I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. It’s almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. We can choose to see failure as “the end of the world,” or we can look at failure as the incredible learning experience that it often is. Failure stop us only if we left them. Strategies to help you get over the hump. Start redefining what failure means to you. Shade, people like you make the world a better place. You deserve a million thanks and all the hugs I can give, I’ll never be able to repay you for your kindness. We, your followers love ❤.
Wow this is true and enlightening. As a designer who experienced a lot of rejection it made me fear failure, which led me to be a perfectionist and so I procrastinate in every given project. You can also connect this as a result of being a man pleaser.
Ah you make a good point - being a people pleasure and having a strong desire (or need) for social validation can absolutely lead to fear of failure due to the ‘social rejection’ that you associate with failure. Have you found any effective ways to work through your fear of failure?
I do the same...you have put it so well..beginning every single project is associated with fear and then procrastination, I do agree...it results from people lashing back on us and we end up reciprocating that by punishing ourselves by procrastination and mental dilemma..but how do u avoid that..i mean how do u face that fear..can u share?
@@prunes794 @Shadé Zahrai Every time I’m in this state I just accept the reality that I’m stuck but there is also this reality where you really have to move forward and make progress. While I procrastinate, I do research regarding my project, because for me enough knowledge about my project boosts my confidence that I can do a good job. It’s a learning process and sometimes I still stumble on this part. Don’t be too hard on ourselves too. This helps
persistence pays. life lessons come from failure. we have go through certain situation to grow, and discover our untapped potential. great content love your video. 🙂💯
Thank you. Time to jump. I agree, Stephany Meyers was rejected 21 times for Twilight and even encouraged to see a psychiatrist... I imagine their reactions when they saw the success of the books and the movies.... BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!
I have all these problems, fear of failure, perfectionist mind and a procrastinator. Since i have failed so many times and usually it back fires when i have shared my plans with friends and then they start to criticize. So i made 2 changes, first of all i never share my plans until i achieve it. And second, if i do share it, i tell them that i am trying something new to fail in. This way they will have an answer and i also get passed the fear of failure.
This is great! I’m so happy you were able to find a strategy that works for you - and I especially love how you’re embracing the possibility of failing and seeing it as a growth opportunity - more power to you! 💪
Thank you Shadé. Fear is something I have suffered as a forex trader. I will put this tips to use, expose myself to risk so i can get more comfortable. Thanks again
You are inspirational speaker. I really notice about your presentation and way you speak. Great. I want to be in such position where I can speak up clearly with confidence.
thanks mam this side vansh oneof your biggest fan watching you since a long time i have become a more and more motivated now you charismatic look energies me the most ☺😊😇❤❤
This video was really enlightening. I-am still a victim of this. This kind of fear is holding me back. Always rejections and cant even reach my goals. How can i overcome these fears and be a successful person
Regarding JK, I've heard similar about Thomas Edison and all the ways he learned how not to make a light bulb. But as a Potterhead, knowing we wouldn't have such an amazing franchise if she had given up, penetrates deeper!
Trying to think of an inspirational quote now. Hagrid: "You're a wizard Harry" JK: "And no one would know your story had I given up getting it published after so many rejections"
Thank you so much Felix. My husband and I produce these videos together and it means so much when we receive positive feedback. We hope that you continue to get value from them. 😊
🎉 U are my best instructor ever ; I admire ur tireless effort with patience, " continuous dripping of H2O undeniably can brake a rocky hard emotional behaviour, would u keep it up ? It's not only work; but , it's kind of u , indeed!❤
I am an English language student. I am barely beginning to understand you because yours espeeches, are very fluent to me because I am an english apprentice. Thank you very much, understand you in a completely way is my purpose.
Found the channel via Instagram, really motivating.. please keep us motivated. I use to hold back from things, this open up my mind, will implement this. Thanks for the video.
Watching from T&T 🇹🇹 Struggling with fear and failure, ever since my first bad experience from a horrible death experience attack after losing my both parents and some siblings, never had counseling about it, And always frightful about any small issues p, I'm to the point where it's beginning to become a normal I need help...cause I'm loosing lots of good people in my life Tanks much 💖 What can I do?
