I’m in my 20s and it’s a struggle to find clothes that aren’t young and trendy but also aren’t too grown up haha. I’ve just started to develop my grown up style and there is so much I still need to learn!
totally get that, I had the same experience! I guess I would say to look into your closet and imagine it was someone else's. What age do you think they are? Ultimately I don't think age matters as long as it's true to you your taste, but it can be a helpful way to assess your closet.
I thought adult clothes would sacrifice style but it's quite the opposite. I'm loving the mature chic clothing I'm finding and wearing now that I've reached 30.
I dressed trendy/ tacky in my 20s and i dont regret it, it was fun. you have your whole life to become more refined. I wish I would have worn more crop tops in my 20s -now I have a mommy tummy and can’t wear them. have fun gurl!!
I feel like finding a grown up style can be so tough in your 30’s. So many brands target teens or older women. I want to be able to feel grown up and put together as a 34 year old and to shop from brands that focus on quality and sustainability. I appreciate your thoughts on this!
So grateful that you discussed our bodies changing. I’ve been building my wardrobe since my late 20s but have recently been pregnant and had a baby and now feel like I’m starting from square one.
I’m right there with you. I am one year post partum. It’s been a difficult journey to get my body back. It’s still not back. Lol. I am now attempting to elevate my style. I am 30 years old and after years of following current trends. I simply can’t do it anymore. I’m a mother now and comfort, confidence, and elegance is more of what I’m trying to convey.
I have come to realize I love print midi dresses. I didn’t wear them because all the influencers say that at a certain age you shouldn’t wear those dresses because they make you look frumpy. Then I’ve come to realize that I have a very edgy haircut and I were very edgy accessories and some very chic black blazers and some long line cardigans. Once I started adding my print dresses with these items, I have totally felt at home, and now I always have something to wear. I have been getting a ton of compliments at work.The dresses are so comfortable and the accessories add an edge that doesn’t make it look frumpy. I add fleece tights and boots for cold days. Now I can get rid of all my pants and jeans that I have not been wearing.
Love the vibe that you're conveying with your style! I think it's easy to cover a lot of ground by giving quick do's and don'ts, but there is a lot of nuance to style where you can still take what you love and give it an edge, like you're doing. Well done!
Just turned 20 in January, been watching your videos for a while now and you've helped so much, I have such a baby face, people think I'm 14/15 and sometimes it can be really annoying, I want to thank you a lot ❤️
I absolutely relate. 🙏 I just turned 29 and many think I’m still 21-24! To be honest though, I now love it (finally!), and believe you’ll hopefully get to a point in which you embrace it too. ☺️ It also helped me to think about it this way, from a thought in the book Atomic Habits: if you find what you’re good at, and you also love it, but aren’t naturally built for it, you can still be good, but someone who is also good at it (example: swimming), loves it, AND was born with a swimmers body (lean and whatnot), will have an advantage (which is just the way of life!), SO it is recommended that we find what blends what we’re good at/what we love/AND what we naturally have an advantage on (one of our major flexes is looking much younger than we are). 💪 I hope you find what that is for you ✨
Very timely this popped up for me! I realized when I was in my early 20s that I was dressing "too old" to differentiate myself from my peers (I wasn't a "party girl," eg) and now that I'm nearly 30, I realized I've been trying to dress much younger lately (probably because I was dressing "too old" when I "should have" been following trends), and it's making me really uncomfortable. So excited to hear your thoughts!
Another piece I would love to see .... "Older and Younger". So what do I mean by that? A woman reaches an age in her 50's and 60's where she wants to dress to avoid looking like an 80 year old great grandma but she also doesn't want to be mutton dressed as lamb. And often it comes at a time in her life when she is retiring from work, adult children leaving home, divorcing and going back on the dating market, or becoming a grandma. How do we keep style which is age appropriate? Admits our figures have changed? Deals with life changes?
It’s taken a very long time. I am honestly in this point of my life where I have found my style and I don’t have to own more to look put together and ready each day. I feel confident and I love all of my own pieces. You are awesome! Thank you! Can totally relate! My age 59….and loving this stage!
This piece is so appropriate. I have so many cashmere little cardigans but truthfully the two things I was missing were a couple of heavier duty sweaters that I could wear for dog walking, days on the spring beach. I have avoided shopping for these because I like natural fabrics but don't get on with wool, many of the sweaters are too bulky, and I am a petite five foot tall, small but busty. I go online at 0200 and start wandering around shoes, bags which I don't need and don't look for what I need. So, finally I faced up and trawled favourite sites with a very narrow critique. Took some time, but I found a lovely pure cotton sweater in navy new for this Spring (so full price) and when it arrived I was thrilled to find that it was exactly what I had needed. I went back online and checked for other colours and picked a teal green which again works perfectly in my colours. I know I paid full price but I also know that I will wear these so much.
I’m turning 28 this year and one thing I struggle with is figuring out a personal style that I feel CONFIDENT in, in all aspects of my life. I just did a closet clean out and am left with a few items that work but I don’t LOVE them. I really want to nail down a timeless and personal style that I can feel comfortable and confident in when I step out of the house. That’s why I am binging your content!
