6 Unexpected Ways Men Change in Their 30s.
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- How life changes in your 30s as a man - life in your 30s as a man can be an intimidating time. Unfortunately, there aren't a lot of resources or honest advice for men in their 30s about how life changes. Most of the content online is based on being successful, rich, or a pick-up artist. I created this video to share my real-life experiences and lessons that happened in my 30s. Whether you're already in your 30s or approaching the milestone, this video will give you a fresh perspective on the changes that lie ahead.
0:00 Most men don't have much guidance in their 30s
1:28 You've already screwed up
2:29 Friends settle down
3:59 Your body peaks
5:38 People take you seriously
6:41 Real setbacks and disappointments
8:20 Life is yours
This video is about life changes at 30, how life changes as man in your 30s, and what to expect in your 30s. Hope these ideas resonate for you!
Are you curious about how life changes for men in their 30s? In this video, Daniel Midson-Short dives into six different ways that life changes for men in their 30s. From gaining wisdom through big mistakes to the physical changes your body goes through, we talk through it all honestly. If you're a man navigating your 30s or simply interested in how men change in their 30s, this video will help.
About me: I am a professional speaker, writer, and run my own business. You can read my blog or learn more about my work here: midsonshort.com/ - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
Currently at 33, lost my younger brother this year. Restarting my career over. Reimagining my self image. And starting to be more assertive/aggressive in things and be more accountable of my life.
Gonna be 30 next year. It's a blessing to have made it this far. I know some people I went high school who didn't even make it 20.
Agreed Mav! Being alive is the reward! 😊🙏🏻
Debatable
I'm 30 in 2025 and yes it is a blessing.
Very sad story. Give your life to Jesus, he will protect you and you will live again.
Hope have a peaceful life and find your passion in it;Because you will not live forever.
In our 30's we start realizing two things: Mortality and life is short. I think we all think in our 20's that we know this, but then in the 30's we disagree
I'm 23 and have been in this mindset since about 17. I'm hoping my life will begin at 30. A decade of putting down the ground work will set me up for life.
Currently 25 and In a bit of a crisis. I needed to hear this thanks Daniel.
I was a failure in my 20s not because I wanted to but because of unfortunate events, bad timing in the recession, the narcissistic mental abuse from my young adult years that led to a severe depression and mental illness in my college years. I am in my 30s, I look at the past as a time of darkness, literally I feel that much of it was erased and I was just existing. In my 30s, I am in recovery mode, surviving for another day, hoping I do not die soon and hoping I don't become homeless and find myself humiliated by my enemies and also my parents and relatives, who have been more of an enemy to me than relatives.
Your brain can change adopt powerful beliefs and mindsets that will make you thrive in life rather than being a victim become the king the lion the warrior remember and kings just don't become who they're by accident they become who they're because of the shit they've been through
@@Bren12602 Cap
I'm starting to get more comfortable with not going out as much. I don't put effort into conversations nor trying to meet up with people because I don't have an urge to talk to people, I become naturally indifferent to everyone and everything as I enjoy my own company. 💯
My late 20s was a Complete mess and I’ll have to Carry the damages.. but you are right. I grown and learned so much to better myself. I’m 30 Now and I see I have a Path to create here on Out. I am more happier because I know I still have a Whole life to Create. And do the very best I can to succeed! Thank you!
I'm almost 37. There is so much I wish I have done more when I was younger. I am very fit, great career, and owns my house.
I have already hit my 30s mentally speaking. And this started around 20ish. I was already looking far ahead, that said there's nothing wrong with being fun. Think that's the most important part actually.
The biggest mistake you can make in your 20s is thinking you have plenty of time and that life can only get better as you get older.
Trust me, there's no worse feeling than approaching 30 and realizing you wasted all those years playing video games and getting high.
The time to start getting your life together is now! It doesn't just magically get better. It will only get worse the more you wait.
Thanks
Excellent video and content! I have started reflecting on my life as I'm turning 30 this year. I realized that until this point haven't really "lived." I have played it safe and chosen the life of a social hermit. My goal in the coming years is to be more of a Yes man to new experiences and to find meaningful connections.
I'm looking forward to your next video and being inspired again.
Thank you for this video, this is very helpful, am in my mid-30s and always appreciate guidance. You are correct: there isn't anything out there to guide men about living life in your 30s.
i'm in mid 30 !!! i very enjoyed your content !! thanks DANI
Great man, thank you for sharing this! Keep it up!
Thanks Marc! Glad it was valuable for you 😊🙏🏻
Exceptional content. You are a genuine and real person. Thank you!
Thank you for your kind words. Being genuine and real is what I want to strive for. Glad this resonated for you! 😊🙏🏻
Thank u for this sir, I'm 30 now and this was the best thing I watched in these last 2 months of deep thinking/crisis.
