Hey, Parker here! Thank you to everyone for the positive words. I’m glad to be able to speak my truth and to inform those around me! Thank you so much for having me, Buck! I’m currently taking donations to help with possibly fixing my top surgery/because my partner and I are currently homeless! My links are in Bucks bio ❤ Stay beautiful everyone ❤
Thank you SO much, Parker. ❤ A pro tip-you reduced your risk of heart disease (large breasts), breast cancer, and of course perminant spinal curvature (large breasts), and SO GLAD you are no longer on T and feeling better again.
Thank you for sharing your story, so important! I truly hope Buck is able to help you get justice and revision for your top surgery. Hope your life continues to improve❤
I can’t even imagine what it’s like but I can sympathize with not being happy in your own body because something beyond your own control and in a doctors hands scarred you for life. I have a permanently pinched and dilated Fallopian tube from a botched c section that nearly killed me. It causes me pain every single day. I’ve got kids of my own too and I also know what it’s like being technically homeless with babies, it’s hard but it’s gonna be okay ❤ I was very fortunate to have my mom, even though it was a screaming match every other day, we still never went without a roof and thanks to the kindness of others I was able to provide a home for my boys, and for myself. I know it’s cliché, but it really does get better. And the phrase that personally got me through a lot of that was this too shall pass and better things are on the horizon. The universe has a way of getting things out of the way that are blocking your blessings. Even when it seems like darkness and chaos. Many blessings on you and on your family and on getting your top surgery fixed. ❤
I'll never understand why liking boys/girls things has anything to do with your sex. When I was a teen, I knew lots of tomboys and no one ever considered to suggest that they were actually males.
@@christinamarston2421 "Leveraging a comprehensive sample of transmen (n = 33), transwomen (n = 33), cismen (n = 24), and ciswomen (n = 25), we employ a region-of-interest (ROI) approach to examine the most frequently reported brain regions showing grey matter volume differences between trans- and cisgender individuals. ...The putamen was the only region showing significant GMV differences between cis- and transgender, across previous studies and the present study. We observed increased GMV in the putamen for transwomen compared to both transmen and ciswomen and for all transgender participants compared to all cisgender participants. "---.Replication of Previous Findings? Comparing Gray Matter Volumes in Transgender Individuals with Gender Incongruence and Cisgender Individuals, Journal of Clinical Medicine,
The media is hijacking people’s brain and mind like never before. Do yourself a favor and turn it off for two years and change your social circle. Stop hanging around people cheer you on to self-destruction. Work on YOU and getting spiritually, mentally, and physically healthy.
I’m a masculine woman and I like men. Yes you can do that. Most men I’ve been with don’t care. Most people will like you for who you are. That’s why there is no need to change your gender, except in extremely rare cases, when people have gender dysphoria. It’s ok to be a manly looking woman or a womanly looking man. Strangely enough, feminine men often like masculine women, but it’s not exclusive to them.
The only people who should be transitioning are rare cases. Sexuality is important. The most successful and passable transsexuals are same bio sex attracted. Look at Blaire White or Janet Mock. It’s clear they are TS. Then you have a heterosexual transitioner like the game stop ma’am pretending to be the same thing. Some of the autohomoerotic FTM who like men need to transition, but the rise of hentai porn has these young STRAIGHT girls jumping into transition to become “gay men”. Feminist indoctrination doesn’t help. These young girls are told straight cis men are patriarchal oppressors so they see this as a way out, plus they can still like men! Add in the autogynephile heterosexual males who are transitioning and you have the trans circus we see today. A decade ago most of these people wouldn’t have transitioned. All the crazy we see today is because of less affected or completely non dysphoric people claiming trans just solely based on if they are masculine or feminine or have certain interests. The sexed body dysphoria isn’t even mentioned as much now, it’s all about social construction and “gender roles”. 🤦🏻♀️
@Lala Emm I also like just being a housewife (it’s now an old fashion term) I am lucky enough that my man makes enough money for me to be home and take care of our home. We are not rich by any means, but he has a very demanding job and likes having support from me. I’m not into having a carrier and all the stress that comes with it. I rather just take care of him and myself. I’ve played video games too, right now my favorite game is Disco Elysium which is a grim dystopian world that these people are trying to create. If you haven played it you should try it. I don’t like makeup, it makes me feel like I’m a cake with a frosting on my face, I am now also highly allergic to most makeup and my glands swell up, tears fall down my face and it just turns into a mess. I used to be able to wear makeup, but now I really can’t. Also I used to work with a lot of drag queens in strip clubs when I was younger, I can say out of the ~20 I knew for over a 5 year period, only 2 felt like real women, they used to call themselves “chicks with d_i_c_k_s.” Even they though I was one of them, but said I could be one of them anyway, little did I know how lucky I was. They can be a lot of fun, but if they didn’t like a girl, they would band together and mercilessly harass and run girls out of the club. I saw girls literally run out out of the club in tears. They are men and they can be brutal. Parents and teachers that think they belong in schools, are incredibly naive. They could also work 12 days a week, whereas women are usually exhausted after 4 days, so yes they win all the time. I saw Dylan Mulvany say somewhere, that trans-women get murder at a higher rate than anyone else, (I don’t know if those statistic is true), but it might be because generally speaking their behavior is a lot riskier than women. I mean a lot. Even masculine women are not prone to their risky behavior.
You should definitely advocate and care more about yourself than they do. I’m not a doctor, but have worked in healthcare for many years. They talk more about their next vacation or vacation home or hobbies than they do about patient care. They follow whatever guidelines the healthcare system has put in place and collect a check just like everyone else.
The I my doctor I’ve ever found that truly cares is my sons holistic pediatrician. He’s a genuinely good man who cares about his patients. Doctors nowadays are taught to see as many people as they can with as little actual “care” as possible.
Hey :) so this is interesting comment not trying to be rude or anything but I'm a Trans woman and I'm 21 I knew from a young age I was different I only started my medical journey at 19 after a year of seeing a phycologist etc and this is interesting because as a trans person I know I'm trans I know I'm a trans woman but sometimes I land up doubting my transition due to how hard it is to be trans I'm from ( south Africa) so finding a job and just settling in as an adult is so difficult and as a trans person it's even worse so I do doubt my transition in the sense of how hard it is to be Trans and I just wanted to say doubt is normal u can doubt your transition
@@britneypretorius5382 So you know you're a man who wants to be a woman? Surgery for what? Genital mutilation is never going to make you an adult human female, a woman, nothing will! The language and all that The System is doing is to wipe you out. A sickness is here and it's going to be problematic for your immune system and this is why the rush for hormones and surgeries! So many unbelievable things are to come and you're just going to be left and no amount of money will change it because The System doesn't need money! Your brain is still developing at 21 that I can't even say in truth to think like a rational adult!
65 yo male here. My confusion over this issue as a conservative is huge. I feel very uncomfortable giving my opinion. Being conservative has nothing to do with being transphobic, racist or narrow minded. I just couldn’t understand why parents, schools and doctors wanted kids to rush headlong into such a dangerous journey. It seems now to me that doctors and narcissistic individuals have teamed up for money and ego. Thank you Buck and Parker for this wonderful video with two angels that have broadened my perspective.
I think it is truly a non-political issue. As a traditional left leaning person (who strongly distances from the neo authoritian left movement), I am equally uncomfortable speaking my opinion. But when it comes down to it, the health and safety of kids is on the line. When doctors are able to act so wholy outside of ethical practices, the world should be sounding alarms. But there's very little push back against the atrocities of the past ten years of 'gender affirming care'.
Both sides have come to be identified by their extremes. And both extremes have lost sight of nuance and honesty. I really think this is the only result we'll get as long as we have a 2 party system. And I also think that the good vs evil trope has poisoned our minds. Very little in this life is black or white. We live in a gray world and we spend our time arguing over whether that gray is white or this gray is black, on and on. We all basically want the same things... a little love, a little respect, a little peace... I just dont understand why we as humans make everything so much more complicated than it should be. I've always been a lefty and my cousin has always been a righty. The last time we hung out we both agreed that we are disgusted with our own parties and families and communities. And we both agreed we fall more and more in the middle every day. I can only hope most others are coming to the same conclusions. Here's to being reasonable and realistic and creating a better world for the kids.
I agree. I’m a social worker so you can understand saying something like I’m against giving kids hormones/puberty blockers/bottom surgery is a no go. I’d say some of my clients (children) are trans. Probably 1% out of the hundreds of kids we work with.
the problem is you are generalizing here. what doctors? what kids? who's rushing? It is literally a life long process, and some people don't ever transition. inform yourself.
I'm glad that you mentioned how traumatic puberty can be for young girls. Breasts developing, which brings unwanted attention from grown men. Periods which are not only inconvenient but in many cases very painful to the extent that going to school is impossible. Not too many years ago the media was full of stories about the rise of anorexia in young girls. (Anorexia keeps breasts small and stops periods. )
I don't know why we don't tell people as they're going through puberty, (in a more positive way) "yep, this stuff sucks. It's uncomfortable. And just ugh. As you go through life, You may feel like you lost yourself. You may hate yourself. You may hate everything about yourself. 1. Those feelings don't last forever (they may feel like they do). 2. In the end... it's all apart of the journey. 3. And here's what I find helpful to get through those times...; or here are some places you may find resources.... Bring up the positive sides and helpful tools, wisdom, etc. and different ways on how to navigate through our various stages of life (and the various ways those stages may appear, etc.) Life is tough, and it just seems like there are few people (or access to them) or organizations which help young people (or even adults) navigate difficulties/struggles of/in human life.
@@mikclayton9814 The media has different fads about what they focus on, regardless of how prevalent or uncommon it is. Anorexia Nervosa is ten times more common than being transgender. In fact, Autism while it gets a ton of attention- affects 1% of the population. Being transgender (not just transsexual-but identifying as non binary- no drugs or surgeries-included) is 0.5 % of the population. There are over 400 million people in the US. 1.6 million are trans. It’s extremely uncommon- only half as uncommon as Autism, and ten times less common than Anorexia. Just, as soon as something gets clicks and sells papers and books- the media drops the last thing or tones down coverage and rushes to the next dramatic or controversial thing, no matter how rare or uncommon it is.
@@ToilaCarissa Pretty darn close to what I told my daughter Instead of the very awful "Life gets harder." I told her life gets better and she'd be a great adult. And she is.
I am a textbook case transsexual. I waited a decade until many of my family members passed on out of respect. I also waited until I was sure that oestrogen HRT was the best thing for me. It sounds like she was approved for "T" wayyyyy too fast. I have a soft place in my heart for detransitioners. Seeing these people dealing with this is heartbreaking. Damn.
Parker you have saved my grand daughter from so much physical and emotional pain. She got caught up in the tic tock pro trans movement . She is 14 and we are homeschooling and have moved to a rural area where she got a horse . She will decide her sexuality and her preferences as she matures . We will love and support her no matter what. As of now she is loving life and nature . Social media is destroying kids. She is high functioning autistic and has wonderful support from her family.
This 100% is a lack of mental health resources. The lack of true therapy (not affirming) to really dive into the underlying cause of these feelings. It is beneficial to both sides (trans or not). We need to allow children to get to know their true selves, and it is a confusing journey. Thank you for sharing, Parker, and thank you, Buck, for your amazing platform.
Buck, as a gay man who is almost 60 I am so happy to have found your content. It is reassuring to me to hear conversations mirroring my own concepts around this subject. I have know transsexual men and women throughout my life, but what is happening at this time is madness and I hope through conversations like this video we are able to minimise the damage to young people. My love goes out to Parker who, in my humble opinion, is an incredibly strong and articulate young woman. Thank you both for sharing these truths.
You must most definitely get justice for that botched surgery, there is no excuse for a doctor to leave you like that & get away with it. Revealing your surgery scars was really brave, you are going to help so many people. You are amazing.
@@mgk357 you can only give consent if you are #1 of legal age and #2 if you understand all the implication. I don't think #2 was respected, she was explained anything so this is major health care mistake that should lead to prosecutions. It could happen to anybody in a vumnerable position.
