We as parents refused to categorize food! Our daughter learned from trying and tasting and watching us eat. Today at 18 she is one of the most diverse eaters in her peer group and she has taken up the fun of cooking and trying new foods and cooking for us and her friends regularly! She is such an intuitive eater I am sooooo happy that her relationship with food and her body is so normal and healthy. We had to fight our surroundings tooth and nail sometimes against making her eat foods or finish her plate. It was well worth every argument.
My parents were like this and I am eternally grateful to them for never having any issues around food and body image. One of the biggest gifts you can give to a child. Your daughter is luckier than most!
Yeah, my oldest niece was raised eating everything and the rule was that she had to try everything at least once and she is really good with food. Her younger brother is being raised vegetarian and he is such a picky eater
@@TheRealLifeTradWife It started when she was just a week old and had problems with nursing. My pediatrician said to relax, nothing has to be perfect as long as she is healthy and happy to nurse and bottle feed without any guilt. So we listened to her hunger cues and not a prefixed schedule. When she started eating solids we allowed her to try and pick what she liked. She preferred fruit and pre-made baby food over home cooked.For most of her childhood she ate about seven foods alternating - so when she liked something new something old fell away. She only ate certain veggies and fruits and meats for a long time. she never had to clean her plate or was denied a dessert when she did not finish her plate. She ate when she was hungry not when she had to. Even in school that worked well for her because she adjusted her bodies needs instead of us. She enjoyed fast foods and sweet treats when she wanted (this includes school meals) but quickly learned and adapted to what felt good. so she asked to bring home cooked meals to school instead of eating school meals and did so until she finished high school.She enjoyed chicken mc nuggets from Mc because of the kids meal and quit eating fast food all together when she was about 12 because it did not feel good to her body. Today she will go with her friends to fast food places and usually will only eat if she is hungry and only 1 specific item. She drinks water because it makes her body and mind feel good. for a while when she was a kid she would over feed on sweets and snacks because we did not lock them up but she quickly understood that her body was not a fan. She had digestive issues and rashes and so on. So she learned to listen to her body early on and regulated her sugar and snack intake by herself. She now eats most foods and cooks with na passion. she will try almost anything but still does not like seafood or fish and prefers white meat over read. We never force fed her and made the food she liked for her while still eating all of the foods we enjoyed. so we now all eat a variety of fruits and veggies - we eat vegan meals and vegetarian meals and meat. We cook what we feel like, go to the local markets and have shared our passion and joy for cooking and eating at all times. She has always been a healthy thriving child and teen. she has a healthy attitude towards all foods and also towards her weight and body. I think we did an awesome job by allowing all 3 of us to be on this journey together and not allowing the outside world to overrule our natural instincts.
I’m an educator for children 0-5 years. I love to play the “what food do you like” game. I’ll list a bunch of fruits and veggies but I’ll also say I like to eat donuts and chocolate. At meal times I’ll talk about why the foods they’re eating are good. Milk makes our bones strong, fruit has vitamins that help us to not get sick, etc. I’ve struggled with an ED for 15 years and I don’t want the kids in my care to go through that.
It’s wild, I followed Sarah a the height of my disordered eating and followed her content like a bible. I guess this video showed me how much progress I’ve made being able to see all the moralizing and fear mongering (in terms of additives and what not) that I used to listen to and take to heart and now take with a grain of salt :)
@Anastasia lol, in no way did I say or even imply that I blamed her for my disordered eating. Nor did I ever imply she was a doctor or "put a gun (really?) to my head to eat like her". I just said her content was something I watched a lot during that time in my life, and looking at her content now, I can see the ideas and rules that I attached myself to and can see them "above the water" so to speak. That's not blaming her. It's me talking about my progress in understanding my relationship with food over the past few years from the lens of me watching her videos then vs now. Like yikes, calm down. And to assume that people even have the privilege/ability/opportunity to "listen to their body", and that not being able to is then their fault is a really icky view to have understanding the culture we live in.
had the exact same experience!!! followed her workouts and recipes obsessively in a period of relapse and somehow deluded myself into thinking that my behaviors were healthy!! crazy to look at her content now and feel so unaffected
My mom has pushed low carb on all of her kids, I would diet and binge... always felt terrible. It wasn't until I found your videos that I realized carbs aren't bad. I'm finally building a healthy relationship food. Thank you!!
Low carb can be used for diabetics, and the obese, who struggle endlessly and still fail to loose weight and control blood glucose. Ketogenic diets also reduce fatty liver, sufficient to proceed with bariatric surgery after two weeks. But it shouldn’t be forced on those who don’t need it, namely, healthy growing children.
My mom pushed all kinds of diet culture stuff on me. My relationship with food was messed up for a long time. Finally, after 35 years I'm starting to get a better relationship with food.
@@nastjaangelova3671 My friend, you have relationships with people, not food. Sadly, people with whom we have relationships misuse food, and, it messes with our emotions, and our emotions can teach us associations with objects, just like we know to run and hide if someone waves a weapon at us. My mom has a completely messed up hodgepodge of dietary patterns, it’s like a twisted, love have relationship, or more frightening, trying to love a tree and then chopping it down because the leaves turned, and then crying because there are no new leaves in spring. It’s completely one-sided. The tree needs to be chopped down for fuel. Food must be eaten for nourishment. But my mom thinks differently, and it nearly killed me.
you have been helping me with my restrictive ED recovery as someone who also has PCOS and in a bigger body. whenever i am tempted to relapse, i remember the advice you’ve given about nourishing my body and respecting it - even if i don’t love it. i’ve made a lot of progress on hunger/fullness cues too! it’s definitely still hard because most ED recovery advice is for people who are underweight and/or don’t have a chronic physical illness as well contributing to body image/weight issues. one day at a time ❤
Love that you shouted out Kids Eat in Color!! Her work helped me SO much with how I approach food with my toddler. Between you two, I've really improved my relationship with food. THANK YOU
My eyes have opened up so much since finding your channel. Her convo with her child really stressed me! I don't have kids yet but I do worry about their future when it comes to their relationship with food. All I can do is try my best. All your knowledge is helping me feel confident that I can be there for them the right way when the time comes. Even if society still sucks!
@@Konaboy any time you actually cook something it is processed. Free some fruit? Processed. Make juice out of it? Processed. Ever heard of pemmican? A traditional Indigenous food? It's mad of dried meat, dried berries and animal fat. Those foods had to be gathered/hunted and processed to make pemmican.
@@soybean3423 Yeah...there is a difference between processing methods you might do at home and things like canola oil and high fructose corn syrup, where they're processing them with chemicals and changing the food at the molecular level. That's how hyperprocessed foods can end up causing more inflammation (and often the food's anti-inflammatory compounds (vit C etc) are destroyed or stripped away in the process)
Yeah, and if you ask them to pronounce all the chemicals found in an apple they wouldn't be able to pronounce it but hey, don't eat what you can't pronounce. Just proof that they are cherry picking what they label as "bad" but leave other products "unobserved". Apples have weird chemicals I can't pronounce and yet I'm still gonna eat them (or other fruits lol)
Always confused me. Does that mean if I am well versed in chemistry/biology and can pronounce every single ingredient, that the food will affect me differently? That is so weird and honestly I don't know why people don't think about "Maybe not everyone has the same knowledge as me and I'm not the gold standard of what is pronounceable"
i literally love you. Having recovered/recovering from an ED and being constantly at risk of falling into orthorexia in this world of diet culture and "clean eating" I SO appreciate that you do these videos and bring in scientific research to further your point
I now completely understand why my mom had bowls of candy at home and didn’t “restrict” us when we wanted candy or snacks. (i’m typing with caution here) She ALWAYS brought up the example of how restricting types of foods would lead us to be the kids at birthday parties who go ham on the cake and candy because they don’t have access at home 😅 i’m so grateful my parents always preached the message “everything can be fine in moderation” rather than “good and bad.”
My parents were the exact same. We were free to eat whenever we wanted. Full access to the pantry any time. Unfortunately I still devolved an ED. I think a lot of the time people blame their parents but really it’s because of society. I can remember being a little girl and people saying “you’re so tiny you need to eat a hamburger” instead of this making me feel bad i would love to hear it. Because I heard “you’re so skinny” and I loved it. I feed off of it. I would think hamburgers are bad stay away because that will make you fat since that’s what people are telling me to eat right? Now I’m 22 and most days only eat under 1,000 calories trying to maintain a body that’s unhealthy… some days I don’t until after 6 and then think well I had a good dinner so that should be enough right? But really it’s not. Eating disorders are devastating. Most of the time you don’t even know you have one. I still think I’m fat in places on my body and find myself not eating because of that. I’m 5’6 115 pounds.
Interesting! I have 2 toddlers and I’m working this idea of no restrictions with different types of food - just in moderation. I’m wondering how the “bowl of candy” and “everything can be fine in moderation” looked in your house. Care to share?
@@kyliehenline5022 sure! this is of course a nuanced topic and coming from my perspective as a child at the time. im not a professional in any way. i think the biggest thing is not having a scarcity or forbidden mentality around it. for example, my mom rotated holiday and seasonal candy by our door. she didnt really monitor the bowl (unless we left wrappers everywhere lol) but i think because it was so normal to me to see it there, i don’t think it ever made me excited to eat the whole thing. she loved to bake and involved us in making food. dessert was pretty common at our house - never a “one time only” thing, “bad”, or scarce. it was there to choose if we wanted it so i think i learned early on to decide if i even liked something, wanted less or more, etc. there were moments as a child she’d have to step in and tell me not to eat a whole box of lucky charms for dinner lol, but i never remember shame, just emphasis that i needed regular meals with meat and veg, not tons of sugar. i did struggle with restrictive eating patterns in high school/college due to serious ballet training, but i would say i have a good relationship with food and exercise now. she is/was not a food professional, but i’m grateful that her approach leaned toward general balance and moderation
Yes! My parents didn’t have many junk foods at home when I was growing up, and I ended up going crazy at my grandma’s home when she opened her pantry for me. I do better now, of course, but it was a lot of work on my part.
