Your house, your rules. Get rid of toxic people asap. My daughter-in-law was a user, and once I stopped helping financially she used my grandbaby to hurt me, but what she expected wasn't what she saw. Once we fell off, she said: "Well if you don't want to help, then I'll move my baby and your son to Utah!" To that I said: "That sounds great! I'll help with the move, when do you guys leave?" They left, my son divorced her and my grandbaby is still in my life.😅😂
You handled that with such grace. Not everyone would be able to stay strong and keep their grandbaby close after all that drama. You did the right thing
I have had an issue like that at my house. I said my house my rules, the door open for you to get out. If I have to assist to get you out I WILL! This all happened to me after my husband passed away of cancer and I still lived on the ranch. Our part of the ranch. I got my property, my part of the ranch, when my husband died. His brother was mad cause I inherited the property at my husbands death. He thought it would go back to him cause my FIL is deceased. The thing is my MIL must have thought so too because she decided to go to the probate of the will with me. Which was fine. I didn’t know she thought her other boys would get it turned back to her. lol then she started to be a sneak and started to be nasty to me. About 5 yrs after my husband died. I said ok then I’ll solve the problem. I’ll sell. Then They wanted me to sell it to one of their sons for about 1/4 of what it was worth. I said nope! No can do. I’m a widow. Gotta have enough money for me to get another place. So I did.
Good chance it’s a work of fiction-entertaining as it is! Turns out, it’s not unheard of for people to practice their writing on here. (nothing wrong with that, I’m only sayig you just never know anymore if these are made up-or actual experiences that people are sharing.)
Not only that, but where were the bride and groom going to stay afterwards? Wouldn't the fiance think they would live in that house? Sounds like the bride was going to kick her brother and SIL out of their home.
It's all about enforcement. OP is seen as doormat who'd happily comply with anything, that's why he gets such disrespect. Edit: So OP is a she, so....yeah.
Yup. Since she was finally leaving after almost a decade overdue, they agreed to everything she wanted to be free of her after the wedding. Unfortunately even if the wedding succeeded, she'd be back coz I don't think anyone can live long-term with that woman. They didn't let her mature enough to be able to live without them. They'll probably be stuck with her for a long time.
My parents have one condition in letting me stay in their home as an adult. Either be working a sustainable job, go to college (and major in stem, Econ, or accounting even for law school it would be one of those, engineering on top though), or if I got laid off and need to protect my savings from vanishing.
The in-laws only wanted the sister-in-law to become someone else’s problem. They were just trying to pass the buck instead of dealing with the real issues themselves
How can you have a wedding at someone’s house but put forth the stipulation that the homeowner can’t attend? If it’s their house, you don’t get to keep them out of their own home. That’s a dumb premise from the beginning. When dumb dumb asked if her parents sent me an invitation, the correct response was they didn’t need to. It’s my house. Nothing happens here without my presence.
Once you knew she wasn’t inviting you, you should have just said, I don’t want you to have you wedding at my house and I don’t want a lot of strangers in my house.
Agreed. I do have to take exception to surprising her on the day of the wedding by changing the locks. That's a bit immature. Just flat out say it's not going to happen and be done with it. Her sister and laws immaturity is not an excuse for her own.
@@michaelallen1432except the unhinged (proven by her showing up later banging, screaming, and threatening) SIL had a spare key. Changing the locks WAS the way to be done with it, and the responsible choice for safety.
@@michaelallen1432 Disagree. If you think the SIL would have just taken "no" for an answer and just gone home, you're very naive. Or delusional. the woman is a danger to everyone around her. It's called protecting your safety and property and I would've done the same.
The husband is a green flag. He knew his wife’s boundaries and respected her decisions. The fiancé is also a green flag, her SIL and parents kept him in the dark. He dodged a huge red flag of a woman.
I'm picturing Dustin Poyter sprinting through public parks with enormous green flags. The skinny kid with the flags has really made an impression in the past five months.
I don't get it. If these people are so worried about their reputation, then why do they go and do things in the first place that will ruin it once word gets out?
They exist. My SIL is just as selfish. The stuff they say is so dumb, I can't even stay mad because half the mess is just laughable. Ridiculous demands that will never happen..she cut us off because I wouldn't give her my car and my husband won't be her bank.
She never should've had a key. Going in the house without permission n at 6am would've had me going off on her. Glad she cancelled the wedding for that snot-nose punk
A wedding based on lies is like a castle built on a swamp: it will sink sooner of later, but for sure it will sink. As for the "reputation" card, what the in-laws think will happen when truth will finally be discovered? Did they think OP will always leave her house on every SIL demand just to cover their deceit? So entitled. Huge cheer for the husband tough for respecting wife's POV against his own family. That is commitment. Happy life for them both.
Letting her live in your house and you be out is like allowing a squatter in. You could very well have been out if this story had gone in that direction.
That's what I was thinking too! But that would've also exposed the lies of the SIL and inlaws, but had the fiancé been in on the lies, that's something I could totally see happening.
It is OP's house and property. It is her decision alone as to whether someone can use her house and property. SIL and in laws both lied and committed to SIL's fiancé and his parents that they were using OP's house and property without first getting permission from OP or even mentioning that they did not own it. What complete and total morons! Especially with a pool, having a wedding at a property with a pool is a potential huge financial liability. If someone was injured or died on the property (especially relevant due to the pool and alcohol being served during the wedding), OP could have ended up being sued for millions. The in laws used emotional blackmail to try to get OP to agree. "Our reputation depends on this!" Then SIL had the audacity to not even invite OP to the wedding in OP's own house. "I don't want her at my wedding!" What a total brat! Because it is a private home, I would not allow someone to use my property for something as messy and potentially destructure and also a major legal liability (especially with a pool) as a wedding if I am not present. I do not blame OP for changing the locks and telling the wedding planner that the "venue" could not be used any longer and to find another venue. Bratty SIL lost her venue because of her own behavior. Her fiancé finally realized what a huge mistake he had made in getting engaged to SIL when he found out the truth about the property ownership and what SIL had done. Life lesson for everyone: do not lie to a banker.
This is difficult to believe… 🙄. Where were they supposed to live after the wedding? And how did the bride expect her new husband to not find out her parents live elsewhere and that the toxic (excluded) sibling now lives in HER parents’ house? I can’t believe i stayed thus long 18:27. This sounds RIDICULOUS!!
Maybe they were going back to Ireland. It didn't look as if he had any intention to stay in the US. It doesn't sound ridiculous when you bring immigration and mixed families. They would just start a new life in a new home. I have an aunt who is a pathological liar. Her lies sound ridiculous, as you would call them. But when she's weaving them and manipulating.... boy can it get scary.
@@michellemorrison9663 my sister in a serial liar,she must rehearse because they sound really plausible,I think she actual believes them herself,when I start thinking about what she’s said,i realise it’s just more bull 💩sadly I don’t really believe anything she says now.i just listen and go oh right,yes hmm… 🤷🏻♀️🙁
If I didn’t witness a similar situation in real life- I would not believe it but I saw it in my own family. My aunt lied to her “boyfriend” from overseas- He gave her money to buy a house-- she didn’t use the money to buy a house. So when he said he was coming to see the house she convinced her sister to tell the lie that the house they both shared was actually his!?! Her sister ( Aunt #2) went along with story and even moved out of master bedroom into spare room. Well they didn’t cover up the lies good enough!?! They didn’t move my aunt# 2 closet nor her sons closet out of Master ( son was 6 at the time). 6 year old kept going into room to get toys and stuff! 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏼♀️🤦🙈 The boyfriend asked why there was so many people at the house? Aunt #1 had 3 kids and Aunt# 2 had 1 son. They all lived in that house. ( there are 9 brothers and sisters in my aunts family and they come over every weekend to hang out.) he asked her to kick everyone out of “his” house. She lied. And said she can’t kick them out? He said why not since this is his house that he paid for. Then all the arguing started to happen in front of the whole family. She kept lying- and he finally asked what did she do with the money he gave her and is this really his house? She finally explain that this was actually Aunt # 2 house and that she helps pay the mortgage. But that this is not his house. She gave no explanation of where the money he gave her went. He left right after. He was there a total of 36 hours before lies unraveled! The whole family told this overseas boyfriend nothing- they let him figure it out for himself. I still don’t believe it- if I didn’t witness this. ( I was 14 at the time, still a child and you don’t involve yourself in adult conversation but enough to understand this is not how you do it! )
Yeah and acting like 4 bedrooms is some huge mansion? OP also reeks of self-importance. My parents house has 5 bedrooms and 2.5 baths and its far from a mansion and definitely wouldn't work for some huge wedding.
i would never do that to my siblings, my cousins, anyone! this is her fault, and in laws! I am so sorry you went through this. I am glad you are still with your husband and that you are supporting one another, i love that!
Asking someone to have their wedding at their house is one thing, but to not invite the home owner, who happens to be their brothers wife??? Crazy entitled . You don’t $hit where you eat.
Heck no! Why even think about it? You have the support of your wonderful husband so do what you want which is clearly not to turn your life upside down to spoil your SIL.
I gotta say, a degree doesn’t mean someone is a hard worker. I had a ton of peers in college that are gonna be major problems in their respective fields.
Paying for everything yourself makes you a hard worker. She was able to get and keep a scholarship, and she bought that house with mostly her own money, just her father covered the down payment on it. Getting a degree solely without your parents paying for it is hard work.
I believe that a college degree no longer holds the value it once did. A liberal arts bachelor's degree was supposed to teach critical thinking, which it no longer does, plus critical thinking can be learned on your own without shelling out $100K. I have met so many morons with degrees.
The relationship between the parents and the daughter was none of the daughter in law business. Her husband should of help her say no in the beginning, he wanted to stay out of it. She made the right decision in the end.
No, it is OP's property, not her husband's property. Therefore, she is the one who makes the rules on whether her property can be used. I would have requested that the in laws pay for short term liability insurance on my property for 3 million dollars as a condition for using the property for the wedding. I use to drive seniors (elderly) for Catholic Charities when I was younger. I had to carry as a driver and owner of the car $1.5 million liability insurance on my car. This was decades ago. We still carry that much liability insurance on our cars. My husband decided it was a good precaution.
For start she would need your permission to have her wedding at your home. Plus she thinks she can say you can't be at your home get a grip no way can she dictate what happens there. The inlaws are a disgrace if they think her getting married at YOUR HOUSE, I would have done the same the mans family need to know the truth she uses people for money and the house is yours not her family
I have come to realize that these stories are fiction written by aspiring writers of melodrama. Way too over the top to be real. But using someone's house as a wedding venue and not allowing them at the wedding is 'the limit', a wonderful term I learned reading Galsworthy.
There's also a possibility that during the night, SIL will look through OPs belongings for the house's deed / title, and then somehow transfer the property to herself to make "her house" to be truly hers.
I WILL NOT lie for someone else, especially something like this. And I'm sure as hell not going to give up my bedroom. You better figure something else out. Its not a "venue"
You don't need an invitation to a wedding that is being held in your house. You just tell them you aren't going anywhere and will be there or there will be no wedding. And if that bothers them, they can write the tooth fairy about it. Also, what was she planning after the wedding when they would be leaving? I have a feeling sil was planning on them staying.
No one realizes that when you get married, you also marry the family. I would have never agreed to let her have it there in the first place. She’s way too nice.
Are there some people like that, I mean the SIL? Maybe okay to use someone else house but claiming it your own to impress is NOT. What will happen when eventually the truth comes out? Starting your married life full of lies is a NO-NO. It's a foundation of a failed marriage.
Your house your rules and don't forget to give her the bill for cleaning table rental, etc, in front of her husband to be and his family. And stay in your room!!
Perfect ending!! Good thing you stood your ground!! Hope everything goes well with you now that she’s out of your life!! You did what you had to do…it’s your house!! 🍹Cheers!! ❤
How do you have the nerve to schedule your wedding at somebody else’s house and they’re not invited in their own house! She needs to find another venue😮
This story sounds so ridiculous it sounds Iike an episode from a drama. The sister in law sounds terrible. It does suck that the wedding got cancelled that way, but I mostly feel for the husband and guests. I can’t believe the parents went along with that. She was going to not allow higher brother to come to her wedding or his house because she can’t stand his wife? And then she was going to force them to get a hotel room? Ok I can pretend to get the hotel in order to keep up the lie, but she should pay for the hotel room for them. Plus did this clueless girl not think about when she is supposed to be bringing her husband to visit her parents house in the future? How would they visit over the unknown future years frequently if the house doesn’t belong to her parents?
It is footage from a video game. It bothers me too (I have one medical issue), but I am trying very hard to ignore the moving video background because I like the content from Reddit. Because this is presented as a video, they have to find video content to use as background on the video. They can either pay for video background (which ups the cost of making the video) or in some cases like this, they record video from playing a video game and use it as background. If you own the video game, it is an inexpensive way of coming up with a video background. They could also just record some video using their phone from a hike in a park or something like that. Or record a video of ducks swimming in a lake or something similar. This channel owner obviously likes video games. So people like me just have to endure it. I am going to limit myself to one video with a game background per day. (I need to take a pain reliever cuz my head already hurts. I have had migraines since I was 18. My son has had them since he was 7. I really feel bad for him inheriting migraine tendency from me! Yes, they are genetic. I cannot take rx triptans, which work really well, any more because of other medication interactions. )
@rollothecat2010 yes it can trigger migraines, vertigo symptoms and possibly seizures 😢 My guess is that people who don't suffer from those conditions just aren't aware of how much footage like this can adversely affect lots of folks.