It seems fairly common for the surgeries not to work out. Meaning lots of complications and botched scars. The Doctors get away with it because the TPLUS keep the lie going that it either doesn’t happen or they say it’s fine. It will be fixed. It’s not doctors fault even when it’s clear these medical professionals know that the outcome will never make them the sex they wish they were. Or get conned into thinking it will fix whatever problem they have. The TPLUS cult love bombs and if you go “against” it by not subscribing to ALL that they are selling then you get banished and they go after you. Make your life hell. Many of them know that the concept of TPLUS is bogus. It’s a lie. It’s a false ideology that was created by pedo Doctors like Dr. Money, that has been twisted every which way. Nurture can’t beat nature to the point one denies biology. Mental illness to sexual fetish is the basis of TPLUS. Having a mental illness doesn’t make one a bad person but it can if your mental illness harms others by one promoting harmful ideologies, laws, unnecessary medical treatments…the sexual fetish can be bad and society doesn’t need people flaunting them out in public. Especially during daylight hours. Leave that for the night life at the club or parades at night.
Thanks so much Parker for sharing your story with me and my subscribers! You are a beautiful person inside and out. Thanks for watching, liking, commenting, and sharing, everybody! love, tranpa
I relate to Parker's story from our age, circumstances, top surgery when it should've been a reduction - I cried listening to this video because I feel like I could've finished her sentences. The community* really does love bomb you...as long as you agree with them. Thanks so much for sharing this.
The side by side between Buck and Parker that I've found to be another useful comparison is the effect of testosterone on each of them. As horrible as it is, looking at detransitioners and so-far-successful transitioners seems to make the case for me that there is a physiological root for "true" transgenderism. As in, those who are wired to positively accept hormones opposite of their natal sex do not detransition. They have a "physiochemical sex" (more on that on my channel) that is opposite of their genital sex- a sex disorder- and cross sex hormones actually help rather than harm them. I've been on T for 4 years as a biological female; I started at 31. I actually dropped weight, do not experience the sweats, and aside from a little trouble with sleep (which happens in menopause, which I now am in due to the ceasing of menstruation), my mental health has been phenomenal. I do not have the crashes or other negative side effects that detransitioners talk about. I believe that I am one of those people who have a sex disorder in that, while I am female, I respond better overall on testosterone. No history of CSA, either. I think it's crucial to compare these notes and make it well known that the people who are successful with HRT are NOT the norm, and to show people what it looks like when it's unsuccessful so they can make properly informed decisions. Thank you, Buck and Parker 🙏
Parker’s entire saga is one punch in the gut after another. How she’s still able to smile and have a sense of humor is admirable. I couldn’t help but notice how friendly her eyes are, they totally drew me in!
Being lovebombed and succumbing to it at the age of 27/28, it makes me realize how hard it is for these teenagers succumbing to it. Parker, you are so wise to consider therapy for your kids.
It reminds me of the TH-camr Trevi Moran. Before she came out she made an emotional video on how she was having trouble figuring out if she’s trans or not because everyone was telling her how great she’d look as a woman and how cool it would be. How are you supposed to figure out if you’re really doing it for yourself if people are encouraging and love bombing you like that to do it? I’m not saying she shouldn’t have transitioned or I don’t think she’s really trans, but it makes things harder to figure out even for actual transsexuals too! It doesn’t help anyone.
@@johnb9573 Is is called, having a pedophiles mindset if only thing which interest is whats going on inside someone pants and seeing love as just sex. What is REAL LOVE? - have we all forgotten it? - sure we have. Therefore lets remind us again: “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13 (KJV) Bible also calls us all to FLEE FROM FORNICATION: 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. Acts 15:29 That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: NOWHERE does the bible says that: love = fornication. lgbtq++ and pedophiles - pardon me here, but i do not see difference. Masons are know pedophiles who pushed their mindset to the ignorant naively believing masses - us , the population of humans. And since all their evil and sick agendas are targeting the youth, that`s why lgbtq++ movement came to be. Search about them, freemasons, it is mind blowing how sick and evil they are.
I think there's also another way that this is like drug addiction: no matter how many times people might hear about detransitioners (just like drug addiction), young people always think it's not going to be them. "Oh, _those_ people might have gotten addicted super easy, but I know I won't." "Oh, _those_ people might have made a mistake by transitioning, but I know I'm not making a mistake."
@Rick Berglund Yeah like right before. I almost got instant access to T. in 2009. The doc stood up our appointment and to fill the time I had pizza with someone close to me who was upportive but asked me to take a little more time to explore myself. Still boggles my mind how different my life almost was. At this point I feel intense relief.
@@rhodalle Top surgery was offered to me in 2014, too. I'd had B.C., and was offered a double mastectomy, but the surgeon said that my ribs would be showing through and nips gone. So i told her i didn't want that, then mentioned wanting a severe reduction, and about my dysphoria, and she just said, "Sure, we can do that. After the B.C. treatment." I wasn't even trying to pass or anything. Would still like a natural-looking reduction, just to live as a flat-chested female, but was alarmed that all you have to do is tell the surgeon, (who doesn't even know you), "Give me top surgery," and by god, they'll do it. No psych eval necessary at all. At this point, it's more body dysmorphia, though i was diagnosed with the other, in the 80's.
Omg, when she showed her scars and described how the doctor treated her after made my damn heart break. No f’n joke. We need to raise awareness. She needs to find an attorney who will get paid only if she gets paid in the lawsuit. It would be worth doing that then nothing and letting them literally do a horrible job on surgeries and throw them out the doors like that. Oh my god, these poor souls. What atrocious abuse of a vulnerable human being these people profiting off these things. I truly hope she finds a way to hire an attorney and prosecute these doctors to the fullest extent. Criminal charges need to be brought up against them, medical malpractice, damages, whatever possible should be sought.
I have a 37yr old gay daughter who wanted to be a boy at a very young age. 3or4 yrs old she want a "yanger" sewed on, always a tomboy. But she grew out of it and became the wonderful woman who she is now. And still the "tomboy" she always was and will be......
@RCenal that is the way it should be 👍. My daughter works with me, helping older people and does all kind of Home improvements, a little bit of everything. She's awesome....
I just learned what CSA is as well. I was abused by my step father for over 6 years. I told my mother who didn’t believe me right away so it continued for years until he divorced her when I got too old for him. You are so brave Parker ❤
She has SUCH a pretty face and a beautiful personality. She seems like a really fun person to be around! I hope she gets help to fix the unfinished top surgery issue, and then never changes another thing.
I am in my 50s and biological man, and I was feeling run down so i got some test. My testosterone level was low, that's what happens. I had to jump through hoops before he would even let me do just a small dose of it. Make sure I was healthy enough to take it, and told me all the risks involved if I take to much. Its not that great for a bio man to take it, especially for a long period of time. How can they just act so nonchalant about this. At least check to make sure they are healthy enough first, then let them know the risks involved. This whole thing with giving it to children, breaks my heart. I am so glad you are all doing this, at least letting people know the risks, seems some of these Drs only want the money and don't actually care about their health.
Same thing happened to someone in my extended family. It took this man signing multiple disclosures, release forms, tests and consent. After taking a for a brief period of time he was taken off it although needed because of a blood test. They can’t just be handling out hormones to children and uninformed patients.
I thought i was trans and i was this close to transitioning. But after some time, i realized that i'm a lesbian and only wanted to transition, so that i dont have to be gay. I often had crushes on straight women, and i thought as a man i could be together with them. I also had dysphoria, but it went away for some reason. I still like to look like a guy (not that guys have to look a certain way), but i have short hair and only shop in the mens section and stuff. But i'm glad that i didn't transition. I'm not sure where the dysphoria came from, but it went away after i cut my hair short and started wearing guys clothing. Just wanted to share my thoughts. Love from germany 🇩🇪
It probably is our current culture that seems to have moved back towards sex stereotypes so that young girls and women can feel/think that to be “a woman” is to wear certain things, look a certain way, act a certain way, have certain interests etc. So when they don’t fit those stereotypes they start to seriously question “Am I even a girl/woman?” and feel the way they are is “wrong” somehow. The reality is that the ONLY thing women have in common is our BIOLOGY everything else can depend on the individual woman. So there is no “correct” way to be female and anyone who says there is, is ONLY thinking stereotypically as there are plenty of women who don’t fit any so-called “woman” mould and yet are 100% women. Be proud of who you are, 100% woman, 100% female and you get to decide how to be a woman in the world.
Buck should seriously make a high production documentary. I think it’d be the best we’ve ever seen. A buck like trans/detrans documentary. There’s a way to go about existing in the community and a positive light at the end of the tunnel but the way they’ve taken IT so far is not the Way and I KNOW Buck can put it in words and pictures and ways that actually resonate with people instead of piss them off. And win truly will save people in the end. Which I know that’s already what this channel does, and Buck is so wholesome and amazing, but a bigger production outside (lol and insides, don’t leave us out!) of the channel here might actually reach some people stuck in their bubbles. I hope this anyway. For the future!
Buck I don’t even know you but you are so thoughtful & caring. I’m not trans or detrans I just love watching you because we need more people in the world like you ♥️
You're doing great work Buck❗❗❗ From a Christian conservative white woman that married her Jr high school sweetheart... this issue is something we should ALL AGREE ON. But of course... the machine don't want us all to get along like one big happy family.
Ditto!! I'm a straight conservative Jewish/Episcopalian and I agree. What being done to young people in the name of Trans ideology is disgusting. These kids are so lucky to have Buck speaking out for them. Hopefully the day will come and we can stop checking boxes and just be ourselves without the negative influences.
@@Dragonladyrvrr... There's some sinister, dark powers at work in this world today. Teaching the next gen that if your loved ones push back in anyway that they are the problem. How many families has these dark forces claimed in the name of pride? I can only pray... these warnings find there way to the ones that will take heed.
That is the silver lining. This issue is uniting people of all backgrounds because we agree on a few things. I want kids protected, men out of the women's bathrooms where I work, women's sports to be for women, and free speech restored because them forcing us to call them what they feel right now is no different than if vegans suddenly forced the rest of you to say Meat is Murder. I don't get to force you to say what I believe, that is just wrong.
@@Wowjustwow37 Sadly... this issue is causing a great divide. Anyone that doesn't bend the knee to the powers that be is being labeled and flaged as dirt. We are up against some seriously evil forces. 😈
Ive been shouting into the void there is a common connection between bpd and dysphoria / wanting to transitonion and now here this story. Its oneof those situations where you feel no joy in being right but validated more people may start understanding what you mean. Thank you parker for sharing your story.
Parker, thank you for sharing your story! I’m also a CSA survivor so I also applaud you for stepping up and putting your story out there to help others.
Women w breast cancer have to undergo therapy before and after their mastectomy. I can't believe this surgery has become as easy to get as pulling a bad tooth. I'm so sorry. Thank you for speaking out and thank you Buck, for having Parker as a guest ❤
Buck, Parker, I'm Italian in my 40s, no kids, but I'm vocal about this tragedy about kids in the Anglo-Saxon world, as it's getting so normalized here too, but people DENY IT, not even knowing what they're talking about. Thanks for your testimonies, cause I can get information I can share with Italians willing to protect children. Thanks so much for that!