It was reinvigorating, congrats and I salute you brother
Thanks mate!
I’m not a man but I can relate to this and I turned 30 earlier this year. It’s been really hard but I have accomplished a lot and this first year as a 30 year old is so much better than what I experienced in my 20s. I fucked up alot in my 20s and messed up but now I’m starting to rebuild and create new opportunities for myself.
This was comforting. Thank you sir! I’m turning 30 next week
This!
I am going to turn 32 the next month and all 6 ways are valid for me.
All the peer pressure that comes together with wanting to settle down and creating your own family, relationships etc., people are now not taking you as a joke when you're 20-something. Everything is true. Especially the last bit: yes, life is ours, especially for the ones that managed to cut our existent ties with our parents. Lost my Mom when I was 29, so was able to mature quickly, seeing how very few people care about you and to whom you're dear.
And yes, am very thankful for the experiences that are shaping me.
So sorry to hear you lost your Mom at such a young age. I’m glad that these ideas resonated for you and I wish you all the very best for next decade if your life! 😊🙏🏻
I'm turning 30 next year and I'm very excited for life to get better as I grow better every day. Thanks for the video!!!
It’s an awesome time of life! Enjoy my friend 😊🙏🏻
I'm 34 and I can relate. 💯
(1) Think Right (2) Get along with People (2) Routine (4) Health (5) Family
Routine is very important for all of the other things to fall in place.
Great advice, especially learning to get along with difficult people. In our youth, we tend to laugh & joke about people in middle age, who have set routines, as in our youth we are very sporadic & reactionary towards life, no real set plans in life, just going with the flow.
I appreciate your input on life, gives me alot to think about.
So glad that it was useful for you! Wishing you all the best 😊🙏🏻
Needed to see this thanks for the content bro
Glad it helped you my friend! 😊🙏🏻
Great video Daniel! Keep it up....you'll be at 1 million subscribers before you know it!
Thanks Ted!! Glad it resonated for you! Appreciate the support 😊🙏🏻
Thank you!
You got it! 😊🙏🏻
The pandemic time warp has distorted some of these experiences in my early 30s. That said, your point about being in a better position to weather the storms based on the life experience of the prior decades is spot on. I'm not sure I would have found a way to stay happy and healthy and grow personally during the added alone time the pandemic delivered in my early 20s. Thanks for another great video.
Glad that you have found more personal strength as you've grown into your 30s, my friend. I appreciate you sharing your perspective! 😊🙏🏻
I think everybody was living in a mass psychosis, but I literally time warped my entire 20s. The pandemic was nothing new to me because I was living in isolation and literally with little to no contact with people for months and years. During the pandemic, I actually enjoyed it because I was getting paid, but when years back living as if in isolation were a nightmare because I was depressed due to feeling worthless and being unemployed, and also I was having problems with parents as they wanted me out or imprisoned in an asylum.
Thank you
Its crazy to see your video and wisdom
when I was 20s, a lot of ppl told me what to do but never listened to them.
Paid expensive lesson for that and tried to organize my life with lots of suffering.
And I don't know how thankful I'm to watch your video at the age of 30
Time taught me a patience and ability to listen the advice from wise people.
Is it really painful
I watch a lot of people online and you are brilliant my friend! Your videos have helped me a lot 😊 Wishing you all the best from London!
Thank you so much Alessio, so glad that my ideas resonate for you! Wishing you all the best on your journey too! 😊🙏🏻
@@midsonshort thanks Daniel and keep up the awesome work!❤️
3:59 - So true mate. The metabolism slows down in your 30s. I have noticed this as well. You have to really start taking care of your body like a monk to actually have the same energy levels as you 20 year old self in your 30s.
I'm 21 and watching this now lmao
Glad it’s of interest Ruben! I also made one for your 20s a few weeks back that might be more relatable 😊🙏🏻
@@midsonshort ah idk how I missed that one, I'll give that a watch now! This still provides value to me even though my 30s is far away for now, its good to know what to expect I guess
@rubensalsa8128 im 29 and will be 30 in October trust me when I say it comes upon you so damn quick I blinked and my 20s are gone not to mention I still haven't got my shit together wish I had payed attention to videos and advise but time doesn't reset or pause so enjoy every minute hell enjoy every second!!!
Smart kid.
@@gundamsondam" smart kid" is 23 in 4 months now , still plugging along I guess, starting my post graduate in dietetics at a top university this month! Feel the rush to get my shit together a lot more than I did two years ago
I am not a man, but I must admit that the mistakes I made in my 20s did not have a long-lasting consequences on my life. What I can observe is that some of my peers screwed really bad. For example, they got married but also had kids straight away, or they became entrepreneurs of companies which quickly faded and at the same time they took huge loans and they are in debt now. If they didn't push so hard, they would be fine, but it seems like they really wanted to have it all really quickly and this is the price they need to pay for their impatience.