Dear Bethany, you have indeed mastered this to a T! I feel like in the style world, I’m years behind you… but I’m doing my best to learn from the master❤️
I definitely agree, choose your capsule wardrobe to suit you. And don't buy anything unless you truly love it, it fits you well and it makes you feel great! 😊
I’m in my mid 20s and it’s so hard to find clothes that I like because everywhere I go even online is “trendy” styles. It’s a bit too youthful for my liking, but I can’t find anything that works for me so I struggle finding my own style w/o being bombarded to wear what everyone else wears because that’s all I’m surrounded by. I’m still trying to find my style 🥲
I still haven't watched the video but I wanted to say that Bethany's videos, among others, have really helped me in the process of renewing and "adulting" my wardrobe. I'm 26 and not done yet but I'm in a place now where I'm able to build outfits I like and feel confident in, despite some difficulties due to the fact my style is somewhat androgynous and I'm still in the process of figuring it out.
I love going to the tailor! I recently fell in love with a coat, decided to treat myself and am already planning to get it tailored. So worth the extra effort compared to only filtering my style by size and what brands are willing to offer in petite (I’m 5ft 1in).
These tips are so helpful Bethany! Thank you! I just started working as a nurse aid again at my local hospital and have specific scrub colors to wear. I accessorize as much as possible in simple and classy ways through some earrings, hairstyle, and headbands. Tomorrow for Valentine’s Day, it’s some little heart shaped vintage gold earrings. I love accessorizing but need to be careful about not overdoing it in my everyday outfits. I love you comment about personal style being more important than body shape. So many of us feel restricted in our personal style due to putting body shape first. There are so many ways to manipulate the cut and style and color of something to suit our body shape more while catering to personal style. I am learning this more recently and having so much fun diving back into some color and certain styles; finding pieces that suit my body shape or finding different ways to wear it for more flattering work while still enjoying my style.
I would LOVE a video on tailoring! Especially in terms of how you decide the length you want each pair of pants. I’m 5’2” and I should definitely get getting my pants hemmed but I’m suck wondering what length. Im so intrigued with how you use both the longer length for a stilt effect, and also the cropped length for a different elongated look. How do you decide when to leave them long or when to go short? (And, when you go short, how to do decide the perfect spot to crop them to?) And do you have to have the shoes that you plan to wear with them already to make that choice, or can you hem first and find shoes second? I’ve seen magazines recommended getting two of your jeans and keep one longer and one shorter for different shoes, do you do that?
Dear Bethany, this is the first time I've watched you and I think you're wonderful!! I totally agree with you ....know what you like and watch and try new ideas . It's fun to explore and experiment on new styling regardless of age!! Thanks so much and all the best with your podcasts and classes. You're a sweetheart 🌈🪻💜🤗💐🎉❣️
I love your thoughts on timeless style. I’d be super interested in hearing what you have to say about timeless athletic wear. I don’t work in a typical “professional” environment. I am a dancer, a yoga teacher & performing artist. So I mostly wear athletic/leisure wear. I don’t always feel elevated or put together. I don’t desire buying expensive brands to try to be elevated athletic chic either. I know there’s a lot of trends in the fitness community and lots of people wear athletic wear nowadays. Ive once heard dancers style described as homeless Nike chic lol. I also go out dancing socially at night. Lots of trends in the club scene!! I feel more comfortable wearing elevated timeless style while out dancing, but it’s not all the time. So I don’t want to invest in casual wear because I don’t wear it much. Just spewing some thoughts! Trying to have a more sustainable wardrobe long term!
Love hearing about your lifestyle. Sounds incredibly fun! Definitely don't lose sight of what's practical for your life. I actually cover a lot of ground on the sporty/casual/chic topics in my course, so I think you could benefit from that. But for now the main thing regarding the trends that are in your social spheres - It's okay to try trends, nothing wrong with that, but it comes with some traps like not having things represent you fully, not valuing the things you once liked simply because someone told you it was "out", etc. You also might need less of a lifespan of each piece: If you're actively moving around in them then they prob don't need to last 10 years. But wish you all the success in the world!
I love your videos so much, learned so much from them. Completely elevated my wardrobe & how I style every piece as a short person it can be difficult but now I feel more put together. Thanks for the videos!! 👏🏽🖤
Hi Bethany, just wanted to say that I love your videos. You're always so thoughtful and generous with your fashion advices. Your elegance and grace also inspire me to be a better person somehow... It's like I can see the Holy Spirit within you. God bless! Greetings from Brazil 🌷
Something that I have faced is the fact of not having a style that is on trend so people don’t appreciate or think that I look “good” but then I know and feel better by using what I like and I know that I put effort into it, with time som people and I find out the level of details that I care about, so i tried not to care a lot about trends or what other prefers, my lesson is that as far as I use what I like and find my own style I will feel better and even people will notice that.
When you keep coming back to this video to learn & empower yourself through clothing. Thank you, Bethany! I'm learning so much. I've appreciated & accepted that change is constant with the way we style ourselves. I'm so glad I've learnt taking my jeans to the tailor early in my life & in cheaper price too : )
The first point is something that hit me deep hahaha I’m laughing out loud, in the end it’s left me to very indecisive purchases and I’ve now done 6 returns because I wanted a different style. On top of that I’m starting to have more sensitive skin as I’m getting older with developing allergies so now It’s better in the long run for me to buy ethical clothes.
I am one of your new subscribers and just had to tell you how impressed I am with your content! Since I am much older than you I clicked on one of your videos thinking "what on earth can she tell me that I don't know already 😐" and "why on earth did the algorithm suggest this". It was one of your how to look taller videos but since I am 5"1' I clicked. And am SO glad I did. I have now watched several of your videos. Your content quality is so high quality and you certainly deserve a lot of success.
