This sounds exactly like my toxic ex. Glad I went no contact two years and reflected on being cheated on, them monkey branching, controlling me, emotionally abusing me, smearing my name, ghosting me, devaluing me because they were jealous of my success, there self centered behavior, and manipulating
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without her, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring her back into my life
It will get better man .. time is what you need . You’ll start feeling better within a year and 2-3 years you ll be completely over her depending on the person .. hit the gym , work on yourself .Dont drink alcohol .
What about when you ARE the rebound and you didn’t even know it? When you came to the relationship healthy and open, and they used you to heal and then went on to treat someone else better? The pain is unbearable.
When you realize you're the rebound, you have to stay out of your feelings and understand that the rebounder is in an emotionally vulnerable state. They're looking for comfort and a distraction from whatever they're feeling. When I was the rebound, I instinctively chose to keep my emotions from the matter and only decided to keep my connection to her strictly casual and non-exclusive. I was infatuated with her, but I knew my connection to her was purely physical. When shit hit the fan after a few months and she started acting up, it was easy to completely detach myself and give her the cold shoulder. She ended up looking like the crazy one, blowing up my phone talking shit and running her mouth to our co-workers, but later asking me to come spend time with her like it was all good. It was too late by then lol.
@MiarmudVon-v5z nah, not all the time. I was a rebounder before also. That rebound relationship last for six months. After that, I was single for seven years. Some of us do heal.
Been the rebound guy recently, was sad for a bit when the dream shattered but it build me tremendously, if you loved her, like i did, it either break you or build you depends of your mental strenght. It was the best thing that has happen to me in a longtime because i learned from it and leveled-up 🫡
What's fun about my ex is that he is not currently aware that I know about the cheating or the rebound. I am silently processing my anger, my hurt, my rage, all from a safe distance where he can't see me, doing absolutely nothing to give away the knowledge that I have of his activities. I was good to him, better than anyone else ever has been (according to his brother). Rather than reacting and destroying all those wonderful memories he'll have of me, I'm going to let him keep them all, because damn I'm gonna look good up there on that pedestal.
13 yrs. Some say foolish, I definitely felt foolish. 2 years later. I am gaining an entirely new understanding of how loyal and strong I am as a person, and not everyone deserves that. I am only catching on his in my feed bc he did try to come back and I just never responded. Ol’ TH-cam algorithm strikes again😂
I don't feel better than the rebound woman. He says that he did a mistake, but this does not take away the pain and hurt he put me through. I cannot take him back, I need to heal. If he truly loved me, he wouldn't have left me 💔
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
I don’t know the details of your relationship but it’s possible you were in a “trauma bond.” You can look it up and see if that might be the reason you can’t let go of the relationship. I hope this may help you. God Bless🙏
I used to tell my ex its all about him. He ran off with his ex. Fine with me. He wants her, he can have her. Everything said in this video is true. I wasnt good enough to work it out with,vso why would I think he'd have a change of mind when coming back.
This is my story .....he left last year then came back and I took him back . Yesterday he broke up with me and went off to a girl I thought was my friend and so I introduced him to her...... . But if he does come back again, I can't take him back because he's gonna do it over and over
My wife of 18 years left on thanksgiving . 5 days later shes trying to come back I really needed to hear this . I got the dog and our 16 year old son. Shes doing me a favor a just cant see it
I think it depends. It's not a black and white thing. I've been the rebound and the rebounder in the my past. At the very least, no one should take ex back right away or immediately after their rebound has run its course because 1) the issues that damaged the relationship before the break-up likely haven't been resolved (which could lead to another break-up), 2) the rebound might still be around on stand-by or the ex could easily find another, and 3) they still have to figure how to heal without someone else being their distraction. There are people that give themselves time to heal the right way and those that find another rebound because they are afraid to do the work (which could have to do with low self-esteem, attachment style, and/or unresolved trauma). In most cases, it takes at least year, or longer. You'll find that some of your exes do come back on their own after some time. But, you have to vet them to see if it's worth it or not. In some cases, you may already be with someone else by then (which is usually what motivates them to spin the block).
All you people online think they rebound because they want to heal, which is not always the case. Sometimes they didn't love you anymore, didn't give a rat's ass about you, and just wanted to date again, meet new people, etc. Maybe they had nothing to heal, and had zero love/attraction at that point. I've experienced both sides of the coin on that matter.
I think every situation is different, especially understanding the difference between men and woman. Men are loyal to an oath, Women are loyal to their feelings. Our relationship became toxic and nothing could be talked about at the time, so it need to end. Now we have actually had amazing conversations. She just replaced me with him to distract from the pain. I also believe getting back together can and does make a stronger relationship
Cool video , My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
Have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment.
