptly blocking me and wanted to explain why she reacted that way and at the end of the message said she would trust me not to respond, so I didn't even though I wanted to. A few days later it was my birthday and she actually reached out to wish me Happy Birthday and we exchanged a few messages back and forth. I also told her that i had a response for her message from the previous day and asked her if she would be willing to read it she agreed and i sent it to her. She responded and told me to stop "apologizing, it happens, I'm just glad you understand a little of why I'm hesitant with anything you say". I just told her OK and I said I fully understand your reservations and hesitations, when you feel comfortable enough I would like to meet up with you. She did not respond and i didn't expect one, but now I am planning on going radio silent for about three weeks and see if I even want to reach out again. I can't really gauge her, but I do feel like maybe there is a possibility of reconnecting.
Hey Gerald, thank you for sharing your story. Your situation is actually pretty par for the course and is easily surmountable if you muster up the discipline :) - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
I started dating a girl that I’ve known since middle school 4 months ago and we’ve always been attracted to each other but never dated till now. For the last 15 years she’s worked in 9 different countries and is finally back in the States in LA. I live in Washington, DC but flew out to see her 2-3 times a month and everything was incredible! Deepest connection I’ve ever had and she said the same thing over and over again. We’d spend 3-4 hours when we weren’t together on the phone, text non-stop throughout the day how much we loved each other and we’re soulmates. I played college and professional Lacrosse and was injured badly about 12 years ago. I was put on painkillers excessively by a scumbag doctor and became addicted. It’s been a battle but for the last several years I’ve been sober for long periods of time with the occasional relapse. I don’t drink or party anymore and haven’t for 3 years. She stopped drinking and partying about a year ago. About a week and a half ago so flew out to see her and the first day was perfect like always but the second day she found a receipt in my wallet from a pharmacy when I reinjured my back 4 months ago right before we started taking and got together. This past Christmas her ex-boyfriend a guy we grew up with was found dead of a heroin overdose which I ended up having to tell her. Needless to say she was devastated which I was completely ok with and understanding. Since then she started researching addiction online and asking me all these questions about drugs I’ve done or tried etc. I never told her about being addicted to painkillers before because honestly it’s embarrassing and shameful even though I’m not doing them now and never did with her. She ended up throwing me out of her apartment when she found the receipt so I stayed in a hotel till I flew home. She broke up with me and said that she couldn’t trust me even though I told her everything after she found out. I love this girl to death and truly believe we have a connection and bond that is rare. What should I do about getting her back and rebuilding trust? I honestly can say I didn’t tell her because It’s the hardest thing for me to talk about with anyone and I can’t believe I’m putting it on here. I would do anything to get her back and rebuild trust. The lying was not out of malice I just wasn’t ready to talk about it yet with her and definitely wasn’t ready after her ex died. Any opinions or comments you can give is greatly appreciated!!
I'm so sorry to hear that. Did she take you back?
Well said fall in love with ourself yess
because you take it out on the ones you feel closest to.. my fiance is 25 coming up and im 27 just turned, but you know when you just get that feeling hes not over you, like hes trying to move on too quick and change his body
omg!!!! that is my ex! He is so unhappy with his life, he lost his job, he lost income... just everything did not work out in his life. So he put me in the pedestal to break up with me. I am feeling so sad, disappointed, and also feel hopeless. I guess I have to focus on my own life, there is nothing else I can do. he has to work on himself...
I know that my ex loves me , and he is not over me but we have been through many things and i dont know maybe it has been too much. He has an 8 year old son. I want to spent the rest of my life with him and he does too, we stopped talking for 8 months and recently I saw him, we went to grab a coffee and talk, he told me has a girlfriend but she has a lot of problems with her exhusband because they have two kids, and its a long distance relationship, he told me its not working for him anymore and he is ending the relationship because he wants to be with me but the mother of my ex is thrilled with her and their kids get a long its just he is not happy and for respect he told me he cannot end it right away. H e asked me to wait and have patience but he is coming back for me. The first week of january they´ve planned a family trip with her sons and his son, but after they come back he told me he is panning to end the relationship. He told me he is going to look for me , text me or call me when the time is right but for now and family issues he cannot end things with her. I dont want to get my hopes too high again but what do you think i should do.... should i trust him and wait the time he told me ? I love him with all my heart and I understand he is with somebody else but i cannot stop my life for something it might never happen ..... i hope he comes back.