Am thinking of getting smart drugs because of fear of failing my second semester because I know I did not do well last semester, but I read but I do forget and sometimes when I read it doesn't go well because I find it difficult to process somethings.i still trying to save up some money before exam, because I doubt myself, even d person I have interest in is much smarter than me academically,we have no connection,am a recluse, introvert, secluse and I prefer being a taciturn,I wish I could not love 💕, like,nor crush nor even lust anyone, my wish is to be like Bruce Wayne and painkiller and be successful and alone and wealthy.loving someone makes me weak not strong.it doesn't fit me I mean love.solitude is seen as my best friend.
Mam I wanted to ask a question. I went for an interview and worked there from 9-2 they are offering me pin amount salary and work is monotonous. I asked her directly that I got bored and I want diversification in my work. ☀️Was there any other alternative by which I should have conveyed to her or is being straightforward was okay?
For me may 23, 1989 at 2:37pm gave me my worst taste of failure that still haunts me to this day. I was 9 yrs old trying to keep my mom from dying. I failed her, my family and myself. And my mind won't let me forget either. Every night in my dreams I watch her die. I've watched her die over 12,000 times.
I have a mixed accent - I’ve lived in Australia most of my life and my family lived in England prior to coming here. On the other hand my husband (while I spend almost every waking minute with) has a neutral American accent. Mine has become a blend 🙂
What i like about your accent ,as someone who lives in Morrocco ,is very clear and ur tone and rythm while emphasizing key idea makes it stick in my head
I gave a talk about this topic a few years ago and most of the people in the audience did admit that they had a Fear of Failure. But after giving them solutions to overcome that fear, they were able to turn their lives around and for the better. Sometimes people just need to listen and actually apply what they have learned from people who are trying to help them. And I hope that more people will take your advice because it can totally transform the way they live. Amazing Video Shadé! PS. Outstanding Editing👍🏻
@Shadezahrai Thanks for sharing this amazing video related to overcome fear within ourselves... Much needed motivation on My Birthday... Thank You Very Much @Shadezahrai May God Bless You With Abundance of Happiness 🤲👍🙂
I have been thinking about something for a long time and this video just pushed me over the edge... I had something in my for a collaboration for both Us Shade ! Let me know if can talk out the details
Your accent is so clear that I am in literally in love with it. I had an Australian coach in my engineering training program... I could not believe that you are Australian... I thought you are Indian😄😄
I learnt after 50 years of age that no matter what any relationship is, it is basically just a type of transaction between two persons. It can be physical, emotional or social but it is just a transaction between two persons. This was an eye opener for me and I am now living in totally different world and my expectations towards myself and my near or dear ones are totally different. Second thing I learnt was everything I do (Even when I get married or have kids) I do it for myself and to make me happy or make me feel better. My wife or my kids or my house.... everything is to make me feel better.
I have been noticed that I am afraid of fear of failure, i didn't work on atychiphobia over the time, thanks for sharing this wonderful information with us.
I learning to be used to it. Since I’m looking for a job now, and went to hiring events, and interviews, and I don’t hear back. I feel bad that I am not able to get a job as fast as some people I know, but I got another one today, and I hope I get it.
Best teacher, who teaches us,how to live, how come back to our peaceful life, from any kind of depression, tension. Best Guru so call in Indian philosophy.
But some people like my 37 year old husband have difficulties overcoming the fear of failure. I tried studying with him he was not able to concentrate or he wants to go to his friends - or he starts making excuses - so I have given the hope up that he will overcome his fears.I can not force him.He has wasted many oppurtunities and chances in his life due to his fear - he had rejected twice Job coaching ,and a 3 year long job training with exams and keeps making excuses he is not capable.His attitude is regretable but I have realized after 3 years of staying with him that I can not change him and if he does not want to understand,what can I do?
You bring positivity to many people’s life . Failure or success depends on how you think if we always think we move forward whether we get whatever we needed sometimes what we thought at that time wasn’t not the best for you .. thank you shade you make my many days better..
"Failure is an inevitable part of success". Beautifully said.
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. It’s almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. We can choose to see failure as “the end of the world,” or we can look at failure as the incredible learning experience that it often is. Failure stop us only if we left them. Strategies to help you get over the hump. Start redefining what failure means to you. Shade, people like you make the world a better place. You deserve a million thanks and all the hugs I can give, I’ll never be able to repay you for your kindness. We, your followers love ❤.
This is a wonderful video , just faced a bad rejection from a journal. I'm going back again , NEVER STOP 😊
Wow this is true and enlightening. As a designer who experienced a lot of rejection it made me fear failure, which led me to be a perfectionist and so I procrastinate in every given project. You can also connect this as a result of being a man pleaser.
