Dear Future Wifey Podcast 115: Don't Ignore Red Flags (Renee Fowler Hornbuckle)
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- How many times have you ignored suspect behavior from your love interest? As things unfolded, you recognized that peculiar behavior was actually a red flag that shouldn’t have been taken lightly. Renee Fowler Hornbuckle knows all too well the danger of not heeding to warning signs after her ex-husband was charged with three counts of sexual assault.
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Super proud of you mom! You’re legit my shero and I hope to be as graceful as you in the face of adversity and judgment! A lot of people could NEVER handle what we have been through and still be standing! It’s so easy for people to judge from the outside looking in, but I’ve learned you shouldn’t through rocks at glass house and that we never know what anyone is going through so we SHOULDN’T JUDGE when we don’t have all the facts or know the experience of others! It’s so easy to look at someone like my amazing mother and assume things, but what y’all don’t know is this ABUSE hurt our entire family and my mother held us together with a paper clip, AND sacrificed so all THREE OF HER CHILDREN (especially her expensive/active daughter, aka ME) could have one present parent and legit make sure we could have the option and the ability to follow our dreams! Something most people, myself included, could never do! I love that you are so graceful, kind, and forgiving to those who don’t even deserve it, which has been an AMAZING example to me of the Grace of God, which none of us deserve, but he keeps on giving each and every day! You are amazing mama, keep giving love and teaching women to love theirselves and to accept the love they deserve because we don’t always do that and can end up in abusive situations and not even realize it because it’s so subtle! I love you and I am so proud of you!!!!!!!!!
*Drops mic* Well said, Rachel. Wow.
My sweet daughter, Thank you so much for having the courage and strength to share your own thoughts and experiences! THIS EXPRESSION is the true blessing of pressing through adversity and never giving up! THIS EXPRESSION is why when I share my pains and struggles that's it's done so to inspire and give hope! THIS EXPRESSION is my WHY! THIS EXPRESSION is proof of what can occur when healing, persistence, courage, strength, and CRAZY FAITH collide.
Parents this is why we must not be selfish and should parent even through our pain. Thank you, @Rachel Renee and I pray and hope that others read your words and reflect upon their own lives before they choose to throw stones! I pray they will hear your heart and be moved to compassion. Jesus was always overtaken with compassion and did not judge nor condemn.
I love you and I'm so proud of you and your brothers! Love you more! We are Strong! We are Resilient! We are a GREAT example of Courage and Faith! We will fulfill Purpose! Mom
@@DearFutureWifey My Mini-ME (the 6 Ft. Version)! This is my reason! My Why!!!
Dear Future Wifey just giving credit where credit is do!!! This was amazing by the way!!!!!!
Thank You! I see myself, it's like you are telling my story to be exact. But One, I had Seven Children, amaging that. Same Arena, marriage/money/ministry. Don't know which is worst, Abusive Marriage OR lies being told by spouse over world wide web and endorsements of it all through Leadership???? THANK You for Your Courage/Tell!!!
I remember calling off my engagement because I noticed the red flags! My family and friends thought I was crazy. told me I was overreacting. What they thought didn’t matter cause I knew it would only get worse as time went on. I decided to take the “L” now rather than later!
Wise decision.
What COURAGE!!! Right move!
Wow! Well done girl.
Amazing 😍 Good for you ❤️
God loves you
Thank you for the opportunity to share my story on your podcast! Blessings to you and all that you do!
Thank you for being transparent. Your story will heal a nation.
Your story is such a blessing. I thank God for sustaining you. You are a mighty woman of God.
@@DearFutureWifey Thank you!
I'm 32 and never been married but I truly thank you for your transparency. This allowed me to see a whole another level of grace
@@phendyjean Yes. Don't ignore the signs... ever.. no matter your age!! Your life depends on it. I would rather stay single than enter another toxic relationship!
Red flags be looking like six flags when you're feeling somebody 🤦🏾♀️
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Good one! Lol🤣
😂😂😂😂😭😆 wheres the lie?😆
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Say so!! 😄😄
Unfortunately many believers don't know about the perils of a relationship with a narcissist and unfortunately, preaching is an arena where many narcissists hide. The thing about the narcissist is that they want control of everything but they willfully live their lives out of control. Controling others and creating chaos keeps folks from seeing what is really going on. I uprooted my whole life when I saw that happening. And now I try to help others before they go down that path.
