Molested by her Brother

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  • @EBlueTX
    @EBlueTX ปีที่แล้ว +2411

    Whatever family therapist told her that “but he’s your brother” is insane . And needs their license revoked .

    • @_4mel13
      @_4mel13 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Had the same thing said to me in regards to my dad and have been trying to get her license revoked but it’s almost impossible due to the lack of people in that workforce 💔

    • @Apk1991
      @Apk1991 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      That’s why I don’t trust most therapist. In my opinion, only very few are qualified. They’re just normal everyday people who went to school. Most aren’t that smart

    • @katetomlinson1638
      @katetomlinson1638 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      my father says this, what the hell do i do then..

    • @kirbysthiccthighs
      @kirbysthiccthighs ปีที่แล้ว +9

      some therapists really just say shit. i had one tell me i needed to take responsibility for being drunk when i was SA’d……… i was practically force fed alcohol. (plus i was very open about the fact i was drunk- i feel like that was a key element in what happened)

    • @Apk1991
      @Apk1991 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@kirbysthiccthighs at the end of the day, I always try to hold myself accountable for what happens to me. That doesn’t mean I think other people are justified for taking advantage of me though. I think it means they’re nasty and sick and that I should realize that these people do exist. I feel like it’s important to have a sober a sober chaperone.

  • @tobygimez7948
    @tobygimez7948 ปีที่แล้ว +1080

    I was molested by my brother at a very young age , 8 years he molested . Hearing her story and how it affected her ; it has helped me understand that I shouldn’t feel embarrassed or ashamed . I promised myself I wouldn’t tell anyone but seeing her talk about it made me realize that I shouldn’t be ashamed of telling my family. So thank you for sharing you’re story

    • @phillyyyyy-e3s
      @phillyyyyy-e3s ปีที่แล้ว +15

      ❤ kia kaha

    • @bigb853
      @bigb853 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Big love and healing energy to you darling xo 💖💖🧿🧿

    • @ChaiLatte13
      @ChaiLatte13 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      You should not feel ashamed of telling your family, but I do want to caution you that it may not go the way you want and to be prepared for whatever reaction/outcome.

    • @magyarmainer4692
      @magyarmainer4692 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      God bless you . I wish you the best in your healing journey!

    • @kirbysthiccthighs
      @kirbysthiccthighs ปีที่แล้ว +5

      sending so much love and support!! wishing you a happy, healthy healing experience💜💜💜

  • @tamerajames5590
    @tamerajames5590 ปีที่แล้ว +795

    Child on child abuse needs to be discussed more! Parents teach your kids to keep their hands to themselves!!! It’s such a weird and complicated thing to talk about, that a child is capable of something like that

    • @Ellgand
      @Ellgand 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      No fr

    • @williammilestone5386
      @williammilestone5386 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      They should at least film it

    • @EmilyyCore11
      @EmilyyCore11 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      THANK YOU!!!❤❤

  • @frostbite3820
    @frostbite3820 ปีที่แล้ว +628

    It blows my mind her mom would ask her what she wanted to happen to him and follow that request. She was waaaayyy to young to make that call

    • @Poopiepies
      @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Not to mention the power dynamics between victims and perpetrators

    • @noriwilliams4637
      @noriwilliams4637 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Yes she put her responsibility on the abused child.

    • @babysacrifice
      @babysacrifice ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I was sexually abused by my brother at a young age, it went to the police, where I was questioned by a "special detective" idk the name of them. But she asked me the same question when I was a child. It makes you wonder if that's the way they were taught how to approach that kind of situation???

    • @Aelffwynn
      @Aelffwynn 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      ​​​@@babysacrifice idk but they may ask just to gauge how the victim is feeling/how ready they are to talk about it. Her mom did take responsibility by getting her to therapy and preventing it ever happening again. You'll never know how you'd handle it unless you're put in that situation (and I truly wish these problems didn't exist.)

  • @Userunknown135
    @Userunknown135 ปีที่แล้ว +241

    I was molested by my older brother last year and hearing her story makes me less ashamed of sharing my story. My heart goes out to anyone dealing with the same thing, you’re not alone.

    • @ruxandstuff6622
      @ruxandstuff6622 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dam

    • @Userunknown135
      @Userunknown135 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@ruxandstuff6622 tell me why ur comment made me laugh

    • @ruxandstuff6622
      @ruxandstuff6622 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Userunknown135 twisted humor maybe

    • @AshFlowers-xx8rn
      @AshFlowers-xx8rn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      same, her story was so similar to mine

    • @ruxandstuff6622
      @ruxandstuff6622 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@AshFlowers-xx8rn that some tough shit man

  • @dem280
    @dem280 ปีที่แล้ว +819

    As a 15 year old to feel sexually attracted to a 7 YEAR old child is beyond mentally ill. Nobody who feels this way should ever be allowed to walk freely into the world, considering children are everywhere. If at 15 years old he was capable of molesting his OWN family, what would he be capable of later into the future?

    • @xochilsilva1357
      @xochilsilva1357 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Those ppl usually had a sexual trauma at a young age.