Ah you make a good point - being a people pleasure and having a strong desire (or need) for social validation can absolutely lead to fear of failure due to the ‘social rejection’ that you associate with failure. Have you found any effective ways to work through your fear of failure?
I do the same...you have put it so well..beginning every single project is associated with fear and then procrastination, I do agree...it results from people lashing back on us and we end up reciprocating that by punishing ourselves by procrastination and mental dilemma..but how do u avoid that..i mean how do u face that fear..can u share?
@@prunes794 @Shadé Zahrai
Every time I’m in this state I just accept the reality that I’m stuck but there is also this reality where you really have to move forward and make progress. While I procrastinate, I do research regarding my project, because for me enough knowledge about my project boosts my confidence that I can do a good job. It’s a learning process and sometimes I still stumble on this part. Don’t be too hard on ourselves too. This helps
persistence pays. life lessons come from failure. we have go through certain situation to grow, and discover our untapped potential. great content love your video. 🙂💯
I have recently started watching your talks . I found you highly informative and inspiring . thank you for your hard work and your intent .
What a powerful video this is, full of knowledge and facts . Beautifully compressed in 9 mins. Great 👍
Thank you. Time to jump. I agree, Stephany Meyers was rejected 21 times for Twilight and even encouraged to see a psychiatrist... I imagine their reactions when they saw the success of the books and the movies.... BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!
Inspiring
We suffer a lot more in our thoughts than we do for real..
Hey you back again with fresh energy , you're always inspiring👍👍👍👍👍
Thanks! It’s good to be back - with energy! 😛
@@ShadeZahrai yeah.. After all your life your rules 😅😅
Shade zahrai, dear please tell where are you? Where do you live?
@@ShadeZahrai please make more video on this topic
More energy is required to speak continously and to dance.
Trust me you are the best.. I love the way you present things. It really helped me. Thank you and God bless
if we think about it we learned a lot from failure
I have all these problems, fear of failure, perfectionist mind and a procrastinator. Since i have failed so many times and usually it back fires when i have shared my plans with friends and then they start to criticize. So i made 2 changes, first of all i never share my plans until i achieve it. And second, if i do share it, i tell them that i am trying something new to fail in. This way they will have an answer and i also get passed the fear of failure.
This is great! I’m so happy you were able to find a strategy that works for you - and I especially love how you’re embracing the possibility of failing and seeing it as a growth opportunity - more power to you! 💪
@@ShadeZahrai thank you for all the great and helpful content you always provide 😊
Thank you Shadé. Fear is something I have suffered as a forex trader. I will put this tips to use, expose myself to risk so i can get more comfortable. Thanks again
Im so happy that i found you❤
You are going to be famous very soon!
Just discovered your channel .thank you so much for this great video .with love . New follower from Morocco
You are inspirational speaker. I really notice about your presentation and way you speak. Great. I want to be in such position where I can speak up clearly with confidence.
I wish i was as confident as you when speaking....
This sentence which you said is incorrect bcz this is conditional sentence so was replaced by were
thanks mam this side vansh oneof your biggest fan watching you since a long time i have become a more and more motivated now you charismatic look energies me the most ☺😊😇❤❤
This video was really enlightening. I-am still a victim of this. This kind of fear is holding me back. Always rejections and cant even reach my goals. How can i overcome these fears and be a successful person
This is so well explained!!!!! 🌟
Glad you think so!
wow.... you have the Power of influencing, Acceptance... this is the first time i feel im learning new skills without feeling bored..
Thanks for all advice that you gave😊😊
The subs growing up so fast! 😉
She deserves that !
Thanks for sharing !
Regarding JK, I've heard similar about Thomas Edison and all the ways he learned how not to make a light bulb. But as a Potterhead, knowing we wouldn't have such an amazing franchise if she had given up, penetrates deeper!
Trying to think of an inspirational quote now.
Hagrid: "You're a wizard Harry"
JK: "And no one would know your story had I given up getting it published after so many rejections"
Your talks are well researched.. well organised and focused... so many benefit from your hard work... Thank you
Thank you so much Felix. My husband and I produce these videos together and it means so much when we receive positive feedback. We hope that you continue to get value from them. 😊
I just hope I can change the narrative playing in my mind..this was really informative..thanks
Little by little. Day by day. Just plan daily action that help you and be deliberately consistent. 💪🏼
@@ShadeZahrai 💯👏👏
Thanks Shade!!!