Hi miss Bethany, I really love ur videos.. I'm from Philippines.. while watching ur videos made me realize that nothing is more important than our personal style that makes us feel confident. Thank you for your advices, looking forward for more videos of you.
This vid is gold. I love it. My struggle while buying clothes is always the fit and also before I was chubbier so now nothing in my wardrobe really fits me. The struggle is real
I'll start saying that I'm going to make a comment about what I wished to see from you/your videos. But really you do you!! You're already doing amazing! ... It's difficult to find people with a similar body type as mine and proportion-wise we are similiar... all of this to say that I find you incredibly relatable 💕, and while I'm working on building a wardrobe slowly I would love seeing some "try on" hauls, with your touch, of course, not meant to induce people to excessive-thoughtless-shopping, which I love. So reviews/try-ons of quality clothing items for this body type kind, I'd love to see!
I love hearing someone say personal taste is more important than something "working with" body shape. Also would love a video on how to go to the tailor! I'm still putting it off.
Also, I hadn't been shopping in a while. I've been watching lots of fashion bloggers....Some are very highend and it costs 200 $ for a plain white shirt and to me very high prices. You don't have to spend that kind of $. I was shocked that I went to Old Navy and found great jeans 👖, tea shirts botton nice button down shirts , 2 belts , a jean jackets for less than 200 $. I was surprised 🎉 on a good way. The bottom line is that if its not great, at least we didn't break the bank. All the best to everyone!! Stay ❤️🩹
Thank you so much Bethany I really needed this to boost my confidence after getting called a middle schooler by college batchmates 😐 I'm sure they were never malicious but it kinda irritates me 😅
ugh sorry to hear that was said! It's hard to shake that off, even if nothing was meant by it. Sometimes when no harm was intended it's more frustrating. I guess ultimately even harmless comments come from a place of deflecting their own insecurities. I think they have some of growing up to do :)
Wow… the exact video I needed lol. I’m starting to build my career as a 23 year old now and I am struggling with feeling “immature” with my current fashion sense
Thus is so relatable! I’ve been working on my personal style for years. Tops are the easiest for me everything else is a challenge but I’m working on it. This might be one of my favorite video from you please do a tailoring video.
My struggle is 95% of my clothes are hand me downs so it's not my style or suits my body type. That's why I'm here on this video because I need to find me. It's January 1st 2023, happy new year 🎉 ✨
I’m turning 19 in 2 months and this video was very interesting! I’ve been into fashion and clothes my whole life and those were some good advices! As I’m starting to think how to change my style a bit and to not be so sporty casual I will think abs the things you said and recommended! Thank you!❤️
Sooo I signed up! I’m so excited to do this! I used to love clothes, and expressing myself through style. But I am 36 with two kids and I am completely lost. I feel like I’ve tried everything under the sun, and I’ve purged so much out of frustration, I’m almost scared to buy anything anymore. Shopping is anxiety inducing for me now. So I am soooo looking forward to your course. 💕
The most important rule has really got me thinking - the past couple of years of working form home has really turned that upside so excited to thinking about how clothes and style represent me again. Also, super keen for a video tailoring :)
You take such big and complex topics and make them so accessible and easily achievable, thank you! I would love to hear more of these podcast type videos on other style topics. Also do you know where you got that bust on the desk?
I am difficult to fit because I am short and pear shaped. But I have finally figured it out that shape of the outfit is the most important. Color is second. I am finding it easier to find things in 2022 , which is sort of surprising as there are a lot of boxy shirts in style. I will never wear a box shape.
I'm in my early 20s, going to get marry this year and finishing my last year on uni, and i still dont know how to be an adult, thanks for this video, keep doing it.
I honestly can't tell you how encouraging the words "keep doing it" was to me. After 7 years of uploading here, I sometimes don't know what to do next, but this just means so much. So thank you for that :) I got married at barely 21 while still in college, and it was a lot to juggle. But you have the chance to see major milestone anniversaries one day, and just know that things will get lighter and clearer, and squeeze every bit of joy out of this chapter. Wish you all the best!
Okay so basically I wear black because i m insecure of my body like i m healthy and also i hate my hand fat near the elbow so i mostly wear length below that ..can you just make a video of things that a healthy person can wear like some tips for them which may enhance them more and look good like no hate to persons who like to wear everything you go girl you are rocking ! BTW I HOPE YOU REPLY❤️
I do think the hardest thing right now is matching my personal style with my body type. My toughest challenge is finding feminine tops that work with my broad chunky shoulders! I love my shoulders in general and they work well when I want to dress more masculine, but I feel ridiculous wearing anything remotely feminine with ruffles and puffs on top because my shoulders get way too exaggerated and it’s a bit ridiculous lol. So I’m trying to work out what feminine features up top can work for my wide back and shoulders. 🙃 so are I know that V-necklines work, and loose, more draped fabrics. But I wanna know more. It is prob alt trial and error. :)
I have the same body/style combo and i totally get what you mean. This is what worked for me: I enjoy putting the draping and frills on the elbow or forearms as opposed to directly on the shoulder line. Peplum tops are a great feminine piece that complements my strong shoulders. You’re on point when it comes to V-necks, too Hope this helps your trial and error ☺️
@@denizyardmc8616 yes! I agree! I have a sweater with has a more balloon style sleeve but it’s at the forearm rather than the shoulder. It’s a great sweater for me, like what you said. Slowly learning 😊😎
I have quite broad shoulder (and hips) as well and I've found that a square neckline suits me really well! I feel like it really balances out my top/shoulders and looks much better than a spaghetti strap for example
@@ginnyl7208 oooh okay! I’ve never tried square necklines, or any kind of deep and exposing necklines, but I’d like to give them a try and see :) I’ve always just played it safe with close crew necks, but they aren’t very feminine!