    • @raechel381
      @raechel381 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      I honestly don’t think it’s “beyond mentally ill” 15 years old is still a child, too. I’m not saying it’s right that it happened. They are old enough to know better, but I don’t think it is right to say it’s “beyond mentally ill”. 15 year olds hang out with 7 year olds all the time. It’s not that abnormal for them to be around kids that age. The only abnormal part is the assault.

    • @dem280
      @dem280 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@raechel381 Well I obviously do know 15 year old's hang out with children pretty fairly, but to ASSAULT and permanently scar your 7 year old nephew is BEYOND mentally ill from my perspective. He was supposed to be someone she trusted with her life.. He might still had been a child, but that should **never** make it right. Fifteen years old is is old enough to distinguish good from bad, ethical from unethical.

    • @nekeon
      @nekeon ปีที่แล้ว +45

      In most cases it is not sexual attraction but opportunity. Children become victims because they are easier to abuse than people of the same age. Most child molesters are not pedos. It's about power and availability of the victim. In this case it's easier for the brother to abuse his younger sister than finding and grooming a victim elsewhere.

    • @piggywiggy3233
      @piggywiggy3233 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I agree, every 15 yr old has common sense and knows damn well not to sexually touch a family member especially a younger one.

  • @itsnotthatdeepluv
    @itsnotthatdeepluv ปีที่แล้ว +160

    this is something so common and stomach turning. i’m proud of those who are strong enough to speak up about it

  • @walpurgisnight7
    @walpurgisnight7 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    I have such mixed feelings. I love the comfort that comes from knowing she's my age and has been through a lot of similar experiences. But, I'm also so hurt seeing other people having been put through so much.

  • @Toxiccrybby
    @Toxiccrybby 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    This is the first time I’ve heard someone speak on something like this happening.
    I was abused by my brother for 10 yrs from 2 to 12 & still to this day as a grown woman with a family of my own I still have nightmares & triggers.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story.

    • @earthyvibez77
      @earthyvibez77 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I feel you girl ❤️❤️❤️ sending you love during this time of healing

    • @Waschooldrama-os6xs
      @Waschooldrama-os6xs 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That is crazy because I couldn’t imagine that it was 5 years for me I don’t think I would be able to live with that for 5 more years

    • @desibeverage9702
      @desibeverage9702 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank goodness you all made it through. I went thru it too; step brother

    • @williammilestone5386
      @williammilestone5386 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@desibeverage9702 did he came inside you?

  • @klownofkether6996
    @klownofkether6996 ปีที่แล้ว +269

    Lexie has such a kind and calming presence, I feel very grounded when she speaks and I admire her extreme resilience she displays without sacrificing her gentle spirit. I wish you the absolute best on your journey🤍!

  • @aer1onna
    @aer1onna 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    listening to her speak out is honestly so empowering. child on child sexual abuse is real and i’ve been through it also but haven’t really spoken out about it. she’s so strong for telling her story and i wish the best for her

  • @leen3224
    @leen3224 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    my brother was 14, i was 6. Thank you for posting this. please be weary in justifying the brothers actions.

    • @ambwhgrvgfamber4609
      @ambwhgrvgfamber4609 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      oh my god me too I’m so sorry you had that happen

    • @Waschooldrama-os6xs
      @Waschooldrama-os6xs 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My brother was 13 I was 8

  • @Melodybun666
    @Melodybun666 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    I don't think I've ever heard a story so close to mine. My birth mom lost all my siblings to dr*gs and I was born on m3th I have 10 siblings. Only 4 of us stayed with my gma but she legally adopted me when I was a baby and never told me I was adopted until I was about 7. My oldest brother is sadly the reason I relate to this video so much. Thank you Lexi for telling your story you have no idea what kind of comfort it gave me knowing I'm not alone.

  • @BethanyHouser
    @BethanyHouser ปีที่แล้ว +148

    When I saw the title I got hit with emotion because this is something very big in my life and it’s horrible but comforting to hear I’m not alone in this situation - I know many people unfortunately have this horror story but it’s nice to know other peoples experience and feel less alone 🤍 I’m ‘excited?’ To watch 🙂 thank you for sharing your story

    • @ceresewilliams9423
      @ceresewilliams9423 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I pray for healing, for anyone this has happened to. My brother groomed me and did it to me when I was 6. I pushed it away until I couldn’t anymore, but nothing really came from it. I’m going to have to pause this bc of the emotion. It’s so good though, I will be coming back tonight to finish it

    • @Charlton2010
      @Charlton2010 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I can’t even begin to imagine what you both must of went through and mentally still go through everyday I assume. Hope you can both still find happiness in your lives and get real love from the people you do trust ❤

  • @Ileannap
    @Ileannap ปีที่แล้ว +137

    Thank you so much for telling this story. My mother was also a victim of incestuous abuse and her and I navigate the fallout of that abuse everyday. So many people are hiding this secret. You’re shattering the stigma one person at a time, and it gives me up that people like my mother (and myself, to a much lesser degree) can cope, heal and to learn healthy love.

    • @misskaos5905
      @misskaos5905 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      i agree, my family has a lot of trauma and abuse from previous generations. it becomes the sickest family cycle. it ended with me and my sister, my mom made sure it didn't happen to us by the hands of our own family, we were kept away from certain members, outcast by the rest of the family, but he finally died, our family came back around and admitted it was wrong of him after my mom told her story. and i pray he didn't make it through heavens gates because he promised he would that he was saved... no baptism can wash what he did. God wouldn't let such a monster into his kingdom.

