This is so amazing. I needed to hear this. We're not covered in red tape-we're people! If we search fervently for thing we agree on we can make the world a better place.
Love the way you've taught me to listen. You are amazing. Every person under the age of 20 NEEDS to listen to you. How are you not a requirement for high school graduation like j.d. Salingers'catcher in the rye.
Hopefully Celeste now in 2021 people in the United States and around the world will understand this talk and communicate, get along with each other and make good plans for a better world.
..she was on C-span's BOOK TV this afternoon and brought the house down. She is brilliant and we need more people like her doing what she does--trying to get people to commune- icate.
You cannot expect to receive respect without giving it and most often giving it first. Don't wait to be respected. Just be respectful of everyone you ever met and will ever meet. Life is just better that way.
‘Get out there! Be uncomfortable!’ Thank you Celeste for the humanity gems you shared. May these words inspire healthy evolving in each who listens, understands and implements Celeste’s suggestions.
I’ve seen two talks given by Celeste and I always find myself infatuated with not only her knowledge, logic, and rationale, but also with the way she presents herself and her ideas
What do you say to people who won't listen? What do you do when you listen to them, but they refuse to listen to you? What do you do when their hatred infringes on your rights? What do you do when the actions of others turn you into a target? Why should I treat people well when they treat me like garbage? You can't talk to some people. Some you can. I appreciate your advice for dealing with people who really believe they're helping things, but others are simply happy that their hatred can finally flourish.
Good questions. Let me throw out some thoughts with the hope you will take them in the positive spirit that I intend. And with the preface that there are no right answers here, nor any easy solutions. Q) What do you say to people who won't listen? A) I think the point of Celeste's talk is that it's not about THEM listening. It's about US listening. It's about understanding rather than being understood. Q) What do you do when their hatred infringes on your rights? A) It's not the hatred, it's the resulting actions that may infringe on our rights. Deal those actions head on. Q) Why should I treat people well when they treat me like garbage? A) Don't try. Ignore them. Q) You can't talk to some people. Some you can. A) Again, don't explain, but rather ask questions. Sincere questions that get to the root of their beliefs. And I agree that some people just like to hate. Ignore them. We need to live our lives too.
Kimberly, your questions are my questions. Here it is two years later and we are near a state of war. The hate has consumed logic, reason, and critical thinking. I tried talking AND listening to my polar opposites until this year but now I'm no longer willing to listen because they don't listen. They say hateful, foul things and they are physically violent. I believe when conversation becomes impossible and physical violence becomes the norm, we must act and defend.
Celeste, you have to remember that we are only human being. And none of us are guilty, but innocent. We do bad thing, we do good things. Also on most on social media. Everything is dangerous today.
why do we have to take care of other people we dont know about ???? do we really want to spend our time to think what other people think and doing in their life? NO!! the world is smaller than we think it is, you can recognize any person you have met before for maybe couple of days- time- maybe YEARS!!
we can together get in to the state where we start to learn things. (by following Celestes advice) i think we can not change without being in that state, it is fixed in our genes that it is the way we do to change
I'd just say be careful with "why do you think that"? "why" questions can appear to be confrontational very easily. I'd say "tell me more about your thinking on that".
we always think about the people, why don't we think about our self? we should really forget what OTHER people doing in their life, and spend more time to THINK!! what WE really are doing or thinking...
Everyone should always give people evidence and show how something they believe is wrong. Obviously people will not change instantly. People have beliefs not made out of ice cubes which melt instantly with a little heat, but out of stone, rocks, cement, it takes time to reshape or reorganise believes and facts once realised and at first people might not want to believe someone else and really fight the beliefs or facts given to them. Why? People need to make sure who every is saying something different to them is not wrong before they start reshaping their beliefs about anything. People do change and quite often they just don't make massive changes. If you look at how you where 10 years ago and look at how the media and life has shaped you, than you will realise the truth about change. Point being talking about beliefs and morals laying out the facts and beliefs you believe to be true is fine, that is the only way to make people more moral. Especially when these beliefs are based on facts and evidence. Talking alone isn't enough, people have to have the hard moral conversations the ones they don't always like, but to be moral that is what one has to do. That is if they truly want to be moral.
Work in a place where they have televisions for customers. Fox News is the only station they are allowed to show. Thank goodness I am British and am not allowed to vote legally in the USA. Conversation needs to be friendly, open, and all points of view accepted. Just as you say in this great presentation.
Such a shame she has become radicalized and is now spewing hateful indoctrination of division. Now she trolls Instagram targeting accounts and gossiping about them in her page. Such lofty intelligence.
Why should their classmates weep. If you come here legally whats your problem!? Do you want to say something now?? LOOK AT WHAT NOT BUILDING A WALL HAS DONE TO US. BUILD THE DAMN WALL
Why didn't she mention ''Christianity'' when she talks about empathy? Everyone knows the verse in Luke 6:31 where Jesus says ''Do to others as you would have them do to you''.
Considering the empathy White Christians in the United States are showing Latinos, immigrants and asylum seekers.... I wouldn't mention 'Christianity' either.