Thank you! But what if it’s both of you as I just took accountability on my situation which I’m working on healing and to embrace being single for the very first time since I was 15 yo, now I’m 49 yo been 3 yrs and it actually feels great being in isolation and getting to know thyself without running to people places and things😅❤
What if it’s not taking them back? But starting over. Rebuilding slowly to building trust. They would have to do the work and we would have to do counseling. I would have to see over time that they are changing. My ex and planned to talk in about 2 months. See where we are at. I was the one that stepped out and she is healing right now. We are very kind to each other now but she said that she needs more time so gave it to her. I’m enjoying my time alone to heal what I need too.
@@kiddytube3915 or maybe his ex is actually trying to heal and would like to make things better. There’s no reason to act like you know the situation better than one that’s in it.
Question people: What if you cheated and then you tried for 6months trying to get her back but then find out she as fucking a next dude like days after you called it off propa …… and she said “she trying to fill a void” would this apply ? I lover her just not in love with her anymore cause she could just let me go but instead she played me and took my money and time… 🤷🏾♂️😢 Teo wrongs don’t make a right but I like have got her the moon before all of this ?
She didn’t want the moon &the stars, she wanted loyalty. She is long gone. If she fucking that dude most likely she has feelings for him (like 99%) She definitely has a void he is filling up. If you not in love with her no more then move on and find someone you can be in love with AND be loyal to cause if she get back with you, her mind will always be on him and will probably be the one cheating on you next and use you cheating as an excuse to justify.
Ehh.... You cheated, bro. Your situation sounds like karma came back to get you. The universe will show you that playing with people has consequences, and you'll end up playing yourself in the short-term or the long-term. You should have moved on. Plus, why would you want to go back to a woman you cheated on? Two wrongs don't make a right, but what about the accountability of your own actions? It's like you're holding her more accountable for playing you, taking your time and your money, rather than you looking at yourself in the mirror. Where is your ownership of the situation?
Did the same. Forgive yourself first, you're unconscious only believes that through changed behaviour over a long period of time. If they rebounded ask yourself whether you are happy to deal with what comes with that if you get back together or whether you're only entertaining that thought because of what you did. When you've reached a conclusion follow suit on either path: 1) trying to get them back and 2) trying to get yourself back. You have no choice in going down the second path, it's up to you whether you want to pursue the first too
@@gmma125_5 definitely won't try the first .... I said the rebound part because she said it was a guy she liked and also i got info that she was out wit dude , he was posting on social media. To be honest i didn't even care about it long as we wouldn't fixed our issues but she didn't give in and was stringing me along to get some type of compensation out of me .... once i figured shit out i left and been ignoring her since , now she's mad and running me down . Keep calling and texting with threats and demands, I'll just keep ignoring Any power she thought she had she lost and now she's spiraling
Move on cause cheating wounds cut deep, if she gets back with you she won’t let it go. She will check your phone, etc. and it will turn toxic quick. Trust is gone and gone for good, in my experience in life there has been no one who lost my trust nor lost trust in me has ever get it back.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
This sounds exactly like my toxic ex. Glad I went no contact two years and reflected on being cheated on, them monkey branching, controlling me, emotionally abusing me, smearing my name, ghosting me, devaluing me because they were jealous of my success, there self centered behavior, and manipulating
Thats a nascisist
@@hugovhh dealing with the same currenlty
@@deathislife88 same I have a baby with one
He's speaking facts.....
@@babyluvjr 💪🏾💯
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without her, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring her back into my life
By the way, how did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
It will get better man .. time is what you need . You’ll start feeling better within a year and 2-3 years you ll be completely over her depending on the person .. hit the gym , work on yourself .Dont drink alcohol .
They'll never respect u
What about when you ARE the rebound and you didn’t even know it? When you came to the relationship healthy and open, and they used you to heal and then went on to treat someone else better? The pain is unbearable.
When you realize you're the rebound, you have to stay out of your feelings and understand that the rebounder is in an emotionally vulnerable state. They're looking for comfort and a distraction from whatever they're feeling.
When I was the rebound, I instinctively chose to keep my emotions from the matter and only decided to keep my connection to her strictly casual and non-exclusive. I was infatuated with her, but I knew my connection to her was purely physical. When shit hit the fan after a few months and she started acting up, it was easy to completely detach myself and give her the cold shoulder. She ended up looking like the crazy one, blowing up my phone talking shit and running her mouth to our co-workers, but later asking me to come spend time with her like it was all good. It was too late by then lol.