It really is hard to find a balance. Because most healthy weight loss videos would suggest people to not have junk food in their houses. But then kids view this as too restrictive, and junk food as a secret reward
@@MenchieExtrakt Agree! I am grateful that I grew up eating veggies, salads and fruits regularly. I didn’t have to learn that as an adult, but I wish that when I asked for candy I didn’t get a piece of whole wheat toast with honey. 🤣
Sameeeee, I would always crave sugary things that my mom would never buy, so when I had the opportunity to eat them I would binge. Things got pretty bad when I started working and having my own money lol. But now I can have a lot of candy or snacks at home and eat only a serving when I really crave them, because I know they're always available and there's no need to eat them like if I'll never see them again. The novelty wore off, I guess.
Just wanna give you some credit Abbey. I noticed you got some feedback on your “built bar-ads” on a previous video and I can tell (even though I wasn’t one of the people who said anything) that you took that feedback to heart and did something different. That’s amazing! I am not bothered by how you did it before at all but this is so appreciated!! Love your HCC and I implement it in my own life on a daily and it’s made my relationship with food so much better. You’re amazing. Thanks for everything you do! Lots of love from Sweden ❤
I saw this other mom on TikTok that helps her daughter by categorizing food in general as fuel but specified that there can be categorize such as Fun Fuel and Brain Fuel and tells then everything is good in moderation and everything is bad in excess. I really love this approach.
Sarah has literally been in a “project comeback” state for years! At some point you need to get on with your life and not use being in a “comeback” stage as an crutch for validating disordered eating. You don’t have to “comeback” to anything, it’s always rubbed me the wrong way, especially because she’s never not trying to come back to something.
Well said!! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 those Project Comebacks were so disordered, especially when she’s always thin, always working out, always eating nothing but healthy foods. But have one little bad meal and it triggers a whole comeback.
Oh man, project comeback…I remember that. I used to watch her but I trailed off at some point. Her ability to easily obtain ab definition annoyed me. Granted it’s dependent of genetics, body type, BMI, and exercise. Some people don’t easily achieve ab definition unless they are below a BMI of 20. She’s just more motivated and good for her. I wish her and her family the best.
My daughters have been saying they don't want oats anymore, so I tried making your proats recipe and the verdict is in: "Mom, it's the best oatmeal you've ever made!" Thank you! Doesn't hurt that I used the leftover egg yolks to make lemon curd! 😅
You have honestly helped me so much to rebuild a healthy relationship with food and the way I view myself. I no longer punish myself for “unhealthy” food choices because I know that overall I am making good choices in my diet and I have seen so much progress in my health/fitness journey by just listening to my body and eating what feels good. Thank you so much for your content, it means so much!
Food was weird for me for a long time, and really still is, I was raised poor so when we did have food we all binged on it, especially treats. It took me a long time once I was on my own to realize food was a guarantee and I didn’t need to be afraid of missing out.
Thank you for posting this! I used to love Sarah’s Day but as someone recovering from an ED, I found her content to be somewhat triggering. She seems to be so focused on “fixing” her body even though she just gave birth! She also has to make everything “healthy” and has unrealistic goals for the average person. I appreciate her as a human but no longer follow her.
Interesting. I don't get that at all about her post baby body. She is very comfortable in her skin relaxed with workouts etc. Now yrs ago she was all about fitness/physique goals but since becoming a mom her priorities have changed and she has grown alot
Whew! Yes I resonate with this comment! I’m still a work in progress but since watching Abbey it’s really helped shift my views a bit with my binge eating and guilt etc while actually losing weight right now.. it’s been a slower journey than the past but I’m hopeful this time my relationship with food is getting better! Thanks for sharing because I’m there with you! 💜💜💜
I used to be a huuuuge Sarah fan but as I got older I realized she is an absolute clown. She does not practice what she preaches. I regret discovering her when I was in my teens… it took me years to understand my own feelings about the things she spouts. She wholeheartedly takes credit for “transforming” her followers bodies through her (terrible) workout programs, and puts herself on a pedestal as a self-proclaimed Health Princess. All the while, she turns a blind eye and deletes thousands of valid, constructive comments from people expressing they’ve been hurt by her content. She is so narrow minded that she dismisses any and all criticism as hate. People asking her if she has certification to be releasing workout and nutrition advice (she does not) get deleted and blocked from her page. Sarah benefits enormously from the echo chamber she has carefully curated online - there is no room for critical thinking, reconsideration, or EDUCATION on any of her social media. I understand the need to be professional and level-headed with this video so I applaud you for that. Very validating video and finally… some actual SCIENCE.
Ever since she silenced people with recovering EDs calling her out on her triggering marketing tactics I’ve avoided her content like the black plague. I don’t even have an ED and I was very upset.
@@annakrahn2784 it was a little bizarre but maybe she felt she had to be an example online. Idk. 🤷🏾♀️ I just know I’m not taking her lead after her recent lawsuit
@@nanekatharina3911 same yes, kinda no idea what's going on in her life because like all I ever see from her is: ommmmmg kurt is gone again and I need to handle my 849565 businesses myself
@@nanekatharina3911 she went to sell a new workout/diet program earlier this year, but the Reel/TikTok she made introducing the program was essentially her describing how she used to be obsessed with weight loss (over exercising and strict food rules - basically orthorexia) and now she has learned how to workout and eat in a way that still reaches her goals. But then she ended it by saying people should buy this program that was basically a prescription for losing weight and “building strength” through exercise and dieting suggestions. Essentially marketing a body recomposition program towards people with EDs and body image issues. Well she got a TON of backlash and was deleting people’s comments on her accounts. People emailed her. Some people locally caught wind of this and some sort of organization sued her/her ebook that she was selling. I’m blanking on who sued her but “What Mia Did Next” has a mini TH-cam series about it cause she works with people with EDs in Australia. Long story short, Sarah ended up winning the case so she didn’t feel like she needed to fix anything. And she never addressed it. Never apologized. Never took the content down. She just deleted the negative comments and acted like it doesn’t matter. Added: the program was called “Sweat it Limitless” and it was released in January so peak “weight loss goals” season 😒
Lovely and educational as always ❤️ I'm going to watch that " how to raise a health intuitive eater" video for my 23 years old self🥰 I'm still trying to get out of that toxic mindset, your videos are always helpful . Thank you Abbey ❤️
Her 3 year old said in a recent vlog “I’m so hungry I’m gonna get chunky”. It was heartbreaking. He’s 3!! But is concerned about becoming chunky. And it’s clear to see where he got it. There are videos online of Sarah calling herself exactly this word - ‘chunky’ - especially about her body when she thought she was ‘unhealthy’. It’s so sad the impact she’s having on that child. He tends to go crazy when his Dad takes him out and he can enjoy real kid food. Just so sad all around.
This is such an informative video. I love Sarah’s day and have followed her for years. Sometimes I feel like her claims contradict themselves and it’s hard to actually tell the message she’s trying to send. In turn, this makes it hard to know if i should or shouldn’t be following her. thank you for providing such a great analysis.
My mom was 104 lbs when she got pregnant with me in 1984 the doctor told her to gain weight and suggested eating burgers and milkshakes lol she gained over 30 lbs and had a very healthy baby me ☺️ burgers and shakes can be a healthy choice in some circumstances. Ppl often demonize so many foods that aren’t inherently unhealthy. Thank you for continuing to educate us!
Yup! I was just thinking today about how ice cream can help me. Sometimes my appetite is so low, I can't get myself to eat anything but ice cream. And after a few bites of ice cream, my appetite starts to wake up a bit, and I can get myself to eat some other, more nutrient-rich food. The ice cream also gives some of the immediate energy I need to prepare other food-important if I've gone more hours than I should have between meals! When you've struggled to eat enough food, you realize the value of any source of calories and nutrition.
I'm really glad you decided to have another look at Sarah's Day. I was pretty disappointed a few years ago when you said that she was a good food role model, and I was also quite disappointed when people came to the comments to express concern and it took so long to do a follow up video. However, I'm still glad one finally happened that finally pointed out her disordered food "advice"
What Mia Did Next did a fantastic video on Sarah’s Day and a workout program she did. Mia always has good tales but if anyone was interested in an advocacy perspective it’s worthwhile
I’m in highschool and I nanny after school about 15 hours a week for a family and I have run into problems with their snacks. Their dad is super strict on them eating sweets and using language like ‘bad food’ and ‘junk.’ However, I was extremely sick all of my middle school years with an eating disorder- one that nearly killed me countless times- so while I will abide by his rules, I absolutely refuse to use moralizing language around food with my kids. They also aren’t at the age that they really understand nutrition in terms of feeling your best both physically and emotionally, so I had to get creative. My rule is that I have to approve the snacks but they can each as much as they want because kids are so good at listening to their body and eating intuitively. I found something very nutritionally dense that they love- they are obsessed with the smoothie I make, that I load up with Greek yogurt and milk and all different kinds of fruit (though they think I’m lying and put ice cream which makes me laugh so hard every time they try to argue with me about it). They tend to gravitate towards candy and foods with mostly added simple sugars (probably because of the forbidden aspect too), so my rule is that for every sweet snack you need a salty snack to balance your tummy. I make sure they know that too much of a ‘healthy’ thing can be bad for the body (like water intoxication or eating so many carrots that you turn orange with vitamin a toxicity- though in less words obviously) and eating too little of stuff you love is bad for the soul. It’s been a good system so far where I make sure they focus on feeling good in all areas:)
Seriously love this. You're being respectful to both the kids and their parents. As someone who also ended up hospitalized with an Ed multiple times, we know that we wouldn't binge on these "bad" foods had we not restricted them so much to begin with. Kids aren't going to gorge themselves for fun, they just want the foods they want
This is why I love yoga so much! I do it almost every day, and sometimes it's just a 10 minute stretch if that's all I'm feeling that day! Yoga and my skincare routine are my daily self care that always make me feel better 😊
I’m so happy a professional has addressed that ‘healthy and not so healthy’ game she was playing. I commented on the video and got an aggressive response from Sarah herself. She’s not very open to constructive criticism 😞
I literally check youtube every day before i eat my pre bed snack, and i always watch your newest vid while eating it, it sort of became a ritual and it doesn’t feel the same without your vids running😂
Lol. When I was a kid my mom convinced me; if I ate sugar I would get diabetes and a my foot would get chopped off. As a result, I gained 30 lbs when I moved out of the house.
@@Konaboy Yes she was wrong. Don't be ridiculous. Sugar does not directly cause diabetes. And everyone with diabetes doesn't have foot issues. You do your research.
i followed her for many of her early years on youtube so when i saw your initial videos on her i was pretty shocked that they were positive. glad to see this update from you!