I know this is just a story but this exemplifies cowardice and childish behavior. Say no out loud up front and be done with it. Silly games, silly prizes.
Why not skip over the back story here, and focus on the immediate problem. Tell her quite simply that she must find another venue. You don't want to be seen as a witch on the wedding day--you'll come off really badly if everyone arrives and the door is locked. Instead, tell her you don't feel comfortable with the present arrangement. After all, what are your legal liabilities? What if someone drowns in your pool? And what if one of her guests gets drunk and crashes on the way back home? There are plenty of states that would find you liable because your guests went off inebriated.
Your house, your rules. Get rid of toxic people asap. My daughter-in-law was a user, and once I stopped helping financially she used my grandbaby to hurt me, but what she expected wasn't what she saw. Once we fell off, she said: "Well if you don't want to help, then I'll move my baby and your son to Utah!" To that I said: "That sounds great! I'll help with the move, when do you guys leave?" They left, my son divorced her and my grandbaby is still in my life.😅😂
Way to go Gramma 😂
Exactly God will always fix it!!
You handled that with such grace. Not everyone would be able to stay strong and keep their grandbaby close after all that drama. You did the right thing
@@LKelly-ep8ce fuck, yea!!!! 🤘🤘
I have had an issue like that at my house. I said my house my rules, the door open for you to get out. If I have to assist to get you out I WILL! This all happened to me after my husband passed away of cancer and I still lived on the ranch. Our part of the ranch. I got my property, my part of the ranch, when my husband died. His brother was mad cause I inherited the property at my husbands death. He thought it would go back to him cause my FIL is deceased. The thing is my MIL must have thought so too because she decided to go to the probate of the will with me. Which was fine. I didn’t know she thought her other boys would get it turned back to her. lol then she started to be a sneak and started to be nasty to me. About 5 yrs after my husband died. I said ok then I’ll solve the problem. I’ll sell. Then They wanted me to sell it to one of their sons for about 1/4 of what it was worth. I said nope! No can do. I’m a widow. Gotta have enough money for me to get another place. So I did.
Why would she want to use YOUR house for her wedding but not invite you? That’s SO disrespectful, her sense of entitlement is off the charts!!!
Then Lock all the doors and no party here
Good chance it’s a work of fiction-entertaining as it is!
Turns out, it’s not unheard of for people to practice their writing on here. (nothing wrong with that, I’m only sayig you just never know anymore if these are made up-or actual experiences that people are sharing.)
Not only that, but where were the bride and groom going to stay afterwards? Wouldn't the fiance think they would live in that house? Sounds like the bride was going to kick her brother and SIL out of their home.
It's all about enforcement. OP is seen as doormat who'd happily comply with anything, that's why he gets such disrespect.
Edit: So OP is a she, so....yeah.
You saved that man so much heartache and stress and pain. And his family. You're amazing!
The in laws only wanted sister in law to be someone else's problem
Yup. Since she was finally leaving after almost a decade overdue, they agreed to everything she wanted to be free of her after the wedding.
Unfortunately even if the wedding succeeded, she'd be back coz I don't think anyone can live long-term with that woman.
They didn't let her mature enough to be able to live without them. They'll probably be stuck with her for a long time.
The parents enabled her. That’s the problem they created so they can solve it.
My parents have one condition in letting me stay in their home as an adult. Either be working a sustainable job, go to college (and major in stem, Econ, or accounting even for law school it would be one of those, engineering on top though), or if I got laid off and need to protect my savings from vanishing.
You should never ever give anyone else a key to your house .
Yep
The in-laws only wanted the sister-in-law to become someone else’s problem. They were just trying to pass the buck instead of dealing with the real issues themselves
They made her what she was but refuse to take the consequences……too bad!
How can you have a wedding at someone’s house but put forth the stipulation that the homeowner can’t attend? If it’s their house, you don’t get to keep them out of their own home. That’s a dumb premise from the beginning. When dumb dumb asked if her parents sent me an invitation, the correct response was they didn’t need to. It’s my house. Nothing happens here without my presence.
Right?
Because this is made up...
@@bowtoyoursensei554 Some people are just beyond help.. dumb is forever and that SIL beauty sure will be faded soon!
@@heffa3821With her attitude and antics, the ugly has already begun to take hold.
Once you knew she wasn’t inviting you, you should have just said, I don’t want you to have you wedding at my house and I don’t want a lot of strangers in my house.
That was said and they still showed up
@@dannigyrlThey didn't want to hear it, so they ignored it
Agreed. I do have to take exception to surprising her on the day of the wedding by changing the locks. That's a bit immature. Just flat out say it's not going to happen and be done with it. Her sister and laws immaturity is not an excuse for her own.
@@michaelallen1432except the unhinged (proven by her showing up later banging, screaming, and threatening) SIL had a spare key. Changing the locks WAS the way to be done with it, and the responsible choice for safety.
@@michaelallen1432
Disagree. If you think the SIL would have just taken "no" for an answer and just gone home, you're very naive. Or delusional. the woman is a danger to everyone around her. It's called protecting your safety and property and I would've done the same.
The husband is a green flag. He knew his wife’s boundaries and respected her decisions.
The fiancé is also a green flag, her SIL and parents kept him in the dark. He dodged a huge red flag of a woman.
yeah, and he went to apologise after it all, that's just classy - hope he finds someone worthy of him
I'm picturing Dustin Poyter sprinting through public parks with enormous green flags. The skinny kid with the flags has really made an impression in the past five months.
This shouldn’t even be an issue. Who asks to use a family member’s home but doesn’t invite the person? Just say NO!!
Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.
I'm always amazed when people try to scam or manipulate others they play the "Reputation card". If you're complict, that is your reputation!!!
I don't get it. If these people are so worried about their reputation, then why do they go and do things in the first place that will ruin it once word gets out?
"Don't tell people you lied in order to back up another liar? Don't lie to back someone who lied, and I won't have to."
This was a good one. I can't believe there are really people like her Sister in-law 😅
Right the whole time I was listening to it I was in shock that someone like that actually existed
They exist. My SIL is just as selfish. The stuff they say is so dumb, I can't even stay mad because half the mess is just laughable. Ridiculous demands that will never happen..she cut us off because I wouldn't give her my car and my husband won't be her bank.
Think again. Had an acquaintance at work that had these traits.
The fiancé dodged the bullet on that one
Isn’t it amazing how entitled some folks are? I love that you changed the locks without telling her.
She never should've had a key. Going in the house without permission n at 6am would've had me going off on her. Glad she cancelled the wedding for that snot-nose punk
A wedding based on lies never lasts.
A wedding based on lies is like a castle built on a swamp: it will sink sooner of later, but for sure it will sink.
As for the "reputation" card, what the in-laws think will happen when truth will finally be discovered? Did they think OP will always leave her house on every SIL demand just to cover their deceit? So entitled.
Huge cheer for the husband tough for respecting wife's POV against his own family. That is commitment. Happy life for them both.
Why do i feel like if they had allowed the wedding, sister in law would have changed the locks and attempted to move in?
You just know that SIL and her friends are going to trash your place.
Locks have been changed
What a professional victim. The parents are enablers. The fiance dodged a bullet.
A courthouse wedding is good enough for her. Her marriage isn't guaranteed to last after her lies are discovered
GOOD FOR YOU. NO INVITE, NO WEDDING.
Letting her live in your house and you be out is like allowing a squatter in. You could very well have been out if this story had gone in that direction.
That's what I was thinking too! But that would've also exposed the lies of the SIL and inlaws, but had the fiancé been in on the lies, that's something I could totally see happening.
Wouldnt surprise me if she expects you to let them "borrow YOUR HOUSE for every party, etc, she wants to have.
It is OP's house and property. It is her decision alone as to whether someone can use her house and property. SIL and in laws both lied and committed to SIL's fiancé and his parents that they were using OP's house and property without first getting permission from OP or even mentioning that they did not own it. What complete and total morons! Especially with a pool, having a wedding at a property with a pool is a potential huge financial liability. If someone was injured or died on the property (especially relevant due to the pool and alcohol being served during the wedding), OP could have ended up being sued for millions.
The in laws used emotional blackmail to try to get OP to agree. "Our reputation depends on this!"
Then SIL had the audacity to not even invite OP to the wedding in OP's own house. "I don't want her at my wedding!" What a total brat! Because it is a private home, I would not allow someone to use my property for something as messy and potentially destructure and also a major legal liability (especially with a pool) as a wedding if I am not present.
I do not blame OP for changing the locks and telling the wedding planner that the "venue" could not be used any longer and to find another venue. Bratty SIL lost her venue because of her own behavior.
Her fiancé finally realized what a huge mistake he had made in getting engaged to SIL when he found out the truth about the property ownership and what SIL had done. Life lesson for everyone: do not lie to a banker.