@MiarmudVon-v5z nah, not all the time. I was a rebounder before also. That rebound relationship last for six months. After that, I was single for seven years. Some of us do heal.
Been the rebound guy recently, was sad for a bit when the dream shattered but it build me tremendously, if you loved her, like i did, it either break you or build you depends of your mental strenght.
It was the best thing that has happen to me in a longtime because i learned from it and leveled-up 🫡
What's fun about my ex is that he is not currently aware that I know about the cheating or the rebound. I am silently processing my anger, my hurt, my rage, all from a safe distance where he can't see me, doing absolutely nothing to give away the knowledge that I have of his activities. I was good to him, better than anyone else ever has been (according to his brother). Rather than reacting and destroying all those wonderful memories he'll have of me, I'm going to let him keep them all, because damn I'm gonna look good up there on that pedestal.
13 yrs. Some say foolish, I definitely felt foolish. 2 years later. I am gaining an entirely new understanding of how loyal and strong I am as a person, and not everyone deserves that. I am only catching on his in my feed bc he did try to come back and I just never responded. Ol’ TH-cam algorithm strikes again😂
I believe they have all the tools to work on a relationship..... , they just WON'T / DON'T WANT TO, use those relationship tools with YOU!!
I don't feel better than the rebound woman. He says that he did a mistake, but this does not take away the pain and hurt he put me through. I cannot take him back, I need to heal. If he truly loved me, he wouldn't have left me 💔
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I don’t know the details of your relationship but it’s possible you were in a “trauma bond.” You can look it up and see if that might be the reason you can’t let go of the relationship. I hope this may help you. God Bless🙏
This is so true. Mines came back after 9 months. I was weak and took him back. He didn't last two weeks😂. He went right back to the rebound.
Damn you plummeted your worth.
@@michaella5799 wow you're real positive 😭🤣🤣🤣
You was supposed to make him work to get back with you, he only came back for an ego boost, he played you.
So good. Thank u!
I used to tell my ex its all about him. He ran off with his ex. Fine with me. He wants her, he can have her. Everything said in this video is true. I wasnt good enough to work it out with,vso why would I think he'd have a change of mind when coming back.
You have such an amazing way of explaining these concepts, thank you 😊
@@miraclesubliminals Thank you. You're welcome 🙏🏾
It's called Abandonment!
This is my story .....he left last year then came back and I took him back . Yesterday he broke up with me and went off to a girl I thought was my friend and so I introduced him to her...... . But if he does come back again, I can't take him back because he's gonna do it over and over
Hey friend, you're gorgeous. I'm single and a very nice guy. Let's be friends and stop going back to this guy who keeps doing u wrong
@cocobeautyfrombarbados3807 Exactly. I'm glad you're learning now. Don't take back toxicity. You got this. 💪🏾💯
me too husband rebound w his ex gf fr hschool..its soooo painful but will never ever let him back again to me! no
If he comes back you will still fall for it 😂
Never take an ex back, especially a girlfriend.
They want to build a kingdom with u or whomever, but still wants the attention/love from the village 🤷♂️
I appreciate this perspective.
My wife of 18 years left on thanksgiving . 5 days later shes trying to come back I really needed to hear this . I got the dog and our 16 year old son. Shes doing me a favor a just cant see it
I think it depends. It's not a black and white thing. I've been the rebound and the rebounder in the my past. At the very least, no one should take ex back right away or immediately after their rebound has run its course because 1) the issues that damaged the relationship before the break-up likely haven't been resolved (which could lead to another break-up), 2) the rebound might still be around on stand-by or the ex could easily find another, and 3) they still have to figure how to heal without someone else being their distraction. There are people that give themselves time to heal the right way and those that find another rebound because they are afraid to do the work (which could have to do with low self-esteem, attachment style, and/or unresolved trauma).
In most cases, it takes at least year, or longer. You'll find that some of your exes do come back on their own after some time. But, you have to vet them to see if it's worth it or not. In some cases, you may already be with someone else by then (which is usually what motivates them to spin the block).
All you people online think they rebound because they want to heal, which is not always the case.
Sometimes they didn't love you anymore, didn't give a rat's ass about you, and just wanted to date again, meet new people, etc. Maybe they had nothing to heal, and had zero love/attraction at that point.
I've experienced both sides of the coin on that matter.
@ I did say it’s not a black and white thing… so I’m not ruling out those possibilities either.
I think every situation is different, especially understanding the difference between men and woman.
Men are loyal to an oath, Women are loyal to their feelings.
Our relationship became toxic and nothing could be talked about at the time, so it need to end.
Now we have actually had amazing conversations.
