I have loved this part more than any other one. This has given me purpose and realisation on what I can do next with my life at 50 yrs old. Thank u Dr Phil.
This is such a blessing. Technology gets a bad rap these days, but being able to spend an hour in what feels like a personal conversation with one of the most gifted psychologists on earth it truly amazing.
I've learned to keep my plans to myself the hard way too. Just like the story Dr. Phil shared, I told a coworker about a supervisor role that opened up, and at the last minute she also applied. Although neither of us got the role, I realized I made the competition tougher for myself by talking openly about my hopes and dreams. Never doing that again.
Be careful not to isolate yourself though just be selective in who you trust and share things with it. Good friends you'll know and recognize who are always there for you in good times and bad. They ask for nothing from you and are always willing to help, listen and be there for you. Sharing your plans and ideas with friends you can trust can help give you encouragement and often a different prospective and advice, especially older friends who have more life experience. Watch out for those claim to be your friend like your coworker but will stab you in the back or betray your trust. Friends like that you don't need in your corner. I don't know whether you have faith, but for me the best friend and guidance we have is our Lord Jesus Christ. Praying for support and guidance in difficult and challenging times (or just for guidance in life and with life decisions) is always helpful I find and you find answers and guidance come in surprising ways! Reading and reflecting on the word of Christ in the Gospels is also helpful in life. It's one of the most inspiring and oldest source of wisdom we have with a divine inspiration behind it. I hope your career goes well and that you find happiness and meaning in your life. God bless you.
Just learned I am an intervert, had no idea how common that is, have been a total outcast my whole life, the strange one, the slow one, never fitting in, anyways now I know, and now I know so much more about life situations from your teachings, thank you so much Dr. Phil, feels good to know my value to myself, I don't care what anyone says or thinks about me anymore.
I had a person in my life who enjoyed watching me hurt. We went to a psychologist to get some help. After one counseling session, I went back alone. The counselor asked, you do understand that person is willing to hurt you? -Me: yes. - the counselor’s. Next question was life changing. They said, Imagine yourself as a 3 year old and someone is doing this. What would you tell yourself to do? The light went on and I was able to take action. All in an hour and a half.
Dr Phil, I'm coming in late on this subject but have listened to all the information and wisdom you have shared with the public. And so appreciate all you have explained for years. Have read all your book ( great help). You have spoken of judgement, Spitural Decernment has been my route for years. I am 69 yrs. Old and lived with a vulnerable covert narcissist for 45 yrs. He died in Jan., Thank God, freedom from all the abuse. But I learned so much over the yrs. Have been Detoxing for 11 months. Life is so good. Have put your strategies to work over the last 8 yrs. and it worked. Thank you again Dr.Phil, you are appreciated and may God continue to bless you for your humanitaring efforts!
Thank you Dr Phil for this conversation. Cannot thank you enough!!!! Right conversation at the right time in my life. I don't have anyone in my life to be a mentor and Phil in the blanks is my go to source for life!!!!
The way I sometimes like to say it is that nobody is owed a relationship. This was initially a response to highly poisonous abusive relatives who eventually gave up even bothering to deny the abuse and intrusion, in favour of trying to dictate that absorbing abuse is a duty, and that allowing my agenda to be derailed and my primary relationship to be undermined and hijacked to conform to their use of me for their purposes is an obligation. Once one really understands that one does not owe anyone else a relationship, no matter who they are, the rest follows easily.
When someone says "You have to do something big, what is your purpose" etc etc it just dawned on me that I do not have to "DO" something like reinvent the wheel or become the next millionaire with a great invention. My TOXIC mother tried to crush me, to destroy me. Well she is dead now, and I get up every morning, go to work, I am a productive member of society. She wanted me to be under a bed somewhere or a mental institution curled in a fetal position "crying for mommy". I survived in spite of her toxic, manipulative behavior.
Thank you. I have worked as a caregiver for over 20 years. I retired in March. My last 16 years was in ICU. I was the Unit clerk,CNA, EKG Tech,. I was the one who filled in the cracks. Then the Pandemic came and everything was changing almost hourly at first. I worked with all types of personalities. I'd seen every management style. The last one being a beauty queen/mean girl combo. I was depressed about retiring but my body could no longer take the physical strain. I believe now looking back watching good nurses under so much stress and so many people die that I was headed to a nervous breakdown. I couldn't help the way I wanted to. Now I am free to find myself. Thank you for your insights.
I grew up never let the left hand know what the right hand is doing.These sessions have been outstanding have opened up my eyes and seeing people that are in my life that need to be out.
