Sorry to be posting my personal shit in the comments, but I don't really have any friends to be excited with tbh. But I got my T letter today !!!!!!!!!!
I'm currently waiting for my trans diagnosis. I cannot legally get testosterone before one. I still have to wait six months. I feel so frustrated, I'm 100% sure of what I want and need but it's not in my hands.
The best advice I can give is: Don't over think (leads to negative thoughts=more dysphoria), take every day as it comes and focus NOW on making memories, being happy and living. It is difficult, but remember, the journey is just as important as the end goal. We are still men, we know that, so NEVER put yourself down! :)
I'm 18, and I'm super lucky. It only took me 4 months to get T (bless the Lord for informed consent). The wait for top surgery though is killing me. My insurance won't even begin to consider covering it unless I've been in therapy for a year. Because of informed consent, I never needed therapy, so I've never been. It's so frustrating oh my god. I know how lucky I am, but ngl this also sucks.
I probably never comment but dude you are such a good fucking person and I look up to you so much you totally give me strength and good advice and I share your videos EVERYWHERE I love u man
(Suicide/Death mention) For me I basically refuse to be buried with boobs and my birth name. Some days it's incredibly, incredibly hard, but then I remember how none of my family knows and I'd be remembered by my birth name (literal dead naming i guess) and that makes me keep going. Morbid but sometimes that's all I got :'-)
I've been waiting to start T for 3 years and a half now. Last year I said I would've killed myself by June of this year, but somehow I pulled through. Unfortunately, I think I'll have to wait another year. Let's not even talk about top surgery. It's reassuring to know someone went/is going through the same thing. Thank you for this video Chase.
You are truly brave. I know it's hard, but remember: you don't want to die before you get your preferred body. Wait it out, I know it will take a long time, but please please don't harm yourself. I love you and I wish the best ❤️
i know how you it feels on waiting to transition... waiting is frustrating. its really a big factor of who you are as a person and how you feel on your day to day chore. im glad their are people like me, like you, that i know who is experiencing the same waiting game. i just stay busy and positive, doing that would help me get through the day.
I'm questioning and I think I'm genderfluid and I'm super afraid to come out to anyone, even my friends who I'm like 99% sure will be cool with it, but it's just so much harder than when I came out as gay because people know what gay means and they can understand that but a lot of people can't fathom someone who isn't cis, especially if they're nonbinary.
Magic Penguin That's tough. I had a hard time coming out to my parents that I was neutral gender. Afterwards, one of my parents kept on asking what it meant after I explained the definition a bunch of time. So, I get the fear. Whenever my parents start questioning my gender, which leads me to question my gender, I just tell myself that I understand my gender and that's all that matters.
I'm currently waiting for T and have been stressing out about it a lot recently even though I only have to wait another like 5 months , it's been really getting to me. I do always try and keep the mindset of knowing that one day but sometimes I just get so frustrated. This is kind of what I needed right now so thank you for making this video Chase :)
This video actually helps a lot. I'm 16, but I've known I was trans since I was 12. I've been out to my parents and brother for a little over a year now almost two. Since my parents aren't that accepting it seems like I'm not going to be able to start transitioning until I'm 18, but considering I live in a state with only three gender therapists it'll probably be longer. Sometimes I feel pretty hopeless because I have bad dysphoria and I'm eager to start T and I'm eager to have top surgery, but it's so far away. Your videos definitely made me feel better, knowing someone else has had to wait as opposed to all the other lucky guys who got to start early or never had to wait.
omg, thatnk you so much for that video! it makes me hopeful that there are people like you who have stuck out and have gone that far (although there's still a lot of waiting), and yeah, i usually look at the future, and it really helps to think that i could get where you are now. Thank you again, it was great!
I am so happy you made this video! I am waiting to start T and it is so so hard, especially when I follow others on Tumblr that have been able to start much earlier than I have (I am 22!). But I know it will come one day. And I just have to be patient until that time comes! Even if it feels like you are stuck or trapped, remember that each breath is a step forward! Blessed Be! and I am sending good energy out to anyone reading this!
I really needed this. I'm a couple of weeks off from receiving my first dose of T, and it feels like the longest wait surrounding being trans that I've ever had to sit through. I think the most important thing is to stay mindful that there is always more we can do, if we aren't improving in one area because we have to wait, then we need to turn our attention into another area that we can actively improve, i.e. school/college/work or relationships. I could really feel your emotions in this video and I almost welled up.
This was such a helpful video and I thank you so much for making it. I really love your channel, it makes me feel accepted and like I'm not alone. You're truly an inspiring dude, and I wish you luck in everything you do in life.
I'm 16 years old and where I live, I can only get prescription for T when I'm 18. I'm visiting a psychologist (dont know how to spell lol) weekly, and he's helping me with my anxiety to hormones and top surgery. I also have a girlfriend that supports me but sometimes it's not enough and certainly not easy, but we all have to deal with this when you believe.. Cheers Chase, thanks for uploading this, came like a gift from me. With love, Brazil.
Eu to com 17 agora e eles tbm me disseram que eu só posso entrar no hormônio com 18, eu tenho um amigo que tem contatos no Hc e já ta na T com 16. Eu fico feliz por ele, mas saber que eles podem me dar o hormônio antes e não fazem pq eu não tenho nenhum amigo médico só fode. A espera é mt foda, a disforia, a porra do preconceito aqui no Brasil. Mas vai aguentando ai irmão, eu tbm vou carregando, um dia chega nossa vez.
Lynn Lee A gente fica feliz pelos brothers mas só o fato de saber que alguem que ta na luta a menos tempo que a gente consegue antes é um soco da cara, haja paciencia pra aguentar a espera e tudo que a gente passa diariamente, mas a gente consegue, com mt sangue mas consegue, tamo junto! força meu mano!
okay, I usually never comment on videos but I have to say not only do I love your videos but they help soon much. I'm currently 15, though I know who and pretty much what transgender people are, I can't transition due to parents (my mom literally when I kind of came out without me saying anything told me of how I cannot get surgery and I'm sure she would also mean hormones but doesn't know anything trans related pretty much besides media) so I'm stuck without t especially, but seeing all your stuff (I even used some of your videos with one of my brothers, and he thinks your super cool and helped him a bit more with understanding more then he already did) and it's super calming, and gives me so much hope, so thank you!
I'm 22. I'll get hormones in 2 years. I already dropped out of college because that's how strong my dysphoria was. I want to go abroad, but in this case, I'm doomed to stay in my country that doesn't feel like home. I'm age anxious and it makes me sick to think some people get the body they want so much earlier. I feel I already spent all my youth in pain. You're young only for so short. And the world is so hard on transgender people. Whatever we did to it to deserve it.
Bro, your Videos are beast! I am an 18 year old FtM, and I am stuck with not being able to Transition. I can't get T, I don't have a Binder and don't pass. 😝 I watch your Videos a lot and they really inspire me. You are a role model for me!!!!! you are the cutest and funniest person I watch on here!
This really helped me cause I'm 18 and I'm still waiting for my first gender therapy meeting because I'm so low on money and my dysphoria is just horrible ..
Posted this to my blog, thank you for the video, its so good.... your videos have helped me so much and made me realize that life is going to be ok despite the wait, hah.
I waited six years before my family could afford to send me to a professional to diagnose my dysphoria. Only got it diagnosed a few months ago. Waiting list for a psychiatrist who I hope will get me on T was so long they had to place my appointment at the end of August... almost there. But it's really disheartening to see trans people that are younger than me and managed to get that treatment I'd do anything for. I've been so desperate that I've just gotten up and walked outside the house crying and hoping somebody would see me, stop, ask me what was wrong, and be able to take me to see someone. Of course, no such thing ever happened, that doesn't happen in real life. My town is so small it doesn't even have ANY sort of medical facility but if it did I would have already walked to it and begged at the door. My depression is bad and my dysphoria is problem number one.
Chase you are awesome and I love you're advice! As a fellow man having years until I'm able to transition it just fucking sucks and I just want to cry all the damn time. But I like the idea of looking towards the future and have been doing so lately. Dysphoria is a bitch and I wish it would just fall of the face of the Earth!!!!!!!
I'm seriously listening to your videos while making a Google Slides presentation about transgender people for my AP Psychology class (we chose our own final projects). I mostly wanted to do this topic bc I'm FTM and feel like while I live in a really progressive part of the USA my peers still have a lot to learn.
I have to wait right now too :/ I came out 11 months ago (I am 15) and for a few months my family didn't do anything to help me, they just waited for me to be female again -.- In February or March i went to my first therapist appointment, but the therapist doesn't take me seriously and won't diagnose me because 1. I have Asperger's and don't enjoy being around other people, so, in my therapist's eyes i can't live my male identity properly 2. I didn't always know and when I was a kid i used to wear dresses because they were comfortable The therapist makes me feel like I am doing stuff wrong and she won't give me a T letter even though i literally suffer all the time because of dysphoria. So i am waiting fir my first appointment at another therapist now. The appointment is in 6 weeks and this therapist usually only takes adults into his therapy so he is likely to send me away abd let me have another waiting time for a third therapist that's for kids and probably just as shitty as my current therapist. I really want to go on hormones, i don't want to cry everytime i see myself in the mirror (or even my damn shadow on the wall).
Waiting and all the endless doctor's appointments are so frustrating, even though it's getting somewhere for me now. Just knowing that I have to go through all that shit and cis people don't seems unfair. But I'm optimistic and think that I've learned a lot and can appreciate things other people take for granted. I'm even a bit scared of what will happen if I don't have something to wait for anymore...
so i been dying to get some information about this topic and cant seem to find any. tattoos. i have a shoulder blade tattoo and want to get a wrist tattoo. will i have to worry about them being deformed during transition?
Yeah, I've been waiting a while too (unsupportive dad). It sucks to see people who found out when they were older get T and top surgery before I do... I get so jealous.
i started T in November and I was taken off of it(for reasons I will not disclose) in December. I've been waiting to get back on it for four months and it's terrible. thankfully, I'm probably going back on in April. I just am so anxious about not being able to go back on T and it's stressing me about a lot
Im trans and seeing a therapist. but my parents don't know thats bcuz im trans. (I could lie u know) and my therapist said I should live 2 years as my desired gender before I start hormone therapy or any medication
i went to my gp 3/4 months ago to be referred and apparently i won't have my first appointment til like mid next year, maybe later, it sucks, i just want T, im so uncomfortable with my body
I have decided to wait to leave secondary school at 16 to transition. I have to wait because I experience severe bullying at school any way so coming out wouldn't be a good idea. Having to wear a bra at school instead of a binder and be constantly misgendered is so hard. I have 2 more years of this. Dose anyone have any tips to get through all of this?
also, here in Australia, we have to get top surgery privately and we have to pay for it. as bad as I want it, there is no hope in the near future for me.
I'll be turning 18 in June and will start saving up for therapy to get my letter so i can start T (if i can even get a job lol). hopefully I'll be able to start either when I'm in college this fall or by the time summer of 2018. I've known before i even realized I was transgender that i wanted a flat chest so that's defiantly on my list too. idek when that'll happen though :(
The feels are strong with this one. I was JUST put on a waiting list to see a psychso I can get the ok to start working towards being put on T....I mean YAY but god knows how long it'll take. They promised no results and suggested I go private but like...noooo, I am flat broke, this is my last and only option. I get really impatient..like I waited THIS long to start living as ME for ME and now it feels like my life is completely paused. I wish I had a great group of trans* friends but the only other trans* person I know is my boyfriend and while he is great to talk to and has great insight I wish I had others to talk with too.... *sighs*
I'm 17 and I've been out for 4 years now. I'm sitting here crying because I'm dysphoric as hell and i... don't know if I can wait to transition. I already struggle with mental health but dysphoria is making my depression and anxiety 1000× worse. I feel so wrong in my body and I just want to feel a connection to my outer self for once. To not think 'is that really me?' When I look in the mirror. I want to be happy so badly and I'm terrified that if I don't get to transition soon this dysphoria is going to kill me.
uppercasechase im 16 AND i hate how i Look as a female i have been wanting to tell my mum BUT i am so fearful do you happen to have any personal advice??