@@redsquare4835 a square neckline doesn't neccesarily have to be revealing :) I'm sure that you could find tops that would cut of at the top of or above your chest. but I don't have a big chest so none of my tops tend to be revealing haha.
I'm in my 20s, but I'm not a big fan of trendy outfits like ,crop tops, printed pants, ripped jeans anything like that. I prefer a classy look, such as a long-sleeved button-down shirt with a trouser and also neutral colotrs. I like how its minimal but elegant.
So true our body changes so much. I noticed recently my shape is not as it was 2 years ago. Even though I maintain my self in good shape but somehow different. The cloth fit different 🙂🤔
I would love to have a video about tailoring. I just purchased your masterclass and I'm already looking forward to it. Some guidelines are needed, hahaha.
Thank you for this video. I’m in that awkward stage of life in my mid-late twenties where my wardrobe is still half-university student, half-professional. I’m becoming more comfortable with myself and my body, but now wonder if the types of clothes that show that off are no longer age-appropriate (am I too old for mini skirts)?
I'm almost 22 and really struggling with finding my style. I'm generally not that into the trendy pieces anymore that are more catered towards teens, but I'm also not completely into the typical "grown up" look I tend to see with women my age here (sweater, blazer/coat, pants, ankle boots, ect. Type of thing). I still like certain trendy styles like a bootcut, as it suits my body well but I'm still developing my style. I can go a lot of ways in the sense that sometimes I dress very feminine and other times very simple and edgy. I would say I do spend more attention to what I wear now in the sense of putting everything together and making it an actual 'outfit'. So looking at what shoes and jewelry go best with the clothes, matching my makeup and making sure my hair looks nice as well. When before I was more a 'put on what's most comfortable with minimal effort' type of girl. Then I would only make an effort if I was doing something I wanted to look special for. Now I try to incorporate that feeling a little bit into everyday
I wish I could figure this out while evolving in a pregnancy. Frustration with clothes that fit right vs styles maternity clothes off (none that resonate).
I totally hear you, I have not gone through that myself to know how to help, but I have helped other women with pregnancy to take this time to discover their tastes and who they want to be in their next chapter of life. My friend Mary Ellen is pregnant right now, and I love her style (instagram.com/maryellenskye/)
Hi there Bethany!! You are completely awesome! I recently found your channel, I’m in my early 60’s and you’re relatable to us mature women too! Maybe you’ve answered this before but what brand of jeans works for you? I’m 5’4” and a pear shape with shorter legs. Thanks!!! You’re a darling!!!
I’m in my 20s and it’s a struggle to find clothes that aren’t young and trendy but also aren’t too grown up haha. I’ve just started to develop my grown up style and there is so much I still need to learn!
totally get that, I had the same experience! I guess I would say to look into your closet and imagine it was someone else's. What age do you think they are? Ultimately I don't think age matters as long as it's true to you your taste, but it can be a helpful way to assess your closet.
I thought adult clothes would sacrifice style but it's quite the opposite. I'm loving the mature chic clothing I'm finding and wearing now that I've reached 30.
Exactly how I feel! I'm turning 22 this year and I've always loved incorporating preppy looks into my style but thought it was too "grown up" for me.
I dressed trendy/ tacky in my 20s and i dont regret it, it was fun. you have your whole life to become more refined. I wish I would have worn more crop tops in my 20s -now I have a mommy tummy and can’t wear them. have fun gurl!!
samee omg
I feel like finding a grown up style can be so tough in your 30’s. So many brands target teens or older women.
I want to be able to feel grown up and put together as a 34 year old and to shop from brands that focus on quality and sustainability. I appreciate your thoughts on this!
definitely! We feel the same way, to be sure
Same here as a 34 year old. I still struggle finding the perfect balance.
Same here
Same!
So grateful that you discussed our bodies changing. I’ve been building my wardrobe since my late 20s but have recently been pregnant and had a baby and now feel like I’m starting from square one.
I can relate completely! I wore maternity clothes for 4+ months postpartum and felt so frumpy.
I’m right there with you. I am one year post partum. It’s been a difficult journey to get my body back. It’s still not back. Lol. I am now attempting to elevate my style. I am 30 years old and after years of following current trends. I simply can’t do it anymore. I’m a mother now and comfort, confidence, and elegance is more of what I’m trying to convey.
I have come to realize I love print midi dresses. I didn’t wear them because all the influencers say that at a certain age you shouldn’t wear those dresses because they make you look frumpy. Then I’ve come to realize that I have a very edgy haircut and I were very edgy accessories and some very chic black blazers and some long line cardigans. Once I started adding my print dresses with these items, I have totally felt at home, and now I always have something to wear. I have been getting a ton of compliments at work.The dresses are so comfortable and the accessories add an edge that doesn’t make it look frumpy. I add fleece tights and boots for cold days. Now I can get rid of all my pants and jeans that I have not been wearing.
Love the vibe that you're conveying with your style! I think it's easy to cover a lot of ground by giving quick do's and don'ts, but there is a lot of nuance to style where you can still take what you love and give it an edge, like you're doing. Well done!