She just replaced me with him to distract from the pain.
I also believe getting back together can and does make a stronger relationship
Look it at like sports....
They put YOU in the game, when the starter isn't ready.....once QB1 is back, you're back on the bench
Great advice!
@@sameena713 🙏🏾💪🏾
Never ever i don't care with or without rebound
Cool video , My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
Have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive.
Thank you! But what if it’s both of you as I just took accountability on my situation which I’m working on healing and to embrace being single for the very first time since I was 15 yo, now I’m 49 yo been 3 yrs and it actually feels great being in isolation and getting to know thyself without running to people places and things😅❤
Exactly, he's not coming back. I look at him totally different now🤮
@@ldonthaveanaccount Good 👏🏾
Great perspective
❤Thank you ❤
@@scorpiored3871 You're welcome 🙏🏾❤️
So weird, my ex is cheating on her rebound😂
With whooo😂
That is not always true, because she said she tried and tried and she couldn't get through to me.
The key word "Said."
True dat.
@@walsie435 💯
I don't do sloppy seconds
What if it’s not taking them back? But starting over. Rebuilding slowly to building trust. They would have to do the work and we would have to do counseling. I would have to see over time that they are changing. My ex and planned to talk in about 2 months. See where we are at. I was the one that stepped out and she is healing right now. We are very kind to each other now but she said that she needs more time so gave it to her. I’m enjoying my time alone to heal what I need too.
It could happen. Time heals all.
@ just talked to her for the first time today. She said she will be contacting me soon. I’m enjoying the alone time rn. I’m building a whole new life!
@@chriss_volleyball I love to see it.
Better to do it with someone new. You will always have the mud flung to your face by your ex when she was breaking up wit you..
@@kiddytube3915 or maybe his ex is actually trying to heal and would like to make things better. There’s no reason to act like you know the situation better than one that’s in it.
My husband left our home to live with his mother so he can cheat with no obligation sick this is a nightmare
Sounds like he was emotionally immature also.
true
His rebound didn’t work out. From what I hear not any of his r’ships since have worked out. Me - no dating and staying single
Question people: What if you cheated and then you tried for 6months trying to get her back but then find out she as fucking a next dude like days after you called it off propa …… and she said “she trying to fill a void” would this apply ?
I lover her just not in love with her anymore cause she could just let me go but instead she played me and took my money and time… 🤷🏾♂️😢 Teo wrongs don’t make a right but I like have got her the moon before all of this ?
She didn’t want the moon &the stars, she wanted loyalty. She is long gone. If she fucking that dude most likely she has feelings for him (like 99%) She definitely has a void he is filling up. If you not in love with her no more then move on and find someone you can be in love with AND be loyal to cause if she get back with you, her mind will always be on him and will probably be the one cheating on you next and use you cheating as an excuse to justify.
Ehh.... You cheated, bro. Your situation sounds like karma came back to get you. The universe will show you that playing with people has consequences, and you'll end up playing yourself in the short-term or the long-term. You should have moved on.
Plus, why would you want to go back to a woman you cheated on? Two wrongs don't make a right, but what about the accountability of your own actions? It's like you're holding her more accountable for playing you, taking your time and your money, rather than you looking at yourself in the mirror. Where is your ownership of the situation?
Nope, nope, and nope.
what if you're the one that fucked up the relationship?
What if i left him?
@@RichShanta Then you shouldn't go back.
1000%!
What if I'm the one that cheated and they left immediately and got in a rebound?
Did the same. Forgive yourself first, you're unconscious only believes that through changed behaviour over a long period of time. If they rebounded ask yourself whether you are happy to deal with what comes with that if you get back together or whether you're only entertaining that thought because of what you did. When you've reached a conclusion follow suit on either path: 1) trying to get them back and 2) trying to get yourself back. You have no choice in going down the second path, it's up to you whether you want to pursue the first too
@@gmma125_5 definitely won't try the first .... I said the rebound part because she said it was a guy she liked and also i got info that she was out wit dude , he was posting on social media. To be honest i didn't even care about it long as we wouldn't fixed our issues but she didn't give in and was stringing me along to get some type of compensation out of me .... once i figured shit out i left and been ignoring her since , now she's mad and running me down . Keep calling and texting with threats and demands, I'll just keep ignoring
Any power she thought she had she lost and now she's spiraling
Move on cause cheating wounds cut deep, if she gets back with you she won’t let it go. She will check your phone, etc. and it will turn toxic quick. Trust is gone and gone for good, in my experience in life there has been no one who lost my trust nor lost trust in me has ever get it back.
You deserve the heartache then. Live and learn
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive