This video is a little bit shorter than the last couple, but I really wanted to throw in my two cents. Next video should be a little more long form ^^ Get the directors commentary for this video when it comes out at: www.patreon.com/kaiafterkai
I watched the Humanist Report talk about this. I shared the song with a coworker who is in the LGBTQ. He liked it. We talked for a couple hours while gardening. I think it was big that at the end on the sing Kendrick brought up religion. That seems to be a huge reason people hate on other's differences. Good video!
I wish I had more people to talk about it IRL with ^^ Yes, that line about choosing humanity over religion was a very powerful one. Glad you liked the video!
@@KaiAfterKai talking helps all! We live in Hawaii. It is a very accepting place. He said he is grateful that he does not have to deal with the stuff on the lower 48.
first off, thank you for sharing, because i had a really hard time finding videos on this topic from Black Trans people i totally agree with everything you said, and i haven't heard many people saying that he should've had a Queer or Trans artist on the track for the f slurs. That was my immediate reaction upon seeing that everyone was acting like the only options were he says it or he doesn't also so irritating seeing the song branded as a Trans anthem or whatever. i really don't think that was Kendrick's intention with the song, but he hasn't corrected anyone meaning either he does think that, or he doesn't think that it's a harmful rhetoric from the media, OR something else i'm not considering??
I really appreciate your point of view on this. Very thorough analysis for both sides of the argument. Art can be jarring, especially with someone like kl. He knew that people would be offended, just as most artist know that the beauty is in the eye of the beholder. He’s probably the only person on the planet willing to describe his inner struggle with such personal topics.
Glad you appreciated my thoughts ^^ Regardless of my reservations about the execution, the song and the album is filled with an honestly I can't help but respect. It paints a beautiful picture of a flawed man.
i know this video is 2 years old but i personally loved auntie diary. I am one to assume he had the consent to talk about his uncle and cousin if I'm wrong it does change a bit my perception of the track. I am trans and a poc. I am not black neither american so i understand i don't have the specific same experience but raised by immigrant orthodox parents I still relate to the lyrics and I'm not gonna lie I cried at this song. I know i don't have the same experience with he slur but that doesn't mean i don't have equivalent in my native language that were as hurtful to queer and specifically trans people in that case. I enjoyed the track not because it was a trans anthem but because to me it was like hearing my own cousin or family member admitting their cluelessness, the fact they misgender or deadnamed only out of ignorance never true hatred and when faces with the actual hatred i am facing, feeling the empathy and when faced by their own hypocrisy even while trying to be inclusive, questioning themselves. Admitting they don't know everything. Admitting they aren't a perfect person and even less on topic they are only related on by knowing someone who is part of the subject matter. And to me hearing "the day i chose humanity over religion" meant a lot. It was cathartic. It meant a lot to me but i am one guy. I don't represent everyone and i understand it falling flat by its clumsy execution no matter how I feel about it.
As a Bi/Pan, somewhat fluid guy, I think this is one of the best conscious rap songs to come out as of recent. Yes, the use of the f-slur is overboard, but as Kendrick says "we were kids, we aint know no better." That entire part of the song seems to be taken as reminiscing, hence the use of the slur + deadnaming/misgendering. I think the song was a great step forward for conscious rap, which is fascinating from Kendrick, a straight cis guy. Its extremely brave to even put the song out, and I think the execution was almost perfect.
I think the song makes the most sense as some very personal processing that happens to be in a public song rather than any sort of advice or role-modeling for the audience. It's Auntie Diaries, not Auntie Sermons. And diaries are something you're supposed to keep to yourself and where you put the things you don't share with (or say to) other people. Maybe by "opening up" those old diary pages and all the ugly parts in it and showing that side of himself in a way others can't ignore, there's some closure to be found. I'm not sure and this is probably a big reach, but either way I'm pretty sure this isn't just some "Family Matters" type shit. It's Kendrick, there's always another layer to things.
I appreciate your take on Kendrick's song. As another non-binary person (I also identify as transgender) I am pretty mixed on the song. I like the overall themes, but the misgendering, deadnaming, and the use of the f-slur don't sit right with me. Anyways, I think this is a very good video so I subbed! Definitely gonna check out your other vids soon
Glad you enjoyed it! Yeah, a mixed reaction is fair. I overall appreciate what it's trying to say, but I def need to sit on its more problematic elements more. Thanks for subbing! These kinds of videos are a new direction for my channel, but I'm definitely hoping to make more like it in the future.
That’s kinda the point of the song. He’s talking about how it’s confusing as a kid to understand someone who’s transitioning and a kid will misgender people. It’s about deep rooted issues in the black community about homophobia and transphobia. In context everything he said was valid in my opinion.
As a cis-man I find this an interesting nuanced take. I appreciated the song (and the album as a whole), in fact I found the song very moving. I'd be interested in having a respectful conversation about when slurs are ever appropriate to use.
(Completely my opinion) as a bi man I don’t care if people slur around me or say “that’s so gay” or anything, hey I partake in that because I don’t truly believe it’s homophobic at all. with this context, I don’t really mind Kendrick saying the f slur, but I guess I have really thick skin.
Damn, totally based take all around. It is a mixed bag. One point I'd love to see you cover is what you think the effect of this song on an ignorant mainstream audience may be.
This video is a little bit shorter than the last couple, but I really wanted to throw in my two cents. Next video should be a little more long form ^^
Get the directors commentary for this video when it comes out at: www.patreon.com/kaiafterkai
I watched the Humanist Report talk about this. I shared the song with a coworker who is in the LGBTQ. He liked it. We talked for a couple hours while gardening.
I think it was big that at the end on the sing Kendrick brought up religion. That seems to be a huge reason people hate on other's differences.