I still remember meeting the secretary at my mom's office Terry. I adored her She was a butch old school lesbian and was so smart and kind and put together. That's the impression I had of her as a 5 year old. I was a Tom boy and very graceless as a child. Seeing and knowing Terry subtlety showed me it was ok to have short hair and wear pants and button downs. Even my mom wore her hair short and had a perpetual uniform of black slacks and array of powerfully patterned tops and blazers. And she was married to my dad for 54 years. Clothes and hobbies do not make the gender/sexuality presentation. Surprisingly sex and personal details never came up besides her mentioning a partner...this was the 80s and I was 5 years old. It was until years later that I put it together. I thought she lived with a lady like the golden girls and partners meant they did business stuff at home. People like Parker are amazing and should be the role models we put in front of our children....not to indoctrinate but to just quietly project that we come in all shapes and sizes and you're beautiful just the way you are. You deserve love and respect and private space and mental health. God bless u Parker
@@rebelleparrish4937 This comment is EVERYTHING and SO important! Representation should be just seeing different kinds of people with different lifestyles and opinions out in the real world in your day-to-day life. NOT indoctrinating people, especially our youth, by shoving only ONE narrative down everyone's throats, in every aspect of their life and demonizing opposing views and opinions. This world and especially this country, has strayed SO far from what it was and its founding principles. We are losing our freedom and individuality! Our freedom of speech is all but gone, freedom of press is destroyed by censorship and propaganda, and freedom of religion is under constant vicious attack. Gone are the times of embracing our differences of opinions and having meaningful peaceful conversations to understand one another. Now we are taught, if someone doesn't hold the same opinions and beliefs you do, that they are the enemy, they are evil, bad people, and to not listen to anything they have to say. This breeds a dangerous society of division, anger, and ignorance and is completely unhealthy and disfunctional to run a multicultural country.
Blair White asked us to sub, so I did! I decided to support you like I do her. My husband and I support individuals that have their own thoughts and don't follow the crowd. Good for you! Much love.
I saw a video clip on Twitter , that’s how I found you . Your kindness and authenticity is much needed in this arena . Thank you for shining your light .
16 minutes in, this is absolutely ridiculous. My heart goes out to you. You seem to have found yourself in a way and you're very strong. We will hold these doctors accountable!!
I had weight loss surgery, had to have 6 months of therapy first before I was approved for it. It makes me crazy that a 15 min visit gets you approved for transitioning. Mental health is a big part of why we all feel uncomfortable in our bodies. It breaks my heart that the health care industry is all about making money and not about saving lives.
Wow detransitioning for some people probably takes even more courage because one might be afraid no one will take them seriously again. It takes so much strength to overcome our ego when it comes to worrying what others think. ❤ You are awesome Parker!!!
Around the 15:00 minute mark when Parker showed the results of her double mastectomy completely arrested me. The gender clinics and pharmaceutical companies are accomplishing what the anti-gay conversion therapists could only dream of doing - and on a MASSIVE scale and with a tremendous amount of support from politicians, bureaucrats, and garden-variety street activists alike.
My jaw dropped with your surgery results, that was so brave of you to be so vulnerable and truthful, and will help lots of people on their journey. You’re such a kick ass woman!
It's scary that people would look to Tik Tok for advice. Weren't they the same people who were putting out things like the Tide Pod challenge, the choking game, and so many other messed up and harmful things?
remember when 4CHAN started the Thigh Gap bs? and then a horde of gullible idiots were getting lipo/starving themselves to achieve that? Sometimes the internet lays some bait to secretly fuck with you... I wonder to what extent the trans thing had people doing this.
Buck, your anxiety is more under control lately, compared to your older videos. You don't interrupt just to agree, and you are mindful of them finishing their sentences. I'm also working on the same problem.
Parker is so brave to come forth with her story. Also such a strong person! And Buck who could not love Buck for his compassion and honesty. And I say this as a straight Conservative woman. Much love and respect to you both. ❤
This is so much like what happened to me. Trusted family friend with kids I was friends with. Grooming. He was oh so very patient. Until he one day lay in bed with me at night and asked me to hold his 'finger' because he was scared of the thunder. I let go and said that wasn't a finger and I didn't want to hold it. I wasn't sure what it was, I was very very young, but I knew that fat thing between his legs wasn't a finger, and I instinctively recoiled from it. Smart man that he was, he didn't push. I imagine he thought he need to groom me a little longer. But that was the last time I ever spent the night there or went there without being forced to visit by my innocent, ignorant father. After this I became a tom boy, wanted to be a boy, wore no skirts, even had a boy name. Thank goodness this happened in the 70's and no one decided I needed to transition. I hadn't connected those events with wanting to be a boy until just a few months ago.
Parker totally lives in her truth. What a strong amazing person. It’s so beautiful seeing you Buck, growing this healthy community, learning from each other, and helping each other ❤
There is no ‘her’ truth, it’s just the truth, and one’s personal perspective of a situation. Please drop this embarrassing woks Bs language . This lady is amazing to speak up like this , her experience is a lesson
And... she won't allow her children to have altering hormones or surgeries that alter their bodies so props to her/him. I agree that no minor should be allowed to make life altering medical decisions or hormonal decisions.
As a mom, I could see it very difficult if my now,grown children didn’t call me mom or mother. We do have a created nickname that only we know that they sometimes use. When you’re a mom, it’s something you feel deep inside.
So I was diagnosed with BPD 20 years ago, and THIS is what I’ve been trying desperately to make people understand! THIS is (1 of) my main issues with transitioning young people-(& even adults too quickly) is because I know from experience there’s so many mental health issues that can lead someone to feel a sense of dysphoria, or struggle with their bodies, etc.. PARTICULARLY WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER! It’s literally part of the diagnostic criteria- it’s a core feature- that we struggle with identity disturbance! It’s essentially like going through life with this constant nagging feeling that you just have no dam clue who you are or who you’re supposed to be. & it’s pervasive- it doesn’t really go away! You just lack that sense of self. And I think back to when I was younger- I’d say around 14/15/16 is when it was the worst- & just this never ending feeling of like just being lost., I constantly felt like an imposter! I mean, I legit can remember having conversations with myself as a teen, wondering like “am I just a poser”- and I STILL, as a grown married woman & mother, feel like that at times! feeling like I’m just the biggest fraud in the world! It’s so confusing, and so hard to explain. But you just never feel totally right within yourself- no clear sense of who you are- and who you are , & what you like, is this CONSTANT evolving thing! Even my kids notice it… they’ve said things to me before lile “mommy whenever you spend alot of time with aunt Jamey you start acting like her”.. they’ve told me the way I speak changes, sometimes even the way I dress., I mean, .. anyone who wants to take up a hobby just let me know what you’re looking to get into and chances are I can assist you & provide you with material’s because, my ever changing identity has led me to becoming a baker, a cake decorator, a wreath maker, a gardener, a makeup artist, a therapist, a diy’er, and many many- & that’s not including things I felt so excited about & was sure it’s who I was that just as quickly as it came on it faded away & I never actually learned- like making clothes & whatnot (my husband went out an bought me such an expensive sewing machine, & all the things to go with it😣 never even learned how to use it.. I have piles of wood because I wanted to learn wood working, ..) I have photos of myself with green hair and 15 piercings wearing all black, I have photos looking like I stepped out of a spring time clothing catalogue, & photos where I looked like one of the Duggars😳there were times I fully loved being a woman & having a woman’s body- and times I despised it and it all felt so wrong! Times I dressed provocatively, and other times I felt so uncomfortable in my skin I just wanted to hide under as much clothing as I could! The constant shifting of feelings- the self doubt- the sense of just not being right… it just didn’t stop. Those of us with BPD often joke about this sorta thing- & picking up new hobbies & interests, or joke about things like “crippling emptiness& boredom kicking in, which color will I dye my hair this time” and crap like that… but really it all comes down that lack of sense of self. Thank God I have the most amazing husband who is so loving and patient… I mean, he’s been with the “I’m a sex goodness stripper” me, to the “I’m an insecure basket case who loathes myself so much- don’t even hug me, I can’t stand to be touched!” Me… and over the years I’ve learned tools & coping skills and whatnot, and have made great improvements., but as a teen & young adult- oh man.. it was bad! And I have ZERO DOUBT that if I grew up in this social climate I would have 100% been on that trans train! I HATED the skin I was in, I hated myself, I always felt this naggin feeling that something was fundamentally just wrong., i couldn’t stand to be in my own skin- couldn’t stand to have to just sit with myself. AND on top of that I NEEDED constant validation!!! Which led to me engaging in risky behaviors to get it- which put me in bad situations- and yes, I had awful things happen to me! So I couldn’t make sense of the fact that sometimes I CRAVED that attention, & other times I was repulsed at even the thought of someone touching me. I couldn’t make sense of why sometimes I almost wanted to be treated as just a sexual object, but yet I’d feel so disgusted about it., I also developed really early- and that brought on problems of its own because an 11 year old CAN NOT understand why grown men are looking at her in such a way, or making such disgusting comments.., & I internalized that- again, something must have just been wrong WITH ME. And if I had people back then telling me transitioning was the answer, that I felt that way because I was in the wrong body, and that transitioning would fix everything.. in a heartbeat I woulda jumped on it!!! Then being showered with affirmation for it- yeah, I have no doubt I woulda jumped on it! I think back to the many times when even my own mother complementing me or telling me I was beautiful gave me this sick feeling & would be so triggering for me it would lead to a total meltdown! & I couldn’t understand why I had that reaction.. so I can just imagine going to a therapist today & them being like “well obviously you’re trans “🤦🏻♀️ I’ve already struggled so much , long before my diagnosis (I started having symptoms & having problems around 8 or 9) I can’t even imagine what it woulda been like if on top of that I woulda gotten sucked into gender ideology- The added confusion & anguish I really think would have just been unbearable for me!! And that’s like my main grievance with this ideology & transitioning young people.. they’re sold this lie that their gender can just be changed,& that it will magically be the solution to everything.. WITHOUT their mental health issues even being addressed.. and then they’re just left in all this turmoil & confusion- with no direction where to go😞 it all makes me so sad. And I wanted to add., advocates love to use emotional manipulation & tell people trans people will unalive themselves.,, So I just wanted to point out that the rates of that is HIGHEST among people with BPD. Higher than any other demographic! 75% of people with BPD will make an attempt at least once! SEVENTY FIVE percent! And the rate of completion is more than 50 times greater than the general population! I bring this up for 2 reasons.. 1, because I truly believe a great amount of young people who think they’re trans or are being “treated” for it have bpd. (Which also ties into the question- why does that ideation not go away after transition.. could it be because their BPD is going unaddressed!??) And also 2) when it comes to transgenderism, that is the only issue that we take an approach of affirming instead of working on underlining issues-& it’s the only one that we use “risk of unaliving” as a justification.. it’s used to manipulate. You’d NEVER hear people going around saying “well you should just allow that person with BPD to act out or have that episode etc and don’t even say anything to them about it because if you don’t just allow that behavior they’ll unalive themselves “.. you’d never hear that! Instead, you hear about accountability! You hear about personal responsibility- that even tho this is a awful debilitating illness, even tho it’s known as the most emotionally & psychologically painful illness, we NEED to be held accountable & we NEED to take responsibility to seek treatment & therapy, & learn ways to cope.. no one goes around suggesting we just be left to act out in whatever ways our brain tells us to- or that society should alter everything to better suit us. We must be accountable & learn to betttr cope living in society! Imagine if people went around constantly telling everyone of the high rates among those of us with BPD- so therefore we essentially have free reign to act in whatever ways it make whatever poor decisions etc. 😣 yet we use that as justification for transitioning kids- as well as to basically say “well all of society needs to adjust in order to accommodate gender ideology” it’s just wrong
Have you checked for ASD/ADHD also? Perhaps a narcissist mom? Could explain why a compliment from her could be triggering. ASD in women and BPD look a lot alike and have lots of overlaps.
The fact that you as a Borderline had a kid is absolutely beyond the pale selfishness and something that I hope God punishes you for. Down the line, your kid won't thank you. My own mom is a ******* Borderline, and I've learned to thoroughly hate them all and to despise them as subhuman POS's who should be dead. Damn shame that their successful suicide rate isn't higher. Since it's not, society should not tolerate any Cluster B personality disorders and should eliminate them all. Cluster B's don't have families and children. They only have victims with Stockholm Syndrome. I skimmed that long insane novel you posted. You sound like a living nightmare..
I considered Dr. Wolf for top surgery, but he’s not board certified and I kept reading his patient’s reviews about “dog ears”(the extra fat and skin left on the sides)and his refusal to fix them. I’m so sorry you went through such a horrible experience, Parker. Not just the top surgery, all of it.
Wow, such a brave conversation. Buck, you were respectful and kind and Parker… how brave are you?! I’m so grateful you showed your scars, I think it really helps to communicate the point you’re making. I hadn’t understood, in the true sense, what had actually been done to your bodies before you revealed your own scars. I’m a new subscriber to this channel, I don’t have any angst about my own gender but I want to understand what’s happening in society. I just want to say well done and thank you to both of you! X
Buck you seem like such a genuinely kind and caring person. Your guest has experienced so much tragedy in her life🌞. Thank you both for exposing the medical and social abuse that mentally confused or emotionally fragile young people are being subjected to. It’s truly criminal the lack of real care offered in the medical arena for these vulnerable people. Keep getting the word out. I think you’re both very courageous.
No double talk, wonderfully clear, brillant, pertinent, human, mature, transparent on the reality of all this. Thank you so much for you two to be you, and thank you for the kids I hope will thinking to go on therapy before anything else. Love you from France.
Wow Parker thank you for being so brave and showing your top surgery results. I am so sorry you were a victim of medical malpractice and negligence. We claim to be so welcoming about mental health yet so eager to disconnect the medical condition gender dysphoria from being transgender. Lifelong medical treatment is serious and not some joke. Having gender dysphoria is a mental condition but should be considered as a final diagnosis before other possible conditions are considered. What a shame. I feel in 20 years we will look back and all be able to see how this was that “everyone thought they were trans” period of history. The social contagion is real and the last thing the medical community should do is affirm CHILDREN AND YOUNG ADULTS caught in this “trend”. SMH. Thanks for having Parker on Buck, you’re my hero Tranpa.
I commend this person for being so self aware and self reflective after all of that. We need more voices like hers. Buck you are asking all the good questions we all want to know in order to better understand. 👌🏽 amazing hosting skills 💗
Parker thankyou for telling us your story. Hopefully the younger generation will see this. I hope you know your story and time is greatly appreciated. Take care.
You're very brave for going public with your story..so many people say there is no side effects from the trans meds and surgery and say it's reversible which is terrifying
I've always wondered about how sexual abuse of children would mess up with their self esteem and their feelings about gender identity and make them feel that they would rather be the opposite gender to feel they could defend themselves and prevent being abused. This is an issue that often comes up in trans people and it doesn't seem to be important for people when regarding the whole picture. It's like the elephant in the middle of the room that nobody wants to see. Abusing children is very common, much more than what people know. But it has horrible and life lasting consequences.
Your channel has become such an amazing voice for these children.... I was married to a trans man who passed away i believe from the years of cross sex hormones. Your empathy and compassion is amazing.
Hi Parker, thank you for sharing your story. You're the second detransitioner that I have watched today. Please continue to share your story especially with the young and impressionable.
As a mental health professional I keep talking about the mental health stuff of this but, often it is met with hate and I get shut down. I get so much shit form some in our field how we have to affirm and not question. It is crazy I promise I will not stop helping as a professional, asking questions, and saying lets see if there are other things!!!!!! I don't care if I get hate, this is what is right. We need to ask, challenge and make people thing, not misguide them!
This is very interesting. Here in South Africa, i am going through my transition at a public hospital, and there they really control and keep an eye on your transition. one sees a psychiatrist first before anything is done, once he is satisfied that your mind and body and soul is ready for this, then you are sent for all sorts of blood tests by the endocrine clinic.. then they only give the first shot once all is 100% right, and then every 3 months its more tests etc... they really keep a watchfull eye on your journey, physically and mentally, and always take every little ache or pain seriously and treat it immediately if necessary. i thought we were a third world country when it comes to these things, but i am now seriously doubting this and am so much more appreciative towards them
@@Juamo-tn8we been on hormones for 3 years now and i dont regret a moment of it. i am 54 and i think i am old enough to understand the consequences around this. i have spent 50 years living as another person, and this is the first time i feel like me, so regret isnt even in the pipline, but i do appreciate your concern and i kinow it comes from your experience , but mine is different, and so bloody awesome.
I'm so glad I didn't have the internet growing up. As a straight woman, I am very much a tomboy and struggled so much growing up w why girls always cast me out and I simply just didn't fit in with them. But I turned out just fine, going to a tech school w mostly boys, I found my place without ever having anyone tell me I'm a boy. Sure, I got the lesbian jokes and still do at 30 yrs old sometimes, but that's okay! I learned to just be myself. And this is okay to be this way. It doesn't have to be so complicated!
Parker, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! My heart absolutely breaks for you! You are doing SO much good with your message and I thank you and honor you for it! I pray that life hands you nothing but the VERY best for today and your future! ❤️🙏✌🏻
Parker is an amazing person, she truly is brave!! Her story and the fact that she is sharing it to try and help other people is awesome. Lotsa love and prayers out to her❤
She looks SO familiar. I wonder if I've seen her videos at some point. So weird! Anyway, another awesome guest. Parker, you've gone through an amazing journey, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. Keep being amazing and keep fighting the fight. People like you and Buck are pioneers.
“Conservative” lesbian here, just greatly supporting the cause! I don’t have much to comment, but I hope these videos sky rocket. Leave the kids alone!! Love you, Buck!❤️
Thank you Parker! I have dealt with my masculinity since I could remember. I am so grateful to have grown up in a time social media didn't exist. I even asked my mom at age 5 if I could be a boy (like my best friend in preschool). I have always been a tomboy, joined the military and think differently than my girlfriends. I don't wear makeup, lashes, extensions, dresses and so on. I would be happy in a pair of sweat pants and tank top the rest of my life lol. At 39, I am finally trying to explore more of my femininity.
Please don't let the media make you believe that everyone who isn't transgender doesn't care about you. Since it became popular, we've always been concerned for your health in the long term. Detransitioners are doing a marvelous job at allowing both sides to come together. I sincerely hope we all learn something valuable about our self perception and a deeper look at what makes us so vulnerable.
Buck, when you talk about the "system" you went through, that worked....vs the radicals & activists who call this "gatekeeping." This needs more discussion!
Thank YOU Buck for all that you're doing...🤩🤩🤩!!! And thank YOU Parker for coming on and sharing your story...😊😌😇. Hope you're hanging in there and doing well...😊☺️🥰.
Found you on andrew gold and subscribed at once. It's great that you are speaking your truths from all your life experiences. Thankyou also Parker... you gave a great interview... good luck with your journey you are amazing. ❤
@Parker Landen I want to thank you, as well as Buck Angel for doing this! There is something you hit on that I may have to look into for my 17 year old daughter. BPD. I never heard of it but when you talked about it, I looked up what it is and some of the possible causes. My baby girl fits right into that. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! HUGS to you both!!
I absolutely loved this. Parker, we need to promote tomboys again! That said... I really don't believe social transition is a neutral act... I really do not think kids should socially transition - dress in a gender neutral way and use make up/have whatever hair - sure - but pronouns and names? No.... it can possibly put them on a train that is hard to get off of ... But that's my opinion based on what I watch, see, read. Amazing interview!
Correct. The new NHS guidelines for the UK have stated that it concretises an identity and doctors should not even be affirming pronouns, new names etc unless the particular case is exceptional. Any affirmation simply raises the chances of progressing to the next step.
I swear every time i watch these interviews i learn so much. I really wish more people would watch these videos. More people would figure out what they were faster, and not be love bombed and are pushed to fit in somewhere, just to make themselves feel better. None of us fit in a box but we can all use some guidance. Shes so smart. as are you Buck.
My heart goes out to Parker. I hope your voice continues to spread Buck. When other countries are pulling back and the US is pushing full steam ahead, all I can think is "Danger Will Robinson!." At this point the end does not look pretty. Thank you both for continuing to speak.
This interview is so important, thank you for being so frank, your story points out exactly the issues which are hurting so many. Would it hurt anyone if the first point of call was a total mental health assessment and then therapy to bring someone to a point of if not optimal, then at least a state if balanced and awareness of what is going on with the individual. And only once this point has been achieved and serious mental illness ruled out before any talk of hormonal medication let alone surgery to lop off body parts. Thank you again
OMG, my heart goes out to your guest. Thank God she has a positive attitude and is dealing with it properly. That Dr. should be sued. How dare they start the process, and leave her without a revision. Thank you for your courage to tell your story and show the real proof of what happened. She's a beautiful soul and my prayers are with her. Thank God she has children and a good support of a community of people who care. I care too.
Hey, Parker here! Thank you to everyone for the positive words. I’m glad to be able to speak my truth and to inform those around me! Thank you so much for having me, Buck! I’m currently taking donations to help with possibly fixing my top surgery/because my partner and I are currently homeless! My links are in Bucks bio ❤ Stay beautiful everyone ❤
Thank you SO much, Parker. ❤ A pro tip-you reduced your risk of heart disease (large breasts), breast cancer, and of course perminant spinal curvature (large breasts), and SO GLAD you are no longer on T and feeling better again.
Thank you for sharing your story, so important!
I truly hope Buck is able to help you get justice and revision for your top surgery. Hope your life continues to improve❤
Hi Parker ❤WOW,You are brave,and exactly the kind of influencer we so desperate is searching for❤🫡 All the Best wishes from Denmark 🇩🇰♾️🙏
Thank you Parker for sharing your story, I am raising 3 kids in this crazy world and I worry for them.
I can’t even imagine what it’s like but I can sympathize with not being happy in your own body because something beyond your own control and in a doctors hands scarred you for life. I have a permanently pinched and dilated Fallopian tube from a botched c section that nearly killed me. It causes me pain every single day. I’ve got kids of my own too and I also know what it’s like being technically homeless with babies, it’s hard but it’s gonna be okay ❤ I was very fortunate to have my mom, even though it was a screaming match every other day, we still never went without a roof and thanks to the kindness of others I was able to provide a home for my boys, and for myself. I know it’s cliché, but it really does get better. And the phrase that personally got me through a lot of that was this too shall pass and better things are on the horizon. The universe has a way of getting things out of the way that are blocking your blessings. Even when it seems like darkness and chaos. Many blessings on you and on your family and on getting your top surgery fixed. ❤
I'll never understand why liking boys/girls things has anything to do with your sex. When I was a teen, I knew lots of tomboys and no one ever considered to suggest that they were actually males.
Exactly where is this craziness coming from??
It's like some bizarre attempt to erase gay people in this weird back handed way.
@@christinamarston2421 "Leveraging a comprehensive sample of transmen (n = 33), transwomen (n = 33), cismen (n = 24), and ciswomen (n = 25), we employ a region-of-interest (ROI) approach to examine the most frequently reported brain regions showing grey matter volume differences between trans- and cisgender individuals. ...The putamen was the only region showing significant GMV differences between cis- and transgender, across previous studies and the present study. We observed increased GMV in the putamen for transwomen compared to both transmen and ciswomen and for all transgender participants compared to all cisgender participants. "---.Replication of Previous Findings? Comparing Gray Matter Volumes in Transgender Individuals with Gender Incongruence and Cisgender Individuals, Journal of Clinical Medicine,
@@stephenkling9976 Nor being an ass, but my ADHD brain isn't unwinding this. Can you simplify, please?
The media is hijacking people’s brain and mind like never before. Do yourself a favor and turn it off for two years and change your social circle. Stop hanging around people cheer you on to self-destruction. Work on YOU and getting spiritually, mentally, and physically healthy.
I’m a masculine woman and I like men. Yes you can do that. Most men I’ve been with don’t care. Most people will like you for who you are. That’s why there is no need to change your gender, except in extremely rare cases, when people have gender dysphoria. It’s ok to be a manly looking woman or a womanly looking man. Strangely enough, feminine men often like masculine women, but it’s not exclusive to them.
I knew a very masculine woman who pulled some of the sexiest men. The rest of us were like DAMN! Get it!!!