  • @__MariNic
    @__MariNic ปีที่แล้ว +140

    Host please be kind when “justifying” why the brother did what he did. You kinda spoke against her and her theory. I understand he may have “learned that behavior and didn’t feel how wrong it was” but it was totally wrong and shouldn’t have been done

    • @icravedeath.1200
      @icravedeath.1200 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah stuff like this is very complicated and there is an element of a cycle of abuse here.

  • @gabbygabs5107
    @gabbygabs5107 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I just wanted to say that I’m so proud of this girl for sharing her story - this type of abuse is SO common yet so stigmatized and for this woman to come on and tell her experience to the world is really brave and incredible.

  • @andreafahnestock9349
    @andreafahnestock9349 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    It seems at times that the host wants to seem as unbiased as possible to the point of not taking a stance against clearly wrong behavior. The brother’s actions are inexcusable, even if he was abused too. The grandmother should have done more to protect the victim and help her process what had happened. Explaining away inexcusable behavior just creates more gray area for abusers to justify their actions, and for bystanders to refrain from taking action.

    • @kaeluckky2220
      @kaeluckky2220 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes

    • @Poopiepies
      @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Right? I’ve wanted to share my story here about surviving csa and incest, but still feel iffy with how the host handles certain things

    • @andreafahnestock9349
      @andreafahnestock9349 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Poopiepies totally makes sense. I like her as a person but I’ve felt this with a few of the vids. Maybe there’s a similar platform with a therapist host or other professional trained in dealing with those issues? It’s awesome that you want to share your story. 💜

    • @Poopiepies
      @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว

      @@andreafahnestock9349 I’ve done therapy and all that, I just wish there were more stories about women on women sexual abuse. I feel like it’s so taboo to talk about and not represented much in any form of media. I’ve seen a few people share their stories (shows like iyanla fix my life) but it’s still very rare to hear true stories of women surviving incest and csa from another woman.

    • @ashes2ashes394
      @ashes2ashes394 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@PoopiepiesJessica Simpson writes in her book about her family friend that was female molested her for years and when she finally told her parents all her mom said in the car was ,
      “I told you something was going on!” To her dad and that was basically it. Never talked to her about it etc…..

  • @ChubbiBunni06
    @ChubbiBunni06 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I feel very heavy and deep listening to this because I was molested by my step brother when I was 12 I am currently 17 and now 5 years later I’m battling ptsd and trauma from it. I want to give her a hug

    • @FreshmenThesis
      @FreshmenThesis ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Please reach out for resources where available none of it was your fault and you shouldn’t have to suffer any second longer than you have. It never leaves you fully but you can get to a better quality of life and you deserve that 🫂💜

  • @sonnasolod.9406
    @sonnasolod.9406 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    Child on child sexual abuse happens more that you would think!! Please never let children play alone behind closed doors. Supervise or frequent check. It takes ONE time then they have trauma.

    • @sorrythatimsorry
      @sorrythatimsorry 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      this

    • @sorrythatimsorry
      @sorrythatimsorry 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      my mom said “i never had anyone around” but she didnt have to, it easily happens inside the family

  • @Aidenxn
    @Aidenxn ปีที่แล้ว +130

    This happened to me as a child, as far as I can remember. Before starting kindergarten. At the time didn't realize I was being affected so I even just let it happen because I just didn't understand. It affected how sexually active I was during my teens. He stopped when I was in middle school because I finally told him to stop and one time I even threw a pair of metal scissors. I'm 29 now and at age 25 I started having breakdowns during sexual intercourse. It all caught up to me and I am so thankful my partner really helped me to navigate through it. I still get intrusive thoughts at times but I don't break down anymore at least. When I finally told my parents about 3 years ago and my mom also asked me what I wanted to happen to him. This is all just so fucked. Thank you for sharing your story Lexie. You're not alone❤

  • @Mothcat.
    @Mothcat. ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I truly hope that everyone who had similar experiences is doing alright. I have my own trauma revolving around it. You are never, ever at fault. You did nothing that could warrant someone that you love hurting you in such a way. You deserve to be truly loved and cared about.

  • @mikaylagray649
    @mikaylagray649 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    this is one of the only podcasts I’ve been watching lately. hearing everyone’s stories makes me so emotional 😭

  • @shawnafairchild417
    @shawnafairchild417 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I was sexualized at a very young age. I was groped by peers, groomed and groped by a friends older cousin who was married with children of his own. I was hit on by my older siblings friends. I was groomed and manipulated by my oldest sisters husbands coworker. I'm learning now as an adult woman, that all of those scenarios have affected my subconscious views on relationships. Of men. For a long time I accepted any attention as good attention, even when it wasn't. Now at 31 I'm finally okay being alone. I'm finally putting my foot down on things i will not accept from men, from relationships. Even the things that seem so insignificant at the time, can mess you up for life.