I believe my ex left because she was not happy with her life/ current situation... I was told It had nothing to do with me and I treated her great! It's frustrating but I cannot hold her back from doing her soul searching. There is a over 10 year age Gap, so I get it. My maturity has helped in my understanding and recovery
El Danny my ex wasn't happy in his life/ current situation either..
This was very helpful, thanks so much guys!
You are very welcome! - Coach Steven
What if he emotionally cheated on me and is now with that person? But he still contacts me on bdays and holidays
Same situation with me
So in my case what you said about men blaming their unhappiness in their personal life on their SO was the case with my ex gf. She graduated from uni with a b.s. in public health 2 years ago and hasnt had a job in her career and at her current job they treat her poorly according to her. She used to cry to me how unhappy she was with everything in her life and i would try to make her feel better to no avail. On new years she told me she was unhappy with us and was trying to get out since i was away at school which was 2 years out of our over 4 year relationship. I graduated about a year ago and will be going back to school for ab applied degree this fall. Her primary reasons for feeling unsatisfied were she never moved out, she doesnt have a job in her field and she started to gain weight apparently. Ive never felt unsatisfied with my career but i feel sometimes she was blaming her unsatisifaction on life on me. But its cool cuz im growing and always have been and have never been unsatisfied with my career path
Thank you soo much guys,_ with every video i learn soo many things that really help me.
My ex and I had a conversation on June 8, which just happens to be the date that we became a couple last year. She reached out to me on that day. Since then, we have sporadically talked, but her schedule just got super busy. I asked her for us to meet up and talk about our new activities 2 weeks ago but got no response. I'm not sweating it because I just got super busy myself with classes, work and such. I'm keeping the faith alive and also I'm talking to new girls in my classes so that's a plus :)
Geez, I guess my ex hates me then. She broke things off for what even she admits was no real reason, she was in a weird headspace. However, all she does now is hide and be silent and sulk. We were so in tune only a month or so ago, then radio silence. I hate this, I wish we could just talk , but I’m in NC, and I’m not going to give that up just for a disappointing letdown if I break it.
So him giving me information that I dont need about his day when I end the text conversation is that a thing
I don't know if he is coming back... I dont wanna wait any more.
I really needed this information to not fold. I won't call him lol
My girl has had A LOT going on in her life(trying to manage 2 jobs as a single divorced mother of a young boy, who's father is slowly fading from his fatherly duties and not helping her as much anymore, trying to get her living situation in order and get her own place rather than staying with a friend and having her father having just had serious heart surgery and having to help him), she told me she feels we are going too fast for what she has going on in her life and she needs to get everything in order before letting me into her life and taking things slow with me when that time happens(hopefully it does) And she said she needs time right now by herself for awhile to take care of these things.. She's also the type that closes out the world when stressed out and depressed, she hardly speaks anymore because of her life around her spinning out of control..... I don't know what to do but i can't stop caring and trying to reach out to her....
Hi Joshuah!
If she has so much going on then it's best to give her the space she needs now in order for her to figure things out. Let her have her time to realize she misses you. You have to go into no contact and respect what she asks for - then she will come to you.
Coach Samira
www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
my ex contacting me... wanting to hold my hand, asking to hang out, asking to let's do something... that is the furthest thing from reality. Try dead silence, that's what I'm getting. If your ex is holding your hand, asking to hang out, I doubt you'd be watching this video.
This feels like an example of a video being made simply to make a video, to fill the air space. Anybody can see that if an ex is blowing up your phone or begging you for sex, that they might be interested in you. Gimme a break.
Happy teachers day sir...thankyou for guiding us in our bad situation....
