Surprised to see how few views this has, and how few subscribers you have! This was excellent. A large part of my struggles with ADHD are caused by time agnosia and the not doing anything when there’s a scheduled event thing. Even when I have work that needs to be ready for a client call in the afternoon, I usually don’t do any work all day until 15 minutes before the call :(
Hi Davak, I’m so glad this video resonated with you. I totally experience what you’re going through. ADHD means we tend to lose focus when we should be working, so we have to work when we should be relaxing. Probably what I hate most about having ADHD- the impact on my family life and spending time with my loved ones.
I love that you named it "Now, or not now". Every time I get a small task or email or ping I need to respond to it NOW or I will completely forget. It makes it harder to do focus work and I find myself working later to get it done when everyone has clocked out (and then I lose track of time...and then lose all my free evening hours....). Anyways, I'm not diagnosed or anything but this is just a very relatable video that makes me feel a lot better about getting through these struggles. 😅
Yes, these are for sure the struggles we face daily 😭 this certainly sounds in part like ADHD. Definitely check out some of my other videos - including this primer into ADHD, you may/may not have it. What is ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and what are the 3 types of ADHD? th-cam.com/video/i28xsplbMKc/w-d-xo.html
I have spent days and days over the years just looking at the screen unable to focus or remember what I was doing and ended up with less than one line on the screen after 8 hours of just sitting there. It’s just so frustrating and now I see it in my son…
I struggled so much with procrastination, organisation and lateness at university but was never diagnosed as im a girl and always did well in school. Despite getting a good grade overall when asking for a reference for an MA my course convenor sent me a reply listing what were basically my ADHD symptoms, handing in things late, disorganization etc and then said what makes you think you can do a Master's? It really stung as with this condition even though you desperately try you cannot help it. Luckily now im on a path more suited to my true interests with people who get it and am making adaptions for myself such as using a voice to text app and giving myself routines and good self care. Glad to see more recognition of executive function difficulties is happening. I hope one day that lecturer understands I wasn't lazy my brain just works differently.
Great informative video! I'm in University myself, I was wondering does your Uni make any adjustments for your ADHD? Mine doesn't and it's aggravating me considering the time blindness aspect being such a detrimental issue.
A great, great video man. Have watched literally thousands of videos since ADHD diagnosis almost a year back. This is probably the best on time blindness Why've you stopped making videos Doc?
I appreciate this grown-up approach to the topic and am very interested in hearing practical ways to manage adult ADHD. "Waiting mode" is a tough one for me.
Omg waiting mode anxiety happens to me all the time!! So last night i have a meeting scheduled at 9pm, and between 5 to 8pm I'm like do i have time to get dinner? I have meeting at 9pm! It's ridiculous and irrational but it happens so often 😭
Thanks for talking about this. I was late diagnosed (2yrs ago, at age 42 - a lot of damage done by then!). I'm in a senior management role at a global corporate (somehow!!), and these time-related issues you're flagging will only feel 20 x worse when you're working in what I'm sure will be a high responsibility role given your alma mater and fact you'll have a PhD. Waiting mode anxiety just can't happen, unfort things like mid-morning team meetings are non-negotiables (and a killer for us!). It's great to have strategies as a student, my advice would be to tackle the causes too. Unfort the rest of the world operates differently from us...
Great video!! I am very much struggling with « now or not now ». As a graduate student, I find it extremely hard to juggle several research projects at the same time. Would love to hear more about your management system for it!
Hey Mariam, good idea. I will certainly make some videos on PhD life with ADHD at some point (when I’m feeling motivated). How I read papers, how I write papers, how I manage success and failure as a PhD, and other videos about my experience as a PhD student with ADHD. Thanks!
Thank you so much for this channel, your videos are so helpful. I'm in my 40's and was diagnosed with ADHD and started medication a few years ago...it feels like I was born seeing in black and white while everyone else could see in color and didn't know why I just couldn't get it together. It's a lot of work to keep up with others who don't have it. I totally relate to everything you are talking about. I also have anxiety disorder and these two combined are quite a challenge to manage.
Thank you so much! That part about waiting anxiety really resonates with me, and i didn't know it was even a thing until now. The other day my doctor was supposed to call me between 12pm and 4pm, and i even neglected making food for really long, because i thought to myself "what if i start making food now and then the call comes, and i'll burn something because i'm not focusing on the food", but in the end i actually did get the call while i was making food and it wasn't an issue.
For me one minute can easily become an hour wasted. I get time lapses and I am always stressed out for the amount of time that elapsed and not getting much done and then falling behind at a daily basis.
I can relate so closely to this Jacques. I try to keep a note on a whiteboard of the "REAL" hours i'm spending working so I can track how small fluctuations in my day distract me (i.e. meetings, the gym, outings, etc.)
Greetings - I'm a student at Oxford U, with recently diagnosed ADHD and definitely time issues (though no emotional regulation difficulties (not highs) here). I'm desperate to find a like, very reliable, body double for studying. Any suggestions? There ought to be a venue for this that doesn't subject one to junk responses. .. Thank you.
Surprised to see how few views this has, and how few subscribers you have! This was excellent. A large part of my struggles with ADHD are caused by time agnosia and the not doing anything when there’s a scheduled event thing. Even when I have work that needs to be ready for a client call in the afternoon, I usually don’t do any work all day until 15 minutes before the call :(
Hi Davak, I’m so glad this video resonated with you. I totally experience what you’re going through. ADHD means we tend to lose focus when we should be working, so we have to work when we should be relaxing. Probably what I hate most about having ADHD- the impact on my family life and spending time with my loved ones.