@@Wowjustwow37 I believe you 😁😉
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The only people who should be transitioning are rare cases. Sexuality is important. The most successful and passable transsexuals are same bio sex attracted. Look at Blaire White or Janet Mock. It’s clear they are TS. Then you have a heterosexual transitioner like the game stop ma’am pretending to be the same thing. Some of the autohomoerotic FTM who like men need to transition, but the rise of hentai porn has these young STRAIGHT girls jumping into transition to become “gay men”. Feminist indoctrination doesn’t help. These young girls are told straight cis men are patriarchal oppressors so they see this as a way out, plus they can still like men! Add in the autogynephile heterosexual males who are transitioning and you have the trans circus we see today. A decade ago most of these people wouldn’t have transitioned. All the crazy we see today is because of less affected or completely non dysphoric people claiming trans just solely based on if they are masculine or feminine or have certain interests. The sexed body dysphoria isn’t even mentioned as much now, it’s all about social construction and “gender roles”. 🤦🏻♀️
@Lala Emm I also like just being a housewife (it’s now an old fashion term) I am lucky enough that my man makes enough money for me to be home and take care of our home. We are not rich by any means, but he has a very demanding job and likes having support from me. I’m not into having a carrier and all the stress that comes with it. I rather just take care of him and myself. I’ve played video games too, right now my favorite game is Disco Elysium which is a grim dystopian world that these people are trying to create. If you haven played it you should try it. I don’t like makeup, it makes me feel like I’m a cake with a frosting on my face, I am now also highly allergic to most makeup and my glands swell up, tears fall down my face and it just turns into a mess. I used to be able to wear makeup, but now I really can’t. Also I used to work with a lot of drag queens in strip clubs when I was younger, I can say out of the ~20 I knew for over a 5 year period, only 2 felt like real women, they used to call themselves “chicks with d_i_c_k_s.” Even they though I was one of them, but said I could be one of them anyway, little did I know how lucky I was. They can be a lot of fun, but if they didn’t like a girl, they would band together and mercilessly harass and run girls out of the club. I saw girls literally run out out of the club in tears. They are men and they can be brutal. Parents and teachers that think they belong in schools, are incredibly naive. They could also work 12 days a week, whereas women are usually exhausted after 4 days, so yes they win all the time. I saw Dylan Mulvany say somewhere, that trans-women get murder at a higher rate than anyone else, (I don’t know if those statistic is true), but it might be because generally speaking their behavior is a lot riskier than women. I mean a lot. Even masculine women are not prone to their risky behavior.
I'm not trans or detrans but...I'm 40 years old and I've never found a doctor who really gives a s@#& about anyone genuinely. Very sad.
yes I know what you mean
You should definitely advocate and care more about yourself than they do. I’m not a doctor, but have worked in healthcare for many years. They talk more about their next vacation or vacation home or hobbies than they do about patient care. They follow whatever guidelines the healthcare system has put in place and collect a check just like everyone else.
The I my doctor I’ve ever found that truly cares is my sons holistic pediatrician. He’s a genuinely good man who cares about his patients. Doctors nowadays are taught to see as many people as they can with as little actual “care” as possible.
You've NEVER had a single good physician once..
After 40 years?
All about the money!
She is what actual brave looks like. It's really difficult to go against the crowd when you're so far in.
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Yep
It makes it easier when it's about denouncing stuff that fucked you over
These people are being so honest with themselves through their destransition that, in a time like we have today, is extremely refreshing to see.
Thanks Parker, this is such an important conversation. ❤
“If you’re having doubts, you’re really trans.”
Wtf? Nah, been a transexual man 15 years. Never had a single doubt.
Hey :) so this is interesting comment not trying to be rude or anything but I'm a Trans woman and I'm 21 I knew from a young age I was different I only started my medical journey at 19 after a year of seeing a phycologist etc and this is interesting because as a trans person I know I'm trans I know I'm a trans woman but sometimes I land up doubting my transition due to how hard it is to be trans I'm from ( south Africa) so finding a job and just settling in as an adult is so difficult and as a trans person it's even worse so I do doubt my transition in the sense of how hard it is to be Trans and I just wanted to say doubt is normal u can doubt your transition
@@britneypretorius5382 So you know you're a man who wants to be a woman? Surgery for what? Genital mutilation is never going to make you an adult human female, a woman, nothing will! The language and all that The System is doing is to wipe you out. A sickness is here and it's going to be problematic for your immune system and this is why the rush for hormones and surgeries! So many unbelievable things are to come and you're just going to be left and no amount of money will change it because The System doesn't need money! Your brain is still developing at 21 that I can't even say in truth to think like a rational adult!
65 yo male here. My confusion over this issue as a conservative is huge. I feel very uncomfortable giving my opinion. Being conservative has nothing to do with being transphobic, racist or narrow minded.
I just couldn’t understand why parents, schools and doctors wanted kids to rush headlong into such a dangerous journey.
It seems now to me that doctors and narcissistic individuals have teamed up for money and ego.
Thank you Buck and Parker for this wonderful video with two angels that have broadened my perspective.
I think it is truly a non-political issue. As a traditional left leaning person (who strongly distances from the neo authoritian left movement), I am equally uncomfortable speaking my opinion.
But when it comes down to it, the health and safety of kids is on the line. When doctors are able to act so wholy outside of ethical practices, the world should be sounding alarms. But there's very little push back against the atrocities of the past ten years of 'gender affirming care'.
Both sides have come to be identified by their extremes. And both extremes have lost sight of nuance and honesty. I really think this is the only result we'll get as long as we have a 2 party system. And I also think that the good vs evil trope has poisoned our minds. Very little in this life is black or white. We live in a gray world and we spend our time arguing over whether that gray is white or this gray is black, on and on. We all basically want the same things... a little love, a little respect, a little peace... I just dont understand why we as humans make everything so much more complicated than it should be. I've always been a lefty and my cousin has always been a righty. The last time we hung out we both agreed that we are disgusted with our own parties and families and communities. And we both agreed we fall more and more in the middle every day. I can only hope most others are coming to the same conclusions. Here's to being reasonable and realistic and creating a better world for the kids.
I agree. I’m a social worker so you can understand saying something like I’m against giving kids hormones/puberty blockers/bottom surgery is a no go.
I’d say some of my clients (children) are trans. Probably 1% out of the hundreds of kids we work with.
the problem is you are generalizing here. what doctors? what kids? who's rushing? It is literally a life long process, and some people don't ever transition. inform yourself.
@@ruthanna4713 what atrocities? and the hundreds of years of unconsensual circumcision?
I'm glad that you mentioned how traumatic puberty can be for young girls. Breasts developing, which brings unwanted attention from grown men. Periods which are not only inconvenient but in many cases very painful to the extent that going to school is impossible. Not too many years ago the media was full of stories about the rise of anorexia in young girls. (Anorexia keeps breasts small and stops periods. )
Now we never hear much about anorexia but suddenly loads of young girls are coming out as trans.
I don't know why we don't tell people as they're going through puberty, (in a more positive way) "yep, this stuff sucks. It's uncomfortable. And just ugh. As you go through life, You may feel like you lost yourself. You may hate yourself. You may hate everything about yourself. 1. Those feelings don't last forever (they may feel like they do). 2. In the end... it's all apart of the journey. 3. And here's what I find helpful to get through those times...; or here are some places you may find resources....
Bring up the positive sides and helpful tools, wisdom, etc. and different ways on how to navigate through our various stages of life (and the various ways those stages may appear, etc.) Life is tough, and it just seems like there are few people (or access to them) or organizations which help young people (or even adults) navigate difficulties/struggles of/in human life.
@@mikclayton9814 The media has different fads about what they focus on, regardless of how prevalent or uncommon it is.
Anorexia Nervosa is ten times more common than being transgender.
In fact, Autism while it gets a ton of attention- affects 1% of the population.
Being transgender (not just transsexual-but identifying as non binary- no drugs or surgeries-included) is 0.5 % of the population.
There are over 400 million people in the US. 1.6 million are trans. It’s extremely uncommon- only half as uncommon as Autism, and ten times less common than Anorexia.
Just, as soon as something gets clicks and sells papers and books- the media drops the last thing or tones down coverage and rushes to the next dramatic or controversial thing, no matter how rare or uncommon it is.
@@ToilaCarissa Pretty darn close to what I told my daughter Instead of the very awful "Life gets harder." I told her life gets better and she'd be a great adult. And she is.
@Gini McCardle 😊 you're an awesome parent and I am happy for your daughter 🙂
I am a textbook case transsexual. I waited a decade until many of my family members passed on out of respect. I also waited until I was sure that oestrogen HRT was the best thing for me. It sounds like she was approved for "T" wayyyyy too fast. I have a soft place in my heart for detransitioners. Seeing these people dealing with this is heartbreaking. Damn.
You sound very sweet. It sucks that people with stances like yours aren't given the voices you deserve.
Parker you have saved my grand daughter from so much physical and emotional pain. She got caught up in the tic tock pro trans movement . She is 14 and we are homeschooling and have moved to a rural area where she got a horse . She will decide her sexuality and her preferences as she matures . We will love and support her no matter what. As of now she is loving life and nature . Social media is destroying kids. She is high functioning autistic and has wonderful support from her family.
Keep her safe. Horses are also great therapy ❤
@@C-U-Never-Troll a year has gone by and she is thriving , at 15 now her focus is her riding and sharing her love of horses with other kids .
This 100% is a lack of mental health resources. The lack of true therapy (not affirming) to really dive into the underlying cause of these feelings. It is beneficial to both sides (trans or not). We need to allow children to get to know their true selves, and it is a confusing journey. Thank you for sharing, Parker, and thank you, Buck, for your amazing platform.
thanks so much friend ❤
Buck, as a gay man who is almost 60 I am so happy to have found your content. It is reassuring to me to hear conversations mirroring my own concepts around this subject. I have know transsexual men and women throughout my life, but what is happening at this time is madness and I hope through conversations like this video we are able to minimise the damage to young people. My love goes out to Parker who, in my humble opinion, is an incredibly strong and articulate young woman. Thank you both for sharing these truths.
You must most definitely get justice for that botched surgery, there is no excuse for a doctor to leave you like that & get away with it. Revealing your surgery scars was really brave, you are going to help so many people. You are amazing.
Well not really. Nobody put a gun to this persons head and made them get a surgery. Getting a surgery when it’s not really needed is a choice.
@@aprilmurch1054 no. it’s just my opinion. Not trying to upset anyone.
@@mgk357 you can only give consent if you are #1 of legal age and #2 if you understand all the implication. I don't think #2 was respected, she was explained anything so this is major health care mistake that should lead to prosecutions. It could happen to anybody in a vumnerable position.
@@mgk357 even if you made a choice, you deserve a proper procedure and if something goes wrong, you still have a right to have it corrected.
It seems fairly common for the surgeries not to work out. Meaning lots of complications and botched scars.
The Doctors get away with it because the TPLUS keep the lie going that it either doesn’t happen or they say it’s fine. It will be fixed. It’s not doctors fault even when it’s clear these medical professionals know that the outcome will never make them the sex they wish they were. Or get conned into thinking it will fix whatever problem they have.
The TPLUS cult love bombs and if you go “against” it by not subscribing to ALL that they are selling then you get banished and they go after you. Make your life hell.
Many of them know that the concept of TPLUS is bogus. It’s a lie. It’s a false ideology that was created by pedo Doctors like Dr. Money, that has been twisted every which way. Nurture can’t beat nature to the point one denies biology.
Mental illness to sexual fetish is the basis of TPLUS. Having a mental illness doesn’t make one a bad person but it can if your mental illness harms others by one promoting harmful ideologies, laws, unnecessary medical treatments…the sexual fetish can be bad and society doesn’t need people flaunting them out in public. Especially during daylight hours. Leave that for the night life at the club or parades at night.
Thanks so much Parker for sharing your story with me and my subscribers! You are a beautiful person inside and out. Thanks for watching, liking, commenting, and sharing, everybody! love, tranpa
Buck, please please please reach out to Richie Heron. He's a detransitioner from the UK.
More people need to hear his story xx😥
I relate to Parker's story from our age, circumstances, top surgery when it should've been a reduction - I cried listening to this video because I feel like I could've finished her sentences. The community* really does love bomb you...as long as you agree with them.
Thanks so much for sharing this.
