I was with her for 20 years and she thought she had me figured out. She was very sneaky and manipulative. In 2023 she finally overplayed her hand and divorced/discarded me. The day I moved was the day that I went no contact and knew I was done/done! Its been 10 months now and she has hoovered so much that I had to change my number. She burned the bridge and I burned the door, no contact for life, checkmate clown!
I clocked he was a narc right from the off, so I’ve never initiated contact, I’ve never reached out to him. This has really surprised him. He’s asked me on three separate occasions now why I never initiate contact or make an effort. And my answer is always the same - I feel no need or have the desire to. He still repeatedly texts and asks if I’m dead (because I make no effort). Indifference (or no contact) really is the answer.
JOE, you are the BEST! You seriously have saved me. I'm sure you have saved many. Continue doing what your doing. Thank you! I have PTSD now and your voice makes me calm. God bless you!❤
This is the best weapon you have. I unfortunately dated my Narcissist next door neighbor for about 6 months but had a good idea from the beginning what I was dealing with. I dumped her during the devaluation stage and she was not pleased. She promptly slept with a bunch of random men and had a transitional supply. It has been 4 months and now she has a new supply. She called me twice one night after 3 months but I have her blocked so she has no idea I know. We ran into one another a couple weeks ago and she said Hiiiiii!!! I just made no eye contact and said how ya doing. I can tell she is still furious with me and I love it and It all because of indifference they can't stand it. Great channel Joe keep it up.
O Joe….your really spoiling us ! Another insightful video 😊. Absolutely…indifference is the key 👌….thankyou as always 🙏🏻❤️….as a side note..the image of him as a rat with goofy teeth & little round glasses keeps popping up 😂🤣🤓
It took a couple of months after some serious mind games to really see the narc for what they were - but people like Joe here really helped. Once seen you can’t unsee it.
You videos have got me through my last relationship. He did come back but I listen to enough videos to do the right thing. And now he’s gone ❤ thank u 🙏🏾
Wanting to take revenge against narcissist is also narcissism. Being too concerned about whether the narc is suffering without me or how bad they are is also another form of narcissism or another way of postponing life .
The purpose is just to have calm peaceful life, that is life without a narcissist. Them being suffering is "collateral damage". Personally I don't like the idea that they suffer being ignored, but we have to choose - do we suffer pleasing them or they suffer when we do not please them....
@@BifidokKefir we enable such behaviours because it is our toxic behaviour to do so just that they have a different kind of toxicity than us. We are all toxic. We are toxic empath no less toxic than narc. We still hold onto our toxicity by avoiding narc because we do not want to change. Narc forces us to change and grow up out of our empath-fantasy but we do not want to we would rather run away and stay the same while concerned about how bad the narc is. We just like to have the cake and eat it without tasting sour.
This is exactly what i did when he devalued me and almost disgarded me i didn't react at all didn't chase just we🎉completely silent . Now hes blocked and deleted fir the 3rd and fin🎉time. 😊🇬🇧thank you great video yes stsrted doing silent treatments after 17 monof none i didn't react at all.just went silent 🤣🤣🤣🇬🇧
He was (when living with us) emotionally, psychological, financialy abusive to me and the children ( even physically with them). But now he's been living by this image to his co workers and everyone else of 'father of the year'. Behind close doors he's essentially the same. Me wanting to disappear with the kids, cut all contact and wanting nothing to do with his existence - makes me a narcissist?
Definitely food for thought 🧐… but you are right in that given enough time the narcissist will show their true colors. They will never apologize or admit that they have done anything wrong. You will never get closure or any explanation from them for their behavior. They will always be the first ones to claim that you are the crazy one. I remember as a teenager after an unexpected break up with my first love being compared to the woman from the movie Fatal Attraction. This was months after the breakup and I sent an angry letter to him along with all of the items he had given me. An angry letter and a woman attempting to kill you and boiling your children’s bunnies are no where near the same category. To this day I would bet dollars to donuts that he still buys into this nonsense. For a heart broken kid to be compared to a “crazed bunny boiler” really does a number on one’s self esteem. Talk about adding insult to injury. I was completely crushed, that totally broke me in a million pieces. It wasn’t until I started learning about narcissism that I started to question the whole relationship. He was at the right age when narcissism begins to show. That’s when the ghosting started and that was before “ghosting” was a thing… I often wonder if that’s part of the reason why I ended up marrying my narcissistic ex? I can’t say for certain that my first love is in fact a narcissist, but I can’t help but question the signs. I question the good things between us before the sudden out of the blue break up. It was like the difference between night and day. I have attempted to apologize for the things I said in that letter over the years but it always went ignored so I just gave up trying to mend things. You do what you can but if you are the only one interested in trying to heal the relationship or mend old wounds and misunderstandings then your hands are tied and the impasse remains. All of these videos on narcissistic behavior have given me a lot of food for thought.
I was with her for 20 years and she thought she had me figured out. She was very sneaky and manipulative. In 2023 she finally overplayed her hand and divorced/discarded me. The day I moved was the day that I went no contact and knew I was done/done! Its been 10 months now and she has hoovered so much that I had to change my number. She burned the bridge and I burned the door, no contact for life, checkmate clown!
Nice, Good job!! 👏🏻
INATTENTION IS THE GREATEST REVENGE!
I clocked he was a narc right from the off, so I’ve never initiated contact, I’ve never reached out to him. This has really surprised him. He’s asked me on three separate occasions now why I never initiate contact or make an effort. And my answer is always the same - I feel no need or have the desire to. He still repeatedly texts and asks if I’m dead (because I make no effort). Indifference (or no contact) really is the answer.
