I am done with trying to get my ex back. Now I am working on myself. I am a great catch. Next time I won't put their needs over my needs. Thanks Coach Craig.
What Craig said early in the video was on point. His suspicions were accurate, but he was suppressing his instincts in order to feel safe in his relationship with a person that can kill him, physically- by std, emotionally and spiritually. Take a deep breath and move on with your life.
I think I'm done as well, 2 reasons: firstly he does not seem able to have mature relationships where you're a team not just waiting for the other person to trip up so you can flee a trap - he's avoidant And at this stage after 5 months of NC if he came back as he was then I'll have outgrown him. I'm not sure I'm ready to date seriously yet but even strangers can see I'm an amazing woman who deserves to be valued and respected, I think my ex stopped seeing that so I'll never reach out. Thank you Craig, Margaret and Victoria this has been the most transformative journey of my life and with every video I have both soothed my anxiety and learnt more about what an adult mature and emotionally supportive relationship is. I will continue to watch because I want to continue to grow with or without my ex in my life
Interestingly my ex reached out 2 months after I wrote this asking how I was/information gathering, I shut it down as it was breadcrumbing. I felt strong for reinforcing that boundary that I only want people who want to be in my life there, but it has spiked my anxiety about him. I'm coming round to moving on again though
Craig I can't thank you enough for your videos. Through and and Margaret I learned so much about my anxious attachment style and now I know why I always have had and still have a really difficult time to move on... It's been 6.5 months past breakup and I watch your videos every day. Not so much because I have much hope that he'd come back but your insight and your voice always soothes my anxiety ❤️
It’s been 6 months. I’m constantly doing the work I need to do to be better and if she can’t see my worth, that’s her loss. I’ve been nothing but amazing to her. I’ve tried to give her the time and space and she isn’t willing to put the work in. It’s a shame after 5 years together and an engagement that she can’t see a future with me but that’s no longer my concern.
Think I'll stay single. 38 yrs old was single for 4 yrs then decided to date. Should've known better. True unconditional love is non existent between two people. I truly believe the closest one will get to this love is from a dog or parent
I guess she needs to see a therapist. She is cheating for fun , He deserves better faithful woman. May Allah give him strength and bring peace in his heart and soul
I want to move on, accepted we’ll never get back but damn i’m still so hurt and sad over it - it’s been 2 months and a rollercoaster of emotions. I don’t know when this sadness and pain will ever end
You know.. I gotta say, my ex an I broke up 2 months ago because I was insecure about this one guy she worked with because of their history.. they were still friends at work but figured during the relationship it was disrespectful what she was doing and what she was letting happen that made me extremely uncomfortable.. so I couldn't trust her with him or rather trust him at all.. so I had a gut feeling that she did something during the relationship and I did something to cause us to break up.. I was so heart broken, couldn't eat or sleep right for 2 months.. a month later after our breakup, I find out from a mutual friend that she's going out with this fucking guy and how everyone at her job is extremely disappointed in her because she downgraded.. idk wtf went through her mind but she just proved to me that I cant trust her.. and now I deleted the pics and blocked her from my life, make her regret because I'm a great fucking catch.. so it proved me that I was right all along if she was able to move on literally a fucking week from our break up after an entire year and 4 months.. how can anyone do that!? I gave her my all smfh..
:( so sad that she did that to him, something tells me she's gonna try and get him back....but she needs to change big time!!! He does deserve better though, I hope everything work out for him in the end. :(
It's been a year and I still can't move on. I miss him and I don't understand his decision. I changed since the breakup and I don't understand why he won't give me a seconde chance :( I'm better but I can't forgive myself for my mistakes and I can't forgive him for not trying. I feel like I'm stucked.
Go to therapy, Lea. You deserve better. It's been a while, you should have moved on already. Seriously, invest in therapy. It's an investment in yourself. After so long, it's not about him anymore... there's something underneath that you need to address. Wish you the best.
What happens is that it's difficult trust those kind of persons because of negative emotions which occured on the way. In my opinion it was a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships should be ended to evolve.
It's not a choice dude I'm 17 months in if I could have decided to move on and feel better than this I would have done it 17 months ago. I've been doing absolutely everything I can I've been through several therapists, I've done a video session with Victoria and two with you as well as send email session call I tried acupuncture the workbook as well as other workbooks call me the gym, diet, literally nothing has changed it and I still haven't heard back from her. I'm tired of everybody thinking that people feel this way by choice you don't move on or not move on by choice nobody in their right mind would deliberately choose to feel this way
Through my experience I can say that...a girl can cheat u..and can make a extremely wonderful excuses and act cute to you...and sometimes put all the blame on his man
This case is interesting as we are told that a man not supposed to be jealous or having suspicion that your partner might be cheating is a sign of insecurity. So where is the fine line between healthy suspicion and unhealthy insecure exaggeration?
I appreciate ,and learn more thank u so much Craig ..u help me to heal ..thank u I'm so much depressed.two days ago ...until I decided to search this topic.im so glad and wake up.god blessed u
When a man loves a girl,he can forgive her with all those flaws and even after getting cheated..but he just demands a loyalty for the next time and with no lies
Forgive but definitely forget the cheater and WALK AWAY !! I man must maintain his frame Dignity and self respect. Manup guys and Never be so weak and needy that you make excuses why your wife or girlfriend cheated on you and you enable her bad behavior....NEVER !!!! There's way too many decent , loyal women available out there Zero tolerance on that one A definite deal breaker !!!
What shame on that woman. Cheating is the ultimate sin. It literally obliterates the relationship and the purpose of the relationship, which is marriage and family. If the cheating is done in marriage, that is a huge sin because the man and woman gave an oath, with God present. Who cheats is in a world bound for big trouble and pain throughout.
Hi Craig, I married my wife 12 yrs, we have a daughter 5yrs old. I am 47, she is 30. My wife walk off the house 14 months now. She commits herself to work very hard as personals assistant to a man 56 years old with 4 kids who is a CEO for a company ( Not sure he is a single father ). They basically be together, go overseas often, they sleep in the same house ( her mum house ) about 30 times, and recently I see them rent a villa and stay together for 10 nights so far leaving my daughter at her mother house with a care giver. She tell me, every body that she isn't having sex affair with CEO just helping him works. Please help what's going on ? I am still thinking she might just make me jealous I don't believe the man is worth for her she's a smart woman.
Eanghuor Hak I'm so sorry to hear that. For me that doesn't sound true. Off course she is not going to admit that easily but I don't buy it... How are you now?
I suspect she was behaving as she was to make the relationship so intolerable that he would have no choice but to end things. She clearly doesn’t respect him and he will never be able to trust her.
Hayley Marshall I totally understand, I've a little better, keeping myself busy, and I didn't see her for few weeks, until today after I got my kids,her mom was the one meeting me, and to be honest that little thing inside got me, and I think she noticed that, because I wasn't as confident as last times, I don't even know why I got like that. so it's 3am and well just sitting here alone, thinking about what if? and believe me she has gave me no signs of missing me at all. so yeah it sucks .
Emilio Hernandez after I wrote this I went to my husbands apartment he said he was tired of it all ( I've become increasingly anxious and over text) and that he wanted a divorce.. I couldn't let go I begged and cried like a child so now we are back in limbo .. I do t know how I will ever let this go 😭
Hayley Marshall I'm sorry 😞 but now thinking back when I was with my other ex years it took me a little over a year to get over her, so like coach says every break up is different. I'm at 7 months and I think I still have some time until I'm completely over her, and what happened yesterday said a lot about it. honestly I feel like if we didn't have kids it would be a little easier because then I wouldn't have to see her.
I have a case i would like some advice on i have a girlfriend 40 i am 52 she has 3 children she used to be married for 12 years ,her marriage broke up she told me because her and her ex had agreed to an open marriage suggested by him . she reached out to her high school ex and they had a rekindled relationship which ended her marriage . In her own words she told me she started dating like crazy we met online exchanged mails twice but never met until one day we bumped into each other at place i normally hang out she was there promoting a speed dating event she recognised me and invited me , at the event she was not available so i match another girl who turned out to match me also this girl knew her a friend of some sort , she was the one who told me the results and suggested we can not see each other i accepted . I attended a community meeting she chaired weekly this was just days after the dating results she texted me the following day saying she just can not get pass the idea of wanting me sigh i some how decided to talk to her by this time the other girl who i spoke to once did not call back ( she later told me she like to be pursued ) my girlfriend asked me one night to help her put her place together as her family was coming to visit we end up having sex . we started dating after 3 weeks she said she would like this to be exclusive naively i agreed soon after i realised that her and her ex were in a movement together and have meetings often on the phone , she stays at my place every other week when he has the kids one evening she text me saying she has a long meeting from 6 to 11;30 i ask where she said at her ex place her another girl and him i objected but she went along that night when she came home we almost have a fight . They often travelled together alone for meetings he had an accident recently and she have him stayed at her house that night and told me in the morning i did all i could for this woman cooked for her , fixed up her house , her car , right now i loan her my car as i typed she has thousands of friends one day i posted a picture of her on FB and tagged in it to date she has not accepted the tag . I took her to an island for her 40 birth date and to date not one picture posted of our visit she remarked so much time how she won the man lottery but i think she squander it , i reach out to the girl recently just to see how she was doing the girl didnt know me and her friend were dating so it happened my girlfriend text the girl to invite her to another event the irl text her back and said she was reconnect with me and i was a good guy she got mad decided to end the relationship on the grounds that i was looking to cheat with her friend , after a year of dating all i can say is she being a company we had nice dance times her eldest don,t have no respect for me she cook and offer me maybe 4 times did laundry twice help me clean up my place twice . My ex never removed her online profile , two weeks ago i was told by a friend that he saw her online i signed up and search in my zip code and she was there a week after i check she was on that same weekend she was leaving with her ex and kids and a friend to Florida i asked her if she how long ago has she being on the dating site she said she has not been on the site i said how its showing you on there she said asked the site . so i made up my profile went on the site sent a few mails to some women leave my computer open because i know she has being checking my stuff she found out and left my place . she still texting and trying but i am not buying it . any advice ??? sorry its long one
YES I AM SURE SHE WAS AND IS THROUGH HIS EYES BUT SADLY SHE WILL NEVER KNOW HOW SPECIAL SHE WAS TO HIM . SELFISH COW. THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO MY MARRIAGE TOO, LOVE MY WIFE NO MATTER WHAT AND AT GREAT PRICE AND SACRIFICE TO MY INNER SELF
Craig, please do more videos about when to move on in situations that aren't this extreme. Obviously you have to leave when there's cheating and abuse, but what about other problems? Like growing apart and realizing you're not compatible anymore? Having completed mismatched love languages, political beliefs, sex drives, etc.
I am done with trying to get my ex back. Now I am working on myself. I am a great catch. Next time I won't put their needs over my needs. Thanks Coach Craig.
@@zyairewinston4035 Hmmm... interesting.
Yes you are a great catch!!! ❤️
Cheaters SUCK!!! Cut your losses and run like hell . You deserve better . Never settle for a cheater. Great Vid Craig , great advice ...
The best is to escape from any kind of chronical cheaters.☺
Gd right,,, cheaters shouldn't get 2nd chances ...
What Craig said early in the video was on point. His suspicions were accurate, but he was suppressing his instincts in order to feel safe in his relationship with a person that can kill him, physically- by std, emotionally and spiritually. Take a deep breath and move on with your life.
It was a toxic relationship.
I think I'm done as well, 2 reasons: firstly he does not seem able to have mature relationships where you're a team not just waiting for the other person to trip up so you can flee a trap - he's avoidant
And at this stage after 5 months of NC if he came back as he was then I'll have outgrown him. I'm not sure I'm ready to date seriously yet but even strangers can see I'm an amazing woman who deserves to be valued and respected, I think my ex stopped seeing that so I'll never reach out.
Thank you Craig, Margaret and Victoria this has been the most transformative journey of my life and with every video I have both soothed my anxiety and learnt more about what an adult mature and emotionally supportive relationship is. I will continue to watch because I want to continue to grow with or without my ex in my life
Interestingly my ex reached out 2 months after I wrote this asking how I was/information gathering, I shut it down as it was breadcrumbing. I felt strong for reinforcing that boundary that I only want people who want to be in my life there, but it has spiked my anxiety about him. I'm coming round to moving on again though
Craig I can't thank you enough for your videos. Through and and Margaret I learned so much about my anxious attachment style and now I know why I always have had and still have a really difficult time to move on... It's been 6.5 months past breakup and I watch your videos every day. Not so much because I have much hope that he'd come back but your insight and your voice always soothes my anxiety ❤️
It’s been 6 months. I’m constantly doing the work I need to do to be better and if she can’t see my worth, that’s her loss. I’ve been nothing but amazing to her. I’ve tried to give her the time and space and she isn’t willing to put the work in. It’s a shame after 5 years together and an engagement that she can’t see a future with me but that’s no longer my concern.
Think I'll stay single. 38 yrs old was single for 4 yrs then decided to date. Should've known better. True unconditional love is non existent between two people. I truly believe the closest one will get to this love is from a dog or parent
I guess she needs to see a therapist. She is cheating for fun , He deserves better faithful woman. May Allah give him strength and bring peace in his heart and soul
"She belongs to the streets!" -- Future
I want to move on, accepted we’ll never get back but damn i’m still so hurt and sad over it - it’s been 2 months and a rollercoaster of emotions. I don’t know when this sadness and pain will ever end
It will , in time 2 months for me she officially ended it, and move on with another girl, Time to move on for me
You know.. I gotta say, my ex an I broke up 2 months ago because I was insecure about this one guy she worked with because of their history.. they were still friends at work but figured during the relationship it was disrespectful what she was doing and what she was letting happen that made me extremely uncomfortable.. so I couldn't trust her with him or rather trust him at all.. so I had a gut feeling that she did something during the relationship and I did something to cause us to break up.. I was so heart broken, couldn't eat or sleep right for 2 months.. a month later after our breakup, I find out from a mutual friend that she's going out with this fucking guy and how everyone at her job is extremely disappointed in her because she downgraded.. idk wtf went through her mind but she just proved to me that I cant trust her.. and now I deleted the pics and blocked her from my life, make her regret because I'm a great fucking catch.. so it proved me that I was right all along if she was able to move on literally a fucking week from our break up after an entire year and 4 months.. how can anyone do that!? I gave her my all smfh..
I went through something similar.. I would have guessed she came back right? or nah?
Hi hate to say this but that poor man dodged a huge bullet. He will find the right “one”.
Craig should be a match maker!!! Help the good people find other good people lol
I think I'll just stay single and celibate.
Thats sad that you feel you can't find true love. Its out there just be careful.
Avoidant detected
:( so sad that she did that to him, something tells me she's gonna try and get him back....but she needs to change big time!!! He does deserve better though, I hope everything work out for him in the end. :(
This situation really struck a cord with me. Amazing how we all go through stuff.
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE
praying for you buddy.
This is a great video Craig. I have to come back to it occasionally to remind myself of the truth.
Walk away from that nightmare
Liars Lie...
Cheaters cheat
Bye bye....
Adios..
Sayonara ...
Arivaderchi....
See yaaaaaaaah 🙋♂️👋👋👋👋
It's been a year and I still can't move on. I miss him and I don't understand his decision. I changed since the breakup and I don't understand why he won't give me a seconde chance :( I'm better but I can't forgive myself for my mistakes and I can't forgive him for not trying. I feel like I'm stucked.
Go to therapy, Lea. You deserve better. It's been a while, you should have moved on already. Seriously, invest in therapy. It's an investment in yourself. After so long, it's not about him anymore... there's something underneath that you need to address. Wish you the best.
I’m just the same.
What happens is that it's difficult trust those kind of persons because of negative emotions which occured on the way. In my opinion it was a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships should be ended to evolve.
I see SOOO Many men who pick the unavailable woman. 😔
Some men think with their genitals.
It's not a choice dude I'm 17 months in if I could have decided to move on and feel better than this I would have done it 17 months ago. I've been doing absolutely everything I can I've been through several therapists, I've done a video session with Victoria and two with you as well as send email session call I tried acupuncture the workbook as well as other workbooks call me the gym, diet, literally nothing has changed it and I still haven't heard back from her. I'm tired of everybody thinking that people feel this way by choice you don't move on or not move on by choice nobody in their right mind would deliberately choose to feel this way
Through my experience I can say that...a girl can cheat u..and can make a extremely wonderful excuses and act cute to you...and sometimes put all the blame on his man
We're attracting what we are. It's about our mindset.
Lol what?
Thats dumb.
This case is interesting as we are told that a man not supposed to be jealous or having suspicion that your partner might be cheating is a sign of insecurity. So where is the fine line between healthy suspicion and unhealthy insecure exaggeration?
I appreciate ,and learn more thank u so much Craig ..u help me to heal ..thank u I'm so much depressed.two days ago ...until I decided to search this topic.im so glad and wake up.god blessed u
Why are people so mean... 😔 I wish karma were instant.
Cheating is the ultimate selfish act.
When a man loves a girl,he can forgive her with all those flaws and even after getting cheated..but he just demands a loyalty for the next time and with no lies
Forgive but definitely forget the cheater and WALK AWAY !!
I man must maintain his frame
Dignity and self respect.
Manup guys and Never be so weak and needy that you make excuses why your wife or girlfriend cheated on you and you enable her bad behavior....NEVER !!!!
There's way too many decent , loyal women available out there
Zero tolerance on that one
A definite deal breaker !!!
coach you were on fire this episode I couldnt breathe xD
What shame on that woman. Cheating is the ultimate sin. It literally obliterates the relationship and the purpose of the relationship, which is marriage and family. If the cheating is done in marriage, that is a huge sin because the man and woman gave an oath, with God present. Who cheats is in a world bound for big trouble and pain throughout.
Hi Craig, I married my wife 12 yrs, we have a daughter 5yrs old. I am 47, she is 30. My wife walk off the house 14 months now. She commits herself to work very hard as personals assistant to a man 56 years old with 4 kids who is a CEO for a company ( Not sure he is a single father ). They basically be together, go overseas often, they sleep in the same house ( her mum house ) about 30 times, and recently I see them rent a villa and stay together for 10 nights so far leaving my daughter at her mother house with a care giver. She tell me, every body that she isn't having sex affair with CEO just helping him works.
Please help what's going on ? I am still thinking she might just make me jealous I don't believe the man is worth for her she's a smart woman.
Eanghuor Hak I'm so sorry to hear that. For me that doesn't sound true. Off course she is not going to admit that easily but I don't buy it... How are you now?
RUN!
She is lying
I suspect she was behaving as she was to make the relationship so intolerable that he would have no choice but to end things. She clearly doesn’t respect him and he will never be able to trust her.
Listening to this hurts.
When its time to move on.. Cheating yeah 100% 180° in other direction
5 months and still haven't moved on, is that normal?
Emilio Hernandez I'm at 14 months so t feel bad I'm still clinging on to nothing
Hayley Marshall I totally understand, I've a little better, keeping myself busy, and I didn't see her for few weeks, until today after I got my kids,her mom was the one meeting me, and to be honest that little thing inside got me, and I think she noticed that, because I wasn't as confident as last times, I don't even know why I got like that. so it's 3am and well just sitting here alone, thinking about what if? and believe me she has gave me no signs of missing me at all. so yeah it sucks .
Emilio Hernandez after I wrote this I went to my husbands apartment he said he was tired of it all ( I've become increasingly anxious and over text) and that he wanted a divorce.. I couldn't let go I begged and cried like a child so now we are back in limbo .. I do t know how I will ever let this go 😭
Hayley Marshall I'm sorry 😞 but now thinking back when I was with my other ex years it took me a little over a year to get over her, so like coach says every break up is different. I'm at 7 months and I think I still have some time until I'm completely over her, and what happened yesterday said a lot about it. honestly I feel like if we didn't have kids it would be a little easier because then I wouldn't have to see her.
Emilio Hernandez I'm sorry at least we all know we are not alone
You sound very sad here, Craig.
awesome video thank you
Wow did this one hit home!!!!
I have a case i would like some advice on i have a girlfriend 40 i am 52 she has 3 children she used to be married for 12 years ,her marriage broke up she told me because her and her ex had agreed to an open marriage suggested by him .
she reached out to her high school ex and they had a rekindled relationship which ended her marriage .
In her own words she told me she started dating like crazy we met online exchanged mails twice but never met until one day we bumped into each other at place i normally hang out she was there promoting a speed dating event she recognised me and invited me , at the event she was not available so i match another girl who turned out to match me also this girl knew her a friend of some sort , she was the one who told me the results and suggested we can not see each other i accepted .
I attended a community meeting she chaired weekly this was just days after the dating results she texted me the following day saying she just can not get pass the idea of wanting me sigh i some how decided to talk to her by this time the other girl who i spoke to once did not call back ( she later told me she like to be pursued ) my girlfriend asked me one night to help her put her place together as her family was coming to visit we end up having sex .
we started dating after 3 weeks she said she would like this to be exclusive naively i agreed soon after i realised that her and her ex were in a movement together and have meetings often on the phone , she stays at my place every other week when he has the kids one evening she text me saying she has a long meeting from 6 to 11;30 i ask where she said at her ex place her another girl and him i objected but she went along that night when she came home we almost have a fight .
They often travelled together alone for meetings he had an accident recently and she have him stayed at her house that night and told me in the morning i did all i could for this woman cooked for her , fixed up her house , her car , right now i loan her my car as i typed she has thousands of friends one day i posted a picture of her on FB and tagged in it to date she has not accepted the tag .
I took her to an island for her 40 birth date and to date not one picture posted of our visit she remarked so much time how she won the man lottery but i think she squander it , i reach out to the girl recently just to see how she was doing the girl didnt know me and her friend were dating so it happened my girlfriend text the girl to invite her to another event the irl text her back and said she was reconnect with me and i was a good guy she got mad decided to end the relationship on the grounds that i was looking to cheat with her friend ,
after a year of dating all i can say is she being a company we had nice dance times her eldest don,t have no respect for me she cook and offer me maybe 4 times did laundry twice help me clean up my place twice .
My ex never removed her online profile , two weeks ago i was told by a friend that he saw her online i signed up and search in my zip code and she was there a week after i check she was on that same weekend she was leaving with her ex and kids and a friend to Florida i asked her if she how long ago has she being on the dating site she said she has not been on the site i said how its showing you on there she said asked the site .
so i made up my profile went on the site sent a few mails to some women leave my computer open because i know she has being checking my stuff she found out and left my place .
she still texting and trying but i am not buying it .
any advice ??? sorry its long one
Why not sign up for a coaching so I can help you out?
I love your ideas their so freaking smart like you
No cheating sucks
Daaaaaaaaamn
Poor dude
Swinger he called it lol!
Amazing
Special?? She is special?? Really? 😑
YES I AM SURE SHE WAS AND IS THROUGH HIS EYES BUT SADLY SHE WILL NEVER KNOW HOW SPECIAL SHE WAS TO HIM . SELFISH COW. THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO MY MARRIAGE TOO, LOVE MY WIFE NO MATTER WHAT AND AT GREAT PRICE AND SACRIFICE TO MY INNER SELF
Your expressions!! Lol 🙄
Craig, please do more videos about when to move on in situations that aren't this extreme. Obviously you have to leave when there's cheating and abuse, but what about other problems? Like growing apart and realizing you're not compatible anymore? Having completed mismatched love languages, political beliefs, sex drives, etc.
Agreed. I wish he saw this.
Yeah, this video is a pretty obviously example used.