The rules you set for yourself seem like a really helpful way to get out of spirals. As far as friendships and telling if people want to be friends or are just being friendly I think it's helpful to look at the location and purpose of the interaction. If you're at work people are there to work and having a friendly relationship is a bonus. But if that spills over into interactions outside of work I would think that is a friend. So the guy you send memes to and that sends them back is probably your friend. Wishing you the best!
I think you have a point about the diagnosis thing, but, as a fellow autistic, I think you missed the point about what people are saying. It’s just very common for a non-autistic doctor to discredit someone looking for a diagnosis if they aren’t a very young male. A lot of doctors actually hold the belief that girls just cannot be autistic. So they will look a girl’s symptoms and chalk them up to anxiety or the everlasting excuse of ‘hormones’. Good video btw
I understand what you mean about how the "autistic community" is essentially a female dominated space, really it's the "high functioning, privileged autistic womens community" Any of them reading this won't like it but as an outsider looking in it really is that and the barrier for entry is immense, Don't let it get you jaded mate, explore the way your relationship with your parents panned out some more and see how it affects you today, if you get the opportunity go and talk to a trained counsellor, they're super helpful as long as they're a good one
Feminism is everywhere, every support group they have to emphasize how it is sooooo much more difficult for women instead of giving attention to everyone there who is having the same problem
While it was more or less a generalization, I do get where you're coming from, man. I personally haven't seen many men talking about their experiences with autism. I personally don't have it, but I do have adhd, so the whole thing where it's just so, so fucking difficult to find someone. I ended up finding my girlfriend, and she's the best person I've ever met. However, whether you meet someone you like, romantically or platonically or whatever, there is definitely someone out there, several people even, who are willing to care. It takes so long to find those people because most people are pretty shitty and take others for granted, but it happens eventually. Until then, what you should focus on is yourself. It's harder to do when you can't ignore something as simple as neurotypical people do, but it's better than letting the whole dating thing get to you. People come, and people go, and it fucking sucks. But, as long as you still know who you are, your own values and beliefs and all that, then you aren't lost, and you can still find your way into a group of people or maybe just a person who loves you for you and not bc of something small and silly like looks. Sorry if it seems like I started rambling in the comment section, but hopefully you can sort of get my point (I think I unintentionally repeated myself???🧍)
@@SwansonHere thank you for your comment it's definitely food for thought. It does give me hope knowing someone who is also neurodivergent having a relationship.
You sound so sweet, I’d love to be your friend 😊, thanks for the video, I randomly stumbled across your video and it’s hard to find someone who understands, the copying, confusion, struggles with relationships, and I’m a girl!(i suspect I have the tism) It sucks being lonely but I still believe there’s someone for everyone out there
Actually hard to get diagnosed if you had neglectful parents or idiot psychologist and you are an adult. You need good insurance or money to pay for it.
I appreciate your thoughts Lord of Albion!
The reason I clicked on this is bc I have autism and I saw the word autism on the thin nail
The rules you set for yourself seem like a really helpful way to get out of spirals. As far as friendships and telling if people want to be friends or are just being friendly I think it's helpful to look at the location and purpose of the interaction. If you're at work people are there to work and having a friendly relationship is a bonus. But if that spills over into interactions outside of work I would think that is a friend. So the guy you send memes to and that sends them back is probably your friend. Wishing you the best!
I think you have a point about the diagnosis thing, but, as a fellow autistic, I think you missed the point about what people are saying. It’s just very common for a non-autistic doctor to discredit someone looking for a diagnosis if they aren’t a very young male. A lot of doctors actually hold the belief that girls just cannot be autistic. So they will look a girl’s symptoms and chalk them up to anxiety or the everlasting excuse of ‘hormones’. Good video btw
I think it’s also important not to make general statements about gendered stuff, since demographics are just labels.
Heard the intro and instantly knew it was either Ka or Roc Marciano. If you'll never have a gf at least you have good music taste.
I understand what you mean about how the "autistic community" is essentially a female dominated space, really it's the "high functioning, privileged autistic womens community"
Any of them reading this won't like it but as an outsider looking in it really is that and the barrier for entry is immense,
Don't let it get you jaded mate, explore the way your relationship with your parents panned out some more and see how it affects you today, if you get the opportunity go and talk to a trained counsellor, they're super helpful as long as they're a good one
Feminism is everywhere, every support group they have to emphasize how it is sooooo much more difficult for women instead of giving attention to everyone there who is having the same problem
@@Dark-oz2zn true it has ruined men because they always have to put us down
“ In darkness my whole life, never had a guud time” - NEET
Nuh uh, brah I have if the wurst🤬
Ask him about going to a party. That's a legit idea btw try it, it'll be good for you bro🎉
@@LORDWENZA777 wenzaaaa I missed you man
While it was more or less a generalization, I do get where you're coming from, man.
I personally haven't seen many men talking about their experiences with autism. I personally don't have it, but I do have adhd, so the whole thing where it's just so, so fucking difficult to find someone. I ended up finding my girlfriend, and she's the best person I've ever met. However, whether you meet someone you like, romantically or platonically or whatever, there is definitely someone out there, several people even, who are willing to care. It takes so long to find those people because most people are pretty shitty and take others for granted, but it happens eventually. Until then, what you should focus on is yourself. It's harder to do when you can't ignore something as simple as neurotypical people do, but it's better than letting the whole dating thing get to you.
People come, and people go, and it fucking sucks. But, as long as you still know who you are, your own values and beliefs and all that, then you aren't lost, and you can still find your way into a group of people or maybe just a person who loves you for you and not bc of something small and silly like looks.
Sorry if it seems like I started rambling in the comment section, but hopefully you can sort of get my point (I think I unintentionally repeated myself???🧍)
@@SwansonHere thank you for your comment it's definitely food for thought. It does give me hope knowing someone who is also neurodivergent having a relationship.
You sound so sweet, I’d love to be your friend 😊,
thanks for the video, I randomly stumbled across your video and it’s hard to find someone who understands, the copying, confusion, struggles with relationships, and I’m a girl!(i suspect I have the tism)
It sucks being lonely but I still believe there’s someone for everyone out there
Pure cope. Autistic females don't want autistic males.
The what community?
Have you actually been diagnosed?
@@KingFrogletbased
Actually hard to get diagnosed if you had neglectful parents or idiot psychologist and you are an adult. You need good insurance or money to pay for it.
@@thephilosopher5799 pretty sure this guy said his parents sent him to a psychologist before.