Can you really talk with anyone with opposing views?? Two things in history you can't really talk about religion and politics!! Hate my neighbors wish they would disappear, NOT approachable at ALL
Lost me at do on to others how you would do to yourself! If someone wants to be raped and rape. Is it ok for them to rape? If someone wants to know the pain of been shot in the foot, is it ok for them to shoot you in the foot? No this is stupid. It should be: Be considerate of others and treat them how they want to be treat. Empathy is not about how you would feel in their position, it's understanding someone's life story it's about getting a deep understanding of how they think and how they would feel in that situation and being able to understand. You might not relate but you can still feel the pain of the situation based on their life and how they feel. You can feel what they would feel in that situation but because your life has been different in a similar situation you would feel different. So empathy is understanding others, not putting yourself in your shoes in that situation but putting yourself in there life and do your best to understand how you would of felt with that background in that situation. Empathy is deep emotional reasoning. It's not like awww that's cute, awww that's sad. No that's crap. Deep emotional reasoning is understanding feelings from many previous events and situations and actually feeling emotions, this allows people to care.
Those who want to be harmed by others have a psychological problem. They are called masochists. MOST people abide by and believe in the Golden rule. But not everyone... Understanding is the expression of the love we should have for one another. It is more than feelings. Feelings may change but, the deeper love of the person for wishing the goodof and for the others and doing good for them is what matters!
This is a great talk. When she says make America talk again she means make Americans talk to each other again. I really like her approach.
Absolutely beautiful to see true leadership and mature humanity in the public square. Bravo, Celeste. Keep it up.
Be kind. Everyone you meet is engaged in some terrible battle. Thanks, Celeste--this is brilliant.
Awesome talk... The best line is at the end. She says "Stop getting your news from Facebook"
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Celeste is one of the most inspiring speakers of our time. We desperately need someone like her to get into politics...
To be a politician she would have to lower her ethics and personal standards dramatically.
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One of the best & most needed videos I have ever encountered. THANK YOU.
This made me cry for hope!! Thank you for this video ❤
I needed to hear this. So important. Thank you Celeste.
You are just outstanding but when I will learn what you are teaching me is the biggest question!!! Thank you 🙏
This is so amazing. I needed to hear this. We're not covered in red tape-we're people! If we search fervently for thing we agree on we can make the world a better place.
Love the way you've taught me to listen. You are amazing. Every person under the age of 20 NEEDS to listen to you. How are you not a requirement for high school graduation like j.d. Salingers'catcher in the rye.
Hopefully Celeste now in 2021 people in the United States and around the world will understand this talk and communicate, get along with each other and make good plans for a better world.
Good luck. Republicans now exclusively and passionately hate everyone and everything else.
She hit the nail on the head
Thank you SO much! Yes. This is what we need. Thank you for your insight & giving clear direction as to what we can do to restore & heal.
I would like to run as Vice President in 2020 with this woman!! Really!!
She is soooooo right!
an intelligent grown up.... thank you!!!
Thank you for the sites, and the inspiration
..she was on C-span's BOOK TV this afternoon and brought the house down. She is brilliant and we need more people like her doing what she does--trying to get people to commune-
icate.
So compassionate and empathizing talk, respects and love from India
why does this only have 9k views! this is amazing
I was wondering the same thing 🤯
1. Don't Educate people
2. Don't Prejudge
3. Show Respect at all time
4. Stick it out
You cannot expect to receive respect without giving it and most often giving it first. Don't wait to be respected. Just be respectful of everyone you ever met and will ever meet. Life is just better that way.
All this TEDx Talks from you i really loves them
love your message.....even from downunder your message makes sense...
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‘Get out there! Be uncomfortable!’ Thank you Celeste for the humanity gems you shared. May these words inspire healthy evolving in each who listens, understands and implements Celeste’s suggestions.
I’ve seen two talks given by Celeste and I always find myself infatuated with not only her knowledge, logic, and rationale, but also with the way she presents herself and her ideas
Amazing video, I learn more today. thank you Celeste
Unfortunately, her prediction has come true! The country has become more and more divided, more and more hostile to one another.
it's that damn facebook news feed creating bias walls... she also warned of that.
What do you say to people who won't listen? What do you do when you listen to them, but they refuse to listen to you? What do you do when their hatred infringes on your rights? What do you do when the actions of others turn you into a target? Why should I treat people well when they treat me like garbage? You can't talk to some people. Some you can. I appreciate your advice for dealing with people who really believe they're helping things, but others are simply happy that their hatred can finally flourish.
Good questions. Let me throw out some thoughts with the hope you will take them in the positive spirit that I intend. And with the preface that there are no right answers here, nor any easy solutions.
Q) What do you say to people who won't listen? A) I think the point of Celeste's talk is that it's not about THEM listening. It's about US listening. It's about understanding rather than being understood.
Q) What do you do when their hatred infringes on your rights? A) It's not the hatred, it's the resulting actions that may infringe on our rights. Deal those actions head on.
Q) Why should I treat people well when they treat me like garbage? A) Don't try. Ignore them.
Q) You can't talk to some people. Some you can. A) Again, don't explain, but rather ask questions. Sincere questions that get to the root of their beliefs.