Silence is power. 💪
I got shit to do. Mind games cause me to lose interest. Plus if it's not mutual I eventually get bored.
JOE, you are the BEST! You seriously have saved me. I'm sure you have saved many. Continue doing what your doing. Thank you! I have PTSD now and your voice makes me calm. God bless you!❤
This is the best weapon you have. I unfortunately dated my Narcissist next door neighbor for about 6 months but had a good idea from the beginning what I was dealing with. I dumped her during the devaluation stage and she was not pleased. She promptly slept with a bunch of random men and had a transitional supply. It has been 4 months and now she has a new supply. She called me twice one night after 3 months but I have her blocked so she has no idea I know. We ran into one another a couple weeks ago and she said Hiiiiii!!! I just made no eye contact and said how ya doing. I can tell she is still furious with me and I love it and It all because of indifference they can't stand it. Great channel Joe keep it up.
O Joe….your really spoiling us ! Another insightful video 😊. Absolutely…indifference is the key 👌….thankyou as always 🙏🏻❤️….as a side note..the image of him as a rat with goofy teeth & little round glasses keeps popping up 😂🤣🤓
He dug his own grave bec i went no contact blocked and changed my number as soon as he started giving me the silent treatment for the nth time.
It took a couple of months after some serious mind games to really see the narc for what they were - but people like Joe here really helped.
Once seen you can’t unsee it.
Joe, congrats on over 20K subs. Everybody hit the like button! Spread the word. Been here since 9K.
Thought he was going to play me … but got played…😏💅🏽💃🏽
You videos have got me through my last relationship. He did come back but I listen to enough videos to do the right thing. And now he’s gone ❤ thank u 🙏🏾
Centeredness is the key word here
Indifference.
Wanting to take revenge against narcissist is also narcissism. Being too concerned about whether the narc is suffering without me or how bad they are is also another form of narcissism or another way of postponing life .
The purpose is just to have calm peaceful life, that is life without a narcissist. Them being suffering is "collateral damage". Personally I don't like the idea that they suffer being ignored, but we have to choose - do we suffer pleasing them or they suffer when we do not please them....
@@BifidokKefir we enable such behaviours because it is our toxic behaviour to do so just that they have a different kind of toxicity than us. We are all toxic. We are toxic empath no less toxic than narc. We still hold onto our toxicity by avoiding narc because we do not want to change. Narc forces us to change and grow up out of our empath-fantasy but we do not want to we would rather run away and stay the same while concerned about how bad the narc is. We just like to have the cake and eat it without tasting sour.
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 are relationships between narcissist man and narcissist woman more harmonic than between an empath and a narc?
That isn't true, wanting revenge is a perfectly normal feeling after being wronged or hurt by someone, it's a fleeting feeling, we all have egos.
@@face2799 perfectly normal but not healthy
Thank you, Joe. Great message. You are appreciated.
Thank you 🙏
Very good thank you!
When you ignore the narcissist, they will rachet up the abuse until you react. Then they will call you crazy.
Drive them crazy and call them crazy
Hence, "Reactive Abuse." Smh
Yeah i played him in the end i won 😊
Totally Gut This Talk. Indifference is a good place to be :)
This is exactly what i did when he devalued me and almost disgarded me i didn't react at all didn't chase just we🎉completely silent . Now hes blocked and deleted fir the 3rd and fin🎉time. 😊🇬🇧thank you great video yes stsrted doing silent treatments after 17 monof none i didn't react at all.just went silent 🤣🤣🤣🇬🇧
Damn, it's so hard to bite my tongue, but I'm doing it.
Excellent as always ! and i really enjoyed as always ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗❤
He was (when living with us) emotionally, psychological, financialy abusive to me and the children ( even physically with them). But now he's been living by this image to his co workers and everyone else of 'father of the year'. Behind close doors he's essentially the same. Me wanting to disappear with the kids, cut all contact and wanting nothing to do with his existence - makes me a narcissist?
Only if you saw disappearing with the kids as revenge rather than your own sanity
Great advice
Thank you!
thank you ♥️
Definitely food for thought 🧐… but you are right in that given enough time the narcissist will show their true colors. They will never apologize or admit that they have done anything wrong. You will never get closure or any explanation from them for their behavior. They will always be the first ones to claim that you are the crazy one. I remember as a teenager after an unexpected break up with my first love being compared to the woman from the movie Fatal Attraction. This was months after the breakup and I sent an angry letter to him along with all of the items he had given me. An angry letter and a woman attempting to kill you and boiling your children’s bunnies are no where near the same category. To this day I would bet dollars to donuts that he still buys into this nonsense. For a heart broken kid to be compared to a “crazed bunny boiler” really does a number on one’s self esteem. Talk about adding insult to injury. I was completely crushed, that totally broke me in a million pieces. It wasn’t until I started learning about narcissism that I started to question the whole relationship. He was at the right age when narcissism begins to show. That’s when the ghosting started and that was before “ghosting” was a thing… I often wonder if that’s part of the reason why I ended up marrying my narcissistic ex? I can’t say for certain that my first love is in fact a narcissist, but I can’t help but question the signs. I question the good things between us before the sudden out of the blue break up. It was like the difference between night and day. I have attempted to apologize for the things I said in that letter over the years but it always went ignored so I just gave up trying to mend things. You do what you can but if you are the only one interested in trying to heal the relationship or mend old wounds and misunderstandings then your hands are tied and the impasse remains. All of these videos on narcissistic behavior have given me a lot of food for thought.
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I got shit to do. Mind games cause me to lose interest. Plus if it's not mutual I eventually get bored.