Crystal, I'm so glad you were about to get out of that relationship. Narcissists are no joke!
They want your life, future, children, soul
Great explanation!
Crystal...I’m about to shout and wake up my neighbors this early in the morning. Someone come put some blessed oil on my forehead 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🎶🎶🎶
That was very well articulated.
No matter how hard you pray, if A bad guy doesn't want Change, He Won't. I have been there
Loud it
so have i
Discernment.. God will give us signs.. don’t ignore them.
Facts
I did and I’m my paying for it with my emotions.
Unfortunately, I ignored the signs and paid for it dearly not only I paid my children did and it's because of me, I didn't listen to my gut. Your gut will NEVER lead you wrong. I mean NEVER!!
That's why God gives us a free will.
The red flags seem so clear but the enemy is the father of lies and deceit he’ll put a veil over your eyes for you to miss the warning signs. But the Lord will use your story to impact someone before they get into deep. Blessings
You are correct! And knowing what to look for is key! Thank you
Hormones deceive you, nothing more.
@@stephaniep1761 It’s actually pride that deceives people. All the people I know that ignored red flags simply didn’t want to lose face breaking up, when it was still relatively safe. Almost all felt some type of serious discomfort, but still went ahead... God promised that He does not allow more than we (His Spirit filled children) can handle, so even in the infatuation phase we will still have enough sense to know what’s right from wrong! That is, hormones were not created to allow deception, so they are not that strong.
Not victim shaming here, but people need to understand dealbreakers like a spiritual, but flirtatious partner... or a controlling one, an irresponsible one, a DIVISIVE one (always somehow connected to drama) and/or one that doesn’t like serious questions about their past!
“Stop, drop, and pray!” 😫 Adopting for life! Thank you, woman of God! 🙏🏽
I remember her and their church coming to my old church IBOC back in the day when all of this was taking place. I knew there was something special about her. I’m glad she and her children are doing well. 🙏🏽
Yeah, she's a pretty dope woman. Proud of her strength.
I was a member of this church at the time when this happened I remember pastor RR IBOC was the only mega church that stood by our side and supported the church to the point that he publicly called out church leaders and asked them to stop talking about what had happened but covers us with prayer. IBOC had a 3 night service and raised money to financially help. The only reason I left in 2009 I relocated to other State.
Thank you so much
@@JB-zy7vg Hey 👋 You are correct! You rode it out Thank you. I pray you are well!
Jannetta Brass yep I was there.
I was a member of this church from 2000-2005. I remember his last sermon before he was charged. He had just been accused and he told the congregation, that we were about to see a miracle. He really thought he was going to overcome this. I joined this church not because of his sermons but because of her, how she was always so genuine and poised. First time I heard any pastors wife preach on Women of Excellence.. I am so happy to see she is still thriving. Im also a faithful tither due to what I learned under this ministry, I hate that this happened, but I wish her and her ministry now, well God bless her.
That's so powerful, Nickie! Renee would love to her this. You should DM her on IG.
@@DearFutureWifey ok, I will!
Thank you so much!
My college roommate called off her wedding the night before. It was a big to do...who’s who.....
Anyway he smacked her DURING the rehearsal dinner. Yes!!!!!!!!’ In their culture sadly that is common. Long story ....her family disowned her. Telling her how she would never meet anyone else with that kind of money who would ever love her.
Now 33 years later, she married only 5 years ago for the first time. And she’s so happy. That former fiancé ....he passed away from a terminal illness. He was living a secret lifestyle and my college roommate said she ALWAYS knew something was different. His abuse towards her was deeper than the human eye 👁 could see.
Wow!!!!!!!!!!!
So glad she had the COURAGE then to stand in what she knew in spite of the losses.... Grateful that she is able to now enjoy the life GOD had for her. It is so sad that in the various cultures that acceptance of abuse is still condoned. It's a reality and something that we must stand together to change. Thank you for sharing!
Wow! My aunt left her husband after 4 months of marriage he hit her!!
Thinking back I wonder if Ms. Fowler’s college boyfriend used the Bible as an excuse against her sorority? Perhaps he wasn’t accepted into a fraternity and got mad and flipped the script??? Just thinking 💭 out loud.