🎉 U are my best instructor ever ; I admire ur tireless effort with patience, " continuous dripping of H2O undeniably can brake a rocky hard emotional behaviour, would u keep it up ? It's not only work; but , it's kind of u , indeed!❤
Wonderful and powerful
This is a really beautiful episode.
Thank you! Very helpful advice. I am going to take action!
Insightful piece.
Much needed 👍🏻👍🏻 thank u !
I am an English language student. I am barely beginning to understand you because yours espeeches, are very fluent to me because I am an english apprentice. Thank you very much, understand you in a completely way is my purpose.
Hey your words are making me to stay positive... Thank you and continue the same❤
Thanks for all your videos it's really useful to develop myself. Keep going madam
So nice of you.
@@ShadeZahrai pleasure is all mine
Got this video as a recommendation on my feed, and now you are up a subscriber 😄 . Loved the video, it was truly inspirational 🙋♂
That's very sweet of you. Welcome aboard!
@@ShadeZahrai Thank you for welcoming 😄☺
You nailed it. You the best!
Worth listening.
Great motivation
Found the channel via Instagram, really motivating.. please keep us motivated.
I use to hold back from things, this open up my mind, will implement this.
Thanks for the video.
You're welcome! Thank you for making time to watch and so glad that this content is empowering you. 😊
@@ShadeZahrai Hi! I am learning a lot from your videos, please do make this kind of contents.
Very inspiring. Many thanks
Imoh my ..shade is back
I think people follow rules but legends follow principles. There is no such thing as FAILURE.
Wonderful..so sweet ❤️❤️
Mam you have great communication skills..I also develop my skill...how to develop..plz
As I'm watching, I feel a lot better about myself. I hope to actually take actions. Thank you!
Watching from T&T 🇹🇹
Struggling with fear and failure, ever since my first bad experience from a horrible death experience attack after losing my both parents and some siblings, never had counseling about it,
And always frightful about any small issues p,
I'm to the point where it's beginning to become a normal
I need help...cause I'm loosing lots of good people in my life Tanks much 💖
What can I do?
You are conveying things with extreme clarity. Impressive. Also, contents are well arranged.
i love your channel
Am thinking of getting smart drugs because of fear of failing my second semester because I know I did not do well last semester, but I read but I do forget and sometimes when I read it doesn't go well because I find it difficult to process somethings.i still trying to save up some money before exam, because I doubt myself, even d person I have interest in is much smarter than me academically,we have no connection,am a recluse, introvert, secluse and I prefer being a taciturn,I wish I could not love 💕, like,nor crush nor even lust anyone, my wish is to be like Bruce Wayne and painkiller and be successful and alone and wealthy.loving someone makes me weak not strong.it doesn't fit me I mean love.solitude is seen as my best friend.
Very well researched inspiring content delivered with finesse. Good Work Ms. Shade. Mindfulness is the key to make the shift.
👍 Thank you.🙏💐🌲🙏
thanks you so much for this powerful video,receive my regreet from mexico, hasta luego baby !!!!!
Wow such a fab accent you have. I love to pronounce the way you do❤️
Mam I wanted to ask a question.
I went for an interview and worked there from 9-2 they are offering me pin amount salary and work is monotonous.
I asked her directly that I got bored and I want diversification in my work.
☀️Was there any other alternative by which I should have conveyed to her or is being straightforward was okay?
Thanks for your all the video it's really helpful developed myself thanks 💝
Can you make a video on working with ADHD? And does CBT help get reduce of ADD completely?
Thankyou
Hi shade
Now i seen your vedios i am impressed great way of explanation
For me may 23, 1989 at 2:37pm gave me my worst taste of failure that still haunts me to this day.
I was 9 yrs old trying to keep my mom from dying. I failed her, my family and myself.
And my mind won't let me forget either. Every night in my dreams I watch her die. I've watched her die over 12,000 times.
I'm curious about your accent.
Your accent sounds Aussie with American twist in the pronunciations (like pronouncing the Rs at the end of words)
I have a mixed accent - I’ve lived in Australia most of my life and my family lived in England prior to coming here. On the other hand my husband (while I spend almost every waking minute with) has a neutral American accent. Mine has become a blend 🙂
What i like about your accent ,as someone who lives in Morrocco ,is very clear and ur tone and rythm while emphasizing key idea makes it stick in my head
Which country u r from
@@priyanshugoyal716 Her name is Iranian, I'm guessing she has Iranian ancestry.