My ex broke things off very suddenly, I had no idea it was coming. She gave me a few excuses but none of them made much sense to me. I'm good friends with her Dad, he told me she said she just wasn't "feeling it anymore." It's been a month now and she's in a rebound relationship. He's seen us leave our college campus together (she asked me out to lunch) and he recently tried to follow me on social media, which seems really weird. Me and my ex have both said that we miss the other and she talks to me after class a few times a week. During these talks she always brings up a past memory and has told me she hasn't been able to sleep the past few weeks. She even came over to my house the other day and we smoked weed with some mutual friends. Things seem to be going well so far!
hey corbyn, things seem to be going very well indeed! Clearly your ex still has feelings for you. You just can't jump the gun and rush into getting back together. Let this "rebound" fall to the wayside, don't consider him a threat in the way he considers you one, and let him build you up as the "forbidden fruit" he doesn't want your ex to take a bite out of. Right now your ex can't have you because she's in a rebound relationship, and it's making you look more enticing to her - Coach Adrian www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/#adrian
Question?!!! I was born in Eastern Europe and lived in USA for quite a while. My ex liked my picture on facebook at 3 am in the morning. I asked my gfs what they thought of that. My American girlfriends say he is a douche and looking for a booty call. But my European gfs were super excited because to them it means he was drunk and thinking of me! Who is right? My decision has been made as he remains my ex, but could you shed some light on this issue? As I am dating I am so confused with rules from both sides of Atlantic ocean 🤗🤗🤗 I thought men are just men, it does not matter what side of world they are from! Gracias! Cao!
What about if they still have us “in a relationship” on Facebook? She seems inactive but allows her roommate and friends to tag her in photos. No evidence of another man or dating etc We’ve been in NC for 6 months after she told me she needed space until she’s ready to talk, broken up for 10 months. Any input? I’d appreciate it
Wish I had a big brother like you guys it super hurts that me and my ex broke and its was like a both side brake up and it's been a month or so and we text from time to time and she told me she needs to get her self together and if I'm free in the future that will give it a second chance I get crazy because I start to think of alot of nagative things like if she with another man etc man I wish time can fly fast to show her I can be a different person and u can make her feel like before I love her we had 6years together and was going to get married next September but now it's a mystery if it's going to happen
Thank you for the video. Sadly, I was the one doing all of these things to him. Not any more though.
My ex is loud and proud around me trying to let me know she's happy without me by talking to other dudes at the gym lol while I'm ignoring her cause I deserve better, she has been gravitating towards me little by little and I'm not trying to get her back.
It’s been a year and a half since that last time I reached out him. And I’m scared to reach out again because that’s how I got block on facebook.
Sydney Robbs how’s it going now?
Let's say your ex is too stubborn to reach out again? Let's say, In my situation, you have her new number and she has not blocked you on WhatsApp. Her, "last seen" is set to, "Contacts Only". Out of your 3, WhatsApp numbers, she has one still in her contact list, then deletes that... (5 months later) Now, It's now 6 months later since the breakup, (& since deleting the last number) she now shows signs of looking at your WhatsApp profile, and (What looks as if she's deleted all numbers) Suddenly blocks your number again? What's going on? - This after Being Blocked before by her before.
What if he’s denying his feeling because he doesn’t want to get hurt again? My ex has been hot and cold for 4 months now and today was the day I blocked him off EVERYTHING apart from his number. He has reached out to me before but the cycle just keeps repeating. Before, My no contact has lasted only 2 weeks and at lease one of us has reached out. How to I get a man who had trouble in showing his feelings anyway when we were together to open up and tell me how he really feels? Our 3 year relationship can’t have just vanished from his heart after 5 months. Please help! X
Kinda same
No contact 30 days.
How about when I saw Love of my life in the street after many years and when I went to greet him he was angry bitter and resentful still and turned away from me and walked away. He ended up marrying someone else.Does this anger represent he is still in love With me and regrets his decision?
Hi coaches! Thank you for everything. What should I do if he congrats me for my birthday? He broke up with me a month ago kinda and he havent contact me since then and me either
How about when ur ex started stalking you on facebook but he's not actually sending message to you? Can that be consider as "he's still inlove with me?"
How do you know that your ex is stalking you?
Ex and I been in an on and off communication since our breakup last 2 months (she broke it off). Had slept together once a week ago BUT had an instinct she had slept/been intimate with a new interesting “friend” who she knew a few months before our breakup.
