The Hurt of Losing Friends | Asantewaa Boatemaa Abena Ofori-Amanfo

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  • @Maphoso
    @Maphoso 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    My biggest fear in friendship is having a friend who is not spiritually mature, and equally invested in our friendship, a jelous friend who is in a silent competition, who recents you but always run to you when they have problems. It's all in their actions look closely and listen carefully. If you have siblings just work on your relationship with them and stay away from friends. If you want to try out a friendship your first step would be to pray to God to give you a friend that has a good heart and God fearing.

  • @mamoruakgomomaota1854
    @mamoruakgomomaota1854 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I broke up with my best friend , and it hurt more than losing a boyfriend. I felt so alone without her and there are times where I look at our pictures and videos, and genuinely miss her. But, I am glad I had her in my life. Wish her well.

  • @MandisaDizz89083
    @MandisaDizz89083 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Didn’t actually realise how sensitive I was to this topic. Friendships are a different type of heartbreak especially when you know things could’ve been sorted out through honest communication, but pride gets in the way. I hope for friendships that allow freedom, raw honesty and growth ❤

  • @TlaleLehong
    @TlaleLehong ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Friendship breakups hurt and take forever to heal but I have learned that sometimes it is nothing personal, people grow apart, and lifestyles and goals change. Sometimes the friendship has reached an expiry date, maybe their season in your life is over. They are not meant to go with you to the next level. I have lost a friend of 15 years over something so small, but as I said, it was time to move on. We served each other for 15 years, it was time to let go.

  • @ntandoyenkosi5741
    @ntandoyenkosi5741 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Today I’m assured that I’m not crazy for wanting healthy things for my self and being careful about my space!

  • @hlengiwedube1163
    @hlengiwedube1163 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I had a confusing friendship situation and found myself coming to this episode over and over. I realized that friendships aren't as simple. So much to learn.

  • @yandiswaselemela9341
    @yandiswaselemela9341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The decent thing is to talk. Tell the person. A friend just left and to this day I still wonder what happened. And for me personally I had a friend who started becoming toxic and I addressed that and we parted ways but we maintaned contact and years later we reconnected and that talk actually preserved our friendship.

  • @pameladube3354
    @pameladube3354 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this show! I lost a lot of friends in my 20s, but only one really hurt me for years because she moved to another province and just cut me out of her life with no explanation and i dont have siblings. Took me years to get over it because I felt that I had lost so much, and she was helping me heal spiritually. More than 10 years later, I've healed, I'm wiser, and I'm in a much better place. I have learned to let go and let God. We really grow through what we go through.

  • @pumzamlondi8538
    @pumzamlondi8538 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This hurts worse than romantic break-ups.

  • @dudulanga19
    @dudulanga19 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So glad I came across this topic, it's one of the most painful truths. Friendship breakups are super heavy😢 I'm tired.

  • @ThabisoRatlou
    @ThabisoRatlou ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This episode really made me retrospect a lot, I struggle to make friendships work. I have friend whom we have become distant, on his birthday I send him a message to wish him a birthday but we hardly to nothing talk. I ask myself if I am a problem or the friendship has served it's purpose and I need to let go.

  • @kutloanoloretta6967
    @kutloanoloretta6967 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OMG! I feel like I was part of this conversation, you covered all of my concerns when it comes to friendships. Thank you.

  • @tshepanni
    @tshepanni 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was ghosted by a close friend who I actually considered as a sister 8 years ago. It actually affected my ability to form close friendships since then. I am only dealing with it now in therapy as I have deep rooted fear of that same abandonment but I am opening up and have a new close friend who is helping me heal through it. Lol well her and my therapist 😅. So yeah this thing can be damaging to be honest. Lovely conversation as always ladies🌸

  • @zamo_ma
    @zamo_ma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Can we also talk about friends assuming you have money, seeing the places your partner takes you.

    • @oarabiletuelo2698
      @oarabiletuelo2698 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gosh! I'm unemployed and struggle with this a lot. I don't even know how I should address this matter with them

  • @raphaeltladi243
    @raphaeltladi243 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'd really love to hear a males POV on this 😫 please invite a male to talk on friendships. I've noticed that as males, we don't really speak out when it comes to friendships. It would really be good to hear from a males POV. ❤

    • @magitambo712
      @magitambo712 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes you are 💯 % right, this happens for various reasons. A lot of men do value friendships deeply, but societal expectations around masculinity often discourage emotional vulnerability. There’s a cultural norm that tells men to be self-reliant, emotionally strong and less expressive, which can lead to male friendships being more action-oriented rather than emotionally focused..Like as a woman I can say freely to my friend I love you but with guys it’s more taboo why? Because of the above so yeah at least that’s my observation

  • @makgabokubjana7504
    @makgabokubjana7504 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've finally had to learn to let go. It's funny how some people don't regard closeness as important as others and that's what really hurts. Letting go is so hard but it has to be done

  • @nkhen_c357
    @nkhen_c357 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is one painful issue... Ahaaaaaa. And friendship breakup it is more painful than we think... I am mourning breakup of my two friendship but not going back shame.... Letting everyone be.

  • @thobie8
    @thobie8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The older I get the harder it is, for me, to make friends. I have a group of guy friends for 20 plus years that includes my twin brother... with them I am home, comfortable and always myself.. I never feel guilty about communicating how I feel or what I think....no anxiety or expectations

  • @redibonemohlamonyane6239
    @redibonemohlamonyane6239 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm listening to this conversation for the second time, I loved it that much and well, it resonates with me at this moment. A friend of mine with whom we haven't spoken for the past 2 years recently texted me. I feel like I don't want to rekindle this friendship, do friendships get rekindled and live again?

  • @zingisamase
    @zingisamase 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Discovered this podcast yesterday and I love it so much already♥️

  • @puseletsoish
    @puseletsoish 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a beautiful conversation ladies 💛

  • @lucasnkgabane7679
    @lucasnkgabane7679 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You can only do business with friends who can comprehend the risk that comes with doing business, cause everything can happen in business

  • @gugulethungwenya9111
    @gugulethungwenya9111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yoooh friendships and money ne! I had a friend who would spend money 'recklessly' on nice life then come to ask for money later in the month for essentials

    • @trixmoloto8585
      @trixmoloto8585 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have one who's also like that, I just never give her anything cos she posts status all about having fun and blowing the money.

  • @luciamulopwe
    @luciamulopwe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Friendships do evolve but coping with that is so daunting

  • @yandiswaselemela9341
    @yandiswaselemela9341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That is so you. The more the merrier.

  • @lucasnkgabane7679
    @lucasnkgabane7679 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you guys for this conversation

  • @zammyzee8073
    @zammyzee8073 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Enjoyed this because I love friendships and I’ve had so many of these experiences in different manners.
    On the money topic, I tend to use it as a loose character test. I help out and watch how you move upon receiving the help. Like, was it returned with the same urgency, why did you borrow it (real emergency or not), bank charges factored in (decency), etc.

  • @Pamzii_
    @Pamzii_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wish there was a part2 on this

  • @kealebogamokate1532
    @kealebogamokate1532 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Friendships break ups are the worst😢wow what a topic ❤❤❤

  • @leratonedz1370
    @leratonedz1370 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I wonder what sweetie you ate, the green tongue lightened the seriousness of the talk😂.
    On a serious note I’ve struggled with friendship my whole life and friendship breakup and toxic friendships are the growing pains of adulthood 😢

  • @delphineiracyadukunda4608
    @delphineiracyadukunda4608 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was so good.❤

  • @magitambo712
    @magitambo712 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The decent thing to do when braking a friendship is to limit the times you spend together to give space for both of you to reflect it works for me I don’t necessarily discard friends

  • @mosnakhaile4308
    @mosnakhaile4308 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is lovely. I enjoy the content on this page. If possible, could you do a video about the breakdown in familial relationships, this is something that people experience a lot and there is also a friendship element in family relationships that breaks down too.

  • @siphokaziluzipho4197
    @siphokaziluzipho4197 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So glad I watched this, I identify with the topic. I didn't know how to articulate my feelings. Hope to be a better friend as well, but let it go when it is time.

  • @SuperZodwa
    @SuperZodwa 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've just signed in and came across this channel. I love it. This topic really made me emotional. I have this one friend whom I broke up with because she doesn't celebrate my birthday the way she celebrates that of her other friend. It made me emotional because I'm not that type of friend. I really love her but is the friendship healthy ? I don't know

  • @jeansophia2092
    @jeansophia2092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ursula your friend sound sweet 😊. If she was my friend I'd listen to her forever 😂

  • @phophisinyosi3965
    @phophisinyosi3965 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this answered so many internal questions! I loved this!

  • @mpiletsom
    @mpiletsom 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am late to this podcast but I am loving all these topics. I especially love hearing other people's take on friendship break ups because they are so complex. I have learnt a great deal about myself and my own boundaries but overall I know that I am a true, genuine girlfriend and hope my girlfriends feel the same

  • @WilliamBlaauw-n5h
    @WilliamBlaauw-n5h 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Morning thanks for a good show. Ursalu like the hair and new look

  • @matlouseretlo9218
    @matlouseretlo9218 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love the word 'hurdles' 😂😂

  • @rebbekandahuma2173
    @rebbekandahuma2173 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This year I have lost almost every varsity friend I’ve made…

    • @Uayandaaa
      @Uayandaaa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why?

  • @Love_Moleboga
    @Love_Moleboga 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never really hurts me too much. I’ve always had a small circle of friends and I’ve experienced a lot of rejection. I’ve had to learn to do a lot by myself. So, it really doesn’t have much of an effect on me.

  • @EverHopeful555
    @EverHopeful555 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ey friendship breakups hit different 💔

  • @Siyanda_Njombs
    @Siyanda_Njombs 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I recently broke up with a friend…We’ve been friends for 17 years…She did something and immediately I found out… I didn’t wana hear any of her reasons as to why she did it…. I just blocked her everywhere

  • @sinegugudube4956
    @sinegugudube4956 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a relevant topic, so true and honestly needed to be had. Thank you, this is the first video I've watched on your TH-cam channel and honestly I'm sticking around to see more!!

  • @MotherElephant7
    @MotherElephant7 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🚩those who don’t plug their friends with this podcast 😂

  • @jeansophia2092
    @jeansophia2092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Gym tights and free t-shirt 👕 .. Ursula 😂🤣

  • @happym3585
    @happym3585 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    A beautiful conversation, thank you 🙏🏻

  • @bongiwemaqolo9194
    @bongiwemaqolo9194 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Also we dont give friends the same we give men

  • @kea_mpete
    @kea_mpete 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got so much trauma from friendships.Since 2019 I've never made friends,I am a lone ranger and I am happy with that.
    Watching this made me realise that I have healed,back then friendship talks would drain me so much

  • @jaquelynlevandowski5428
    @jaquelynlevandowski5428 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    ᵖʳᵒᵐᵒˢᵐ ❣️