I'm genderfluid, but male most of the time and I really want to get top surgery, but I dont want to take T cause I'm a singer and that would be bad for my voice. But I'm scared I wont pass then.
I know this reply is late but T doesn't fuck up your singing voice. I'm a trans theatre actor and as long as you sing regularly while your voice gradually drops you adjust to the tone change and you can sing just as well, just deeper.
Could you talk some more about waiting for yourself, I guess that's what you could call it. Like when you postponed your top surgery and it wasn't about other people or a bad health system stopping you, but you made yourself wait because you felt like you weren't ready. Because that's where I'm with hormones right now and it still sucks to wait, but at the same time I feel like it's the right thing tk do. And then of course there is pressure to be 100% sure about this and do it as fast as you can. It's just not a good place to be in and definitley brings up a whole mix of emotions.
This is one of the only places where I feel comfortable enough to ask for advice. My doctor told me a few days ago that I have high testosterone levels which means that I'll have to take estrogen to balance them out. Being pre-everything and having unsupportive parents, I don't know what to do. I know that I need to take estrogen in order to eventually take testosterone but I don't think that my dysphoria will allow me to. Just knowing that I have extra testosterone in my body makes me happy because I hate the fact that I was assigned female at birth. I've known about this for about three days and I've been stressed and depressed every since. I don't know if I should take or refuse estrogen. Either way it could hurt me in the long run but I'm so afraid of losing my trans identity. It took me so long to gain the confidence to call myself a guy and use male pronouns when referring to myself and I'd hate to know that it was all for nothing. My doctor also said that this could be a direct link to why I am trans. I just want to be myself and not have a stupid hormonal imbalance. I've been beating myself up over this because I just want to figure this all out now and not have to wait for a final result. I'm not sure if I can deal with all of this stress and depression anymore.
You're right--! This *sounds* just about as implausible as anything I've ever heard, and I hope you don't get derailed through following what turns-out to be false-advice. I really hope that someone who really knows the correct answer here posts it before it's too late and you find out the hard way, one way or the other. I hope you can bear with whatever difference between what I wrote here and anywhere else. This problem is both tough and urgent, and a person's answers thus are liable to change at least somewhat.
I knew I was trans since I was 17. Denial phase + "am I being misogynistic?" until last year (I was 20). Now I'm 21 and finally telling others and taking medical care to transition.
Yeah waiting just sucks. I am poor, don't have insurance. and I have a lot of other ducks I have to get in a row first before I can think about it. like a good steady job. ..but it sucks. and I'm middle-aged. and depressed that it feels like transitioning might be a pipe dream. unless I can get a good job with good insurance.
I found out i was trans 7years ago and i was sacred ill get kicked out because i lived with my uncle. I'm 18 now and have my own place i justgot done writing my coming out letter to my mom. Ive been so close to giving it to her but i keep getting cold feet.
I'm playing the waiting game right now 😔 I'm pre-everything even social transition. I just be myself at home (presenting male) and when I leave the house I present as female. That's like the only way I'm keeping my sanity, since dysphoria is off the wall crazy right now. But I know right now is not the best time to come out and everything to other people. (Nearing the end of my second pregnancy, my moms mental health is fragile and I don't wanna stress her out right now) so until then I'm keeping it to myself.
I have a question- is there a video of case named "How I knew I was trans" or about his coming out?! I didn't find any of these on his channel...I'm just so curious about it :) (Because it seems to me, that most of his videos are more of an advisory for trans people but not as much of his personal transhistory... There are other FTM-youtubers who have more personal videos...But maybe I'm only to new on his channel so if I'm mistaken pls correct me!)
I know for certain that I'm trans and I want to come out but i know that since I'm only 15 people will question me and be like are you sure? I don't know how to deal with that
Just know what you want, and be informed. It doesn't always goes as planned and they may need a lot of time to understand it. Just understand their side but be confident on what you want. I am 15 as well and I came out at 13 (as transgender being informed, because I came out at 6 as "I want to be a boy") and let me tell th
You that also being not misgendered or taken seriously is also waiting, loads of waiting sometimes. Have been there twice. Just be sure their response wouldn't be dangerous for you. If you think you are safe and their love is unconditional, they'll try their best, even if sometimes they are wrong by wanting to do the "right" thing for you. Hope it makes sense and the best of luck! ;)
I knew I was trans for almost 2 years before I came out to my friends and family. I knew people wouldn't understand me or take me seriously so I kept it inside until I felt safe to talk about it openly. I got comfortable with my gender the more I hungout with and had friends that were lgbt. I'm only 17, but things have gotten better already, there's things I wouldn't change even though it sucked when I was going through it. Waiting is hard, and it's easy to say "it's worth it and it gets better", but somethings just happen on their own time and it does get better and it was all worth it.
Guys if any transguys out there need a good method to stop their periods i know this sounds stupid but it works trust me and it will help u grow taller if you're still young because it increases growth hormone - do intermittent fasting - fast (but drink water) for about 14-21 hours a day so say 3pm to 9am and only eat your daily calories in that window then your oestrogen will drop severely as your body goes into survival mode and you will halt your "feminine features" from .... going... idk but it works trust me i do it it's good. Just for anyone out there who wants to know how to lower their oestrogen. Research it on google if you don't believe me.
So I just got told today that I would have to wait to transition now I want to prefice this by saying I know I'm lucky to be able to transition at all. So back to complaining so I right now have a blocker in and for some reason it didn't stop my growth so my doctor who is one of the best trans doctors in my area told me I had to wait until 2020 to start T. That was literally in the realm of getting T the worst case scenario I could live with for me to be able to get T. UGHHHH
I was promised by my therapist that I would be able to start T in like a week then I was told I would have to wait wayyyyy longer. But in the end I'll get through it. And am I the only one who doesn't like talking to people? Like not even other trans* or therapist and counselors?
Are you waiting for treatment on your national health service? I'm about to enter the gender-identity-whatever type system in the United Kingdom. I try to keep busy too... I'm lucky in that I work full time and study. It must be harder for people who don't/can't. Hope it all goes well for you.
I'm now waiting for being diagnosed with gender dysphoria. When that happens I can hopefully start T. The bad thing is that it takes so fucking long in my country. I have to do at least 6 tests/sessions for it but the time between those sessions is 6 months per session. It's so shitty and I fucking hate it. I'm now taking DHEA pills but I'm scared it will fuck up my health. Also doing everything I can by exercising a shit lot and by eating proteins ans testosterone boosting foods but it's just a lot of pressure from myself and all that.
When I was in high school I met this other Trans guy and we became friends and we'd literally get together and just rant about being trans and all the shit we have to go through in order to start physically transitioning
I'm afraid of how my dad will respond. I haven't told him yet, but I want to because if I have to deal with such low testosterone levels and being called a girl much longer, I'm going to snap. I'm tearing up writing this. It hurts so much. I hate being dramatic, but I really need this. My dad says he's fine with the LGBT community, but he doesn't seem okay with trans people and he also seems to think that being any sexuality aside from straight is a phase.
I am ' in the middle of the begging' that part where you have 'come out' to your 'essentials' (how many times cane i use '..'.. and the most important person my wife is behind me. Being in the Uk , I went to our Gp for a referral for a Gender .Identity.Clinic (Because they have scans now that will penetrate my brain and figure out the depths of my transnesssss) or being 'non-binary' I will either have to lie and say 'me man, me want it all,ugg' or risk getting nothing. Having Dissociative identity disorder is another tick on the 'mental' box they don't score you on ;') ..lol or there is saving and waiting and flying to the land of informed consent that only required one letter not two! guess the waiting never ends for everyone as this video was done last year and 130 comments later...everyone is still waiting some how!
I knew I was trans at 14 (had wicked bad dysphoria even before that but I didn't have the words for it) it was 10 years before I was able to come out, and it will be another 4 years since then when I finally have top surgery. The idea of having any medical care without paying for it is literally a foreign concept to me. Everything is out of pocket, and I have to take a bus for 20 hours, to another country, to even see a surgeon I can afford. Just venting, sorry. I've been waiting half my life for this.
tacoburger5 i also want to know about what you did in PE if you had bad chest dysphoria. binders restrict breathing so im worried about next year in PE if i pass out or hurt my self breathing too hard. so please make a video about that even though i saw your video on ftm running.
tacoburger5 my understanding (as a non-canadian, keep in mind) is that because everyone is on public insurance, everyone is technically able to get top surgery. but that also means that everyone is on the same waiting list-a waiting list with very few doctors and very few openings in their schedules (thus, why someone might have to wait 8 years, unless they go the states and pay out of pocket).
tacoburger5 also RE: PE, see if you can get out of PE. like a doctor's note or something. if not, sports bras, or, if neither of those is an option, just do a shitty job in PE. i don't know what it's like at your school, but at my school i sat in the bleachers the whole time and still passed.
Dollar Store Coffee thanks for the info. at my school (Maine) we are focusing on personalized learning so i have the choice to sit out and learn more about nutrition and such. i might do that but my family is pushing to be normal and take normal PE
tacoburger5 I would do the nutrition option if I were you. Honestly, looking at it from a non-trans point of view, the nutrition info will probably help you out more than playing kickball for 45 minutes once a day. And from a trans point of view, well, you're already trans. You kind of kissed "normal" good bye at the door haha. Family pressure is real, and it sucks, but in the long run it's better than passing out because you were running in a binder.
I discovered my non-binary gender over a year ago, and recently I was finally able to purchase a binder! Now I'm just waiting for the package to come... it's agonizing.
Sorry to be posting my personal shit in the comments, but I don't really have any friends to be excited with tbh. But I got my T letter today !!!!!!!!!!
Congrats!!!
Alexander well congrats, but im still jealous
Alexander YAAAAYAYYY CONGRATS!!!!!!
I'm currently waiting for my trans diagnosis. I cannot legally get testosterone before one. I still have to wait six months. I feel so frustrated, I'm 100% sure of what I want and need but it's not in my hands.
The best advice I can give is: Don't over think (leads to negative thoughts=more dysphoria), take every day as it comes and focus NOW on making memories, being
happy and living. It is difficult, but remember, the journey is just as important as the end goal. We are still men, we know that, so NEVER put yourself down! :)
I find for myself waiting for top surgery to be worse than when I was waiting to start T. Its heartbreaking the wait times.
Jesse T amen.
Jesse T Agreed. I get so envious of guys who get top surgery before they even start T, especially when they're way younger than me.
Jesse T, amen. I'm pre-everything and know the feeling.
I'm 18, and I'm super lucky. It only took me 4 months to get T (bless the Lord for informed consent). The wait for top surgery though is killing me. My insurance won't even begin to consider covering it unless I've been in therapy for a year. Because of informed consent, I never needed therapy, so I've never been. It's so frustrating oh my god. I know how lucky I am, but ngl this also sucks.
I am going to be 18 in a few months.I want to get hormones and top surgery before I go to university
I probably never comment but dude you are such a good fucking person and I look up to you so much you totally give me strength and good advice and I share your videos EVERYWHERE I love u man
(Suicide/Death mention)
For me I basically refuse to be buried with boobs and my birth name. Some days it's incredibly, incredibly hard, but then I remember how none of my family knows and I'd be remembered by my birth name (literal dead naming i guess) and that makes me keep going. Morbid but sometimes that's all I got :'-)
Hans yes, same, I don't want to be buried with my birth name on my tomb stone
I've been waiting to start T for 3 years and a half now. Last year I said I would've killed myself by June of this year, but somehow I pulled through. Unfortunately, I think I'll have to wait another year. Let's not even talk about top surgery. It's reassuring to know someone went/is going through the same thing. Thank you for this video Chase.
You are truly brave. I know it's hard, but remember: you don't want to die before you get your preferred body. Wait it out, I know it will take a long time, but please please don't harm yourself. I love you and I wish the best ❤️
Alex Creed Thank you for your support, it means a lot to me
i know how you it feels on waiting to transition... waiting is frustrating. its really a big factor of who you are as a person and how you feel on your day to day chore. im glad their are people like me, like you, that i know who is experiencing the same waiting game. i just stay busy and positive, doing that would help me get through the day.
I'm questioning and I think I'm genderfluid and I'm super afraid to come out to anyone, even my friends who I'm like 99% sure will be cool with it, but it's just so much harder than when I came out as gay because people know what gay means and they can understand that but a lot of people can't fathom someone who isn't cis, especially if they're nonbinary.
Magic Penguin That's tough. I had a hard time coming out to my parents that I was neutral gender. Afterwards, one of my parents kept on asking what it meant after I explained the definition a bunch of time. So, I get the fear. Whenever my parents start questioning my gender, which leads me to question my gender, I just tell myself that I understand my gender and that's all that matters.
I'm currently waiting for T and have been stressing out about it a lot recently even though I only have to wait another like 5 months , it's been really getting to me. I do always try and keep the mindset of knowing that one day but sometimes I just get so frustrated. This is kind of what I needed right now so thank you for making this video Chase :)
This video actually helps a lot. I'm 16, but I've known I was trans since I was 12. I've been out to my parents and brother for a little over a year now almost two. Since my parents aren't that accepting it seems like I'm not going to be able to start transitioning until I'm 18, but considering I live in a state with only three gender therapists it'll probably be longer. Sometimes I feel pretty hopeless because I have bad dysphoria and I'm eager to start T and I'm eager to have top surgery, but it's so far away. Your videos definitely made me feel better, knowing someone else has had to wait as opposed to all the other lucky guys who got to start early or never had to wait.
omg, thatnk you so much for that video! it makes me hopeful that there are people like you who have stuck out and have gone that far (although there's still a lot of waiting), and yeah, i usually look at the future, and it really helps to think that i could get where you are now. Thank you again, it was great!
I am so happy you made this video! I am waiting to start T and it is so so hard, especially when I follow others on Tumblr that have been able to start much earlier than I have (I am 22!). But I know it will come one day. And I just have to be patient until that time comes! Even if it feels like you are stuck or trapped, remember that each breath is a step forward! Blessed Be! and I am sending good energy out to anyone reading this!
I really needed this. I'm a couple of weeks off from receiving my first dose of T, and it feels like the longest wait surrounding being trans that I've ever had to sit through. I think the most important thing is to stay mindful that there is always more we can do, if we aren't improving in one area because we have to wait, then we need to turn our attention into another area that we can actively improve, i.e. school/college/work or relationships. I could really feel your emotions in this video and I almost welled up.
I can relate soooo much to everything you've said in this video.
This was such a helpful video and I thank you so much for making it. I really love your channel, it makes me feel accepted and like I'm not alone. You're truly an inspiring dude, and I wish you luck in everything you do in life.
I'm 16 years old and where I live, I can only get prescription for T when I'm 18. I'm visiting a psychologist (dont know how to spell lol) weekly, and he's helping me with my anxiety to hormones and top surgery. I also have a girlfriend that supports me but sometimes it's not enough and certainly not easy, but we all have to deal with this when you believe.. Cheers Chase, thanks for uploading this, came like a gift from me. With love, Brazil.
to me* sorry lol
Eu to com 17 agora e eles tbm me disseram que eu só posso entrar no hormônio com 18, eu tenho um amigo que tem contatos no Hc e já ta na T com 16. Eu fico feliz por ele, mas saber que eles podem me dar o hormônio antes e não fazem pq eu não tenho nenhum amigo médico só fode. A espera é mt foda, a disforia, a porra do preconceito aqui no Brasil. Mas vai aguentando ai irmão, eu tbm vou carregando, um dia chega nossa vez.
Lynn Lee A gente fica feliz pelos brothers mas só o fato de saber que alguem que ta na luta a menos tempo que a gente consegue antes é um soco da cara, haja paciencia pra aguentar a espera e tudo que a gente passa diariamente, mas a gente consegue, com mt sangue mas consegue, tamo junto! força meu mano!
okay, I usually never comment on videos but I have to say not only do I love your videos but they help soon much. I'm currently 15, though I know who and pretty much what transgender people are, I can't transition due to parents (my mom literally when I kind of came out without me saying anything told me of how I cannot get surgery and I'm sure she would also mean hormones but doesn't know anything trans related pretty much besides media) so I'm stuck without t especially, but seeing all your stuff (I even used some of your videos with one of my brothers, and he thinks your super cool and helped him a bit more with understanding more then he already did) and it's super calming, and gives me so much hope, so thank you!
honestly thanks so much for this
it helped more than you realize
I have to wait at least 5 years to even start transitioning and I feel like I can't live like this
i feel you, same situation
I'm 22. I'll get hormones in 2 years. I already dropped out of college because that's how strong my dysphoria was. I want to go abroad, but in this case, I'm doomed to stay in my country that doesn't feel like home. I'm age anxious and it makes me sick to think some people get the body they want so much earlier. I feel I already spent all my youth in pain. You're young only for so short. And the world is so hard on transgender people. Whatever we did to it to deserve it.
Chaseypoo what size are your ears? Also thank you for the video, it was very much needed rn
Bro, your Videos are beast!
I am an 18 year old FtM, and I am stuck with not being able to Transition. I can't get T, I don't have a Binder and don't pass. 😝
I watch your Videos a lot and they really inspire me. You are a role model for me!!!!!
you are the cutest and funniest person I watch on here!