How can we help Parker? I want her to be able to sue that surgeon & get a revision elsewhere as well!
The side by side between Buck and Parker that I've found to be another useful comparison is the effect of testosterone on each of them. As horrible as it is, looking at detransitioners and so-far-successful transitioners seems to make the case for me that there is a physiological root for "true" transgenderism. As in, those who are wired to positively accept hormones opposite of their natal sex do not detransition. They have a "physiochemical sex" (more on that on my channel) that is opposite of their genital sex- a sex disorder- and cross sex hormones actually help rather than harm them.
I've been on T for 4 years as a biological female; I started at 31. I actually dropped weight, do not experience the sweats, and aside from a little trouble with sleep (which happens in menopause, which I now am in due to the ceasing of menstruation), my mental health has been phenomenal. I do not have the crashes or other negative side effects that detransitioners talk about. I believe that I am one of those people who have a sex disorder in that, while I am female, I respond better overall on testosterone. No history of CSA, either. I think it's crucial to compare these notes and make it well known that the people who are successful with HRT are NOT the norm, and to show people what it looks like when it's unsuccessful so they can make properly informed decisions. Thank you, Buck and Parker 🙏
Thank you Parker!
Parker’s entire saga is one punch in the gut after another. How she’s still able to smile and have a sense of humor is admirable. I couldn’t help but notice how friendly her eyes are, they totally drew me in!
"sink or swim"... people are resilient. More resilient than they're ever told.
@@s.durbar1294True!
This woman's honesty will help many people. Many thanks to her.
Being lovebombed and succumbing to it at the age of 27/28, it makes me realize how hard it is for these teenagers succumbing to it. Parker, you are so wise to consider therapy for your kids.
Such a good point, I can't imagine how hard it must be for younger people now.
It reminds me of the TH-camr Trevi Moran. Before she came out she made an emotional video on how she was having trouble figuring out if she’s trans or not because everyone was telling her how great she’d look as a woman and how cool it would be. How are you supposed to figure out if you’re really doing it for yourself if people are encouraging and love bombing you like that to do it? I’m not saying she shouldn’t have transitioned or I don’t think she’s really trans, but it makes things harder to figure out even for actual transsexuals too! It doesn’t help anyone.
@@johnb9573 Is is called, having a pedophiles mindset if only thing which interest is whats going on inside someone pants and seeing love as just sex.
What is REAL LOVE? - have we all forgotten it? - sure we have. Therefore lets remind us again:
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13 (KJV)
Bible also calls us all to FLEE FROM FORNICATION:
1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Acts 15:29
That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
1 Thessalonians 4:3
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
NOWHERE does the bible says that: love = fornication.
lgbtq++ and pedophiles - pardon me here, but i do not see difference.
Masons are know pedophiles who pushed their mindset to the ignorant naively believing masses - us , the population of humans.
And since all their evil and sick agendas are targeting the youth, that`s why lgbtq++ movement came to be.
Search about them, freemasons, it is mind blowing how sick and evil they are.
@@johnb9573where can I find this video?
I think there's also another way that this is like drug addiction: no matter how many times people might hear about detransitioners (just like drug addiction), young people always think it's not going to be them.
"Oh, _those_ people might have gotten addicted super easy, but I know I won't."
"Oh, _those_ people might have made a mistake by transitioning, but I know I'm not making a mistake."
That part 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻your so right friend
Thank you, Buck and Parker! This has just become a nightmare. Everybody hated the long, long process in the 80's, but this is so much worse!
It wasn’t that far back, it was around the time of the Obama administration.
It shows that the long process was necessary
@Rick Berglund Yeah like right before. I almost got instant access to T. in 2009. The doc stood up our appointment and to fill the time I had pizza with someone close to me who was upportive but asked me to take a little more time to explore myself. Still boggles my mind how different my life almost was. At this point I feel intense relief.
@@Covers-and-Commentary I think they should make it a little bit easier than it was then, but not this easy.
@@rhodalle Top surgery was offered to me in 2014, too. I'd had B.C., and was offered a double mastectomy, but the surgeon said that my ribs would be showing through and nips gone. So i told her i didn't want that, then mentioned wanting a severe reduction, and about my dysphoria, and she just said, "Sure, we can do that. After the B.C. treatment." I wasn't even trying to pass or anything.
Would still like a natural-looking reduction, just to live as a flat-chested female, but was alarmed that all you have to do is tell the surgeon, (who doesn't even know you), "Give me top surgery," and by god, they'll do it. No psych eval necessary at all. At this point, it's more body dysmorphia, though i was diagnosed with the other, in the 80's.
Omg, when she showed her scars and described how the doctor treated her after made my damn heart break. No f’n joke. We need to raise awareness. She needs to find an attorney who will get paid only if she gets paid in the lawsuit. It would be worth doing that then nothing and letting them literally do a horrible job on surgeries and throw them out the doors like that. Oh my god, these poor souls. What atrocious abuse of a vulnerable human being these people profiting off these things. I truly hope she finds a way to hire an attorney and prosecute these doctors to the fullest extent. Criminal charges need to be brought up against them, medical malpractice, damages, whatever possible should be sought.
I have a 37yr old gay daughter who wanted to be a boy at a very young age. 3or4 yrs old she want a "yanger" sewed on, always a tomboy. But she grew out of it and became the wonderful woman who she is now. And still the "tomboy" she always was and will be......
Is your daughter still single?
How did she know what a "yanger" was at 3-4?
My wife is 38 and she fishes
My daughter plays in the dirt
Regardless if she is wearing a dress
Good times
@RCenal that is the way it should be 👍. My daughter works with me, helping older people and does all kind of Home improvements, a little bit of everything. She's awesome....
@@georgethomas1511 she sounds awesome
This stuff is beyond tragic; It's literally criminal.
I'm glad Parker is OK with where she is, now, though.
I just learned what CSA is as well. I was abused by my step father for over 6 years. I told my mother who didn’t believe me right away so it continued for years until he divorced her when I got too old for him. You are so brave Parker ❤
I'm so sorry. I guess I finally figured out what it meant about a year ago. It took a lot of context clues for me to get it lol
So sorry you went through that.
I pray that you get totally healed. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Such a huge link between CSA or other childhood trauma and transgender. It seems to be an attempt to escape our bodies - makes sense.
@@liisk100 much like drug use
She has SUCH a pretty face and a beautiful personality. She seems like a really fun person to be around! I hope she gets help to fix the unfinished top surgery issue, and then never changes another thing.
I am in my 50s and biological man, and I was feeling run down so i got some test. My testosterone level was low, that's what happens. I had to jump through hoops before he would even let me do just a small dose of it. Make sure I was healthy enough to take it, and told me all the risks involved if I take to much. Its not that great for a bio man to take it, especially for a long period of time. How can they just act so nonchalant about this. At least check to make sure they are healthy enough first, then let them know the risks involved. This whole thing with giving it to children, breaks my heart. I am so glad you are all doing this, at least letting people know the risks, seems some of these Drs only want the money and don't actually care about their health.
Same thing happened to someone in my extended family. It took this man signing multiple disclosures, release forms, tests and consent. After taking a for a brief period of time he was taken off it although needed because of a blood test. They can’t just be handling out hormones to children and uninformed patients.
Yes same happens to menopausal women who ask for HRT. Why? Depending on situation the risks of HRT may actually outweigh the benefits.
I thought i was trans and i was this close to transitioning. But after some time, i realized that i'm a lesbian and only wanted to transition, so that i dont have to be gay. I often had crushes on straight women, and i thought as a man i could be together with them. I also had dysphoria, but it went away for some reason. I still like to look like a guy (not that guys have to look a certain way), but i have short hair and only shop in the mens section and stuff. But i'm glad that i didn't transition. I'm not sure where the dysphoria came from, but it went away after i cut my hair short and started wearing guys clothing. Just wanted to share my thoughts. Love from germany 🇩🇪
It could be body dysmorphia, like disliking some body part(s).
Most of misdiagnosed trans people are just gay.
It probably is our current culture that seems to have moved back towards sex stereotypes so that young girls and women can feel/think that to be “a woman” is to wear certain things, look a certain way, act a certain way, have certain interests etc. So when they don’t fit those stereotypes they start to seriously question “Am I even a girl/woman?” and feel the way they are is “wrong” somehow. The reality is that the ONLY thing women have in common is our BIOLOGY everything else can depend on the individual woman. So there is no “correct” way to be female and anyone who says there is, is ONLY thinking stereotypically as there are plenty of women who don’t fit any so-called “woman” mould and yet are 100% women. Be proud of who you are, 100% woman, 100% female and you get to decide how to be a woman in the world.
Buck should seriously make a high production documentary. I think it’d be the best we’ve ever seen. A buck like trans/detrans documentary. There’s a way to go about existing in the community and a positive light at the end of the tunnel but the way they’ve taken IT so far is not the Way and I KNOW Buck can put it in words and pictures and ways that actually resonate with people instead of piss them off. And win truly will save people in the end. Which I know that’s already what this channel does, and Buck is so wholesome and amazing, but a bigger production outside (lol and insides, don’t leave us out!) of the channel here might actually reach some people stuck in their bubbles. I hope this anyway. For the future!
thanks so much my friend ❤
What a beautiful soul. So many reasons to be bitter and yet Parker just exudes love and joy.
Buck I absolutely respect you. What a genuine empath you are.
He is an incredible person with a heart of gold.
Buck I don’t even know you but you are so thoughtful & caring. I’m not trans or detrans I just love watching you because we need more people in the world like you ♥️
Yes! This is what I was just going to say! ❤ Also the bravery of Parker who will help so so many young people who see this. X
So brave to actually show the physical results as well as speak on your journey. People don't believe until they see.
You're doing great work Buck❗❗❗
From a Christian conservative white woman that married her Jr high school sweetheart... this issue is something we should ALL AGREE ON.
But of course... the machine don't want us all to get along like one big happy family.
Ditto!! I'm a straight conservative Jewish/Episcopalian and I agree. What being done to young people in the name of Trans ideology is disgusting. These kids are so lucky to have Buck speaking out for them. Hopefully the day will come and we can stop checking boxes and just be ourselves without the negative influences.
@@Dragonladyrvrr... There's some sinister, dark powers at work in this world today.
Teaching the next gen that if your loved ones push back in anyway that they are the problem.
How many families has these dark forces claimed in the name of pride?
I can only pray... these warnings find there way to the ones that will take heed.
That is the silver lining. This issue is uniting people of all backgrounds because we agree on a few things. I want kids protected, men out of the women's bathrooms where I work, women's sports to be for women, and free speech restored because them forcing us to call them what they feel right now is no different than if vegans suddenly forced the rest of you to say Meat is Murder. I don't get to force you to say what I believe, that is just wrong.
I think this issue is bringing out the deep compassion in all of us. I truly want all my human siblings to be happy and safe! God bless you! ❤
@@Wowjustwow37 Sadly... this issue is causing a great divide. Anyone that doesn't bend the knee to the powers that be is being labeled and flaged as dirt. We are up against some seriously evil forces. 😈
I am a mental health counselor, and everything you two are saying is spot on! Thank you!!
Ive been shouting into the void there is a common connection between bpd and dysphoria / wanting to transitonion and now here this story. Its oneof those situations where you feel no joy in being right but validated more people may start understanding what you mean. Thank you parker for sharing your story.
And Autism
Parker, thank you for sharing your story! I’m also a CSA survivor so I also applaud you for stepping up and putting your story out there to help others.
Women w breast cancer have to undergo therapy before and after their mastectomy. I can't believe this surgery has become as easy to get as pulling a bad tooth.
I'm so sorry. Thank you for speaking out and thank you Buck, for having Parker as a guest ❤
Buck, Parker, I'm Italian in my 40s, no kids, but I'm vocal about this tragedy about kids in the Anglo-Saxon world, as it's getting so normalized here too, but people DENY IT, not even knowing what they're talking about. Thanks for your testimonies, cause I can get information I can share with Italians willing to protect children. Thanks so much for that!