@@danielapearson350 Hey there, Just for clarity My college boyfriend was a privileged athlete. It was my ex-husband who didn't allow me to participate And I do think he might not have been accepted in a frat - now that I think about it.
Many may think this was easy for her to do, because it's been so long ago, but this TOOK COURAGE, and I applaud her 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Facts!
Thank you so much!
Absolutely!!! My mom always said if it don’t fit don’t force it!! I forced it and ignored so many signs ... even the night before the wedding and my mom came to my room and said get your stuff ..let’s go! It’s done! And I stayed out of obligation and not wanting to let all the people who were there for the wedding... parents need to talk and expand and explain this to their kids... instead of just throwing stuff out there and leaving it up to our interpretation... I didn’t know what those red flags were or what to do next... but I know now and talk to my daughters about it.
So your mom telling you to get your stuff ??
That was my take...
I wish my parents and family were open about this type of trauma...
I talk to my daughter and her friends about those things with a certain fortitude...
@@clarkclarke5321 sometimes it's not, it's a question of WHY.....
I had one friend, a guy who was friend to the both of us....Say don't marry him, I said Why....He would not tell me exactly, he only said he's not ready, (he told me he was ready he acts ready brought a house pays the bill ready) Narcissistic People mask Everything
I Finally walked away, but I had to protect my child, from the TV. BROADCAST, they kept my man out of story, but your church, your childrens school and schoolmates knew...
It was trematic.
But God sent me, two friends from my past, I knew them from the age of 15...
They put Me back together again...
Listened to Me with judgment, I was able to bounce my ideas off them...
Strategies for recovery were made.
My family, I needed them the financial support to manage my investments, to overcome the obstacles that he kept throwing at me, still haven't stopped after the divorce. BUT I'M STRONGER AND WISER NOW.....
THANK YOU LORD FOR SAVING ME
AND MY CHILD...
She's drop dead gorgeous and such a good example for young women. Thank you for your testimony.
I ignored them red flags, when God was clearly showing me that he wasn't the man for me. Looking back I wished I had listened. Know better now though.
We all do BUT now we KNOW and we will do BETTER! We deserve it!
Just use that opportunity as a lesson that you needed to learn, don't be hard on yourself, and share your experience with as many people as you can. Even if that mean posting videos about it on your own channel. So many people need to know about narcissistic abuse. So, they can get out of those toxic relationships. Don't let the enemy keep you bound in shame and fear. God got you. God loves you, and so do I in Jesus name. Amen. 😘😘😘😘
U know now sis
Don’t feel bad, young and naive, I did too.
@@drreneefowler love you 😭🙏❤️🤗 God's continuous support, loving blessings and peace
I’m going back watching each and every video. She is such a woman of wisdom and I love how despite everything she went through she had faith and continued to trust the Lord🙏🏾
Thank you and may you be strengthened! Learn the lessons well!
I am a former pastor's wife, I experienced all of what this strong woman of God went thru.
I got out with my life but my children paid a price.
Men and women listen to this lady because it can go both ways.
Thank you for sharing this!!!
I imagine Future Wifey finally opening that box to read the letters. God knows how much tissue she will need! Such a beautiful channel!
Right!
Whitney Mwangi is so Positive. 👏.
Not all Abused Individuals Cry.
My sentiments exactly!
@@helenlugone1716, Vanessa Bryant is a Widow.
Why, if You're Winning?
@@helenlugone1716, Influence, and Inspiration is Distinctive: the Distinction is Accountability.
"Influence: a person or thing with the capacity or power to have an effect on someone or something, late Middle English: from Old French, or from medieval Latin influentia ‘inflow’, from Latin influere, from in- ‘into’ + fluere ‘to flow’. The word originally had the general sense ‘an influx, flowing matter’, also specifically (in astrology) ‘the flowing in of ethereal fluid (affecting human destiny)’. The sense ‘imperceptible or indirect action exerted to cause changes’ was established in Scholastic Latin by the 13th century, but not recorded in English until the late 16th century."
"Inspiration: the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something, especially to do something creative, the drawing in of breath; inhalation, Middle English (in the sense ‘divine guidance’): via Old French from late Latin inspiratio(n- ), from the verb inspirare (see inspire)."