Cannot agree more with everything you said. Ever since I started relaxing myself around foods and started listening to my hunger cues I've had more energy, less bloating and food anxiety, and I don't binge on the foods I was told to restrict from my everyday diet, I actually enjoy them until I've had enough. Great video 🙌👏
Thank you! This is awesome! My parents didn't allow me to eat Ice Cream from the age of 6 because they thought I was getting "too fat". It caused me to go into the freezer and shame binge eat at a young age. After years of diet and restriction your videos are helping me to create the neutrality of food.
as a preschool teacher, we practice family dining. we don't restrict what the child wants to eat. if they want more fruit instead of veg, go ahead. if they want all bread, ok. eventually the children will try everything on their plate. we focus on teaching them what color the food is, and categorize fruit, veg or protein (for the older ones). and of course we sing songs about food in the process (eeples and baneenees anyone?)
Sweets were on a pedestal for me growing up. We also never had it at home. So I went craxy on vacation or parties. My daughter is 3. We always have chips, candy, etc around and treat it like another food. It SHOCKS me and others when she doesn’t finish her donut, or candy, etc and just says she’s full. Or she will say “no thank you” when offered a treat. I love that me really trying to treat all foods the same is really paying off. It’s healing myself too since I still puts those on pedestals for myself.
I really like what you said about encouraging children with what food can do for the body. I work with toddlers and I tell them that what they're eating gives them energy for the rest of the day, so they can run outside and have fun, and that part of the video reminded me of that. Great video!
I like your point about 80/20. When I was struggling with orthorexia-like behaviours I would get so stressed and try to do all this crazy math to figure out the “perfect” exact 80/20 division of meals which made me obsess way too much. No more food rules over here.
One of the things I have started incorporating into my week is going on a walk. I am the first one home so I have scheduled time for it. I like it because it gets me outside and I am spending time with myself
I love that you educate people. You have had such a positive influence towards my health. I had seen this episode and it did not sit well, as we don’t label foods. We have a bit of everything, everyday. I also love that you call out fear mongering.
i loved the idea of a HCC at the beggining of the video! Sometimes i struggle with imagination for balanced snacks, i think it would be amazing if you did dthis at the start of every video!
Hi Abbey, thank-you for posting this video! I have been following Sarah’s Day for literally years, through the height of my own issues with food/excessive exercise and then on the flip side of trying to repair that relationship. I have followed you for ages and ages too and I have learned so much about food and you have helped me to see things for what they are - sometimes too extreme, and also how our own language can affect our relationship with food and our bodies. I unfollowed Sarah a while ago because I found her content super triggering for me personally. I really appreciate you making all this content over the years!!! Thank-you!!!
Thank you for this and thank you for addressing it! She likes to think she's "relatable" as a mum but she is far from it. Some mamas don't have the time to do what she does (making home cooked meals, going to the gym/pilates class quite a few times a week, etc) and she posted not too long ago it was the first night she was alone with both boys. Meaning the past times she's complained, she's always had help. A lot of mums don't have the support she does. There's also the unrealistic fixing her body post partum....she shared an insta vs reality of her body and there was literally no difference...abs and then abs again. Which is not relatable to most mums and our post partum bodies. And then there's her unhealthy relationship with food that Fox seems to be picking up. Im shocked but also not shocked that she played healthy vs unhealthy foods with him. And that's on camera, so we can only imagine what she says off camera.
Just a little background info to your claim on seed oils, as a professional it’s always great to do your research. Seed oils are not, not recommended by the ‘wellness’ community because of their high omega 6s as a cause of inflammation, it is because of the heating process that is undergone in order to extract oil from these types of plants, foods etc. Due to the extreme heat it turns these types of oils carcinogenic, as you can imagine because this is in most of our foods, we consume it all day long, can you imagine our bodies full of these types of oils and then placed under the sun, we are basically walking vegetable oils and what shines down on us, the sun, cooking those carcinogenic oils within our bodies. + yes, they are high inflammation foods.
u have helped me so much. i am pretty sure i have arfid so as a kid meal times were not great for me, and honestly sometimes they still aren’t. im irrationally picky about certain foods and sometimes i just cant find anything i want to eat, but ur videos have taught me ways to get the nutrients i need in realistic ways. i get so much inspiration for snacks and ways to have a balanced diet without stressing over each individual meal. it’s so freeing to have a comfortable relationship with food and it actually makes me more eager to try new things. idk if u will see this, but i just wanted to say thank u so much.
Thank you for discussing food and children, as a mum I always stress out how to give some balanced nutrition to my son, but also not try to paint one food good and one food bad. Sometimes it is so hard to get children eat smth more grounded than sweets, so I really like your method from previous videos how you are giving your sons a plate with options, and they choose, that has worked for my son too. :)
I started following Sarah’s Day about 5 years ago when I was on my own fitness journey. At first I found her motivating but I had to stop because she was so disordered and orthorexic it was affecting my own relationship with food and causing me to overthink what I was eating the way she does. The final straw was when her birthday came around and instead of just having some cake she had to make herself a “healthy” cake with dates and other fruits and it was like…girl it’s your birthday. One slice of cake will not undo all your work. I just…saw it as I watched. Don’t need to be an expert to see her content is very problematic.
Imagine some grown adult on TH-cam judging other woman’s lifestyle choices on eating that has nothing to do with them and profiting off talking about them
That’s why I love Ellyn Satter. Her books are amazing!. The division of responsibility is the best thing! It totally works and you don’t have all this concerns about food! Moreover you don’t create food struggles!!!. I totally recommend her. It’s kind of teach your kid to eat intuitively, the best!
I, have to say for someone like myself... With a sensitive stomach/IBS. Sunflower oil reeks havoc on my stomach. Sunflower lecithin is fine though. So, I, had to stop drinking my oat milk and instead have lactose free milk! Also, I've, realised most oils hurt my stomach if , I, have a bit too much.
Here’s a great idea! Do not discuss food with children. Serve meat, potatoes, vegetables, milk and fruit every meal every day. Some days that’s going to be carrot bran muffins for breakfast, grilled cheese for lunch and hotdogs for dinner, but there would still be milk, fruit, and vegetables at each meal. Yesterday, my Big grand baby had a half a banana, Goldfish, veggie straws, and cheese chunks for lunch. Dinner was a microwave rice bowl, with chopped egg, and milk. You do what you can. But there is no one going to tell my grand babies that sugar cookies are bad. We just don’t serve them very often, in fact, I bring them, and there are a few for the next few days. And no one lets the children choose what to eat, or when to eat, or how to eat. You are served three meals and two snacks every day as a child. Your job is to play and learn, not worry about what to eat, so we don’t go into detail about it. My mom definitely failed at teaching good nutrition, and eating issues are our heritage, so I’m fighting to change that for my children and grandchildren.
I agree! My parents never discussed food. They put food in front of us and we all ate together. That includes main meals but also snacks. Growing up in Germany, it was very common for example to have cookies/cake/coffee for afternoon tea. It's part of a balanced diet. My mum knows a bit about nutrition so she'd cook healthy meals otherwise (well what was considered healthy back in the 90s/00s in terms of meat, dairy and fruit/veggies)
Your job is to play and learn, not worry about what to eat -- YES! Besides the diet worries, I just don't get the whole thing about parents having to go out of their way to meet their kids' picky food desires for fears that they won't eat. My parents just cooked decent meals and you ate it or you didn't. No negotiating or special accommodations. My sister told me once when I bought pizza to share with her family that her 7 year old son would not eat pizza without pepperoni. I was like what the hell. We were not raised that way.
@@BC-np8cb yes totally 😂 I was a nanny for a while, I would never give kids a special dinner. They ate what was on the plate. Sometimes they didn't want it so I said fine, don't eat it but there's nothing else. I would leave their plate on the bench and sure enough they would always come back later, hungry and willing to eat their food.
@@BC-np8cb I think that expecting kids to eat what adults eat only works when the adults are willing to eat food that isn’t overly spicy or otherwise foreign to kids. Their tastebuds are more sensitive than ours and I am not willing to make Thai food at baby spice levels. What we have done is given kids the same building blocks of food as the adults but not always cooked the same way. So their version of dinner would include the chicken, veg and rice, but not the chilis, garlic and lemongrass. Or the sauce is on the side. The same with foods like chili-there is no reason to expect that a child is going to like the same foods that an adult likes, but there are ways to keep the kitchen from becoming a diner or kids to exist on chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese.
As a fellow Australian, it is actually in the early childhood curriculum to talk to children about the difference between ‘healthy and unhealthy foods’! Might be something for you to consider.
I eat whatever I want whenever I want it because if I try to force myself not to eat a given food I always end up WANTING IT UNTIL I GIVE IN! And at that point normally I kinda eat waaaaaaaaay to much of it...I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!!
growing up with "older than average" parents, there was always a really heavy emphasis on diet foods. family dinners gradually crossed over into "healthy versions" of things that we used to enjoy, and while we (the kids) weren't really pressured into eating that way in our free time, we weren't exactly supplied with many other kinds of food and the moralizing conversations around food would have been pretty hard not to internalize. we're both naturally on the thinner side, so it very easily led to us developing disordered eating habits that impacted our health well into adulthood
The only "detox plan" I took that actually made me feel better is the one that got diet culture and wellness culture BS out of my mind. It made me feel more confident and way less anxious around my food choices, accept my post 3 pregnancies and 4 years of breastfeeding body. This detox actually got me out of ED (cycling between orthorexia and binge eating disorder) and really got me to drop a few pound and stabilize in the most satisfying way at an acceptable setpoint.
So what you're telling me is that I can stop my search for a yummy, healthy coffee creamer and just drink the delish international delight and I probably won't die, yeah?
Sarah’s day taught me so many things that contributed to my eating disorder starting in 2016. I’m one of MANY. It’s horrible how many eating disorders she’s contributes to. No idea how she sleeps at night.