    • @anotherdeadgrl
      @anotherdeadgrl 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      i love this

    • @superquasigalaxygamer6297
      @superquasigalaxygamer6297 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Been through similar situations, and recently I've come to the same place as your were here. I hope you're doing much better, and I wish you a happy life full of healing 🫂❤️ we both got this

    • @courtneymiszczak6413
      @courtneymiszczak6413 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I relate so much!! My uncle ruined so many aspects of my life. I was able to be groomed and dated horrible people as a result of how I was raised. It makes me sad to think of how my life could be different if this didn’t happen, but I’ve since grieved the version that’s been lost and embraced who I am now.

  • @lexii8211
    @lexii8211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As someone who has an extremely similar story, it is almost comforting for me to hear how this has affected her because I have had the same exact reaction physically, and mentally overtime!
    My nickname is also Lexii .. so many parallels. I appreciate you telling your story.

  • @brynsheeler1657
    @brynsheeler1657 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    She is a blessing to this world. People are so afraid to talk about this specific type of sexual abuse and it means so much to me as a victim of the same exact type of abuse. If she ever sees this thank you so much. I can’t even thank you enough. This matters so much.

  • @handaboo7683
    @handaboo7683 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    all these years later and i still struggle with feelings of guilt, as though it was my fault my older brother molested me as a child, before i even knew what sex was. he took most of my childhood memories away from me, and he still lives with my family as though nothing ever happened. thank you for your strength in sharing this story

  • @breakfastclosed
    @breakfastclosed ปีที่แล้ว +56

    My friend went through something very similar and her family still hasn’t healed from these cycles bc they refuse to acknowledge it. To say it broke my heart to find these things she went through was an understatement. I have two close friends both victims of incest. I had no idea how common it seems to be. I think these conversations are so important to be had so victims know they are not alone.

  • @purplepizzaeater2143
    @purplepizzaeater2143 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This is so sad, I have had almost the same experience in my own life and it's a hard thing to get past. She is such a strong woman and I am so proud of her for speaking out 💛💛💛

  • @CedeJacobs
    @CedeJacobs ปีที่แล้ว +115

    this is such a sad story and it almost makes you think that it could be hereditary with how many others in her family suffered the same way that she did. very relatable unfortunately but also very inspirational to hear her speak on something so vulnerable.

    • @Olivia-yx9dh
      @Olivia-yx9dh ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Trauma definitely travels through bloodlines. Generational curses is what it can be referred to as.

    • @CedeJacobs
      @CedeJacobs ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Olivia-yx9dh scary and also v sad 🙁

    • @Olivia-yx9dh
      @Olivia-yx9dh ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@CedeJacobs absolutely !

    • @Poopiepies
      @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This is what we aren’t going to do. Just because there were many people who continued the pattern of trauma in her family does not make it hereditary. These sort of thoughts are SO harmful to survivors of this type of trauma. They will always wonder if there’s a monster just like their abuser lurking within them because people like you think it’s genetics instead of sick people making sick choices.

    • @icravedeath.1200
      @icravedeath.1200 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@Poopiepiessomebody doesn't know what a cycle if abuse is.

  • @iraidi1230
    @iraidi1230 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Ur not alone girl🖤 I’m 25 with a similar situation. I’m lost too. But being lost means your really setting things in motion towards your healing and growth and figuring out who we truly are🖤✨ hang in there and let the lost be your comfy velvet black blanket as you take each day on one at a time ❤🖤✨

    • @taylorw4733
      @taylorw4733 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      29 with a similar story too. I didn’t figure things out and begin healing until I was 23

  • @IrishBeauty44
    @IrishBeauty44 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I was molested when I was a child by my neighbour and while it wasn’t a sibling but I can relate how much it affected her. I’m glad she has come out and talked about it help other people

  • @lorelydiaz3294
    @lorelydiaz3294 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Thank you for speaking your truth. This podcast was extremely comforting.

  • @megmurphy6847
    @megmurphy6847 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    So conflicting when a child who’s been molested, molests another child. How do you react to that? Do they deserve jail time? Just therapy? How can you allow that child to carry on living alongside the sibling they molested? But in the same note how can you punish them and send them away for repeating the same behaviours that happened to them that they believed were normal? So difficult

  • @Willhc222
    @Willhc222 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This happen to me too when i was 7 years old, it was my brother and i never told my parents. I felt and still feel like shit, ashamed and angry. Now I'm 21 years old and i'm a total mess, i feel like i'm not a normal person, i feel like he took away my childhood. And i'm thinking that because of that I'm never going to have a normal and happy life, This is so unfair, life is so unfair

    • @kar0047
      @kar0047 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Go to therapy.

    • @Poopiepies
      @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Tell your parents. They can do with the information what they will, but it is so liberating to stop pretending at every family event.

    • @iam__shaylaa
      @iam__shaylaa 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awwwwn I’m so sorry that happened to you 💔 You should consider getting a therapist ❤️ I can see the hurt

    • @stephtaglianetti
      @stephtaglianetti 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Please seek counseling. My daughter told me about her brother. I believed her and he never lived with us again. We had to go to court. I try not to ever have them in the same situation with the family. Maybe twice in 6 yrs.