Just turned 20 in January, been watching your videos for a while now and you've helped so much, I have such a baby face, people think I'm 14/15 and sometimes it can be really annoying, I want to thank you a lot ❤️
I absolutely relate. 🙏 I just turned 29 and many think I’m still 21-24! To be honest though, I now love it (finally!), and believe you’ll hopefully get to a point in which you embrace it too. ☺️
It also helped me to think about it this way, from a thought in the book Atomic Habits: if you find what you’re good at, and you also love it, but aren’t naturally built for it, you can still be good, but someone who is also good at it (example: swimming), loves it, AND was born with a swimmers body (lean and whatnot), will have an advantage (which is just the way of life!), SO it is recommended that we find what blends what we’re good at/what we love/AND what we naturally have an advantage on (one of our major flexes is looking much younger than we are). 💪 I hope you find what that is for you ✨
Very timely this popped up for me! I realized when I was in my early 20s that I was dressing "too old" to differentiate myself from my peers (I wasn't a "party girl," eg) and now that I'm nearly 30, I realized I've been trying to dress much younger lately (probably because I was dressing "too old" when I "should have" been following trends), and it's making me really uncomfortable. So excited to hear your thoughts!
This is me too!! Good luck! 👍🏽🍀
Another piece I would love to see .... "Older and Younger". So what do I mean by that? A woman reaches an age in her 50's and 60's where she wants to dress to avoid looking like an 80 year old great grandma but she also doesn't want to be mutton dressed as lamb. And often it comes at a time in her life when she is retiring from work, adult children leaving home, divorcing and going back on the dating market, or becoming a grandma. How do we keep style which is age appropriate? Admits our figures have changed? Deals with life changes?
Very true, women at any age are all trying to find the middle of not being too young or too old with their wardrobes.
It’s taken a very long time. I am honestly in this point of my life where I have found my style and I don’t have to own more to look put together and ready each day. I feel confident and I love all of my own pieces. You are awesome! Thank you! Can totally relate! My age 59….and loving this stage!
Love that, Maura!
This piece is so appropriate. I have so many cashmere little cardigans but truthfully the two things I was missing were a couple of heavier duty sweaters that I could wear for dog walking, days on the spring beach. I have avoided shopping for these because I like natural fabrics but don't get on with wool, many of the sweaters are too bulky, and I am a petite five foot tall, small but busty. I go online at 0200 and start wandering around shoes, bags which I don't need and don't look for what I need. So, finally I faced up and trawled favourite sites with a very narrow critique. Took some time, but I found a lovely pure cotton sweater in navy new for this Spring (so full price) and when it arrived I was thrilled to find that it was exactly what I had needed. I went back online and checked for other colours and picked a teal green which again works perfectly in my colours. I know I paid full price but I also know that I will wear these so much.
I LOVE this comment so much. Always a pleasure to hear from someone who has experienced the same things.
I am loving that people are wearing anything with everything these days with confident and looks stylish. There are no rules anymore.
I’m turning 28 this year and one thing I struggle with is figuring out a personal style that I feel CONFIDENT in, in all aspects of my life. I just did a closet clean out and am left with a few items that work but I don’t LOVE them.
I really want to nail down a timeless and personal style that I can feel comfortable and confident in when I step out of the house. That’s why I am binging your content!
Dear Bethany,
you have indeed mastered this to a T!
I feel like in the style world, I’m years behind you… but I’m doing my best to learn from the master❤️
You've got this, friend! ❤️
I definitely agree, choose your capsule wardrobe to suit you. And don't buy anything unless you truly love it, it fits you well and it makes you feel great! 😊
I’m in my mid 20s and it’s so hard to find clothes that I like because everywhere I go even online is “trendy” styles. It’s a bit too youthful for my liking, but I can’t find anything that works for me so I struggle finding my own style w/o being bombarded to wear what everyone else wears because that’s all I’m surrounded by. I’m still trying to find my style 🥲
yep yep yep! Sounds very familiar to what I went through as well. you're not alone!
this is one of the few fashion advice videos that is not condescending and rude. I really appreciate it!
I'm 24 and I started changing my style. Trousers and midi-long dresses in white or neutral colors are my favorites.
Its so fustrating when you are 25 but look like a 19 year old. I try to look more grown up but it ends up looking so weird...
I still haven't watched the video but I wanted to say that Bethany's videos, among others, have really helped me in the process of renewing and "adulting" my wardrobe. I'm 26 and not done yet but I'm in a place now where I'm able to build outfits I like and feel confident in, despite some difficulties due to the fact my style is somewhat androgynous and I'm still in the process of figuring it out.
I love going to the tailor! I recently fell in love with a coat, decided to treat myself and am already planning to get it tailored. So worth the extra effort compared to only filtering my style by size and what brands are willing to offer in petite (I’m 5ft 1in).
These tips are so helpful Bethany! Thank you! I just started working as a nurse aid again at my local hospital and have specific scrub colors to wear. I accessorize as much as possible in simple and classy ways through some earrings, hairstyle, and headbands. Tomorrow for Valentine’s Day, it’s some little heart shaped vintage gold earrings. I love accessorizing but need to be careful about not overdoing it in my everyday outfits. I love you comment about personal style being more important than body shape. So many of us feel restricted in our personal style due to putting body shape first. There are so many ways to manipulate the cut and style and color of something to suit our body shape more while catering to personal style. I am learning this more recently and having so much fun diving back into some color and certain styles; finding pieces that suit my body shape or finding different ways to wear it for more flattering work while still enjoying my style.
I love your perspective so much! Especially hearing about how as a nurse you can still incorporate your taste. Much love, Ashlynn!