Good video!
I wish I had more people to talk about it IRL with ^^ Yes, that line about choosing humanity over religion was a very powerful one.
Glad you liked the video!
@@KaiAfterKai talking helps all! We live in Hawaii. It is a very accepting place. He said he is grateful that he does not have to deal with the stuff on the lower 48.
@@JordanConley808 Glad to hear he doesn't have to deal with any nastiness.
@@KaiAfterKai probably some, but not as much.
Of course
Thank you so much for this video. It was very well-delivered and articulated. I 100% agree with you.
Glad you enjoyed it ^^
first off, thank you for sharing, because i had a really hard time finding videos on this topic from Black Trans people
i totally agree with everything you said, and i haven't heard many people saying that he should've had a Queer or Trans artist on the track for the f slurs. That was my immediate reaction upon seeing that everyone was acting like the only options were he says it or he doesn't
also so irritating seeing the song branded as a Trans anthem or whatever. i really don't think that was Kendrick's intention with the song, but he hasn't corrected anyone meaning either he does think that, or he doesn't think that it's a harmful rhetoric from the media, OR something else i'm not considering??
Off topic but i dig the Alvis neckless.
I dig it too ^^
I really appreciate your point of view on this. Very thorough analysis for both sides of the argument. Art can be jarring, especially with someone like kl. He knew that people would be offended, just as most artist know that the beauty is in the eye of the beholder. He’s probably the only person on the planet willing to describe his inner struggle with such personal topics.
Glad you appreciated my thoughts ^^ Regardless of my reservations about the execution, the song and the album is filled with an honestly I can't help but respect. It paints a beautiful picture of a flawed man.
i know this video is 2 years old but i personally loved auntie diary. I am one to assume he had the consent to talk about his uncle and cousin if I'm wrong it does change a bit my perception of the track. I am trans and a poc. I am not black neither american so i understand i don't have the specific same experience but raised by immigrant orthodox parents I still relate to the lyrics and I'm not gonna lie I cried at this song. I know i don't have the same experience with he slur but that doesn't mean i don't have equivalent in my native language that were as hurtful to queer and specifically trans people in that case. I enjoyed the track not because it was a trans anthem but because to me it was like hearing my own cousin or family member admitting their cluelessness, the fact they misgender or deadnamed only out of ignorance never true hatred and when faces with the actual hatred i am facing, feeling the empathy and when faced by their own hypocrisy even while trying to be inclusive, questioning themselves. Admitting they don't know everything. Admitting they aren't a perfect person and even less on topic they are only related on by knowing someone who is part of the subject matter.
And to me hearing "the day i chose humanity over religion" meant a lot. It was cathartic. It meant a lot to me but i am one guy. I don't represent everyone and i understand it falling flat by its clumsy execution no matter how I feel about it.
As a Bi/Pan, somewhat fluid guy, I think this is one of the best conscious rap songs to come out as of recent.
Yes, the use of the f-slur is overboard, but as Kendrick says "we were kids, we aint know no better." That entire part of the song seems to be taken as reminiscing, hence the use of the slur + deadnaming/misgendering.
I think the song was a great step forward for conscious rap, which is fascinating from Kendrick, a straight cis guy. Its extremely brave to even put the song out, and I think the execution was almost perfect.
Very thoughtful, awesome voice, and the swag is obvious. I'm subbing 🤘🏾♥️
Cheers mate 🤟🏾
I think he did it targeting the people who use the word liberally to target his fanbase who do with a proposition at the end.
That was the intention yes, and a noble one at that. Just the question of if it was done in the right way ^^
I think the song makes the most sense as some very personal processing that happens to be in a public song rather than any sort of advice or role-modeling for the audience. It's Auntie Diaries, not Auntie Sermons. And diaries are something you're supposed to keep to yourself and where you put the things you don't share with (or say to) other people. Maybe by "opening up" those old diary pages and all the ugly parts in it and showing that side of himself in a way others can't ignore, there's some closure to be found.
I'm not sure and this is probably a big reach, but either way I'm pretty sure this isn't just some "Family Matters" type shit. It's Kendrick, there's always another layer to things.
Well-said! subbed!
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I appreciate your take on Kendrick's song. As another non-binary person (I also identify as transgender) I am pretty mixed on the song. I like the overall themes, but the misgendering, deadnaming, and the use of the f-slur don't sit right with me.
Anyways, I think this is a very good video so I subbed! Definitely gonna check out your other vids soon
Glad you enjoyed it! Yeah, a mixed reaction is fair. I overall appreciate what it's trying to say, but I def need to sit on its more problematic elements more.
Thanks for subbing! These kinds of videos are a new direction for my channel, but I'm definitely hoping to make more like it in the future.
That’s kinda the point of the song. He’s talking about how it’s confusing as a kid to understand someone who’s transitioning and a kid will misgender people. It’s about deep rooted issues in the black community about homophobia and transphobia. In context everything he said was valid in my opinion.
@@jchahda2270 Also a fair reaction.
As a cis-man I find this an interesting nuanced take. I appreciated the song (and the album as a whole), in fact I found the song very moving. I'd be interested in having a respectful conversation about when slurs are ever appropriate to use.
(Completely my opinion) as a bi man I don’t care if people slur around me or say “that’s so gay” or anything, hey I partake in that because I don’t truly believe it’s homophobic at all. with this context, I don’t really mind Kendrick saying the f slur, but I guess I have really thick skin.
Damn, totally based take all around. It is a mixed bag.
One point I'd love to see you cover is what you think the effect of this song on an ignorant mainstream audience may be.
That would indeed be an interesting angle to take. If ever a topic like this comes up again, I'll be sure to try and include it. Thanks for watching!