"Inspire: fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative, breathe in (air); inhale, Middle English enspire, from Old French inspirer, from Latin inspirare ‘breathe or blow into’ from in- ‘into’ + spirare ‘breathe’. The word was originally used of a divine or supernatural being, in the sense ‘impart a truth or idea to someone’"
Narcissism is a pandemic!
Facts!
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Deep 👍
Definitely
Yep I can relate to this. First isolate then cast doubt on ur character and whether your behaviour is morally right. Used the Bible to justify all kinds of abusive behaviour. Be aware ladies.
Facts 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Really fun but it kart
Been here but escaped marrying them.
My story isn't as tragic but I was dating a guy and I kept making excuses and seeing the flags flying. This interview was the push needed.
What kind of excuses were you making?
My ass use to be color blind to read flags!! No anymore. With every experience, you start to see the more and more clearly. The spirit in you will start to become agitated. Don't ignore that! I use to think I was bugging and ignoring my instincts. I grew up in a controlling and strict home. This is not healthy for any child. You grow up being a people pleaser, unaware of healthy boundaries, and unable to speak up for yourself because controlling behaviors are such a norm. I had to get help for myself to heal. I have been doing this for years and I'm still doing the work. Once I understood myself and got grounded in who I was, I was quick to stop any bully or emotional vampire in their tracks. I learn to create healthy boundaries, not walls in order to protect myself.
Well said! "I learn to create healthy boundaries, not walls in order to protect myself."
I am so going to do as Laterras and start writing my letters to my future husband. Thanks Sir!!!❤
I encourage you to do so. It's cathartic.
I've already done so for 4 years from 2013-2017. I stopped because I completed the journal/book. I'm thinking of starting again!
😹I thought about after Purpose vs Preference Podcast.
It's a sign 😹✨
Facts. I need to
Thankful
I can really relate to her story. As a 27 year old who was fresh out of college, I met a guy who ended up being abusive. I didn't know what the signs I was seeing meant and went through with a marriage that I didn't feel comfortable being in. I shared my trepidation with him before we married and he screamed in my ear about how he was ready to marry me. I ignored that flag and the unease and unfortunately had three children with him. I left that burning building with my 3 children and left him after he had a fit of rage. Thank God I did. I am praying for her and her children. Ignoring those red flags (or not knowing those were red flags) cost me an opportunity to meet someone healthy and forge a loving marriage for me and my children.
If it doesn't feel right, do NOT get married... even if people say it's cold feet. Only marry a person who gives you PEACE at the thought of being married to them.
I learned the hard way about ignoring red flags with my ex he had some of the qualities I wanted in a man( provider and protector) but some other qualities were missing ( God fearing & family oriented). I can not date/ court potential because potential is not what I needed at this point in my life.
college grad beautifully said. I'm going through the same thing and you're so right, he only has potential and that's not enough.
@@goddessk4610 thank you
I went through the same exact thing. Great great potential but he needed to go through his own healing that i couldn't be apart of. I still pray he receives that healing
At 41 I’m with you on that!
Never date potential!!!👌👌
I remember seeing a meme that said “these red flags looking kinda pinkish” - even though I laughed, it has some truth in it, when you make an excuse for red flags or stay with the person despite the bad signs, they no longer look as dangerous as they did before
Great truth!!! It's difficult sometimes to determine what's healthy and whats not.
Your picture is beautiful Patrice🤗
@Robert Drake Thank you Sir!
For example..he is building a business..so cannot set a schedule about Time with you. It was called by him Doing good for me. I made the statement..yes..There I am walking down the street with my arm up..around the invisible man. The one who " just can't be there" again! Plus..he made no gains..no Giving to make up for missed time. Put me through torment..came knocking at my house pleading He was doing good work. DEVIL in disguise..mocking Gods word about being set straight..made right. I ate dinners alone bc of biz meetings. Stopped inviting the Skipper! If he showed up, I would not say are you hungry? I would ask through a closed door..Tell me one bit of Good news..that you got funded for your project. He always said Soon. The lies showed that's all he could produce. He did pay for my moving costs..knew I needed help..and at least paid back something for the grief he often caused me. Still did not mean he could be around..say more lies. I cdn't continue repeating When will something show a Good result. I kept my apartment, raising a son and not giving my ear to that person. He could not say definite days for anything..only his schemes covered up as "going well". He resisted saying where new office was..because I might come and Speak to staff they were in for some trouble. Am sure they found out. Shutting the door on those who cannot give of themselves Is the only choice. They ll continue on in stories until all turn their backs. They will cry in regret for not hearing why trust needs to be kept..for not learning to manage What they say is important to them. Job focus..will only give you job related successes. After work..what will you have to look forward to? Nothing but material gain. That can become unsatisfying because Sharing it becomes the last thing they will do. Giving bad news is deferring hope. In between getting to levels of success, one ought to show human interaction and recognition for support and understanding. Cancelling that is akin to antisocial behaviour..they get no one standing by them bc they wouldnt stand by anyone.
A wife has the natural ability to "see through" her husband when she is confident in her own spiritual discernment . We are no longer accepting claims and "blind eye" theories from the elders in the Church anymore .
If nothing more, I hope this teaches younger women who are considering marriage to accept devotion only after they are fully confident and wise enough to use discernment. 🙏🏾
AMEN! R.C Blake's on TH-cam is the best resource for this!
@@tierradestinyfriends-digit9611 I used to tune in to him.... he's so old school lol. I appreciate this podcast for the balance
This ♥️
Yes. We have to use Godly wisdom in everything that we do. Some people really are wolves in sheep's clothing.
Tony Gaskins and the late Pastor Stephen Darby also have great videos on relationships and discernment.
Silence keeps you stuck.
Powerful testimony from the guest. This brings back so many memories for me. I am encouraged to finish my book. Empowerment!
She is a pretty woman. It is good that she is sharing her testimony. I have been in countless of abusive relationships. A few of them physically and verbally abusive. The last one was primarily emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and verbally abusive. If you have been through this share your testimony. Don't let the enemy silence you. People need to hear this. So they know what type of relationships to avoid.
Exactly! Thank you for sharing your testimony. You made it sister!
@@DearFutureWifey Amen!
This conversation was Very enlightening. One of my daughters is in a Relationship that has All the Red flags and I have made my concerns known. I shared this podcasts on the family Group thread. We can't make Our grown up children to do what we want, but I haven't stopped Praying and Trusting GOD 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you Sir for Covering all aspects of Relationships. Maybe Dr Dharius Daniels could come on here to discuss his Relational Intelligence book. Awesome Read!
All you can do is pray. Don't be judgemental or harsh when speaking to her. Need to know and understand why she feel as though she is not valuable enough to wait on a man from God that will love and respect her in a genuine manner. More often then not she grew up in a toxic environment. That caused her to not create healthy boundaries, and not show genuine love to begin with.
Speak in depth to your daughter about your concerns. Share your own personal experiences, so that she can have a deeper understanding. You can't make a grown person do anything that they don't want to, but parents should talk to their children and provide clear knowledge and the talks should start at a young age before they start encountering challenges.
I found myself in a narcissistic relationship. I didn't have a word for it until about 3 or 4 years in. I just watched and paid attention. Finally after the 6th year, I started studying narcissism and had that aha moment. I knew that we would never go farther than where we were. I checked out of the relationship mentally emotionally and physically in the last 3 years. Divine intervention stepped in 2019, when he got a job transfer and he moved. Thankfully it happened like that in order for the toxic bond to be broken. I am now on a self healing journey and it feels good
Preach!
Yes it's best to move on it will never. work got my confirmation
Renee Fowler Hornbuckle has blessed me, and enlightened me. I cried as I listened to her testimony because I was abused and I begin to see all that I wasn't taught and given. I am a runner and I recently relocated . Now I am questioning why did I relocate? I thought it was a fresh start but I don't know now. Am I running again.? Am I running from my past or problems or running towards finding love. The love would be, love that I never received from the people GOD chose to bring me into this world. I thank GOD for this Dear Future Wifey Podcast! Praying to get to the other side!
Went thru a similar story. we were together 17years. He was in the news. You are very brave to share something that I was soooooo ashamed of.
It's really important to listen to God. I was in an abusive relationship about 26 years ago and he wanted to marry me and on the way to the jewellers to get my ring finger measured, I heard the loudest NO in my heart and I walked away from the shop and the relationship ended shortly afterwards. I am now with someone new who is displaying the same thing. I have been praying and seeking God to remove him, but he has been around for 2 and half years. Two nights ago I heard whilst praying sever the tie. So I asked God to sever the tie and I have not heard from him since. Praise God....
God is so good!
Thank GOD that HE speaks to us.... Im so grateful that you are listening. You life matters... Praise God
@@drreneefowler
Thank you Renee
God will do what you ask he want us to seek him and Love him with all our hearts and soul I asked God to cut the ties from the root of my heart I prayed and told him if it’s meant for us to be together he’ll do it in his own time , he was my HS sweetheart we reconnected an emotional 10 yr affair the situation was messy after that I cut all contact with him and yes it hurts, but God showed me an ugly side of him I’ve never seen!!
@@tellnolies8530
God loves us so much that if we just speak to him about every single thing that concerns us, he promise to perfect it, whether the door closes or remains open. He is our protector and sees our end from the beginning. Keep believing your desires are coming.
Wow this pod cast almost broke me down in tears while listening at work. I saw so many things in my present relationship but also some things in my self. Truly a soul awakening. This shook my world. May shift my life.
Hallelujah!
I am a witness to this. You don't have to look like what you're going through. AKA my glory don't tell my story😍
I love that he asked if she ever reached out to any of the victims. That was a powerful and revealing question. Says alot.
Amazing interviewer. That was a question that provided insight without judgement.
I know her daughter personally and she’s such an amazing soul!!
I always enjoy hearing her speak. Her strength is indescribable
Hornbuckle... hmmmm. I remember that name. I met a pastor in Arlington many years ago and the day I met him after the sermon, shook his hand and got a very bad vibe... years later I found out why....God is good.
I agree with you Fred. I went to this church bc a friend invited me to come to a Xmas event. I believe at that time it was on Division St. I walked in and everyone looked like they were at a formal jazz club with the musician playing the sax. My spirit went on alert and made me watch EVERY THING. After it ended my friend asked me did I like it but I told her that the tithes money was not utilized for the benefit of the church and there's something wrong was there and I'm not going to go there.
A decade later she called me and said that I was right in what I discerned...that Hornbuckle got arrested right after his sermon for drugs and the assault of teen girls.
So many lives and love toward God destroyed bc of this. I pray healing for the victims.
I remember when this happened 16 years ago in Dallas. It was a major local news story.
Exactly
In my thirty journey, I was conditioned to achieve a degree, relationship, house, etc. & all these things are great, but I am learning that NOT to pay so much attention to these things. In relations, sometimes when we want something so bad we ignore the red flags. I'm learning to really enjoy the moment, acknowledge ALL the flags and really put faith into the creator. what will be for me will be for me! Thank u for posting. I really needed this
Amen!
You have learned well. Stay alert always
It seems like a lot of red flags are matters of degrees. Like you SHOULD place boundaries on your male friends, you SHOULD have some focus on your relationship as well as your family, and you SHOULD prioritize your marital relationship over other activities. Sometimes it's hard to understand or see when things have shifted from a reasonable concern to unhealthy restriction or manipulation.
Great observation and well stated. Secret societies and fraternal organizations often have ungodly roots. We are to leave and cleave.
The devil comes as an angel of light and uses half truths to deceive. God help us, especially the daughters of Zion, that we will not be deceived.
Sista Renee, what GOD placed inside you no man can take away. Re-ignite the fire and shine bright! Thanks for sharing your story.
I think it is so important for people to know these subtle signs of domestic abuse because most times before it's physical, it's the isolation and control. Unfortunately for me, I didn't recognize it until it became physical. My experience was very similar to hers. This breaks my heart, but I'm thankful to those who have the courage to speak out.
I'm so grateful you are one who made it out!
@@drreneefowler Thank your for the courage to share and for your reply. Your interview refreshed my thoughts on why I continue to speak out because the testimonies are for those who are in the trenches now, or still suffering from the aftermath and need the help. God Bless You! 🤗🤗
She's so graceful. Wishing her the absolute best. May her testimony continue to change peoples lives.
SO WOWED BY THIS FIRST LADY'S TESTIMONY OF FAITH AND STRENGTH.
Mr. Whitfield, just finding your show. Enjoy the cleanliness and open dialogue you allow. Please keep your format as polished and professional as now witnessed. You are a great guy and anything less would not be great. God appears to be with you and your "LIT" agenda is refreshing in the midst of profanity laced TH-cam and podcast channels.
This blessed my soul.....I recall the news of all of this. I’m SO glad God preserved Lady Renee, her children and her ministry in the way that He did! 🙏🏾💜🙏🏾
This woman really encouraged me to keep walking in faith now that I'm walking out to my freedom. Knowing who we are and knowing who God has designed us to be is so important. Thank you for such an inspirational pod cast God bless you very much.
Oh sister! your story is powerful. I needed to hear this...
Glad it was helpful!
"As of August 25, 2020 Hornbuckle has been transferred to the Texas Civil Commitment Center in Littlefield, Texas." Thankfully, Ms. Renee Fowler Hornbuckle and her children will be safe from her narcissistic ex husband, who still refuses to admit full responsibility for his actions.
Amen
Moving forward. Thank you
God allowed it to be on Valentine's day. Because that was the day your journey of loving yourself deeply and correctly was going to begin. God don't make any mistakes. He is an awesome and on time God.
You better preach!
AMEN
Amen
Pastor Renee is a phenomenal Woman of God! I respect her dearly and glad to know her and her children are doing well.
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What she says at 22:40 I can relate to that. My closest male friend died suddenly when me and my ex were supposed to meet. This demon acted like nothing had happened. But rather made it all about him. The red flags are always there. Also the issue about knowing prior to the wedding day is real. I wanted to cancel my wedding to my ex husband that morning because he "sat on my glasses breaking it" everyone around me thought I was overreacting but looking back, that was my sign to tap out. It's safe to say that after a few years, I tapped out and doing so much better.
Do not ignore the signs, you are not being paranoid. Make your choice and God will sustain you. Great podcast.
True! Thanks, Ms P.
Thanks for this interview. I’m truly grateful to see that there are men who truly listen and care and will respect and cover us. The letter at the end truly touched my heart. Thanks so much.
I don't even have the word to fully articulate what I just witnessed. Other than I feel so exposed. God, You are so very good. So very very good indeed. ❤️
God is pursuing your heart and mind.
Wow. This tugged at my heart. Thank you for this testimony. Even though I have no children I am always aware that I have to be cautious of the red flags because of the people connected to me and my ministry. That Future wife ending prompted the comment. Well said and well done.
We were members at Agape prior to this happening. Pastor Hornbuckle brought me and my siblings to Christ! I will forever be grateful for this ministry. Still praying for this family.
If you have God and your mind, you can rebuild it again. That was so so good.
It's a truth I live by! For real! Bless you!
This was a great interview that stood for authenticity where deliverance can truly take place. Thank you for being obedient both of you. I pray to meet you both one day. I have been thru some abuse as well however your story is amazing. Wow! Were there ever any signs or intuitive feelings of betrayal or infidelity ? I am going thru that now.
“Public fall, public resurrection… we have to think about our children’s, children, children… walk with grace, strength & dignity… it’s time to live” Oh my, too many nuggets to list them all! You are an amazingly strong woman of God. Thank you for your transparency and testimony. Many blessings to you and yours ✨
I got a red flag the day I met that pastor.... I didn't come back.
What a magnificent woman!! 🙌🏽🌹 How incredibly important is her story for women all over the world. Dear Father, bless her and her children to soar even more. 🕊
Love her openness to share her story! I hope it helps others to recognize that it’s ok to act on those red flags we see. Don’t doubt yourself! It’s REAL!!
Incredible testimony! I’m learning so much from this episode. Thank you and God bless you abundantly, both of you.
Thank you Renee. The grace, dignity, & strength you have shown is a true example of a Warrior Queen. Many blessings to you and your family.
That was good. When she said they refuse to become aware of where they really are. You can't heal if you don't accept the truth in regards to the situation. Only the truth will set you free. People that abuse in the manner that she is speaking of is a narcissist, and these people will and can destroy you in more ways then one. So if you can get out of a relationship like this. Remove yourself from them. Even if the abuse is coming from a family member. It is important that you protect your sanity, joy, and peace. Blessings to all.