Good insight 👍 my first name is Nigerian, my family name is Iranian.
You are one of a kind...çok guzel🧿
Hi Shade,
An interesting and informative video. I appreciate your efforts.
Thank you,
Amazing source of information Liked ur videos..
I gave a talk about this topic a few years ago and most of the people in the audience did admit that they had a Fear of Failure.
But after giving them solutions to overcome that fear, they were able to turn their lives around and for the better.
Sometimes people just need to listen and actually apply what they have learned from people who are trying to help them.
And I hope that more people will take your
advice because it can totally transform the way they live.
Amazing Video Shadé!
PS.
Outstanding Editing👍🏻
Best speaker
@Shadezahrai Thanks for sharing this amazing video related to overcome fear within ourselves... Much needed motivation on My Birthday... Thank You Very Much @Shadezahrai May God Bless You With Abundance of Happiness 🤲👍🙂
Oh it’s your birthday! 🎉 Happiest of birthdays to you! Faysal and I wish you a wonderful birthday week 🥳
@@ShadeZahrai Thank You So Much For Your Best Wishes... 👍👍🙂
I love your lecture too much.
I have been thinking about something for a long time and this video just pushed me over the edge... I had something in my for a collaboration for both Us Shade ! Let me know if can talk out the details
New sub here, really you're the one I was looking for i am at start and want same guidence tysm for bringing this out.. ✨💫
You always inspiring me with your great ideas and refreshing thoughts👌👌👌👌👍👍
Keep going💪💪💪💪💪
Your accent is so clear that I am in literally in love with it.
I had an Australian coach in my engineering training program... I could not believe that you are Australian... I thought you are Indian😄😄
I learnt after 50 years of age that no matter what any relationship is, it is basically just a type of transaction between two persons. It can be physical, emotional or social but it is just a transaction between two persons. This was an eye opener for me and I am now living in totally different world and my expectations towards myself and my near or dear ones are totally different. Second thing I learnt was everything I do (Even when I get married or have kids) I do it for myself and to make me happy or make me feel better. My wife or my kids or my house.... everything is to make me feel better.
failure is not definite criteria. so Evolve.
One of the Bestest channel..She is really helping me a lot.. Thank you so much for all of your work...❤️
Nice and simple explanations. 10 points.
legends are listening 🎧 her at 0.50× playback speed..
Really worthy points for us to avoid fear in communications.
I have been noticed that I am afraid of fear of failure, i didn't work on atychiphobia over the time, thanks for sharing this wonderful information with us.
i liked your content 👍🏼❤️
I learning to be used to it. Since I’m looking for a job now, and went to hiring events, and interviews, and I don’t hear back. I feel bad that I am not able to get a job as fast as some people I know, but I got another one today, and I hope I get it.
“Thoughts are not fact”
It is amazing to see your videos and informations are backed by research findings instead of just " so called facts"
Apu..... I listening u from Bangladesh 🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩❣️❣️❣️
Best teacher, who teaches us,how to live, how come back to our peaceful life, from any kind of depression, tension. Best Guru so call in Indian philosophy.
Just discovered this channel, brilliant videos, really helpful, thnx a lot for such gr8 content ❤️🙏
Glad you like them! 🙏🏽😊
Thanks Amartya for introducing me to her channel. Exquisite content, Shadé! 😊
Thanks a lot Shade...loved the video 🤘🏼
You are so charismatic and your voice has quite an affect. 🥳
All of your videos are highly relatable to my conditions. They really help to understand the issue clearly and solve it. Thank you!
Great content. I needed it. Thank you
But some people like my 37 year old husband have difficulties overcoming the fear of failure.
I tried studying with him he was not able to concentrate or he wants to go to his friends - or he starts making excuses - so I have given the hope up that he will overcome his fears.I can not force him.He has wasted many oppurtunities and chances in his life due to his fear - he had rejected twice Job coaching ,and a 3 year long job training with exams and keeps making excuses he is not capable.His attitude is regretable but I have realized after 3 years of staying with him that I can not change him and if he does not want to understand,what can I do?
Just like an enlightened woman! Thanks a lot ♥️🙏🏻
Feel 100% true in what is said 👍🏻
I am amazed with your psychological tricks in videos.
Just "woooow"
You bring positivity to many people’s life . Failure or success depends on how you think if we always think we move forward whether we get whatever we needed sometimes what we thought at that time wasn’t not the best for you ..
thank you shade you make my many days better..
Inspiring video