Let’s not forget about sarahs video of “healing my cervical dysplasia naturally” where she claimed to heal herself with just her diet… very harmful rhetoric imo
I completely agree. I unfollowed her after that video. It was extremely harmful and there is absolutely no evidence backing up her claims. This took her from semi-problematic to toxic in my eyes…I don’t feel like enough people talk about it, or at least, I could never find discussion about it in her comments! I wonder why 🙄
I think she was hiding the crazy pretty well until then…and then when she named her son Fox Ocean after a dream she had that she said meant the name was his destiny…and posted an extremely graphic birth video??? I was like…yeah I’m out 😂
Yes- thanks for mentioning this. The wellness industry in Australia needs to be better regulated. Her video making these claims should be pulled from the internet
My first baby is due in November and I want to be a great role model. that means for me, that we are cooking fresh meals at home, always have some fruit and veggies on hand... trink mostly water. and when we go out for dinner, I love to order a balanced meal for the kids or share my meal with them... I don't like the typical kids menus, which are often shaghetti, fried meat or pancakes. When their dad eats stuff like that, they can try it too. Thats totally fine with me, but a home, most of the days will be nutritious. (yes, of course there will be Pizza nights sometimes...) It makes me sad, when I see kids just eating sweets and crisps and pizza and fries... and when they get a healthy meal, even if its just pasta bolognese, they won't eat it and make a big drama as if its poison. or they just eat the pasta without the sauce and the veggies... they don't even try fruit they dont know.
I relate to your sentiments. But as a mum of two I can tell you: it always goes different then you expect. Try to approach it with kindness and patience and don’t be hard on yourself if it goes different! Studies have shown that some kids are naturally good eaters and others are not, and you don’t know what you will get. X
When I was a kid my parents never allowed me to have any sort of fast foods. When I went to colleague I had tons of it, while “unsupervised” ahah Always felt so guilty about, until I developed a healthier relationship with food
Thsnkyou for this video ! I am wanting to loose weight but trying not to see it that way and I stead moving my body more offten in a way that serves me well and choose more nutrient dense food and put more thought in to whst I eat. My twins are 25 months old now and there's no way I could still have time to achieve all that !
Oh a left turn from diets: I like the idea of not working out at all being honouring to your body. I have joint issues and sometimes what I need is to sit my rear end down
You are absolutely fabulous. What stores do you do your grocery shopping at? Do you stock up on water? Can you possibly do more in store grocery shopping videos? It would be awesome if you could show how you do your full shopping trip
I just started watching your videos and love them!! In this one, you talked about diet culture around kids... I grew up with a mother who didn't know how to properly teach us about nutrition. Now I'm almost 30 and I still have a bad perception of some food, any tips on how to start changing our old habits of "naming" or categorizing food?! Thank you!!! :)
I used to be a fan of Sarah but once I started actual wellness recovery (therapy, counseling groups, PT, etc.) I learned that I was taking harmful advice from an unqualified racist. I fill my social media with qualified professionals, get advice from science backed care providers. Which is an incredible a privilege some don’t have. I encourage anybody looking for fitness or nutrition guidance or advice, please be critical and keep high expectations.
I click so fast anytime I see you've uploaded. As a future nutrition and dietetics student, these videos are greatly appreciated. I love your take on food and life in general. Stay true to you as always. I also appreciate the way u implemented the ad.
taking care of yourself Abbeys example: 3 main meals a day, having a shower, moving your body and go to sleep on time. Even without kids I find it hard to do that for myself.
Question: I talk to my kids about choosing their snacks for school that will nourish their bodies for learning . I buy or make dried fruit, nuts, protein bars, dried cheese and let them pick their own combos that contain fiber, fat, and protein. I also really try to not demonize foods or candy, but I will bring similar foods for my kids that I know they LOVE and offer those to them instead. For example, last night after soccer another parent was in charge of bringing snack. The “snack” was gushers and fruit roll ups. I had brought my son’s favorite real fruit juice gummy candies with no added sugar and I offered that he could have the gummy‘s instead of the gushers and roll up. I left the choice totally up to him and he chose the gummy‘s. I’m just interested to get other peoples takes on this approach, especiallyAbby’s if possible, no hate please. He did ask why I was offering the trade and I said while both of these are very similar candies the ones we buy are made with actual fruit juice instead of just condensed sugar water with fake flavors and colors.
You’re still playing a watered down version of good vs bad food. Everything is fine in moderation, instead of you suggesting the switch you should let him take the initiative. If he wants to switch he’ll ask and if he doesn’t then that’s fine too and don’t make any comments on it. Like you could let him know prior to the game that you have xyz available if he doesn’t want the snacks the other parents have brought for afterwards but then just leave it at. It’s important he doesn’t feel pressured to choosing the “good” option to please you.
@@eleanormcgowan211 Everything you said makes complete sense, especially in the context of actual food. What I do keep struggling with though is that gushers and Gatorade are not even food. Even if it was sheet cake with gobs of butter cream frosting vs a bowl of his favorite fruit… I would have no problem mentioning that I have his favorite fruit if he wants it, but he can let me know and then leave it 100% in his court. (Honestly I wouldn’t even make that offer because I’m choosing some cake too. Lol) BUT, the chemicals and corn syrup concoctions are where I am truly lost because they are everywhere in school and sports. Maybe I will still try this even with the junk 🤢
I think it is funny how I can't see any negative comments on your video after scrolling for a few minutes. I can't believe you are discouraging people from staying away from food additives. I think you need to understand auto immune issues (which half of America and Australia unknowingly have.) These people's bodies cannot tolerate food additives or vegetable oils. I think you should stop telling people they are benign. I find it disturbing that you are attacking Sarah for wanting to eat cleaner. She is on the right track.
Abbey, you should definitely review Bari Weis's recent podcast episode, Eating Ourselves to Death with Dr. Casey Means. She rails against seed oils and other processed foods. It was information overload and made me question everything.
I would love to see you do tests on a variety of different people who drink oat milk, and their blood sugar levels directly before and after. Then see if you still advocate for it...
I tend to talk about food in terms of function. If my kid says they want something I say “what’s your body feeling right now and what are you thinking?” If my kid says “I’m really hungry and I think I want chips.” I might say “you know, chips are crunchy and salty and munchy, but they’re not so good at making you not hungry. Why don’t we try to find some protein and fiber first and then see how you feel? Let’s save the chips for when your mouth just wants some fun but you aren’t trying to fix a hungry problem.” I don’t to now if it’s intuitive eating approved. It is how I wish someone had talked about food to me. Trying to get full on chips is just a recipe for a stomach ache. And “healthy” foods were always represented to me as things naughty fat people have to eat instead of what they could do really well for me.
I really like this approach! We have been doing "foods that help you grow" and "foods that are fun", which after watching this video might not actually be a good way to talk about food, but I think your method of specifically trying to solve the problem at hand is a better way to communicate.
I think it's more appropriate to serve a few chips along side something more filling rather than telling them they can't have them now because it won't make them full enough. Part of intuitive eating is honering your cravings. Also maybe they're only a little hungry and chips would be enough. You don't really know unless you are in your child's body.
@@strawbunny93 they are welcome to chips after if they still want them. I just try to address one sensation at a time so they can tell the difference. Munchies and hunger can co-exist. We just deal with the stronger need/ craving first. I have ADHD. So, likely, do my kids. My body connection is crap. That’s what I learned from intuitive eating. I needed outside help to even know what I was feeling, like separating cravings and eating different planned kinds of meals to see how I felt afterward. When I tried to eat what I thought I craved I always ended up sick and that never adjusted on its own. That’s where intuitive eating breaks down a lot imho-this massive mistaken assumption that learning to hear your body looks the same for everyone or that separating emotional cravings from physical ones will naturally happen without further guidance than your own mind. Not in my experience. And I don’t think the extra frameworks will hurt them even if they turn out not to be like me. I can’t even tell when I have to pee a lot of the time until all of a sudden I realize that if I sneeze I’m done for. I was ONLY honoring emotional hunger for years because it was almost impossible for me to pick up on physical cues. IE did not work for me until I started throwing out IE rules to do what I needed for me. No. You don’t have to eat the chips at the same time any more than you have to do anything in IE. It’s not a diet. Remember?
We as parents refused to categorize food! Our daughter learned from trying and tasting and watching us eat. Today at 18 she is one of the most diverse eaters in her peer group and she has taken up the fun of cooking and trying new foods and cooking for us and her friends regularly! She is such an intuitive eater I am sooooo happy that her relationship with food and her body is so normal and healthy. We had to fight our surroundings tooth and nail sometimes against making her eat foods or finish her plate. It was well worth every argument.
Can you be specific as to what you did when she was younger developing these habits? Sincerely, young mom ❤️
My parents were like this and I am eternally grateful to them for never having any issues around food and body image. One of the biggest gifts you can give to a child. Your daughter is luckier than most!
I would love techniques too please :p😊
Yeah, my oldest niece was raised eating everything and the rule was that she had to try everything at least once and she is really good with food. Her younger brother is being raised vegetarian and he is such a picky eater
@@TheRealLifeTradWife It started when she was just a week old and had problems with nursing. My pediatrician said to relax, nothing has to be perfect as long as she is healthy and happy to nurse and bottle feed without any guilt. So we listened to her hunger cues and not a prefixed schedule. When she started eating solids we allowed her to try and pick what she liked. She preferred fruit and pre-made baby food over home cooked.For most of her childhood she ate about seven foods alternating - so when she liked something new something old fell away. She only ate certain veggies and fruits and meats for a long time. she never had to clean her plate or was denied a dessert when she did not finish her plate. She ate when she was hungry not when she had to. Even in school that worked well for her because she adjusted her bodies needs instead of us. She enjoyed fast foods and sweet treats when she wanted (this includes school meals) but quickly learned and adapted to what felt good. so she asked to bring home cooked meals to school instead of eating school meals and did so until she finished high school.She enjoyed chicken mc nuggets from Mc because of the kids meal and quit eating fast food all together when she was about 12 because it did not feel good to her body. Today she will go with her friends to fast food places and usually will only eat if she is hungry and only 1 specific item. She drinks water because it makes her body and mind feel good. for a while when she was a kid she would over feed on sweets and snacks because we did not lock them up but she quickly understood that her body was not a fan. She had digestive issues and rashes and so on. So she learned to listen to her body early on and regulated her sugar and snack intake by herself. She now eats most foods and cooks with na passion. she will try almost anything but still does not like seafood or fish and prefers white meat over read. We never force fed her and made the food she liked for her while still eating all of the foods we enjoyed. so we now all eat a variety of fruits and veggies - we eat vegan meals and vegetarian meals and meat. We cook what we feel like, go to the local markets and have shared our passion and joy for cooking and eating at all times. She has always been a healthy thriving child and teen. she has a healthy attitude towards all foods and also towards her weight and body. I think we did an awesome job by allowing all 3 of us to be on this journey together and not allowing the outside world to overrule our natural instincts.