I’ve been tailoring clothes since I was 30! I get tons of compliments on how well my clothes fit!
I would LOVE a video on tailoring! Especially in terms of how you decide the length you want each pair of pants.
I’m 5’2” and I should definitely get getting my pants hemmed but I’m suck wondering what length. Im so intrigued with how you use both the longer length for a stilt effect, and also the cropped length for a different elongated look. How do you decide when to leave them long or when to go short? (And, when you go short, how to do decide the perfect spot to crop them to?)
And do you have to have the shoes that you plan to wear with them already to make that choice, or can you hem first and find shoes second?
I’ve seen magazines recommended getting two of your jeans and keep one longer and one shorter for different shoes, do you do that?
love the thoughts there! Thanks for sharing, I plan to do a tailoring video soon if it really would be helpful!
Please create a video on curvy girl style
Dear Bethany, this is the first time I've watched you and I think you're wonderful!! I totally agree with you ....know what you like and watch and try new ideas . It's fun to explore and experiment on new styling regardless of age!! Thanks so much and all the best with your podcasts and classes. You're a sweetheart 🌈🪻💜🤗💐🎉❣️
your energy in this video was unmatched! thanks for making my day!
I would LOVE a video on hats (including straw hats). Pleaseeeeee Dearly Bethany 🥺🥺🥺 ❤️
Thank you for this lesson. I'm 31 and getting away from the bold colors and diving into the more earthy autumn tones. And it feels right for me.
I love your thoughts on timeless style. I’d be super interested in hearing what you have to say about timeless athletic wear. I don’t work in a typical “professional” environment. I am a dancer, a yoga teacher & performing artist. So I mostly wear athletic/leisure wear. I don’t always feel elevated or put together. I don’t desire buying expensive brands to try to be elevated athletic chic either. I know there’s a lot of trends in the fitness community and lots of people wear athletic wear nowadays. Ive once heard dancers style described as homeless Nike chic lol. I also go out dancing socially at night. Lots of trends in the club scene!! I feel more comfortable wearing elevated timeless style while out dancing, but it’s not all the time. So I don’t want to invest in casual wear because I don’t wear it much. Just spewing some thoughts! Trying to have a more sustainable wardrobe long term!
Love hearing about your lifestyle. Sounds incredibly fun! Definitely don't lose sight of what's practical for your life. I actually cover a lot of ground on the sporty/casual/chic topics in my course, so I think you could benefit from that. But for now the main thing regarding the trends that are in your social spheres - It's okay to try trends, nothing wrong with that, but it comes with some traps like not having things represent you fully, not valuing the things you once liked simply because someone told you it was "out", etc. You also might need less of a lifespan of each piece: If you're actively moving around in them then they prob don't need to last 10 years. But wish you all the success in the world!
I love altering clothes that I can fix repair and resize . After taking sewing class sewing is fun now while learning more on making my own clothes
Such a great video. You have a gentle way of explaining things. Love it.
thanks Jasminy 😘
I love your videos so much, learned so much from them. Completely elevated my wardrobe & how I style every piece as a short person it can be difficult but now I feel more put together. Thanks for the videos!! 👏🏽🖤
Thats absolutely amazing, Sammy!
Hi Bethany, just wanted to say that I love your videos. You're always so thoughtful and generous with your fashion advices. Your elegance and grace also inspire me to be a better person somehow... It's like I can see the Holy Spirit within you. God bless!
Greetings from Brazil 🌷
Something that I have faced is the fact of not having a style that is on trend so people don’t appreciate or think that I look “good” but then I know and feel better by using what I like and I know that I put effort into it, with time som people and I find out the level of details that I care about, so i tried not to care a lot about trends or what other prefers, my lesson is that as far as I use what I like and find my own style I will feel better and even people will notice that.
Yes, please do an exclusive video about tailoring. Thank you.
When you keep coming back to this video to learn & empower yourself through clothing. Thank you, Bethany! I'm learning so much.
I've appreciated & accepted that change is constant with the way we style ourselves.
I'm so glad I've learnt taking my jeans to the tailor early in my life & in cheaper price too : )
You're a precious fountain of excellent information.
Yes, please do a whole video on tailoring! 🙏🏼
The first point is something that hit me deep hahaha I’m laughing out loud, in the end it’s left me to very indecisive purchases and I’ve now done 6 returns because I wanted a different style. On top of that I’m starting to have more sensitive skin as I’m getting older with developing allergies so now It’s better in the long run for me to buy ethical clothes.
I am one of your new subscribers and just had to tell you how impressed I am with your content! Since I am much older than you I clicked on one of your videos thinking "what on earth can she tell me that I don't know already 😐" and "why on earth did the algorithm suggest this". It was one of your how to look taller videos but since I am 5"1' I clicked. And am SO glad I did. I have now watched several of your videos. Your content quality is so high quality and you certainly deserve a lot of success.
Thank you so much for the encouragement, it truly means the world! Glad you found the videos helpful, and welcome to the channel!
Dude your hair looks so sleek in this 😏
thanks lovely 😊
Your hair looks absolutely gorgeous in ths video. Love it
Thanks Lara!
Hi miss Bethany, I really love ur videos.. I'm from Philippines.. while watching ur videos made me realize that nothing is more important than our personal style that makes us feel confident. Thank you for your advices, looking forward for more videos of you.
This vid is gold. I love it. My struggle while buying clothes is always the fit and also before I was chubbier so now nothing in my wardrobe really fits me. The struggle is real
I'll start saying that I'm going to make a comment about what I wished to see from you/your videos. But really you do you!! You're already doing amazing!