  • @emmadear3276
    @emmadear3276 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Such a soft spoken person but how powerful. I was really impacted by this story in a positive way. Thanks for sharing Lexi❤

  • @precious_toebeans
    @precious_toebeans ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This title made my heart absolutely sink, as this is what I am healing from. Then hearing the story just. Dang. Heart ripped.

  • @krisv4284
    @krisv4284 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    it happened to me too, i literally have never told anyone about it i dont even know how to explain it. right now i'm at my lowest point and it's been haunting me. i dont feel like i will ever be able to talk about it and i'm so scared, i'm scared about the future and i'm scared i'll break my mom's heart. i dont want anything to change but at the same time i dont want things to stay the same.

    • @OrganicUnitedProductions
      @OrganicUnitedProductions 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Speak up

    • @NinjaDaReal
      @NinjaDaReal 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Jesus Christ.💚

    • @OrganicUnitedProductions
      @OrganicUnitedProductions 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@NinjaDaReal 🙏🙏🏽

    • @davesmith3030
      @davesmith3030 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i hope u find peace , i still cant at 36

    • @stephtaglianetti
      @stephtaglianetti 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Please tell her. I'm a mom and it did break my heart, but I immediately helped my daughter. Go to therapy as well.

  • @claudiacaro624
    @claudiacaro624 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Thank you for this. My (female) cousin and I were molested and s3xually abused by our other (male) cousin from like 5 to 10-ish and it's still a "family secret" everyone in the family knows about. I of course don't talk or relate to them at all. We might have the same blood but that doesn't make you even a friend to me if you're an abuser.

    • @simplynikki
      @simplynikki ปีที่แล้ว +10

      this happened to me too, but it happened by multiple family members & i lost my memories for so long. i never fit in the family either. i could tell something was wrong, but i couldn't remember. i recently got my memories back & cut family ties. now it makes sense why i have the personality i have, why i react like a child most times. it's sad and confusing. but i'm grateful to be able to be free now & have my own life. but damn, this stuff is evil. it's like a generational family thing, so strange.

    • @calleigh_witha_gh
      @calleigh_witha_gh ปีที่แล้ว +6

      this happened to me too. its sickening.

    • @muzankibutsuji7260
      @muzankibutsuji7260 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My family made it a "secret" too. I'm so sorry you and your cousin had to go through that.

    • @becomingdrR
      @becomingdrR 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      happened to me as well. Then the first person I ever trusted enough to tell and got in a relationship with sexually exploited me and molested my sister. Abusers are everywhere and most of the time they are NOT strangers.

  • @thisismerying111
    @thisismerying111 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    God I can’t even imagine; just feeling so invalidated and unsafe in your own home. I hope she and many others continue to heal and grow despite the cards they were dealt

  • @bjork12
    @bjork12 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you for giving all these people the platform and a listening ear to share there stories which are so hard to get out of people who have trama but your kindness is beautiful

  • @erinrene7067
    @erinrene7067 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I relate to Lexie so much… it’s nice to hear someone with a similar experience who is in the same place in time of “ idk what I’m doing with my life right now”. Same here Lexie, I’m not sure what I am doing right now. I’m just living each day with my dog, day by day.

  • @yureiNekoX
    @yureiNekoX ปีที่แล้ว +14

    i was surprised to find someone with similar circumstances to me.
    i never dealt with foster care or being adopted, but i also ran into the problem that he was the favorite child. no one ever protected me. they protected him.

  • @aliyagonzalez851
    @aliyagonzalez851 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is so important. Thank you Lexi for sharing your story and thank you pod for amplifying the voices of victims. You’re not alone 🤍

  • @Missy11Frazr
    @Missy11Frazr ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Weird of the host to give her opinions on why the older brother molested the victim directly to the victim when she hadn’t asked… kinda disgusting.

    • @Poopiepies
      @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Right? Like she can speak up here to try and justify a literal molester but keeps her mouth shut on the girl who claimed her mom was a narcissist (not diagnosed and very shitty episode)

    • @cammtz8312
      @cammtz8312 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah! So out of line

  • @ashes2ashes394
    @ashes2ashes394 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I found the article on her birth mom and her murderer…. This girl is stronger than I am sure people think she is…

  • @clarice9692
    @clarice9692 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    this is so much more common than people realize, it's devastating. I experienced something similar and the way she explained how it affected her made me feel less alone under these horrible circumstances. Thank you for sharing

  • @TravelatorH8r
    @TravelatorH8r ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What a caring gentle sweetheart this one is, do as much of that difficult therapy work now so you don't have to waste any more time ruminating about how past relationships were inaccurately perceived and the behavioral reactions on going. I think you'll make an excellent mother

  • @stephanieallison90
    @stephanieallison90 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    She seems like the calmest and sweetest lady!

  • @Seevawonderloaf
    @Seevawonderloaf ปีที่แล้ว +11

    There’s a lady who pays drug addicts who have had a few kids to get a reversible steralization so they don’t keep having kids like this. I had a friend actually say this was immoral bc it isn’t right to sterilize someone. The naive delusion of that man! Kids are being abused, hurt, born with drugs and drug addled parents! This lady has grown up and become a strong advocate but there are thousands like her

  • @brandiredman3835
    @brandiredman3835 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I was molested by my brother from age 7-10ish. If one adult in my life would have shown me what molestation looked like, it would have changed my life, because to me it looked like love. I locked it all away in a box for years and just started processing it with in the last two years. Telling my mom was heartbreaking.