She had been saying she’s missing me if I didn’t reply to her texts, and mentioned she hasn’t really moved on tho it doesn’t look like it.
All these mixed signals are driving me insane. Now I’m considering no contact as it’s supposed to be easier (she will be going offshore for two weeks) and my biggest concern would be her reaching out to me during those days and would go mad lonely if I didn’t respond to her and would seek companionship from the other person instead and eventually forget about me.
I’m scared I’ll be just an emotional dumping ground for her (worse, regarded as just friend) when the other person is not keeping her company.
But at the same time, afraid she’d grown complacent of me if I respond to her.
I’ve been progressing well with my physical development - getting better in shape - and that was the reason for our hookup but i can tell she couldn’t kiss me the same anymore.
Like I said, these mixed signals are killing me.
To contact or no contact?
My ex of about two weeks and this paints a picture of what happened perfectly. He said he had a lot going on and was having issues balancing everything. He said he still wanted me in his life and that there was no other girl as well as he still had feelings for me. We dated for about 5 months. A week after the breakup he texted me later in the night to wish me a Happy Easter. Then a few days later a Happy Birthday and then proceeded to make small talk for a few days. I mirrored his texts and kept it light. Do you think as you said in the video there is a chance? Should I wait for him or give him a little space and then give him a call to meet up and grab a drink?
so i dated this girl for 8-9 months and it was a great several months. it ended badly because of it getting rocky from mistakes i made. from lying about texting from my other ex to fix our problem, from saying fuck you to her several times even though she started that trend with me before, and just problems that just arise. We broke up on the 12th of March and we tried reaching out to each other and try to work it out with one another. But we tried several times and it couldn't work. Even though we were gonna go on a break and try being friends, it didn't turn out that way. We just always acted like a couple still. Getting lunch for one another, calling each other "babe" and/or "hun", kissing, holding hands, and sex. What makes it weird is that she was the one that initiated it. I didn't. I could have been mature and said we can't but I missed her affection too much at that time. It just kept falling apart many times until we called it officially quits. Because she tried to say i was not doing enough for her and saying that i used to make her feel loved and now she doesn't feel good. Despite all the stuff i have been doing to change for her and do what i can for her even when we are on this break. It also just felt like torture because she wasn't really mine but we just kept acting like it. It was aching my heart bad. But then when we blocked each other for a day, i went to go check on her social media and saw she put herself as single and thats when i blew up. I harassed her nonstop and said horrible mean things to her. I insulted her, disrespected her, took the things she trusted me with and flipped it back at her, attacked her personal stuff and vulnerabilities, disrespected her family too, and just took out all of my anger at her. even took the things ive done for her and twisted it to make it seem like she didn't give a shit. because i really did a whole lot more for her than she has for me. and have done all that i can for her while we were on break. but it just didn't seem enough for her. she was going to make charges for my harassment but she isn't going to. went into a forced no contact mode where i am not allowed to speak to her. two to three days went by and she showed up at my work out of nowhere to talk. so clocked off for lunch and talked. tried apologizing very calmly and maturely but she didn't seem to take it and said my eyes were dilated. Which is weird but oh well. She said she didn't ever want to be with me ever again. I wished her all the happiness and good luck. She slapped me across the ear and said she needed to do that to move on. i said ok and left. told my mother what happened and she believes she will still come back because she knows what my ex is feeling since she is woman too and all. And says she still loves me and said that is a sign. I try to have faith but have doubts. Trying to accept that maybe she won't come back and i should let her go. I am working on myself by going to the gym more which is gaining confidence in my body, spending time with friends and family and talking to new people, and doing stuff that i like to do before i got with her. It's just that i do miss her. but i also have thoughts of giving up on her entirely and saying lets just go our separate ways. perhaps because this is still fresh and i am expecting things to happen soon. idk. all i know is, that this situation sucks and i really hope for this pain in my heart to go away. I just don't know what to think here. i watch your videos and they are therapeutic. The one that gave me was the one titled "will i ever hear from my ex again?" and it was giving me hope that hey maybe i still have a chance. but after everything i have been through. i just don't know. i just need your advice and thoughts on my situation here, please and thank you for taking the time to read this. hope you can get back to me soon.