This is difficult to believe… 🙄. Where were they supposed to live after the wedding? And how did the bride expect her new husband to not find out her parents live elsewhere and that the toxic (excluded) sibling now lives in HER parents’ house? I can’t believe i stayed thus long 18:27. This sounds RIDICULOUS!!
Maybe they were going back to Ireland. It didn't look as if he had any intention to stay in the US. It doesn't sound ridiculous when you bring immigration and mixed families. They would just start a new life in a new home.
I have an aunt who is a pathological liar. Her lies sound ridiculous, as you would call them. But when she's weaving them and manipulating.... boy can it get scary.
I know that most of these are fake but the authors usually do a better job of making it plausible. This one just reeks of BS.
@@michellemorrison9663 my sister in a serial liar,she must rehearse because they sound really plausible,I think she actual believes them herself,when I start thinking about what she’s said,i realise it’s just more bull 💩sadly I don’t really believe anything she says now.i just listen and go oh right,yes hmm… 🤷🏻♀️🙁
If I didn’t witness a similar situation in real life- I would not believe it but I saw it in my own family. My aunt lied to her “boyfriend” from overseas- He gave her money to buy a house-- she didn’t use the money to buy a house. So when he said he was coming to see the house she convinced her sister to tell the lie that the house they both shared was actually his!?!
Her sister ( Aunt #2) went along with story and even moved out of master bedroom into spare room. Well they didn’t cover up the lies good enough!?! They didn’t move my aunt# 2 closet nor her sons closet out of Master ( son was 6 at the time). 6 year old kept going into room to get toys and stuff! 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏼♀️🤦🙈
The boyfriend asked why there was so many people at the house? Aunt #1 had 3 kids and Aunt# 2 had 1 son. They all lived in that house. ( there are 9 brothers and sisters in my aunts family and they come over every weekend to hang out.) he asked her to kick everyone out of “his” house.
She lied. And said she can’t kick them out? He said why not since this is his house that he paid for. Then all the arguing started to happen in front of the whole family. She kept lying- and he finally asked what did she do with the money he gave her and is this really his house? She finally explain that this was actually Aunt # 2 house and that she helps pay the mortgage. But that this is not his house. She gave no explanation of where the money he gave her went. He left right after. He was there a total of 36 hours before lies unraveled!
The whole family told this overseas boyfriend nothing- they let him figure it out for himself. I still don’t believe it- if I didn’t witness this. ( I was 14 at the time, still a child and you don’t involve yourself in adult conversation but enough to understand this is not how you do it! )
Yeah and acting like 4 bedrooms is some huge mansion? OP also reeks of self-importance. My parents house has 5 bedrooms and 2.5 baths and its far from a mansion and definitely wouldn't work for some huge wedding.
This was easy…party at my house, that I paid for, but I’m not invited. Neither is my house. Courthouse for you😂🤣😑
This was turning into a lifetime crime movie at the end. Paycho Sister In Law
i would never do that to my siblings, my cousins, anyone! this is her fault, and in laws! I am so sorry you went through this. I am glad you are still with your husband and that you are supporting one another, i love that!
PROPERLY PREPARED ?? OH HELL NAWL ! SIL WASNT EVER PLANNING TO LEAVE
Could be True
You did her ex-fiance the biggest favour of his life.
How the hell can you have a wedding at your house if you're not invited? That sounds un effing believable. I don't understand.
EVER stop to think since it's being held at your house that an invitation WAS NOT RELEVANT.
Today's society is hopeless and pathetic.
Asking someone to have their wedding at their house is one thing, but to not invite the home owner, who happens to be their brothers wife??? Crazy entitled . You don’t $hit where you eat.
Heck no! Why even think about it? You have the support of your wonderful husband so do what you want which is clearly not to turn your life upside down to spoil your SIL.
I gotta say, a degree doesn’t mean someone is a hard worker. I had a ton of peers in college that are gonna be major problems in their respective fields.
Paying for everything yourself makes you a hard worker. She was able to get and keep a scholarship, and she bought that house with mostly her own money, just her father covered the down payment on it. Getting a degree solely without your parents paying for it is hard work.
I agree. Just because you go to college and get a degree does not mean you will be able to hold down a job.
I believe that a college degree no longer holds the value it once did. A liberal arts bachelor's degree was supposed to teach critical thinking, which it no longer does, plus critical thinking can be learned on your own without shelling out $100K. I have met so many morons with degrees.
@@TwirlingStar so she has the priviledge to get her fathers help for the downpayment as well as the private highschools
@arielruby13 A privilege her HARD-WORKING parents paid for. And they passed their values on to their kids. You got a problem with that?