Facts. Been there.
Truth! Thank you
Absolutely! Thank you
This was amazing, something I didn’t even know I needed to hear. Thank you for your courage 🙏🏾
This is an awesome interview. So glad Dr. Renee was able to rise from the devastation her and her family went through.
Thank you homie! Gotta get you and your husband on a episode.
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
This was a blessing!! What a testimony Dr.Fowler!! Blessings as you continue to walk in your destiny!! Continue to share with the world!!
Thank you for sharing your story. It is so important that we share with others and not live in shame. You are strong and beautiful.
Great video about awareness 👌
“If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it”
Great advice- but to someone who
Has been around dysfunction from the beginning, that person already has a cloudy understanding of “right”- but it’s stories like yours that can help get clarity.
Thank you 🙏
Your letter brought me to tears. Beautiful! Thank you!
Beautiful story!! I remember seeing part of the story on the news whn I 1st moved to Dallas. Glad to hear how she progressed since then!!
that line "weakness vs wickedness.." yes! that's the truth. From my experience..it has leaned to wickedness in males I have encountered.
Thank you for confirmation that I made the right decision when I recognized the red flags and ran in fear, and horror. These videos have jump started the healing process in my life. Being an older woman 👠 this helps me so much. Thank you for your openness and honesty. These videos have also helped me realize the importance of counseling and taking care of my mental health.
This was truly a blessing! Thank you for sharing your story!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for your support.
The guest, she is such a beacon of hope. ❤️..so glad I stumbled upon this TH-cam channel and this specific interview in particular. Thank you for what you do.
Welcome to the family
I’m glad that you spoke on this Pastor because truth be told this happens to many women of all colors all over the world. It’s called narcissistic behavior/Jezebel yes Jezebel can be a man too! Thank you! This must be addressed. In the church and in the home. Many families are being destroyed because of lack of knowledge
It's a spirit...religious spirit.
So many women even in church deal with verbal and physical abuse behind close doors. Pastor Hornbuckle does not look like what she has been through. Always admire her testimony.
Facts!
Powerful interview!!! Love her for her spirit and plan to read her new book. Thank you for sharing this time with us. She's a God-sent because she refused to stay silent. Blessed!
She has done it well and a great success is coming her way.
such a wonderful interview. Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing. I know how brave you are, I see myself in pieces of your story.
This is courage! This is so powerful and transparent. God Bless you and your family.
Sir
You have great content. I may watch 5 to 10 minutes, but this one held my hand. Great and so personal, real genuineness. Thanks for sharing.
I appreciate that.
The flags are there. We just choose to ignore them when we fear being alone or whatever the case maybe.
Man, this was a powerful interview, so glad it came up in my feed. ❤🙏❤🙏
Great podcast!!! The legacy conversation piece spoken here is so important. I lost my mother in February and she left me a legacy. I did not expect anything, however, I am grateful for everything. I consider what was left to me as a privilege. She taught her only child how to live with no expectation to recieve anything. Please talk about this more
Sorry about your loss. Make your mom proud.
This is narcissism all up and down. I’m so glad she made it out and was able to be transparent about her testimony. I have been through this twice and that abuse it unreal.
I’m 28 years “nag free now” and I intend to stay that way, the only relationship I’m interested in now is with my creator...✅🙏
Did you say, "nag free?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
AMEN!
I am Thankful I heard her message. It hit me hard because I know it was truly meant for me to hear her. When she spoke on the legacy, I could only smile. Before I had children, I said those exact words, I have to protect my children's children's children's children. I knew I could not do or say what would harm them. Writing my story a little more daily. This episode was my push.
Dear future hubby, I truly wish you watch this podcasts.
January 2021 I chose to leave a 5 year relationship with the father of my child. It was the hardest decision of my life but rather that than ignoring the red flags. I loved him so much I overlooked the narcissistic tendency!!
This is powerful!!!! Thank you for this podcasts! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much! I needed that testimony. !!
Beautiful...loving the final letters! May God Bless you to find her.
Thank you for sharing the lessons learned from this beautiful brokenness...you have definitely instilled living hope for a great future beyond abuse. Enjoy your freedom!
Such a beautiful testimony ❤️❤️❤️