I’m an educator for children 0-5 years. I love to play the “what food do you like” game. I’ll list a bunch of fruits and veggies but I’ll also say I like to eat donuts and chocolate. At meal times I’ll talk about why the foods they’re eating are good. Milk makes our bones strong, fruit has vitamins that help us to not get sick, etc. I’ve struggled with an ED for 15 years and I don’t want the kids in my care to go through that.
this makes me so happy 💗 keep it up
Giving your kids cows milk/dairy is cruel and unnecessary
It’s wild, I followed Sarah a the height of my disordered eating and followed her content like a bible. I guess this video showed me how much progress I’ve made being able to see all the moralizing and fear mongering (in terms of additives and what not) that I used to listen to and take to heart and now take with a grain of salt :)
@Anastasia lol, in no way did I say or even imply that I blamed her for my disordered eating. Nor did I ever imply she was a doctor or "put a gun (really?) to my head to eat like her". I just said her content was something I watched a lot during that time in my life, and looking at her content now, I can see the ideas and rules that I attached myself to and can see them "above the water" so to speak. That's not blaming her. It's me talking about my progress in understanding my relationship with food over the past few years from the lens of me watching her videos then vs now. Like yikes, calm down. And to assume that people even have the privilege/ability/opportunity to "listen to their body", and that not being able to is then their fault is a really icky view to have understanding the culture we live in.
had the exact same experience!!! followed her workouts and recipes obsessively in a period of relapse and somehow deluded myself into thinking that my behaviors were healthy!! crazy to look at her content now and feel so unaffected
My mom has pushed low carb on all of her kids, I would diet and binge... always felt terrible. It wasn't until I found your videos that I realized carbs aren't bad. I'm finally building a healthy relationship food. Thank you!!
Low carb can be used for diabetics, and the obese, who struggle endlessly and still fail to loose weight and control blood glucose. Ketogenic diets also reduce fatty liver, sufficient to proceed with bariatric surgery after two weeks. But it shouldn’t be forced on those who don’t need it, namely, healthy growing children.
My mom pushed all kinds of diet culture stuff on me. My relationship with food was messed up for a long time. Finally, after 35 years I'm starting to get a better relationship with food.
@@heatherknits124 as you said, it's only encouraged in specific situations. Everyone else doesn't need it.
@@nastjaangelova3671 My friend, you have relationships with people, not food. Sadly, people with whom we have relationships misuse food, and, it messes with our emotions, and our emotions can teach us associations with objects, just like we know to run and hide if someone waves a weapon at us. My mom has a completely messed up hodgepodge of dietary patterns, it’s like a twisted, love have relationship, or more frightening, trying to love a tree and then chopping it down because the leaves turned, and then crying because there are no new leaves in spring. It’s completely one-sided. The tree needs to be chopped down for fuel. Food must be eaten for nourishment. But my mom thinks differently, and it nearly killed me.
@@heatherknits124 you're just knit picking words for some reason. Obviously being influenced at a young age has psychological impacts on you.
you have been helping me with my restrictive ED recovery as someone who also has PCOS and in a bigger body. whenever i am tempted to relapse, i remember the advice you’ve given about nourishing my body and respecting it - even if i don’t love it. i’ve made a lot of progress on hunger/fullness cues too! it’s definitely still hard because most ED recovery advice is for people who are underweight and/or don’t have a chronic physical illness as well contributing to body image/weight issues. one day at a time ❤
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thank you abbey!
Love that you shouted out Kids Eat in Color!! Her work helped me SO much with how I approach food with my toddler. Between you two, I've really improved my relationship with food. THANK YOU
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My eyes have opened up so much since finding your channel. Her convo with her child really stressed me! I don't have kids yet but I do worry about their future when it comes to their relationship with food. All I can do is try my best. All your knowledge is helping me feel confident that I can be there for them the right way when the time comes. Even if society still sucks!
THANK YOU for the clear explanation that "processed" does not necessarily mean "bad."
Your kidding me, do your research on this! Just cause she said it doesn’t make it a fact. Do your research. Dr Ekberg
@@Konaboy any time you actually cook something it is processed. Free some fruit? Processed. Make juice out of it? Processed. Ever heard of pemmican? A traditional Indigenous food? It's mad of dried meat, dried berries and animal fat. Those foods had to be gathered/hunted and processed to make pemmican.
@@nanettemorton4054 I think when people say 'avoid processed foods' they mean hyperprocessed.
@@soybean3423 Yeah...there is a difference between processing methods you might do at home and things like canola oil and high fructose corn syrup, where they're processing them with chemicals and changing the food at the molecular level. That's how hyperprocessed foods can end up causing more inflammation (and often the food's anti-inflammatory compounds (vit C etc) are destroyed or stripped away in the process)
ultra processed is the problem
I like how the saying “don’t buy any food you can’t pronounce the ingredients of” falls right in line with “fear that which you do not know”
Yeah, and if you ask them to pronounce all the chemicals found in an apple they wouldn't be able to pronounce it but hey, don't eat what you can't pronounce. Just proof that they are cherry picking what they label as "bad" but leave other products "unobserved". Apples have weird chemicals I can't pronounce and yet I'm still gonna eat them (or other fruits lol)
Always confused me. Does that mean if I am well versed in chemistry/biology and can pronounce every single ingredient, that the food will affect me differently? That is so weird and honestly I don't know why people don't think about "Maybe not everyone has the same knowledge as me and I'm not the gold standard of what is pronounceable"
i literally love you. Having recovered/recovering from an ED and being constantly at risk of falling into orthorexia in this world of diet culture and "clean eating" I SO appreciate that you do these videos and bring in scientific research to further your point
I now completely understand why my mom had bowls of candy at home and didn’t “restrict” us when we wanted candy or snacks. (i’m typing with caution here) She ALWAYS brought up the example of how restricting types of foods would lead us to be the kids at birthday parties who go ham on the cake and candy because they don’t have access at home 😅 i’m so grateful my parents always preached the message “everything can be fine in moderation” rather than “good and bad.”
My parents were the exact same. We were free to eat whenever we wanted. Full access to the pantry any time. Unfortunately I still devolved an ED. I think a lot of the time people blame their parents but really it’s because of society. I can remember being a little girl and people saying “you’re so tiny you need to eat a hamburger” instead of this making me feel bad i would love to hear it. Because I heard “you’re so skinny” and I loved it. I feed off of it. I would think hamburgers are bad stay away because that will make you fat since that’s what people are telling me to eat right? Now I’m 22 and most days only eat under 1,000 calories trying to maintain a body that’s unhealthy… some days I don’t until after 6 and then think well I had a good dinner so that should be enough right? But really it’s not. Eating disorders are devastating. Most of the time you don’t even know you have one. I still think I’m fat in places on my body and find myself not eating because of that. I’m 5’6 115 pounds.
Interesting! I have 2 toddlers and I’m working this idea of no restrictions with different types of food - just in moderation. I’m wondering how the “bowl of candy” and “everything can be fine in moderation” looked in your house. Care to share?
@@kyliehenline5022 sure! this is of course a nuanced topic and coming from my perspective as a child at the time. im not a professional in any way. i think the biggest thing is not having a scarcity or forbidden mentality around it. for example, my mom rotated holiday and seasonal candy by our door. she didnt really monitor the bowl (unless we left wrappers everywhere lol) but i think because it was so normal to me to see it there, i don’t think it ever made me excited to eat the whole thing. she loved to bake and involved us in making food. dessert was pretty common at our house - never a “one time only” thing, “bad”, or scarce. it was there to choose if we wanted it so i think i learned early on to decide if i even liked something, wanted less or more, etc. there were moments as a child she’d have to step in and tell me not to eat a whole box of lucky charms for dinner lol, but i never remember shame, just emphasis that i needed regular meals with meat and veg, not tons of sugar. i did struggle with restrictive eating patterns in high school/college due to serious ballet training, but i would say i have a good relationship with food and exercise now. she is/was not a food professional, but i’m grateful that her approach leaned toward general balance and moderation
Yes! My parents didn’t have many junk foods at home when I was growing up, and I ended up going crazy at my grandma’s home when she opened her pantry for me. I do better now, of course, but it was a lot of work on my part.
It really is hard to find a balance. Because most healthy weight loss videos would suggest people to not have junk food in their houses. But then kids view this as too restrictive, and junk food as a secret reward
@@MenchieExtrakt Agree! I am grateful that I grew up eating veggies, salads and fruits regularly. I didn’t have to learn that as an adult, but I wish that when I asked for candy I didn’t get a piece of whole wheat toast with honey. 🤣
Self control
Sameeeee, I would always crave sugary things that my mom would never buy, so when I had the opportunity to eat them I would binge. Things got pretty bad when I started working and having my own money lol. But now I can have a lot of candy or snacks at home and eat only a serving when I really crave them, because I know they're always available and there's no need to eat them like if I'll never see them again. The novelty wore off, I guess.
Just wanna give you some credit Abbey. I noticed you got some feedback on your “built bar-ads” on a previous video and I can tell (even though I wasn’t one of the people who said anything) that you took that feedback to heart and did something different. That’s amazing! I am not bothered by how you did it before at all but this is so appreciated!! Love your HCC and I implement it in my own life on a daily and it’s made my relationship with food so much better. You’re amazing. Thanks for everything you do!
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This is why we stan Abbey. Queen of taking criticisms and feedback.
Thank you! I’m glad my videos have been helpful❤
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So true. Those comments were dumb though. Girl needs to make her coin and we can just skip. But she is so receptive of feedback - it’s awesome.
I saw this other mom on TikTok that helps her daughter by categorizing food in general as fuel but specified that there can be categorize such as Fun Fuel and Brain Fuel and tells then everything is good in moderation and everything is bad in excess. I really love this approach.
Ohhhh I love this too!!
Sarah has literally been in a “project comeback” state for years! At some point you need to get on with your life and not use being in a “comeback” stage as an crutch for validating disordered eating. You don’t have to “comeback” to anything, it’s always rubbed me the wrong way, especially because she’s never not trying to come back to something.
Well said!! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 those Project Comebacks were so disordered, especially when she’s always thin, always working out, always eating nothing but healthy foods. But have one little bad meal and it triggers a whole comeback.
Oh man, project comeback…I remember that. I used to watch her but I trailed off at some point. Her ability to easily obtain ab definition annoyed me. Granted it’s dependent of genetics, body type, BMI, and exercise. Some people don’t easily achieve ab definition unless they are below a BMI of 20. She’s just more motivated and good for her. I wish her and her family the best.
Agree! Plus she is naturally skinny so it's completely unnecessary. It's obviously genetic cause her sisters are small too
THIS. I used to watch her yeaaaaars ago and I can’t believe she is still doing that
@@potato-whiz I will never forget that she gained
My daughters have been saying they don't want oats anymore, so I tried making your proats recipe and the verdict is in: "Mom, it's the best oatmeal you've ever made!" Thank you! Doesn't hurt that I used the leftover egg yolks to make lemon curd! 😅
You have honestly helped me so much to rebuild a healthy relationship with food and the way I view myself. I no longer punish myself for “unhealthy” food choices because I know that overall I am making good choices in my diet and I have seen so much progress in my health/fitness journey by just listening to my body and eating what feels good. Thank you so much for your content, it means so much!
You are so pretty and your baby is so cute, so happy you're feeling better now, you can be so proud of yourself!
Food was weird for me for a long time, and really still is, I was raised poor so when we did have food we all binged on it, especially treats. It took me a long time once I was on my own to realize food was a guarantee and I didn’t need to be afraid of missing out.
Thank you for posting this! I used to love Sarah’s Day but as someone recovering from an ED, I found her content to be somewhat triggering. She seems to be so focused on “fixing” her body even though she just gave birth! She also has to make everything “healthy” and has unrealistic goals for the average person. I appreciate her as a human but no longer follow her.
Thanks for sharing!
Same thing with me. I watched a few of her videos but decided it wasn't good for me.
Interesting. I don't get that at all about her post baby body. She is very comfortable in her skin relaxed with workouts etc. Now yrs ago she was all about fitness/physique goals but since becoming a mom her priorities have changed and she has grown alot
Whew! Yes I resonate with this comment! I’m still a work in progress but since watching Abbey it’s really helped shift my views a bit with my binge eating and guilt etc while actually losing weight right now.. it’s been a slower journey than the past but I’m hopeful this time my relationship with food is getting better! Thanks for sharing because I’m there with you! 💜💜💜
I think she gives off othorexia vibes, she is so obsessed with ‘clean eating’ that I don’t think it’s good for her mental well-being
I used to be a huuuuge Sarah fan but as I got older I realized she is an absolute clown. She does not practice what she preaches. I regret discovering her when I was in my teens… it took me years to understand my own feelings about the things she spouts. She wholeheartedly takes credit for “transforming” her followers bodies through her (terrible) workout programs, and puts herself on a pedestal as a self-proclaimed Health Princess. All the while, she turns a blind eye and deletes thousands of valid, constructive comments from people expressing they’ve been hurt by her content. She is so narrow minded that she dismisses any and all criticism as hate. People asking her if she has certification to be releasing workout and nutrition advice (she does not) get deleted and blocked from her page.
Sarah benefits enormously from the echo chamber she has carefully curated online - there is no room for critical thinking, reconsideration, or EDUCATION on any of her social media. I understand the need to be professional and level-headed with this video so I applaud you for that. Very validating video and finally… some actual SCIENCE.
Ever since she silenced people with recovering EDs calling her out on her triggering marketing tactics I’ve avoided her content like the black plague. I don’t even have an ED and I was very upset.
Yes, I unsubscribed after all of that! I had watched this WIEIAD video and was very bothered by the conversation she had with her son.
@@annakrahn2784 it was a little bizarre but maybe she felt she had to be an example online. Idk. 🤷🏾♀️ I just know I’m not taking her lead after her recent lawsuit
@@dovenicolevlogs did she have a lawsuit? what for? I'm still subscribed to her but I haven't watched her vids in months so idk what happened there
@@nanekatharina3911 same yes, kinda no idea what's going on in her life because like all I ever see from her is: ommmmmg kurt is gone again and I need to handle my 849565 businesses myself
@@nanekatharina3911 she went to sell a new workout/diet program earlier this year, but the Reel/TikTok she made introducing the program was essentially her describing how she used to be obsessed with weight loss (over exercising and strict food rules - basically orthorexia) and now she has learned how to workout and eat in a way that still reaches her goals. But then she ended it by saying people should buy this program that was basically a prescription for losing weight and “building strength” through exercise and dieting suggestions. Essentially marketing a body recomposition program towards people with EDs and body image issues.
Well she got a TON of backlash and was deleting people’s comments on her accounts. People emailed her. Some people locally caught wind of this and some sort of organization sued her/her ebook that she was selling. I’m blanking on who sued her but “What Mia Did Next” has a mini TH-cam series about it cause she works with people with EDs in Australia.
Long story short, Sarah ended up winning the case so she didn’t feel like she needed to fix anything. And she never addressed it. Never apologized. Never took the content down. She just deleted the negative comments and acted like it doesn’t matter.
Added: the program was called “Sweat it Limitless” and it was released in January so peak “weight loss goals” season 😒
Lovely and educational as always ❤️ I'm going to watch that " how to raise a health intuitive eater" video for my 23 years old self🥰 I'm still trying to get out of that toxic mindset, your videos are always helpful . Thank you Abbey ❤️
Thanks for being here! Glad my videos are helpful!
Her 3 year old said in a recent vlog “I’m so hungry I’m gonna get chunky”. It was heartbreaking. He’s 3!! But is concerned about becoming chunky. And it’s clear to see where he got it. There are videos online of Sarah calling herself exactly this word - ‘chunky’ - especially about her body when she thought she was ‘unhealthy’. It’s so sad the impact she’s having on that child. He tends to go crazy when his Dad takes him out and he can enjoy real kid food. Just so sad all around.
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Oh god thats so sad. That child is gonna have some issues for sure 😔
that's so sad :((
Do you happen to know which vlog?
Her dad also said something about having a “skinny wife” in his wedding vows… so he’s no angel
This is such an informative video. I love Sarah’s day and have followed her for years. Sometimes I feel like her claims contradict themselves and it’s hard to actually tell the message she’s trying to send. In turn, this makes it hard to know if i should or shouldn’t be following her. thank you for providing such a great analysis.
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My mom was 104 lbs when she got pregnant with me in 1984 the doctor told her to gain weight and suggested eating burgers and milkshakes lol she gained over 30 lbs and had a very healthy baby me ☺️ burgers and shakes can be a healthy choice in some circumstances. Ppl often demonize so many foods that aren’t inherently unhealthy. Thank you for continuing to educate us!
Love this example!
Yup! I was just thinking today about how ice cream can help me. Sometimes my appetite is so low, I can't get myself to eat anything but ice cream. And after a few bites of ice cream, my appetite starts to wake up a bit, and I can get myself to eat some other, more nutrient-rich food. The ice cream also gives some of the immediate energy I need to prepare other food-important if I've gone more hours than I should have between meals! When you've struggled to eat enough food, you realize the value of any source of calories and nutrition.
I'm really glad you decided to have another look at Sarah's Day. I was pretty disappointed a few years ago when you said that she was a good food role model, and I was also quite disappointed when people came to the comments to express concern and it took so long to do a follow up video. However, I'm still glad one finally happened that finally pointed out her disordered food "advice"
What Mia Did Next did a fantastic video on Sarah’s Day and a workout program she did. Mia always has good tales but if anyone was interested in an advocacy perspective it’s worthwhile
I’m in highschool and I nanny after school about 15 hours a week for a family and I have run into problems with their snacks. Their dad is super strict on them eating sweets and using language like ‘bad food’ and ‘junk.’ However, I was extremely sick all of my middle school years with an eating disorder- one that nearly killed me countless times- so while I will abide by his rules, I absolutely refuse to use moralizing language around food with my kids. They also aren’t at the age that they really understand nutrition in terms of feeling your best both physically and emotionally, so I had to get creative. My rule is that I have to approve the snacks but they can each as much as they want because kids are so good at listening to their body and eating intuitively. I found something very nutritionally dense that they love- they are obsessed with the smoothie I make, that I load up with Greek yogurt and milk and all different kinds of fruit (though they think I’m lying and put ice cream which makes me laugh so hard every time they try to argue with me about it). They tend to gravitate towards candy and foods with mostly added simple sugars (probably because of the forbidden aspect too), so my rule is that for every sweet snack you need a salty snack to balance your tummy. I make sure they know that too much of a ‘healthy’ thing can be bad for the body (like water intoxication or eating so many carrots that you turn orange with vitamin a toxicity- though in less words obviously) and eating too little of stuff you love is bad for the soul. It’s been a good system so far where I make sure they focus on feeling good in all areas:)
Seriously love this. You're being respectful to both the kids and their parents. As someone who also ended up hospitalized with an Ed multiple times, we know that we wouldn't binge on these "bad" foods had we not restricted them so much to begin with. Kids aren't going to gorge themselves for fun, they just want the foods they want
Marley you are an AWESOME Nanny and well done on how you handle this 👍
Wow those are some really good tactics!! Taking mental notes :))
Those parents are lucky to have such a thoughtful and wise nanny!
This is why I love yoga so much! I do it almost every day, and sometimes it's just a 10 minute stretch if that's all I'm feeling that day! Yoga and my skincare routine are my daily self care that always make me feel better 😊
I'm not sure how she became so famous. As an OG follower I can confirm she promotes diet culture in almost every video she has filmed.
I apprecite Abbeys Makeup so much, she highlights her face and makes it brighten her pretty eyes, full of joy 💡🥰😍
I’m so happy a professional has addressed that ‘healthy and not so healthy’ game she was playing. I commented on the video and got an aggressive response from Sarah herself. She’s not very open to constructive criticism 😞
That's upsetting. I don't think she had bad intentions, but even I as a teen felt a little off about it.
I literally check youtube every day before i eat my pre bed snack, and i always watch your newest vid while eating it, it sort of became a ritual and it doesn’t feel the same without your vids running😂
Thanks for making me part of your routine!
Lol. When I was a kid my mom convinced me; if I ate sugar I would get diabetes and a my foot would get chopped off. As a result, I gained 30 lbs when I moved out of the house.
Your mom
Wasn’t all that wrong in saying that. Do your research
@@Konaboy Yes she was wrong. Don't be ridiculous. Sugar does not directly cause diabetes. And everyone with diabetes doesn't have foot issues. You do your research.
@@mignonnesilva4306 sugar is the root of it all
Good health to you👍
I did my research!
i followed her for many of her early years on youtube so when i saw your initial videos on her i was pretty shocked that they were positive. glad to see this update from you!