@@jakubskyba7946 whoa don't forget this is just your opinion there buddy
I’m a female, 35 and every single word you said, completely resonates with my experience. Particularly since I became 30, life has gotten much more real, complex, challenging, eye opening and expanding. You quickly realize that smaller issues are unimportant and that ultimately you are the master of your future. I appreciate that you mentioned that man have changed in the past 3 decades. You could possibly make the same case for women.
what a joke "completely resonates with my experience" some girl thats has without a doubt had lived a life on easy mode
@@jackjacky7532tell me more, what makes you say that about a person whose past you have absolutely no knowledge of? I may not know anything about you, but it’s safe to imply that you are small minded.
@@jackjacky7532 fascinating assumption, you are making. You have no idea of the achievements, traumas or hardships I’ve been through, but because I’m a woman, I must have had an easy life, correct? Well, I don’t know you but I can clearly see that you are self centered and small minded. Keep living your victimhood, I’m sure it pays off!
Post-30 for women is post-wall, by 40 they start talking about egg freezing and other weird crap. Totally different. Women peak in their 20s. If they don't have a man in their 30s, they're in overtime and will probably never have a permanent relationship because men like young, virgin women.
To the two opinions provided by “men” to my comment… don’t ask others why you might be perceived as incels. If you go through life living as victims that’s exactly who you are. If you need to feel superior to women to feel good about yourselves, you are nothing but maggots. You perfectly embody what is wrong with men now. It’s not the lack of future, opportunities or a “new world order”. It’s simply your fears. Do you know what separates children from adults? Courage. Grow a pair.
Existential dread gets on you eventually, when you start thinking "is it all there is?" to your mundane, boring life.
Liked and subscribed!
Thankyou!! Great to have you along for the ride! 😊🙏🏻
I’m turning 32 in May. It’s not so bad, sure my body isn’t as fit as it used to be and it feels a lot slower and aches easier, but life isn’t to bad. Thank you for this video, I look forward to seeing the “life in your 40s” video in a few years lol😊
Losing my dad 2 years before I turned 30 really sucked. We were getting closer and he was starting to see me as a man. I smoked my first blunt in front of him a couple months before that, that was so funny. He was at my house watching a ppv fight and I still asked 😂.
youre great!
Gonna turn 30 in less than 2 months.
Day by day you feel more the weight of the world on your shoulders, and I am not even engaged with kids.
But life has been wonderful so far, despite it being full of hard situations and choices.
Looking forward for what life reserves for the next 50 years of my life.
Going to be 30 in the next 2 months, I swear I have been thinking about this moment for a considerable time in my life but I wouldn't imagine I would be in the state that I am. Alhamdulillah. I am looking for guidance on who I should shape myself to be. What ideal should I carry? What should be my goals for the next decade? Thanks for making this.
Wishing you the very best for your 3s Ahmed! You are asking the right questions and you will find yourself. Let us know here how we can support you! 😊🙏🏻
I really love the very last part of being in control of my own life since I’m now currently 31. I just started to enter my early 30s recently because I’m about to become 32 next year in early April of 2024. I still have plenty of youth left to enjoy my own life by making it much more interesting so that I’m not feeling bored constantly. I really do need to eventually travel more in the upcoming years especially to cool places such as wonderful incredible location town city areas nice hotels or amazing restaurants while I have the opportunity to make that happen someday before it is way too late for me.
I'm going through this now..... Sigh. The body changes are what are hard to cope with. hairloss, weight gain. As a former model it's hard to mentally deal with.
Good news. I am running for office and being taken seriously as a political candidate and as an employee at work.
Good news im 37 and 10 years into my relationship and it's stable. That's the thing that matters the most to me.
I’m 28 about to turn 29 later this year and I watch videos like this because I’m kind of scared of turning 30. Getting older sucks.
It’s not bad. That’s how I felt when. I switched from 18 to 21 lol
Gr8 video
Thank you Tisha! 😊🙏🏻
Great
This is waay too optimistic. 31 here. I still look good, for now. But I’m on my way down 😂
Probably 100 years ago the thirties were the twenties, by 28 most people own a house, had at least 3 kids with one in their teens and experienced the death of several family members
Was taken seriously in my 20s, the key is to become an expert in your field, or very knowledgeable. It actually pays too go full-on geek in whatever you are interested in.
Wait until 50, when you realized you really didn't have anything figured out.
You have 20 somethings adult offspring to help them get off the ground and you really don't have enough of to retire on.
Health problems start to manifest.
People you know are being diagnosed with all kinds of illnesses or have died.
You're too old to change careers.
Promotions are going to 35-40 year olds.
You feel like you're too old to be young and to young tobbe old.
Your 50s, you realize you're the teens of the elderly group.