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It's difficult to find people with a similar body type as mine and proportion-wise we are similiar... all of this to say that I find you incredibly relatable 💕, and while I'm working on building a wardrobe slowly I would love seeing some "try on" hauls, with your touch, of course, not meant to induce people to excessive-thoughtless-shopping, which I love. So reviews/try-ons of quality clothing items for this body type kind, I'd love to see!
I love hearing someone say personal taste is more important than something "working with" body shape. Also would love a video on how to go to the tailor! I'm still putting it off.
Also, I hadn't been shopping in a while. I've been watching lots of fashion bloggers....Some are very highend and it costs 200 $ for a plain white shirt and to me very high prices. You don't have to spend that kind of $. I was shocked that I went to Old Navy and found great jeans 👖, tea shirts botton nice button down shirts , 2 belts , a jean jackets for less than 200 $.
I was surprised 🎉 on a good way. The bottom line is that if its not great, at least we didn't break the bank. All the best to everyone!! Stay ❤️🩹
Thank you so much Bethany I really needed this to boost my confidence after getting called a middle schooler by college batchmates 😐 I'm sure they were never malicious but it kinda irritates me 😅
ugh sorry to hear that was said! It's hard to shake that off, even if nothing was meant by it. Sometimes when no harm was intended it's more frustrating. I guess ultimately even harmless comments come from a place of deflecting their own insecurities. I think they have some of growing up to do :)
Wow… the exact video I needed lol. I’m starting to build my career as a 23 year old now and I am struggling with feeling “immature” with my current fashion sense
This was really beautiful, what a gorgeous philosophy on personal fashion
Love your videos, waiting for the master class to begin!
Woohoo! Can't wait! 🙌
Thus is so relatable! I’ve been working on my personal style for years. Tops are the easiest for me everything else is a challenge but I’m working on it. This might be one of my favorite video from you please do a tailoring video.
My struggle is 95% of my clothes are hand me downs so it's not my style or suits my body type. That's why I'm here on this video because I need to find me. It's January 1st 2023, happy new year 🎉 ✨
I’m turning 19 in 2 months and this video was very interesting! I’ve been into fashion and clothes my whole life and those were some good advices! As I’m starting to think how to change my style a bit and to not be so sporty casual I will think abs the things you said and recommended! Thank you!❤️
Sooo I signed up! I’m so excited to do this! I used to love clothes, and expressing myself through style. But I am 36 with two kids and I am completely lost. I feel like I’ve tried everything under the sun, and I’ve purged so much out of frustration, I’m almost scared to buy anything anymore. Shopping is anxiety inducing for me now. So I am soooo looking forward to your course. 💕
I totally hear that, Sarah! I'm really excited for you and to hear what you get out of it!
How did it go?
I love her voice 🥰
You are truly an inspiration to find my own style...really like your videos.
that means so much! xx
The most important rule has really got me thinking - the past couple of years of working form home has really turned that upside so excited to thinking about how clothes and style represent me again. Also, super keen for a video tailoring :)
You take such big and complex topics and make them so accessible and easily achievable, thank you! I would love to hear more of these podcast type videos on other style topics. Also do you know where you got that bust on the desk?
Hi, I got it a while back on Etsy! Thanks for all the love!
Thank you so much for uploading a video podcast! Hope to see more episodes coming soon on your spotify as well! Much love xx
I so admit and adore your style, thanks for the informative video 🌹
Thanks Dina :)
Please do make a video on tailors. Its something I need in my life!
Hope you have a lovely Valentines day Bethany ❤❤
I'm really excised about your podcast! Keep doing 💓
Hi Bethany! It's always a pleasure to watch your videos.
Have a good day!
Greatings from Morocco.
thanks so much! that means the world 😘
I am difficult to fit because I am short and pear shaped. But I have finally figured it out that shape of the outfit is the most important. Color is second. I am finding it easier to find things in 2022 , which is sort of surprising as there are a lot of boxy shirts in style. I will never wear a box shape.
Thank you Bethany for your truly amazing content ❤️
Cant thank you enough for that, Julie!
Video on tailoring please ♥️
Enjoyed this immensely!
Thanks Jesse! 🤗
I'm in my early 20s, going to get marry this year and finishing my last year on uni, and i still dont know how to be an adult, thanks for this video, keep doing it.
I honestly can't tell you how encouraging the words "keep doing it" was to me. After 7 years of uploading here, I sometimes don't know what to do next, but this just means so much. So thank you for that :) I got married at barely 21 while still in college, and it was a lot to juggle. But you have the chance to see major milestone anniversaries one day, and just know that things will get lighter and clearer, and squeeze every bit of joy out of this chapter. Wish you all the best!
Thanks Bethany......always listen to your fashion...style...its a pleasure listening to you.....keep up the work....
Thanks Melissa! That means more than you know
Just a suggestion- I’d love images of the clothes that you’re talking about to break up the video
Okay so basically I wear black because i m insecure of my body like i m healthy and also i hate my hand fat near the elbow so i mostly wear length below that ..can you just make a video of things that a healthy person can wear like some tips for them which may enhance them more and look good like no hate to persons who like to wear everything you go girl you are rocking ! BTW I HOPE YOU REPLY❤️
Such a great video 💗
Loved it ! You're such a inspiration 🧡
I’d love a video on alterations. Thank you for the informative video.
What non fast fashion brands that you recommend?
