So happy you shared this today. It can be difficult to know what to share with someone new when the brain is overwhelmed with love chemicals. Feelings go zero to infinity so fast
@Evieran same eye opening for me as a non adhd. I didn't understand this and this hurtful behaviour to me(pushed away, negleted etc...). Tried several times to communicate my needs - it ended in worsening the situation :D we both lacked the communication skills to manage it. we were too young. To be honest I'm not sure if I had the skills today...
At 0:04, I find it incredibly useful that you have a visual aid of the main topics step by step, so early in the video. It makes me want to stay and listen to the whole video. Some other youtubers are not so efficient in this way and it makes me feel like they want to waste my time by explaining the topics through some long winded story that I never asked for. I also enjoyed the other video plugs (or mentions) at the end of the video at 16:21. I find that after a video, i review the information and consider if it's relevant to me or not. If it is relevant, I end up naturally exploring the youtuber's other videos as soon as I see them as a good source of information; of which you are. 10/10 video, I learned about the ventral tegmental area (VTA) today.
OMG thanks for the constructive and specific feedback!! Ahh I didn’t do the beginning like that for the next 3 videos that I filmed 🙈 I didn’t realize it’s good, I did it impulsively here so thank you for pointing it out. Next time I film, I’ll do it like that again because I know that if 1 person finds something to be useful, he is not alone :)
Good topic, and great explanations, and solutions. I, with AuDHD, recognized some of the points in your video, but because of the autism, not everything matched. I was married young, and liked the stability it provided, because I struggled with the task of dating, and never really knew what to do anyway. Only had that one relationship, and never dated anyone else. I fall in love easily, and am totally blind to red flags, and neglect, both of which were obvious. I get obsessed with things, and people, rather quickly. In my mid-20’s, the ADHD took over, and I found myself juggling multiple, physical, extramarital relationships, at the same time. I didn’t try to hide anything, and it never felt wrong (it was wrong). I’ve always been a hyper-sexual person. The damage was irreparable. I find relationships to be exhausting now, but I guess it was exciting for a moment. Neglected is how I’ve spent the entire marriage, which disappoints me.
As always, I love your videos and they speak to me. Long term relationships are impossible for me. As you said, narcissistic relationships are particularly damaging; and because of that, I avoid any future possibility of that by avoiding it altogether. This results in long term isolation and loneliness rooted in fear. It’s a viscous cycle.
It took me yeaaaaaarrss to get out of the addiction for toxic relationships. And even now, I feel like my brain, if left unsupervised, will fall for it at all. So, I understand you, but also.. ahh we should never give up on love. I still believe that human connection is a gift, and as much as it is difficulty, it's worth it! #hopelessromantic :)
Another very interesting video. So what about open relationships? And if not, why not? Of course there is the 'alone' option too, which I've been kind of loving for around three / four years. Can't keep it up though, could turn into a hermit crab. Need plan for next phase.
I don't know to be honest.. I made a few videos on relationships that will come up, then I should spend some more time writing, and next I'd like to make 2-3 videos on books that I've found very helpful. Who knows what will come next.. :D
@@Evieran Thanks .... I was kinda half joking when i asked. The answer for me (at the moment at least) is ... don't, not now, and maybe not ever. I am getting better slowly, but CPTSD on it's own is bad enough, add in the autism and ADHD ... Even the most basic social interaction is hard enough, let alone a romantic relationship. Sorry if that was a 'downer' of a comment!
@@Touay. it might not be easy to read it but it is a lot more difficult for you to live it, so dont apologize when you know yourself it's not something you chose to experience. Kinda like when we are deeply depressed and feel like a burden, like 'let me not bother your mood with my sick brain".. Anyway, thanks for sharing! And yes, I really dont know what I'm doing with my content still :)
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
True but I think the difference is in the threshold. For people with ADHD things start to feel boring much sooner and easier than for neurotypical people
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So happy you shared this today. It can be difficult to know what to share with someone new when the brain is overwhelmed with love chemicals. Feelings go zero to infinity so fast
This is a great video that gives a good insight into why I felt used ,neglected and pushed away in the relationship with someone with adhd.
ah, yeah ;/ unfortunately, I can understand that and to be very honest, I've done it in the past too
@Evieran same eye opening for me as a non adhd. I didn't understand this and this hurtful behaviour to me(pushed away, negleted etc...). Tried several times to communicate my needs - it ended in worsening the situation :D
we both lacked the communication skills to manage it. we were too young.
To be honest I'm not sure if I had the skills today...
At 0:04, I find it incredibly useful that you have a visual aid of the main topics step by step, so early in the video. It makes me want to stay and listen to the whole video. Some other youtubers are not so efficient in this way and it makes me feel like they want to waste my time by explaining the topics through some long winded story that I never asked for.
I also enjoyed the other video plugs (or mentions) at the end of the video at 16:21. I find that after a video, i review the information and consider if it's relevant to me or not. If it is relevant, I end up naturally exploring the youtuber's other videos as soon as I see them as a good source of information; of which you are.
10/10 video, I learned about the ventral tegmental area (VTA) today.
OMG thanks for the constructive and specific feedback!!
Ahh I didn’t do the beginning like that for the next 3 videos that I filmed 🙈 I didn’t realize it’s good, I did it impulsively here so thank you for pointing it out. Next time I film, I’ll do it like that again because I know that if 1 person finds something to be useful, he is not alone :)
Good topic, and great explanations, and solutions.
I, with AuDHD, recognized some of the points in your video, but because of the autism, not everything matched.
I was married young, and liked the stability it provided, because I struggled with the task of dating, and never really knew what to do anyway. Only had that one relationship, and never dated anyone else. I fall in love easily, and am totally blind to red flags, and neglect, both of which were obvious. I get obsessed with things, and people, rather quickly.
In my mid-20’s, the ADHD took over, and I found myself juggling multiple, physical, extramarital relationships, at the same time. I didn’t try to hide anything, and it never felt wrong (it was wrong). I’ve always been a hyper-sexual person. The damage was irreparable.
I find relationships to be exhausting now, but I guess it was exciting for a moment. Neglected is how I’ve spent the entire marriage, which disappoints me.
As always, I love your videos and they speak to me. Long term relationships are impossible for me. As you said, narcissistic relationships are particularly damaging; and because of that, I avoid any future possibility of that by avoiding it altogether. This results in long term isolation and loneliness rooted in fear. It’s a viscous cycle.
It took me yeaaaaaarrss to get out of the addiction for toxic relationships. And even now, I feel like my brain, if left unsupervised, will fall for it at all. So, I understand you, but also.. ahh we should never give up on love. I still believe that human connection is a gift, and as much as it is difficulty, it's worth it! #hopelessromantic :)
Another very interesting video. So what about open relationships? And if not, why not? Of course there is the 'alone' option too, which I've been kind of loving for around three / four years. Can't keep it up though, could turn into a hermit crab. Need plan for next phase.
Nice video Evie. Any plans for a video ADHD, ASD and CPTSD and relationships?? ... er ... asking for a friend!!! :-)
I don't know to be honest.. I made a few videos on relationships that will come up, then I should spend some more time writing, and next I'd like to make 2-3 videos on books that I've found very helpful. Who knows what will come next.. :D
@@Evieran Thanks .... I was kinda half joking when i asked. The answer for me (at the moment at least) is ... don't, not now, and maybe not ever.
I am getting better slowly, but CPTSD on it's own is bad enough, add in the autism and ADHD ... Even the most basic social interaction is hard enough, let alone a romantic relationship.
Sorry if that was a 'downer' of a comment!
@@Touay. it might not be easy to read it but it is a lot more difficult for you to live it, so dont apologize when you know yourself it's not something you chose to experience. Kinda like when we are deeply depressed and feel like a burden, like 'let me not bother your mood with my sick brain".. Anyway, thanks for sharing! And yes, I really dont know what I'm doing with my content still :)
@@Evieran Thanks, that was very kind.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Another awesome video! ❤❤ I'm innatentive but feel pretty hyperactive underneath. Maybe mixed
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12:34 does that apply to changing countries every 3 years 😝 just kidding 🙂 very good video!
10:12 FML
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Healthy boring existence isn't realy good for your mental health, healthy and not boring is the gooder one.
True but I think the difference is in the threshold. For people with ADHD things start to feel boring much sooner and easier than for neurotypical people
@Evieran unless its the thing they're currently hyperfocused on. 😉