If it's access problems, try to find a doc that does informed consent. If it's a financial issue, I'm sorry but I can't really help. 😓
This really helped me cause I'm 18 and I'm still waiting for my first gender therapy meeting because I'm so low on money and my dysphoria is just horrible ..
"I had a friend who came out then got top surgery two months later and I was like: I WISH I WAS YOU"
That me.
thank you for this. I needed this. a lot. your channel inspires my own. you're my favorite trans TH-camr.
Been waiting 5 years for T but now it's only 5 weeks away, once the time comes it feels amazing
lmao i was always Jordan so luckily i didnt have to change it :p
Your videos are so helpful hon thank you for giving another waiter the courage to go on
Posted this to my blog, thank you for the video, its so good.... your videos have helped me so much and made me realize that life is going to be ok despite the wait, hah.
I waited six years before my family could afford to send me to a professional to diagnose my dysphoria. Only got it diagnosed a few months ago. Waiting list for a psychiatrist who I hope will get me on T was so long they had to place my appointment at the end of August... almost there. But it's really disheartening to see trans people that are younger than me and managed to get that treatment I'd do anything for.
I've been so desperate that I've just gotten up and walked outside the house crying and hoping somebody would see me, stop, ask me what was wrong, and be able to take me to see someone. Of course, no such thing ever happened, that doesn't happen in real life. My town is so small it doesn't even have ANY sort of medical facility but if it did I would have already walked to it and begged at the door. My depression is bad and my dysphoria is problem number one.
Chase you are awesome and I love you're advice! As a fellow man having years until I'm able to transition it just fucking sucks and I just want to cry all the damn time. But I like the idea of looking towards the future and have been doing so lately. Dysphoria is a bitch and I wish it would just fall of the face of the Earth!!!!!!!
I love your videos so much chase!
I'm waiting to get a good therapist since there are literally zero in my area and it sucks.
Literally me rn
Thanks Chase x
I'm seriously listening to your videos while making a Google Slides presentation about transgender people for my AP Psychology class (we chose our own final projects). I mostly wanted to do this topic bc I'm FTM and feel like while I live in a really progressive part of the USA my peers still have a lot to learn.
I turn 18 in December, and I'd probably cry if I were able to start T. I still probably will when I finally get to start.
I have to wait right now too :/
I came out 11 months ago (I am 15) and for a few months my family didn't do anything to help me, they just waited for me to be female again -.-
In February or March i went to my first therapist appointment, but the therapist doesn't take me seriously and won't diagnose me because
1. I have Asperger's and don't enjoy being around other people, so, in my therapist's eyes i can't live my male identity properly
2. I didn't always know and when I was a kid i used to wear dresses because they were comfortable
The therapist makes me feel like I am doing stuff wrong and she won't give me a T letter even though i literally suffer all the time because of dysphoria.
So i am waiting fir my first appointment at another therapist now. The appointment is in 6 weeks and this therapist usually only takes adults into his therapy so he is likely to send me away abd let me have another waiting time for a third therapist that's for kids and probably just as shitty as my current therapist.
I really want to go on hormones, i don't want to cry everytime i see myself in the mirror (or even my damn shadow on the wall).
Waiting and all the endless doctor's appointments are so frustrating, even though it's getting somewhere for me now. Just knowing that I have to go through all that shit and cis people don't seems unfair. But I'm optimistic and think that I've learned a lot and can appreciate things other people take for granted. I'm even a bit scared of what will happen if I don't have something to wait for anymore...
so i been dying to get some information about this topic and cant seem to find any. tattoos. i have a shoulder blade tattoo and want to get a wrist tattoo. will i have to worry about them being deformed during transition?
Yeah, I've been waiting a while too (unsupportive dad). It sucks to see people who found out when they were older get T and top surgery before I do... I get so jealous.
i started T in November and I was taken off of it(for reasons I will not disclose) in December. I've been waiting to get back on it for four months and it's terrible. thankfully, I'm probably going back on in April. I just am so anxious about not being able to go back on T and it's stressing me about a lot
I'm 18 and I live with my gf parents and I want too start T but idk how or what insurance to get since I'm so young
Im trans and seeing a therapist. but my parents don't know thats bcuz im trans. (I could lie u know) and my therapist said I should live 2 years as my desired gender before I start hormone therapy or any medication
That is fucked up.
i went to my gp 3/4 months ago to be referred and apparently i won't have my first appointment til like mid next year, maybe later, it sucks, i just want T, im so uncomfortable with my body
Waiting's fucking horrible, it really is.
Also, pink looks really good on you!
I have decided to wait to leave secondary school at 16 to transition. I have to wait because I experience severe bullying at school any way so coming out wouldn't be a good idea. Having to wear a bra at school instead of a binder and be constantly misgendered is so hard. I have 2 more years of this. Dose anyone have any tips to get through all of this?
also, here in Australia, we have to get top surgery privately and we have to pay for it. as bad as I want it, there is no hope in the near future for me.
I have to wait 5 years until I get to do anything. I am the most impatient person on the planet, so this SUCKS
honestly, I am so scared I won't be able to start T for a few years, or even until I'm 18. 😶
I'll be turning 18 in June and will start saving up for therapy to get my letter so i can start T (if i can even get a job lol). hopefully I'll be able to start either when I'm in college this fall or by the time summer of 2018. I've known before i even realized I was transgender that i wanted a flat chest so that's defiantly on my list too. idek when that'll happen though :(
The feels are strong with this one. I was JUST put on a waiting list to see a psychso I can get the ok to start working towards being put on T....I mean YAY but god knows how long it'll take. They promised no results and suggested I go private but like...noooo, I am flat broke, this is my last and only option. I get really impatient..like I waited THIS long to start living as ME for ME and now it feels like my life is completely paused. I wish I had a great group of trans* friends but the only other trans* person I know is my boyfriend and while he is great to talk to and has great insight I wish I had others to talk with too.... *sighs*
amazing video
This video is so important ;)
Thanks this helped
I'm 17 and I've been out for 4 years now. I'm sitting here crying because I'm dysphoric as hell and i... don't know if I can wait to transition. I already struggle with mental health but dysphoria is making my depression and anxiety 1000× worse. I feel so wrong in my body and I just want to feel a connection to my outer self for once. To not think 'is that really me?' When I look in the mirror. I want to be happy so badly and I'm terrified that if I don't get to transition soon this dysphoria is going to kill me.
uppercasechase im 16 AND i hate how i Look as a female i have been wanting to tell my mum BUT i am so fearful do you happen to have any personal advice??
I'm genderfluid, but male most of the time and I really want to get top surgery, but I dont want to take T cause I'm a singer and that would be bad for my voice. But I'm scared I wont pass then.
I know this reply is late but T doesn't fuck up your singing voice. I'm a trans theatre actor and as long as you sing regularly while your voice gradually drops you adjust to the tone change and you can sing just as well, just deeper.
Could you talk some more about waiting for yourself, I guess that's what you could call it. Like when you postponed your top surgery and it wasn't about other people or a bad health system stopping you, but you made yourself wait because you felt like you weren't ready. Because that's where I'm with hormones right now and it still sucks to wait, but at the same time I feel like it's the right thing tk do. And then of course there is pressure to be 100% sure about this and do it as fast as you can. It's just not a good place to be in and definitley brings up a whole mix of emotions.
How do I start transitioning?
If there is a video for it, please tag it.
This is one of the only places where I feel comfortable enough to ask for advice. My doctor told me a few days ago that I have high testosterone levels which means that I'll have to take estrogen to balance them out. Being pre-everything and having unsupportive parents, I don't know what to do. I know that I need to take estrogen in order to eventually take testosterone but I don't think that my dysphoria will allow me to. Just knowing that I have extra testosterone in my body makes me happy because I hate the fact that I was assigned female at birth. I've known about this for about three days and I've been stressed and depressed every since. I don't know if I should take or refuse estrogen. Either way it could hurt me in the long run but I'm so afraid of losing my trans identity. It took me so long to gain the confidence to call myself a guy and use male pronouns when referring to myself and I'd hate to know that it was all for nothing. My doctor also said that this could be a direct link to why I am trans. I just want to be myself and not have a stupid hormonal imbalance. I've been beating myself up over this because I just want to figure this all out now and not have to wait for a final result. I'm not sure if I can deal with all of this stress and depression anymore.
You're right--! This *sounds* just about as implausible as anything I've ever heard, and I hope you don't get derailed through following what turns-out to be false-advice.
I really hope that someone who really knows the correct answer here posts it before it's too late and you find out the hard way, one way or the other.
I hope you can bear with whatever difference between what I wrote here and anywhere else. This problem is both tough and urgent, and a person's answers thus are liable to change at least somewhat.
Man I hate waiting, I finally got some paperwork I needed and now my doctor has no reason to not give me T.
I knew I was trans since I was 17. Denial phase + "am I being misogynistic?" until last year (I was 20). Now I'm 21 and finally telling others and taking medical care to transition.
Your channel and Jamie Dodger's are the most relatable out there. You are truly inspiring. Thank you, Chase!
This is a good video... and there's cats in the background..
Yeah waiting just sucks. I am poor, don't have insurance. and I have a lot of other ducks I have to get in a row first before I can think about it. like a good steady job. ..but it sucks. and I'm middle-aged. and depressed that it feels like transitioning might be a pipe dream. unless I can get a good job with good insurance.
Please please please can we talk?
Top surgery is the 16 th of April and waiting for it is so hard. The longer it is the worse my dsyphoria.
I found out i was trans 7years ago and i was sacred ill get kicked out because i lived with my uncle. I'm 18 now and have my own place i justgot done writing my coming out letter to my mom. Ive been so close to giving it to her but i keep getting cold feet.
I'm playing the waiting game right now 😔 I'm pre-everything even social transition. I just be myself at home (presenting male) and when I leave the house I present as female. That's like the only way I'm keeping my sanity, since dysphoria is off the wall crazy right now. But I know right now is not the best time to come out and everything to other people. (Nearing the end of my second pregnancy, my moms mental health is fragile and I don't wanna stress her out right now) so until then I'm keeping it to myself.
I also have issues waiting even though Im on T. waiting for the changes was worse than waiting for Testosterone In general. imo
I have a question- is there a video of case named "How I knew I was trans" or about his coming out?! I didn't find any of these on his channel...I'm just so curious about it :) (Because it seems to me, that most of his videos are more of an advisory for trans people but not as much of his personal transhistory... There are other FTM-youtubers who have more personal videos...But maybe I'm only to new on his channel so if I'm mistaken pls correct me!)
I know for certain that I'm trans and I want to come out but i know that since I'm only 15 people will question me and be like are you sure? I don't know how to deal with that
Just know what you want, and be informed. It doesn't always goes as planned and they may need a lot of time to understand it. Just understand their side but be confident on what you want. I am 15 as well and I came out at 13 (as transgender being informed, because I came out at 6 as "I want to be a boy") and let me tell th
You that also being not misgendered or taken seriously is also waiting, loads of waiting sometimes. Have been there twice. Just be sure their response wouldn't be dangerous for you. If you think you are safe and their love is unconditional, they'll try their best, even if sometimes they are wrong by wanting to do the "right" thing for you. Hope it makes sense and the best of luck! ;)
I knew I was trans for almost 2 years before I came out to my friends and family. I knew people wouldn't understand me or take me seriously so I kept it inside until I felt safe to talk about it openly. I got comfortable with my gender the more I hungout with and had friends that were lgbt. I'm only 17, but things have gotten better already, there's things I wouldn't change even though it sucked when I was going through it. Waiting is hard, and it's easy to say "it's worth it and it gets better", but somethings just happen on their own time and it does get better and it was all worth it.
Guys if any transguys out there need a good method to stop their periods i know this sounds stupid but it works trust me and it will help u grow taller if you're still young because it increases growth hormone - do intermittent fasting - fast (but drink water) for about 14-21 hours a day so say 3pm to 9am and only eat your daily calories in that window then your oestrogen will drop severely as your body goes into survival mode and you will halt your "feminine features" from .... going... idk but it works trust me i do it it's good. Just for anyone out there who wants to know how to lower their oestrogen. Research it on google if you don't believe me.
I would really like to know a method for that if your over 18. but I guess it isn't possible
I get on the waiting list in 4 years and it is currently 6 years long just for t
So I just got told today that I would have to wait to transition now I want to prefice this by saying I know I'm lucky to be able to transition at all. So back to complaining so I right now have a blocker in and for some reason it didn't stop my growth so my doctor who is one of the best trans doctors in my area told me I had to wait until 2020 to start T. That was literally in the realm of getting T the worst case scenario I could live with for me to be able to get T. UGHHHH
I was promised by my therapist that I would be able to start T in like a week then I was told I would have to wait wayyyyy longer. But in the end I'll get through it. And am I the only one who doesn't like talking to people? Like not even other trans* or therapist and counselors?
Are you waiting for treatment on your national health service?
I'm about to enter the gender-identity-whatever type system in the United Kingdom. I try to keep busy too... I'm lucky in that I work full time and study. It must be harder for people who don't/can't.
Hope it all goes well for you.
I'm now waiting for being diagnosed with gender dysphoria. When that happens I can hopefully start T. The bad thing is that it takes so fucking long in my country. I have to do at least 6 tests/sessions for it but the time between those sessions is 6 months per session. It's so shitty and I fucking hate it. I'm now taking DHEA pills but I'm scared it will fuck up my health. Also doing everything I can by exercising a shit lot and by eating proteins ans testosterone boosting foods but it's just a lot of pressure from myself and all that.
The only thing holding me back is fear . Fear of what the people I know will say .. :(
I'm only 13 :(
This is so painful
Black Star I feel you, buddy. I'm 14.
I don’t get to start socially transitioning at school and with rest of my family until summer of 2020
I'm waiting right now, and its probably the Hardest thing I've ever done.
When I was in high school I met this other Trans guy and we became friends and we'd literally get together and just rant about being trans and all the shit we have to go through in order to start physically transitioning
I just got diagnose 3 day's ago now im waiting to go on T
still waiting to go on T :( Im being on the waiting list for a year now
I'm afraid of how my dad will respond. I haven't told him yet, but I want to because if I have to deal with such low testosterone levels and being called a girl much longer, I'm going to snap. I'm tearing up writing this. It hurts so much. I hate being dramatic, but I really need this. My dad says he's fine with the LGBT community, but he doesn't seem okay with trans people and he also seems to think that being any sexuality aside from straight is a phase.
I am ' in the middle of the begging' that part where you have 'come out' to your 'essentials' (how many times cane i use '..'.. and the most important person my wife is behind me. Being in the Uk , I went to our Gp for a referral for a Gender .Identity.Clinic (Because they have scans now that will penetrate my brain and figure out the depths of my transnesssss) or being 'non-binary' I will either have to lie and say 'me man, me want it all,ugg' or risk getting nothing. Having Dissociative identity disorder is another tick on the 'mental' box they don't score you on ;') ..lol or there is saving and waiting and flying to the land of informed consent that only required one letter not two! guess the waiting never ends for everyone as this video was done last year and 130 comments later...everyone is still waiting some how!
10 years for a free surgery? Sounds fine to me, probably take me that long to save up that extra cash .
I knew I was trans at 14 (had wicked bad dysphoria even before that but I didn't have the words for it) it was 10 years before I was able to come out, and it will be another 4 years since then when I finally have top surgery. The idea of having any medical care without paying for it is literally a foreign concept to me. Everything is out of pocket, and I have to take a bus for 20 hours, to another country, to even see a surgeon I can afford. Just venting, sorry. I've been waiting half my life for this.
I need your cat wall
I'm not even fucking out yet I'm so nervous
why did you wait such a long time on other people? like is it just your area is highly populated, so there are more people waiting?
tacoburger5 i also want to know about what you did in PE if you had bad chest dysphoria. binders restrict breathing so im worried about next year in PE if i pass out or hurt my self breathing too hard. so please make a video about that even though i saw your video on ftm running.
tacoburger5 my understanding (as a non-canadian, keep in mind) is that because everyone is on public insurance, everyone is technically able to get top surgery. but that also means that everyone is on the same waiting list-a waiting list with very few doctors and very few openings in their schedules (thus, why someone might have to wait 8 years, unless they go the states and pay out of pocket).
tacoburger5 also RE: PE, see if you can get out of PE. like a doctor's note or something. if not, sports bras, or, if neither of those is an option, just do a shitty job in PE. i don't know what it's like at your school, but at my school i sat in the bleachers the whole time and still passed.
Dollar Store Coffee thanks for the info. at my school (Maine) we are focusing on personalized learning so i have the choice to sit out and learn more about nutrition and such. i might do that but my family is pushing to be normal and take normal PE
tacoburger5 I would do the nutrition option if I were you. Honestly, looking at it from a non-trans point of view, the nutrition info will probably help you out more than playing kickball for 45 minutes once a day. And from a trans point of view, well, you're already trans. You kind of kissed "normal" good bye at the door haha.
Family pressure is real, and it sucks, but in the long run it's better than passing out because you were running in a binder.
I discovered my non-binary gender over a year ago, and recently I was finally able to purchase a binder! Now I'm just waiting for the package to come... it's agonizing.
I have to wait for T for at least 7 months probably more and it sucks so I feel all of you guys in the comments haha
Meanwhile starving children in America.
I don't know why I'm watching this..I'm gender fluent. .not trans..... lol, he is handsome thought. .
Where the Montreal trans friends at? I'm lonely
Sorry i sound stupid but do trans men have ovaries???