Seems like I can’t find the video for my exact situation. I hope you guys can help me out! My ex and I have been broken up for a month and we were together for a year. The relationship was amazing. We were best friends and never fought. However, we talked about our future one day and he said he can’t see himself with me. ( I think he was scared because he hasn’t been employed for a while) and I pushed him, so he broke it off. But we still liked each other and we both cried. After a month of no contact I reached out and asked how he has been and if he wants to get some coffee soon. He said he needs to think about it. What can I do in my situation for him to see me? And eventually be together again?
why is my ex asking me if i have gf, still living in the same place if she got a new man ?
Okay so what if he’s completely ignoring you and won’t even make eye contact with you but his new girlfriend is constantly trying to reach out through his social media?
We are business partners so it makes it weird. Idk what to do lol
Hi, guys. Great video.
I just read a blog of coach Adrian about an not wanting to get back together.
Is it fully true if she says she doesn't want us to be a couple anymore (just friends)?
Because of some behavior she was having that caused me a very bad reaction and I broke up with her and soon I regret but she was very upset.
After 45 days of no contact, she called me being drunk after I didn't wish a happy birthday to her (july 27). During this past weekend, I paid her a visit to her hometown (long-distance relationship). The flowers "worked" but she is still upset and doesn't want our relationship cause there are drama and complications she doesn't want. She is the happiest, she said.
Should I continue as friend as you suggested on your blog?
Thanks a lot for all the help and for your videos.
Cheers
Ouch never be a friend!! Let her go don't waste your time pondering to her emotionally unstable characteristics. Cmon man your worth more :)
Hey Coaches!
Your videos are a huge help on a daily basis! I would like to have a question. My ex of 1,5years had reached out to me after 4months of NC, and we kept contact through texting for 5weeks, but all of a sudden he had ghosted me for no reason at all. I pulled back to NC, it’s the 2nd week. He is showing unfamiliar behaviour on social media postig partying pictures, which he never did before. I can’t find a reason for his deeds, however I stick to NC. Am I doing the right thing?
But what if she has a man and still reach out to you but the catch is you live with her and has kids by you
What if my boy friend blocked me from all social media !!! How would I know !! Still we are in no contact rules for 5 weeks
Mimosa coyotte I really hope that they have reached out by NOW but if he’s blocked you then it’s more immature but he may not realise that. But mmmaaybe if it gets to three months then reach out yourself any way you can even if you write a letter
Hey I hope you all can give a response to this, the problem I was having is that my girlfriend went off to college and I'm still here at home before my girlfriend went off to college she broke up with me saying she no longer have feelings for me she still said that I was considered one of her closest friends and that she enjoyed every second we had together. she said she still wants to be friends and talk and maybe we can hang out one day it's been an entire month I have not text her and she is not text me... I'm sure she's busy but still it hurts tremendously...
Hi, for my case, what if my ex still hasn't reach out to me yet?
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. Since then he stalks my Instagram story almost every single day, several times a day. Although he deleted me from all social media (my story is public, my account is not private). He told my best friend that he still misses me when he was drunk, several times as well. On all parties he went to with mutual friends he got upset on some point and distanced himself from the party and looked sad. As my friends described, he was really feeling down not having me around anymore. It was really a small argument that ended everything. He was not able to handle criticism or anything similar. He even got panic attacks out of nowhere, didn't open up to me about his problems. Not even his closest friends or family new he had/has mental issues. I do not blame him for that at all, but that was also a big factor for our breakup.
Our last argument that ended everything, he even showed me a list with bad things I said to him in our arguments during our 2 year relationship. I don't fell that this is normal. He blamed me for all his mistakes as well. He could not forgive me for the tiniest things that went wrong.
My question is: Does he still love me and is he still interested in me? I am so confused by all of these mixed signals and I am getting crazy almost. PLEASE answer my comment, I would be so happy about help. I can not afford a one on one coaching session. I am a college student.
Jennifer.02 yes he’s still on you. same happened with me with this girl, it was more an awkwardness/discomfort that ended me and her. 4 months later there is this fake account that watches me on social media, i’m almost sure it’s her, 4 months later .