Wow. That this was good. All of your podcasts are awesome. Great talk. Maybe, for some people ( like me) taking charge, and making boundaries are so hard because we don’t feel good enough or deserve it. I understand it is from childhood people become co-dependent or on the other daide of the spectrum. Some people are just wired wrong, and enjoy the game of hurting or taking advantage of others. When they smile if they know they hurt you, it can make me sick. Toxic people ( yes even a child) can make you feel so worthless. Toxic people use us as a door mat, and after awhile you can feel the way they want you to feel. If it is your grown child, do you cut them off, ignore texts, and move on?Baha’i so you do on their birthday? I have cut off almost all toxic people in my life now, and have a wonderful, loving husband, friends, and mentors. I know my son most likely will never change. Yes, professionals have told me this. He Is in his mid 30’s, stolen from us, bad mouths or intimates me to get his way, is condescending, verbally abusive, uses triangulation, and I even fear him because he is always plotting. My husband. Is building us a place that is more private, and secure. This keeping 3 steps ahead of our son all the time is exhausting. I know it is the way he is wired, but it is hard to turn my back, and give up hope. My husband, can more easily wash his hands of it all, and move on, but he hates that I suffer. Being a good mom was so important to me, to get it right. We tried our best I know, but the grief is real. I guess I have to find a “new me” or “another kid” or just make up my mind to choose me. Choose us over him, but wish him well. I have to choose to have a happy life with my husband without this son. Our other son is well, and we love our daughter-in-law, and grandchild. We love people, and won’t stop being kind. I just have to be smarter, and see the red flags before I go down the rabbit hole. Lol I deserve peace. Everyone deserves peace. Thank you for your podcasts into personalities. I am sure it will help many people.
I didn't also get a job because I talked about it with my staff. The staff knew who the owner was and told their own friend about the position and hooked them up with the job because they knew the owner. I learned to never tell anyone about your plans regarding carrier or goals. Also dont tell anyone about who you are dating.
Dr Phil, I’m so thankful for your book and workbook Life Strategies. When I came out off a very toxic marriage, i literally did question my name. It helped me to heal, set goals and not to take things personal anymore. After 15 years I still use those steps if I find myself ruminating about something. And yes I paid it forward and gave several family members a copy.
Dr. Phil, you’re advice , Knowledge and experience in these series will no doubt help EVERYONE in some way or another in their lives. At 70 .... my life decisions are pretty much close to being completed. Yet even I have been helped learning that many decisions I’ve made in my lifetime have been correct. Everyone that’s listening to these series have no doubt been helped. Be Proud of everything you’re doing.
The more I control my life and set clear and concise boundaries with MYSELF, the sweeter and more relaxed I can be with everyone else. It’s a miracle of the very best kind. P. S. Feed the birds!
Dr. Phil seems to be capable of discussing these subjects in such a way that it doesn't feel so hopelessly dark. So many "experts" discuss cluster B disorders etc. with such a dark tone it's off putting but good old Phil makes you feel inspired and soothes your fears concerning the subject. He really is a master.
I have been to therepy, abuse therepy, been to the edge of the earth with a sociopath. You have clear and concise advice and it is right on the money. The covert to the extreme. I do think that a few of the persons behavior overlap and at times can be hard to detect. The ability for the narcissist to manipulate is overwhelming and very much a smoke and mirrors game. Thank you so very much for your vlog.
It means a lot, and it's a confidence boost Dr. Phil. Before my injury, I worked underneath nurses and I would chart/document progressions on dementia, etc. I feel appreciated, and like the extra studying I did/mini-mentals during care are being recognized by you. Thank you for your advice, and inspiring others to keep going, and doing better for themselves and those around them.
Loved this.. One TY hung about boundaries is. Be careful who you share information regarding boundaries with.. if they're unhealthy they can turn it on you.. ironic..
I just went through an accelerated IT course, and came out knowing that I can't do that as a full time job - but I reasoned that with what I did learn I could be the person on the job who can get the computer working again. Since I m on disability, my goal this year is to get my body spackled back together, then to get off disability and work a couple of years before I turn 65 so my social security check will be bigger. I'd like to work with kids on a nature trail again, like I used to.
I have cut off a friend who is a raging alcoholic. I claimed the right to put distance between us until she will accept help. But there are other friends who put up with all of her BS and enable her. I’m worried she will die (she is in liver failure) and she’ll die believing that I abandoned her. I trust I did the right thing for both of us.
My friend, you can “abandon” a child or a pet: One does NOT “abandon” an adult. Yes of course you did the right thing in setting this boundary. Addiction is the most demanding mistress right up to an addict’s death and you are powerless over other’s choices to either continue their addiction or seek help.
Thank you for articulating this so well for us I needed help to reinforce this thought process on how to handle life. This is a great map for the chaos.
Dr Phil, wishing you a Merry Christmas and sending my sincere thanks for such a motivational and thought provoking episode! I am definitely sharing this with my loved ones!!! God bless you & yours 💕
I was born into Narc family. Mommy dearest even turned my adult children against me. I miss my kids. 12 yrs of No contact with mother. I claim my right to be me with all from now on with more confidence in my Self. Thanks
They are bad, they are evil and they destroy people. As an empathic person I thought as you recommend at 5:30, and I am sorry but the only thing that is saving me now is finally realising it was not my fault, no matter how nice i was these people had an intention to hurt me right from the start because I am a nice person. Now that is evil. And Bad. No recognition of what I am, only what they can use me for, for their own purpose. Now my healing is really beginning because from this perspective I am finding some ground to forgive myself for allowing this, rather than give them allowances and say they really weren't that bad. I am speaking of sexual assualt, which quite frankly is absolutely atrocious. And child abuse.
Agreed. We need to openly acknowledge evil isn’t some abstract concept to people who have experienced it. I don’t use this word in the sacred but in the secular sense or to be dramatic. Evil def. Malevolent. Ma-lev-o-lent indeed.
The first quote I read on the web after completing your Baiters Test…. “from God” I’m going to be sending you on a journey and there will be people there you know. Be careful. Dr Phil I cried and the chills are still running up my arms.
Dr. Phil, when you said in minute 44 „You deserve it..“ I thought „Hey, this man is treating me… like the Borderliners“😅 Thank you so much for this series. I can‘t tell you how much I learnt in this 9 lessons and I will repeat them surely. Appreciate you and your work so much🌷
This is the first one I’ve watched and I will go back and watch the others. I enjoyed it from start to finish. I already knew some of the things you talked about but got to look at them from another perspective. Thank you and God bless you and yours 🐝🎁
Thanks for your series I like the 12 week year approach. But your series helped me to start working on a plan to a better self image and inner healing. I am excited to take ownership and responsibility for my actions to positive life. Knowledge is power. So thank you so much getting me in the right direction.
Your videos are amazing!🙏🏼Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏🏼 you’ve made a huge impact Im starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel! I look forward to your videos each Tuesday👍🏻
Thank you Dr Phil, going through a sad time, being pushed out of my teaching position of 19 years by one toxic personality. Looking forward to finding my joy through those open windows with these tools you gave us.
Dr Phil , this is the very best video I have ever heard in my whole life. I feel so relieved and thankful and powerful because Igor two of the most toxic people in my life at about the same time 1o years ago and know in my heart it was the best thing , the best gift that I gave myself in my life. God Bless you!!!
Fabulous and effective peptalk for students who are ready. The tried n true old adage says: "when the student is ready, the teacher appears" I regret not "getting" the message earlier in life.
Dr. Phil, I really appreciate and embrace these life strategies that you're teaching us. I'm starting to apply them to different areas of my life. Thanks
Hi Dr. Phil. Love you for helping me. Listening now out in our yard, which he declined to listen to you. He is doing things in the yard. Lovely, my point is soon as I paused your video to take a pic of him, he looked up. He was listening. I said " I don't know what happened." Back on,
I really need to start a subcontracting business. I've been working as a fire sprinkler fitter for 15 years for somebody else, and the big money is owning your own business. This is my "stretch" to reach for.
Dr Phil you are so right about Paralegals! I work at a law office as a front desk receptionist. And our Paralegals are absolutely beyond amazing!! Also, I have learned the hard way you can’t trust anyone. I am extremely tight lipped when it comes to revealing anything about myself. Period.
Many thanks Dr Phil - been seeing a Dr x1 month for 9 mths but there were a few answers I needed which you have confirmed for me. To realise at 61 that I am the "invisible" eldest girl child has been deeply painful for me. Our parents signed surety for brother (middle "entitled" child) who Dr M says is sociopath - to my shock & horror as when I questioned incidents I was fobbed off or labelled as jealous 😱 4 million surety & zero transparency with my younger sibling or me. She on the other hand is manipulator and thinks she is the only child. Our father has since passed away but even when he was battling dementia I was not even able to get my mother to understand the 10 rules of dealing with him. First "not to argue". She never heard me and still does not. As for the money issue - he led lavish completely delusional life of grandeur. Megalomaniac. Another term I had never heard of. Our parents were never flashy so I battled to understand that. On the issue of indifferent - it is still hard for me as I am a caring, giving person - the nurse in me will never die. It has been hard to distance myself but Dr M was unable to answer my feeling of indifference now. You have helped me with that. I am getting there slowly but don't think I will ever comprehend the unfairness shown & how blue eyed boy with no conscience was pontified. None of them know that our Pastor's wife asked to meet with me & told me she is still owed 120 k that was in trust money 😲 none of these people have confronted the trust money issue. I cannot solve it as nobody wants to listen or believe me. The flip side is they hide behind Christian veil of forgiveness. I am not able to reconcile continued abuse vs forgiveness. Vicious circle and I am over being "done". I live for the day that God will reveal His truth. The truth always comes out. In His time. I am eternally grateful to be able to access your videos - dealing with toxic people and never being acknowledged by them - their terms no longer applies. How sad they are family members. Bless you Dr Phil 💙🙏🏼
Thanks Dr. Phil. I'd love to see a video on the Malignant Narcissist adult son with a single mom. It's extremely terrifying and toxic. Ive been completely put down, disrespected, abused, devalued and now gaslit for finally saying ENOUGH. I've decided to move and nobody will know my new address, blocked my child on social media and went completely no contact. Where can I go from here and will I ever get my loving son back?
Listening to you, Dr. Phil is so inspiring, because of the knowledge and wisdom and understanding imparted to you. I totally agree with everything you said and I really appreciate it. Thank you for your advices and may God continue to give you good health and strength to help more people around the world.
I don’t know that Dr. Phil and or his team look at any of these comments but he does so many shows on catfish and I wish he would do a show on these new crime scams probably due to the pandemic. Somebody is selling things on Facebook and not delivering the product packages. I would love to see a show exposing this.
Dr Phil I work with handicapped people the autistic and down syndrome and my essential property of myself is I have empathy I have caring and I have love and every day when I go to work I try and show that and make it bounce off of me
may 16th thanks dr phil for talking about toxic personality and i listen to the podcast thanks for sharing kendra joy bethune writing this who has a threapist i see often
How not millions of people listened to this conversation? People know the truth when they hear it. Very right, even when they can’t do anything about it and turn their back they know it, their body knows it, their soul knows it. Everybody knows it. Even animals know it. But only AI doesn’t know it yet.
Intentions are never enough to make a decision about people. Wars have been lost, relationships ruined, entire conglomerations of evil formed over good intentions. Yes it is important to know what one's motivation was, but in the end all that matters is what they did and how much damage resulted.
I love these podcasts Dr Phil. I have been working on the one that says I need to know my currency, who I am and what I bring to the table. I am tuned into that and now finding some forward momentum.
It often feels like there is a separate subculture of people that think completely different than the rest of us....like a tribe whose members do not live by the same moral code.
Thank you Dr Phil. As always, brilliant content and much to think about and apply. Your Life Strategies was my and my children rock during a rough 4 year divorce 20 years ago. And as you asked at the end ~ does this resonate as truth? That’s why Ibelieve it worked as when applied in sequence it had tremendously proactive results. From Cape Town with so much gratitude and affection🌈🙏🏽🌹🌹🌹
I've been watching Phil for a long time, and he is very authentic, which includes his vulnerability. It's possible you haven't seen it for some reason.
Thank you Dr Phil. You’re amazing. You have been a good part in changing the way I think. And you’re actually quite funny I wasn’t expecting that because you deal with such serious issues on the show lol 😅 I would love to meet you!
Didn't have mother or father raise me ran on the streets and when I was 10 Didn't learn about boundaries self-love had to pull myself up... Please help the children they're falling to the side way
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I have loved this part more than any other one. This has given me purpose and realisation on what I can do next with my life at 50 yrs old. Thank u Dr Phil.
Thank 😊 🙏 you to Dr Phil 🙏, Bronwyn you put it 👍 better than I could have. Thank you 😊 too.
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This is such a blessing. Technology gets a bad rap these days, but being able to spend an hour in what feels like a personal conversation with one of the most gifted psychologists on earth it truly amazing.
I've learned to keep my plans to myself the hard way too. Just like the story Dr. Phil shared, I told a coworker about a supervisor role that opened up, and at the last minute she also applied. Although neither of us got the role, I realized I made the competition tougher for myself by talking openly about my hopes and dreams. Never doing that again.
Be careful not to isolate yourself though just be selective in who you trust and share things with it. Good friends you'll know and recognize who are always there for you in good times and bad. They ask for nothing from you and are always willing to help, listen and be there for you. Sharing your plans and ideas with friends you can trust can help give you encouragement and often a different prospective and advice, especially older friends who have more life experience.
Watch out for those claim to be your friend like your coworker but will stab you in the back or betray your trust. Friends like that you don't need in your corner.
I don't know whether you have faith, but for me the best friend and guidance we have is our Lord Jesus Christ. Praying for support and guidance in difficult and challenging times (or just for guidance in life and with life decisions) is always helpful I find and you find answers and guidance come in surprising ways! Reading and reflecting on the word of Christ in the Gospels is also helpful in life. It's one of the most inspiring and oldest source of wisdom we have with a divine inspiration behind it.
I hope your career goes well and that you find happiness and meaning in your life.
God bless you.
Wondering if this is how it would have felt to have a father daughter conversation. Thank you for the beautiful insight, Dr. Phil.
You rock Dr. Phil. Bless you for this entire series. ❤️
Just learned I am an intervert, had no idea how common that is, have been a total outcast my whole life, the strange one, the slow one, never fitting in, anyways now I know, and now I know so much more about life situations from your teachings, thank you so much Dr. Phil, feels good to know my value to myself, I don't care what anyone says or thinks about me anymore.
Can't wait to be a plan of action together for 2022.
Thank you so much. 🌈
Acceptance.
I had a person in my life who enjoyed watching me hurt. We went to a psychologist to get some help. After one counseling session, I went back alone. The counselor asked, you do understand that person is willing to hurt you? -Me: yes. - the counselor’s. Next question was life changing. They said, Imagine yourself as a 3 year old and someone is doing this. What would you tell yourself to do? The light went on and I was able to take action. All in an hour and a half.
Dr
Phil, I'm coming in late on this subject but have listened to all the information and wisdom you have shared with the public. And so appreciate all you have explained for years. Have read all your book ( great help). You have spoken of judgement, Spitural Decernment has been my route for years. I am 69 yrs. Old and lived with a vulnerable covert narcissist for 45 yrs. He died in Jan., Thank God, freedom from all the abuse. But I learned so much over the yrs.
Have been Detoxing for 11 months.
Life is so good. Have put your strategies to work over the last 8 yrs. and it worked.
Thank you again Dr.Phil, you are appreciated and may God continue to bless you for your humanitaring efforts!
Thank you, Dr. Phil. This is brilliant and inspiring. And so very real.
Thank you Dr Phil for this conversation. Cannot thank you enough!!!! Right conversation at the right time in my life. I don't have anyone in my life to be a mentor and Phil in the blanks is my go to source for life!!!!
The way I sometimes like to say it is that nobody is owed a relationship. This was initially a response to highly poisonous abusive relatives who eventually gave up even bothering to deny the abuse and intrusion, in favour of trying to dictate that absorbing abuse is a duty, and that allowing my agenda to be derailed and my primary relationship to be undermined and hijacked to conform to their use of me for their purposes is an obligation.
Once one really understands that one does not owe anyone else a relationship, no matter who they are, the rest follows easily.
DNA is not a free pass.
When someone says "You have to do something big, what is your purpose" etc etc it just dawned on me that I do not have to "DO" something like reinvent the wheel or become the next millionaire with a great invention. My TOXIC mother tried to crush me, to destroy me. Well she is dead now, and I get up every morning, go to work, I am a productive member of society. She wanted me to be under a bed somewhere or a mental institution curled in a fetal position "crying for mommy". I survived in spite of her toxic, manipulative behavior.
Dr. Phil, I found your channel last night. I listened to you last night for around five hours. I learned a lot. Thank you.
Thank you. I have worked as a caregiver for over 20 years. I retired in March. My last 16 years was in ICU. I was the Unit clerk,CNA, EKG Tech,. I was the one who filled in the cracks. Then the Pandemic came and everything was changing almost hourly at first. I worked with all types of personalities. I'd seen every management style. The last one being a beauty queen/mean girl combo. I was depressed about retiring but my body could no longer take the physical strain. I believe now looking back watching good nurses under so much stress and so many people die that I was headed to a nervous breakdown. I couldn't help the way I wanted to. Now I am free to find myself. Thank you for your insights.
I grew up never let the left hand know what the right hand is doing.These sessions have been outstanding have opened up my eyes and seeing people that are in my life that need to be out.
Wow. That this was good. All of your podcasts are awesome. Great talk. Maybe, for some people ( like me) taking charge, and making boundaries are so hard because we don’t feel good enough or deserve it. I understand it is from childhood people become co-dependent or on the other daide of the spectrum. Some people are just wired wrong, and enjoy the game of hurting or taking advantage of others. When they smile if they know they hurt you, it can make me sick. Toxic people ( yes even a child) can make you feel so worthless. Toxic people use us as a door mat, and after awhile you can feel the way they want you to feel. If it is your grown child, do you cut them off, ignore texts, and move on?Baha’i so you do on their birthday? I have cut off almost all toxic people in my life now, and have a wonderful, loving husband, friends, and mentors. I know my son most likely will never change. Yes, professionals have told me this. He Is in his mid 30’s, stolen from us, bad mouths or intimates me to get his way, is condescending, verbally abusive, uses triangulation, and I even fear him because he is always plotting. My husband. Is building us a place that is more private, and secure. This keeping 3 steps ahead of our son all the time is exhausting. I know it is the way he is wired, but it is hard to turn my back, and give up hope. My husband, can more easily wash his hands of it all, and move on, but he hates that I suffer. Being a good mom was so important to me, to get it right. We tried our best I know, but the grief is real. I guess I have to find a “new me” or
“another kid” or just make up my mind to choose me. Choose us over him, but wish him well. I have to choose to have a happy life with my husband without this son. Our other son is well, and we love our daughter-in-law, and grandchild. We love people, and won’t stop being kind. I just have to be smarter, and see the red flags before I go down the rabbit hole. Lol I deserve peace. Everyone deserves peace. Thank you for your podcasts into personalities. I am sure it will help many people.
I didn't also get a job because I talked about it with my staff. The staff knew who the owner was and told their own friend about the position and hooked them up with the job because they knew the owner.
I learned to never tell anyone about your plans regarding carrier or goals.
Also dont tell anyone about who you are dating.
Doc Phil, thankyou for helping me! I very much appreciate your podcasts especially this one! You genuinely want to help poeple, it's beautiful! 😊
Dr Phil, I’m so thankful for your book and workbook Life Strategies. When I came out off a very toxic marriage, i literally did question my name.
It helped me to heal, set goals and not to take things personal anymore.
After 15 years I still use those steps if I find myself ruminating about something. And yes I paid it forward and gave several family members a copy.
Dr. Phil, you’re advice , Knowledge and experience in these series will no doubt help EVERYONE in some way or another in their lives. At 70 .... my life decisions are pretty much close to being completed. Yet even I have been helped learning that many decisions I’ve made in my lifetime have been correct. Everyone that’s listening to these series have no doubt been helped. Be Proud of everything you’re doing.
Thank you so much Dr. Phil for educating the public.
The more I control my life and set clear and concise boundaries with MYSELF, the sweeter and more relaxed I can be with everyone else. It’s a miracle of the very best kind.
P. S. Feed the birds!
Dr. Phil seems to be capable of discussing these subjects in such a way that it doesn't feel so hopelessly dark. So many "experts" discuss cluster B disorders etc. with such a dark tone it's off putting but good old Phil makes you feel inspired and soothes your fears concerning the subject. He really is a master.
I have been to therepy, abuse therepy, been to the edge of the earth with a sociopath. You have clear and concise advice and it is right on the money. The covert to the extreme. I do think that a few of the persons behavior overlap and at times can be hard to detect. The ability for the narcissist to manipulate is overwhelming and very much a smoke and mirrors game.
Thank you so very much for your vlog.
It means a lot, and it's a confidence boost Dr. Phil. Before my injury, I worked underneath nurses and I would chart/document progressions on dementia, etc. I feel appreciated, and like the extra studying I did/mini-mentals during care are being recognized by you.
Thank you for your advice, and inspiring others to keep going, and doing better for themselves and those around them.
This series and your wisdom is such a blessing.
Loved this..
One TY hung about boundaries is. Be careful who you share information regarding boundaries with.. if they're unhealthy they can turn it on you.. ironic..
I just went through an accelerated IT course, and came out knowing that I can't do that as a full time job - but I reasoned that with what I did learn I could be the person on the job who can get the computer working again. Since I m on disability, my goal this year is to get my body spackled back together, then to get off disability and work a couple of years before I turn 65 so my social security check will be bigger. I'd like to work with kids on a nature trail again, like I used to.
I have cut off a friend who is a raging alcoholic. I claimed the right to put distance between us until she will accept help. But there are other friends who put up with all of her BS and enable her. I’m worried she will die (she is in liver failure) and she’ll die believing that I abandoned her. I trust I did the right thing for both of us.
You did the right thing. ❤
My friend, you can “abandon” a child or a pet: One does NOT “abandon” an adult. Yes of course you did the right thing in setting this boundary. Addiction is the most demanding mistress right up to an addict’s death and you are powerless over other’s choices to either continue their addiction or seek help.
Thank you for articulating this so well for us I needed help to reinforce this thought process on how to handle life. This is a great map for the chaos.
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you, Dr. Phil and team.
Dr Phil, wishing you a Merry Christmas and sending my sincere thanks for such a motivational and thought provoking episode! I am definitely sharing this with my loved ones!!! God bless you & yours 💕
This is a beautiful and heartfelt soliloquy. Looking forward to the next one. Don't ya wanna hug Dr. Phil? :)
I was born into Narc family. Mommy dearest even turned my adult children against me. I miss my kids. 12 yrs of No contact with mother. I claim my right to be me with all from now on with more confidence in my
Self. Thanks
They are bad, they are evil and they destroy people. As an empathic person I thought as you recommend at 5:30, and I am sorry but the only thing that is saving me now is finally realising it was not my fault, no matter how nice i was these people had an intention to hurt me right from the start because I am a nice person. Now that is evil. And Bad. No recognition of what I am, only what they can use me for, for their own purpose. Now my healing is really beginning because from this perspective I am finding some ground to forgive myself for allowing this, rather than give them allowances and say they really weren't that bad. I am speaking of sexual assualt, which quite frankly is absolutely atrocious. And child abuse.
Agreed. We need to openly acknowledge evil isn’t some abstract concept to people who have experienced it. I don’t use this word in the sacred but in the secular sense or to be dramatic. Evil def. Malevolent.
Ma-lev-o-lent indeed.
The first quote I read on the web after completing your Baiters Test…. “from God” I’m going to be sending you on a journey and there will be people there you know. Be careful. Dr Phil I cried and the chills are still running up my arms.
Dr. Phil, when you said in minute 44 „You deserve it..“ I thought „Hey, this man is treating me… like the Borderliners“😅 Thank you so much for this series. I can‘t tell you how much I learnt in this 9 lessons and I will repeat them surely. Appreciate you and your work so much🌷
This is the first one I’ve watched and I will go back and watch the others. I enjoyed it from start to finish. I already knew some of the things you talked about but got to look at them from another perspective. Thank you and God bless you and yours 🐝🎁
Thanks for your series I like the 12 week year approach. But your series helped me to start working on a plan to a better self image and inner healing. I am excited to take ownership and responsibility for my actions to positive life. Knowledge is power. So thank you so much getting me in the right direction.
Your videos are amazing!🙏🏼Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏🏼 you’ve made a huge impact Im starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel! I look forward to your videos each Tuesday👍🏻
Thank you Dr Phil, going through a sad time, being pushed out of my teaching position of 19 years by one toxic personality. Looking forward to finding my joy through those open windows with these tools you gave us.
thank you phillip i finally feel seen and cared for when he said be your own star ⭐️
Thank you. This touched my soul in this moment. I needed this guidance🙏
Dr. Phil, I love all of your videos! Especially these right here =)
Thank you, thank you, thank you
Thank you DR. PHIL.
Dr Phil , this is the very best video I have ever heard in my whole life. I feel so relieved and thankful and powerful because Igor two of the most toxic people in my life at about the same time 1o years ago and know in my heart it was the best thing , the best gift that I gave myself in my life. God Bless you!!!
You are telling the truth Dr.Phil!!!
Thank you so much!
Fabulous and effective peptalk for students who are ready. The tried n true old adage says: "when the student is ready, the teacher appears"
I regret not "getting" the message earlier in life.
Dr. Phil, I really appreciate and embrace these life strategies that you're teaching us. I'm starting to apply them to different areas of my life. Thanks
Hi Dr. Phil. Love you for helping me. Listening now out in our yard, which he declined to listen to you. He is doing things in the yard. Lovely, my point is soon as I paused your video to take a pic of him, he looked up. He was listening. I said " I don't know what happened." Back on,
Thank you phil
I appreciate these videos. They are helping me get healthy.
I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas safe Blessed and Happy with your Loved ones and to all a Happy New Year ❤️☺️🎄⛄
Good to remember it is a pathological dis...ease.
...requiring both caution & compassion....
Thank you so much Dr. Phil!!🙏🏼
Thank you! 🙏
I really need to start a subcontracting business. I've been working as a fire sprinkler fitter for 15 years for somebody else, and the big money is owning your own business. This is my "stretch" to reach for.
Dr Phil you are so right about Paralegals! I work at a law office as a front desk receptionist. And our Paralegals are absolutely beyond amazing!!
Also, I have learned the hard way you can’t trust anyone. I am extremely tight lipped when it comes to revealing anything about myself. Period.
Many thanks Dr Phil - been seeing a Dr x1 month for 9 mths but there were a few answers I needed which you have confirmed for me. To realise at 61 that I am the "invisible" eldest girl child has been deeply painful for me. Our parents signed surety for brother (middle "entitled" child) who Dr M says is sociopath - to my shock & horror as when I questioned incidents I was fobbed off or labelled as jealous 😱 4 million surety & zero transparency with my younger sibling or me. She on the other hand is manipulator and thinks she is the only child. Our father has since passed away but even when he was battling dementia I was not even able to get my mother to understand the 10 rules of dealing with him. First "not to argue". She never heard me and still does not. As for the money issue - he led lavish completely delusional life of grandeur. Megalomaniac. Another term I had never heard of. Our parents were never flashy so I battled to understand that. On the issue of indifferent - it is still hard for me as I am a caring, giving person - the nurse in me will never die. It has been hard to distance myself but Dr M was unable to answer my feeling of indifference now. You have helped me with that. I am getting there slowly but don't think I will ever comprehend the unfairness shown & how blue eyed boy with no conscience was pontified. None of them know that our Pastor's wife asked to meet with me & told me she is still owed 120 k that was in trust money 😲 none of these people have confronted the trust money issue. I cannot solve it as nobody wants to listen or believe me. The flip side is they hide behind Christian veil of forgiveness. I am not able to reconcile continued abuse vs forgiveness. Vicious circle and I am over being "done". I live for the day that God will reveal His truth. The truth always comes out. In His time. I am eternally grateful to be able to access your videos - dealing with toxic people and never being acknowledged by them - their terms no longer applies. How sad they are family members. Bless you Dr Phil 💙🙏🏼
VERY EDUCATIONAL
Thanks Dr. Phil. I'd love to see a video on the Malignant Narcissist adult son with a single mom. It's extremely terrifying and toxic. Ive been completely put down, disrespected, abused, devalued and now gaslit for finally saying ENOUGH. I've decided to move and nobody will know my new address, blocked my child on social media and went completely no contact. Where can I go from here and will I ever get my loving son back?