I love that you named it "Now, or not now". Every time I get a small task or email or ping I need to respond to it NOW or I will completely forget. It makes it harder to do focus work and I find myself working later to get it done when everyone has clocked out (and then I lose track of time...and then lose all my free evening hours....).
Anyways, I'm not diagnosed or anything but this is just a very relatable video that makes me feel a lot better about getting through these struggles. 😅
Yes, these are for sure the struggles we face daily 😭 this certainly sounds in part like ADHD. Definitely check out some of my other videos - including this primer into ADHD, you may/may not have it.
What is ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and what are the 3 types of ADHD?
th-cam.com/video/i28xsplbMKc/w-d-xo.html
I have spent days and days over the years just looking at the screen unable to focus or remember what I was doing and ended up with less than one line on the screen after 8 hours of just sitting there. It’s just so frustrating and now I see it in my son…
I struggled so much with procrastination, organisation and lateness at university but was never diagnosed as im a girl and always did well in school. Despite getting a good grade overall when asking for a reference for an MA my course convenor sent me a reply listing what were basically my ADHD symptoms, handing in things late, disorganization etc and then said what makes you think you can do a Master's? It really stung as with this condition even though you desperately try you cannot help it. Luckily now im on a path more suited to my true interests with people who get it and am making adaptions for myself such as using a voice to text app and giving myself routines and good self care. Glad to see more recognition of executive function difficulties is happening. I hope one day that lecturer understands I wasn't lazy my brain just works differently.
Great informative video! I'm in University myself, I was wondering does your Uni make any adjustments for your ADHD? Mine doesn't and it's aggravating me considering the time blindness aspect being such a detrimental issue.
A great, great video man. Have watched literally thousands of videos since ADHD diagnosis almost a year back. This is probably the best on time blindness
Why've you stopped making videos Doc?
Brilliant treatise of the subject at a 10k ft. level. Definitely would be interested in a follow-up.
Thank you Sir, appreciate your feedback :)
I appreciate this grown-up approach to the topic and am very interested in hearing practical ways to manage adult ADHD. "Waiting mode" is a tough one for me.
Omg waiting mode anxiety happens to me all the time!! So last night i have a meeting scheduled at 9pm, and between 5 to 8pm I'm like do i have time to get dinner? I have meeting at 9pm! It's ridiculous and irrational but it happens so often 😭
Yes! Exactly what I experience - currently having waiting mode anxiety ahead of recording next weeks video 😂😭
Thanks for talking about this. I was late diagnosed (2yrs ago, at age 42 - a lot of damage done by then!). I'm in a senior management role at a global corporate (somehow!!), and these time-related issues you're flagging will only feel 20 x worse when you're working in what I'm sure will be a high responsibility role given your alma mater and fact you'll have a PhD. Waiting mode anxiety just can't happen, unfort things like mid-morning team meetings are non-negotiables (and a killer for us!). It's great to have strategies as a student, my advice would be to tackle the causes too. Unfort the rest of the world operates differently from us...
Could you help us with lessons / hacks please? In a similar role. Devastated and on the brink of burnout. Tia
Great video!! I am very much struggling with « now or not now ». As a graduate student, I find it extremely hard to juggle several research projects at the same time. Would love to hear more about your management system for it!
Totally agree
Hey Mariam, good idea. I will certainly make some videos on PhD life with ADHD at some point (when I’m feeling motivated). How I read papers, how I write papers, how I manage success and failure as a PhD, and other videos about my experience as a PhD student with ADHD. Thanks!
Thank you so much for this channel, your videos are so helpful. I'm in my 40's and was diagnosed with ADHD and started medication a few years ago...it feels like I was born seeing in black and white while everyone else could see in color and didn't know why I just couldn't get it together. It's a lot of work to keep up with others who don't have it. I totally relate to everything you are talking about. I also have anxiety disorder and these two combined are quite a challenge to manage.
This is a gem of a video. Thank you do much for doing this.
Thank you so much! That part about waiting anxiety really resonates with me, and i didn't know it was even a thing until now.
The other day my doctor was supposed to call me between 12pm and 4pm, and i even neglected making food for really long, because i thought to myself "what if i start making food now and then the call comes, and i'll burn something because i'm not focusing on the food", but in the end i actually did get the call while i was making food and it wasn't an issue.
Oh boy... this video is my life!
I'm glad you related to this video - wishing you all the best!
@@theadhdmedic thank you. You as well. Getting there, slowly but surely.
For me one minute can easily become an hour wasted. I get time lapses and I am always stressed out for the amount of time that elapsed and not getting much done and then falling behind at a daily basis.
I can relate so closely to this Jacques. I try to keep a note on a whiteboard of the "REAL" hours i'm spending working so I can track how small fluctuations in my day distract me (i.e. meetings, the gym, outings, etc.)
@@theadhdmedic Thanks for the tips and the videos.
3. Waiting mode anxiety. Had no idea this had a name. Good to know its not just me :)
Greetings - I'm a student at Oxford U, with recently diagnosed ADHD and definitely time issues (though no emotional regulation difficulties (not highs) here). I'm desperate to find a like, very reliable, body double for studying. Any suggestions? There ought to be a venue for this that doesn't subject one to junk responses. .. Thank you.
Nice video! I just got my diagnosis last week and I want to learn as much as possible
True
thanks for watching!
@@theadhdmedic my pleasure