This was awesome. Parkers a beautiful androgynous woman, a dying breed unfortunately.
That’s an odd way to refer to a human , I’ve only ever heard it used when talking about exotic animals.
@@HappyHostages it's not that deep man XD it's just a compliment and true statement
I still remember meeting the secretary at my mom's office Terry. I adored her She was a butch old school lesbian and was so smart and kind and put together. That's the impression I had of her as a 5 year old. I was a Tom boy and very graceless as a child. Seeing and knowing Terry subtlety showed me it was ok to have short hair and wear pants and button downs. Even my mom wore her hair short and had a perpetual uniform of black slacks and array of powerfully patterned tops and blazers. And she was married to my dad for 54 years. Clothes and hobbies do not make the gender/sexuality presentation. Surprisingly sex and personal details never came up besides her mentioning a partner...this was the 80s and I was 5 years old. It was until years later that I put it together. I thought she lived with a lady like the golden girls and partners meant they did business stuff at home. People like Parker are amazing and should be the role models we put in front of our children....not to indoctrinate but to just quietly project that we come in all shapes and sizes and you're beautiful just the way you are. You deserve love and respect and private space and mental health. God bless u Parker
@@rebelleparrish4937 This comment is EVERYTHING and SO important! Representation should be just seeing different kinds of people with different lifestyles and opinions out in the real world in your day-to-day life. NOT indoctrinating people, especially our youth, by shoving only ONE narrative down everyone's throats, in every aspect of their life and demonizing opposing views and opinions. This world and especially this country, has strayed SO far from what it was and its founding principles. We are losing our freedom and individuality! Our freedom of speech is all but gone, freedom of press is destroyed by censorship and propaganda, and freedom of religion is under constant vicious attack. Gone are the times of embracing our differences of opinions and having meaningful peaceful conversations to understand one another. Now we are taught, if someone doesn't hold the same opinions and beliefs you do, that they are the enemy, they are evil, bad people, and to not listen to anything they have to say. This breeds a dangerous society of division, anger, and ignorance and is completely unhealthy and disfunctional to run a multicultural country.
@@HappyHostages a dying breed is an expression very much for humans. Generally used about a good type of person you don't see so much anymore
Blair White asked us to sub, so I did! I decided to support you like I do her. My husband and I support individuals that have their own thoughts and don't follow the crowd. Good for you! Much love.
I saw a video clip on Twitter , that’s how I found you . Your kindness and authenticity is much needed in this arena . Thank you for shining your light .
16 minutes in, this is absolutely ridiculous. My heart goes out to you. You seem to have found yourself in a way and you're very strong. We will hold these doctors accountable!!
I had weight loss surgery, had to have 6 months of therapy first before I was approved for it. It makes me crazy that a 15 min visit gets you approved for transitioning. Mental health is a big part of why we all feel uncomfortable in our bodies. It breaks my heart that the health care industry is all about making money and not about saving lives.
I love that user name. “I ammmmm….”
@@thedevilandhertrumpets4268 😁🎸
Wow detransitioning for some people probably takes even more courage because one might be afraid no one will take them seriously again. It takes so much strength to overcome our ego when it comes to worrying what others think. ❤ You are awesome Parker!!!
Parents please stand up for your children. We must all stand up for each other!!
Parker!!! Also you should go back to school and be a mental health professional!!! You would be great!
Parker, you are a bright and shining example of a masculine woman embracing her nature and expression. Thank you for sharing your story with us 🌻
Around the 15:00 minute mark when Parker showed the results of her double mastectomy completely arrested me. The gender clinics and pharmaceutical companies are accomplishing what the anti-gay conversion therapists could only dream of doing - and on a MASSIVE scale and with a tremendous amount of support from politicians, bureaucrats, and garden-variety street activists alike.
This is ABSOLUTELY HEARTBREAKING!! Thank you both for sharing this!!!
Thank you for watching❤️
My jaw dropped with your surgery results, that was so brave of you to be so vulnerable and truthful, and will help lots of people on their journey. You’re such a kick ass woman!
It's scary that people would look to Tik Tok for advice. Weren't they the same people who were putting out things like the Tide Pod challenge, the choking game, and so many other messed up and harmful things?
My nephew did a school paper on tik tok challenges, I had no idea how many people die doing them. 😳 😢
remember when 4CHAN started the Thigh Gap bs?
and then a horde of gullible idiots were getting lipo/starving themselves to achieve that?
Sometimes the internet lays some bait to secretly fuck with you... I wonder to what extent the trans thing had people doing this.
Buck, your anxiety is more under control lately, compared to your older videos. You don't interrupt just to agree, and you are mindful of them finishing their sentences. I'm also working on the same problem.
ikr!! he just hits the thumbs up lol
@@egyptianpools I noticed that too! Thought that was v respectful. Haven’t seen his previous videos other than one with Blaire White
This is beyond words. I am so grateful people are brave enough to speak and share.
Parker is so brave to come forth with her story. Also such a strong person! And Buck who could not love Buck for his compassion and honesty. And I say this as a straight Conservative woman. Much love and respect to you both. ❤
This is so much like what happened to me. Trusted family friend with kids I was friends with. Grooming. He was oh so very patient. Until he one day lay in bed with me at night and asked me to hold his 'finger' because he was scared of the thunder. I let go and said that wasn't a finger and I didn't want to hold it. I wasn't sure what it was, I was very very young, but I knew that fat thing between his legs wasn't a finger, and I instinctively recoiled from it. Smart man that he was, he didn't push. I imagine he thought he need to groom me a little longer. But that was the last time I ever spent the night there or went there without being forced to visit by my innocent, ignorant father. After this I became a tom boy, wanted to be a boy, wore no skirts, even had a boy name. Thank goodness this happened in the 70's and no one decided I needed to transition. I hadn't connected those events with wanting to be a boy until just a few months ago.
Parker totally lives in her truth. What a strong amazing person. It’s so beautiful seeing you Buck, growing this healthy community, learning from each other, and helping each other ❤
No... she's simply living in reality. It isn't "her truth" it's THE truth.
There is no ‘her’ truth, it’s just the truth, and one’s personal perspective of a situation. Please drop this embarrassing woks Bs language . This lady is amazing to speak up like this , her experience is a lesson
Don’t discount her desire to be called Mother. She gave BIRTH. It’s painful, rewarding…..and sacred. They’re young. Kids adapt easier than adults.
And I don't think it would be confusing. Dada could be like a nickname, they could even use both.
And... she won't allow her children to have altering hormones or surgeries that alter their bodies so props to her/him. I agree that no minor should be allowed to make life altering medical decisions or hormonal decisions.
As a mom, I could see it very difficult if my now,grown children didn’t call me mom or mother. We do have a created nickname that only we know that they sometimes use. When you’re a mom, it’s something you feel deep inside.
So I was diagnosed with BPD 20 years ago, and THIS is what I’ve been trying desperately to make people understand! THIS is (1 of) my main issues with transitioning young people-(& even adults too quickly) is because I know from experience there’s so many mental health issues that can lead someone to feel a sense of dysphoria, or struggle with their bodies, etc.. PARTICULARLY WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER! It’s literally part of the diagnostic criteria- it’s a core feature- that we struggle with identity disturbance! It’s essentially like going through life with this constant nagging feeling that you just have no dam clue who you are or who you’re supposed to be. & it’s pervasive- it doesn’t really go away! You just lack that sense of self. And I think back to when I was younger- I’d say around 14/15/16 is when it was the worst- & just this never ending feeling of like just being lost., I constantly felt like an imposter! I mean, I legit can remember having conversations with myself as a teen, wondering like “am I just a poser”- and I STILL, as a grown married woman & mother, feel like that at times! feeling like I’m just the biggest fraud in the world! It’s so confusing, and so hard to explain. But you just never feel totally right within yourself- no clear sense of who you are- and who you are , & what you like, is this CONSTANT evolving thing! Even my kids notice it… they’ve said things to me before lile “mommy whenever you spend alot of time with aunt Jamey you start acting like her”.. they’ve told me the way I speak changes, sometimes even the way I dress.,
I mean, .. anyone who wants to take up a hobby just let me know what you’re looking to get into and chances are I can assist you & provide you with material’s because, my ever changing identity has led me to becoming a baker, a cake decorator, a wreath maker, a gardener, a makeup artist, a therapist, a diy’er, and many many- & that’s not including things I felt so excited about & was sure it’s who I was that just as quickly as it came on it faded away & I never actually learned- like making clothes & whatnot (my husband went out an bought me such an expensive sewing machine, & all the things to go with it😣 never even learned how to use it.. I have piles of wood because I wanted to learn wood working, ..) I have photos of myself with green hair and 15 piercings wearing all black, I have photos looking like I stepped out of a spring time clothing catalogue, & photos where I looked like one of the Duggars😳there were times I fully loved being a woman & having a woman’s body- and times I despised it and it all felt so wrong! Times I dressed provocatively, and other times I felt so uncomfortable in my skin I just wanted to hide under as much clothing as I could! The constant shifting of feelings- the self doubt- the sense of just not being right… it just didn’t stop.
Those of us with BPD often joke about this sorta thing- & picking up new hobbies & interests, or joke about things like “crippling emptiness& boredom kicking in, which color will I dye my hair this time” and crap like that… but really it all comes down that lack of sense of self.
Thank God I have the most amazing husband who is so loving and patient… I mean, he’s been with the “I’m a sex goodness stripper” me, to the “I’m an insecure basket case who loathes myself so much- don’t even hug me, I can’t stand to be touched!” Me… and over the years I’ve learned tools & coping skills and whatnot, and have made great improvements., but as a teen & young adult- oh man.. it was bad! And I have ZERO DOUBT that if I grew up in this social climate I would have 100% been on that trans train! I HATED the skin I was in, I hated myself, I always felt this naggin feeling that something was fundamentally just wrong., i couldn’t stand to be in my own skin- couldn’t stand to have to just sit with myself. AND on top of that I NEEDED constant validation!!! Which led to me engaging in risky behaviors to get it- which put me in bad situations- and yes, I had awful things happen to me! So I couldn’t make sense of the fact that sometimes I CRAVED that attention, & other times I was repulsed at even the thought of someone touching me. I couldn’t make sense of why sometimes I almost wanted to be treated as just a sexual object, but yet I’d feel so disgusted about it., I also developed really early- and that brought on problems of its own because an 11 year old CAN NOT understand why grown men are looking at her in such a way, or making such disgusting comments.., & I internalized that- again, something must have just been wrong WITH ME.
And if I had people back then telling me transitioning was the answer, that I felt that way because I was in the wrong body, and that transitioning would fix everything.. in a heartbeat I woulda jumped on it!!! Then being showered with affirmation for it- yeah, I have no doubt I woulda jumped on it! I think back to the many times when even my own mother complementing me or telling me I was beautiful gave me this sick feeling & would be so triggering for me it would lead to a total meltdown! & I couldn’t understand why I had that reaction.. so I can just imagine going to a therapist today & them being like “well obviously you’re trans “🤦🏻♀️ I’ve already struggled so much , long before my diagnosis (I started having symptoms & having problems around 8 or 9) I can’t even imagine what it woulda been like if on top of that I woulda gotten sucked into gender ideology-
The added confusion & anguish I really think would have just been unbearable for me!! And that’s like my main grievance with this ideology & transitioning young people.. they’re sold this lie that their gender can just be changed,& that it will magically be the solution to everything.. WITHOUT their mental health issues even being addressed.. and then they’re just left in all this turmoil & confusion- with no direction where to go😞 it all makes me so sad.
And I wanted to add., advocates love to use emotional manipulation & tell people trans people will unalive themselves.,,
So I just wanted to point out that the rates of that is HIGHEST among people with BPD. Higher than any other demographic!
75% of people with BPD will make an attempt at least once! SEVENTY FIVE percent! And the rate of completion is more than 50 times greater than the general population! I bring this up for 2 reasons.. 1, because I truly believe a great amount of young people who think they’re trans or are being “treated” for it have bpd.