No no no! If she can’t pay for a venue then courthouse is the last resort! Do not let this happen in YOUR house. Do not trust her.
They're not valuing their reputation - they're valuing my "image".
The background is too busy. Very distracting.
I don't watch it. I listen while I work or drive.
Yeah, hate it
The background is giving me a headache. I can't watch anymore
Yes yes yes Agree with you
Truth!!!
I enjoyed this one soooo much.
OP should have been asked to use her house. I'd have changed the locks after her behavior too.
That is easy. No trespassing signs. Her keys no longer work. Sprinklers. Driveway full/blocked. Call police if they don’t understand no.
😂
Thank goodness the groom found out about her true self before the wedding and not after.
The relationship between the parents and the daughter was none of the daughter in law business. Her husband should of help her say no in the beginning, he wanted to stay out of it. She made the right decision in the end.
How you gonna be shocked when you have a wedding at someone’s house, but didn’t invite them, and then that person change the lock?
If this is your husband's sister, he should be dealing with her, not you!
No, it is OP's property, not her husband's property. Therefore, she is the one who makes the rules on whether her property can be used.
I would have requested that the in laws pay for short term liability insurance on my property for 3 million dollars as a condition for using the property for the wedding.
I use to drive seniors (elderly) for Catholic Charities when I was younger. I had to carry as a driver and owner of the car $1.5 million liability insurance on my car. This was decades ago. We still carry that much liability insurance on our cars. My husband decided it was a good precaution.
Sounds like his way of dealing with his crazy family was to withdraw and not make any waves.
I would not let her use me - or my house.
I would never let any one use my house or my things, NO from the get go
For start she would need your permission to have her wedding at your home. Plus she thinks she can say you can't be at your home get a grip no way can she dictate what happens there. The inlaws are a disgrace if they think her getting married at YOUR HOUSE, I would have done the same the mans family need to know the truth she uses people for money and the house is yours not her family
This story is completely unbelievable. Op claims to give her opinion without sugarcoating things but agrees to all the insanity SIL dished out. 😂
And spends most of the story talking about how successful and smart she is.
And the boyfriend has never been to SIL’s residence before? This is all made up.
Fabricated story.
Too many details.
Anyone who would agree to one iota of this is a doormat.
Don’t let her hold the wedding.
Perfect response to the nonsense that she would think she could barr you from your home. No excuse!! You did the right thing.
I have come to realize that these stories are fiction written by aspiring writers of melodrama. Way too over the top to be real. But using someone's house as a wedding venue and not allowing them at the wedding is 'the limit', a wonderful term I learned reading Galsworthy.
Absolutely
She's having DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR.
Fast changing background is horrible on the eyes
lol the minecraft background, discovering lava, and then panicking on the making the portal cuz of water hahahahahahahahahah, its too funny
good job, and you saved the fance from a heap of trouble in the meantime
There's also a possibility that during the night, SIL will look through OPs belongings for the house's deed / title, and then somehow transfer the property to herself to make "her house" to be truly hers.
If OP is as sensible as she sounds, the deed will be locked up in a safe deposit box at her bank with only herself and her husband allowed access.
I have friends this happened to. I think they were in such shock they shook their heads and stayed inside.
If this is a real story, you did the right thing. So sad.
Change the locks, turn on the sprinklers, invite friends to bring their dogs for a day long play date.
Release the dogs!
Lol! Who let the dogs out!!@@raz7573
Tell mother-in-law and daddy in-laws to give her the wedding at their house
This is so unrealistic. But still good to listen to so it's okay
I know these stories are total fiction, but they are so much fun 🤩
I WILL NOT lie for someone else, especially something like this. And I'm sure as hell not going to give up my bedroom. You better figure something else out.
Its not a "venue"
You don't need an invitation to a wedding that is being held in your house. You just tell them you aren't going anywhere and will be there or there will be no wedding. And if that bothers them, they can write the tooth fairy about it. Also, what was she planning after the wedding when they would be leaving? I have a feeling sil was planning on them staying.
Don't let walk over you. She's selfish.
Came from TikTok since most of the Reddit story accounts were posting without ANY updates🙄
Weak-minded relatives bought this on themselves by enablin her. Nt demand th@ she learn 2 b financial independent.
No one realizes that when you get married, you also marry the family. I would have never agreed to let her have it there in the first place. She’s way too nice.
That's craziness sister in law's no sister ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
This should be a movie! Or at least short film.
Nope they f around and find out
I find this hard to believe.