Cannot agree more with everything you said. Ever since I started relaxing myself around foods and started listening to my hunger cues I've had more energy, less bloating and food anxiety, and I don't binge on the foods I was told to restrict from my everyday diet, I actually enjoy them until I've had enough. Great video 🙌👏
I grew up with my mum saying: eat carrots for your sight, fish for strong brain and so on. Today vegetables are my favorite food
Thank you! This is awesome! My parents didn't allow me to eat Ice Cream from the age of 6 because they thought I was getting "too fat". It caused me to go into the freezer and shame binge eat at a young age. After years of diet and restriction your videos are helping me to create the neutrality of food.
as a preschool teacher, we practice family dining. we don't restrict what the child wants to eat. if they want more fruit instead of veg, go ahead. if they want all bread, ok. eventually the children will try everything on their plate. we focus on teaching them what color the food is, and categorize fruit, veg or protein (for the older ones). and of course we sing songs about food in the process (eeples and baneenees anyone?)
What about opples and banonos?? Lol
Sweets were on a pedestal for me growing up. We also never had it at home. So I went craxy on vacation or parties. My daughter is 3. We always have chips, candy, etc around and treat it like another food. It SHOCKS me and others when she doesn’t finish her donut, or candy, etc and just says she’s full. Or she will say “no thank you” when offered a treat. I love that me really trying to treat all foods the same is really paying off. It’s healing myself too since I still puts those on pedestals for myself.
I really like what you said about encouraging children with what food can do for the body. I work with toddlers and I tell them that what they're eating gives them energy for the rest of the day, so they can run outside and have fun, and that part of the video reminded me of that. Great video!
I like your point about 80/20. When I was struggling with orthorexia-like behaviours I would get so stressed and try to do all this crazy math to figure out the “perfect” exact 80/20 division of meals which made me obsess way too much. No more food rules over here.
One of the things I have started incorporating into my week is going on a walk. I am the first one home so I have scheduled time for it. I like it because it gets me outside and I am spending time with myself
Thanks for addressing the processed food issue right off the bat. One of my biggest annoyances in food culture these days.
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I love that you educate people. You have had such a positive influence towards my health. I had seen this episode and it did not sit well, as we don’t label foods. We have a bit of everything, everyday. I also love that you call out fear mongering.
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I want the HCC segment to be a reoccurring segment even when not sponsored!
i loved the idea of a HCC at the beggining of the video! Sometimes i struggle with imagination for balanced snacks, i think it would be amazing if you did dthis at the start of every video!
I really hope you review Florence Pugh What I eat in a day her voice is so soothing and I feel like her choices are very relatable.
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You’ve helped me so much with repairing my relationship with food. Thank you so much for all you do. ❤️
Hi Abbey, thank-you for posting this video! I have been following Sarah’s Day for literally years, through the height of my own issues with food/excessive exercise and then on the flip side of trying to repair that relationship. I have followed you for ages and ages too and I have learned so much about food and you have helped me to see things for what they are - sometimes too extreme, and also how our own language can affect our relationship with food and our bodies. I unfollowed Sarah a while ago because I found her content super triggering for me personally. I really appreciate you making all this content over the years!!! Thank-you!!!
Thank you for this and thank you for addressing it! She likes to think she's "relatable" as a mum but she is far from it. Some mamas don't have the time to do what she does (making home cooked meals, going to the gym/pilates class quite a few times a week, etc) and she posted not too long ago it was the first night she was alone with both boys. Meaning the past times she's complained, she's always had help. A lot of mums don't have the support she does. There's also the unrealistic fixing her body post partum....she shared an insta vs reality of her body and there was literally no difference...abs and then abs again. Which is not relatable to most mums and our post partum bodies. And then there's her unhealthy relationship with food that Fox seems to be picking up. Im shocked but also not shocked that she played healthy vs unhealthy foods with him. And that's on camera, so we can only imagine what she says off camera.
YOU. ARE. JUST. MY. FAVORITE.
I’m a future RD & I look up to you SO much!
Sarah has always been, and continues to be, problematic. THANK YOU for making another video on her.
Just a little background info to your claim on seed oils, as a professional it’s always great to do your research. Seed oils are not, not recommended by the ‘wellness’ community because of their high omega 6s as a cause of inflammation, it is because of the heating process that is undergone in order to extract oil from these types of plants, foods etc.
Due to the extreme heat it turns these types of oils carcinogenic, as you can imagine because this is in most of our foods, we consume it all day long, can you imagine our bodies full of these types of oils and then placed under the sun, we are basically walking vegetable oils and what shines down on us, the sun, cooking those carcinogenic oils within our bodies.
+ yes, they are high inflammation foods.
u have helped me so much. i am pretty sure i have arfid so as a kid meal times were not great for me, and honestly sometimes they still aren’t. im irrationally picky about certain foods and sometimes i just cant find anything i want to eat, but ur videos have taught me ways to get the nutrients i need in realistic ways. i get so much inspiration for snacks and ways to have a balanced diet without stressing over each individual meal. it’s so freeing to have a comfortable relationship with food and it actually makes me more eager to try new things. idk if u will see this, but i just wanted to say thank u so much.
So happy to hear that! Thanks for your support❤
Love the new format for your sponsor!
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Thank you for discussing food and children, as a mum I always stress out how to give some balanced nutrition to my son, but also not try to paint one food good and one food bad. Sometimes it is so hard to get children eat smth more grounded than sweets, so I really like your method from previous videos how you are giving your sons a plate with options, and they choose, that has worked for my son too. :)
I started following Sarah’s Day about 5 years ago when I was on my own fitness journey. At first I found her motivating but I had to stop because she was so disordered and orthorexic it was affecting my own relationship with food and causing me to overthink what I was eating the way she does. The final straw was when her birthday came around and instead of just having some cake she had to make herself a “healthy” cake with dates and other fruits and it was like…girl it’s your birthday. One slice of cake will not undo all your work. I just…saw it as I watched. Don’t need to be an expert to see her content is very problematic.
So glad you reviewed Sarah’s days video. Was hoping you would soon xx
Could you please review one of Vita Sidorkina’s what i eat in a day’s? 🙂You’re channel is amazing!❤💕
Anxiously waiting for your video on tips for maintaining weight loss that you mentioned in your recent calorie video.
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How in the world could a grown adult think that Tik Tok provides valuable science based information? 😂
Imagine some grown adult on TH-cam judging other woman’s lifestyle choices on eating that has nothing to do with them and profiting off talking about them
That’s why I love Ellyn Satter. Her books are amazing!. The division of responsibility is the best thing! It totally works and you don’t have all this concerns about food! Moreover you don’t create food struggles!!!. I totally recommend her. It’s kind of teach your kid to eat intuitively, the best!
Really loving your content Abbey!
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I, have to say for someone like myself... With a sensitive stomach/IBS. Sunflower oil reeks havoc on my stomach. Sunflower lecithin is fine though. So, I, had to stop drinking my oat milk and instead have lactose free milk! Also, I've, realised most oils hurt my stomach if , I, have a bit too much.
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Here’s a great idea! Do not discuss food with children. Serve meat, potatoes, vegetables, milk and fruit every meal every day. Some days that’s going to be carrot bran muffins for breakfast, grilled cheese for lunch and hotdogs for dinner, but there would still be milk, fruit, and vegetables at each meal.
Yesterday, my Big grand baby had a half a banana, Goldfish, veggie straws, and cheese chunks for lunch. Dinner was a microwave rice bowl, with chopped egg, and milk. You do what you can. But there is no one going to tell my grand babies that sugar cookies are bad. We just don’t serve them very often, in fact, I bring them, and there are a few for the next few days. And no one lets the children choose what to eat, or when to eat, or how to eat. You are served three meals and two snacks every day as a child. Your job is to play and learn, not worry about what to eat, so we don’t go into detail about it. My mom definitely failed at teaching good nutrition, and eating issues are our heritage, so I’m fighting to change that for my children and grandchildren.
I agree! My parents never discussed food. They put food in front of us and we all ate together. That includes main meals but also snacks. Growing up in Germany, it was very common for example to have cookies/cake/coffee for afternoon tea. It's part of a balanced diet. My mum knows a bit about nutrition so she'd cook healthy meals otherwise (well what was considered healthy back in the 90s/00s in terms of meat, dairy and fruit/veggies)
Your job is to play and learn, not worry about what to eat -- YES! Besides the diet worries, I just don't get the whole thing about parents having to go out of their way to meet their kids' picky food desires for fears that they won't eat. My parents just cooked decent meals and you ate it or you didn't. No negotiating or special accommodations. My sister told me once when I bought pizza to share with her family that her 7 year old son would not eat pizza without pepperoni. I was like what the hell. We were not raised that way.
@@BC-np8cb yes totally 😂 I was a nanny for a while, I would never give kids a special dinner. They ate what was on the plate. Sometimes they didn't want it so I said fine, don't eat it but there's nothing else. I would leave their plate on the bench and sure enough they would always come back later, hungry and willing to eat their food.
@@BC-np8cb I think that expecting kids to eat what adults eat only works when the adults are willing to eat food that isn’t overly spicy or otherwise foreign to kids. Their tastebuds are more sensitive than ours and I am not willing to make Thai food at baby spice levels. What we have done is given kids the same building blocks of food as the adults but not always cooked the same way. So their version of dinner would include the chicken, veg and rice, but not the chilis, garlic and lemongrass. Or the sauce is on the side. The same with foods like chili-there is no reason to expect that a child is going to like the same foods that an adult likes, but there are ways to keep the kitchen from becoming a diner or kids to exist on chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese.
As a fellow Australian, it is actually in the early childhood curriculum to talk to children about the difference between ‘healthy and unhealthy foods’! Might be something for you to consider.
yep - fellow aussie here
I eat whatever I want whenever I want it because if I try to force myself not to eat a given food I always end up WANTING IT UNTIL I GIVE IN! And at that point normally I kinda eat waaaaaaaaay to much of it...I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!!