I love your podcast your words are so true and they inspire me everyday
Happy Healthy New Year Dr. Phil. Thanks for sharing your expertise. So much value here. Blessings 🌊✨
Thank you so much for those podcasts. It feels like some carrying father talks to you and passed advices that are product of experience and wisdom.
Listening to you, Dr. Phil is so inspiring, because of the knowledge and wisdom and understanding imparted to you. I totally agree with everything you said and I really appreciate it. Thank you for your advices and may God continue to give you good health and strength to help more people around the world.
hope everyone has had a great Christmas
😌 you too
Great Christmas? maybe ... but Christmas merriment can be arranged
I have to remind myself a lot that there is always a nice way to say anything. Thank you so much for these Dr. Phil.
Always liked your show and all that you stand.for.
Excellent talking about my family alive and dead👋🤗
Excellent podcast
I'm watching this on January 1, 2023. This is great! Happy New Year!
I don’t know that Dr. Phil and or his team look at any of these comments but he does so many shows on catfish and I wish he would do a show on these new crime scams probably due to the pandemic. Somebody is selling things on Facebook and not delivering the product packages. I would love to see a show exposing this.
Dr Phil I work with handicapped people the autistic and down syndrome and my essential property of myself is I have empathy I have caring and I have love and every day when I go to work I try and show that and make it bounce off of me
may 16th thanks dr phil for talking about toxic personality and i listen to the podcast thanks for sharing kendra joy bethune writing this who has a threapist i see often
This is gold right here. Thank you Dr.Phil! 👏👏🙏🙏💯
How not millions of people listened to this conversation? People know the truth when they hear it. Very right, even when they can’t do anything about it and turn their back they know it, their body knows it, their soul knows it. Everybody knows it. Even animals know it. But only AI doesn’t know it yet.
Happy Holidays Everyone Stay Safe if you’re reading this You’re Amazing 🙌🏼❤️
Words that are blessings, sure feel good on the ears. :)
Excellent! Thank you.
Love your podcasts joe so interesting
I know what it is Dr. Phil, the secret for 2022 🦋
Happy holidays God bless you Dr phil 🙏🏼
Dr. Phil you are the best!!! Thank you for everything you do. You are such a blessing to me and to so many others. God bless you and yours. ♥️
I love you doc Phil,may our God bless you and live longer ❤.
Thank you so much!
Doctor Phill me and my daughter are a big fan!! Hugs from Canada 🙏🏻🙏🏻
mercy of your outstanding information Dr. Phil.
Intentions are never enough to make a decision about people. Wars have been lost, relationships ruined, entire conglomerations of evil formed over good intentions. Yes it is important to know what one's motivation was, but in the end all that matters is what they did and how much damage resulted.
Yes, I really appreciate you.
Some of that sounds Machiavellian. People aren't pawns for strategy. They hold value. Image isn't important to me, but character is.
This video is imperative, it should encourage us to rise above the occasion set boundaries and just say
no.
I love these podcasts Dr Phil. I have been working on the one that says I need to know my currency, who I am and what I bring to the table. I am tuned into that and now finding some forward momentum.
Thank you, Doctor. I woke up early and listened to this video it was so inspiring 🙌
Great advice x
It often feels like there is a separate subculture of people that think completely different than the rest of us....like a tribe whose members do not live by the same moral code.
I appreciate your wise words Doctor Phil thank you very much and God bless amen
My own so called family sabotage me .
I’m only just learning at 39yr old to keep my mouth shut 🤐
Thank you Dr Phil. As always, brilliant content and much to think about and apply. Your Life Strategies was my and my children rock during a rough 4 year divorce 20 years ago. And as you asked at the end ~ does this resonate as truth? That’s why Ibelieve it worked as when applied in sequence it had tremendously proactive results. From Cape Town with so much gratitude and affection🌈🙏🏽🌹🌹🌹
Dr. Phil, I don’t see a moment that you share YOUR vulnerability.
He is vulnerable just doing this
I've been watching Phil for a long time, and he is very authentic, which includes his vulnerability. It's possible you haven't seen it for some reason.
Thank you dr Phil for helping me !
Thank you Dr Phil. You’re amazing. You have been a good part in changing the way I think. And you’re actually quite funny I wasn’t expecting that because you deal with such serious issues on the show lol 😅
I would love to meet you!
Didn't have mother or father raise me ran on the streets and when I was 10 Didn't learn about boundaries self-love had to pull myself up... Please help the children they're falling to the side way