If it is, say NO. Eloping is an option.
In laws were like “don’t fuck this up. We want her out of our hair”
Just call & tell them you’ve changed your mind and you don’t want to have the wedding in your house.
Are there some people like that, I mean the SIL? Maybe okay to use someone else house but claiming it your own to impress is NOT. What will happen when eventually the truth comes out? Starting your married life full of lies is a NO-NO. It's a foundation of a failed marriage.
I'm sry once u start out lying to your in laws about your to make u look bigger then u are and they will always find out the truth
Totally unbelievable
Your house your rules and don't forget to give her the bill for cleaning table rental, etc, in front of her husband to be and his family. And stay in your room!!
❤SIS!! SHUT IT DOWN!! AINT NOWAY!! HEFFA WOULD GET A MAJOR RUDE AWAKENING!! NOT MY HOUSE!!😊😊😊
This is why love is between a couple and marriage is between families. You gotta marry the right family for a happy life.
Sucks to be your sister in law you did the right thing by changing the locks
Why would you let things go so far? How immature.
OP needs to grow a backbone
Perfect ending!! Good thing you stood your ground!!
Hope everything goes well with you now that she’s out of your life!!
You did what you had to do…it’s your house!!
🍹Cheers!! ❤
Omg this is soo out there! Lol lol lol
Your land title your house your lock. Dollar store sign. Change in venue call bride
Sounds like a protective/restraining order needs to be put in place.
This video is giving me anxiety😮😮💨👀
How do you have the nerve to schedule your wedding at somebody else’s house and they’re not invited in their own house! She needs to find another venue😮
I love how it ended
No one would go through that and let them used their House
I AGREE WITH YOU 💯 ITS YOUR HOUSE 🏠 AN THEY ARE TOXIC .
The background is so nauseous. Made me dizzy😡
I read the transcript and don’t bother with the video…
Best story ever, should be a LMN movie, I would watch. The last scene would be your sister in law running down the street screaming 😅 comedy.
This story sounds so ridiculous it sounds Iike an episode from a drama. The sister in law sounds terrible. It does suck that the wedding got cancelled that way, but I mostly feel for the husband and guests. I can’t believe the parents went along with that. She was going to not allow higher brother to come to her wedding or his house because she can’t stand his wife? And then she was going to force them to get a hotel room? Ok I can pretend to get the hotel in order to keep up the lie, but she should pay for the hotel room for them. Plus did this clueless girl not think about when she is supposed to be bringing her husband to visit her parents house in the future? How would they visit over the unknown future years frequently if the house doesn’t belong to her parents?
I would just lock the doors and not answer. And let them go to the courthouse. Then she can explain all that to her new in-laws
What a joke nope your not using our house
Stop the up & down!!!!!!! 》: If you have medical issues it can greatly harm someone. 😮
It is footage from a video game. It bothers me too (I have one medical issue), but I am trying very hard to ignore the moving video background because I like the content from Reddit.
Because this is presented as a video, they have to find video content to use as background on the video. They can either pay for video background (which ups the cost of making the video) or in some cases like this, they record video from playing a video game and use it as background. If you own the video game, it is an inexpensive way of coming up with a video background. They could also just record some video using their phone from a hike in a park or something like that. Or record a video of ducks swimming in a lake or something similar. This channel owner obviously likes video games. So people like me just have to endure it. I am going to limit myself to one video with a game background per day.
(I need to take a pain reliever cuz my head already hurts. I have had migraines since I was 18. My son has had them since he was 7. I really feel bad for him inheriting migraine tendency from me! Yes, they are genetic. I cannot take rx triptans, which work really well, any more because of other medication interactions. )
I think it is also bad for people with epilepsy. It can trigger a seizure.
@rollothecat2010 yes it can trigger migraines, vertigo symptoms and possibly seizures 😢
My guess is that people who don't suffer from those conditions just aren't aware of how much footage like this can adversely affect lots of folks.
Hell you say...my house not invited? Loat their minds fr
I know this is just a story but this exemplifies cowardice and childish behavior. Say no out loud up front and be done with it. Silly games, silly prizes.
Why not skip over the back story here, and focus on the immediate problem. Tell her quite simply that she must find another venue. You don't want to be seen as a witch on the wedding day--you'll come off really badly if everyone arrives and the door is locked. Instead, tell her you don't feel comfortable with the present arrangement. After all, what are your legal liabilities? What if someone drowns in your pool? And what if one of her guests gets drunk and crashes on the way back home? There are plenty of states that would find you liable because your guests went off inebriated.