The thing is when there's more than one... one will often be neglected and disrespected. Relationships be so complicated these days. I'm just trying to stay single at the moment.
As a guy I can say that the difficulty of obtaining multiple healthy quality options/relationships is what turns me off the most because it’s as if you making it easier for the next man but harder for yourself in terms of cockblocking your own options by being anchored by a relationship that you aren’t allowed to be the focus of nor be enough… might as well be single and mingle, that way you aren’t responsible for anyones needs and you don’t have to bargain for yours to be met.
The only think I dislike is the lies and deception . When it comes to Non consensual non monogamy ( cheating) some men want to have you for themselves but they want to explore. I think in the black communities we have given men the power to feel entitled to be sexually liberal while women are shunned from any deviation.
Maybe you should make an episode on spiritual ties that happens through relationships and sexual interaction. This episode just sparked that in my mind. Though i totally understand what Hikatekile is saying.
Great convo, how i wish Hika would have also touched on sexual health/safety amongst polyamours beings...how to start the sexual health conversation/ testing. The self esteem aspect...
Interesting conversations...definitely enjoying the channel and there is so much to learn. Please show Bonga's face, even if it's for just one episode🙏
But for me it's the thing that I am a Christian and I know that my relationship is moving towards marriage and that resembles what God speaks about in the bible. So I am definitely sure that yonkelento is ubufebe ngoba it's about inkanuko. My thoughts
When do we get to see Bonga? She sounds hilarious. Love your content. I am ghanaian but love you SA lot and been told i look like you guys, by your country people and by other blacks. Love how you slide expressions and phrases in your languages as well even though I don't understand any. Just beautiful
Have we forgotten about the AIDS pandemic back in the 90s? Have we forgotten about the rate of HIV infections in this country? Do we realise how high the infection rate is of STIs. Exchanging body fluids and orifices like that is disgusting. We know as people that condoms are not getting used, we shouldn't pretend like people are using condoms. This whole polyamory thing is complicated. People fail in relationships with one person but somehow think adding more people will be successful. This is disgusting.
I echo what Hika said about monogamy as we know and practice it now. It's really toxic, more so for women. As they have to be the monogamous ones in relationships while men get to be with multiple partners. A lot of people think the core of polyamory is just promiscuity, and the main reason for wanting multiple partners is being able to sleep with multiple people at the same time. There's a misconception that polyamorous people must be sexually perverted, especially women, because society has kind of accepted that men cheat. So if a woman does it then there's gotta be something wrong with her. The stigma is even worse in lgbtqia+ relationships.
I concur with Hika in the lie par but polyamory is not me at all. It bothers me seeing someone who has a person I guess and it bothers me when one is not honest. It’s such an inconvenience as Hika said. Be straight about it or just leave me alone as I am a monogamous typa woman. This sexuality and relationship thing is tricky shem.
The thing is when there's more than one... one will often be neglected and disrespected. Relationships be so complicated these days. I'm just trying to stay single at the moment.
i dont mind a polygamous/ polyandrous partner- m just paranoid bout STD's!! And the dark energies that can be transmitted through sexual intercourse.
Amen....bull eye ❤❤❤
As a guy I can say that the difficulty of obtaining multiple healthy quality options/relationships is what turns me off the most because it’s as if you making it easier for the next man but harder for yourself in terms of cockblocking your own options by being anchored by a relationship that you aren’t allowed to be the focus of nor be enough… might as well be single and mingle, that way you aren’t responsible for anyones needs and you don’t have to bargain for yours to be met.
Aii guys tse dingwe tse ke bofebe 😂🤣.. we just put nice labels to it😂🤣
You are effortlessly beautiful, Ursula! I love your smile😍
The only think I dislike is the lies and deception . When it comes to Non consensual non monogamy ( cheating) some men want to have you for themselves but they want to explore. I think in the black communities we have given men the power to feel entitled to be sexually liberal while women are shunned from any deviation.
Maybe you should make an episode on spiritual ties that happens through relationships and sexual interaction. This episode just sparked that in my mind. Though i totally understand what Hikatekile is saying.
I finally found someone that can express my thoughts yoh Thank you so much
Interesting i just love how hika answered the questions very insightful
Great convo, how i wish Hika would have also touched on sexual health/safety amongst polyamours beings...how to start the sexual health conversation/ testing. The self esteem aspect...
i love your content. can you guys please consider owning a podcast 🙏
Interesting conversations...definitely enjoying the channel and there is so much to learn. Please show Bonga's face, even if it's for just one episode🙏
This was really great. Thank you.
At this stage I just can't keep up with the terminologies..... how did we even get here🤔🙆🙆🙆🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Shout out to Hika's jersey! Shout out Ramina Creatives!
Hikatekile Maringa is so beautiful Damn. I so Love her.👌👌👌👌👌👌👌
I Love this topic 💞
🤗m intrigued
Really enjoyed this conversation!
But for me it's the thing that I am a Christian and I know that my relationship is moving towards marriage and that resembles what God speaks about in the bible. So I am definitely sure that yonkelento is ubufebe ngoba it's about inkanuko. My thoughts
When do we get to see Bonga? She sounds hilarious. Love your content. I am ghanaian but love you SA lot and been told i look like you guys, by your country people and by other blacks. Love how you slide expressions and phrases in your languages as well even though I don't understand any. Just beautiful
The constant work of self-reflection 😢.. that is just lot of work but we always have to work on being better people.
Your beauty & smile really made me fall in love with this channel 💕
Have we forgotten about the AIDS pandemic back in the 90s? Have we forgotten about the rate of HIV infections in this country? Do we realise how high the infection rate is of STIs. Exchanging body fluids and orifices like that is disgusting. We know as people that condoms are not getting used, we shouldn't pretend like people are using condoms. This whole polyamory thing is complicated. People fail in relationships with one person but somehow think adding more people will be successful. This is disgusting.
I echo what Hika said about monogamy as we know and practice it now. It's really toxic, more so for women. As they have to be the monogamous ones in relationships while men get to be with multiple partners.
A lot of people think the core of polyamory is just promiscuity, and the main reason for wanting multiple partners is being able to sleep with multiple people at the same time. There's a misconception that polyamorous people must be sexually perverted, especially women, because society has kind of accepted that men cheat. So if a woman does it then there's gotta be something wrong with her.
The stigma is even worse in lgbtqia+ relationships.
Human beings were never meant to be monogamous
I feel like you are uncomfortable here, but we love you still
I concur with Hika in the lie par but polyamory is not me at all. It bothers me seeing someone who has a person I guess and it bothers me when one is not honest. It’s such an inconvenience as Hika said. Be straight about it or just leave me alone as I am a monogamous typa woman. This sexuality and relationship thing is tricky shem.
What is your name? You never say your name in your introduction
Hi Tintwsalo- my name is Ursula Mariani.