I actually really liked “sometimes foods”
Love love love the new HCC at the beginning 😍
growing up with "older than average" parents, there was always a really heavy emphasis on diet foods. family dinners gradually crossed over into "healthy versions" of things that we used to enjoy, and while we (the kids) weren't really pressured into eating that way in our free time, we weren't exactly supplied with many other kinds of food and the moralizing conversations around food would have been pretty hard not to internalize. we're both naturally on the thinner side, so it very easily led to us developing disordered eating habits that impacted our health well into adulthood
as the youngest child of 5, i feel this
The only "detox plan" I took that actually made me feel better is the one that got diet culture and wellness culture BS out of my mind. It made me feel more confident and way less anxious around my food choices, accept my post 3 pregnancies and 4 years of breastfeeding body. This detox actually got me out of ED (cycling between orthorexia and binge eating disorder) and really got me to drop a few pound and stabilize in the most satisfying way at an acceptable setpoint.
So what you're telling me is that I can stop my search for a yummy, healthy coffee creamer and just drink the delish international delight and I probably won't die, yeah?
Sarah’s day taught me so many things that contributed to my eating disorder starting in 2016. I’m one of MANY. It’s horrible how many eating disorders she’s contributes to. No idea how she sleeps at night.
She sleeps well on a mountain of cash thanks to her stans!
Let’s not forget about sarahs video of “healing my cervical dysplasia naturally” where she claimed to heal herself with just her diet… very harmful rhetoric imo
I completely agree. I unfollowed her after that video. It was extremely harmful and there is absolutely no evidence backing up her claims. This took her from semi-problematic to toxic in my eyes…I don’t feel like enough people talk about it, or at least, I could never find discussion about it in her comments! I wonder why 🙄
@@challahbackgirl7771 yes 100% agree!!! She must have been deleting a ton of comments. It was disappointing bc I liked watching her videos
I think she was hiding the crazy pretty well until then…and then when she named her son Fox Ocean after a dream she had that she said meant the name was his destiny…and posted an extremely graphic birth video??? I was like…yeah I’m out 😂
@@challahbackgirl7771 she's also gone Evangelical....
Yes- thanks for mentioning this. The wellness industry in Australia needs to be better regulated. Her video making these claims should be pulled from the internet
My first baby is due in November and I want to be a great role model. that means for me, that we are cooking fresh meals at home, always have some fruit and veggies on hand... trink mostly water. and when we go out for dinner, I love to order a balanced meal for the kids or share my meal with them... I don't like the typical kids menus, which are often shaghetti, fried meat or pancakes. When their dad eats stuff like that, they can try it too. Thats totally fine with me, but a home, most of the days will be nutritious. (yes, of course there will be Pizza nights sometimes...) It makes me sad, when I see kids just eating sweets and crisps and pizza and fries... and when they get a healthy meal, even if its just pasta bolognese, they won't eat it and make a big drama as if its poison. or they just eat the pasta without the sauce and the veggies... they don't even try fruit they dont know.
I relate to your sentiments. But as a mum of two I can tell you: it always goes different then you expect. Try to approach it with kindness and patience and don’t be hard on yourself if it goes different! Studies have shown that some kids are naturally good eaters and others are not, and you don’t know what you will get. X
congratulations! wishing you a safe delivery and healthy baby 🥰
Abbey, I am a long time subscriber of yours, but I gotta say: "slow cookers come in CLUTCH"?? whoa. that made my morning lols
When I was a kid my parents never allowed me to have any sort of fast foods. When I went to colleague I had tons of it, while “unsupervised” ahah
Always felt so guilty about, until I developed a healthier relationship with food
Thsnkyou for this video ! I am wanting to loose weight but trying not to see it that way and I stead moving my body more offten in a way that serves me well and choose more nutrient dense food and put more thought in to whst I eat. My twins are 25 months old now and there's no way I could still have time to achieve all that !
Abbey, I just want to say your channel has helped me so much! I also want to ask, how are you? Are you sleeping okay? Thank you for all that you do!
Your videos are always so insightful thank you!! 🥰❤ Hope you could do an update on the "sibo saga" soon! Xx
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Oh a left turn from diets: I like the idea of not working out at all being honouring to your body. I have joint issues and sometimes what I need is to sit my rear end down
You are absolutely fabulous. What stores do you do your grocery shopping at? Do you stock up on water? Can you possibly do more in store grocery shopping videos? It would be awesome if you could show how you do your full shopping trip
Love your shirt during the HCC snack!
Ive been waiting for this!
Watching this as I'm about to get my evening snack of coffe and lemon loaf from starbucks.
I just started watching your videos and love them!! In this one, you talked about diet culture around kids... I grew up with a mother who didn't know how to properly teach us about nutrition. Now I'm almost 30 and I still have a bad perception of some food, any tips on how to start changing our old habits of "naming" or categorizing food?! Thank you!!! :)
That got really disturbing at 13:14. Thank you for addressing this. Good intentions or not, research shows that is extremely harmful for children.
Healthy Harold taught us about healthy and non healthy foods in primary school here in Australia.
healthy harold traumatised me. the government literally put us in a van with a giraffe and told us about drugs
I used to be a fan of Sarah but once I started actual wellness recovery (therapy, counseling groups, PT, etc.) I learned that I was taking harmful advice from an unqualified racist. I fill my social media with qualified professionals, get advice from science backed care providers. Which is an incredible a privilege some don’t have. I encourage anybody looking for fitness or nutrition guidance or advice, please be critical and keep high expectations.
I click so fast anytime I see you've uploaded. As a future nutrition and dietetics student, these videos are greatly appreciated. I love your take on food and life in general. Stay true to you as always. I also appreciate the way u implemented the ad.
Thank you!
taking care of yourself Abbeys example: 3 main meals a day, having a shower, moving your body and go to sleep on time. Even without kids I find it hard to do that for myself.
Aw her boy is SO big now! Too cute!
Question: I talk to my kids about choosing their snacks for school that will nourish their bodies for learning . I buy or make dried fruit, nuts, protein bars, dried cheese and let them pick their own combos that contain fiber, fat, and protein. I also really try to not demonize foods or candy, but I will bring similar foods for my kids that I know they LOVE and offer those to them instead. For example, last night after soccer another parent was in charge of bringing snack. The “snack” was gushers and fruit roll ups. I had brought my son’s favorite real fruit juice gummy candies with no added sugar and I offered that he could have the gummy‘s instead of the gushers and roll up. I left the choice totally up to him and he chose the gummy‘s. I’m just interested to get other peoples takes on this approach, especiallyAbby’s if possible, no hate please. He did ask why I was offering the trade and I said while both of these are very similar candies the ones we buy are made with actual fruit juice instead of just condensed sugar water with fake flavors and colors.
You’re still playing a watered down version of good vs bad food. Everything is fine in moderation, instead of you suggesting the switch you should let him take the initiative. If he wants to switch he’ll ask and if he doesn’t then that’s fine too and don’t make any comments on it. Like you could let him know prior to the game that you have xyz available if he doesn’t want the snacks the other parents have brought for afterwards but then just leave it at. It’s important he doesn’t feel pressured to choosing the “good” option to please you.
@@eleanormcgowan211 Everything you said makes complete sense, especially in the context of actual food. What I do keep struggling with though is that gushers and Gatorade are not even food. Even if it was sheet cake with gobs of butter cream frosting vs a bowl of his favorite fruit… I would have no problem mentioning that I have his favorite fruit if he wants it, but he can let me know and then leave it 100% in his court. (Honestly I wouldn’t even make that offer because I’m choosing some cake too. Lol)
BUT, the chemicals and corn syrup concoctions are where I am truly lost because they are everywhere in school and sports. Maybe I will still try this even with the junk 🤢
I think it is funny how I can't see any negative comments on your video after scrolling for a few minutes. I can't believe you are discouraging people from staying away from food additives. I think you need to understand auto immune issues (which half of America and Australia unknowingly have.) These people's bodies cannot tolerate food additives or vegetable oils. I think you should stop telling people they are benign. I find it disturbing that you are attacking Sarah for wanting to eat cleaner. She is on the right track.
Abbey, you should definitely review Bari Weis's recent podcast episode, Eating Ourselves to Death with Dr. Casey Means. She rails against seed oils and other processed foods. It was information overload and made me question everything.
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I would love to see you do tests on a variety of different people who drink oat milk, and their blood sugar levels directly before and after. Then see if you still advocate for it...
I tend to talk about food in terms of function. If my kid says they want something I say “what’s your body feeling right now and what are you thinking?”
If my kid says “I’m really hungry and I think I want chips.”
I might say “you know, chips are crunchy and salty and munchy, but they’re not so good at making you not hungry. Why don’t we try to find some protein and fiber first and then see how you feel? Let’s save the chips for when your mouth just wants some fun but you aren’t trying to fix a hungry problem.”
I don’t to now if it’s intuitive eating approved. It is how I wish someone had talked about food to me. Trying to get full on chips is just a recipe for a stomach ache. And “healthy” foods were always represented to me as things naughty fat people have to eat instead of what they could do really well for me.
I really like this approach! We have been doing "foods that help you grow" and "foods that are fun", which after watching this video might not actually be a good way to talk about food, but I think your method of specifically trying to solve the problem at hand is a better way to communicate.
I think it's more appropriate to serve a few chips along side something more filling rather than telling them they can't have them now because it won't make them full enough. Part of intuitive eating is honering your cravings. Also maybe they're only a little hungry and chips would be enough. You don't really know unless you are in your child's body.
@@strawbunny93 they are welcome to chips after if they still want them. I just try to address one sensation at a time so they can tell the difference. Munchies and hunger can co-exist. We just deal with the stronger need/ craving first. I have ADHD. So, likely, do my kids. My body connection is crap. That’s what I learned from intuitive eating. I needed outside help to even know what I was feeling, like separating cravings and eating different planned kinds of meals to see how I felt afterward. When I tried to eat what I thought I craved I always ended up sick and that never adjusted on its own. That’s where intuitive eating breaks down a lot imho-this massive mistaken assumption that learning to hear your body looks the same for everyone or that separating emotional cravings from physical ones will naturally happen without further guidance than your own mind. Not in my experience. And I don’t think the extra frameworks will hurt them even if they turn out not to be like me. I can’t even tell when I have to pee a lot of the time until all of a sudden I realize that if I sneeze I’m done for. I was ONLY honoring emotional hunger for years because it was almost impossible for me to pick up on physical cues. IE did not work for me until I started throwing out IE rules to do what I needed for me. No. You don’t have to eat the chips at the same time any more than you have to do anything in IE. It’s not a diet. Remember?
The teaching her kid whats "healthy" literally made me feel rage! As I grew up that way and consequently had/have an ED. DONT DO THAT DO YOU KIDS🙄