Ex Libris Series Event: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

The pandemic has underscored the need for balanced workloads in the home. In her New York Times bestselling book, Rodsky uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose.
With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a series of conversation starters for families, Fair Play helps prioritize what’s important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinners.

[@HerWanderlust]

Great video.
Interesting that there’s even discussion of teaching men tasks…No one ever taught me any of these household tasks, I don’t expect anyone to teach me. I just knew it needed to get done so I didn’t the best I could or if I had no clue how, I researched on my own, watched videos etc until I knew how to do it…but then I also need to take on teaching him? He is most as capable of self teaching as I am

[@sheilaoreilly6826]

Edited for typos. I still stand by this content 100%!
I very much highly rate Eve and her message. I think the book is awesome and I'm really enjoying this interview. My one issue is the constant use of cis as in cisgender. This is a made up term that means non-trans. It is incredibly insulting to all women across the world to refer to us constantly as non-trans. We are a sex class in our own right.
As Eva's correctly pointing out we have been subjugated because of our biological material bodies. We move differently in this world and are treated differently because of our bodies. Our lived experience of life and the expectations we experience from society are different because of our bodies.
The prefix of cis is a made up term by the trans community to legitimise themselves. If trans women are women then women are trans women which means that men are women and women are men; and, this is complete nonsense as noted by Eve and her research. Women are completely different creatures from men and are treated as such.
They normally define cisgender as comfortable living with your assigned gender. If that was true there would literally be only feminine presenting women and trans men. There is not because they're also non-conforming women who do not subjugate themselves to the expectations of society and live to face the wrath.
Gender is not the same as sex. Gender is the expectations put upon us by society. As Eva's pointing out, no woman naturally comes out of her mother's womb wanting to do all the housework. This is female socialisation in action. These are the gender norms foisted upon women. Therefore, there is no such thing as cis bloody gender. There are women and men. If a man wants to put on a dress he is literally a man in a dress. It does not make him any closer to understanding the lived experience of women. He will not be expected to drop 20% of his pay grade or be expected to do all the cleaning and cooking in his household by society and be berated if he does not do so. Everything that Eve is saying backs up what I just said about how nonsense the whole cis moniker is.
I understand that she lives in America and they are way more ideologically captured by this movement than the rest of the world. Personally, on behalf of women I find it insulting and that it dilutes her message to a certain degree. She's trying to include men in the category of women while simultaneously arguing that women are treated completely differently and have completely different expectations placed upon them by society because of their biological bodies and how they move through the world in them.

[@HerWanderlust]

Sheila, thank you so much for taking the time to speak about this. I agree with you one hundred percent! We are not a category of women, we are the only women. Males who reject their biological sex are sadly very mentally unwell and will always be male…they will never be any type of woman! And should not be called such

[@Oldhead717]

Question....my wife and I started this journey..my question is...we have 5 kids at home now ranging from 5 to 19...my job is mandatory overtime so some days I may work 8,12 or even 16 hour days and I am the sole provider for us. I have no flexibility..how do we handle that...?

[@ambershaw4769]

Hopefully you're doing well on this journey together. My answer to your question is to discuss what's on the running the home/family plate. Then talk through what's the minimal amount of care for each task. After that talk through which are tasks you both are contributing best to.
The point of fair play is not having the mindset of 50/50%, because that's not feasible. It's about being a team & that builds vulnerability, empathy, trust & more intimacy for you both.
Sending some supportive thoughts x

[@praveenkumar-yj2py]

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