And I agree that some people just like to hate. Ignore them. We need to live our lives too.
Kimberly, your questions are my questions. Here it is two years later and we are near a state of war. The hate has consumed logic, reason, and critical thinking. I tried talking AND listening to my polar opposites until this year but now I'm no longer willing to listen because they don't listen. They say hateful, foul things and they are physically violent. I believe when conversation becomes impossible and physical violence becomes the norm, we must act and defend.
i like her talk, it really inspired .
Thank You!
Celeste, you have to remember that we are only human being. And none of us are guilty, but innocent. We do bad thing, we do good things. Also on most on social media. Everything is dangerous today.
why do we have to take care of other people we dont know about ???? do we really want to spend our time to
think what other people think and doing in their life? NO!! the world is smaller than we think it is, you can recognize any person you have met before for maybe couple of days- time- maybe YEARS!!
we can together get in to the state where we start to learn things. (by following Celestes advice) i think we can not change without being in that state, it is fixed in our genes that it is the way we do to change
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I'd just say be careful with "why do you think that"? "why" questions can appear to be confrontational very easily. I'd say "tell me more about your thinking on that".
we always think about the people, why don't we think about our self? we should really forget what OTHER people doing in their life, and spend more time to THINK!! what WE really are doing or thinking...
Powerful
No matter what party you identify as, we all have one thing in common, we are all human.
Everyone should always give people evidence and show how something they believe is wrong. Obviously people will not change instantly. People have beliefs not made out of ice cubes which melt instantly with a little heat, but out of stone, rocks, cement, it takes time to reshape or reorganise believes and facts once realised and at first people might not want to believe someone else and really fight the beliefs or facts given to them. Why? People need to make sure who every is saying something different to them is not wrong before they start reshaping their beliefs about anything.
People do change and quite often they just don't make massive changes. If you look at how you where 10 years ago and look at how the media and life has shaped you, than you will realise the truth about change. Point being talking about beliefs and morals laying out the facts and beliefs you believe to be true is fine, that is the only way to make people more moral. Especially when these beliefs are based on facts and evidence.
Talking alone isn't enough, people have to have the hard moral conversations the ones they don't always like, but to be moral that is what one has to do. That is if they truly want to be moral.
Why doesn't she run for President?
That would give people an Alternative.
5years later and america has only gotten more divided
Work in a place where they have televisions for customers. Fox News is the only station they are allowed to show. Thank goodness I am British and am not allowed to vote legally in the USA. Conversation needs to be friendly, open, and all points of view accepted. Just as you say in this great presentation.
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what im i afraid off, or what are THEY afraid of?
A woman from my dream.
in my family we all have our difference colour, because of the sun holiday and difference seasons... i'm a brown boy
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Such a shame she has become radicalized and is now spewing hateful indoctrination of division. Now she trolls Instagram targeting accounts and gossiping about them in her page. Such lofty intelligence.
the "backfire effect?" what is that?
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I will never trust Snopes for fact checking, they are as biased and bought out as they come.
human being ...
Why should their classmates weep. If you come here legally whats your problem!? Do you want to say something now?? LOOK AT WHAT NOT BUILDING A WALL HAS DONE TO US. BUILD THE DAMN WALL
Why didn't she mention ''Christianity'' when she talks about empathy? Everyone knows the verse in Luke 6:31 where Jesus says ''Do to others as you would have them do to you''.
Paullelujah why do you want to match everything with Christianity?
Paullelujah pretty sure she says that
She did say that, she just didn't explicitly mention "Christianity"
There's no need to mention a certain religion when talking about empathy. Empathy is a concept that applies to all of us, Christian or not.
Considering the empathy White Christians in the United States are showing Latinos, immigrants and asylum seekers.... I wouldn't mention 'Christianity' either.
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Can you really talk with anyone with opposing views??
Two things in history you can't really talk about religion and politics!!
Hate my neighbors wish they would disappear, NOT approachable at ALL
Lost me at do on to others how you would do to yourself!
If someone wants to be raped and rape. Is it ok for them to rape?
If someone wants to know the pain of been shot in the foot, is it ok for them to shoot you in the foot?
No this is stupid. It should be: Be considerate of others and treat them how they want to be treat.
Empathy is not about how you would feel in their position, it's understanding someone's life story it's about getting a deep understanding of how they think and how they would feel in that situation and being able to understand. You might not relate but you can still feel the pain of the situation based on their life and how they feel. You can feel what they would feel in that situation but because your life has been different in a similar situation you would feel different. So empathy is understanding others, not putting yourself in your shoes in that situation but putting yourself in there life and do your best to understand how you would of felt with that background in that situation. Empathy is deep emotional reasoning. It's not like awww that's cute, awww that's sad. No that's crap. Deep emotional reasoning is understanding feelings from many previous events and situations and actually feeling emotions, this allows people to care.
Those who want to be harmed by others have a psychological problem. They are called masochists. MOST people abide by and believe in the Golden rule. But not everyone... Understanding is the expression of the love we should have for one another. It is more than feelings. Feelings may change but, the deeper love of the person for wishing the goodof and for the others and doing good for them is what matters!