I do think the hardest thing right now is matching my personal style with my body type.
My toughest challenge is finding feminine tops that work with my broad chunky shoulders! I love my shoulders in general and they work well when I want to dress more masculine, but I feel ridiculous wearing anything remotely feminine with ruffles and puffs on top because my shoulders get way too exaggerated and it’s a bit ridiculous lol. So I’m trying to work out what feminine features up top can work for my wide back and shoulders. 🙃 so are I know that V-necklines work, and loose, more draped fabrics. But I wanna know more. It is prob alt trial and error. :)
I have the same body/style combo and i totally get what you mean.
This is what worked for me:
I enjoy putting the draping and frills on the elbow or forearms as opposed to directly on the shoulder line. Peplum tops are a great feminine piece that complements my strong shoulders. You’re on point when it comes to V-necks, too
Hope this helps your trial and error ☺️
@@denizyardmc8616 yes! I agree! I have a sweater with has a more balloon style sleeve but it’s at the forearm rather than the shoulder. It’s a great sweater for me, like what you said. Slowly learning 😊😎
I have quite broad shoulder (and hips) as well and I've found that a square neckline suits me really well! I feel like it really balances out my top/shoulders and looks much better than a spaghetti strap for example
@@ginnyl7208 oooh okay! I’ve never tried square necklines, or any kind of deep and exposing necklines, but I’d like to give them a try and see :) I’ve always just played it safe with close crew necks, but they aren’t very feminine!
@@redsquare4835 a square neckline doesn't neccesarily have to be revealing :) I'm sure that you could find tops that would cut of at the top of or above your chest. but I don't have a big chest so none of my tops tend to be revealing haha.
I'm in my 20s, but I'm not a big fan of trendy outfits like ,crop tops, printed pants, ripped jeans anything like that. I prefer a classy look, such as a long-sleeved button-down shirt with a trouser and also neutral colotrs. I like how its minimal but elegant.
Very high on charm, Bethany! Thanks for sharing your book and garden selections! 🌺🌻🌹🌟 Celebrate the summer! Joanne (Cda)
So true our body changes so much. I noticed recently my shape is not as it was 2 years ago. Even though I maintain my self in good shape but somehow different. The cloth fit different 🙂🤔
Yep it's crazy. There are so many factors, and it's just fabric at the end of the day. Lots we can change about clothing to make us feel amazing! ✨
I would love to have a video about tailoring. I just purchased your masterclass and I'm already looking forward to it. Some guidelines are needed, hahaha.
Amazing content with soothing voice is ❤👏🌺
Thanks lovely, that means the world ❤️
Ur beautifull...!!!
I luv ur opinions,ur styling...!!!♥️♥️
Much love, Naina! ♥️
Looking foward for the Master classes on the 28!!
Excited for you, Maria!
That awkward moment when I want to wear hats but my head is too big and I look ridiculous in every hat I ever tried...
Thank you for this video. I’m in that awkward stage of life in my mid-late twenties where my wardrobe is still half-university student, half-professional. I’m becoming more comfortable with myself and my body, but now wonder if the types of clothes that show that off are no longer age-appropriate (am I too old for mini skirts)?
So much valuable advice, thanks! Love your videos ❤️
thanks Melissa! Much love!
Wow! Me! As we speak! Thank you! 😁
You are very wise.
This was so good Thnxx for inspiringgg✨
Learned a lot from this! Thank you!
so happy to hear! xx
this video has very very wise content!!!
So informative with your sweet personality have a nice night!
Thanks so much Katherine! Means the world!
After a very longgggg time😭❤back hereee
Loved this!!
Hi Bethany! I really like and enjoy your content. I hope I can join your upcoming courses soon! God bless you!
God bless you too! Much love Marielle
Excellent video. Enjoyed it very much. 🥰
Watching this for a second time, but now with a notebook!
I'm almost 22 and really struggling with finding my style. I'm generally not that into the trendy pieces anymore that are more catered towards teens, but I'm also not completely into the typical "grown up" look I tend to see with women my age here (sweater, blazer/coat, pants, ankle boots, ect. Type of thing). I still like certain trendy styles like a bootcut, as it suits my body well but I'm still developing my style. I can go a lot of ways in the sense that sometimes I dress very feminine and other times very simple and edgy. I would say I do spend more attention to what I wear now in the sense of putting everything together and making it an actual 'outfit'. So looking at what shoes and jewelry go best with the clothes, matching my makeup and making sure my hair looks nice as well. When before I was more a 'put on what's most comfortable with minimal effort' type of girl. Then I would only make an effort if I was doing something I wanted to look special for. Now I try to incorporate that feeling a little bit into everyday
LOVE your thoughts on this, Ginny!
I wish I could figure this out while evolving in a pregnancy. Frustration with clothes that fit right vs styles maternity clothes off (none that resonate).
I totally hear you, I have not gone through that myself to know how to help, but I have helped other women with pregnancy to take this time to discover their tastes and who they want to be in their next chapter of life. My friend Mary Ellen is pregnant right now, and I love her style (instagram.com/maryellenskye/)
Hi there Bethany!! You are completely awesome! I recently found your channel, I’m in my early 60’s and you’re relatable to us mature women too!
Maybe you’ve answered this before but what brand of jeans works for you? I’m 5’4” and a pear shape with shorter legs. Thanks!!! You’re a darling!!!
Hi Kathleen, thank you so much! As for the jeans, I would say to stay tuned 😉 and don't forget to turn on notifications so you won't miss it!