Great video. Thank you. I saw that you guys made a video on what to do if your ex deletes your guys photos off Instagram. I was wondering if you should delete the photos first before he does? Why should or shouldn’t you?
Coaches, So I had an argument with my boyfriend on Saturday because he got mad when I asked him what club he was going to be at with his friends. He got angry and accused me of not trusting him. Told me why I just couldn’t accept that he was going out without giving me many details. He was enraged and told me we are not working out and he was not happy. It’s now Tuesday and I haven’t heard from him. How long is the silent treatment supposed to last for on his part? Is this normal?
My ex told me he wants his best friend back so am I friend zoned
Hi coaches. Been awol from the channel for a while. Talked to my ex about 2 weeks ago and things seemed hopeful but then she told me to move on and she’s talking to someone then became super rude and bitter and petty. Then 2 days ago she texted me about one of my tweets, with a picture of it saying “???” “Subtweeting me.” I didn’t reply but my tweet was not bad at all or rude. It mentioned about rude people. I remember one of the coaches saying that an ex acting mean or emotionally is a sign that they still have feelings which is a good thing even if they aren’t acting good back to us. If she was really moved on and didn’t care she wouldn’t care enough to fight or go out of her way to text me right?? I haven’t watched this video yet but thanks for the help! I don’t want to keep holding onto hope but figure if she comes back I’ll deal with it then now as I held onto hope for a while. Any help would be great 👍
What if he just wants to argue all the time🙄?
Coaches, I did NC permanently, but He is reaching out not to express wanting to get back, but asking for help coz he needed help financially. How on earth is that? he did broken up with me and left. But i moved on.
What if an ex asked me to get coffee or hang out sometime.. but never followed up on that offer. Im doing the radio silence/ no contact, but he can reach me. I just don't reach out. Im focusing myself to regain some self confidence and personal growth. Its gonna be about 2months since the break up. Last time we saw each other was with some common friends, i noticed that he keeps looking at me (staring) when im not looking then he looks away. He's reasons to leave was he fallen out of love (he thinks) i was just tired already did everything to change my looks and persona and finally we mutual decided to break up. I love him, im just slowly trying to unlove him.. (the differences between 'forgot to love vs trying to unlearn to love someone). In our relationship, we seldom fought, our dynamics was equal.. he was my best friend, but i cant ask him to stay if he doesn't love me. I'm just confused if why he's actions aren't the same way as a person who lost interest.
Is there a time frame for them to feel this way? It's been 9 months and no reach out from them...
Well it’s been only 8 days of breakup n he’s packing up my stuff n sending me pictures of my items packed. What the hell
Yes ex was the one who reached out and we reconnected. He lives in another state so I understand the distance was an issue. He came to New York for a visit which is time we spent together. Now he is back in Florida and calls are now and then. He will takes my calls but concern is someone he was with who followed him to Florida when they had their thing which is now over but she won't let go so we can mend our relatiobship.
How can u really know if she’s over u if we haven’t had any contact for two weeks and if she is living the single life?
Eric Valenzuela
If she’s posting sexy selfies and showing off her new friends. She’s not over you
Hello to you thanks for allowing me to share my story I was married in 2018 and now we are divorced in on September of 2019 it's not what I wanted we have had communication but now he said he's wanting to stay away from me because of something I commented we have not spoken for 13 days what do you think my chances are of getting together again?
Love the video I'm at the point of the breakup where she feels we need time apart but I cant help to feel that I may lose her for good even though this is a rebound relationship it's been almost 4 months I guess now I can perform the no contact but my kids are still involved so it will still be hard what is your best suggestion for me
My ex hit me up and thinks I’m sad cuz she unblocked me on social media and saw some tweets. But I’m actually happy, should I respond to her.. I hurt her and miss her but I’m actually doing better now with no contact for almost a month
Hey guys, I’ve been broken up with my ex for four months and it’s seemed to go back and forth floor that time. I’ve never really given no contact a fair chance however we will go a couple weeks without communication then she will calls, saying she was thinking about me, ask how I’m doing then when I engage she seems to pull away, say she doesn’t want to talk and at times just block me. This has happened like 4 times. The last in which, when I didn’t answer, she called my work to see if I was working because she was needed help with something something. This was two weeks ago, when I called her back a couple days later she said she was feeling sad and asked if id come over for dinner in which I ended up staying the night. Now, she’s gone cold, saying she reaches out when she missed me but isn’t in love but that she feels there is something still there. I’m so confused by all the hot and cold and just don’t know what to do or understand why this is happening.