  • @6tiva
    @6tiva ปีที่แล้ว +9

    she seems like such a sweetheart

  • @lisathomas3441
    @lisathomas3441 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    These are literally generational curses of molestation on this family 😢

  • @froggo7215
    @froggo7215 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    She tells the most fucked up things in such a calm manner I hope she has found her peace already😢 my heart goes to you girl❤

  • @laurenminter7306
    @laurenminter7306 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is a very personal and touchy subject.. I admire her for her vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your story as I can relate and it helps to hear that I’m not alone, thank you.

  • @noel6450
    @noel6450 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    She should get into some kind of therapy career if she’s unsure with what she wants to do. Even with kids, because she definitely has a good aura for it like they were saying.

  • @Rissy_renee
    @Rissy_renee ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Lexie, you are beautiful inside and out. I am so proud of you for sharing your story. You are breaking that generational trauma!

  • @BreeMacFarlane
    @BreeMacFarlane ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I was molested by my 15 year old brother at 9 years old and so much of this resonates with me, especially the complex relationship with sex after having this experience so young and the generational trauma that is carried from sexual abuse.. thank you so much for sharing your story. 💕

  • @CAMBY608
    @CAMBY608 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    imho, her brother absolutely knew it was wrong, hence the “blanket” was used covering it. sad story!

  • @suelalaladrak31233
    @suelalaladrak31233 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thankyou for putting this out there, my mom and my aunt have been through this with the same brother and I just want to say how much I appreciate you for being strong enough to say this on the internet 💕 I’ve also been through a similar situation but with a girl who was five years older than me, this makes me feel more comfortable within myself

  • @alexandra-op8mh
    @alexandra-op8mh ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Before you even mentioned how sweet and gentle her aura is I just felt it beaming through the screen. I haven’t even watched the video cause I’m listening to it as I get ready but Wow she is truly an angel, and I aspire to be as resilient and gentle as her.

  • @calleigh_witha_gh
    @calleigh_witha_gh ปีที่แล้ว +22

    i was not molested but SAed by my own cousin starting at 9(me) and about 11 or 12(him) lasting till 13 and 16. its literally insane to me that a CHILD is capable of doing that to a peer. it caused me to act out in so many ways, not knowing what was going on with me, not knowing it happened or understanding it was not normal. and when i finally remembered and got the courage to say something to my family, they abandoned me, spread rumors, and did not speak to me or my part of the family (me, my mom, my father, and my brother). and then being told to talk to them again because its my family that makes me sick. the one-year anniversary of the last time i spoke to my family is coming soon, as well as times i know for sure it happened. its been causing panic attacks and depression. i hate what my cousin and my family did to me. i will never speak to them again.

    • @calliyahsanchez2434
      @calliyahsanchez2434 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ive been through a very parallel experience as you. family turning their back on you is devastating, and trust me the grieving ends. it’s been almost two years since ive spoken to them for me. I hope your life is full of love, I need you to know you’re not alone. my mother,my brother,my cousin,my neighbor,best friends brother, were all people who assaulted me. trust is hard for people like us, I see you.

    • @briannacastillo5214
      @briannacastillo5214 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      this was the same difference between me and my brother, but i think we were way younger i think I was probably 6 i barely remember but i do remember it happening yk, but I've never blamed him cause idk maybe he was to young to understand too. but now idk maybe i should blame him? i rlly don't know , I've never told anyone about it, and I wouldn't even know how (im 17 now)

    • @calliyahsanchez2434
      @calliyahsanchez2434 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@briannacastillo5214suspect and question why would he do that so young?? I did too for a long, long time. Until he did something to me again at the age of 16. I use to think maybe somebody did something to him which caused him to do it to me, even if that’s true. He knew that was never okay, and still proceeded to try again years later. Forgive but don’t forget. Forgive yourself for questioning anything you have questioned, forgive you first. You can forgive these people for the sake of your well being. You must speak about this soon. I learned it was the only way I can live truthfully.

    • @fabianbiere5653
      @fabianbiere5653 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@briannacastillo5214yeah that age u don't blame you for not knowing if he knew i'd look at therapists that specializes in this specific area of expertise whether he knew or not is not related to you still being the victim and shouldn't feel shame

    • @mariahbibens2590
      @mariahbibens2590 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@briannacastillo5214this is what sucks. Because you can’t tell the difference between evil intention and the innocence a child Carry’s. Trust your own gut ❤ your feelings matter, your feelings deserve to feel validated.

  • @lisarodriguez6966
    @lisarodriguez6966 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    When I was 4-9 I was sa'd by an older cousin. Similar reasons it was started/tolerated. His mother watched me while my parents were working and he'd let me play with him and his friends or I could play in his room. His mother/my aunt was checked out in a toxic marriage at the time so it was hours of loneliness for an only child if he shunned me that day.
    And I'm horrified that it was put on Her to decide what the punishment or consequences were to be for her abuser. To put that responsibility on a child is disgusting, too. There are so many levels of disgust in all of our stories and experiences.
    Edited for typo.