(Which also ties into the question- why does that ideation not go away after transition.. could it be because their BPD is going unaddressed!??)
And also 2) when it comes to transgenderism, that is the only issue that we take an approach of affirming instead of working on underlining issues-& it’s the only one that we use “risk of unaliving” as a justification.. it’s used to manipulate. You’d NEVER hear people going around saying “well you should just allow that person with BPD to act out or have that episode etc and don’t even say anything to them about it because if you don’t just allow that behavior they’ll unalive themselves “.. you’d never hear that! Instead, you hear about accountability! You hear about personal responsibility- that even tho this is a awful debilitating illness, even tho it’s known as the most emotionally & psychologically painful illness, we NEED to be held accountable & we NEED to take responsibility to seek treatment & therapy, & learn ways to cope.. no one goes around suggesting we just be left to act out in whatever ways our brain tells us to- or that society should alter everything to better suit us. We must be accountable & learn to betttr cope living in society! Imagine if people went around constantly telling everyone of the high rates among those of us with BPD- so therefore we essentially have free reign to act in whatever ways it make whatever poor decisions etc. 😣 yet we use that as justification for transitioning kids- as well as to basically say “well all of society needs to adjust in order to accommodate gender ideology” it’s just wrong
I have this too and I totally agree!
Thank you.
Have you checked for ASD/ADHD also? Perhaps a narcissist mom? Could explain why a compliment from her could be triggering. ASD in women and BPD look a lot alike and have lots of overlaps.
The fact that you as a Borderline had a kid is absolutely beyond the pale selfishness and something that I hope God punishes you for. Down the line, your kid won't thank you. My own mom is a ******* Borderline, and I've learned to thoroughly hate them all and to despise them as subhuman POS's who should be dead. Damn shame that their successful suicide rate isn't higher. Since it's not, society should not tolerate any Cluster B personality disorders and should eliminate them all. Cluster B's don't have families and children. They only have victims with Stockholm Syndrome. I skimmed that long insane novel you posted. You sound like a living nightmare..
Bpd woman here, you are 100% on the money.
Man! This conversation is SO IMPORTANT!!! I’m terrified for this new generation
I considered Dr. Wolf for top surgery, but he’s not board certified and I kept reading his patient’s reviews about “dog ears”(the extra fat and skin left on the sides)and his refusal to fix them. I’m so sorry you went through such a horrible experience, Parker. Not just the top surgery, all of it.
Buck, Parker, what an interview! Thank you so much for that, my heart goes to Parker ❤
Wow, such a brave conversation. Buck, you were respectful and kind and Parker… how brave are you?! I’m so grateful you showed your scars, I think it really helps to communicate the point you’re making. I hadn’t understood, in the true sense, what had actually been done to your bodies before you revealed your own scars.
I’m a new subscriber to this channel, I don’t have any angst about my own gender but I want to understand what’s happening in society.
I just want to say well done and thank you to both of you! X
Buck you seem like such a genuinely kind and caring person. Your guest has experienced so much tragedy in her life🌞. Thank you both for exposing the medical and social abuse that mentally confused or emotionally fragile young people are being subjected to. It’s truly criminal the lack of real care offered in the medical arena for these vulnerable people. Keep getting the word out. I think you’re both very courageous.
No double talk, wonderfully clear, brillant, pertinent, human, mature, transparent on the reality of all this. Thank you so much for you two to be you, and thank you for the kids I hope will thinking to go on therapy before anything else. Love you from France.
Wow Parker thank you for being so brave and showing your top surgery results. I am so sorry you were a victim of medical malpractice and negligence. We claim to be so welcoming about mental health yet so eager to disconnect the medical condition gender dysphoria from being transgender. Lifelong medical treatment is serious and not some joke. Having gender dysphoria is a mental condition but should be considered as a final diagnosis before other possible conditions are considered. What a shame. I feel in 20 years we will look back and all be able to see how this was that “everyone thought they were trans” period of history. The social contagion is real and the last thing the medical community should do is affirm CHILDREN AND YOUNG ADULTS caught in this “trend”. SMH. Thanks for having Parker on Buck, you’re my hero Tranpa.
Parker you are so brave to share your story. Huge thank you for being willing to pull back the curtain. I bet your story helps a great many people!
thanks for the comment, friend! ❤
I commend this person for being so self aware and self reflective after all of that. We need more voices like hers. Buck you are asking all the good questions we all want to know in order to better understand. 👌🏽 amazing hosting skills 💗
Parker thankyou for telling us your story. Hopefully the younger generation will see this. I hope you know your story and time is greatly appreciated. Take care.
Thank you for your bravery with this subject. You will be helping so many confused and misdirected kids! Lots of love to you! ❤️
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You're very brave for going public with your story..so many people say there is no side effects from the trans meds and surgery and say it's reversible which is terrifying
I've always wondered about how sexual abuse of children would mess up with their self esteem and their feelings about gender identity and make them feel that they would rather be the opposite gender to feel they could defend themselves and prevent being abused. This is an issue that often comes up in trans people and it doesn't seem to be important for people when regarding the whole picture. It's like the elephant in the middle of the room that nobody wants to see. Abusing children is very common, much more than what people know. But it has horrible and life lasting consequences.
Your channel has become such an amazing voice for these children.... I was married to a trans man who passed away i believe from the years of cross sex hormones. Your empathy and compassion is amazing.
Parker, thank you so much for sharing your story. You are helping folks more than you know. ❤
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Hi Parker, thank you for sharing your story. You're the second detransitioner that I have watched today. Please continue to share your story especially with the young and impressionable.
As a mental health professional I keep talking about the mental health stuff of this but, often it is met with hate and I get shut down. I get so much shit form some in our field how we have to affirm and not question. It is crazy I promise I will not stop helping as a professional, asking questions, and saying lets see if there are other things!!!!!! I don't care if I get hate, this is what is right. We need to ask, challenge and make people thing, not misguide them!
This is very interesting. Here in South Africa, i am going through my transition at a public hospital, and there they really control and keep an eye on your transition. one sees a psychiatrist first before anything is done, once he is satisfied that your mind and body and soul is ready for this, then you are sent for all sorts of blood tests by the endocrine clinic.. then they only give the first shot once all is 100% right, and then every 3 months its more tests etc... they really keep a watchfull eye on your journey, physically and mentally, and always take every little ache or pain seriously and treat it immediately if necessary. i thought we were a third world country when it comes to these things, but i am now seriously doubting this and am so much more appreciative towards them
Please consider not having surgery and taking hormones. It is irreversible and there are so many people who regret it.
@@Juamo-tn8we been on hormones for 3 years now and i dont regret a moment of it. i am 54 and i think i am old enough to understand the consequences around this. i have spent 50 years living as another person, and this is the first time i feel like me, so regret isnt even in the pipline, but i do appreciate your concern and i kinow it comes from your experience , but mine is different, and so bloody awesome.
thank you for your concern.. just one question, what do you base your facts on?
I'm so glad I didn't have the internet growing up. As a straight woman, I am very much a tomboy and struggled so much growing up w why girls always cast me out and I simply just didn't fit in with them. But I turned out just fine, going to a tech school w mostly boys, I found my place without ever having anyone tell me I'm a boy. Sure, I got the lesbian jokes and still do at 30 yrs old sometimes, but that's okay! I learned to just be myself. And this is okay to be this way. It doesn't have to be so complicated!
Parker, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! My heart absolutely breaks for you! You are doing SO much good with your message and I thank you and honor you for it! I pray that life hands you nothing but the VERY best for today and your future! ❤️🙏✌🏻
Parker is an amazing person, she truly is brave!! Her story and the fact that she is sharing it to try and help other people is awesome. Lotsa love and prayers out to her❤
It's fascinating to hear discussions between BA who is happy with his transition and these guests who have so many issues with it.
Incredible guest. My gratitude to her & you as well, Buck.
She looks SO familiar. I wonder if I've seen her videos at some point. So weird!
Anyway, another awesome guest. Parker, you've gone through an amazing journey, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. Keep being amazing and keep fighting the fight. People like you and Buck are pioneers.
It' s because you see this look on tv every day
( Simon Woods makes good videos on this topic)
This is such an important conversation ! Thank you to both of you ❤
“Conservative” lesbian here, just greatly supporting the cause! I don’t have much to comment, but I hope these videos sky rocket. Leave the kids alone!! Love you, Buck!❤️
Buck seems like a really nice person.
Amazing interview - I wish Parker all the best!
Thank you Parker! I have dealt with my masculinity since I could remember. I am so grateful to have grown up in a time social media didn't exist. I even asked my mom at age 5 if I could be a boy (like my best friend in preschool). I have always been a tomboy, joined the military and think differently than my girlfriends. I don't wear makeup, lashes, extensions, dresses and so on. I would be happy in a pair of sweat pants and tank top the rest of my life lol. At 39, I am finally trying to explore more of my femininity.
MY Lord, This is so courageous Parker. Thank you for helping those of us to understand your journey and help other that might need to hear your story.
Please don't let the media make you believe that everyone who isn't transgender doesn't care about you. Since it became popular, we've always been concerned for your health in the long term. Detransitioners are doing a marvelous job at allowing both sides to come together. I sincerely hope we all learn something valuable about our self perception and a deeper look at what makes us so vulnerable.
Buck, when you talk about the "system" you went through, that worked....vs the radicals & activists who call this "gatekeeping." This needs more discussion!
Fresh interview! Thanks for doing the real journalism buck. Will be listening to this in the background as I work
Parker, thank you for sharing your story! You seem like a fantastic human!! All the best to you!
Thank YOU Buck for all that you're doing...🤩🤩🤩!!!
And thank YOU Parker for coming on and sharing your story...😊😌😇.
Hope you're hanging in there and doing well...😊☺️🥰.
❤ thank you friend!
Much gratitude to you, Parker, for speaking out ♥
Found you on andrew gold and subscribed at once. It's great that you are speaking your truths from all your life experiences. Thankyou also Parker... you gave a great interview... good luck with your journey you are amazing. ❤
@Parker Landen I want to thank you, as well as Buck Angel for doing this! There is something you hit on that I may have to look into for my 17 year old daughter. BPD. I never heard of it but when you talked about it, I looked up what it is and some of the possible causes. My baby girl fits right into that. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! HUGS to you both!!
I absolutely loved this. Parker, we need to promote tomboys again!
That said... I really don't believe social transition is a neutral act... I really do not think kids should socially transition - dress in a gender neutral way and use make up/have whatever hair - sure - but pronouns and names? No.... it can possibly put them on a train that is hard to get off of ... But that's my opinion based on what I watch, see, read.
Amazing interview!
Correct. The new NHS guidelines for the UK have stated that it concretises an identity and doctors should not even be affirming pronouns, new names etc unless the particular case is exceptional. Any affirmation simply raises the chances of progressing to the next step.
I swear every time i watch these interviews i learn so much. I really wish more people would watch these videos. More people would figure out what they were faster, and not be love bombed and are pushed to fit in somewhere, just to make themselves feel better.
None of us fit in a box but we can all use some guidance.
Shes so smart. as are you Buck.
My heart goes out to Parker. I hope your voice continues to spread Buck. When other countries are pulling back and the US is pushing full steam ahead, all I can think is "Danger Will Robinson!." At this point the end does not look pretty. Thank you both for continuing to speak.
You’re amazing buck. So is your guest. You guys are doing extremely important work.
This interview is so important, thank you for being so frank, your story points out exactly the issues which are hurting so many.
Would it hurt anyone if the first point of call was a total mental health assessment and then therapy to bring someone to a point of if not optimal, then at least a state if balanced and awareness of what is going on with the individual. And only once this point has been achieved and serious mental illness ruled out before any talk of hormonal medication let alone surgery to lop off body parts.
Thank you again
OMG, my heart goes out to your guest. Thank God she has a positive attitude and is dealing with it properly. That Dr. should be sued. How dare they start the process, and leave her without a revision. Thank you for your courage to tell your story and show the real proof of what happened. She's a beautiful soul and my prayers are with her. Thank God she has children and a good support of a community of people who care. I care too.