I needed to hear this ! Thanks
What if they want to be friends after the breakup and they ended the relationship
OsoTye they've videos about that
Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago and it wasn’t mutual but we didn’t end on bad terms. Yes I made the mistake of chasing and eventually after a couple days of that decided to go no contact. 3 days into no contact she had called me just to check up and literally had a 2 minute conversation. Ever since then I haven’t heard from but she has blocked my number (yes I caved and tried to call) We had a happy relationship but she said she didn’t want to have to deal with a relationship with all the things going on in her life. Why would she block my number if I was in no contact and I haven’t reached out to her? And she started to delete all of our memories together on social medias. She seems happy so I’m not chasing her, but I would take her back if she reconsiders. My question is why would she take the time to block my number if I was not annoying her or chasing her.
Maybe she blocked your number because she is seeing someone, has a new boyfriend and doesen't want to be disturbed when she is with him. She's trying to move on and forget about you even that you don't chase him anymore. Her new boyfriend may found out she was still talking to you and as a result she blocked you.
My ex was liking my pictures and messaging me. But as soon I started ignoring him he became distant and upset. He unliked all my pictures, is it because he’s mad that I’m not following what he wants, & focused more on myself and not waiting around for him.. He won’t make up his mind & still stalks my social media. Is what I’m doing right? That I won’t let him get his way and now he’s mad.
Idk maybe he is over me we was 2 years together he jumped to conclusions n messed up n left me he did a rebound blocked me on fb after I did a new look I haven't check no more because it was hurtful checking he didn't block me on whatsapp but did block me on Instagram but I haven't reached out in 8 months so I think he is over me because he hasn't reached out n he unblocked me on Snapchat but I'm unfriended Idk what to think the only thing I know I'm STRONGER than before I'm starting a new job thank God before my 8 months strong no contact I reached him 3 times he never replied so I never bothered him again n won't bother him if he wants to know of me left him reach out.
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What if weeks after a break up my ex signed a lease in a different state?(she works remotely). Been in no contact for a month and she moves in 3 weeks.
Why would she start being nice when you pick up the kids and telling you where shea going and what shes doin without you asking?
Yeah but how do you know if they are narcissistic?
What does it mean if your ex has a boyfriend but still doing all these signs ? Are they just in a relationship as a “bandaid effect” so they don’t have to face the pain of a breakup ?
what if he exaggerates with how in love he is with new girlfriend? and from private profile he turned it public so as me to see it? it's not his style to do so.
hello, My girlfriend broke up with me, last month 1 because we had an argument she graded me and so this made me violent that I fought her the first time because degrading me every time and then we solved and both agreed to change but she repeated that degrading thing and I also fought hard the second time and we solved where I included my family members and I promised never fight her, at that time I shifted for an interview to another location because we used to live together and we had just finished our studies 1 month later after I shifted she came to my place I had already applied job for her and she passed the interview but she didn't want to stay with because after I shifted due to job interview she joined online dating, so that day she came at my place I discovered that, and asked why politely and that's when she told me that she had never forgiven me after 2nd fight and she broke up with me and proposed to be friends. I begged her and after 1 week she started dating, but it didn't work well for her so I have been friend zone for 1 month I call her like 5 times a day and we talk and she also calls like twice a day I apply here for jobs, she also gives money to save for her in a different I opened for but, we are friends and am stacked what to do she says she does want to date again because she hates sex, and she does want me as lover, and to be with me because I broke her virginity, am extremely good for her and I have anger than that she says she loves me as friend , what should i do, in other words she says am extremely good and at the same I have anger issues. we are friends and we talk every day it has been 1 month what should I do to gain her love