  • @boymamaof382
    @boymamaof382 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Since i started watching your podcast i wait every week for the next one! Love love love hearing these stories! I too also molested by a family member for years..i am 37 now and you never forget forgiving i have peace within me now for forgiving but knowing i am better than that person to be able to do that because it's not easy! Good luck to you girl!

  • @Poopiepies
    @Poopiepies ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Yeah I think I might be done after this one. Most of the interviews, you keep your thoughts to yourself and let the person tell their story with minimal interruptions and only asking for clarification. For some reason, you think you have insight and are able to justify the actions of her abuser. You aren’t qualified to speak about that in any way shape or form, and disgusting that you’re telling this victim that her abuse and trauma brought comfort to the abuser and saying he doesn’t know right from wrong, when he clearly did according to the victim. I can’t support this podcast anymore.

    • @bellaattlee2612
      @bellaattlee2612 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      And he obviously knew, hence the blanket.. and making her do things for him so she could play. It’s so sick how people can justify this. Especially after experiencing it.

    • @poobicat9629
      @poobicat9629 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Disgusting. I'm done with this podcast too

  • @corinneskitchen
    @corinneskitchen ปีที่แล้ว +22

    It's weird that the interviewer was going on trying to empathize with the molester.

    • @bleachisgoodforurhealth9946
      @bleachisgoodforurhealth9946 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      In the other video. She literally said '' men are men '' '' I can see why, you are hot'' to a woman who got sexually harassed so yeah the host is just a shitty person

    • @lavenderpumpkincrunch2528
      @lavenderpumpkincrunch2528 ปีที่แล้ว

      you can tell she caters to men. everything ab her look at her and her foot placement

    • @frakismaximus3052
      @frakismaximus3052 ปีที่แล้ว

      What would you think if the molester was a female?

    • @icravedeath.1200
      @icravedeath.1200 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It's not empathising, it's understanding how abuse happens.

  • @noriwilliams4637
    @noriwilliams4637 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    whoever told her its her brother regardless of the abuse should be charged with misconduct an absolute betrayal.

  • @tibblington
    @tibblington ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Devorah is a really good host... She allows people to talk and keeps a good format for the podcast! Keep up the good work

  • @tjl1007
    @tjl1007 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is so heartbreaking, you have such a sweet voice. and it’s saying something how calm you can make people from such pain.

  • @wifeyaudio
    @wifeyaudio ปีที่แล้ว +12

    it just kept getting worse.

  • @li-cw7nu
    @li-cw7nu ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i’ve unfortunately been waiting for a post on this topic because it’s been 8 years since my brother molested me and i have had no idea how to navigate the trauma

    • @kar0047
      @kar0047 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Umm I was also molested by my brothers, you need therapy not TH-cam videos. Trust me.

  • @Glosoli4
    @Glosoli4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My bro didn’t molest me. Well not that I know of but he did ask my ex for sexual photos of me. Asked what having sex with me was like etc etc. admitted he was in love with me and couldn’t find a woman like me. It was beyond disturbing. My mom constantly dismisses that he ever said those things to me. Well. My brother a few years ago tried to say my dad molested him. And my mom would try to bring us all together and I said I don’t want anything to do with my brother.
    My mom had the guts to say “well he said those things to you bc your dad molested him.” Which was so insanely false.
    I’ll never forgive my mom. She’s sick.

  • @EmilyyCore11
    @EmilyyCore11 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh I’m so sorry for her. However I love the way I can relate to her story. Prayers to her and anyone else struggling

  • @NoisyTumbleDryer
    @NoisyTumbleDryer 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I never really gave my sister that much attention, I'm kind of a loner. This kind of made me wish we had been closer because these sisters needed good, caring brothers, and instead got monsters. Damn.

  • @sadieb7543
    @sadieb7543 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When you go through trauma like that, it's so common for women/men to "retraumatise" subconsciously in adult relationships. Because that's how it was drilled mentally into them.
    It's something I learned in my counselling degree, also made me realise I also was doing that in my early relationships due to my own trauma.

  • @KarelleMuco
    @KarelleMuco ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I want to give her the biggest hug bc I feel everything she’s saying and I’ve been there.

  • @mjqow3128
    @mjqow3128 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Props to Lexi for working on herself & doing what she can to break the patterna given to her by her bloodline! That's so so powerful & inspiring! ❤️‍🔥

  • @beataklimek191
    @beataklimek191 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This is an important topic-I think it would be very impactful to hear the experiences of men who have been molested as well.

  • @summertirado4715
    @summertirado4715 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Just saw your Instagram story about how Palestinians deserve their food, water & electricity taken away from them. Maybe you should interview a survivor who has moved over here so you can put an end to your ignorance. I loved this podcast and your channel but after seeing that disgusting post you shared i can’t imagine supporting ever again. You claim to be a voice for people yet you support inhumane war crimes. Educate yourself and do better.

    • @summertirado4715
      @summertirado4715 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Icing on the cake was you posted that story the same day their hospital was bombed. Shame on you.

    • @vrtwice5056
      @vrtwice5056 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      No because it’s insane that she posted something justifying it

    • @summertirado4715
      @summertirado4715 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@vrtwice5056 insane. i felt sick to my stomach… the post was like “Israel provides them food, water & electricity for FREE and they don’t have to” literally how out of touch with reality can people be????