And that fear of how long until you get sick, or your friends die or worse your spouse/partner dies and you have to live on one income and cannot afford a house...you end up in a small apartment or condo.
And if you're health is poor, are you going to be even be able to work part-time to supplement your income in retirement to keep afloat.
FYI: regarding health, you realize that you could have been the pinnacle of health, living healthy, exercising and eating healthy and still develop a life alternating illness.
That realization that we really don't have control over what happens, hits you right smack in the face.
And: you think you have so much time from 30 to 50, but it flys by so fast...
Happy Aging ❤
All true.
Spoken with experience
Haha, indeed! 😊🙏🏻
you have a nice glow in your eyes
all i've noticed about being in my thirties is i'm horrendously more anxious lol
What's this about your body peaking in in your 30s? I'm pretty confident mine peaked at 22. When I was 25 I noticed just how much my energy levels had dropped. Now at 33 I work out 3 times as much as I did when I was 22, but I had twice the amount of energy back then.
That’s awesome! Way to go my friend! 😊🙏🏻
ppl taking men seriously in 30s is true. there's a reason i never dated men under 30. i was raised by christians and still like a man to lead somewhat. and men over 30 treat me like a woman not a co-ed in school.
Everything he said is true It is a great time
Yeah I'm 31 unemployed with a bad mental state and dealing with a herniated disc. It's honestly very depressing. I'm trying to figure out a way to succeed but things aren't clicking. No one cares until it's RIP.
Turning 31 today . What's one thingI need to know from someone in their 40s?
I don’t consider 30s a decline for men’s physical abilities like most men do. I agree with what you said. You now get what you put in. Eat fast food everyday? Don’t work out? Then expect bad outcomes. Sadly average male syndrome is very real, and that pretty much equates to eating chic fil e everyday, drinking beer and not working out
“Average male syndrome” LOL, Yep.
34 is actually a man physical peak. After that it's declining, but before that, it's still peaking
I am a 33 year old man. I was in an 8 year relationship with a narcissistic woman. I was too young to really understand the value of time. All I wanted was to have a happy family. Needless to say, it never happened for me. Now I just sit in my apartment. I leave very infrequently. I feel miserable everyday I wake up. I feel miserable every night before I sleep. I dont know if i will ever have a family. I am completely alone ... always. I wish someone would have told me that my thirties were going to be like this ...
sorry I forgot I am 34 not 33 ... apparently my birthday was recently
Looking forward my friend, at least you were in a relationship
So do like the color white or something
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I'm 32 and so so lonely.
Good to know it's gonna get worse.
I am in mid thirties. Going through severe life crisis.
Hey man. Do you feel you need to talk?
I’m a woman, these experiences sound like equally applicable to me.
Glad they are valuable for you too Chloe! I didn’t mean to exclude women from the video, just was hoping to create something to help men see their path a little clearer! We tend to not look inward as much as women, so wanted to share something that will hopefully get men thinking 😊🙏🏻
Stopped all bullshit expenses.
Full and total money management, everything else descends from there.
my issues aint currently with money, but i was lucky in my early 20's i went on a money saving spree, reading money saving expert forums and moms net lol...
Its a long term thing, but it took me around 6 years from starting to work on my finances to having a deposit for a home! good luck bro, you can do it whatever the age.
I will take my life once I hit my 40s. Life doesn’t make sense once you get old, tired and wrinkly.
Curious to hear your lessons from your 30s and what happened to you in a follow-up video
I am 30 and i have not achieved anytging yet that makes me sad
Happy Early 33rd to me..#MayBaby
Still peaking in late 40s and preparing for 50s ! Just saying.
Edit: added “still”. 😎
Hell yeah man! Keep it going! 😊🙏🏻
Man you look pretty good for 44. I actually thought you were 35 or something
This sounds like my life at 28
That’s young though , still got life to live
Turning 33 this yr starting to feel old lol
You’re just getting started my friend!! 😊🙏🏻
Do men always think about sex or am I wrong ?
It doesn’t work when you look much younger than you are. Some might say “That’s great!” No, it’s horrible! You don’t want to be treated in your 30s like a college kid.
I ended up growing a beard to look older. People started taking me more seriously.
I'd do the same, except facial hair makes your face itch like crazy 😑
And the most important thing what ever age you are is to build a relationship with the creator and to worship him alone and the only way to do that is trough islam
Also your skin changes XD
I never lived tho
Luckily everyone's taken me seriously from the get go as everyone's seriously stupid so it's not hard to stand out as competent. I sound like an ass, but I'm serious. It's pathetic.
26 🥹 so excited lol
Losing my dad 2 years before I turned 30 really sucked. We were getting closer and he was starting to see me as a man. I smoked my first blunt in front of him a couple months before that, that was so funny. He was at my house watching a ppv fight and I still asked 😂.