    • @vrtwice5056
      @vrtwice5056 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@summertirado4715 it’s absolutely disgusting and she would repost something like that. This will be a stain in her short lived career forever.

  • @bunnyxsoap
    @bunnyxsoap ปีที่แล้ว +4

    A very similar thing happened. And i dont know what to call it because i can remember it happening a few times and thinking back i feel heavy discomfort think of those times.
    This inspired me to head back to therapy..

  • @Cass089
    @Cass089 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is my comfort podcast

  • @sarahhhx3
    @sarahhhx3 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Same, it's taken so lightly by parents when it's done by your family, disgusting

  • @BratzBaddie69
    @BratzBaddie69 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing your story makes us feel less alone 🫶🏽

  • @ayo3181
    @ayo3181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That's so sad that the parent was putting the pressure on her to decide what to do.

  • @melbot56
    @melbot56 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I find it a wee hard to listen to when dev attempts to therapize her guests even tho I know her intentions are good

    • @ellaisboring
      @ellaisboring 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I agree. it's generally ok to discuss speculations with people about their experiences, but with these types of things (trauma, ab#se) you need to understand that talking about these things in a way that isnt trauma informed or if you're not trained/knowledgeable it can cause harm to people. (Not sure if i worded this right)

    • @ellaisboring
      @ellaisboring 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Its the same reason i dont get into the background of kids i work with (im a mental health support worker/respite carer), because even though i am trauma informed and have years of psych experience and education, i dont have specific training on how to talk to people about trauma, especially young people.

  • @kirawrxD
    @kirawrxD ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel so much less alone. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I know it must’ve been incredibly hard. I was in the same situation as you, same family dynamic, I was the baby of the family, I didn’t think anything was really wrong, I didn’t know any better, and I didn’t realize how badly those childhood experience messed me up so much so that I’m not able to use tampons, get a Pap smear, or even look at myself down there, and I have so many intimacy issues and trust issues, it’s difficult for me to hold any sort of romantic relationship because of fear. Everything is painful and my OBGYN told me to see a trauma therapist because of it. Hearing your story, although I’m so saddened it happened to you, it brings me comfort that we can relate to each other because I’ve felt so alone on this my whole life.

  • @Riverlove04
    @Riverlove04 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are so kind while conducting your interviews💚

  • @jayla1151
    @jayla1151 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    i really feel for her but i’m not going to lie the story is incredibly hard to follow

  • @EmilyyCore11
    @EmilyyCore11 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My brother was 13 and I was 7. I was told after 6 years of hiding it, I should spoken up sooner, he’s my brother I need to forgive him, and he was only “curious”

  • @Keiron-pw6sl
    @Keiron-pw6sl ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Watching this brings a lot of things back in my life i hope you know Lexie how stronv you are for sharing this sending you prayers and love

  • @MinMin-ux4qn
    @MinMin-ux4qn ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Same happened to me … still stalks me to this day.

  • @Kenziemoreno1
    @Kenziemoreno1 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    this story way to confusing i wish i could get better understand...

  • @AnnaBanana_00
    @AnnaBanana_00 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is horrible 💔 I have two brothers myself and I really can't imagine them ever doing that to me (thankfully!)

  • @sadieb7543
    @sadieb7543 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The moment a therapist makes extremely bad behaviour valid, excuse that behaviour towards another, they need their license revoked and never allowed to work with children. They are an enabler.

  • @kelseixw
    @kelseixw ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just started watching & I’m stressed.. god bless you.

  • @WisperWoolf
    @WisperWoolf ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Wow…this saved my life

    • @zoeitis
      @zoeitis ปีที่แล้ว +1

      are you ok?❤

  • @CalliNightmare
    @CalliNightmare ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow... I thought my family was messed up. Holy ef. She seems like a totally normal person and all THAT happened.

  • @alexiasmith6426
    @alexiasmith6426 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was also molested by my brother shortly after my fathers funeral. This video really resonantes with me I heavily relate to it.

    • @ibobeko4309
      @ibobeko4309 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      did you went to the police ?

  • @tayr3836
    @tayr3836 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’m so confused with the whole mom/siblings thing. Like I get that her gramma is who she refers to as mom, but how are her uncles or aunts considered siblings too? Im really confused and she doesn’t seem to elaborate on that aspect

    • @leqm98
      @leqm98 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      yeah, she isn’t a very good storyteller in that sense. Not setting up a good understanding of the family dynamics right at the beginning made it all very confusing

    • @pandagum1234
      @pandagum1234 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      she grew up knowing her grandma as her mom. her grandma also had kids of her own that she was raising alongside her. since she viewed her grandma as her mom, she also viewed her aunts and uncles as her siblings.

    • @JadeMcCurtayne
      @JadeMcCurtayne ปีที่แล้ว +2

      But she said she was in foster care and then her grandma took her in, so did she think her grandma was her mum tho?

    • @chrissyosozzy6465
      @chrissyosozzy6465 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JadeMcCurtayneshe calls her that and sees her like that but she know ist her grandma

  • @katetomlinson1638
    @katetomlinson1638 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i have been waiting for this. thankyou